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Many people reach a confusing moment in their healing journey: they start dating healthier partners… and suddenly desire feels flat. Calm feels boring. Chemistry disappears.
In this solo episode, John Kim breaks down why this happens - and why it doesn’t mean anything is “wrong” with you.If you’ve ever wondered whether you can rewire attraction without forcing yourself into a relationship that doesn’t feel right, this conversation is for you.
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What if the hardest part of healing isn’t pain — but joy?
John Kim talks with Dr. MC McDonald about grief, intimacy, self-trust, and the quiet ways we hide when connection feels unsafe. MC shares why joy has been the hardest emotion to let in, and how learning to feel safe again changes everything.
A grounded, human conversation about healing while still figuring it out.
🔗 Guest Links
Dr. MC McDonald
Instagram & TikTok: @mc.phd
Website: https://www.drmcmcdonald.com
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If you’re ready for deeper work, the Secure Self course is available HERE
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Some of the hardest questions we bring into therapy aren’t about what happened — they’re about why it hit so deeply.
In this episode, we explore the quiet, uncomfortable moments many people struggle to name:the anxiety between dates, the sudden loss of attraction, the grief that feels bigger than a divorce, and the confusion of wanting connection while needing boundaries.
These aren’t dramatic relationship crises — they’re quiet inner conflicts that many people carry alone. Naming them is often the first step toward clarity, self-respect, and emotional safety.
If any of these questions sound familiar, this episode is for you.
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If you’re ready for deeper work, the Secure Self course is available HERE
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In this episode, John Kim shares a simple moment from the ocean that became a powerful lesson about relationships and emotional repair.
While learning to surf in Costa Rica, two very different encounters in the water reveal why ruptures are unavoidable—but repair is everything.
One moment of anger leads to disconnection. One moment of acknowledgment leads to instant safety and ease.
John also shares details about his upcoming surf retreat in Costa Rica—a space to slow down, regulate the nervous system, build real connection, and experience the healing power of the ocean together.
A reminder that the strength of any relationship isn’t measured by how little we rupture—but by how willing we are to repair.
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📘 Read John’s new book in progress Sh*t Your Therapist Would Never Tell You onJohn’s SubStack HERE
If you’re ready for deeper work, the Secure Self course is available HERE
Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE
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What if the problem isn’t that you haven’t found your purpose — but that you’re trying to find something that was never meant to be found?
In this episode, John sits down with Bill Burnett and Dave Evans, co-creators of Designing Your Life, to explore a radically relieving idea:
There is no final version of you.
Instead of chasing meaning, purpose, or fulfillment as a destination, Bill and Dave invite us to see life as a process of becoming — and meaning as something we practice daily, not achieve once.
This conversation is for anyone who feels behind, unfinished, or quietly exhausted from trying to “figure life out.”
You don’t need a breakthrough. You need a reframe.
🔗 Guest links
Website https://designingyour.life/
Join the Designing Your Life Newsletter https://designingyour.life/newsletter/
📚 Featured Book (Mentioned in Episode) https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/How-to-Live-a-Meaningful-Life/Bill-Burnett/9781668084892
Instagram https://www.instagram.com/fullyalive_bydesign/
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Do you find yourself giving more, waiting longer, explaining harder — just to keep love alive?
In this episode, John Kim reflects on overgiving, emotional boundaries, and the quiet ways we abandon ourselves in relationships. Recorded in Costa Rica, he uses lessons from surfing to explore why love shouldn’t feel like anxiety, confusion, or constant effort.
Inspired by the idea of “Let Them,” this episode offers a necessary reframe: there are some things you simply should not let people do.
This is a reminder that protecting your heart isn’t selfish — it’s essential.
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📘 Read John’s new book in progress Sh*t Your Therapist Would Never Tell You onJohn’s SubStack HERE
If you’re ready for deeper work, the Secure Self course is available HERE
Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE
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Find out more about John HERE
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You didn’t marry the wrong person — you’re just in a stage of your relationship.
In this episode, John Kim sits down with attachment expert Thais Gibson to break down the six stages of a relationship — and why so many couples get stuck thinking something is “wrong” when nothing is actually broken.
We talk about:
If relationships have ever felt confusing, discouraging, or overwhelming, this episode gives you language, context, and relief.
🔗 Guest Resources
Learn more from Thais Gibson:
YouTube: Personal Development School HERE
Instagram: @thepersonaldevelopmentschool
Courses & Relationship Stages Program HERE
🔗 Host Resources
Learn more from John Kim:
Surf, Sex & Pancakes - Join John Kim for a surf retreat in Costa Rica. Sign up HERE
📘 Read John’s new book in progress Sh*t Your Therapist Would Never Tell You onJohn’s SubStack HERE
If you’re ready for deeper work, the Secure Self course is available HERE
Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE
Follow John on Instagram HERE
Find out more about John HERE
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Some of the most important questions we carry are the ones we’re afraid to say out loud — even in therapy.
In this episode, John answers real, vulnerable questions about self-worth, dating, anger, emotional safety, and long-term relationships. These are the thoughts people whisper to themselves at night, hesitate to bring into the room, or feel ashamed for having at all.
This conversation isn’t about quick fixes. It’s about slowing down, telling the truth, and understanding what’s really happening beneath the surface.
Host Links:
Surf, Sex & Pancakes - Join John Kim for a surf retreat in Costa Rica. Sign up HERE
📘 Read John’s new book in progress Sh*t Your Therapist Would Never Tell You onJohn’s SubStack HERE
If you’re ready for deeper work, the Secure Self course is available HERE
Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE
Follow John on Instagram HERE
Find out more about John HERE
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A year ago, on January 7th, my house burned down.
This solo episode is a reflection on what that loss revealed — not just about grief, but about meaning, identity, and the quiet permission to live differently in the second half of life.
I talk about the difference between a house and a home, what it means to lose community, and why starting over isn’t always a failure — sometimes it’s prescribed. From standing in the ashes of my cul-de-sac to building a slower, more intentional life in Costa Rica, this episode explores how tragedy can become an act break instead of an ending.
This episode is for anyone who feels tired of grinding, restless in their current life, or quietly sensing that the second half deserves a rewrite. You don’t have to burn your life down to change it — but sometimes life lights the match for you.
If you listen to this podcast, I’d love to hear from you. Email me your thoughts: theangrytherapist@gmail.com
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Surf, Sex & Pancakes - Join John Kim for a surf retreat in Costa Rica. Sign up HERE
📘 Read John’s new book in progress Sh*t Your Therapist Would Never Tell You onJohn’s SubStack HERE
If you’re ready for deeper work, the Secure Self course is available HERE
Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE
Follow John on Instagram HERE
Find out more about John HERE
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In this reflective, unscripted conversation, John Kim speaks with therapist and yoga teacher Daniel Stewart about consciousness, ego, and authentic living.
Daniel shares how a life-altering experience reshaped his relationship with presence, stillness, and inner truth. Together, they explore ego death as a doorway to growth, why slowing down matters, and how conscious awareness transforms the way we live and create.
A grounding episode for anyone seeking a more intentional, meaningful life.
🔗 GUEST LINKS
Daniel Stewart
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