The Carvery with Alex Dorr

INTERVIEW: Creating a Culture of Ownership and Accountability in Today's Workplace Nov 02, 2022

In this video, I discuss my recent article with Emergence on how to truly create a culture of ownership with our ground-breaking tools that cultivate accountability and self-reflection.

After doing 70-80 sessions per year for the last 7 years with Fortune 500 companies in all industries across the world, these were the 5 key areas that leaders tend to miss the mark when it comes to building the culture of accountability that they hoped for.

You can download the full article to share with your teams below: https://cywakemaninc.box.com/s/h53jrxb7f1wuq3akpanqu5dsrdy8ijwi

In it you'll learn:

- Why ownership alone doesn't tell the whole story

- The importance of less venting, more reflecting

- How to weave shared accountability into all of your systems and coaching

- The importance of not lowering standards, but upping the support of your team

- Why creating a culture of ownership begins with less enabling

Follow the link below to get your free SBAR tool discussed in the article and interview along with a short mini-lesson to share with your team: info.realitybasedleadership.com/tool

***Interested in more lessons, resources and deeper dives into accountability?

WATCH THESE VIDEOS BELOW:

What is Accountability and How To Build This Mindset in Your Team

https://youtu.be/OU30ovSF4q4

6 Simple Steps to Become More Resilient and Accountable

https://youtu.be/zUzguvsTbC4

The 5 Main Sources of Drama at Work to Master as a Leader or Employee

https://youtu.be/MIME7qjy5u0

LISTEN TO THESE PODCASTS:

When Extreme Ownership Goes Wrong

https://thecarverywithalexdorr.simplecast.com/episodes/when-extreme-ownership-goes-wrong

Don't Confuse Your High-Performers with High-Accountables

https://thecarverywithalexdorr.simplecast.com/episodes/dont-confuse-high-performers-with-high-accountables

TAKE THE FREE SUCCEED ANYWAY ACCOUNTABILITY EMAIL CHALLENGE:

https://info.realitybasedleadership.com/challenge

MINI-LESSON: The 5 Sources of Drama in 15 Minutes Apr 27, 2022

Designed for you to share with everyone you want to introduce No Ego and Reality-Based Leadership with, this podcast walks through the 5 main sources of drama that all leaders and teams will encounter in the workplace. Drama leads to over 2.5 hours per day of lost time and energy per person in an organization on average. Modern leaders know the biggest part of their job becomes navigating these interferences of drama when they come up.

Being able to manage energy around ego-based thinking, lack of accountability, buy-in, resistance to change and engagement is where leaders need to evolve next in the modern workplace.

ENJOYED THIS INTRO AND READY TO TAKE THE NEXT STEPS IN YOUR JOURNEY?

Below are my recommendations for all budgets.

$0 (FREE!) - Learn the first tool to start reducing drama. This SBAR tool is a simple template that will save you nearly an hour per day in drama. Follow the link below to watch the video lesson and download the tool.

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$25-$30 - Buy one of our books.

Reality-Based Leadership - this is our core philosophy of leading beyond drama at work

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No Ego - our latest tools to move teams to their most evolved selves, new coaching tools and our modern takes on how to fix employee engagement and improve change management with Business Readiness. This book also shows how our tools and philosophies can transform your culture to low-drama and accountability over time with case studies!

$100 - Buy my No Ego Toolkit Email Series. Get my 5 favorite drama ditching tools, emailed to you once per week with a tutorial video and application example along with action steps for you to begin using with your team. This is the easiest way to take what you learned in the podcast and begin evolving the way you lead.

$199 - Buy my No Ego: The Reality of Peace, Happiness and Great Results Virtual Course. This is a 2-hour self-lead course that will change the course of your career forever. The 5 sources of drama that will trip you up and exactly how to navigate passed them with our 5 proven tools to do so. Work becomes effortless after completing this course!

$500 - Buy my 25 Lessons of Reality-Based Leadership Video Course with Discussion Questions. If your team has found every excuse for why there isn't time to start practicing and learning these ideas I discuss - this course is your solution. Each video is 1-3 minutes with a couple of discussion questions. Hit play, watch the video before your meetings and have a 5 minute discussion. This is the fastest way to start transforming your teams in less than 10 minutes.

Call/email for pricing - Hire me to speak to your team, organization or at your next event. I deliver both virtual or in-person keynote presentation as well as company-wide rollouts of our curriculums that include coaching sessions and consulting. You can view my Speaker's Page here for a list of my past clients, testimonials and bio.

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I'd love to continue the discussion, hear your responses to the content or read/listen to how you build on these ideas on any of the platforms below:

Thank you so much for listening and happy sharing!

And if you're new - welcome to peace, happiness and incredible results at work.

I'm thrilled you're here. Let's keep ditching the drama.

-Alex

#4: Why True Leaders are Able to Bridge to HOW WE COULD Mar 30, 2022

I have become more and more fascinated with this idea of being a bridge as a leader. The bridge can first be taken personally when you are asked to evolve or step up in your career. The bridge can be in moments when you are able to take the energy away from whey we can't and get it refocused on how we could. Many times the bridge can be where you act as a connector between two mindsets to bring compassion to either side that may be judging the other and not helping.

In your career, you will face many of these bridge moments. Some will feel like you are actually crossing a milestone or a physical bridge into a new identity. Most others, will involve you bridge-building in the moment with your teams, in meetings or in one-on-one conversations.

I really think you're going to love this one and I'd love to hear the places you are seeing these 'being a bridge' moments coming up and how you are taking them or avoiding them. Awareness is 90% of the battle with this one.

WANT TO MASTER THE CORE TOOLS AND IDEAS TO DITCH THE DRAMA AT WORK AND COACH YOUR TEAMS TO GREATNESS EACH DAY?

Buy my No Ego: The Reality of Peace, Happiness and Great Results Virtual Course. This is a 2-hour self-lead course that will change the course of your career forever. The 5 sources of drama that will trip you up and exactly how to navigate passed them with our 5 proven tools to do so. Work becomes effortless after completing this course!

Buy my 25 Lessons of Reality-Based Leadership Video Course with Discussion Questions. If your team has found every excuse for why there isn't time to start practicing and learning these ideas I discuss - this course is your solution. Each video is 1-3 minutes with a couple of discussion questions. Hit play, watch the video before your meetings and have a 5 minute discussion. This is the fastest way to start transforming your teams in less than 10 minutes.

So, if you are someone who is:

Going through that transition of being a doer to more of a leader
Often feeling like you are seeing more opportunities for kindness and benefit of the doubt at work
Trying to be more helpful than judgmental each day
Hoping to manage energy better when teams are getting into negativity or why we can't

Then this is the podcast for you! And also, be sure to pass this along to your teams to be able to discuss.

Here's the blog that inspired today's podcast below:

Title: The Bridge

There is a nudge in everyone's career where you can do what I call:

- Take the bridge

- Avoid the bridge

or

- Choose to become the bridge

Avoiding the bridge means you stay where you are. You skip the personal evolution opportunities in your career often times fueling drama and sticking with those that find "joy" by being disengaged at work. It becomes the all-too-common 'us vs. them' situation.

'Us' ends up being people that think like you and 'them' being the decision-makers that just don't consult you in the organization you work for. You bond with this group on one side of the bridge.

Across the bridge is a group that has chosen a different approach. They are all-in committed to the company they work for. This group is trying to make a difference each day with the resources they have even in spite of challenging circumstances. This side of the bridge is where visionaries get together and talk about what we are trying to create for those they serve through their organization and how they can get there.

Each side of the bridge actually feels like indigestion to the other side. The same discussions, energy and work environment aren't preferred by these two groups.

So the question becomes - which side leads to more happiness and results in the long term? This is a personal choice for all of us. My invitation is to choose wisely.

Then, there is a select group that has the power to act as a bridge themselves. This is the magic of a true Reality-Based leader.

They can seemingly live with a foot on both sides at the same time if needed, without judgment of either side. This person is a mindset-shifter and energy manager. One that can act as a bridge doesn't people-please to fit in on either side.

They understand that, as a bridge, they exist to gently ensure our visionary, high-accountables in our organization don't get righteous and judgmental of the other side. Simultaneously, they offer those on the side of the bridge choosing disengagement and halted evolution plenty of calls to greatness and invitations to consider a mindset 'how we could' given the circumstances we may be facing.

Many are unaware that 'the bridge' exists as a role to play and a valuable one at that. It's easier to pick a side and represent it and disconnect from the other. "I'm the highly accountable one, they're not" or "Look at those over-achievers over there."

Many stuck in disengagement and resistance will not take the bridge to the other side. Whether it is fear of losing an identity or the camaraderie they've built with similar mindsets on that side. The lesson for all of us is you can only work with the willing.

So notice which side of the bridge you are consistently on at the moment. Is disengagement in your current work situation calling you to consider testing the other side - even for a small period of time?

And for those of you who've been on this journey with me for a while that are now all-in and highly-accountable, practicing drama diffusing and energy management each day - it is time to step into the role of the bridge. Wholeheartedly.

We could all use more bridges out there.

-Alex 🚪

I'd love to continue the discussion, hear your responses to the content or read/listen to how you build on these ideas on any of the platforms below:

If you'd love for me to speak virtually or in-person at your next event you can check out my Speaker's Page to hire me. Don't miss these raving reviews from some of my recent virtual presentation clients!

ADDITIONAL FREE RESOURCES:

Looking for a great video that gives you the basics of leading at team to LESS DRAMA and BETTER RESULTS - this is one of my best resources to get you started! Watch this video now.

For more videos and tools to continue to evolve your leadership and grow your career effectiveness, be sure to visit my YouTube Channel.

Let's keep ditching the drama, my people.

#3: Refocus and Move Past Mental Drama With This Quick Tip Mar 16, 2022

Ever find yourself with so much on your mind that you want to accomplish that you are almost frozen? I find myself often getting ahead of myself thinking about what amazing things are coming or can come in the future and missing the reality that each moment I spend 'ahead of myself' I am taking no action in the moment.

In this episode, I share this realization and how it has opened me up to not violently coming back to focus when this pattern occurs, but to instead gently notice that I am off-track, acknowledge it and then return back to, "what is the very next thing I could do to help?"

This noticing and return is so powerful to stop getting so far ahead of myself.

This realization is what this blog and podcast is all about.

WANT TO MASTER THE CORE TOOLS AND IDEAS TO DITCH THE DRAMA AT WORK AND COACH YOUR TEAMS TO GREATNESS EACH DAY?

Buy my No Ego: The Reality of Peace, Happiness and Great Results Virtual Course. This is a 2-hour self-lead course that will change the course of your career forever. The 5 sources of drama that will trip you up and exactly how to navigate passed them with our 5 proven tools to do so. Work becomes effortless after completing this course!

Buy my 25 Lessons of Reality-Based Leadership Video Course with Discussion Questions. If your team has found every excuse for why there isn't time to start practicing and learning these ideas I discuss - this course is your solution. Each video is 1-3 minutes with a couple of discussion questions. Hit play, watch the video before your meetings and have a 5 minute discussion. This is the fastest way to start transforming your teams in less than 10 minutes.

So if you are someone that:

- Struggles to focus on the task at hand

- Does too much dreaming and not enough executing

- Has difficulty finding the most productive thing to do in the moment

- Wants to be able to focus more each day and move towards a long-term goal more effectively

Then this is a great, short podcast for you.

Below is the blog that inspired this podcast that originally came out on my bi-weekly newsletter. If you haven't signed up to read the Workplace Portal newsletter - be sure to do so now:

info.realitybasedleadership.com/portal

BLOG: Getting ahead of yourself

When you get ahead of yourself, you get behind in your work. They move in opposite directions.

When you get ahead of yourself, you lose sight of what is right in front of you - the relationships, the opportunities, the movement that needs to happen to have a chance at arriving where you are looking ahead to.

When you get ahead of yourself, you turn away from the next step on your journey even though it is right there in the corner of your eye. Smiling at you. Knowing you are avoiding it. Liking that you are avoiding it.

Just glance at where you think you want to be from time to time - but don't get attached to it. That life isn't moving - it's there if it is supposed to be there.

Just take a deep breath, turn your head and make eye contact with that very next step that is smirking at you - seeing if you'll miss it yet again by getting too far ahead of yourself. Go up to it and take a baby step, a small stride or a huge leap of action with it. But let's never again ignore that 'next step to add impact' for the sake of getting ahead of yourself.

-Alex🚪

I'd love to continue the discussion, hear your responses to the content or read/listen to how you build on these ideas on any of the platforms below:

If you'd love for me to speak virtually or in-person at your next event you can check out my Speaker's Page to hire me. Don't miss these raving reviews from some of my recent virtual presentation clients!

ADDITIONAL FREE RESOURCES:

Looking for a great video that gives you the basics of leading at team to LESS DRAMA and BETTER RESULTS - this is one of my best resources to get you started! Watch this video now.

For more videos and tools to continue to evolve your leadership and grow your career effectiveness, be sure to visit my YouTube Channel.

Let's keep ditching the drama, my people.

**#2: 3 Questions for More Consistent Performance and Joy at Work** Mar 02, 2022
In this episode, I dive into the importance of steadiness as a skill to be developed. So many people focus on their performance and improving their skills, but many don't realize how important consistent and steady effort is to being successful in their career. This episode allows you to reflect on your own steadiness along with 2 more areas where we can evolve ourselves to the next level, and most importantly, to be happier at work.
This has been an idea I've been chewing on for awhile and can't wait to have you listen in and join the conversation.
**WANT TO MASTER THE CORE TOOLS AND IDEAS TO DITCH THE DRAMA AT WORK AND COACH YOUR TEAMS TO GREATNESS EACH DAY?**
**Buy my No Ego: The Reality of Peace, Happiness and Great Results Virtual Course**. This is a 2-hour self-lead course that will change the course of your career forever. The 5 sources of drama that will trip you up and exactly how to navigate passed them with our 5 proven tools to do so. Work becomes effortless after completing this course!
**Buy my 25 Lessons of Reality-Based Leadership Video Course with Discussion Questions**. If your team has found every excuse for why there isn't time to start practicing and learning these ideas I discuss - this course is your solution. Each video is 1-3 minutes with a couple of discussion questions. Hit play, watch the video before your meetings and have a 5 minute discussion. This is the fastest way to start transforming your teams in less than 10 minutes.
So if you are someone thinking about:
How can I be a more consistent contributor in my role at work?
What can I do for my team to stay consistently energized?
What great reflective exercises can I share with my team to improve performance and get better results?
How to continue to evolve my leadership to be happy and successful regardless of challenging circumstances?
How to identify the most 'willing' people on my team to buy-in and continue to develop them?
Then this will be a great podcast for you!
For those that haven't listened to the updated podcast yet. The new format is to read a blog that has been previously released on my Workplace Portal Newsletter that comes out every other Wednesday **(get signed up to receive that here!)** and after reading, I add a few stories, the inspiration behind the blog, why it was on my mind and/or why I think it can help you continue to move beyond drama in your career.
Below is the full blog in it's entirety in case you want to share it:
**Title: Willing, Able and Steady**
Three massive pieces to a successful and happy career.
**Are you willing?**
You cannot work with the unwilling AND you cannot make great impact in the world with half-hearted willingness. Most people put spend enormous amounts of energy either focused on the most unwilling or showing up each day with low willingness to do what it takes at work. They spend hours trying to bargain, beg, and plead for their unwilling folks to finally get on board. Or, they show up to work every day collecting a paycheck, but their mind is somewhere else.
Gallup tells us that nearly 70% of the American workforce quits their jobs every single day. The problem is they keep coming to work and collecting a paycheck. This is active or passive disengagement from the work they do and essentially, underlying unwillingness to buy-in each day.
So notice this idea of willingness - yours and others - and spend as little energy as possible working with unwillingness.
**Are you able?**
If you find your workplace experience shifting to the point where you feel you are "unable" to do your job at a high level - stop ignoring that feeling. Notice it.
That is a gift. It is shining light on your next growth opportunities.
If emerging tech or new software, for example, is swallowing up the way your job was done in the past, don't continue to resist and hunker down until the transition passes.
Remember you have the ability to continuously evolve.
Look at the last thing you learned - a new recipe, a new skill within your favorite hobby, or how to assemble something you bought online through a YouTube tutorial. You have an endless ability to learn and absorb, but many don't generalize that skillset of learning to adapt to less-than-preferred newness (aka change) at work.
Realize **you** **are able**, but you haven't applied it to this new situation yet. Step into the learning in front of you, take the training or learn the new skill with this shifted perspective.
Too many continue to skip the necessary growth needed in any profession yet continue trying to do their job without modernizing their skillsets and live in fear and defense each day to not be "found out" that they are 'unable' to deliver what's needed in their new reality.
No happiness flourishes there.
**Are you steady?**
Have you ever had that team member that quickly responds with, "I'll add that to my list." and you come to find out, a few weeks later, that the 'list' they referenced often disappears and no action is taken?
One day this person is a rockstar, gets it done at all cost, and succeeds in spite of the facts, and the next day, you can barely recognize their work.
Maybe we've all had moments in our careers personally when this was the case.
This is all about steadiness and being steady is highly underrated.
Can you consistently show up to work in 'high-self' and bring energy to move us forward? Or is your energy or effort highly dependent on external circumstances in your life?
Two people can be in very similar challenging circumstances and, based on their mindset, one stays steady while the other can no longer be relied on to continue executing their role.
Steadiness is tied to our accountability levels
given the circumstances,
but isn't dependant **on our** circumstances.
Pause and reflect. **In this moment of your career:**
- Are you consistently willing (whole-heartedly bought-in each day)?
- Are you able (updating my skillset as needed)?
**and, most importantly...**
- Are you steady (in my accountability level regardless of my circumstances)?
If not, you know what to do. You always have.
Go be great.
-Alex 🚪
**If you are looking for a few quick tips on ensuring:**
You are adding value each and every day at work
Moving from being a box-checker or someone that simply completes tasks into the next level of your career
Continuing to evolve your understanding of working beyond ego in the workplace
This is a great podcast for you.
I'd love to continue the discussion, hear your responses to the content or read/listen to how you build on these ideas on any of the platforms below:
Twitter
Instagram
Facebook
TikTok
If you'd love for me to speak virtually or in-person at your next event you can check out my Speaker's Page to hire me. Don't miss these raving reviews from some of my recent virtual presentation clients!
**ADDITIONAL FREE RESOURCES:**
Looking for a great video that gives you the basics of leading at team to **LESS DRAMA and BETTER RESULTS** - this is one of my best resources to get you started! **Watch this video now**.
For more videos and tools to continue to evolve your leadership and grow your career effectiveness, be sure to visit my YouTube Channel.
Let's keep ditching the drama, my people.

#1: Why Checking the Boxes Doesn't Add Value at Work Feb 16, 2022

Many people find energy in checking the boxes each day and getting a ton of tasks done on their list. I admit myself that this feels great. However, many don't take a step back to see if all of those boxes they are checking are truly adding value and moving along the higher-value work that would move things forward at a grander scale. This episode is exploring that idea of checking the boxes and how to ensure those tasks are all leveling up to make sure that progress is going in the right direction to our grander goals.

For those that haven't listened to the update podcast. The new format is to read a blog that has been previously released on my Workplace Portal Newsletter that comes out every other Wednesday (get signed up to receive that here!) and after reading, I add a few stories, the inspiration behind the blog, why it was on my mind and/or why I think it can help you continue to move beyond drama in your career.

WANT TO MASTER THE CORE TOOLS AND IDEAS TO DITCH THE DRAMA AT WORK AND COACH YOUR TEAMS TO GREATNESS EACH DAY?

Buy my No Ego: The Reality of Peace, Happiness and Great Results Virtual Course. This is a 2-hour self-lead course that will change the course of your career forever. The 5 sources of drama that will trip you up and exactly how to navigate passed them with our 5 proven tools to do so. Work becomes effortless after completing this course!

Buy my 25 Lessons of Reality-Based Leadership Video Course with Discussion Questions. If your team has found every excuse for why there isn't time to start practicing and learning these ideas I discuss - this course is your solution. Each video is 1-3 minutes with a couple of discussion questions. Hit play, watch the video before your meetings and have a 5 minute discussion. This is the fastest way to start transforming your teams in less than 10 minutes.

Below is the full blog in it's entirety in case you want to share it:

Title: Why checking the boxes doesn't add value

It can be amazing to be surrounded by people that take a list and check off the boxes.

The email you ask them to send, the tasks you ask them to complete, the forms you ask them to fill out or the responses to customers that you need done.

The problem becomes when creating a list of boxes for them to check each day becomes another part of your list. It's always reactive, not proactive.

Simply checking boxes starts to add very little value.

In fact, it may be time to question if it ever does in the modern workplace?

Plenty of team members can send the “check-in” email to the potential sales lead, but if the lead doesn’t get back to them? Oh well, I checked the box and reached out just like you asked me to.

But the goal wasn’t to check the box, it was to make the sale. Or at the very least, ACTUALLY connect with the customer to get a ‘yes’ or ‘no’.

If you’ve whittled your job down to whether or not you checked the boxes today, I can almost assure you that you’re not adding all that much value.

That’s fine for now I suppose, but long-term? We’ll see.

“Check the box” if you read this, but if you’re hoping to add value? You may want to do some reflection and absorb it.

As always, it’s up to you.

-Alex 🚪

If you are looking for a few quick tips on ensuring:

You are adding value each and every day at work
Moving from being a box-checker or someone that simply completes tasks into the next level of your career
Continuing to evolve your understanding of working beyond ego in the workplace

This is a great podcast for you.

I'd love to continue the discussion, hear your responses to the content or read/listen to how you build on these ideas on any of the platforms below:

Twitter

Instagram

Facebook

If you'd love for me to speak virtually or in-person at your next event you can check out my Speaker's Page to hire me. Don't miss these raving reviews from some of my recent virtual presentation clients!

ADDITIONAL FREE RESOURCES:

The last few years has really tested our own resilience and called us to learn a ton about ourselves. I created this video with 6 Simple Steps to Build Your Resilience that shows you how to make overcoming obstacles an effortless, not draining experience.

For more videos and tools to continue to evolve your leadership and grow your career effectiveness, be sure to visit my YouTube Channel.

Let's keep ditching the drama, my people.

Podcast Update: The New Format for The Carvery Feb 09, 2022

I couldn't be more excited about the new format I am taking to help you keep learning the tools and philosophies of living beyond drama at work and in your world. This episode level sets on the structure of the new podcast flow and what to expect from each episode.

From this new structure that amplifies all of the creative ideas I have flowing through the short blogs I am sending out on my Workplace Portal newsletter that comes out every other Wednesday, I have some incredible ideas to continue to make this podcast experience even more dynamic down the road.

More to come on that and I can't wait to build to that iteration!

Until then, be sure to be subscribed to the Workplace Portal newsletter to be able to read my latest blogs first before they make it to the podcast for the deeper insights and additions.

Here is the link to sign up for my Newsletter!

I'd love to continue the discussion, hear your responses to the content or read/listen to how you build on these ideas on any of the platforms below:

If you'd love for me to speak virtually or in-person at your next event you can check out my Speaker's Page to hire me. Don't miss these raving reviews from some of my recent virtual presentation clients!

The last few years have really tested our own resilience and called us to learn a ton about ourselves. I created this video with 6 Simple Steps to Build Your Resilience that shows you how to make overcoming obstacles an effortless, not draining experience.

For more of my videos and behind-the-scenes footage of my keynotes and speaking engagements check out my YouTube Channel.

Again, really looking forward to this next journey with all of you.

Let's have some more (drama-free) fun.

-Alex

Keeping Teams Engaged in the Virtual World Feb 02, 2021

Are you racking your brain trying to figure out how to keep your team engaged in the virtual environment we are in?

This has been one of the most common questions coming through from leaders trying to navigate the work from home, hybrid and work from anywhere environments we are in.

Download the FREE guide I mentioned in the introduction and the session here:

Reality-Based Interviewing for Accountability Guide (usually $49.99 on our website)

This exclusive keynote gives you a new foundation on what truly drives engagement in your teams and why we may run into increasing entitlement if we aren't careful with our approach. You will also learn 2 practical ways to foster shared accountability with your teams - the biggest driver of both engagement and results at work.

The reality is that, as a leader, the way in which you approach this situation right now can have BIG long-term effects on your team moving forward. The behaviors you enable and don't address that start right now can cause an over-rotation on trying to engage your team without balancing shared accountability for each person bringing their own engagement to the table.

If you are looking for ideas on:

How to keep teams engaged remotely
Tools to maintain engagement levels in a virtual setting
How to virtually make sure my team is staying engaged
Practical tips to grow engagement with my team in the work from home/anywhere environment
Group facilitation activities that drive self-reflection and accountability in the virtual environment
How to reduce entitlement of the people on my team
Unique ideas to truly drive engagement and results at work that are sustainable
A FREE guide to hire highly accountable people that will choose engagement and get results at work

Then this is the podcast you were looking for.

I'd love to continue the discussion, hear your responses to the content or read/listen to how you build on these ideas on any of the platforms below:

Twitter

Instagram

Facebook

If you'd love for me to speak virtually or in-person at your next event you can check out my Speaker's Page to hire me. Don't miss these raving reviews from some of my recent virtual presentation clients!

2020/2021 has really tested our own resilience and called us to learn a ton about ourselves. I created this video with 6 Simple Steps to Build Your Resilience that shows you how to make overcoming obstacles an effortless, not draining experience.

For more of my videos and behind-the-scenes footage of my keynotes and speaking engagements check out my YouTube Channel.

- Alex

Leading in Uncertainty, Disruption and Challenge - 4 Essential Tips Dec 14, 2020

2020 has been (and is continuing to be) a year that none of us could say we were prepared for as a leader. There is just no other way of saying it. Leadership is always a challenge, but leading in a crisis has revealed so much to us and our people.

There is an evolved skillset that a leader needs to successfully support, grow and develop teams in the midst of crisis. In this podcast episode you will walk away with my 4 best tips for leading your team sin uncertainty, disruption and challenge.

I have been fortunate enough over the last 9 months to have continued to speak, consult and train leaders on how to continue to lead their teams beyond drama during a time that seems completely justified to be DONE with the drama.

I've been wading out into the mess with leaders who are on the frontlines as well as with organizations that are experiencing their best years ever financially even in the paradox of all of the heartbreak of the world pandemic, heightened conversations on race relations, etc.

In these sessions, I have been able to distill down the best tips for managing the energy of your team during the crisis to still find joy and get results even in these unprecedented circumstances.

In this episode you will learn:

1) The mantra of "Tend to the people first, then evolve."

2) The "What are you feeling? Where is your head at?" technique for anxiety, fear and uncertainty

3) The technique of "Come close in" with the conversation

4) Finding the difference between Self-Sooth and Self-Care

I can't wait to hear what you think about this one! Thank you for listening and for all of the courageous work you are doing each day.

Hope you enjoyed this episode as I was able to cover a topic that I don't usually get to go into much detail on during my keynotes and trainings.

I'd love to continue the discussion, hear your responses to the content or read/listen to how you build on these idea on any of the platforms here:

Twitter

Instagram

Facebook

If you'd love for me to speak virtually or in-person at your next event you can check out my Speaker's Page to hire me. Don't miss these raving reviews from some of my recent virtual presentation clients!

Here is a front-row seat to one of my latest keynotes if you want to see me in action. I'd love to be on the list if you are ever looking for speakers for your organization in the future. Let's get this message to your teams!

2020 has really tested our own resilience and called us to learn a ton about ourselves. I created this video with 6 Simple Steps to Build Your Resilience that shows you how to make overcoming obstacles an effortless, not draining experience.

For more of my videos and behind-the-scenes footage of my keynotes and speaking engagements check out my YouTube Channel.

- Alex

Building Your Personal Brand WITHIN Your Workplace Sep 02, 2020

We've heard endless YouTube videos about building your personal brand so you can LEAVE your job and start your own business, but what about building a personal brand WITHIN our job because we love what we do. This episode will give you four ideas to build your personal brand with your colleagues and customers from the lens of being a low-drama, high-value player at work.

Much of your personal brand is how you appear to others on the outside, but the paradox is almost all of this is influenced by what you are doing on the inside with your inner work and reflection.

As someone committed to finding any way I can to move beyond drama that causes interferences in my life. I've found that there are some counter-intuitive ways that you can evolve yourself that then greatly affects your own personal brand within the workplace and your colleagues.

In this episode, you will walk away with actionable strategies and mindset shifts to grow your personal brand through the lens of carving away drama. In doing so you will grow your influence, continue to be authentic at work and open up professional opportunities you can't imagine.

The main ideas we cover to make this happen are:

Be the most open to feedback and growth in the room
Check and understand your Drama Quotient often (Here is the self-assessment PDF for you to calculate the true value you add at work that I mention)
Be a "how we coulder" not a "why we can'ter"
Pride yourself on the intention of being the most neutral and clearest in the room, not the smartest

Hope you enjoyed this episode as I was able to cover a topic that I don't usually get to go into much detail on during my keynotes and trainings.

I'd love to continue the discussion, hear your responses to the content or read/listen to how you build on these idea on any of the platforms here:

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If you'd love for me to speak virtually or in-person at your next event you can check out my Speaker's Page to hire me. Don't miss these raving reviews from some of my recent virtual presentation clients!

Here is a front-row seat to one of my latest keynotes if you want to see me in action. I'd love to be on the list if you are ever looking for speakers for your organization in the future. Let's get this message to your teams!

2020 has really tested our own resilience and called us to learn a ton about ourselves. I created this video with 6 Simple Steps to Build Your Resilience that shows you how to make overcoming obstacles an effortless, not draining experience.

For more of my videos and behind-the-scenes footage of my keynotes and speaking engagements check out my YouTube Channel.

We got this my people. Stay safe, stay together and keep helping, not judging.

Alex

When Extreme Ownership Goes Wrong Feb 07, 2020

Your level of accountability is most correlated to your results and happiness in life. Many that interact with learn this information and take-off with this idea and really start to live out the four factors of accountability in their lives and start to feel different results pretty quickly. However, many run into a similar experience I did where they start to over-reach when it comes to accountability and start taking extreme ownership for their results and noticing some struggles.

In these moments you can start to believe that you can control the outcome of all events that you are involved in and your energy from this mindset can really affect those around you and cause you to wear out.

In this journey of focusing on accountability and the four factors and mental process that cultivate it, I've discovered an important counter-balance that helps to optimize and round-out living a more fulfilled life.

This mix between high-levels of accountability with a consistent practice of self-reflection or inquiry on the stressful thoughts that cause us to overdo accountability is the sweet spot.

Contentment and endless energy comes from this sweetspot and in this episode I walk through my thoughts on this balance I focus on daily.

This ebb and flow of diving all-in to living out the factors of accountability with an eye for additional self-reflection through inquiry on untrue and stressful thoughts is something big if you are in to your own growth and learning.

I am on this journey as well and playing around with it.

Hope you liked this one as well and cannot wait to hear your thoughts!

Let's keep ditching the drama. Alex

Here is a video to learn the 4 Factors of Accountability and how to live in this mindset more often at work. This leads to more happiness and results! Don't we all want that? :)

Here is a front-row seat to one of my latest keynotes if you want to see me in action. I'd love to be on the list if you are ever looking for speakers for your organization in the future. Let's get this message to your teams!

If you have any feedback or questions let's continue the discussion at any of the places below:
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For more of my videos and behind-the-scenes footage of my keynotes and speaking engagements check out my YouTube Channel.

If you'd love for me to speak at your next event you can check out my Speaker's Page to learn more.

Lessons From 85 Speaking Engagements in 2019 Dec 31, 2019

It was a heck of a ride jumping from around 40 speaking engagements in 2018 to 85 sessions in 2019. I'm beyond grateful and, as I reflect back, I have learned so much. I have summarized all of these lessons and packaged them up for you in this podcast episode.

As you go from city to city and interact with various clients from all of the industries we get to touch - you start to see patterns or themes emerge. These themes become very interesting and, in my free, time I sit in self-reflection around these ideas.

In this episode you will learn more about the themes that I've noticed through 2019. I cover:

Why opinions no longer add value - expertise does
The secret of "unwillingness" and why it is missed by leaders
Quit asking for benefits on the promise of results. Deliver results and then benefits follow.
Many are confusing MACRO challenges for what they can impact individually on the MICRO
Patience in 2018 and patience in 2019

A NOTE TO YOU :)

I wanted to take a moment to thank you, the listener, for all of your incredible support and inspiration for the podcast. It has been unbelievable the amount of reachouts I have been receiving about how passionate people are about the episodes and ideas we have been putting out and I love the community we are building. This world beyond drama is always there, for all of us to access, we just have to understand our thinking.

I hope you know how grateful I am for you for tuning in to each episode. My hope is you help me keep shaping the podcast and making sure it gets better and better each episode. I can't wait for what's to come in 2020. Happy New Year and let's keep ditching the drama.

-Alex

Why You HAVE to Play Favorites at Work Dec 15, 2019

A conventional leadership wisdom out there is that you CANNOT play favorites at work. However, did you know that the same leadership will not please a high-accountable mindset and low-accountable at the same time? This creates an interesting consideration we go into on this podcast.

Many organizations haven't come around to the fact that they have some employees that default to a lower state-of-accountability each day. This is more of a victim-mindset where they believe that most of their mistakes or issues are not their fault and they cannot have much of an impact.

However, in the same organization and same circumstances, there is another group of high-accountables that are successful and happy in the same situation.

Both of these groups also have completely different lists of behaviors, conversations and standards of excellence they like to work in.

High-accountables get nervous when change is NOT happening and low-accountables get anxious when change IS happening. High-accountables are aware the the world is always shifting and customer demands are always changing so, of course, they see that the business should be too.

Low-accountables seem to want to keep things the same even though it may hurt the experience for our customers, patients or those we serve in the marketplace.

I go through many examples and ideas of this "playing favorites" in this podcast. I also discuss why you actually HAVE to differentiate (for the right reasons) to be an effective leader and I give you some of our best tools to do so.

So if you are someone wondering:

- How to lead better

- Can I play favorites at work?

- Best leadership tips to reward my top performers

- What tips to manage accounability

Then this is a great episode for you.

Also, here is a front-row seat to one of my latest keynotes if you want to see me in action. I'd love to be on the list if you are ever looking for speakers for your organization in the future. Let's get this message to your teams!

If you have any feedback or questions let's continue the discussion at any of the places below:
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For more of my videos and behind-the-scenes footage of my keynotes and speaking engagements check out my YouTube Channel.

If you'd love for me to speak at your next event you can check out my Speaker's Page to learn more.

Hope this one gave you a lot to think about. Let's keep ditching the drama. - Alex

Don't Confuse High Performers with High Accountables Nov 22, 2019

One common confusion with leadership and our philosophy is that people miss that high performance does not necessarily correlate with your highest accountable employees. This podcast clarifies and explains why this is so important to understand.

For years organizations have focused diligently on measuring performance and when many hear our work they say, "Of course! We just need to keep spending all of our leadership capacity on our highest performers and get rid of low performers."

While some of this is true in theory, one of the challenges is that performance can be such a skewed metric. The key indicator that actually drives great performance, low drama and high engagement is the level of personal accountability one has.

Helping to cultivate teams that live and operate in a high state-of-accountability in their mindsets is the true indicator of future results and engagement. These are people that commit to projects without conditions, are highly resilient, honest in their ownership of results good or bad and continuous learners.

This is a subtle correction that many miss in our philosophy that is a big breakthrough once leaders understand that high performance isn't always correlated to high accountability.

I think this will have some interesting and practical takeaways for you as well as a mindset shift moving forward.

I mentioned a link to the Employee Value Equation if you are interested in learning more about where drama comes in to the value we add at work that goes beyond just measuring performance.

Also, here is a front-row seat to one of my latest keynotes if you want to see me in action. I'd love to be on the list if you are ever looking for speakers for your organization in the future. Let's get this message to your teams!

If you have any feedback or questions let's continue the discussion at any of the places below:
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For more of my videos and behind-the-scenes footage of my keynotes and speaking engagements check out my YouTube Channel.

If you'd love for me to speak at your next event you can check out my Speaker's Page to learn more.

Enjoy my people. Let's keep ditching the drama. - Alex

Overcoming That's the Way We've Always Done it Nov 08, 2019

"Well...that's the way we've always done it" is one of the most frustrating statements for leaders and organizations to hear for the reason to not change the way we are doing something. This statement reveals a bigger issue than most might realize once you start to understand the power of learned helplessness.

This episode dives deep into victim-mindsets and how to overcome an individual or team that is locked into learned helplessness.

Learned helplessness is the belief that our actions no longer have impact on our outcomes. It's when we start to believe what we do doesn't matter anyway.

This mindset is the complete opposite of personal accountability and not much happiness can come about when we are living in learned helplessness.

In this episode, I share a personal example of when I realized I was in learned helplessness and some great tips to recognize and quickly step out of this mindset that can hold us back.

So for any leaders wondering:

How to overcome "that's the way we have always done it"
How to build resilience in my team
How to have less excuses
How to overcome excuses my team has
What is learned helplessness
How to cultivate a higher level of accountability in my teams

Then this is the perfect podcast episode for you!

Also, here is a front-row seat to one of my latest keynotes if you want to see me in action. I'd love to be on the list if you are ever looking for speakers for your organization in the future. Let's get this message to your teams!

If you have any feedback or questions let's continue the discussion at any of the places below:
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For more of my videos and behind-the-scenes footage of my keynotes and speaking engagements check out my YouTube Channel.

If you'd love for me to speak at your next event you can check out my Speaker's Page to learn more.

Appreciate you guys listening and hope you loved this one! - Alex

Exploring the Deeper Layers of Drama Oct 23, 2019

Having the courage to explore the first layer of drama at work is big, but many miss the opportunity to start peeling back the layers of drama that truly get in the way from our teams being highly successful and happy. This episode dives into this idea of the deeper layers of drama that exist and a few tools to identify them and move beyond them.

These deeper layers can be sneaky and out of our awareness until we investigate them. This is something I haven't talked about a ton yet as we have been going through a lot of the core philosophy in my content.

Can't wait to see what you guys think about this one!

So for anyone wondering:

How do I reduce drama at work
Why do I not act when I am clear on what to do
How to take more action and be less scared
How to approach the tough conversations at work

There will be some great ideas for you in this.

The tool I mentioned in the podcast called Edit Your Story is a powerful tool that I do daily and now have as an internally mental process whenever I am stressed, fearful or worried. This is your secret weapon to more clarity in your life.

Watch this video here how to use the Edit Your Story as a leader or to free your own thinking.

Also, here is a front-row seat to one of my latest keynotes if you want to see me in action. I'd love to be on the list if you are ever looking for speakers for your organization in the future. Let's get this message to your teams!

If you have any feedback or questions let's continue the discussion at any of the places below:
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For more of my videos and behind-the-scenes footage of my keynotes and speaking engagements check out my YouTube Channel.

If you'd love for me to speak at your next event you can check out my Speaker's Page to learn more.

Cheers to another week of living and leading drmaa-free. - Alex

FULL KEYNOTE: Ditching the Drama at Work with Reality-Based Leadership Sep 28, 2019

Listen in on a full keynote of mine on how to ditch the drama at work with Reality-Based Leadership. Ever wondered what it would be like to sit in the front row for one of my sessions? That's what you are listening to here!

This session was one of my best yet. Concise and straight to the point with a TON of energy and practical tools to start leading more drama-free, engaged and results-driven teams.

This group was super interactive and all-in to the philosophy so it made for a great time!

The average person is spending 2.5 hours per day in drama at work. 2.5 hours per day! That is an enormous amount of time and energy that leads to stress and less joy in our day-to-day.

This session gives you some of our best tools to start chipping away at that drama. As you carve this away, it reveals so many more places to have better results and more happiness in each interaction.

So if you are interested in learning about:

Sources of drama at work that add up to 2.5 hours per day per person
How to lead better
How to lead your team through change
How to deal with conflict at work
Best tools and techniques to redirect energy away from drama
How to create a culture that is high in accountability
How to change a culture in a way that is effective
How to truly drive engagement at work while ensuring it leads to results
How to help your teams thrive in change instead of fear it
How to overcome your fears, stress, lack of confidence and suffering
What truly adds value in today's workplace and how you can always deliver that value

Then this keynote is exactly what you are looking for!

If you are currently a leader or employee and hoping to take what you are doing at work or in life to the next level this is an important hour of content to listen to.
As I mentioned, you can listen to a longer extended version of this content that teaches you the entire framework, philosophy and tools of Reality-Based Leadership in this podcast episode at the links below:

Listen on Apple Podcasts
Listen on Spotify
Listen on Google Play
Listen on Simplecast

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If you'd love for me to speak at your next event you can check out my Speaker's Page to learn more.

Cheers to another week of living and leading drmaa-free. - Alex

With Great Influence, Comes Great Responsibility with Drama Sep 13, 2019

Does your drama you bring to the table impact others more the higher up you get in your career? This was a great questions asked by a recent executive leader at one of my sessions that got me thinking. This podcast breaks down my thoughts on whether the impact of our personal drama as a higher-level leader in an organization is grander than our initial research has discovered.

In our research at Reality-Based Leadership, we found that your overall value that you bring to your work decreases greatly if you are high in emotional expensiveness or lacking fluency in what causes drama in an organization. In fact, the amount of drama has a 3x negative effect in comparison to your performance and your future potential when you look at the total value you are bringing to a team, organization, interaction or customer experience.

This -3x factor is quite an eye-opener for many who hear our work for the first time.

Below is the link to do your own self-assessment and learn more about our Employee Value Equation and the cost of our own drama.
https://www.realitybasedleadership.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/08/Employee-Value-Equation-1.pdf

But in a recent session in NYC with an executive group, an attendee posed the question about whether as a CEO or high level leader that your drama could be even grander than that because of your influence and position in a company. Could it be -5x, -8x or even a -10x because so many are aware of your every move, comment and non-verbal. After all, you are the final decision point for your organization and many look to your leadership for guidance.

I had not considered this as an option so on the plane after the event I did some reflecting and put together this podcast.

So this is a great episode for anyone wondering about:

What is the effect of my drama as a leader on the organization
How to lead better with less drama
What is the cost of drama on high-level leaders
Conflict Resolution and understanding our part in solving issues

This really is something to consider and I can't wait to hear what you all think about this topic and my reflections. It really makes you think about each day and your influence especially for some of you who have a determined team working alongside you. Your influence if you are not bringing your highest self to the table could be an even grander cause of chaos in your workplace.

If you have any feedback or questions let's continue the discussion at any of the places below:
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For more of my videos and behind-the-scenes footage of my keynotes and speaking engagements check out my YouTube Channel.

If you'd love for me to speak at your next event you can check out my Speaker's Page to learn more.

Let's keep livin' drama free my people. - Alex

Enabling - The Killer of Accountability Sep 08, 2019

"How can I make someone do something I need them to do at work?" is one of the most common questions I hear as I speak to groups across the country. Most are surprised to find out that trying to change someone is nearly impossible - but you can stop enabling them. Enabling the behavior you don't want is typically what leads to so much conflict or behavior that isn't what you prefer.

This podcast dives deeper into this killer of accountability and gives you some practical ideas to ease the enabling in your life and as a leader.

Understanding the examples in this podcast and how much we are often enabling the exact behavior we wish we weren't seeing on our teams is a powerful step in evolving our leadership.

These concepts have been something I have spent a lot of time thinking about over the last 6 months or so.

So if you are someone wondering:

How do I change someone
How can I make someone step up
How can I lead differently
What can't I hold someone accountable?
How to make someone do something at work

Then this podcast will have some amazing ideas and examples for you!

If you have any feedback or questions let's continue the discussion at any of the places below:
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For more of my videos and behind-the-scenes footage of my keynotes and speaking engagements check out my YouTube Channel.

If you'd love for me to speak at your next event you can check out my Speaker's Page to learn more.

Can't wait you hear your guys' thoughts on this one and how thinking about this more continues to help you ditch the drama.

Have a great week! - Alex

The Hypocrisy of Transparency at Work Aug 25, 2019

So many people are asking for transparency at work, but are then upset when it happens. Transparent feedback from their leaders seems to ignite the ego. Transparent numbers about how they are doing in their performance can trigger excuses. The transparency of the new internet world has been causing a ton of disruption as well because the tracking and analytics can show the true results of our work.

What we thought would do well in the market (for example a video project we created) only gets a few views once we see the metrics.

This episode talks through my thoughts on transparency as we continue to move to a world that is fueled by more data, more technology and more focus on expertise instead of opinions and how this interacts with drama in the workplace.

This shift has been super fascinating to see in the organizations I am speaking and consulting in. With this shift causing so much confusion, I thought I'd break down some examples of what I mean in this podcast episode.

Hope you all enjoy this one!

If you have any feedback or questions let's continue the discussion at any of the places below:
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If you'd love for me to speak at your next event you can check out my Speaker's Page to learn more.

Let's keep ditching the drama.

A Call for Universal Good Mental Process Aug 08, 2019

Today's episode features an idea that has been keeping me up at night. Could there ever be some universal good mental processes that everyone agrees on that lead to more happiness and results in our lives? If so, could they become non-negotiable as professional ways to behave in meetings and discussions. I'm fascinated with this idea and share some of those good mental processes as examples in this episode.

Drama is an enormous interference in our life and at Reality-Based Leadership we have found that the average person is spending 2.5 hours per day in drama. This is arguing with reality, blaming, moaning and whining, resisting change, not aligning with their organization - saying things like "this is sick and wrong and shouldn't be happening and I wouldn't have made that decision..."

It is chaos instead of clarity.

Drama is simply mental/emotional waste in our minds that lead to us taking poor actions and getting bad results. In business, if we have waste, we eliminate it by putting in a good process.

How could we get rid of emotional waste? Using good mental processes.

In this episode I consider a world where we had everyone align to good mental processes that the research shows leads to more happiness, better choices and better results.

If we all are looking for relief and peace and incredible results. Surely, it would make sense to have a chance to universally align to proven good mental processes.

That is a Reality-Based Leadership workplace. A No Ego workplace.

Some of those great mental processes includes our Ego Bypass Tools we teach leaders. You can learn those here!

Questions for self-reflection also trigger the use of a good mental process. Here are some of the heavy-hitter questions discussed in this podcast:

What do I know for sure?
What would great look like?
Is what I'm about to say going to add clarity or chaos?
What is my role in this situation? Decision-maker? Consultant? or just to be informed?
If I wasn't judging, what would I be doing to help?

This episode is great for anyone wondering:

How can I lead beyond drama with my teams
How do deal with conflict at work
How to manage teams more efficiently

I mentioned Cy Wakeman and my dissertation podcast we did on everything you'd ever need to know about giving and receiving feedback at work - Here is the link to watch that!

Thank you guys for tuning in. I can't wait to hear your thoughts on this one!

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If you'd love for me to speak at your next event you can check out my Speaker's Page to learn more.

You know the deal - stay drama-free my people.

Wellness at Work Means Wellness in Life Jun 12, 2019

Workplace wellness is a hot topic out there and an important concept for me and I loved diving into what ditching the drama means for this movement on the Redesigning Wellness podcast with Jen Arnold. We discuss the main sources of drama draining people’s energy at work and what that means for the push for more wellbeing in the workplace. Loved this podcast and am so grateful for the opportunity.

If you are looking for practical strategies to improve your personal wellness at work and the wellness of your teams you will love this podcast. We discuss the power our ego (and lack of understanding the ego) plays in our decreased wellness at work. As you might expect, we also discuss that our individual amount of drama is directly correlated to our reports of not being well at work.

Short and sweet today. I hope you guys love this one!

I find it so fun to have more of a conversation like this one on how our philosophy mixes in with hot topics out there. It always seems to add a bit of clarity to the chaos.

Hope you all have a wonderful week and you know the deal - let's keep ditching the drama. And be well!

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If you'd love for me to speak at your next event you can check out my Speaker's Page to learn more.

Let's keep ditching the drama.

7 Deadly Sins of Conventional Leadership Wisdom May 11, 2019

Many of us follow leadership wisdom that is passed down to us or that we have read and heard in management seminars of the past. Are they currently helping or hurting? Our research is showing that many are fueling drama instead of reducing it. This podcast discusses the top 7 deadly sins of the current leadership approach and what we can do to course-correct for a more peaceful workplace.

One of the most interesting parts of the work I do is that I get to hear many messages out there presented at conferences on how to lead teams. I also get to hear many strategies that leaders are trying and living by that they feel will get the best results. At Reality-Based Leadership we pride ourselves at taking each of those conventional wisdoms and testing them with the evidence in behavior economics, human behavior and the psychology.

Often times, many of the approaches we investigate are strategies that actually make being a leader tougher not easier. Many also allow colleagues to step down into a victim mindset instead of answering the call to greatness.

In this episode I cover the following deadly sins of conventional leadership wisdom that I am coming across during my speaking engagements and interactions with leaders across the country:

Role TRUE of a leader - *hint - it is not to motivate and inspire others.
Change at work is hard
My opinion should count and I should be consulted on organizational decisions
Leaders need to 'hold people accountable'
Leaders must engage their people and make them happy at work
Younger generation is impossible to lead
People need to bring their whole self to work - we insist it be their most EVOLVED self instead.

Below are links to the FULL 30 MINUTE KEYNOTE of how Employee Engagement is Broken and How to Fix it. This explains our approach to current engagement philosophy and how we bring in filters of accountability to engage the right people on your teams.
Apple IOS
Spotify
Google Play

Here is a link to a full keynote of mine on our Business Readiness philosophy. This is our modern and evolved take on how leaders can better lead their teams through change with shared accountability for the success of the change as a whole.

You can also listen to an amazing episode that dives deeper into the "Does my opinion actually count at work?" topic in this podcast that Cy Wakeman and I did a few months ago. Many have loved the fire in this episode!
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/s2e26-achieving-organizational-alignment-without-drama/id1253461828?i=1000431130337

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For more of my videos and behind-the-scenes footage of my keynotes and speaking engagements check out my YouTube Channel.

If you'd love for me to speak at your next event you can check out my Speaker's Page to learn more.

Hope you guys loved this episode and the format! Let me know thoughts on an additional episode of the 3 additional sins I had written down in my notes. If you want those as well I am happy to add on an additional episode on this subject.

Let's have another drama-free week my people. Keep livin' the good life!

BONUS EPISODE: Employee Engagement is Broken - Full Keynote Apr 17, 2019

**Apologies for the scratching noise on some of the audio throughout the clip. There was a little interference between the two microphones I was wearing. Hope you can hang in there for the content!

Many organizations have gone all in on employee engagement. Coke and pepsi in the breakroom, increase vacation days, flexible working hours and whatever it can be done to improve employee circumstances. While watching this trend, our organization was worried an over-rotation on engagement, without a strong foundation in mindsets of accountability, would create entitlement.

And all trends are pointing to the fact that it has done just that in many cases.

This full keynote is all about how many organizations are frustrated with their approach to engagement, why we know that the research behind engagement strategies is flawed and, most importantly, I discuss practical ways to fix it moving forward.

In our presentations, we don't just come in and disrupt with reasons why we believe the current models aren't working. We ensure that we leave audiences with a settled mind because they have our framework, practical tools and techniques to actually implement what we are suggesting.

If you are looking for that practical tool that allows you to still listen to the concerns of your team about what would make the workplace amazing, but you believe in our model of accountability - be sure to listen all the way to the end for the Engaged Action Planning tool I teach. This is your solution.

This specific talk was only a 30-minute session, but I deliver conferences keynotes and corporate training sessions to leaders and employees to help ditch the drama from leadership, Hardwire Accountability in our teams, as well as Change Readiness (our modern take on traditional change management).

These talks can be customized to what your event is needing and can be super interactive from 30 minutes to 8 hours in content.

If you'd love for me to speak at your next event you can check out my Speaker's Page to learn more.

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For more of my videos and behind-the-scenes footage of my keynotes and speaking engagements check out my YouTube Channel.

Joy or Misery, My Choice Apr 15, 2019

There are two ways to go through each day - joy our misery, our choice. I was reminded of this powerful lesson after a recent morning I had when I thought my car was stolen after getting home late from a speaking engagement.

I thought this lesson I share in this episode can show the impact of living the philosophy on the daily and how the same events can have drastically different results if we understand our ego and poor thinking.

Even though this is a different setup for an episode - I always love sharing the situations where I am screwing up my practice of the philosophy and how I'm getting back on track in the moment.

I thought this was a perfect example about how reducing the amount of drama in our thinking and following better mental processes can lead to more impact and happiness in the world.

At least it did in my world.

Hope you enjoy this episode on your commute, on your run, during your workout or wherever you may be listening. I appreciate all of you!

Let's keep living beyond drama my people.

Alex

If you have any feedback or questions let's continue the discussion at any of the places below:
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For more of my videos and behind-the-scenes footage of my keynotes and speaking engagements check out my YouTube Channel.

I believe I mentioned the Edit Your Story tool as a quick way to mentally move from drama to adding impact in the world. You can learn that tool at this link here! It is magical.

If you'd love for me to speak at your next event you can check out my Speaker's Page to learn more.

How to Love Your Job Again Mar 23, 2019

What if I told you that the job you hate today can become the job you love tomorrow? It sounds too good to be true, but I have had so many attendees reach out after our sessions and say that this is what happens in their mindsets after they learn our principles.

I am actually fascinated with the recent trend that so many people are longing to start their own business or enter the gig economy because they cannot find joy in their job anymore.

I'm not against someone starting their own company and being an entrepreneur, but I feel like an enormous amount of people are missing the massive opportunity within incredible corporations to develop themselves and get invested under the safety net of an established brand.

Understanding drama and how to navigate it in the workplace can open you up to a world of opportunity to accelerate your career. Not to mention all of the additional capital that the company may have to develop your leadership skills in a safe space without all of the risk of your own money.

This podcast episode introduces my top four ideas and tools to stop and take a reality check if the job you are in is what is causing your misery. This is the episode to listen to before you quit that job in an established company.

So if you are wondering:

How to find a job that you love
How to be happier at work
How to find my purpose at work
Why I don't like my job so much

This podcast will really get you thinking!

Below is a link to the Edit Your Story tool so you can see the power of how your stress at work can just fall away with this tool.

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How to Be More Confident as a Leader Mar 01, 2019

Many people are searching for ways to increase their confidence as a leader, but find themselves holding back. In a recent session of mine, an attendee loved the content but didn't know how to confidently give the techniques a try and wanted some advice. This episode breaks down my thinking on how to truly increase your confidence with some simple techniques and mindset shifts.

So many people believe most of your confidence comes from being competent and building skills. Once those skills are built up enough, then you can finally say that you are confident right? But time and time again, I know exactly what to do and how to execute something and then my confidence still waivers.

In this episode, I give you some practical strategies to start increasing your confidence as a leader. I argue that much of your confidence comes from understanding the mechanics of your mind and how your stories really decrease your confidence if you don't question them.

I loved this topic that the attendee brought up at my session and it was a blast thinking through my current beliefs on confidence and how to build it as a leader.

I mentioned I would link the Reality-Based Leadership tools that have given me the confidence to address about any challenge in front of a group I am speaking with. I truly believe if every leader was grounded and fluent in this playlist of tools that they would remain in a constant state of confidence. They are FREE for you to check out and learn!

Hope you enjoy this episode and pass it on to anybody else you think it can help.

Let's keep the drama free movement rolling!

Thank you guys. - Alex

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How Clarity Amplifies Your Leadership and Impact Feb 20, 2019

Clarity is a secret weapon in leadership. So many of us are unaware of the impact of our level of clarity (or lack there of) we bring to the table and how it influences team dynamics. In a recent team workshop focused mainly on this topic, I had huge learning moments around this topic and how it can greatly improve your leadership and the level of drama on your team.

I’ve realized that clarity is what’s left – after the drama is gone and leaders seek and facilitate more clarity at all times. Here are my top takeaways from the training and some great ideas to make clarity your secret weapon moving forward.

In this episode, you will hear about our team experience that put our ability to get clear to the test over the course of three days and my big takeaways from the experience.

You will leave with 3 super simple, yet effective ideas that will help you be the clearest person in the room when you speak and bring ideas to the table. The ability to do so is a HUGE advantage in your career and in your credibility as you communicate.

For those of you curious about super practical techniques to carve away even more drama as either a leader or someone looking to become a leader - this episode may be one to come back to a few times a year.

Love when I can pass one of my cool experiences off to you to experience as well! That is what this is.

So for anyone wondering:

How to bring clarity as a leader
What can I do to lead better teams
What are some ideas to lead projects better
How to be clear when I speak
How to communicate better

Then this episode will be loaded with ideas for you to put to work!

I hope you enjoy and thank you for being the best listeners.

Let's keep ditching the drama.

Alex

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If you'd love for me to speak at your next event you can check out my Speaker's Page to learn more.

Let's keep ditching the drama.

How to Maximize Top Talent on Your Team Jan 31, 2019

The famous Steve Jobs quote is "We don't hire the best talent to tell them what to do, we hire the top talent so they can tell us what to do." In this episode, I add my commentary to this quote to ensure top talent stays drama-free in what they suggest for you to do for ideas.

By understanding a few of these filters as a leader you can ensure that you get the best out of your most talented people far into the future without limiting them.

Too often we have incredible people on our teams and we constantly ask them what are their ideas and how could we change the world and maximize their talent.

What tends to happen is they reveal AMAZING ideas and creativity for how to move forward. However, as leaders and the organization looks into executing those ideas they realize that there are constraints in our daily realities that quickly shut down these big ideas.

This constant cycle of asking for brainstorming and creativity from top talent followed by leaders saying, "well we don't have enough dollars or time or bandwidth to pull that off" starts to frustrate everyone, especially top talent.

The magic here comes when leaders realize that adding in an extra step to help ground their teams "in reality" is where true innovation and creativity starts. The quicker a leader can jump into a visual tool or technique to clearly draw out reality and the constraints the group is asked to deliver under, the quicker that top talent can put their energy to where it will ACTUALLY make a difference.

This is what this episode is all about.

Learning the techniques I reveal in this episode will ensure that you can continue to have the best talent tell you "what to do" in the most effective and drama-free way moving forward.

I think you'll like this one!

So for anyone wondering:

How to get the most out of top talent?
Why do high-performers sometimes get frustrated?
How to reward my best people?
How to lead talented people better at work
What tools help us innovate faster

Then this episode will be spot on for you!

As always, thanks again for tuning in. Spread the word and share this with any coworkers, friends and peers you think it could help!

Let's keep ditching the drama my friends.

-Alex

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If you'd love for me to speak at your next event you can check out my Speaker's Page to learn more.

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Dealing with "Change for Change's Sake" at Work Jan 19, 2019

Many people who are frustrated with the rapid pace of change in their organizations bring up this concern that their companies are pushing changes just for change's sake.

They are convinced that the company is not being strategic about the direction and reason for many of the changes they are implementing. This episode dives into navigating this frustration and will give you some answers to approach this situation from a place where you can add the most value with the least amount of drama.

Often times, people understand that the world will always be changing, but they are not sold on the fact that change is all-the-time a great thing.

This topic is always a great conversation to get into and I believe this podcast can add a lot of clarity if you find yourself in this situation or mindset about changes going on with your team and organization.

In this episode we cover:

The common myths about change at work that hold us back
The 3 "camps" of where people tend to settle in their macro outlook on change in the world that comes their way
The TRUE decision-maker of change and the reason to change what we are doing in the workplace
What steps to take to actually speak up with expertise (and not your opinion) if you truly believe your organization is spinning their wheels with the changes they are implementing and trying to execute on

All in all this episode will help you ditch the drama greatly in your approach to navigating change in your life and at work.

So for anyone wondering:

How can I get better at being comfortable with change?
What do companies that successfully move through change have in common?
Why is change so hard for some people at work?
How to get better at change
Why our company seems to change just for change's sake

Then this episode has some great actionable advice for you to run with!

As always, thanks again for tuning in. Spread the word and share this with any coworkers, friends and peers you think it could help!

Let's keep ditching the drama my friends.

-Alex

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If you'd love for me to speak at your next event you can check out my Speaker's Page to learn more.

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Tips for Overcoming a Super Negative Person at Work Jan 02, 2019

When working with a client earlier this year I was told about a somewhat toxic situation that happened between a manager and a large number of employees that were accusing her of being basically the most negative person ever.

By the end of the situation, the manager who'd been considered negative had left the organization and it seemed as if a large number of employees had really teamed together and built some rapport over the fact that they "survived" the negativity of this person.

This story inspired me to discuss, on this episode, some very important concepts about human behavior we often see in companies we work with when the ego is out to play and causing a lot of chaos in our teams.

While this may seem like a more specific case, this idea of how much drama can be caused when the ego is out to play and unchecked is a great lesson for us all to learn from and be aware of in our day-to-day interactions.

So if you are someone wondering:

How to deal with someone who is negative
What can I do to be less negative
What to do with a negative manager
How to overcome a negative work culture
How to manage egos

Then this episode will have some great ideas for you to think about.

To be honest, I didn't think this was one of my best episodes that I'd done initially but after the edit I truly think it is one of my best that addresses a simple yet all to common situation when it comes to negativity with those around you.

Hope you enjoy. Thank you for your time and ears.

Excited to kick off 2019 and another year of this journey!

Much love, Alex

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If you'd love for me to speak at your next event you can check out my Speaker's Page to learn more.

Let's keep ditching the drama.

How to Start Your Speaking Career Dec 14, 2018

Being a speaker is something so many people connect with me on to hear my story on how I got started and advice for getting started themselves. After my almost 4 years as a speaker and learning directly from New York Times Bestselling Author, Cy Wakeman, who has built a successful speaking business over the last 20 years, I wanted to share all of my learnings with you!

On this podcast episode, I speak with Marcus Chambers about how he can get started with his speaking career. Marcus has recently graduated from the University of Oregon and has been signed by Nike as a track and field athlete. He is an Olympic hopeful and an incredible guy who has an electric spirit and a hunger to share his story and become a speaker.

I hope this information gives you some great ideas and tips for getting started on your journey.

In this podcast we cover:

My story of getting started speaking 4 years ago
My best tips for getting your first few speeches
Best-practices for getting momentum to get your name out there
How to get more testimonials after your speeches to build credibility
How to build out your speech
Best practices I've found in models to present your information
How to learn from the best speakers in the industry
And much more!

I think I've now had 10+ meetings on people that are interested in sharing their story through the platform of a live stage. This call is your reference to what I typically talk about in those meetings!

Always happy to connect if I am in your city to grab a coffee an discuss further.

I hope you enjoy and find this information helpful!

Much love. Alex

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If you'd love for me to speak at your next event you can check out my Speaker's Page to learn more.

Let's keep ditching the drama.

Top 5 Common Mistakes When Starting to Lead and Live Reality-Based Dec 05, 2018

The Reality-Based Leadership philosophy really resonates for so many people. It reveals some universal truths and actions steps to start living a drama-free life both at work and at home. However, the ego and the human condition can play tricks on us and often causes some common challenges when first starting to try out the techniques and ideas. Be aware of these as you begin your journey!

I feel this is one of the most important episodes I've created to date because if you are starting to believe that you "get it" and others don't when it comes to ditching the drama, you are actually being introduced to the next evolution of your ego that returns you back to judging and not helping.

That ego is so sophisticated.

This episode is meant to streamline you through the next phase of development as you are practicing the Reality-Based Leadership philosophy and feeling what it is like to have less drama in your life. This will help you sustain that momentum so far!

Understanding these 5+ common mistakes that people run into once becoming fans and practitioners of the philosophy will help you jump the next level of drama and emotional expensiveness you can get into.

So give these some good thought, attention and self-reflection as you continue your learning.

If you have any feedback or questions let's continue the discussion at any of the places below:
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If you'd love for me to speak at your next event you can check out my Speaker's Page to learn more.

Let's keep ditching the drama.

How to Solve a Lack of Buy-in in 20 Minutes Nov 19, 2018

I had to jump in on this viral clip that went out from a college football player that was upset about a "lack of buy-in" that was hurting their team.

So many athletes and coaches talk about the importance of buy-in of all involved in order for a team to be successful. The problem, however, is that buy-in has remained an illusion and unteachable for so many.

Most struggle to fully buy-in, leaders get frustrated because others buy-in and it remains an ambiguous and confusing concept. The video (you can watch the video version here) I created and now, this podcast episode, clears all of that up by bringing in the research on what buy-in truly is, why it is so crucial to success of teams and leaving you with 2 important tools to ensure that buy-in happens with your teams.

I love jumping on to these videos that go viral of passionate athletes that are struggling with cultivating high-states of accountability on their teams and this one was juicy for our research on ditching the drama around buy-in to help out.

So for all of my athletes, coaches and parents of athletes out there - I'd love for you to pass this on with ANYONE you think it could help. EVERY single team at any level I work with talks extensively about the importance of buy-in, but they do not know specifically how to teach it and ensure that it is happening. This episode can be a resource to clarify all of that moving forward.

For those in the corporate space you will find some great lessons from this example as well.

If you loved this clip, I broke down another amazing speech from a North Carolina college basketball player that was given an amazing call to greatness that changed the entire course of his career here. This video helps you understand the brain science and why that was such a powerful moment as well!

Topics covered in the episode are:

What does it mean to TRULY buy-in to a team, program or organization?
Why is their "No Third Option" when it comes to buying in?
What to do if some people just don't know any better about why buy-in is important?
Tools to facilitate individuals to choose to buy-in or not
The best ways to set standards and get clear on "are you in or are you out?" when it comes to buy-in
How the 4 factors of accountability can helps us understand why it is impossible to "hold people accountable" that are never TRULY committed in the first place.
Why conditions on our buy-in leave us never fully committed and frustrated with our experience.

If you have any feedback or questions let's continue the discussion at any of the places below:
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If you'd love for me to speak at your next event you can check out my Speaker's Page to learn more.

Let's keep ditching the drama.

How to Learn Faster, Better and Uglier with Trev Ragan Oct 31, 2018

Everyone is a learner and everyone wants to get better at something. The problem is that we haven't yet utilized the research when it comes to learning in the best way. Trevor Ragan is on a mission to magnify the best research out there to make us all better learners.

In this podcast, Trev and I talk about ditching the drama from the learning process to open up the natural learner in all of us.

Trev speaks across the country on the topic and has started a movement of those open to learning by "training ugly."

For more on Trev's bio click here. He's a beast out there speaking on all things learning and spreading the word!

We let this one flow a bit and cover so many overlapping topics of how drama gets in the way of learning and event taking steps outside of our comfort zone.

You'll find great ideas about:

What is the difference between a zoo tiger and jungle tiger when it
comes to learning?
Comfort Zones
Recognizing Jungle Tiger Moments
The four triggers of fear that try to stop us from learning
Fear
How to recognize and move beyond fear
Practical questions to tune into self-doubt and limitations
What makes a bad, good and great learner?
How does accountability fit in with learning
The resistance to change and how it affects learning and growth
Feedback and how it ties into learning
How to give and receive feedback and not miss the learning
Tips to overcome negative feedback you receive
We make up the word "zoo justification"
How to help your team learn more and take on jungle tiger moments
Why being a translator of research is so powerful
Why "robbing reps" prevents others from learning
The four factors of learning from a mindset of accountability
How to understand resilience and be more resilient

His newest video he mentioned How to Build a Growth Mindset:
https://youtu.be/V7XjFTrPl6o

How to Overcome Fear:
https://youtu.be/qKCJbDOmuTI

A Study on Praise and Mindsets:
https://youtu.be/NWv1VdDeoRY

Growth Mindset Introduction
https://youtu.be/75GFzikmRY0

Learning - How it Works & How to Do it Better
https://youtu.be/u9WpHHJz5Dc

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3 Ways to Stop People From Venting (Nicely) Oct 22, 2018

We dove deep on venting and whether it is helpful or not in the workplace.

As we discussed, an attendee in one of my sessions wanted to know our best ways to stop the venting, but to do it nicely where it doesn't hurt the person's feelings AND doesn't look like you are taking the side of the other person, group or department involved. Here are my 3 best suggestions for that situation!

This is always a sensitive subject in most workplaces because many have been allowed to vent or they may be chronic venters at their organization.

In fact, some egos get a little defensive when we share the research that venting is just the ego's way of avoiding self-reflection and sharing it's version of the story. That act of avoiding self-reflection is what most people don't realize is all that is keeping the ego alive in that moment. One great coaching question or moment in "What could I do to help?" or "What do I actually know for sure?" just might put the ego that is complaining and venting to sleep and get us accountable.

Why venting feels good in the moment, I promise you accountability, toggle-switching to your high-self and having impact in the situation feels WAAAY better.

So for those that want to carve away the amount of time and energy you spend each week venting or listening to those who are venting. This is the episode for you!

My 3 best ways to free up time, hear less complaining and all doing so in the most respectful way possible.

Can't wait to hear how this works for you!

So if you are someone wondering:

How do I stop someone from venting?
Is venting good for me?
Does everyone need time to vent?
Am I allowed to share feelings at work?
Nice ways to deal with venting
How to stop people from complaining

Or anything along those lines - this podcast will get you started!

I talked about the technique for editing other people's stories in the first tip...Grab that for free below!

Here is a link to our [Edit Your Story tool][1]

If you have any feedback or questions let's continue the discussion at any of the places below:
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For more of my videos and behind-the-scenes footage of my keynotes and speaking engagements check out my [YouTube Channel][5].

If you'd love for me to speak at your next event you can check out my [Speaker's Page here][6] to learn more.

Let's keep ditching the drama.

What if Leadership is Making Poor Decisions Oct 09, 2018

Ever find yourself confused of decisions by leadership? Many share with me that the organization seems to have no idea what is really going on and are even making poor decisions. This episode will open up some freedom to know how to move forward to succeed anyway.

So often in my speaking engagements people get through about the first half of training and the content is really resonating with them. They truly understand the power of personal accountability and what happens when we can stay clean in our thinking and not argue with reality. They even let me know that their team members are always doing this and then they drop the big question...

What if WE get it, but it seems as if LEADERSHIP doesn't. Like they just seem to be making the worst decisions and even though we are doing all of this work, they don't like to consult us on where to take the company.

And this introduces the next evolution of our ego. Where we believe we got it and nobody else does.

I've been here before. It is as draining as it is confusing.

But this question is directly where the next level of freedom lies.

So let's find a better way to move forward!

In this episode, I discuss how to get clear on what is happening when you believe that leadership is making poor decisions.

You'll soon understand how the ego creates stories about those that are letting us know how the organization is trying to stay competitive and how we respond to this news - ESPECIALLY if it gets us out of our comfort zone.

You'll also learn about the 3 main roles we can play at work and how by understanding those roles we can quickly conserve energy that would be lost in getting frustrated with decisions we aren't supposed to be involved in.

Lastly, once we clear up how you can quickly settle into the most high-value place during these confusing times I will give you a couple of my best strategies on how to actually add impact with expertise and not opinions.

Thank you again for following along!

Here is a link to our Edit Your Story tool to get you started on noticing when you are stressed or frustrated and to better tune into your thoughts. This is the introduction to unlocking so much in your life.

If you have any feedback or questions let's continue the discussion at any of the places below:
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For more of my videos and behind-the-scenes footage of my keynotes and speaking engagements check out my YouTube Channel.

If you'd love for me to speak at your next event you can check out my Speaker's Page here to learn more.

Let's keep ditching the drama.

When Someone Constantly Frustrates You at Work Sep 24, 2018

One of the most common questions we get in sessions boils down to "How can I change another?" So many of us are frustrated with a colleague who consistently doesn't do what they say they are going to do. They may even consistently let us down.

In this episode, I answer a question from a session of mine when someone brings up that they are having a constant issue with someone they work with. With that question in mind, I dove deep into the philosophy to give you our best tips for navigating this all-too-common challenge for so many people.

This is one of the most common questions I hear during my speaking engagements during Q&A and it boils down to basically a question around "How can I change another?" This is such a setup question because you cannot actually change another. You can try some of the techniques I mentioned here to bypass their ego and you can try to stop the co-creation cycle yourself and limit your judgement, but you cannot change another.

By using some of the tools I mention in this podcast you do what you can actually do in this situation that would be productive - you can stay at a non-judgement, high-level of accountability yourself AND you can stop enabling some of the behavior of the other person.

This ability to stop enabling actually may help reality and natural consequences do it's own work to eventually lead to a better result.

So if you are someone wondering:

How to deal with a tough co-worker?
What if someone constantly frustrates me?
What if someone is consistently resistant?
How to get someone to listen?
How to get someone to do what I want them to do at work?
Tips for solving conflict at work

Or anything similar! This podcast will have some great ideas for you.

I talked a bunch about this idea of Stop Judging and Start Helping and the Edit Your Story tool below is the foundation for learning that great mental process to carve away drama. Grab that for free below!

Here is a link to our Edit Your Story tool to get you started on noticing when you are stressed or frustrated and to better tune into your thoughts.

If you have any feedback or questions let's continue the discussion at any of the places below:
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For more of my videos and behind-the-scenes footage of my keynotes and speaking engagements check out my YouTube Channel.

If you'd love for me to speak at your next event you can check out my Speaker's Page here to learn more.

Let's keep ditching the drama.

How Stories Cause Suffering, Create Identities and Limit Our Experiences Sep 03, 2018

Who would you be without your story?

This was the central question in a recent 9-day retreat I experienced and what a journey it took me on! In this episode, I share how I dove deeper into the power of our unquestioned stories and how they create suffering in our lives and eventually solidify into identities that can keep us from being our authentic selves that can experience so many amazing things in the world.

This self-reflection was me trying to articulate how much I thought I understood this universal principle of our suffering being optional, only to discover I have so much more to work left to do in understanding my own ego and its games.

Over the last month or so since the retreat I have been journaling and looking deeper at these unquestioned stories and how they have unknowingly settled into identities. By returning to that anchor of "Who would I be without the story I'm believing?" I have discovered so many ways in which I can experience the world from a different perspective with a new open mind. This has been so rewarding!

I've learned that as you continue to slowly dissolve some of these identities you become a more authentic you and move through the world with much less fear. It truly is another way to carve away drama to reveal our natural state of success and happiness.

Here is a link to our Edit Your Story tool to get you started on noticing when you are stressed or frustrated and to better tune into your thoughts. This is the introduction to unlocking so much in your life.

If you have any feedback or questions let's continue the discussion at any of the places below:
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For more of my videos and behind-the-scenes footage of my keynotes and speaking engagements check out my YouTube Channel.

If you'd love for me to speak at your next event you can check out my Speaker's Page here to learn more.

Let's keep ditching the drama.

Can We Leave Work Even Each Day Jul 25, 2018

I am fascinated by how many people report that they leave work completely drained each day with no energy left for families, friend or hobbies. What we've found in our research on drama is that it is not our daily jobs and tasks that exhaust us, it is all of the drama caused by poor mental processes and drama that we bring in to our jobs. This episode elaborates on what I mean by leaving work "even" and breaks down some counter-arguments I've encountered while out speaking on the topic with organizations.

I hope this episode opens your mind up to the idea that you don't need to follow the wave of "grass is greener" thinking when it comes to your job or career. We have found over and over that the same job that many were upset with the day before, can be a job they love after a subtle mindset shift and new understanding of how to navigate personal mental drama and the drama of others.

If you are interested in calculating your own Employee Value Equation to have a baseline of where you are at you can take our FREE assessment here.

This is also a great resource to start a dialogue with your team about the cost of drama when it comes to the true value we are adding to the cause. It can be a real eye-opener for some.

If you have any feedback or questions let's continue the discussion at any of the places below:
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For more of my videos and behind-the-scenes footage of my keynotes and speaking engagements check out my YouTube Channel.

Let's keep ditching the drama.

FULL OVERVIEW of the Reality-Based Leadership Philosophy Jul 03, 2018

Here it is you guys! The entire Reality-Based Leadership philosophy in one episode. Many have asked for a full overview with stories and examples to bring the ditch the drama philosophy altogether and this is it. Ready to recapture the 2 hours per day per person that is lost to drama at work? Listen in!

Reality-Based Leadership is a revolutionary leadership philosophy calling for an entirely new role for the leader. Leaders have traditionally been responsible for inspiring others, for motivating others, for engaging others or making their people buy-in. The problem? These are personal choices by the individual and cannot even be the role for the leader.

The role of the leader in today's reality is not to inspire or to motivate another - the true role of the modern leader is to help eliminate emotional waste (drama) from the workplace by facilitating good mental processes. Businesses have laser-focus on eliminating waste from their workplaces with good processes improvement. If you want to eliminate mental/emotional waste from the workplace (2 hours per day in our stats per person) you must be able to facilitate good mental processes and hold people accountable to using these good mental processes that will lead to happiness, high engagement and results.

Learning and practicing the Reality-Based Leadership philosophy will help people recognize the one thing that unites us all and causes us to default into drama - our human condition.

By working to overcome our own human condition and helping others to do the same we will start to lead teams that quickly recognize when they are in drama and help each other get into better mental processes to recapture that precious energy and use it towards better ROI.

In this podcast you will learn:

How the human condition leads us to stress and stepping down instead of stepping up
The New Employee Value Equation and the role emotional expensiveness plays in the value we add
Ways in which drama arises in our daily interactions and how to quickly redirect that energy into a better ROI
How happiness is a choice when you understand personal accountability
Reality-Based Thinking and the importance of not believing everything you think
What it truly means to be aligned to your organization and how to add value in your role at work
How to drive for results and succeed in spite of the circumstances you believe are holding you back.

BREAKING DOWN THE PHILOSOPHY BY TOPIC:

Part 1 - 21:27 (Introduction to RBL and Drama)
Part 2 - 31:23 (Troublesome Trends and Your Human condition)
Part 3 - 47:49 (Why You Should Lead First, Manage Second)
Part 4 - 102:54 (New Employee Value Equation and the Role of the Modern Leader)
Part 5 - 124:28 (More Happiness With Personal Accountability)
Part 6 - 138:48 (Less Stress with Reality-Based Thinking)
Part 7 - 152:16 (Truly Buy-In with Organizational Alignment)
Part 8 - 211:07 (Start Capitalizing on Changing Times)
Part 9 - 218:07 (Succeed in Spite of Your Circumstances)

Here is a link to download the Edit Your Story Tool I mentioned in this podcast to relieve stress and help with venting.

The Negative Brainstorming Activity is great when teams are struggling with change even though a decision has been made in your organization.

Want to calculate your own Employee Value Equation? Here is the link to see where you are at.

Was your level of emotional expensiveness higher than you realized?

If you are interested in having me speak at your event or conduct a training with your team you can check out my speaker page here.

I hope you love this one! If it was helpful for you please share it with a friend, family member, a colleague or your entire team.

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Let's keep ditching the drama.

What Leads to Happiness in Life Jun 18, 2018

Your level of happiness is not correlated to having perfect circumstances in which to thrive in, it is correlated to the amount of accountability you take for those circumstances. Your circumstances are just your assignment to succeed anyway in.

In this episode, I reveal our research into happiness and how it aligns with some of the best happiness research out there. You'll then learn the mental process to cultivate your own level of personal accountability to start living in a high-state of accountability at all times. This will allow you to always see where you can have impact in the world and take action to add value.

This creates the ultimate freedom and path to being happy and successful.

You'll walk away from this half hour with:

The understanding that your level of accountability is MOST correlated to your level of happiness.
A breakdown of the four factors that contribute to accountability and how to cultivate all of them in your day-to-day and with those you lead.
New realizations about buy-in and the fact that buy-in is a choice that high accountables can choose to make.
A refreshing look at resilience as a way to succeed that isn't so exhausting like persistence.
The resiliency board tool which helps you stick to your commitments by helping you crowd source for ideas to overcome barriers and setbacks.
A hilarious story of my struggle in sticking to the four factors of accountability in my own life. (But I am happier in trying to do so!)

If you read this entire description (which I'm not sure if anybody does) - you can DM me at @alexmdorr and I will send you a free download of the resiliency board tool.

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Hope you guys loved this one. Let's stay drama-free my people.

-Alex

How to Overcome Fear Jun 04, 2018

I've noticed that my entire life people have given me varied advice and quotes about fear and how to overcome it. In saying that, I was often frustrated at the lack of practical tips to overcome these feelings of fear in the moment. This idea of fear was something I just couldn't shut off by snapping my fingers until I discovered the Reality-Based philosophy. In this episode, I give you some practical and simple strategies (that will ACTUALLY work) to start carving away that those feelings of fear to help you reduce it or redirect it into productive energy!

I have often been so frustrated by some of the advice that I've read/learned/heard about overcoming fear in my life. Many say things like "success is on the other side of fear" and "once you conquer your fears, you take control of your life" and "all that you are looking for is on the other side of fear."

While I tried to take those quotes to heart, I found myself consistently without a practical tool or technique in some of the most fearful moments of my life and career. I felt stuck to the extent that I just kind of had to deal with the feeling of fear that was causing me anxiety. If you've ever been in that place where you completely understand that fear is something you have to navigate, but you feel without a skillset or practical tool to redirect or calm that energy then you are not alone.

In this episode, I share some of our research and beliefs about fear and ways in which you can start seeing this type of energy differently. Through repeated use of our proven techniques I have found that I am able to quickly recognize when fear is playing it's game on me and by jumping into one of our better mental processes. Fear is just a flavor of drama caused by our human condition that hasn't been filtered through a good mental process.

By learning the good mental processes and tools in this episode you will find yourself better equipped to carve away the drama that fear causes to be better able to conserve that energy and put it towards actions that will lead to more impact and happiness.

Thank you for checking out the episode and I cannot wait to hear your thoughts! Loved being able to get this one out to you guys.

Let's keep ditching the drama. - AD

Living the Philosophy in Alaska May 25, 2018

A recent speaking engagement in Alaska led to a heck of an adventure and a pretty interesting test of living out the philosophy as my plans played out. I hope you all get a laugh out of me trying to practice what I preach so to speak with our drama-free philosophy!

When you listen through this adventure, you probably won't be able to believe that I only had really 2 full days in Alaska and all of this happened. I hope you all can relate to the fact that even though I speak and teach how to be drama-free for a living - I am, myself, working my own program of trying to overcome my human condition that defaults to drama.

As you'll hear, I fell back into believing my own thinking which led to a bunch of self-imposed suffering at multiple points of this trip and I was reminded of how amazing people can be and reminded of how our model and mental process of personal accountability can truly lead to the most happiness and success in our lives.

Buckle up and throw those headphones in! You are officially coming with me to Alaska.

Here's the real story of how it all went down...

Still drama free. Enjoy!

How to Have More Influence Without the Authority of a Job Title May 15, 2018

Many believe that empowerment and having authority comes after you get a job title and it simply is not true. In this episode, I give practical ways to have incredible impact in any situation regardless of your job title or authority in an organization.

So many people I come across are sitting back and waiting for a leader to impact a situation and help with the drama between their teams and this episode really challenges you to start noticing where you step down and choose to step out of the influence you can have in each moment.

By understanding and recognizing these situations and stepping up to redirect any energy that is getting the group off track into drama you can become the "leader" even when you don't have the perceived authority that comes with the title of leader.

Also, using these techniques and good mental processes over time start to save up data points to lead you to be the low-drama, high-value employee that is the top promotion candidate of the future.

So if you are someone wondering:
How can I have more influence in my company?
How can I influence others when I am not the authority figure?
Can I be a leader without having the job title of leader?
How do I be a leader without having the authority of the job title?
How can I have more say in decisions in my company?

Then this is a podcast loaded with tips for you.

I hope you guys enjoy these practical tips on how to become a master of managing this energy!

Let's keep ditching the drama.

How to Actually Change Your Mindset Apr 23, 2018

You hear it everywhere - change your mindset, change your life. There is so much out there about the importance of changing your mindset or being in the right frame of mind to get better results. But how do you actually change a mindset? What practical ways can you do that in the moment? Why is it even important?

In this episode, I discuss our human condition and why it is actually important to know not only how to change your mindset, but when to change it.

I teach you how to recognize your own human condition and how we step down mentally 50-100 times a day and then I reveal a few practical strategies to change your mindset, in the moment to answer the call to greatness instead of stepping down.

Lastly, I share a couple of stories about a few breakthroughs I had in my life when I realized, through a mindset shift, that my suffering and frustration was completely optional. In fact, I learned that one of the most powerful mental processes you can have is to be able to separate out your suffering from your reality. Most people have never experienced this feeling.

Hold on to your hats when you listen to this episode my people! Cannot wait to hear what it unlocks for you.

What Actually Causes Drama in Our Lives Apr 23, 2018

We've been talking a lot about drama in our lives and in this episode I wanted to pinpoint exactly what causes that drama so you can quickly recognize it when it comes. Drama is simply mental/emotional waste in our lives. To get rid of waste or inefficiencies, it is standard business practice for businesses to implement good processes to eliminate that waste.

How do you get rid of mental/emotional waste? By using good MENTAL processes in our own thinking or facilitating the use of good mental processes for others. Understanding this idea is one of the biggest steps to understanding how to start carving away the drama that comes up in your day-to-day.

After clarifying what causes drama, I discuss a practical strategy I often use to redirect that energy that is about to be lost to drama and put it towards adding more impact or value in a situation.

What Happens in Life When the Drama is Gone Apr 23, 2018

In this episode, I share the backstory of why I felt The Carvery podcast had to be created, what space it fills in the world and how the content will help people ditch the drama from their lives to reveal their natural state of success and happiness.

The Carvery is a place for all to gather to learn practical tools and simple strategies to carve away all the drama that keeps us from living as our best, most peaceful self.

Lastly, I discuss my vision for the drama-free movement I'm hoping to create and how the podcast will be my outlet to discuss my own learnings of living drama-free (or trying to) while sharing experiences of teaching others the techniques through my keynotes about how they can carve away drama in their own lives.

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