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There is probably a spectrum of traumatizability. Some people, for reasons that span psychology, biology, spirituality, and beyond, just don't deeply internalize damage the way the world expects them to.
I share something I have carried for nearly 20 years: a vague sense that a sexual violation happened to me when I was young, which became as close to confirmation as I will probably ever get during a meditation retreat in India on my honeymoon. And my most honest report is that it didn't hurt that much.
I share the concept of traumatizability, which I have held in my pocket for five years, the geometry of the soul and what I mean by symmetry and structural integrity, how the experience did affect me in ways I didn't expect, and why I no longer want to wear "I'm not traumatizable" as armor.
We close on what this might mean for you: where do you find yourself on the spectrum of traumatizability, what factors might contribute to that, and is there something you have been wearing as armor that is actually asking to be held with a little more humility and reverence.
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The central question: is violent self-murder ever necessary, or is it actually the part of us refusing to consent to a death that's already trying to happen?
I share what came up for me sitting with that question, starting with a week of post-dental agony that led me to something I want you to feel more than understand: all you are is space, and what we are looking for in every choice we make is the non-refusal of space.
That space is filled with what I call the three-blade ceiling fan: creation, maintenance, and destruction, spinning so fast you cannot distinguish them. When creation slows and maintenance takes over, destruction comes in. The question is whether we consent to it or fight it.
My hope is that you walk away with a felt sense of the intelligence that's already at work in you, and the understanding that you probably don't have to learn how to destroy the versions of yourself that need to go. You just have to learn how to stop refusing the destruction that's already underway.
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If you’d like to continue this conversation with me live, join us this Friday in The Membership.
In the first seven months of my relationship with Julia, I was jealous. Not hyper controlling, but a silent suffering that verged on obsessive compulsiveness. I was beginning and ending my days with anguish, rage, despair, blame, and frustration.
I share the full arc of that experience, what triggered it, what it revealed in me, why none of the tools I tried worked, and how Julia's extraordinary capacity for dignified connection, what I call the Roger Federer of relationship form, was so foreign to my pattern of closing off that it destabilized me.
I also share how the transformation happened, not through a specific practice, but through living in alignment and letting the distortion, like a wonky wheel, smooth itself out in the container of a committed relationship.
We close on what this journey has made possible: a genuine desire to connect with her ex, and a relationship that is a multiplier of her liberation and mine.
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Welcome to The Flynn Skidmore Podcast.
I'm Flynn, and this podcast is for learning to light your soul on fire and become exactly who you want to be.
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In today's episode, I speak with holistic psychologist, educator and author, Dr. Scott Lyons. Scott is a world-class body-based trauma expert, helping people break free from cycles of pain, limiting beliefs, and trauma.
In this conversation, we explore cyclical thoughts, shame and its effects, positive and toxic shame, self-actualization, social isolation and loneliness, and what it means to have an internal experience.
We also discuss detecting repressed shame and manipulation, resonance and emotional contagion, supporting each other in the journey toward self-actualization, and creating a world that supports everyone's access to love and joy.
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In this episode, I explore the often-overlooked fear of joy and the profound impact it has on our lives. Through a powerful client story and reflections on my personal journey, I uncover the ways early life experiences teach us to repress joy as a survival strategy. Together, we examine how these patterns shape our personality, relationships, and creative potential, often keeping us disconnected from our truest selves.
Through the lens of amplifying joy as a bonding energy, we delve into the transformative power of embracing your full self-expression. This conversation is an invitation to reflect on the ways you’ve been conditioned to dim your joy and to rediscover it as a source of connection, nourishment, and creation. Whether you’re yearning for deeper relationships, creative freedom, or a life guided by authenticity, this episode offers a compassionate and practical roadmap to reclaim the joy you were always meant to embody.
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In this episode, I delve into the journey of navigating darkness and discovering the beauty that emerges when we embrace our contradictions. I share my personal experience of living out of alignment with my true self, the pain of hiding behind masks, and the profound transformation that comes from aligning your external reality with your internal truth.
Through the lens of congruence—where your inner essence and outer life harmonize—we explore the creative potential unlocked by authenticity and transparency. This conversation is an invitation to tenderly hold all parts of yourself, reflect on your own relationship with darkness and beauty, and create from a space of deep truth.
Whether you’re yearning for deeper connection, fuller self-expression, or a sense of relief from the weight of pretense, this episode offers a gentle guide to living a more honest, expansive, and fulfilling life.
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In this episode, I guide you through a powerful meditation designed to help your desires feel safe to grow and flourish. I’ll help you create a space where you can explore what you truly want, hold space for the fears that may arise, and transform them with warmth and tenderness. This practice allows you to connect with your desires, understand their potential, and create an environment where they can thrive.
This meditation is an invitation to expand your capacity to hold both your dreams and the fears that accompany them. By cultivating “smiling energy” throughout your body and extending it to your desires and fears, you’ll learn how to create safety within yourself, unlocking greater potential for growth and fulfillment in your life.
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In this episode, I share my thoughts on why material wealth alone doesn’t create a truly fulfilling life. I talk about the epidemic of isolation in our culture and how many of us, myself included, have sacrificed genuine connection in the pursuit of success. I explore what’s at the core of this need for “life force” and how nurturing friendships with shared aspirations can shift our experience, bringing us closer to true abundance.
I also open up about my own journey through loneliness, my struggle to find fulfilling friendships, and the shifts I made to build intentional, meaningful connections. My hope is to inspire you to look at your own relationships and consider how building a life full of nourishing, reciprocal friendships could lead to a richer, more vibrant existence.
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In this episode, we explore the journey of becoming someone who genuinely inspires yourself. I share my personal transformation from relying on fear-based motivation to cultivating a life of true self-inspiration, highlighting both the struggles and revelations along the way.
We dive into:
Through practical insights and reflective musings, we navigate the balance between ego-driven goals and actions motivated by love. I challenge hierarchical thinking in personal development, introducing a horizontal approach where love and fear coexist without judgment.
This episode encourages you to move from seeking external validation to finding internal alignment. By viewing mistakes as growth opportunities and detaching from specific outcomes, you can build a life that not only fulfills and inspires you but also contributes to the collective awakening of our shared world.
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