The Art of Relationships Podcast

Love Languages: How to Show Love to Every Person in Your Life This Valentine’s Day Feb 12, 2025

In this episode, Chris and Alisa Grace explore the concept of love languages and how understanding them can transform your relationships. They discuss the five love languages—quality time, words of affirmation, gift-giving, acts of service, and physical touch—popularized by Dr. Gary Chapman. They provide practical insights on how to identify and speak your own love language and those of your loved ones to foster deeper connections.

Whether you're navigating relationships with your spouse, dating partner, family members, friends, or even coworkers, this episode offers valuable advice on how to communicate love effectively and build stronger bonds.

Resources Mentioned:

The 5 Love Languages by Dr. Gary Chapman – A foundational book on how to express and receive love in a way that is meaningful to your relationships.
Five Love Languages Online Quiz – Discover your love language and learn how to better connect with those around you.
Previous Podcast Episode with Dr. Gary Chapman – Listen to Chris and Alisa’s conversation with the author of The 5 Love Languages for more insights.

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Dr. Chris Grace and Alisa Grace are passionate about helping people build and sustain healthy relationships. As leaders of the Biola University Center for Marriage and Relationships, they combine the wisdom of Scripture with scholarly research to offer practical advice and insights. Learn more about their work at cmr.biola.edu.

When You Don't Know Who You Are Anymore with Guests Arianna Molloy and Tim Muehlhoff Jan 29, 2025

In this episode, Chris Grace explores the complexities of navigating identity and calling, especially in the context of work and relationships with guests Arianna Molloy and Tim Muehlhoff. They discuss how a calling is not just about individual fulfillment but deeply tied to our relationship with God and community. Their conversation touches on understanding work as a calling, avoiding burnout, setting boundaries, and finding rest in God. They provide practical insights and tips for anyone feeling overwhelmed by life's demands. Whether you're managing relationships with coworkers, family, or friends, this episode offers valuable advice to help you cultivate a sustainable work-life balance.

Resources Mentioned:

Healthy Calling: From Toxic Burnout to Sustainable Work by Dr. Arianna Molloy – A guide to understanding calling, preventing burnout, and finding meaning in work. Visit Arianna Molloy's website for more resources. Click here to buy her book on Amazon.
Sacred Pathways by Gary Thomas – Explores how individuals connect with God uniquely, offering insights for incorporating rest and worship into daily life. Click here to purchase on Amazon.

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Sexpectations in Marriage with Guests Shaunti Feldhahn & Brian Goins Jan 15, 2025

In this episode, Chris and Alisa Grace explore the complex and often misunderstood topic of expectations in marital intimacy. They welcome special guests Shaunti Feldhahn, an award-winning author and social researcher, and Brian Goins, Senior Director of Strategic Projects at FamilyLife. Together, they delve into the dynamics of initiating and receptive desire, the impact of communication, and practical ways couples can foster understanding and intimacy.

Key Discussion Points:

The common question of "how often?" and why there's no universal answer.
The importance of understanding different desire types: initiating, receptive, and resistant.
How unspoken expectations and lack of communication can lead to frustration and disappointment.
Practical advice for navigating differences in desire and building stronger connections through communication and empathy.
Insights from Shaunti and Brian's work, including data-driven strategies for healthy conversations about intimacy.

Resources Mentioned:

"Secrets of Sex & Marriage" by Shaunti Feldhahn and Dr. Michael Sytsma – A book offering eight surprising insights to improve marital intimacy. Learn more and purchase.
Married with Benefits Podcast – Discussions on intimacy, communication, and expectations in marriage. Listen here.
FamilyLife’s Instagram – instagram.com/familylifeinsta.
Shaunti Feldhahn’s Instagram – instagram.com/shauntifeldhahn.
Axis.org – Tools and resources for parents to have conversations about technology, relationships, and more. Visit Axis.

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Breaking the Chains of Pornography with Guest Nick Stumbo Jan 01, 2025

In this episode, Chris and Alisa Grace explore the challenges and impacts of pornography in relationships and personal lives with special guest Nick Stumbo, Executive Director of Pure Desire. They discuss the pervasive issue of pornography in Christian communities, its mental, relational, and spiritual implications, and the path to freedom through grace-filled healing. Offering insights into breaking cycles of shame and addiction, this episode provides practical tips to help listeners pursue healthy, Christ-centered relationships.

Whether you’re a college student, a married couple, or a leader in the church, this episode offers valuable advice to navigate this challenging topic and find hope, healing, and restoration.

Resources Mentioned:

Free E-Books from Pure Desire

5 Steps to Freedom from Pornography - A guide to overcoming struggles with pornography. Download here
7 Keys to Understanding Betrayal Trauma - Help for navigating the pain of betrayal. Download here

Books by Nick Stumbo

Safe - A guide to fostering grace-filled environments that promote healing from sexual struggles and create safe spaces for restoration. Learn more
Setting Us Free - Nick Stumbo shares his journey to freedom from sexual addiction, offering practical tools and spiritual insights for lasting transformation. Learn more

From the Center for Marriage and Relationships (CMR)

Sex, Pornography, and Relationship Help - Quick tips on addressing pornography's impact on relationships. Download PDF

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Navigating Holiday Stress: Balancing Busyness, Expectations, and Joy Dec 18, 2024

In this episode, Chris and Alisa Grace explore managing holiday stress, balancing busyness, expectations, and finding joy. They discuss practical tips for setting realistic expectations, planning ahead, navigating family dynamics, and staying emotionally connected during this busy season. With insights on how to prioritize relationships, manage stress, and align your heart with God's perspective, this episode provides helpful strategies for a more peaceful and meaningful holiday experience. Whether you're navigating relationships with family, friends, or significant others, you'll find valuable advice to improve your connections this holiday season.

Resources Mentioned:

Oh Come, Oh Come Emmanuel by Jonathon Gibson - A liturgy for worship through Advent and Epiphany. Amazon Link
Oh Come, Let Us Adore Him by Paul David Tripp - A devotional to prepare your heart for Christmas. Amazon Link
The Christmas We Didn't Expect by David Mathis - Reflections on the surprising story of Christmas. Amazon Link
10 Bible Verses for Anxiety (Download) - Scriptures to meditate on for peace during stressful times.
Marriage Conference Information - Learn about upcoming conferences to strengthen your relationships.

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About the Hosts: Chris Grace, Ph.D., and Alisa Grace are passionate about helping people build and sustain healthy relationships. As leaders of the Biola University Center for Marriage and Relationships, they combine the wisdom of Scripture with scholarly research to offer practical advice and insights. Learn more about their work at cmr.biola.edu.

Dealing with Grief and Loss During the Holidays with Guest Kevin Van Lant Dec 11, 2024

In this episode, Chris and Alisa Grace explore the topic of navigating grief and loss during the holidays. They are joined by Dr. Kevin Van Lant, a licensed clinical psychologist and expert in pastoral care and counseling, who provides invaluable insights into the challenges of processing grief during a season traditionally associated with joy and togetherness. They discuss the importance of recognizing and sitting with the pain, offering practical ways to support both yourself and others during difficult times, and how faith plays a transformative role in the grieving process.

Whether you’re dealing with the loss of a loved one or supporting someone in their grief, this episode offers compassionate advice to help you find hope and meaning, even in the midst of sorrow.
Resources Mentioned:

Dark Clouds, Deep Mercy by Mark Vroegop – A guide to practicing lament as a path toward healing and hope.
Necessary Losses by Judith Viorst – An exploration of how loss is an inevitable and essential part of personal growth.
Blue Trust - Biblically centered financial planning and investment management services. Contact Colby Gilmore (colby.gilmore@ronblue.com) for personalized financial advice for all income levels.

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Why Traditions Matter: A CMR Staff Roundtable Nov 27, 2024

In this episode, Chris and Alisa Grace explore the importance of family traditions, especially during the holiday season. They discuss how traditions create bonding, foster a sense of belonging, and adapt over time as families grow and change. Joined by CMR staff members Jane Locke and Tatum Munivez, they share personal stories and offer practical insights into navigating traditions in the face of life changes like marriage, moving, or loss. Whether you're celebrating with your parents, kids, in-laws, or friends, this episode offers meaningful ways to build relationships and honor the deeper reasons for the season.

Resources Mentioned:

"23 of the Best Christmas Traditions Ever" Blog - A list of diverse holiday traditions for every life stage, from singles to families with grown children.
Holiday Resources from the CMR - Insights, Tips, and Tools to Enjoy a Meaningful Holiday Season.

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Chris Grace, Ph.D., and Alisa Grace are passionate about helping people build and sustain healthy relationships. As leaders of the Biola University Center for Marriage and Relationships, they combine the wisdom of Scripture with scholarly research to offer practical advice and insights. Learn more about their work at cmr.biola.edu.

Stalemates, Compassion, and Truth with Guests Sean McDowell & Tim Muehlhoff — pt. 2 Nov 13, 2024

In this episode, Chris Grace sits down with special guests Sean McDowell and Tim Muehlhoff, co-authors of End the Stalemate, to tackle the challenge of navigating difficult conversations in a polarized world. Together, they share practical strategies like building relational capital, showing compassion, and knowing when and how to share truth. With personal stories and real-world examples, Chris, Sean, and Tim equip listeners to engage in meaningful, respectful dialogue even on divisive topics. Whether you're working through tough discussions with family, friends, or colleagues, this episode offers tools to strengthen relationships while staying true to your convictions.

Resources Mentioned:

End the Stalemate - A guide to fostering respectful and productive conversations despite deep differences.
Sean McDowell's YouTube Channel - Demonstrating effective dialogue with people of differing beliefs.
Blue Trust - Biblically centered financial planning and investment management services. Contact Colby Gilmore (colby.gilmore@ronblue.com) for personalized financial advice for all income levels.
John Gottman Resources - Expert insights on improving communication and relationships.

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Chris Grace, Ph.D., and Alisa Grace are passionate about helping people build and sustain healthy relationships. As leaders of the Biola University Center for Marriage and Relationships, they combine the wisdom of Scripture with scholarly research to offer practical advice and insights. Learn more about their work at cmr.biola.edu.

End the Stalemate with Guests Sean McDowell & Tim Muehlhoff — pt. 1 Nov 06, 2024

In this episode, Chris Grace sits down with special guests Sean McDowell and Tim Muehlhoff, co-authors of End the Stalemate, to explore the art of having difficult conversations in today's polarized world. They discuss how to navigate disagreements, the role of contempt in damaging relationships, and the importance of empathy and perspective-taking. Providing practical tips, they help listeners communicate more effectively and maintain healthy relationships, even when faced with differing opinions.

Whether you're navigating tense discussions with family, friends, or colleagues, this episode offers valuable insights to improve your communication and foster understanding.
Resources Mentioned:

End the Stalemate - A guide to fostering respectful and productive conversations despite deep differences.
Sean McDowell's YouTube Channel - Demonstrating effective dialogue with people of differing beliefs.
Blue Trust - Biblically centered financial planning and investment management services. Contact Colby Gilmore (colby.gilmore@ronblue.com) for personalized financial advice for all income levels.

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Chris Grace, Ph.D., and Alisa Grace are passionate about helping people build and sustain healthy relationships. As leaders of the Biola University Center for Marriage and Relationships, they combine the wisdom of Scripture with scholarly research to offer practical advice and insights. Learn more about their work at cmr.biola.edu.

Top 6 Relationship Killers with Guest Willa Williams Oct 30, 2024

In this episode, Alisa Grace and special guest Willa Williams, a licensed marriage and family therapist, discuss the “Top 6 Relationship Killers” that often hinder our closest connections. They explore common destructive habits, such as taking things personally, assuming the worst, and failing to show empathy, offering practical insights to help listeners build stronger, healthier relationships. Whether you're navigating friendships, family dynamics, or romantic partnerships, this episode provides valuable advice to transform your interactions.

Resources Mentioned:

The Meaning of Marriage by Timothy Keller – Explores the principles of speaking truth in love, helping couples build deeper, more authentic relationships.
Gottman’s Four Horsemen – An overview of harmful behaviors in relationships, with tools for recognizing and replacing these behaviors.

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Rituals That Matter: How Small Actions Foster Big Relationship Wins Oct 23, 2024

In this episode, Chris and Alisa Grace explore rituals for connection—consistent, intentional actions that can help strengthen relationships over time. They discuss how recognizing and responding to bids for attention can prevent couples from drifting apart and highlight simple rituals such as saying goodbye, greeting each other, and spending intentional time together. The Grace's provide practical insights and tips to help you reconnect with your loved ones, making your relationships more fulfilling and connected. Whether you're dealing with significant others, friends, children, or roommates, this episode offers valuable advice to improve your relationships.

Resources Mentioned:

32 Questions to Spiritual Intimacy – A guide to fostering deeper spiritual connections with your partner through meaningful conversations.
Date Night Activity: 32 Questions to Intimacy – An engaging activity for couples to build emotional and spiritual intimacy during date nights.
31 Questions to Intimacy for Families – A resource to help families connect on a deeper level.
30 Questions to Intimacy with Friends – A guide to deepening your friendships through intentional, meaningful conversations.
Ronald Blue Trust – A biblically-centered wealth planning service that supports couples in financial unity. Visit ronblue.com for more or contact Colby Gilmore at colby.gilmore@ronblue.com.

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About the Hosts: Chris Grace, Ph.D., and Alisa Grace are passionate about helping people build and sustain healthy relationships. As leaders of the Biola University Center for Marriage and Relationships, they combine the wisdom of Scripture with scholarly research to offer practical advice and insights. Learn more about their work at cmr.biola.edu.

Small Moments, Big Impact: How to Keep Your Relationship Thriving Oct 16, 2024

In this episode, Chris and Alisa Grace explore bids for attention—small interactions that can significantly impact the strength of a relationship. They discuss how recognizing and responding to these bids can prevent couples from drifting apart, drawing on research from Drs. John and Julie Gottman. The Grace's provide practical insights and tips to help you stay connected with your partner, emphasizing the power of intentional time together. Whether you're navigating life with a significant other, friends, or even colleagues, this episode offers valuable advice to improve your relationships.

Resources Mentioned:

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman – A guide to strengthening relationships through understanding key emotional and relational principles.
Gottman Institute – Learn more about the research behind bids for attention and other relationship dynamics.
Ronald Blue Trust – A biblically-centered wealth planning service that supports couples in financial unity. Visit ronblue.com for more orcontact Colby Gilmore at colby.gilmore@ronblue.com.

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About the Hosts: Chris Grace, Ph.D., and Alisa Grace are passionate about helping people build and sustain healthy relationships. As leaders of the Biola University Center for Marriage and Relationships, they combine the wisdom of Scripture with scholarly research to offer practical advice and insights. Learn more about their work at cmr.biola.edu.

First Fruits and Fumes Mar 05, 2024

In this episode, Chris and Alisa Grace discuss how couples often run on fumes due to the demands of parenting, work, and life. They explore practical ways to prioritize marriage when time and energy are limited, offering insights rooted in Scripture and personal experiences. Drawing on Proverbs 3:9-10, they emphasize the importance of giving your spouse the ‘first fruits’ of your time and attention, even when life is chaotic. The Graces provide simple, everyday tips to stay connected and deepen your relationship, whether it’s through greeting your spouse first when coming home, sharing chores, or carving out time for date nights. Their advice is not only applicable to marriage but also to relationships with children, friends, and colleagues, helping listeners nurture stronger connections despite life’s busyness.

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Chris Grace, Ph.D., and Alisa Grace are passionate about helping people build and sustain healthy relationships. As leaders of the Biola University Center for Marriage and Relationships, they combine the wisdom of Scripture with scholarly research to offer practical advice and insights. Learn more about their work at cmr.biola.edu.

The Good, The Bad, & The Ugly: What To Do With Personality Tools Mar 04, 2024

In this week's episode, CMR Co-Directors Dr. Chris and Alisa Grace discuss how personality impacts our relationships, and offer practical ways we can use personality tools to better understand ourselves and others.

Does Intent Matter? Feb 27, 2024

In this week's episode CMR Co-Directors Dr. Chris and Alisa Grace discuss the role of intent in communication and offer practical ways to assess and adapt not only what we say but why we say it and the impact it has on our relationships.

Red Hot Monogamy: Making Your Marriage Sizzle with Bill and Pam Farrel Feb 13, 2024

In today's Valentine's special, Chris and Alisa Grace are joined by ministry leaders and best-selling authors Bill and Pam Farrel to discuss their book, Red Hot Monogamy: Making Your Marriage Sizzle, and uncover the T.I.M.E. needed to invest in marital intimacy. Listen along to hear what long-lasting intimacy looks like and how their acronym can best help you cultivate red hot monogamy.

Do You Have What It Takes To Make A Difference? Jan 31, 2024

The answer may surprise you!
In this week's episode, Dr. Chris and Alisa Grace are joined by marriage ministry leaders and best-selling authors Bill and Pam Farrel to discuss the importance of mentorship and the practical ways everyone can make a difference.
Resources from this week's podcast:

What's a Bid for Connection and Why You Need to Know Jan 10, 2024

In this week's podcast, CMR Co-Directors Chris and Alisa Grace teach listeners how to recognize and respond to others’ bids for connection and the relational damage it causes when we ignore them.

Not So Merry Christmas? Try This! Dec 19, 2023

In this week's podcast, CMR Co-Directors Dr. Chris and Alisa Grace address the not-so-glamorous realities that can come with the holiday season and offer practical tips for how to center your family on each other and Christ this Christmas.

Living The Dream: When Hospitality Becomes Real with Ken and Trudi Berding Nov 29, 2023

In this week's episode Chris and Alisa Grace are joined by Biola colleagues and long-time friends Ken and Trudi Berding as they share their journey from being missionaries in the Middle East to housing and discipling multiple college students each year.

What If I AM the Elephant in the Room? Living Boldly with Visible Scars, with Anna Sinclair Nov 06, 2023

Let's Talk About Sex: How Culture and Scripture Differ Part II, with Dr. Jon Lunde Oct 18, 2023

In part two of this two-part series, New Testament expert Dr. Jon Lunde joins Chris and Alisa Grace as they discuss why culture has drifted away from Scriptural values, and offer a Biblical alternative to the three most common (but not the best) options for sex in relationships today.

Let's Talk About Sex: How Culture and Scripture Differ Part I, with Dr. Jon Lunde Sep 25, 2023

In part one of this week's two-part podcast, New Testament expert Dr. Jon Lunde joins Chris and Alisa Grace as they discuss why culture has drifted away from Scriptural values, and the three most common (but not the best) options for sex in relationships today.

Healing Conversations on Race, Part II (with Veola Vazquez) Sep 06, 2023

In part two of this two-part series, Dr. Chris and Alisa Grace sit down with Dr. Veola Vazquez to talk about her new book, Healing Conversations on Race: Four Key Practices from Scripture and Psychology. Listen as they discuss what it looks like to navigate race relations as a believer.

Healing Conversations on Race, Part I (with Veola Vazquez) Aug 08, 2023

In part one of a two-part series, Dr. Chris and Alisa Grace sit down with Dr. Veola Vazquez to talk about her new book, Healing Conversations on Race: Four Key Practices from Scripture and Psychology. Listen as they discuss what it looks like to navigate race relations as a believer.

Can Common Courtesy Really Improve Your Relationship? Jul 26, 2023

Can small, every day courtesies
really
make a difference in a relationship? In today's podcast, Dr. Chris and Alisa Grace share how simple acts of kindness can bring results you might not be expecting.

What Our Listeners Are Asking Jun 29, 2023

In today's podcast, CMR Co-Directors Chris and Alisa Grace sit down and go through questions our listeners send in. From date nights and red flags, to establishing trust, this episode is packed with practical advice!

5 Signs of a Rock Solid Friendship, Part II Jun 08, 2023

In part two of a two part podcast series, CMR Co-Directors Dr. Chris and Alisa Grace discuss the key role intimacy plays in friendship and offer the remaining signs to look for to grow your friendships into rock solid relationships

5 Signs of A Rock Solid Friendship, Part I May 31, 2023

In part one of a two part podcast series, CMR Co-Directors Dr. Chris and Alisa Grace discuss the key role intimacy plays in friendship and offer five signs to look for to grow your friendships into rock solid relationships.

Are Your Emotions Controlling You? May 17, 2023

Do you feel like your emotions control you or do you control your emotions? Emotions are complex and sometimes difficult to identify. But your emotions are important to building any intimate and healthy relationship. In today's episode, Dr. Chris and Alisa Grace talk through the need for identifying, labeling and understanding your emotions.

You Asked, We Answered May 03, 2023

Trouble navigating boundaries once you're in a relationship? In this week's podcast, Dr. Chris and Alisa Grace answer your questions about relationships! From confronting self-esteem and setting boundaries, to defining the relationship after you already started dating, this week's podcast is full of wisdom for relationships in all stages!

Behind The Scenes: A Mini Episode Apr 12, 2023

In today's podcast, co-directors Dr. Chris and Alisa Grace sit down with Ashlee Kyser, the newest member of the CMR team, to discuss what it is like transitioning from a student to staff at Biola, and share resources available for students and new graduates.

Not If, But When: Navigating Grief with Gary Thomas Mar 15, 2023

In today's podcast, Dr. Chris and Alisa Grace sit down with award winning author and speaker, Gary Thomas, to answer your questions on the role of grief in relationships.

Understanding Your Spiritual Temperament with Gary Thomas Mar 01, 2023

In today's podcast Dr. Chris and Alisa Grace are joined by award winning author and speaker, Gary Thomas, to discuss spiritual temperaments for connecting with God. Listen to learn how understanding your temperament and the temperament of those you love can increase intimacy in all your relationships.

Three Things Every Couple Needs for Their Marriage to Survive a Crisis Feb 15, 2023

In late 2019, Dr. Chris and Alisa Grace faced a major crisis. In this podcast, they share their story and the fears and suffering that became their reality.

Dr. Chris and Alisa Grace emphasize the three things that brought them through their most difficult trials.

Making Your Marriage a Fortress with Gary Thomas Jan 18, 2023

In today's podcast, award winning author and speaker, Gary Thomas, joins Dr. Chris and Alisa Grace to discuss his new book,Making Your Marriage a Fortress: Strengthening Your Marriage to Withstand Life's Storms.

Creating and Responding to Healthy Boundaries Dec 21, 2022

In today's podcast, Jennifer Jones, licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, discusses how to set and keep boundaries and offers helpful instruction for how to respond to boundaries in respect and love.

Battling Depression as a Christian Dec 08, 2022

"When you are in a dark place, it can be a holy place if you are trying to follow God in that dark place." In today's podcast, guest Dr. Clarence Shuler shares his battle with depression, reminding his audience to seek counsel, community, identity rooted in God, and support from their spouses.

Making Your List, Checking Your Budget Twice Nov 10, 2022

The most wonderful time of the year is approaching! As the Christmas season arrives, so can stress about budgets and spending. In today's podcast, Dr. Chris and Alisa Grace host Biola's senior director of Foundations and Capital Projects, Dr. Rick Bee, to discuss tips for planning and communicating about your Christmas budget. From making sure your spouse is on the same page, to navigating spending as a recent grad, today's podcast offers advice for budgeting in all seasons of life.

A Cry For Help: Our Personal Story, Part II Oct 25, 2022

Is your loved one crying out for help? What signs would you look for? In part two of this two-part series, we (hosts Dr. Chris and Alisa Grace) are joined again by our 19-year-old daughter, Caroline, to share our personal experience as a family navigating Caroline's battle with clinical anxiety. In today's episode, The Grace family offers positive steps for how to support one another and answer the cry for help.

A Cry For Help: Our Personal Story, Part I Oct 11, 2022

Is your loved one crying out for help? What signs would you look for? In part one of this two-part series, we (hosts Dr. Chris and Alisa Grace) are joined by our 19-year-old daughter, Caroline, to share our personal experience as a family navigating Caroline's battle with clinical anxiety.

From Scripture & Science: How to Talk About Mental Health Sep 22, 2022

Mental health has become a growing topic of concern in our culture- but how do we talk about it? Dr. Chris and Alisa Grace discuss signs of mental health and look to both scripture and science for advice on how to talk about it, and what resources are available to those in need.

Remember When? Sep 13, 2022

Remember when you had your first date?

Scripture is full of commands to remember, because God knows our hearts and wants to build intimacy with us through remembrance. The same is true of our earthly relationships. Reminiscing Scripture is full of commands to remember because God knows our hearts and wants to build intimacy with us through remembering. The same is true of our earthly relationships. Reminiscing over memories with fondness can actually strengthen our relationships!

Worthy of Respect? Aug 30, 2022

How do we define respect? In today's podcast, Dr. Chris and Alisa Grace discuss how scripture and research inform the different ways men and women interpret respect and share tips on how to make your significant other feel loved and respected.

Pornography in a Dating Relationship Aug 16, 2022

How should I respond if I find out my partner is viewing pornography? In today's podcast, Dr. Chris and Alisa Grace share ideas on how to bring up the conversation of porn in a dating relationship and if they struggle, how to move forward with that information in your relationship.

Sensitive Relationship Topics: Jealousy, Engagement, Intimacy Aug 02, 2022

How do you deal with jealousy when your partner has best friends of the opposite sex?

How do you know when you’re ready to move from dating to engagement?

If you're getting too intimate in your relationship, how do you stop?

These questions and more are addressed in today's podcast when Dr. Chris and Alisa Grace dive deep into topics of jealousy and insecurity, maturity for advancing relationships, and crossing boundaries in relationships. Their supportive insight guides couples to push aside their physical intmacy and keep God at the center of their relationship.

Little Miracles- God's Common Grace Jul 05, 2022

Does God still work miracles? Where can you see them in your own life? In today's podcast, Dr. Chris Grace, Alisa Grace, and Dr. Tim Muehlhoff explore miracles, both big and small and how we can see them better.

Eyes to See God's Grace Jun 21, 2022

In part one of a podcast series, Dr. Chris and Alisa Grace are joined by former Art of Relationships podcast host and current co-director of The Winsome Conviction Project, Dr. Tim Muehlhoff to talk about his latest book, Eyes to See: Recognizing God's Common Grace in an Unsettled World.

Overlook or Overcome? Jun 07, 2022

Conflict is inevitable in every relationship, but what types of conflict should you overlook or try to overcome? In today's podcast, Dr. Chris and Alisa Grace share strategies on when to be accommodating, work through disagreements, or when to seek professional help if emotions get out of hand.

When Does Anger Become Abuse? May 24, 2022

Is your anger abusive towards other people? At what point does it become a problem? In today's podcast, Dr. Chris and Alisa Grace teach us how to identify triggers and effectively manage anger in our relationships to avoid hurting others.

Calendaring Your Companionship May 11, 2022

How do you maintain a strong, intimate relationship when you and your partner both have busy lives? In today's podcast, hosts Dr. Chris and Alisa Grace discuss four common barriers that prevent couples from spending quality time together, and offer practical, fun solutions to overcoming them!

Coping with Emotionally Draining Friendships? Apr 26, 2022

Do you have friends in your life that leave you emotionally drained and burdened? Do those encounters leave you empty instead of fulfilled? Do you regularly have to endure their drama? In today’s podcast, Dr. Chris and Alisa Grace share tools to evaluate those relationships and offer effective approaches to those conversations in the future.

Ready to Mingle? Mar 29, 2022

Are you single but want to be in a relationship? In today's podcast, Dr. Chris and Alisa Grace meet with Laura Austin, the dating coach behind "Hey Mrs. Austin", to discuss how patience and proactivity work together to have a dating relationship in God's timing. Learn how to prepare yourself for dating through prayer and meeting new people, outline dating goals for what you want in a relationship, and change your mindset to be open to discerning God's will in dating!

Love Is Not Enough Mar 16, 2022

In today's podcast, Dr. Chris and Alisa Grace dig deep into questions of faithfulness in regards to the topics of commitment issues, pornography, and drifting apart in relationships. They remind us that love is not enough for a relationship and suggest tips on when to pursue a relationship or when to back away from one.

Listen to Understand Mar 02, 2022

In today’s podcast, Dr. Chris and Alisa Grace walk through an example of a relationship conflict and discuss the benefits of using the Speaker Listener strategy to emphasize the message of listening to understand.

Are You Living in the Present? Feb 02, 2022

Are you constantly on your phone when you’re with other people? Your friends? Your spouse? Your kids? In today’s short, but powerful podcast, learn the critical impact that constantly being on your phone can have on your relationships and some easy tips for being present when you're present!

Should I Share My Password? Jan 19, 2022

How do you know if your spouse is cheating or not? Do you need to have their password in order to feel more secure in your relationship? In this podcast, Dr. Chris Grace and his wife Alisa unpack when it's ok to share personal information, and remind us that successful relationships are built on trust and transparency.

Holiday Traditions, Difficult In-laws, and Unmet Expectations Jan 05, 2022

You may have just experienced some difficulties over the holidays, especially if you have recently been married. How do you, as a newlywed couple, establish your own holiday traditions? In today's episode, Dr. Chris and Alisa Grace give helpful tips and encouragement on setting boundaries and dealing with difficult expectations during the holidays.

'Tis the Cuffing Season Dec 22, 2021

Are you settling for someone just to avoid loneliness? It's cuffing season, and sometimes that means feeling desperate for any human connection. In today's podcast, Dr. Chris and Alisa Grace discuss loneliness, finding friendship, and developing deeper emotional connections.

How Should Christians Engage with Cancel Culture? Nov 30, 2021

What is cancel culture? How should Christians respond to the cancel culture in our society today? In this week's podcast, Dr. Chris and Alisa Grace answer these two questions and offer insights on how Christians combat cancel culture with biblical humility, love, and care.

The Beauty of a Christian Marriage: A Conversation with In-N-Out President and CEO Lynsi Snyder-Ellingson and Sean Ellingson Nov 17, 2021

What does a Christian marriage look like? Is it honesty, humility, transparency? In this week's podcast, Dr. Chris Grace and Dr. Tim Muehlhoff invite special guest speakers, Lynsi Snyder-Ellingson, the owner of In-N-Out, and her husband Sean to talk about trials, transparency, ministry, and healing within their Christian marriage.

How to Navigate Jealousy, Friendships, and Conflict Nov 03, 2021

We're bringing back one of our most popular episodes this week where Chris and Tim answer your questions about how to handle jealousy in dating relationships, the role friendships play in a happy marriage, and tools for healthy conflict resolution.

Addiction, Suicide, & the Voice of God Oct 20, 2021

Karrie Garcia has lived a life of extreme moments. Raised as the daughter of a pastor, she began drinking at age 13, was addicted to meth at age 14, and continued to use the drug until age 19. In this podcast episode, she shares how God showed up to restore the life she had built.

How to Create Emotional Intimacy Oct 07, 2021

What is emotional intimacy and how do we create it? Emotional intimacy is the confidence that one can be emotionally vulnerable and still find acceptance, understanding, and support. In today's episode, Dr. Chris and Alisa Grace share four key components of emotional intimacy: safety, longevity, affection, and communication.

How to Guard Your Heart Sep 22, 2021

How do you safely open up to someone without crossing emotional boundaries? In today's podcast, Dr. Chris and Alisa Grace discuss the value of setting emotional boundaries in any relationship, giving practical examples of how that might look in your life.

Are You Dating the Wrong Person? Aug 25, 2021

How do you know if you're dating the wrong person? Is it a gut feeling, or do you wait for the warning signs? In this week's podcast, Dr. Chris and Alisa Grace talk through what it means to be in a relationship that isn't going well.

Is Your Dating Relationship Healthy? Aug 11, 2021

Maybe you're dating someone and you want to know, is this going well? In today's episode, Chris and Alisa Grace dive into five signs of healthy dating and give helpful tips to assess whether the person you're dating is right for you.

Dating 101 Jul 28, 2021

Trying to get out of the friend zone? Looking for that spark? Ready to dive into dating again? In today's episode, Dr. Chris and Alisa Grace talk through the dealbreakers and the dealmakers of dating and offer helpful tips for those looking for a relationship.

How to Date Your Spouse Jul 07, 2021

Whether you are newlywed or have been married for over 20 years, it's time for a date night. Dating allows couples to cultivate an intimate marriage that thrives and brings glory to God. In this week's episode, Dr. Chris and Alisa Grace talk about dating in marriage and how to make your spouse a priority.

Listener Q&A: Will I Be Single Forever? Jun 09, 2021

How do you know you're ready for a relationship? How do you know you're in love if you've never been in love before? In today's episode, Chris and Tim tackle your pressing questions and share their insights on attraction, singleness, and being in love.

How to Disagree with Winsome Conviction May 19, 2021

There are times during conflict when our strong convictions can cause us to lose our relationships. Conflict is universal - we all face conflict at some point. But, are we managing the issues that divide us in a way that actually makes our relationships healthier? In this week's episode, Dr. Chris Grace and Dr. Tim Muehlhoff talk about how to disagree well in our relationships and within the church with Winsome Conviction.

Relationships in The Red Zone May 05, 2021

It's hard to get out of the "red zone", or even recognize when your relationship is in it. In today's episode, OC United Director of the Domestic Abuse Initiative, Donna Mroz, talks Dr. Chris Grace and Dr. Tim Muehlhoff through the telltale signs of abuse and support for those seeking help.

Listener Q&A: Are Your Goals Interfering With Your Marriage? Apr 21, 2021

How do you create a future together in a marriage when your goals may be different? What are healthy ways to deal with conflict? In this week’s episode, Chris and Tim answer your questions, and share valuable tips on strong communication climates, working in synchrony, and building Christ-centered relationships.

"Mom, Dad, I'm Moving In With My Girlfriend" Apr 07, 2021

How are you going to respond to this shocking news? In this week’s Art of Relationships podcast episode, Chris and Tim discuss how responding with warmth, love, and patience can reinforce respect and acceptance in your relationship with your children. Diving deeper, they talk about the power of childlike love, faith, and affection to draw people closer to Jesus.

How to Rewrite Your Internal Script Mar 24, 2021

In this week's episode, Chris and Tim discuss how the subconscious "subtitles" in a conversation can reinforce a negative view of your partner and your marriage. Drawing on wisdom from John Gottman's book, they provide tools to help prevent your internal script from taking on a decidedly negative tone.

Listener Q&A Feb 24, 2021

In this week's episode, Chris and Tim answer some of your questions and share helpful, Christ-centered insights on dating, cohabitation, and more.

The Infertility Journey (Part 2) Feb 17, 2021

Founders of Uniquely Knitted Doug and Jesse Brown continue their conversation from last week with Chris and Tim about the difficulties of infertility and how to face these struggles as a couple.

The Infertility Journey Feb 10, 2021

In this week's episode, Chris and Tim are joined by Doug and Jesse Brown, founders of Uniquely Knitted, a non-profit that supports the infertility community. Through transparency and honesty, they unpack some of the pains, struggles, questions, and life-altering realities that anyone struggling with infertility can face.

Are You Treating Your Spouse Like a Roommate? Part 2 Feb 03, 2021

In this week's episode, Dr. Greg Smalley from Focus on the Family, Chris, and Tim continue their conversation from last week emphasizing the importance of friendship, communication, and so much more in marriage.

Are You Treating Your Spouse Like a Roommate? Jan 27, 2021

Staying at home has forced a lot of people to spend time with their spouses. This can often result in your significant other feeling more like a roommate rather than a spouse. In this week's episode, Dr. Greg Smalley from Focus on the Family joins Chris and Tim to talk about the importance of being intentional and making small, daily connections with your spouse.

Sabbath: Market Day of the Soul Jan 20, 2021

Sabbath has never been more important than it is right now. Between online school, work, church, and Zoom fatigue, we need a reminder to set time aside for rest. Being stuck at home all day doesn't mean we aren't wearing ourselves out. Author Arlene Pellicane returns to talk about rest, Sabbath, and more on today's podcast episode.

Are You Addicted to Your Smartphone? Jan 13, 2021

How much time do you spend on your phone a day? With everyone working remote, it's likely that you spend more time than usual looking at a screen. Dr. Chris Grace and Dr. Tim Muehlhoff invite author Arlene Pellicane to talk about her new book Screen Kids, co-wrote with Gary Chapman. They discuss her approach to smartphones, parenting, screen time, and more.

The Community of Marriage Jan 06, 2021

Marriage was not designed to be done alone. Chris and Tim invite Jackie and Stephana Bledosoe to discuss the importance of surrounding your marriage with a community of believers who can pray with you, encourage you, and be honest with you and your spouse.

God's Common Grace Dec 09, 2020

Depression and anxiety are real issues. God has given us tools and the grace to overcome these things. Chris and Tim invite Debra Fileta, author of True Love Dates, to discuss the spiritual and physiological aspects of mental illness, the stigmas surrounding antidepressants and other medications, and God's common grace that represents His faithfulness to us.

Wired to Love Nov 11, 2020

How do we show love and kindness to others in a time when our culture is so polarized? Chris and Tim invite Bob Lepine, author of Love Like You Mean It: The Heart of a Marriage that Honors God, to discuss the power behind 1 Corinthians 13, proactively serving others, and letting the Holy Spirit work through active pursuit of love.

Marriage in Counterculture Oct 28, 2020

American culture has turned God's plan for marriage upside down. From Hollywood film to social media, a committed relationship has been redefined from God's original plan. Chris and Tim invite guest speaker Bob Lepine from FamilyLife Today to talk about what marriage looks like in counterculture and how to share that message with the rest of the world.

Moving Past the Fear of Intimacy in Your Marriage Oct 14, 2020

What does it mean to “let the Holy Spirit guide your marriage”? What do you do if you're too afraid to be vulnerable with your spouse? In this episode, Chris and Tim not only unpack these ideas, but also provide practical insight on difficult questions about constructive feedback, infatuation with what we do not have, and more.

Spiritually Defending Your Marriage Sep 30, 2020

Spiritual warfare and marriage. At first glance, these two things may not seem to overlap, but what if they did? What would that look like? In this episode, we discuss the fact that marriages are indeed a target of spiritual warfare but it probably looks much different than you would imagine! Take a listen!

Can COVID-19 be a Friendship Breaker? Sep 16, 2020

COVID-19 has changed almost everything about relationships in 2020. Stay 6 feet apart, don't gather in groups, and work from home. On this week's podcast, Dr. Chris Grace and Dr. Tim Muehlhoff discuss the social tension and division created by the pandemic. They answer listener questions about masks, how to respond when friends and family have differing opinions on social distancing, and confronting marital issues. If you have a question you'd like us to answer in one of our upcoming podcasts, you can ask us here!

Do you Have Regrets? Part 2 Sep 02, 2020

Chris and Tim pick up where they left off in last week's episode about regrets. They talk about if men or women statistically have more regrets, sacrificing family life on the altar of career success, and more.

Do You Have Regrets? Aug 19, 2020

How do you deal with regrets in your marriage? In this week's Art of Relationships episode, Chris and Tim talk about affairs, missed opportunities, emotional absence, and more.

Conflict and Marital Affairs Aug 05, 2020

Conflict is inevitable in any close relationship, but there is cause for concern when reoccurring issues foster conflict in marriages. If not addressed, recurring conflicts caused by marital “affairs,” will lead to a decrease in emotional connection, trust and intimacy. Listen to this episode for strategies to help you protect your marriage.

Can My Significant Other Be My Accountability Partner? Jul 22, 2020

Chris and Tim got together over Zoom this week to answer listener questions on the Art of Relationships podcast. Today’s topic covers accountability partners: is it okay to be accountability partners with the person you are dating? What is the line between authenticity and oversharing?

How to Talk About Divisive Issues Jul 08, 2020

How do you talk about divisive issues with people that disagree with you? Chris and Tim got together this week to talk about healthy tactics that facilitate healthy conversation on controversial topics.

Your Questions Answered Part Three Jun 24, 2020

Chris and Tim answer listener questions about infatuation, love at first sight, finances, and more on this week's Art of Relationships podcast episode.

Your Questions Answered Part Two Jun 11, 2020

Chris and Tim answer listener questions about divorce, dating, compatibility, and more!

CMR Ask the Expert: Your Questions Answered! May 27, 2020

Chris Grace and Tim Muhelhoff sit down this week to answer our listeners' questions about spiritual maturity, finances, family, and more!

The Power of Perception Pt. II Mar 18, 2020

What makes a conversation turn sideways? Why do words have the ability to hold power over us? Believe it or not, our perceptions have a lot to do with it. In this episode, Tim and Chris dive deeper into how our perceptions of ourselves affect relationships.

The Power of Perception Pt. I Mar 04, 2020

Whether we like it or not, our reality is based on our perceptions. In this episode, Chris and Tim explore how perceptions shape our relationships and how to discern when they can help or hinder healthy connection with others.

What Makes a Good Relationship? Feb 19, 2020

We often focus on negative aspects to avoid when evaluating relationships. But what makes a good relationship? In this episode, Tim and Chris discuss a few indicators of healthy relationships.

Confronting Negative Biases Feb 05, 2020

Words matter, and unfortunately, negative words are often the ones that stick with us. Proverbs 18:21 says, "life and death are in the power of the tongue." In this episode, Chris and Tim explore negative biases, where they come from, how they impact relationships, and how to deal with them.

Cohabitation: Why not live together? Jan 22, 2020

Doesn’t it make sense to save money by living together before marriage? According to research, cohabitation actually has negative consequences on the longevity of the relationship. In this episode, we share fascinating insights on the differences between couples who are cohabitating and couples who are married.

The Top Three Types of Compatibility Jan 08, 2020

When we find someone who is compatible with us, we most likely find that person more attractive, develop greater intimacy and connection, and establish a solid friendship. It is clear that compatibility matters – so what are the types of compatibility that are most important to determining relational health and success? In this podcast, we explore three types of core compatibility and what they mean for our relationships.

How Can I Stay Invested In The Relationship? Dec 25, 2019

What counts as a date-night? How do I balance my relationship with the rest of life's demands? In this episode of the podcast, we continue the conversation with Dr. Bradford Wilcox, Director of the National Marriage Project at the University of Virginia. He points to some research and advice on the benefit of making small investments in your marriage. As a father of nine children, he has learned quite a few lessons on this topic personally.

How Do I Recognize Spiritual Attack In My Marriage? Dec 11, 2019

In the majority of Western culture, the idea of spiritual warfare is not talked about often. In the context of marriage, most couples tend to under-emphasize spiritual warfare in their relationship rather than over-emphasizing it. Why is that? When you take a step back and look at our world, it is easy to see that something is wrong. It can feel that there is a war going on and we are caught in the cross-fire. In your relationship, how can you tell if there is a spiritual attack going on? Are there signs that are universal?

Contentment in an Age of Discontent Nov 27, 2019

In a world that says you have to have it all, how should we respond? More importantly, how do we develop an attitude of contentment? In this podcast, Dr. Chris Grace and Dr. Tim Muehlhoff explain how to foster contentment and joy in an age of discontent.

The Making Of Healthy Sexuality Nov 13, 2019

Friends with benefits, living together, cohabitation, and sexual freedom are all part of the culture we live in. As Christians who are called to live differently, what does healthy sexuality look like? In this episode of The Art of Relationships, Dr. Chris Grace and Dr. Tim Muehlhoff discuss the ingredients that make up healthy sexuality.

How Should We View Sexuality Today? Oct 30, 2019

Sex is talked about in a lot of different ways in our culture today and Christian culture is no exception. A biblical perspective of sex is unique and does not often get much attention. How should married couples think about sex? What are some of the things to be aware of in sex? In this podcast, Dr. Chris Grace and Dr. Tim Muehlhoff begin to unpack how important it can be to talk about sex in the context of marriage.

Is This Friendship Toxic? Oct 16, 2019

Friendships are supposed to be life-giving, but what happens when they are not? What can you look for in friendships that bring the opposite? In this podcast, Dr. Chris Grace and Dr. Tim Muehlhoff discuss how to identify and deal with toxic friendships.

Your Marriage Is On Display! Oct 02, 2019

When you haven't had a model for what a healthy relationship looks like, where do you turn? We talk with Mike and Stephanie Anderson as they describe their story. Growing up in a home without a solid model of marriage, Mike had doubts about marriage being worth investing in. Where he learned to appreciate marriage may surprise you!

Fear or Love: What Is Motivating You? Sep 18, 2019

When a person wants to change something about their life, how should they be motivated? Often, fear motivates a person to try to change their behavior or cover their actions so no one sees it. What would acceptance and love do for that person? In this podcast episode, we continue our conversation with Karrie Garcia the work she has done with addicts or those tempted with adultery or those caught in shame.

Is Marriage Worth Choosing? Aug 21, 2019

"If you're not fighting in a relationship, then someone's lying. Someone's not telling the truth because you're taking a passive stance...There is a huge difference between selflessness and passivity. A lot of times in the name of selflessness, we're just like 'Well, I'm not going to bring it up. I'm not going to say what I need. I'm not going to talk through this.' That's not selflessness, that's conflict avoiding."

Today we continue the conversation with author Debra Fileta on how intentionally couples need to continually choose marriage rather than choosing to focus on personal happiness.

What Should Dating Look Like? Aug 07, 2019

First dates, love notes, romance, there are so many different approaches to how it should be done. Christians are often told to avoid the hookup culture that is so common today, but beyond that, what should they do?

Are You Partnering With The Holy Spirit? Jul 24, 2019

"We're talking about gritty, person to person intimacy of two people who know each other better than anyone else on the planet, and they still remain committed and in love with one another."

Dennis Rainey had a vision to help equip engaged and newly married couples around him. He felt the need struggling relationships had for tools and felt God call him to help mentor them. Fast forward 40 years and FamilyLife Conferences have reached hundreds of thousands of couples who want to set a strong foundation for their relationship. We got to talk about how marriage is changing and struggles that many couples find themselves in.

What Are Your Emotions Saying To You? Jul 10, 2019

“It's an important distinction to make, that the parts of us are not bad. Just like you have arms and legs, parts of your soul aren't bad. You want them, and they can work for you. The problem is if they become extreme, or if they take you over and you're not being led by the Holy Spirit.”

Are You Listening? Your Emotions Are Talking Jun 26, 2019

Anger, shame, sadness, envy, criticism. When you feel these emotions build up inside you, what is your gut instinct? What if those emotions are trying to tell you something about what is important to you? What if they are coming from a place that needs your attention? On this episode of the podcast, we talk with Kim Miller, MTh, LMFT, and author of Boundaries For Your Soul. She explains that our emotions can tell us a lot about ourselves...if we will just listen!

CMR's Freeway Series: Angels v. Dodgers Pt.2 Jun 12, 2019

"So, if my son has a bad game am I just going to go throttle on him and lay on more after the game. That's not what he needs to hear. He kind of needs to hear the 'I love you no matter what.' That's important to show like 'I love you when you do well' and 'I love you when you do bad' because my love is not indicative of your results. That is really important for a child to hear that. Like, 'I love you no matter what, okay?'
Tune in as we continue the conversation with the Angels and Dodgers chaplains as they discuss how to parent their own kids in the midst of a performance-driven culture.

CMR's Freeway Series: Angels vs. Dodgers Pt. I May 29, 2019

When you think "baseball", does your mind show you images of the World Series, home runs, hot dogs, loaded bases, and mascots? What about the personal side of a baseball team? Where do they get emotional and spiritual support? In today's podcast, the LA Dodgers chaplain Brandon Cash and LA Angels chaplain Jack Grogger take us inside the innings as we kickstart our new Freeway Series!

What Happens When Life Goes Sideways? May 15, 2019

"We want to fix it. We do want to provide answers. There's a fear when we hear somebody start to question God and we feel like we've got to fix that for them right away..."

We continue the conversation with Dr. Ed Uszynski in this podcast episode. After a car accident that severely injured his leg, as well as the death of a close friend and the loss of a friend's grandson, Ed reflects with us on what he needs most in the dark moments following a tragedy.

Marriage Just Isn't The Same Anymore May 01, 2019

"Marriage has fallen on hard times in our culture. It doesn't get held up as something admirable and something that gets handed down to the next generation. So I feel like people are more and more on their own trying to figure it out for themselves."

In this episode of the podcast, Dr. Chris Grace and Dr. Tim Muehlhoff talk with Dr. Ed Uszynski, contributing author to Athletes in Action and speaker for FamilyLife. Marriage is changing and more people start marriage without the tools to succeed. How is that showing up in those relationships? Listen to hear this discussion!

Listener Questions Answered Pt. 6 Apr 17, 2019

"We want to connect with a marriage counselor, but there aren't any near us?" "My friend is making some bad decisions! What do I do?" What do you think? How would you respond to these? These are just some of the questions we get to answer on today's podcast. These situations are ones that listeners have submitted to us and we love taking time to answer them. Listen as Dr. Grace and Dr. Muehlhoff share their thoughts on these situations and others.

What Good Is Social Media, Anyway? Apr 03, 2019

Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, YouTube, LinkedIn. The list can go on and on. Social media sites can be found just about anywhere you look. So often we talk about the negative impacts social media can have on relationships but rarely do we flesh out what those are. And even more rarely do we ever consider benefits that social media can bring to our relationships. How has social media impacted your relationships?

How Do I Balance Marriage With The Rest Of My Life? Mar 20, 2019

"We see our marriage as kind of a tag-team. During certain times, I could be there for him and take a lot of slack. And then he was very happy to tag-team me, to help with when I went to school." In this podcast, Dr. Chris Grace and Dr. Tim Muehlhoff continue their conversation with Mandy Catto on the strain placed on marriage when one person takes on extra responsibilities like graduate school or changing careers and how things like spiritual formation can be vital to your relationship.

Is It Okay To Propose On The First Date? Mar 06, 2019

"So we had our first date shortly after that camp. I proposed to him during that first date. So there you go...I do remember he dropped his fork back into his plate at that particular moment. So we didn't really talk about it again." Please allow us to introduce you to Mandy Catto. She will be a more regular voice here on the Art of Relationships podcast, as you will hear. In this podcast, we talk about how she met and married her husband, her journey from Scotland to Southern California, her thoughts on American dating culture, and the American church compared to the Scottish church.

Does It Really Matter How You Say it? Feb 20, 2019

"I grew up watching my parents argue, and I just made a note to self when I got married, we wouldn't have any conflict. We're just not doing it..."
How do you handle difficult conversations? Do you jump right in or avoid them at all costs? How you say what's on your mind is incredibly important. It can require a lot of discernment to know when and how to have these conversations. In this episode, we break down some things to think about before jumping in. Take a listen!

Before Things Go From Bad To Worse Feb 06, 2019

Breaking up over twitter? Telling them something really important in a text? Does it really make a difference how you do it? Most of us would share a resounding yes, but how what are the rules? In this podcast episode, Dr. Chris Grace and Dr. Tim Muehlhoff share thoughts about the way you communicate having a huge impact on the message that the person hears you sharing.

When CMR Meets The NFL Pt. II Jan 23, 2019

What happens when she says "I don't love you anymore?" In today's podcast, Dr. Chris Grace and Dr. Tim Muehlhoff continue the conversation with former Detroit Lions chaplain, Dave Wilson. When his wife shared that with him on the night of their tenth anniversary, they had to reevaluate their relationship and where they were headed. How did they go from this place to now leading marriage ministries? Listen and find out!

When CMR Meets the NFL Pt. I Jan 09, 2019

"At one point I sat down with God to pray that I would die so that I could get out of my marriage to my wife." In this podcast, former NFL Chaplain for the Detroit Lions Dave Wilson sits down with Dr. Chris Grace and Dr. Tim Muehlhoff to share his story. Dave is currently one of the lead pastors of Kensington Church in Troy, Michigan. He walks us through how his marriage has grown from its rocky start. How did he grow from that low point to now leading marriage conferences around the country? Take a listen!

Building A Marriage While Building The Fairly OddParents Pt. II Dec 19, 2018

When life changes bring uncertainty and fear into your relationship, what do you do? What about when your job is threatened? Or your spouse has a chronic illness? For Nickelodeon producer and animator Butch Hartman and his wife Juliann, that is exactly what happened in their marriage. Five different times the Fairly OddParents was threatened to be canceled. Juliann struggled with depression for eight years. Listen to what they learned about fear and commitment to their relationship through the hard times.

Building A Marriage While Building The Fairly OddParents Pt.I Dec 05, 2018

Does the name Butch Hartman sound familiar? What about the FairlyOdd Parents? In this episode of our podcast, Dr. Chris Grace and Dr. Tim Muehlhoff talk with Butch Hartman, the creator, producer, and lead animator of The FairlyOdd Parents, an animated television series that aired on Nickelodeon for over 20 years! He and his wife Juliann share the story of how they met, how they got started in the entertainment world, and how they had to learn to fight for their marriage in the midst of the demands of their careers.

How And Why Should I Pray For My Marriage? Nov 21, 2018

Revisiting the topic of spiritual warfare, we focus on prayer being a powerful tool to fight for your marriage. Focusing specifically on the Lord's Prayer, we break down each piece and talk through the authority it gives to believers and to marriage relationships. What does it mean that we are called to pray to "our Father?" What does it mean to keep His name holy?

What It's All About: Relationship Advice with In-N-Out CEO Nov 07, 2018

In-N-Out is a recognized name in the U.S. and is associated with delicious hamburgers and iconic palm trees. In this podcast episode, In-N-Out owner and operator Lynsi Snyder shares some of the wisdom she has learned over the years about prioritizing family over work and finding support in the difficult times in your marriage. With a company valued at $1.3 billion, she has had to learn these lessons in a very unique environment yet shares them with a clarity that anyone in relationships can connect with.

A Spiritual Battle-Plan For Marriage Oct 24, 2018

This is the third episode in our series on spiritual warfare in marriage. There is a spiritual component to any relationship and marriage is no exception. Once we start to recognize the signs of spiritual attack, what can be done to fight for the marriage? What can be done to guard the relationship? Listen to this episode and find out these practical tips!

Listener Questions Answered pt.5 Sep 12, 2018

Casual dating. Gratitude. Doubts about your dating relationship. These are some of the many topics that listeners are submitting to us. On this episode of the podcast, we explore some of these topics and answer questions that come up often when considering healthy relationships. Take a listen!

Question and Answer with the National Marriage Project Aug 29, 2018

In this episode of the podcast, we continue the conversation with Dr. Bradford Wilcox, Director of the National Marriage Project at University of Virginia and contributing scholar to Institute for Family Studies. He points to some research on how important fathers are to their children, how playtime builds a connection with parents from their children, and how faith is passed down from parent to child.

Living Together: Is It Really That Bad? Aug 01, 2018

From some of the research, children who are born to cohabiting parents are 90% more likely to see their mom and dad break up by the time they turn 12. The data is painting a picture of cohabitation that isn't talked about. What do you think about these statistics?

Are They Affected By The Divorce, Really? Jul 18, 2018

When a divorce takes place, does it really affect the people around you? Are the children in the family really affected? In this podcast, Dr. Chris Grace and Dr. Tim Muehlhoff continue their discussion on divorce and some of the ways that a divorce affects more than just the couple involved. If Christians believe that marriage is a covenant, this life-long commitment, how should those marriages look different?

Is It Really "Till Death Do You Part?" Jul 04, 2018

When you get married, is it really till death do you part? When a marriage starts to go sideways and divorce starts to become a topic of conversation, what do you do? From a Christian perspective, there are very specific instructions on how this can play out. That is the topic of this podcast episode! Join Dr. Chris Grace and Dr. Tim Muehlhoff as they share their thoughts and some research on this topic of divorce.

The Do's And Don'ts Of A Breakup Jun 20, 2018

A break up can be a tough thing to go through. A lot of pain and healing ensues, even if the break up is handled well. What are some of the common ways that a break up is not handled well? Does the person leave the door open for a future relationship out of compassion? What about a person who does not clearly communicate that the relationship is over and just "disappears?" These issues and more are the topics of this podcast episode! Have you ever experienced these before?

Pornography: Will You Ever Trust Them Again? Jun 06, 2018

If a person in your life has opened up to an addiction to pornography, it can be devastating. When they begin to make the climb back, how do they go about rebuilding the trust of the people close to them? This is the topic of this podcast episode. Dr. Tim Muehlhoff and Dr. Chris Grace explore some ways that they can regain your trust and ways that you can learn to give them that trust.

Pornography: How Do We Fight Back? May 23, 2018

Continuing their series on sexuality focusing on pornography, Dr. Chris Grace and Dr. Tim Muehlhoff explore how to respond when pornography has become part of your life. For the one using pornography or one close to someone using pornography, part of what we believe as Christians is that there is a spiritual component to our lives. How do we engage spiritually in addiction or pornography use? What do you think?

The Naked Truth About Pornography May 09, 2018

Take a look at some startling facts: of all the data transferred across the Internet, 35% is pornographic. Porn sites get more visitors each month than Netflix, Amazon, and Twitter combined. The porn industry has an annual expected global revenue of over $100 billion. With these statistics, what do we do? What should we be aware of in raising children? In today's podcast, Dr. Chris Grace and Dr. Tim Muehlhoff discuss pornography and it's effect on our culture.

The Making of Healthy Sexuality Apr 25, 2018

Friends with benefits, living together, cohabitation, and sexual freedom are all part of the culture we live in. As Christians who are called to live differently, what does healthy sexuality look like? In this episode of The Art of Relationships, Dr. Chris Grace and Dr. Tim Muehlhoff discuss the ingredients that make up healthy sexuality.

How Should We View Sexuality Today? Apr 11, 2018

Sex is talked about in a lot of different ways in our culture today and Christian culture is no exception. A biblical perspective of sex is unique and does not often get much attention. How should married couples think about sex? What are some of the things to be aware of in sex? In this podcast, Dr. Chris Grace and Dr. Tim Muehlhoff begin to unpack how important it can be to talk about sex in the context of marriage.

Can You Handle Difficult Discussions? Mar 28, 2018

When someone does something that consistently bothers you, can you talk about the issue with them? Does the conversation tend to spiral down into a harsh back-and-forth? In this podcast, psychologist Dr. Chris Grace and communication expert Dr. Tim Muehlhoff talk about key ways you can slow down these tense conversations and communicate how you feel without the conversation disintegrating.

Learning To Be Persuasive? Mar 14, 2018

When you enter an argument or a discussion with someone, what is happening as you are trying to convince them of your perspective? When you really do believe that you are right, how do you convince them? Today, Dr. Tim Muehlhoff and Dr. Chris Grace offer answers from psychology and communication theory.

Can Gratitude Change Your Perspective? Feb 28, 2018

When your dream of playing basketball is lost over a broken knee, where do you find hope? When you experience someone in your life coming down with cancer, what keeps your head up? In this podcast today, Dr. Tim Muehlhoff and Dr. Chris Grace talk about how deeply we can feel disappointment and how we might combat that with gratitude.

The Real News About Fake Love Feb 19, 2018

This is a special episode of our Art of Relationships podcast. Both recorded and filmed on Facebook Live during this past Valentine's Day, Dr. Tim Muehlhoff and Dr. Chris Grace recorded their thoughts on "The Real News about Fake Love." They share insight into how to tell the difference between healthy and unhealthy relationships and real versus fake love. Watch the video accompanied with the podcast to see how the two of them interact! Listen as they take questions from their viewers!

Fighting Discontent with Gratitude Feb 14, 2018

Have you noticed? The culture around us pushes an idea that we should never settle for something we have, always trying to reach out for something bigger or better, newer or more intriguing. Today Dr. Chris Grace and Dr. Tim Muehlhoff explain how taking time to be grateful for what you have can be a way to fight discontent. See if any of their tips resonate with you!

Imitation and Influence Jan 17, 2018

Have you ever seen a child imitate their parent? Or their friends? After looking at some research studies, Dr. Chris Grace and Dr. Tim Muehlhoff explain that we never really grow out of that. Are you aware of the things that influence you and how they impact your behavior? Are you aware of who is imitating you?Tune in to this discussion and hear to learn how much you might be influenced by what is happening around you!

The Power of Influence in Marriage Jan 03, 2018

Continuing their discussion of influence and it's role in relationships, Dr. Chris Grace and Dr. Tim Muehlhoff turn their focus to marriage. In marriage, what role does influence play? How much influence should there be in decision making? How does your spouse express their opinions and desires? Do you have the chance to express yours? Listen as they discuss influence. Does it spark any thoughts on your own relationship? Share with us!

The Power of Influence pt. II Dec 20, 2017

How important is it to be able to influence the decisions or direction in your relationships? A vital part of relationships is listening to each other. But, if your opinions or thoughts do not impact another person, is that something that should be addressed? Today, Dr. Tim Muehlhoff and Dr. Chris Grace talk through when you are not able to influence people close to you and what that might mean in your relationships.

The Power of Influence pt. I Dec 06, 2017

What influences you? Are you drawn to certain personalities over others? Do you trust people instinctively, even if you have just met them? Where does the ability to influence others come from? Today, Dr. Chris Grace and Dr. Tim Muehlhoff talk through the power of influence in our lives.

Are Close Friends of the Opposite-Sex Okay After Marriage? Nov 22, 2017

Friendship can be a strong source of joy and encouragement in your life, both same-sex and opposite-sex friendships. However, when you marry, there are different perspectives on whether or not those close friendships of the opposite-sex should continue. Listen as Dr. Chris Grace and Dr. Tim Muehlhoff approach this issue from different perspectives. Which side of the issue do you find yourself on?

Signs of a Healthy Friendship Nov 08, 2017

Friendships come and go, but what are the signs of a long-lasting, healthy friendship? Dr. Chris Grace and Dr. Tim Muehlhoff discuss the signs of a healthy friendship in today's Art of Relationships Podcast.

Signs of a Toxic Friendship Oct 25, 2017

Friendships are supposed to be life-giving, but what happens when they are not? What can you look for in friendships that bring the opposite? In today's podcast, Dr. Chris Grace and Dr. Tim Muehlhoff discuss how to identify and deal with toxic friendships.

Navigating the Art of Friendships, pt. II Oct 11, 2017

We all long for meaningful friendships, but how do you know if a friendship is emotionally safe? In today's podcast, Dr. Chris Grace and Dr. Tim Muehlhoff discuss what emotionally safe, deep and genuine friendships look like and how to cultivate healthy friendships.

Navigating the Art of Friendships, pt. 1 Sep 26, 2017

Research has shown that friendships are truly life-giving, and are directly tied to our quality of life. Today, Dr. Chris Grace and Dr. Tim Muehlhoff discuss how to cultivate, nurture, and navigate friendships in the age of technology, and how friendships affect our self-perception.

Morality and Ethics in Marriage Sep 13, 2017

Infertility treatments. End-of-life issues. Are questions about morals and ethics important in marriage? You bet they are! So before a crisis occurs in your family, it is vital to have a conversation with your spouse about these kinds of difficult issues. In today's podcast, Dr. Scott B. Rae, an expert on ethics and morality, joins our hosts, Dr. Chris Grace and Dr. Tim Muehlhoff, to discuss how, why and when to have these difficult conversations within the context of marriage.

Is Money Affecting Your Relationship? Aug 30, 2017

You can bet your bottom dollar that the issue of money will come up in a seriously dating, engaged, or marriage relationship. How do you approach such a tricky subject with truth and love? In today's podcast, Dr. Chris Grace and Dr. Tim Muehlhoff discuss the topic of finances within the context of engagement and marriage.

Listener Questions Answered, pt. 4 Aug 16, 2017

How do you handle financial stress in marriage? How do you set boundaries in a blended marriage? What do you do if only one person in the marriage wants to stay in it? In today's Art of Relationships podcast, Dr. Chris Grace and Dr. Tim Muehlhoff answer your questions about marriage.

Listener Questions Answered, pt. 3 Aug 02, 2017

How do you handle conflict with your spouse? What do you do when your spouse has a significant illness? And the biggest question of all, what is the purpose of marriage? In today's podcast, Dr. Christ Grace and Dr. Tim Muehlhoff answer your questions about marriage with humor and common sense advice. Tune in to hear your questions and more answered, on the Art of Relationships.

Listener Questions Answered, pt. 2 Jul 19, 2017

When dating, questions about marriage, conflicts about social media, and many other issues can start to rise. How you handle these questions and conflicts inevitably shape your relationship. Today, Dr. Chris Grace and Dr. Tim Muehlhoff tackle these questions within the context of dating. Tune in to hear your questions, answered.

Listener Questions Answered, pt. 1 Jul 05, 2017

How do I know if I am dating the right person? Should relatively minor things like cleanliness affect a relationship? Has God chosen one specific person for me to marry? What if I choose wrong? In today's podcast, Dr. Chris Grace and Dr. Tim Muehlhoff answer your questions about dating, God's will, and more on the Art of Relationships.

The Influence of Technology on Relationships, pt. 2 Jun 21, 2017

In a time when it seems everyone is on their cell phone, it is important to understand the significant influence that technology has on us. Research has shown that people feel more connected to others simply because of their smartphones. Yet, with the use of smartphones and other technologies on the rise, we also need to create healthy boundaries and balance when it comes to our relationships. Dr. Chris Grace and Dr. Tim Muehlhoff discuss common sense ways to find this balance in the age of constant connection.

The Influence of Technology on Relationships, pt. 1 Jun 07, 2017

We are in the age of constant connection. It's not that technology is bad, the problem is that the poor use of it can negatively impact our relationships. While technology makes it easier to connect with those who are far from us, if not used wisely, it can also make it more difficult for us to stay connected with those who are near to us. In today's podcast, Dr. Chris Grace and Dr. Tim Muehlhoff discuss the pros and cons of current technology and how they influence our relationships.

How Parenting Impacts Your Child, pt. 2 May 24, 2017

Relationships are hard work, and parenting is certainly no exception. Child psychologists say that ages newborn to six are extremely formative in a child's self-identity, making it critical to establish a healthy parenting philosophy early on. In today's podcast, Dr. Chris Grace and Dr. Tim Muehlhoff explore the different seasons of parenting styles and offer practical ways to foster healthy relationships with your children.

How Your Parenting Impacts Your Child May 10, 2017

Relationships are hard work, and parenting is certainly no exception. Child psychologists say that ages zero to six are extremely formative in a child's self-identity, making it critical to establish a healthy parenting philosophy early on. In today's podcast, Dr. Chris Grace and Dr. Tim Muehlhoff break down results from a classic Harvard case study that explores the relationship between parenting and a child's development.

Avoiding Pitfalls of Relational Truces Apr 26, 2017

As discussed in our previous podcast, calling a "relational truce" means designating a period of time where you agree not to talk about the issue that is causing conflict. While it can be beneficial to a relationship, there can also be negative consequences to this method of conflict resolution. In today's podcast Dr. Chris Grace and Dr. Tim Muehlhoff continue their discussion on relational truces, specifically focusing on how to avoid pitfalls of these truces.

Call a "Relational Truce" to Your Conflict Apr 12, 2017

Establishing and cultivating a healthy "relationship climate" can be hard work, especially in the midst of a disagreement. When couples get caught up in the heat of the moment, they can make mistakes that hurt the climate of their relationship. In today's podcast, Dr. Chris Grace and Dr. Tim Muehlhoff explore Proverbs to discuss the concept of a "relational truce" and how to apply it when working through conflict within a marriage.

True Love Dates, pt. 2 Mar 29, 2017

In a world that condones and even encourages the hookup culture, dating for Christians can either become a taboo subject or avoided altogether if not approached with the intent to marry. These two opposite extremes make dating a very confusing subject, especially if you don't belong in either category. In today's podcast, Dr. Chris Grace and Dr. Tim Muehlhoff sit down with Debra Fileta again, author of True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide To Finding the Love of Your Life, to discuss how to navigate relationships well from a healthy Christian perspective.

True Love Dates Mar 15, 2017

In a world that condones and even encourages the hookup culture, dating for Christians can either become a taboo subject or avoided altogether if not approached with the intent to marry. These two opposite extremes make dating a very confusing subject, especially if you don't belong in either category. In today's podcast, Dr. Chris Grace and Dr. Tim Muehlhoff sit down with Debra Fileta, author of True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide To Finding the Love of Your Life, to discuss how Christians can reclaim the concept of casual dating and pursue each other in a God-honoring way.

Do You Need a "Re-Focus" When it Comes to Your Marriage Mindset? Mar 01, 2017

It can be easy for a couple to slip into the mindset of their partner being there to make them happy, all the while losing focus on God's intended purpose for their relationship. What are some ways to re-focus this mindset and instill the biblical truth that marriage primarily is a means of glorifying God? In today's podcast, Dr. Chris Grace and Dr. Tim Muehlhoff sit down with Bryan Loritts, lead pastor of Abundant Life Church in Silicon Valley to explore this topic based on Pastor Loritt's new book, "Saving The Saved: How Jesus Saves Us from Try-Harder Christianity into Performance-Free Love."

Performance-Free Love Feb 15, 2017

We know life was never meant to be a holy hustle, but often times it can be easy for Christians to slip into a white-knuckling mentality to try and earn God's love. If this try-harder attitude inevitably taints our relationship with God, what are some practical ways to rely on God's grace instead of our performance? In today's podcast, Dr. Chris Grace and Dr. Tim Muehlhoff sit down with Bryan Loritts, lead pastor of Abundant Life Church in Silicon Valley, to discuss his newly released book on this very topic, "Saving The Saved: How Jesus Saves Us from Try-Harder Christianity into Performance-Free Love."

Living Out The Five Love Languages Feb 01, 2017

Many working components contribute to a healthy relationship, yet the emotional side of love can be confusing. In today's episode, Dr. Chris Grace and Dr. Tim Muehlhoff sit down with Dr. Gary Chapman, author of the best-selling book, The Five Love Languages, and discuss practical ways to communicate love on an emotional level so our relationships can flourish.

The Art of Good Listening, pt. 2 Jan 18, 2017

Did you know that research shows listening is the most important communication skill for interpersonal relationships and establishing a career? Yet in our fast-paced, high-tech world, it can be a challenge to listen well. In part 2 of this series, Dr. Chris Grace and Dr. Tim Muehlhoff continue their discussion on the importance of listening and explore practical ways of setting aside time to listen to one another.

The Art of Good Listening, pt. 1 Jan 04, 2017

Research shows listening is the most important communication skill for interpersonal relationships and establishing a career. Yet in our fast-paced, high-tech world, it can be a challenge to listen well. In part 1 of this series, Dr. Chris Grace and Dr. Tim Muehlhoff identify common obstacles that prevent us from listening well.

Sanctification Through Marriage Dec 21, 2016

Why did God design marriage? What can we learn about the character of God and His perfect love through a marriage relationship surrendered to Him? In this episode, Dr. Chris Grace and Dr. Tim Muehlhoff take a deeper look at God’s purpose for marriage as they discuss insights from Gary Thomas, author of Sacred Marriage.

Dealing With Holiday Stress Dec 07, 2016

For many people, there seems to be an inherent stress that comes with the holiday season. From hosting family gatherings to encountering various family members, there are a variety of factors that add to the tension of it all. In today's podcast, Dr. Chris Grace and Dr. Tim Muehlhoff share practical advice on how to navigate the stress of the holiday season in a way that honors God and blesses those around you.

How To Marry With Confidence, Pt. 2 Nov 23, 2016

In light of today's divorce rate, one of the biggest questions couples will ask before saying, "I do," is how can they be sure they're marrying the right person and if their love is the kind that will last a lifetime? In this second episode of "How To Marry with Confidence", Drs. Paul and Virginia Friesen continue to discuss their book, Before You Save the Date: 21 Questions to Help You Marry with Confidence.

How To Marry With Confidence Nov 09, 2016

In light of today's divorce rate, one of the biggest questions couples will ask before saying, "I do" is how can they be sure they're marrying the right person and if their love is the kind that will last a lifetime? In this episode, Dr. Chris Grace and Dr. Tim Muehlhoff sit down with the experts, Drs. Paul and Virginia Friesen, and discuss their book Before You Save the Date: 21 Questions to Help You Marry with Confidence.

How to Navigate the Ambiguity of Dating Oct 26, 2016

Because dating is filled with ambiguity, and the tension between strong feelings and the reality of not being married, people can often move too fast towards marriage or end up destroying the relationship. In a Christian culture that often over-spiritualizes dating, where can you go to get sound advice about dating? In this episode, we talk about how to navigate dating well.

Gottman's Best Relationship Advice, Pt. 2 Sep 28, 2016

If you want to know what makes relationships thrive and what tears them apart, learn from John Gottman, one of the leading marital researchers in the world. In this episode, we’ll continue sharing some of his best research-based tips for happy and healthy marriages.

Gottman's Best Relationship Advice, Pt. 1 Sep 14, 2016

Today’s episode dives into a discussion about one of the leading marital researchers in the world – John Gottman. We’ve highlighted some of his best research-based tips for happy and healthy marriages and relationships, including the 5:1 ratio, the magic of 5 hours, love maps, and more!

Conflict and Marital "Affairs" Aug 17, 2016

Conflict is inevitable in any close relationship, but there is cause for concern when reoccurring issues foster conflict in marriages. If not addressed, recurring conflicts caused by marital “affairs,” will lead to a decrease in emotional connection, trust and intimacy. Listen to this episode to learn strategies that will help you protect your marriage.

Mission-Led Parenting In A Culture Of Busyness Aug 03, 2016

If you have kids, your schedule is most likely filled to the brim with extracurricular activities and sports, and your family is pulled in ten million different directions. Our podcast guests Dave and Ann Wilson of Kensington Church in Detroit, Michigan, share their strategies for determining priorities and developing a mission for raising their kids.

Spiritual Compatibility and Ministry Marriages Jul 20, 2016

This episode features guests Dave and Ann Wilson of Kensington Church in Detroit, Michigan. Dave and Ann are incredibly transparent and share about how they started dating and also some of the difficulties they had to overcome in their marriage. If you're getting serious in a dating relationship, don't miss their advice on spiritual compatibility. Listen to hear their story and gain insights on how to protect your marriage whether you are in full-time ministry or not.

Why forgiveness is essential to every relationship Jul 06, 2016

Most Americans will say that forgiveness is important, but when you have something to forgive, it becomes really difficult to do. The way in which you give and extend forgiveness can really shape a relationship. In this podcast, we explore what forgiveness is and isn't, and take you through the process of dealing with deep hurts.

Dealing with Hot Button Issues Jun 22, 2016

When someone says or does something that drives you crazy, you may be dealing with a hot button issue. In this episode, we discuss insights to help you identify the deeper emotions that get triggered from hot button issues, understand why the issue is so important to you and learn how to resolve the conflict well.

4 Ways Culture Impacts Relationships Pt. 2 Jun 08, 2016

In the last episode, we explored the cultural trends of "hurry sickness" and "affluenza" and their impact on relationships. This week, we discuss 2 more cultural trends that result in highly unrealistic expectations for marriage. Listen to gain practical tips on how to overcome these cultural challenges.

4 Ways Culture Impacts Relationships Pt. 1 May 25, 2016

Culture is the backdrop by which we do relationships. For the next 2 podcasts, we're going to tackle what we think are the 4 biggest cultural factors that tend to impact our marriages, families, kids and everybody. Listen to discover how culture influences your quality of interpersonal communication as well as your levels of satisfaction within relationships.

Observations About Marital Love Pt. 2 May 11, 2016

In the last episode, we discovered that marital love must be grounded in friendship, that the ultimate expression of love is unselfishness, and that sexual desire practiced before marriage clouds the ability to evaluate a relationship. Today we continue to discuss three more observations about marital love.

Observations About Marital Love Pt. 1 May 11, 2016

Culture tells us that love is ambiguous or flimsy or can change, and most people fear that their love isn't going to last. Learning how to define what love is, is extremely important, especially if you're moving toward a lasting commitment in marriage. In this episode we discuss criteria for marital love that are crucial for lifelong commitment.

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