The Aware Parenting Podcast

Episode 200: Belynda Smith and I talk about my sleep book Oct 14, 2024

Woohooo! It's the 200th episode! Thank you to everyone who has listened to this podcast, whether this is the first time you've listened, or the 200th! I'm celebrating with Belynda Smith, who is not only the Editor of my trilogy of books, but also an Aware Parenting instructor and Hand in Hand Instructor. We chat together about all different aspects of the book. I loved this conversation so much! The book will be coming out this month, and more news about it will be coming soon! You can find out about Belynda's work, including her monthly online listening circle and 1:1 Aware Parenting support at https://belyndasmith.com.au/ and you can email her at: hello@belyndasmith.com.au You can find out more about my work at www.marionrose.net You can also find me here: https://www.instagram.com/theawareparentingpodcast/ https://www.instagram.com/_marion_rose_/ https://www.instagram.com/awareparenting/ www.facebook.com/MarionRosePhD

Episode 199: Restful sleep with a baby and two young children with Carly Facius Oct 11, 2024

I'm so delighted that Carly Facius has returned to the podcast for the 4th time. She was also on episodes 149, 154, and 159. Carly is a mother of three, Registered Midwife, International Board Certified Lactation Consultant, holds a Master of Primary Maternity Care, and is an Aware Parenting instructor. Carly starts off by sharing her own journey with sleep with her first baby, and how surprised she was that after being so connected with her intuition and trusting her body and baby for the pregnancy and birth and for the first four months, that for a week, she started following the concept of sleep windows. Living in Indonesia, with an Indonesian husband, all around her she saw something very different to the practices she'd read about online of helping babies sleep according to the clock. She really didn't enjoy that week. The intensity of the focus on sleep took her away from being present with her baby, and led her to think that there was something wrong with what she was doing, and that there was something wrong with her baby. After that week, she shifted her practice entirely, and felt so much more relaxed. She saw babies and children sleeping everywhere and anywhere in Indonesia and it made so much sense that the routine she'd created in that week wasn't helpful at all. We talk about co-sleeping, and 'bedtimes', and how common it is in a very high percentage of the world's population for babies and children to co-sleep and for there not to be early bedtimes. We also talk about how Aware Parenting makes it possible for everyone in the family to share a bed together, and to all sleep restfully, without the baby or child moving around restlessly, or needing to be in a particular position, eg. under a parent's arm or on top of the parent. She talks about what a difference it made for her when she shifted from Classical Attachment Parenting to Aware Parenting when her son was 18 months old, including her partner being able to support their son to go to sleep. Carly shares about her experience of listening to her third child's feelings since birth has made, especially on his sleep, including while consistently travelling. He slept peacefully, even with noise around, which was very different to tiptoeing away when her first baby was sleeping. She also enjoyed the freedom of her partner being able to support their baby to go to sleep right from early on. Carly also talks about her own experience of working with parents from all around the world and from a wide variety of parenting beliefs and practices, including from families who had been to sleep consultants prior, and how she supported to find ways that resonated with them in relation to sleep. We talk about the importance of parents listening in to their own yeses and noes in terms of what resonates with them about sleep theories and practices. Carly shares about the loveliness of knowing that with Aware Parenting, whatever we've done in the past, we can help our babies heal, and we can also heal from past experiences. She shares how her perspective on bedtimes has completely changed, and how she invites parents to focus on their own sleep. She says, "everyone's rested in my family." You can find out about Carly's 1:1 work, her circles, and other offerings, at: https://www.instagram.com/seed_pod_/ ~~~ You can find out more about my work at www.marionrose.net You can also find me here: https://www.instagram.com/theawareparentingpodcast/ https://www.instagram.com/_marion_rose_/ https://www.instagram.com/awareparenting/ www.facebook.com/MarionRosePhD

Episode 198: The power of play before sleep with Vivian Viester Oct 02, 2024

Episode 198: The power of play before sleep with Vivian Viester by Marion Rose, PhD.

Episode 197: Supporting sleep from infancy to the teen years with Belynda Smith Aug 28, 2024

I'm so delighted that Belynda Smith is back on the podcast, after she interviewed me about The Emotional Life of Babies in episode 151. Belynda is an Aware Parenting instructor and a Hand in Hand Parenting Instructor. She is also the Editor of my trilogy of books. In this episode, Belynda shares about her passion for – and deep experience with – the vital importance of receiving lots of listening if we are wanting to listen to our children's feelings. Belynda shares about the details of Listening Partnerships, which is a term from Hand in Hand Parenting and which offers specific parameters to create deeper safety and healing. Belynda shares about her experience of coming to Hand in Hand Parenting when her children were in early childhood, after experiencing both frequent night waking (every 40 minutes) and, once her second child was born, her own unexpressed feelings starting to bubble up. She shares the breakthrough experiences she had when she first came across Hand in Hand Parenting, and when she had her first session with a Hand in Hand Parenting Instructor and Trainer, Ann Hefferan, which inspired her to go on and become a Hand in Hand Parenting Instructor herself. Belynda shares about the next part of her journey, and discovering Aware Parenting. She also talks about the process of having lots of LP support when editing the books. She shares about her experience of Aware Parenting and sleep and her teens, and the subtle difference between Hand in Hand Parenting and Aware Parenting with sleep. We also discuss what we experience is the vital foundation in parenting. Belynda has a new free offering on play coming up. She also has a monthly online listening circle and offers 1:1 Aware Parenting support. You can find out more about her and her work at https://belyndasmith.com.au/ and https://belynda-smith.newzenler.com/aware-parenting

Episode 196: From sleep training & Classical Attachment Parenting to AwP with Kim Cousins Aug 24, 2024

I'm so delighted that Kim Cousins came back on the podcast again. Kim was on episode 136 and 176 and I so highly recommend listening to those episodes if you haven't already. Kim is an Aware Parenting instructor who used to work in a perinatal mental health unit and has an abundance of experience of working with mothers and babies and families in general. In this episode, she also shares her own experience with sleep as a mother, with experience of being taught sleep training, then moving to Classical Attachment Parenting, and then to Aware Parenting. We'd love to send so much compassion if you are feeling exhausted and desperate for sleep, and if you have used sleep training. Throughout the episode, we highlight the importance of deep compassion for parents. Please check in with your willingness to listen to this episode, and reach out for listening support if it helps you connect with painful feelings. The focus on this episode is knowing that there really is a third choice, and that parents really don't need to choose between secure attachment and sleep. Kim shares about how when her daughter (who is now 8), was a baby, she slept very little in the day, and Kim had someone visit from a sleep centre to teach some sleep training. Kim shares about how painful the experience was, and how she didn't want to do it afterwards, and thought that she was a failure and that her daughter wasn't sleeping because she was not reading tiredness signs accurately or missing sleep windows. Kim shares about all the pressure and the lack of support that led to a diagnosis of postnatal depression and anxiety. Kim dived into understanding attachment theory, and when her son was born, she practiced Classical Attachment Parenting with him. When he was 12 months old, he was waking lots at night and she decided to do my sleep course. She listened to him crying in her arms for about 45 minutes to an hour and he slept through the whole night! Kim shares moving stories about supporting mothers to listen to their babies crying in arms, and what a difference it makes to receive that kind of support. Kim also talks about the importance of support, our own inner work, and lots more fascinating parts of listening to feelings and the relationship of that with sleep. You can find out more about Kim and her work at: https://www.instagram.com/kimberley.cousins/ You can find out more about my work at www.marionrose.net You can also find me here: https://www.instagram.com/_marion_rose_/ https://www.instagram.com/awareparenting/ www.facebook.com/MarionRosePhD

Episode 195: The first chapter in my upcoming sleep book Aug 14, 2024

In this episode, I share the first chapter in my upcoming sleep book: Sound Sleep and Secure Attachment with Aware Parenting: Transform sleep for your baby, child or teen with this compassionate, trauma-informed approach to deep relaxation. There is still some more editing to go, but I don't imagine anything huge will change! I'm so loving this book, that I wanted to share this first chapter with you to give you a little taste of it. If you'd like the opportunity to hear me share more from it, or to be a beta reader, doors to my sleep book collective and workshop are open! Here are more details: If you'd like to really deeply understand sleep from an Aware Parenting perspective, and also ask unlimited questions in a FB group about your own family's sleep situation, plus hear excerpts from my upcoming book on sleep and Aware Parenting, become a beta reader (if you want), and join a 6 hour workshop in two parts (recording available afterwards), I have limited places for my sleep book collective and workshop. You can find out more here: https://marionrose.samcart.com/products/sound-sleep-and-secure-attachment-with-aware-parenting-book-collective-and-workshop/ Big love xoxo

Episode 194: Highly Sensitive Children and sleep Aug 04, 2024

In this episode, I talk about the differences Highly Sensitive Children can experience with sleep. You can find out more about my work at www.marionrose.net You can also find me here: https://www.instagram.com/theawareparentingpodcast/ https://www.instagram.com/_marion_rose_/ https://www.instagram.com/awareparenting/ www.facebook.com/MarionRosePhD

Episode 193: The power of laughter to release fear for us as parents Aug 01, 2024

In this episode, I talk about the power of laughter to help us release fear from our bodies as parents. In it, I include a two minute segment of me laughing, in case that helps you laugh too! You can find out more about my work at www.marionrose.net You can also find me here: https://www.instagram.com/theawareparentingpodcast/ https://www.instagram.com/_marion_rose_/ https://www.instagram.com/awareparenting/ www.facebook.com/MarionRosePhD

Episode 192: Healing a rupture with our child after years have passed Jul 28, 2024

In this episode, I share about how it's possible to heal a rupture with our child, even if that happened many years ago. You can find out more about my work at www.marionrose.net You can also find me here: https://www.instagram.com/theawareparentingpodcast/ https://www.instagram.com/_marion_rose_/ https://www.instagram.com/awareparenting/ www.facebook.com/MarionRosePhD

Episode 191: Trusting the invitations to grow through the sleep journey with Laura Pires Brammer Jul 18, 2024

We recorded this episode a few weeks ago. I'm so delighted to share this episode with Laura Pires Brammer. Laura is an Aware Parenting instructor in Germany, and she shares about her experience with Aware Parenting and sleep. She talks about the powerful connection she had with Aletha Solter's book 'The Aware Baby', and now she started to listen to her baby's healing-feelings after only reading a couple of pages. Laura explains so beautifully how she saw the differences in her daughter once she started practicing Aware Parenting – being more present during the day, more relaxed while sleeping, and sleeping for longer periods, as well as the beautiful connection and eye contact between the two of them. Laura then shares about the process of increasing her understanding of Aware Parenting and embodying the practices more and more. Laura talks about the deep inner work that Aware Parenting invited her to do, as is common for most of us practicing this way of parenting. She shares about the contrast between feeling the power of having this information, and the powerlessness of at times not knowing how to put it into practice. We then talk about now common it is that, once we start practicing Aware Parenting, our own unexpressed feelings from our own childhood come bubbling up to be heard. Laura talks about how a lot of her feelings bubbled up in the night time, and how, as a result, she saw improvements in her own sleep. We talk about the difference in ourselves between the sleep after crying or laughing, and the sleep after distracting and dissociating. Laura sharrd how different her experience was with sleep and listening to feelings with her second born daughter. I so highly recommend Laura's beautiful work. She works in English, German, and Dutch. You can find her on Facebook at: https://www.facebook.com/laura.rpb and Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/laurapiresbrammer/ She has an offer called Magical Nights, for mothers with babies, who want to apply Aware Parenting to their sleep journey. She also has offerings for parents with Corinne Sprecher, another Aware Parenting instructor, about practicing and embodying Aware Parenting.

Episode 190: My experiences with sleep as a mother Jul 06, 2024

In another episode in the second sleep series, I share about my own experiences with sleep as a mother. I talk about the way I changed thinking about sleep before becoming a mother. I share about how I helped my daughter sleep for longer chunks when she was about 9 months old. I tell the story of the two challenges I had with sleep - one when my daughter was a toddler, and one when my son was in his early teens, and why those were related to some nuances of Aware Parenting that I hadn't yet understood. I share about how Aware Parenting helped me respond to my own feelings differently when I woke up in the middle of the night. I still have mentoring places for the second half of 2024, for people who deeply resonate with Aware Parenting, and with The Marion Method for their reparenting. Message me on IG https://www.instagram.com/_marion_rose_/ or FB https://www.facebook.com/marion.badenoch for more details and to see if we're a beautiful match. If you'd like my free PDF to learn more about sleep, secure attachment, emotional release and Aware Parenting, you can sign up for it here: https://marion-rose.myflodesk.com/ssgsvngo66 My Sound Sleep and Secure Attachment with Aware Parenting Course is available all year round as a self-study course. Here's the link: https://marionrose.samcart.com/products/sound-sleep-and-secure-attachment-with-aware-parenting-course/ You can find out more about my work at www.marionrose.net You can also find me here: https://www.instagram.com/theawareparentingpodcast/ https://www.instagram.com/_marion_rose_/ https://www.instagram.com/awareparenting/ www.facebook.com/MarionRosePhD

Episode 189: Special retrospective episode with Chiara Rossetti Jun 23, 2024

This is a special episode that was recorded three years ago and that was on my Psychospiritual Podcast, about Aware Parenting and homeschooling. If you know Chiara Rossetti and haven't heard the news yet, I invite you to pause and have a friend close before reading more..... ...... ...... ...... Chiara is no longer with us. If you knew her, I'm sending so much love to you, however you're feeling now. Chiara was an Aware Parenting instructor who lived and breathed Aware Parenting. She was an attachment play genius. I shared about her, the profound effect she had on the Aware Parenting community, and my friendship with her on my social media recently. She and her children had the most amazing Aware Parenting and natural learning journey. She supported so many parents with Aware Parenting and attachment play in particular. She supported so many Aware Parenting instructors. We had talked for years about creating an attachment play book some day, and had reconnected with that again recently. I am so deeply sad and will miss her so much. I felt so called to share this episode with you, where she shares about how she came across Aware Parenting (when her son was waking up every 45 minutes), and then talked about her journey with Aware Parenting and Natural Learning (this was part of a series of podcasts on AwP and homeschooling). She also shared about sleep, and teens. So much of what she said is so poignant. If you want to watch the FB live we did on attachment play together that we mention at the end of the episode, you can find it here: https://www.facebook.com/100063796862144/videos/246519440294072 So much love to you. xoxoxo

Episode 188: Toddler and child sleep Q & A Jun 20, 2024

In this episode, I share listeners' questions and my answers, for toddlers of one year old to children who are seven years old. The questions include: "How can I help my one year old release big feelings before and during sleep without making her feel powerless? Is me holding her helpful?" "I'd love to hear you talk about breastfeeding to sleep and night wakings and night weaning. (My little one is 15 months old.)" "Why is my 23 month old breastfed co-sleeping toddler waking at 12, 1, 4, 5, 6, 7, and 8 am?" "How can I help our three year old who needs to be in a certain position with a certain parent in order to sleep, and cries if that changes (while also supporting her to stay securely attached)?" "I feel resentful lying next to my 4 year old to help her go to sleep and I also have a baby. What can I do?" "What would you suggest as a gentle encouragement for a 5 year old to begin sleeping in their own bed so I can get up early before he does? "I'm a nanny and the seven year old I look after in the evenings refuses to go to bed when I am baby sitting and her mum goes out." If you'd like my free PDF to learn more about sleep, secure attachment, emotional release and Aware Parenting, you can sign up for it here: https://marion-rose.myflodesk.com/ssgsvngo66 The live round of this year's Sound Sleep and Secure Attachment with Aware Parenting Course is open. Details are here: https://marionrose.samcart.com/products/sound-sleep-and-secure-attachment-with-aware-parenting-course/ The reduced fee code is on my social media posts. You can find out more about my work at www.marionrose.net You can also find me here: https://www.instagram.com/theawareparentingpodcast/ https://www.instagram.com/_marion_rose_/ https://www.instagram.com/awareparenting/ www.facebook.com/MarionRosePhD

Episode 187: Baby sleep Q & A Jun 16, 2024

In this episode, I share listeners' questions and my answers, for babies 3 months to 12 months old. The questions include: "Can babies get nightmares/night terrors as young as 3 months?" "How do I support my baby when he gets the wriggles?" "Should I be putting my 9 mth old In her own cot?" "Do we have to co sleep?" "Do you think the whole family should sleep together?" "For day time naps do you recommend she continues sleeping on us or next to us for a long time? Unless in her pram or car we don’t have luck with her sleeping on her own." "What are you meant to do throughout the entire night to encourage bub to sleep throughout the whole night?" "Our 10 month old twins scream 40 mins after bedtime." If you'd like my free PDF to learn more about sleep, secure attachment, emotional release and Aware Parenting, you can sign up for it here: https://marion-rose.myflodesk.com/ssgsvngo66 Doors are open to the live round of this year's Sound Sleep and Secure Attachment with Aware Parenting Course. Codes for early bird prices are on my social media. Details are here: https://marionrose.samcart.com/products/sound-sleep-and-secure-attachment-with-aware-parenting-course/ You can find out more about my work at www.marionrose.net You can also find me here: https://www.instagram.com/theawareparentingpodcast/ https://www.instagram.com/_marion_rose_/ https://www.instagram.com/awareparenting/ www.facebook.com/MarionRosePhD

Episode 186: Early bird, night owl, or accumulated feelings? Jun 12, 2024

In this episode, I talk about the chronotypes of the early bird and the night owl. I also explain how you can differentiate each of these from the effects of accumulated healing-feelings. I also share about the possibility that both chronotypes and accumulated feelings can be happening, and what you can do it this is the case. If you'd like my free PDF to learn more about sleep, secure attachment, emotional release and Aware Parenting, you can sign up for it here: https://marion-rose.myflodesk.com/ssgsvngo66 The live round of this year's Sound Sleep and Secure Attachment with Aware Parenting Course is starting soon, and there will be early bird reduced fee places! You can find out more about my work at www.marionrose.net You can also find me here: https://www.instagram.com/theawareparentingpodcast/ https://www.instagram.com/_marion_rose_/ https://www.instagram.com/awareparenting/ www.facebook.com/MarionRosePhD

Episode 185: Why mild dissociation is the main cause of restless sleep and frequent night waking Jun 10, 2024

In this episode, I talk about the most common reason why babies and toddlers: wake up with the slightest noise or movement; wake up after one sleep cycle; wake up crying; are restless at night; wake frequently; appear to resist sleep; take a long time to go to sleep. If you're walking on eggshells to make sure they don't wake up, this might interest you. I explain how quiet and stillness can indicate relaxation or mild dissociation, why that's important for sleep, and how you can differentiate between the two. I share about needs-feelings and healing-feelings, and why being able to differentiate between these is also vital to understanding why it's really common for babies and children to be mildly dissociated before sleep. I talk about why we don't use the terms 'soothing' and 'self-soothing' in Aware Parenting, and how this relates to understanding mild dissociation. I also share why and how listening to healing-feelings before sleep leads to deep relaxation and restful sleep. If you'd like my free PDF to learn more about sleep, secure attachment, emotional release and Aware Parenting, you can sign up for it here: https://marion-rose.myflodesk.com/ssgsvngo66 The live round of this year's Sound Sleep and Secure Attachment with Aware Parenting Course is starting soon, and there will be early bird reduced fee places! You can find out more about my work at www.marionrose.net You can also find me here: https://www.instagram.com/theawareparentingpodcast/ https://www.instagram.com/_marion_rose_/ https://www.instagram.com/awareparenting/ www.facebook.com/MarionRosePhD

Episode 184: Night waking and night weaning for toddlers, with Maru Rojas May 30, 2024

In this episode, I talk to Maru Rojas again. Maru is an Aware Parenting instructor in the UK and is originally from Mexico. She was a guest on the podcast on episode 139, also talking about sleep. If you haven't listened to that episode, I highly recommend listening to it after this one. Maru shares her journey of sleep with her daughter and son, as she gradually increased the depth of her understanding and practice of Aware Parenting. In particular, she talks about her daughter's night waking and moving all around the bed as a toddler. She shares how she stopped breastfeeding at night, and about her increasing awareness of the surprising control pattern that was the lynchpin for more sleep. She also shares more about the huge difference in sleep between her daughter and her son, with whom she started practicing Aware Parenting with at birth, alongside having much more understanding and experience with Aware Parenting by that time. Maru is also a teacher of Elimination Communication and offers courses and 1:1 consultations in both EC and Aware Parenting. You can find out more about her work and can contact her at: https://parenttogether.co.uk/ and https://www.instagram.com/_maru.rojas_/

Episode 183: Why terms such as 'overtired', 'wake windows', & 'sleep regression' aren't used in AwP May 29, 2024

In this episode, I share why Aware Parenting doesn't include the terms 'overtired', 'wake windows', and 'sleep regression', and what we perceive is going on when these terms are used. Because Aware Parenting has such different ways of understanding what's going on with sleep, it doesn't use a lot of terminology commonly used in other parenting paradigms. If you'd like my free PDF to learn more about sleep, secure attachment, emotional release and Aware Parenting, you can sign up for it here: https://marion-rose.myflodesk.com/ssgsvngo66 You can find out more about my work at www.marionrose.net You can also find me here: https://www.instagram.com/theawareparentingpodcast/ https://www.instagram.com/_marion_rose_/ https://www.instagram.com/awareparenting/ www.facebook.com/MarionRosePhD

Episode 182: The three ingredients for relaxed, restful and restorative sleep May 26, 2024

In this episode, I talk about the three ingredients for restful sleep. The first is well-known, the second is less well-known in this culture, and the third is often not recognised at all. I also explain the three different ways to bring about calmness before sleep, and why two of those only lead to superficial calmness, which often leads to babies and children waking up easily and frequently. Then I share the third way, which leads to deep relaxation. This is a part of Aware Parenting, and I talk about why that way that leads to relaxed, restful and restorative sleep. If you'd like my free PDF to learn more about sleep, secure attachment, emotional release and Aware Parenting, you can sign up for it here: https://marion-rose.myflodesk.com/ssgsvngo66 You can find out more about my work at www.marionrose.net You can also find me here: https://www.instagram.com/theawareparentingpodcast/ https://www.instagram.com/_marion_rose_/ https://www.instagram.com/awareparenting/ www.facebook.com/MarionRosePhD

Episode 181: Sleep, cultural contexts, and Aware Parenting May 23, 2024

This little mini episode continues on from the last episode on cultural beliefs in relation to sleep. I talk about how looking at sleep practices all around the world helps us understand biological needs and cultural practices. Babies and children vitally need sleep, so it's adaptive for there to be many ways to support them to be able to go to sleep in whatever climate and culture, but these different ways have consequences in other areas. There are three reasons I find it helpful to look at the wider cultural context with sleep: To see how sleep practices are related to climate, culture, etc. To get free from shame and guilt about what others might think if you choose your own way. To see clearly what you might hvae been told is from a cultural belief rather than what's most helpful for babies and children. I also talk about the three main ways for sleep to happen: With closeness - eg movement, feeding, etc. -> frequent night waking. Without closeness - eg. swaddling, stillness, etc -> baby wakes up but doesn't call out. Aware Parenting: Closeness and natural relaxation through release -> more relaxation and more restful sleep and longer sleep. If you'd like my free PDF to learn more about sleep, secure attachment, emotional release and Aware Parenting, you can sign up for it here: https://marion-rose.myflodesk.com/ssgsvngo66 You can find out more about my work at www.marionrose.net You can also find me here: https://www.instagram.com/theawareparentingpodcast/ https://www.instagram.com/_marion_rose_/ https://www.instagram.com/awareparenting/ www.facebook.com/MarionRosePhD

Episode 180: Sleep, cultural beliefs, innate needs, and body wisdom May 15, 2024

I love looking at how cultural beliefs and practices affect parenting, and in this episode I explore this in relation to sleep for babies and children. I talk about The Continuum Concept book about the Yequana people, by Jean Liedloff, and how reading it affected me back in 1992. I explore how Classical Attachment Parenting was deeply influenced by Indigenous cultures in hot climates, and how parenting beliefs and practices were often quite different in cold climates. I share about how Aware Parenting aims to differentiate between parenting practices that are based on cultural beliefs around and practices that are based on innate needs and body wisdom. If you'd like my free PDF to learn more about sleep, secure attachment, emotional release and Aware Parenting, you can sign up for it here: https://marion-rose.myflodesk.com/ssgsvngo66 You can find out more about my work at www.marionrose.net You can also find me here: https://www.instagram.com/theawareparentingpodcast/ https://www.instagram.com/_marion_rose_/ https://www.instagram.com/awareparenting/ www.facebook.com/MarionRosePhD

Episode 179: To mothers on Mothers Day May 11, 2024

Hello again! This is a very different episode, and it's for mothers, to mark Mothers Day in some parts of the world. Please note, that this is based on The Marion Method, rather than Aware Parenting. In the episode, I share three things: ~ An invitation to see what shows up for you on Mothers Day. ~ Me appreciating you as a mother. ~ Me standing in for Divine Mother / your Inner Loving Mother / the Soul version of your mother, and offering you loving phrases. I'm sending you love this Mothers Day and every day! If you want to learn more about my Inner Loving Presence Process Course, you can find it here: https://innerlovingpresenceprocess.com/ My Transformation Through Mothering Course is here: https://marionrose.samcart.com/products/transformation-through-mothering-twenty-twenty-one/ You can find out more about my work at www.marionrose.net You can also find me here: https://www.instagram.com/theawareparentingpodcast/ https://www.instagram.com/_marion_rose_/ https://www.instagram.com/awareparenting/ www.facebook.com/MarionRosePhD

Episode 178: Introducing the second sleep series May 01, 2024

I'm so delighted to be starting this second sleep series, in tandem with editing my book, Sound Sleep and Secure Attachment with Aware Parenting, as well as offering a live round of the course of the same name, and my first Aware Parenting children's book, on rambunctious play before bed. This episode is an introduction to what me and my guests will be talking about in this series. I include: The innate release and relaxation response all babies and children have. Differentiating cultural beliefs about sleep from innate biological wisdom. How sleep challenges are a reflection of needs and feelings. The three things babies, children and teens need to sleep peacefully. Why they're not fighting sleep but we're often fighting their release and relaxation response. How the relaxation response is the same as the intrinsic ability to heal from daily stresses and larger traumas. How we can have sound sleep and secure attachment with Aware Parenting. If you'd like me free PDF on sleep, you can access it by signing up for my newsletter here: http://eepurl.com/8ifhn The Sound Sleep and Secure Attachment with Aware Parenting Course is here: https://marionrose.samcart.com/products/sound-sleep-and-secure-attachment-with-aware-parenting-course/ You can find out more about my work at www.marionrose.net You can also find me here: https://www.instagram.com/theawareparentingpodcast/ https://www.instagram.com/_marion_rose_/ https://www.instagram.com/awareparenting/ www.facebook.com/MarionRosePhD

Episode 177: The differences between Aware Parenting and Classical Attachment Parenting Apr 28, 2024

I'm grateful to one of my lovely mentees, who requested this episode, where I talk about some of the differences between Aware Parenting and Classical Attachment Parenting (a term created by me and adopted by Aletha Solter, the founder of Aware Parenting). Classical attachment parenting (CAP) refers to the original attachment parenting paradigm, which was first described by William and Martha Sears. The Aware Parenting (AwP) version of attachment parenting has several key differences from this original version. In this episode I talk about: Why people commonly make the change from CAP to AwP (frequent night waking being one of them). The three main differences between CAP and AwP. What people often notice the effects are of moving from CAP to AwP. These effects can include: Babies, toddlers and children sleep more restfully and calmly. If there are two parents, everyone can get their needs more. Clarity about understanding when to offer loving limits and why they're so important. They return to natural gentleness because of expressing healing-feelings. If you want to find out more, I recommend Aletha Solter's books including The Aware Baby and Tears and Tantrums. You can find information about her books at www.awareparenting.com My books, 'The Emotional Life of Babies' and 'I'm Here and I'm Listening" are also available on Amazon. I invite you to sign up for early bird information and my next book about Aware Parenting and sleep here: http://eepurl.com/8ifhn You can find out more about my work at www.marionrose.net You can also find me here: https://www.instagram.com/_marion_rose_/ https://www.instagram.com/awareparenting/ www.facebook.com/MarionRosePhD

Episode 176: Learning to trust ourselves and our children with food with Kim Cousins Apr 17, 2024

I'm so delighted that Kim Cousins is back on the podcast! Kim is an Aware Parenting instructor as well as a registered nurse who works on a perinatal mental health unit. She is also studying a graduate certificate in family therapy. She was also on episode 136 with her colleague, Erin. Please note that this episode talks about painful experiences in relation to food and feelings. As always, I invite you to listen in to yourself about whether you feel called to listen, and if you need to pause or stop at any time. I loved this episode! Kim shared about her process of learning to trust her children's innate body wisdom in relation to food, and how that has also invited her on her own journey too. Kim shared some powerful examples of how she trusts her children in relation to food, and the amazing effects that she's seen. We also discussed guilt and shame and food and suppressing feelings with food as adults. Kim highlights the cultural and societal effects that leads to so many people eating food to suppress feelings. Kim shares about a painful experience she had as a child and the effect that had on her and her relationship with food. Kim talks about the shift from shame and guilt to self compassion in relation to eating to suppress feelings. She also talks about a challenging experience she had with her daughter as a baby around breastfeeding, and yet, how her daughter now deeply trusts her body in relation with food. In addition, she highlights how much support mothers need in these challenging situations in relation to breastfeeding, and how much understanding about birth trauma and babies' crying can help in these situations. You can find out more about Kim and her work at: https://www.instagram.com/kimberley.cousins/ I invite you to sign up for early bird information and my next book about Aware Parenting and sleep here: http://eepurl.com/8ifhn You can find out more about my work at www.marionrose.net You can also find me here: https://www.instagram.com/_marion_rose_/ https://www.instagram.com/awareparenting/ www.facebook.com/MarionRosePhD

Episode 175: Food and feelings - a child's perspective Mar 28, 2024

This is the last episode in the series related to my latest best-selling book, 'I'm Here and I'm Listening', before I return to finish the food series, so this episode is a kind of bridge back to that! Then I'll be starting the second sleep series! Today, I share a story from my book, again from a child's perspective. Before that, I talk about how in Aware Parenting, one of the core aims is to help our child/ren stay connected with, or return to, the innate wisdom of their body, including in relation to food. Doing our own inner work in relation to food, and getting clear about our own beliefs and choices, is so vital to this. There's a really in-depth chapter on all of this in 'I'm Here and I'm Listening'. You can buy 'I'm Here and I'm Listening' on Amazon by searching for 'I'm Here and I'm Listening' on the Amazon store in your country. Or send me a DM for the direct link! Big love xoxox You can find out more about my work at www.marionrose.net You can also find me here: https://www.instagram.com/_marion_rose_/ https://www.instagram.com/awareparenting/ www.facebook.com/MarionRosePhD

Episode 174: Why children aren't fighting sleep Mar 27, 2024

In this episode, I talk about why children aren't fighting sleep, and why we're often fighting their natural relaxation response. I share concisely about how we can trust children and follow their lead and can then cooperate with their natural relaxation response. I explain the power of play before bed, and why we can look at the "it'll all end in tears" phenomenon in a very different light. At the end, I share a story from a child's perspective that comes from my latest best-selling book, 'I'm Here and I'm Listening.' The book has a chapter on sleep. If you want to understand more about sleep and Aware Parenting, there is the first sleep series already recorded, and I will be starting a second series soon, to correspond with my next book, which is about sleep and Aware Parenting. You can find out more about my sleep and Aware Parenting course here: https://marionrose.samcart.com/products/sound-sleep-and-secure-attachment-with-aware-parenting-course/ You can buy 'I'm Here and I'm Listening' on Amazon by searching on the Amazon store in your country. Or send me a DM for the direct link! Big love xoxox You can find out more about my work at www.marionrose.net You can also find me here: https://www.instagram.com/_marion_rose_/ https://www.instagram.com/awareparenting/ www.facebook.com/MarionRosePhD

Episode 173: Screens, play and loving limits Mar 26, 2024

In this episode, I share about how we can stay connected with children in relation to screens, including with attachment play. I offer some information that I wish I'd had when my children were younger, about loving limits. I also share a touching story at the end from my new book, 'I'm Here and I'm Listening', from the perspective of a child. Putting ourselves in our child's shoes can really help transform our parenting experience with screens. I talk about one phrase that I found really helpful around screens. There's an in-depth chapter on screens in my latest best-selling book, 'I'm Here and I'm Listening.' You can buy the paperback or ebook on Amazon by searching for 'I'm Here and I'm Listening' on the Amazon store in your country! Or send me a DM for the direct link! Big love xoxox You can find out more about my work at www.marionrose.net You can also find me here: https://www.instagram.com/_marion_rose_/ https://www.instagram.com/awareparenting/ www.facebook.com/MarionRosePhD

Episode 172: Helping a hitting child Mar 25, 2024

In this episode, I share about what's going on when a child is hitting. I talk about them being in the fight or flight response, and how we can help them move out of that state of hyperarousal, through feeling physically and emotionally safe, to return to homeostasis through healing raging and crying (or laughing and playing) with our loving support. I mention ways we can prevent hitting from happening in the first place, what we can do if we don't get there in time to prevent it happening. I talk about the choice we have between loving limits and attachment play in response to hitting, and what exactly we might choose to say with loving limits. I finish with a story from my latest book, 'I'm Here and I'm Listening', which is through the eyes of a child who is hitting. You can buy the paperback or ebook on Amazon by searching for 'I'm Here and I'm Listening' on the Amazon store in your country! Or send me a DM for the direct link! You might also enjoy my Loving Limits Deep Dive! The link is here: https://marionrose.samcart.com/products/loving-limits-deep-dive/ Big love xoxox You can find out more about my work at www.marionrose.net You can also find me here: https://www.instagram.com/_marion_rose_/ https://www.instagram.com/awareparenting/ www.facebook.com/MarionRosePhD

Episode 171: Blankets, bunnies and other control patterns Mar 24, 2024

In this episode, I talk about when children use have a soft toy, blanket or other object as a control pattern. This might be something they use to suppress their feelings when going to sleep or during the day when feelings bubble up. I explain about how they used to be known as 'transitional objects' in Winnicott's work, and how we see them differently in Aware Parenting. I also share my own experience of having a bunny as a control pattern for many years, and the touching experience I had in my early twenties. I offer ideas for how you can help your child if they have a control pattern like this. Then I read out the story from a child who has a bunny control pattern from my latest book, 'I'm Here and I'm Listening.' You can buy the paperback or ebook on Amazon by searching for 'I'm Here and I'm Listening' on the Amazon store in your country! Or send me a DM for the direct link! Big love xoxox You can find out more about my work at www.marionrose.net You can also find me here: https://www.instagram.com/_marion_rose_/ https://www.instagram.com/awareparenting/ www.facebook.com/MarionRosePhD

Episode 170: Loving limits Q and A Mar 06, 2024

In this episode, I respond to questions about loving limits that parents asked on my social media accounts. They include: What happens when loving limits don't seem to work – eg, the child moves on to something else and doesn't express any feelings; When loving limits aren't actually the most apt response; When our own feelings come up; When we find it hard to be with the crying and raging that happens after loving limits; When the child experiences the loving limit as a punishment; Whether loving limits are possible in response to shouting; How we can care for two children after a loving limit if one is trying to hit the other one. To celebrate the birth of 'I'm Here and I'm Listening', my updated Loving Limits Deep Dive is 50% off for the next week with the code: UPDATE (all in capital letters). That means it's AUD $55 instead of $111 The link is here: https://marionrose.samcart.com/products/loving-limits-deep-dive/ I am so willing for 'I'm Here and I'm Listening' to continue to be a best seller, and to reach the hands, hearts and minds of many many thousands of parents. If you'd like to support me with that, are you willing to share about the book, such as on social media? If you have been thinking of buying it, are you willing to buy it now or really soon, to support it to continue being a best seller? You can buy the paperback on Amazon by searching for 'I'm Here and I'm Listening' on the Amazon store in your country! Or send me a DM for the direct link! Big love xoxox www. marionrose.net

Episode 169: Loving limits update Mar 06, 2024

In this episode, I share an update on loving limits, after gaining lots of new clarity through the process of editing my latest best-selling book, 'I'm Here and I'm Listening'. and having conversations with Aletha Solter, PhD, the Founder of Aware Parenting. The update includes: The importance of giving information when offering a loving limit; The language we might use when offering loving limits; The three situations where we don't recommend offering loving limits. I will be updating all my courses with this information and will let you know when that happens. For now, I've updated my Loving Limits Deep Dive, and to celebrate the birth of 'I'm Here and I'm Listening', it's 50% off for the next week with the code: UPDATE (all in capital letters). The link is here: https://marionrose.samcart.com/products/loving-limits-deep-dive/ I am so willing for 'I'm Here and I'm Listening' to continue to be a best seller, and to reach the hands, hearts and minds of many many thousands of parents. If you'd like to support me with that, are you willing to share about the book, such as on social media? If you have been thinking of buying it, are you willing to buy it now or really soon, to support it to continue being a best seller? You can buy the paperback on Amazon by searching for 'I'm Here and I'm Listening' on the Amazon store in your country! Or send me a DM for the direct link! Big love xoxox www. marionrose.net

Episode 168: Melting a child's freeze Feb 28, 2024

This is part of a series of episodes where I refer to topics in my new best-selling book, 'I'm Here and I'm Listening', and I read a story shared from a child's perspective. In this episode, I talk about the process of helping a child move out a freeze state (which in Aware Parenting we tend to refer to as dissociation, or a control pattern) and back into connection with their body and feelings. Once they do that, they can then express the feelings they were needing to suppress or dissociate from, and return to calm presence. I've always seen control patterns as like frozen feelings. Our role as parents is to offer the warmth and safety required to our child can experience those frozen feelings melting into flowing feelings, which can then flow out, generally in the form of crying or raging, but sometimes as laughter. To do this, we need to be relatively present in our own bodies, to support them to know that they are safe to become present in their own body, to feel and then express their feelings. Dissociation can show up in a myriad of ways, including thumb or finger sucking, dummy/pacifier use, repetitive nose picking or hair twirling, screens, eating when not hungry, and so on. In this episode, I share about what we can do as parents to help our child move out of the suppression of feelings into expression. I am so willing for 'I'm Here and I'm Listening' to continue to be a best seller, and to reach the hands, hearts and minds of many many thousands of parents. If you'd like to support me with that, are you willing to share about the book, such as on social media? If you have been thinking of buying it, are you willing to buy it now or really soon, to support it to continue being a best seller? You can buy the paperback on Amazon by searching for 'I'm Here and I'm Listening' on the Amazon store in your country! Or send me a DM for the direct link! Big love xoxox www.marionrose.net

Episode 167: Leaving the park Feb 28, 2024

Long gone are the days where parents who wanted to leave the park were told to just walk away and say "bye!" to their child. However, it can be so common for us as parents to feel really powerless when we want to leave the park and our child doesn't want to. This can often correspond with times when we're hungry or tired, and our own feelings can easily bubble up and out into responses we later regret. Putting ourselves in our child's shoes at these times can help us be less likely to respond in harsh ways. Free play, explorative play, these are such innate needs for children, and they're ways that they make sense of the world, explore new abilities, making connections, and release stress. For our hunter-gatherer ancestors, children would have been playing freely in these ways a lot. Valuing both our needs and theirs helps us be more likely to feel compassionately connected when we go into the situation of eliciting their cooperation to leave the park. Attachment play, a core part of Aware Parenting, is a beautiful way to create connection, help your child feel deeply valued and cared about, while also eliciting cooperation. In this podcast episode, I read out the child's story of leaving the park from the my new best-selling book, 'I'm Here and I'm Listening'. After the "Go away!" story that I shared in the last episode, this is one of the ones I love next. In the book, I talk a lot about eliciting cooperation. I am so willing for 'I'm Here and I'm Listening' to continue to be a best seller, and to reach the hands, hearts and minds of many many thousands of parents. If you'd like to support me with that, are you willing to share about the book, such as on social media? If you have been thinking of buying it, are you willing to buy it now or really soon, to support it to continue being a best seller? You can buy the paperback on Amazon by searching for 'I'm Here and I'm Listening' on the Amazon store in your country! Or send me a DM for the direct link! Big love xoxox www.marionrose.net

Episode 166: When a crying child says "Go away!" Feb 28, 2024

There is an episode called 'Go away" from early on in The Aware Parenting Podcast, AND I felt called to record another one. That's partly because one of my favourite parts in my new best-selling book 'I'm Here and I'm Listening' is where we see this from a child's perspective. In fact, when parents ask about helpful responses to their crying child saying "Go away!" I often ask them to reflect back on a time in their own childhood when they had a lot of big feelings bubbling and they shouted "Go away!" Did they really want their parent to go away? Or would they have loved them to have stayed lovingly present with their big feelings? I invite you to reflect on that, too! When children are moving out of the fight, flight or freeze response, they need to know that they are physically and emotionally safe, so that they no longer need to try to protect themselves and can let go into the resolution of that response and the release of those feelings. Children need the safety of an adult's presence to really know that they are safe. If we leave them alone when they're raging, they may stop, but when we look closer, it's likely because they have dissociated from those feelings. Of course this is a really nuanced process, where we play with the balance of attention, which is providing physical and emotional safety in the present so that they can revisit stressful or traumatic experiences from the past. This requires our attunement and listening to exactly the amount of closeness which will help them feel safe so they can move into resolution, without overriding their need to feel powerful, which is also an essential part of the healing process. In the podcast, I read out the child's story from the book. I am so willing for 'I'm Here and I'm Listening' to continue to be a best seller, and to reach the hands, hearts and minds of many many thousands of parents. If you'd like to support me with that, are you willing to share about the book, such as on social media? If you have been thinking of buying it, are you willing to buy it now or really soon, to support it to continue being a best seller? You can buy the paperback on Amazon by searching for 'I'm Here and I'm Listening' on the Amazon store in your country! Or send me a DM for the direct link! Big love xoxox www.marionrose.net

Episode 165: My new book is out! Feb 12, 2024

My new book is out! It's called 'I'm Here and I'm Listening' and is for parents of 1-8 year olds. In this episode, I read the first couple of chapters of the book. The audiobook won't be available for a few months, so I thought I would give you an audio taster! The paperback of 'I'm Here and I'm Listening' became an immediate best seller – reaching number 1 in the Child Development and the Emotions and Feelings categories (both Best Sellers and Hot New Releases) and number 66 in all books in Australia! I am so willing for 'I'm Here and I'm Listening' to continue to be a best seller, and to reach the hands, hearts and minds of many many thousands of parents. If you'd like to support me with that, are you willing to share about the book, such as on social media? If you have been thinking of buying it, are you willing to buy it now or really soon, to support it to continue being a best seller? You can buy the paperback on Amazon by searching for 'I'm Here and I'm Listening' on the Amazon store in your country! Or the direct links are here: AU: https://www.amazon.com.au/dp/0645998524 US: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0645998524 UK: https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/0645998524 CA: https://www.amazon.ca/dp/0645998524 DE: https://www.amazon.de/dp/0645998524 FR: https://www.amazon.fr/dp/0645998524 ES: https://www.amazon.es/dp/0645998524 IT: https://www.amazon.it/dp/0645998524 NL: https://www.amazon.nl/dp/0645998524 PL: https://www.amazon.pl/dp/0645998524 SE: https://www.amazon.se/dp/0645998524 JP: https://www.amazon.co.jp/dp/0645998524 Lots of love, Marion xoxox

Episode 164: Returning to our innate body wisdom with food in adulthood Jan 19, 2024

Welcome back after the festive season! This episode is informed by Aware Parenting, but includes a lot of The Marion Method in terms of our reparenting and reculturing journey. I talk about what may be getting in the way of our deep connection with our innate body wisdom in relation to food: Our thoughts and beliefs and understanding about food and eating; Needs we may be meeting with food; Ways we might be suppressing or dissociating with food. I share about why judging ourselves and coercing ourselves to 'give up' certain foods often backfires, and what we can do instead, for example when we notice ourselves eating or drinking to suppress feelings. I offer some practical suggestions, and how replacing self-judgment with compassion and coercion with willingness can make a profound difference in our relationship with food. My new book, 'I'm Here and I'm Listening' is coming out very soon and includes a big chapter on food and eating in parenting and reparenting! I still have a couple of mentoring sessions left. Message me for details! I invite you to sign up for earlybird information about my offerings and my new book here: http://eepurl.com/8ifhn You can learn out more about my work at www.marionrose.net You can also find me here: https://www.instagram.com/_marion_rose_/ https://www.instagram.com/awareparenting/ www.facebook.com/MarionRosePhD

Episode 163: The opposite of overwhelm over this festive season Dec 19, 2023

Hello again! This is a pause in the food, feelings and trust series for a festive season special, all about the opposite of overwhelm. I share about: The importance of connection with yourself and your values; How to prevent overwhelm in the first place (saying no is a big factor here); How you can recognise overwhelm in yourself and your baby/child/teen; How to release overwhelm. I'm sending you so much love this festive season and I'm so willing for you to have plenty of connection, ease, community and rest. I've opened up the doors for 6 and 12 months mentoring in 2024. You can find out more on my social media. Doors for the Aware Parenting Virtual Village are also opening soon. Keep an eye out on my socials or sign up for information about the early bird and my new book – 'I'm Here and I'm Listening' here: http://eepurl.com/8ifhn You can also find me here: https://www.instagram.com/_marion_rose_/ https://www.instagram.com/awareparenting/ www.facebook.com/MarionRosePhD

Episode 162: Supporting children who have learnt to eat to suppress their feelings Dec 13, 2023

In this episode, I talk about how to help children who have learnt to eat to suppress their feelings. This follows on from the last episode about helping babies who have learnt to suppress their feelings, and the one before that, about how babies and children learn to feed and eat to suppress their feelings in the first place. If you haven't already listened to episode 160, I recommend listening to that one first. And as always, I want to remind you that it's so understandable if your child/ren have learnt to suppress their feelings with food, for all the reasons I shared in episode 160. I invite you to drop any guilt or self-judgment sticks and be deeply compassionate with yourself. I talked about: Why our own inner work is vital, so we can be more present with our child/ren; How presence and connection are the antidotes to suppression and dissociation; How to help children know they're unconditionally loved when they're eating to suppress feelings; Why it's important not to use attachment play to get children to eat what we think is healthy; What types of attachment play can be helpful if food is used to suppress feelings; Why it's important not to use loving limits with food, apart from in two scenarios; Which other aspects of Aware Parenting are important to help children express their feelings more and suppress them with food less. I'm opening up the doors for 6 and 12 months mentoring in 2024 very soon. Doors for the Aware Parenting Virtual Village are also opening soon. Keep an eye out on my socials or sign up for information about the early bird and my new books here: http://eepurl.com/8ifhn You can also find me here: https://www.instagram.com/_marion_rose_/ https://www.instagram.com/awareparenting/ www.facebook.com/MarionRosePhD

Episode 161: Supporting babies who have learnt to feed to suppress their feelings Dec 10, 2023

In this episode, I share about what you can do if your baby has learnt to suppress their feelings with feeding. If you haven't already, I invite you to listen to the previous episode, where I talked about how babies and children learn to suppress their feelings with food. I said I was going to talk about babies and children in this episode, but I'm separating them into two episodes - so the next episode will be about helping children who have learnt to suppress their feelings with food. I talk about breastfeeding because that's what I'm familiar with, but most of this is also transferrable to a baby having a bottle to suppress feelings. And you're so welcome here if you bottle feed. As with that last episode, I invite you to drop any guilt sticks (a Marion Method term) if you have often fed your baby when they had healing-feelings to express to you. I talk about: Why it's so understandable that we would feed our baby when they have healing-feelings to express; A recap on how we can tell if a baby has learnt to suppress their feelings with feeding; What can happen if a baby continues to suppress their feelings with feeding and food; Why having information is so important; Why having our own feelings heard it so vital too!; How we can observe what's going on for our baby; How to notice patterns and make sense of their cues; How we can offer loving limits; and The power of attachment play. I highly recommend The Aware Baby by Aletha Solter, and reading and re-reading chapter 3 on feeding, where she clearly explains how to differentiate between hunger and healing-feelings, and The Emotional Life of Babies, where I talk a lot about feeding, control patterns and observation. I'm opening up the doors for 6 and 12 months mentoring in 2024 very soon. Doors for the Aware Parenting Virtual Village are also opening soon. Keep an eye out on my socials or sign up for information about the early bird and my new books here: http://eepurl.com/8ifhn You can also find me here: https://www.instagram.com/_marion_rose_/ https://www.instagram.com/awareparenting/ www.facebook.com/MarionRosePhD

Episode 160: How babies and children learn to suppress their feelings with food Dec 06, 2023

In this episode, I talk about how babies and children learn to suppress their feelings with food and how we can prevent that or lessen those effects. I share about: The importance of self-compassion; Reassurance that this is one of the most common ways that babies and children suppress feelings; Whatever age your baby or child is, it's possible to help them relearn how to distinguish between hunger and upset feelings; Inviting you to connect in with yourself to see if this resonates; How eating to suppress feelings is often passed down in families; Understanding the two types of feelings - needs-feelings and healing-feelings; Why being able to differentiate true relaxation from dissociation is vital here; The spectrum of stress and trauma for babies; How common it is to feed a baby when we think they're hungry when they actually have healing-feelings; How they learn to interpret that the sensation of upset is hunger; Seeing things from the perspective of the baby; How and why control patterns develop early on; How babies learn to interpret healing-feelings as hunger; How we can tell if a baby is suppressing feelings through feeding; How to differentiate between hunger and healing-feelings; How we might distract children with food when they are toddlers or children; How can we tell that a child may be eating to suppress feelings; How we can prevent or lessen the likelihood a baby learns to suppress their feelings with food. In the next episode, I'll talk about what we can do to help a child who has already learnt to suppress their feelings with food. If you want to learn more, I recommend 'The Aware Baby' by Aletha Solter and 'The Emotional Life of Babies' by me! In my upcoming book,' I'm Here and I'm Listening', which is for parents of 1-8 year olds, I also talk a lot about this! You can find out about my work here: www.marionrose.net The Aware Parenting Virtual Village 2.0 is opening soon too! Keep an eye out on my socials or sign up for information about the early bird and my new books here: http://eepurl.com/8ifhn You can also find me here: https://www.instagram.com/_marion_rose_/ https://www.instagram.com/awareparenting/ www.facebook.com/MarionRosePhD

Episode 159: Breastfeeding and listening to ourselves and our babies with Carly Facius Dec 05, 2023

I'm so delighted that Carly Facius is back again! Carly is a Registered Midwife, International Board Certified Lactation Consultant, and holds a Master of Primary Maternity Care and is an Aware Parenting instructor. Carly has already been on two episodes of The Aware Parenting Podcast: Episode 149 on Communicating with babies and Episode 154 on Reclaiming our power through birth. I absolutely loved this conversation! We are sending so much love to any woman who gave up breastfeeding before they were ready. We discussed: How birth affects breastfeeding; What we can do in the hours after birth to support breastfeeding; The centrality of observing our baby; The research triangle of observation, information and listening to ourselves as parents; Why the parent is the expert; The importance of listening in to ourselves when we are given information about breastfeeding; Learning to trust yourself and trust your baby; How Aware Parenting is based on trusting a baby's innate wisdom; The de-conditioning process in Aware Parenting to unlearn all the ways we learnt to not trust ourselves and our innate wisdom and the wisdom of babies and children; How women often stop breastfeeding sooner than they want to because there is a lack of information or support; Doing what feels right for you in terms of breastfeeding; How any amount of continued breastfeeding benefits both baby and mother; The incredible intelligence of the human body and how breastmilk adapts to protect babies' health; Why mothers might worry that they don't have enough milk; The size of babies' stomachs as they get older; How I helped my son heal from the effects of his fast posterior birth as a newborn so that I could breastfeed him comfortably; How a lot of confusion about why babies come on and off the breast can be clarified when a mother understands Aware Parenting; What's really going on if a parent thinks that their baby is hungry but doesn't want to feed; How understanding Aware Parenting can prevent people from offering solids earlier than recommended; How the goal of introducing solids is building a healthy relationship with food; What parents can do in terms of Aware Parenting it they're thinking of introducing solids early to help their baby sleep more at night; How our culture likes to see babies as faulty or immature and Aware Parenting seens their innate wisdom that they are trying to help us understand; How instead, we can focus on observing our baby to see what they're really communicating; How important it is for us to have our feelings heard so we can actually see our baby's behaviour more clearly; How natural it is for our own feelings related to food from when we were babies will come up when our babies are feeding; How Aware Parenting can support mothers to continue breastfeeding for longer; How Aware Parenting can create more ease and enjoyment in every stage of the breastfeeding journey; Using limits and loving limits with breastfeeding; What happens if a mother is saying yes when she has a no to breastfeeding; How we do offer loving limits with breastfeeding but not solid foods; Supporting mothers to say yes to continuing breastfeeding if they want to, when they might be coerced to stop or not ready to stop; And to say no to a breastfeed their toddler if they have a no, either because of their own needs, or the toddler's; How the journey of breastfeeding invites mothers to connect with our yeses and noes and our innate wisdom and to support our babies to be deeply connected with their innate wisdom with food; Carly normally offers 1:1 sessions on breastfeeding and birth preparation and Aware Parenting but is 35 weeks pregnant and not working until next year. However, you can find Carly and her work at www.seedpodfamilies.com or at https://www.instagram.com/seed_pod_/ If you want to find out more about breastfeeding and Aware Parenting, I recommend The Aware Baby by Aletha Solter and The Emotional Life of Babies by me!

Episode 158: What gets in the way of children's innate body wisdom with food Nov 26, 2023

After the last episode, I felt called to share more details about how things get in the way of children's innate body wisdom. If our aim is wanting our child to make the most optimal food choices based on their bodily sensations as well as information from us and from their own prior experience about whether they enjoyed the food and how they felt afterwards, then knowing what can get in the way of that can be helpful, whilst also being compassionate with ourselves that we live in a culture that is set against us being deeply connected with our bodies and that it's hard not to be part of that. I talk about a number of different things, such as shaming, food as rewards, advertising, family stress around meals, shoulding, using food to suppress feelings, past trauma, powerlessness and lots more, and each case, I include suggestions for how we can ameliorate these effects. I also offer parents to practice lots of self-compassion, attachment play and presence. My next book, 'I'm Here and I'm Listening' is coming out soon, and The Aware Parenting Virtual Village 2.0 is opening soon too! Keep an eye out on my socials or sign up for information about the early bird here: http://eepurl.com/8ifhn

Episode 157: Food and feelings: an evolutionary perspective with Clare Louise Brumley Nov 05, 2023

I absolutely love that Clare Louise Brumley, PhD, has returned to the podcast. She was on episode 135 about an evolutionary perspective on sleep. She is an Aware Parenting instructor as well as registered nutritionist and Integrative Medicine Practitioner and she did her PhD on this topic. We talk about: Why we are meant to feel a lot of feelings in relation to food; How an evolutionary perspective helps parents; How we can support children to use their sensory system to know what food is optimal for them; How the changes, particularly in the last 200 years, muddy the waters in sensing food; What we can do with Aware Parenting to clear the system to support our children's innate wisdom; The process of supporting children to listen in to what foods aren't a fit; Which foods take longer for children and adults to be able to sense is a no; Why Aware Parenting's centrality of connection and attunement is so vital here; How we are supporting children to be researchers; My favourite phrase of Clare Louise's – "information without judgment brings choice"; How this is an invitation for even more connection; Why children will tend to go for sweet foods and not bitter foods; What can be going on if children only want to eat a small variety of foods or to keep food types separate; Why children don't need a lot of leafy greens in the early years, especially if they've had a long breastfeeding journey; In a wild food model there is heaps of free choice but lots of natural limits; The protective mechanisms innate in the seasonal eating model; How we can generally feel if our body doesn't want a natural food more quickly than a food combined manufactured food; We would love to hear any questions you have and Clare-Louise will come back for a Q and A follow-up of this! Please come to The Aware Parenting Podcast on Instagram or FB to share your questions! You can find out about Clare Louise and her work on my website: https://marionrose.net/aware-parenting-instructors-in-australia-and-new-zealand/

Episode 156: Trusting children's innate body wisdom in relation to food Oct 31, 2023

In this episode, I talk about the self-connected approach to eating, which is officially called the self-demand approach to food or self-regulated eating in Aware Parenting. I talk about children's innate body wisdom in relation to food, and the interplay of that with them needing to learn about the place, family and culture they are born into. I share about what gets in the way of their connection with the sensations in their bodies, and specifically what we can do to help them stay connected with that intrinsic wisdom, or to reconnect back with it. I explain what can make that so hard for us, and what can help us with that. If you're wanting support with this, it's included in my Aware Parenting with Marion Course, https://marionrose.samcart.com/products/aware-parenting-with-marion-course/, and in my next book (I'm Here and I'm Listening) and in 1:1 mentoring. I also highly recommend reading Aletha Solter's book 'Cooperative and Connected' which has a chapter on eating and ailments.

Episode 155: Food, feelings and trust Oct 28, 2023

Hello and a big warm welcome to the next series, this time about food, feelings and trust. In this episode, I offer an overview, sharing some information about trusting children's wisdom in relation to food and helping them stay connected with that, understanding how eating can become a way of suppressing feelings, and supporting children who already have control patterns in relation to food. I also reveal the title of my next book, which will be coming out fairly soon, as well as information about my children's books and the audiobook version of The Emotional Life of Babies. If you want support with Aware Parenting, including in relation to food and feelings, the live round of my Aware Parenting with Marion Course starts on the 4th of November (and it's available all year round). You can find information about it and my 1:1 mentoring on my website www.marionrose.net or on Instagram @_marion_rose_ or @awareparenting.

Episode 154: Reclaiming our power through birth with Carly Facius Oct 15, 2023

At the end of this series on the effects of birth, I wanted to share an episode about how wonderful birth can be, and the effects of that on a family. In The Aware Baby, Aletha Solter talks about doing what we can to prepare for birth, and I wanted to offer some examples of that through this conversation with Carly Facius who is a Registered Midwife, International Board Certified Lactation Consultant, and holds a Master of Primary Maternity Care and is an Aware Parenting instructor. We both send you so much love and compassion to women who have had a traumatic birth and invite you to listen in to yourself and whether you might need to pause at any time. Please reach out for support if you do choose to listen and feelings come up for you. Carly shares her own background and the effects of that on seeing the beauty of birth – her mother is a midwife and was when she was a child, and actually was the only midwife in a very small country town. We talk about how we would all be seeing birth a lot if we lived in a healthy culture and what a difference that would make in this culture if we did. Carly shares about her experience of living in Bali and how birth there is an ordinary everyday event, and the cultural differences in terms of birth and how many people there often are with the birthing woman. She also shares about her own experience of giving birth, going in with the background and the positive imprints she had. She also talks about the power of being willing to receive support, and what an opportunty birthing can be for us in that. She shares about what it's like coming into parenting a newborn having had a powerful, transformative birthing experience. I share about my experience of birth and what a beautiful start it was to be practicing Aware Parenting. Carly shares about the expansion of capacity to tune in to your baby that can then happen and all the after effects of empowering births. We also talked about how important it is for parents who do have a stressful or traumatic birth to be so deeply compassionate with themselves when the whole process goes a bit awry. Carly explains that a lot of the common challenges in the early weeks and months often aren't as evident when people have an empowering birth experience. Birth can be a deeply transformative experience, both for women who give birth, but also to be alongside the birthing woman, or be an adoptive parent, there are so many ways for transformation to occur. Carly also talks about how she supports parents so they are more likely to have a powerful and transformative life experience, particularly in terms of undoing conditioning around knowing and asking for what they need and understanding how powerful they are. We also link this to Aware Parenting and helping children stay connected with their inner knowing and Carly talks about how we can model that to them while we're pregnant with them. I share about the birth video I watched hundreds of times before giving birth and Carly talks about inviting parents to focus on what they want and are willing for before birth. We finish talking about birth being an opportunity to see how powerful we are, to deeply reconnect with and trust our bodies. You can find out more about Carly and her work at www.seedpodfamilies.com or at https://www.instagram.com/seed_pod_/

Episode 153: Helping older children heal from their birth with Shelley Clarke Oct 09, 2023

In this episode, Shelley Clarke returns to the podcast. Shelley is an Aware Parenting instructor, Hand in Hand Instructor, Marion Method Mentor and CranioSacral Therapist. Shelley was on the podcast in episode 146, talking about helping babies to heal from their birth. We talk about trusting that older children can heal from their birth experience and seeing through a different lens so we can recognise that this is what they are doing or trying to do. Shelley offers lots of examples of tangible ways you can see that your child is aiming to heal from their birth and what you can do as a parent to support and facilitate that process. We share about healing through crying and raging, and healing through attachment play. We discuss what a difference it makes both to children and their lives and to us as parents when we understand this information and are able to put it into practice. Shelly explains how important it is to have our own emotional support to be able to be with children in these ways, and we offer examples of how mothers healing from their birthing experiences often coincide with children healing from their birth. Shelley has a 3 hour workshop coming up for people who would like to understand this more deeply and have personalised support in helping their child heal from their birth. It's on Sunday 31st October from 2pm-5pm AEST. The link is here: https://shelleyclarke.newzenler.com/courses/birthtrauma YouYou can find Shelley and her work at: https://www.shelleyclarke.com/ and https://www.instagram.com/_shelleyclarke_/ and https://www.facebook.com/shelleyclarkemindbodyparenting Her podcast is The Mind-Body Parenting Podcast.

Episode 152: Helping mothers heal from a traumatic birthing experience with Kirsty Fernandes Sep 11, 2023

In this episode, I talk with Kirsty Fernandes, an Aware Parenting instructor who focuses on postpartum care (or 4th trimester care) and who is mother to a 4 year old and a 6 year old. In the rest of the series on The Effects of Birth, we've looked at the effects on the baby. In this episode, we're talking more about the effects on the mother. If you experienced trauma while giving birth, please connect in with yourself as you listen to this episode and pause if you need to, and reach out for listening support if you have feelings bubbling up. Kirsty shares her experience of coming to Aware Parenting, and then why she chose to focus on supporting families after birth, including her passion for offering a space where people can have their stories heard. She talks about the three main reasons parents come to her for support. Kirsty deeply values honouring the whole process of fertility, pregnancy and birth and supporting parents in that whole experience. Kirsty shares a beautiful example of how she realised that something that happened in her son's birth was showing up in their interactions together in more recent times, and what a difference knowing this can make. Kirsty shares about birth trauma, and includes trauma that has been experienced during the whole fertility and pregnancy journey and what can support families to be less likely to experience trauma, and also talks about what she sees the effects can be when there has been trauma. She then explains the differences she sees in families when parents are able to reach out for support and heal from the traumatic experiences, and in particular, what can happen for the babies or children. She emphasises the importance of loving support and emotional safety for the healing to happen. You can find out more about Kirsty and her offerings at: https://www.honouringmama.com/ and on Facebook at: https://www.facebook.com/KirstyFernandesHonouringMama/ and on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/kirstyfernandeshonouringmama

Episode 151: Marion Rose & Belynda Smith talk about Marion's new book, The Emotional Life of Babies Sep 07, 2023

This is a very special episode, with a lot of laughter, where I talk with Belynda Smith, who is an Aware Parenting instructor and Hand in Hand Instructor and also copy editor. Belynda shares about her journey to Hand in Hand Parenting and then Aware Parenting, and how she came to be the copy editor of The Emotional Life of Babies, my book which is about to come out. Belynda shares about Listening Partnerships, and I explain why I often tell other parents about how many Listening Partnerships she has. We then go on to talk about the process of editing the book together, including the enjoyment and ease of it all. We talk about the length of it and the cover, as well as the nuanced approach of Aware Parenting with a baby that it describes. I share about the process of feeling called to write it and how and why that happened. We talk about all the parents' stories in the book and I talk about how delighted I was that most of them used their real names. I'm so grateful to everyone who has shared their stories, who has been a beta reader, to my Marion's Books Support Team, and to those who have shared a testimonial, and more. Belynda asks me about how I've sustained my excitement about this long, and I loved responding to that question, about how in our culture we often have not only our sadness and rage suppressed, but also our excitement and exuberance. I share about how much I've enjoyed all the steps and the collaborative process of finding the title and the subtitle and so on, including with the help of the father of my children. We also talked about the invitations throughout the book, including for self-compassion, and the research triangle that I talk about in it too. The book will be out any day now! You can find out more about Belynda and her work at: https://belyndasmith.com.au/ On her website, you can also sign up for her free ebook on book sharing for connected families. Her podcast is called Tales from The Toolbox. https://www.facebook.com/talesfromthetoolboxpodcast If you want to be notified when The Emotional Life of Babies is out, I'll be sharing about it on my main email list. If you're not on it, you can sign up here: http://eepurl.com/8ifhn I'll also be sharing information about how you can support me and this book, both by email and social media. My website is www.marionrose.net

Episode 150: Helping children heal from their birth through play with Adrienne Harper-Pike Aug 22, 2023

In today's episode I talk with Adrienne Harper-Pike, who is an Aware Parenting instructor who also works in the deaf/blind community as a social worker, works with queer people and their families, and works with families with multiples, including twins, triplets and higher order births. Please note that we discuss things that might help you connect with painful past experiences, including the journey to conceiving through IVF, pregnancy complications, birth and postnatal trauma and complications as well as early separation between parents and babies. Adrienne shares her story of coming to Aware Parenting, which began when her daughter asked her to heal some of her birth trauma through play. She also talks about her journey with IVF and the stressful and traumatic experiences during pregnancy and during and after the birth or her premature twins and how that affected her – including with postnatal anxiety and depression, and guilt, shame and worry – as well as the babies and her partner. Adrienne talks about the huge healing they have all done since then, and the hope this gives to other families about what is possible. She talks about how the system isn't set up to support parents to heal so that they can support their babies or children to heal. Adrienne goes on to share specific examples of how her children have indicated that they were healing from their experiences in utero, during birth and after birth, and what she and her partner did to support them. She talks about the information that her partner and she have given their twins about what happened to them and how that has built over time. She finishes by sharing about the wondrousness of the healing that is possible and what she would love to share with other families who might be in similar positions. You can find out more about Adrienne and her work at: www.alongsideparenting.com and on Facebook at: https://www.facebook.com/alongsideparenting and on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/alongsideparenting/

Episode 149: Communicating with babies with Carly Facius Aug 21, 2023

In this episode about communicating with babies, I talk with Carly Facius who is a Registered Midwife, International Board Certified Lactation Consultant, and holds a Master of Primary Maternity Care and is an Aware Parenting instructor. Carly starts off sharing about how Aware Parenting supporting mothers to have an emotional intimacy with themselves and their needs, and then goes on to talk about the similarities between being with a birthing woman as a midwife and being with a baby or child who is expressing big feelings. She then shares about how aware and sentient babies are, right from in utero, and the experiences she's had which deeply confirmed that, particularly while working as a midwife in Bali. Babies communicating in utero, during the birth, and after birth. She talks about the ways in which parents can talk to their baby in utero and during birth and if they haven't done that, knowing that it is never too late to communicate in these ways. We also discuss the power for both parent and baby in the parent narrating about what is going on throughout the day. We also talk about guilt and how important it is to put down what I call the guilt sticks both during pregnancy and after birth, trusting that babies can heal from any stress they have experienced. Carly also shares some really interesting stories about families and babies and parents communicating before and during the birthing process. You can find out more about Carly and her work at www.seedpodfamilies.com or at https://www.instagram.com/seed_pod_/

Episode 148: The potential link between physical symptoms and our birth Aug 15, 2023

As a preface I'd like to say two things about this episode: Firstly, this is about The Marion Method rather than Aware Parenting, although it is inspired and informed by Aware Parenting and I do talk about Aware Parenting in the episode. Secondly, if you have physical pain or symptoms, please consult with your health practitioner. Given those, let's continue! In this episode, I share two examples of where I healed from physical pain through connecting with feelings related to my birth experiences. The first was just before the Gabor Maté episode. I talk about how emotional and physical pain can share a related emotional tone. I talk about the importance of the balance of attention for us as adults just as it is for babies and children. I talk about how we have an inbuilt movement towards healing from trauma, whether we are babies, children or adults. Aware Parenting offers ways to support babies and children in those innate processes. As adults, we can still heal, and there are many modalities with which we can do that. This can be reassuring for us to know that whatever our children get to heal from, they will still be invited to move towards healing as adults. If you want to sign up to my list to be notified when The Emotional Life of Babies comes out, you can do that here: http://eepurl.com/8ifhn You'll also receive a free intro. to The Marion Method if you do that!

Episode 147: Birth themes Aug 06, 2023

In this short episode, I talk about birth themes - these are themes that we can experience during or soon after our birth and that can get repeated during our childhood and then during our adult life, each time being an opportunity to heal from the original event and receive reparative experiences. I share examples from my own life and my family's life. I also offer some bigger picture perspectives about the relationship between our early experiences and our callings (this part isn't Aware Parenting). I have two offerings if you're wanting support to help your baby heal from stress and trauma - The Aware Parenting Babies Course and The Aware Parenting Babies Q and A Vault. You can find them both on the Aware Parenting Courses page of my website: www.marionrose.net

Episode 146: Helping babies heal from their birth with Shelley Clarke Jul 26, 2023

In this episode, I talk with Shelley Clarke, who is an Aware Parenting instructor, CranioSacral Therapist and Marion Method Mentor. Please note that neither CranioSacral Therapy nor The Marion Method are Aware Parenting. Shelley shares about her experience of practicing Aware Parenting with her three children and how she first learnt about Hand in Hand Parenting when searching for gentle sleep solutions, and then heard about Aware Parenting too. She first found me and my work n 2017 by searching for 'parenting and Psychosynthesis' (I trained and worked as a Psychosynthesis Psychotherapist). She shares about the experience of starting Aware Parenting at different ages with her children, and starting from when her third child was born, as he shared his feelings about his birth. She also did more of her own healing process from her own experience as a baby. She talks about the power of listening to a baby's feelings when being lovingly supported with our own feelings, like she experienced and now offers to parents. From her first baby to her third baby, she became really comfortable with crying-in-arms. Shelley talks about her experience of learning about CranioSacral Therapy and training in it, and how a central part of it is somato-emotional release. As part of that, she has done many birth processes on her own experiences as a baby. She shares about what happens in her work as a CranioSacral Therapist when parents bring their babies with issues related to feeding, sleeping, tension, agitation and digestion. Often the babies will express feelings from their birth during the session. We discuss how Aware Parenting and CST both have a deep trust in the body's innate capacity to heal and return to homeostasis. Shelley shares lots of details about how to be with babies as they are healing from their birth and other experiences. I also reflect back on the time when my daughter was six and had some myofascial treatment and re-enacted her birth experience whilst expressing big feelings - and we discuss how children can also heal from their births, later on than in infancy - and how close to the surface those birth memories are for children as well as babies. Shelley shares an incredible experience of one of her children being a Messenger from Life - this is from The Marion Method, not Aware Parenting. We finish talking about our deep trust in the innate wisdom of human beings and our ability to heal and come back into homeostasis, and the importance of our own inner work as parents so that we can offer a calm presence to support our baby or child's innate wisdom. You can find Shelley and her work at: https://www.shelleyclarke.com/ and https://www.instagram.com/_shelleyclarke_/ and https://www.facebook.com/shelleyclarkemindbodyparenting Her podcast is The Mind-Body Parenting Podcsat.

Episode 145: It's never too late to heal from our birth with Nicole Moore Jul 12, 2023

In this episode of the podcast, I talk with Nicole Moore, international facilitator and trainer of Birth Into Being. We discuss how we met many years ago through Elimination Communication, which Nicole went on to make a film about. She talked about watching the video Birth as We Know it and the huge effect it had on her and her calling as she got completely swept up into Birth Into Being. We talk about one particular scene of a woman giving birth in water and how powerful and beautiful it was. Nicole explains what Birth Into Being is - a philosophy and healing modality which helps people create new imprints in their limbic system, replacing those that were formed in the very beginnings of life. This can be particularly powerful for women before giving birth. She also shares how it ties in perfectly with Aware Parenting. She also talks about the wider social context within which she sees this work and the vision and potential for bringing babies into the world with imprints of being deeply loved. You can find out all about Nicole's work and Birth into Being at www.birthintobeing.com and www.birthintobeing.com.au

Episode 144: Healing from birth trauma as an adult Jul 03, 2023

In this episode, a P.S. from the last one, I share about my journey of healing from being premature in an incubator for 5 weeks and the modalities, practices and choices I've found helpful, including: Psychosynthesis ~ Roberto Assagioli, Rebirthing, Holotriopic Breathwork ~ Stanislav Grof, Polarity Therapy ~ Dr Randolf Stone, Watsu, Alexander Technique, HypnoBirthing ~ Marie Mongan, Private Subconscious-mind Healing, giving birth and not being scared, holding my babies, co-sleeping, having them close, listening to my babies cry in my arms and heal from stress and trauma when all their needs were met, Buteyko breathing ~ Konstantin Buteyko, and The Marion Method.

Episode 143: A conversation between two premature babies as adults with Roma Norriss Jun 24, 2023

This is one of the most powerful conversations I've had! In this episode, I talked with Roma Norris, a Hand in Hand Parenting Instructor who was born at 32 weeks and was in an incubator for 5 weeks. I was born at 30 weeks and was also in an incubator for 5 weeks. We talked about a lot of things, including when we first realised that our experiences as babies had affected us, the effects we've experienced as a result, the healing we've done, and the feelings we've felt. Please note that we talk in depth about terror, panic attacks, painful physical symptoms and suicidal thoughts. However, we also share about the profound healing and transformation we've experienced and the super powers we have as a result of our experiences. We share suggestions for both adults who have had similar experiences, as well as parents of babies and children who were premature and how they can support deep healing. You can find out more about Roma's beautiful work at: http://romanorriss.com/

Episode 142: The effects of our birth Jun 17, 2023

In this episode, I introduce the new series on the effect of the pre and perinatal period of us as babies, children and adults. This fits alongside the upcoming publication of my book, The Emotional Life of Babies. In future episodes in this series, I'll be having conversations about healing from stress in utero, birth and the postnatal period for babies, children and adults, and the effect of not healing can have. I share about my own journey of realising how much my birthing experience, being born at 30 weeks and in an incubator for 6 weeks, affected my childhood and teenage years, and how, over the decades after that, I reconnected with feelings of grief, loneliness, powerlessness, terror, and the deep pain of my experiences not being understood. I talk about the difference between healing from the effects of our birth in adulthood compared to healing whilst a baby or child, with the support of our parents. I include the work of people like Stan Grof, Thomas Verny and Michel Odent, and the powerful effects their work had on me and my understanding of what babies experience. I share about HypnoBirthing and Calmbirth, and the huge shift I made from being terrified of giving birth to being completely calm during birthing. I talk about posterior birth and The Lifting Technique by Janie McCoy King, who wrote Back Labor No More! I also explain how I supported my son to heal from his very fast posterior birth on the day he was born. I talk about the will work of The Marion Method and how the timing of our birth can also continue to affect us later in life and the patterns that can continue.

Episode 141: Nightmares and feelings May 30, 2023

In this short episode, I talk about the relationship I've observed between accumulated feelings and nightmares. I offer two hypotheses and share some observations that parents and Aware Parenting instructors have shared with me about feelings and nightmares. My Sound Sleep and Secure Attachment with Aware Parenting Course is now available. You can find that on my website: www.marionrose.net or directly at: https://marionrose.samcart.com/products/sound-sleep-and-secure-attachment-with-aware-parenting-course/

Episode 140: Adults, stress, raging, crying and sleep May 30, 2023

In this episode, I talk about my own recent experiences of lots of little stresses accumulating, the raging and crying that followed, and how it affected my sleep. I compare it to when I didn't get to complete the expression of some bid old feelings from the past a couple of days later, and waking up grumpy, with those feelings still at the surface. I liken this to what babies and children experience, both in terms of the effects of lots of small stresses, and also what can happen to their sleep when we listen to some of their feelings but they don't get to express all of the feelings. I also share that my Sound Sleep and Secure Attachment with Aware Parenting Course is available. You can find that on my website: www.marionrose.net or directly at: https://marionrose.samcart.com/products/sound-sleep-and-secure-attachment-with-aware-parenting-course/ The sleep series has nearly finished! I have loved recording it!

Episode 139: Toddlers and sleep with Sarah Mason May 25, 2023

I'm so delighted that Sarah Mason came back on the podcast. Sarah is an Aware Parenting instructor and came to talk about babies and sleep in episode 132. This time she shared about toddlers and sleep. She talked about how she shifted beliefs in relation to bedtimes, and the effect that had. She also discussed the importance of us as parents tending to our own needs and feelings in relation to bedtimes. She brought in the understanding of the ways as parents we can unwittingly suppress our toddler's feelings during the day and how that affects sleep. She also shared so powerfully and movingly about her own inner healing in relation to her own early experiences and the profound effect that had on her daughter's healing and sleep. She included the powerful story of how her daughter healed from an early experience of being left before sleep (before Sarah knew about Aware Parenting). She talked extensively about the power and importance of mothers honouring their needs and how that can affect their toddler's sleep. You can find out more about Sarah's work at https://awaremum.com.au/ and https://www.instagram.com/awaremum/

Episode 138: Feelings, unconditional love and sleep May 08, 2023

In this episode, I talk about how our own capacity to be present in our bodies with each particular feeling affects our capacity to be present with our baby or child as they feel and express that feeling. I share about the cultural effects on which feelings are welcomed, and how we can become more comfortable to be present in our bodies when we're feeling particular feelings, thus affecting our presence with our baby or child's feelings. I also relate that to a child's experience of being unconditionally loved. And finally, I explore how these are connected with sleep. If you want to find out more about Aware Parenting, I invite you to come to my website at www.marionrose.net. You can also sign up for my emails, including about my sleep course 2.0, there on my website.

Episode 137: Mild dissociation, relaxation and sleep May 04, 2023

In this episode, I talk about mild dissociation, how to differentiate it from relaxation, and why that makes a difference to sleep. I describe what mild dissociation is, why it happens, what the experience of it is, how we can tell if a baby or child is mildly dissociated, and how it affects sleep. I also share about the innate relaxation response and how supporting babies and children with this helps them feel more relaxed, and how their sleep is then different as a result. If you want to find out more about Aware Parenting, I invite you to come to my website at www.marionrose.net. If you want to understand more about the fight/flight/freeze response in relation to Aware Parenting, I recommend reading Aletha Solter's book Healing Your Traumatised Child.

Episode 136: Supporting mothers and babies through all of their feelings with Kim and Erin Apr 27, 2023

In this episode I was so delighted to talk with Erin Dee and Kim Cousins, who are registered nurses who specialise in perinatal mental health. I LOVED the conversation so much and was in tears several times. They both share about their journey with Aware Parenting, and the difference it made in their own parenting, including with sleep, and how they then introduced it to mothers in the unit they work in. They talk about supporting the mothers with expressing their own feelings, and then having the emotional spaciousness to be able to listen to their babies' feelings, and then seeing the difference in their relaxation, connection, feeding and sleep. I loved the description one mother gave of their 'melty' baby after crying in arms! They share about the beautiful shifts they often see in breastfeeding when mothers are supported to listen to their baby's feelings and are supported to put themselves in their baby's shoes and connect with what they might be feeling. They talk about the changes - from mothers feeling stressed in relation to sleep, having their babies 'catnapping' - and then seeing the differences once they understand sleep and Aware Parenting and listening to feelings. We also talked about the bigger picture, about this culture and the normal needs for support and listening for mothers, and what a huge difference this makes to both mother and baby. You can find out more about Kim and Erin's work on Instagram @when.held. They have various group and 1-1 offerings available which can be found on their Instagram account.

Episode 135: Sleep, stress and trauma: an evolutionary perspective with Clare Louise Brumley Apr 26, 2023

I so enjoyed this episode, in which I talked with Clare Louise Brumley, an Aware Parenting instructor who has a background in nutrition and integrative medicine, whose PhD was on Evolutionary Medicine and Optimal Human Health. Clare Louise share about why an evolutionary perspective is important, sleep through an evolutionary lens, and the physiology of sleep and how the modern culture gets in the way. Interwoven through all of this, she talks about the stress response and Aware Parenting and the innate healing response. Our conversation covered a wide range of topics, from the sense of safety acquired from living and sleeping amongst a community of 30 or 40 people, the effect of electricity and other modern conveniences, and cots. We emphasised how this evolutionary context can bring deep understanding and compassion to parents, particularly in relation to sleep. Clare Louise has occasional 1-1 Aware Parenting spaces. You can find her information here: https://marionrose.net/aware-parenting-instructors-in-australia-and-new-zealand/

Episode 134: Supporting sleep in daycare settings with Steph Fleeton Apr 21, 2023

In this episode, I talk with Steph Fleeton, Aware Parenting instructor and early childhood educator, owner of Spirited Hearts Natural Learning Day Care with her husband Lucas. She shares about her own experience of practicing Aware Parenting with her children, and the ins and outs of sleep with different children who have different life experiences, including how their sleeping arrangement evolved as her children got older. She talks in depth about her own experiences in her Natural Learning Haven daycare, supporting children to sleep with an Aware Parenting approach, through deep connection, understanding their cues, play and listening to their feelings. She also shares about the process she observes when children have come from other daycare centres where they didn't get to choose when to rest or sleep and weren't supported with play and listening to their feelings, and the difference that she observes in them. She talks about parents' surprise when they see how easily their child sleeps whilst in the daycare. Please note that Steph shares about her experience of having a spinal tap after giving birth. You can find out more about Steph's work at https://spiritedhearts.net/, including about her Spirited Hearts Approach to Early Learning Certification Program. You can find her on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/spirited_hearts/ You can find The Spirited Hearts podcast here: https://spiritedhearts.buzzsprout.com/

Episode 133: Parents as researchers Apr 19, 2023

In this episode, I share about how parents can be the researchers with Aware Parenting. I invite a process where you first listen in to whether something resonates with you, and if it does, then to experiment and to observe your baby or child. I share about all the things you can observe to see if what you are doing is helpful for them or not. And if something is happening that is different, then there's an invitation to pause, to find out new information about what might be going on, to listen in again to yourself about whether this resonates and to see if you want to continue experimenting and observing. If you want to sign up for my newsletter, you can do that at: http://eepurl.com/8ifhn or you can find out how to on my website at: www.marionrose.net

Episode 132: Baby sleep with Sarah Mason Apr 17, 2023

In this episode of The Aware Parenting Podcast, I talk with Sarah Mason, an Aware Parenting instructor and mother of an almost three year old. She shares the journey of Aware Parenting that she's been on and all the intricacies of Aware Parenting and sleep that she's learnt along the way. She talks about all the things she tried with sleep before learning about Aware Parenting, including a dummy and a sleep consultant, and all the differences she observed with each approach, including Aware Parenting. She also shares about what happened when they went camping, and the shifts that happened in sleep over time with each step in the practice. You can find out more about Sarah's work at https://awaremum.com.au/ and https://www.instagram.com/awaremum/

Episode 131: Trusting babies and children in relation to sleep Apr 08, 2023

In this episode, I talk about how Aware Parenting's overall approach to trusting babies and children in relation to everything also applies to sleep. That instead of them fighting sleep, we are often fighting their natural relaxation processes. And hat these natural processes are the same as those innate ways that they heal from stress and trauma. And the most important thing in supporting sleep is freeing ourselves from our cultural conditioning around sleep, our adultism, and doing our own healing in relation to sleep, including in our own infancy and childhood. If you want more information about my upcoming course, workshop and book on sleep, I invite you to follow me on social media or sign up for my newsletter, which you can do at www.marionrose.net

Episode 130: From exhaustion to restful sleep with Helena Mooney Apr 04, 2023

In this episode, I talk with my dear friend and colleague, Helena Mooney, who is an Aware Parenting instructor and Hand in Hand instructor. She shares about her experience of starting off with Classical Attachment Parenting with her daughter, and how little sleep she had, and how exhausted she was. She shares about how weird she found Aware Parenting at first, and her unsureness in practicing it at the beginning, and how different it was from Classical Attachment Parenting. Then she talks about how that perception changed as she saw what a difference it made to her daughter's sleep. The change took a bit of a while because her daughter had a backlog of feelings, and she explains this process. Along with getting more sleep again, her daughter also stopped hitting once she started Aware Parenting. She then goes on to share about what a huge difference she experienced with her second child and sleep, starting practicing Aware Parenting at the beginning; she expresses the difference in sleep between the two of them being "night and day." You can find out about Helena's work at www.parentingwithplay.com.au and mine at www.marionrose.net

Episode 129: From no sleep to plentiful sleep with Maru Rojas Mar 30, 2023

In this episode, I talk with Maru Rojas, an Aware Parenting instructor in the UK who shares about her very different experience with sleep with her first child and second child. The first time around, her baby was very restless all night long or was feeding for most of the night and she had very little sleep. She learnt about Aware Parenting and gradually, sleep changed. The second time around, she started with Aware Parenting from the beginning and her son slept peacefully and for much longer periods. She talked about the time it took to support her daughter to 'catch up' with expressing feelings that had been repressed, the trauma she experienced of having so little sleep, and how she called for help from her mum to support her with listening to feelings with her second child. She also offers parents the invitation to listen in deeply to themselves and to create a sleep set-up that works for their unique family. We also talk about the relief of not needing to try to get babies to sleep quickly, why there's no such thing as 'overtired' in Aware Parenting, and the ease of babies sleeping peacefully when there's noise around or we need to move them whilst they're sleeping. Maru also specialises in Elimination Communication and potty learning. She offers 1-1 consultations, an online mothers' circle and online courses. You can find out more about her and her work at: https://parenttogether.co.uk/ and on social media at https://www.instagram.com/_maru.rojas_/

Episode 128: Sleep for babies to teens with Joss Goulden Mar 23, 2023

In this episode, I talked with Joss Goulden, an Aware Parenting instructor who hosts The Aware Parenting Stories Podcast and who co-hosts The Aware Parenting and Natural Learning Podcast with me. Joss shared about her own journey with sleep as a mother, including her son's frequent waking until she found out about Aware Parenting. We also talked about cultural and historical perspectives to sleep, and why that can be so helpful as parents, particularly in terms of co-sleeping, which we also talked a lot about. Joss also offered lots of information about teens and sleep, and how to support teens with the three things needed for sound sleep. You can find out more about Joss and her work at: www.awareparenting.com.au and on social media at Aware Parenting with Joss. You can find out more about my work at www.marionrose.net and https://www.instagram.com/_marion_rose_/ and https://www.facebook.com/MarionRosePhD

Episode 127: Transforming sleep with Nic Wilson Mar 21, 2023

In this episode, I talk to Nic Wilson of Peaceful Parenting, an Aware Parenting instructor who shares about her journey of Aware Parenting, going from her daughter waking up every 45 minutes at night for three years, and that changing radically once she found out about Aware Parenting. She shares about all the other methods she tried, including white noise and controlled crying, and also about all the things she was told to do and not do in relation to sleep. If you want to find out more about Nic and her work, you can do that at: https://peacefulparenting.com.au/ You can find out more about me and my work at: https://marionrose.net/

Episode 126: Sleep Q & A #2 Mar 16, 2023

In this episode of The Aware Parenting Podcast, I answer 12 questions from parents, starting with a 9 year old, going back through decreasing ages to a 6 month old. The questions include nightmares, wriggling, frequent night waking, not wanting dad to put them to bed, pulling hair whilst breastfeeding to sleep, healing from birth trauma, and waking up crying. I also talk about general things you can do to support your child or baby to be more relaxed and sleep more restoratively. I'm going to be making a new course on sleep, writing a book and creating a workshop, so keep an eye out on my social media and email list if you want to find out more about those. If you enjoy this episode, please share it with parents who are looking for a different approach with sleep and whom you think might resonate. You can find out more about my work at www.marionrose.net, https://www.instagram.com/_marion_rose_/ and https://www.facebook.com/MarionRosePhD

Episode 125: Sound sleep and secure attachment Mar 08, 2023

In this episode of The Aware Parenting Podcast, I talk about sleep from an Aware Parenting perspective. This incudes why Aware Parenting is the third way with sleep, the three things needed for sound sleep, and why it's important to understand the difference between true relaxation and dissociation when looking at sleep. I also explain why concepts such as 'overtired', 'fighting sleep', 'sleep windows' and 'sleep regression' don't exist in Aware Parenting. I share about my own experience of sleep in my family and about the myth that early parenthood always not getting much sleep for years! I'm going to be making a new course on sleep, writing a book and creating a workshop, so keep an eye out on my social media and email list if you want to find out more about those. The existing course is very glitchy at the moment! You can find out more about my work at www.marionrose.net, https://www.instagram.com/_marion_rose_/ and https://www.facebook.com/MarionRosePhD

Episode 124: Reducing stress for parents Mar 06, 2023

In this first episode of the new-format Aware Parenting Podcast, I talk about stress for parents. Most of all, I normalise the experience stress in The Disconnected Domination Culture and offer compassion and empathy as well ideas for how both to reduce stress and heal from stress. Are you experiencing stress at the moment? If so, is there anything you can do to reduce your stress levels? Anything you can say no to? Things that you can do less of? And most of all, do you have empathy buddies to whom you can express your feelings and opportunities for some peaceful pauses in your life, even if that's just 10 minutes in the bath or leaving messages on Voxer? So much love to you! xoxox You can find our more about my work at: www.marionrose.net

Episode 123: An interview with Gabor Maté Jan 28, 2023

In this very special episode, we interview Gabor Maté about his most recent book, 'The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness and Healing in a Toxic Culture.' We so loved talking with Gabor and hearing him share his wisdom about his willingness to be vulnerable, the four needs of children, and how people are desperate for information about trauma and healing. He also shared about attachment and authenticity, and the effects of needing to make a choice between these two as a child on later physical and emotional health. He talked about mothers, and how so often girls are given the responsibility to take care of others and how mothers are then often given the task of mothering both their children and their partner. He explained why virtually all trauma is intergenerational, and makes a key suggestion for healing intergenerational trauma. He also spoke of the effects of the trauma of colonisation in Australia, Canada and other countries. He talked about tantrums and what he invites parents to do if their child is having tantrums. He also spoke about the schooling system and its intentions. He explained that it is unnatural for children to be away from their parents for the whole day, and what schools need to do if children being at school is necessary, so that children have emotional safety and therefore stay connected with their natural curiosity to learn. He shared the reason for the subtitle of his book, and also talked about his stance on children and screens. We are so willing for you to enjoy listening to this episode as much as we enjoyed recording it! We so highly recommend 'The Myth of Normal' to anyone who hasn't read it yet. You can find out more about Gabor Maté at https://drgabormate.com/ Please come over to our Facebook page, or find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at www.marionrose.net and Lael at www.laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, would you be willing to subscribe to the podcast so we can show up in your podcast feed?   We’re sending you much love and compassion in your parenting journey. Marion and Lael xoxo

Episode 122: Nick Solter Jan 08, 2023

For our holiday episode, we have a very special guest, Aletha Solter's son, Nick. Nick describes himself as the very first guinea pig for Aware Parenting! In this episode, he talks all about what he remembers of his experiences growing up with Aware Parenting, as well as his experiences of parenting his own two children with Aware Parenting. Nick and his wife have recently started their own podcast and YouTube channel called Dyslexia Journey: Support Your Kid, about the journey they have taken as a family with their daughter being diagnosed with Dyslexia. Their YouTube channel is: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCjHFn9mWKDFtKfO13SkgBdA And the podcast is: https://dyslexiajourney.buzzsprout.com/ Here is the episode with Aletha that Nick talks about, which is called Daily Stress and Your Kid featuring Aletha Solter, PhD: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MiDONOkByAY

Episode 121: Our book! Dec 14, 2022

We are SO excited to talk about our book in this episode! We share behind the scenes, right from the beginning, with all the twists and turns, all the inner work and outer work, up to today, where our book is number one in several categories. We invite you to listen to our journey and we so appreciate you for listening and supporting us. Much love from us both. xoxox Please come over to our Facebook page, or find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at www.marionrose.net and Lael at www.laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, would you be willing to subscribe to the podcast so we can show up in your podcast feed?   We’re sending you much love and compassion in your parenting journey. Marion and Lael xoxo

Episode 120: Christmas feelings Dec 08, 2022

In this episode, we ask invite you to connect in with what you don't want and what you do want this festive season. Topics include: Children's big feelings and adults' big feelings, disappointment, families, the big Santa question, and the vital importance of receiving plenty of empathy at this time of year. We share some of our own Christmas experiences with you, and talk about what we've learnt from more than two decades each of parenting. Please come over to our Facebook page, or find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at www.marionrose.net and Lael at www.laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, would you be willing to subscribe to the podcast so we can show up in your podcast feed?   We’re sending you much love and compassion in your parenting journey. Marion and Lael xoxo

Episode 119: Stages of development with Aletha Solter, PhD. Nov 29, 2022

In this special episode, we have a very important guest, Aletha Solter. PhD, founder of Aware Parenting and The Aware Parenting Institute. As a developmental psychologist, Aletha includes the effect of stages of development in Aware Parenting. In this episode, Aletha talks about two things: 1. Myths about typical behaviours at different ages that Aware Parenting helps to dispel, including the following myths: - sleep regressions during infancy - it's 'normal' for toddlers to hit and bite - it's 'normal' for teenagers to rebel 2. She also offers accurate information about developmental stages that helps parents who are implementing the Aware Parenting approach in each of the three aspects - attachment-style parenting, non-punitive discipline and the prevention of, and healing from, stress and trauma. Aletha includes information about the normal stages of separation anxiety, the normal stage of autonomy during the second year, and differentiating between normal developmental fears and traumatic fears. You can find out more about Aletha's work and her books at www.awareparenting.com

Episode 118: Understanding Aware Parenting Nov 20, 2022

If you want a quick snapshot of Aware Parenting, or you want a family member to learn more about it it, this is the episode for you to listen to or to pass on. In it, we talk about the origins of Aware Parenting and about Aletha Solter, the founder of Aware Parenting. We share about the three core principles and how each of them look in practice. We talk about why deep self-compassion is vital in Aware Parenting, as is community and support. We also share about how Aware Parenting invites us on our own journey of inner reparenting. Please come over to our Facebook page, or find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at www.marionrose.net and Lael at www.laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, would you be willing to subscribe to the podcast so we can show up in your podcast feed?   We’re sending you much love and compassion in your parenting journey. Marion and Lael xoxo

Episode 117: What we've learnt Nov 08, 2022

In this episode, we talk about what we've learnt from studying, practicing and teaching Aware Parenting. We'd love to hear if you resonated with any of these from your experiences with Aware Parenting! Please come over to our Facebook page, or find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at www.marionrose.net and Lael at www.laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, would you be willing to subscribe to the podcast so we can show up in your podcast feed?   We’re sending you much love and compassion in your parenting journey. Marion and Lael xoxo

Episode 116: Supporting children at school Oct 30, 2022

In this episode, Marion talks to Nic Wilson, an Aware Parenting instructor and certified Marion Method Mentor, from Peaceful Parenting. Nic shares many practical things she does to support her daughter in relation to school, including a lot of attachment play - she shares in chronological order, right from preparing the night before, to playing games to help her get out of bed, to games in the playground before school. She shares how other children also join in with these games in the playground too. Then Nic talks about how she helps her daughter to feel connected with her during the school day, and how she connects again after school. She offers parents ways of being powerful advocates at school, including with notes and responses in parent-teacher meetings and responses to homework. You can find out more about Nic's new online Aware Parenting Course, the Parent Alchemy Journey, at https://nicwilson.samcart.com/products/parent-alchemy-journey-course/ You can find her on Instagram at @peacefulparenting and Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/PeacefulParenting.com.au Her website is at: www.peacefulparenting.com.au

Episode 115: Not being heard Oct 26, 2022

In this mini episode, Marion shares about her experiences of not being heard in her younger years, and how that has been showing up in her outer life again recently. She shares about the core beliefs that we can acquire as children when our parents, with the most loving of reasons, distract us from our painful feelings. She invites us to have compassion for ourselves as parents when we see the ways that we might have done that to our children, knowing that it is never too late to start listening more, whether that's to our children or ourselves. You can find it on all the usual podcast channels. Please come over to our Facebook page, or find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at www.marionrose.net and Lael at www.laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, would you be willing to subscribe to the podcast so we can show up in your podcast feed?   We’re sending you much love and compassion in your parenting journey. Marion and Lael xoxo

Episode 114: "I hate you!" Oct 23, 2022

In this episode of The Aware Parenting Podcast, Lael has a solo chat about what we can do when our children say ‘I hate you!’ She talks about what we can do at that moment, why we have reactions to these words and how we can find our centre to be present. Lael also discusses the reason behind these words and outbursts and how we can support our children in these moments with calm and compassion. Please come over to our Facebook page, or find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at www.marionrose.net and Lael at www.laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, would you be willing to subscribe to the podcast so we can show up in your podcast feed?   We’re sending you much love and compassion in your parenting journey. Marion and Lael xoxo

Episode 113: Babies and birth trauma Sep 22, 2022

In this episode, we share deeply about how we both came to Aware Parenting via birth trauma - Lael, through wanting to help her baby heal from birth trauma, and Marion, through experiencing birth trauma as a baby herself and how that took her on a journey through developmental psychology and psychotherapy to Aware Parenting. Lael shares about the profound ways in which she supported her daughter to heal from her powerful birth experience with Aware Parenting, and Marion shares about her understanding of what babies can experience through her own birth healing journey. We also talk about specific ways you can help your baby heal from birth trauma and the importance of our own healing if we are to help our baby. We also offer reminders for deep self-compassion and deep trust in the timing and journey of healing. Please come over to our Facebook page, or find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at www.marionrose.net and Lael at www.laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, would you be willing to subscribe to the podcast so we can show up in your podcast feed?   We’re sending you much love and compassion in your parenting journey. Marion and Lael xoxo

Episode 112: Aware Parenting and Natural Learning Sep 14, 2022

In this episode, Marion talks to Joss, another Aware Parenting instructor, about the combination of Aware Parenting and Natural Learning. The conversation includes a description of Natural Learning and how these two philosophies complement each others, such as having a deep trust in a child's learning and development, honouring each child's differences, and following a child's interests. Also discussed is the history of schooling and the bigger cultural picture. You can find out about Joss' courses, offerings and sessions at www.awareparenting.com.au

Episode 111: Growing up with Aware Parenting Sep 09, 2022

In this episode of The Aware Parenting Podcast, Lael sits down with her adult son Ky and interviews him about what it was like growing up with Aware Parenting. Ky shares all about his relationship to expressing feelings, how it was as a teen when he made mistakes, navigating authoritarian influences and his relationships to anger. He also speaks about working with children and his understanding of emotions, and how his relationship to his girlfriend, friends and family feel. Lael and Ky also discuss respect, discipline and connection to self and what is possible in the world. Please come over to our Facebook page, or find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at www.marionrose.net and Lael at www.laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, would you be willing to subscribe to the podcast so we can show up in your podcast feed?   We’re sending you much love and compassion in your parenting journey. Marion and Lael xoxo

Episode 110: Resisting feelings Sep 01, 2022

We've had quite a few requests recently about how to help children express their feelings if they're not expressing them, so we decided to record this episode, called Resisting Feelings. In it, we talk about why attending to our own feelings is vital if we are to support our children in expressing theirs. We also offer specific practices for how you can help your child be more willing to express their feelings. As always, we offer you lots of compassion in this process! Please come over to our Facebook page, or find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at www.marionrose.net and Lael at www.laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, would you be willing to subscribe to the podcast so we can show up in your podcast feed?   We’re sending you much love and compassion in your parenting journey. Marion and Lael xoxo

Episode 109: Aware Parenting books Aug 27, 2022

In this episode, we talk about Aletha Solter, Ph.D. the founder of The Aware Parenting Institute, and her books: The Aware Baby, Tears and Tantrums, Cooperative and Connected, Attachment Play, Raising Drug-Free Kids and Healing Your Traumatised Child. We share information about what's in them and who they are helpful for. We also express our gratitude for Aletha and her work, which has had such a powerful effect on our lives. We also share exciting news about our book, including its title! Please come over to our Facebook page, or find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at www.marionrose.net and Lael at www.laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, would you be willing to subscribe to the podcast so we can show up in your podcast feed?   We’re sending you much love and compassion in your parenting journey. Marion and Lael xoxo

Episode 108: Inner authority Aug 22, 2022

In this episode, we talk all about inner authority in parenting and the rest of life. We invite you to connect with your own inner authority in relation to Aware Parenting and we share some ways that you could do that. We offer examples of ourselves and our children listening to our inner authority and we explain how Aware Parenting helps children stay connected with their inner compass. Please come over to our Facebook page, or find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at www.marionrose.net and Lael at www.laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, would you be willing to subscribe to the podcast so we can show up in your podcast feed?   We’re sending you much love and compassion in your parenting journey. Marion and Lael xoxo

Episode 107: Our inner work Aug 17, 2022

In this episode, we talked about the ongoing inner work we're invited to do as parents, whether that's invited by our children, by our outer world, or by physical symptoms. We shared about the importance of ongoing loving support from others and we emphasised the normality of having lots of feelings and the importance of presence. We're sending love to you if you're feeling feelings right now! Please come over to our Facebook page, or find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at www.marionrose.net and Lael at www.laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, would you be willing to subscribe to the podcast so we can show up in your podcast feed?   We’re sending you much love and compassion in your parenting journey. Marion and Lael xoxo

Episode 106: School refusal Aug 15, 2022

In this episode of The Aware Parenting Podcast, Lael has a solo chat about the topic of school refusal. She talks about our current system and why it doesn't suit many children, the key elements that children need to feel safe and learn, and how our system could look different. Lael also discusses some tools to use with your child, some steps to take with your kindergarten or school, and how we can advocate for change. There is also discussion about what may surface for us as parents and how we can support our children to be the best version of themselves.

Episode 105: Forgiveness Jul 14, 2022

In this episode, we talk about why we invite a moving beyond the word forgiveness itself. Lael shares about what she learnt about this concept from her Mum whilst growing up. We talk about the natural process of coming to compassion for others through welcoming all of our feelings. We explain how we can understand why someone did something yet still be unwilling to put up with being treated in harsh ways again. We share about having compassion for our parents and others who hurt us and seeing how much they were affected by the time and culture they grew up in whilst also unconditionally loving our younger parts and all of their feelings. Apologies for the difference in volume between us in this episode! Marion has a new mic and it was turned down! Please come over to our Facebook page, or find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at www.marionrose.net and Lael at www.laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, would you be willing to subscribe to the podcast so we can show up in your podcast feed?   We’re sending you much love and compassion in your parenting journey. Marion and Lael xoxo

Episode 104: Rupture and repair Jul 07, 2022

In this episode, we talked about the process of moving from rupture to repair with our children. We emphasise the difference that happens when are are not willing to judge ourselves or pick up the guilt sticks, and not being willing to say things like, “I shouldn’t have done that” or “I’m a naughty mummy” or “what I did was wrong.” We offer ways to take responsibility and apologise without judging ourselves. We share how this helps children when they are needing to repair. We also suggest attachment play that we can use to support the repair process, such as the doing over game and power-reversal games. Please come over to our Facebook page, or find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at www.marionrose.net and Lael at www.laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, would you be willing to subscribe to the podcast so we can show up in your podcast feed?   We’re sending you much love and compassion in your parenting journey. Marion and Lael xoxo

Episode 103: Children and travel Jul 05, 2022

In this episode of The Aware Parenting Podcast, Marion talks to Helena Mooney, an Aware Parenting instructor, about travelling with children. Both Marion and Helena have travelled frequently between Australia and the UK with babies and young children. We include information about: how to prepare children for travelling, what we can do on a plane or airport terminal to help things go more smoothly, how we can respond if our child cries on the plane, and how we can listen to feelings when staying with friends or family. We share information relevant to travelling in other ways, such as in the car or on a train, and what you can do if your baby always cries in the car. We also talk about the one thing that we found most helpful for ourselves so that we could play with our children more and listen to more feelings whilst travelling. Helena also has a podcast and also a recent episode on travel; her podcast is called Parenting with PLAY and you can find it here: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/parenting-with-play/id1470033587 Helena has a course called Annoying to Amazing, which you can find here: https://parentingwithplay.com.au/amazing/ She has a free playful discipline masterclass here: https://parentingwithplay.com.au/playful-discipline-masterclass/ Helena and Marion also have the Aware Parenting Babies Course. Helena also offers 1-1 sessions. You can find out more about her and her work here: https://parentingwithplay.com.au/ Please come over to our Facebook page, or find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at www.marionrose.net and Lael at www.laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, would you be willing to subscribe to the podcast so we can show up in your podcast feed?   We’re sending you much love and compassion in your parenting journey. Marion and Lael xoxo

Episode 102: Illness and healing Jun 30, 2022

In this episode, we talked about how illness can arrive for children when they have more accumulated feelings. We shared about the different choices parents have about to respond to feelings when children are sick. We emphasised how hard sickness can be in nuclear families and how much extra support is essential during times of illness. We offered ideas for what parents can do after their children have been ill in regard to painful feelings. We talked about the power of attachment play if visits to health professionals are required. We also shared our experiences of learning we've experienced from times of illness. Please come over to our Facebook page, or find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at www.marionrose.net and Lael at www.laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, would you be willing to subscribe to the podcast so we can show up in your podcast feed?   We’re sending you much love and compassion in your parenting journey. Marion and Lael xoxo

Episode 101: Cooperation Jun 20, 2022

In this podcast, we shared about parents' own feelings in relation to child’s lack of cooperation; explained all the reasons why children don’t cooperate; and offered practical actions you can take when your child isn’t cooperating. We talked about the difference between compliance and cooperation, and gave a the list of three things you can remember to go through to support your child to be willing to cooperate with you. Please come over to our Facebook page, or find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at www.marionrose.net and Lael at www.laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, would you be willing to subscribe to the podcast so we can show up in your podcast feed?   We’re sending you much love and compassion in your parenting journey. Marion and Lael xoxo

Episode 100: Birthdays Jun 13, 2022

This is our 100th episode! In it, we talked all about birthdays - both our own birthdays as adults, and our children’s birthdays. We shared about how birthdays are opportunities for birth-related feelings and other feelings for the past to bubble up, and the journey of listening lovingly to those feelings. We also talked about the joy of being deeply seen and celebrated on our birthday, whether we are an adult or a child. We also have exciting news! To celebrate our 100th episode, we are going to have The Aware Parenting Podcast Party and we are inviting you to join in with us! Please come over to our Facebook page, or find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at www.marionrose.net and Lael at www.laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, would you be willing to subscribe to the podcast so we can show up in your podcast feed?   We’re sending you much love and compassion in your parenting journey. Marion and Lael xoxo

Episode 99: Valuing fathers #2 Jun 07, 2022

This week's episode of The Aware Parenting podcast is with Curt Storring from @dadwork.curt This week's episode of The Aware Parenting podcast is with Curt Storring from @dadwork.curt Curt shares all about his journey of fatherhood, including how powerless and painful he found early years of parenting and how he did his inner work to become the father he had always hoped to be. Lael and Curt share a candid conversation about healing past wounds and changing family dynamics. There are many excellent tips for fathers in this episode including where to start, how to access support, and how to repair any ruptures that may occur, whether that is with your children or your partner. Please come over to our Facebook page, or find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at www.marionrose.net and Lael at www.laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, would you be willing to subscribe to the podcast so we can show up in your podcast feed?   We’re sending you much love and compassion in your parenting journey. Marion and Lael xoxo

Episode 98: Valuing fathers #1 May 26, 2022

In this episode of The Aware Parenting Podcast, Lael has a wonderful conversation with Matt, a father who is practicing Aware Parenting. Matt shares all about his experience of coming to Aware Parenting, what he has found challenging and the wonderful insights he has discovered for himself and his daughter. Matt and Lael discuss how powerful it is to have listening time, the fears and concerns he had becoming a father and the deeper healing work he has done to change his belief systems and responses in relation to parenting his daughter. We invite fathers who are new to Aware Parenting or wanting to hear other men's experiences to listen to this. Or perhaps you'd like to share it with a dad whom you think might be interested? Please come over to our Facebook page, or find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at www.marionrose.net and Lael at www.laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, would you be willing to subscribe to the podcast so we can show up in your podcast feed?   We’re sending you much love and compassion in your parenting journey. Marion and Lael xoxo

Episode 97: Valuing mothers May 13, 2022

In this episode, which we recorded just after Mother’s Day here in Australia, we talk about: how it’s so normal and natural to feel big feelings on Mother’s Day, and how those are a reflection of living in the Disconnected Domination Culture (in Marion’s words). We share about how we moved from feeling disappointed, sad and frustrated on Mother’s Day to deeply fulfilled and valued, and some invitations for other mothers to make that shift. We also talked about moving from valuing mothers one day a year, to the centrality of valuing mothers for a healthy culture. Please come over to our Facebook page, or find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at www.marionrose.net and Lael at www.laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, would you be willing to subscribe to the podcast so we can show up in your podcast feed?   We’re sending you much love and compassion in your parenting journey. Marion and Lael xoxo

Episode 96: Each child is unique May 05, 2022

In this episode, we talk with a guest, Steph Fleeton, who is an Aware Parenting Instructor. We asked Steph to join us after receiving messages recently asking about practicing Aware Parenting when a child has a diagnosis such as ADHD or Autism. Steph has a long background in early childhood education and daycare and also has two sons, the eldest of whom has a diagnosis of ADHD and Generalised Anxiety Disorder. In the podcast, Steph shared about her experience of practicing Aware Parenting with her son as well as with the children that come into her care. We felt so touched listening to Steph share about deeply connecting with each child and their uniqueness. Steph also shared about her journey of her son getting diagnosed and the impact the diagnosis has on how other adults are towards him. You can connect with Steph at https://www.instagram.com/spirited_hearts/ and https://spiritedhearts.net/

Episode 95: Starting Aware Parenting later Apr 28, 2022

Episode 95: Starting Aware Parenting later by Marion Rose, PhD.

Episode 94: Overwhelmed! Apr 21, 2022

In this episode, we share about what overwhelm is, how we might behave when we’re overwhelmed, and how we can help ourselves move out of overwhelm. We talk about how our experiences of overwhelm can help us have more compassion for our children when they’re overwhelmed, and the two key things we might need when we’re overwhelmed. Please come over to our Facebook page, or find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at www.marionrose.net and Lael at www.laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, would you be willing to subscribe to the podcast so we can show up in your podcast feed?   We’re sending you much love and compassion in your parenting journey. Marion and Lael xoxo

Episode 93: Creating community Apr 04, 2022

In this episode, we share about our own experiences of creating Aware Parenting communities, and offer suggestions for ways that you can go about creating your own communities, both online and in person! Please come over to our Facebook page, or find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at www.marionrose.net and Lael at www.laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, would you be willing to subscribe to the podcast so we can show up in your podcast feed?   We’re sending you much love and compassion in your parenting journey. Marion and Lael xoxo

Episode 92: Playing before bed Mar 24, 2022

Are they fighting sleep, or are we fighting their natural relaxation processes? In this podcast, we share the Aware Parenting perspective on playing before sleep and as parents we can work with our child or teen’s innate wisdom to sleep restfully. Please come over to our Facebook page, or find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at www.marionrose.net and Lael at www.laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, would you be willing to subscribe to the podcast so we can show up in your podcast feed?   We’re sending you much love and compassion in your parenting journey. Marion and Lael xoxo

Episode 91: Family conditioning Mar 17, 2022

This episode was inspired by a listener’s question about returning home to visit family and returning to younger states. In the episode, we talk about why family conditioning is so strong and why it can be so hard to free ourselves from it. We also share ways that we have found helpful to get untangled from the conditioning. Please come over to our Facebook page, or find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at www.marionrose.net and Lael at www.laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, would you be willing to subscribe to the podcast so we can show up in your podcast feed?   We’re sending you much love and compassion in your parenting journey. Marion and Lael xoxo

Episode 90: Healing from big events Mar 10, 2022

In this episode, we talk about what happens when we as adults or our children experience big events, and how we can cooperate with and trust our natural and inbuilt healing processes that come into play afterwards. Marion shares about her recent experiences during the floods in her community, and Lael offers suggestions about how we can help ourselves and our children during times like these. We are both sending you so much love if you’re going through big events right now, when there is so much going on in the world. Please come over to our Facebook page, or find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at www.marionrose.net and Lael at www.laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, would you be willing to subscribe to the podcast so we can show up in your podcast feed?   We’re sending you much love and compassion in your parenting journey. Marion and Lael xoxo

Episode 89: There's nothing wrong with you Feb 24, 2022

Ahh, we loved this episode! We talked about how this culture creates beliefs in people that there is something wrong with us and how we can support ourselves to change those beliefs and stories. We also offered ideas for what we can do as parents so that our children are less likely to believe that there is something wrong with them. There is nothing wrong with you! Please come over to our Facebook page, or find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at www.marionrose.net and Lael at www.laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, would you be willing to subscribe to the podcast so we can show up in your podcast feed?   We’re sending you much love and compassion in your parenting journey. Marion and Lael xoxo

Episode 88: Changing the systems Feb 13, 2022

In this conversation, we talk about why and how Aware Parenting can help change the systems that we live within. We focus on Aware Parenting and the education system. Lael explains this in the context of her school, and Marion shares about Natural Learning. Most of all, we offer a big picture lens which explains why practicing Aware Parenting can be so hard within this culture. Please come over to our Facebook page, or find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at www.marionrose.net and Lael at www.laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, would you be willing to subscribe to the podcast so we can show up in your podcast feed?   We’re sending you much love and compassion in your parenting journey. Marion and Lael xoxo

Episode 87: Sleep Q and A Dec 14, 2021

In this episode, we talk about sleep from an Aware Parenting perspective, which is the third way with sleep, where we can have secure attachment AND restful sleep! We answered questions on: the three things needed for sound sleep, co-sleeping, children moving to their own bed, closeness before bed, talking lots before bed, thumb sucking to sleep, waking up after one sleep cycle, waking up lots in the night, and lots more! Marion has a course called Sound Sleep and Secure Attachment with Aware Parenting at: http://www.soundasleep.me/invitation/ Please come over to our Facebook page, or find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at www.marionrose.net and Lael at www.laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, would you be willing to subscribe to the podcast so we can show up in your podcast feed?   We’re sending you much love and compassion in your parenting journey. Marion and Lael xoxo

Episode 86: Partners Q and A Nov 27, 2021

In this episode, we respond to listeners’ questions about their relationships with partners and exes around Aware Parenting. We offer a wider cultural perspective as well as a psychological context about why this can be so hard, and we offer both lots of compassion as well as practical suggestions. Please come over to our Facebook page, or find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at www.marionrose.net and Lael at www.laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, would you be willing to subscribe to the podcast so we can show up in your podcast feed?   We’re sending you much love and compassion in your parenting journey. Marion and Lael xoxo

Episode 85: Tantrums Q and A Nov 18, 2021

Episode 85: Tantrums Q and A by Marion Rose, PhD.

Episode 84: Siblings Q & A Nov 11, 2021

In this episode, we talk about siblings from an Aware Parenting perspective. We offer ways to prepare a child for a new sibling, how to support the relationships between siblings, and the cause of sibling aggression. We offer ways to help siblings be naturally gentle with each other without ever asking them to "be gentle!". We also share why having our own feelings listened to is so vital if were are to be able to help our children when there is conflict. We also discuss how we can support children to repair when they've hurt their sibling. Please come over to our Facebook page, or find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at www.marionrose.net and Lael at www.laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, would you be willing to subscribe to the podcast so we can show up in your podcast feed?   We’re sending you much love and compassion in your parenting journey. Marion and Lael xoxo

Episode 83: Food and feelings part two Oct 27, 2021

Food and Feelings Part 2 In this episode, we talk about food and feelings for kids. We explain how babies and children learn to interpret when they are hungry and when they are upset, and how it’s never too late to help them reconnect with their natural wisdom around food. We share our own experiences with our teenagers when they were babies and children. We talk about the power of attachment play to help children when they are eating to suppress feelings, and how we can offer loving limits when a child is using food as a control pattern. Most of all, we invite you to have lots of self-compassion as you listen to this podcast! Relevant offerings: Cooperative and Connected by Aletha Solter Lael’s couples course Marion’s Attachment Play Course and Aware Parenting Babies Course Please come over to our Facebook page, or find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at www.marionrose.net and Lael at www.laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, would you be willing to subscribe to the podcast so we can show up in your podcast feed?   We’re sending you much love and compassion in your parenting journey. Marion and Lael xoxo

Episode 82: Food and feelings part 1 Oct 20, 2021

In this episode, we talk about the relationships between food and feelings for adults. We discuss how food can be both a source of nourishment and a control pattern (way to suppress feelings) and how compassion for ourselves when we're eating for suppression makes such a difference. We share about the power of presence and pleasure with food, as well as receiving. We also include the importance of listening to how our past affects our present relationship with food, including our ancestral lineages. Part two will be about the relationship between food and feelings for children. Please come over to our Facebook page, or find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at www.marionrose.net and Lael at www.laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, would you be willing to subscribe to the podcast so we can show up in your podcast feed?   We’re sending you much love and compassion in your parenting journey. Marion and Lael xoxo

Episode 81: Blame and shame Oct 08, 2021

Please come over to our Facebook page, or find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at www.marionrose.net and Lael at www.laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, would you be like to subscribe to the podcast so we can show up in your podcast feed?   We’re sending you much love and compassion in your parenting journey. Marion and Lael xoxo

Episode 80: Big feelings Sep 30, 2021

In this episode, we talk about the causes of children's big feelings, ways we can respond helpfully and responses that aren't so helpful for children. We include the balance of attention and why it is central to Aware Parenting. We share why children expressing big feelings can be different to adults expressing big feelings, and why our own inner work is vital if we are to be able to welcome our children's tears and tantrums. Books: Tears and Tantrums by Aletha Solter Relevant offerings: Lael's Intro to Aware Parenting Aware Parenting Immersion Marion's Free Intro to Aware Parenting Making Friends with Children's Feelings Course Please come over to our Facebook page, or find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at www.marionrose.net and Lael at www.laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, would you be like to subscribe to the podcast so we can show up in your podcast feed?   We’re sending you much love and compassion in your parenting journey. Marion and Lael xoxo

Episode 79: 'Sex Education' Sep 23, 2021

In this episode, we talk about series three of Sex Education on Netflix. Please note, there are spoilers! We discuss how many of the characters express what they want and don't want, and about Adam, Michael and Ruby's evolution away from their childhood hurts and conditioning. We talk about the shame scene and how shame is used for power-over. We share our disappointment in how Jean's pregnancy and birth were portrayed. And Lael shares lots of important information about teaching children and teens about sex. Lael has several courses relevant to this: How to Talk to your Kids about Sex Webinar https://laelstone.com.au/courses/how-to-talk-to-your-kids-about-sex/ Aware Parenting for Tweens and Teens Webinar https://laelstone.com.au/courses/aware-parenting-for-tweens-and-teens/ Marion's offerings on power and powerlessness are relevant here: Powerlessness, Power-over and power-with in Parenting Masterclass: https://marionrose.samcart.com/products/powerlessness-power-over-and-power-with-in-parenting-masterclass/ Power and Powerlessness in Parenting Course http://www.powerandpowerlessnessinparenting.com/invitation/ Resources discussed in the Podcast : https://sexedrescue.com/ https://amaze.org/ https://www.scarleteen.com/ https://www.culturereframed.org/ https://forfoxessake.com.au/ Please come over to our Facebook page, or find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at www.marionrose.net and Lael at www.laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, would you be like to subscribe to the podcast so we can show up in your podcast feed?   We’re sending you much love and compassion in your parenting journey. Marion and Lael xoxo

Episode 78: Parenting for a new paradigm Sep 16, 2021

In this episode, we talk about how Aware Parenting isn't about supporting children to fit into this paradigm, but supporting them to change the paradigm. We share how Aware Parenting supports children to stay deeply connected with themselves and to be able to meet differences with compassion. We talk about the importance of our vision for our children and for the future world, and how our parenting helps them to be able to meet an uncertain future with creativity and openness. Lael’s Aware Parenting Immersion: https://laelstone.com.au/courses/aware-parenting-immersion-level-1/ Marion's relevant courses: Powerlessness, Power-over and Power-with in Parenting Masterclass: https://marionrose.samcart.com/products/powerlessness-power-over-and-power-with-in-parenting-masterclass/ Power and Powerlessness in Parenting: http://www.powerandpowerlessnessinparenting.com/invitation/ Reclaiming your power in the domination culture and True Power will both be at www.marionrose.net Please come over to our Facebook page, or find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at www.marionrose.net and Lael at www.laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, would you be like to subscribe to the podcast so we can show up in your podcast feed?   We’re sending you much love and compassion in your parenting journey. Marion and Lael xoxo

Episode 77: Harsh self-talk Sep 07, 2021

In our most recent episode on harsh self-talk, we discuss the disconnected domination culture and how it is based upon shame, guilt and self-judgment. We explain how children come to have harsh self-talk, and what we can do as parents to respond in helpful ways. We share the two ways that children can learn harsh self-talk from us, and what our children are inviting us to do when they are judging themselves. We also share about our own journeys from harsh to compassionate inner dialogue. You can find out more about Lael’s couple’s course here: https://laelstone.com.au/courses/aware-parenting-for-couples/ You can find out about Marion's Inner Loving Presence Process course here: http://www.innerlovingpresenceprocess.com/ Please come over to our Facebook page, or find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at www.marionrose.net and Lael at www.laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, would you be like to subscribe to the podcast so we can show up in your podcast feed?   We’re sending you much love and compassion in your parenting journey. Marion and Lael xoxo

Episode 76: Extended Family Aug 30, 2021

In this episode, we talk all about extended family, focussing mostly on grandparents. We share lots of different ideas about how to navigate the journey of parenting in ways that are different from our parents. This includes caring for the younger parts of ourselves, being advocates for our children, and differentiating our children's experience with our parents from what we experienced growing up in our family of origin. You can find out more about Lael’s couple’s course here: https://laelstone.com.au/courses/aware-parenting-for-couples/ You can find out about Marion's Inner Loving Presence Process course here: http://www.innerlovingpresenceprocess.com/ Please come over to our Facebook page, or find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at www.marionrose.net and Lael at www.laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, would you be like to subscribe to the podcast so we can show up in your podcast feed?   We’re sending you much love and compassion in your parenting journey. Marion and Lael xoxo

Episode 75: Powerlessness Aug 23, 2021

In this episode, we talk all about powerlessness, such an apt topic for these times! We discuss the sources of powerlessness in the wider culture and in mothering itself, as well as specific ways to heal old powerlessness feelings and feel more truly powerful in the present. We share about how we can tell when the feelings of powerlessness that we are feeling are from the past, and how we can support ourselves to actually feel more truly powerful in the present. Marion's relevant courses: Powerlessness, Power-over and Power-with in Parenting Masterclass: https://marionrose.samcart.com/products/powerlessness-power-over-and-power-with-in-parenting-masterclass/ Power and Powerlessness in Parenting: http://www.powerandpowerlessnessinparenting.com/invitation/ Transformation Through Mothering: https://marionrose.samcart.com/products/transformation-through-mothering-twenty-twenty-one/ The Wonder of Willingness: https://www.thewonderofwillingness.com/ You can find out more about Lael’s couple’s course here: https://laelstone.com.au/courses/aware-parenting-for-couples/ Please come over to our Facebook page, or find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at www.marionrose.net and Lael at www.laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, would you be like to subscribe to the podcast so we can show up in your podcast feed?   We’re sending you much love and compassion in your parenting journey. Marion and Lael xoxo

Episode 74: Birth trauma Aug 01, 2021

In this episode, there are two sections. In the first part, we talk to Sally Prinn and Sean Dixon, who share their experience of the birth trauma that they and their son Cedar experienced. They talk about how they helped their son heal from the birth trauma with Aware Parenting, and their own parallel journey. And they share about the song and video Sean created to bring awareness to birth trauma and the impact that a traumatic birth can have on an entire family's life. You can watch the video of the song Birth Trauma: A Father's Journey on YouTube here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MnvHqmOSP1c You can find Sean's website here: www.sankalpamusic.com. and on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/sankalpa_music/ and Sally here: https://www.instagram.com/sallyprinn/ In the second part of the episode, Lael and Marion talk about other specific ways both parents and babies (or children) can heal from birth trauma. If you’d like to learn more, Marion has some courses: Babies Have Real Feelings free ebook and audio: http://www.awareparentingbabies.com/babies-have-real-feelings/ Aware Parenting Babies Q and A Vault: http://www.awareparentingbabies.com/q-and-a-vault-invitation/ Aware Parenting Babies Course (with Helena Mooney): http://www.awareparentingbabies.com/ Please come over to our Facebook page, or find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at www.marionrose.net and Lael at www.laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, would you be like to subscribe to the podcast so we can show up in your podcast feed?   We’re sending you much love and compassion in your parenting journey. Marion and Lael xoxo

Episode 73: Teens and limits Jul 21, 2021

In this episode of The Aware Parenting Podcast, we discuss setting limits with teens and how we can create opportunities for healing and growth. We explored our reactions and responses and what teens might be needing when they are upset. We looked at the different reasons teens may be looking for limits and how looking behind the behaviour can be helpful. We also discussed the power of connection to elicit co-operation and how using punishments can create more unwanted behaviour. As always, we delved into our own internal stories and what could be helpful when meeting big feelings in our teenagers and what we may have wanted from the adults in our life when we were younger. It's available on all the usual podcast channels. Relevant offerings: Lael's Aware Parenting for Tweens and Teens Workshop: https://laelstone.com.au/workshops/aware-parenting-for-tweens-and-teens/ Aware Parenting Immersion (Level 2): https://laelstone.com.au/courses/aware-parenting-immersion-level-2/ Please come over to our Facebook page, or find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at www.marionrose.net and Lael at www.laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, would you be like to subscribe to the podcast so we can show up in your podcast feed?   We’re sending you much love and compassion in your parenting journey. Marion and Lael xoxo

Episode 72: Healing trauma through play Jul 14, 2021

In this episode, we talk about how attachment play can help children heal from trauma as well as daily stresses. We include ways that play can help healing from: Birth trauma; Separations; Fears and phobias; Dentist and doctor experiences. We also share about how play can help prevent trauma from happening in the first place. Relevant offerings: Lael’s Aware Parenting Immersion: https://laelstone.com.au/courses/aware-parenting-immersion-level-1/ Marion's Attachment Play Course: http://www.attachmentplaycourses.com/join-in Aletha Solter's book Attachment Play: www.awareparenting.com Please come over to our Facebook page, or find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at www.marionrose.net and Lael at www.laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, would you be like to subscribe to the podcast so we can show up in your podcast feed?   We’re sending you much love and compassion in your parenting journey. Marion and Lael xoxo

Episode 71: 'Bullying' Jul 05, 2021

Our latest podcast is on 'bullying'. We talk about: The cause of these behaviours. How we can respond most helpfully both to the child who is being harsh, as well as to the child on the receiving end. Why we value looking at the cultural and systemic bigger picture. What this can bring up in parents. How parents can navigate this with their children. Policies that Lael's school have put into place to respond to these behaviours. Relevant offerings: Lael’s Aware Parenting Immersion: https://laelstone.com.au/courses/aware-parenting-immersion-level-1/ Marion's Attachment Play Course: http://www.attachmentplaycourses.com/join-in Aletha Solter's book Cooperative and Connected: http://www.awareparenting.com/cooperative.html Please come over to our Facebook page, or find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at www.marionrose.net and Lael at www.laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, would you be like to subscribe to the podcast so we can show up in your podcast feed?   We’re sending you much love and compassion in your parenting journey. Marion and Lael xoxo

Episode 70: The Wisdom of Trauma Talk Series part 2 Jun 24, 2021

In this episode, we talk about: How trauma can show up in the body and how we can listen to it; Listening to symptoms; The relationship between supported crying and illness; Stanislav Grof’s work on the impact of birth on babies; How babies can show their birth experience to us and how we can listen; How trauma gets released from the body; The power of attachment play to help children heal from birth experiences; The importance of the therapeutic relationship; How children internalise presence with their feelings; The normalisation of trauma healing and feelings and how Sia showed that. Relevant offerings: Marion’s online workshop on helping children heal from stress and trauma with Aware Parenting: https://marionrose.samcart.com/products/helping-children-heal-from-stress-and-trauma-with-aware-parenting/ Marion's Aware Parenting Babies Q and A Vault http://www.awareparentingbabies.com/q-and-a-vault-invitation/ Aware Parenting with Babies Course with Marion Rose, Ph.D. and Helena Mooney: Lael’s Aware Parenting for Couples Program: https://laelstone.com.au/courses/aware-parenting-for-couples/ Lael’s Aware Parenting Immersion: https://laelstone.com.au/courses/aware-parenting-immersion-level-1/ Please come over to our Facebook page, or find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at www.marionrose.net and Lael at www.laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, would you be like to subscribe to the podcast so we can show up in your podcast feed?   We’re sending you much love and compassion in your parenting journey. Marion and Lael xoxo

Episode 69: The Wisdom of Trauma Talk Series Jun 20, 2021

In this most recent episode, we talk about The Wisdom of Trauma Talk Series that followed The Wisdom of Trauma Documentary with Dr. Gabor Maté. We discussed: How a quote by Gabor about peace in the world relates exactly to the causes of a child hitting, biting or being harsh to others; How Thomas Hūbl's discussion on individual, collective and intergenerational trauma helps us be more compassionate with ourselves as parents; How the conversation with V and Esther Perel can inform parents about the impact of their relationship together on their children; How Aware Parenting deeply values the wisdom of the body and feelings and how that relates to the work of Peter Levine and Stephen Porges; The antidote to suppression and dissociation in ourselves and our children. We are going to record a part 3 in this Wisdom of Trauma series! Please come over to our Facebook page, or find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at www.marionrose.net and Lael at www.laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, would you be like to subscribe to the podcast so we can show up in your podcast feed?   We’re sending you much love and compassion in your parenting journey. Marion and Lael xoxo

Episode 68: The Wisdom of Trauma Jun 13, 2021

In the latest episode of The Aware Parenting Podcast, we discuss Dr. Gabor Maté’s documentary, The Wisdom of Trauma. You can find out more about the documentary here: https://thewisdomoftrauma.com/ We discussed: How Aware Parenting is in alignment with the documentary; Painful experiences and trauma as a spectrum; What Aware Parenting can add to the conversation; How babies and children come to suppress their feelings; What we’re called to do as parents to heal intergenerational trauma; Tangible ways that we can help babies and children heal from daily stresses and trauma. Relevant offerings: Lael’s Aware Parenting for Couples Program: https://laelstone.com.au/courses/aware-parenting-for-couples/ Lael’s Aware Parenting Immersion: https://laelstone.com.au/courses/aware-parenting-immersion-level-1/ Marion’s online workshop on helping children heal from stress and trauma with Aware Parenting: https://marionrose.samcart.com/products/helping-children-heal-from-stress-and-trauma-with-aware-parenting/ Marion has two 1-1 places available and her Aware Parenting Instructor Immersion is opening soon. Message her on FB or IG for more details. Please come over to our Facebook page, or find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at www.marionrose.net and Lael at www.laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, would you be like to subscribe to the podcast so we can show up in your podcast feed?   We’re sending you much love and compassion in your parenting journey. Marion and Lael xoxo

Episode 67: Q & A 3 Jun 05, 2021

In this Q and A, we talked about: Helping children with feelings when they’re not yet able to do something; Supporting boys in a competitive world; Understanding children’s play with toy weapons; What we can do when with other parents who want an immediate apology; Supporting children around sharing; How Aware Parenting differs from other parenting styles; What the term ‘holding space’ means; and Balancing reducing overwhelm for babies with meeting our own needs. Please come over to our Facebook page, or find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at www.marionrose.net and Lael at www.laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, would you be like to subscribe to the podcast so we can show up in your podcast feed?   We’re sending you much love and compassion in your parenting journey. Marion and Lael xoxo

Episode 66: Hitting and biting part 2 May 31, 2021

Our first hitting and biting podcast was cut short at the end, so we decided to come back and create this one! In it, we talk about: Why and how Aware Parenting is so different to behaviourism; How our core beliefs about human beings affects our response to hitting; The cause of hitting and biting; How we can offer Loving Limits in response to hitting; How we can move in with attachment play in response to hitting; How we can prevent hitting from happening in the first place; Our own invitation to do our own inner work so we’re more likely to be able to respond in these ways; The importance of self-compassion. For more: Aletha Solter - Tears and Tantrums, Cooperative and Connected Lael’s Course - https://laelstone.com.au/courses/aware-parenting-for-couples/ Marion’s Courses - Aggression and Aware Parenting video | audio | PDF https://marionrose.samcart.com/products/aggression-and-aware-parenting/ Making Friends with Children’s Feelings http://www.makingfriendswithchildrensfeelings.com/course/ Power and Powerlessness in Parenting http://www.powerandpowerlessnessinparenting.com/invitation/ Please come over to our Facebook page, or find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at www.marionrose.net and Lael at www.laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, would you be like to subscribe to the podcast so we can show up in your podcast feed?   We’re sending you much love and compassion in your parenting journey. Marion and Lael xoxo

Episode 65: Staying Calm May 08, 2021

In this episode, we talked about the three key ways we can support ourselves to be able to stay calm as parents more of the time. We hope you find it helpful! You can find out more about Lael’s couple’s course here: https://laelstone.com.au/courses/aware-parenting-for-couples/ You can find out about Marion’s Helping Ourselves Respond Helpfully to Our Child’s Behaviour offering here: https://marionrose.samcart.com/products/helping-ourselves-respond-helpfully-to-our-childs-behaviour-with-aware-parenting/ and Making Friends with Children’s Feelings Course here: http://www.makingfriendswithchildrensfeelings.com/course/ Please come over to our Facebook page, or find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at www.marionrose.net and Lael at www.laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, would you be like to subscribe to the podcast so we can show up in your podcast feed?   We’re sending you much love and compassion in your parenting journey. Marion and Lael xoxo

Episode 64: Motherpower Apr 01, 2021

Wow! This was a powerful episode, all about mother power. We talk about why we believe it is time on a planetary level for mothers to relaxin our power. We share our own stories of reconnecting with our power. We explain why having deep compassion for our experiences of powerlessness is so vital. We invite you to connect with your power in service of your love for your child/ren and what you want for them. We support you in connecting with your yeses and noes. And we share power portals ~ ways to connect with your power. Please come over to our Facebook page, or find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at www.marionrose.net and Lael at www.laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, would you be like to subscribe to the podcast so we can show up in your podcast feed?   We’re sending you much love and compassion in your parenting journey. Marion and Lael xoxo

Episode 63: Our teenage selves Mar 20, 2021

In this episode, we talk about the teenage parts of us, when they can show up (eg. with our teenagers, friends and colleagues), and how we can listen lovingly to them in ways that support healing to happen. If you'd like to dive deeper into this work, Marion has an Inner Loving Presence Process Course at: http://www.innerlovingpresenceprocess.com/ And if you've already done Lael's Level One Immersion, she has a Level Two Immersion to explore your own teenage years here: https://laelstone.com.au/courses/aware-parenting-immersion-level-2/ Please come over to our Facebook page, or find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at www.marionrose.net and Lael at www.laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, would you be like to subscribe to the podcast so we can show up in your podcast feed?   We’re sending you much love and compassion in your parenting journey. Marion and Lael xoxo

Episode 62: Feeling loved Mar 15, 2021

In this moving episode, we talk about the ways that we can help our children actually experience being loved. We explore the gap that can happen between knowing that we love our children and them having a felt sense of being loved. We invite lots of compassion and share ways we can repair through offering loving and listening experiences - and remind you that it is never too late to do any of these things! Please come over to our Facebook page, or find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at www.marionrose.net and Lael at www.laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, would you be like to subscribe to the podcast so we can show up in your podcast feed?   We’re sending you much love and compassion in your parenting journey. Marion and Lael xoxo

Episode 61: Trusting our children and ourselves Mar 05, 2021

In this episode, we talked about cultural conditioning which has often led to parents not trusting their children, and how we can free ourselves up from that to redevelop our capacity for trust. We discussed trusting our children around: Their needs; Their food choices; Their capacity to heal from stress and trauma; Their knowing how to feel relaxed before sleep; Their intuition; Their individuation and Their learning. We also included experiences of how we’ve learnt to trust our children and ourselves. We hope you love it! We trust you! Please come over to our Facebook page, or find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at www.marionrose.net and Lael at www.laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, would you be like to subscribe to the podcast so we can show up in your podcast feed?   We’re sending you much love and compassion in your parenting journey. Marion and Lael xoxo

Episode 60: Tantrums, part 2 Jan 24, 2021

In this episode, part 2 on tantrums, we talk about: What causes tantrums; Why we might have big reactions when our child has a tantrum; The cause of tantrums; How the healthy expression of feelings, such as in tantrums, helps a child; The difference between tantrums and aggression; How we might respond most helpfully when our child has a tantrum; What we need to be able to respond helpfully. If you’re wanting to dive in deeper, Lael is running another live round of her Aware Parenting Immersion: https://laelstone.com.au/courses/aware-parenting-immersion-level-1/ And Marion has a few courses on this, eg: https://marionrose.samcart.com/products/tears-and-tantrums-children-expressing-big-feelings/ http://www.makingfriendswithchildrensfeelings.com/course/ We also recommend Tears and Tantrums by Aletha Solter. Please come over to our Facebook page, or find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at www.marionrose.net and Lael at www.laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, would you be like to subscribe to the podcast so we can show up in your podcast feed?   We’re sending you much love and compassion in your parenting journey. Marion and Lael xoxo

Episode 59: Babies, part 2 Jan 15, 2021

In this episode, we return to talking about babies (Episode 3 was on attachment and tears!) Lael shares about how she helped her daughter heal from birth trauma with Aware Parenting, and the tangible signs in her baby’s behaviour that showed her that the trauma was being released. Marion talks about her academic and psychotherapeutic background before becoming a mother, and how Aware Parenting resonated with all that she’d learnt. Lael talks about the clear differences she saw between her two older children and her youngest child, related to Aware Parenting. Marion shares about how she realised that her daughter had feelings to express, and how she knew that her daughter’s expressing her feelings in her arms was helpful. We talk lots about the huge leap that Aware Parenting with a baby is, the importance of self-compassion and going slowly. We also talk about how Aware Parenting is the third way with sleep, and the three things that babies and children need for sound sleep. We talk about the spectrum of practicing Aware Parenting, and what happens to the feelings that we aren’t able to listen to in our babies. If you’d like to learn more, Marion has some courses: Babies Have Real Feelings free ebook and audio: http://www.awareparentingbabies.com/babies-have-real-feelings/ Aware Parenting Babies Q and A Vault: http://www.awareparentingbabies.com/q-and-a-vault-invitation/ Aware Parenting Babies Course (with Helena Mooney): http://www.awareparentingbabies.com/ Lael is running another live round of her Aware Parenting Immersion: https://laelstone.com.au/courses/aware-parenting-immersion-level-1/ Please come over to our Facebook page, or find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at www.marionrose.net and Lael at www.laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, would you be like to subscribe to the podcast so we can show up in your podcast feed?   We’re sending you much love and compassion in your parenting journey. Marion and Lael xoxo

Episode 58: Q & A 2 Dec 18, 2020

In this podcast, we responded to questions about: apologies; punishments and rewards; 'strong will'; supporting our children when we’re going through a hard time; differentiating a control pattern from lowering sensory overload; finding our child’s behaviour challenging; making a decision about school or homeschooling; balancing time with friends and time at home. Please come over to our Facebook page, or find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at www.marionrose.net and Lael at www.laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, would you be like to subscribe to the podcast so we can show up in your podcast feed?   We’re sending you much love and compassion in your parenting journey. Marion and Lael xoxo

Episode 57: Archetypes Dec 08, 2020

In this podcast, Lael talks with her mother, Barbara Stone, about archetypes. After our last podcast on The Crown and Aware Parenting, we talked about archetypes and we had lots of requests from you, our listeners, to hear from Lael’s mum. At the beginning of the conversation, Barbara shares about being a grandmother and what she has learnt in her journey as a grandparent and what she has learnt from Aware Parenting. In this beautiful mother-daughter, grandmother-mother conversation, Lael and Barbara talk about parenting, healing, archetypes and lots more. You can find out more about Barbara's work at: https://www.archetypechartreadings.com/ Please come over to our Facebook page, or find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at www.marionrose.net and Lael at www.laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, would you be like to subscribe to the podcast so we can show up in your podcast feed?   We’re sending you much love and compassion in your parenting journey. Marion and Lael xoxo

Episode 56: Aware Parenting and The Crown Nov 20, 2020

his episode, we look at Netflix's new Season of The Crown from an Aware Parenting perspective. We discuss attachment, feelings and suppression, family stories, colonisation, archetypes, and a whole lot more! Please come over to our Facebook page, or find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at www.marionrose.net and Lael at www.laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, would you be like to subscribe to the podcast so we can show up in your podcast feed?   We’re sending you much love and compassion in your parenting journey. Marion and Lael xoxo

Episode 55: Disappointment Oct 28, 2020

In this episode, we talk about disappointment - including how it is often seen as a ‘lesser’ feeling, differentiating the feeling from the judgment, and offering helpful ways we can be with our own disappointment and that of our child/ren. We share about our own experiences of disappointment and how we came to embrace it in ourselves and our children, and discovered the gifts that it brings. You can find out about Lael's Aware Parenting for couples course here: https://laelstone.com.au/ You can find out about Marion's Inner Loving Presence Process course here: http://www.innerlovingpresenceprocess.com/ Please come over to our Facebook page, or find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at www.marionrose.net and Lael at www.laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, would you be like to subscribe to the podcast so we can show up in your podcast feed?   We’re sending you much love and compassion in your parenting journey. Marion and Lael xoxo

Episode 54: Q & A 1 Oct 11, 2020

In our most recent podcast, we answered three questions from listeners. One on resentment. One on children not wanting to spend time with certain family members, and one when children only want to be cared for by one parent. We really loved answering these and will be recording more Q and A’s, so let us know on our IG or FB pages if you have a question! You can find out about Lael's upcoming Aware Parenting for Couples course on her website, www.laelstone.com.au You can find out more about Marion's Attachment Play Course here: http://www.attachmentplaycourses.com/join-in Please come over to our Facebook page, or find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at www.marionrose.net and Lael at www.laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, would you be like to subscribe to the podcast so we can show up in your podcast feed?   We’re sending you much love and compassion in your parenting journey. Marion and Lael xoxo

Episode 53: Transitions through Parenting Sep 25, 2020

In this episode, we talk about the transitions we are invited to go through in parenting, as we reflect back on our own parenting journeys so far. Please come over to our Facebook page, or find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at www.marionrose.net and Lael at www.laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, would you be like to subscribe to the podcast so we can show up in your podcast feed?   We’re sending you much love and compassion in your parenting journey. Marion and Lael xoxo

Episode 52: Loss and death Sep 18, 2020

Episode 52: Loss and death by Marion Rose, PhD.

Episode 51: Boundaries Sep 08, 2020

In today’s episode we talk about boundaries, or what Marion calls “saying no.” We explain the innate capacity we all have to know when we feel a ‘yes’ and when we feel a ’no,’ and how growing up in a colonised culture disconnects us from easily knowing and expressing our “no’s.” We share about how experiences of having love removed when we said “no”, or being shamed or punished, lead us to feel uncomfortable with clearly speaking our “no” as adults. Lael talks about inviting parents to reflect on their imprints from what happened in their families growing up, and how that is impacting them now. Lael also shares reasons why parents can be reluctant to say, “no” to their children, which can include knowing that saying “no” will help children connect with either disappointment about not getting their needs met, or bigger feelings that were causing unenjoyable behaviour in the first place. We both talk about how reconnecting with and befriending our childhood experiences of powerlessness and outrage is an important stage of the journey. Marion talks about the difference between when we simply don’t want to do something and when we want to stop something unenjoyable from happening, either with a child or an adult. In the first scenario, we might simply say “no” to our child or another adult when we don’t want to do something. In the second scenario, we can set a Loving Limit with a child who is hitting, biting or throwing - (saying “no” to the behaviour and “yes” to the feelings that are causing the behaviour), and we can express a Neo No to an adult. As we were talking, we both get really passionate about how important it is for mothers to reclaim our capacity to say a Neo No within the domination system, particularly in birth and parenting. We LOVED recording this and wonder if you love it too! Lael's upcoming offerings: Aware Parenting Course for Couples - coming October laelstone.com.au/online-courses/ 8 Week Aware Parenting Immersion starts 12th October laelstone.com.au/courses/aware-parenting-immersion-level-1/ Marion's relevant offerings: Making Friends with Children's Feelings Course (includes Loving Limits): www.makingfriendswithchildrensfeelings.com/course Powerlessness, power-over and power-with in parenting Masterclass: https://marionrose.samcart.com/products/powerlessness-power-over-and-power-with-in-parenting-masterclass/ Power and Powerlessness in Parenting Course: http://www.powerandpowerlessnessinparenting.com/invitation/ The Wonder of Willingness: https://www.thewonderofwillingness.com/course/ Psychospiritual Parenting Online Workshop: https://marionrose.samcart.com/products/psychospiritual-parenting-online-workshop/ Please come over to our Facebook page, or find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at www.marionrose.net and Lael at www.laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, would you be like to subscribe to the podcast so we can show up in your podcast feed?   We’re sending you much love and compassion in your parenting journey. Marion and Lael xoxo

Episode 50: Anxiety Sep 03, 2020

In this podcast, we talk about understanding the three causes for fear and anxiety, and how we can address each of those causes, whether that’s for our child or ourselves. We share stories about our own experiences with fear, anxiety and terror, and how we’ve helped ourselves and our children through experiences where fear and anxiety have showed up. Understanding fear and anxiety, and changing our relationship to it, can transform our experience with it. Likewise, knowing how we can help our children, both preventatively, in the moment and afterwards, can help us feel more relaxed and centred, which is exactly how we need to be to support our children when they’re feeling anxious. Lael's upcoming offerings: Aware Parenting Course for Couples - coming October https://laelstone.com.au/online-courses/ 8 Week Aware Parenting Immersion starts 12th October https://laelstone.com.au/courses/aware-parenting-immersion-level-1/ Marion's relevant courses: Attachment Play Course: http://www.attachmentplaycourses.com/join-in Making Friends with Children's Feelings Course: http://www.makingfriendswithchildrensfeelings.com/course Please come over to our Facebook page, or find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at www.marionrose.net and Lael at www.laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, would you be like to subscribe to the podcast so we can show up in your podcast feed?   We’re sending you much love and compassion in your parenting journey. Marion and Lael xoxo

Episode 49: Fathers (part two) Aug 13, 2020

In this episode, Marion has a conversation with the father of her children, Michael, about fathering and Aware Parenting. Michael talks about his experiences before becoming a father, of being involved in ritual work with the MythoPoetic men’s movement with Malidome Some, and how that supported him in practising Aware Parenting with his four children. Michael also talks about martial arts and fathering and Aware Parenting and their interconnectedness. Most of all, he shares his thoughts on the importance of dads being in communities with other dads. Please come over to our Facebook page, or find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at www.marionrose.net and Lael at www.laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, would you be like to subscribe to the podcast so we can show up in your podcast feed?   We’re sending you much love and compassion in your parenting journey. Marion and Lael xoxo

Episode 48: Fathers (part one) Aug 09, 2020

In this episode, Lael talks with her husband, Mike, about fathering and Aware Parenting. Please come over to our Facebook page, or find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at www.marionrose.net and Lael at www.laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, would you be like to subscribe to the podcast so we can show up in your podcast feed?   We’re sending you much love and compassion in your parenting journey. Marion and Lael xoxo

Episode 47: Aggression Jul 28, 2020

In this episode, we explain why aggression happens, and how we can respond to that root cause in ways that are both effective and empathic. We differentiate between expression, regression and aggression, and we talk about how we can support our children to move from aggression to healthy expression. We discuss how important it is for us to do our own inner work so that we have the capacity to be with our child’s feelings of powerlessness, frustration and outrage. We describe Loving Limits in detail and explain why the language we use in Loving Limits is so important. We hope you enjoy listening to this as much as we enjoyed recording it for you! Recommended reading: Aletha Solter - Tears and Tantrums Aletha Solter - Cooperative and Connected Offerings from us: Marion Why is My Child? Series: https://marionrose.samcart.com/products/why-is-my-child-series/ Powerlessness, Power-over and Power-with in Parenting Masterclass https://marionrose.samcart.com/products/powerlessness-power-over-and-power-with-in-parenting-masterclass/ Making Friends with Children’s Feelings Course http://www.makingfriendswithchildrensfeelings.com/course/ Lael Aware Parenting Immersion: To explore the deeper imprints from our childhoods and how they turn up in our parenting. Aware Parenting for Couples: Coming Soon! You can find all the details at www.laelstone.com.au Please come over to our Facebook page, or find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at www.marionrose.net and Lael at www.laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, would you be like to subscribe to the podcast so we can show up in your podcast feed?   We’re sending you much love and compassion in your parenting journey. Marion and Lael xoxo

Episode 46: Parenting is activism Jul 20, 2020

In this episode, we discuss why parenting can be one of the greatest forms of activism. If we realise the power we have as parents and how that can help us reconnect with a sense of agency. Your parenting makes a difference. Your parenting is social change. You are co-creating a new cultural paradigm. We talk about politicians and the little children inside them, and what a huge difference your parenting is making as you choose to come from connection and compassion, instead of powerlessness and pain. This week’s invitation: 1. What have you done differently with your child, that wasn't done or held for you? 2. What do you want your activism in life to look like, especially in your family? Resources Robin Grille - Parenting for a Peaceful World. As always, you can head over to the Aware Parenting Podcast Facebook group and join in the discussion, or you’ll find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at marionrose.net and Lael at laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, make sure you subscribe to the podcast so we can pop into your podcast feed.   Sending you much love, compassion and grace in your parenting journey. x Lael and Marion

Episode 45: Teenage edges May 29, 2020

In this week's episode we talk all about raising teenagers and the edges they may explore as well the edges we may need to feel into in raising them. We look at how our own imprints in our teenage years can affect how we parent and what teenagers are asking for as they grow. [2.20] How raising teens can ask us to look deeply into our own stories [5.25] The cultural lens around teenagers [8:50] Teenagers finding their purpose [10.42] What are your fears around raising teens? [13.35] What did you need as a teen and can you give that to your children? [17.04] Raising children who have tools to navigate life [20.00] Having difficult conversations around sex and drugs [22.00] Are we placing expectations on our children? [26.40] Trusting teenagers' autonomy and timing [29.40] How do you want you teenager to feel about you and your support? [31.10] Taking a pause when we don’t know how to navigate things [33.00] Our base guide for raising teens This week’s invitation: 1. Do you have a charged phrase around your teen and would you like to listen into where that comes from? 2. What did you need when you were a teen and can you bring that to yourself and your teen? Resources Lael’s course : https://laelstone.com.au/courses/aware-parenting-for-tweens-and-teens/ 8 week Immersion : https://laelstone.com.au/courses/aware-parenting-online-immersion/ As always, you can head over to the Aware Parenting Podcast Facebook group and join in the discussion, or you’ll find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at marionrose.net and Lael at laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, make sure you subscribe to the podcast so we can pop into your podcast feed.   Sending you much love, compassion and grace in your parenting journey. x Lael and Marion

Episode 44: Mothering Unveiled May 15, 2020

In this week's episode we talk all about mothering, the imprints we receive, and the influence society has on us. We explore guilt in parenting and how we can reclaim who we really are as women and mothers. [2.20] Our subconscious stories around being appreciated as a mother [3.55] The impact of history on modern day mothering [7:00] Our beliefs around being a ‘good mother’ [10.40] Changing the cultural ideas around behaviourism and cooercion [14.15] What do we want our children to believe about themselves? [18.44] Working through the imprints of parenting and parenting with awareness [24.10] Unpacking guilt and our belief around feeling guilty [29.20] Feeling into our true power as mothers [35.00] Being curious about the stories we tell ourselves [36.40] The belief that guilt will make us change [39.40] Listening compassionately to the painful feelings creates change [47.19] Joy and flow, grief and mourning This week’s invitation: 1. If you were free from guilt, what are you scared of happening? 2. What would it feel like to feel a sense of empowerment in your core as a mother? Resources Marion's courses and trainings: Get Free From Guilt For Good: https://marionrose.samcart.com/products/get-free-from-guilt-for-good/ Helping Mothers Develop True Self-Love: https://marionrose.samcart.com/products/helping-mothers-develop-true-self-love/ Love Being a Mother ebook and meditations: http://www.lovebeingamother.net/ebook/ Transformation Through Mothering: new live round coming soon on: http://www.marionrose.net/which-course-is-for-you/ Lael’s course : https://laelstone.com.au/online-courses/ As always, you can head over to the Aware Parenting Podcast Facebook group and join in the discussion, or you’ll find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at marionrose.net and Lael at laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, make sure you subscribe to the podcast so we can pop into your podcast feed.   Sending you much love, compassion and grace in your parenting journey. x Lael and Marion

Episode 43: Resilience May 06, 2020

In this week's episode we talk all about resilience. We explore how the essence of Aware Parenting is deeply linked with resilience. We talk about how we can help our children become resilient beings, and how we can navigate our past experiences to build resilience within ourselves. [1.42] The definition of resilience [3.15] Our inbuilt mechanism to be resilient [7:00] The old perception of resilience [10.15] Our own imprints around resilience [13.30] Protecting children from hurt [18.04] How we create stories based on our childhood experiences [21.40] The impact of judgement on resilience [25.20] Embracing trust and painful feelings [31.15] Identifying our inner child and repressed feelings [34.03] The empowerment in overcoming challenges [37.05] Trusting timing in our children This week’s invitation: 1. Can you feel in your body the strength and flow (ie. be the Sunflower)? 2. Is there a story in your past where you didn’t feel heard and it created shame or embarrassment and you need support to gain resilience? Resources Aletha Solter's books - Co-operative and Connected and Tears and Tantrums The Resilience Project - https://theresilienceproject.com.au/ As always, you can head over to the Aware Parenting Podcast Facebook group and join in the discussion, or you’ll find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at marionrose.net and Lael at laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, make sure you subscribe to the podcast so we can pop into your podcast feed.   Sending you much love, compassion and grace in your parenting journey. x Lael and Marion

Episode 42: Home School Apr 28, 2020

In this week's episode we talk all about learning at home, particularly in the current world climate. This is a special episode, which has 2 parts. In part 1, Marion and Lael discuss the history of education and the bigger picture of learning, and in part 2, Lael chats with Tony Vallance, a seasoned teacher and father who shares many insights into how we can make the most of this connected learning time. [3.07] Modern schooling and the Industrial revolution [6:00] An opportunity to question what we learn and how we learn [8.43] Trusting our children’s learning [12.30] Is our curriculum relevant and does it support our children? [17.04] The impact of learning that doesn’t engage us [23.19] Valuing EQ as much as IQ and creative learning [19.00] The true nature of human beings [26.55] What have your learned about your child by witnessing them learning? [29.10] Supporting teachers and the joy of learning [31.15] Prioritising connection above learning [33.45] Exploring many pathways to success [36.15] Introducing Tony Vallance and his insights into teaching [38.30] Trying to stay present and accept what is [41.40] The wisdom of being curious [43.50] Connection and voice and choice [47.05] How we can get the best from our kids [50.10] Why boredom is so important [52.15] You don’t have to be the teacher [54.40] Tips to navigate all getting our needs met [1.00.20] Modeling mistakes [1.02.20] What is resilience with life and learning? [1.05.40] Get tactile in your learning Resources Peter Gray - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-OMYesA1nQo Sir Ken Robinson - https://www.ted.com/speakers/sir_ken_robinson The Element by Sir Ken Robinson - https://www.amazon.com.au/Element-Finding-Passion-Changes-Everything/dp/0143116738 You can find Tony Vallance at: https://buildingbetterbrains.com.au/ and: https://open.spotify.com/show/5IdHn06GRKgzQ23g3GdCMj?si=93vtizUJSw-qcNdmpoT9oQ As always, you can head over to the Aware Parenting Podcast Facebook group and join in the discussion, or you’ll find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at marionrose.net and Lael at laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, make sure you subscribe to the podcast so we can pop into your podcast feed.   Sending you much love, compassion and grace in your parenting journey. x Lael and Marion

Episode 41: Nature and Nurture Apr 14, 2020

In this week's episode we talk all about nature and nurture. We explore the imprints we receive in our childhoods and how we can shift and change what we have been shown, as well as the labels we use for ourselves and others. [2.10] Our tendency to label our children and who they really are [3:00] There is no such thing as perfectly happy humans [6.11] Labelling our children or seeing them as complete [9.00] Looking deeper into why our children are the way they are [13.00] Seeing unexpressed behaviour instead of labels [17.00] Our children reminding us of our past and family members [19.00] The true nature of human beings [24.15] Family lineage and carrying on hurts [27.30] Acknowledging the courage to change the past [33.00] Being the change for our children [35.40] Historical events and core beliefs around our nature [40.50] Doing our work to support our children This week’s invitation: 1. What do you believe your child's true nature is? 2. Do you label your children in any way? Do you also label and limit yourself in any way? As always, you can head over to the Aware Parenting Podcast Facebook group and join in the discussion, or you’ll find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at marionrose.net and Lael at laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, make sure you subscribe to the podcast so we can pop into your podcast feed.   Sending you much love, compassion and grace in your parenting journey. x Lael and Marion

Episode 40: Screens Apr 02, 2020

In this week's episode we talk all about screens and how we use them in our families. We explore our own unique relationship with technology and our feelings towards our children and screens. [2.00] Compassion for our relationship towards technology [4:17] How screens can meet our needs [6.01] Repression mechanisms [8.05] Screens can facilitate connection [12.25] The magic of technology [14.03] What we model to our children [16.35] Boundaries, limits and listening to feelings [18.45] Connection as a bridge to transitions [21.25]What stories do we tell ourselves about screens [23.15] Open conversations with our children about screens [30.00] Meeting children needs whilst using technology [32.50] Teaching boredom [34.35] Attachment play to assist with technology [37.40 ] Connection is the antidote to repression [38.35] Holding boundaries and listening to feelings [39.45] Age appropriate movies and information [44.45] Using screens to help us as parents [47.15] Using technology consciously This week’s invitation: 1. What do you make screens mean in your life and with your kids? 2. Can you enquire into guilt around screens and can you use them consciously? Resources https://www.commonsensemedia.org/reviews Marion's Kids, Screens and Aware Parenting Course: http://www.kidsscreensandawareparenting.com/invitation/ As always, you can head over to the Aware Parenting Podcast Facebook group and join in the discussion, or you’ll find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at marionrose.net and Lael at laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, make sure you subscribe to the podcast so we can pop into your podcast feed.   Sending you much love, compassion and grace in your parenting journey. x Lael and Marion

Episode 39: "I'm Scared!" Mar 23, 2020

In this week's episode we talk all about fear, and being scared in our current reality. We explore the roots of our fears, and offer ideas for how we can support ourselves and our children. [1.50] Feeling into our own fears [2:50] Fear has an adaptive value [9.00] Understanding our fight, flight, freeze, fawn response [10.05] Breathing techniques for fear [13.00] Welcoming our fear [15.03] Modelling to our children [17.38] Being authentic in our current reality [19.45] Transgenerational fear and trauma [24.10] Fear responding to our needs, the past or our thoughts [28.15] What do we know to be true right now [31.00] Seeing the joy and making choices [34.50] The potential for love through change [36.20] Reaching out for support [39.10 ] Releasing rage and anger that can shift fear [42.20] Tools to help shift fear This week’s invitation: 1. Keep checking in with each other and be mindful of the energy you are bringing to this experience. 2. The more we can release from the past, the more we can stay present now. Resources The Opposite of Worry - https://www.bookdepository.com/Opposite-Worry-Lawrence-J-Cohen/9781452665290 Trauma Release Exercise - https://traumaprevention.com/what-is-tre/ Some joy and laughter (the Pluto dog video we talked about) - https://www.facebook.com/nanciewight/videos/10158289063493653/ Choosing loving energy - https://www.facebook.com/1604597862905560/posts/3016531095045556/?d=n Empathy Buddies / Listening Partnerships - https://www.facebook.com/groups/2562318203992646/ Sessions with Lael - learn@laelstone.com.au Marion's courses - https://www.marionrose.net/which-course-is-for-you/ Marion's 1-1 packages - http://www.marionrose.net/packages/ As always, you can head over to the Aware Parenting Podcast Facebook group and join in the discussion, or you’ll find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at marionrose.net and Lael at laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, make sure you subscribe to the podcast so we can pop into your podcast feed.   Sending you much love, compassion and grace in your parenting journey. x Lael and Marion

Episode 38: "I'm Angry!" Mar 18, 2020

In this week's episode we talk all about anger, outrage, aggression and their causes and manifestations. We explore healthy ways to navigate these, both as a parent and within ourselves. [1.20] Differentiating between anger, outrage, and frustration [4:15] The repression of anger and frustration [7.07] Cultural imprints around anger for girls and boys [10.34] How anger can support us [13.40] Staying connected to our power [15.15] Helping children stay connected to their intuition [20.00] Releasing healthy anger [21.45] Holding space for our children's anger [24.20] Doing our own work around anger [29.00] Compassion for ourselves around how we respond to anger [31.00] Feeling, thinking and needing [36.35] Parallels between children and parents [40.00] Meeting children's anger with presence and compassion [44.10 ] The movement and flow of feelings [46.32] What can we do when we have moved into anger [50.20] Setting loving limits for ourselves This week’s invitation: 1. How do you feel right now? Do you need to connect in with yourself or someone else? 2. Can you recall your imprint around anger as a child? Do you know anyone who expresses their anger in a healthy way? Resources: Powerlessness, power-over and power-with in parenting Masterclass: https://marionrose.samcart.com/products/powerlessness-power-over-and-power-with-in-parenting-masterclass/ Power and Powerlessness in Parenting Course: http://www.powerandpowerlessnessinparenting.com/invitation/ As always, you can head over to the Aware Parenting Podcast Facebook group and join in the discussion, or you’ll find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at marionrose.net and Lael at laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, make sure you subscribe to the podcast so we can pop into your podcast feed.   Sending you much love, compassion and grace in your parenting journey. x Lael and Marion

Episode 37: Learning and Growing Mar 08, 2020

In this week's episode we talk all about Learning and Growing. We discuss how we might often ask our kids to take risks and try new things; and yet we might be reluctant as adults to step out of our comfort zone. We explore ways to move through our fears and how we can also assist our children in trying new things. [2.39] Our fears as adults and working with our own trauma [6:53] Our expectations about children [10.40] Creating space to listen to fears [14.00] Modelling to our children around fears and taking risks [21.00] Overcoming our fears with love and support [23.15] Choice and love rather than coercion and judgment [28.00] Our children can be our teachers around taking risks [30.45] Finding ways to work with willingness [33.40] Trusting children’s timing and individuality [37.00] Our own inner child's response to not having a choice when we were younger [41.00] Celebrating the process of learning This week’s invitation: 1. Is there something that you always loved to do and you have given it up? Would you like to play with it again? 2. What scares or excites you that you can take a risk on and model to your children? 3. What would you like to hold in mind whenever you notice your child is doing something new? Resources Marshall Rosenberg - https://www.cnvc.org/ As always, you can head over to the Aware Parenting Podcast Facebook group and join in the discussion, or you’ll find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at marionrose.net and Lael at laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, make sure you subscribe to the podcast so we can pop into your podcast feed.   Sending you much love, compassion and grace in your parenting journey. x Lael and Marion

Episode 36: Partners and Exes Feb 19, 2020

In this week's episode we talk all about partners and ex-partners, and how we navigate parenting when we have different belief systems around parenting. We also explore helping our children if there has been a divorce or separation. [2.30] Our ideals around parenting [6:35] Empathy for our partners and how they respond [9.40] Shifting our paradigm of right and wrong [12.40] Leaning into our own reactions about our partners or family members [15.50] Practical ideas around showing a different perspective [23.35] Our comfort zones in parenting [27.00] Tools to help navigate separation [31.45] Resilience in children [35.50] Trusting children’s healing and timing [39.25] Holding a vision of what you want it to look like This week’s invitation: 1. Please give yourself a big hug and acknowledge the work you are doing. 2. See if you can feel compassion for others and knowing that everyone is doing the best job they know-how with the story they have journeyed. As always, you can head over to the Aware Parenting Podcast Facebook group and join in the discussion, or you’ll find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at marionrose.net and Lael at laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, make sure you subscribe to the podcast so we can pop into your podcast feed.   Sending you much love, compassion and grace in your parenting journey. x Lael and Marion

Episode 35: "I'm exhausted!" Feb 12, 2020

In this week's episode we talk about feeling exhausted as a parent, and how connected it is with the current paradigm of parenting and our lack of community and support. We explore our belief systems around asking for help, receiving support and how to parent when we don’t seem to have any energy left. [2.05] It is not a flaw to feel exhausted [4:15] Our colonised society and its impact on parenting [7.20] Loss of identity as a woman [9.45] Support from family and friends and the tribe [15.40] Our stories around taking a break and receiving support [21.35] Resentment and not getting our needs met [24.00] Our needs are our responsibility [26.15] Our imprints on self-care and boundaries [29.00] Honouring our yes and no and being authentic [33.25] Compassion for ourselves and connecting with our values [35.20] Recognising what we need and giving it to ourselves [38.10] Creating a dynamic of exchange [41.00] Compassion for ourselves and our behaviours [45.40] Keeping it simple as self-care [52.20] Our ability to receive and staying open to support [57.00] Checking your willingness [60.00] Rite of passage into wisdom This week’s invitation: 1. If you are feeling exhausted, imagine your child as a parent and you as the grandparent; what would you say to support them and encourage them if they were expressing that they were exhausted? 2. What are your stories around exhaustion and asking for support and what does it mean to have self care. What was your imprint? 3. Can you take some time to do something fun for you to lift your energy? Resources: Love Being a Mother ebook and meditations: http://www.lovebeingamother.net/ebook/ As always, you can head over to the Aware Parenting Podcast Facebook group and join in the discussion, or you’ll find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at marionrose.net and Lael at laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, make sure you subscribe to the podcast so we can pop into your podcast feed.   Sending you much love, compassion and grace in your parenting journey. x Lael and Marion

Episode 34: School and Rules Feb 05, 2020

In this week's episode we talk about School and Rules and how to support our children, no matter what style of education they experience. We discuss helping them navigate schooling systems based on punishments and rewards and how we can support them to stay connected to who they really are. [2.10] Decolonisation and our education system [5:40] Navigating our current school system [9.00] A new vision for education [12.05] Supporting our children to not internalise the behaviour of others [13.30] Getting clear on our deep desire for schooling with our kids [19.00] Separations and rules in organisations [22.00] Prioritising children's emotional wellbeing [26.15] The bigger picture of schooling and socialisation [30.00] Helping children unpack their day and release feelings [34.10] Seeing the growth and learning in all choices we make [36.40] Different styles of learning [41.10] Slow shifts that are happening in our education system [45.00] Progressive education and what we need to learn [47.40] Practical tools to help children process kindergarten and school [54.30] Supporting ourselves and our children to follow their passions [57.00] Advocating for our children This week’s invitation: 1. Do you have a ‘Yes’ for reflecting on your own schooling experiences? What did you really enjoy? What did you not enjoy? How can you listen to those younger parts of you? Does it support you to do anything different with your children? 2. Trusting your child’s journey and trusting yourself and your ability to help them navigate it. Resources: www.woodlineprimary.com.au Alfie Kohn - https://www.alfiekohn.org/books/ The Compassionate Classroom - https://www.amazon.com/Compassionate-Classroom-Relationship-Teaching-Learning/dp/1892005069 Peter Gray - https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/experts/peter-gray-phd John Taylor Gatto - https://www.amazon.com/Dumbing-Down-Curriculum-Compulsory-Anniversary/dp/0865714487 Marshall Rosenberg - https://www.amazon.com.au/Non-Violent-Communication-Language-Marshall-Rosenberg/dp/1892005034 Marshall Rosenberg - Life-Enriching Education Marshall Rosenberg - Teaching Children Compassionately As always, you can head over to the Aware Parenting Podcast Facebook group and join in the discussion, or you’ll find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at marionrose.net and Lael at laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, make sure you subscribe to the podcast so we can pop into your podcast feed.   Sending you much love, compassion and grace in your parenting journey. x Lael and Marion

Episode 33: Lying and Swearing Jan 29, 2020

In this week's episode we talk about Lying and Swearing and the reasons why children may exhibit these behaviours. We look at ways to respond to our children with awareness and compassion and explore our reactions to these behaviours. [2.11] Cultural conditioning around Lying and Swearing [5:18] The reasons for Lying or not telling the truth [7.50] Tweens and Teens and their need for autonomy [11.20] Checking our responses first around lying [13.03] Setting a foundation when our kids are young [19.00] How we respond sets up a dynamic around behaviour [20.30] Our own stories around lying and how we were responded to [23.22] How do you feel in response to swearing? [26.00] The needs that are being met with swearing [30.20] Games we can use when our child swears [35.40] The power of words This week’s invitation: 1. Would you like to play with swearing and see how it feels for you as an adult? 2. Would you like to tune into how you feel around lying, and your experiences as a child and as an adult with this? Resources: Lawrence Cohen - https://www.playfulparenting.com/ Aletha Solter - Attachment Play Book As always, you can head over to the Aware Parenting Podcast Facebook group and join in the discussion, or you’ll find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at marionrose.net and Lael at laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, make sure you subscribe to the podcast so we can pop into your podcast feed.   Sending you much love, compassion and grace in your parenting journey. x Lael and Marion

Episode 32: Discipline and Consequences Jan 19, 2020

In this week's episode we talk about Discipline and Consequences and how we can raise our children without resorting to bribes, rewards, and punishments. We explore how connection can create co-operation and offer many respectful ways to respond to and navigate unenjoyable behaviour. [3.00] Understanding behaviour [5:25] In balance and out of balance and looking behind the behaviour [8.26] Understanding where discipline originated from [11.15] 3 reasons for behaviour: Thinking, Needing, Feeling [13.03] The mirror within us [14.35] All behaviour has a reason [18.25] Changing the paradigm in our culture around behaviour [21.25] Teenagers, discipline and lying [23.35] The problems with rewards [24.50] Natural consequences and artificial consequences [28.13] How do we all get our needs met? [31.00] How we can elicit co-operation [33.15] How do we support teenagers to want to co-operate [37.45 ] How coercion and powerlessness leads to less willingness [40.11] What do we do if they are doing something we don’t want them to do? [44.45] The power of Loving Limits [48.00] Our fears about what our children may become [51.10] How connection with ourselves assists our child's behaviour [54.11] The impact of repressing our true selves This week’s invitation: 1. Being mindful of the messages we give our children with our responses. 2. Other ways to respond to your children when they are acting out Resources: Alfie Kohn - Punished by Rewards. Unconditional Parenting Aletha Solter - Co-operative and Connected - Marion's courses - https://www.marionrose.net/which-course-is-for-you/ Lael’s one on one sessions - learn@laelstone.com.au As always, you can head over to the Aware Parenting Podcast Facebook group and join in the discussion, or you’ll find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at marionrose.net and Lael at laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, make sure you subscribe to the podcast so we can pop into your podcast feed.   Sending you much love, compassion and grace in your parenting journey. x Lael and Marion

Episode 31: Disasters And Healing Jan 13, 2020

In this week's episode we talk about how to navigate disasters and traumas. With the bushfires currently happening in Australia, we discuss managing our emotional states as well as how to assist our children when tragedy and fear are present. [2.15] Our own personal experiences of living with bushfires [6:05] The benefits of stress hormones [10.00] Gratitude for healing [12.20] Seeing the contrast of what we don’t want [13.30] Using the balance of attention to express feelings [19.00] Disassociation and surviving trauma [23.00] Supporting children to process fear and traumatic events [26.10] Using play to process feelings and events [33.45] Unfavourable behaviour is a sign of accumulated feelings [35.00] Taking care of our nervous system as an adult [37.40] Repression mechanisms as a way to cope [40.30] Supporting children to take action [43.45] Being discerning in what we discuss with children This week’s invitation: 1. Connecting with your Inner loving crew to support you through this time. 2. Be curious about your children and if they need extra support and moving into kindness for yourself. Resources: Beyond Blue for emotional support - beyondblue.org.au/getsupport Tears and Tantrums Book - Aletha Solter Peter Levine and Gina Ross - http://www.ginaross.com/images/emotional_first_aid_brief_guide.pdf? As always, you can head over to the Aware Parenting Podcast Facebook group and join in the discussion, or you’ll find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at marionrose.net and Lael at laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, make sure you subscribe to the podcast so we can pop into your podcast feed.   Sending you much love, compassion and grace in your parenting journey. x Lael and Marion

Episode 30: Festive Challenges Dec 16, 2019

In this week's episode we talk about the upcoming holiday season and the feelings that can arise at this time of the year. We include the pressure we can feel as parents and how we can navigating different beliefs and values in families. [2.10] Our own personal imprints around Christmas [4:30] Expectations and disappointments [6.10] Boundaries and consent at Christmas [7.50] Good boys and naughty girls - punishments and rewards [10.30] Keeping magic and fantasy alive [15.00] What do you want to experience and what do you want your child to experience? [16.00] Navigating needs not being met - checking in with ourselves [19.40] Overwhelming feelings for children [23.00] Setting boundaries and limits for ourselves [24.00] Old and new traditions [28.40] Compassion for other family members [31.50] As a parent, how do we get our needs met at Christmas? [35.45] Build up of energy at this time of year [37.20] Brining in gratitude and reflection for the end of the year. This week’s invitation: 1. Deep compassion for ourselves for this festive season and checking in around what messages are we giving to our children. 2. Tuning into our values at this time of the year. Resources: Marion's courses - http://www.marionrose.net/which-course-is-for-you/ Hand in Hand Parenting on navigating holidays - https://www.handinhandparenting.org/ Aha Parenting - https://www.ahaparenting.com/ As always, you can head over to the Aware Parenting Podcast Facebook group and join in the discussion, or you’ll find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at marionrose.net and Lael at laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, make sure you subscribe to the podcast so we can pop into your podcast feed.   Sending you much love, compassion and grace in your parenting journey. x Lael and Marion

Episode 29: Siblings Nov 27, 2019

Siblings In this week's episode we talk about siblings. We look at ways to prepare your older child before bringing a new baby home, and how to navigate fighting and meeting everyone's needs with older children. We also explore our own responses to siblings fighting. [1.20] Understanding the bigger picture around siblings [4:00] Preparing for a new baby in the family [6.50] Preparation beforehand can make the transition easier. [11.00] Signs of feelings in the older child [12.20] Games to play to help children process a new sibling [15.05] Grief around the change of the relationship [18.00] Age gaps in families [24.50] Fighting amongst older children [28.00] Strategies for helping older kids with sibling rivalry [33.38] Sharing us, sharing attention, sharing toys [35.00] Setting limits with fighting [37.10] Looking at our deeper hurts and reactions around fighting [40.45] Navigating fighting with calm and listening. [43.45] Apologies and repairing [45.00] How conflict can create growth [54.00] Our desire for harmony in our family [55.33] Enjoy the ways connection can happen This week’s invitation: 1. Be curious as to what your child is expressing when they are fighting with their sibling. 2. Put yourself in your child's shoes as to what you would like to receive if you are upset or fighting. Resources: Aletha Solter's Books - Tears and Tantrums, Co-operative and Connected Larry Cohen - Playful Parenting As always, you can head over to the Aware Parenting Podcast Facebook group and join in the discussion, or you’ll find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at marionrose.net and Lael at laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, make sure you subscribe to the podcast so we can pop into your podcast feed.   Sending you much love, compassion and grace in your parenting journey. x Lael and Marion

Episode 28: Food and Control Nov 17, 2019

Food and Control In this week's episode we talk about food and control and how children can use food as a way to repress feelings as well as gain some control in their lives. [1.30] Why food issues can be about control [2:45] Why feelings around food can be confusing [5.30] Food as love [8.05] Trusting our bodies and what we want to eat [11.00] Confusing hunger and feelings [13.45] Compassion for our stories around food [19.00] Bringing awareness to food [21.35] Powerlessness in life and gaining control [23.00] Overeating, boundaries and survival [25.50] Listening to the quality of asking for food [29.35] Attachment Play with Food [33.40] How our digestive system is related to feelings and emotions [37.50] Trust and food and giving power to our children [40.51] Being present in our bodies [45.45] Enjoying food and family [49.00] Compassion for ourselves with our relationship with food. [53.30] Eating with pleasure and love This week’s invitation: 1. Be curious as to your relationship with food 2. Bringing joy, laughter, and love to eating and family time Resources: Marion's courses - http://www.marionrose.net/which-course-is-for-you/ Aletha Solter's Books - Tears and Tantrums, The Aware Baby, Co-operative and Connected As always, you can head over to the Aware Parenting Podcast Facebook group and join in the discussion, or you’ll find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at marionrose.net and Lael at laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, make sure you subscribe to the podcast so we can pop into your podcast feed.   Sending you much love, compassion and grace in your parenting journey. x Lael and Marion

Episode 27: Trauma and Parenting Nov 06, 2019

Trauma and Parenting In this week's episode we talk about parenting when we are carrying our own trauma and how we can navigate raising our children. [1.50] Trauma doesn’t have to be a big event, it can be many unmet feelings [4:25] The invitation to explore feelings and trauma [6.45] What trauma can look like in parenting [9.50] Sadness and trauma and thinking clearly [12.55] Mindfulness and present awareness to identify our own story [16.05] Owning our feelings to our children and ourselves [18.45] Compassion instead of judgment [22.00] Treating our own inner child harshly [23.50] Tools to help ourselves heal from trauma [28.00] Trauma manifesting as fear [32.00] Healing looks different for everyone [34.00] What we are thinking, needing and feeling [37.50] Repairing with our children when there is disconnection [39.00] Generational trauma and what we pass on [42.45] As we express, we allow growth [45.00] Noticing our words and what activates us [48.15] Looking forward to what is possible This week’s invitation: 1. Be curious as to where trauma turns up for you in parenting. What would it look like to lean into further? 2. What is happening for you and your child that reflects trauma and do you want to explore what it reminds you of? Resources: Alice Miller - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Alice_Miller_(psychologist) Marion's courses - http://www.marionrose.net/which-course-is-for-you/ Peter Levine - https://traumahealing.org/about-us/ Somatic Experiencing - http://www.seaustralia.com.au/what-is-somatic-experiencing/ As always, you can head over to the Aware Parenting Podcast Facebook group and join in the discussion, or you’ll find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at marionrose.net and Lael at laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, make sure you subscribe to the podcast so we can pop into your podcast feed.   Sending you much love, compassion, and grace in your parenting journey. x Lael and Marion

Episode 26: Trauma and Children Oct 27, 2019

Trauma and Children In this week's episode we talk about helping our children navigate and heal from Trauma. [2.11] We all have degrees of trauma or hurt feelings being human. [3:25] Birth and Trauma and what we perceive. [5.56] The spectrum of feelings and our ability to heal. [8.00] Babies in Utero absorbing feelings and how they can heal. [13.00] Co-regulation and healing with children. [15.30] Being with our own feelings to hold others. [20.00] Our reactions when our own trauma or feelings arise [23.00] Monitoring our babies feelings [26.00] Bodywork and extra support for babies and children [28.30] Resources to work with trauma in the body [32.00] Traumas will often show up when a similar situation arises [37.50] Creating a space for our children to move trauma [41.00] Letting the body shake and do what it needs [43.00] Dental Trauma [47.00] Bringing attention to an incident in the moment [48.00] Trusting timing with trauma and safety [51.40] Feeling resourced to listen and healing is always possible [53.06] Our mechanisms to cope when we can’t release Trauma This week’s invitation: 1. Bring some compassion to yourself, hand on your head or heart and take a breathe and check in. 2. What happened for you when there was a trauma, what did you need that you didn’t get and has that repeated in your life. Resources: Aletha Solter - The Aware Baby Aletha Solter - Tears and Tantrums Marions courses - http://www.marionrose.net/which-course-is-for-you/ In Utero Film https://www.inuterofilm.com/ The body keeps the score - Bessel Van der Kolk https://www.audible.com.au/pd/The-Body-Keeps-the-Score-Audiobook/0141992646? Polyvagal theory - https://www.stephenporges.com/ Peter Levine - https://traumahealing.org/about-us/ As always, you can head over to the Aware Parenting Podcast Facebook group and join in the discussion, or you’ll find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at marionrose.net and Lael at laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, make sure you subscribe to the podcast so we can pop into your podcast feed.   Sending you much love, compassion and grace in your parenting journey. x Lael and Marion

Episode 25: "Go Away" Oct 16, 2019

"Go Away" - what we can do when your child yells at you or tells you to leave. In this week's episode we talk about what we can do when our child yells at us or tells us to leave. How can we handle these situations with respect and connection? [1.20] Navigating boundaries and limits and helping with feelings [2:15] What did it feel like for you? [4.50] Why children yell, "go away" and resist feelings [8.25] The power of teaching our children to experience feelings and let them go [10.45] The crying dance [14.00] Loving limits when children are upset [17.00] Balance of Attention and how to create safety [21.00] Honouring space and quiet when your child asks [24.20] The development of feelings [29.30] "I hate you" and aggressive words [32.50] Boundaries and Consent without touching This week’s invitation: 1. What words and actions would you have loved from your parents when you were upset or told them to "go away"? 2. Observe what it feels like for you as the parent when they say, "Go away" and be curious as to what happens when you lean in closer. Resources: Aletha Solter - Cooperative and Connected and Tears and Tantrums Marion's courses - http://www.marionrose.net/which-course-is-for-you/ As always, you can head over to the Aware Parenting Podcast Facebook group and join in the discussion, or you’ll find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at marionrose.net and Lael at laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, make sure you subscribe to the podcast so we can pop into your podcast feed.   Sending you much love, compassion and grace in your parenting journey. x Lael and Marion

Episode 24: Behaviour and Feelings Oct 07, 2019

In this week's episode, we talk about Behaviour and Feelings and the three different reasons that draw people to Aware Parenting. One of those three reasons is due to behaviour. Aware Parenting looks at what a child's behaviour is telling us. When we respond with compassion, listening and understanding, we can observe very clear differences in their behaviour. [1.45] What drew us to Aware Parenting [8:45] The third reason families are drawn to Aware Parenting [11.30] How helping our children allows healing with ourselves [16.50] How doing our own work can shift a child’s behaviour [19.30] Shifting your lineage and imprints on parenting [23.00] Fundamental shifts in culture and upbringings [25.00] Challenging our core beliefs through behaviour [26.20] The inner work and the outer work [28.50] There is no perfect parent or child [30.10] Conscious children processing adversity [34.45] Repairing relationships as adults and with our children [37.00] External behaviour is a reflection of the Internal state [40.30] How listening to feelings helps on all levels [43.20] Cooperation comes from connection [47.30] Moving from challenges to ease [51.10.] Meeting our own needs This week’s invitation: 1. Connect in with the 3 things we offered (long term emotional wellbeing, trauma or behaviour) - which has drawn you to Aware Parenting? 2. Be curious around behaviour and feelings. What do you think is going on? Resources: Aletha Solter's Books - Cooperative and Connected and Tears and Tantrums As always, you can head over to the Aware Parenting Podcast Facebook group and join in the discussion, or you’ll find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at marionrose.net and Lael at laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, make sure you subscribe to the podcast so we can pop into your podcast feed.   Sending you much love, compassion and grace in your parenting journey. x Lael and Marion

Episode 23: Fear and trust Sep 25, 2019

In this week's episode, we talk about Fear and Trust. We discuss how we relate to the world and the impact of that on our children. We invite you to explore whether we choose trust and love or whether default to negativity and fear. [1.20] Why trust is the theme of parenting [5:15] How fear can drive parenting and its imprint on children [7.50] Our own imprints around the world and safety [9.00] Marion's experience of terror and fear [10.25] How we can heal from imprints of negativity or pain [13.00] Practical fears and how they can help us grow [17.00] Trusting trauma and healing [22.55] Healing and Aware Parenting. [24.30] Trusting the world and the lens we look through. [29.00] Everything is an Opportunity [31.40] 3 different mechanisms of healing [34.05] Listening to the body [37.00] What would trust look like? [38.10] External and Internal experiences [41.45] Doing the work for our children [43.00] How fear can become our greatest gifts [49.20 ] Best tips for having these conversations with your children. This week’s invitation: 1. What would you like to hear when Fear turns up for you? 2. Be curious around what messages you are giving to your child. What are the Imprints? Resources: Aletha Solter - Attachment Play Book Marions course - http://www.marionrose.net/online-courses/attachment-play-course/ Larry Cohen - The opposite of Worry (book) Eric Erikson - https://www.simplypsychology.org/Erik-Erikson.html As always, you can head over to the Aware Parenting Podcast Facebook group and join in the discussion, or you’ll find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at marionrose.net and Lael at laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, make sure you subscribe to the podcast so we can pop into your podcast feed.   Sending you much love, compassion and grace in your parenting journey. x Lael and Marion

Episode 22: Kids and Sexuality Sep 11, 2019

In this week's episode, we talk about Children and Sexuality. We share about how to create healthy imprints in our children and discuss age-appropriate conversations to have with our children to set up a positive relationship with sex and sexuality. [2.40] Why this topic is important to talk about. [5:15] Aware Parenting and respect for bodily autonomy and intimacy. [6.05] Our own imprints around sexuality. [8.27] Conscious touch . [10.25] What did your Sex Education consist of and the impact on you? [12.45] How do we change the paradigm around pleasure? [17.35] Children discovering their bodies. [19.55] Being mindful to not create shame around sexuality. [22.45] Loving limits, safety and boundaries around sexuality. [30.55] Respect in the Aware Parenting paradigm. [31.15] Teachable moments and how we can have conversations around sex with children. [35.15] Repression Mechanisms in Sexuality. [38.00] Opening up discussions around the variations in Sexuality. [39.20] Reading cues with your child around repression mechanisms and tools to assist them. [44.45] Educating our children to be discerning around sexual content and images. [47.00] Helping ourselves by laughing and diffusing our nervousness. [49.20 ] Helpful tips for having these conversations with your children. This week’s invitation: 1. Tune into the imprints you had around sexuality. 2. Would you like to use humour or laughter to release any discomfort you have around this topic? Resources: Lael's Webinar on Talking to your Kids about Sex - https://laelstone.webinarninja.com/live-webinars/36173/register Lael's Webinar on Tweens and Teens and Sex ed - https://laelstone.webinarninja.com/live-webinars/87098/register Sex Ed Rescue - https://sexedrescue.com/ Hush Sex Education - https://husheducation.com.au/ Culture Reframed (info around navigating pornography with children) - https://www.culturereframed.org/ Amaze (great resource for kids and parents) - https://amaze.org/ As always, you can head over to the Aware Parenting Podcast Facebook group and join in the discussion, or you’ll find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at marionrose.net and Lael at laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, make sure you subscribe to the podcast so we can pop into your podcast feed.   Sending you much love, compassion, and grace in your parenting journey. x Lael and Marion

Episode 21: Raising Men Sep 03, 2019

In this week's episode we talk about Raising Men; including the importance of raising boys with emotional awareness and sensitivity, and the difference that can make to families and the planet. [1.30] Why addressing this now is so important for our future. [3:00] Lloyd DeMause and Robin Grille and their perspectives on raising children. [5.15] What is aggression? [6.45] How do we channel strength and aggression in young men? [11.24] The difference between outrage and frustration and anger. [15.50] How do we model for young boys the qualities we want to see? [20.00] The fears parents can have around not using punishments. [23.15] Does harshness make us more loving? [25.15] The need for male role models within sex ed and relationships. [29.30] Supporting our children even when families look different with the masculine and feminine. [35.00] Modelling healthy relationships. [39.15] Helping our children heal when there is aggression. [43.05] Holding the space for teens and big feelings and our inner masculine. [47.08] Models of healthy expression of anger and feelings. [50.50] Rites of passage for boys and men. This week’s invitation: 1. Tune into what was your imprint around the masculine? What is your inner loving father like? 2. How do you feel about male energy and aggression and when they cry? Can you be with all those feelings in a male? Resources: Dan Siegel - Book - Brainstorm Robin Grille - Book - Parenting for a peaceful world Aletha Solter - Book - Tears and Tantrums Aletha Solter - Book - Cooperative and Connected Marions Masterclass on Power As always, you can head over to the Aware Parenting Podcast Facebook group and join in the discussion, or you’ll find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at marionrose.net and Lael at laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, make sure you subscribe to the podcast so we can pop into your podcast feed.   Sending you much love, compassion and grace in your parenting journey. x Lael and Marion

Episode 20: Highly Sensitive Aug 25, 2019

In this week's episode we talk about Highly Sensitive People and Aware Parenting. What if your child is Highly Sensitive? How can you support them in their sensitivity? [2:30] Understanding and discovering the term Highly Sensitive Person [4:20] The messages around being Highly Sensitive and how it was viewed as being something wrong [6.50] The 4 general aspects of being Highly Sensitive [9.48] The gifts of being Highly Sensitive [14.10] Aware Parenting and being Highly Sensitive [17.20] Trusting our children [20.54] Meeting the needs of a sensitive child [23.00] Learning to say No when sensitive [26.00] Some phrases you can use when others are questioning your child [30.30] Supporting our children in social situations [34.00] Being a Highly Sensitive parent [37.00] Taking care of ourselves [39.49] Practical solutions for our children and ourselves [46.30] Resources and what we may need to hear This week’s invitation: 1. What stories go on for you about yourself or your child being Highly Sensitive? 2. What are the key phrases that you would love to hear? Resources: Highly Sensitive Movie - https://hsperson.com/film/ Elain Aron books - https://hsperson.com/books/ As always, you can head over to the Aware Parenting Podcast Facebook group and join in the discussion, or you’ll find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast Sending you much love, compassion and grace in your parenting journey. Lael and Marion You can find Marion at marionrose.net and Lael at laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, make sure you subscribe to the podcast so we can pop into your podcast feed every two weeks.

Episode 19: The Future Aug 14, 2019

In this week's episode we talk about what Aware Parenting can look like in the future years. If you raise your kids with Aware Parenting, what may they be like as teens? Show Notes : [1:50] The doubts around raising our kids with Aware Parenting [3:15] The difference with kids who may have been raised with punishments and rewards [6:08] What are your experiences of kids who do have punishments [7.55] Being able to express feelings and emotions with safety [10.15] Owning our place as a parent and what we bring to our children [12.18] Our children as mirrors and teachers [13.10] How sibling rivalry feels [16.42] Listening to teens voices [18.15] Looking for deeper connections [21.15] Internal dialogues [24.55] What Indi feels teenagers crave [28.29] Keeping it real - hard bits and good bits. This week’s invitation: 1. Tune into your fears and doubts around raising your kids with Aware Parenting and where does Trust sit for you. 2. Remember what it was like as a teenage and what did you wish it looked like and how can you build that with your child. Resources: Lael’s Aware Parenting for Tweens and Teens Webinar : https://laelstone.webinarninja.com/live-webinars/87098/register As always, you can head over to the Aware Parenting Podcast Facebook group and join in the discussion, or you’ll find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at marionrose.net and Lael at laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, make sure you subscribe to the podcast so we can pop into your podcast feed every two weeks.   Sending you much love, compassion and grace in your parenting journey. Lael and Marion

Episode 18: Separation Anxiety Aug 06, 2019

In this episode, we talk about Separation Anxiety and how you can assist your children through an Aware Parenting lens. [2.01] Global separation anxiety and development [2.57] Maps and Models around behaviour and Separation - 3 main reasons [4.45] Lack of information for children [9.15] Childrens needs with Separation [13.00] Trusting yourself on the right care for your child [15.40] Built up feelings that affect separation [21.03] Practical example of how separation issues from the past can surface [23.40] What is our energy saying around the separation [26.00] What if we hold on to tightly and compassion for ourselves [29.01] Natural timing and highly sensitive children [33.21] How could drop-offs look like at school or kinder or daycare [35.55} Tips for caregivers for a child who is upset [37.05] The beauty of listening to loss [39.20] Attachment play with Separation Games [45.00] Other ideas around helping your child with Separation [50.30] Invitations and Offerings to assist you with Separation This week’s invitation: 1. Tune into what happens for you when you separate from your child. How does your child respond? 2. Do you have old wounds from when you were left as a child? Resources:  Marion’s course: Inner Loving Presence Process Course:  http://www.attachmentplaycourses.com/join-in  Lael’s sessions via Skype - learn@laelstone.com.au Emma Dumas Separation Resource - http://www.expandingminds.com.au/ Aletha Solter Books : The Aware Baby, Tears and Tantrums, Cooperative and Connected, Attachment Play   As always, you can head over to the Aware Parenting Podcast Facebook group and join in the discussion, or you’ll find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast  You can find Marion at www.marionrose.net and Lael at www.laelstone.com.au  And if you haven’t already, make sure you subscribe to the podcast so we can pop into your podcast feed every two weeks.    Sending you much love, compassion, and grace in your parenting journey.  Lael and Marion

Episode 17: Reparenting Ourselves Jul 30, 2019

In this episode, we talk about the importance of our own ReParenting whilst practicing Aware Parenting. [1:35] Why it is so important and how our kids show us what we need [6:25] Marion’s processes around healing our own painful stories and how they came about [9:10] How this process helps us bring a deeper quality to our parenting [11.15] How you can identify when your own story is present [13.48] How our children can present our own hurts to heal - mirror projection [16.20] Seeing our stories becomes so empowering [18.45] Why compassion matters so much [20.10] Steps to looking at the feelings and the cartography of the psyche [24.14] Quick hack to help you get to the core of the feelings [25.11] Flooding and how to help ourselves [28.22] Steps and questions to ask ourselves when we have painful feelings arising [33.30] What we want to hear and how we repair [34.30] Lael shares how she did this process with a situation with her daughter [42.00] Owning our calm, compassionate space [44.00] Accessing help to support you on this reparenting. This week’s invitation: 1. Tune into what happens for you when you feel like you are losing your power or needing to explore stuff. Ask yourself how old am I now? 2. If you are feeling flooded or overwhelmed, reach out to an empathy buddy, professional counsellor to support you. Resources: Marion’s course: Inner Loving Presence Process Course: www.innerlovingpresenceprocess.com Lael’s Aware Parenting Facebook events page: https://www.facebook.com/pg/laelstone/events/ or sessions via Skype - learn@laelstone.com.au As always, you can head over to the Aware Parenting Podcast Facebook group and join in the discussion, or you’ll find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at marionrose.net and Lael at laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, make sure you subscribe to the podcast so we can pop into your podcast feed every two weeks.   Sending you much love, compassion, and grace in your parenting journey. Lael and Marion

Episode 16: Hitting and Biting Jul 18, 2019

Episode 16: Hitting and Biting by Marion Rose, PhD.

Episode 15: Power in Parenting, Politics and Partnering Jul 11, 2019

In this episode, we talk all about powerlessness, power-over and power-with in parenting, politics and partnering. We discuss the differences between authoritarian, permissive and democratic parenting, and how much we've been affected by the domination paradigm. We also share our own experiences around powerlessness and power-with in parenting and partnering. Resources: Cooperative and Connected by Aletha Solter. Lael's webinar on Aware Parenting for Teens and Tweens: https://laelstone.webinarninja.com/live-webinars/87098/register Marion's Power and Powerlessness offerings: Free intro to Power and Powerlessness in Parenting: http://www.powerandpowerlessnessinparenting.com/ Powerlessness, Power-over and Power-with in Parenting Masterclass https://marionrose.samcart.com/products/powerlessness-power-over-and-power-with-in-parenting-masterclass/ Power and Powerlessness in Parenting Course: www.powerandpowerlessnessinparenting.com/invitation

Episode 14: Attachment Play Jun 30, 2019

In this episode, we talk about attachment play, which is a term coined by Aletha Solter, Ph.D. to describe the 9 types of play that can be used to help children cooperate, feel connected, heal from painful past experiences, release fear and powerlessness, and express feelings that otherwise lead to hitting, not sleeping and repressing feelings. We explain how attachment play works, why it’s the opposite of behaviourism, how we can use it to help children cooperate, and we give examples of how it can be used in really specific ways. Most of all, it brings more connection, joy and fun into family life! Further resources: Attachment Play by Aletha Solter, Ph.D. http://www.awareparenting.com/attachmentplay.html Attachment Play Course by Marion Rose, Ph.D. http://www.attachmentplaycourses.com/join-in Playful Parenting by Lawrence Cohen

Episode 13: Emotional Support Jun 23, 2019

In this episode, we talk about the importance of us having emotional support as parents in order to increase our capacity to parent in this way. We include: Presence; The power of listening; Empathy buddies; and Professional support. Listening Partnerships - Carolina Valenica Coleman https://www.facebook.com/groups/2562318203992646/

Episode 12: Repression Mechanisms Jun 16, 2019

In this episode, we talk about repression mechanisms - what they are, how our children acquire them, how they're passed down in families, and how we can help our children have fewer of them! Books: Raising Drug-Free Kids by Aletha Solter

Episode 11: Relationships and Aware Parenting Jun 10, 2019

In this episode, we talk about relationships within the context of Aware Parenting, including: co-parenting, divorce, intimacy, and long term relationships. We talk about one parent practicing Aware Parenting when the other parent isn't on board and navigating Aware Parenting with a wider family who don't understand or don't resonate. We also talk about the importance of our inner relationships and doing our own Inner parenting work.

Episode 10: How's School? May 27, 2019

In this episode, we talk about our very different experiences of learning and education as parents. Lael's three children have all been to school, and she has been developing a new school in Victoria, Australia, which is based on Aware Parenting philosophies. Marion's two children have never been to school. What we both love about Aware Parenting is that we can apply it to whatever our choices are around eduction, to support our children in their unique learning journeys. Resources: Cooperative and Connected by Aletha Solter The Homework Myth by Alfie Kohn The Element by Ken Robinson Woodline Primary School - www.woodlineprimary.com.au

Episode 9: Tweens and Teens May 18, 2019

In this episode, we talk about how different life can be, practicing Aware Parenting with tweens and teens. Further resources: Lael’s webinars - Aware Parenting with tweens and teens & How to Talk to your Kids about Sex, both at: https://www.facebook.com/laelstone/ Brainstorm - Dan Seigel Sex ed rescue - https://sexedrescue.com/. Raising Drug-Free Kids by Aletha Solter

Episode 8: How to Say No May 08, 2019

In this episode, we talk about: saying no, choice, cooperation, wilfulness and consent. We also share how this is relevant to tantrums and the expression of rage and powerlessness. We invite you to connect with your yeses and no’s and to support your children in expressing these too. More information: The Wonder of Willingness Course https://www.thewonderofwillingness.com Are you Willing? ebook: www.bit.ly/are-you-willing Lael’s webcast on How to talk to your kids about sex on Lael’s FB page: https://www.facebook.com/commerce/products/1680233788762249/

Episode 7: Naughty or Nice? Apr 21, 2019

In this episode, we talk empathic and effective alternatives to punishments and rewards. We discuss the cultural background of punishments and rewards. We share about compliance and the impact on children of punishments and shaming, and the ‘good girl and good boy’ syndrome. We offer how we can help our children want to cooperate, contribute, apologise and repair because they feel those things from the inside. We also explore the long term effects of punishments, and how punishment in childhood leads to inner punishment in adulthood - the harsh thoughts, the shame, the guilt and the judgment. We ask, "How would you like your child’s inner dialogue to be?" Books: Cooperative and Connected by Aletha Solter Punished by Rewards by Alfie Kohn

Episode 6: Toddlers and Tantrums Apr 14, 2019

In this episode, we talk about toddlers and tantrums, but what we share is also relevant to children of all ages. We discuss the importance of listening to a child's feelings, and what can be required from us as parents to be able to do that. Resources: Power and Powerlessness in Parenting Course: http://www.powerandpowerlessnessinparenting.com/invitation/ Intro to Aware Parenting Webinar with Lael https://laelstone.webinarninja.com/webinars/51777/register Tears and Tantrums by Aletha Solter Cooperative and Connected by Aletha Solter Playful Parenting by Lawrence Cohen Listen by Patty Wipfler and Tosha Schore

Episode 5: Aware Parenting and Sleep Apr 07, 2019

In this episode, we talk about sleep from an Aware Parenting perspective. Aware Parenting offers a third way with sleep - a way for babies and children to be securely attached AND to sleep restfully. We explain what gets in the way of sleep, the three things needed for restful sleep, and how as parents we can often be fighting our children's natural relaxation mechanisms. Books: The Aware Baby, Tears and Tantrums and Attachment Play - all by Aletha Solter, Ph.D. Free intro: https://www.soundasleep.me/ Course: http://www.soundasleep.me/invitation/

Episode 4: Mothering and Guilt Mar 31, 2019

In this episode, we talk all about guilt in motherhood. We look at why guilt is so common, the cultural cause of guilt, and what we can do to get free from guilt without spending all day on the sofa watching Netflix! https://www.cnvc.org/ https://marionrose.samcart.com/products/get-free-from-guilt-for-good/

Episode 3: Attachment and Tears Mar 24, 2019

In this episode, we talk about the short term and long term effects of listening to a baby’s feelings. Books: The Aware Baby by Aletha Solter. Tears and Tantrums by Aletha Solter. Cooperative and Connected by Aletha Solter. Babies have real feelings ebook: http://www.awareparentingbabies.com/babies-have-real-feelings/

Episode 2: The Power of Birth Mar 10, 2019

In this episode, we discuss why birth matters and its impact on our lives. We explore how birthing mothers birthing can feel as well as what babies may feel. We look at prenatal psychology and the awareness that babies are born with. We discuss why birth can often play out the way it needs for the baby for healing and learning from a bigger perspective. We also talk about honouring the mother's journey and feeling fear in pregnancy. We talk about birth trauma and healing for mother and baby as well as why babies may cry and how we can meet their needs. We also discuss how babies and children know what they need to do to heal. Book: The Aware Baby by Aletha Solter www.stanislavgrof.com www.aboutbirth.com.au www.calmbirth.com.au

Episode 1: Introducing Us! Mar 09, 2019

In this episode, we introduce ourselves and our journey with Aware Parenting. You can find out more about Lael at: www.laelstone.com.au and Marion at: www.marionrose.net For more info on Aware Parenting and Aletha Solter take a look at : http://www.awareparenting.com/

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