The Business of Love

Episode #45: Covid-19 and Your Relationship: An Opportunity or a Wake-Up Call May 17, 2020

Covid-19 and Your Relationship

Episode #44 Business Consultant vs. Marriage Counselor Apr 12, 2020

In business, it’s totally acceptable, and recommended to see business consultant.

I work as a consultant in the business world… sales, leadership, peak performance, mindset, game planning… I get hired to go into companies and share my expertise. (Based on 35 years of working and consulting with companies around the globe)

Business Consulting is an accepted practice - Normal - Expected - Progressive

Example: You’re a president, CEO or even VP of sales… and you want to improve the performance of your sales team, you either bring an expert in to work with your team… or you do it yourself. If you could do it yourself, you probably would’ve done it already. So you bring in the expert.

Imagine your sales team struggling, yet you as the leader didn’t bring in any help, you just lashed out and got mad… how do you think that would work?

Step ONE: Recognize and acknowledge that YOU or you and your partner need help. In your biz, if your sales team is struggling, you must bring in an expert and change some things. If you and your partner are struggling, you must acknowledge that and be proactive.

Dan’s perspective: Often times - an association or stigma attached to counseling or therapy. (Yes in my life). Sign of weakness. No one in my family ever saw counseling as far as I know… and we had a plethora of divorces.

Message to MEN: get over it. Get rid of your ego and look at yourself as a free thinker, and innovator… someone who is going to change the game. Change the result.

Step TWO: It’s OK. - No one is perfect, and we are complex individuals… with different backgrounds and beliefs… and we often times need help. We have negotiators, advisors and boards of directors to guide us in business, we must have the same mentality in our relationships.

Step THREE: Find an expert that feels good to both of you. This is a negotiation or a discovery:

Together
Separate
Male
Female

Must go into the situation with an open mind and a mindset to improve.
- If you sincerely don’t want to save your relationship, don’t waste your time.

Step FOUR: Do the work

Some go to counseling for YEARS with no progress b/c they are not committed to doing the work.
Some go to appease their spouse
Some my think they don’t need it.
JUST DO IT

Summary: if you need help, get an expert, lower your ego and do the work.

Episode #43 The LEAD Measure...How to Get MORE of What you Want Mar 22, 2020

Episode 43: The LEAD Measure... How to Get MORE of what you want.

In business, experts talk about working on the lead measure to increase sales. For instance, a life insurance company often times sets it’s accountability or measurement piece on what’s called the LEAD measure, not the result. For instance, to determine if the life insurance rep will his or her quota, they often times measure the “meetings” or "appointments" with the “qualified family” vs measuring the actual sales themselves.

The meeting with the “couple” LEADS to the purchase of the insurance policy… so the LEAD measure for an insurance sales manager is how many appointments do my reps have vs how many policies they’ve sold.

Looking at the sales is like driving in the car and looking in the rear view mirror. They've already happened. Measuring “appointments” will give you an indication of the reps success.

Ideas of LEAD Measures in your Relationship

Having meaningful conversation (attention men)
Being good at listening
Doing something nice for him or her (what did you do when you were dating)
Taking a walk… talking
Running an errand together (divide and conquer)
Offer to make a special meal (give him or her the night off)
Flowers at work (for women) Take him to lunch.. or send lunch to his desk.
Act of Kindness… or thoughtfulness.
Being Present

Episode 42 Married and Lonely Mar 15, 2020

Episode #43: Married and Lonely

Jennifer reads post: (Being lonely within marriage with hopes of being seen and heard)

Examples: Two Examples of friends

Three Elements of a Successful Relationship

Positivity
Consistency
Vulnerability

Consistency is usually taken care of with the context of marriage or relationship so it is always the vulnerability or positivity that will be lacking. There are two times you can fix this - In the beginning of your relationship AND after you’ve been in it for any number of years…

Below are questions to ask yourself about your relationship… if you answer yes to any of these, then both elements could be lacking. And don’t worry, we’ll give you a guide on how to fix them.

Let’s start with early on in the relationship:

Pre-marriage or early marriage questions to uncover red-flags:

Being “best-friend” first is paramount

Internal questions:

Do you feel like you can share life-challenges with your partner?
Do you feel “seen” and acknowledged?
Do you feel heard?
Do you feel like you can share life goals, or your hopes and dreams with your partner… and feel supported.
Are there things that bother you about your partner that you’re afraid to share with him/her

Early Relationship Solution: If you’re early in your relationship, meaning still dating, you’ll need to really look at this and ponder if this is something you need to feel more comfortable doing, meaning, are you innately afraid of being vulnerable? Is this something you need to work on to deepen your relationships? Or, if you are able to do this in previous relationships and you don’t have it with your current partner, is truly the person for you?

Long - Term Relationship Solution:

(Softeners Section)

Take your partner on a date… or something interactive… LIKE A TEAM BUILDING! Companies use this to break down walls and barriers!

(Sidestepping or overcoming FEAR)

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Episode #41: Having a 3-some. Inviting Grace Mar 08, 2020

Making relationships EASY… or as Easy as possible.

People get caught up in “moments” when ppl act a certain way: Maybe they are dismissive, or distant...non-responsive.

Often times we IMMEDIATELY think… it’s US or “They are such a jerk.”

We are all human
We are all going through something

Two of the FOUR AGREEMENTS: (Don Miguel Ruiz)

Don’t Take Anything Personally
Don’t Make Assumptions.

Don’t Take Anything Personally - Easier said than done.

- It’s a skill that you practice
- Life long practice
- “Everyone’s going thru their own stuff!
- Nothing others’ do is because of YOU.
  - When someone short or dismissive, it’s not about you. It’s their own character defects

What others’ say and do is a Projection of their own reality.
- Friend in WA
- Jennifer’s See Agency Webinar
- Other’s opinions come from their own reality

When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering
- Social Media Post
- How you dress
- This happens when you practice one and two.

Action Steps:

Think VR Video Game: When you see picture of others in your mind, see them playing a different VR game than you are.
Think & RESPOND… versus REACT. (It’s a skill you develop)
Adopt the philosophy: You’re not responsible for how others feel or what they do.
1. Book - It’s none of my business what you think about me.
Be Curious vs Reacting: Hmm… why are they acting that way.
1. Question: “Is there something going on”
Be Proactive: Think right now… where have I, or where do I get triggered by someone…
1. Next time this happens, I’m going to get curious verses jumping into your old pattern.
Work on Forgiving Yourself First

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Episode #40 Investing in Your Success Mar 01, 2020

Episode #25: Investing in Your Success

We Talk about business. When businesses are stagnant, they are neither growing or declining…

In relationships, if we are not engaged, talking, connecting, we are becoming stagnant, and like a business… will not grow. In relationships… staying in a state of stagnation, will lead to disengagement and disinterest.

Companies that are moving forward are always innovating… moving forward. The same thing in a marriage.

Simple end of day with partner… how was your day?... yet not really listening or being present.
Often times it’s a “throw away” conversation…. something that just happens, yet it’s surface.
Having surface conversations with your partner is similar to going to a company leadership meeting and not being present…. over time, you are disassociated with the vision and the mission.
What you put in is what you get out…
As time goes by…
With some relationships… the sex is the communication. Nothing much after that.
Steven Covey… building up emotional deposits…. into the bank of love.
What would you do if you were dating that person.

Action Steps:

If you business is stagnant, it’s NOT going to magically change… same for relationships
If you wanted to improve a certain part of your business, what would you do?
Dr. Gottman - Dreams.
Hi Honey… how was your day?: Act "AS IF" you are doing research. "As if" you care. Act AS IF you are writing a story about it.
- Dysfunction in business… and there is also dysfunction in relationships. My ex… didn’t want to ask her, because she would literally talk for an hour.
You have a choice… if you disengage, your relationship will struggle.
Act as if YOU ARE STILL Still Dating.
Create a ritual. Before dinner… let’s you and me take 30 mins.
Response Ideas:
- How does that make you feel?
- What do you think about that?
- Tell me more about that?
- Have you thought about your next steps?

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Episode #39 How to Ask for What You Want Feb 23, 2020

Episode #39 How to Ask for What You Want

Again - different individuals with different upbringings and different models of the world.

Some ppl don’t know how to ask for what they want… and it causes challenges… b/c they complain or place blame rather than simply asking.

Almost a covert, passive aggressive manner… and often times don’t even know it.

Examples:

My Mom:

I’m so tired of this hospital food all-day everyday….

My sister, who has turned her life upside down attempting to make my mom comfortable and safe… she feels inadequate… or has the need to make her happy.

...and so my sister is dancing around attempting to find a solution by saying, would you like to go out to eat today…

Challenge is with complaining or casting this negative general statement… is that it puts the responsibility on someone else to figure out what you want.
1. which isn’t fair to that person… what are they mind readers?

2. The person NOT asking for what they want is always disappointed because the OTHERS don’t know know how to read their mind.

1. Constantly disappointed - (Because they don’t know how to ask)

Example: My previous marriage:

Messy kitchen table - drop off spot.
I didn’t know how to ask… (my mom and dad)
So I let the frustration build up inside of me… self talk.
Then… something else happens… and there’s an upset.

Business situation… we are more proactive to make something happen. Expectations are more clear.

Action Steps:

When you have the urge to complain about something, ask yourself, “what do I really want right now?”
Take a Breath -
Rather than expressing what’s wrong, express “what would be great”
Recognition - Self Analysis: Personal Growth.

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Episode #38 Relationship Myths #2 Feb 16, 2020

Episode #37: Relationship Myths Continued #2

Closure is Essential:

Erica McCurdy, a certified master coach informed me, "Closure is overused and rarely gives either side the answers and mental rest that the client imagines it will. We often want closure when we have failed to address a situation at the time it took place. Because we have allowed time to pass, we have stewed, anguished, agonized over unimportant issues until they have grown into something much bigger than they ever needed to be."

Her advice? "Drop closure off at the curb, it's not your friend. Pick a new place to hang out and move on."

Jennifer:

If they feel they need closure, it’s more to rehash things rather than moving on.
If you handle a situation properly, you won’t need closure later.

In business… if I am the the VP of sales and I’m having an issue with one of my sales reps…

You typically assess the situation
Make decisions about where the “challenge was”
Find a solution
Move on

In a relationship… the emotions are wound up a bit tighter… and we typically feel like we want “closure”... It’s OFTEN TIMES because “they” don’t get what they need… and keep going.

Maybe take a bit… and assess.

2. Marriage or Bust

The pressure of social norms. We have get married. “Daniel and Hayley…”

There is no norm… anymore.

In business, many ppl are now breaking out of what was the norm…. getting a job, etc. In the past… social norm was to get an education and get a good job and retire. Now, the script has been flipped….

If being an entrepreneur makes you happy, working 9-5pm will kill you.

Maybe just being in a healthy, loving relationship is perfect… without the paper.

Trust Your Family and Friends advice

Licensed mental health counselor Daryl Cioffi told me, "I often find that my couples have warped senses of healthy behaviors in their relationships. Some of the worst advice comes from friends and family members because they themselves have unhealthy relationship patterns."

Summary:

Closure is essential… it’s NOT Essential. Sometimes you need to assess
Marriage or Bust - Do what’s right for you
Trust Your Family and Friends Advice - Check the Source

Cultivate Health Intuition and Relationship habits.

Dr. Barbara Winter notes that, "Bad advice from an expert is telling someone exactly what to do: get a divorce, break up, end the relationship, albeit romantic, familial, business, etc." This kind of pointed, instructive guidance, then, should not be heeded from experts, no matter how well-meaning or logical it may sound. Rather, the expert's job is to guide their patient into making healthy, heartfelt decisions on their own.

Dr. Winter continued, "It's not bad advice when we recommend how to best engage, speak, or treat a partner to make a relationship healthier." So learn how to be an active listener who can make the most out of what you're told from professionals. Interrogate a situation and use the wisdom you have to make the best decisions. And listen to your heart.

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Episode #37 How to Keep the Relationship HOT! Feb 09, 2020

Episode #37: How to Keep the Relationship HOT

The Relationship Accelerator

YOU married your partner or in a relationship with our partner for specific reasons:

What are they? Hot? Loving? Caring? Sexy? Great Father? Responsible?

So how about letting them know?
People tend to communicate/let people know early in the relationship.
People need reinforcement
- if you don’t give it to them… someone else will.

Action Steps:

Use positive language
Compliment for things you married them for/or are with them for
- spontaneous
- loving
- thoughtful
When you “TELL” someone who they are… they WANT to hit that mark. (IDENTITY)
Be consistent
Don’t be a pussy.

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Episode #36 Carpe Diem Feb 02, 2020

Episode #36: Carpe Diem

The Show Black Mirror show Recap…

Potential situations of the show:

First Date sucks… are the app say for 5 years/10 years
First Date Great… app says together for 3 weeks.

In the episode… the date went so well, they didn’t want to look

Using Similar Psychology…

If you didn’t know how long you would be with your current partner, how would you treat him/her
If you didn’t know how long you would be with him/him when you got together, would it have made a difference in how you treated him/her.

So here we are today… no matter where you are… you’re there… You can start fresh.

Dan’s disease - Changed my behavior.

People think there’s always time.

In Business, if you own a biz… there may be a great 5 or 10 year run in your specific industry… YOU NEED to MAX that out. Or maybe you have an amazing sales manager… and he/she may take their talents elsewhere if they don’t feel fulfilled both financially and psychologically. So you wouldn’t take things for granted with a valuable employee, you want to do what’s necessary to keep him/her producing at a high level.

Terry Fator - 10 years running: NOT taking things for granted.
- Always working on himself and the show.

Action Steps:

Find appreciation every single day. (Seriously)

2. Ask Quality Questions:

1. What can I do today to make my partner smile?
2. What can I do to make my partner’s life easier?
3. What if we only had 2 years left, how would I treat him/her

3. Repeat and Create a Success Habit

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Episode #35 Q&A #2 Jan 26, 2020

Episode #35 Q&A #2

Devin - Kennesaw, GA
- Hey guys… love your podcast, and I am watching your podcast with my wife on Sunday mornings. She introduced it to me, reluctantly I might add. Sorry to say. I really liked it though. So we listen to it together which has been great. My question is: my wife works full time, as do I. I wish she would cook more. After work, she says she’s too tired and then picks up some take out and we often times eat out of a bag at the kitchen table. That’s ok sometimes, yet it seems we are getting farther and farther away from a home cooked meal. Do you have any suggestions for me?

Jean from Melbourne, Australia
- I LOVE your podcast. Please, please, please… I am single and I’m ready to mingle! I have such a difficult time connecting with men that I find interesting. I work in the financial industry and I’m around men all the time. Most of them I don’t find interesting or someone I’d enjoy spending time with, SIGH. Where are the interesting MEN?

Paul - St. Petersburg, Russia
- You two look like so much fun together. I’m not good at meeting women. I don’t feel confident. Dan, what would you tell me? I’m 32 and single.

Lena - Leipzig, Germany
- You two are so cute, so fun. In our German culture, we are not raised to share feelings. Often times people would say we are stoic. I would like my husband and I to be more happy together. We are happy, not too much talking though. Do you think we can get better. My husband did watch your last episode with me and he liked it. He said Dan looks similar to his uncle!

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Episode #34 Don't Make Assumptions Jan 19, 2020

Episode 34: Don’t Make Assumptions

Mind Reading - and NLP term that simply says how we “read someone’s mind” about what they are going to do or how they are going to respond.

It’s easier said than done…

Friends of ours...

Making assumptions of why, what he is thinking, and what he is going to do when she approaches him.

This person felt:

Business example: Email that was sent out and there was no response:

Assumptions:

You don’t like what I said
You don’t want to participate
You’re being selfish by not responding

She felt? helpless...

Waiting at an airport for a flight to go home… and you see someone in the distance that you recognize… and for a moment, you think they saw you, yet they turn around and walk away.

Assumptions:

They ignored you.
They don’t like you enough to engage

You FELT: alone, unliked, questioning did something happen…

We are wired to make assumptions:

Steps:

Be Mindful and Present: Getting back to being curious and questioning your own thought process.

Because “what if” that’s not the case…

Another example: Jennifer

Action Steps:

Rather than making assumptions, GET CURIOUS
- Take a Breath - pause
Question your thought process
- what other things could be possible here?
- Has he/she ever done something to intentionally hurt or harm you?

Underlying Belief: Your partner wants to help you and/or protect you.
Address the situation
HOW
- Pre-frame: Because Frame… linking to wanting the best.

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Episode #33 Level Up Your Leadership Skills Jan 12, 2020

Episode 33: Level Up Your Leadership Skills

Leadership skills are paramount to grow a business.

If you were going to hire someone to help you grow your business, what type of skills would you want?

Go ahead and write down 3 characteristics of a great leaders.

Leaders in business:

Do what you say you’re going to do.
Make Decisions that are for the greater good.
Good Listener - When Necessary
Sense of Balance
Honest
Good Communicator
Has a Game plan
Not Being afraid to Tell the truth.

Dan: Phil Jackson, Tony Robbins, Peter Boesen, My Dad,

Jennifer: Doug Johnson,

Action Steps:

Let’s go through the 8 listed leadership qualities and rate yourself along with your partner.

Do what you say you’re going to do
Make Decisions that are for the Greater Good
Good Listener - When Necessary
Sense of Balance
Honest
Good Communicator
Has a Game Plan
Not Being Afraid to Tell the Truth

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Episode #32 Great Relationships are Messy, Just Like Great Sex Jan 05, 2020

Episode #32: Great Relationships are Messy, Just Like Great Sex

Our Relationship is as STRONG as it’s ever been, yet it had to get a little messy first.

Even though we knew how to communication and ways to connect, life takes over sometimes.

Jennifer Story - being afraid going through disease…

Habits were formed…
If you’re upset at how you are being treated by your partner, you’re partly at fault.
People think when you find the love of your life… things will be perfect. And when things aren’t SMOOTH… people get discouraged.

- BUT, that moment is the opportunity for GROWTH.

IN BUSINESS - when things start to unwind, or slow down… you have the opportunity to create something new

DISRUPTION - Business Parallel

CEO’s Fear Disruption. (Tim Sanders) - How to stay agile/moveable - GRAPH

Summary - Marriage is Messy / Great Sex is Messy

First few times.. giving it your best
Messy until you know what you are doing.

ACTION STEPS

Psychological side … you need to know that no matter how great your marriage is, you’re gonna have some messy spots… and that’s good.
When you See something SAY something - Later means worse.
Talk to your Partner in a non-blaming fashion - “We” and Because frames.
Follow Your Heart

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Episode #31 Monthly Goals to Increase Connection Dec 29, 2019

Episode 39: Monthly Goals for Connection

Marriage is a complex situation surrounded by moving parts that impact multiple areas of the relationship… and with kids, careers and everyday life, having a simple FUNDAMENTAL resource to help us win is both imperative and enjoyable.

You hear people talk about date night… and what that really is, is an ACTION strategy to keep us connected and interact outside of our family business.

Think about it - Most of us have multiple facets to our relationship:

Careers
Finances
Accidents
Injury
Health Issues
Kids
Parents
In-Laws

Research tell us when WE are moving forward and HITTING a goal, we feel better about ourselves. When we share this experience with our partner, it can add depth to the relationship.

Monthly Goal Setting (MGS) Action Plan:

On Your Own or with your Partner:

Write down on paper things you would like to accomplish or things you have been thinking about doing for a while.
Write them all down.
You are going to pick two goals:
- The first goal is you MUST goal. This is what you MUST accomplish this month. Could be a project (building a deck), could be an activity (taking my daughter to see her Taylor Swift).. could be a personal activity - (working out 3x per week) or (reading to my kids every night).

- The 2nd goal is a goal you would like to accomplish. Maybe it’s something you’ve been thinking about, yet you haven’t taken any action yet.
  - Break that GOAL down into doable action steps.
  - Example: Goal - Build a back porch. Doable action steps moving toward could be:
    - Make an inventory of all the supplies I”ll need to get started next month
    - Find out the cost - making inventory of supplies.
  - GET A NEW JOB
    - This month’s goal… get my resume together to I can get my name out there next month.

So, you have 2 goals. ONE MUST goal and one goal you are moving toward, yet that goal is broken down into doable steps.

If you do this together, you can put on some music… have some wine and make it a 60-minute project together. Have some fun with it.

If you are doing it alone… then get together with your partner and go through your plan.

At the end of the month… it does a few things:

Gives you sense of accomplishment
Self-Esteem goes up
Have a deeper connection with your partner.
Become their support system or cheerleader
Share your results with your kids… learning experience.

Action Plan:

Set up MGS Action Plan with your spouse. Do it now. You don’t have to wait for the start of the month. You can do it now… and do a 2-week version.
Get together and walk through your MGS Action plan.
Be OPEN and Vulnerable. Let down the guard!
Be positive
Encourage if necessary yet DON’T check up on them. No Nagging
Celebrate successes
Talk about it when you fall short.

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Episode #30 Marrying for Money or for Love Dec 22, 2019

Episode 30: Marrying for Money or Love

First of all, yes, you can do both. You can have both money, love AND happiness… you can have it all.

Jennifer, I want to interview you today… this is a topic that will be of interest both to women who are in the dating market… and men who are wondering if they can find the right woman for them.

So let me set this up: MONEY vs Love

Two parts here: 1st part: From the female perspective:

You are attractive, intelligent, fun… a laundry list of positives… I’m saying this from my perspective. YOU Can have your choice of MEN.

You married me… and when you married me, I was two years out of a divorce and I wasn’t in the financial position that I could have been… yet you chose me.

So my question is… with today’s social media flaunters and what our society pushes as important… what was your strategy when you were single in regards to MONEY or LOVE?

Conversation:

Did you date wealthy men?

Did you have a filtering system or standards for career choice?

How did you know you made a mistake?

Now for the MEN:

I want to hear you advice to MEN who aren’t CRUSHING it financially right now… what would you tell them?

Self-Esteem

Self-Image

Action Steps:

Follow Your Heart
Money comes and Goes -
What is Important to YOU?

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Episode 29 Relationship Myths 1 Dec 08, 2019

Episode #36: Relationship Myths

Talking about Common Bad Advice given by relationship experts… and we’re going to discuss it.

Don’t Go to Bed Angry

Amy Serin, co-founder and Chief Science Officer of The TouchPoint Solution who holds a PhD in clinical psychology, believes otherwise.

She told me, "Never go to bed angry is bad advice because many couples think they need to force themselves to try to resolve problems immediately to get them over with before bedtime. This can backfire because if one or both partners is angry, it's best to not discuss an issue until both partners are calm. Now it's a great thing if people can calm themselves down so they don't go to bed angry, but when this is difficult, it's best to go to bed angry and re-visit the problem at a time when both are calm."

Jennifer: “Explanation” -

going to bed is my “go to”.. my superpower.
I love you, I’m irritable, I’m going to bed.

In business… assess the situation, then address it. You don’t have to handle it RIGHT NOW… maybe you need to think about it. In relationships, ppl often time explode quicker. Take a minute.

Always Be Forgiving

"'You always need to forgive' is bad advice for someone in a relationship who is being emotionally or physically abused. If someone does something that needs forgiving, it may be that the burden of change should be on them, not the person who was hurt."

Jennifer: Yes… expand - yet in a healthier relationship, forgiveness comes into play, yet so does being curious. Get Curious.

It’s NOT just forgiveness.

You can find understanding when you get curious.

In business, it’s not about forgiveness, it’s about “the reality of the situation”... in business, we have to produce, execute, hit our numbers, etc. If the person, or vendor is not performing, you don’t just forgive, you ask questions to see if they are misunderstanding… or you get another vendor.

Find the root… and make certain it’s not happening again.

Dates are Like Job Interviews

On the surface, it makes sense to treat a first date (or the first few dates) the same way you would a job interview. In both situations, you're looking for a good fit that benefits both parties mutually, often for the long-term. But heading to your first date with a notebook of pointed questions for your future husband is not the best strategy.

Sexologist and relationship expert Noni Ayana told me there's a better way to handle dating. "My top dating rule is 'date as if you're meeting a new friend, not a potential spouse.'

Jennifer: Expand - When Dating, ppl are their best selves and bring their representatives - when meeting a new friend, you’re more relaxed and more “yourself”

In Business, even though the interview process is commonly used, it’s not the BEST method to find a candidate. They ALWAYS bring their best self… kinda like a first date. You don’t really get to know the employee until they are hired.

So in dating, I would agree to keep a more casual vibe in your first or early dates.

Summary:

Don’t Go to Bed Angry.. and we firmly disagree… often times it’s good to let things cool and wake up with a new attitude.
Always Be Forgiving - It’s not about forgiving.. it’s about the reality of the situation. Get Curious Jennifer.
Dates are Like Job interviews: Too stiff… relax and let your personality flow.

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Episode #28 Q&A with Listeners 1 Nov 24, 2019

Episode #28 Q & A #1

Q & A

Cindy from Denver:

I just love your podcast and how you both communicate with one another with love and mutual respect. How can I get my husband to be more respectful when we communication

Yolanda - Orlando, FL

My fiancee and I are planning our wedding and we’re having difficulties coming to an agreement on what type of wedding we want. I want a more traditional wedding and he simply wants to share our vows and basically have a party. We are just getting started and I am coming undone!! HELP

Travis - Lawrence, KS.

My wife and I have been married for 6 years. Overall a solid relationship. Our son T2 is about to turn 2yrs old and we are having major issues on discipline and rules. I know that’s a broad question, yet do you have any suggestions for us to come together?

Gloria - Toronto, Canada

I just love you guys… thanks for much for what you do!! Well, my husband and I have been married for 8 years. We’ve had our ups and downs, yet overall, our marriage is solid. I’m 35 yrs old, my husband is 45… and I need more sex. It’s difficult to communicate with him about that as he seems to take offense. Jennifer, what would you do?

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Episode #27 The Five Stages of Marriage... and a Business. Nov 17, 2019

Episode #27: The 5 Stages of Marriage... and a Business

1. Romance

2. Reality - Chemical changes from oxytocin… then the little things can annoy you.

1. Messy bathroom
2. Being Short
3. The NORMALness of life. Bills, kids, challenges.

3. Resentment - Resentment builds without the Power of Conversation. (can of soda)

4. Rebellion - Is what happens if you DON’T deal with Resentment.

1. Shopping too much
2. Not coming home right away.
3. Drinking
4. Out with Friends
5. Cheating

5. Renewal/Restoration - Always begins from the HEART

1. Not about changing them - YOU MET THEM THAT WAY
2. It’s about seeing them different.
3. Coming from Appreciation rather than judgement.

Action Steps

1. If you KNOW that when you enter a marriage or relationship, you have the 5 Stages of marriage, just the same in Business… then you are more prepared for the journey.

2. If you KNEW… you would see it differently

3. Enjoy the Romance

4. Understanding the “Reality Stage” is not the end of the romance, its’ the beginning. It’s when you “prove” yourself to each other.

5. If or when you hit resentment… YOU MUST have conversations.

1. without conversation, the RESENTMENT grows…
2. Softeners - frames

6. We hope you don’t find the Rebellion Stage. If you find yourself in Rebellion…

1. go get some professional assistance.
2. Take Responsibility. (If you LEAVE.. you have to take yourself with you)

7. The KEY to get to RENEWAL and Restoration is to find appreciation for your partner (or your job).

1. Putting yourself back to when you were in love (or just started)
2. Journal
3. Doing things for your partner that you know makes them happy.

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Episode #26 Do the Work, Don't Just Talk About It Nov 10, 2019

Episode #33: Do the Work, Just don’t Talk About It

We see people talking about what they are going to do or what they should do in the areas of personal development and religion

People talk about change but they don’t really do it

Secondary gain - they get to complain and talk about how dramatic their life is yet they get to talk about how much they know. A need for recognition - instead of actually live it, they just talk about it

The problem with that is, (at first, the person is awesome - but then after a time you find out it’s not the truth and you lose respect

Often times we know so many tools to help our lives and relationships yet, once we stop reading the book, leave church or the seminar, we tend to not utilize or put into action what we’ve learned.

Why? We truly are creatures of habit… We have to replace behaviors not just change behaviors.

Why be attached to the drama of your life? If you talk about God principles or personal development tools, work with them and put them into action daily

Action Steps:

When you’re tempted to go into the drama or story about something you’re experiencing, stop and ask yourself…

If we’re talking to you then attempt to be more cognizant of things that you’re sharing - have more discretion about what you're sharing.

Start out small and then go and complete something.

Another secondary gain is the insecurity so they can prove that they’re so knowledgeable. (You see this in business all the time)

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Episode #25 How to Get the Passion Back Nov 03, 2019

Episode #25 How to get the PASSION back into the Relationship

First of all… we are all human and we have challenges, issues, and everyday circumstances that lead us to shift our focus to what’s most important NOW.

The most common things that “move” us apart:

Job stress - high levels of stress, high number of hours

Life Changes:

Medical situations
Death in family
New member of the family

Kids

Both parties can feel it. The key is to ACT NOW rather than later.

Action Steps

Talk about it.
Decide what type of partner you want to be. “You get what you give.”

3. Schedule something special

4. Get back to your charming self.

5.Make him/her a priority - They used to be a priority

a. Treat him/her with love

b. Your partner deserves better than others.

6. Implement ONE Simple Action Step (turning off TV when you get home)

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Episode #24 How to Tame Your Man Oct 27, 2019

Episode #23: How to Tame Your Man

Changing Behavior - Adjusting Behavior
- Two ppl from two different worlds

Never come at or attack your man for something he’s done. (Push - Push back)
Adjusting behavior slowly but surely: HOW.
- Shaping behavior - Skinner
- Acknowledge Small wins (too many ppl only recognize the “wrongs”)
- Know it’s gonna take some time - Patience & Grace

Frame question in a curiosity frame vs accusatory tone -
- Come from a place of love
- Softeners
  - Because I care about our relationship
  - “I need your help on something”
  - I’m having a hard time with this…
  - I’m concerned about...

Action Steps

1. Never attack your partner for something they've done.

2. Realize there will be challenges along the way

3. Changing behavior is a process.

4. Acknowledge "Winning" Behavior

5. Approach with Love

6. Use Curiosity Frames

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Episode 23 Through Sickness and Health Oct 20, 2019

Episode #24: Through Sickness & Health

In business… things go bad as well… a recession, a set back, a recall, a lawsuit.

- Magical words from a traditional marriage vow.
- Just met the woman of my dreams…
- December 2009 - Trip to Vail: A-Fib
- 5 Years of declining health - Coronary Ablation in Oct, 2014
- 2 Years of extreme sickness
- Diagnosed with Amyloidosis in April of 2017

2.5 years of chemo, doc visits, and issues.

How to get through it - ACTION STEPS

Accepting the situation as REAL right now.
Mindset to prevail… to win. (your psychology)
Prepare for the worst - Have the conversation (REAL)
- Potential Outcomes - dying, unable to work or healing and working.
- Destroy Us
- Cripple Us - work hard to rebuild or reinvent ourselves.
- Overcome.
When you have these conversations and “prepared”, you can move forward with clarity and confidence.
During moments of doubt, see yourself sharing your success story with others.

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Episode 22 - My Daughter's Journey through Divorce Oct 13, 2019

Episode 21: Kids and Divorce #2 - My Daughter Zoë

My wife and I were divorced when my daughter Zoë was nine years old. She was our youngest. Zoë had some challenges along the way... and now she's 21 years old, and we are going to talk about her journey.

Zoë - 9 yrs old

Did you know we were having problems…
Your thoughts… psychology

So I told you….

How did you feel…
innocence/denial

It happened?

emotionally?

Challenges in High School: Gorman, Coronado, Beacon academy

Relationship with me?

Relationship with mom?

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Episode #21 Your Happiness is Your Responsibility Oct 06, 2019

Episode #22: Your Happiness is YOUR Responsibility

Two broken people don’t make a whole. Self-development and personal growth is imperative for relationship success.
Early chemistry matures - Things change
- Early on, we're always together.
- Must develop or pursue you own interests. It's GREAT if you both have the same interests, yet both must find fulfilling activities.
- Internal unrest - When feeling internal unrest, it's Your responsibility to find happiness. It's not your partner's fault. Look in the mirror first... as yourself: What can I do that fits into my current life situation that would make me happy.

Action Steps:

Asking yourself the right questions - what would increase my happiness / what makes me happy that I’m not doing right now
Continue to expand your interests or find new ones.
You must make the decision to be the best version of you… continue to learn and grow.
Asking about Happiness at your “Sex Meeting”... Are you feeling happy right now?... or I prefer to ask a question that provides and answer I can actually work with… 0-10.
- Follow up question: Is there something we both can do to help you?

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Episode #20: When You're Feeling Needy in the Relationship Sep 29, 2019

Episode #17: When you’re feeling NEEDY in the Relationship?

Typically one of two reasons:

not getting attention from spouse you are wanting
Not fulfilling your own needs

Action Steps

Have Open communication with your spouse… share your feelings, don’t keep them in.

Do a check within… are you taking care of own needs?

1. self-care
2. spiritual care
3. boundaries
4. what else?

How: Rate yourself on 0-10 scale on the areas of your potential needs.

Next: put action plan together to make strides in the areas of focus.

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Episode #19: Football and Romance? - Managing the Football Season Sep 22, 2019

Episode #28: Managing the Football Season

It’s that time of the year… it’s football season. A joy for some... a curse of others.

Thursday night FB, a few college games on Friday, Saturday - college all day, Sunday - NFL and then Monday night Football.

Message: There has to be some balance… some give and take.

Business example:

Client or Prospect: If you are spending all of your time somewhere else, you’re not going to get the business.

What you focus on Grows
When you call on them when you need them… you won’t have the account for long

As a Leader:

Jennifer example: Previous business partnership: Partner was focused on other things…
National Sales Manager/Leader: If you’re not “watering” / investing in your team, you will lose your talent. They will leave.
Must put time into assets that grow your company.

Steven Covey… 7 habits of highly effective people… he talks about making emotion deposits into your partners account. If you don’t put in deposits, you’re gonna run out of currency.

Action Steps:

Be Proactive: Invest in him/her prior to withdrawing from the “account”. Put in some energy, love, some time - prior to day.
example: Biz of Love Podcast, Church, Breakfast… it’s just about quality time.

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Episode #18: The 3 Musts for a Successful Relationship Sep 15, 2019

Episode #15: The 3 Musts for a Successful Relationship

Positivity
Vulnerability
Consistency

Positivity: Nothing grows with negativity. Nothing positive happens with negativity. The skill of being positive or living in positivity is paramount to Relationship success.

Vulnerability: How vulnerable are you? Do you protect or insulate yourself from judgement with your partner? Being balanced enough, being confident enough and being trusting enough to be vulnerable will change your life.

Consistency: Anyone can be great for an hour or a day. Can you do it consistently? Consistency is a key to any Relationship - Personal or Business. If you're behavior is inconsistent, how can you build a foundation?

Action Steps:

1. Rate yourself with your partner on a 0-10 scale.

2. You rate your partner and they rate you.

3. Reverse Engineer Success: If you rate a "6" in the consistency department, what do you need to do, or what changes are you willing to make to get to a 7 or an 8?

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Episode #17 Divorce Through My Son's Eyes Sep 08, 2019

Episode #17 Divorce Through my Son's Eyes.

My ex-wife and I were divorced when my son Daniel was 11 and my daughter Zoë was 9. Divorce is a very challenging situation involving children, their psychology and how they view the world.

After 11 years, Daniel is now 22 yrs old, and I'm so excited to have him in the studio today to talk about how the divorce looked through a 11 year-old boy's eyes.

I had some questions:

Did he know we were having issues?
When his mom and I were arguing, what was he thinking?
How did an 11 year old process his parents splitting?
Did he feel loved?
Did the divorce affect his behavior?
How did it feel when your mom was remarried?
How about when I was remarried?
Did you have any negative feelings toward your "new" bonus parents?
How do you feel today?

I hope you enjoy it as much as I did!

Dan

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Episode #16: Can Your Relationship Recover from Cheating? Sep 01, 2019

Episode #16: Can Your Relationship Recover from Cheating

Cheating can be Devastating

Frame of Reference in the world is shattered.

1. 1. What does this all mean?
  2. Insecurities
  3. Uncertainty
  4. Questions about the future

Perspective to Heal and Grow

What Role did each of us play in this situation
1. Is he/she an unfaithful person?
2. What is he/she lacking from current relationship
3. What am I not giving him/her in the relationship

Action Steps

What’s the Next Step?
1. Real Conversation
2. What he/she needs
3. Are you willing to do that?
4. Agreement.

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Episode #15: Communication vs Expectation Aug 25, 2019

Episode #15: Communication vs. Expectation

We live by and it can be applied to EVERYTHING in your relationship… from taking out the garbage to sex.
Expectation leads to disappointment.
Communication is the Key.
SEX: Life Situations
- Can we be intimate without sex?
- rather than having an expectation that the other cannot meet.

By the way… MEN are not MIND READERS. If you need help, you need to ask for it..

Action Strategies:

Because none of us are mind readers… if you need help, ask for it.
Every relationship has expectations… , which leads to letdowns… so the ACTION is to understand the MUST to Communicate when something that he or she typically does is not getting done.
Should to the MUST.

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Episode #14: How to Repair an Upset and Get Back to Love Aug 18, 2019

Episode #14: How to Repair an upset and get back to Love

Every relationship has upsets… it’s part of the game
The Real question is… how do we get back to love?

Our Story…. saying something inappropriate and hurtful…

Action Strategies:

Realize that no matter how in love you are…. there WILL ALWAYS be misunderstanding, miscommunication and issues.

1. There is no way to have challenge free unless you are dominating someone… psychology

Commit to communicating and repair immediately after the incident if possible…

Language from the victim

Language from …. Dan

What to do when it gets heated.

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Episode #13 Money, Motives and Marriage Aug 11, 2019

The Business of Love

It's a fact that business professionals and entrepreneurs realize they must improve in areas where they lack skill or proficiency. It's not even a question... if you want to succeed in business, you must be open to learning, growing and communicating.

As entrepreneurs, it's our belief that if WE would put the same effort into a relationship, the relationship would grow as well. In this podcast, we parallel the similarities between what it takes to create a passionate and successful relationships based on our business strategies.

Episode #13: Money, Motives & Marriage

Must talk about Money
Business - wouldn’t go into a partnership without talking about finances
Men - Often times set the table for failure / create unsustainable expectations.
How I did it. - WE discussed it. My wound with previous wife provided the fuel to talk about it

Action Strategies

Men - Get Over it. Don’t know how to say it to a woman? Here you go … “I’m so excited to partner with you/build my life with you … AND, I want to make sure we have a life we desire for the rest of our lives, not just next week.
- Because frame….
- 3rd party story…

Make an agreed upon plan and stick to it. Just like a budget for biz…
- Hotel Del… half the $$... rich experience

If he or her REFUSES to align… must make a decision.

We will have an entire episode on HOW to give “feedback” in a manner that makes them feel good rather than feel like a failure. I mean who wants to feel like a failure.

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Episode #12: The Fight Game Aug 11, 2019

The Business of Love

It's a fact that business professionals and entrepreneurs realize they must improve in areas where they lack skill or proficiency. It's not even a question... if you want to succeed in business, you must be open to learning, growing and communicating.

As entrepreneurs, it's our belief that if WE would put the same effort into a relationship, the relationship would grow as well. In this podcast, we parallel the similarities between what it takes to create a passionate and successful relationships based on our business strategies.

Episode #12: “The Fight Game”

Relationships are about 2 ppl living a life together - different backgrounds & beliefs
There will be arguments…
It’s more than communication styles
People are brought up differently…
Personality Styles
Combat Factor
Do you want to be right or want to be happy?
Just because your mom and dad did it, doesn’t make it GOOD/Right!!

Action Strategies

Don’t sweat the small stuff… Impact
Talk as things come up
Creating Safe Space… Checking in with partner… Is there anything on your mind?
Label: Distinguish between Behavior vs YOU. Also utilizing "I Feel" vs… "YOU ARE"
Find Sports Coach Role Model. A person you respect and can model demeanor, behavior or poise.

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Episode #11: Setting the Bar and Keeping the Relationship Fresh Aug 11, 2019

The Business of Love

It's a fact that business professionals and entrepreneurs realize they must improve in areas where they lack skill or proficiency. It's not even a question... if you want to succeed in business, you must be open to learning, growing and communicating.

As entrepreneurs, it's our belief that if WE would put the same effort into a relationship, the relationship would grow as well. In this podcast, we parallel the similarities between what it takes to create a passionate and successful relationships based on our business strategies.

Episode #11: Setting the Bar, and Keeping the Relationship Fresh

How do you want to be treated?

Treating your partner like they are important.

For me (Dan)... I wanted my woman/my wife to feel cherished, to feel safe and to know, I’m consistent.

- Opening Door in car
- Checking in with you.
- Calling just to say I Love You… or I Miss You.
- Hug and hold her.

Action Strategies:

Psychology: You don’t have to wait for a new relationship to start to change your behavior. Do it NOW

2. If you were dating him or her, what’s ONE thing you would be doing, that you are not right now. (Opening door, planning a dinner, weekend plans, couple getaway) JUST ONE PLEASE

3. Share with your partner. And here’s how: Hey Jennifer, I was doing some self-reflection and looking at our relationship… and there’s some things that I want to do or changes I'd like to make… yet I just slipped. So, I can just keep slipping, or work on making improvements… so I want to make improvements because I love you and I feel it will improve our relationship.

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Episode #10 Understanding Your Partner's Personality Style Aug 11, 2019

The Business of Love

It's a fact that business professionals and entrepreneurs realize they must improve in areas where they lack skill or proficiency. It's not even a question... if you want to succeed in business, you must be open to learning, growing and communicating.

As entrepreneurs, it's our belief that if WE would put the same effort into a relationship, the relationship would grow as well. In this podcast, we parallel the similarities between what it takes to create a passionate and successful relationships based on our business strategies.

Episode #10: Understanding Your Partner's Personality Style

Companies utilize assessments and reports to identify personality styles for leaders best communicate with their people. As a leader, your job to to get the MOST from your business partner or your employees. The DISC is a report we've had Dr. Tony Alessandra redesign for relationships.

This podcast outlines the four personality styles and provides tools to improve communication and influence.

Personality Style #1: Race Car Driver

Competitive
Aggressive
Fast Paced
Makes Quick Decisions
Wants the Short Story
Priority: WiNNING

Personality Style #2: Entertainer

Outgoing
Expressive
Dramatic
Fast Paced
Big Gestures
Friendly
Priority - People

Personality Style #3: School Teacher

Steady
Team Player
Supportive
"Behind the Camera" person
Loyal
Slower Paced
Slower Decisions
Priority - Relationships

Personality Style #4: The Professor

Reserved
Detailed
Accurate
Accountable
Slower Paced
Priority - TASK completion

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Episode #9 - The Small Stuff Doesn't Matter Aug 11, 2019

The Business of Love

It's a fact that business professionals and entrepreneurs realize they must improve in areas where they lack skill or proficiency. It's not even a question... if you want to succeed in business, you must be open to learning, growing and communicating.

As entrepreneurs, it's our belief that if WE would put the same effort into a relationship, the relationship would grow as well. In this podcast, we parallel the similarities between what it takes to create a passionate and successful relationships based on our business strategies.

Episode #9 - The Small Stuff Doesn't Matter

If we were running a business and Looking at the Long Term Strategy with a business partner, we would overlook simple things as long as they're doing a great job and your business is growing. Yet often times in relationships, we get stuck on little things that we wouldn't matter if it were a business partner.

Strategies for Happiness:

Being Ok with others idiosyncrasies
We are pre-wired…
- If already married… how did that turn out? Must be open to making changes to improve, just like you would in business.

Just because it’s the way you do it, doesn’t make it right.

Action Items:

How to not let it bother you…

Must think like a business partner. If you know they are talented and you want to keep them as a partner, focus on why you “brought them on” or “fell in love” rather than focusing on what they should be better at… because that’s not why you hired them (married them) -

Image of life without them… really though.

Questions - the power of questions.

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Episode #8: Successfully Negotiating the "In Law" or "In Family" Relationships Aug 11, 2019

The Business of Love

It's a fact that business professionals and entrepreneurs realize they must improve in areas where they lack skill or proficiency. It's not even a question... if you want to succeed in business, you must be open to learning, growing and communicating.

As entrepreneurs, it's our belief that if WE would put the same effort into a relationship, the relationship would grow as well. In this podcast, we parallel the similarities between what it takes to create a passionate and successful relationships based on our business strategies.

Episode #8: Successfully Negotiating the “in-Law” and “In-Family” Relationship(s)

When couples get together... also comes the "in-laws" or "In Family" Relationships. For instance, Jennifer's family Lebanese and they get together "every week" (exaggeration)... and my family sees each other once per year. How do we negotiate this landscape respectfully?

Potential Challenges:

Expectations on visiting (local vs out of town),
Family Value differences - “Family” vs. “not much”
Meddling “in Laws”
Can do no wrong - Dan’s mom

New Marriage or Relationship - In Laws… Certain Expectations (Potential)

Action Steps

As we discussed with kids, your partner MUST come first.
See how it unfolds… stay open minded (Gathering Info) - GOAL… you both are happy!
You MUST Communicate: It’s OKAY to be honest. (unless you’re a dick) You must tell your partner how you feel and why.
You and your partner MUST be open to a conversation about the situation if necessary, just like you would in business
Find a happy meeting point: In GOOD FAITH. It’s not about getting the best deal. It’s about finding a solution where you both feel good about it.

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Episode #7: Game Changing Strategies for Step Parenting Aug 11, 2019

The Business of Love

It's a fact that business professionals and entrepreneurs realize they must improve in areas where they lack skill or proficiency. It's not even a question... if you want to succeed in business, you must be open to learning, growing and communicating.

As entrepreneurs, it's our belief that if WE would put the same effort into a relationship, the relationship would grow as well. In this podcast, we parallel the similarities between what it takes to create a passionate and successful relationships based on our business strategies.

Episode #7: Game Changing Strategies for Step Parenting

Step parenting is a SKILL on it's own. The challenge is, creating a successful situation for the step parent will depend on the spouse who is the biological parent and their willingness to play the long game.

Potential Challenges:

Guilt from divorce
Letting kids come first
Weak Partner
Short Term Thinking

Take Aways:

Partner comes first – Must feel #1
Influence from the X
Step Partner… must Rise Above
Kardashian vs Waltons

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Episode #6: The X's and O's of Dating someone with an "X" Aug 11, 2019

The Business of Love

It's a fact that business professionals and entrepreneurs realize they must improve in areas where they lack skill or proficiency. It's not even a question... if you want to succeed in business, you must be open to learning, growing and communicating.

As entrepreneurs, it's our belief that if WE would put the same effort into a relationship, the relationship would grow as well. In this podcast, we parallel the similarities between what it takes to create a passionate and successful relationships based on our business strategies.

Episode #6: The X’s and O’s of Marrying Partner with an X or connection:

When Jennifer and I started seeing each other, she was in the midst of unwinding a serious relationship with financial involvement and many other challenges. I was previously married with two children and that was just the tip of the iceberg.

We had a Strategy:

The "Coming Out"
Jennifer meeting my ex-wife
My existence with my wife's new husband and Jennifer's existence with my x-wife
Jennifer's x-boyfriend

Action Strategies:

Create Strategy much like a business
Create Real Agreements... much like a business.
Work Together as if you were business partners to resolve situations.

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Episode #5: The Psychology of Dating Aug 11, 2019

The Business of Love

It's a fact that business professionals and entrepreneurs realize they must improve in areas where they lack skill or proficiency. It's not even a question... if you want to succeed in business, you must be open to learning, growing and communicating.

As entrepreneurs, it's our belief that if WE would put the same effort into a relationship, the relationship would grow as well. In this podcast, we parallel the similarities between what it takes to create a passionate and successful relationships based on our business strategies.

Episode #5: The Psychology of Dating

When dating, there are many moving parts. We are dealing with two different people, different backgrounds and different expectations. Often times, we get emotional and don't take the time necessary to really find out who she/she is. The Psychology of Dating is how you set up your mindset for success during the dating process and some valuable take-aways.

Action Steps / Take-aways

Remember, Do NOT Marry Potential
Pay attention to RED Flags to expedite the situation.
Take it Slow
Do You Research.
How would you do it if you were interviewing for a new business partner?
- What questions would you ask?
- What characteristics are MOST important to you... which ones are MUSTS?
- Be HONEST with yourself about the situation.

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Episode #4: How We Met... You NEVER KNOW Aug 11, 2019

The Business of Love

It's a fact that business professionals and entrepreneurs realize they must improve in areas where they lack skill or proficiency. It's not even a question... if you want to succeed in business, you must be open to learning, growing and communicating.

As entrepreneurs, it's our belief that if WE would put the same effort into a relationship, the relationship would grow as well. In this podcast, we parallel the similarities between what it takes to create a passionate and successful relationships based on our business strategies.

Episode #4: How We Met... You NEVER KNOW

We met on a Southwest Airlines flight. Neither one of us looking, and Jennifer wasn't "ready for primetime" when we met.

You'll never guess what allowed her to "open up" and talk on the flight...

For me, I had been divorced for over a year and wasn't interested in a "relationship." I had my kids... and there was NO way I was getting married again. With that being said, we were both in totally different places at the time, yet what I learned from my previous relationship was crucial in setting myself up for success with Jennifer.

Take Aways - Action Items

Be Real
Trust Yourself
Set Yourself Up for Success - Men

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Episode #3: #MeToo Aug 11, 2019

The Business of Love

It's a fact that business professionals and entrepreneurs realize they must improve in areas where they lack skill or proficiency. It's not even a question... if you want to succeed in business, you must be open to learning, growing and communicating.

As entrepreneurs, it's our belief that if WE would put the same effort into a relationship, the relationship would grow as well. In this podcast, we parallel the similarities between what it takes to be successful relationships based on our business strategies.

Episode #3: #MeToo

Jennifer and I both agree the #MeToo movement was necessary, yet it was politicized and taken too far. Unfortunately, it has changed many men's stance on how they, or if they interact with women in some professional or social situations. For example, I ALWAYS turn on a audio recorder if I am meeting with a women and there is no one else present. If I don't know her, the meeting is ALWAYS in public.

Discussion on #MeToo

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Episode #2: Being Open to the Fact you Don't Know it All Aug 11, 2019

The Business of Love

It's a fact that business professionals and entrepreneurs realize they must improve in areas where they lack skill or proficiency. It's not even a question... if you want to succeed in business, you must be open to learning, growing and communicating.

As entrepreneurs, it's our belief that if WE would put the same effort into a relationship, the relationship would grow as well. In this podcast, we parallel the similarities between what it takes to be successful relationships based on our business strategies.

Episode #2: Being Open to Knowing You Don’t know it ALL

In business, successful business people KNOW they must be open to learning what they don’t know in order to grow their biz. In business, we don't know it all... so we must take a similar stance in our relationships and stay open-minded and open to growth and change. Simple Adjustments.

Our Strategy

Attend at least one, often times two personal development program together to grow. Just like you do in business. If you're not attending conferences, seminars or events for your biz... well, you need to do that as well.
Dispelling the myth that MEN won’t change or grow… they will with the right partner… and that goes the other way as well.

ACTION STEPS: Make a commitment with your partner… 1x per qtr… 1x per 6 months… etc and review YOUR business of love.

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Episode #1: Take it Slow Aug 07, 2019

The Business of Love - Episode #1

The Business of Love podcast parallels your intimate relationship with business practices. Most people will do whatever it take to make changes in business, develop new skills in order to grow the business, yet if we approached our relationship with the same pro-active manner we do in business, our relationship will improve as well.

TAKE IT SLOW… you have a lot of work to do on YOU before you can be successful in a relationship… just like a business needs a lot of work prior to turning profitable.