The Almost Empty Nest—Letting Go, Redefined: Parenting Teens and Finding Yourself Again—with Small Jar Coach

Are you stuck between wanting to guide your teen or college kid and knowing it’s time to start letting go?

Welcome to The Almost Empty Nest Podcast, where moms of teens and college kids reframe what ‘letting go’ really means and stop second-guessing themselves to feel more connected, confident, and at peace in this chapter of motherhood.

Each week, you’ll learn how to:
• Break free from mindset traps like catastrophizing, mom guilt, and the illusion of control
• Build a stronger relationship with your teen—even when they pull away or test boundaries
• Strengthen your self-trust as you set boundaries, let go of anxiety, and explore your own purpose beyond parenting

Hosted by master life coach—and mom of two college kids—Jennifer Collins, this show offers grounded, relatable support and mindset shifts to help you stop overthinking and start showing up as the mom and woman you truly want to be.

🎧 Start with listener favorite Episode 85: The Empty Nest Straddle — The Emotional Tug of Parenting Teens and Facing the Empty Nest.

Latest Episodes:

“I Don’t Even Like My Kid.”—Thoughts Moms Parenting Teens Are Ashamed They Think | Ep. 162 Jul 02, 2025

Show notes

Have you ever caught yourself thinking, “I don’t even like my kid right now”—and then felt instantly ashamed?
If you’re parenting teens or navigating the empty nest, this thought might sound shocking… but it’s far more common than you think.

In this honest and validating new series, I'm exploring the thoughts we moms are most ashamed to admit out loud—and I'll explain why they don’t make you a bad mom, but they might just be a sign that your mind is trying to protect you from the pain, frustration, and disconnection we so often feel in motherhood.

Here’s what you’ll walk away with:

A fresh understanding of how mindset traps like personalization and emotional reasoning fuel guilt and anxiety
Clarity on why your emotional reactions (like nagging or jumping in to fix) actually make sense
A powerful mindset shift to help you reclaim connection, let go of anxiety, and feel more confident in your role as a mom

🎯 Want to take this work deeper? Save your seat for the next free masterclass—click here to sign up: https://www.thesmalljar.com/class.

💪 Curious about coaching with Small Jar? Check out our Mom 2.0 coaching program: www.thesmalljar.com/Mom-2-0.

❓ Have questions or want to share your feedback? I'd love to hear from you! You can email me at jennifer@thesmalljar.com.

This empowering podcast offers life coaching for moms and parenting support for midlife mothers raising teens as they approach the empty nest, teaching them how to let go of control, stop overthinking, and shift their mindset, while also helping them set boundaries, improve communication, reduce anxiety, release mom guilt, and find purpose in the evolving journey of parenting teens and motherhood.

Hard to Break Habits, Explained — What Nagging Really Solves for Moms of Teens | Ep. 161 Jun 28, 2025

Show notes

Ever tell yourself, “I’ve got to stop nagging”—and then do it anyway?
Or find yourself falling into the same bad habit you wish you could just stop?
Whether it’s reminding your teen (again), pouring a glass of wine you swore you’d skip, or losing it after vowing to stay calm… you’re not alone. And there’s a reason these habits feel so hard to break.

In this episode, I share why these patterns—nagging, numbing, controlling—aren’t just bad habits. They’re emotional coping strategies rooted in how your brain tries to manage fear, overwhelm, and disconnection in motherhood. If you're parenting teens or approaching the empty nest, and stuck in habits you don’t like but can’t seem to change, this episode will show you there’s nothing wrong with you—and that real change is possible.

Here’s what you’ll take away from this episode:

Why nagging and other unwanted behaviors are your brain’s attempt to solve emotional discomfort
How unprocessed feelings like resentment and anxiety quietly drive your actions (and what to do instead)
A powerful question you can ask yourself to begin breaking free of the cycle—without just relying on willpower

🎯 Want to take this work deeper? Save your seat for the next free masterclass—click here to sign up: https://www.thesmalljar.com/class.

💪 Curious about coaching with Small Jar? Check out our Mom 2.0 coaching program: www.thesmalljar.com/Mom-2-0

❓ Have questions or want to share your feedback? I'd love to hear from you! You can email me at jennifer@thesmalljar.com.

The Approval Trap: How Moms Parenting Teens Can Rebuild Confidence After Years of Putting Others First - Trap #12 | Ep. 160 Jun 21, 2025

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Are you a mom of teens or young adults who finds herself constantly second-guessing decisions, holding back your opinions, or putting your own desires on pause to keep others happy? You might be caught in the Approval Trap. And if you've spent years putting others first, it’s no wonder confidence feels hard to access right now.

In this episode of the Almost Empty Nest Podcast, I unpack Mindset Trap #12—the Approval Trap. This isn't just about people-pleasing. It's about how deeply motherhood conditions us to seek approval and shape our identity around what others need, expect, or value. You'll hear why it's so common to feel unsure of who you are as your teen becomes more independent, how people-pleasing patterns sneak into parenting decisions, and what it really takes to rebuild confidence when you’re no longer the center of your kids’ world.

If you're navigating the emotional rollercoaster of parenting teens, redefining your purpose, or learning to set boundaries without guilt, this episode offers a powerful reframe. You'll walk away with insight and encouragement to stop overthinking and start trusting yourself again so you can step into a more confident and grounded version of yourself.

🎯 Want to take this work deeper? Save your seat for the next free masterclass—click here to sign up: https://www.thesmalljar.com/class.

💪 Curious about coaching with Small Jar? Check out our Mom 2.0 coaching program: www.thesmalljar.com/Mom-2-0

❓ Have questions or want to share your feedback? I'd love to hear from you! You can email me at jennifer@thesmalljar.com.

Why Letting Go with Your Teen Feels So Hard—Trap #11—Resisting Reality | Ep. 159 Jun 14, 2025

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Ever find yourself staring at your teen’s behavior thinking, this can’t be happening? Whether it’s a missed curfew, a cold shoulder, or the ache of disconnection, it’s so easy to fall into the trap of resisting what is — and it’s costing us more than we realize. In this episode, I’m diving deep into the mindset trap of resisting reality — what it looks like in parenting teens and almost-empty-nest life, how it connects to anxiety and emotional overwhelm, and why the harder we fight what’s happening, the more powerless we feel. But here’s the twist: resisting reality isn’t love — and it’s not control either. It’s war. And when we’re at war with reality, we lose every time.

You’ll learn:
💥 Why this trap is different from the “should” trap and how they often work together
💥 Three real-life examples of how this trap plays out for moms — from controlling curfews to pushing for connection and dismissing your own feelings
💥 What becomes possible when we stop resisting and start responding to our teens — and our lives — with clarity, intention, and self-trust

Letting go doesn’t mean giving up. It means reclaiming your power.

🎯 Want to take this work deeper? Save your seat for the next free masterclass—click here to sign up: https://www.thesmalljar.com/class.

💪 Curious about coaching with Small Jar? Check out our Mom 2.0 coaching program: www.thesmalljar.com/Mom-2-0.

❓ Have questions or want to share your feedback? I'd love to hear from you! You can email me at jennifer@thesmalljar.com.

You Don't Have to Let Go of Summer Expectations with Your Teen | Ep. 158 Jun 07, 2025

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If you pictured summer with your teen feeling relaxing, connected, maybe even joyful—but instead, you’re staring at a messy house, unpredictable schedules, and feeling more frustration than peace—you’re not alone. In this episode, I’m sharing what summer has looked like in my house so far—and how easy it is to get caught in disappointment when reality doesn’t match your hopes. But we’re not just talking about letting go of expectations.

In this episode you’ll learn:
✔️ Why even reasonable expectations can leave you feeling anxious, resentful, or disconnected
✔️ How to uncover the emotional need underneath what you’re hoping for
✔️ And how to shift from frustration to peace—without needing your teen to change

If you’re a mom of teens or college kids trying to stop overthinking, set better boundaries, and feel more grounded in this messy, in-between season… this one’s for you.

🎯 Want to take this work deeper? Save your seat for the next free masterclass—click here to sign up: https://www.thesmalljar.com/class.

💪 Curious about coaching with Small Jar? Check out our Mom 2.0 coaching program: www.thesmalljar.com/Mom-2-0.

❓ Have questions or want to share your feedback? I'd love to hear from you! You can email me at jennifer@thesmalljar.com.

The Identity Crisis: Letting Go, Finding Purpose, and Redefining Who You Are As Your Teens Grow Up - Trap #10 | Ep. 157 May 31, 2025

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There was a moment—standing in my kitchen, alone on a Saturday while my kids were out living their lives—when I asked myself, “Is this it? Who am I now?”

In this episode, I’m talking about the identity crisis so many of us face as moms of teens, college students, and young adults. Whether you're in the thick of middle school meltdowns or staring at an empty bedroom, the shift in how you're needed can leave you feeling invisible, untethered, and quietly asking, What’s my purpose now?

I’ll share how this trap has followed me through every stage—from folding laundry while my kids chased their dreams, to navigating emotional distance, to standing in the stillness of the empty nest. I’ll also explore why this mindset trap is so deeply rooted in how we’ve been wired to find validation, avoid pain, and define our worth by what we do for others.

If you’ve ever felt lost in this season of transition—or wondered how to find your way back to yourself—this episode is for you. You’ll hear my story, some powerful reflections, and the quiet truth that your purpose never left you… you’ve just been looking for it in all the wrong places. Let’s talk about how you move forward—not by reinventing who you are, but by finally deciding for yourself.

🎯 Want to take this work deeper? Save your seat for the next free masterclass—click here to sign up: https://www.thesmalljar.com/class.

💪 Curious about coaching with Small Jar? Check out our Mom 2.0 coaching program: www.thesmalljar.com/Mom-2-0.

❓ Have questions or want to share your feedback? I'd love to hear from you! You can email me at jennifer@thesmalljar.com.

What I've Learned About Letting Go as a Mom of Teens - The Last Graduation | Ep. 156 May 24, 2025

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There’s a moment when it hits you: this is the last time. The last prom. The last school lunch. The last graduation day. And it’s not just about your teen moving on — it’s about everything this moment brings up for you. In this episode, I’m reflecting on my own journey as a mom of teens standing at the edge of the empty nest, and what this season has taught me about identity, connection, and the deep, invisible work of motherhood. Letting go isn’t one big act — it’s a thousand tiny shifts. And it’s not about giving up. It’s about showing up — for your teen, and for yourself — in a whole new way. If you’re feeling the ache of transition, or just craving peace in the push-pull of this stage, this conversation is for you. You’re not alone.

🎯 Want to take this work deeper? Save your seat for the next free masterclass—click here to sign up: https://www.thesmalljar.com/class.

💪 Curious about coaching with Small Jar? Check out our Mom 2.0 coaching program: www.thesmalljar.com/Mom-2-0.

❓ Have questions or want to share your feedback? I'd love to hear from you! You can email me at jennifer@thesmalljar.com.

The Validation Trap: Why Moms of Teens Feel Anxious and Unappreciated | Mindset Trap #9 | Ep. 155 May 17, 2025

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If you’re a mom of teens and you’ve ever found yourself feeling anxious, overthinking, or just wondering why doesn’t anyone notice everything I do?—this episode is for you. In this next part of the Mindset Traps of the Empty Nest series, I’m talking about validation seeking—how it shows up, why it’s so normal, and what it costs us when we don’t see it clearly. This isn’t about trying to let go of your kid—it’s about letting go of the belief that their behavior defines your worth. If you’ve been stuck in self-doubt, resentment, or constantly waiting for a thank-you that never comes, I hope this episode brings you some peace—and a little more power.

🎯 Want to take this work deeper? Save your seat for the next free masterclass—click here to sign up: https://www.thesmalljar.com/class.

💪 Curious about coaching with Small Jar? Check out our Mom 2.0 coaching program: www.thesmalljar.com/Mom-2-0.

❓ Have questions or want to share your feedback? I'd love to hear from you! You can email me at jennifer@thesmalljar.com.

Why Moms of Teens Need to Stop Waiting to Be Celebrated — Especially in the Almost Empty Nest Years | Ep. 154 May 10, 2025

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Mother’s Day hasn’t always felt the way I thought it would — especially as a mom of teenagers. I spent years waiting to be celebrated, managing my mindset around disappointment, and wondering if anyone really saw everything I was carrying. In this episode, I’m sharing a raw and honest reflection on why this day can feel so emotionally charged, and what I’ve learned about letting go — not just of expectations, but of the idea that our worth depends on anyone else’s recognition. If you’re navigating the almost empty nest, this conversation will give you the perspective and permission you didn’t know you needed.

🎯 Want to take this work deeper? Save your seat for the next free masterclass—click here to sign up: https://www.thesmalljar.com/class.

💪 Curious about coaching with Small Jar? Check out our Mom 2.0 coaching program: www.thesmalljar.com/Mom-2-0.

❓ Have questions or want to share your feedback? I'd love to hear from you! You can email me at jennifer@thesmalljar.com.

The "Should Trap": Trap: When Moms of Teens Feel Like They’re Failing (Even When They’re Not) | Mindset Trap #8 | Ep. 153 May 03, 2025

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If you’re a mom of a teen and you ever find yourself thinking, “I should be more patient... I should give them more space… I should have done something differently,” this episode is for you.

In this week’s episode of the Mindset Traps of the Empty Nest series, I’m diving into the Should Trap. As moms, especially in this stressful season leading up to the empty nest, we carry around an invisible checklist of expectations—and when we don’t meet those expectations, we don’t just feel like we’ve made a mistake… we feel like we’re failing. In this episode, I’ll show you how this trap disguises itself as good parenting, where these “should” thoughts really come from, and how they layer with other mindset traps like personalization and perfectionism to keep you stuck in guilt, pressure, and self-doubt.

If you’ve been feeling like no matter what you do, it’s never enough—you’re not alone, and you’re not doing it wrong. Let’s unravel the Should Trap together, and help you reconnect with peace, self-trust, and the mom you actually want to be.

🎯 Want to take this work deeper? Save your seat for the next free masterclass—click here to sign up: https://www.thesmalljar.com/class.

💪 Curious about coaching with Small Jar? Check out our Mom 2.0 coaching program: www.thesmalljar.com/Mom-2-0.

❓ Have questions or want to share your feedback? I'd love to hear from you! You can email me at jennifer@thesmalljar.com.

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