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Orgasm, Inspiration & Income In Midlife…PERIOD! Oct 27, 2022

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EP 62: In midlife, if it doesn't bring you orgasm, inspiration or income it does not belong in your life, Boo! Cut that out…PERIOD!

Join me, Dr. Sarah Milken, in an open and honest conversation called, "Orgasm, Inspiration & Income In Midlife…PERIOD!" My guest, Joey Zauzig, is a digital entrepreneur, viral video creator and motivational speaker. Joey is an Instagram phenomenon, Tik Tok superstar and if he isn't already, your new BFF, he will be after this episode! Do you know that "good juju" energy you feel when you see or meet someone with uplifting vibrational energy…well that is exactly what I felt when I came across Joey and watched his inspirational videos. Joey is here to chat about building self-love and so much more. He says the real "plot twist" in life is building confidence by practicing self-responsibility and taking action. He talks about taking those steps to getting to having a life that you want to get out of bed for…He is helping us block out the haters by "choosing us" no matter what negative energy is thrown our way. You only get one midlife, so live it the way you want…PERIOD!

Some Highlights:

Self-love & confidence go hand in hand
Take that break
How to practice gratitude
Stay in your lane, ignore the haters
Everything is an energy exchange
Self-responsibility, mental & physical action steps

Looking forward to connecting with you! Here are some ways to connect with me!

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Midlife Vintage VJ's…Five Experts Oct 13, 2022

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EP 61: Are you a midlife woman experiencing the ebbs and flows of perimenopause and menopause? The midlife vintage vagina issues are real…dryness, pain, lower sex drive, no orgasm…and, the list goes on…so many VJ issues related to menopause…"It hurts, I am not in the mood. Omg! Are you back for more?" Do you want to hear explanations and solutions to the everyday midlife vintage VJ issues? It's a review of the five best VJ Gyno expert guests that I have had on the podcast with me chiming in per usual. It is like the "cliff notes" golden nugget summary version of midlife VJ and sex drive solutions. It's on! Take that walk or run your errands while you listen to this one.

Join me, Dr. Sarah Milken, in an open and honest conversation called, "Midlife Vintage VJ's…Five Experts". This episode marks the two year anniversary of The Flexible Neurotic Podcast! Throughout these past two years I have learned so much from my fabulous guests that I thought the best way to celebrate would be to go back and revisit some of my favorite conversations. It also happens to be Menopause Awareness Month, so, this episode will be all about menopause and the midlife VJ…I mean c'mon it was meant to be! Listen to hear the juiciest menopausal midlife VJ and libido tips and tricks from my five expert guests. The golden nuggets are dripping! It's time to give some much deserved attention to the "Midlife Vintage VJ".

Some Highlights:

Society's view on "the change"
How to identify the start of menopause
The difference between perimenopause & menopause
How to decrease pain & increase pleasure
The importance of knowing your body inside & out
Don't settle for "this is just menopause, your new normal"
Understanding the anatomy of the vagina
The benefits of coconut oil
The "out of service" clitoris
Understanding & igniting midlife desire
The benefits of novel stimulation with your partner
Getting to the bottom of the "orgasm gap"
How lube & vibrators can make a big difference in the bedroom

Looking forward to connecting with you! Here are some ways to connect with me!

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Midlife Mountain: Fun Midlife Sh*t Quickie Minisode Sep 29, 2022

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EP 60: Does midlife sometimes feel like a giant fckn' mountain with varying terrain, no water, no sweatband? Then that same mountain, the next day is easy peasy, you could hike in 15 minutes without sweating? This is "Midlife Mountain". You never know what to expect from day to day. There are huge challenges, the never ending hamster wheel of boredom, potentially some annoying teens (but you are savoring cause they will be out of the nest soon), and never ending "to do" lists, while you are sweating in unexpected places. "Midlife Mountain" is a metaphor for all the physical and psychological changes in midlife, or what sometimes feels like a slippery slope! Wanna feel and know that you aren't the only one feeling like you are in a dungeon or on top of the sky, then listen here for the mountain weather conditions and tips for all the terrain ahead.

This minisode is part of the Fun Midlife Sh*t Quickie Minisode Series. This new minisode series is highlighting resonating & edgy midlife sh*t from my IG, solos, and short pop in guests on stuff we are all thinking about, but maybe too embarrassed to ask…and, of course, more random stream of consciousness rants with loads of sarcasm, relatable humor mixed with expert info. Why would you skip?

Some Highlights:

The 3 terrains on the "Midlife Mountain"...what path are you on?
Midlife is filled with hurdles & challenges you can overcome!
Some days are rocky & moody and some are smooth & creative
What are you willing to work on & what lessons are you willing to learn?
It's not just about the finish, the journey is just as important
Let yourself explore in midlife, mentally, physically & emotionally

Looking forward to connecting with you! Here are some ways to connect with me!

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"Everyday Midlife" with Bobbi Brown Sep 15, 2022

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EP 59: Are you a midlife woman looking for some secrets & answers just like me? You want answers on how to live your best "everyday midlife" and how to find your next thing in the second half of life. And, some pro makeup tips, products and ideas on how to take care of your skin, create definition and look natural all at the same time. You want to hear from someone who has successfully done it and continues to inspire women each day? Then listen here!

Join me, Dr. Sarah Milken, in an open and honest conversation called, "Everyday Midlife" with Bobbi Brown. We discuss her entrepreneurial highlights by founding Bobbi Brown Cosmetics and, more recently, Jones Road Beauty. We dive into multiple makeup tips and products that are essential in midlife…hydration, contour, color…Yes, Bobbi is THE makeup guru! We chat about Bobbi's everyday life, such as how she maintains a great marriage, how she learned how to stop comparing herself to others & finding her own beauty and her philosophies on exercise & nutrition. Yes, Bobbi is not only a successful entrepreneur, but she is also on her own midlife journey just like us…even for her it's not always glamorous. She's doing the "work", just like us. Listen to find out how Bobbi navigates business, family and midlife, and she tells us her fave bread, snacks, workout plan…all the things.

Some Highlights:

Bobbi's favorite part about getting older
A good life is filled with hard work
An attitude adjustment can help in difficult situations
Stop comparing yourself to others, you are your own type of beautiful
Learning as you go, being scared and doing it anyway
How to create healthy midlife marriage energy
Exercise because it feels good for YOU!

Looking forward to connecting with you! Here are some ways to connect with me!

THE FLEXIBLE NEUROTIC SHOW NOTES: https://www.theflexibleneurotic.com/episodes/59

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THE FLEXIBLE NEUROTIC EMAIL: sarah@theflexibleneurotic.com

Midlife Brain Yard Sale: Fun Midlife Sh*t Quickie Minisode Sep 01, 2022

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EP 58: Midlife couple's 50 Shades of Gray with my teenagers away (a month) this summer, NOT quite! No underboob sweat in summer, NOT quite! "Me time bliss" with my husband having a colonoscopy, NOT quite. While summer had "joy points", it also had some doozies… I am selling off the last midlife brain summer "f*cks" I have left. Are you ready to sell off your last "f*cks"?...then listen to my end of summer random stream of consciousness rant!

This week, I use my golden sh*t shovel to dig deep into the eventful summer I've had in a minisode called, "Midlife Brain Yard Sale". This summer feels like it has been a chaotic and underboob sweat-filled hot mess and I'm ready to lay it all out. This summer has drained me, but when I find myself in the midlife brain fog/cluster, I remember the things that get me excited & creative to keep going on this midlife journey; this podcast & IG, my friends, online shopping and "light" exercise, so I don't need to wash my hair. Peeps, it's the end of summer and I'm selling all the rest of the "f*cks" I have left…and for pretty cheap too lol! What does your midlife brain yard sale consist of?

Some Highlights:

How new school years feel like the new year
My new school year resolutions
One month of empty nest gone wrong
Hand fans are a lifesaver!
Random sickness puts damper on alone time with husband
Instagram husband's colonoscopy
Empty nest feelings already starting, one year countdown to kid number 1

Looking forward to connecting with you! Here are some ways to connect with me!

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Muffin Tops & "Good Enough": Fun Midlife Sh*t Quickie Minisode Aug 18, 2022

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EP 57: Are you feeling the midlife muffin top? Do you want to manage it, but don't want to get sucked into diet fads? Do you know about the "shimmy & squat" technique for "tucking in your muffin top"? Are you feeling overwhelmed by crazy workouts? It's time to find your "good enough" in midlife!

This week, I use my golden sh*t shovel to dig deep into body weight, body image and muffin top "growth & management" in midlife, in a minisode called, Muffin Tops & "Good Enough". I talk about what I call the "good enough" philosophy and how it is not about accepting mediocrity, but giving yourself reasonable goals. We don't have to become super skinny or eat healthy 24/7…but we do have to take accountability in the lifestyles we choose, while enjoying life. What are you willing to put more work into or cut back on? Some of us will pick eating cleaner, some of us will pick more exercise, while some might not do either. It's all about finding balance peeps! What is your "good enough" in midlife? What does your "good enough" look like & feel like?

Some Highlights:

What is your "good enough"?
You know your limits, don't push them because of societal norms
Finding balance without going overboard
Create a workout that is fun for you
Stretchy jeans are a lifesaver!
Do what soothes your soul
Self obsession is allowed in midlife

Looking forward to connecting with you! Here are some ways to connect with me!

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Under The Midlife Hood Aug 04, 2022

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EP 56: Um…Do you ever feel like your midlife "check engine" light is on? Your VJ, all its parts & your libido are in need of a tune up? Do you experience pain or discomfort during sex? Do you dread it? Are you an empty nester with more free time for pleasure (lol), but perimenopause or menopause is making it difficult? Your spouse thinks maybe you should take up pole dancing and you just want to crawl into bed with your ugly pj's on? Do you feel you can't reach the same satisfaction you did before midlife? Don't give up!

Join me, Dr. Sarah Milken, in an open and honest conversation called, "Under The Midlife Hood." My guest, Dr. Jill Krapf, is a Board-Certified OB/GYN who specializes in female sexual pain, including vulvodynia, overactive pelvic floor muscle dysfunction and vulvar lichen sclerosus. We discuss understanding vaginal pain and learning that it does not have to become our new normal. Jill teaches us not to settle for less when it comes to comfort and pleasure in midlife sexual and vaginal health. Jill also explains the importance of knowing our bodies, doing our research on vaginal products and finding a specialist if your needs are not met by your regular gynecologist. There are vulvar specialists just like her, if you can't make it to Washington D.C. Midlife is a time where we should focus on our health & happiness…and that includes in the bedroom! Use it or lose it baby!

Some Highlights:

How to decrease pain & increase pleasure
Pain & discomfort are not your new normal
The importance of knowing your body inside & out
Picking products carefully
Do not "just deal with it" in midlife
Help is out there, try a specialist!

Looking forward to connecting with you! Here are some ways to connect with me!

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THE FLEXIBLE NEUROTIC EMAIL: sarah@theflexibleneurotic.com

Never Carry-On Luggage In Midlife: Fun Midlife Sh*t Quickie Minisode Jul 21, 2022

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EP 55: When you are traveling do you ever feel like you're constantly missing something? Do you get told you overpack? Have you ever had a family trip go completely haywire? Missing luggage, sicknesses, no toilet paper? And, if you haven't, let me tell you how to avoid all of this. This minisode is quite the laugh!

This week, I use my golden sh*t shovel to dig deep into the origins of my travel medicine bag in a minisode called, "Never Carry-On Luggage In Midlife". I've recently been posting my medicine bag on my IG and I have been getting so many comments on it! So, I thought I'd share with you the reason behind the medicine bag and why it has become THE essential travel item. I talk about the Kenya community service trip I took with my family, the chaotic events that occurred and why it sparked the medicine bag. I also explain why, as a midlifer, I NEVER just have carry-on luggage. Remember, it's not over packing if you need all of it…

Some Highlights:

Always pack a medicine bag
Don't accept judgment for your packing choices
Pack for all possible outcomes
Don't cut your connecting flights too close
Extra tissues and socks are lifesavers!
Don't let others give you their limits

Looking forward to connecting with you! Here are some ways to connect with me!

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Creating Light In Midlife Darkness Jul 07, 2022

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EP 54: Are you or a loved one currently going through a midlife "sickness" diagnosis or the weight of the mental and physical changes of menopause? Then this episode might be able to help shed some light on a sometimes seemingly dark path.

Join me, Dr. Sarah Milken, in an open and honest conversation called, "Creating Light In Midlife Darkness." My guest, Jen Delvaux, is a podcaster, author, health & fitness coach and cancer "thriver" and we discuss taking cancer by the horns, learning and growing from it. In this episode, we learn about Jen and her husband's journey with their individual cancer diagnoses. Turning the "storm" into "silver lining" life moments & changes. Jen walks us through the changes she has had to make in her everyday life for recurring cancer prevention & midlife health. We also go deep into the difficult and meaningful conversations with her husband regarding the end of life, and her changed mindset all due to their diagnoses.

Some Highlights:

There is more than just medicine
How to confront a loved one or friend who has been diagnosed with cancer
Meaningful marriage cancer conversations
You have to figure out who you are after your diagnosis
Enjoy the little things in life, don't focus on the negative
Fear is its own form of cancer
It's all about the mindset

Looking forward to connecting with you! Here are some ways to connect with me!

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Evolving Your Inner Midlife Hamster: Fun Midlife Sh*t Quickie Minisode Jun 23, 2022

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EP 53: The midlife hamster wheel keeps spinning! Why can't I get off? We hate it, but stay on it anyway. WHY WHY WHY? Do you feel like you are just constantly spinning in a circle, doing the same sh*t over and over? Do you keep making promises to yourself to start new habits, drink more water, exercise more, eat more nutritious food, maybe more sex? Lol. The familiar Groundhog Day/hamster lifestyle is so much easier because it's on routine, requires no thought, risks or new pushes of effort. But, it also tastes like stale bread and moldy cheese.

This week, I use my golden sh*t shovel to dig deep into how to spark change in midlife by working on your inner midlife hamster, in my new minisode, "Evolving Your Inner Midlife Hamster". I discuss how to jump off of the midlife hamster wheel, stop repeating and start evolving to start midlife remixing! This is not overnight. It is a process of asking yourself specific questions to get in the right mindset and little behavioral tweaks to create habits. In this minisode, I give advice from a couple experts who I follow and my own personal experiences. I explain small steps we can make each day to help us get to where we want to be. If you are looking to make a change in your midlife, then maybe this minisode can be your first step off the hamster wheel. I have some real life examples of simple sh*t you can do. If I can do it, believe me, you can.

Some Highlights: