The Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Duff the Psych

425: My Word for 2025! Dec 20, 2024

In today’s year-end wrap-up episode of the Hardcore Self Help Podcast (Episode 425), I reflect on 2024 and reveal my guiding word for 2025. Instead of traditional New Year’s resolutions, I choose a single word each year to serve as a focal point and inspiration. I revisit last year’s word—Connection—and discuss what worked well, like strengthening family bonds and growing professionally through clinical supervision and podcast interviews, as well as what didn’t go as planned (like making new friends or achieving full Spanish fluency). These reflections highlight how intentions can guide growth in unexpected ways.

Looking ahead to 2025, my new word is Mend. From addressing health issues to repairing lingering logistical and financial tasks, I want to focus on making what I already have stronger and more sustainable, rather than building from scratch. This year’s theme is about restoring, improving, and taking care of what’s important in my personal life, home, and professional endeavors—including the podcast and Duff the Psych projects.

Join me as I wrap up 2024, share my aspirations for 2025, and encourage you to reflect on your own values, accomplishments, and future direction. Thank you for another year of support and attention. I’ll see you in 2025!

Chapters:

00:00 — Reflecting on Another Year: Gratitude & Long-Term Listeners 01:00 — Beyond Resolutions: Choosing a Guiding Word Each Year 03:00 — Reviewing 2024’s Word “Connection”: Wins, Misses & Insights 05:00 — Personal Highlights: Family Bonding, Board Games & Quality Time 09:00 — Professional Growth: Clinical Supervision, Networking & Interviews 11:00 — Language Ambitions: Progress in Spanish, But Not Fluent Yet 13:00 — Introducing 2025’s Word: “Mend” 14:00 — Repairing & Improving: Health, Home Projects & Finances 16:00 — Podcast & Brand Updates: Refining Instead of Expanding 18:00 — Final Thoughts: Entering 2025 with Intention & Flexibility

About the Podcast

I’m Dr. Robert Duff, a clinical psychologist aiming to make mental health more accessible. On the Hardcore Self Help Podcast, I break down complex psychological concepts, share actionable tips, and provide relatable advice to help you live a healthier, more fulfilled life. Whether through solo episodes, interviews, or listener Q&A, my goal is to support your mental well-being without unnecessary jargon.

Connect With Me:

Website: https://www.duffthepsych.com/
Contact: https://www.duffthepsych.com/contact
Email: duffthepsych@gmail.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/duffthepsych/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/DuffThePsych

#MentalHealth #SelfHelp #PersonalDevelopment #Mindfulness #NewYear #Goals #Intention #Reflection #Podcast

424: Antidepressants are Making me WORSE & Stress is Waking Me Up Early Dec 14, 2024

In this solo Q&A episode of the Hardcore Self Help Podcast (Episode 424), I tackle two listener questions that address challenging mental health scenarios. The first question delves into the concept of antidepressant-associated chronic irritable dysphoria (ACID), a proposed condition rather than a formally recognized diagnosis, and the potential long-term effects of antidepressants in the context of bipolar disorder. I break down the limited research behind ACID, emphasize the importance of comprehensive care, and acknowledge the frustration that can arise when medications seem to worsen symptoms instead of helping.

The second question focuses on waking up early with irritability and racing thoughts. I provide practical strategies like pre-bed journaling to offload worries, identifying actionable steps for lingering concerns, and creating a calming buffer before sleep. I also discuss the importance of reexamining one’s work environment, considering meaningful changes, and finding fulfillment outside of a stressful job. Throughout the episode, I offer insights on self-advocacy, exploring alternative treatments, and laying the groundwork to regain a sense of control in your daily life.

Chapters:

00:15 — Introduction: Needing More Questions & Holiday Scheduling 02:00 — ACID Explained: A Proposed Condition, Not a Formal Diagnosis 08:00 — Bipolar Disorder & Antidepressants: Complex Interactions and Research Gaps 11:00 — Frustration with Care: Inadequate Guidance and Long-Term Medication Issues 14:00 — Exploring Alternatives: Therapy, Lifestyle Changes, and Treatments Like TMS/Ketamine 21:00 — Morning Irritability: Unpacking Workplace Stress & Uncontrollable Factors 24:00 — Reevaluating Work: Finding Meaning Outside Employment and Considering Changes 27:00 — Pre-Bed Journaling: Offloading Worries, Identifying Action Steps, and Creating Buffers 30:00 — Final Thoughts: Gratitude, Year-End Plans, and Continuing the Journey

About the Podcast

I’m Dr. Robert Duff, a clinical psychologist and the host of the Hardcore Self Help Podcast. I’m here to demystify mental health, break down psychological concepts, and provide actionable advice without unnecessary jargon. Through expert interviews, listener Q&A, and relatable discussions, this podcast aims to help you live a healthier, more fulfilled life.

Connect With Me:

Website: https://www.duffthepsych.com/
Contact: https://www.duffthepsych.com/contact
Email: duffthepsych@gmail.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/duffthepsych/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/DuffThePsych

#MentalHealth #Antidepressants #Bipolar #WorkStress #Journaling #SleepHygiene #QandA #SelfHelp #Psychology

423: Neurodiversity Playbook with Dr. Matt Zakreski Dec 06, 2024

In today’s episode of the Hardcore Self Help Podcast, I sit down with psychologist, professional speaker, and author Dr. Matt Zakreski to explore the concept of neurodiversity and how to create a more supportive world for neurodivergent individuals. Drawing from both personal and professional experiences, Dr. Matt shares his journey as someone who is gifted and ADHD, and how that shaped his understanding and advocacy for neurodivergent folks.

We discuss what neurodiversity truly means, highlight differences between neurotypical and neurodivergent brains, and break down why it’s crucial to avoid framing neurodivergent individuals as “failed neurotypicals.” Dr. Matt provides practical strategies for understanding executive functioning challenges, improving communication, and fostering more inclusive environments both in schools and in everyday life. Whether you’re neurodivergent yourself, raising a neurodivergent child, or simply looking to become a better ally, this episode is packed with insights and guidance to help you understand, accept, and celebrate neurological differences.

Chapters:

00:15 — Introduction: Send in Your Questions & Introducing Dr. Matt Zakreski 02:00 — Defining Neurodiversity and Neurodivergence 08:00 — The Performance Cliff: When School Outpaces Natural Ability 11:00 — Common Threads: Executive Functioning and Pragmatic Language in Neurodivergence 17:00 — Brain-Based Differences: Sensory Input, Basal Ganglia, and Emotional Intensity 21:00 — Universal Design in Education: Creating Systems That Work for All 24:00 — Shame, Emotionality, and the Reality of ADHD 28:00 — Inattentive vs. Hyperactive: Recognizing Subtle Signs and Misdiagnoses 33:00 — Rethinking Assessment: Moving Beyond DSM Checklists 38:00 — Why Specialists and Relationships Matter in Mental Health Care 41:00 — Making Therapy Work for Kids: Meeting Them Where They Are 43:00 — The Neurodiversity Playbook: Tools, Strategies, and Action Points 48:00 — Intention vs. Impact: Communicating Clearly and Compassionately 52:00 — Practical Tips for Executive Functioning in Daily Life 54:00 — Final Takeaways: Building Community and Embracing Your Unique Brain

About the Podcast

I’m Dr. Robert Duff, a clinical psychologist and the host of the Hardcore Self Help Podcast. My mission is to break down complex mental health topics into approachable, actionable advice. Each episode dives deep into mental health, personal development, and practical strategies for thriving. Whether through expert interviews, audience Q&A, or practical tips, this show is all about making meaningful changes without unnecessary jargon or fluff.

Guest Links:

The Neurodiversity Playbook by Dr. Matt Zakreski: https://www.drmattzakreski.com/the-neurodiversity-playbook
Dr. Matt Zakreski’s Website: https://www.drmattzakreski.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drmattzakreski/

Connect With Me:

Website: https://www.duffthepsych.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/duffthepsych/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/DuffThePsych

#Neurodiversity #ADHD #Gifted #TwiceExceptional #Autism #ExecutiveFunction #InclusiveEducation #MentalHealth #SelfHelp #PersonalDevelopment

422: Charles Duhigg on Becoming a Supercommunicator Nov 22, 2024

In today's episode of the Hardcore Self Help Podcast, I sit down with Pulitzer Prize-winning journalist and best-selling author Charles Duhigg to explore the science of effective communication and its profound impact on our personal and professional lives. Charles shares insights from his latest book, Supercommunicators: Unlock the Secret Language of Connection, delving into how skills like empathy, active listening, and understanding different types of conversations can transform the way we connect with others.

Our conversation uncovers the neurological underpinnings of communication, including the concept of neural entrainment and the matching principle. We discuss practical strategies for improving communication in various contexts—from personal relationships to the workplace—and address common pitfalls people face, such as social anxiety and miscommunication. Whether you're looking to enhance your relationships, become a better listener, or navigate tough conversations with ease, this episode is packed with valuable insights to help you on your journey.

Chapters:

00:15 — Introduction: Meet Charles Duhigg

03:00 — From Business to Journalism: Charles's Unconventional Path

08:00 — The Power of Storytelling in Communication

11:45 — Understanding the Science Behind Effective Communication

14:00 — The Three Types of Conversations: Practical, Emotional, Social

17:00 — The Matching Principle: Aligning Conversations for Connection

21:00 — Diagnosing and Matching Conversation Types

24:00 — Looping for Understanding: A Technique for Better Listening

28:00 — Common Communication Mistakes and How to Avoid Them

31:00 — Empathy Without Mimicry: Connecting Without Oversharing

34:00 — Real-World Examples: Doctors, Therapists, and Effective Communication

38:00 — Advice for Introverts and Those with Social Anxiety

44:00 — The Power of Asking Questions in Social Settings

47:00 — Overview of 'Supercommunicators' and Its Practical Applications

51:00 — Navigating Tough Conversations: Tips and Strategies

54:00 — A Challenge for Listeners: Reconnecting with Someone

57:30 — Closing Thoughts and Where to Find Charles's Work

Hope you find this enlightening conversation as engaging as I did! Feel free to share your thoughts and experiences in the comments below.

About the Podcast

I'm Dr. Robert Duff, a clinical psychologist and the host of the Hardcore Self Help Podcast. My mission is to break down complex mental health topics into relatable, actionable advice. On this podcast, we dive deep into mental health, personal development, and the strategies that help us thrive. Each episode is a mix of expert interviews, practical tips, and answers to listener questions, all aimed at helping you live a healthier, more fulfilled life.

Guest Links:

Charles's Latest Book: Supercommunicators: Unlock the Secret Language of Connection — https://www.amazon.com/Supercommunicators-Unlock-Secret-Language-Connection/dp/0593243919
Website: CharlesDuhigg.com — https://www.charlesduhigg.com/
Twitter: @cduhigg — https://twitter.com/cduhigg

Connect With Me:

Website: duffthepsych.com — https://www.duffthepsych.com/
Instagram: @duffthepsych — https://www.instagram.com/duffthepsych/
YouTube: Dr. Duff's Channel — https://www.youtube.com/c/DuffThePsych

#MentalHealth #EffectiveCommunication #CharlesDuhigg #SelfHelp #Supercommunicators #PersonalDevelopment #ListeningSkills #SocialAnxiety

421: Grieving your Therapist & Non-Suicidal Self-Injury Nov 15, 2024

In this Q&A episode of the Hardcore Self Help Podcast, I address two insightful listener questions. The first explores coping with the end of a therapeutic relationship, while the second delves into the physical manifestations of depression and strategies to manage them. This episode offers practical advice and empathetic understanding for those navigating these challenges.

Chapters:

00:15 — Introduction: Returning to Q&A After a series of interviews, I return to answering your questions. Learn how to submit your own and connect with the podcast.

02:05 — Coping with the End of Therapy A listener shares the grief experienced after concluding therapy with a transformative therapist. I discuss why these feelings are normal, the concept of transference, and practical ways to navigate the loss of such a significant relationship.

12:15 — Understanding the Physical Symptoms of Depression Addressing a listener's concern about the often-overlooked physical manifestations of depression, including fatigue, dissociation, and the role of self-injury as a coping mechanism. I explore what these symptoms can look like, why they occur, and practical tools to help reconnect with the body and manage the emotional weight.

24:00 — Final Thoughts and Encouragement Reflecting on the courage it takes to share these challenges and offering guidance on taking small steps toward healing.

About the Podcast I’m Dr. Robert Duff, a clinical psychologist and the host of the Hardcore Self Help Podcast. My mission is to break down complex mental health topics into relatable, actionable advice. Each episode combines expert insights, practical tips, and answers to listener questions, all aimed at helping you live a healthier, more fulfilled life.

Connect With Me:

Mentioned in This Episode:

Book: Skin Game: A Memoir by Caroline Kettlewell. This memoir provides a vivid account of living with and overcoming self-injury. Available on Amazon:

I hope you find this episode insightful and supportive. If you'd like to send me a question for a future episode, please email me at duffthepsych@gmail.com.

420: Productive Failure with Dr. Manu Kapur Nov 08, 2024

In today’s episode, I sit down with Dr. Manu Kapur, a professor of learning sciences, to delve into his unique approach to education: productive failure. Dr. Kapur explains how intentionally designing failure within the learning process can lead to deeper understanding and greater knowledge retention. We discuss the science behind productive failure and how it differs from traditional methods, which often focus on direct instruction followed by application. Dr. Kapur shares his experiences from childhood dreams of soccer to academic life at ETH Zurich, showing how personal failures have shaped his life and work.

Together, we explore key concepts like the “four A’s” of productive failure: Activation, Awareness, Affect, and Assembly. This method encourages learners to first explore problems in a safe space, where failure is expected, to prepare them for deeper learning through expert guidance afterward. Dr. Kapur’s insights reveal how frustration and negative emotions, when managed safely, can enhance memory and motivation, making failure a powerful tool in the learning process.

In this episode, Dr. Kapur provides real-world examples, from learning statistical concepts in the classroom to developing retrieval paths in social interactions. We also discuss how productive failure can be applied beyond the classroom to daily life and parenting, helping adults model and reinforce the benefits of persistence and exploration for children.

Chapters:

00:15 — Introduction: Meet Dr. Manu Kapur and the Concept of Productive Failure 05:30 — The Science Behind Learning Through Failure 12:00 — The “Four A’s” of Productive Failure: Activation, Awareness, Affect, and Assembly 18:30 — Real-Life Examples: Productive Failure in the Classroom 24:00 — The Role of Emotions in Memory and Learning 30:05 — Applying Productive Failure in Daily Life 36:25 — Parenting and Productive Failure: Teaching Kids Resilience 41:50 — Productive Failure’s Global Applications and Cultural Reflections 47:05 — Key Takeaways and Where to Find More from Dr. Kapur

About the Podcast I’m Dr. Robert Duff, and on this podcast, we dive deep into mental health and personal growth, bringing expert insights and practical advice to help you navigate life’s challenges. Join us for conversations that break down complex concepts into actionable steps.

Guest Links:

Dr. Kapur’s Book: Productive Failure: Unlocking the Science of Failure for Deep Learning and Growth
Website: ProductiveFailure.com
Follow Dr. Kapur on LinkedIn,

Connect With Me:

Website: http://duffthepsych.com
Instagram: http://instagram.com/duffthepsych
YouTube: http://youtube.com/duffthepsych

#ProductiveFailure #Learning #Education #GrowthMindset #MentalHealth

419: Seth Godin - Using Strategy to Shape Your Life and Mental Health Oct 25, 2024

In today’s episode of the Hardcore Self Help Podcast, I’m thrilled to sit down with marketing guru and best-selling author Seth Godin. Seth shares his near-death experience off the coast of San Clemente—a moment that became a powerful reminder of his mission to teach and contribute. We explore his philosophy of “strategy as a philosophy of becoming” and discuss practical ways to craft personal life strategies that align with our values, whether in creativity, mental resilience, or personal growth.

In our conversation, Seth and I cover a range of ideas, from recognizing societal systems that impact our lives to overcoming societal pressures and finding meaning in service to others. Seth’s “lifeguard analogy” emphasizes the importance of focusing on helping others, and his insights are full of actionable takeaways for anyone looking to lead a more purpose-driven life.

Tune in for an episode packed with practical strategies and reflections that can help you shape a life you’re proud of.

Topics Covered:

Breaking Down Writer’s Block and Building Creative Confidence
The Lifeguard Analogy: Why Starting with Generosity Can Change Your Life
Recognizing the Systems That Influence Our Daily Lives
How Strategy and Mental Health Intersect in Our Modern World
Building Powerful Daily Creative Habits
Avoiding the Trap of Playing Games We’re Meant to Lose
Developing Authentic Networks and Finding Your Community

Timestamps:

00:15 — Introduction: Meet Seth Godin 02:05 — Breaking Down Writer’s Block and Building Creative Confidence 06:00 — Learning Through the Lifeguard Analogy: How to Start Contributing Now 12:15 — Recognizing the Systems Shaping Our Lives 18:30 — Personal Strategy and Mental Health: How They Intersect 24:00 — The Power of Daily Creative Habits 30:40 — Real-Life Applications: Who's It For, What's It For? 36:25 — Avoiding the Trap of Playing Games We’re Meant to Lose 41:50 — How Strategy Can Help Us Cope with Modern Mental Health Challenges 47:05 — Building Authentic Networks and Finding Community

About the Podcast I’m Dr. Robert Duff, a clinical psychologist dedicated to breaking down complex mental health topics into relatable, actionable advice. On the Hardcore Self Help Podcast, we dive deep into mental health, personal development, and practical strategies to help you thrive. Each episode features expert interviews, useful tips, and answers to listener questions, all to support your journey toward a healthier, more fulfilling life.

Guest Links:

Seth’s Latest Book: This is Strategy
Seth Godin’s Blog: Seth's Blog
Seth’s Podcast: Akimbo Podcast

Connect With Me:

Website: duffthepsych.com
Instagram: @duffthepsych
YouTube: Dr. Duff’s Channel

418: Healing Childhood PTSD with Anna Runkle The Crappy Childhood Fairy Oct 18, 2024

In this episode, I sit down with Anna Runkle, better known as the Crappy Childhood Fairy, to explore her journey of healing from childhood PTSD and the unique methods she has developed to help others do the same. Anna has helped hundreds of thousands of people worldwide re-regulate their nervous systems and recover from deep emotional wounds using simple but powerful techniques. We dive deep into what childhood PTSD really is, how it differs from complex PTSD, and what doctors often get wrong about trauma. Anna also shares her personal story of growing up in a chaotic commune, the lasting effects of emotional neglect and abandonment, and the practical steps she used to reclaim her life and happiness.

Whether you're personally affected by trauma or seeking to support someone who is, Anna’s wisdom, tools, and personal insights provide valuable takeaways for anyone on a healing journey.

Links:

Order Anna's book Re-Regulated here: https://bit.ly/44Eo1ma
Get Instant Access to Anna's free online course, The Daily Practice here:http://bit.ly/Cf CF_DailyPractice
YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/c/CrappyChildhoodFairy
Website: https://crappychildhoodfairy.com
CCF Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/crappychildhoodfairy/

Timestamps:

0:00 – Introduction
- Introduction to Anna Runkle, aka the Crappy Childhood Fairy, and her mission to help people heal from childhood PTSD.
- Overview of the topics to be covered: childhood trauma, PTSD, healing methods, and Anna’s personal story.
2:30 – Anna’s Early Life and Growing Up in a Commune
- Anna describes her chaotic upbringing in a Berkeley commune, surrounded by addiction, neglect, and violence.
- The impact of family addiction and how it shaped her view of the world.
7:15 – Understanding Childhood PTSD vs. Complex PTSD
- Anna explains the difference between childhood PTSD and complex PTSD, and why she uses a more accessible term for the general public.
- How childhood trauma can stay latent and resurface in adulthood after new traumatic events.
12:45 – Coping Mechanisms and the Breaking Point
- Anna shares how being the "good girl" helped her survive but eventually led to deep depression.
- Her experience of hitting rock bottom and the overwhelming effects of what she calls a "trauma storm."
16:30 – The Effects of Gaslighting and Emotional Neglect
- Anna discusses the emotional invalidation she faced growing up and the gaslighting that made her doubt her own reality.
- The lasting impact of growing up in an environment of denial.
21:00 – The Role of Attachment Wounds and Limerence
- How unresolved emotional neglect led to dysfunctional relationships in Anna’s life, especially through a phenomenon called "limerence"—an obsessive, addictive form of love.
- The cycle of seeking validation in unhealthy ways due to an insecure attachment style.
27:30 – Trauma Healing and Nervous System Regulation
- Anna explains the concept of nervous system dysregulation and how trauma impacts not only emotions but also physical health.
- Her personal health struggles with autoimmune diseases and chronic fatigue, and how regulating her nervous system led to profound healing.
33:00 – The Power of Simple Healing Techniques
- Anna shares the simple yet powerful technique of writing down fears and resentments daily, a method she learned from a friend in AA.
- How this practice gave her the emotional relief she had been seeking for years.
38:45 – Generational Trauma and Breaking the Cycle
- Anna reflects on the generational trauma in her family and the importance of breaking the cycle of emotional neglect and dysfunction.
- How her own healing journey has allowed her to parent with more stability and emotional availability.
43:00 – The Myth of ‘What Doesn’t Kill You Makes You Stronger’
- Anna challenges the common belief that trauma automatically leads to growth, explaining that for many people, trauma can be devastating without proper support.
- The dangers of spiritual bypassing and toxic positivity.
48:15 – Finding True Healing and Becoming Your Full Self
- Anna talks about the ultimate goal of trauma healing: becoming your full, real self and creating space to hear your own inner guidance.
- The importance of personal freedom, acceptance, and helping others on their healing journey.
53:00 – Practical Takeaways and Final Thoughts
- Anna offers actionable advice for anyone struggling with childhood trauma, focusing on simple daily practices that help re-regulate the nervous system and foster healing.
- How to connect with Anna and learn more about her work with the Crappy Childhood Fairy.

Key Takeaways:

Childhood PTSD often goes unrecognized or is misunderstood, even within the medical community.
Emotional neglect and trauma can deeply impact adult relationships, leading to patterns of insecurity and attachment wounds.
Healing from trauma involves re-regulating the nervous system, a process that can lead to profound physical, emotional, and mental recovery.
Simple daily practices, like writing down fears and resentments, can provide powerful emotional relief and open the door to deeper healing.
Breaking the cycle of generational trauma is possible, and it begins with self-awareness, acceptance, and practical steps toward recovery.

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417: Podcast Updates and Random Show! Oct 11, 2024

In this laid-back check-in episode of the Hardcore Self Help Podcast, I take you through a series of updates and random musings. I discuss the current state of the podcast, why I decided to fire my ad agency, and the recent revival of interviews. I also share some personal projects, from working on my bipolar disorder book to collaborating with my kids on a creative game inspired by Minecraft. Throughout, I reflect on AI innovations, the challenges of balancing podcasting with life, and ways I've been keeping active, like my new rucking routine. This episode is perfect for catching up on everything happening in my world, from professional changes to hobbies and everything in between.

Links:

Email me with your questions or feedback.
Visit my website for more contact options.
Check out the Insight Neuropsychology blog for more brain-focused content.
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Pokémon Insurgence

Chapters:

00:00 Introduction

01:00 Podcast Updates

02:00 Fired Ad Agency

05:00 Interview Segment Revival

08:00 Changes in Podcast Style

09:00 Decline in Podcast Numbers and Stepping Away from Ads

11:00 Writing Update - Bipolar Book

13:00 AI Adventures - ChatGPT Voice Mode Demo

18:00 AI Applications - Notebook LM

21:00 Personal Favorites - POV Cooking Channels

22:00 Nostalgia Gaming - Pokémon Insurgence

23:00 Podcast Recommendation - Tim Ferriss Interview with Elizabeth Gilbert

24:00 Work and Mentorship Updates

26:00 Fitness Journey - Rucking

27:00 Creative Projects with Kids

28:00 Reflections on Current Events and Mental Health

29:00 Wrap-up

416: David Burns MD - "Feeling Good" Legend on Life, Legacy, and His New AI App Sep 27, 2024

In today’s episode, I had the absolute honor of sitting down with Dr. David Burns, a true legend in the field of mental health. Dr. Burns is not only a pioneer of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), but he’s also the best-selling author of Feeling Good and Feeling Great, which have collectively sold millions of copies worldwide. Spending so much time with him was a real treat, as he shared his incredible insights into mental health, his innovative T.E.A.M. Therapy method, and his groundbreaking Feeling Great App.

We talked about how his methods are helping people achieve rapid and lasting recovery from depression, anxiety, and other difficult emotions, sometimes in just one session. Dr. Burns also gave us a behind-the-scenes look at how his AI-driven app is transforming mental health treatment, making it accessible and effective for people everywhere.

This conversation was truly fascinating, and I’m sure you’ll find a ton of value in it. Whether you’re familiar with Dr. Burns’ work or hearing about him for the first time, you’ll come away with practical advice and a deeper understanding of how to break free from the emotional patterns holding you back.

In this episode, we cover:

Dr. Burns' early work with CBT and how it evolved into T.E.A.M. Therapy.
The creation and impact of the Feeling Great App, and how it leverages AI to deliver therapy.
Why measuring progress in therapy is essential and how data-driven methods are changing the field.
The common cause behind many negative emotions, and how to tackle it.
Dr. Burns’ unique approach to therapy—including why he hasn’t charged for sessions in over 30 years.

Links:

https://feelinggood.com/

https://www.feelinggreat.com/

https://www.youtube.com/@UCEgz2rq7N1xCHMCcjdyU5zg

https://feelinggood.com/books/

Reach out!

http://duffthepsych.com/contact

duffthepsych@gmail.com

415: Latino Mental Health, Machismo, and Vulnerability as Strength with Dr. Paul Rivera Sep 20, 2024

Breaking Boundaries: Dr. Paul Rivera on Redefining Success and Masculinity

In this episode, Dr. Paul Rivera, a first-generation Latino American, shares his inspiring journey navigating cultural expectations and his pursuit of a fulfilling life. From his early challenges growing up in a Latino neighborhood in Los Angeles to his prestigious roles as a professor and diplomat, Dr. Rivera discusses the importance of discovering one's unique superpower, embracing vulnerability as a strength, and redefining traditional notions of masculinity.

Together with his wife, Dr. Rivera co-founded BE ACT Change, an organization focused on aligning individuals and organizations with their purpose. He also discusses their book, 'Creating Your Limitless Life,' which provides insights into achieving authentic success beyond material trappings. Tune in for valuable lessons on mental health, family dynamics, and sustainable change.

https://www.instagram.com/be.act.change https://www.amazon.com/CREATING-YOUR-LIMITLESS-LIFE-Terms/dp/B0CHL3RW4L

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00:00 Introduction: Dreams and Expectations 00:25 Meet Dr. Paul Rivera: A Journey of Defying Expectations 01:28 Navigating Cultural Expectations and Personal Aspirations 02:22 Interview with Dr. Paul Rivera: Early Life and Influences 03:12 Growing Up Latino in Los Angeles 06:33 Balancing Work, Culture, and Personal Identity 18:30 Family Dynamics and Personal Growth 23:56 Challenging Machismo and Embracing Vulnerability 29:50 The Power of Vulnerability 30:38 Creating Safe Spaces at Home 32:11 Community Outreach and Education 33:47 Recognizing and Nurturing Potential 35:07 Discovering Your Superpower 37:03 Empowering Women in Leadership 39:04 Building Trust and Overcoming Barriers 40:21 The Journey to Self-Discovery 42:36 From Diplomacy to Entrepreneurship 43:32 The Mission of BeActChange 51:21 Advice for Feeling Stuck 56:30 Final Thoughts and Resources

414: Does COVID-19 Make ADHD Worse? Sep 13, 2024

Managing ADHD and Long COVID: Strategies for Cognitive Challenges In this episode of the Hardcore Self Help Podcast, Dr. Robert Duff addresses a listener's question about the impact of COVID-19 on ADHD symptoms. The listener shares their struggles with ADHD and how contracting long COVID has exacerbated their cognitive difficulties, impacting their academic performance and daily life. Dr. Duff delves into the comorbidity of ADHD with other mental health issues, discusses research on post-COVID syndrome, and offers practical advice for seeking accommodations and support. He emphasizes the importance of self-compassion and provides steps for managing ADHD symptoms effectively. Tune in for compassionate guidance and actionable strategies to navigate ADHD in the context of long COVID.

00:00 Introduction: ADHD and COVID-19 Impact 00:33 Listener's Question: Struggles with ADHD and Long COVID 02:14 Host's Response: Acknowledging the Struggles 03:04 Understanding ADHD and Comorbidities 04:39 COVID-19's Cognitive Impact 08:16 Executive Functioning Explained 10:20 Practical Advice and Encouragement 13:21 Seeking Help and Accommodations 17:30 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

413: Therapy Search is BROKEN w/ Colleen Marshall from Two Chairs Sep 06, 2024

Revolutionizing Therapy: Colleen Marshall on Two Chairs' Matching Process

In this episode of the Hardcore Self Help Podcast, Dr. Robert Duff interviews Colleen Marshall, Chief Clinical Officer at Two Chairs, a company dedicated to improving the therapy experience through innovative matching processes and measurement-based care. They discuss the current challenges in finding a suitable therapist, the importance of therapeutic alliance, and how Two Chairs' approach significantly improves client retention rates. Colleen also shares insights into her background, the systematic changes needed in therapy cultures, and the importance of culturally responsive training. Listeners will gain a better understanding of how Two Chairs is transforming mental health care by ensuring clients find the right therapist for their specific needs and continually measure treatment progress.

00:00 The Broken Process of Finding a Therapist

01:04 Introducing Two Chairs: Revolutionizing Therapy Matching

01:52 Meet Colleen Marshall: Chief Clinical Officer at Two Chairs

02:44 Colleen's Journey in Mental Health and Innovation

06:22 The Importance of Therapeutic Alliance and Matching

10:17 How Two Chairs Ensures Effective Therapy

16:53 Challenges and Successes in Implementing Measurement-Based Care

28:56 Balancing Wellness and Specialty Training

29:23 Efficient Care and Graduation Goals

31:03 Insurance and Access to Therapy

32:04 Therapist's Role in Client Progress

33:52 Matching Clients with the Right Therapist

36:07 Navigating Therapy Models and Approaches

47:13 Two Chairs: Availability and Process

51:11 Future of Therapy and Cultural Responsiveness

53:36 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

412: Abandonment by Husband & Addicted to Checking Phone Aug 30, 2024

In this episode of the Hardcore Self Help Podcast, I address two intense and relatable listener questions.

The first question comes from a listener who feels abandoned by their spouse after a traumatic car accident left them with PTSD and potential brain injury. I provide insights on the possible brain injuries they might have sustained, while also discussing the complexities of their strained relationship and offering practical advice for moving forward.

In the second question, a listener struggles with constant phone checking and tech addiction. I offer actionable tips for managing phone usage, including identifying and challenging assumptions, creating a conscious phone use plan, and finding accountability.

This episode aims to provide support, clarity, and practical guidance for listeners dealing with trauma, relationship challenges, and tech overdependence.

This episode is brought to you by NoCD. Overthinking can be more than just a habit—it might be a symptom of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD). NoCD provides virtual therapy sessions with licensed therapists specialized in Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP) therapy, the gold standard treatment for OCD. To learn more, visit http://nocd.com and schedule a free 15-minute call.

00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview 01:16 Listener's Question: Dealing with Trauma and Relationship Issues 02:33 Understanding Brain Injuries from Car Accidents 08:05 Addressing Relationship Concerns and Seeking Separation 08:11 Sponsor Break: NoCD 15:14 Listener's Question: Overcoming Phone Addiction 17:07 Tips for Reducing Phone Usage 25:17 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

Please send questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

411: Reparenting and Attachment with Dr. Judy Ho Aug 23, 2024

Breaking Cycles: How Attachment Shapes Our Lives with Dr. Judy Ho

In this episode of the Hardcore Self Help Podcast, host Dr. Duff interviews neuropsychologist Dr. Judy Ho, a tenured professor at Pepperdine University and author of 'The New Rules of Attachment.' They discuss why people often find themselves stuck in repetitive cycles despite different strategies and self-care routines. Dr. Ho explains the significance of revisiting one's past to break patterns, diving deep into attachment theory. They explore how early attachments form who we are, why it's essential to recognize childhood traumas, and the role of self-talk in attachment styles. Dr. Ho also shares her personal parenting insights and the importance of forming a secure attachment with oneself. Additionally, they delve into actionable exercises from Dr. Ho's book that help uncover unmet needs of our inner child and promote lasting change. Tune in for an in-depth conversation about the transformative power of understanding and healing our attachments.

This episode is brought to you by NOCD, a powerful new network of providers specializing in exposure and response prevention. Get treatment for OCD that actually works at http://nocd.com

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Links!

https://www.amazon.com/New-Rules-Attachment-Relationships-Reparent/dp/1538741423

https://www.instagram.com/drjudyho

https://drjudyho.com/

00:00 Introduction: Breaking the Cycle

00:40 Meet Dr. Judy Ho

01:14 The Importance of Early Attachments

02:46 Personal Stories and Apologies

05:47 Journey into Psychology

18:10 Understanding Attachment Styles

30:11 Understanding Attachment Styles and Self-Talk

31:27 The Challenge of Changing Self-Talk

32:26 The Importance of Patience in Forming New Habits

33:14 Recognizing Overthinking and OCD

35:07 The Mind-Body Connection in Attachment

37:25 Inner Child Work and Self-Attachment

40:22 Practical Steps for Inner Child Healing

44:45 A Real-Life Transformation Story

53:22 Balancing Career and Personal Life

57:04 Parenting and Attachment

01:00:08 Looking Ahead: Future Plans and Reflections

410: Being a Weirdo SAVED Tony Weaver Jr. Aug 16, 2024

In this episode of the Hardcore Self Help Podcast, Dr. Robert Duff chats with Tony Weaver Jr., an award-winning author and educator dedicated to mental health advocacy and better representation in media. Tony shares his personal journey from feeling like an outcast in his teenage years, including a suicide attempt, to becoming a force for positivity and change. He discusses how his upbringing in Atlanta and breakthroughs like hearing Fall Out Boy's music shaped his path to self-acceptance and creative expression. Tony also delves into the importance of representation in media, recounting his experiences creating the webcomic 'The Uncommons' and his upcoming autobiographical graphic novel 'Weirdo.' Furthermore, he offers practical advice for children and parents navigating the challenges of embracing individuality in a conformist world. Tune in to hear his inspiring story, candid reflections on the role of conflict in growth, and his passionate stand on bettering cultural narratives through inclusive storytelling. Links!

Weirdo: https://rep.club/products/weirdo

The Uncommons: https://www.webtoons.com/en/action/the-uncommons/list?title_no=4520

Tony on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyweaverjr/

Chapters: 00:00 Introduction: Feeling Like the Odd One Out 00:24 Meet Tony Weaver Jr.: From Darkness to Advocacy 01:13 Tony's Creative Journey and Representation 01:38 Interview with Tony Weaver Jr. 02:52 Tony's Upbringing and Early Influences 04:45 The Struggles of Embracing Otherness 09:05 The Creation of 'Weirdo' 13:05 Mental Health and Personal Growth 26:36 Inner Child Work and Reparenting 27:13 Parents' Reactions to the Book 27:33 A Life-Changing Car Accident 28:40 Reflecting on Childhood and Authority 30:17 The Importance of Conflict and Support 35:21 Representation in Media 37:01 The Impact of Representation on Society 43:40 Challenges in Hollywood and Progress 49:40 Promoting the Book 'Weirdo' 52:35 Final Thoughts and Where to Follow

409: Are You Afraid of Breathing? Aug 09, 2024

In this episode, Dr. Duff shares personal experiences and discusses the concept of being afraid of breathing. He highlights how anxiety and overthinking can lead to the sensation of not breathing properly. Dr. Duff explains how exposure therapy can be applied using breathing exercises to help alleviate these fears. He provides detailed instructions on different challenging breathing exercises like alternate nostril breathing, resonance breathing, and techniques inspired by the Wim Hof method and the Cradle series. The episode aims to help listeners gain comfort with discomfort and regain confidence in their breathing.

00:00 Introduction: Are You Afraid of Breathing? 00:02 A Personal Story of Breathing Anxiety 00:57 The Cycle of Anxiety and Breathing 01:50 Common Experiences and Avoidance 03:37 Using Breathing Exercises for Exposure 04:12 Understanding Exposure Therapy 07:38 Challenging Breathing Exercises 07:59 Alternate Nostril Breathing 10:40 Resonance Breathing 13:38 The Heaven and Earth Purification Wheel 15:16 Practicing in a Safe Space 16:22 Conclusion and Call to Action

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408: Unveiling Invisible Loss: Christina Rasmussen's Journey Through Grief Aug 02, 2024

In episode 408 of the Hardcore Self Help Podcast, I'm joined by grief educator and author Christina Rasmussen.

We delve deep into the concept of invisible loss, a unique form of grief that stems from unacknowledged experiences. Christina opens up about her personal grief journey, introduces the Life Reentry Process, and shares insights from her book, 'Invisible Loss.' We also explore how early childhood experiences shape adult decision-making, the transformative power of authenticity, and Christina’s venture into using art for healing. Christina discusses her creation of a digital library of invisible losses and reflects on the significance of Andrew Wyeth's painting 'Christina's World.' Join us for actionable tips and profound reflections on navigating and reclaiming life after hidden struggles.

Links:

Books - https://www.amazon.com/stores/Christina-Rasmussen/author/B0057K44UU

https://lifereentry.com/

https://www.invisiblelosses.com/

https://springshow.academyart.edu/schools/fine-art/students/christina-rasmussen/

Chapters:

00:00 Introduction to Invisible Loss 00:45 Meet Christina Rasmussen 01:17 Christina's Personal Journey with Grief 03:30 Early Life and Education 08:13 Navigating Life After Loss 11:08 The Birth of Life Reentry Process 32:12 Invisible Loss Defined 43:39 Starting the Program and Writing Invisible Loss 44:01 Challenges of Writing About Invisible Loss 44:24 The Concept of Invisible Loss 46:48 Men and Invisible Loss 47:59 The Importance of Self-Expression 49:01 The Role of Therapy and Support Groups 52:38 Time Dilation and Seeking Help 53:32 Ambitious Work and Personal Transformation 56:33 Balancing Art and Professional Life 01:03:00 The Journey of Writing and Sharing Vulnerable Moments 01:13:34 The Impact of Panic Attacks and Authenticity 01:19:46 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

407: Am I Just My Anxiety Now? Dealing with Extreme Anxiety and Career Changes Jul 26, 2024

Navigating Intense Anxiety and Career Changes

Hello, friends! In today’s episode, we tackle two profound listener questions that may resonate with many of you:

Managing Severe Anxiety: A listener is struggling with intense daily anxiety and dissociation, impacting their ability to function in daily tasks like going to work or shopping. We discuss immediate tips, potential medical checks, and therapy approaches to manage anxiety effectively.

Considering a Career Shift: Another listener is contemplating a career change from music education to educational psychology. They seek advice on the feasibility, job prospects, and resources to pursue this new career path.

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode407

00:00 Introduction to Anxiety 00:17 Episode Overview and Listener Questions 00:56 Engaging with the Community 01:45 Addressing Severe Anxiety 05:15 Exploring Medical and Therapeutic Options 11:24 Understanding Anxiety and Fear 20:43 Career Change Considerations 28:10 Conclusion and Farewell

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406: People Are WRONG About OCD w Dr. Patrick McGrath of NOCD Jul 19, 2024

In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Patrick McGrath, Chief Clinical Officer at NOCD and a leading expert in OCD treatment. We dive deep into understanding OCD, debunking common misconceptions, and exploring the most effective treatment approaches. Dr. McGrath shares practical advice for managing OCD and introduces an amazing new tool that’s helping people across the country manage OCD from the comfort of their own homes. Whether you're personally affected by OCD, know someone who is, or just want to learn more about mental health, this episode is packed with valuable insights and actionable tips.

Key Takeaways:

Misconceptions About OCD:
- Discover what OCD really is and debunk common myths.
- Understand the difference between media portrayals and reality.
Effective Treatment Approaches:
- Learn about Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP) therapy.
- Find out what works and what doesn’t in OCD treatment.
- Explore Dr. McGrath's innovative approach to virtual ERP therapy.
Practical Advice for Managing OCD:
- Get strategies for handling intrusive thoughts and compulsions.
- Tips for avoiding reassurance-seeking, distraction, and substance use.
Introducing NOCD:
- Learn about NOCD, an online platform offering accessible OCD therapy.
- Understand how NOCD works and its benefits for people across the country.
- Find out how NOCD is making treatment more affordable and effective.

Personal Insights:

Hear Dr. McGrath's personal journey with anxiety and how it shaped his career.
Gain inspiration from his transformation from a bullied child to a leading mental health expert.

Be sure to check out NOCD at http://treatmyocd.com and send me a question or topic for a future episode of the show at http://duffthepsych.com/contact

405: Does Joe Biden Have Dementia? An Expert Perspective. Jul 13, 2024

Does Joe Biden Have Dementia? A Neuropsychologist's Perspective In this episode, I discuss the current political climate in the United States and my concerns as a neuropsychologist regarding the cognitive abilities of President Joe Biden. I explain the difference between normal aging, mild cognitive impairment, and dementia, and provide analysis of Biden's speech abilities from various clips over the years. While I emphasize that it's challenging to diagnose cognitive decline without comprehensive testing, I provide insights into what a professional evaluation would entail and discuss why it's critical to consider cognitive health for a role as demanding as the presidency. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit http://betterhelp.com/duff for 10% off your first month of online therapy. As always, you can send me questions or topic suggestions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the full show notes at http://duffthepsych.com

404: The Truth About Ketamine with Dr. Chantelle Thomas Jul 05, 2024

Hello, friends!

In today’s episode, we delve into the transformative potential of ketamine therapy for mental health with Dr. Chantalle Thomas, a leading expert in ketamine-assisted psychotherapy.

Dr. Thomas is a trainer in Fluence’s Advanced Certificate in Ketamine-Assisted Psychotherapy as well as Executive Clinical Director at Windrose Recovery.

Dr. Thomas discusses the complexities of ketamine as a treatment, its various administration routes, and the profound changes it can facilitate when integrated with therapy. We also explore the importance of therapeutic integration in maximizing the benefits of ketamine, the ethical considerations in psychedelic medicine, and navigating the current regulatory landscape.

Additionally, Dr. Thomas shares her personal journey into mental health and psychedelics, and the importance of authenticity and attachment theory in therapy.

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode404

Links:

https://windroserecovery.com/podcast/therapy-unblinded-inside-mdma-research/

https://www.fluencetraining.com/

https://maps.org/

403: My Thoughts on Meds & Mocking During Arguments Jun 28, 2024

Hello, friends!

In today’s episode, we tackle two profound listener questions that may resonate with many of you:

How Do You Feel About Antidepressants and Anti-Anxiety Medications? A listener asks about the use of antidepressants and anti-anxiety medications, expressing concerns about addiction and the potential difficulty of getting off these meds. Dr. Duff shares his positive personal experience with Lexapro, explaining the various classes of medications, including SSRIs, SNRIs, and benzodiazepines. He emphasizes the importance of evaluating both the benefits and potential side effects of these medications, as well as considering the cost of not using them. Dr. Duff also addresses misconceptions about feeling disconnected from reality due to medication and discusses the concept of psychological and physiological dependence.
Dealing with a Hurtful Partner: Another listener seeks advice on how to help their partner understand the impact of their hurtful behavior, which includes yelling and mocking. Dr. Duff offers empathetic support, acknowledging the listener's heartbreak. He outlines the importance of healthy conflict resolution, setting personal boundaries, and recognizing signs of potential abuse. Dr. Duff encourages open communication and suggests resources for improving relationship dynamics, while also addressing the need for safety and support when dealing with ongoing hurtful behavior.

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode403

402: Actress Jenn Harris on Intimacy and Aging into Confidence Jun 21, 2024

Guest: Jenn Harris, Award-Winning Director, Writer, Actor, and Producer

Host: Dr. Robert Duff

Episode Description: In this episode, Dr. Robert Duff welcomes the incredibly talented Jenn Harris to the show. Jenn Harris is an award-winning director, writer, actor, and producer known for her diverse and impactful work in film and theater. Jenn discusses her latest short film, "She's Clean," which delves into the nuances of intimacy and sexual autonomy in middle age. The conversation explores Jenn's creative journey, the inspiration behind her work, and her thoughts on intimacy, confidence, and aging.

Key Topics Discussed:

Introduction to Jenn Harris: An overview of Jenn's career and achievements, including her work in the Oscar-winning film "American Fiction" and her latest short film "She's Clean."
Jenn's Creative Journey: How Jenn transitioned from wanting to be a doctor to finding her passion in the entertainment industry, and her experiences in theater and film.
The Concept of "She's Clean": Jenn explains the inspiration behind her short film and its unique setting in a bathroom, exploring themes of intimacy and sexual freedom.
Intimacy and Confidence: A deep dive into how Jenn views intimacy in various relationships, the role of confidence in her work and personal life, and how she has aged into confidence over the years.
Filmmaking Challenges: Jenn shares the visual and technical challenges she faced while making "She's Clean" and how she approached these creatively.
The Role of Intimacy Coordinators: Jenn discusses the importance of having intimacy coordinators on set and how they help create a safe and comfortable environment for actors.
Personal Insights:

Jenn reflects on her own experiences with intimacy, relationships, and personal growth, sharing anecdotes and lessons learned along the way.

Episode Highlights:

Jenn’s perspective on the comedic and serious elements of intimacy in filmmaking.
The significance of choosing a bathroom as the primary setting for "She's Clean."
Insights into Jenn’s collaborative process with her team, including the role of her editor and intimacy coordinator.
The impact of societal expectations on personal choices and relationships, particularly in the context of non-monogamy and traditional norms.
Jenn’s advice on navigating creative projects and maintaining authenticity in one’s work.

Quotes:

"Intimacy is something that's always been comfortable for me, and I think it's a huge part of human behavior that we should observe and understand."
"There isn't room for doubt. It will not serve the day. It will not serve the script. It will not serve the scene."
"It's really nice when people don't take advantage of my openness in a way."

Resources Mentioned:

Film: "She's Clean" - Available for streaming on Vimeo.
Social Media: Follow Jenn Harris on Instagram @RealJenHarris and @ShesCleanTheFilm.

Sponsor: Today's episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Reflect on your progress and set achievable goals with the help of a licensed therapist. Visit betterhelp.com/duff for 10% off your first month.

Connect with Dr. Duff:

Website: www.duffthepsych.com
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401: Adult Star Turned Therapist Jennie Ketcham Crooks on Digital Overconsumption and Reconnecting to Life Jun 14, 2024

In this episdoe, I sit down with Jennie Ketcham-Crooks, a licensed therapist, anxiety specialist, and author of the upcoming book "Look Up: The 30-Day Path to Digital Minimalism and Real Life Maximalism."

Jennie shares her compelling journey from an adult film performer to a transformative therapist, opening up about the pivotal moments that shaped her path. They delve deep into the challenges of reducing digital overconsumption, discussing practical, evidence-based strategies from Jennie's book that can help you realign your life with your values and build meaningful real-world connections.

Discover how to take on a 30-day challenge designed to shift your smartphone use from unintentional to intentional, making every minute count towards your personal fulfillment. Robert and Jennie also explore the importance of maintaining human connections in the digital age, the potential impacts of overusing smartphones, and how to cultivate a balanced, intentional relationship with technology. Don't miss Jennie's unique insights on parenting, mental health, and the value of vulnerability and intimacy. Tune in for an episode packed with valuable advice, heartfelt stories, and actionable tips to help you navigate the digital world mindfully. Whether you're looking to cut down on screen time, connect more deeply with those around you, or simply hear an inspiring story of transformation, this interview has something for you.

Be sure to check out Jennie on intagram and at her website to stay tuned for updates on her new book!

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400: Mystery Question & Rapid Fire Q&A Jun 07, 2024

Hello, everyone!

Thank you SO much for joining me for episode 400. I can't believe it's been 400 episodes already. Blows my mind. In this episode, I have a (creepy) mystery question that I share, and I also go through some rapid fire questions from the Hardcore Self Help Facebook group.

A special shout out to everyone who has been with me from the start. Here is to the next 100 episodes!

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the full transcript at http://duffthepsych.com/episode400

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399: Dating with a Stutter & Self-Harm Scars May 31, 2024

Hello, friends!

In today’s episode, we tackle two profound listener questions that may resonate with many of you:

Navigating Dating with a Stutter: A 38-year-old listener shares their struggles with stuttering, particularly how it impacts their dating life. They often need months to work up the courage to ask someone out and lose confidence if they stutter while doing so. We explore the nature of stuttering, its psychological impacts, and offer practical advice on managing anxiety, building self-confidence, and embracing one's uniqueness in social contexts.

Overcoming Self-Harm Scars and Building Confidence: Another listener, who self-harmed from ages 12 to 15, describes the ongoing shame they feel about their visible scars, which has affected their dating life and social activities. They seek advice on how to overcome this fear and become more open about their past. We discuss strategies for self-acceptance, the importance of vulnerability, and ways to reframe scars as symbols of resilience and survival.

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode399

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398: Choosing to be Childless, Sex Mismatch, & Inpatient Treatment May 24, 2024

Hello, friends!

In today’s episode, we tackle three insightful listener questions that many of you might relate to:

Choosing Not to Have Biological Children Due to Mental Illness: A listener shares their decision to not have biological children to avoid passing on their mental health struggles. They feel confident in this choice but encounter surprise and judgment from others. We discuss the validity of their decision, the heritability of mental health conditions, and the importance of respecting personal choices.

Navigating Barriers to Inpatient Mental Health Treatment: Another listener is considering inpatient treatment but faces significant logistical and financial barriers. We explore the challenges of dealing with insurance, paperwork, and managing life responsibilities during treatment. Suggestions for alternative treatment options like intensive outpatient programs (IOP) and partial-hospitalization programs (PHP) are also discussed.

Addressing Mismatched Sex Drives in a Relationship: A listener in a relationship with differing sex drives seeks advice on how to encourage their partner to address potential low testosterone or other medical issues affecting their libido. We delve into the complexities of communication about sexual needs, potential underlying relationship issues, and strategies for fostering open dialogue and seeking professional help.

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode398.

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397: What Kind of Therapy Is Right for Me? May 17, 2024

Hello, friends!

In today’s episode, we dive deep into a listener’s question about finding the right therapy for a variety of complex mental health issues. This 29-year-old woman is struggling with childhood trauma, mental health challenges such as anxiety and depression, and relationship issues. She is also seeking guidance on possible autism/ADHD symptoms and needs help navigating the overwhelming array of therapy options available.

We explore the IPA framework (Immediacy, Problem, Approach) to help her and others identify the most suitable types of therapy. Additionally, we discuss the different types of therapists and their qualifications, the importance of cultural competency, and practical tips for finding a good therapist using various resources. This episode is a comprehensive guide for anyone looking to start their therapy journey.

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode397

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396: Her Doctor Failed Her - Privacy for Youth in Psychiatry, Suicidality Assessment, and Advocating for Your Past Self May 10, 2024

Hello, friends! In today’s episode, we tackle a profound listener question that may resonate with many of you. A listener who survived a suicide attempt at 13 is considering reaching out to the pediatric psychiatrist who assessed them during their hospitalization. They feel that the presence of medical students during their assessment was inappropriate and impacted their honesty. They're seeking guidance on how to provide feedback and advocate for their younger self. As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode396 Links: https://www.nami.org/advocacy/ https://www.patientadvocate.org/ --- Ready to release your stressors and find a safe space to talk? Try BetterHelp, an entirely online therapy platform that fits your schedule. Fill out a brief questionnaire to get matched with a licensed therapist, and switch therapists anytime for no extra charge. Get 10% off your first month at http://betterhelp.com/duff

395: Overcoming Agoraphobia, Common Exposure Mistakes, Amygdala Reactivity, and More Apr 26, 2024

Hello, friends! In today’s episode, we tackle a profound listener question that may resonate with many of you. A listener struggling with agoraphobia seeks guidance on overcoming their anxiety and finding motivation to pursue exposure exercises. They’ve been working with a therapist and taking anxiety medication but feel stuck. We explore the complexities of agoraphobia, the importance of prolonged exposure, and strategies for building motivation and support. As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode395 --- Nourish Your Skin with OneSkin: Combat dry, aging skin with OneSkin’s peptide-powered products, including their moisturizing body lotion and the innovative OS-01 SHIELD SPF. Address skin issues at their root with a 15% discount using code DUFF at oneskin.co.

Episode 394: Finding Focus with ADHD & The Surprising Upside of Missing Medication Apr 19, 2024

Hello, friends! In today’s episode, we tackle two thought-provoking listener questions that may resonate with many of you: Cymbalta Conundrum: A listener shares their experience with Cymbalta, a medication prescribed for panic disorder. They noticed feeling amazing on days they forgot to take the medication, leading them to wonder if they truly needed it. We explore the concept of conditioned compensatory response, the effects of medication on the body, and the importance of gradual tapering. ADHD Focus Struggles: Another listener struggles with focus and motivation despite trying various medications and strategies. We discuss the complexities of ADHD, the importance of environmental adjustments, and techniques like mindfulness, Pomodoro intervals, and accountability to improve focus and productivity. As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode394 --- Take care of your social battery with BetterHelp! Their online therapy platform offers flexible scheduling and matching with licensed therapists. Get 10% off your first month with the code "duff" at http://betterhelp.com/duff

Episode 393: When to Say I Love You & Numbness in Face After TBI Apr 12, 2024

Hello friends!

In today’s episode, we explore the deep and complex emotions involved in expressing love within romantic relationships and the challenging path to recovery following a severe traumatic brain injury. We kick off with a question about the appropriate timing for saying “I love you” in a romantic context, especially considering cultural differences and personal challenges such as being on the autism spectrum. Our listener’s journey brings forward the importance of understanding personal feelings and the unique dynamics of each relationship.

We then shift to an inspiring yet poignant story of miraculous recovery and the persistence of hope. Another listener shares the journey of their mother’s recovery from a severe traumatic brain injury resulting from a car accident. While her recovery has been astonishing, they grapple with the lingering issue of facial numbness. This story highlights the incredible resilience of the human body and spirit, the complexities of the brain's healing process, and the necessity of advocating for comprehensive care that addresses all facets of recovery.

As we navigate these profound topics, remember, whether it's about expressing love or facing the aftermath of a traumatic event, the journey is deeply personal and filled with opportunities for growth and understanding.

As always, you can send your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode393

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Episode 392: Helping a Friend with OCD & Being Controlling After Moving In Apr 05, 2024

Hello friends!

In today’s thoughtful episode, we tackle two profound listener questions that may resonate with many of you:

Contemplating Harm OCD and Supporting a Friend: A listener shares their concerns about how to best support a friend struggling with harm OCD. They've noticed their attempts to help by offering reassurance or checking things for their friend might actually be counterproductive. We dive into the nature of OCD, the impact of well-meaning actions, and how to genuinely support someone without reinforcing their compulsive behavior.

Finding Balance Amidst Life's Transitions: Another listener talks about the challenges of transitioning to a full-time job and living with their partner after college. They've found themselves clinging to rigid routines that have begun to control their life, seeking advice on how to break free from these patterns without losing their sense of stability. We explore the importance of flexibility, communication, and self-awareness in navigating these significant life changes.

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode392

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Episode 391: Panic Disorder & Caregiving for a TBI Mar 29, 2024

Hello friends!

In today’s episode, we tackle two interesting questions that delve into the heart of mental and emotional challenges many of us face.

First, we explore the complex world of panic disorder through the eyes of a 24-year-old graduate student grappling with severe panic attacks. Their story illuminates the physical and psychological intensity of panic disorder, revealing how it transcends mere stress or anxiety to significantly disrupt daily life. We dissect the cycle of fear and avoidance intrinsic to panic disorder and discuss the critical importance of specialized care and therapy in navigating this condition.

Next, we turn our attention to the challenges faced by caregivers of individuals with dementia resulting from traumatic brain injuries (TBI). One listener shares the struggle of balancing caregiving with personal self-care, seeking resources and support to manage this demanding role. We offer guidance on finding online and in-person resources, emphasize the importance of self-care for caregivers, and encourage seeking professional help to ensure both the caregiver's and the loved one's needs are met.

As always, you can send your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode391.

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Episode 390: Gender Identity in Therapy & Standing Up to Mom Mar 22, 2024

Hello friends! In today’s episode, we tackle two profound listener questions that may resonate with many of you:

Dealing with Hurtful Family Comments: A listener is troubled by their mother's deeply hurtful comment, suggesting they have been a source of stress since birth. We explore the emotional impact of such comments, consider the role of health issues in behavior, and discuss strategies for coping and moving forward.
Navigating Identity and Therapy: Another listener, a closeted trans man, shares their experience of coming out to their therapist and the mixed responses received. We delve into the importance of understanding and navigating gender identity within therapy, especially in conservative environments, and ponder whether seeking a gender specialist, in addition to their current therapist, might be beneficial.

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode390

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Episode 389: Am I Bugging My Therapist? & Abusive Ex Using Kids Against Me! Mar 15, 2024

Hello, friends! In today’s episode of the podcast, we dive deep into two incredibly relatable listener questions that touch on emotional and psychological challenges many of us might face.

Our first discussion revolves around the complex emotions of worrying about one’s therapist. One listener shares their concern about being a burden by repeatedly discussing the same issues, particularly body dysmorphia, fearing it might negatively impact their therapist. We unravel this common fear, emphasizing the nature of therapy and the professional capacity of therapists to manage their own feelings and support their clients effectively.

In our second exploration, we address the heart-wrenching situation of a listener navigating the aftermath of an abusive marriage, particularly the impact on their children. This listener’s struggle with their ex-partner’s manipulation and its effect on their relationship with their children brings to light the challenges of co-parenting and protecting one’s mental and emotional well-being during such turbulent times. We offer insights into seeking support, understanding the dynamics at play, and strategies for maintaining a healthy relationship with one’s children amidst external pressures.

As always, your thoughts and questions are invaluable to us. Reach out via duffthepsych@gmail.com or explore more resources at http://duffthepsych.com/episode389. Your journey is important, and we’re here to support you every step of the way.

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Episode 388: Building Emotional Intelligence & Partner is Afraid of Pictures Mar 08, 2024

Hello friends!

In today’s episode, we dive into two listener queries that shine a light on the complexities of emotional experiences and relationships. First, we explore the journey of someone grappling with childhood emotional neglect, unpacking the long-term effects of growing up in an environment where emotions were disregarded and undervalued. Our listener shares their struggle with feeling emotionally disconnected and their quest for a path toward healing and emotional awareness.

Then, we shift gears to discuss the challenges faced by a couple when one partner feels uncomfortable with being photographed. This scenario opens up a dialogue on insecurities, the significance of memories captured in photos, and the importance of understanding and respecting each other’s boundaries.

As always, you can send me your questions at duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode388.

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Episode 387: Should I Still Talk to My Ex? Mar 01, 2024

Hello friends!

In this episode, we delve into a deeply personal and complex question that touches on the lasting impact of past relationships, the nuances of friendship, and the boundaries within a current, happy marriage. A listener shares their experience of not being able to stop thinking about an ex, despite being happily married and having no desire to rekindle a romantic relationship. They discuss the significance of this past relationship during a pivotal time in their life and ponder whether they should attempt to cultivate a friendship or strive to move on completely.

We explore the importance of acknowledging the role this person played in their life, while also considering the potential implications for their current relationship. The conversation includes practical advice on navigating these feelings, communicating with both the spouse and the ex, and setting healthy boundaries. We also discuss the potential for "relationship drift" and the importance of being honest with oneself about the true motivations and possible outcomes of re-establishing contact.

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode387.

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Episode 386: Starting Dating in 30s & Navigating BPD in the UK Feb 23, 2024

Hello friends!

In today’s episode, we delve into two deeply personal and impactful listener questions, uncovering layers of self-discovery, acceptance, and the ongoing journey towards healing and love:

Embarking on a Journey of Self-Discovery and Love: A 32-year-old male shares his transformative journey from battling addiction and isolation to embracing therapy, wellness, and the realization of his deep desire for love and intimacy. Facing fears of rejection, exploring his sexuality, and stepping into the dating scene, he seeks guidance and affirmation that it's never too late to find love and form meaningful connections.
Navigating Mental Health Challenges in the UK: A listener from the UK expresses frustration with the mental health support system, revealing a recent diagnosis of BPD after years of being treated for depression. Despite facing suicidality and feeling abandoned by the healthcare system, they search for hope and strategies to cope with the intense highs and lows of BPD, highlighting the urgent need for compassionate and effective mental health care.

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode386.

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Episode 385: Obsessing Over New Relationships & Recovering from Sexual Assault Feb 16, 2024

Hello, friends!

In today’s episode, we tackle two profound listener questions that may resonate with many of you:

Navigating Romantic Relationships and Self-Esteem: A listener seeks advice on managing the anxiety and self-doubt that accompany new romantic relationships. We discuss the concept of "correct rejections" and explore strategies for nurturing a healthy sense of self-esteem, such as focusing on personal growth and savoring moments of joy.

Overcoming Trauma and Self-Doubt: Another listener shares their struggle with self-doubt stemming from a traumatic experience. We emphasize the importance of self-compassion and challenge the stigma associated with seeking help. We discuss the benefits of therapy and self-help resources, as well as the empowering nature of setting challenges and connecting with others.

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode385

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Episode 384: All About Depression Feb 09, 2024

Hello friends!

In today's in-depth episode, we embark on a comprehensive exploration of depression, a condition that's far more complex than the occasional sadness or the transient moods we all experience. Our journey aims to shed light on the multifaceted nature of depression, affecting individuals across the globe in myriad ways. We delve into the clinical aspects, the personal stories, and the common misconceptions surrounding this pervasive mental health condition.

We start by breaking down the very concept of depression, moving beyond the simple definition to uncover its roots and how it impacts the human experience. Through the lens of the DSM-5, we explore the criteria for diagnosing Major Depressive Disorder, highlighting the diversity of symptoms and the profound effect they have on individuals' lives.

Our discussion takes a personal turn as we examine the experiences of James and Ellie, two hypothetical cases that illustrate the varied manifestations of depression. James, with his outward success masking an internal struggle, and Ellie, facing overt challenges in her transition to college life, offer insights into the silent battles many face.

Addressing common misconceptions, we challenge the stigmas associated with depression, emphasizing its complexity and the fact that it's not a sign of weakness, nor is it something one can simply "snap out of." We also touch upon the idea that depression can affect anyone, regardless of how "good" their life may seem.

As we move towards solutions, we discuss the treatability of depression, underscoring the effectiveness of medication, therapy, and lifestyle changes. We emphasize that for those facing this condition, there is hope, and a multitude of resources available to support their journey towards recovery.

In closing, we reaffirm the importance of understanding, empathy, and support in the battle against depression. We encourage our listeners to reach out for help, to engage in conversations about mental health, and to seek the resources necessary to navigate this challenging yet treatable condition.

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the full show notes for this episode, including links to resources and further reading, at http://duffthepsych.com/episode384.

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Episode 383: Alternatives to Adderall & My Therapist Talks Too Much! Jan 26, 2024

Hello friends!

In today's episode, we delve into two compelling listener questions that I'm sure many of you will find relatable and insightful.

Navigating Therapy with a Talkative Therapist: One listener shares their experience with a therapist who often overshadows the session with personal stories, leaving them feeling unheard. This is particularly challenging as the listener is dealing with a controlling spouse with dementia. We explore the importance of feeling heard in therapy, the role of therapist's self-disclosure, and the value of assertiveness in therapeutic relationships. We also discuss the concept of transference and how it can impact therapy sessions.

Considering Alternatives to Adderall: Another listener seeks advice about a close relative looking to taper off Adderall, which they've been dependent on for managing ADHD. We discuss the complexities of ADHD diagnosis and treatment, delve into the pharmacology of Adderall, and explore its side effects and potential for psychological dependence. Additionally, we examine Provigil (Modafinil) as an alternative, highlighting the differences in abuse potential and side effects. We also touch upon other medication options like Strattera, Intunive, Clonidine, and Wellbutrin, and emphasize the role of therapy and coaching in managing ADHD.

As always, your questions and stories bring a depth of understanding to our discussions. If there's something on your mind, don't hesitate to reach out at duffthepsych@gmail.com. For full show notes, please visit http://duffthepsych.com/episode375.

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Episode 382: Changing Name at Work & Dealing with Emotional Numbness Jan 19, 2024

Hello friends! In today’s episode, we delve into two compelling listener questions that touch on deeply personal experiences and emotional challenges:

Exploring Identity Through Name Change: Our first question comes from a listener who has recently undergone the significant process of legally changing their name, a journey often intertwined with gender identity and personal transformation. We discuss the complexities of introducing this change in a professional setting, especially in environments where such changes might not be widely accepted. We explore strategies for communicating the change, dealing with potential challenges, and staying true to one's identity.

Confronting Emotional Numbness: The second question addresses a concerning experience of emotional numbness, where even significant life events fail to elicit expected emotional reactions. We delve into the concept of anhedonia, its connection to depression, and the possible causes of this emotional disconnection. Practical advice is offered on how to reconnect with emotions, including mindfulness techniques, behavioral activation, and the importance of considering physical health factors and professional help.

As always, your questions and experiences enrich our discussions and bring valuable insights to our community. If there's a question or topic on your mind, don't hesitate to reach out at duffthepsych@gmail.com. For full show notes and more resources, head to http://duffthepsych.com/episode382.

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Episode 381: Is it Impossible to Thrive as a Therapist & Long-Distance Driving Anxiety Jan 12, 2024

Hello friends!

In today's episode, we delve into two compelling listener questions that many of you might find relatable:

Confronting Career Anxiety in Private Practice: A newly licensed listener, transitioning from a non-profit agency to private practice, shares their struggles with the unpredictability of work and income, leading to increased anxiety. They contemplate returning to a full-time job, questioning the future of their career in mental health. We discuss the common challenges faced in different work settings, strategies for managing career uncertainty, and ways to find a fulfilling path in the mental health profession.

Navigating Highway Anxiety with a Unique Twist: Another listener, who enjoys driving but experiences anxiety on long highway trips, seeks advice for their unusual situation. Despite a well-managed health condition and ruling out vision problems, this anxiety poses a significant obstacle, especially for family commitments requiring long travel. We explore potential triggers, the importance of understanding anxiety's impact, and practical tips for gradually overcoming this specific driving anxiety.

As always, your questions are the heartbeat of our show. Feel free to send your thoughts or inquiries to duffthepsych@gmail.com. For full show notes and more insights, visit http://duffthepsych.com/episode381.

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Episode 380: Dopamine Misconceptions Jan 05, 2024

Hello friends!

In today's enlightening episode, we delve deep into the intricacies of neurotransmitters, specifically dopamine, and their impact on our behavior and mental health. We also touch on trichotillomania and the role of medications like Wellbutrin in treating such conditions.

Demystifying Dopamine and Serotonin: We kick off by addressing a common oversimplification in the world of mental health. Dopamine and serotonin are often reduced to mere 'happiness' and 'reward' chemicals in popular culture. We explore how these neurotransmitters are far more complex and play a variety of roles in our body, from movement and mood regulation to learning and memory.

Understanding Neurotransmitters: What exactly are neurotransmitters like dopamine? We explain their crucial role in brain communication and their diverse functions. We also discuss other key neurotransmitters such as serotonin, acetylcholine, epinephrine, norepinephrine, GABA, and glutamate.

Dopamine's Role Beyond Pleasure: Moving beyond the 'feel-good molecule' tag, we delve into dopamine's involvement in anticipation of rewards, motivation to pursue goals, and its critical role in learning and habit formation.

Impact of Modern Habits: How do activities like scrolling on social media, playing video games, or watching TV series influence our dopamine levels? We discuss how these activities engage our brain's reward system and the concept of negative reinforcement in avoiding stress or emotional discomfort.

Trichotillomania and Dopamine: Addressing a listener's specific concern, we explore trichotillomania, a complex mental health condition involving recurrent hair pulling. We examine the potential roles of dopamine, serotonin, glutamate, genetic factors, and environmental influences in this disorder.

Wellbutrin - A Closer Look: What about medications like Wellbutrin? We clarify how Wellbutrin, or bupropion, an NDRI, differs from other antidepressants and its effectiveness in treating depression, aiding smoking cessation, and its potential implications in treating trichotillomania.

Final Thoughts and Recommendations: We wrap up by emphasizing the importance of seeking professional advice for personalized treatment plans, especially for conditions like trichotillomania, and encourage listeners to keep sending their thoughtful questions and topics.

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode380

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Episode 379: My Word for 2024 Is... Dec 22, 2023

Hello, friends!

In this episode, I will be wrapping the year up by reflecting back on 2023 and my word for the year, which was "Identity." I talk about what I learned and explored this year and then I tell you what I have chosen as my word for 2024. It should be a fun one!

Take care of yourselves, and I will see you in 2024!

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Episode 378: Emotional Immaturity & Making Friends After Bullying Dec 15, 2023

Hello friends!

In today’s insightful episode, we delve into two very relatable and poignant listener questions that highlight the complexities of personal relationships and social anxiety.

Navigating Emotional Maturity in Relationships: Our first discussion revolves around a listener's five-year relationship with her boyfriend. She's passionate about personal growth but finds her boyfriend, though professionally driven, lacks emotional maturity in their relationship. We explore the challenges of addressing emotional immaturity in a partner, the balance between accepting inherent personality traits and fostering growth, and the importance of direct communication and understanding in nurturing a healthy, supportive relationship.

Coping with Social Anxiety and Jealousy in Adolescence: The second question comes from a 13-year-old listener in the UK, grappling with feelings of jealousy and social anxiety. They talk about the challenges of making friends, the impact of bullying, and the complexities of navigating friendships with older peers. We discuss strategies to manage social anxiety, the significance of self-reflection, and the importance of recognizing one’s value in friendships.

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode378.

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Episode 377: Preparing for Couples Therapy & Managing Depersonalization and Derealization Dec 08, 2023

Hello friends!

In Episode 377, we tackle two profound listener questions that shed light on unique mental health and relationship challenges.

Our first discussion revolves around a listener gearing up for couples therapy. They share their apprehension about conveying years of experiences within the confines of therapy sessions. We explore strategies for effective communication, the importance of preparation, and utilizing therapy as a starting point rather than a complete solution. The conversation also touches on the usefulness of additional resources like therapy workbooks and individual therapy in enhancing the couples therapy experience.

The second question comes from a 23-year-old male experiencing derealization, depersonalization, and occasional panic attacks. These symptoms make him feel detached from his environment and himself, as if living in an unreal world. We dive into understanding these phenomena, identifying possible triggers, and discussing various coping methods. These include sensory grounding techniques, mindfulness practices, and the potential roles of therapy and medication in managing these dissociative experiences.

Your questions continue to add depth and insight to our discussions on mental health. If you have any questions or topics you'd like to share, please send them to duffthepsych@gmail.com. For full show notes and additional resources, visit http://duffthepsych.com/episode377.

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Episode 376: Absent Father Issues & Being a Young Manager Dec 01, 2023

Hello friends!

In today's insightful episode, we delve into two intriguing listener questions that touch upon deeply personal and relatable topics.

First, we explore the lasting impact of growing up without a father. One of our listeners shares their lifelong struggle with the absence of a paternal figure, revealing how it shapes their relationships and fears about parenting. We discuss the complex emotions tied to this experience, including the search for paternal qualities in partners and the challenges it brings. The journey of understanding and healing from such a deep-rooted issue is unpacked, offering perspectives on self-reflection, therapy, and personal growth.

Our second question shifts focus to the challenges of young leadership. A listener in their early 20s, already in a management role, grapples with being taken advantage of due to their age. They seek advice on asserting themselves and managing a team with more life experience. We dive into the nuances of assertive communication, the balance between firmness and collaboration in leadership, and the importance of self-confidence, irrespective of age.

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode376.

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Episode 375: Anxiety About Nose Job & Privacy In Telehealth Therapy Nov 17, 2023

Hello friends!

In today’s insightful episode, we tackle two profound listener questions that delve into personal struggles and the complexities of therapy in the modern world.

Our first discussion revolves around a listener's internal conflict about undergoing a nose job. They share their long-standing desire for this procedure, influenced by cultural norms and compounded by severe anxiety. We explore the importance of understanding the underlying reasons for wanting cosmetic surgery, the impact of cultural pressures, and strategies for managing anxiety related to such a significant decision.

The second question opens a window into the world of telehealth therapy and the challenges of maintaining privacy in less traditional settings. A listener shares their experience of feeling uneasy about the lack of privacy during their online therapy sessions. This concern leads us to discuss the crucial aspects of privacy in therapy, the legal and clinical implications, and the importance of addressing and resolving such concerns with your therapist.

As always, you can send me questions at duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode375.

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Episode 374: Persisting in a Broken World & Recognizing Narcissism in Yourself Nov 10, 2023

Hello, friends! I hope you're all managing to keep your spirits up.

In today’s thoughtful episode, we tackle two profound listener questions that may resonate with many of you:

Contemplating Narcissism and Self-Improvement: A listener is troubled by the possibility of being a narcissist, an idea suggested by their ex-partner. They're engaging in therapy and self-help but wrestle with the question: Are they truly non-empathetic or just struggling with poor coping mechanisms? We explore the characteristics of Narcissistic Personality Disorder, the journey of self-awareness, and the importance of recognizing and addressing negative behaviors.

Seeking Purpose Amidst Global Turmoil: Another listener shares their struggle to find the motivation for personal improvement in a world filled with conflict and despair. How can one persist in therapy and self-care when the future seems so uncertain? We discuss the significance of hope, the resilience of humanity, and finding personal value in the face of global challenges.

Your stories and questions are what make this podcast a rich community. If something's on your mind, drop me an email at duffthepsych@gmail.com.

For full show notes, visit http://duffthepsych.com/episode374. Remember, while the podcast can offer guidance, it's not a replacement for professional help.

Stay tuned for more, and take care of yourselves.

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Episode 373: Overcoming Overthinking Nov 03, 2023

Hey everyone! Hope you're finding moments of peace amidst the chaos.

Today's episode peels back the layers of anxiety that can really twist our brains into knots. We're responding to a heartfelt question from a listener who's finding themselves in a tangle of overthinking, especially when it comes to new relationships.

Unraveling the Anxiety Knot:

We've all been there, so let's talk about overthinking, anxiety, and how they team up to throw us for a loop.
I'm rolling out some practical tips that come from both personal battles and professional strategies to help ease that mental gridlock.

Mindfulness: More Than Just Zen:

We're distinguishing between kicking back for relaxation and the active practice of mindfulness. It's all about focusing your thoughts, not just deep breathing.
I’ll guide you on how to navigate through your brain's maze and dodge those cognitive booby traps.

Self-Compassion: Your Secret Weapon:

It’s super important to remember to be gentle with yourself. Struggling with overthinking is common, and it's okay not to have all the answers.
Keeping busy can be a good distraction from ruminating thoughts, and sometimes, a little distraction is exactly what we need.
Don’t shy away from asking for an outsider's perspective. Friends, family, or a therapist can provide that valuable reality check.

Big Picture Perspective:

Keep in mind, this too shall pass. The worries that seem mountainous today are often just pebbles on the path of life.
Life's a wild ride, and it's not meant to be spent in a constant state of worry. You're capable, and you've got a whole community here rooting for you.

Got a question you're itching to ask? Drop me a line at duffthepsych@gmail.com. And for a deeper dive into today's topic, check out the detailed show notes over at http://duffthepsych.com/episode373. Stay safe, and see you in the next episode!

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Episode 372: Finding Balance in College & Spending Addiction Oct 28, 2023

Hello, friends! Hope you're all doing splendidly.

Today's episode dives into the nuances of financial anxieties and the challenges of managing impulsive shopping habits. Two heartfelt listener questions guide our discussion, shedding light on personal struggles and the broader societal context:

Tackling Shopping Habits & ADHD:

A loyal follower from Vermont expresses concerns over her shopping habits, leading to financial difficulties, accentuated by her newly diagnosed adult ADHD.
- We delve into the difference between compulsive shopping and anxiety-driven financial behaviors, offering clarity and understanding.
- The profound influence of ADHD on financial decisions: a look into impulsivity and executive dysfunction.
- Addressing societal pressures, the modern capitalist world, and their impacts on our financial stresses.

Strategies for Financial Well-being:

Exploring actionable steps to regain financial control and establish a balanced relationship with money.
- Emphasizing the importance of budgeting and planning to avoid impulsive bill payments and purchases.
- Techniques to curb immediate spending impulses and create a waiting period before making purchases.
- The value of community support, accountability, and journaling for self-awareness and reflection.
- The potential for therapy to understand and address deep-seated beliefs and behaviors about money.

Remember, seeking balance and understanding in our relationship with money is a journey, not a destination. Taking proactive steps, seeking support, and focusing on self-awareness can pave the way for healthier financial habits.

As always, feel free to send your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com. You can find the detailed show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode372

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Episode 371: Is This Cheating?, Annoyed at Phones, & Meds Before Therapy Oct 20, 2023

Hello, friends! I hope everyone is well.

In today's insightful episode, we dive deep into two thought-provoking listener questions that touch on feelings of regret after a relationship and the challenges of adapting to a technology-driven society:

The Complexities of Relationships & BPD

A 27-year-old male grapples with feelings of regret after rekindling a relationship with an ex-partner diagnosed with BPD.

We discuss the intricate nature of relationships with individuals diagnosed with BPD, emphasizing understanding, compassion, and communication.
Highlighting the importance of self-awareness and personal boundaries when navigating the potential of re-entering a relationship.
Shedding light on the challenges of revisiting past connections and the role of personal growth and change.

Navigating a Technology-Driven World

A listener shares their post-pandemic struggles with adapting to a world where mobile phones dominate social interactions.

We explore the societal shift towards digital interactions and the challenges of feeling disconnected in an ever-connected world.
Addressing feelings of annoyance with public cell phone usage and ways to reframe our perspective for better adaptability.
Questioning medical advice and advocating for the importance of therapy as an initial treatment approach.

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com, and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode371.

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Episode 370: Unusual Response to ADHD Meds & Safer BDSM Practices Oct 13, 2023

Hello, friends! I hope everyone is well.

In today’s enlightening episode, we delve into two insightful listener questions that touch on ADHD medications and the world of BDSM:

The Nuances of ADHD Medications
- A concerned friend notices that their peers, after starting ADHD medication, exhibit what seems to be exacerbated symptoms. We delve into the complexities of ADHD medication, understanding its effects, and the importance of individualized treatment.
- Exploring the balance of neurotransmitters, the potential for overstimulation, and the common trial-and-error phase of medication adjustment.
- The importance of observation, empathy, and open communication when approaching friends or loved ones about potential medication side effects.
Journeying through BDSM Interests from Childhood to Adulthood
- A listener shares their deep-seated interest in BDSM activities from an age as young as six, raising concerns about their adult relationships and personal safety.
- We explore the broad scope of BDSM, its misconceptions, and the importance of self-awareness and education in safely navigating the BDSM community.
- Touching upon the potential overlaps between Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) Autism and BDSM tendencies, and the significance of therapy in understanding oneself better.

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode370

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Episode 369: Avoiding Depression Relapse & Questioning Parenthood Oct 06, 2023

Episode 369: Navigating Personal Struggles & Motherhood

Hello, friends! I hope everyone is doing well.

In today’s episode, we delve into two deeply personal and powerful listener questions:

1. A 26-year-old woman shares her journey from the depths of a severe depression to her current stable and fulfilling life. Despite her progress, she grapples with anxiety about possibly regressing into her past depressive state. We explore the resilience of overcoming challenges, the changes that occur within us as we grow, and the power of reflection and gratitude in maintaining mental health.

2. A single mother of two confronts the painful reality of potentially repeating the patterns of her own tumultuous childhood. With raw honesty, she reveals her struggles with emotional, mental, and occasional physical abuse towards her children. In response, we discuss the profound challenges of motherhood, the potential for growth and change, and the importance of seeking resources and support.

Resources Mentioned:

Child Welfare Information Gateway
- A comprehensive resource hub offering assistance on various topics, from adoption to strengthening families.
National Parent Helpline
- A platform that provides support to parents and caregivers. They offer a directory of parent resources by state.

For more detailed information and links, please visit the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode369.

As always, if you have questions or topics you’d like discussed on the show, please send them to duffthepsych@gmail.com.

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Episode 368: How to Overcome Anxiety About Flying Sep 29, 2023

Hello, friends! I hope everyone is doing well.

In today’s episode, we take a deep dive into a pressing concern from a listener who's experiencing heightened flight anxiety, especially after a recent panic attack. Having flown multiple times without issues, the sudden resurgence of this anxiety, coupled with the responsibility of traveling with her two kids, has intensified her worries. We discuss the nature of panic attacks, the paradox of fearing anxiety itself, and the importance of anchor thoughts. By understanding the physiological similarities between anxiety and excitement, one can redirect their focus to positive anticipations. We also emphasize the pitfalls of safety behaviors and the significance of relying on support systems, even those onboard. Lastly, we highlight the importance of self-compassion, preparation, and recognizing one’s resilience in facing such challenges.

Additionally, we touched upon the value of grounding techniques like box breathing, the potential of distractions, and the concept of transforming anxiety into excitement using anchor thoughts. We also explore the idea of viewing each phase of the flight as milestones rather than triggers.

As always, if you have questions or topics you'd like discussed on the show, please send them to duffthepsych@gmail.com. Be sure to check out the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode368.

Links mentioned:

Pilot walks you through the sounds of a plane

Mel Robbins discusses her strategies for overcoming plane anxiety

Episode 367: Preventing Age Discrimination and Promoting Longevity Sep 22, 2023

Hello, listeners! I hope you're taking care of yourselves and finding moments of joy. In today's episode, we deep dive into a comprehensive question from one of our loyal listeners.

This listener shares their journey, from discovering our podcast through a Men's Health article on mental health to now being engrossed in Dr. Becca Levy's book "Breaking the Aging Code." The core of their question revolves around the challenges the aging population faces, particularly concerning mental health. They highlight the troubling fact that the majority of mental health providers do not accept older patients on Medicare and express concerns about receiving appropriate care as they age, especially without having a family advocate by their side.

Our discussion touches upon the age bias prevalent in the medical community and the importance of proactive health measures, both mentally and physically. We delve into the effects of cardiovascular health on cognitive abilities, the significance of continuous learning and social interactions, and the role of stress in aging. Furthermore, we emphasize the importance of advocating for oneself, understanding the intricacies of Medicare, and the potential benefits of seeking younger medical practitioners who may have a fresh perspective on care.

Thank you for consistently sharing your thoughtful questions. They add depth and perspective to our conversations. If you have questions or topics you'd like us to address, please reach out to duffthepsych@gmail.com. Don't forget to check out the detailed show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode367.

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Episode 366: Explaining My Polyamorous Relationship & Supporting a Partner in Grief Over a Pet Sep 15, 2023

Hello, everyone! I appreciate your attention and hope you are doing well.

In our first segment, we dive into a topic that's close to my heart - the evolution of my own marriage into a non-monogamous, polyamorous relationship. I unravel the intricacies of non-monogamy, elucidate the various terminology surrounding it, and give an insight into my personal journey of 'opening up'. If you're curious about polyamory, its various facets, or simply want to understand what it means to navigate such a relationship, this segment offers a comprehensive overview.

The next question touches upon a sensitive yet universal theme: grief. A listener reaches out, concerned about her partner's impending loss of his beloved cat, Jimmy, who has been a steadfast companion through some of life's most challenging moments. We discuss the profound impact pets have on our lives, the unique grief associated with their loss, and strategies to navigate this emotional terrain, especially when mental health challenges are at play.

As always, your stories and questions provide invaluable insights, making every episode a journey of discovery. If there's a topic or question you'd like addressed in future episodes, please send them to duffthepsych@gmail.com. For a detailed breakdown of today's episode, check out the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode366.

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Episode 365: Getting Autism Diagnosis as an Adult & Living with Partner's PTSD Sep 08, 2023

Hello, all! I hope that you are staying healthy and safe. In this episode, I cover two very interesting questions.

In the first, someone has been through almost every treatment for depression and anxiety under the sun, yet they still struggle. Their therapist suggested that they may be on the autism spectrum and the person is wondering whether it would be useful to get an evaluation. We discuss the potential benefits as well as how to go about finding (and affording) an evaluation.

Next, someone has PTSD from their partner's PTSD reactions. Their partner is a war veteran with multiple brain injuries and the question-asker is wondering how they can stay afloat mentally when their partner does not get help. We talk about ways to avoid codependence, how to establish boundaries, and when to call it quits.

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode365

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Episode 364: PTSD with Psychosis & Body Dysmorphia Cured by Loss Sep 01, 2023

Hello, friends! I hope you're treating yourselves well. In this episode, I dive into two compelling listener questions that touch on complex emotional states and mental health diagnoses.

First up, we discuss what it means to be diagnosed with PTSD with "schizophrenic episodes." If you've ever been confused by mental health jargon or diagnoses, this segment will provide some clarity. We'll break down the DSM criteria for PTSD and explore the possibility of psychotic symptoms within the framework of trauma.

Our second question is a deeply emotional one. It's about the sudden disappearance of body dysmorphia and low self-esteem following the death of an abusive parent. Can such a significant life event dramatically shift one's self-image? We'll delve into the complexities of grief, closure, and self-perception in this intriguing discussion.

As always, your engagement keeps this show going. Send your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com for a chance to be featured in future episodes. For full show notes, head to duffthepsych.com/episode364.

Episode 363: Treating a Phobia of Wasps & Adjusting to Moving in With a Partner Aug 25, 2023

Hello, friends! I hope you are treating yourselves well. In this episode, we dive deep into two thought-provoking listener questions.

Our first discussion revolves around a listener who's grappling with a profound fear of wasps, known as spheksophobia. This phobia has had a significant impact on their quality of life, especially during the summer. We delve into the nature of specific phobias, their prevalence, and debunk some common misconceptions about wasps. Moreover, we explore potential strategies for addressing and managing such fears, emphasizing the role of exposure therapy and the significance of understanding one's fear hierarchy.

The second question opens a window into the world of a couple navigating the challenges of moving in together. One partner has relocated from a cherished home, and both are experiencing the typical growing pains of cohabitation for the first time. We discuss the importance of communication, curiosity, and compromise in this new chapter of their relationship. By establishing routines, rituals, and shared spaces, they can create an environment that feels like home to both, while also setting aside time for individual activities to foster a deeper bond.

Your questions always bring valuable insights to our conversations. If there's a question or topic on your mind, feel free to send it over to duffthepsych@gmail.com. For full show notes, head to http://duffthepsych.com/episode363.

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Episode 362: PMDD Treatment & Dealing with Scary Ex Aug 11, 2023

Hello, everyone! I hope you are doing super well. As always, I really appreciate your attention. A special thank you to everyone that has left feedback for me about the show. Very helpful. In this weeks episode, I tackle the following questions:

Could my symptoms be PMDD and if so, how do I get help?
What can I do about my ex that is spreading harmful lies about me?

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode362

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Episode 361: Health Anxiety Rabbit Holes & The Psychology of Weight Loss Drugs Aug 04, 2023

Hello, all!

In this episode, I answer the following awesome listener questions.

I have successfully been treated for cancer, but I can't stop looking at research and personal accounts online for fear that it may come back. How can I stop?
How do weight loss medications like Ozempic help reduce the psychological addiction to food?

Please give me feedback on the show at this link: https://forms.gle/TGx4puKucMJKjSNz7

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode361

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Episode 360: How to Survive Starting Fresh & Resources for an Overloaded Parent Jul 28, 2023

Hello, friends! I hope you're staying safe from the heat and generally taking good care of yourselves. Today, I have two awesome listener questions.

The first comes from someone that left her job as a teacher because she was burned out. However, now she finds herself in a difficult situation without insurance or a longterm steady income. I provide advice regarding resources for inexpensive and free therapy. I also talk about different resources available to someone in a situation like this and explain how Maslow's heirarchy of needs explains why the person should focus on basic needs before trying to answer big questions about their life and sexuality.

The second question is from a mother with two autistic children and a mother with dementia. She is looking for advice about how to take care of herself without abandoning her family. I provide a variety of ideas for resources that would allow her to have more help and freedom.

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode360

Episode 359: Wife Obsessed with Phone & Does Ketamine Rewire Your Brain? Jul 21, 2023

Hello, friends! I hope life is treating you well.

In today's episode, we're going to dive into two more insightful listener questions:

Our first question comes from a listener who's struggling with their spouse's constant engagement with their phone. The impact is such that it seems to supersede any conversation or interaction they might have. They even go so far as to joke that they might be better off texting their spouse, despite being in the same room. We'll delve into this challenge, discussing potential strategies for addressing screen-time issues within relationships, communication tactics, and steps to reclaim mutual attention and presence.

Our second question is from a listener navigating the complexities of depression and anxiety treatment. They've been considering ketamine therapy and have concerns about its application, specifically the difference between IV and oral administration, potential lasting effects, and the overall experience. They're particularly interested in hearing about personal experiences with ketamine therapy, including potential side effects and long-term benefits. We'll unravel the science behind ketamine treatment for depression and anxiety, exploring the potential pros and cons, the lasting effects, and the considerations one should have in mind when deciding on this treatment approach.

As always, I appreciate your questions and engagement with the show. You can send your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode359.

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Episode 358: Binge Eating and Goal Setting Jul 07, 2023

Hello, friends! I hope you're all doing fantastic. In today's episode, we delve into the following awesome listener questions: Our first question comes from a listener who has been dealing with a challenging relationship with food. They described waking up each day caught in a cycle of remorse over their previous night's eating and anxiety about what the new day will bring. They also mentioned the negative impact this issue has on their relationships and social life. Although they've begun therapy, their current therapist has admitted this specific problem is outside of their expertise. Together, we'll explore this struggle, discussing possible steps toward understanding and addressing problematic eating habits and how to find the right professional help to navigate this journey. Our second question is from a loyal listener who's been with us for three years. They're struggling with setting long-term goals due to anxiety. They aspire to move overseas with their partner in the next 5-10 years but are being held back by worries such as the stability of their relationship and financial concerns. We'll unpack the complexities of setting long-term goals while dealing with anxiety, offering strategies to establish realistic objectives without feeling overwhelmed, and ways to manage the uncertainties that naturally come with future planning. As always, I appreciate your questions and engagement with the show. You can send your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode358. --- This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. If you are looking for some assistance in finding your direction in life, consider enlisting the help of a licensed remote therapist at http://betterhelp.com/duffthepsych

Episode 357: Getting Off Antidepressants & Feeling Sexy With Partner Again Jun 30, 2023

Hello, friends! I hope you're all doing great.

In today's episode, we dive into the following awesome listener questions:

Our first question comes from a listener who's considering whether to continue their journey with antidepressant medication. They've been told by their doctor that most people stay on these medications for life, but they're not sure if this path is right for them. They're grappling with how to gauge if the medication is still necessary or if their mental health has improved enough to consider discontinuing it. We will delve into this complex issue, discussing ways to assess the effectiveness of antidepressants, the potential risks and benefits of long-term use, and how to make informed decisions about your mental health treatment plan.

Our second question is from a long-time listener who has been struggling with feeling comfortable during intimate moments with their partner. Despite feeling sexy when alone, the listener finds it challenging to relax and enjoy intimacy with their partner, possibly due to a decade-long journey with infertility and miscarriages. Now surgically sterile, the listener is looking for ways to reclaim their sex life and feel comfortable in their own skin during intimate encounters. We will explore ways to navigate this emotional terrain, discussing how past experiences can impact present relationships and strategies for fostering healthy and satisfying intimacy.

As always, feel free to send your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com. You can find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode357.

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Episode 356: Schizophrenia Without Medication and Building Self-Confidence Jun 22, 2023

Hello, friends! I hope you're all doing great. In today's episode, we dive into the following awesome listener questions: Our first question comes from a concerned parent whose son was diagnosed with schizophrenia eight years ago. At the time, they didn't agree with the diagnosis due to a variety of circumstantial factors, but now they recognize that their son does indeed have schizophrenia. They are seeking guidance on how to help him understand his condition and learn to manage it without relying on medication. They also ask for recommendations on therapists who specialize in non-medication treatment options. We will navigate this sensitive topic, discussing ways to approach the conversation and exploring non-medication treatment strategies for schizophrenia. Our second question is from a listener who's been struggling with assertiveness and self-respect, often prioritizing others' needs over their own to avoid conflict. This listener also has ADHD which exacerbates the issue, making it challenging for them to communicate effectively during moments of conflict due to executive functioning overload. They seek advice on accepting their shortcomings, cultivating self-love, and prioritizing their own needs without fear of pushing others away. We will discuss the importance of setting boundaries, effective communication strategies, and ways to build self-respect while managing ADHD. As always, feel free to send your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com. You can find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode356. ----- This episode is brought to you by Mindbloom, the leader in at-home ketamine therapy. Get $100 off your first treatment at http://mindbloom.com/duff with the code duff at checkout. This episode is also brought to you by Betterhelp. Take control of your mental health with the help of a licensed therapist, completely online at http://betterhelp.com/duff.

Episode 355: ADHD vs Bipolar II & The Spiritual Consequences of Suicide Jun 16, 2023

Hello, friends! I hope everyone is doing well.

In today's episode, we dive into the following awesome listener questions:

Our first question comes from a listener whose partner was diagnosed with ADHD in childhood. They're now wondering if they might also have Bipolar II, as they experience random bouts of depression and "good days" that may potentially be hypomanic episodes. The listener questions if these mood swings could be catalyzed by situational factors or if they are indeed random. We'll unpack the complexities of distinguishing between ADHD and Bipolar II, discussing the different symptoms, overlaps, and possible courses of action to consider.

Our second question comes from a listener who's been grappling with deep existential thoughts about the concept of the "soul," particularly relating to individuals who die by suicide. They wonder about possible repercussions in potential afterlife scenarios, despite not being particularly religious. They ponder on possibilities like reincarnation, memory erasure, or even punishment. In response to this question, we'll delve into the intersections of spirituality, mental health, and coping with such existential concerns, while emphasizing the importance of empathy and compassion in our understanding of such tragic events.

As always, if you have questions or topics you'd like discussed on the show, please send them to duffthepsych@gmail.com. Be sure to check out the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode355.

Episode 354: Disclosing BPD in Relationships & Boyfriend Too Close to His Mother Jun 09, 2023

Hello, friends! In this episode, I tackle two great listener questions about relationships. The first one comes from someone with borderline personality disorder who would like to figure out if and when they should reveal this to potential partners. The second question comes all the way from Columbia and features someone who is concerned about how enmeshed her boyfriend is with his mother.

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode354

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Episode 353: Childhood Concussion & Boundaries with Friends Jun 02, 2023

Hello, friends! I hope you are all doing well. Our first question comes from a listener who reached out to express their appreciation for the show, my course, and books. They share a childhood experience of being in a dodge car accident where they were hit from behind, resulting in a significant lump on their head and feelings of sickness and disorientation. They recently heard me speak about frontal lobe damage and its potential effects, which resonated with them. They also suspect they may be undiagnosed autistic. They are concerned about the possibility of having sustained a brain injury and whether an MRI at their current age (31) would reveal any long-term effects. This uncertainty has brought up feelings of betrayal and neglect. I provide insight into the likelihood of detecting an old brain injury on an MRI and offer guidance on the next steps to gain clarity and peace of mind. Moving on to our second question, a listener in their late twenties shares their struggle with assessing whether to judge people based on how they treat others or solely on how they treat them. They describe ending relationships with men who exhibited disrespectful behavior towards other women, as well as navigating concerns about a close platonic female friend who has made questionable moral choices. They ponder whether to judge people based on their life choices or patterns, and if it's necessary to align values with others or accept them as they are. I delve into the complexities of these situations, emphasizing the importance of personal boundaries, unconditional positive regard, and self-reflection in determining how to approach relationships. As always, I appreciate your support and engagement with the show. You can send your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com, and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode353. -- This episode is sponsored by Mindbloom, the leader in at-home ketamine treatment. If you are struggling with depression and anxiety, try ketamine treatment from the safety and comfort of your own home and get $100 off at http://mindbloom.com/duff with the code duff at checkout.

Episode 352: How to Stay Focused - 20 Tips May 26, 2023

Hello, friends! It's been an interesting week for me, which I address at the start of the episode. From there, I share with you a previous episode of the show that I wanted to make sure that you've heard! This is all about staying focused. It's a great episode for anyone that might struggle with ADHD or simply has trouble concentrating from time to time. Here are the tips I cover:

Limit distractions
Adjust your space - physical and digital
Do NOT multitask
Practice mindfulness meditation frequently
Journal/Plan every day
Check your planner at least 3x per day
Set yourself up with an outline before leaving a task
Keep a notebook nearby for impulsive thoughts that can wait
Force yourself to prioritize
If you take it out, put it back
Don't procrastinate - if it takes less than a minute do it (unless you're in the middle of something else)
Keep a place for your small things
Make a mise en place for your workplaces
Use neutral inputs to satisfy your attention hunger (white noise etc)
Take breaks for movement
Abort when you're in to deep
Work in shifts
Don't use your partner as a coach
Use the solution that works, whether it's perfect or not
Study yourself

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As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode352

Episode 351: Preemptive Grief & Triggered by Anger May 19, 2023

Hello, friends! This is a short and sweet episode. No ads today, but I have two awesome listener questions.

First, I tackle a question from someone that feels the end of their relationship is inevitable due to moving to another state and they are already struggling with feelings of grief.

The second question is from someone with a background of trauma that wants advice about how to deal with their friend's angry outbursts.

I hope you enjoy!

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode351

Episode 350: Daddy Issues & Severe Social Anxiety May 12, 2023

Hello, friends! I hope you are all doing well. Special shout out to the moms out there this week! In this episode, I two awesome listener questions.

Our first question comes from a listener who has been enjoying the podcast and requests an episode focused on "daddy issues." They express curiosity about the causes and potential solutions surrounding this concept. In response to this inquiry, we will delve into the complexities of "daddy issues," examining various contributing factors and discussing potential strategies for healing and personal development.

Moving on to our second question, a long-time listener writes in for the first time, sharing their ongoing struggle with severe social anxiety. They describe how their anxiety often leads to dissociation during conversations, causing them to make impulsive decisions to end interactions prematurely. Despite trying conventional treatments such as CBT, exposure therapy, medication, and group therapy, the listener feels disheartened by the lack of progress and wonders if there are other options available. We'll explore alternative approaches and offer insights on how to navigate social anxiety in a more empowering way.

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode350

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Episode 349: Compulsive Lying and Protecting My Sister From Our Mom May 05, 2023

Hello, friends! In this episode, I answer two listener questions. The first question is from a listener who has been with her boyfriend for over 10 years, but suspects he is a narcissist and compulsive liar. She believes that a car accident at 17, which resulted in physical injuries as well as a TBI, may have stunted his development. The listener is struggling with her boyfriend's lying behavior and wonders if he's lying about their relationship too. She asks how to deal with the lying and gaslighting, and how to tell if her boyfriend's love for her is genuine. In the second question, a listener shares her concerns about her younger sister's emotional development, given their mother's unpredictable and intense reactions to normal child behavior. The listener worries about her sister's mental health and emotional growth, and wants her mother to be more gentle and understanding towards her. However, the listener is struggling with confronting her mother due to past fear of her reactions. She asks for advice on how to approach the situation. As always, you can send your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com, and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode349. ----- This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Don't lose yourself in the shuffle. Get linked up with a licensed therapist completely online and get 10% off your first month at http://betterhelp.com/duff

Episode 348: ChatGPT for Mental Health and Productivity - My Best Tips Apr 28, 2023

Like most of the world, I have been obsessed with AI tools such as ChatGPT. However, I think they are more than a gimmick. I have been using them every single day to help improve my work and personal life. In this episode, I walk you through the ways that I use ChatGPT and other AI models and I also provide you with some ideas about how you can use them to improve your own life and mental health. As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode348 This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp - if you are in a position where you put yourself last and other first, you may be at risk of burnout. Get the help and perspective that you need from a licensed professional at betterhelp.com/duff for 10% off.

Episode 347: Contamination OCD vs COVID Safety & Violated Consent in a Relationship Apr 21, 2023

Hello, friends! This one is a bit of a doozy. Please be aware that the subject matter is somewhat more intense than other episodes recently. In this one, I tackle the following listener questions:

Should I get treatment for my excessive concerns about germs and contamination? How can I re-engage socially with the continuing concerns about COVID-19?
My partner violated my consent and sexual boundaries repeatedly, but they seem sorry and I still love them. What can I do?

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode347

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Episode 346: Electroconvulsive Therapy vs Ketamine. Which is better? Apr 14, 2023

Hello, friends! In this episode, I tackle one awesome question from a listener. This person has treatment resistant depression and bipolar. Their mania is well-controlled, but they need a higher level of treatment for the depression. Their psychiatrist suggested either ketamine of electroconvulsive therapy, so in this episode, I break down everything you need to know about these treatments. As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com.

Episode 345: Bipolar Meds for Life & CBT Is Not Working Apr 07, 2023

Hello, friends! I hope that you are taking good care of yourselves. We are back to the Q&A format this week with the following amazing listener questions:

I am stable on bipolar medications, but I hate the side effects. What can I do?
My CBT therapy just seems to worsen my mood. How can I make it more helpful?

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

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Episode 344: My Self-Therapy Protocol Mar 31, 2023

Hey, friends! This episode is a little different. Rather than taking listener questions, I decided to share something that is working really well for me. I take you through a five-step process for doing what I like to call "self-therapy." This is usually done while I am in the car or walking the dog. I highly suggest you also talk out loud to yourself like a weirdo.

FYI: The website is still under construction. It broke badly and we need to rebuild it. It should be up and runing again soon. In the meantime, if you'd like to send me a question for an upcoming episode of the show, please shoot an email to duffthepsych@gmail.com

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Episode 343: Communicating While Dissociated & Masturbation Causing Bad Things Mar 24, 2023

Hello, friends! Huge apologies - the website is currently down. I hope that it is up again soon! In this episode, I answer the following questions:

I dissociate whenever I try to talk about my feelings. How can I overcome this?
Bad things seem to happen after I masturbate. Am I causing bad things to happen?

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode343 (once the website is back up).

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Episode 342: Alternatives to Hospitalization & Thyroid and Mental Health Mar 17, 2023

Hello, everyone. I hope you are treating yourselves well. Q&A episode this week featuring the following great listener questions:

I have had severe depression and suicidal ideation for the past 25 years and nothing is working. Aside from going into the hospital or an IOP program, what can I do?
Can you talk about how the thyroid is related to mood and mental health?

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode342

No sponsors this week, so be sure to go check out my author page to find more resources!

Episode 341: Reporting Abuse of Teen & Raising Therapy Rates Mar 10, 2023

Hello, friends! Short and sweet Q&A episode here. Before jumping into the questions, I share a couple strategies that are working well for me right now. Then, I cover the following questions:

As a teenager, will my therapist have to report if I tell them about my parents abusing me?
I am a therapist and found a new position that will allow me to make a better living, but it means my fees will increase. How can I deal with this?

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode341

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Episode 340: OCD vs Psychosis & Finding a GOOD Therapist Mar 03, 2023

Hello, friends! I hope you enjoy this awesome Q&A episode featuring the following listener questions:

Why do my intrusive thoughts from OCD seem to impact the environment, such as the television?
How can I find a therapist that is awesome like you? I am on my fourth try with no luck.

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode340

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Episode 339: Can’t Find a Job With My Degree & Emotions Stuck in Therapy Feb 25, 2023

Hello, everyone! I hope that you are staying safe out there if you are in an area with wild weather conditions. I am having a very cozy weekend. This week, we have a Q&A episoed with the following:

I spent years obtaining my degree, but I can't find a job that utilizes it. What can I do?
I want to feel more in therapy, but I can't access the emotion. How can I move forward?

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode339

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Episode 338: Postpartum Mental Illness and Postpartum Psychosis Feb 17, 2023

Hi, friends!

In this episode, I do a deep dive into postpartum mental illness including baby blues, postpartum depression, and postpartum psychosis. This was requested by a number of listeners due to the Lindsay Clancy case, which I discuss briefly in the episode.

Please be aware that I do discuss topics such as infanticide, suicide, and the specific case of Lindsay Clancy. However, I do not go into details of what happened and there are no explicit descriptions.

As always, you can send me questions for future episodes to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode338

Episode 337: Losing a Friend & Father with Brain Injury Feb 10, 2023

Hello, everyone. Short and sweet Q&A episode here featuring the following:

I made a mistake and lost my friend of 20 years. What can I do about the loneliness and hopelessness I feel now?
My husband had a brain injury when out daughter was young and now she does not want to be around him because of his behavior. What can I do?

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode

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Episode 336: Ghosted by Children & Grieving in Secret Feb 04, 2023

Hey, friends! I hope that you are doing well. For this episode, we are back to the usual Q&A format with a ltitle less intensity than last episode. Here is what I cover:

What can I do about my adult children that have completely ghosted me?
How can I tell me partner that I'm still grieving my ex that died?

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode336.

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Episode 335: I Hope This Reaches You... Jan 27, 2023

Hello, friends. Something a little different today. No intro or sponsors. Just a frank response from me to someone that feels that their best option is to stop living. Someone wrote in who is imminently suicidal. Therefore, the contents of this episode might not be appropriate for everyone. Please keep that in mind.

You are not alone.

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Episode 334: Letting Go of Control & Drinking on Meds Jan 20, 2023

Hey, everyone! Another Q&A episode for you here featuring the following questions:

How can I let go of control when I don't like the way other people do things?
Is it dangerous to take more medications for my depression while I am drinking alcohol? What other options do I have?

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode334

This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by BetterHelp.

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Episode 333: Finding Better Partners & Eating Disorder Recovery Jan 13, 2023

aHello, everyone! I hope you are staying safe and dry(ish) out there. In this episode, I address the following:

How can I find better partners when I tend to find people with the same personality types?
How can I work on me eating disorder while working from home?

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode333

Don't forget to check out (and review) my new book of dating and relationship questions!

This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Mindbloom.

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Episode 332: My Word for the Year! Jan 06, 2023

Hello, everyone! Happy new year! In this episode, I review my personal progress and challenges over the past year, reveal my word for the year of 2023, and talk about my approach/focus for the upcoming year. Enjoy!

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode332

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Episode 331: Recovering From Brain Injury & How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others Dec 16, 2022

Hello, all! In this episode, I answer the following questions from awesome listeners like yourself:

How can I recover my memory following a trumatic brain injury?
How can I stop making myself anxious and depressed by comparing myself to other people?

Don't forget to take a look at my new book of questions including the following one that I include in the episode: What things were and were not talked about in your family of origin?

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Episode 330: Agoraphobia Exposure & Fixing a Dead Bedroom Dec 09, 2022

Hello, friends! Hope you are well. Back with another Q&A episode this week featuring the following questions submitted by listeners like you:

What steps can I add to my exposure ladder for agoraphobia to stop having so many panic attacks in public?
How can I work on the lack of sex in my marriage?

As always, you can send me questions for the show to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode330

This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by BetterHelp and Uncommon Goods.

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Episode 329: Turned On by Therapy & Accelerating the Therapeutic Relationship Dec 02, 2022

Hello, everyone! Exciting news. My new book, 500 Questions for Dating, Relationships, Romance, and More is out! I talk more about it at the beginning of the epidode, but I really think that it will serve as a useful resource to many of you. Orders are shipping quickly right now, so there is plenty of time to get it before the holidays if you're into that kind of thing.

Anyways, I have an awesome Q&A episode for you today featuring the following listener questions:

Is it weird to be turned on and want to masturbate after therapy?
How can I get therapy moving faster? Does it make sense to give a new therapist a document of information?

As always, you can send me questions for the show to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode329

This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Uncommon Goods and Roman Swipes.

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Episode 328: Antidepressants Causing Self-Harm & Rock Bottom in 50s Nov 25, 2022

Hello, friends! Hope you are enjoying some time off with loved ones or some quiet time on your own. Here are the question I cover in this episode:

I think antidepressants are causing me to self-injure due to being numb. What should I do?
I have hit a rock bottom in my mid 50s including divorce, losing my job, and a DUI. How do I survive?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode328

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Episode 327: How to Stop Cheating & Feeling Bad About Weight Comments Nov 18, 2022

Hello, everyone! In this episode, I tack the following listener questions:

How can I stop myself from cheating like I have in my past two marriages?
What can I do about feeling bad when people comment on my weight loss?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode327

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If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.

Episode 326: Reducing Alcohol Use & Clutching to a Dying Relationship Nov 11, 2022

Hello, beautiful people. This is another Q&A episode of the podcast featuring the following questions:

How do I know when I enjoy alcohol too much?
Why did I push so hard to keep a relationship that wasn't good for me?

As always, you can send me your questions for the show to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode326

This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by BetterHelp and Uncommon Goods.

If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.

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Episode 325: Abuser in the Hospital & Crying During Arguments Nov 04, 2022

Hello, friends! This is a short and sweet episode. Just over 20 minutes. No sponsors. Just some Q&A goodness featuring the following questions:

Why don't I feel sad that my abusive father is in the hospital?
How do I stop crying when I have arguments?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode325

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Episode 324: Answering PERSONAL Questions About Me Oct 27, 2022

Hello, all! This week, since it's my birthday week, I am taking it easy and having some fun with the show. As a lot of you know, I've been working on a collection of questions and prompts for dating, relationships, sexuality etc. So, today I am answering some of those questions from my own perspective. Enjoy!

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If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.

Episode 323: Generational Trauma & Motivation to Find Work Oct 22, 2022

Hey, everyone! Thanks for your patience in waiting an extra day for the show this week. Seems like everyone is having a weird week, myself included. Mercury must be in reverse cowgirl again or something. ANYWAYS! Here are the questions covered in this episode:

How can I help my parents heal and set boundaries without ruining my own mental health?
I am losing energy and motivation to search for jobs. What can I do?

As always, you can send me questions to the show to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode323

This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp head over to http://betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month of online therapy!

Episode 322: Stopping Self-Injurious Behavior & Trichotillomania Oct 14, 2022

Hello, all! This is a really interesting episode, in my opinion. That's due to your awesome questions! Here's what I cover:

When I get angry, I headbutt things, which has given me black eyes. How can I get help?
What is trichotillomania and how can you work on it?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode322

This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Audible.

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Episode 321: Asking My Wife to Get Help & Codependency With My Kids Oct 07, 2022

Hello, friends! After being a Stuffy Duffy last week, I am back with a new Q&A episode. Here are the questions I cover:

My wife is struggling with depression and asking for a divorce. How can I ask her to get help?
I am distraught when my kids have trouble. How can I be there for them without being consumed by their issues?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode321

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Episode 320: Caregiver Pressure & Antidepressants for Concussion Sep 23, 2022

Hello, all! Short but sweet episode this time covering the following:

What can I do about my fear of dying and leaving behind my paralyzed husband?
Is it normal to use antidepressants after a concussion?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode320

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Episode 319: Medical Clearance for Job & Exposure for Medication Phobia Sep 16, 2022

Hello, all! In this episode I tackle the following topics from listeners like you:

My friend is a pilot and is worried about getting therapy because of medical clearance issues. What can they do?
I have phobia of medications and injections. How can I use exposure therapy in a situation like this?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode319

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Episode 318: Feelings for Someone Outside of Marriage Sep 09, 2022

Hello, all! This is a short and sweet episode. It's been busy week and it is positively hot as BAWLS right now. So, I take one question. I also ramble a bit about some of my frustrations with neurology at the beginning. Here's the question I cover:

Is it normal to have feelings for someone else when I'm married? What should I do?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes to this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode318

This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by BetterHelp.

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Episode 317: Oversharing in Therapy & Losing Friends in Relationship Sep 02, 2022

Hello, all! Short and sweet episode this week featuring the following questions:

Is it possible to overshare about your trauma in therapy?
How can I stop losing friends when I'm in a romantic relationship?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode317

Episode 316: Frustrated Therapist & Codependency Aug 26, 2022

Hello, friends! Great episode for you today featuring questions that are follow-ups on previous questions. Here's what I cover:

My therapist seems to get frustrated and angry when I'm suicidal. What can I do about this?
How can I maintain my self-concept in relationships?

As always, you can send me questions for future episodes to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode316

This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Magic Mind and BetterHelp.

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If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.

Episode 315: How to Feel Less Numb & Letting Go of Old Therapist Aug 19, 2022

Hello, friends. I hope you're taking good care of yourselves. Here are the questions that I cover in this episode:

I can't feel emotions. How can I start feeling things?
I keep in touch with my old therapist still. Is that holding me back?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode315

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Episode 314: Communicating with Autistic Partner & ADHD Shame Aug 12, 2022

Hello, friends! What a week. I'm alive and well, but unfortunately things have been a bit heavy over here. I start off with a little personal update and then into the following great questions:

My partner is autistic and talks constantly about her trauma. It's too much for me. What can I do?
I am a woman with ADHD and have shame and anxiety because of it. How can I rebuild my self-concept?

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode314

This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by BetterHelp and Organiﬁ.

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Episode 313: How My Year is Going So Far Aug 06, 2022

Hello, friends! This is a simpler check-in episode. I update you on what has been going on in my life - particularly this wild week. I also revisit my goals that I outlined for the year and reflect on what has stuck, what has faded, and what I'm okay moving on from. Hope you enjoy!

As always, you can send me questions for a future episode to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode313

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Episode 312: Co-Parenting with Abuser & Therapeutic Alliance Jul 29, 2022

Hello, everyone! I hope you've had a great week. Back at you with an awesome Q&A featuring the following questions:

My ex-wife was emotionally abusive and controlling to me. We share children and she is constantly belittling me when we interact. What can I do?
My psychologist does not seem to be trying very hard in sessions. How can I fix things?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode312

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This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by BetterHelp.

If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.

Episode 311: Overcoming Procrastination & Love Languages Jul 22, 2022

Hello, friends! I hope you are staying cool and hydrated if you are in one of the major heatwave areas! In this episode, I answer the following awesome listener questions:

How can I stop procrastinating on household tasks, homework, and my job?
My partner said he can't fulfill my love language. What can I do?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode311

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Episode 310: Genetic Testing for Antidepressants & Hating Sex in Marriage Jul 15, 2022

Hello, all! This is a really interesting mix of questions. So stick around until the second one to hear me dish out some tough love.

Here are the questions covered:

Are we able to do genetic testing to tell which antidepressants will work for an individual?
I hate having sex with my husband. What can I do?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode310

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Episode 309: Abusive Marriage & Cutting Off Mother Jul 08, 2022

Hello, friends. In this episode, I answer two questions that encompass difficulties within family relationships. Here are the questions:

My wife belittles me and makes me feel terrible constantly. What should I do?
I'm thinking of cutting off contact with my mother, but I also have a lot of empathy for her. How should I proceed?

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode309

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Episode 308: Anger After Suicide & Restarting Medication Jun 24, 2022

Hello, all. A big content warning for this episode, the first question deals with suicide and has a bit more detail than other questions I've answered on the show. It's a very worthwhile question and a great topic to discuss, but I just want to make you aware of that.

Here are the topics covered in this Q&A episode:

I saw my elderly father kill himself and I am so angry at him. What can I do?
My friend stopped medication for anxiety and depression, but she is thinking about starting again. What else can she do to help herself out?

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes to this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode308.

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Episode 307: How to Set Boundaries & Overcoming Sexual Abuse Jun 17, 2022

Hello, all! In this episode, I take on two really good listener questions. The second one mentions sexual abuse of a child, but there are no details shared. Here are the questions covered:

How can I start to set boundaries with loved ones when it feels so hard?
How can I improve my sexual relationship with me husband after I have experienced childhood abuse?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode307

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Episode 306: Getting Partner Back & Bipolar in College Jun 10, 2022

Hello, all! This is a great Q&A episode featuring the following questions from awesome listeners like yourself:

My partner left due to me not pursuing her enough. Does it make sense to try to get back together after some time?
I had to leave college due to bipolar. Should I go back to the same school after stabilizing?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode306

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Episode 305: Overthinking & Embarrassment Jun 03, 2022

Hello, friends! I hope you have had a great week. We are back to the Q&A format this week with the following questions:

How can I overcome my tendency to overthink constantly?
Why do I get extremely embarrassed so often in social situations? What can I do about it?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode305

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Episode 304: Duff the Wife Returns! May 27, 2022

Hello, everyone! In this epidode, my beautiful wife, Joelle, comes back on the show for a quick chat about life. We sat on the couch and had a cozy talk about all sorts of topics. I hope you enjoy!

As always, you can send me questions to future episodes to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode304

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Episode 303: Decreased Sexual Performance & Trouble with Exposure Work May 20, 2022

Hello, all! Straight forward Q&A this week with the following awesome listener questions:

I used to be able to have sex numerous times consecutively, but ever since a panic attack, I havet been unable to. What is going on?
I am having trouble doing my therapist's exposure activities due to panic attacks. How can I do better?

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode303

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Episode 302: No Intimacy in Marriage & Lost in Life May 13, 2022

Hello, friends! I hope you're doing well. After a very gross story at the top of the episode, I get into the following questions:

What can I do about decreased intimacy in my marriage?
I am too depressed to do anything what can I do?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode302

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Episode 301: Car Crash Amnesia & Husband Suddenly Wants Divorce May 06, 2022

Hello, everyone! I hope you're having a great week. Just a nice straightfoward Q&A for you today featuring the following questions:

After 12 years of a great marriage, my husband had a sudden realization that he wants to leave. What can I do?
My mother was in a terrible car crash and is afraid of remembering what happened. Is that a possibility?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode301

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Episode 300: How to Ask for Help & Emotional Literacy for Men Apr 29, 2022

Hello, everyone!

Episode 300!! Holy moly. Thank you so much for sticking with me on this ride. I appreciate your trust and attention so very much. This episode is much like any other. A solid question and answer featuring the following:

How can I ask for help as an 18-year-old guy?
My relationship failed due to my inability to communicate my feelings. How can I improve?

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and you can find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode300

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Episode 299: Overcoming Victim Mentality & Cognitive vs Physical Anxiety Apr 22, 2022

Hello, friends! I hope you've had a really good week. My week here has been pretty good. As I mention in the episode, I didn't really plan anything good for the 300th episode of the show, BUT I wanted to open things up to you all. If you have written in a question or heard a question from the show that caused you to make a change in your life or there is a follow up story to your original question, I'd love to hear it. Shoot me an email to duffthepsych@gmail.com!

Anyways, here are the questions that I cover in this episode:

Why did nobody tell me that there is mind-based and body-based anxiety?
I have experienced a lot of mistreatment and discrimination in my life. This has led to a victim mentality. How do I get myself out of the victim mentality and start taking ownership of my life?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and you can find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode299

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Episode 298: Emotional Burnout as a Therapist & Seven Years of Loss Apr 15, 2022

Hello, friends! I hope you have had a wonderful week. For today's episode, I answer the following awesome listener questions:

I am thinking of going into clinical psychology, but as a sensitive person, I am afraid of emotionally burning out. What can I do to avoid this?
I have lost someone every year since 2015. How can I get back to a normal life with so much loss?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode298

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Episode 297: Quarterlife Crisis & Being the Family Therapist Apr 10, 2022

Hello, everyone! Thank you for your patience on this one. Had to take a couple extra days so that I didn't lose my mind with work. This episode features the following questions:

After college, I don't know what to do with my life and find myself depressed. How can I move forward?
My family expects me to be the peacekeeper and therapist. How can I set better boundaries?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode297

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Episode 296: Constant Paranoid Thoughts & Dealing with a Toxic Workplace Apr 01, 2022

Hello, all! This before I get into the questions this week, I talk a bit about my personal situation. Unfortunately, I had a breakup with a partner of mine and I share some of the realizations that I had in the process as well as my protocol for making it through this sort of hardship. After that, I jump into the following awesome listener questions:

I have had bipolar I for a long time, but started getting a new symptom of paranoid thoughts over the past few years. Why might this be happening?
My workplace and coworkers are toxic, but I am a non-confrontational person. What can I do about it?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode296

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Episode 295: Dating After Abuse & Healing from Cheating Mar 25, 2022

Hello, friends! I hope that you are caring well for your hearts this week. It's wild out there. Here are the questions I cover in this week's episode:

My history of sexual abuse makes dating complicated. How can I move forward?
My husband cheated on me but doesn't want to do couples therapy. How can I stop resenting him?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode295

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Episode 294: Spouse Doesn't Want Help & Depressed About the World Mar 19, 2022

Hey, everyone. I hope you're taking great care of yourselves. In this episode, I start with a moment of vulnerability about my life lately. That is followed by these two great questions sent in by listeners like yourself:

My wife has had anxiety for years but does not want to get help for it. What can I do?
I have a perfect life, but I remain depressed about the world. How can I cope?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode294

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Episode 293: Therapist on Dating App & Cannabis Use Disorders Mar 11, 2022

Hey, friends! I hope you're having a great week. This is a very interesting episode with the following questions:

I am attracted to my therapist and saw her on a non-traditional dating app. When I brought this up, she refused to talk about it. What should I do?
How should cannabis use disorders be handled when there are also mental health issues?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode293

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Episode 292: Reacting to My Partner's Sexual Past Mar 04, 2022

Hello, friends! This is a short and sweet episode where I answer the following question:

I recently learned of my partner's previous threesome. I can't stop feeling disgust and anxiety from it, even though I know that's not fair. How can I deal with this?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode292

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Episode 291: Teen Suicide Contagion & Trauma Dissociation Feb 25, 2022

Hello, everyone! Pretty heavy episode this time. Nothing graphic, as usual, but I decided to tackle some tricky questions. Before hopping into the questions, I share a quick tip about managing the news cycle during this really intense time. Here are the questions covered:

My kid's school had two people die by suicide this year. How can I talk to them about it and should we switch schools?
I was abused as a child and have trouble remembering it without dissociating. What can I do?

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode291

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Episode 290: Intrusive Thoughts of Harming Family & Ruminating About Therapy Feb 18, 2022

Hello, friends! I hope you are all doing well. In this episode, I start off with a quick update about my experience so far on Lexapro (escitalopram), an SSRI medication for anxiety. After that, I jump straight into the following super interesting questions:

I have OCD with intrusive thoughts about harming my loved ones. What can I do about this?
I ruminate about therapy constantly, having imaginary conversations in my head. Is that bad?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode290

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Episode 289: Self-Disclosure in Therapy and Suicidality vs Intrusive Thoughts Feb 11, 2022

Hey, all! Nice Q&A episode for you here. The second questions talks a bit about suicidality, but nothing too graphic. Very interesting stuff. Here's what I cover:

How do you feel about therapists self-disclosing in therapy?
Should I be concerned about my passive suicidal thoughts or are they just intrusive thoughts?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode289

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Episode 288: Confidentiality for Minors & Physical vs Mental Issues Feb 04, 2022

Hey, everyone. Short and sweet episode today featuring the following questions:

I am a minor in therapy. What can my therapist share with my parents about self-harm?
How can I tell the difference between a physical issue like hypothyroidism and a mental health issue like depression?

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode288

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Episode 287: Doubting Your Own Trauma & ADHD Misdiagnosis Jan 28, 2022

Hello, friends! This episode features two questions related to trauma. There is nothing violent or explicit described, but both questions do involve childhood abuse. Just be aware. Here is what is covered in this episode:

I sometimes doubt that my trauma ever happened and use self-harm as a way to remind myself that it did. What can I do?
I have several psychiatric disorders and my psychiatrist wants me to be evaluated for ADHD. How can I tell the difference between ADHD and symptoms caused by my other issues?

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode287

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Episode 286: Anxiety About Time Off & Erectile Dysfunction Jan 21, 2022

Hey, friends! I hope that your week has been great. I want to give you a big thanks for listening to the show. I really appreciate you. This is a question and answer episode where I tackle the following:

How can I get over my anxiety about having unstructured time off from work?
I have erectile dysfunction with my new partner and my doctor thinks it is psychological. What can I do?

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode286

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Episode 285: Grief and New Relationships & Secondhand Trauma Jan 14, 2022

Hello, all! I hope that you are having a fantastic week. Unfortunately, omicron has found its way into the Duff household, but alas... the show must go on!

I have a great Q&A episode with the following questions submitted by listeners like you:

My wife died two years ago, and I am still completely closed off to romantic connections. What can I do?
Is it possible to be traumatized by hearing about something bad happening to someone else?

As always, you can send questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode285

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Episode 284: How I am Approaching This Year Jan 07, 2022

Hello, friends! Haven't talked in a little while. I hope you have been enjoying yourself. I am back this week with a new episode. This time instead of a Q&A, I am going to be talking about how I am approaching the year. I go through a LOT in this episode, come hang for about an hour and listen to me ramble.

Show notes are available at http://duffthepsych.com/episode284

And if you want to send me a question for a future episode, shoot me an email at duffthepsych@gmail.com

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Episode 283: Meth Addiction Guilt & Depression When Everything is "Fine" Dec 17, 2021

Hello, all! Great episode here for you today thanks to a couple awesome listener questions. If you haven't yet gotten a copy of my 500 Journal Prompts book, it makes a perfect little stocking stuffer. Check it out!

Here are the questions from this episode:

My sister is depressed, even though nothing is wrong with her life and I'm frustrated by it. What can I do?
Due to my addiction to methamphetamine and heroin, I feel like I don't deserve to get better. Should I feel this way?

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode283

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Episode 282: Getting Over Ghosting & Exercise Induced Anxiety Dec 10, 2021

Hello, all! Hope your week has been phenomenal. I appreciate you all! In this episode, I tackle the following questions:

I was recently ghosted after talking to someone I met on a dating app for a few weeks. Why is it affecting me so much and what can I do about it?
How can I get over my exercise-induced anxiety and heart palpatations?

As always you can find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode282 and send your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

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Episode 281: Passing on Trauma & Caregiver Burnout Dec 03, 2021

Hello, friends! Thank you to all of you that have been sharing the podcast as part of your Spotify Wrapped posts. Amazing to think that I've been a significant part of your year. I appreciate you so much!

In this episode, I tackle the following questions:

I've worked through most of my trauma, but issues still arise in my relationship from time to time. How can I avoid passing these issues down to my young child?
I work with severe populations in a healthcare setting. I feel like I could be experiencing caregiver burnout. Is this possible and what can I do about it?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and get the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode281

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Episode 280: Low Libido & Relationships Cause Sadness Nov 27, 2021

Hello, all! If you spent some time off from work and/or with loved ones over the "holiday", I hope you have really enjoyed yourself. I'm incredibly grateful for you all. In this episode, I tackle the following awesome listener questions:

I have a much lower sexual drive than my spouse and she thinks I don't find her attractive because of it. What can I do?
Every time I'm in a relationship, my mental health crumbles. Why?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes to this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode280

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Episode 280: Low Libido & Relationships Cause Sadness Nov 27, 2021

Hello, all! If you spent some time off from work and/or with loved ones over the "holiday", I hope you have really enjoyed yourself. I'm incredibly grateful for you all. In this episode, I tackle the following awesome listener questions:

I have a much lower sexual drive than my spouse and she thinks I don't find her attractive because of it. What can I do?
Every time I'm in a relationship, my mental health crumbles. Why?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes to this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode280

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Episode 279: I Don't Deserve to Get Better & Fixing Relationship During a Break Nov 19, 2021

Hello, all! Apologies in advance for my croaky voice. My voice is totally shot from the week, but I do my best to give you responses to the following awesome questions:

I have brought about my own problems and don't feel that I deserve to get better. How do I approach this seemingly insurmountable problem?
My partner and I are on a break to work on ourselves after suffering a number of losses and a terrible year overall. How can I make this work?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode279

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Episode 278: Sexual Advances From Therapist & Depression That Doesn’t Go Away Nov 12, 2021

Hello, friends! After a quick update about the whole Thanksgiving situation at my kid's school, I dive into the following amazing questions:

My previous therapist was sexually inappropriate. How can I trust therapists again?
My depression doesn't go away no matter what I do and I'm not making progress in therapy. What can I do?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and show notes are available at http://duffthepsych.com/episode278

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Episode 277: Co-parenting Problems & Disappearing Depressed Partner Nov 05, 2021

Hello, friends! In this episode, I start with some concerns from my personal life that tie into some social psychology concepts before jumping into the following questions:

Co-parenting with my ex is difficult given our difference in opinion about discipline. How do I stop our interactions from driving me crazy?
My partner retreats and can't feel anything when he is in a depressive state. What can I do to make him know that I'm here for him?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and show notes are available at http://duffthepsych.com/episode277

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Episode 276: Wife Doesn't Care Anymore & Healing Hurts Too Much Oct 29, 2021

Hello, friends! Super happy to bring you this Q&A episode today. I take the following questions:

What can I do when it feels like my wife doesn't care about me anymore?
Is there a point where the cost of healing just isn't worth it?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and get show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode276

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Episode 275: Suck at Meditating? Listen to This! Oct 22, 2021

Hello, friends! I have a really cool episode for you today. Meditation is a tool that I use often and is one of the most important things in my personal mental health toolkit. But for a lot of people, meditation just doesn't do the trick. Or it's too hard. Or it's actually scary.

In this episode, I share my best tips for meditation. I hope to get you to loosen your interpretation of meditation and the high expectations you put on yourself.

Have a listen and let me know what you think!

As always you can send me questions for future episodes to duffthepsych@gmail.com and show notes are available at duffthepsych.com/episode275

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Episode 274: Can't Talk About Feelings & Feeling Like a Bad Person Oct 15, 2021

Hello, all! I hope that you are having a great week. I got a great episode for you here with the following questions:

How can I get help for my depression when I can't talk about my feelings?
How do I stop feeling like such a bad person all the time?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at duffthepsych.com/episode274

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Episode 273: Recovering from a Disaster & Overcoming Codependency Oct 08, 2021

Hello, friends! Got a nice Q&A for you today with a little rambling at the top. Here's what I answer:

My son went through a horrific tragedy. How can he move forward?
How can I avoid being so desperate for love?

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and show notes are available at duffthepsych.com/episode273

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Episode 272: Explaining Mental Health to Your Partner & Getting Out of a COVID Rut Oct 01, 2021

Hello, all! So... I'm an idiot and had to record this episode twice. Oops. BUT I'm super glad to be releasing this. I answered the following awesome questions in this episode:

I have depression, OCD, PTSD, etc. and I have no idea how to explain all of this to my partner without overwhelming them. What do I do?
How can I get out of my pandemic rut when I have lost my zest for life and school?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and show notes are available at duffthepsych.com/episode272

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Episode 271: When to Take Suicidality Seriously & Scared of Losing Dream Job Sep 24, 2021

Hello, friends! This episode is a nice Q&A with some great listener-submitted questions. The first one involves some discussion about suicide. Although nothing graphic, just be aware of that. Here are the two questions I cover this episode:

I have had thoughts of suicide for a long time, but have never made an attempt. How do I know when to take the thoughts seriously?
I am making mistakes at my new job and it's making me anxious and giving me insomnia. This is causing me to make more mistakes and I'm afraid I'm going to lose my job. How can I break this cycle?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and full show notes are at duffthepsych.com/episode271

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Episode 270: The Problem with Mental Healthcare & Overlapping Diagnoses Sep 17, 2021

Hello, friends! In this episode, I answer a couple listener questions that are less about direct advice and more about general questions in the field of mental health and psychology. Here's what I cover:

Why are there so few mental health providers and why are waitlists so long?
Does it make sense to have multiple overlapping diagnoses?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and full show notes are at duffthepsych.com/episode270

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Episode 269: Repressed Childhood Trauma and Long-Distance Relationship Sep 10, 2021

Hello, friends! In this episode, I have a Q&A featuring the following questions:

How can I continue to work on my longtime childhood trauma when I don't remember a lot of my past?
Do I have a chance of getting back in my long-distance relationship even though I'm pursuing a Ph.D.?

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the full show notes at duffthepsych.com/episode269

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Episode 268: My Lovely Wife Returns Sep 03, 2021

Hello, friends! On this episode, I had my wife back on the show. We just chilled on the couch and had a nice wide-ranging conversation about our lives right now, where our relationship is at, and even some of our pet peeves with each other. Enjoy!

Send me your questions for future episodes to duffthepsych@gmail.com and don't forget to check out my new book of 500 journal prompts!

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Episode 267: Moving Forward From Trauma & Relationship Boundaries and Expectations Aug 27, 2021

Alright, everyone! Another great Q&A for you featuring the following questions:

How can I move past my traumatic history of bullying and parental violence?
What is the difference between a friendship and intimate relationship?

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Episode 266: Developing Social Skills & Alternatives to Therapy Aug 20, 2021

Hello, friends! This is a straightforward Q&A with the following questions:

How can I work on my social skills as a socially anxious introvert?
What can I do about my depression when I can't afford traditional therapy?

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and full show notes are at duffthepsych.com/episode266

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Episode 265: Why Am I Attracted to My Doctor & Dealing with Jealousy in Relationships Aug 13, 2021

Hello, friends! Looks like I have a bit of a cold, so bear with my voice and breathing in this one. Got a great Q&A with the following thought-provoking questions:

I don't have many friends and find myself becoming attracted to my doctor. Is there something wrong with my relationship?
How can I deal with my jealousy and insecurity in relationships?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and full show notes are at duffthepsych.com/episode265

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Episode 264: Addressing Self-Harm as an Adult & Depression Tips Aug 06, 2021

Hello, friends! Hope you are well. Cruising along over here. Super ready for a relaxing weekend. In this episode, I tackle the following questions:

I self-harmed (cut) when I was young and I still struggle with different forms of self-harm. Is therapy still an option?
What can I do to feel joy again when my depression is strong?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at duffthepsych.com/episode264

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Episode 263: Treating Family Members & Sibling Mental Health Fears Jul 30, 2021

Hello, everyone! At the start of this episode, I give a quick little ramble about a case that I'm working on to talk about some of the nuances with conservatorship and trying to help someone that can't care for their own needs. That's about the first 10 minutes. After that, I hop into the following questions:

My family thinks I should be able to fix them since I'm studying psychology. What should I do?
My sibling is afraid of having the same mental illness as me and our parent. How can I help?

As always, you can send your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and check out the full show notes at duffthepsych.com/episode263

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Episode 262: Feeling Bad for Wanting Attention & Diagnosis as a Crutch Jul 23, 2021

Hello, all! So just a little heads up. I'm super annoyed because in this episode, there were a couple undesirable sounds including a loud as cricket that wanted to ruin my life and also a rattling microphone that was being dramatic whenever I slightly bumped it.

Aside from that, it was a great episode that covers the following questions:

I love my partner, but I crave attention from others. Why am I this way and what can I do about it?
I may have borderline personality disorder, but don't want my diagnosis to be a crutch. What can I do to live a normal life?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at duffthepsych.com/episode262

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Episode 261: Relationship Separation Anxiety & Anger at your Therapist's Diagnosis Jul 16, 2021

Hello, friends! Another Q&A Episode for you today featuring the following questions:

What can I do about my separation anxiety every time my partner leaves?
Why am I so mad at my therapist for diagnosing me with an eating disorder?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the full show notes at duffthepsych.com/episode261

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Episode 260: Loss of Appetite with Anxiety & Battling with a Negative Body Image Jul 09, 2021

Hello, all! I hope you're taking great care of yourselves. Been a busy busy week over here in DuffLand. In this episode, I cover the following awesome listener questions:

How can I overcome my lack of appetite due to anxiety?
What can I do about my negative body image?

As always, you can send me questions for the show to duffthepsych@gmail.com you can also find the full show notes at duffthepsych.com/episode260

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Episode 259: Supporting a Grieving Parent & Returning to Work After a Mental Health Break Jul 02, 2021

Hello, friends! I hope you are taking great care of yourselves this week. To be honest, I've seen a lot of people having a bit of a hard time. If you are in this camp, I see you! This episode features the following amazing listener questions:

My mother-in-law's son just died by suicide. How can I best support her?
I am hoping to return to work after taking a break due to severe mental health issues. How can I make it work?

As always you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and see full show notes at duffthepsych.com/episode259

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Episode 258: Rapid Fire Q&A Part 2 - Coping with Emotional Content, Relationship Expectations, and more! Jun 25, 2021

Hello, friends! Back with part 2 of the rapid fire Q&A. There were so many awesome questions on my original post that I couldn't stop with one episode. Here are the questions I cover:

Hi Duff, you’ve touched on this before but… have you ever come across anyone stuck thinking they have reached their maximum potential in life/not sure where to go from their current spot in life, and is there anything you could offer from a physiological perspective to overcome this? Currently feeling like I will be forever stuck in this moment and moving forward seems nearly impossible. (Sorry in advance if the question doesn’t make sense)
How does one get over the expectation of being in a relationship? Like you grow up watching relationships and relationships but like...what if it doesn't happen? Should it happen? Also...how can one finally let go of what their parents didn't do while one was growing up...
How can you learn to accept compliments and not be awkward?

I also talk a bit about my own strategies for combatting the darkness that can come with working in a heavily emotional field.

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com.

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Episode 257: Rapid Fire Q&A - Making New Friends, Seeking Good Advice, Panic or Heart Attack, and More! Jun 18, 2021

Hello, all! In this episode, I am doing some rapid fire question and answer from a prompt that I threw up on Instagram. Please enjoy!

If you have a question for the podcast that you'd like me to consider, please send it to duffthepsych@gmail.com and don't forget to use the search bar on duffthepsych.com if you want to see whether I have covered a specific topic in the past.

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Episode 256: Trauma Misconceptions and Posttraumatic Growth with Dr. Laura Copley Jun 11, 2021

Hello, friends! This episode is a re-post of an interview I did a couple years ago with the amazing Dr. Laura Copley. Dr. Copley is a trauma specialist and talks all about PTSD, trauma misconceptions, posttraumatic growth, and gives you some practical tools to use if you encounter trauma in your life.

She's doing a bunch of cool stuff including online courses, which you can learn all about over at lauracopley.com

As always, you can send me questions or topics to duffthepsych@gmail.com and also please let me know if you'd like me to start doing interviews again!

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Episode 255: St. John's Wort for Depression & Sleep Anxiety After Flu Jun 04, 2021

Hello, friends! I hope you're having a really good week. Enjoyed making this episode for you. The questions here have somewhat of a theme. Here are the questions I take:

I don't have access to psychiatry in my area. Can I use St. John's wort to treat my depression?
I live in a place where mental health is taboo. How can I improve my anxiety around sleeping without treatment?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and check out the show notes for this episode at duffthepsych.com/episode255.

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Episode 254: Reliving Trauma Through Avoidant Personality Disorder & Desperation, Parenting and Life with Major Depressive Disorder May 28, 2021

Hello, all! Hopefully you are doing well and sleeping better than I have been recently. Yikes. This episode is another Q&A with some awesome and vulnerable listener-submitted questions. Here's what I cover:

Why do I keep gravitating toward media that reminds me of my trauma?
I feel like a failure of a mother due to my depression. What can I do?

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes for this episode at duffthepsych.com/episode254

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Episode 253: The Impact of Misdiagnosis & Recognizing Depression May 21, 2021

Hello, friends! After a little (big) ramble about the hardest part in my job as a neuropsychologist, I answer the following questions:

Can bipolar misdiagnosis make symptoms worse? Can bipolar be managed without medication?
Why can't I study or get out of bed at all?

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and check out the full show notes at duffthepsych.com/episode253

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Episode 252: Divorcing Someone Who is Depressed & Going Back to College After 30 May 14, 2021

Hello, friends! After a long ramble about some terribly nerdy stuff, I get into two really good listener questions today. Here's what I cover:

My spouse claims that I am the cause of their depression and we do not have a good relationship. Would divorcing them cause too much harm?
I am back in college as a 30 year old and feel out of place. What should I do?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and check out the full show notes at duffthepsych.com/episode252

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Episode 252: Divorcing Someone Who is Depressed & Going Back to College After 30 May 14, 2021

Hello, friends! After a long ramble about some terribly nerdy stuff, I get into two really good listener questions today. Here's what I cover:

My spouse claims that I am the cause of their depression and we do not have a good relationship. Would divorcing them cause too much harm?
I am back in college as a 30 year old and feel out of place. What should I do?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and check out the full show notes at duffthepsych.com/episode252

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Episode 251: Work Burnout Trauma & Adult Autism Suspicions May 07, 2021

Hello, all! In this episode, I answer two questions submitted by awesome listeners like yourself. I hope you enjoy and that you're taking great care of yourself.

Here are the questions:

Can you get PTSD from severe work burnout?
What should I do if my therapist doesn't believe that I might by autistic?

As always you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and full show notes are available at duffthepsych.com/episode251

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Episode 250: The Ethics of Placebo & Coping with Career Grief Apr 30, 2021

Hello, friends! Straightforward Q&A for you today. Here's what I cover:

My grandma is taking a supplement that is clearly just placebo. Is this okay?
Is it normal to feel grief at the end of a career?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and check out duffthepsych.com/episode250 for full show notes.

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Episode 249: Feeling Bad About Feeling Good & Suicide Jealousy Apr 23, 2021

Hello, all! Please excuse my mistake with the episode number. Bah! I also was perhaps a little delirious, but that just adds to the flavor... right??

In this Q&A, I answer the following:

Every time I do something for myself, I feel guilty about it. How do I stop this pattern?
I felt envy when I heard about someone that lost their life to suicide. Should I feel bad about that?

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Episode 248: Getting Personal Responding to My Own Journal Prompts Apr 16, 2021

Hello, everyone! In this episode, I sit down and have a go at my own journal prompts from the 100 Free Journal Prompts on my website. Some of my responses are entertaining and straight forward... others get pretty personal. Hope you enjoy!

As always, you can send me questions or topics for the show to duffthepsych@gmail.com.

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Episode 247: Health Anxiety During a Pandemic & Suicidality in Children Apr 09, 2021

Hello, friends! Got another Q&A episode for you. The 2nd question in here could be potentially triggering to some, so please be aware of that. It doesn't go into anything explicit, but the topic is something that some may be sensitive to. Here's what we cover:

How can I use exposure to treat health anxiety during this pandemic?
My friend's 6-year-old child has suicidal thoughts. How can I best support them?

As always you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and check out the full show notes at duffthepsych.com/episode247

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Episode 246: Are Trauma Details Necessary in Therapy & Supporting Someone with BPD Apr 02, 2021

Hello, you beautiful people! Today I have a question and answer episode with two great questions sent in by listeners like you. Quick update before that.

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Here are the questions:

I have come to realize that I've been abused but it's hard to talk about. Do I need to share exactly what happened in therapy?
I have a friend with borderline personality disorder and I also have BPD. How can I best support them when they are upset?

As always you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and check out the full show notes at duffthepsych.com/episode246

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Episode 245: Working Through a Complicated Break Up Alone & Confidentiality in Therapy Mar 26, 2021

Hello, friends! Got a Q&A for you today that is actually just one two-part question. Stay tuned next week for a freebie update!

Here's two-part question:

I'm going through a breakup in a complicated long-term relationship, but I can't talk to people honestly about it. What can I do?
Will a therapist report me for being a sex worker?

As always you can send me your questions or topic suggestions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and full show notes are available at duffthepsych.com/episode245

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Episode 244: "Accidental" Overdose & Becoming a Psychologist with Bipolar Mar 19, 2021

Hello, friends! I hope you're having a really good week. This is a Q&A episode with two really important questions. The first one talks about a suicide attempt in a non-graphic way. I wanted to let you know that off the bat so you can be aware going into it. Nothing intense or visually striking, but potentially triggering nonetheless.

Questions for this episode:

I had a suicide attempt that everyone thinks was an accidental overdose. Do I need to tell my family the truth?
I have severe bipolar 1 and I have always wanted to become a psychologist and do therapy. Is this possible?

As always you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and if you'd like to see the full show notes head over to duffthepsych.com/episode244

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Episode 243: Exploring Bisexuality in Marriage & Postpartum Anxiety During COVID Mar 12, 2021

Hello, friends! Sorry in advance that the audio is a tiny bit blown out in this one. Hopefully you don't notice, but something weird was going on with my audio interface.

ANYWAYS... got a great episode here for you today. Two questions that I felt somewhat underqualified to answer, as a man, but they were too good not to share. The questions are:

I am realizing that I am more gay than I thought. How can I explore this in the context of my long-term heterosexual relationship?
Between a new baby and COVID, my anxiety is getting terrible. What can I do?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and if you'd like to see the full show notes, check out duffthepsych.com/episode243!

Episode 242: Not Getting Better Fast Enough, COVID Financial Worries, Working on Yourself During Breakup Mar 05, 2021

Hello, friends! In this episode, I take a few shorter questions covering some amazing topics such as:

Will my psychiatrist or therapist drop me for not getting better fast enough?
What can I do about financial and job insecurity during COVID?
How can I balance working on myself and giving space during a break from my relationship?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and if you'd like to see full show notes check out duffthepsych.com/episode242

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Episode 241: Coping with Loneliness & Negative Self Perceptions and Insecurities Feb 26, 2021

Hello, all! Hope you're happyish and safeish out there. This is a two-question Q&A episode featuring the following:

I've tried just about everything to help myself but the pandemic is making it impossible to improve my loneliness. What can I do?
I'm worried about my boyfriend looking at hotter women on social media. What can I do about this insecurity?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and view the full show notes at duffthepsych.com/episode241

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Episode 240: What I've Been Up To Lately Feb 19, 2021

Hey, friends! This is just a casual episode of me sharing about what I've been up to lately. It's a big ol' ramble about many topics including:

My experience with the COVID vaccine
What my newest project is
What my days look like right now
Balancing work, work, work, and life
What I'm doing for fun

Next week will be a Q&A episode, so please send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

And if you have a moment, please go check out the Giving Voice to Depression podcast!

Episode 239: Collective PTSD, No-Showing Therapy, Caregiving with Anxiety, Depression Options Feb 12, 2021

Hello, friends! This week, I have another rapid-fire Q&A for you. I took some questions from the private Hardcore Self Help Facebook group and tackled them one by one without any planning or outlining. Hope you enjoy! Here are the questions covered:

How do you feel about people using the term "collective PTSD"?
What can I do when I always get scared and cancel therapy sessions?
Are medications always necessary for severe depression?
How can I be a caregiver with anxiety?

As always, you can send me your questions or topics for the show to duffthepsych@gmail.com

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Episode 238: Support Group Problems & Grad School Doubts Feb 05, 2021

Hello, everyone! Hope you're treating yourselves well this week. I have a great Q&A for you with the following questions:

I have had trouble with support groups. The competition to be the "sickest" makes me feel worse. Am I doing something wrong?
I am having doubts about whether I should be in my graduate school program. What should I do?

As always you can send me YOUR questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and check out the full show notes at duffthepsych.com/episode238

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Episode 237: 20 Tips to Help You Focus Jan 29, 2021

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Episode 236: Mental Health within Couples & Coping with the Winter Blues Jan 22, 2021

Hello, friends! In this Q&A, I tackle two interesting listener questions relating to couples who both go through dips in their mental wellness at the same time, and coping with the winter blues and what you can do to help yourself feel better!

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If you have a question for the podcast, send it over to duffthepsych@gmail.com

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Episode 235: My Wife Gets Real about Psychiatry Frustrations Jan 15, 2021

I have to be honest with you all that this is not the most inspiring episode of the podcast. There is a lot of venting of frustration and fears. We also talk about suicidality, so please be aware of that. It's always important to me that we are REAL on this show. It would be unfair of me to give you the impression that the mental health system is perfect. As someone who works in the field and as a family that has been in the thick of navigating it, we definitely have some frustrations.

In this episode, we talk about operating with the current state of the world, Joelle's recent voluntary psychiatric hospitalization, and how we have had to try something like 6 or 7 times to find a psychiatrist to help with Joelle's meds. Despite the frustrations discussed, there are some good takeaways. Joelle is currently much more stable. She is no longer in her deep depressive episode and is no longer suicidal. We are currently finding a balance in our life that is working really well.

If you have questions or suggestions for future topics, please send them over to duffthepsych@gmail.com and if you would like to learn more about my clinical services, head over to robertduffphd.com

Episode 234: Getting Through a Breakup Jan 08, 2021

Hello, friends! Happy New Year - welcome to the first episode of 2021! This is an episode inspired by a single question relating to breakups! Talking from recent experience, I offer my best advice to help get you through and process the emotional turmoil that can come with a breakup.

If you'd like to suggest a question or topic, shoot me an email to duffthepsych@gmail.com

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Episode 234: Getting Through a Breakup Jan 08, 2021

Hello, friends! Happy New Year - welcome to the first episode of 2021! This is an episode inspired by a single question relating to breakups! Talking from recent experience, I offer my best advice to help get you through and process the emotional turmoil that can come with a breakup.

If you'd like to suggest a question or topic, shoot me an email to duffthepsych@gmail.com

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Episode 233: Rapid Fire Part 2 - Pandemic Alcoholism, All or Nothing Thinking, Bad Pharmacies, and More Dec 17, 2020

Hello, friends! Today I am doing a continuation of the last episode. I'm not at the part today, but I am at home cracking away at the Facebook questions in rapid fire fashion. Hope you enjoy! Here are the questions that I answer:

How do I find a middle ground between 100% positive and 100% negative?
What's the plan for getting back to normal alcohol consumption after higher use during the pandemic?
How do you get professional help when you're too depressed to ask for help?
What should I do about inappropriate pharmacy staff?

As always you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and be sure to check out the online course if you haven't at kickanxietycourse.com

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Episode 232: Rapid Fire Q&A - Sleep Apnea, Dating After Abuse, and More Dec 10, 2020

Hello, everyone! Today's episode is a less prepared version of Q&A than I usually do. The house was a little chaotic, so I took a microphone and recorder to a local park, had a seat, and spontaneously answered some of your questions. All of the questions from today's episode come from the private Hardcore Self Help Facebook group.

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Episode 231: A guided meditation to get you through 2020 Dec 03, 2020

Hello, friends. In this episode, I walk you through a calming meditation to help you get through the rest of the year. It has been designed to help you reconnect to the things that keep you going! We are going to discover the positive flip side to our frustrations and use that as a focal point to rediscover our motivation.

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Episode 230: Distancing Yourself from Family & Grieving for a Much Loved Pet Nov 26, 2020

Hello, friends! This is a Q&A episode with two super important and interesting listener questions relating to coping with grief after losing a much-loved support dog, and being able to successfully distance yourself emotionally from family.

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Episode 229: Never Setting Boundaries & How Much Better is Enough? Nov 19, 2020

Hello, friends. This is a super interesting Q&A which answers two important listener questions. The first relates to never setting personal boundaries, putting everyone first before yourself, and the second tackles the difficult question, how much better is enough?

As always you can send me your questions or topic suggestions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and full show notes are at duffthepsych.com/episode229

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Bonus Episode: Top Mental Health Tools with Himalaya Nov 15, 2020

Hello, all! Bringing you a little bonus episode today. I recently teamed up with Himalaya to create a full audio course all about top mental health tools that you can use to improve your life. Check out himalaya.com/duff and use promo code DUFF for your first 14 days free!

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Episode 228: Roommate with BPD and Connecting to Others Again Nov 12, 2020

Hello, everyone! This is a Q&A episode for you with two similarly themed questions having to do with relationships with other people. Here are the particular questions asked:

I feel bad about moving out due to my roommates borderline personality disorder. What can I do about this?
How can I connect to people again after getting out of an abusive relationship?

As always, you can send me questions or topic suggestions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

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Episode 227: Reaching Out for Help with Depression & Coping with Suicidal Thoughts Nov 05, 2020

Hello, friends! A Q&A episode for you this week with some really vulnerable questions. Here are the questions asked:

I think I have depression, but don't know how to reach out. What can I do?
I don't self-harm anymore but still have suicidal thoughts. How can I make them go away?

As always, you can send me questions for the show to duffthepsych@gmail.com

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Episode 226: 32 Things in 32 Years Oct 29, 2020

I just had a birthday and I decided to do something a bit silly. In this episode, I am running down 32 things I've done in my 32 years on this earth. It's not all bragging! You'll learn a few interesting things about me and my experience. I greatly appreciate you. Thank you for being there for another trip around the sun.

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Episode 225: Auditory Hallucinations & Hitting a Roadblock with Depression and Anxiety Oct 22, 2020

Hello, friends! This is a fascinating Q&A that answers a question relating to something we call non-clinical auditory hallucinations. In other words, hearing something that isn't actually there. I also offer advice on what you can do when you've hit a roadblock with your depression and anxiety. Enjoy!

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If you have a question for a future episode, send it over to duffthepsych@gmail.com

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Episode 224: What's Working for Me Right Now Oct 15, 2020

Hello, friends! Today I have a looser episode structure for you. Simply me sitting and talking to you about a few things that are working for me right now. They are super random, but all represent things in my life that are helping me get through. In no particular order they are...

White boards
Boundaries
Waking up early
Coldbrew
Verbal journaling
Exercising
Audiobooks
Having grace with myself
Timing activities
PBAP

See. Told you they were pretty random. I think you'll find some helpful tips in here though. Let me know what you think!

If you have a question that you'd like answered or a topic for a future show, shoot me an email to duffthepsych@gmail.com.

Episode 223: Episode 223: Is Hypnotherapy Valid? & Family Drama During the Holidays Oct 01, 2020

Hello, friends! Bit of a short episode today, but great questions nonetheless! I also mention that I've been putting out more great content on Youtube and for my mailing list. Make sure you check those out as well if you can't get enough great mental health info!

Here are the questions covered in this episode:

Does hypnotherapy work?
What can I do about my family issues during the holidays?

As always you can send me your questions and topic suggestions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

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Episode 222: Moving Through Crisis w/ My Wife Joelle Sep 24, 2020

Hello, friends. A lot of you have been asking to an update from my wife, Joelle. Today, I have her on the show to talk about what led up to her recent mental health crisis and how things have progressed since that time. She has undergone six ketamine infusion treatments, started with a psychiatrist, and started with a new therapist. We talk about all of these things and she does an amazing job of making visual metaphors for the ways in which she is changing. Enjoy!

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Episode 221: Priced Out of Therapy & Living with a Traumatic Past Sep 17, 2020

Hey, all!

In this episode, I answer some awesome listener questions after rambling at your in a semi-lucid loopy tired state for a while. Here are the questions covered this episode:

What concrete work can people do to move on from trauma?
What can you do when your therapist prices you out?

As always, you can send me your questions for the show to duffthepsych@gmail.com

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Episode 220: I Don't Want Kids & Can I Call Therapist Between Sessions? Sep 10, 2020

Hello, friends!

Just a nice Q&A episode for you this week. Thank you all so much for the outpouring of support and care after the last episode. Things are definitely improving around here. Expect an update on our life soon! For today, here are the questions covered:

I have been struggling between therapy sessions, but don't want to bother my therapist about it. What can I do?
Should I go to therapy since I don't want to have kids following the death of my mother?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and if you'd like to learn more about all that I do, check out duffthepsych.com/starthere

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Episode 219: Getting Real and Personal About Crisis Options Aug 27, 2020

This is an interesting episode. I honestly don't know if I'll keep it posted forever. It has been an exhausting and scary week. So I turned on the mic and just got real with you. My wife is struggling with her mental health and we have had to navigate the options for more intensive treatment, which has been extremely frustrating. I talk about inpatient hospitalization, residential programs, partial hospitalization, intensive outpatient programs, and more. Basically, I ramble about what we are going through as a family for almost an hour. It's raw and it's real. I hope it helps you feel less alone.

Episode 218: Lifestyle and Habit Changes for Anxiety Aug 20, 2020

Hello, friends! I hope that where ever you are, you are not absolutely melting from heat like I am. Even if you are, go chill in the air conditioning and settle in because this episode's a long one.

In this episode, I share the audio from THREE whole lessons of my online course, Kick Anxiety's Ass. These lessons talk all about structural changes to your life that you can make and habits that you can build to further support your anxiety conquest.

Since each lesson is over 20 minutes, this episode clocks in at well over an hour.

If you love what you hear, please check out the online course that it came from at kickanxietycourse.com

This episode is brought to you by Better Help. Visit betterhelp.com/duff for 10% off your first month of online professional counseling.

Episode 217: Communication and Active Listening Tips Aug 13, 2020

Hello, all! Thanks for having some patience with the lack of an episode last week. I think it was worth it because this is a packed episode. In this week's episode, I dive deep into my favorite tips and techniques to make you a better communicator and a better listener. In the field, we call these "active listening" techniques and they are the fundamental techniques that all therapists learn to help people open up and trust them.

Here are the tips covered:

You have more than one shot.
Pay attention to emotional state.
Listen before speaking.
Nonverbal behaviors.
Open-ended questions.
Restatements.
Reflections.
Silence.

I think you'll get a lot out of this episode!

Please continue sending me your questions and episode ideas to duffthepsych@gmail.com

This week's sponsor is Raycon. Check out their awesome wireless earbuds at buyraycon.com/duff

Episode 216: Long Distance Fiance & Bedtime Adrenaline Surges Jul 31, 2020

Hello, friends! I hope that you're staying healthy and relatively happy out there. In this episode, I've got the following awesome questions for you:

My fiance and I are stuck on different continents due to COVID. What can I do to deal with my sadness?
I get rushes of adrenaline and panic attacks when moving around in bed at night. Why and what can I do?

Don't forget that you can still get the entire Kick Anxiety's Ass course for just $75 instead of $300. Head over and check out some free lessons!

This episode is brought to you by Thrive Market. Go to thrivemarket.com/duff to get a free gift with your risk-free membership.

Episode 215: Depression Motivation Exercise, Abusive Ex Jul 23, 2020

Hello, friends! This episode is a question and answer show with a couple really great ones:

How can I remember what brought be joy before depression?
Should I stay away from me ex who was abusive to me?

As always, please send in your questions for the show to duffthepsych@gmail.com

This episode is brought to you by Raycon. I'm loving their new Everyday E25 earbuds. Check out buyraycon.com/duff for 15% off your order.

Episode 214: Mask Anxiety and Medication Considerations Jul 16, 2020

Hello, friends!

This is a nice little Q&A episode featuring the following two questions:

What can I do about my severe anxiety reaction when wearing a mask?
Should I be taking psychiatric medication for my symptoms?

No sponsor this week, but don't forget that my comprehensive anxiety course is still available until this pandemic is done.

If you have questions or topic suggestions, send them over to duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 213: My Wife and I Talk Quarantine Hobbies and Poly Relationships Jul 10, 2020

Hello, everyone! I think you will really enjoy this episode. I sat out in the back yard with some candles, twinkle lights, and a couple glasses of wine with my lovely wife, Joelle and just talked. We really didn't have an agenda, so you are getting a normal raw convo between us.

We ended up talking about a variety of topics including Joelle's new embroidery hobby and my new gardening hobby. We also discuss our poly triad relationship, which didn't end up lasting, Joelle's own identity exploration, and why WE work as a couple. It was such as pleasure to sit down and share these snippets with you all.

This episodes sponsor is Thrive Market. Check out thrivemarket.com/duff for $20 shopping credit!

Episode 212: Unhooking from Thoughts Meditation Jul 02, 2020

Hello, friends.

I asked on social media whether you'd prefer a Q&A or a guided meditation and the overwhelming answer was a guided meditation. I get it. We are STILL in uncertain and difficult times. I know that I'm dealing with my fair share of haywire thoughts. So, the purpose of this meditation is to help you get on a little better terms with your thoughts using the visualization of a snowglobe. Enjoy!

Please continue sending me your awesome questions and content suggestions to duffthepsych@gmail.com!

Episode 211: 10 Common Thinking Traps Jun 25, 2020

Hello, all!

This episode features a re-release of one of my favorite episodes of all time. I go through 10 of the most common thinking traps. Also called cognitive distortions, thinking traps are patterns of unhelpful thinking that we all fall into at times. For those with mental health issues, they can become quite common. If you are interested in getting the free eBook based on this, head over to http://duffthepsych.com/subscribe

Next week will most likely be another Q&A, so keep sending me your awesome questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 210: Helping Depressed Friend, Questioning Your Gender Identity Jun 11, 2020

Hello, friends. I have a Q&A for you today. Please enjoy and stay well. Here are the questions covered:

How can I help my (teen) friend at school who seems to have depression?
I am questioning my gender identity. What should I do?

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

Today's episode is brought to you by Thrive Market. Check out thrivemarket.com/duff to get up to $20 in shopping credit toward your first order.

Episode 209: How to Get the Most out of Therapy May 28, 2020

Hello, friends! This is a re-release of episode 74, in which I dive deep into 10 tips that you can use to get the most out of therapy. This is great advice whether you are a therapy newbie, a seasoned veteran, or still thinking about whether therapy is for you. Here are the tips I cover:

You don’t need to impress your therapist
Don’t lie to your therapist
Don’t be afraid to get emotional and let it out
Challenge your therapist and correct them
If it’s not working, say something
Find someone you are comfortable with
Get therapy sooner
Take notes and journal
Do the homework and practice the skills
Talk about the relationship between you and your therapist during session

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and don't forget that the Kick Anxiety's Ass course remains open until the quarantine is over (it isn't).

Episode 208: Trouble With Video Therapy, Second Language Anxiety May 22, 2020

Hello, friends! Quick reminder that easing of COVID-19 restrictions does not mean that the pandemic is over. For the sake of at-risk people like me, please continue being smart.

That said, this episode is a 2-question Q&A covering the following:

I feel like I'm getting less out of video therapy. What can I do?
I have massive anxiety speaking my 2nd language about certain people. How can I become less anxious?

As always, you can send me questions, topics, or feedback to duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 207: Still Working During COVID, Avoiding Group Therapy May 14, 2020

Hello, friends! This is a nice and easy two-question Q&A episode. I hope you're all taking great care of yourselves and staying healthy. I'll be back next week with another episode! Here are the questions covered this week:

I am required to work in the office during COVID and I'm having a hard time. What can I do?
I'm anxious about having to do group therapy. Should I avoid it?

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com If you haven't yet, make sure to check out my comprehensive online course at http://kickanxietycourse.com

This episode is brought to you by Thrive Market. Go to http://thrivemarket.com/duff to learn more.

Episode 206: Dr. Lindsay Weisner on Destigmatizing Teen Suicidality May 01, 2020

Hello, friends! This episode features an interview that I did with clinical psychologist Dr. Lindsay Weisner. We talk about many things during the interview, but Dr. Weisner's main goal is to destigmatize the conversation surrounding teen suicidality. Listen to learn more about why and how.

This episode is brought to you by Gravity Blankets. Head over to gravityblankets.com and use the promo code "DUFF" to get 20% off your first weighted blanket order!

Check out the full show notes, including all of Dr. Weisner's links at duffthepsych.com/epsiode206

Episode 205: More Personal Reflections from Robert Apr 23, 2020

This is another episode in which I turned on the mic and sort of just rambled. I talk about life during quarantine, I talk about my new poly relationship, I talk about how my house is now stuffed to the gills with people and animals, and I talk about how we are all collectively having a hard time focusing. This is a low-key direct from my heart to your ears type of episode. If it bores you to sleep... you're welcome for the sleep!

This episode was sponsored by the Savvy Psychologist podcast. If you are looking for short digestible bites of mental health and psychology information, give them a try!

Episode 204: Dr. Drew Anderson on Staying Afloat During COVID-19 Apr 16, 2020

Hello, friends! This is a great interview with Dr. Drew Anderson, a licensed psychologist specializing in assessing and treating eating disorders, body image disturbance, and the psychological and medical problems associated with these things. Keeping with the COVID-19 focus, we chat about things you need to look out for with regard to disordered eating behaviors when you're in quarantine, as well as things anybody can do to help regulate themselves and stay afloat as well as possible during this period.

As always, you can send me questions or suggestions for future episodes to duffthepsych@gmail.com

Our sponsor for this episode is the awesome Gravity Blankets. Check them out and get 20% off your first order by using the promo code "DUFF"!

As a reminder, the Kick Anxiety's Ass course will remain open until quarantine ends.

Episode 203: COVID Q&A - Abuse in Isolation, Missing Touch, Dreading Going Back to Normal Apr 09, 2020

In this episode, we are continuing the trend of focusing on content related to the COVID-19 pandemic and quarantine. However, this week, we are getting back to the normal Q&A format. Here are the questions that are covered:

What do I do about being stuck with my abusive mother during quarantine?
I'm enjoying quarantine. What can I do about my dread of going back to normal?
How can I deal with missing physical touch during quarantine?

As always you can send me questions for the show to duffthepsych@gmail.com.

This episode is sponsored by Lionrock Recovery. Check out lionrockrecovery.com/duff for more info about their confidential online treatment programs for substance use.

Don't forget the Kick Anxiety's Ass course will remain open until the end of quarantine before I close new enrollments.

Episode 202: A Quick Coronavirus Pep Talk Apr 02, 2020

This is a much shorter episode than usual. I just wanted to stop in to give you some words of encouragement and just a little bit of advice. You are allowed to be human and we will all get through this together.

As a reminder, the Kick Anxiety's Ass course enrollments are extended until the quarantine period is finished. Now is the time to invest in your mental health at a hugely discounted rate. Learn more at http://kickanxietycourse.com

Episode 201: Managing News and Media Intake Mar 26, 2020

Why hello, everyone. I hope you're quarantine is slightly less maddening than mine... I will likely be putting out episodes that are directly or indirectly related to our collective experience of the covid-19 pandemic for a while.

Today's episode is an entire module from my online course, Kick Anxiety's Ass, which is have extended enrollments in until this pandemic has chilled the heck out. This is module 8: The World Is Crazy.

There are three lessons covering ways to better manage the flow of information from news and social media. There is so much information and so many updates right now that it's easy to fall into a pattern of compulsively checking your phone. I hope this helps <3

This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. They are a great option for finding support while you are stuck in your home.

Episode 200: A Guided Relaxation for Coronavirus (COVID-19) Mar 18, 2020

Hello, friends! Well. Things have changed drastically since the last podcast episode. I was thinking about doing something special for episode 200, but since all of our lives have been consumed by this pandemic and the quarantine efforts, I thought it would be most helpful to do something related to that.

In this episode, I give you a few of my thoughts about how to best get through this time and then guide you through some visualization and breathing to help you let go and get some much needed rest. I truly hope that it helps a bit.

Episode 199: Health Anxiety with Dr. Gordon Asmundson Mar 12, 2020

Well well well... I definitely did not plan to release this podcast on the week that we find out the world is rapidly approaching a global pandemic, but here we are. In this episode, I speak to guest, Dr. Gordon Asmundson, a psychologist, professor, and author, all about health anxiety. Just as a heads up, we do not talk specifically about COVID-19 or any other Corona viruses in this episode. Rather, this is a subject that many have requested. I will likely speak more about COVID-19 and more about health anxiety in general in a future episode.

Check out Dr. Asmundson's book, It's Not All in Your Head on Amazon!

And don't forget that you have just days left to hop on the massive Kick Anxiety's Ass course discount before enrollments close entirely.

Episode 198: Finding the Right Online Therapist, Help with Grief, Family Gathering Anxiety Mar 05, 2020

Hello, everyone! Another Q&A episode for you today.

Don't forget that the Kick Anxiety's Ass $75 sale is still going on for a couple weeks before new enrollments close. Check it out if you haven't yet.

Here are the questions covered in this episode:

What can I do when therapy apps don't have male providers in my state?
How can I deal with the grief from losing my mother?
How can I feel less anxiety at my partner's family gatherings?

As always you can send me your questions and suggestions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and full show notes are available at duffthepsych.com/episode198

Lionrock recovery is the sponsor for this episode. Please have a look at their site if you or someone you love needs to change their use of alcohol or other substances.

Episode 197: Personal Updates from Robert Feb 27, 2020

This episode is a little different. Rather than doing a Q&A, interview, or deep dive, I just wanted to sit with you for a while and give you some updates on where I'm at in life. I'm a real person, just like you. That the whole point of this Duff the Psych "mental health for real people" thing. So, I want to talk with you about my unexpected career changes, what's going on with my kids, how my relationship is going, and just let you in on the guy that you listen to each week. Hope you aren't bored out of your mind!

As a reminder, the Kick Anxiety's Ass course is still going with the massive price drop down to $75 or $25 monthly. Check it out now while you still have the chance!

Episode 196: Switching Therapy Types, Managing Child's Outbursts, Fixing a Relationship Feb 20, 2020

Hello, friends! This is a nice Q&A episode with questions covering a variety of topics. Hopefully I do a decent job responding despite my sleep deprivation and loopiness!

Here are the questions I cover:

Is it okay to switch to a different type of therapy as you progress?
How can I intervene and better manage my 11-year-old's extreme behavior outbursts?
How can I avoid becoming my mother and ruining my relationship?

Don't forget that the massive price discount on the Kick Anxiety's Ass course is still on! Check it out at http://kickanxietycourse.com

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 195: All About Exposure for Anxiety Feb 13, 2020

Hello, friends! This is a re-release of episode 98, which is an episode that I refer back to quite often on the show. I talk about the concept of exposure as it relates to anxiety and take you through different techniques for lowering your sensitivity to anxiety. This is must-know information for those that are serious about taking their lives back from anxiety.

I also discuss an immediate change to my online course, Kick Anxiety's Ass. The price has been drastically reduced from $300 to $75! Enrollment in the course will be closing on 3/15/20 so that we can revamp the course and add even more awesome features.

In this episode, I also talk about my blogpost to help you find a therapist, which can be found at duffthepsych.com/findatherapist.

Episode 194: Postpartum Anxiety, Traumatized by a Thought, Avoiding Activities Feb 06, 2020

In this episode, I take the following awesome listener questions:

What can I do about my postpartum anxiety and emetophobia?
Can you be traumatized by a thought?
Is it okay to avoid activities sometimes due to anxiety?

Please continue sending me your amazing questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

For access to the bonus question, check out my Patreon.

This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp.

Episode 193: 500 Days of Meditation with Cheryl B Engelhardt Jan 30, 2020

This is a very interesting interview with Cheryl B. Engelhardt, who is a government scuba diver turned pop artist turned film composer turned meditation music maker. We talk about her life, struggles with panic attacks, and how starting a daily meditation practice helped stop them in their tracks. We also talk about her new album, Luminary, which is available now!

Enjoy!

Next week will be a Q&A episode, so send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and if you're interested in checking out my other podcast, about my life and family, have a look at my Patreon.

Episode 192: Blood Phobia, Chronic Suicidality, Helping a Partner to be More Supportive Jan 23, 2020

Hello, friends! Excited to bring you this new Q&A session with three awesome questions (plus one bonus question for Patreon).

Here are the questions covered:

What can I do about blood, injury, and injection phobia?
How can I change my chronic suicidality?
How can I make my partner more supportive?

As always you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

This week's sponsors are Openfit and BetterHelp

Episode 191: Dr. Mandel on Ketamine Nasal Spray vs Infusions for Depression Jan 16, 2020

Super excited to present this episode to you. I had Dr. Steven Mandel on episode 137 of the podcast to talk about the amazing and life-saving treatment of Ketamine infusions, which have been shown to be an incredibly effective treatment for depression, suicidality, and trauma that doesn't respond well to other treatments. In this episode, we talk more about the difference between these IV infusions of Ketamine and a new player in the game, Ketamine nasal spray. Recently, an Esketamine nasal spray called Spravato was approved by the FDA for use in individuals with treatment-resistant depression. We explore what this means for your treatment and for your wallet.

This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Future.

Episode 190: Ketamine Risks, Hoarding, ACT Therapy Jan 09, 2020

Hello, friends! Super happy to bring you this question and answer episode. You'll have to excuse my congestion. The plague continues in the Duff household. If you'd like to get a 4th bonus question, check out my patreon at http://patreon.com/duffthepsych

Here are the questions covered this week:

Should I be worried about the risks of Ketamine infusions?
How can I help my mother stop hoarding?
What is Acceptance and Commitment Therapy?

As always, if you have questions or topics to suggest, send them over to duffthepsych@gmail.com and stop by my start here page to learn more about what I do!

Episode 189: Leaning Into Depression with My Wife, Joelle Duff Jan 02, 2020

This episode is an interview with my wife, Joelle Duff. This is technically the first episode of our new Patreon exclusive Duff Family Podcast, which from here on will only be made available to patrons. That doesn't mean that she will never be on HCSH again, but if you want episodes each month, you'll need to head over the check out the Patreon.

In this episode, we sit down on the couch together on New Years Eve 2019 to talk about this past year. This has been a rough one for us, and particularly for Joelle. She has had a severe bout of depression this year that really made things difficult for her. Instead of fighting it, she decided to try something different and lean into what her body was telling her. That meant more rest, alone time, etc. It also meant that she was able to recover enough energy to do some amazing stuff like get a dream job and continue being a fantastic mother, wife, and creative partner.

Thank you so much for spending the end of this decade with us. I'm bringing the fire into 2020, so be ready.

Please go show Joelle some love on twitter and instagram!

Episode 188: A Guided Meditation to Let Go of 2019 and Move Forward into 2020 Dec 19, 2019

It's been a hell of a year and I think a lot of us could use a breather. In this episode, I take you through a guided meditation to help you get through the holidays, drop your baggage from 2019, and move confidently into 2020. Let's do this.

Episode 187: Making Doctors Take You Seriously, Catching Emotions in the Moment, One-Sided Sexual Relationship Dec 12, 2019

You guys seriously have the best questions. In this episode, I answer these three:

How can I get my doctors to take me seriously and not blame everything on anxiety?
What can I do about my one-sided sexual relationship?
How can I catch my strong emotions in the moment.

HUGE ANNOUNCEMENT!!

I have started a Patreon. There are several tiers that you can choose to support my mission to spread mental health content for real people. If you choose not to support, no hard feelings and absolutely nothing will change regarding the free content you get. But if you do choose to help out, there are some amazing bonuses such as...

Additional mental health videos
Bonus podcast questions
An exclusive Duff family podcast
ASMR videos
Guided relaxations
Live streams
Birthday shout outs
And more...

Episode 186: Healing Together with Figs O'Sullivan Dec 05, 2019

This episode is a fantastic interview with master couples therapist, Figs O'Sullivan. We spoke together about many topics related to discord in relationships. Figs believes that many of our issues within relationships come from our deep need for belonging and attachment. Rarely are arguments really about the surface level issue. Once we can admit to being wounded together. We can begin to heal together.

Figs has an app and online course available at empathi.com/go

And if you use the coupon code "hardcore self help" you get 50% off!

I also have a couple sales going on. If you use coupon code "anxiousaf" you can get 30% off my ugly holiday sweaters and other designs in the Duff the Psych shop.

You can also get the Kick Anxiety's Ass course for 50% off through the end of the year. Click here or use the coupon code "holidayhalf".

Episode 185: All About Impostor Syndrome Nov 21, 2019

Hello, friends! Today we are tackling a single subject. Something that has been requested numerous times by you guys. That subject is impostor syndrome. In this episode, I will talk about what it is, why we tend to have it, and hopefully give you some tips that can make it impact you less. It's been a stressful week, so before we dive in I invite you to take a few breaths with me to help center ourselves.

If want to learn more about me, check out http://duffthepsych.com/starthere

Send me your questions and suggestions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

Today's sponsor is Kencko organic instant smoothies! Check them out at http://kencko.com and use coupon code DUFF for a nice discount!

Episode 184: Daydreaming, Abusive Mother in Law, Scared to Call in Sick Nov 14, 2019

We are back again with a new Q&A episode! I'm sure you guys missed these over the past few weeks. A few really great questions in here including:

Is my excessive daydreaming bad?
What can I do about my boyfriend's mother mistreating him?
Why am I so scared to call in sick at work?

As always you can learn more about me by going to duffthepsych.com/starthere and if you have questions or topic suggestions, send them over to duffthepsych@gmail.com.

This week's sponsors are:

Creating Better Days CBD products.
- Use promo code SELFHELP at checkout for 20% off.
Warby Parker

Episode 183: Life Coaches, My History, and Future Directions of Psychology with Mxiety Nov 07, 2019

Hello! I am back from vacation and wishing I never left! In all seriousness, I had a great time. But now I'm back with another great episode for you.

This episode is a recording of a live stream that I did on Mxiety's Mixer stream. She interviewed me and we cover a lot of ground. Included in the topics we discuss are:

The origin of my professional style
Why I think a lot of mental health content is inherently unempathetic
Resisting the lies anxiety tells you
How I feel about life coaches
The "end goal" of CBT treatment
Interesting future directions in the field

Mxiety is part of an amazing group of streamers that talk openly about mental health. Please go and support her at the following links:

Her Mixer page.

Her Twitter.

Her website.

Episode 182: Spooky Psychology Experiments Oct 31, 2019

Hello, friends! Happy Halloween! This is a re-release of an episode I did a couple years ago. Humans are amazing creatures, but we also have a dark side. In this episode, I dive into some of the social psychology experiments that help us understand some of the not-so-great sides of humanity. AND I do all of it in a dramatic reading voice with eerie music in the background. Enjoy!

Episode 181: Multiple Sclerosis and Mental Health with Dr. Meghan Beier Oct 24, 2019

This is a great interview with rehabilitation neuropsychologist, Meghan Beier, Ph.D. While she focuses mainly on individuals living with multiple sclerosis (M.S.), we cover a lot of topics that are applicable to anyone living with a chronic illness. We discuss the mental health and cognitive impacts of chronic illness as well as navigating issues such as family and finding providers that "get it".

Is there a topic you'd like me to interview someone about or cover on my own? Shoot me an email to duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 180: All About Sleep 2.0 Oct 17, 2019

Hello, friends! There are several episodes of the podcast that I refer back to constantly. Episode 26, where I talk all about sleep is one of those. I talk about it in other podcast episodes, I talk about it with my patients, and I talk about it with people in my daily life. It turns out that at 180 episodes of the podcast so far, episode 26 is kind of hard to find. A lot of podcast players only keep the most recent 100 episodes. So, I'm re-doing it. This is not a re-release of that episode, but a re-recording of it with some new thoughts added in.

In this episode, I talk about why sleep is important for memory, health, and mental health. From there, I talk about important sleep hygiene tips that will help you get better sleep. If you have any trouble falling asleep or staying asleep, this episode is for you!

If you have questions or topic suggestions, please send them to duffthepsych@gmail.com!

Sponsors for this episode are Creating Better Days CBD products (coupon code SELFHELP) and Warby Parker!

Episode 179: Talking Sex with Alison Leigh Oct 10, 2019

Hello, friends!

In this episode, I talk to licensed psychotherapist and sex advisor, Alison Leigh. Alison specializes in helping people in relationships overcome barriers to happiness and fulfillment, which often involves looking at the sexual relationship. In this interview, we talk about common barriers to intimacy, the impact of stress on relationships, and some strategies that she uses with her clients to encourage intimate connection. It was a good episode and I hope you enjoy it!

As a reminder, my comprehensive online course to help you take your live back from anxiety is $200 off up until 10/15/19, so act now if you want to take advantage of this offer. Use the coupon code "five" at checkout, or simply follow this link to the course page.

This episode is brought to you by Creating Better Days CBD products. Creating Better Days has a wide range of pure CBD and full-spectrum products to help you with stress, sleep, and pain. They submit each batch of their product to independent lab testing and provide the results to you so you can know exactly what you're getting. For 20% off your first purchase, head to creatingbetterdays.com and use the coupon code SELFHELP.

Episode 178: Bad Enough for Therapy, Anxiety Nausea, Depression in Relationship Oct 03, 2019

Hello, everyone! Happy to bring you another great question and answer episode today. Before that a quick announcement.

October is my birth month and this year marks 5 years since starting the Duff the Psych brand. I'm so excited to continue this journey with you all and feeling immensely grateful. So all this month, I will be doing giveaways, freebies, discounts, and special events. Follow along on my Facebook page to get notified about all the good stuff coming up!

The first exciting announcement for this month is that I will be temporarily providing a $200 discount on my Kick Anxiety's Ass online course until October 15th. That means that you can get the entire 10-module course for just $100, which is honestly an insane value. Use the coupon code "five" or follow this link to check it out!

Anyway, here are the questions I answer in this episode:

I feel like my issues are not bad enough for therapy and I should just suck it up. What can I do to start getting over it?
How can I help my severe anxiety and nausea that starts in the early morning?
My friend's boyfriend has depression and has become distant. What should she do?

This episode is brought to you by MycoMeditations Psilocybin-Assisted Retreats! Check out more about their amazing 7-day retreats in Jamaica, which are fully legal and exceptionally well-reviewed!

As always, you can send me your questions and topic suggestions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 177: Research-Informed Parenting with Jen Lumanlan from Your Parenting Mojo Sep 26, 2019

This episode features an interview with Jen Lumanlan from Your Parenting Mojo. In her own words, "I don’t have much in the way of parenting instinct but I make up for it with outstanding research skills." Interestingly, by way of analyzing the research on parenting and starting her own podcast, she has been able to develop a true intuition and ease for parenting. Jen has a blog and podcast called Your Parenting Mojo that looks to the research to answer questions like "How do you parent a highly sensitive child" or "How do you use non-violent communication with kids?"

This episode is an interesting one because we actually dive deep into problem solving some issues I was having with my own kids at the time. I actually held off on releasing this for a while because I felt like I may have been a bit defensive or negative. Jen was awesome though. Funny enough, the issues that we talked about are largely non-issues now just a couple months later. Kids amirite?

Some links:

First off, go check out Jen at https://yourparentingmojo.com/

She also talked a bit at self-determination, which you can learn more about at http://selfdeterminationtheory.org/theory/

Finally, she referred to Parentifact, which you can see here: https://www.parentifact.org/

Next week should be another Q&A, so if you have questions for me, please send them to duffthepsych@gmail.com or head over the duffthepsych.com and see the contact page.

Episode 176: Healthy Gaming, Processing Trauma, Social Anxiety Sep 19, 2019

Hello, friends! In this episode podcast, I do a little Q&A with some really awesome questions. For one reason or another, I also felt a little silly so have fun with my rambles and random laughter. Here are the questions that I cover:

How can I make gaming a healthy part of my life and not let it interfere with more important things?
What does it mean to "process" trauma?
What can I do about my postpartum social anxiety?

As always, you can check out the full show notes at duffthepsych.com/episode176 and you can learn more about me at duffthepsych.com/starthere. If you have questions, send them over to duffthepsych@gmail.com.

This episode of the Hardcore Self Help Podcast is sponsored by MycoMeditations Psilocybin-Assisted Retreats. MycoMeditations provides a legal means of experiencing the transformative and healing properties of the psilocybin mushroom. They provide 7-day retreats in Jamaica that involve guided psilocybin treatments, group processing, massage, accommodations, and authentic Jamaican cuisine. Learn all about MycoMeditations at their website or on episode 171 of the podcast, where I interview their founder.

Episode 175: LGBTQ Health Disparities with Dr. Perry Halkitis Sep 12, 2019

This was a fantastic interview with public health psychologist, Dr. Perry Halkitis. We talk about disparities in health and mental health treatment for LGBTQ individuals and how they have changed over the years. He also shares some information about his own unique personal and career path.

Unfortunately, my side of the audio is a little blown out, but Dr. Halkitis sounds great and I think that his message was too good to not share with you all. I think it's well worth a listen.

Full episode show notes are available at http://duffthepsych.com/episode175

Sponsor: This episode is brought to you by MycoMeditations Psilocybin-Assisted Retreats. They provide legal 7-day retreats in Jamaica that use the psychedelic psilocybin compound to help you work through significant mental health issues. For more information about MycoMeditations, check out their website or listen to episode 171 of the podcast where I interview their founder.

Episode 174: Driving Anxiety, Overly Affectionate Mom, Helper Burnout Sep 05, 2019

This is a really great question and answer episode. If you hear some crickets chirping in the background, that is because it's hot as balls outside, even at 11pm and there was no way I was about to record with the window closed. Here are the questions that I cover:

How can I address my anxiety about driving on the highway?
What do I do about my husband's overly affectionate mother?
How can I prevent burnout as a mental health professional?

As always you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and full show notes are available at duffthepsych.com/episode174

This episode is brought to you by Better Help and Warby Parker

Episode 173: Tiffany Jenkins on Mental Health and Addiction Aug 29, 2019

This week I have an incredible and inspiring interview with Tiffany Jenkins. Tiffany is a wife, mother, author, content creator and a recovering addict, she’s the face behind Juggling the Jenkins and author of “High Achiever: The Incredible True Story of One Addicts Double Life”.

She described this episode as a free therapy session, which I take as a compliment. I think you will really enjoy this interview.

Full show notes available at duffthepsych.com/episode173

If you'd like to learn more about me, check out duffthepsych.com/starthere

Next week should be a Q&A, so please send your questions and topic suggestions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 172: Overcoming an Affair, Recalling Trauma, Bringing Parents into Therapy Aug 22, 2019

Hello, friends! This is an awesome Q&A episode where I take three great listener questions and try my best to offer some helpful advice. Here are the topics covered:

Do you NEED to recall trauma in order to move past it?
Why would my therapist want me to bring my mom into session?
How can I move past the ghost of my past affair?

As always, you can send me your questions or suggestions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and full show notes are available at duffthepsych.com/episode172

This episode was brought to you by MycoMeditations Psilocybin-Assisted Retreats and BetterHelp!

Episode 171: Psilocybin Mushrooms for Mental Health with MycoMeditations Aug 15, 2019

This is a special episode. I was approached by a company called MycoMeditations that wanted to sponsor the podcast. They actually were very persistent and approached me a few times about it because they were really interested in the opportunity to speak with you all. MycoMeditations is a company that hosts retreats in Jamaica that use the psilocybin mushroom, also known as the magic mushroom. It's an often misunderstood substance that research has shown to be an effective way to reduce the impact of treatment resistant mental illness such as depression and anxiety. Since this is a topic that is somewhat sensitive (psilocybin is not legal in the US), I wanted to do things a little differently. Rather than just running a short ad, I wanted to have the opportunity to dive deep and fully explore the issue. So this is a sponsored episode. MycoMeditations did pay for this interview spot, but I am approaching it just like all of the other interviews that I do on the show so that you can be appropriately informed and make your own decisions. My guest for this episode is Eric Osborne, who is the founder and head facilitator of MycoMeditations. He has a very interesting background in that he is a wild mushroom expert and mycologist. This enables him to approach things from a very unique angle, which you will hear in the episode. Rather than administering the mushroom in it's raw form, he uses a process to make measured capsules of it to have better control of the dosage. I really hope that you enjoy this episode. It was very interesting for me. Please have a look at the full show notes at duffthepsych.com/episode171 and reach out to Eric if you have any questions after listening! Check out MycoMeditations at their website to learn more!

Episode 170: Sexless Marriage, PTSD in Literature, Health Anxiety Aug 08, 2019

Hello, friends! In this Q&A episode, I take three awesome questions that listeners sent in and try my best to give some helpful advice. These cover a range of topics including health anxiety, PTSD in literature, and coping with a sexless marriage.

As always you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and full show notes are available at duffthepsych.com/episode170

Episode 169: Mental Health and Spirituality with Dr. Anna Yusim Aug 04, 2019

This episode is a super interesting interview with psychiatrist Dr. Anna Yusim. She is a practicing psychiatrist from a family of hyper-rational mathematicians. She was never spiritual or religious. However, about 10 years ago, she started to experience things that she could not explain and began to develop an interest in the intersection between spirituality and psychiatry. If you know me, this is not in line with my view of things, so I thought it would be super interesting to have this interview with someone who sees things from a different perspective.

Full show notes are available at duffthepsych.com/episode169 and please continue sending your questions and topic suggestions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 168: My Counselor Died Jul 25, 2019

Hey, everyone!

This episode is missing some of the normal bells and whistles that you are used to. No intro music. No disclaimers or fancy editing. I am currently out of town and my remote desktop failed me, so I don't have access to my normal episode template.

In this episode, I take one really good listener question about whether it's strange to feel upset about their counselor dying and what they can do about comparing future counselors to their last one, since it was a good experience for them.

As always, you can send your questions and topic suggestions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the full show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode168

Episode 167: Posttraumatic Growth with Dr. Laura Copley Jul 18, 2019

This is a fantastic interview with Dr. Laura Copley, a trauma specialist, who focuses on posttraumatic growth and resilience. We go through many important facts and misconceptions about trauma. We talk about the difference between resilience and posttraumatic growth. We even dive into a couple exercises that people currently contenting with trauma reactions can use to start living life on their terms.

If you have questions or topic suggestions, please send them over to me at duffthepsych@gmail.com!

Episode 166: When to Move On, Pregnant with an Eating Disorder, How Long Therapy Takes Jul 11, 2019

Hello, friends!

This is a Q&A episode in which I tackle the following:

When is it time to move on from my boyfriend that just recently broke up with me so that I can "find myself"?
What advice do you have for someone that is pregnant with an eating disorder?
How long will it take for therapy to help with my borderline personality disorder?

As always, you can send me questions and topic suggestions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

Full show notes also available at duffthepsych.com/episode166

Episode 165: Letting Go of Shame with Dr. Suvrat Bhargave Jul 04, 2019

This is a really nice interview with psychiatrist Suvrat Bhargave. We talk about lessons that he has learned in his practice including how to let go of shame and why you don't need to hit rock bottom to have important moments of insight. He is very personable and cares about meeting people where they are at rather than speaking in jargon and working hard to seem like the expert. He challenges the stereotype that psychiatrists are unapproachable and only want to focus on medication management.

Full episode notes available at http://duffthepsych.com/episode165

Next week is another Q&A episode, so send your questions or topic suggestions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 164: Boundaries vs Manipulation, Moving with Mental Illness, Helping Family Understand Jun 27, 2019

Hey, all! On the last episode, I had my wife on to answer your relationship communications. We got SO many awesome questions that I wanted to tackle some more on the podcast today. This is a solo Q&A episode and I take questions directly from the private Hardcore Self Help Facebook group. Here are the questions I address:

What can I do about my family that doesn't understand my anxiety?
How can I tell the difference between reinforcing boundaries and being manipulative in my relationship?
I'm about to move and I'm freaking out. What can I do?

Full show notes are available at http://duffthepsych.com/episode164 and if you'd like to send in a question, shoot me an email at duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 163: Duff the Wife and I Talk About Communication Jun 20, 2019

In this episode, I have my beautiful wife Joelle back on the podcast. We take a few minutes to update you on our crazy life and then discuss some listener questions that mainly focus on communication in relationships. Enjoy!

Next week will be another Q&A, so send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com.

For full show notes, visit http://duffthepsych.com/episode163

Episode 162: Depersonalization, Family Communication, Planning with ADHD Jun 13, 2019

Hello, friends! It's very very hot over here this week, but I still decided to lock myself in my office without a fan and record this Q&A episode! There are three really great (and different) questions that listeners sent in, and I try my best to give some helpful advice. The questions are:

What can I do to make my family member understand my past alcoholism?
How can I plan and execute my days better when I have ADHD?
What can I do about my chronic depersonalization and dissociation?

As always, full show notes are available at duffthepsych.com/episode162 and you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 161: The Reality of Being a Therapist with Quinn Gee Jun 06, 2019

This week, I have the amazing Quinn Gee of Magnolia Mental Health back on the show again. She is a "unicorn" in the mental health field. As a black, gay, female therapist, there are many people out there who really benefit from her perspective. She's also really good at her job. As such, she is BUSY. No, I mean BUSY. She puts my work ethic to shame. Unfortunately that also comes at the cost of her own well-being, which she is working on.

In this episode we talk about the realities of being a therapist. We also brainstorm ways that she can take better care of herself for the sake of her own health and for the sake of her clients. It's a really interesting insider peek at those of us that work in helping professions and I think you will enjoy it.

Next week will be another Q&A episode, so send me your questions and topic suggestions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 160: Erectile Dysfunction, Internet Exhibitionism, Strong Emotions May 30, 2019

Hello, friends! In this episode, I answer some awesome listener questions about some very interesting topics including:

How can I fix my stress-related erectile dysfunction?
Is my desire to show off my body online bad?
How can I better manage my strong emotional reactions?

For full show notes, be sure to stop by http://duffthepsych.com/episode160 and check back next week for an interview episode!

Please send any questions or topic suggestions to duffthepsych@gmail.com.

Episode 159: How Your Brain ACTUALLY Learns with Dr. Jared Cooney Horvath May 23, 2019

This episode is an awesome conversation that I had with educational neuroscientist Dr. Jaren Cooney Horvath. We talk about common misconceptions about the brain, how it actually works, and what that means for learning information or trying to teach other people information in effective ways. He has a new book called "Stop Talking, Start Influencing: 12 Insight from Brain Science to Make Your Message Stick", which I highly suggest checking out!

Next episode will be a Q&A, so please continue sending me your questions and potential topics to duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 158: Improving Self-Concept, Going Back to Work, Abandoned by Therapist May 16, 2019

Hello, friends!

We have a nice question and answer session for you today. Please be forewarned that one of the questions mentions the topic of suicide, so if you are particularly vulnerable to that topic, feel free to skip question #2.

Here are the questions covered:

How can I go back to work after having panic attacks due to a medical procedure?
How can I improve my self-concept?
What can I do about my therapist moving offices?

Next week should be another awesome interview. In the meantime, please keep sending me your questions and topics to duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 157: Unfu*k Yourself with Gary Bishop May 09, 2019

Hello, friends!

This episode features an interview with the author Gary John Bishop. He wrote the best seller Unfu*k Yourself and juuuust released a new book called Stop Doing That Shit.

We had a great conversation about what people can do to start moving forward with their lives and we even dive into the personal story behind why Gary started making this type of content.

Please stop by and check out Gary's stuff at https://garyjohnbishop.com/

Episode 156: Drug-Induced Psychosis, Distance Jealousy, Dealing with Loneliness May 02, 2019

This episode is a straightforward question and answer episode. Not too much preamble in this episode, just straight to the nitty gritty. As always, if you'd like to learn more about me and what I do, check out http://duffthepsych.com/starthere

And if you have questions or topics for a future episode, send them over to duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 155: Jonah on Electroconvulsive Therapy for Depression Apr 25, 2019

This is a super interesting interview with Jonah, who was kind enough to get very person in discussing his experiences with Electroconvulsive Therapy (ECT). ECT is a safe, but sensationalized, treatment for depression that does not respond to typical treatments such as medication and therapy.

Jonah is also a transgender man who happens to be in a committed polyamorous relationship with two other men. All of these aspects are intertwined in Jonah's story.

Next week will be another Q&A, so be sure to send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

Full show-notes available at http://duffthepsych.com/episode155

Episode 154: Emotional Cheating, Hypomania, Boundaries in Supporting, Mood Disorder Apr 18, 2019

This is a special Q&A episode in which I pull questions directly from the private Hardcore Self Help Facebook group. If you aren't yet a member, request access at http://facebook.com/groups/hardcoreselfhelp

I took four questions from the group that cover a wide variety of topics. I think you'll really enjoy this one.

As always, you can send me your questions and topics to duffthepsych@gmail.com. See you next week for an awesome interview episode!

Episode 153: A Guided Relaxation About Letting Go Apr 11, 2019

I think that a lot of you need to hear this episode. It's simply me talking with you a bit about the topic of letting go, especially of things that you don't have control over, and then guiding you through a forest visualization to help you relax. No ads or interruptions in this episode. Just sit back, pop in some headphones, and bliss out.

Music in this episode is:

Rushing Stream.mp3 by acclivity

20071104.forest.04.binaural.mp3 by doboride

Episode 152: Managing Toxic Family with Dr. Sherrie Campbell Mar 28, 2019

Today's episode is an interview that I did with Dr. Sherrie Campbell. Her specialty is helping people recognize toxic family members and work to productively cut ties with them and thrive in the aftermath. We get into some really interesting content including how to recognize when a family member is toxic and Dr. Campbell's deeply personal experiences that have driven her work. I wanted to let you guys know that in addition to the audio, we also have full blog posts and show notes for each episode on my website. For instance, the episode last week about productivity tips is a full-fledged blog post in itself that you could easily read through if you forget some of the tips. This is something that I've been happy to hire an assistant to help out with. So make sure you stop by duffthepsych.com/episode152 to see the full notes for this episode. As always, send me your questions and topics to duffthepsych@gmail.com and don't forget to review for a chance to win free access to my online course!

Episode 151: My Top Productivity Tips Mar 21, 2019

We are doing a bit of a deep dive episode this week. I wanted to share with you my 10-11 best tips for staying productive even when you don't feel like it or may struggle with disorganization. We talk about many different personal tips that work well for me as well as universally good ideas when it comes to productivity and getting stuff done.

Next week's episode will be an interview, but be sure to send your questions and topics for future episodes to duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 150: Tech in Mental Health with Abhishek Chandra from Spring Health Mar 14, 2019

This episode is a wide-ranging conversation with Abhishek Chandra, a co-founder and CTO of Spring Health, which is a comprehensive mental health benefit for employers that goes beyond the traditional employee assistance program. We talk about the role of tech in mental health including machine learning, genetic testing, and online therapy. It's really interesting stuff!

Next week should be a normal Q&A, so send your questions and topics to duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 149: First Panic Attack, Confronting Family Abuser, Repairing vs Calling Off an Engagement Mar 07, 2019

This week's episode is a question and answer session. I cover three awesome questions that cover a variety of important topics. As always I'm impressed by the bravery in posing these difficult questions and I hope that I do a good job of being sensitive AND realistic in my responses. Here are the questions:

How can I manage my anxiety after I had my first panic attack?
How can I deal with my abuser, who is also my father, when he wants to stay at my home?
Should I continue pushing or call of my problematic engagement?

As always, I would greatly appreciate a share or review of the podcast and if you have questions or topics that you'd like me to cover on the show, please send them to duffthepsych@gmail.com.

Episode 148: Dan Fields from Save it for the Show Feb 28, 2019

Hello! In this episode, I interview a friend of mine, Dan Fields, from the Save it for the Show podcast. I thought this would be an interesting episode because it's essentially just me talking to a friend of mine about life on the internet, creating, modern mental health, families, working from home, and all sorts of other topics. I hope you enjoy!

Next week will be a question and answer episode, so be sure to send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 147: Nocturnal Anxiety and Panic Feb 21, 2019

Welcome, everybody! Today's episode is going to focus on a single topic. I have gotten a lot of questions recently about nighttime anxiety and nocturnal panic, so today we are going to focus on things that you can do to help you get a little bit better sleep and some relief from that nasty anxiety that can pop up during the night.

Thank you to our sponsors for this episode, Open Fit and Daily Harvest! Text the code DUFF to 303030 for a free 30-day open fit trial or use the code DUFF for 3 free cups in your first Daily Harvest Box!

If you have questions or topics for a future episode, please send them to me at duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 146: Duff the Wife Valentine's Special Feb 14, 2019

Hello, everyone!

Super excited because this week I have my beautiful wife, Joelle Duff on the podcast again. You always have such great feedback when she's on the show and it's honestly just nice to have a good excuse to sit and talk with my favorite person.

We talk about her getting back into her career after taking a mental health, baby, life-clarity break. We talk about communication in our relationship. We talk about harnessing the power of bipolar and planning for the inconsistencies. We talk about a lot of awesome stuff. You'll love it.

Next week will be a normal Q&A or single topic episode, so shoot me your ideas to duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 145: Bipolar Barbie Feb 07, 2019

Hello, friends!

This week, I have an interview with the wonderful Bipolar Barbie. She is a mental health advocate from Australia. In this interview, she describes her experiences with bipolar and talks about why she is passionate about being a mental health advocate. We cover topics from her first manic episode during law school to the importance of medication in her journey. I think you'll really enjoy this one.

Congratulations to the winner of this week's free book, @kellydutrisac! If you'd like to win a free print copy of one of my books, just share your favorite quote from this episode on social media and tag me. I pick one winner each week.

If you have a question or topic for a future episode, send it to duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 144: BDSM after Trauma, Slipping Back into Depression, Supporting a Partner with PTSD Jan 31, 2019

This week, I have a nice Q&A session for you. Three really great questions that cover a variety of topics. Some of the content in here is sexually related and there is also plenty of talk about trauma. Be advised.

I forgot to announce it during the episode, but this week's free book winner is @inkblot_ace on twitter. Congrats! If you want to win a free print copy of one of my books, simply share your favorite quote from this episode on social media and tag me!

Here are the questions I cover in this episode:

What can I do when I feel myself slipping back into depression?
Are my BDSM fantasies unhealthy given my trauma history?
How can I support my partner with severe PTSD?

As always if you have questions or topics that you'd like to submit, just send them over to duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 143: When Life Gives You Parkinson's with Larry Gifford Jan 24, 2019

On this episode, I have an interview with Larry Gifford from the When Life Gives You Parkinson's podcast. He was diagnosed with early onset Parkinson's disease at age 45. This was a serious curve ball for someone with a spouse, a child, and a blossoming career in radio. We talk about his show, coping with a Parkinson's diagnosis, honest conversations with family, and misconceptions about Parkinson's disease.

As a reminder, if you'd like to win a free print copy of one of my books, just like @passtlivess did this week, share your favorite quote from the episode on social media and tag me! I'll pick one each week.

Next week should be another solo-show. If you have a question or topic that you'd like discussed on the show, send it to duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 142: Fundamentalist Religion, Parenting with Mental Illness, Panic Disorder Jan 17, 2019

Hello, friends! I have a Q&A episode for you today. This is an extra special episode for a couple reasons. First off, I'm starting a new weekly tradition. If you share your favorite quote from the episode on social media and tag me, you might be selected to win a free copy of one of my books! Second, my nearly one-year-old kiddo, Leo was very present in this episode. I had to squeeze in the recording between other appointments, so you hear some babbling and such in the background.

In terms of the questions, here what I covered:

How can I move on from the guilt caused by ending family relationships due to an extreme fundamentalist upbringing?
How can I balance significant psychological issues and still be a good parent?
What can I do about my recurrent panic attacks?

As always, if you have a question for the show, please send it to duffthepsych@gmail.com.

Episode 141: You Might Die Tomorrow - Kate Manser on Mortality Awareness and Living Better Today Jan 10, 2019

Hello, all!

This was an episode that was supposed to air a while back. I postponed it due to a shooting at my alma mater's college night at the Borderline night club in Thousand Oaks. I felt that the topic just wouldn't be appropriate for that day.

However, now that we are in a new year, it's the perfect time to think about your values, your goals, your aspirations, and how to live better in the now. That's exactly what we talk about in this interview.

In this episode, I interview Kate Manser from You Might Die Tomorrow about the concept or mortality awareness and how that can be used to help you make decisions and appreciate the present.

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and if you like what you've heard, please rate or share the show on social!

Episode 140: Making New Year Goals That Make Sense Jan 03, 2019

This is a short and sweet episode that I recorded before leaving for an end-of-year vacation with my family. We talk about making goals for the new year.

At the end of the year, many people start thinking about goals and resolutions. I see absolutely no problem with that. However, it's important to try to do them in a way that sets you up for success rather than failure. Here are a few quick tips:

Establish goals as part of an overall year-end review.
Keep your goals reasonable.
You can also include larger overall aspirations, but use those as guiding lights rather than attainable goals.
If you have too many goals, or goals that are too far from your starting point, you can set yourself up for success and continue the negative feedback loop.
Subdivide your goals into small manageable steps.
Even if you're not starting with your full capacity in any given goal, you are still doing more than you did before. Start small and build from there.

2018 was a great year and I'm so pumped to knock 2019 out of the water. Thank you so much for all of your support, and for contributing your questions to the podcast. This would not be possible without you. Please continue sending me your questions, feedback, and ideas to duffthepsych@gmail.com.

Episode 139: Neurofeedback, Low Motivation, Knowing if Therapy Works Dec 20, 2018

The last episode of 2018! Wowwwww. It's been an awesome year and I thank you so much for all of the support, attention, and of course questions. I thought that I would end things strong with a nice Q&A episode.

Here are the topics covered:

What is Neuroptimal (neurofeedback)?
How can I help myself when depression steals my motivation?
How do I know if therapy is working?

I am so excited to get back into the swing of things in January. Please keep sending me your awesome questions and topic requests to duffthepsych@gmail.com!

Episode 138: Jamie Shares Her Personal Experience with Ketamine Treatments Dec 13, 2018

This is part 2/2 for my series of interviews about Ketamine treatments. In this episode, I interview Jamie AKA "The Gloomy Optimist" about her personal experiences with the treatments that she says saved her life. We go deep into her life-long struggles with anxiety and depression. Jamie is someone who has put in the work. She has tried numerous medications and therapy, but nothing seemed to stick until Ketamine. She describes going into the first infusion suicidal and coming out with hope for the future. Powerful stuff.

Please say hi to Jamie...

On Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thegloomyoptimist/

At her website: http://thegloomyoptimist.com

And as always, you can find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode138

Episode 137: All About Ketamine Treatments with Dr. Steven Mandel Dec 06, 2018

Friends. If there is one interview of mine that you listen to, let it be this one. In this interview, I talk to Dr. Steven Mandel, the founder of the Ketamine Clinics of Los Angeles. Ketamine is one of the most effective mental health treatments that very few people seem to talk about. To me this is a shame. It's amazingly effective treatment for depression, suicidality, PTSD, and bipolar.

In the interview, we talk about why Ketamine works, what an actual session looks like, and how it is a very low-risk procedure. We also address some common misconceptions and even get into the nitty gritty of cost/feasibility.

Please share this episode with your friends, families, and networks.

This is the first of a two-part series. Next week, I will be sharing an interview with an individual who describes their personal experience and amazing benefit from Ketamine treatments for depression.

I should note that I have no personal stake in the Ketamine Clinics. I simply believe that it's a treatment that should gain more exposure.

Episode 136: Overcoming Self-Sabotage in Relationships, Fear of Wrists, Decision Paralysis Nov 29, 2018

Hello, everyone! Great to be back recording a normal Q&A episode this week. Between the unexpected non-episode a couple weeks back and the re-run episode last week, I haven't actually sat down and addressed your questions in a while. Here are the awesome questions that I cover on today's episode:

How can I break the cycle of self-sabotage and self-doubt in my relationship?
How can I overcome my fear of wrists?
How can I better decide what activities to engage in at home and stop getting paralyzed?

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and check out the full show-notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode136

Episode 135: How to Survive the Holidays Nov 21, 2018

Hey, everyone! This is a re-release of an episode that I did last year. I am busy this week with holiday stuff, so I didn't want to record something new, but I thought it would be a good opportunity to repost episode 85, which originally aired on 11/21/17. It's all about tips that you can use to survive the holidays. The holidays are crazy for everyone, but it's stepped up a notch when you also struggle with mental health issues. Have a listen and take great care of yourselves. Much love!

http://duffthepsych.com/episode85

Episode 134: Kati Morton - Youtuber, Author, and Therapist Nov 15, 2018

Super excited to have the awesome Kati Morton on the show with me today. I'm sure you already know who she is, but if you need a refresher, she is most well known for her Youtube channel where she answers questions and gives mental health advice. Kati is a licensed therapist and brings a down-to-earth approach to the content that she puts out.

In this interview, I learn a little more about Kati the person. We also talk about how her work as an influencer has affected her professional life. We discuss her new book, "Are You Okay?", and how you know that it's time to get some professional help.

I really hope you enjoy this broad conversation. Be sure to show Kati some love on Youtube and pre-order her book, which will be released in December!

Too Close to Home Nov 08, 2018

The regularly scheduled podcast interview is postponed this week. There was a tragic shooting at my alma mater's college night at the Borderline bar in Thousand Oaks, CA. In this short message, I talk about what happened, how I'm feeling, and a few tips for coping.

Episode 133: Spooky Mental Health Treatments From History Nov 01, 2018

I did an episode last year around Halloween time about spooky social psychology experiments and what they say about humanity. I figured I'd keep the trend going and do an episode all about creepy treatments from the origin of psychological health care. Before listening any further, just know that some of these are cruel and gross. We've come a long way since the different treatments that I will talk about, but they are important in that they are the predecessors to the treatments that we have now. In some cases they were mean and cruel. In others they were well intentioned, but limited by the lack of knowledge that we have today. Either way, if you are sensitive to topics like this, feel free to skip this one.

Next week should be a more standard episode, so if you have a question or topic for me, send it to duffthepsych@gmail.com and the full show notes for this episode are available at duffthepsych.com/episode133.

Episode 132: When to Stop Taking Meds for Anxiety Oct 25, 2018

Fantastic episode for you today. We go deep into the different types of medication for anxiety, how to know when it's time to stop taking them, and ways to cope with anxiety that you can use with or without medication. This is the third episode taking a slightly different approach with just one question per episode, with the intention of diving deeper into topics. Now it's time to give me some feedback. If you go to the episode notes at duffthepsych.com/episode132, there will be a short survey. If you could take it, it would help me out so much! As always if you have a question or topic that you'd live covered on the show, email me at duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 131: Supporting a Reluctant Partner Oct 18, 2018

In this episode, I take a question from someone about how they can help their romantic partner who is great most of the time but gets suicidal or violent every so often. How can she get him to go to therapy or recognize the that there are actual issues going on? I give my perspective on this question and also spend some time defining bipolar disorder. Enjoy!

For full episode notes, check out http://duffthepsych.com/episode131 and if you have a question or suggestion for the podcast, send it over to duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 130: Complex PTSD Oct 11, 2018

In this episode, I'm trying something slightly different. Rather than taking three questions, I'm taking one and using it as a jumping off point to go in-dept into topics related to the question. Sort of combining the deep-dive and Q&A formats. I'm going to try this for a few weeks and then ask for your opinions. Today's episode is all about C-PTSD or complex post-traumatic stress disorder.

See full show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode130

If you have a question that you'd like me to answer on the show, send it over to duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 129: All About Dementia Oct 04, 2018

In this episode, I do a deep dive talking about a requested topic: dementia. It can be hard to find good information and advice about dementia online, so I hope that this episode can serve that function.

I go in-depth and cover the following:

Dementia terminology
What kinds of dementia there are
How to get a diagnosis
Managing difficult behaviors
Support available for caregivers

If you have a suggestion for a future deep dive topic or have a question that you'd like me to answer, send it to duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 128: Making Friends, Avoiding Stress After Concussion, Advice for Future Therapists Sep 27, 2018

Back to the Q&A this week. Before I answer the questions, I talk about a recent psychiatric hospitalization that I had to do with the hope of helping you understand that it's not a purely black and white situation.

Here are the questions I cover:

How can I make friends when my depression gets in the way?
Should I be avoiding stress rather than exposing myself?
What advice do you have for a future therapist?

As always, you can send your questions for the show in to duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 127: Duff the Wife Back Again! Sep 20, 2018

Hello! I thought it would be nice to have my wife, Joelle, back on the podcast today. She's usually a listener favorite guest and I always love talking with her, so I hope you enjoy our conversation!

We talk about all kinds of stuff including:

Our life and recent move
Changing psychiatric meds
Parenting with anxiety
How I keep work at work

As always, you can send me questions for a future episode to duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 126: Anxiety Exhaustion, Explosive Anger, Mending a Relationship Sep 13, 2018

Another round of awesome questions from you, the listeners. Here's what we cover this week:

What can I do about the exhaustion that comes from fighting anxiety?
How can I deal with my explosive anger?
How can I mend the relationship with my step-daughter?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 125: Too Broke for Therapy, Anxiety Meds Don't Work, Pressure to Have Kids Sep 07, 2018

Hello, friends! Sorry for anyone that missed last week's episode. I messed up a little with the technical side of things. We should be all back track this week. If you don't already, please subscribe to the podcast on iTunes or whatever podcast player you use, so you never miss out.

Here are the questions for this week:

How can I get help when I can't afford therapy and I don't have insurance?
What can I do when my emergency anxiety medication doesn't work?
I feel pressured to have kids. What should I do about it?

As always you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 124: Gender Dysphoria and Sex, Increasing Klonopin Dose, Options to Keep Living Aug 30, 2018

Three totally different questions today ranging from relatively basic to quite intense. I hope you enjoy. Did a little something different with the format of this, please feel free to send me feedback about it.

Here are the questions:

As a transgender male, how can I cope with my dysphoria while having sex with my partner?
Should I increase my dose of Klonopin or change medications for my anxiety?
I feel like I don't have any reason to live. What else can I do?

As mentioned in the podcast, check out http://hardcoreselfhelp.com for my audiobooks!

If you have a question for a future episode, send it over to duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 123: Porn and Depression, Panic Disorder, Fleeting Suicidal Thoughts Aug 23, 2018

Hello! Fantastic questions on today's Q&A episode. I am always amazed by your honesty and vulnerability when sending these in. Here's what we cover today:

Could porn be causing my depression and lack of pleasure in life?
How can I deal with my constant panic attacks?
Should I talk to my therapist about new fleeting thoughts of suicide?

As always, you can send me your questions for an upcoming episode to duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 122: Anxiety Procrastination, Supporting Suicidal Friends, Loving with Borderline Aug 16, 2018

Another full question and answer episode this week. Awesome questions, as always. I wanted to quickly say thank you for everyone who enrolled in the course. It was a very successful launch and I'm so happy that my hard work over the past year has paid off. THANK YOU!

Here are the questions covered this week:

How am I supposed to show my partner love when I have borderline personality disorder?
How can I best support my suicidal friends?
How can I stop procrastinating and stick to habits with anxiety?

As always, please keep sending me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com.

Episode 121: Death Anxiety, Regret, and the Therapeutic Relationship Aug 09, 2018

Back at it! This episode is a full three question episode for you. Thanks for your patience over the past few weeks with the short episodes. That helped me out a lot.

On a related note, the course is out! In fact, by the time the next episode drops, you will no longer be able to buy the course!! Get on it http://kickanxietycourse.com

Here are the questions answered in this episode:

How do I get over my anxiety about death?
What can I do about my crippling regret?
I feel attached to my therapist. Is that bad?

If you have a question for a future episode, please send it to duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 120: Addressing an Awkward Situation with Therapist Aug 02, 2018

It's time! Kick Anxiety's Ass is now live! You can get instant access to all 10 modules of awesome anxiety slaying content at http://kickanxietycourse.com If you purchase before Monday, 8/6 and use the coupon code PODCAST, you will get $100 off. You can check out a bunch of free lessons from the course before you decide. I think you are going to get a lot out of it.

In this episode, I answer one listener question about what to do when you are uncomfortable with your therapist walking behind you to their office at the start of session.

We should be back to regularly scheduled programming next week. Until then, keep sending me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 119: Dealing with a Toxic Mother Jul 26, 2018

Hello, friends! Another mini episode this week as I gear up for the launch of Kick Anxiety's Ass, which is next week OMG fjkdlasnfkljd!

This week I am taking a question about what to do when dealing with a toxic mother that lives in the same city. A tough one, but a really important topic.

Next week will be one more short episode and then we will be back to regularly scheduled programming.

Keep your awesome questions coming! Send them to duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 118: Parenting with Borderline Personality Disorder Jul 19, 2018

Hello, all! This is another mini-episode with just one question, but boy is it a good one. If you didn't catch the last episode, I am doing a series of short episodes while I crank out the finishing touches on my online course, Kick Anxiety's Ass.

In this episode, I take a question about parenting with borderline personality disorder. Full show notes can be found at http://duffthepsych.com/episode118

If you want to send me a question for a future episode, please send it to duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 117: Too Depressed to Start Therapy Jul 12, 2018

Hello, friends!

For the next few episodes, I will be just taking one question, so that I can free up some of my time to put the finishing touches on the Kick Anxiety's Ass Course.

For this week, the question is: Would online therapy be a good option for me, since I'm too depressed to do regular in-person therapy?

If you have a question for me, be sure to send it to duffthepsych@gmail.com.

Episode 116: Communication and Support with Duff The Wife Jul 05, 2018

Hello, friends! Super excited to bring my wife, Joelle, back on the podcast today. As usual, this is a super candid and honest conversation naturally flows into a variety of topics, but we broadly focused on issues related to communication and supporting one another in a relationship where one partner has significant mental health challenges. We bring our own personal experience into it and keep it super real. I hope you enjoy it.

Just a reminder: You have until 7/9/18 to enter the Kick Anxiety's Ass giveaway. Good luck!

Episode 115: When the World Is Too Much Jun 28, 2018

This episode is a little different. It's basically a deep-dive episode, but it's a little more off-the-cuff than usual. Given the multitude of troubling events in the US news today, I wanted to give some thoughts and advice about dealing with the news and the state of the world. It can be exceptionally hard for someone with mental health issues to know what to do when the state of the world becomes overwhelming. I hope the thoughts that I present here help.

Here are a few tips:

1. Realize that no matter WHEN you hear about news or how much you worry about the event... those have absolutely no bearing on the fact that the event happened. In other words, the events are happening whether or not you already know about them.

2. Regulate your flow of information. Consider waiting to "plug in" to the world until you've gotten ready for the day and consider unplugging for at least an hour before you go to sleep.

3. Fight back against the false sense of immediacy that anxiety gives you.

4. Remember that you are allowed to feel, but not taking care of yourself may limit your ability to help or make a difference.

5. Taking good care of yourself allows you to funnel energy into action, which can make you feel less helpless.

Quick update: HUGE giveaway going on right now at duffthepsych.com/giveaway

Thanks!

Episode 114: School Anxiety, Disclosing Mental Illness to Partner, Ending Therapy Jun 21, 2018

Why hello there! This is a regular question and answer episode. Couple updates first:

1. The audiobook for Hardcore Self Help: F**k Anxiety has been updated and is WAY better. Check it out here: https://www.audible.com/pd/Self-Development/Hardcore-Self-Help-F-k-Anxiety-Audiobook/B00S8U7PKW

2. There are three free lessons from my course that you can check out without any signups required at http://kickanxietycourse.com

Here are the questions covered in this episode:

What can I do about my intense anxiety and stomach pain when I have to go to school?
How can I go about telling my new romantic partner about my mental health issues?
When is the right time to stop therapy?

As always you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 113: Polyamory, Family Issues Due to Bipolar, Living with a Disability Jun 14, 2018

Hello, friends!

This is a straightforward question and answer episode. First a couple updates:

I changed the free preview content that is available on http://kickanxietycourse.com. Now you can get three free lessons that cover defining anxiety, breathing strategies, and thinking traps. Good stuff.

The audiobook for F**k Anxiety will also be new and improved probably near the end of next week. I'll update again when the changes are processed.

Here are this week's questions:

My husband and I want to explore polyamory, but how can I get over my anxiety about him liking someone else more than me?
How can I get my family to stop abandoning me due to my bipolar?
What can I do now that my disability prevents me from doing the things that I used to love?

As always you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 112: The Psychology of ASMR Jun 07, 2018

In this episode, I do something a little different. This is a highly requested deep dive episode into the topic of ASMR, or autonomous sensory meridian response. You know, those videos where people tap things and whisper on youtube? I used to make those videos. For almost 6 years, in fact.

I talk about what ASMR is and give examples from different videos. At the end, I even give you a bonus ASMR audio sample recorded by yours truly. Enjoy!

Here are the videos that I used samples from:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WVyPFXdn0ME ASMR 1H OF TAPPING NO TALKING! more than 1 hour! by Chiara ASMR

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9h94cOlXFRc ASMR 1 Hour Tapping | No Talking by ASMR Glow

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KOfN9ZOGXcA ASMR Purely Close Up Whispers | Ear to Ear by LauraLemurex ASMR

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X6-vAoDz008 ASMR Dmitri Talks about a Dream - Soft Spoken Voice by Massage ASMR

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xrKbOF3vHo8 Cranial Nerve Test with Pat LaFontaine & Dr. James Kelly by brainline

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OgzmbwRNfmA Asheville Mall Manicure Nail Buff, Great Gift by Ask Asheville

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZDZuaQ05Xso OLD ~ Cranial Nerve Examination Roleplay by Cutebunny992

Binaural Dual Trigger Sounds ASMR by me

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xEyR5dCQs60 [ASMR] Hearing Test Nurse (Soft Spoken) by GIBI ASMR

Episode 111: Repressed Memories, Processing Loss, and Depression at 15 May 31, 2018

Hey, friends. This was a really good episode thanks to the awesome questions that I was sent in. In fact, I think this episode would be a really great one to share with your friends if you wanted to give them an example of my podcast ;).

Here are the questions that are covered in this episode:

Are repressed memories real and what should you do about them?
How do I know that I've fully processed recent losses in my family?
How can I get help when I'm 15, depressed, and embarrassed?

As always you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

And be sure to check out my new online anxiety course at http://kickanxietycourse.com

Episode 110: Dr. Skye Stifel Answers Your Child Questions May 24, 2018

This episode is kind of a hybrid. It's not quite an interview. More of a collaborative question and answer session. I sat down with my friend Skye Stifel, a school psychologist that I went to grad school with, to answer your questions about kids and adolescents. Good stuff!

Please head over to http://kickanxietycourse.com to learn more about my 10-week intensive anxiety bootcamp!

As always, please send me your questions for future episodes to duffthepsych@gmail.com

109: Family Doesn't Support Therapy, Facing Rejection, Making Friends May 17, 2018

Hello, friends!! Today's episode is a question and answer session. I think it turned out pretty well despite some annoying flooding that happened in my office this week, which I talk about in the episode.

Hey, if you are interested in taking your anxiety from a 9 to a 3 and taking back control of your life, be sure to follow me on twitter at http://twitter.com/duffthepsych and on facebook at http://facebook.com/duffthepsych because I will VERY soon be opening up pre-orders for my 10-week online course, Kick Anxiety's Ass. Stay tuned.

Here are the questions covered in this episode:

What can I do about my step-mother who does not support me being in therapy?
How can I make friends in college?
How can I build a thicker skin in the face of rejection?

If you have questions for a future episode, please send them on over to duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 108: Quinn Gee on Being a Therapist and Black Mental Health May 10, 2018

Hi, friends! Thanks for tuning in again. As always, I really appreciate your support and participation in this podcast. In this episode, I am interviewing Quinn Gee. She is a therapist, business owner, and all around badass. We talk about how she got into therapy, her own identity development, what it's like being a therapist, and some concepts related to black mental health. It was a great talk.

Next week should be a regular question and answer episode, so send your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

Be sure to show Quinn some love at:

http://twitter.com/cuntrycounselor

https://www.magnoliamhealth.com/

107: What If Depression Doesn't Go Away? May 03, 2018

In this episode, I talk about options for depression that just does not seem subside despite your best efforts. If you have tried therapy, medication, and all of the other things that we are supposed to do to tackle depression, but you still can't put a dent in it, you may have "treatment resistant depression". It can be extremely frustrating to fall into this category, but I want to reassure you that there is still hope. In this podcast, I talk about different options and techniques that can be used to move past resistant depression.

106: Sakinah on Severe Mental Illness and Advocacy Apr 26, 2018

Today's episode is a very interesting interview with "The Muslim Hippy" herself, Sakinah. I love this interview for several reasons. First off, we covered some great topics and Sakinah was totally open and real about her struggles with severe mental illness. It was also a very authentic picture of how you can persist and do cool things like a podcast interview in the context of your mental illness. Sakinah second guessed whether the interview was good quality because she was just coming off of an episode and felt that her thoughts were scattered. Regardless of this, I think that she did an amazing job and serves a a great model of having mental health issues AND kicking ass. Enjoy!

If you have any suggestions for topics or potential guests, send them over to me at duffthepsych@gmail.com

105: Different Types of Therapy Apr 19, 2018

Hey all! This is a deep dive episode that was prompted by an email question that I got. In this episode, I talk about the different types of therapy that are available. Of course, I don't cover every single one, but I describe some of the types of therapy that you are most likely to encounter including:

Psychoanalysis and psychodynamic therapy
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
Dialectical Behavior Therapy
EMDR
Family Systems Therapy
Integrative or Eclectic Therapy

Therapy is effective. Many people don't understand how talking with someone can help, but it does. The research is good on therapy outcomes, which is why insurance companies continue to cover it.

Please continue sending me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com, especially questions about kids for my upcoming episode with a school psychologist.

104: Dr. Andrea Letamendi on Comics and Psychology Apr 12, 2018

Hello! This is a special episode. I got the chance to interview Dr. Andrea Letamendi. She is a clinical psychologist and the host of the Arkham Sessions podcast. She uses comics, nerdom, and pop culture as a vehicle to explain psychological concepts. We had a broad conversation about these topics, her background, and the field of psychology in general. I hope you enjoy!

Please send me your questions about children for an upcoming episode where I will enlist the help of a school psychologist to answer questions about kiddos. You can send them (and other questions) to duffthepsych@gmail.com

Please show Dr. Letamendi some love on twitter at http://twitter.com/arkhamasylumdoc and visit her website at http://underthemaskonline.com

103: Flashbacks, Borderline vs Bipolar, Pressure to Have Sex Apr 05, 2018

Hello, friends! This is another question and answer episode. Next week will be an interview with the amazing Dr. Andrea Letamendi all about comic books, pop culture, and mental health.

I would really appreciate it if you would rate the show on iTunes OR share the show with your friends this week.

Here are the questions covered in this episode:

How to I get over traumatic flashbacks when it has been over a year?
Do I have borderline personality disorder or bipolar?
Should I feel pressured to have sex?

As always you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

102: Dr. Ron Holt on Coming Out Safely as LGBTQ Mar 29, 2018

Today I have an interview with an amazing guest. Dr. Ron Holt is a psychiatrist who stepped away from direct clinical practice to focus directly on advocacy work related to LGBTQ issues. As a proud gay man, he describes his experience growing up and a variety of other topics such as tips for coming out safely.

Please check out Ron's work at http://twitter.com/drronholt and at http://drronholt.com

Next week will be another question and answer episode, so be sure to send your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

101: Work Boundaries, Autistic Burn Out, Social Memory Mar 22, 2018

Hello, everybody! We are back to the normal question and answer format this week. I really enjoyed episode 100, in which my friend Dan Fields interviewed me as a guest. If you haven't checked that one out yet, I suggest it! Next week will be another interview as well with an awesome guest. Here are the questions that I tackle this week:

What should I do to have a better work-life balance when my colleagues work all weekend?
Why do I have a great memory for school, but a terrible memory for social information?
Is stimming a valid coping strategy for fatigue and burnout as a person with autism?

If you have a question for the podcast, shoot me an email to duffthepsych@gmail.com or go to http://duffthepsych.com/contact

100: Special Episode - Me Interviewed as a Guest! Mar 15, 2018

Hello, friends! This is episode 100 of the podcast and as such I wanted to do something a little different. I invited my friend Dan Fields from the Save It For The Show podcast on to interview ME as a guest. We had a really interesting conversation about all kinds of stuff. Honestly, I wish we had another 2 hours to talk. Let me know if you'd like to hear a part 2 in the future. Super huge thanks to Dan for volunteering his time to this episode.

I also just wanted to say THANK YOU. This has been a really special project and I'm proud of what we've created here. I can't believe it's been 100 episodes. I am so honored and thankful for your support.

99: Erez Sheck on Bipolar, Bullying, and Social Media Mar 08, 2018

Episode 99, guys! Next week is big 100. I'll be doing something a bit different for that episode, so make sure you tune in for that one. This week is my first interview of the year. In this episode, I talk to Erez Shek about his experiences with bullying, bipolar, being a gay man, hospitalization, and social media. It was a great conversation!

Please show Erez some love on twitter at: http://twitter.com/erezsheck and check out his website at: https://www.theshekcheck.com/

Do you have a guest that you would love to hear me interview? Let me know! Shoot me an email to duffthepsych@gmail.com

This episode was brought to you by Sudio. Check out http://sudio.com for some awesome Swedish-designed bluetooth headphones. Use the offer code SELFHELP for 15% off!

Episode 98: All About Exposure for Anxiety Mar 01, 2018

This episode is actually ripped from a long video that I recorded. I have been thinking a lot about exposure for anxiety lately for multiple reasons. For one, I'm in the middle of creating my online course for anxiety and recently wrote the content for the module on exposure. I have also been frustrated by people that I see in my clinical practice who have gone through years of therapy for their anxiety, but never engaged in exposure treatment for their anxiety.

Research indicates that exposure is a vital component of successful anxiety treatment. It's about facing your anxiety head on and teaching your body to stop reacting so strongly to it.

In this episode, I talk about exposure in general and then break down two methods for gaining exposure and increasing your tolerance for anxiety.

If you'd like to submit a question for a future episode, send it over to duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 97: Finding a Male Role Model, Discussing Trauma, Hydrocephalus Feb 22, 2018

Today's episode is sponsored by Sudio headphones. To see some seriously stylish headphones with great functionality check out https://goo.gl/Q5excs and use the code SELFHELP for 15% off of your purchase.

This episode is a normal Q & A. My voice progressively died as I recorded the episode, so you get croaky Robert again. Great variety of questions this time including:

How can I find a positive male role model for my boys since their father died?
Should I talk about my trauma in therapy even though I haven't spoken about it for 30 years?
Has my history of hydrocephalus affected my speed of thinking? How can I improve?

As always you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

Thanks!

Episode 96: Moving, Tolerating Insecurity, Anxiety Procrastination Feb 15, 2018

Hello, friends! I'm back from my paternity leave. Thank you for the support, the great feedback, and the patience during my absence. Excited to be back at it. Some exciting stuff coming up in the coming months including some really awesome guests. Look forward to that.

This episode is a question and answer episode with questions from my private Hardcore Self Help facebook group. If you aren't a member yet, go to http://facebook.com/groups/hardcoreselfhelp and request access!

Here are the questions:

How can I prepare for a big life change?
How can I get over my relationship insecurity?
Is procrastination related to anxiety?

If you have questions that you would like me to answer, please send them to duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 95: Moving on from Trauma at 66 Feb 08, 2018

Heyoooo! This is one more mini-episode where I am answering a single question rather than 3. If all goes according to plan, this will be the last episode of my paternity leave and I'll be back to normal next week. Thanks for your patience!

Keep sending me your amazing questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 94: Should I Have a Relationship with My Abusive Parent? Feb 01, 2018

Hello, everyone!

Today is a mini-episode. I'm still on my paternity leave, so I'm coming at you with a single question and answer, rather than my typical 3 per episode. I hope you enjoy this quick bite of information and I also hope that you're taking great care of yourself.

If you want to send me a question, please do so at duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 93: Dr. Amber Baker Answers Anxiety Questions Jan 25, 2018

Hey, friends!

I'm currently off on paternity leave, so my friend and fellow psychologist, Amber Baker, Ph.D., is stepping in to answer your questions today. The episode is very similar to my normal question and answer episodes, just with a different host. I think she knocked it out of the park. Be sure to stop by the following links to show her some love and say thanks for doing such a great job.

https://twitter.com/DrBakerPhD

http://www.gofriendyourselfdoc.com/

https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/go-friend-your-self-with-dr-baker/id1266870594?mt=2

Please keep sending me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com. I'll be doing mini episodes for the next two weeks and then I should be back at it with normal episodes.

Episode 92: Burn Out Prevention, Vertigo Anxiety, Signs of a Good Guy Jan 18, 2018

Hello, friends! It's only been like 3 episodes since I've done a Q&A, but it feels like it has been forever. Super happy to be back here answering your mental health questions. The next 3 episodes will be a bit different due to my paternity leave, which I explain at the top of the episode. Here are the questions for this week:

How can someone with anxiety/depression prevent burnout?
Is it possible to overcome anxiety without medication, especially with vertigo?
I've been burned before, but I want to date again. What are the signs that I'm dating a healthy/good guy?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

Thanks!

Episode 91: The Wife Part 2 Jan 11, 2018

My wife, Joelle is back on the podcast today. We talk about lots of stuff including anxiety and pregnancy, our plans for the new baby, communication within our relationship, and we also answer some listener questions. Enjoy!

Next week will probably be a normal episode, but after that there will be some mini-episodes and guest spots, as I go on paternity leave.

Definitely keep sending me your awesome questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 90: New Year Reflections Jan 04, 2018

Here we are. It's 2018. Crazy. In this episode, I reflect on the past year and talk about my hopes and goals for 2018. I talk a bit about my personal life, my professional life, and this podcast. Please stop by Twitter or Facebook and let me know what your hopes for the year are!

If you want to send me a question for a future episode, you can reach me at duffthepsych@gmail.com.

Episode 89: A Guided Relaxation for the Holidays Dec 21, 2017

I know I already did a holiday themed episode, but I figured you guys could use a little more love as you continue through the holiday season. Rather than answering your questions today, I'm going to lead you through a guided relaxation designed to help you de-stress and relieve some of the stress that often accompanies the holidays. Give yourself the gift of relaxation. Put in some headphones. Chill with me. I got you.

No episode next week. Back at it the week after. Keep sending me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

Background music credit: https://cctrax.com/cousin-silas/landscapes

Episode 88: Recognizing Abuse & Raising Children With Mental Illness Dec 14, 2017

Today is a question and answer episode. I'm doing two questions instead of three today, just because I've gotta get up early for a talk I'm giving tomorrow. I think these are two really great questions though.

In one of the questions, I reference a video with Kristen Bell, which you can check out at: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mYUQ_nlZgWE

In the other, I reference the cycle of abuse image, which you can see here: http://teaminfocus.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2014/01/Cycle-of-Abuse.png

Here are the questions:

How can I help my children, who are starting to show signs of depression and anxiety, when I can't even help myself?
How can I recognize and move past abuse when I'm unsure about whether I have been abused?

As always you can send your questions in to duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 87: Surviving Disasters Dec 07, 2017

Hey, friends. I'm not sure if you saw the news, but southern California is on fire. I'm safe, but a lot of friends and acquaintances are not. I'm in this eerie spot where we are very close to the fires, but at very low risk, so "normal" life continues on. Decided to do an episode with some of my tips for getting through disasters like this including:

Understanding stress vs anxiety
Prepping to avoid freezing
Mental rehearsal
Importance of rest
Focusing on what you DO have control over
Mindfulness in disaster situations
Finding comfort in the small moments
Keeping routine where you can
Talking about event without re-traumatizing
Processing your feelings
Getting help
Managing social media consumption

Not sure what format next week's episode will be, but please feel free to keep sending your questions over to duffthepsych@gmail.com and be sure to check out the info for my upcoming course at duffthepsych.com/course

Episode 86: Too Nervous to Call Therapist, Phobia of Vomiting, Depression in High School Nov 30, 2017

Hello, my friends! This episode is just a straight forward question and answer episode with some really awesome questions. This week I am also working on a book proposal for a traditional publisher, which means that you would be able to buy this potential book in stores. That's a bucket list item of mine and I'm excited to keep you updated in the coming weeks/months.

Here are the questions for this episode:

How can I get help when I'm too anxious to call a therapist?
How can I get over my fear of vomiting?
How can I get through high school when I have been depressed for years?

As always you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 85: How to Survive the Holidays Nov 21, 2017

The holidays are crazy for everybody and they can be particularly stressful if you deal with any mental health issues. In this episode of the podcast, I share a few tips that can help you stay afloat during the Holiday season.

If you have other tips that work well for you, please share them with my on twitter at http://twitter.com/duffthepsych and I will RT them for my audience!

Episode 84: Triggers and Trigger Warnings Nov 09, 2017

This is a deep dive episode where I spend the entire time talking about one topic of interest rather than taking questions from the audience. In this episode, I cover something that I've been meaning to talk about for a while, which is the word "trigger" and the term 'trigger warning".

I cover what the term "actually" means, where it came from, and my mixed feelings about the way that trigger warnings or content warnings are used these days. A the end, I also give some practical tips for when social media becomes too triggering.

Next episode will be either an interview with Brent Williams, who wrote the Out of the Woods graphic novel that I review here or just a regular Q&A. Please keep sending me your awesome questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 83: Bipolar Depression, Firing a Bad Therapist, Forgetting Family Members Nov 02, 2017

Thanks for having some fun with me for the Halloween episode last week. This one will be a regular Q&A episode. I wanted to give a quick shout out to my buddy Speeks Geak for hooking me up with the new intro and outro beat. Check him out over at: https://twitter.com/SpeeksGeak909

In this episode, I cover some great questions on a variety of topics. Here is what I cover:

What is bipolar depression? How is it different than "regular" depression?
How should I tell my therapist that I don't want to work with them anymore? How do I get my files from them?
What can I do about my grandparent with dementia not remembering their spouse?

As always you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and follow me on twitter at http://twitter.com/duffthepsych

Episode 82: Spooky Psychology Experiments Oct 26, 2017

This week we are doing something a little different. I wanted to get into the Halloween spirit, so today on the podcast, I tell you the story of 4 spooky psychology experiments that reveal the darker side of the human condition.

Episode 81: Feelings for Your Therapist, Journaling for Anxiety, Helping a Friend with Depression Oct 19, 2017

Today we have another question and answer episode featuring some super interesting questions. Don't forget to sign up for my newsletter to get the free resources mentioned in the episode. Here are the questions...

What happens when you have feelings for your therapist?
How can journaling help anxiety?
How can I help a friend with major depression?

As always you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 80: Harnessing the Power of Your Phone Oct 12, 2017

Hello, friends! This is a deep dive episode all about your phone. I share some apps and general principles that you can use with your phone to improve your mental health and overall life progress. Unfortunately there is one abrupt cut toward the end of the episode because my recording program crashed and I had to re-record some. Oh well!

Here are some of the apps that I mentioned:

Pacifica: https://www.thinkpacifica.com/

Headspace: https://www.headspace.com/

Calm: https://www.calm.com/

7 Cups: http://7cups.com/

Forest: https://www.forestapp.cc/en/

The next episode will likely be a Q & A episode, so please continue sending me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 79: Gaming Advice, ADHD Tests, Obsession with Suicide Oct 05, 2017

Hello, friends! Apologies for the unexpected lapse in episodes last week. Had some family stuff come up on my normal recording night and I was slammed with clinical work for the rest of the week. I'm back with a great Q&A episode this week though! Here are the questions covered:

How can I regulate my depression and self-criticism while gaming competitively?
Do I need to get additional testing to switch my ADHD medications?
Is it bad that I'm obsessed with suicide-related content?

As always you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 78: Boundaries, PMS Anxiety, Symptom Relapse Sep 21, 2017

Hello, everyone! Thanks so much for joining me again. This is another question and answer episode featuring the following questions:

How can I set boundaries and communicate better with my introverted partner?
I've been doing well until recent changes. Now all of my symptoms are back. What can I do?
Is it normal to have a spike in anxiety when I have my period?

As always you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and don't forget to sign up for the mailing list (launch group list closing next week) at http://duffthepsych.com/course

Episode 77: Avoidant Personality, Skin Picking Fidgets, Dwelling on Hospitalization Sep 14, 2017

Hello, friends! Thanks for joining me again for another Q&A episode. I was recently interviewed about anxiety on the Sexy Fit Podcast, which you can check out here: http://sexyfit.com/mindset/ep-180-fk-anxiety-practical-strategies-help/

I also wanted to mention that I will be switching my release day from Wednesday to Thursday each week, just to fit better with my life and keep myself sane. Here are the questions for this week:

Are fidget spinners helpful in coping with skin picking disorder?
I think about my psych hospitalization everyday. Is that normal?
What is avoidant personality disorder?

As always you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 76: Midlife Crisis, Flotation Tanks, Fleeting Suicidality Sep 07, 2017

Hello, friends! This episode is coming at you a little late today, which I explain at the beginning. It's important to be honest with yourself and exercise control over your situation to avoid burnout. Here are the awesome questions in this episode:

Why am I starting to struggle with my mental health at age 46?
Can you have fleeting suicidal tendencies?
Do flotation tanks help with anxiety and ADHD?

As always you can send me your questions for the podcast to duffthepsych@gmail.com

You can also sign up to be part of the launch team of my upcoming course, Kick Anxiety's Ass, at http://duffthepsych.com/course

Episode 75: Violent thoughts, Relationship with Mom, Bipolar Aug 30, 2017

Another Q&A episode today! Some really great questions and I get pretty detailed about a few diagnoses. Before that, be sure to check out the private facebook group for the HCSH community at: https://www.facebook.com/groups/484559841901855/

Look out for more info on my upcoming Kick Anxiety's Ass course and be a part of the beta group here: http://eepurl.com/c06Uzn

Here are the questions covered in this episode:

Why do I have violent thoughts and why do I need everything to be even in number?
How can I work on my relationships with other people, given my estrangement from my mother?
Do my symptoms fit with bipolar disorder?

As always you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 74: How to get the most out of therapy Aug 23, 2017

Today we are doing a deep dive episode all about ways that you can maximize your progress in therapy. Whether you are a seasoned therapy veteran or barely thinking about getting started, this will be good information for you to keep in the back of your mind.

Before I share the 10 tips for getting the most out of therapy, I wanted to let you know that I started a new closed facebook group for the Hardcore Self Help Community. You can find that at: https://www.facebook.com/groups/484559841901855/

Here are the tips:

1. You don't need to impress your therapist

2. Don't lie to your therapist

3. Don't be afraid to get emotional and let it out

4. Challenge your therapist and correct them

5. If it's not working, say something

6. Find someone you are comfortable with

7. Get therapy sooner

8. Take notes and journal

9. Do the homework and practice the skills

10. Talk about the relationship between you and your therapist during session

Next week should be another Q&A episode, so keep sending me your awesome questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 73: Multiple Personalities, Sleep Procrastination, Being the Codependent Friend Aug 16, 2017

Hello, everyone! Just off the top, given the BS going on in the world at the moment, I need to reaffirm that everyone is welcome here regardless of race, ethnicity, cultural background, gender identity, sexual orientation etc. Just needs to be said.

Today's episode is another Q&A with some really awesome questions including:

How can I help my mom who has multiple personalities?
Why do I procrastinate sleep and what can I do about it?
What can I do when I am the codependent friend?

As always you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and don't forget to follow me on social @duffthepsych for cute baby stuff!

Episode 72: 10 Common Thinking Traps Aug 09, 2017

This is a deep dive episode all about common thinking traps and pitfalls that we encounter as human beings. In the field, we refer to these as "cognitive distortions". In this episode, I break down ten of them for you and talk a bit about how to use your knowledge of them to your advantage. Here are the cognitive distortions that I cover in this episode:

Mind Reading
Personalizing
Just World Fallacy
Emotional Reasoning
Shoulds and Musts
Black and White Thinking
Overgeneralization
Filtering
Catastrophizing
Overestimating Power of Thoughts

Next week should be another Q & A episode, so please keep sending me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 71: Self-Criticism, "Functional" Anxiety, Forgiving Abuser Aug 02, 2017

Hello, friends! Just another awesome question and answer episode for you. Two short questions and one more complicated question:

How can I overcome my self-criticism and low self-esteem?
What does my family member mean when she says that she has "functional anxiety"?
Do I need to forgive my abuser?

As always you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and follow my on facebook at http://facebook.com/duffthepsych

Episode 70: I Don't Need Therapy, Talking About Self-Harm, Being a Fraud Jul 26, 2017

Hey, friends! Before I get into the questions for this episode, I wanted to let you know that I recently posted a video and blogpost in which I share an entire chapter from my book about suicide. You can check that out and share it at http://duffthepsych.com/suicide. Here are this week's questions:

How do I tell me mom that I don't need more therapy?
Am I a fraud for improving my depression symptoms on my own?
How can I talk about self-harm with my therapist without ruining things?

That's it for this week! As always you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 69: Life before depression, Masturbation, Aneurysm Jul 19, 2017

Wide variety of questions this time! I love it. Please continue sending me your questions and look forward to some "guest hosts" in the future! Also thanks so much for the reviews on iTunes. It's greatly appreciated! Here are the questions covered in this episode:

What if I don't remember what I enjoyed before depression because it's been so many years?
Can my dad recover from his aneurysm?
How can I make my boyfriend stop masturbating when he knows that I don't want him to?

As always you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com!

Episode 68: Heat Anxiety, EMDR, Social Media, Boundaries in Therapy Jul 12, 2017

Packed episode this week! I didn't realize it when I constructed the episode, but I included two double questions for a total of 5 questions answered this episode, haha! Really interesting stuff though. If you have a minute, please head over to itunes and leave a review for this podcast and consider sharing with a friend. Thanks so much! Here are the questions covered:

Why do I get panic attacks when I'm hot?
What is EMDR and does it actually work?
What should I do about my brother's worrying social media posts?
Do therapists worry about their clients?
How do you keep good boundaries as a therapist?

As always you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 67: Perfectionism, Finding Passions, Encountering an Abuser Jul 05, 2017

Hello, friends! Sorry for the lapse in shows. I did that re-posting of my interview on the Cognitive Rampage podcast a couple weeks ago and this past week I got super sick and completely lost my voice! No bueno. I'm feeling a lot better now and I'm back with another great question and answer session for you. Here are the questions covered:

Are anxiety and perfectionism related?
How do you find passions and interests? Everything feels like a chore.
What can I do about being in the same location as my abuser?

Keep sending me in your questions. I will be back again next week as long as I don't get the plague again! Send them in to duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 66: My Interview on the Cognitive Rampage Podcast Jun 21, 2017

Hey, friends. This episode is a little different. I didn't have time to record a full Q & A episode this week due to life and work. However, I think I found a nice alternative here. Recently I was on Adam Lowery's podcast called Cognitive Rampage. He's a cool dude and has a book by the same name. This turned out to be a wide ranging conversation and I think probably one of the best interviews that I've ever given. So have a listen and head over to Adam's site to see more content. Next week will be back to the Q&A, so send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

Here's the full podcast on Adam's page: http://adamlowery.com/

Episode 65: Vicarious Trauma, Lifelong Panic, Mental Health and the Internet Jun 14, 2017

Hello, friends! This is another question and answer episode for you. Hey, I'd appreciate it so much if you'd send me some honest open-ended feedback about the podcast to duffthepsych@gmail.com with the subject line "podcast feedback". As long or short as you'd like. You can give me any feedback that you would like.

Anyways, here are the three questions that are covered:

What are some ways to avoid vicarious trauma or burnout when working in an intense job?
If I have had panic attacks since I was 5 years old, will I always have them? Am I just wired this way?
Do you think mental health disorders are actually on the rise or is it just more awareness and the influence of the internet?

As always you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and you can also see a video bonus question on facebook or youtube.

Episode 64: Trying Therapy Again, Breaking Up, Blushing and Social Anxiety Jun 07, 2017

Hello again, friends. This is another Q&A episode with some really great questions. Wanted to let you know that I am now doing a bonus question each week on youtube and facebook. I also mention the video about finding a therapist online. You can find that at http://duffthepsych.com/findatherapist

Here are the questions that I cover:

Should I try therapy again after having a bad experience?
How do I break up with someone whose mom is dying?
How can I get over my social anxiety and blushing?

As always you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 63: Electroshock, Low Grade Depression, Terminal Illness May 31, 2017

Hello, my friends! Another awesome Q & A for you this week. Couple links that I mentioned in the show. Here's the cognitive rampage podcast: http://adamlowery.com/podcasts/ and here is that episode about TMS therapy that I mentioned: http://psychsessions.com/2017/01/01/ps-039-treating-depression-with-transcranial-magnetic-stimulation-tms/

Anyways, here are the questions I cover:

What is electroconvulsive therapy (ECT) and is this something I should look into for depression?
Should I get treatment when my depression isn't so bad that I have a formal diagnosis?
What can I do to make my severe cancer diagnosis and treatment more bearable?

As always you can find my on social @duffthepsych and you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 62: Self-Harm as Coping, Depression as an Excuse, Recurring Depression May 24, 2017

Hello, friends. We are back to the Q&A this week. Thanks so much for your super awesome feedback on the last episode with my wife. If you'd like to hear more from her, let me know! At the start I ramble a little bit about the importance of advertising and allowing me to make a living so that I can continue to put all this work in for free. Here are the amazing questions that we go through in this episode:

Am I using my depression as an excuse? Should I be better by now?
Is it normal to feel like my depression keeps recurring?
What should I do about my self-harm when I feel like it's a normal coping mechanism?

As always you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and hit me up on social @duffthepsych!

Episode 61: MY WIFE on mental illness, motherhood, and hospitalization May 17, 2017

Very special episode this week for you! I've been meaning to get my wife on the show for a good while now. This is the first time that I've ever interviewed her about her experiences with mental illness. I have talked about her in my TEDx talk and my books, so this was a really nice opportunity to sit down for a while and just chat about her life. We talk about what it's like being married to me, her earliest anxiety experiences, motherhood, her hospitalization, and things that have helped her progress in her mental health journey.

Next week should be a Q&A episode, so please keep sending me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and follow my wife on social @joellecharming

Episode 60: All About Breathing May 10, 2017

For this episode, I was feeling a little too overwhelmed by the week to do a Q&A so instead I decided to talk to you all about breathing. We talk about different breathing exercises and how to practice them so that they are useful to you in moments of stress or anxiety. We cover the physiological mechanism behind relaxation breathing. Finally, we briefly cover mindfulness and meditative breathing.

The tone of this whole episode is a bit more calm and subdued. I hope that it's relaxing as well as informative!

As always you can send me your questions for future Q&As to duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 59: Delayed grief, Toxic relationships, Agoraphobia May 03, 2017

Hello, friends! Good news - your boy is official! I finally passed all of the hurdles and paid all of my money and got my license as a clinical psychologist in California. It's super meaningful for me and I appreciate you being a part of the journey.

Anyway, this is another great question and answer episode. Here's what I cover:

Should I play a show with my band in the city that my friend died?
How can I improve my relationship when I might be the toxic one and create conflict for attention?
What can I do about my anxiety and agoraphobia if I haven't left the house in two months?

As always you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com!

Episode 58: Graves disease anxiety, Fears of hospitalization, How I get so much done Apr 26, 2017

Hello, friends. Thanks for joining me again for another question and answer episode. Wanted to let you know that I've been doing instagram stories over at http://instagram.com/duffthepsych. Check them out if you would like a little snapshot into my day to day life as a psychologist/dad/entrepreneur etc.

Here are the questions covered in this episode:

I have anxiety caused by Graves disease. I'd like to get anxiety medication to help, but I'm not sure how to talk to my doctor about it. How can I bring it up?
My father killed himself and I want to get therapy, but I'm afraid that I'll be hospitalized. Should I bother?
Robert, how do you get so much done when I can hardly find a single moment to myself?

As always you can send me your anonymous questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and I'll see you next time!

Episode 57: High IQ and Anxiety, Hiding Feelings, Getting Help as a Young Person Apr 19, 2017

Hello, friends! Thanks for tuning in. In this episode, I take 3 more awesome question from you listeners. There are a couple questions from younger people, which I think is awesome. I decided to livestream this episode on my facebook page. I will try to do more of that in the future, so keep your eyes out for Tuesday night live video on the facebook page over at http://facebook.com/duffthepsych

Here are the questions covered in this episode:

Could my high IQ cause mental health issues?
What can I do when I'm bad at hiding how I feel at school or work?
Should I get help as a young person with depression?

As always you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 56: My Personal Psychology Journey Apr 12, 2017

Hey, friends! In this episode, I do something a bit different. I guess you could say that this is a deep dive episode that was prompted by a listener question. Someone wrote in and wanted to know more about what got me into the field of psychology in the first place and what appeals to me about it. So I get a little personal and tell you about my early life, experiences, and journey through the field of psychology. I hope you enjoy!

Next week will most likely be another question and answer episode, so please continue sending me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 55: Recovering From a Cult, Polyphasic Sleep, Preparing for Therapy Apr 05, 2017

Hello, friends! I just want to take a minute to thank you from the bottom of my heart for taking the time to listen and for sending in questions to help me create this content. Also wanted to give you a heads up that I will be off of social media for next week. Anyways, here are the questions covered in this episode:

Now that I am out of a cult, how can manage my anxiety and make sure I give my daughter opportunities to socialize?
Would a polyphasic sleep schedule help me get enough rest for my shift work?
I'm in a good place recently. What can I do to prepare for therapy between sessions?

As always you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and if you are not yet following me on social, get on that. I'm @duffthepsych on everything.

Episode 54: Lying, Religious Therapists, Prioritizing Topics in Therapy Mar 29, 2017

Hello, friends! Another Q & A episode for you today. If you are not yet, please follow me on facebook at http://facebook.com/duffthepsych I've been doing some cool content over there that I talk about at the top of the episode.

Here are the questions tackled in this episode:

How can I address a lie that I told in my relationship?
What does it mean when a therapist mentions their religion in online databases?
How can I better prioritize topics for psychotherapy?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 53: All About Confidentiality In Therapy Mar 22, 2017

Hey, friends! Thanks for the patience during my week off. I talk about about that at the beginning of this episode. The remainder is dedicating to helping you understand the issue of confidentiality in psychotherapy. If you have ever wondered what information is kept private vs when a therapist can share your info, this episode is for you. This turned out to be a longer episode, because it's fairly comprehensive. I cover what you need to know about confidentiality and reporting in regards to:

Danger to self
Danger to others
Child abuse
Elder abuse
Minors in therapy
Crimes

And more. Next week will be a Q&A episode, so shoot me your questions about mental health, psychology, and life to duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 52: Do I Deserve To Get Better, How Do I Know If I Am Bad Enough For Help, On Stage Panic Attack Mar 08, 2017

Okay, my friends! I think this was a great episode. I got to cover some really interesting questions that I am sure apply to many of you out there. Don't forget to check out my TEDx talk at http://duffthepsych.com/tedx. Here are the questions that are covered in this episode:

How can I get over feeling like I don't deserve to feel better?
How do you know if you actually need psychological help or if you are just blowing things out of proportion?
What can you do to overcome panic attacks on stage?

As always you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 51: Biological Anxiety, Cues for Depression, Borderline Personality Disorder Mar 01, 2017

Hello, friends! First off, please go check out my TEDx talk at http://duffthepsych.com/tedx it would mean the world to me.

This episode is another question and answer session. I'm getting sick, so pardon any sniffles or brain farts. Here are the questions that I cover:

Why do I still feel anxiety even though I know everything is fine in my brain?
What can I do when I feel depression first coming on?
How can I help my daughter with borderline personality disorder?

As always you can email me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com or hit my up on social media at http://twitter.com/duffthepsych

Episode 50: VICTORY!! Feb 22, 2017

Episode 50, guys! Woohooo!!! Man. Crazy stuff. Thank you SO FREAKIN MUCH for your continued collaboration on this podcast. Your questions and inspiration keep it going. In this episode, I reflect a bit on the journey so far and then share a few victory stories sent in by listeners. It is always important to give yourself credit for big and small moments of success when you are living with mental illness.

Thank you. Thank you thank you thank you! Let's keep this goin. Send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and I'll see you next week.

Episode 49: Suicidal Friend, Telling Work about Depression, Anxiety from Weed Feb 15, 2017

Hey, everyone! Please continue to send me in your mental health success stories both big and small. I have a few good ones, but I want more! I will be reading them on the next episode, which is freakin' episode 50!!! SO AWESOME WTFBBQ!!!

Ahem. Here are today's questions.

Should I tell my friend's therapist about her suicidal behaviors?
How should I talk to my boss about my depression?
Can you permanently get anxiety from smoking weed?

You can send me your questions and success stories to duffthepsych@gmail.com or on twitter at http://twitter.com/duffthepsych

Episode 48: Overcoming Sexual Assault, Trouble Sleeping With Other People, What's It Like Having A Mentally Ill Spouse Feb 09, 2017

Hello, friends!

GASP! I forgot to record a podcast. I mean... I remembered, but I didn't remember in time for my usual midnight upload time. Oh well. You probably don't care.

HEY! I would love to hear your personal mental health success stories big and small. Please send them over to me in the next couple weeks for episode 50!

Here are this week's questions:

How can I "get over" a sexual assault that happened a couple months ago?
Why do I have a hard time sleeping with other people in the room?
What is it like having a spouse with a mental illness?

As always you can send me your questions (and success stories) to duffthepsych@gmail.com or on twitter at http://twitter.com/duffthepsych

Episode 47: My Tips for Public Speaking Feb 01, 2017

This episode is another deep dive episode. I decided at the last minute to go ahead and do a little rundown of my personal tips for public speaking. In particular these are tips that help me with memorization, managing stress, and knocking it out of the park when it comes to "performance" style speeches such as keynotes or TED style talks. I recently did a TEDx talk in my community, which is what prompted this entire topic. Stay tuned for that video once it's released.

Enjoy these tips and let me know if I should do anything special for Episode 50! Hit me up on twitter at http://twitter.com/duffthepsych or at duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 46: Genetics and mental health, Abusive daughter, Codependent friend Jan 25, 2017

Hello, my friends! Just wanted to say thanks again so much for always sending in such awesome, honest, and brave questions. You guys are amazing. In this episode I take a couple questions that are related to dealing with significant others who have mental illness.

Here are the questions covered:

Is there a genetic link for mental illness? Is it inherited from your family?
What can I do about my 27 year old daughter who lives at home and is abusive toward me?
What can I do about my friend of 20 years who has abandonment issues and drains me emotionally?

As always you can send your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com or hit me up on social media @duffthepsych.

Episode 45: Can IQ change, Saving a marriage, Normal anxiety level Jan 18, 2017

Hello, friends! In this episode I take three new awesome questions. We cover the whole board from going heavy into some complicated terminology about neurobiology and testing all the way to hitting you with some hard truths about "saving" a relationship. Please consider sharing the show with the people in your life and on social media. You never know who might need to hear the answers to these questions. Here are the specific questions covered this episode:

Years ago, my IQ was estimated to be low. Can your IQ improve over time and should I be tested again?
How can I save my marriage with my wife who has mental illness and drinking issues?
What is a normal level of anxiety? When should you get help?

As always you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com or you can hit me up on twitter at http://twitter.com/duffthepsych

Episode 44: Hypnotherapy, Global Climate, Childhood Medication Jan 11, 2017

Alrighty, folks! Got another 3 questions to answer for you today. First off I wanted to say thanks for the recent influx of questions. I have many to choose from, which is awesome. Keep sending them in!

As a reminder, you can find info about my books at hardcoreselfhelp.com or by looking up hardcore self help on Amazon.

So here are the questions covered in this episode:

Should I take my friend up on an offer of hypnotherapy/NLP?
How can I manage my obsession over the news and fear of the current global climate?
Should I be worried about medicating my 8 year old child for serious psychiatric issues?

As always you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com or @duffthepsych on all social media.

Episode 43: Suicidal Thoughts, Agoraphobia, Relationship Paranoia Jan 04, 2017

Heavy hitting questions today. Love it! I'm a little sick in this episode, so please pardon any congestion etc. That said, there are some really good points in this episode, particularly in relation to the first question.

I dropped a couple links in the intro. Here they are: http://duffthepsych.com/dementia for my new book and http://duffthepsych.com/resources for all sorts of psych resources that I like.

Here are the questions covered in this episode:

How can I bring up suicidal thoughts to my doctor?
What can I do about my agoraphobia?
How can I stop being paranoid in my relationship?

As always please send me your questions (and share the show). You can reach me via email at duffthepsych@gmail.com or on twitter at http://twitter.com/duffthepsych

Episode 42: What to Expect from Medication, Money Anxiety, Motivating a Depressed Partner Dec 28, 2016

Hey everyone! Back with another question and answer episode after a nice little holiday. I am slightly scatter brained this episode because people kept ringing the door and interrupting me. Grrrrrrr! This episode has some great questions though, so I hope you find some useful bits of information here. This is what I cover:

What should I expect from medication for depression?
How can I address my anxiety about money?
How can I motivate my depressed spouse to clean the house?

If you have questions, please send them over to me at duffthepsych@gmail.com or on twitter at http://twitter.com/duffthepsych

Episode 41: Three Stolen Ideas Dec 21, 2016

In this episode I do something pretty different. Rather than take mental health questions, I present three ideas that I "stole" from people in fields OTHER than psychology. However, these are ideas that I think have great applications to life, emotions, and mental health. Two ideas are stolen from Tim Ferriss, who is the author of the 4 Hour book series and has an amazing podcast called the Tim Ferriss Show. The other idea is stolen from Chris Hardwick, who is the creator of the Nerdist network and a television host.

Here are the ideas I would like you to ponder:

Do I need to gain it the same way I lost it?
What would this look like if it were easy?
You can not reason someone out of a position that they did not reason themselves into.

Next week will most likely be another Q&A, so send your questions over to duffthepsych@gmail.com or hit me up on twitter at http://twitter.com/duffthepsych

Episode 40: Self-Care vs Laziness, Friend Jealousy, Mental Health at 17 Dec 14, 2016

This episode has some tough questions! I'm glad you aren't going easy on me. Keep them coming, please! Here is what I cover:

How can you tell the difference between self-care and just being lazy or avoiding?
What can I do when I am jealous of my friend making close relationships with other people?
What should I do, as a senior in high school, about my mental health issues?

Please continue to send me your awesome questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com or on twitter at http://twitter.com/duffthepsych

Episode 39: Anxiety and Physical Symptoms Dec 07, 2016

On this episode I do a deep dive into physical symptoms and cues that are related to anxiety. Often people feel a physical sensation and their brain misinterprets it for anxiety, which prompts those familiar feelings of panic. We talk all about that.

As a reminder, you can get a free audiobook on me by checking out http://audibletrial.com/duff and you can check out MY books over at http://hardcoreselfhelp.com

Next week is a Q and A episode, so please send me your questions at duffthepsych@gmail.com or http://twitter.com/duffthepsych

Episode 38: Asking Mom for Help, Therapist Abandoned Me, Chronic Pain Nov 30, 2016

Great variety of questions this week. I start the episode off by sharing some of my personal strategies for coping with stress and anxiety. Then it's straight into the questions. In one of the questions, I mention an earlier episode focusing on internet therapy, so here's the link for that: http://duffthepsych.com/episode10. Here are the questions I take:

How can I tell me Mom that I need help without her being disappointed in me?
What should I do now that my therapist abandoned me?
How do I get back to my old self when chronic illness has me depressed?

Please send me more questions! You can reach me via email at duffthepsych@gmail.com or on twitter at http://twitter.com/duffthepsych

Episode 37: Emotional Abuse, Word Finding, and Cutting Ties Nov 23, 2016

Thanks for your patience with my little break last week. I needed to allow myself to be human for a bit. Hopefully you enjoyed and made good use of the guided relaxation. This week it's back to the questions. I take some tough but important questions in this episode. Here's what we cover:

Is it possible for a relationship to survive emotional abuse?
Should I be worried about my word finding difficulties?
How do I feel better about cutting ties with my family?

As always you can send me your questions at duffthepsych@gmail.com or on twitter at http://twitter.com/duffthepsych

Episode 36: A Guided Muscle Relaxation Nov 16, 2016

Things have been weird over here in the states. I need a break from podcasting this week and I think we could all use a little relaxation. Whether this relaxation is to help you cope or to rejuvenate you to get back out there and keep at it... you deserve a few deep breaths. What I uploaded for you this week is a guided muscle relaxation. There is no intro or anything like that. I just dive straight into a walkthrough of how you can use your breath and muscle tension to put yourself into a deep state of relaxation. Enjoy and take good care of yourselves.

Episode 35: Brother with OCD, Social Anxiety in Therapy, and Stressful Job Nov 09, 2016

Thanks so much to those of you who recently left iTunes reviews. I really appreciate it. These are the three episodes that I took on this episode:

What can I do to help my brother with OCD?
What if social anxiety gets in the way of therapy?
How can I cope with my extremely stressful job?

I also mentioned some links in this episode...

Sorting Therapy: https://itunes.apple.com/us/app/sorting-therapy-sort-colors/id1123877452?mt=8

Teen Vogue Article: http://www.teenvogue.com/story/what-to-expect-at-first-therapy-session-counseling

Dissertation: http://duffthepsych.com/internettherapy

TalkSpace Episode: http://duffthepsych.com/episode10

As always you can send me your questions at duffthepsych@gmail.com or http://twitter.com/duffthepsych

Episode 34: How to Find a Therapist, Do You Need Pain to Change Behavior, Setting Boundaries with Parent Nov 02, 2016

Hello! A nice wide ranging set of questions this time. Don't be afraid to send in any questions that you have. There are no bad questions (within reason...)!

Here's what we cover in this episode:

How do you find a therapist who meets certain demographic specifications?
Is pain a necessary part of changing behavior?
Should you have firm boundaries with a parent?

As always you can send your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com or hit me up on twitter at http://twitter.com/duffthepsych

Episode 33: Self-Care With Alcoholic Partner, Chatty Therapist, Self-Improvement When Overwhelmed Oct 26, 2016

Another great episode full of your questions. We start off pretty heavy and then move to some lighter questions. I did record this in the middle of the day and my son started having a meltdown upstairs, so if you listen close you can hear some of him crying toward the end of the episode. Oops!

I would really appreciate it if you shared the show with your friends and/or wrote a review of the show on iTunes. THANKS!!

Here are the questions in this episode:

How can I care for myself and start to feel alive again with an alcoholic partner and an overwhelming life?
What should I do about a therapist that talks about himself too much?
How can I focus on self-improvement when I'm overwhelmed with school and work?

As always you can send me your questions big or small to duffthepsych@gmail.com http://twitter.com/duffthepsych or http://facebook.com/duffthepsych

Episode 32: All About ADHD Oct 19, 2016

You asked for it! Here's a deep dive episode all about Attention Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder. I briefly mention this, but I didn't give nearly enough emphasis to the fact that you can have the primarily inattentive type, the hyperactive/impulsive type, or the combined type. Oops!

In the episode, I mention my interview on the MyCoda podcast, which you can find here: http://www.mycoda.net/session-020/

You should also be checking me out on facebook http://facebook.com/duffthepsych

Next week is a Q&A, so send me your questions!! duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 31: Group vs 1 on 1 Therapy, Emotionally Open Parenting, Being Comfortable in Depression Oct 13, 2016

I'm back from a quick little vacation and ready to get back into the grind! This episode, I took three questions from the same person. Thought it would be an interesting thing to do and they sent in a nice variety of questions. Here's what is covered:

-Would group therapy or individual therapy be better for me?

-How can parents create an emotionally open environment for their kids?

-What do I do if I feel comfortable in my depression?

As always you can reach me through email at duffthepsych@gmail.com or on twitter at http://twitter.com/duffthepsych

Episode 30: Friend with Schizophrenia, Bipolar Ex, and Confronting Therapist Oct 05, 2016

I know I saw this every week, but we have some awesome questions today. I get the opportunity to give into some tough questions and hopefully provide a little insight into some of the more difficult mental health issues.

Don't forget to check out http://audibletrial.com/duff if you want a free audiobook.

Keep the awesome questions coming. Shoot me an email to duffthepsych@gmail.com or find me at http://twitter.com/duffthepsych or http://facebook.com/duffthepsych

Episode 29: Professional Talk All About Dementia Sep 28, 2016

In this episode, I do something a bit different. Earlier today (9/27/16) I gave a professional talk to a group of people about dementia. The point of my talk was to give them a thorough understanding of dementia in general and to describe some of the specific types that you might encounter. This episode is a little more straight forward and informational than my other shows, but if you are interested in sitting through a 1-hour crash course with me, I encourage you to have a listen!

If you have any additional questions, shoot me an email to duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 28: Voices, Emotional Abuse, and Breakup with Money Invovled Sep 21, 2016

Hello, friends! As always thank you for continuing to supply me with a wealth of super awesome, honest, and candid questions. Today is no exception. I cover three really great listener questions in depth. I need your feedback! What topics would you like me to cover in my future "deep dive" episodes?

Here are the questions for this episode:

Should I be worried about the critical voice in my head and what can I do about my crippling anxiety?
How can I get over a break up when there is money involved?
Does this count as emotional abuse? What should I do about it?

As always you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com or on twitter at http://twitter.com/duffthepsych

Episode 27: Male Anorexia, Imaginary Friends, and Dealing with Friends' Burdens Sep 14, 2016

I really enjoyed the variety of questions in this episode. Please keep sending me in such awesome questions because they keep the show fresh and interesting. This is your show too!

I share a little secret about the Audible Trial in this episode, so head by http://audibletrial.com/duff to put it to good use.

Here are the questions that I cover:

As a man, what can I do to better deal with my anorexic tendencies?
What should I do when I can't handle hearing the emotional burden from my friends because it drains me and gets me worked up?
Should I be worried about my 4-year-old's imaginary friends when there is a family history of schizophrenia?

As always you can reach me through email at duffthepsych@gmail.com or on twitter at http://twitter.com/duffthepsych

Episode 26: All About Sleep! Sep 07, 2016

This episode is a deep dive look into how you can suck less at sleeping. Sponsored this week by audible. Check out http://audibletrial.com/duff for a free month of audible and one free book.

Here are the cliffnotes of this episode:

Good habits related to sleep are called "Sleep Hygiene"
Most of it comes down to association and conditioning
You should have a consistent sleep routine
You should ONLY sleep in your bed vs working on the laptop, using your phone etc.
Get your phone out of the room
Wind down and go offline 30 min before bed
Avoid exercise, caffeine etc.

Keep sending me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com or on twitter at http://twitter.com/duffthepsych

Episode 25: Telling My Therapist About past Self-Harm, Getting Too Close, and Self-Destruction Through Relationships Aug 31, 2016

Super awesome and very brave questions today with some common themes between them. Thank you all so much for continuing to be active participants in this show. Not only are you doing something great for yourself by asking your questions, but you may be helping someone else with a similar concern. Here's what we cover in today's episode:

Will my therapist break confidentiality if I disclose information about past self-harm?
What should I do if my therapist feels TOO emotionally close to me?
Is my current relationship just another form of self-harm?

As always you can reach me on twitter at http://twitter.com/duffthepsych or via email at duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 24: Depersonalization, Toxic Friend, Knowing vs Believing Aug 24, 2016

Before I talk about the episode, get your buns over to http://duffthepsych.com/giveaway so that you can enter to win some awesome free stuff. Ending this week.

Anyway, this was another awesome possum question and answer episode. Super pleased with the variety of questions. Nice work and please keep them coming. Here is what we cover in this episode:

How do I cope with feeling detached from my body and experiences?
What should I do about a toxic friend?
What happens when you "know" for a fact that you are bad. Therapy can't help with that, right?

As always you can reach my on twitter at http://twitter.com/duffthepsych or email me duffthepsych@gmail.com.

Episode 23: Psychologist vs Psychiatrist etc. Aug 17, 2016

This is another deep dive episode where I focus on one topic and give you more in depth information than I typically do on the Q&A episodes. In this one, I talk all about the different terminology related to mental health treatment. I talk about the different terms for treatment itself such as therapy, psychotherapy, and counseling as well as the different people who provide services such as psychologists, psychiatrists, therapists, neurologists, and more.

Fair warning- this information is pretty USA based since some of the terminology varies, but I hope it is helpful nonetheless!

Next week will indeed be another Q&A episode, so keep sending your questions into me at duffthepsych@gmail.com or http://twitter.com/duffthepsych

Episode 22: Heather Gray on RE-Choosing a Happy Life Aug 10, 2016

On this episode, I talk with Heather Gray from ChooseToHaveItAll.com about how she has been able to overcome the very difficult speed bumps in her life by being brave and re-choosing to live a happy life. She is a super strong woman and I think that definitely comes through in the interview. We did experience a few little technical issues during the interview, but I tried my best to edit around them. Apologies if I missed anything.

Please check out Heather on twitter at http://twitter.com/HGrayLICSW and visit her website at http://www.choosetohaveitall.com/

Next week is another Q&A so make sure you are sending in your questions!

Episode 21: Anxiety vs Normal Teens, Dad with Body Issues, Feeling Guilty for Mental Health Aug 03, 2016

Another FANTASTIC grouping of questions today. This one is a little on the longer side, but I think there is a lot of valuable content to be had here. Above all I think that these questions were very BRAVE. Keep them coming!

Don't forget to check out the NEW AUDIOBOOK for F**k Depression at http://hardcoreselfhelp.com

Here are the questions that are covered in this episode:

Should I be concerned about my feelings of anxiety and depression or is this just normal for a 14 year old?
How can I help my husband be less hard on my daughter about her weight and diet?
Should I avoid going into the mental health profession due to my own issues?

Don't forget to send your questions in to http://twitter.com/duffthepsych or duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 20: Pokemon Go and Mental Health Jul 27, 2016

This was a fun one for me. In this episode, I do a "deep dive" into Pokemon Go and mental health. I talk about why the game is so effective and addicting as well as how that can be used in a very real way to combat mental health issues. I also address one particular way that it could cause distress for some. Please continue the conversation on twitter at http://twitter.com/duffthepsych and let me know your thoughts!

Episode 19: Do My Friends Care?, PTSD from Medical Treatment, and Is it Worth it to Try? Jul 20, 2016

This episode fought back! My computer crashed when I recorded it the first time and I lost everything. Oh well. No biggie. Re-recorded it for you here and I don't mind at all because the questions were so great! Here's what we cover:

-Why don't my friends notice when I don't show up?

-How can I help my patients who seem traumatized from their medical treatment?

-Is it worth it to keep trying when I'm so depressed?

As always you can send me your questions on twitter at http://twitter.com/duffthepsych or through email at duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 18: Avoiding Panic, Resilience, and Repressed Memories Jul 13, 2016

I'm not sick anymore! Yayyyy! This is another Q&A episode with some of my favorite questions yet. Don't forget to check the new merch at: http://duffthepsych.com

Here are the questions covered:

-Is it ever smart to just avoid situations that might trigger anxiety? -How can I help a teen with a rough upbringing? -Are my repressed memories of abuse real?

Don't forget to send me questions on twitter at http://twitter.com/duffthepsych or via email at duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 17: Audiobook Chapter from F**k Depression Jul 06, 2016

I'm sick! Therefore I am going to save my voice and skip the Q & A this week. Instead, I have a treat for you. This is a full chapter from my upcoming audiobook for Hardcore Self Help: F**k Depression. It is chapter 8 entitled Be Nice To The Future You. I talk all about setting yourself for success instead of self-sabotaging like usual.

Enjoy!

Please consider following me on twitter at http://twitter.com/duffthepsych or join my email list at http://www.duffthepsych.com/subscribe/ so you can be the first to know when the audiobook drops!

Episode 16: Anonymous on Overcoming Childhood Sexual Abuse and Self-Harm Jun 29, 2016

So this is interesting. I have my first Anonymous guest on the show. This person offered to come on and talk about their experiences with many different topics such as self-harm, childhood sexual abuse, and learning to take chances with the support of ongoing psychotherapy. She also generously offered to take follow up questions through email at ba04700@gmail.com. Feel free to shoot her a message to say thanks for sharing her story!

Next week will be another Q&A episode, so send me your questions on twitter at http://twitter.com/duffthepsych or through email at duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 15: Binge Eating, Panic Attacks, and Firing Therapy Clients Jun 22, 2016

Welcome to another question and answer episode. Some really fantastic questions this time around. Thank you so much for sending them in. I also give a little update about my next audiobook! Here's what is covered in this episode:

-How to deal with binge eating as a man

-How to reduce panic attacks

-How to "fire" a therapy client

As always, you can reach me on twitter at http://twitter.com/duffthepsych or email me at duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 14: Andrea on Overcoming Self-Harm Jun 15, 2016

This week is another fantastic interview. I got the chance to sit and talk with a friend of mine, Andrea Gustafson, about her experiences with self-harm. More specifically, we talk about non-suicidal cutting, which means slicing yourself with a razor while NOT intending to kill yourself. It was super brave of Andrea to put herself out there and be honest in this episode, so please consider dropping her a line over on twitter at http://twitter.com/ajgus83 to say thank you!

Next week will be another Q & A episode, so as always send your questions to me on twitter http://twitter.com/duffthepsych or through email duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 13: Daughter with Anxiety, Sex Addiction, and Therapy Terminology Jun 08, 2016

First off - super sorry about the technical glitches this past week. Had to switch to a new webhost because my old one (rhymes with shmost shmator) was being incredibly unhelpful in getting my site back up. That said, we should be in the clear now!

This is a Q&A episode. You all send in some fantastic questions this week and I am super excited to share them. Here's what I cover in this episode:

-How can I help my daughter who seems to have anxiety like mine?

-Do I have sexual addiction or is my conservative background blowing things out of proportion?

-How do you deal with differing terminology in therapy?

As always, you can reach my on twitter at http://twitter.com/duffthepsych or through email at duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 12: Angel Giuffria - Amputee, Actress, Bionic Badass Jun 01, 2016

This week I interview the lovely, talented, and down to earth Angel Giuffria. Angel is a congenital amputee who is missing a large portion of her left arm. She has used prosthetics all throughout her life and currently uses a bionic arm, which allows her to grip and rotate her hand. We cover all sorts of interesting topics, so please enjoy our wide-ranging interview.

Currently Angel is keeping quite busy by working as an actress, informing the masses through public speaking, and grinding out the rest of her graduate school program. Find more of Angel on twitter at https://twitter.com/aannggeellll or on her imdb page at http://www.imdb.com/name/nm6262260/?ref_=nmmd_md_nm

Episode 11: Impostor Syndrome, Codependency, and Upset Stomach May 25, 2016

I really liked the questions in this episode. Quite a variety here. Please forgive my more subdued voice - I had a long day full of talking. Anyway, here are the questions that I cover:

1 - How to overcome the impostor syndrome (feeling like you are a fraud).

2 - How to have good relationships when you have intense, codependent tendencies.

3 - What you can do about upset stomach with anxiety.

As always you can send your questions to http://twitter.com/duffthepsych or email duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 10: Shannon McFarlin on Talkspace and Internet Therapy May 18, 2016

This is a super interesting interview! I got a chance to speak to Shannon McFarlin who is a therapist from Talkspace. Talkspace is one of the biggest platforms for internet-based psychotherapy for an affordable price. I do private online therapy, but I was not familiar with larger platforms like Talkspace, so this was totally enlightening for me. I walked away with a very positive impression.

If you or a loved one is thinking about trying out online therapy, check out http://talkspace.com and be sure to visit Shannon and say thank you over at http://shannonmcfarlin.com.

Episode 9: Touch in Therapy, Bringing up Baggage, and Changing Therapists May 11, 2016

Got another episode full of very thought provoking listener questions for you today. If you would like to add any thoughts to my answers, tweet me @duffthepsych and I will retweet you! The questions in this episode are:

1. Is it okay to hug your therapist?

2. When should I bring up my bumpy relationship history with my new partner?

3. Should I change therapists?

As always you can send me questions on twitter at http://twitter.com/duffthepsych or you can email me at duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 8: Lindsay Istace on Rage Yoga and Being Zen as F**k May 04, 2016

In this episode, I interview Lindsay Istace who is the creator or Rage Yoga (http://rageyoga.com). You have probably heard of Rage Yoga already since it blew up on the news and social media. It is an alternative approach to yoga that strips away the BS and encourages you to release your inner tension through the use of a few choice expletives and "fist unicorn" additions to your normal yoga poses. This was a really insightful interview and I hope that you enjoy it as much as I did.

Please take a minute to check out all things rage yoga:

http://rageyoga.com

http://twitter.com/rageyoga

https://www.facebook.com/rageyoga

As a reminder, you can always reach me with feedback or questions at http://twitter.com/duffthepsych or duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 7: Spouse with Depression, Breaking Down Walls, and Getting Over a Breakup Apr 27, 2016

In this episode, I answer three super awesome questions that all have to do with different aspects of relationships.

1- How to cope with a severely depressed spouse when you are prone to depression and anxiety yourself.

2- How to break down the walls that prevent you from truly connecting with other people.

3- How to "get over" the loss of a relationship.

As always, you can reach my at http://twitter.com/duffthepsych or via email at duffthepsych@gmail.com

Episode 6: Mike Billstrom on Unexpected Mentors, Overcoming Adversity, and Becoming Obsessed with Self-Improvement Apr 20, 2016

This episode features a great interview with a new friend, Mike Billstrom from http://theartofgrowth.com. Mike talks about how he had to grow up very quickly to overcome an extremely turbulent upbringing. He found himself in the throes of depression, anxiety, and terrible self-esteem. That is until he found inspiration in the most unlikely of places...

Episode 5: Social Anxiety, Recovering from Sexual Abuse, and Migraine Hallucinations Apr 13, 2016

Another awesome episode full of listener questions. Don't forget to send in your questions to me on twitter (http://twitter.com/duffthepsych) or via email (duffthepsych@gmail.com). In this episode, I cover these really interesting questions:

1- What can I do about my social anxiety when I have to interact with important people?

2- Is there hope for me in recovering from my sexual abuse?

3- Should I worry about hallucinations that come along with my migraines?

Episode 4: Ryan on Male Depression, Body Image, and Gaming Apr 06, 2016

This is an awesome episode. I welcome my very first guest, Ryan, to the show. He is a buddy of mine from college and we talk about his experiences with depression. I am really happy with this interview because Ryan was so willing to talk candidly and openly about things that just don't seem to be talked about enough in every day life. He has an awesome personal blog and I reference a particular post that he wrote about depression, which you can find here: https://trecenti.wordpress.com/2016/03/18/depression/

As always, you can send me your questions, thoughts, feedback, suggestions etc. via twitter at http://twitter.com/duffthepsych or email them to me at duffthepsych@gmail.com

Check out my books at http://hardcoreselfhelp.com and shoot me an email if you can't afford them for any reason (you don't need to tell me why).

Episode 3: Anxiety Awareness, Panic Attacks, and Pets Mar 30, 2016

In this episode I ask you for your reviews and take some wonderful listener questions. You can send your questions to http://twitter.com/duffthepsych or email them to duffthepsych@gmail.com.

First question: What if I am too aware of my anxiety?

Second question: How to deal with panic attacks aside from medication?

Third question: Are pets actually beneficial to your mental health?

As always, check out my books at http://hardcoreselfhelp.com

Episode 2: Anger, Low Cost Resources, and Cigarettes Mar 23, 2016

In this episode, I make a few short announcements and then take a fewawesome questions from listeners. You can send your questions tohttp://twitter.com/duffthepsych or email them toduffthepsych@gmail.com.First question: How to avoid explosive anger like my dad?Second question: How can I find services without insurance?Third question: Can quitting cigarettes lead to depression?As always, check out my books at http://hardcoreselfhelp.com

The Hardcore Self Help Podcast Episode 1 Mar 17, 2016

In this episode I introduce you to the new podcast and take two Twitter questions and one Reddit question. You can find me on twitter at http://twitter.com/duffthepsych.

First question: Is seven medications for anxiety and depression just crazy?

Second question: What's the point of getting extensive testing for dementia?

Third question: How to help a family member who has slid back into depression?

As always, check out my books at http://hardcoreselfhelp.com

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