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The Feminist Dating Show

How do I find the right relationship when dating apps suck? How can I find better dates? How can I deal with that nagging anxiety that no one is out there for me? How can I navigate dating with more confidence and find that right relationship?

Welcome to The Feminist Dating Show, where we’ll answer ALL of these questions and so much more. Week after week, host, former top matchmaker and dating coach, Lily Womble brings you all the tools, strategies and coaching you need to build a clear path to the best relationship of your life.

After matching hundreds, Lily realized that with training, women can match themselves better than anyone else ever could. Now she helps thousands of women around the world build fulfilling, joyful and successful dating lives on their own terms. She’s here to help you do the same.

If you’re looking for unconventional, feminist leaning dating advice that works, this podcast is for you.

Along with her best kept secrets, Lily will share interviews with experts and live coaching sessions, so you can feel seen, heard and inspired.

Latest Episodes:

271. Why now is the BEST time to date May 19, 2026

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This episode gets into why now is the best time to powerfully date — and why how you show up in your dating life is already changing the rest of your life, whether you realize it or not.

Inside this episode:

Your brain fears rejection the same way it fears death. That's not a dramatic spiral. It's neurobiology, and understanding it changes how much you let fear stop you.
Women are socialized not to want things. Wanting a relationship, for your own pleasure and heart, is already a radical act.
The way you do one thing is the way you do everything. Playing small in your dating life is costing you at work, in your friendships, and in how much of your actual life you claim.
Powerfully dating isn't grinding through the apps until you're numb. It's owning what you want, knowing your value, and showing up with a strategy.

Work with Lily:

🔥 Join my free live training, Attract the Right Partner, Zero Experience Needed

📖 Get the book, Thank You, More Please

✨ Download my free Essence-Based Preferences Creation Guide

💜 Follow me on Instagram

💜 Follow me on TikTok

💜 Follow me on YouTube

270. How to Meet People IRL (Even If You're Shy, Anxious, or Starting from Zero) May 12, 2026

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If you want to meet someone IRL, but the "how" feels like a total mystery.... This episode tells you exactly why it hasn't happened yet and what to do about it. Inside episode 270:

→ The two things that determine whether you meet people IRL: proximity to opportunity and courageous behavior in the face of it

→ What joy building is and why it works

→What shooting your shot looks like when you're shy, anxious, or starting from zero

→ The self-assessment and action steps to take this week

Work with Lily:

💎 Join my free live training on June 9th 2026, Attract the Right Partner, Zero Experience Needed

→ Get the book, Thank You, More Please

→ Download my free Essence-Based Preferences Creation Guide

→ Follow me on Instagram

→ Follow me on TikTok

→ Follow me on YouTube

Episode Spotlight: How to believe the best-case scenario in your dating life May 05, 2026

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You already know what the worst case scenario looks like. Your brain has mapped it out in extraordinary detail (in its attempt to keep you safe from rejection and vulnerability).

This episode is about what happens when you let the best case scenario take up some of that space too.

In this episode, Lily walks you through a best case scenario practice designed to open your brain up to possibility to getting exactly what you want-- without forcing you to believe anything you're not ready to believe yet.

Inside this episode:

Why your brain defaults to worst case scenario thinking and why that habit is not a character flaw
The difference between believing something 100% and simply making room for it. You don't have to be fully convinced for it to happen
The plan that actually works to believe the best case scenario: "it might not be impossible that..."
What your best case scenario sounds like when you say it out loud

💎 Get the book, Thank You, More Please: https://datebrazen.com/book

💎 Learn more about our high touch group program, Main Character Dating, : https://datebrazen.com/dating

💎 Download my free Essence-Based Preferences Creation Guide: https://datebrazen.com/workbook

💎 Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/datebrazen/

💎 Follow me on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@datebrazen

💎 Follow me on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DateBrazen

Episode Spotlight: What to Do at 1am When Your Brain Asks "Will I Die Alone?" Apr 28, 2026

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In this episode, Lily unpacks the fear, "Will I just die alone", that showed up dozens of times in her Instagram DMs, and walks you through what to actually do with it.

Inside this episode:

Why this fear feels too shameful to say out loud, and why that shame is exactly the reason you need to say it
The seesaw dynamic keeping you stuck between hope and hopelessness, and how to step off it for good
What "dress rehearsing tragedy" is and why your brain does it to protect you
The question to ask yourself instead of "will I die alone?" that gives your brain somewhere useful to go
The 1am reframe that will help you actually release dating worry

Work With Lily:

Get the book, Thank You, More Please: https://datebrazen.com/book

Join the Main Character Dating waitlist: https://datebrazen.com/dating

Download my free Essence-Based Preferences Creation Guide: https://datebrazen.com/workbook

Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/datebrazen/

Follow me on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@datebrazen

Follow me on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DateBrazen

Episode Spotlight: How to Flirt with Zero Experience Apr 21, 2026

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If you want to walk into a coffee shop, a bookstore, or a comic book store this summer and actually know how to say hi to someone you find cute, this episode gives you a step-by-step flirting framework you can use the next time you leave your house. Flirting is a buildable skill — not a secret language, not a personality trait. Here is the exact process.

Step one: how to open a conversation with a question or a complimentary comment, and the body language signals that tell you in the first 30 seconds whether to keep going or move on
Step two: what co-creation looks like in a conversation, so you can tell if they are actually into you without overthinking every word
Step three: the one low-stakes question that turns a fun conversation into a potential date ("random question, are you single?") and exactly how to respond to every answer you might get
The difference between a co-created date plan and a "muscling" date where you do all the work — and why the muscling version is a signal, not a relationship
The "winking run" — the practice one client used to build rejection resilience 10 seconds at a time

Work with Lily:

📖 Get the book, Thank You, More Please: https://datebrazen.com/book

🌟 Join the Main Character Dating waitlist: https://datebrazen.com/dating

✨ Download my free Essence-Based Preferences Creation Guide: https://datebrazen.com/workbook

Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/datebrazen/

Follow me on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@datebrazen

▶️ Follow me on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DateBrazen

Episode Spotlight: How to Start Dating When You Have Zero Experience Apr 14, 2026

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If you have zero dating experience and you want to find the right partner, this episode gives you six tools for late bloomers to start dating successfully. From zero experience to finding the right partner, without the patriarchal nonsense or the spiral.

Step one is dropping the shame — and the actual skill that makes that possible (hint: it's not positive thinking, and it's not logic)
Step two is figuring out what you want, even if you've never been in a relationship. You have more information than you think.
Step three is the one or two questions that tell you almost immediately whether someone is worth your time
Step four is a dating app strategy that won't drain you: one app, 20 minutes a day, no notifications, and you stay the CEO
Step five is IRL dating — including the version that costs nothing and starts this week
Step six is the habit that most people skip, and that's the reason they stay stuck

Work with Lily:

📖 Get the book, Thank You, More Please: https://datebrazen.com/book

🌟 Join the Main Character Dating waitlist: https://datebrazen.com/dating

✨ Download my free Essence-Based Preferences Creation Guide: https://datebrazen.com/workbook

📸 Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/datebrazen/

Follow me on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@datebrazen

▶️ Follow me on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DateBrazen

269. It's not luck or timing. It's these two things. Apr 07, 2026

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Finding love isn't just luck or timing.

It comes down to two learnable skills. Episode 269 of The Feminist Dating Show breaks both of them down so you can start practicing today.

Inside this episode:

✨ The reason going on more dates won't get you closer to the right person. Dating is not a numbers game. It's an act of self-trust.

✨ Proximity to aligned opportunity: why most people are either paralyzed by fear or doing dating busy work, and what to do instead.

✨ Courageous behavior in the face of opportunity: shooting your shot, blessing and releasing fast, asking for what you want on a first date. That's not too much. That's main character energy.

✨ Women who self-silence during conflict are four times more likely to die prematurely. These two skills aren't just how you find love. They're how you stop silencing yourself once you're in it.

Work with Lily:

📖 Get the book, Thank You, More Please: https://datebrazen.com/book

🌟 Join the Main Character Dating waitlist: https://datebrazen.com/dating

✨ Free Essence-Based Preferences workbook: datebrazen.com/workbook

268. Can You Date Men and Still Decenter Men? (yes, here's how) Mar 31, 2026

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If you want to date men AND you want to decenter men... This week's episode of The Feminist Dating Show (episode 268) is a giant permission slip. Because most dating advice is telling you to go on more dates, give more people a chance, stop being so picky. And all of that is designed to exhaust you into settling. (and you deserve more) Decentering men doesn't mean never dating a man again. It means stopping the habit of using the wrong men as evidence against your desires. It means re-centering yourself, your desires, and your preferences. And it is the fastest path to finding the right person. Inside episode 268, you'll learn: ✨ Why most men are going to be wrong for you (and why that's actually good news) ✨ How to stop using past emotionally unavailable men as a weapon against what you want ✨ The three tactical steps to decenter men and filter fast toward the right ones ✨ Why being self-centered in dating will help you find love faster Your desire is evidence that what you want exists. This episode will help you believe that and live it. Work with Lily:

📖 Get the book: Thank You, More Please 🌟 Join the MCD waitlist: https://datebrazen.com/dating ✨ Free Essence-Based Preferences workbook: datebrazen.com/workbook

267. Your Rejection Resilience Plan: The tactical guide to becoming unstoppable in your dating life Mar 24, 2026

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Dating in your main character energy means more access to everything you want. More connection. More aliveness. More of the good stuff.

It also means more rejection. BOO.

Rejection doesn't have to mean anything about you. It's a filter, getting the wrong people out of the way. And the fear of it is one of the top forces stopping people from going after what they want.

This episode is your rejection resilience guide. So you become unstoppable in your dating life.

Inside episode 267:

✨ Why we fear rejection like death (literally, biologically)

✨ The SOFT protocol: move through rejection without making it mean something about you

✨ Fierce vs. tender self-compassion and when you need each one

✨ How to build reframes that actually feel true, not like toxic positivity

Work with Lily:

📖 Get the book: Thank You, More Please — https://datebrazen.com/book

🌟 Join the MCD waitlist: https://datebrazen.com/dating

✨ Free Essence-Based Preferences workbook: datebrazen.com/workbook

266. "I'm embarrassed to want partnership after fighting so hard for my independence" live coaching session Mar 17, 2026

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Cora left an unhealthy marriage, deconstructed her entire evangelical upbringing, bought her first house, and raised two 16-year-olds solo. Then she met someone really good on Hinge. Who met all of her essence-based preferences. And she almost talked herself out of it. Not because he did anything wrong. Because she felt ashamed for wanting partnership after working so hard to become independent. In this live coaching session on The Feminist Dating Show, I coach Cora through the spiral in real time. We build her an "if this, then that" plan for the anxiety. We upgrade the questions she's asking herself. And we talk about why "desire is your birthright" (in the words of Dr. Juliana Hauser), not something you have to earn after you've suffered enough. If you have ever felt like wanting love was a betrayal of your hard-won independence, episode 266 is for you.

Work with Lily:

Read Lily's book: Thank You, More Please

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