The Autism Mom Coach

156. When Your Kid Says Mean Things Feb 26, 2025

We all wanted our kids to talk.

We persisted, we prayed, and we paid for them to learn this skill.

And now… they have it.

But sometimes, that means hearing words that **sting**.

“I hate you!”

“That was terrible.”

“You’re annoying.”

After all that effort to help them communicate, **this** is what we get? It can feel like a punch to the gut.

But here’s what I want you to remember: *it’s not personal.

In this episode of *The Autism Mom Coach*, we’re breaking down:

Why autistic kids communicate so bluntly (and why it’s not the same as being rude).
How to stop taking their words personally—so you can respond, not react.
The simple mindset shifts that help you decode what they *actually* mean.
Why staying calm matters more than forcing politeness.

Tune in now to learn how to handle these moments with more understanding, less stress, and a whole lot more patience.*

155. Married to Autism Feb 19, 2025

Many of my clients have had this moment: “Wait… I think my husband is autistic.”Maybe it’s how literal he is. Maybe he hates socializing, disappears at family gatherings, or doesn’t pick up on emotional cues. And then there’s this—when you say *“I’m fine”*… *he actually believes you.

At first, it’s a relief—finally, an explanation! But then comes the frustration, the sadness, the overwhelm. What does this mean for your relationship? For your emotional connection? For the life you imagined?

In this episode, I’m breaking down:

The emotional rollercoaster of realizing your spouse might be autistic.
Why a diagnosis—*or his agreement with it*—doesn’t actually change your relationship.
How your *thoughts* about him shape your experience more than anything else.
Why even small efforts can be meaningful (if you choose to see them that way).
The difference between accepting your spouse *as he is* and settling for less than what you want.If this is something you’ve been grappling with, you’re not alone. Tune in now for real talk, practical shifts, and a new way of looking at your relationship.

Listen now on *The Autism Mom Coach*!*

154. The Gift Feb 12, 2025

In this week's episode, I am sharing with you one of my favorite poems.

It is called “The Gift” by Dr. Shefali Tsabary, a clinical psychologist and author who teaches that children **aren’t here for us to "fix"—they are here to teach us**.

And who knows this more than Autism parents?

Tune in now to hear The Gift and how you can apply it to your Autism parenting journey today.

The Gift

Dr. Shefali Tsabary

153. Listener Q&A - Teaching Patience Feb 05, 2025

In this episode, I’m answering a listener’s question: How can I teach my child patience—and how can I become a more patient parent? Patience isn’t something we’re born with—it’s a skill. And like any skill, it can be learned and improved with intention. But here’s the key: If you want to teach your child patience, you need to model it first.

I’ll walk you through practical strategies to:

Build your own patience so you can demonstrate it in everyday moments
Set SMART, achievable goals to help your child develop patience step by step
Use tools like timers and narration to make waiting more predictable
Reinforce patience with positive support—not pressure

If you ever feel like patience is impossible in your home, this episode is for you. Tune in to learn simple, actionable steps to help both you and your child build this essential skill. Ready to take this work deeper? Book a free consult with me at talkwiththeautismmomcoach.as.me.

152. Anticipatory Anxiety Jan 29, 2025

Ever find yourself running through worst-case scenarios like, “What if my child has a meltdown in public?” or “What if I’m missing something critical?” This is anticipatory anxiety. It’s that relentless “what if” loop that keeps you stuck in fear, bracing for problems that haven’t even happened yet.

In this week’s episode of The Autism Mom Coach, I’m breaking down what anticipatory anxiety really is, how it shows up in your life, and why it’s stealing your energy. Plus, I’ll teach you a powerful strategy called positive projection to stop the cycle and start parenting with more confidence.

Don’t forget—my free webinar, “Stop Walking on Eggshells and Start Parenting with Confidence,” is happening tomorrow. I’ll go even deeper into how to break free from bracing for your child’s emotions. Register through the link here or my Instagram bio.

151. The Hidden Cost of Walking on Eggshells Jan 22, 2025

In this episode, we dive into the hidden costs of walking on eggshells as an Autism parent. I share my personal experience and insights from working with families across the country who struggle with this issue.

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/151

150. Walking on Eggshells (MVP) Jan 15, 2025

I'm shining a bright light on what it really means to walk on eggshells as an Autism parent. I share insights on how this impacts both you and your child, and most importantly, I provide actionable strategies to help you break free from this draining cycle. Get ready to reclaim your confidence and learn how to parent from a place of calm and stability.

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149. Reflect, Without Regret Jan 08, 2025

Learn how to identify the limiting beliefs and stories that are holding you back, and how to reframe your thinking to find the opportunities for growth and progress. I also share some of the ways I help my coaching clients use reflection to create new patterns and strategies for themselves and their children. If you're ready to leave regret behind and embrace a fresh perspective, this episode is for you!

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/149

148. How Coaching Changes Everything (MVP) Jan 01, 2025

I revisit the important topic of how coaching changes everything, helping you make the progress in your life that you really want to see. Tune in this week to discover how coaching changes the game for Autism parents. I share my own story of finding a coach who truly understands Autism and my experience as a Special Needs parent, and you’ll learn the foundational tools that helped me really embrace what coaching has to offer.

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147. The "Friends" Formula Dec 25, 2024

Learn how to step back from emotionally charged moments and view them from a more lighthearted, observer's perspective. This emotional distancing tactic, rooted in cognitive behavioral therapy, can help reduce stress, create space between you and the situation, and empower you to respond intentionally rather than react emotionally as an Autism parent.

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146. Holiday GOMO Dec 18, 2024

I’m here to validate your experience with holiday GOMO and share some strategies to help you cope. Learn tips for honoring your feelings, redefining what matters for your family, connecting with people who get it, limiting social comparisons, and celebrating your wins. My goal is to help you have a holiday season that works for you and your child, even if it looks different from the Hallmark version.

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145. Unsolicited Disciplinary Advice Dec 11, 2024

I explore why people give us unwanted comments, anecdotes, or approaches to discipline, and how it can make us feel as Autism parents. Hear the power of responding proactively in these situations, why setting firm boundaries is vital, and my top tips for protecting your energy and having your own back as the expert on your child.

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144. Surviving the Holiday Stretch: Thanksgiving to December Dec 04, 2024

In this episode, I share my tips for not just surviving, but thriving during the holiday stretch as an Autism parent. I help you understand why this time of year is so challenging for our kids, and what you can do to prepare yourself and your child for the ups and downs of the season.

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/144

143. Gratitude Masking (MVP) Nov 27, 2024

Tune in this week to learn what gratitude masking is and how to stop doing it. You’ll learn exactly where gratitude masking is making your life harder as the parent of a child with Autism, and I share practical tips to help you stop weaponizing gratitude against yourself.

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142. Taking the Fear Out of Family Outings Nov 20, 2024

Hear my personal experience of navigating outings with my son, and how social stories became a game-changer in preparing him for new experiences with confidence. Learn what social stories are, why they can be incredibly effective, and how they help children understand what to expect in specific situations.

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141. Being on Display Nov 13, 2024

Tune in this week as I talk about how to handle those moments when it feels like you're the center of attention as an Autism parent and everyone is watching. I share strategies for staying calm, focusing on your child, and even educating others in the process.

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140. Staying in Your Own Lane Nov 06, 2024

Tune in this week as I share a powerful personal story illustrating the importance of staying in your own lane, both literally and figuratively. Learn practical strategies for swerving back into your own lane and supporting your child's emotional growth in the process.

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139. Meltdown Mistakes & Solutions (MVP) Oct 30, 2024

Learn the top three mistakes parents make during meltdowns and simple antidotes that will help you respond intentionally, and how, by avoiding these pitfalls, you can create a more peaceful and supportive environment for your child.

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138. Stop Googling Autism Oct 23, 2024

Hear why Googling Autism is the favorite pastime of all Autism parents and my thoughts on why you should stop. You’ll learn how it often undermines your sense of confidence and control. I offer questions that will help you gain awareness of why you’re doing it, how it’s impacting you, and how you can make more mindful decisions about how much and what type of information you consume.

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137. How to Stop Catastrophizing (MVP) Oct 16, 2024

Learn how to rewire your brain, reduce your anxiety, and show up as a calmer, more effective parent. In this replay of one of my early podcast episodes, I dive deep into the cognitive distortion of catastrophizing. I explain what it is, why we do it, and why we mistakenly believe it's useful. Most importantly, I share practical strategies to interrupt the catastrophizing loop when you find yourself in it.

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136. The Scroll Troll Oct 09, 2024

How often do you find yourself mindlessly scrolling through social media, only to end up feeling worse than before? As Autism moms, we turn to social media for support, connection, and resources. But if we're not careful, it can quickly become a source of stress, comparison, and negativity.

Listen in this week to hear the toll scrolling on social media can have on your experience as an Autism parent, and how our brains are wired to compare ourselves to others. You’ll hear practical strategies that will help you reclaim your peace of mind, and my top tips for transforming social media from a stress-inducing scroll to a tool for support and empowerment.

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/136

135. Stress Less Octoberfest Oct 02, 2024

While we may not be able to eliminate stress completely, there are sneaky habits that many of us have fallen into that unnecessarily add fuel to the fire. By bringing awareness to these patterns and making small shifts, you can lighten your mental load and find more ease in your daily life. Tune in this week to learn how to identify where your stress is coming from, some simple strategies to reduce stress, and find out how to get involved with Stress Less Octoberfest.

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134. Autism Meltdowns Q&A Sep 25, 2024

Learn practical strategies you can implement right away to respond to meltdowns with more compassion and confidence. From morning routine struggles to self-injurious behaviors, I cover a range of meltdown situations that many Autism families face and what you can do to effectively support your child.

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133. Meltdown Hangover Helpers Sep 18, 2024

Discover practical strategies to either avoid, interrupt, or shorten the duration and intensity of your meltdown hangovers. Learn how to show up as the best version of yourself for your child, and I give you actionable advice to help you break free from the grip of meltdown hangovers and find a sense of calm and resilience.

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132. Meltdown Hangovers Sep 11, 2024

Uncover the common signs of meltdown hangovers, understand how long you can expect them to last, and get questions you can ask yourself to identify your specific symptoms. Stay tuned for part two next week, where you’ll learn actionable steps to reduce the intensity and duration of meltdown hangovers.

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131. Behavior Barometers 2.0 Sep 04, 2024

I walk you through how to create your own Response Barometer with specific strategies for dealing with each level of your child’s Behavior Barometer. Learn how to make effective decisions ahead of time, allowing you to respond to your child in a way that serves both of you.

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130. Behavior Barometers Aug 28, 2024

Learn how to create your own customized Behavior Barometer. I’ll walk you through why this tool is so powerful for building your confidence as an Autism parent. With a Behavior Barometer, you'll gain perspective on which situations are truly significant and be equipped with an objective framework to guide your response, even when you feel triggered.

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129. Walking on Eggshells Aug 21, 2024

If you're walking on eggshells around your child and it doesn't feel like it's helping, tune in this week to discover what to do instead. I explain the cause and impact of walking on eggshells around your child, framed through the CBT model, and show you how to take back control next time you find yourself in this situation.

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128. Meltdowns Are Information Aug 14, 2024

Discover why your child's meltdowns are informative and how to learn from these meltdowns instead of fearing them. I show you how to get curious instead of emotional when things get hard, and you'll learn a powerful step-by-step process for showing up with objectivity when your child is melting down.

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127. Burnout Buster for Autism Moms Aug 07, 2024

Tune in this week to discover my burnout buster for Autism moms. I show you how all the visible and invisible labor of being an Autism parent leads to burnout, share the value of saying no strategically, and break down a simple technique you can try to help you say no when it serves your well-being the most.

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126. Anxiety Buster for Autism Moms Jul 31, 2024

In this episode, we take a look at what's actually happening in your brain when anxiety takes over. I break down the different parts of the brain involved and how they interact to keep you stuck in fight-or-flight mode. Once you understand the science behind it, anxiety becomes a lot less scary and mysterious. Learn my 4 C's method for challenging anxious thoughts in the moment and choosing a different response.

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125. Stress Buster for Autism Moms Jul 24, 2024

Learn a biological hack for immediately creating calm in your body when you’re stressed. I share how the Autism Mom Ice Water Challenge works and my top tips for implementing this technique in your everyday life.

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124. Solo Parenting with Rob Gorski, The Autism Dad Jul 17, 2024

Rob Gorski is a solo parent of three sons with Autism, each with unique characteristics. He lives in Ohio and runs a popular blog and hosts an impactful podcast called The Autism Dad, where he shares his experiences and offers support to other parents raising children with Autism and other disabilities. Learn a fresh perspective on Autism parenting from The Autism Dad, Rob Gorski.

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123. More Is Not Always Better Jul 10, 2024

We believe more is better, and that if we do more, our child with Autism will be ‘okay’ or won’t struggle as much. I debunk the myth that more intervention is better and explore the dangers of the 1987 Lovaas study. I’m showing you why higher amounts of therapy may not be helpful to your child, how your well-being matters more to your child than speech or behavioral intervention, and the importance of trusting your instincts and expertise.

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122. Emotions Are Contagious Jul 03, 2024

Discover why emotions are contagious and what you can do with this information. I discuss the science and statistics behind emotional contagion in children with Autism and their parents. Learn how to create a more stable environment for your child when they're melting down.

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121. Behaviors Are Neutral Jun 26, 2024

Discover why your child's behaviors, regardless of whether you like them or not, are neutral. I share how remaining neutral about your child's behaviors helps you to stay calm as you navigate the challenges of Autism parenting, and you'll learn how to stop looking at your child's behaviors as either good or bad, so you can avoid the anger and frustration that accompanies challenging behaviors.

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120. The Grief of Missing Out Jun 19, 2024

I'm giving a voice and a name to the experience that Autism moms everywhere have of missing out on parenting experiences we expected and the childhood we imagined for our kids. This is what I'm calling GOMO, the grief of missing out. Discover how to start acknowledging the grief of missing out and learn how to not get stuck there when this grief strikes.

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119. How to Stop Worrying (MVP) Jun 12, 2024

I'm sharing two of the most valuable lessons I've brought you in the history of this podcast: that worrying is optional, and how to stop worrying. Tune in this week to discover why we worry and how to stop. Discover why worry is always optional, how worrying is impacting your life in more ways than you currently realize, and you'll learn how to get control over your worrying brain so you can show up in the way you and your child really need you to.

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118. The Oxygen Mask Fallacy Jun 05, 2024

If you feel like there's something off about the oxygen mask analogy, tune in this week to discover why you're totally correct. I discuss why the oxygen mask fallacy doesn't offer us any comfort as Autism parents, and you'll learn what to do next time somebody tells you to put your oxygen mask on first before you try to help your child with Autism.

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117. Making the Most of the Summer May 29, 2024

Learn my top tips for planning a summer that brings both you and your child joy. I’m sharing how fear and guilt might be showing up in your parenting, how to actually relax and enjoy your summer, and the best thing you can do for yourself and your child to make the most of the summer.

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116. Picking Your Battles May 22, 2024

Discover what picking your battles looks like as an Autism parent. I discuss the challenges of having and enforcing boundaries, why your child will always resist the boundaries you try to put in place, and you'll learn how to follow through with your boundaries when you want to, and when to pick your battles if you feel like you need to.

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115. Boundaries Are Not Mean May 15, 2024

Tune in this week to discover why boundaries are not mean. I discuss how boundaries protect you as an Autism parent and allow you to show up as your best self, and you'll learn how to uphold boundaries that protect your well-being, even during the most challenging times.

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114. Respite Resistance May 08, 2024

I see respite resistance in Autism moms all the time. Even when parents accept that they need to take a break, it still brings up conflicting thoughts and feelings that stop them from experiencing the benefit of their respite.

Discover why you're reluctant to take respite, even when the option is available to you. I explore why respite is vital for Autism parents, and you'll learn how to shift the way you think about respite so you can flip the script and approach the idea of respite from a more helpful angle.

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113. Parental PTSD (Part 2) May 01, 2024

Last week, we dug into the reality of parental PTSD and how it plays out in our lives as parents of children with Autism. This week, I’m here to share my personal journey and some of the strategies that have been the most effective in managing my own experience of trauma and PTSD. Discover a list of simple practices that keep me grounded as I navigate parental PTSD.

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112. Parental PTSD (Part 1) Apr 24, 2024

Discover why parents of children with Autism are at a higher risk of developing PTSD compared to parents of typically developing children. I share the clear indicators that you’re experiencing complex PTSD as an Autism parent, and you’ll learn to identify exactly where your chronic stress is coming from.

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111. Negativity Bias (MVP) Apr 17, 2024

Learn why our human brains are wired to fixate on all the things that might go wrong, without considering what could or is already going well. I’m showing you how negativity bias impacts your parenting, what happens when you begin to notice your thoughts, and an exercise that will help you see the whole picture when your brain wants to feed you negativity.

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110. What No One Tells You (Part 2) Apr 10, 2024

Hear the continuation of what no one tells you about Autism. I discuss why there’s nothing wrong with you if you’re feeling grief after an Autism diagnosis, how to deal with those, “I could never do what you do…” comments, and you’ll learn that you’re not alone in all of these new experiences you’re having as an Autism parent.

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109. What No One Tells You Apr 03, 2024

I share eight things I wish I knew about being an Autism parent that no one ever told me. These are lessons I’ve learned along the way that you can probably relate to, and my hope is that you feel validated, supported, and understood because you are working extraordinarily hard and deserve acknowledgment.

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108. IEP Refresh Mar 27, 2024

With my three-day IEP Bootcamp coming up, it’s time for an IEP refresh. As the parent of a child with Autism, you’ll inevitably come to an IEP (Individualized Education Program) table on this journey. This can be an intimidating place to be. So, how do you support your child in understanding what’s going on at an IEP table, while also looking after yourself in the process? Find out in this episode.

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107. Reality Check Mar 20, 2024

This month marks one year since I enrolled my son in what I thought would be the perfect environment for him. However, the reality wasn't what we had expected. Hear my story of receiving a reality check over the past year. I'm sharing the journey I've been on over the past 12 months and giving you my tips for dealing with the reality of the life we're living as parents of a child with Autism.

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106. ASD Mom Big 3: Burnout Mar 13, 2024

Discover the 10 most common reasons for burnout in Autism parenting and what you can do to address them. I’m discussing how you might be unknowingly contributing to your own burnout, and you’ll learn how to start making time for yourself, taking responsibility for what you can control, and protecting your time and energy so you have more capacity to be an amazing parent.

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105. ASD Mom Big 3: Anxiety Mar 06, 2024

Discover how anxiety is impacting your experience of parenting your child with Autism. I’m discussing how anxiety shows up for Autism moms, why the vicious cycle of anxiety persists, and you’ll learn how you can address your anxiety in a way that serves you and your child.

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104. ASD Mom Big 3: Stress Feb 28, 2024

Stress is showing up in your day-to-day in more ways than you might currently realize. Discover the lesser-known symptoms of stress, and how stress is impacting every area of your life. I’m discussing how your stress responses work as an Autism parent, and you’ll learn how to start quickly calming your nervous system when you’re in a chronic state of stress.

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103. Coaching v Therapy with Allison Feb 21, 2024

Allison is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, but she decided to turn to coaching with me when she found herself in a cycle of meltdowns and feeling guilt and shame about her reactions to her teenage daughter with Autism. This conversation is packed with fantastic insights into the differences between therapy and coaching and serves as the perfect real-world example of why coaching with someone who understands your lived experience is undeniably powerful.

Discover why you might consider coaching over therapy, and learn how coaching and therapy can work in tandem on your journey as an Autism parent.

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102. Someone Who Understands: The Power of Coaching for Autism Moms Feb 14, 2024

Discover my five favorite things about working with a coach who truly gets your lived experience as an Autism parent. I’m sharing the progress coaching allowed me to make in my life, and you’ll learn why you should consider coaching as a way to achieve your personal development goals as the parent of a child with Autism.

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101. Resilient Autism Mom Program Feb 07, 2024

In a webinar last week, I introduced my new 1:1 program called the Resilient Autism Mom Program, created to empower you to take control of your Autism parenting experience in only 90 days. Today, I dive into the details of my new program, go over its components, and discuss the creative process behind its development. I am so excited to tell you more about this program so you can become an even more Resilient Autism Mom!

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100. Lessons from Rock Bottom Jan 31, 2024

Find out why being at rock bottom is an amazing opportunity, despite how it feels, and how to see it as such. I share what I’ve learned about rock bottom, how I was able to evaluate some of the darkest times in my life to find a way forward, and how you can too.

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99. Life Out Loud with Carrie Cariello Jan 24, 2024

In part two of my conversation with author Carrie Cariello, we’re exploring her upcoming book coming out in 2025, Life Out Loud, which is a collaboration with two other Autism moms, Kate Swenson and Adrian Wood. Carrie shares the impact finding a community of other Autism moms has had on her life, and how Life Out Loud came to be. She is giving us a sneak peek into what you can expect from this book, and what she hopes Autism moms gain from reading three very different parenting experiences.

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98. Parenting and Puberty with Carrie Cariello Jan 17, 2024

Carrie Cariello is a wife and mother of five children, whose second eldest child, Jack, is on the Autism spectrum. Hear Carrie’s insights on parenting and puberty as an Autism mom, and how she's navigating the untethering of the mom-child relationship. We discuss what it was like for her to be a young mother of a child with Autism, why letting your child fly on their own feels hard, and explore what she has found to be the most rewarding and challenging aspects of this particular stage of life she's currently in.

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97. What’s New and What to Expect in 2024 Jan 10, 2024

The Autism parent experience is filled with making hard decisions, managing feelings of uncertainty, anxiety, grief, and resentment, and generally being hyper-focused on our child and making everything right for them.

What I’ve learned is that we need to shift from this state to one of focusing on ourselves. We’ve all heard the oxygen mask analogy, but none of us really believe it. Autism moms everywhere have sacrificed our mental, emotional, and physical health to help our kids get through the day, and I’m sharing the work I’m doing this year to guide you in 2024.

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96. How We Make Parenting Harder on Ourselves (MVP) Jan 03, 2024

Discover how we make parenting difficult for ourselves. I’m discussing why Autism isn’t a problem that needs solving, how to identify the thoughts that are making your job as a parent even harder, and I’m giving you a simple tool to make parenting a happier, more confident, and peaceful experience for you and your child.

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95. How to Not Lose Your Mind over Winter Break Dec 27, 2023

Tune in this week for my tips for dealing with the added stress of having your child home for winter break. I’m giving you five ways to bring some much-needed structure to winter break, tips for grounding yourself during stressful moments, and showing you how to lighten your load where possible.

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94. The Most Triggering Time of the Year Dec 20, 2023

Discover how to deal with the most triggering time of the year. I’m sharing some simple strategies to help you bring more ease to the Holiday Season. Learn why bracing yourself isn’t enough, and how you can properly prepare for the difficult emotions that come up at this time of year.

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93. Subscribe, Unsubscribe Dec 13, 2023

Discover how to start being more discerning about what you let into your field of vision. I’m sharing how your brain reacts to social media, why it makes you feel good one minute and terrible the next, and most importantly, learn how to be ruthless in curating not only your social media experience, but your experience of real life too.

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92. Letting Your Heart Break Dec 06, 2023

Discover why the most powerful thing you can do as an Autism mom is let your heart break. I’m discussing why heartbreak is inevitable when you’re the parent of a child with Autism and showing you how to set your heart break instead of adding resistance to your long list of challenges.

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91. Processing an Autism Diagnosis Nov 29, 2023

Join us on this episode to hear my former client and friend Julia’s experience of advocating for her children and the grief she’s feeling about her role as an Autism mom. She’s offering her journey of working with doctors, the news she’s processing right now, and how coaching has given her the tools she needs to support herself on this journey.

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90. Gratitude Masking Nov 22, 2023

Tune in this week to learn what gratitude masking is and how to stop it. I'm showing you where gratitude masking might be coming up for you as the parent of a child with Autism, and you'll learn how to stop weaponizing gratitude against yourself.

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89. The R Word Nov 15, 2023

Join me this week to discover how to navigate resentment as it relates to your child with Autism. Hear how you’re not alone or wrong for experiencing this, how you might be unconsciously choosing to stay resentful, and the antidotes that will help you acknowledge and validate your experience.

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88. Stop Beating Yourself Up Nov 08, 2023

Join me on this episode to learn about the parable of the second arrow and what it means for you as an Autism mom. Hear how we unwittingly amplify the original pain life throws our way, what happens when we do so, and three simple steps to help you stop shooting the second arrow.

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87. Talking Back to Fear Nov 01, 2023

Discover how to start talking back to fear. I’m sharing why thought errors occur when we’re scared, giving you six examples of cognitive distortions that commonly come up for my clients when fear is taking over, and I’m sharing three simple, practical steps to start talking back to your fear instead of leaving it to run the show.

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86. Processing Fear Oct 25, 2023

This week, I'm joined by my former client, Anna, who is walking us through what it's like to process fear. Hear what’s bringing up fear for Anna right now and how I’m coaching her through it. I’m sharing why speed accelerates fear, how to find ventral vagal safety when you’re experiencing fear, and my favorite tool that you can lean on the next time fear comes up for you.

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85. Fear Oct 18, 2023

Discover how fear and grief are interwoven in your experience as an Autism parent, and a few ways fear shows up in our everyday lives. Hear why fear is a normal reaction to the loss of certainty and control that the Autism diagnosis brings, and how to begin experiencing the emotion of fear without letting it run your life.

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84. When Things Suck (MVP) Oct 11, 2023

Tune in this week to rediscover what to do when things suck. Taking deep breaths and drinking water won't make your kid stop screaming or the school stop calling, but when things feel out of control, you can be there to support yourself and bring some calm into your body, and I'm showing you how.

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83. Self-Regulation and Resourcing Oct 04, 2023

Learn what resourcing involves, and how it creates internal safety so you can feel, process, and integrate your emotions in a healthy way. I’m sharing five easily accessible ways to resource yourself, why they’re worth practicing right now, and the power of the tools I’m offering today in understanding and shifting your emotional experience.

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82. Creating Internal Safety: Nervous System 101 Sep 27, 2023

Join me this week to learn the basics of polyvagal theory and your nervous system. Hear why creating internal safety is so important, the power that comes with being able to recognize your somatic experience, and how to get familiar with different nervous system responses so you can intentionally shift your experience of Autism parenting.

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81. The Grief Spectrum Sep 20, 2023

Tune in this week to bring curiosity and compassion to the emotions that rise from your experience of grief. I’m discussing why grieving a continuing loss means you’ll encounter a whole spectrum of emotions, where these emotions are coming from, and I’m sharing an experience of my own to demonstrate exactly how the grief spectrum shows up.

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80. Ambiguous Loss Sep 13, 2023

I recently discovered a framework that gives a voice to the nuance of our experience in grieving the loss of a child we expected to have, and it’s called ambiguous loss. Join me today to learn what the theory of ambiguous loss entails and how naming it for yourself will help you move towards acceptance in any given moment.

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79. Grief Myths Sep 06, 2023

Ignoring or resisting grief never feels good long-term. To address your grief intentionally and directly, tune in this week. I’m shining a light on the most important misconceptions about grief, and how to spot where these myths are getting in the way of understanding your own experience of grief in a validating way.

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78. Grieving the Life Not Lived Aug 30, 2023

Tune in this week as I highlight why we often fail to acknowledge parental grief and how you might be grieving the life that was not lived. Hear how this is an experience all parents raising children with Autism go through, whether we realize it or not, and my top tips for getting to radical acceptance, enabling you to live your life with more ease and joy.

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77. Defining Success for Your Child with Autism (MVP) Aug 23, 2023

Discover why it’s important for you to define success for your child with Autism, an exercise that will help you find evidence of all the ways they’re succeeding right now, and a myriad of benefits that come with tailoring uniquely what success means to your neurodivergent child.

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76. Tantrums v Meltdowns Aug 16, 2023

Although tantrums and meltdowns may look similar, they are actually very different. Discover how to think about and respond to the different behaviors your child exhibits, explore some of the thoughts that may come up when your child is having a tantrum or a meltdown, and how to use what I’m teaching you this week to be an ambassador for parents of children with Autism.

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75. Meltdown Mistakes & Solutions Aug 09, 2023

Discover the three biggest mistakes Autism parents make during meltdowns, and what you can start doing right now to either prevent these mistakes from happening or reduce the possibility of these mistakes exacerbating future meltdowns.

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74. Powerful Questions (MVP) Aug 02, 2023

Listen in to hear five powerful questions I ask myself to redirect my brain when it wants to dwell in the negative. I’m sharing the reasons we often default to dead-end questions, how we argue with reality, and why the more you open yourself up to other possibilities, the more they will become your reality.

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73. Potty Talk and All Things Autism with Michelle B. Rogers Jul 26, 2023

Discover how to help your child with Autism live a more independent life from my fellow Autism mom and life coach for parents of children with Autism, Michelle B. Rogers. We're discussing the three most important life skills you can help your child develop, why nobody is coming to save you, and Michelle’s diving into how to better understand your child’s behavior with passion and compassion.

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72. Your Child’s Behavior Is Not Personal (MVP) Jul 19, 2023

When we take our child's behaviors personally, we make them about us, about our child, and about our parenting. However, taking these behaviors personally makes them even harder to handle. Discover how to regulate yourself when your child is melting down and avoid falling into the quicksand of taking your child's behaviors personally.

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71. Being Your Child’s “Person” Jul 12, 2023

I show you how to create separation between where your child ends and you begin. I’m urging you to start identifying where you might be able to pull back from being your child’s “person,” what this looked like for me on my Autism parenting journey, and my top tips for allowing your child to step up.

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70. I’ll Be OK Once My Child is OK Jul 05, 2023

Discover what’s wrong with the thought, “I will be OK once my child is OK.” I’m discussing how this statement is outsourcing your emotions, why your child is not responsible for your happiness, and how to stop neglecting yourself while telling yourself you’re doing it for your child.

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69. Have I Done Everything? Jun 28, 2023

One question that most, if not all, Autism moms have at some point is this: Have I done everything I can for my child? This week, I offer my answer to this burning question. You’ll hear why the notion of doing everything is frankly absurd and not goal-worthy, and what you can do instead to move forward.

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68. Mental Health Hospitalizations Jun 21, 2023

I’m talking about mental health hospitalizations for children with Autism, specifically ER visits, in-patient hospitalizations, and partial hospitalization programs. The first time my son was hospitalized, I knew absolutely nothing about mental health hospitalizations for children with Autism. However, hearing stories and experiences from other people really helped me, so my hopes are that what I’m sharing today will be useful for you if you ever have to deal with your own child being hospitalized.

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67. Failing Forward Jun 14, 2023

Failing forward is one of the most important skills we need to develop as parents of children with Autism, but it is not for the faint of heart. This week, hear why the skill of failing forward is a muscle you have to build, three important questions that will help you practice failing forward, and my top tips for beginning to befriend failure.

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66. Managing Summer Break Anxiety (Replay) Jun 07, 2023

Are you experiencing summer break anxiety? I know that many of you are worried about how to keep your child with Autism occupied. You might be lamenting over the fact that you can’t send your child to any old camp or hire any old sitter.

I’m offering some of the most common worries I hear from parents of children with Autism about this time of year, and three things you can do to ease your summer break anxiety.

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65. On the Hard Days May 31, 2023

Listen in for an interview I did over on Megan Champion’s podcast, On The Hard Days. I'm diving into the early years following my son’s Autism diagnosis, and how, like so many of you, I was constantly pushing down my emotions. You’ll hear the realizations I had about needing to practice real self-care, and how I began resetting the default thought patterns and nervous system responses that weren’t serving me.

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64. Anger May 24, 2023

Discover the difference between feeling angry and staying angry, and the power of learning to process difficult emotions. I’m sharing my preferred way of processing anger, and 25 things that get me angry about parenting in Autism to show you how voicing the things we experience that other people might not understand can be extremely cathartic.

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63. Moms Like Us: An Interview with Cindy Decker May 17, 2023

Hear my conversation with my former client and now lifelong friend, Cindy Decker. Cindy shares her journey from her child’s diagnosis to where she is today, how she freed up more time and space to advocate for her child and other children through an advocacy program, and all the changes she made in her day-to-day that have enabled her to shift the way she shows up as a mom.

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62. How to Stop Second Guessing Yourself (Part 2) May 10, 2023

Discover how to stop second guessing yourself and your decisions. I’m sharing the two types of second guessing we do as the parents of children with Autism, the difference between second guessing and due diligence, and giving you my step-by-step process to stop second guessing the decisions you make and your abilities as a parent.

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61. Stop Second Guessing Yourself (Part 1) May 03, 2023

How often do you question whether you’re doing enough or the right things for your child with Autism? Do you have the urge to ruminate on and review every decision, or wonder if there’s anything you could have or should be doing differently?

I'm exploring what second guessing is, why we do it, and how this habit might be showing up in your life. You’ll hear how we’re socialized to believe we can’t be trusted, and next week, I’ll give you specific steps to begin unwinding this habit.

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Mother’s Day Giveaway Apr 26, 2023

For my Mother's Day Giveaway, I am giving away hand-crafted soaps from Trev's Trades Where Autism Meets Potential. Trev is a young adult with autism and other disabilities, and a soap maker.

I have 10 lovely soaps to give away. To enter the Mother's Day Giveaway, rate and review the podcast by May 14th, and email me the title of your review. For those of you who have already rated and reviewed the podcast, you can get a soap by sharing the podcast on your social media feeds and tagging me and Trev. I want to support Trev and Tia, and I want to spread the word about this podcast to as many autism moms as possible.

To enter the giveaway,

Rate & Review the podcast
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60. Turning Autism Around with Dr. Mary Barbera Apr 26, 2023

While I teach mothers raising kids with autism how to regulate their emotions when their child is dysregulated, I get a ton of questions about how parents can teach self-regulation skills to their kids.

That is why, in this week's episode of the podcast, I am interviewing Dr. Mary Barbera. Dr. Barbera is the mother of a young adult with Autism, a registered nurse, board certified behavior analyst and a best selling author.

Dr. Barbera's latest book Turn Autism Around, her online courses, weekly podcast and social media posts help parents and professionals start turning things around for young children with early signs of autism and older children with an autism diagnosis who are struggling with talking, tantrums, eating, sleeping, potty training, and more.

In this Episode of the podcast, you will learn:

How Dr. Barbera went from complete denial of the signs of her son's Autism to a BCBA;

What Dr. Barbera means by the phrase, "Turn Autism Around"; and

Dr. Barbera's 4 Principles for turning autism around.

For full show notes, links to Dr. Barbera's work, and more information on working with me here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/60

59. Parental Burnout Awareness Apr 19, 2023

In this episode, discover why Autism parent burnout is a problem and what you can do to interrupt it.

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58. The IEP Table with Julie Swanson, The Life Skills Lady Apr 12, 2023

Join me this week to continue our discussions about Individualized Education Plans, this time with Julie Swanson, AKA The Life Skills Lady. Julie is an IEP advocate based in Connecticut. She’s one of the OGs of education advocacy, and she’s also a mentor to many other IEP advocates that have followed in her footsteps. Julie shares the problems she’s encountered at the IEP table as an advocate, and why she helps families focus on the development of life skills in creating better outcomes for children with Autism.

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57. The IEP Table with Amanda DeLuca and Kirby Morgan Apr 05, 2023

Amanda DeLuca and Kirby Morgan have created an online community to help support parents of Neurodiverse Children, and the work they’re doing is amazing. They’re certified IEP coaches, and they help their clients better understand their role at the IEP table.

Find out how an advocate can help make sure your child is getting the service they need without creating a divide at the table, and what to consider if you’re currently having a difficult time advocating for your child.

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That is why, for Autism Awareness month, I am shining a light on parental burnout with my free webinar for autism parents: “Overcoming Burnout in 5 Simple Steps."

In this webinar, you will learn the real reason you are burnt out (spoiler alert: it is not the diagnosis) and how to shift from chronically stressed to resourceful and resilient.

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56. Medication Shaming Mar 29, 2023

Whether you have been medicating your child for years and facing that decision never gets any easier, or you haven’t yet made that decision and you’re experiencing crippling fear about it, you’re in the right place. All of this is gut-wrenching, so tune in as I normalize this decision and lay out all the BS reasons we’ve bought into that make us shame ourselves.

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55. Words Matter: Autism & Aggression Mar 22, 2023

Words like “aggressive” and “violent” are often improperly used as descriptors for the behaviors of people with Autism. They’re anti-social words that have a broad range of consequences that are very scary for parents raising children with Autism.

Discover why words matter, and how the language we use for dysregulated behavior in our children needs to shift. I’m sharing my preferred language for referring to violence or aggression, and how we can start focusing efforts on ways we can better understand and support our children.

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54. Minimum Baseline Mar 15, 2023

Do you ever find yourself making grand plans, not following through with them, and then beating yourself up for not doing enough to make them happen? This perfectionist thinking is making raising your child with Autism even harder than it already is. So this week, I share a simple tool that will set you and your child up for success and you don't want to miss it.

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53. Perfectionism Mar 08, 2023

While it sounds noble and goal-worthy to be a perfectionist, it’s only keeping you in a cycle of doing more and more but feeling like you’ve never done enough. I'm sharing the hallmarks of perfectionistic thinking, how it’s showing up in your parenting and other areas of life, and how B- work can help you relax the unrealistic standards you’re holding yourself to.

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52. External Validation Mar 01, 2023

When you are relying on external validation, you’re outsourcing all of your power to other people. They get to decide whether or not you can think well of yourself, and it creates a vicious cycle of always trying to prove yourself.

Discover how to repattern your habit of seeking external validation. I’m sharing why so many moms of children with Autism fall into this trap, and most importantly I’m showing you why you aren’t powerless in getting out of it.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/52

51. Permission Slips 2.0 Feb 22, 2023

The 2.0 version of permission slips is all about taking the time for yourself, but also giving yourself permission to actually enjoy that time without guilt. I’m telling stories from two clients who couldn’t enjoy the time they’d created for themselves, and sharing the coaching I offered them so they could give themselves the permission slips they needed.

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50. Permission Slips Feb 15, 2023

Do you struggle to give yourself permission to put your self-care needs first?

This week, I show you how to give yourself a much-needed permission slip for self-care, and share why we focus our time and energy on our children at the exclusion of ourselves. Learn how to give yourself permission to do something for yourself instead of always acting in service of others.

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49. Self-Care is Your Responsibility Feb 08, 2023

If you think you don’t have time for yourself because of all your responsibilities as a Special Needs parent, this episode is for you. I’m sharing seven simple things you can start doing right now to prioritize your self-care, regardless of what’s going on in your life. Learn why self-care is so important for you and your child, and how to make time for it, no matter what.

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48. The Big Mistake Every Autism Parent Makes and How to Stop It Feb 01, 2023

Tune in this week to discover how to correct the biggest mistake Autism Parents make: not making time for themselves. I’m sharing why we make this mistake, how it impacts our children, and most importantly, how to start giving yourself a little attention when you need it so you can show up the way you want to for your child.

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47. Being Willing to Be Wrong Jan 25, 2023

If you’re living with the fear that you aren’t doing enough for your child, catastrophizing about the future, or blaming yourself for your child’s struggles, a willingness to be wrong will change everything. Tune in this week to discover how to open yourself up to vulnerability, questioning what you think is right, and being willing to be wrong about the belief systems that are keeping you spinning in the hamster wheel of pain and self-doubt.

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46. Keeping Your Cool During an Autism Meltdown Jan 18, 2023

Do you find yourself always walking on eggshells, living in fear of your child's next meltdown? If the answer is YES, then my new course is for you! In a little over one hour, you will learn what to do before, during and after a meltdown, so that you can remain regulated, even when your child is melting down.

For full show notes and to sign up for the course, go to: https://theautismmomcoach.com/46

45. Moms Like Us: An Interview with Jamie Gregory Jan 11, 2023

Jamie is the mom of five-year-old twin boys with Autism, and she came to me for coaching at a time when her kids were struggling, dysregulated, and having more frequent and intense meltdowns than ever. This was taking a serious emotional toll on Jamie, however, the work we did together has helped her support herself and her sons in new ways, and she’s here to share all of it with you.

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44. How Coaching Changes Everything Jan 04, 2023

Tune in this week to discover what coaching is, how it works, and how coaching changed my life when I was at a breaking point. I’ve tried therapy and never found it very useful, but when I found a coach who understood Autism and my experience as a working mom, I was able to start building a life I loved. If you’re curious about coaching and how it can change everything for you, listen in.

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43. When Things Suck Dec 28, 2022

Sometimes, things just suck. Maybe you were planning a winter vacation, but then everyone in your house got sick. Maybe your child’s favorite teacher just resigned, or your child was asked to leave their school altogether. Whatever the story is for you, we all hit these points at some time or another. I have 7 tips to help you weather the storm when things just suck, and I’m sharing all of them with you in this episode.

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42. Holiday Stressors Dec 21, 2022

The Holiday season is in full swing and, if you’re raising a child with Autism, I’m sure you are feeling it. So, in this week’s episode, I’m discussing some of the Holiday-themed stressors I’m hearing about from my clients and sharing the coaching I offered them during this challenging time of the year.

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41. Holiday Survival Strategy Dec 14, 2022

The Holiday season of joy and gratitude is here, accompanied by increased stress and mental breakdowns. This is a familiar experience for parents of children with Autism, so I’m devoting this episode to teaching you a powerful strategy that will help you prepare for family time, skip the drama, and actually enjoy The Holidays.

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40. How to Talk to Your Child About Their Autism Diagnosis Dec 07, 2022

Tune in this week because I’m giving you three tips for talking to your child about their Autism diagnosis. This episode is based around a presentation I held recently on this exact topic, and I’m sharing everything you need to consider as you prepare for this conversation, if you decide to have it at all.

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39. The How-To Guide for Other Humans (aka Manuals) Nov 30, 2022

This week, learn how to set your manuals for how others should behave aside so you can truly enjoy the people in your life for who they are. You’ll hear what happens when you stick to your manuals without question, and how this is the perfect opportunity to distance yourself from thoughts about what should be, and instead decide with intention how you want to show up when the world isn’t complying.

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38. When You Stop People Pleasing and Other People Aren’t Pleased Nov 23, 2022

Listen in this week to discover what to do when you stop people pleasing and other people aren’t pleased. I’m showing you why not people pleasing is a foreign concept to so many people, what to expect when you stop, and my top tips for having your back when you start telling others what you really want.

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37. How to Stop People Pleasing Nov 16, 2022

People pleasing is a well-worn habit and stopping isn’t easy. However, small changes can go a long way. Tune in this week to discover how to shift from doing things because you always have and everyone expects you to, to figuring out what you really want and acting in alignment with your own values. I’m giving you a strategy that will help you stop people pleasing, one step at a time.

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36. Why We People Please Nov 09, 2022

When we are people pleasing, we’re lying to others and to ourselves. We’re trying to manipulate how people view us by acting in ways that are not in alignment with how we really want to show up. With The Holidays fast approaching, the people-pleasing season truly is upon us, which makes now the perfect time to talk about how people pleasing shows up in Special Needs Parenting, and most importantly, how to break this exhausting habit.

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35. Managing Your Transitions Nov 02, 2022

While we might not be as sensitive to changes and transitions as our child with Autism, did you know that we too can benefit from the same support systems we use to help them? Listen in this week to discover how to support yourself through any transition. I’m digging into schedules, previews, social studies, and test runs as just a few ways we try to prepare our kids for transitions, and I’m showing you how to use these systems for your own benefit too.

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34. When You Wish Your Child Was “Normal” (Part 2) Oct 26, 2022

This week, I'm diving a little further into how “normal” is subjective and the ways in which it can be harmful for those with Autism. I talk about why “aggressive” is an inappropriate way to describe the physical reactions that those with Autism experience, how certain ideas and judgements both reinforce inaccurate biases and rob us of joy, and why we can be the ones that change how language is used.

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33. When You Wish Your Child Was "Normal" (Part 1) Oct 19, 2022

Whether we want to admit it or not, so many of us have had the thought, “I wish my child was normal,” at one point or another. This is something that often comes up with my clients, and they’re riddled with shame and guilt. So, this week, find out why it’s 100% normal if you’ve ever found yourself thinking, saying, or wishing that your child or parenting experience was “normal.” You’ll hear why it’s a natural human desire to want to be "normal," and why you can both love your kid as they are and still wish things were easier.

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32. When You Think Nothing is Working Oct 12, 2022

Tune in this week to discover what to do when you think nothing’s working. This is not about undermining your experience. I’m in the thick of it myself. Rather, I’m sharing how to be there for yourself and your child when it feels like you’re getting nowhere, and how to identify all of the things that are working, even if they differ slightly from what you expected.

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31. The Stories We Tell Oct 05, 2022

Human brains are story-making machines. We create stories as a way of understanding our lives, relating to the world, and relating to one another. Some of the stories we tell are empowering, while some have the opposite effect, and our power lies in our ability to choose the version of the story we want to tell, believe, and live. In this episode, I'm offering two very different diagnosis stories drawn from the same set of facts to show you how there is no ultimate truth, and why this is the best news.

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30. Autism-Colored Glasses Sep 28, 2022

Do you ever find yourself interpreting all of your child’s behavior through the lens of their Autism diagnosis? Tune in this week to discover how you show up when you look at your child’s behavior through Autism-Colored Glasses. I’m showing you why there’s always more than one way of looking at your child’s behavior, and I’m sharing how to see if you’re missing out on the bigger picture or causing yourself unnecessary stress and anxiety.

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29. When Other People Trigger You Sep 21, 2022

Tune in this week as I share a story where I was triggered. Well, actually I was stunned and sickened during a conversation with someone. There was a time when I would have reacted very differently to this conversation, however, with the skills of thought work, I was able to look at this uncomfortable situation in a more helpful way. So, I’m showing how you can do the same when you feel triggered by thoughtless comments or actions by another person.

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28. The Comparison Trap Sep 14, 2022

Have you ever found yourself comparing your life to the lives of your friends, family members, or even strangers on social media? You're not alone. This week, discover why our brains naturally go to a place of comparison, why it served humankind in the distant past, and why using comparison in unhelpful ways isn’t serving us now. I’m showing you how to see where you’re stuck into the Comparison Trap and how you can wriggle free if you fall into it.

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27. Back to School Series: Ask an Autism Expert with Dr. Darren Sush Sep 07, 2022

We all need a little advice from time to time, so in this week’s episode, I’m speaking with Dr. Darren Sush, a licensed clinical psychologist, Autism expert, and a board-certified behavioral analyst, about ways parents can prepare themselves and their children for the school year. Darren deeply understands the struggles parents raising children with Autism face, so he's sharing how to create ease around your experience of sending your child back to school.

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26. Back to School Series: Navigating Grief Aug 31, 2022

Tune in this week to discover why you’re feeling grief around your child’s return to school. I’m sharing my story and the uncomfortable emotions that are coming up for me, and why if you don’t process the feelings of grief in the moment, they can manifest physically and make a hard situation even harder.

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25. Back to School Series: Mental Rehearsal Aug 24, 2022

Tune in this week to discover a new way to cope with intense emotion. We always have the power to improve our ability to cope with the challenges we face in parenting neurodivergent children. Instead of simply catastrophizing about worst-case scenarios, you can be more in control than you ever thought possible, and I’m showing you how in today’s episode.

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24. Back to School Series: Making Decisions Ahead of Time Aug 17, 2022

This week, I’m teaching you the power and the practice of making decisions ahead of time. I’m showing you how to prepare yourself for whatever this school year brings because, once you’ve decided how you want to think, feel, and respond, you can take actions that are aligned with how you want to show up for your child and for yourself.

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23. Back to School Series: Defining Success for Neurodivergent Children Aug 10, 2022

This week, discover how to redefine what success looks like for our neurodivergent children, and why it serves us to do so, even if it flies in the face of everything we’ve been socialized to believe about what success means. I’m showing you the negative consequences of using the standards of success modeled on neurotypical children, and why applying them to your kids isn’t helpful.

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22. How to Stop Worrying Aug 03, 2022

Tune in this week to discover how to stop worrying. Worrying is useless and takes up too much space in our brains, even though it feels totally natural. When you catch yourself in this nasty little brain habit, you can choose not to do it, and I’m showing how with a simple strategy to get control over your worrying.

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21. Worrying is Optional Jul 27, 2022

As moms to special needs kids, we worry about so many things when it comes to our children. Join me this week to discover what worry is, and why so many of us are devoted to this habit. I’m showing you how this is an amazing function we humans have, how you’re using it against yourself, and how to begin curbing this habit.

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20. 5 Powerful Questions for Every Autism Mom Jul 20, 2022

Tune in this week to discover five powerful questions every Autism mom needs to ask themselves. I’m sharing why our brains thrive when we ask them powerful questions, and how to start questioning your brain in a way that will move you forward, instead of feeling stuck as a victim of your circumstances.

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19. What to Do After a Mommy Meltdown Jul 13, 2022

Tune in this week to discover what to do after a mommy meltdown. I’m sharing the story of my own mommy meltdown, how I used the S.O.S. technique I shared last week to calm myself and decide on how I wanted to handle the situation, and I’m giving you a simple step-by-step framework to deal with the aftermath of your mommy meltdowns.

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18. S.O.S. What to Do During a Mommy Meltdown Jul 06, 2022

Tune in this week for my tips on what you can do during difficult moments to support yourself and manage your mommy meltdown. I'm also showing you how to make my S.O.S. technique (stop, observe, self-soothe) part of your daily self-care, so you can catch your meltdown before you and your child break down in line at the grocery store.

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17. Check What’s Triggered Jun 29, 2022

Tune in this week to check on your triggers, and learn how being triggered might have you showing up in ways you don’t actually like. I’m sharing some of the most common triggers I come across in my life and my clients’ lives, and how you can see the ways you get triggered in your own life, how you generally respond, and how you can choose to react instead if you want to.

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16. When People Don’t Understand Jun 22, 2022

If you’ve ever found yourself feeling frustrated because people don’t seem to understand what your life is like and the struggles you encounter raising a child with Autism, this episode is for you. Discover why believing other people don’t understand your reality is creating more disconnection than you might realize.

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15. I Need to Live Forever Jun 15, 2022

Tune in this week to discover what you’re avoiding dealing with when you tell yourself you need to live forever, or your child will suffer. I’m sharing how thoughts like this only serve to mask our pain and avoid dealing with a very real eventuality, and I’m giving you some way more helpful thoughts you can decide to think instead.

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14. School Shootings and Special Needs Children: Would My Child be Safe? Jun 08, 2022

Tune in this week as I share how to move through your difficult emotions after a senseless tragedy. I’m sharing why we’re not here to try and feel positive about things we know are awful, why you can’t action your way out of fear and grief in the long term, and how to acknowledge your own pain and support yourself with compassion through these heartbreaking times.

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13. Managing Summer Break Anxiety Jun 01, 2022

Tune in this week to discover how to manage your anxiety around the summer break. I’m sharing how to reframe your anxious experience at this time of year, and I’m showing you an incredible breathing exercise, so your anxiety can lead to productive action instead of spinning in dread and uncertainty.

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12. Stepping into Your Role as the Expert May 25, 2022

Discover how to step into your role as the expert when it comes to parenting your child. I’m sharing how to handle your thoughts if you don’t believe being the expert is empowering, and I’m showing you how to use the Think-Feel-Act cycle to create the kind of emotions that will allow you to parent with confidence and certainty, instead of fear and overwhelm.

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11. You Are the Expert May 18, 2022

Tune in this week to discover what an expert is, and why you’re already the expert when it comes to parenting your child with Autism. I’m sharing where your expertise comes from and how to see it, and be sure to come back next week where I’m discussing stepping into your role as the expert.

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10. Catastrophizing May 11, 2022

Discover a simple way to reframe your worst-case scenario thoughts and break the cycle of catastrophizing. I’m sharing why your brain loves to catastrophize over things that aren’t even certain, why ignoring it or telling yourself you’re worrying over nothing is never the answer, and how to instead meet yourself with empowering thoughts.

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9. This Should Not Be Happening May 04, 2022

Tune in this week to discover why thinking, “This should not be happening” is never helpful. I’m sharing how to get clear on where these thoughts come from and why it’s time to leave them behind so you get to enjoy even the most challenging parts of parenting a child with Autism.

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8. Riding the Wave Apr 27, 2022

Tune in this week to discover the power of riding the waves of emotion. I’m sharing why trying to avoid emotions coming up for you or your child isn’t helping, and how instead you can allow for the full emotional experience without avoidance or distractions, living and learning through all of it.

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7. When You Are Rigid Apr 20, 2022

Tune in this week to discover where rigid all-or-nothing thinking is impacting your parenting, and what you can do to manage it. I’m sharing why our brains love this way of processing the world around us, and I’m showing you how to see the thoughts that are leading you down the path of this either-or mindset.

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6. The Self-Coaching Model Apr 13, 2022

Last week I introduced you to the Think-Feel-Act Cycle, which is at the very centre of The Self-Coaching Model. It’s a profoundly simple but effective tool we can use to transform our lives, and as promised, this week, I’m showing you how The Self-Coaching Model works so you can apply it in real time when you feel stressed, or your child is having a meltdown and everything feels like it’s crumbling around you.

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5. Think-Feel-Act Cycle Apr 06, 2022

Whether you know it or not, there is a cycle constantly working in the background of everything you do, including dealing with the challenges of parenting a child with Autism.

Tune in this week to discover why the Think-Feel-Act Cycle is always at work, and how it’s driving everything you do or don’t do. I’m sharing how your thoughts interact with your feelings, which drive your actions, and how you can start to influence all of it and use this information to your advantage.

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4. Negativity Bias Mar 30, 2022

Do you ever find yourself fixating on all the things your child can’t do, while paying little attention to the tremendous gains they’ve made?

Tune in this week to discover how your negativity bias is impacting your parenting. I’m sharing why this is such a tricky thing to spot in the moment, but I’m also giving you a simple exercise you can to bring a little more balance when your brain is feeding you negative thoughts about your child’s progress.

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3. Separating Your Child’s Behavior from Your Thoughts Mar 23, 2022

I’m sure you’ve realized by now, no matter how hard we try, we can’t control our children’s behaviors. However, we can choose how we want to think about them. That might not sound particularly powerful, but trust me when I say it’s a real gamechanger.

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2. Your Child's Behavior Is Not Personal Mar 23, 2022

Your child’s behaviors are not personal. When you are the person who is being yelled at or smacked, it’s not a nice experience. However, the truth is, we can separate the child we love from the behaviors we don’t, and on this episode, I’m giving you an amazing tool to take yourself out of the equation when it comes to your children’s outbursts.

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1. How We Make Parenting Difficult for Ourselves Mar 23, 2022

Do you fear you’re not doing enough for your child with autism? Do you terrorize yourself with thoughts about their future, and how you’re not able to give them the right kind of support? Do you put caring fo yourself on the backburner because you think, “I’ll be okay once they’re okay?” Being a mom of a child with autism is undoubtedly challenging, but are thoughts like this making it even harder?

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Start Here: Introducing The Autism Mom Coach Podcast Mar 14, 2022

Have you ever felt like Autism has hijacked your life? Like you’re in a constant state of stress and anxiety and always walking on eggshells? Ever feel like you’re all alone, completely powerless and the circumstances in your life dictate everything you do?

In this podcast, I’ll show you how to radically change your life by transforming your relationship with Autism and special needs parenting. You’ll learn how to shift away from being a victim of your circumstances to being the hero of the story that you get to write.

This isn’t your normal podcast about Autism, it’s not about how to handle our kids, it’s about how to handle ourselves. It’s about accepting the fact that Autism is hard and now what... Each week we'll discuss practical strategies and actionable steps to help you accept and understand your own triggers and how to choose how to respond.

The truth is Autism is not in charge of your life. YOU are, and you have more power than you think.

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