The Alive & Free Podcast

Our Deep Need for Fathering and God's Intimate Involvement - Alive & Free Podcast Oct 23, 2024

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Here is what you get to look forward to in this week's podcast: What if the key to true freedom lies not in overcoming adversity but in embracing it? Join us as we uncover the profound insights of Steve Petermeier, a celebrated spiritual mentor and coach, who helps individuals worldwide discover their identities and achieve liberation. We dive into the remarkable journey of personal growth, from the unpredictable moments of purchasing a home right before the 2008 housing crash to the transformative experience of embracing fatherhood. Steve and I discuss the power of genuine connections and how engaging meaningfully with others can heal past wounds and foster personal evolution.

Listeners will be inspired by stories of resilience and transformation, like that of Paul, a vibrant 72-year-old who embodies openness and vulnerability as pathways to a joyful, expectation-free life. Through heartfelt reflections, we explore how life's challenges, such as addiction and self-worth struggles, catalyze personal growth. We also delve into the nuances of finding God amid unexpected challenges, illustrating the shift from fear-based perceptions to understanding divine goodness and support, even in times of struggle.

The conversation deepens as we explore the essence of emotional and spiritual liberation. From breaking free from the perceived need for control to rediscovering intimacy with God, we examine the journey of men overcoming addiction, the importance of truthfulness, and how faith can transform lives. Through personal anecdotes and biblical insights, we underscore the significance of embracing uncertainty and maintaining a sense of adventure in both personal and professional spheres. Ultimately, this episode is a powerful reminder that all God truly desires is to be with us, inviting us to live fully alive and free.

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(0:00:01) - Life Coaching and Spiritual Mentoring (0:04:44) - Journey of Transformation and Redemption (0:09:38) - Navigating Life's Transformative Challenges (0:15:57) - Finding God in Unexpected Challenges (0:21:33) - Embracing God's Love Amid Struggles (0:32:57) - Facing Truth for Transformation (0:39:25) - Learning to Trust God in Uncertainty (0:46:28) - Discovering Freedom From Control (0:55:50) - Rediscovering Intimacy With God

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(0:00:01) - Life Coaching and Spiritual Mentoring Personal growth, fatherhood, and mentorship are discussed, along with overcoming struggles and the importance of genuine connections.

(0:04:44) - Journey of Transformation and Redemption Listening to others' beliefs and experiences, we explore personal growth and transformation, inspired by openness and vulnerability.

(0:09:38) - Navigating Life's Challenges Personal and professional growth, real estate business struggles, and adapting to changes in life and success.

(0:15:57) - Finding God in Unexpected Challenges Surrender, humility, and God's goodness in the face of challenges and suffering, and navigating complex relationships with God and our earthly fathers.

(0:21:33) - Embracing God's Love Amid Struggles Divine love and grace are always present, even in times of failure and sin, and can be experienced through imagination and emotional connection.

(0:32:57) - Facing Truth for Transformation Men seeking freedom from porn addiction find truth and vulnerability key to personal and spiritual growth.

(0:39:25) - Learning to Trust God in Uncertainty Transformation, self-discovery, identity, faith, trust, and letting go of control for a fulfilling life.

(0:46:28) - Discovering Freedom From Control Marketing can reduce people to numbers, but faith and surrender can lead to a fulfilling life.

(0:55:50) - Rediscovering Intimacy With God Ministry struggles, seeking validation and proving worth, burnout, performance-based faith, returning to first love, finding contentment in God's desire to be with us.

How to Thrive in Relationship if you Feel Incompatible -- Connecting Through Differences Oct 09, 2024

If you're a man OR you have a husband or boyfriend looking for resources to heal a man and step into greater levels of freedom and healing in your/their mindsets and emotions, then check out Spencer's new men's program: https://www.spencer-robbins.com/

To find freedom, heal, and feel powerful in your emotions, check out the Alive & Free Collective by copying & pasting this link into your browser: https://www.yourheartfree.com/optin1718387116823

To become a life coach and get started in your career helping people get free and healthy emotionally and start a business doing so, go to our training video to learn more: https://www.thecoachlaunch.com/watch

Navigating the intricacies of relationships has been a journey of growth and understanding for us. Initially, the contrast between Spencer's love for stability and my craving for spontaneity seemed insurmountable. Yet, it was through embracing these differences that we discovered a deeper connection. Join us as we recount personal stories from our marriage, showcasing how embracing each other's passions enriched our lives, and why identical interests aren't a prerequisite for meaningful connections.

As we transitioned from the honeymoon phase to a more mature relationship, challenges inevitably arose. From balancing Spencer's focus on a stable future with my desire for adventure, to addressing unmet needs and differing priorities, our marriage has seen its fair share of struggles. Through open communication and mutual understanding, we've tackled issues of humor, attraction, and perceived rejection, navigating the complex journey of aligning our individual identities within our partnership. Our experiences underscore the importance of independence and self-fulfillment, allowing us to appreciate personal growth within the marriage.

Marriage, for us, has been a vehicle for personal growth rather than just fulfilling personal preferences. We've learned the value of supporting each other's desires while maintaining our independence, fostering a connected yet secure partnership. By tackling personal triggers and emotions, we emphasize the importance of character and resilience in sustaining relationships. Our episode encourages listeners to explore their own triggers and embrace a higher power to meet their needs, fostering love and connection in their relationships.

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(0:00:00) - Navigating Differences in Relationships

(0:12:55) - Navigating Challenges in Marriage

(0:20:54) - Navigating Growth and Unity in Marriage

(0:30:07) - Navigating Relationships Through Growth and Connection

(0:36:42) - Supporting Free Content Through Sharing

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(0:00:00) - Navigating Differences in Relationships Relationship dynamics, embracing differences, and misconceptions about compatibility in genuine connections.

(0:12:55) - Navigating Challenges in Marriage Evolution of a relationship from infatuation to married life, navigating differences, challenges, and struggles with identity within the marriage.

(0:20:54) - Navigating Growth and Unity in Marriage Independence, communication, and mutual understanding are crucial for a fulfilling marriage, as discussed through personal experiences and parental triggers.

(0:30:07) - Navigating Relationships Through Growth and Connection Embracing love and openness in relationships for personal growth, character, and resilience, relying on a higher power.

(0:36:42) - Supporting Free Content Through Sharing Support free content by sharing on social media, join Alive and Free Collective, and new program for men.

What Makes a Man Healthy? A Pathway for Freedom and Purpose Oct 01, 2024

If you're a man OR you have a husband or boyfriend looking for resources to heal a man and step into greater levels of freedom and healing in your/their mindsets and emotions, then email info@aliveandfreeconsulting.com. We are about a week away from releasing our first men's coaching/community support offering.

When I found myself drowning in self-doubt and shame, I never imagined that embracing my vulnerabilities would become my greatest strength. Join us in this heartfelt episode as we unpack the journey towards healthy masculinity and self-love, guided by the redemptive power of the cross. We challenge the toxic cultural narratives that trap men in cycles of shame and control, advocating instead for a path of self-acceptance and genuine healing.

Our conversation navigates the intricate dynamics of strength and vulnerability within relationships, particularly focusing on men who feel overshadowed by strong women. Reflecting on personal experiences and spiritual teachings, we explore how true strength is revealed through humility, mutual respect, and making space for each other's growth. This episode is especially resonant for those raised in evangelical or Baptist traditions, where teachings on self-denial often conflict with a balanced sense of masculinity.

In our final segment, we turn our attention to the transformative power of self-love and authenticity. Sharing candid stories of overcoming trauma and the pitfalls of seeking external validation, we highlight the importance of setting healthy boundaries and embracing self-compassion. We emphasize that true healing begins with unconditional love, leading to deeper connections and spiritual growth. Tune in as we celebrate the qualities of a healthy masculine presence and the journey towards emotional and spiritual well-being.

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(0:00:00) - Healthy Masculinity and Self-Love (0:04:24) - Embracing Healthy Masculinity and Vulnerability (0:17:04) - Navigating Self-Love and Authenticity (0:21:37) - Embracing Self-Compassion and Growth (0:30:08) - Navigating Unconditional Love and Healing (0:38:40) - Navigating Masculinity and Addiction Recovery (0:47:26) - Investing in Healthy Masculinity (0:51:09) - Parenting With Self-Compassion and Empathy (1:00:37) - Seeking Help and Validation in Masculinity

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(0:00:00) - Healthy Masculinity and Self-Love Overcoming personal struggles, healthy masculinity, and self-acceptance through a Christian lens in a culture of toxic masculinity.

(0:04:24) - Embracing Healthy Masculinity and Vulnerability Exploring masculinity and strength in relationships, including struggles with insecurity and the concept of true strength.

(0:17:04) - Navigating Self-Love and Authenticity Self-love, faith, healthy boundaries, connection, doubt, vulnerability, resilience, and authenticity on the journey towards self-acceptance.

(0:21:37) - Embracing Self-Compassion and Growth Emotional and spiritual health, integrity in relationships, and genuine intention foster deeper connections.

(0:30:08) - Navigating Unconditional Love and Healing Breaking free from self-destructive behaviors through unconditional love, challenging shame, and fostering genuine healing and change.

(0:38:40) - Navigating Masculinity and Addiction Recovery Overcoming addiction involves addressing behaviors, emotional wounds, accountability, support systems, inner child healing, and healthy masculinity.

(0:47:26) - Investing in Healthy Masculinity Masculinity and father figures are crucial for men, who often seek validation and guidance through mentors and coaches for personal and professional growth.

(0:51:09) - Parenting With Self-Compassion and Empathy Leadership, mentorship, physical outlets, fatherhood, balancing discipline and understanding, and learning from overreacting to a child's behavior.

(1:00:37) - Seeking Help and Validation in Masculinity Masculinity, validation, and personal growth are explored through seeking help and taking intentional action.

How To Have Hope & Peace When Everything Feels Uncertain In Life Sep 06, 2024

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Join us as we explore the profound journey of navigating life's uncertainties and trusting in God. This episode delves into the challenge of discerning God's voice amidst the fear of making wrong decisions and uprooting your life on impulse. We discuss the struggle between staying hopeful and the temptation to make things happen prematurely, drawing parallels with personal experiences and biblical narratives. We'll also touch on the emotional and mental shifts that come with motherhood, highlighting how these changes can impact one's spiritual journey.

Through heartfelt conversations, we share insights on maintaining joy, hope, and trust in God, even when dreams and desires are delayed or redirected. Listen in as we discuss the importance of placing hope in Jesus rather than outcomes, and how to avoid falling into disappointment or hopelessness. Whether you're facing unmet expectations or waiting for answers, this episode offers encouragement and practical advice for staying connected to God's peace and presence in the midst of the unknown.

When Is Divorce An Option And How To Actually Thrive In Marriage After Pain Aug 21, 2024

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How do you keep the spark alive in your marriage when you're completely exhausted by the demands of parenting, careers, and life itself? Join us as we share our personal journey of navigating emotional depletion and maintaining a thriving marriage. Drawing from years of counseling, coaching, and continuous learning, we discuss the importance of having a vision for your marriage and intentionally investing in your relationship amidst the chaos. With heartfelt reflections and real-life examples, we explore how to keep your connection strong, even when overwhelmed by responsibilities.

Do you ever feel like your partner is to blame for your unhappiness? We delve deep into the concept of contempt in relationships and how it often stems from a desire to avoid feeling powerless. Learn how true love and vulnerability can break this destructive cycle and transform behavior. We'll share insights on how unconditional love can endure even when one partner feels disconnected, and the difference between true vulnerability and manipulation. By communicating without expectations, you can foster a more honest and loving relationship.

Feeling stuck, sad, or disconnected in your marriage? Discover the importance of intentional daily acts of love and mutual effort in rebuilding connection. We'll highlight the necessity of addressing feelings of inadequacy and seeking professional help, such as marriage counseling. Explore the power of relentless prayer, creating boundaries, and maintaining faith even when one spouse isn't willing to grow. Through our personal experiences and the tools that have helped us maintain intimacy, we hope to bless and support your journey towards a loving and fulfilling marriage. Don't forget to check out our Alive and Free Collective for comprehensive courses and community support.

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(0:00:05) - Navigating Depletion in Marriage (0:09:22) - The Deception in Marriage (0:17:35) - Building Connection and Love in Marriage (0:24:09) - Rebuilding Connection and Love in Marriage (0:37:16) - Restoring Marriage Through Prayer and Boundaries (0:44:50) - Nurturing Connection in Marriage

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(0:00:05) - Navigating Depletion in Marriage Navigating complexities of marriage while parenting and working, investing in connection and having a vision for a strong relationship.

(0:09:22) - The Deception in Marriage Contempt in relationships stems from blaming others to avoid feeling powerless, but true love and vulnerability can break this cycle.

(0:17:35) - Building Connection and Love in Marriage Proactive steps for emotional and spiritual health, mentorship, avoiding unrealistic expectations in relationships, and nurturing a connection with God.

(0:24:09) - Rebuilding Connection and Love in Marriage Intentional daily acts of love, mutual effort, addressing inadequacy, seeking professional help, and prioritizing connection in marriage.

(0:37:16) - Restoring Marriage Through Prayer and Boundaries Relentless prayer, boundaries, finding identity in Christ, addressing triggers, and seeking support for struggling marriages.

(0:44:50) - Nurturing Connection in Marriage Nature's beauty in marriage, finding balance, staying connected through highs and lows, sharing personal journey and tools, expressing gratitude, and supporting our community.

What to Look for in a Coach, Mentor, and Leader Aug 05, 2024

To find freedom, heal, and feel powerful in your emotions, check out the Alive & Free Collective by CLICKING HERE. To become a life coach and get started in your career helping people get free and healthy emotionally and start a business doing so, go to our training video to learn more. In this episode, we discuss the profound qualities of compassionate coaching that goes beyond surface-level fixes and addresses the root causes of behavior, while sharing heartfelt appreciation for the impact of learning from others’ experiences.

Join us as we unravel the complex emotions tied to healing and unconditional love. Hear about the challenges of overcoming false beliefs and the hesitation to seek help due to a sense of self-sufficiency rooted in faith. We draw parallels between investing in professional guidance and financial coaching, emphasizing the wisdom of humility and surrender in pursuing personal growth. Witness how discomfort and pain can drive significant breakthroughs, and learn about the meticulous process of finding the right mentor or coach who offers more than just reflective listening.

In our discussion on the coaching industry, we highlight the ethical standards necessary for effective coaching and contrast it with traditional therapy. Discover Coach Launch, our program designed to equip coaches with essential tools for genuine transformation, and learn about the importance of addressing deep-seated issues rather than just symptoms. We also touch on inner child work and integrating spiritual elements into the healing process, introducing the Alive and Free Collective as an affordable resource for continuous personal development. Don't miss this episode if you're ready to elevate your coaching journey and find holistic growth.

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(0:00:00) - Qualities of a Good Coach (0:12:15) - Breaking Free From Surviving to Thriving (0:25:37) - Choosing the Right Mentor or Coach (0:31:18) - Navigating the Coaching Industry (0:35:49) - Avoiding Coaching Mishaps and Finding Support (0:42:34) - Mastering Coaching With Coach Launch

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(0:00:00) - Qualities of a Good Coach Overcoming dyslexia through brain exercises and trauma healing, investing in leadership and coaching, and the importance of safe and effective coaching.

(0:12:15) - Breaking Free From Surviving to Thriving Overcoming false beliefs, seeking professional help, and embracing discomfort and humility for personal growth.

(0:25:37) - Choosing the Right Mentor or Coach Choosing a mentor involves referrals, guidance, and confronting personal issues within a growth-minded community.

(0:31:18) - Navigating the Coaching Industry Coaching empowers personal growth, but lacks regulation. Coach Launch trains coaches to address root causes and provide comprehensive support.

(0:35:49) - Avoiding Coaching Mishaps and Finding Support Personal biases in coaching, finding the right therapeutic approach, integrating spirituality, and seeking ongoing personal development through the Alive and Free Collective.

(0:42:34) - Mastering Coaching With Coach Launch Coach Launch equips you with tools for coaching business, including methods, boundaries, LLC formation, tax documentation, and client management.

Is Your History Of Rejection Ruining Your Life? Jul 29, 2024

To find freedom, heal, and feel powerful in your emotions, check out the Alive & Free Collective by CLICKING HERE. To become a life coach and get started in your career helping people get free and healthy emotionally and start a business doing so, go to our training video to learn more.

What if your current relationship struggles are deeply rooted in past experiences of rejection and abandonment? Join us as we uncover the profound impact of childhood wounds on our adult lives. Through deeply personal stories, we shed light on how unmet expectations and feelings of being left out by friends can trigger recurring rejection and how recognizing these triggers can be the first step towards healing. We even touch on the sensitive topic of porn addiction, revealing its significant effect on relationships and self-worth.

Ever wondered why childhood abandonment leaves such a lasting mark on our relationships? We'll share personal anecdotes of feeling abandoned during critical childhood moments and discuss how this unresolved pain shapes our expectations and behaviors today. By turning these emotional triggers into opportunities for growth, you can build stronger, healthier connections. Additionally, we highlight a fascinating aspect of human behavior—how some individuals in ministry might use kindness as a shield against rejection.

After having a baby, the dynamics of attachment can become more complex. We explore the oscillation between anxious and avoidant behaviors that new parents may experience, and the necessity of reevaluating attachment wounds for greater security. We emphasize the importance of radical ownership over one's rejection wounds and the powerful role of God's unconditional love in this healing journey. Join us as we discuss how to foster meaningful connections grounded in personal worth and compassion for others' broken attachments.

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(0:00:00) - Understanding Rejection Wounds and Abandonment (0:03:30) - Healing Childhood Abandonment Through Relationships (0:16:35) - Navigating Attachment After Having a Baby (0:22:04) - Healing Rejection Wounds and Ownership (0:30:52) - Navigating Values in Relationships (0:35:44) - Taking Ownership in Healing Attachment (0:39:37) - Healing Past Wounds and Inner Child

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(0:00:00) - Understanding Rejection Wounds and Abandonment Personal experiences with rejection and abandonment, unmet expectations in relationships, and the impact of porn addiction on connections.

(0:03:30) - Healing Childhood Abandonment Through Relationships Childhood abandonment and emotional wounds impact adult relationships, leading to unrealistic standards and control mechanisms.

(0:16:35) - Navigating Attachment After Having a Baby Disorganized attachment can impact relationships, especially after becoming a parent, leading to oscillating behaviors and a need for healing.

(0:22:04) - Healing Rejection Wounds and Ownership Healing from rejection and abandonment, taking ownership of emotions, creating security in relationships, and finding worth and truth in oneself.

(0:30:52) - Navigating Values in Relationships Honest communication, mutual values, porn addiction, self-worth, rejection wounds, and God's unconditional love in personal relationships.

(0:35:44) - Taking Ownership in Healing Attachment Taking ownership of rejection wounds, healing attachment systems, and building meaningful connections through vulnerability and compassion.

(0:39:37) - Healing Past Wounds and Inner Child Self-awareness and emotional health are crucial in relationships, as we must heal our own wounds and avoid placing expectations on others.

What To Do With Our Highly Sexualized Culture Jul 18, 2024

To find freedom, heal, and feel powerful in your emotions, check out the Alive & Free Collective by CLICKING HERE. To become a life coach and get started in your career helping people get free and healthy emotionally and start a business doing so, go to our training video to learn more. Have you ever wondered if saving sex for marriage is worth the wait? This episode confronts the normalization of premarital sex and contrasts it with the values of purity and intimacy within marriage, particularly among 20-somethings and 30-somethings. Through interviews and societal debates, we explore the idea of "test driving" a relationship before committing and examine the emotional and spiritual impact of these choices. Hear personal stories that underscore the importance of valuing oneself and one's partner by embracing purity and unshared intimacy.

Maintaining purity in today's world is no small feat. Through a heartfelt anecdote about a friend's well-meaning offer to teach about sex, we navigate the pressures and challenges of upholding personal values.

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(0:00:20) - Sex Before Marriage (0:13:21) - Navigating Boundaries and Purity in Relationships (0:22:44) - Understanding Shame, Forgiveness, and Attachment (0:30:26) - Boundaries and Sexuality in Relationships (0:39:00) - Releasing Shame and Finding Forgiveness (0:45:18) - Building Character Through Boundaries (0:58:35) - Embracing Holiness in Marriage

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(0:00:20) - Sex Before Marriage Examining the normalization of premarital sex, valuing purity and intimacy in marriage, and the importance of saving oneself for a future partner.

(0:13:21) - Navigating Boundaries and Purity in Relationships Personal values and boundaries surrounding premarital sex, societal pressures, and emotional impact of not honoring one's values.

(0:22:44) - Understanding Shame, Forgiveness, and Attachment Understanding unconditional love and forgiveness, valuing sexual purity, and the impact of spiritual connections on emotional well-being.

(0:30:26) - Boundaries and Sexuality in Relationships Love, boundaries, and heart change are crucial for fulfilling relationships, while casual sex undermines trust and intimacy.

(0:39:00) - Releasing Shame and Finding Forgiveness Intimacy's impact on relationships, getting to know someone beyond physical intimacy, risks of unintended pregnancies and STDs, and God's forgiveness and renewal.

(0:45:18) - Building Character Through Boundaries Childhood trauma, unhealthy validation-seeking, self-control, integrity, building strong relationships, boundaries around sexuality, accountability to true identity in Christ.

(0:58:35) - Embracing Holiness in Marriage Marriage and faith bring joy, intimacy, and freedom, leading to transformation and forgiveness, as seen in a former OnlyFans top earner's story.

How To Not Lose Hope At Rock Bottom Jul 09, 2024

To find freedom, heal, and feel powerful in your emotions, check out the Alive & Free Collective by CLICKING HERE. To become a life coach and get started in your career helping people get free and healthy emotionally and start a business doing so, go to our training video to learn more.

How do you keep faith alive when your dreams seem to be falling apart? This episode tackles that very question as we respond to a listener's heartfelt plea for guidance after facing health crises, failed businesses, and career dissatisfaction post-marriage. We share personal stories that highlight the importance of maintaining hope, caring for your heart, and fostering connection amidst ongoing adversity. By providing practical tools and encouragement, we aim to show that healing and reconnection are not only possible but within reach for everyone feeling stuck and hopeless.

Ever wonder about the balance between striving for your dreams and surrendering to a higher plan? Our discussion sheds light on this tension with biblical insights, focusing on the story of Abraham and Sarah. We'll explore the consequences of taking matters into our own hands versus trusting in God's timing, emphasizing the necessity of resting in His promises. We illustrate how placing hope in Jesus, rather than in the fulfillment of our desires, can lead to a more profound sense of peace and fulfillment, even when the journey feels impossible.

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(0:00:05) - Navigating Pain and Restoring Hope (0:12:06) - Trusting God's Promises Through Surrender (0:18:24) - Deepening Trust Through Intimacy and Healing (0:29:50) - Learning to Thrive in Relationships (0:36:57) - Navigating Financial and Relational Healing (0:44:19) - Growth Through Financial and Relational Hardship (0:53:35) - Financial Wisdom and Relationship Priorities (0:57:16) - Prioritizing Intimacy in Marriage

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(0:00:05) - Navigating Pain and Restoring Hope A couple shares their journey of facing challenges in marriage, emphasizing hope, self-care, and faith amidst adversity.

(0:12:06) - Trusting God's Promises Through Surrender Exploring the tension between striving for dreams and surrendering to God's will, using biblical parallels to illuminate the journey of faith and trust.

(0:18:24) - Deepening Trust Through Intimacy and Healing Faith, vulnerability, and emotional healing are explored, emphasizing genuine connection with God and the role of safe relationships in addressing childhood traumas.

(0:29:50) - Learning to Thrive in Relationships Material wealth and social media portrayal can lead to emptiness; finding true satisfaction through God, overcoming envy, and supporting each other in marriage.

(0:36:57) - Navigating Financial and Relational Healing Navigating personal and professional challenges through faith, self-reflection, and bold decision-making, with guidance from leadership and reliance on divine guidance.

(0:44:19) - Growth Through Financial and Relational Hardship Honesty, self-love, and trust in God's guidance lead to personal and financial growth during challenging times.

(0:53:35) - Financial Wisdom and Relationship Priorities Investing in relationship through financial and emotional support, seeking external counsel, and prioritizing quality time together.

(0:57:16) - Prioritizing Intimacy in Marriage Understanding masculine needs, healing wounds, prioritizing marriage, and embracing vulnerability for personal growth and strong relationships.

Mastering Healthy Conflict Jul 02, 2024

To find freedom, heal, and feel powerful in your emotions, check out the Alive & Free Collective by CLICKING HERE. To become a life coach and get started in your career helping people get free and healthy emotionally and start a business doing so, go to our training video to learn more. Ever felt like running away during an argument with your partner? Imagine if those moments could become opportunities for deeper connection and personal growth instead.

This episode unpacks the art of navigating conflict in relationships, from understanding emotional triggers to approaching disagreements with empathy and ownership. We explore the pitfalls of suppressing emotions and the harm caused by dumping pain onto others, highlighting the vital role of self-awareness and emotional intelligence, especially within marriage. --------- EPISODE CHAPTERS ---------

(0:00:01) - Navigating Conflict in Relationships (0:13:55) - Navigating Conflict Resolution and Emotional Regulation (0:17:17) - Navigating Trauma Responses in Relationships (0:31:12) - Cultivating Love Through Conflict (0:39:55) - Navigating Conflict With Love and Humility (0:47:35) - Confrontation and Building True Connection (0:53:29) - Navigating Conflict and Personal Growth

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(0:00:01) - Navigating Conflict in Relationships Master the art of conflict and confrontation with self-awareness, empathy, and ownership for deeper connections and healing in marriage.

(0:13:55) - Navigating Conflict Resolution and Emotional Regulation Humility and emotional regulation are key to resolving conflicts, understanding patterns and triggers, and approaching conflicts with love and connection.

(0:17:17) - Navigating Trauma Responses in Relationships Emotional triggers and defense mechanisms in relationships, influenced by past trauma, can lead to intense reactions and avoidance behaviors.

(0:31:12) - Cultivating Love Through Conflict Marriage involves love, growth, and communication, and should reflect God's love and prioritize each other without punishment.

(0:39:55) - Navigating Conflict With Love and Humility Handling emotional triggers and conflict in relationships through spiritual guidance and personal responsibility leads to deeper intimacy and true commitment.

(0:47:35) - Confrontation and Building True Connection Learning to handle conflict with emotional intelligence and maturity through honest communication and mutual respect.

(0:53:29) - Navigating Conflict and Personal Growth Self-awareness, emotional intelligence, and adaptability are crucial for healthy relationships and setting boundaries in friendships.

How to Embrace Revival in the Midst of Apathy Jun 25, 2024

To find freedom, heal, and feel powerful in your emotions, check out the Alive & Free Collective by CLICKING HERE. To become a life coach and get started in your career helping people get free and healthy emotionally and start a business doing so, go to our training video to learn more.

So for this episode, we received a question from our friend Kristina asking how to step into revival and seeing the kingdom manifested on earth in the midst of being a busy mom.

But this is an amazing question and it reminded us of how difficult it has been in our lives to figure out the same thing.

It’s easy to feel shame about not praying for people and sharing the message of Jesus. It’s easy to stoop into apathy.

But how can we embrace revival without it becoming just another performance? Especially in busy or apathetic/complacent seasons?

We discuss this AND we share some recent miracle testimonials we experienced while praying for people in our city.

Join the conversation today!

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(0:00:01) - Navigating Revival and Identity in Christianity (0:09:24) - Challenging Theology and Experiencing God (0:15:01) - Miracles and Testimonies in Everyday Life (0:26:15) - Embracing Miracles in Daily Life (0:31:23) - Navigating Church Hurt and Spiritual Integrity (0:37:39) - Cultivating Family Revival and Connection (0:41:23) - Stirring Faith Through Testimonies (0:54:24) - Surrendering to God's Greater Plan

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(0:00:01) - Navigating Revival and Identity in Christianity The hosts share their experiences from ministry school, discussing revival, spiritual practices, and authenticity in their faith journey.

(0:09:24) - Challenging Theology and Experiencing God Overcoming burnout and reconnecting with ministry, experiencing God's power and dealing with unanswered prayers.

(0:15:01) - Miracles and Testimonies in Everyday Life Miracles affirm Jesus' divine authority, emphasizing the power of God's kingdom and the importance of being open to His guidance.

(0:26:15) - Embracing Miracles in Daily Life Openness to divine opportunities, transformative power of prayer, and trusting in God's power to work through us.

(0:31:23) - Navigating Church Hurt and Spiritual Integrity Balancing miracles and emotional health in church, transformative experiences, disillusionment with ministry, need for holistic faith.

(0:37:39) - Cultivating Family Revival and Connection True revival starts in the family through emotional health, strong relationships, and connection with God.

(0:41:23) - Stirring Faith Through Testimonies Challenges of maintaining spiritual fullness and seeking community, accepting each season's purpose, and consuming faith-building content.

(0:54:24) - Surrendering to God's Greater Plan Spiritual intimacy, clinging to traditions, and trusting in God's guidance are discussed through personal stories and parallels to the Israelites' journey.

How to Stay Full in Motherhood: Spencer Interviews Sammi [Sammi's 10-Year Journal Process with God] Jun 18, 2024

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Description: We've been getting so many questions on instagram and through our email from you guys asking about Sammi, life updates, how she's navigating motherhood, how she's staying connected to herself and God in the midst of huge transition....

So...

I (Spencer) wanted to spend this podcast episode just asking Sammi those questions as well as some vulnerable questions of my own...

It ended up being a really cool episode!

Sammi shared how it has been super difficult to stay connected to herself and God in this season and what she's doing in those little margin moments to connect.

She shares her journal process that she's used for the last 10 years.

If you are facing any difficult or challenging circumstances in this season and you want to experience a rich connection with your heart and with the heart of God, check out this episode!

Thanks for listening.

Also, check your email for updates on our newest emotional health resource for women: The Alive & Free Collective.

Our Current Raw Unfiltered Journey of Surrender May 16, 2024

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Ever feel completely out of control?

Trying hard to hold onto something? Praying for specific outcomes to God? Frustrated because you feel very little certainty?

How do you get to a place of surrender when you feel those things?

Sammi and I have an honest dialogue about considering moving, changing businesses, changing life directions and we end up having a deep chat about surrender and trusting God with what's next.

If you haven't felt clarity in your life or you have struggled with surrender, take the time to listen to this week's episode.

please check out our courses at www.aliveandfreeconsulting.com

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(0:00:01) - Navigating Life and Relationships With Authenticity (0:05:09) - Navigating Surrender and Decision Making (0:16:54) - Trusting in God for Home Transition (0:23:28) - Longing for Security and Surrender (0:36:38) - Journey of Surrender and Healing (0:50:22) - Leave a Review for Impactful Episodes

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(0:00:01) - Navigating Life and Relationships With Authenticity Personal growth, marriage, and spirituality are explored through candid discussions on control, provision, and trusting God's timing.

(0:05:09) - Navigating Surrender and Decision Making Balance between waiting on spiritual guidance and taking decisive action, trusting in divine timing and valuing connection over direction.

(0:16:54) - Trusting in God for Home Transition Internal struggle with self-worth, trusting in a higher power, financial recovery, and holding material possessions lightly.

(0:23:28) - Longing for Security and Surrender Personal struggle between home ownership and spiritual surrender, entrepreneurship and social media metrics, and creating authentic content aligned with personal values.

(0:36:38) - Journey of Surrender and Healing Encounter with Jesus at the well, living water, nurturing next generation, relinquishing control, healing fears through God's love.

(0:50:22) - Leave a Review for Impactful Episodes Reflect on our discussions, leave a review, share with a friend, and find additional resources for healing and aiding others.

How to stay connected and not blame in the midst of hard times Apr 23, 2024

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This is an episode of the Alive & Free podcast that we just absolutely loved, although we might have had just a bit of a vulnerability-hangover afterwards. We all have seasons or circumstances in our lives that drain our capacity for anything else.

But how can we still own our pain, not blame our loved ones, and fight for deep connection?

In this episode, We take you through the trials and triumphs of raising our son, Wilder, and the toll it takes on sleep, sanity, and our relationship. Parenting is far from perfect, and we're here to share our journey through the sleep-deprived nights and the joyous moments that make it all worth it. More importantly, we open up about how we've managed to stay connected, even when it feels like everything is falling apart.

Listen in as we tackle the intimate aspects of postpartum life, including the changes in our sexual dynamics after Wilder's arrival. We get candid about the challenges of maintaining intimacy, Spencer's past struggles with lust, and how we've navigated our desires and needs in the midst of newfound parenthood. It's a conversation that sheds light on the emotional complexities of a relationship in transition, and how we've found fulfillment and connection beyond just the physical.

This is an episode for both men and women. If you don't get actionable steps and help from this episode, at the very least, you will feel understood at deep levels of your painful and difficult seasons.

For info on our inner healing course for men and women, you can find more details at https://www.yourheartfree.com/comealivecourse/

For info on our life coaching and business school, go to https://www.thecoachlaunch.com/go

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(0:00:01) - Navigating Parenthood (0:12:34) - Navigating Postpartum Intimacy Challenges (0:24:44) - Navigating Pain, Compassion, and Selflessness (0:36:10) - Navigating Challenges in Marriage and Motherhood (0:48:11) - Navigating Hard Times Together

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(0:00:01) - Navigating Parenthood Our honest reflection on marriage, parenthood, and raising a high-needs baby, including struggles and triumphs, personal growth, and spiritual walk.

(0:12:34) - Navigating Postpartum Intimacy Challenges Postpartum challenges, managing sexual needs, and enduring pain and growth in different seasons of our relationship.

(0:24:44) - Navigating Pain, Compassion, and Selflessness Validating personal pain in relationships, self-compassion, and spirituality's role in healing and connection.

(0:36:10) - Navigating Challenges in Marriage and Motherhood Balancing family, work, and marriage while relying on non-family child care can impact attachment, boundaries, and intimacy.

(0:48:11) - Navigating Hard Times Together Compassionate commiseration, self-care through spirituality, and embracing vulnerability for healing during tough times.

Creating Room and Space for God Encounters in Your Life Apr 11, 2024

Check out our new emotional health membership for women called The Alive & Free Collective. It has monthly coaching with Sammi and Spencer, Monthly calls with experts and Q&A, access to all emotional health courses and a vault of over 50 trainings from experts, an exclusive fb community, and all for $47/mo. https://www.yourheartfree.com/aliveandfreecollective for more info!

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Join us for a heartwarming conversation with Sam Cabra, a pastor from Reunion Church, as we explore the depths of our spiritual journeys and the quest for authenticity in our relationship with God.

In this episode, you'll discover the transformative power of personal encounters with the divine, moving you beyond intellectual understanding into the realm of experiential faith. We tackle the challenging task of reconciling the images of God from the Old Testament with the loving figure of Jesus, and engage with touching stories of healing, miracles, and the pursuit of a deeper connection with our Creator.

Our dialogue with Pastor Cabra offers profound insights into the role of the Holy Spirit in guiding our faith and decisions, and how embracing the concept of God as 'Abba, Father' can enrich our spiritual lives. Hear about moments that defy logic and challenge the balance between faith and reason, inspiring a renewed openness to the charismatic gifts of the Spirit.

This conversation is an invitation to reflect on the humility and growth that come from our personal experiences with God, and how they can navigate us through trauma, skepticism, and towards a genuine embrace of His presence. Wrapping up, we contemplate the delicate dance between taking action and patiently waiting on God's timing.

The heart and the Holy Spirit emerge as central guides in this journey, leading us to trust in the wisdom within us. As you join us on this episode, we trust you'll be inspired to recognize the joy that stems from a true, loving connection with God, and to appreciate the balance between self-reliance and divine surrender. Don't miss the opportunity to have your heart stirred towards a deeper, more authentic faith.

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(0:00:01) - Navigating Relationship With God and Authenticity

(0:10:43) - Encountering God's Healing Presence

(0:15:49) - Encountering Miracles and Spiritual Growth

(0:28:11) - Deep Dive Into Spiritual Growth

(0:39:44) - Fatherhood and the Holy Spirit

(0:43:48) - Trusting Your Heart in Faith

(0:48:14) - Trusting in God and Self

(0:57:56) - Gratitude for Podcast Support

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(0:00:01) - Navigating Relationship With God and Authenticity Experiencing God's presence, reconciling Old Testament image with Jesus, creating space for personal encounter to understand His goodness.

(0:10:43) - Encountering God's Healing Presence Spiritual experiences can heal trauma, bypass conventional communication, and challenge traditional religious expectations.

(0:15:49) - Encountering Miracles and Spiritual Growth Divine intervention, humility, skepticism, and healing through prayer and ministry are explored through transformative experiences. (0:28:11) - Deep Dive Into Spiritual Growth Jesus's actions reflect God's nature, offering choices and challenging individuals to let go of pride and find fulfillment in their soul and love.

(0:39:44) - Fatherhood and the Holy Spirit The Holy Spirit helps us see God as a loving father, transforming our beliefs and behaviors through encountering His love.

(0:43:48) - Trusting Your Heart in Faith God's word, heart's deepness, old vs. new covenants, trusting our hearts, Holy Spirit's guidance, genuine desires for joy and love.

(0:48:14) - Trusting in God and Self Trusting God in decision-making, balancing action and waiting, and staying connected to Him through life's challenges.

(0:57:56) - Gratitude for Podcast Support Nature's discussions on language, culture, and perception, and the importance of ratings and reviews for our work.

To learn more about what Sam is doing in church or in his ministry school:

Reunion Church: www.reunionhawaii.com

Kingdom Living ministry school: www.kingdomlivingoahu.com

Pain in Church Community and Leadership and How Church SHOULD Function Apr 02, 2024

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If you've been a christian long enough and attended church for long enough, the chances are high that you have been hurt by a person or a leader...

So what do you do with that?

And what is a healthy way to go about church community?

Should we just attend and serve? Is it wrong to "church shop"? Should we just honor leaders no matter what?

We get very vulnerable with our process in this episode as well as build a case for how we believe church community should be done.

Hope you enjoy the episode!

A Brief Interview with Wilder...Our Son Mar 20, 2024

This is for your brief thorough enjoyment...

How to Burn for God Without Burning Out Mar 13, 2024

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Embark on a soul-searching expedition with us as we confront the comfortable but treacherous terrains of 'cruise control Christianity.' We lay bare our own spiritual struggles and triumphs, revealing how an active pursuit of God goes beyond prayer to include decisive action. As we peel away the layers of guilt-driven religion, we uncover the liberating truth that God's love is the real spark for change. We'll invite you to consider the authenticity of your faith journey and challenge you to stoke the spiritual flames that lead to a life transformed by divine love.

In our candid conversation, we delve into the complexities of human narratives and the necessity of leaders to embrace vulnerability, drawing lessons from the stories of public figures like Mike Bickel and Carl Lentz. By sharing our own moments of reckoning, we hope to illuminate the grace found in our imperfections and the strength gained by admitting our uncertainties. This episode is not just a dialogue but a heartfelt communion with all who seek a deeper, more meaningful connection with God amidst the cacophony of life's demands.

Finally, we make a heartfelt request to continue this conversation beyond just our voices. Your experiences, thoughts, and stories are a crucial thread in this tapestry of shared spiritual growth. As you carve out your own sacred spaces and confront the noise of the everyday, remember that your journey, like ours, is vital to the collective experience. We eagerly await your insights and extend our deepest appreciation for your companionship on this path. Join us, share with us, and let's burn with a passion for God, together.

(0:00:01) - Journey to Burn for God Active pursuit of God, avoiding guilt and fear, and taking responsibility for our faith to deepen our connection with Him and the community.

(0:11:46) - Understanding Narratives and Embracing Uncertainty Human tendency to create narratives for powerlessness in relationships and faith, embracing uncertainty and vulnerability, and returning to God's grace.

(0:15:41) - Finding Margin for Spiritual Growth Stepping back from social media to prioritize spiritual growth and authenticity, and the impact of busyness on inner fire.

(0:22:10) - Seeking Deeper Connection With God Creating space to reconnect with God, avoiding complacency, being present in life, reassessing motives and actions.

(0:33:43) - Authenticity and Vulnerability in Leadership Leaders face challenges like moral failures and influencer culture, but authenticity and vulnerability can lead to profound love and personal growth.

(0:49:07) - Request for Ratings and Reviews Nature's impact on our lives, your feedback's importance, and our gratitude for your engagement on this journey.

Spiritual Invigoration, Relationship with God, Passionate Faith Life, Spiritual Walk, God's Love, Transformative Force, Human Narratives, Divine Journey, Vulnerabilities, Leadership, Social Media, Spiritual Growth, Quietude, Vulnerability, Authenticity, Genuine Leadership, Unconditional Love, Empowerment, Authentic Pursuit, Divine Inspiration, Personal Responsibility, Inner Fire, Busyness, Spiritual Nourishment, Identity in Christ, Cruise Control Christianity, Worldly Pursuits, Moral Failures, Public Life, Influencer Culture, Fame, Personal Empowerment, Ratings and Reviews, Feedback, Engagement

Money, Abundance and wealth - how to have money without money having you Mar 07, 2024

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In this episode we take you through our personal experiences with money and how we've navigated our relationship with it in our marriage, our faith, and our pursuit of dreams. We challenge the common misconception that money is the root of all evil, clarifying that it's the love of money that can be problematic.

I share my journey of overcoming a poverty mentality, while Spencer offers insights into his straightforward approach to financial conversations.

We tackle the intricate relationship between money, purpose, and personal growth, reflecting on our journey with Alive and Free—a business and ministry that generated significant income while serving others. I share my internal conflict over the necessity of money in achieving our goals without letting it overshadow our core values.

We explore the journey of faith and obedience in entrepreneurship, highlighting the sacrifices made when choosing to follow a spiritual calling over purely financial success.

Together, we address the complexities of discussing wealth and abundance, acknowledging the various triggers and religious mindsets associated with this topic. We aim to strike a balance between recognizing the potential excellence of prosperity and maintaining humility in our financial blessings.

Join us as we candidly explore the emotional landscape of money, our path to an abundance mentality, and the grace we afford ourselves along the way.

(02:09 - 03:22) Mindsets and Abundance in Money (05:20 - 07:00) YouTube Support and Money Mindsets (10:00 - 11:00) Balancing Wealth and Humility (16:28 - 20:15) Challenging Limiting Beliefs About Money (22:45 - 23:44) The Rich Young Ruler's Dilemma (26:52 - 27:46) Teaching Heart Posture in Life (32:01 - 33:37) Teaching Abundance and Gratitude (39:18 - 40:33) Investing in Skills and Knowledge (44:52 - 46:17) Giving & Trust (49:59 - 50:33) Navigating Relationships and the Gospel

Codependency, Savior Complex, and Fixing Your Partner: How to Have a Safe Relationship Connection Feb 28, 2024

Check out our new emotional health membership for women called The Alive & Free Collective. It has monthly coaching with Sammi and Spencer, Monthly calls with experts and Q&A, access to all emotional health courses and a vault of over 50 trainings from experts, an exclusive fb community, and all for $47/mo. https://www.yourheartfree.com/aliveandfreecollective for more info!

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Do you ever feel like you're being fixed by your partner?

Or do you ever feel the urge to fix your partner's pain or struggles?

We address the challenges and nuances of avoiding codependency and 'fix-it' dynamics in relationships, particularly between spouses and friends.

We talk about the balance between being supportive and overstepping into a counseling role within our personal connections.

Through our personal experiences, we touch on the importance of self-awareness, growth, and the recognition that relationships naturally ebb and flow through phases of codependency. We also explore the power of surrender, ownership, and the gift of love that comes with less dependency on others' affection.

Through this episode we hope that you will learn how to question your intentions and be comfortable with rejection, and aim to cultivate healthier dynamics in your relationships and avoid the helper or fixer roles.

Our Response to Viral Hate: Why I "Friend Zoned" Spencer Before Dating Jan 30, 2024

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In this episode, we share our story of transitioning from best friends to life partners, a topic that garnered a whirlwind of reactions when I shared a piece of our story online. We dive into the backlash we received on a recent instagram post, and further explain to give more context how our friendship evolved into a complex but rewarding romantic relationship. Now, six years into our marriage, we celebrate the growth and healing it has required. Through this episode, we aim to inspire others to embrace their narratives of love, regardless of societal expectations or judgments.

(06:08 - 08:06) Interpreting Video Comments and Masculinity Issues (17:24 - 19:16) Healthy Boundaries in Relationship Communication (27:14 - 28:03) Miscommunication About Friendship and Romance (29:50 - 32:36) Learning Emotional Intelligence and Communication (36:14 - 38:35) Adjusting Boundaries With a Friend (44:54 - 46:30) Sexual Trauma and Breakup Podcast Episode (51:21 - 53:15) Confessing Feelings, Uncertain Response (54:31 - 56:31) Unexpected Romantic Encounter (01:01:42 - 01:03:55) Healing and Growth in Relationships

Arms Dealing And Addiction To Head Over Heels in Love With Jesus: An Interview With My Friend Jake Jan 23, 2024

In this episode I sit down with Jake Dowd, whose story is a powerful testament to the transformative power of faith and recovery. I first met at an event in Hawaii when he let me sample his $12,000 bottle of wine...and today we got to "talk story" (as they say in Hawaii) Jake shares how he went from being $250,000 in debt and facing marital issues, to making millions by becoming involved in the dangerous world of arms dealing, influenced by the film "War Dogs." A pivotal moment in the episode is Jake's recounting of a supernatural encounter that serves as a turning point in his life. Describing a spiritual battle and his brother's role in it, Jake speaks about experiencing protection through a vision of angels and ultimately finding safety in Jesus. The latter part of the episode focuses on overcoming addiction, restoring his marriage, and experiencing a drug raid. Jake's story emphasizes the role of divine intervention and the spiritual darkness he had to navigate to transform his life. This episode covers an intense and personal story of struggle, addiction, and eventual redemption.

(05:51 - 06:59) Starting a Business Journey and Success (09:47 - 10:37) Business Evolution and Taking Huge Risks (13:11 - 14:04) Rogue Mission for Guns in Peru (19:15 - 20:54) Unbelievable Experience With Sudden Wealth (24:55 - 25:41) The Devil's Connection to Drugs (30:45 - 31:56) Unsettling Experience in a Luxurious Penthouse (43:50 - 45:21) Unbelievable Encounter With a Red Dot (48:44 - 50:33) Encounter With Power and Forgiveness (53:05 - 54:14) Brother's Spiritual Revelation and Its Impact (01:01:17 - 01:02:11) God's Grace and Redemption in Addiction

Breaking The Cycles Of The Past Through Reflective Parenting Practices: Our Process Deciding How To Parent Jan 10, 2024

In this episode we'll take you on an intimate journey through the peaks and valleys of parenting. We open up about the profound transformation that parenting has brought into our lives, reshaping not only our daily routine but also our personal growth, faith, and our approach to leadership. The episode is a candid exploration of intentional parenting and the emotional healing that's necessary to break free from the cycles of our past. We touch on how parenting serves as a mirror, reflecting our unresolved issues, and we share our experiences with the hope of sparking a wider conversation. We invite you, the listener, to reflect on your own experiences as we all aim to envelop our children in love, respect, and wisdom. We hope this episode sheds light on the beautiful complexity of parenting and offers support to those on their own parenting journey. Join us as we continue this conversation in the episodes to come.

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(01:27 - 03:08) Beliefs and Practices of Parenthood (07:28 - 08:23) Learning, Reflecting, and Healing (20:11 - 21:06) Responding to a Crying Child (27:15 - 28:11) Christian Faith and Desires (31:37 - 34:44) Parenting With Intention and Discipline (42:23 - 45:25) Teaching Children to Align With Love (53:39 - 54:49) Understanding Child Development for Effective Parenting

How to Love People You Disagree With And How To Be In The World But Not Of It Jan 02, 2024

In this episode, we dive into the heartfelt and often complex topic of embodying Christlike love in the midst of disagreements and differences. Drawing on Jesus' life and teachings, we explore how to stand firm in our faith while engaging others with a transformative and gentle love. It’s a vulnerable conversation that hopefully invites you into a space of self-examination, questioning how to maintain our principles in Christ and build genuine connections.

Throughout the episode, we didn't shy away from the practical aspects, such as setting boundaries and the role of mature believers in reaching out with love to those who may not share our faith. We get into personal stories, tackling controversial topics within the church and maintaining friendships amidst differing views.

Our aim was not just to inspire but to guide you toward a path of wholeness and love—whether you’re dealing with 'church hurt', longing for a deeper connection with God, or seeking to live out your faith with true passion. Join us on this journey of sharing our hearts and stories as we pursue genuine transformation.

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(03:32 - 05:29) Loving Like Jesus (08:05 - 09:00) The Importance of Faith and Identity (12:22 - 13:16) Metanoia and Healing in Personal Transformation (18:37 - 20:47) Building Trust in Relationships (31:01 - 31:45) Jesus' Message of Love and Freedom (33:47 - 35:10) Loving and Accepting Others Without Judgment (38:59 - 40:02) The Power of Love and Fatherhood (46:57 - 48:14) Jesus and the Rich Young Ruler (50:56 - 53:05) Struggling With Faith and Church Hurt (55:27 - 57:26) Power of Love and Wholeness

Interview With My Parents: Generational Trauma, Redemption, and Mutual Understanding Dec 26, 2023

In this episode we provide an intimate glimpse into our family relationships. I offer a generational contrast to my parents' experiences with family, their parents’ experiences, and now ours. Through this exploration, the resilience of the human spepisodeseals itself amidst generational trauma, capturing moments of joy and struggle, and highlighting the evolution of parenting, the complexities of forming connections, and the healing power of understanding and empathy.

In a conversation filled with laughter and tears, this episode reflects the power of truth, love, and connection with God. I hope that our shared stories will inspire you to engage in healing conversations within your own families, promoting personal growth and stronger familial bonds.

(00:29 - 02:18) Parents' History and Healing Journey (05:45 - 06:28) Smoking, Stay-at-Home Moms, and Divorce (14:29 - 16:30) Parental Relationships and Discipline (26:07 - 28:06) Navigating Emotional Intimacy and Insecurities (30:53 - 32:03) Discovering the Qualities of a Relationship (43:32 - 45:17) Baggage and Support in a Relationship (48:46 - 50:19) Struggling With Parenting and Self-Reflection (54:49 - 56:42) Insights on Life, Pain, and Redemption (58:29 - 01:00:04) Healing Through God's Unconditional Love (01:06:25 - 01:08:29) Discovering the Father's Love Through Jesus

The Art of Surrender: Embracing Change and Finding Solace in Chaos Dec 18, 2023

In this episode we discuss our personal journeys of learning to embrace change, surrender control, and find peace amidst life's chaos. Sammi shares her personal struggles in motherhood, and Spencer around his need for control. We discuss the benefits of surrender, acceptance, and bringing in compassion over just trying to fix the problems. We also explore how chaos and uncertainty can teach profound lessons about unconditional love and healing.

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(05:33 - 07:22) Embracing Acceptance and Letting Go (12:19 - 13:52) Insecurities and Control in Life (16:14 - 17:13) Unplanned Connection and Unconditional Love (21:16 - 22:29) Connecting With God (25:16 - 26:47) Facing and Healing Emotional Pain (34:21 - 35:27) Authentic Love and Motherhood Challenge (37:22 - 39:14) The Power of Love and Acceptance (44:16 - 45:40) Emotional Connection With God's Power

A Father of 8 Kids: Parenthood, Adoption, Abuse, and Healing (TRIGGER WARNING) Dec 12, 2023

TRIGGER WARNING: this episode has mentions of suicide, alcoholism, and abuse. In this episode, we invite our friend Jordan to share his family’s story of parenthood, faith, resilience, and adoption with us. Jordan and his wife Kylie have eight children, two of whom were adopted after a series of traumatic events. Jordan shares his experiences on fatherhood, teenage pregnancy, and the fight for custody, all while upholding a strong backbone of faith and love. They also discuss the challenges they faced in creating a home environment that promotes accountability, love, and transformation. This episode offers a wealth of wisdom and fresh perspectives on life, relationships, and parenting.

(01:42 - 03:18) Jordan's Unique Fathering Journey (06:26 - 07:35) Friendship, Romance, Parenthood (16:44 - 17:13) Teen Pregnancy and Family Challenges (21:29 - 22:56) Traumatic Car Accident and Survivor's Memory (56:45 - 58:08) Transformation and Perseverance Through Faith (01:08:23 - 01:10:05) Teaching Kids Order and Structure

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Shouldn't I be Past this Yet?!" Conquering Shame for Our Healing Journeys Nov 29, 2023

In this episode we talk about the transformative power of self-love and compassion in overcoming feelings of shame and self-rejection. We all have a common struggle with self-love, and at the root of that is a fear of becoming the person we tend to reject. We open up on some of our own personal triggers and the practical steps we use to work through a trigger. Get a free bag of our favorite coffee beans here: http://s.trdcfe.me/33L8Sb Find our Come Alive program and our Coach Launch program here: https://aliveandfreeconsulting.com/our-courses (00:11 - 00:45) The Life-Changing Breville Espresso Machine (35 Seconds) (03:58 - 04:56) Struggling With Healing and Internal Voice (58 Seconds) (10:01 - 11:15) Brain Development and Self-Soothing in Babies (74 Seconds) (13:20 - 14:43) Overcoming Fear of Self-Acceptance (82 Seconds) (23:13 - 24:29) Dealing With Rejection Triggers and Pain (76 Seconds) (26:15 - 27:51) Recognizing and Addressing Emotional Triggers (96 Seconds) (33:54 - 34:53) Taking Ownership and Personal Power (59 Seconds) (43:09 - 43:50) Focusing on Praiseworthy Thoughts (41 Seconds) (51:33 - 53:27) Come Alive Program (114 Seconds)

Overcoming Shame and Hustle Culture: Redefining Societal Expectations as well as Motherhood Nov 21, 2023

If you’re like the rest of us, we’ve all been deeply motivated by shame at one point or another. Society tells you to do more, be more, achieve more, all in order to receive the fulfillment you’re lacking. What if there was another way to feel happy, loved, and content in your daily life? What if grinding and hustling to exhaustion every day isn’t actually leading you to the inner peace you thought it promised? Join our conversation to hear about our personal experiences with this and how we navigate achieving our dreams without using them to fill our deficits.

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(03:16 - 04:36) The Role of Productivity in Self-Worth (10:07 - 11:17) Seeking Happiness and Intimacy With God (12:40 - 13:57) Desire for Significance and Impact (17:31 - 18:22) Juggling Responsibilities and Emotional Needs (26:15 - 28:11) Balancing Responsibilities With Heart's Desires (32:30 - 33:17) Core Needs and Heart Desires (40:15 - 41:19) Living With Purpose and God's Fulfillment

The Healing Thats Required To Be A Good Leader Nov 14, 2023

Many of us want to be good leaders whether it’s in ministry, as parents, or in business. But to show up as our best selves, we HAVE to heal the pain that gets in our way and learn how to meet our own needs. In this conversation we share how we lean on God in our day to day to meet our needs and stay full to lead others, as well as some of our favorite examples of leadership from the Bible.

(05:43 - 06:23) Self-Hatred and Shame-Based Motivation in Influence (10:41 - 11:03) Seeking God's Direction in Prayer (18:02 - 18:58) Imitating Jesus and Loving Without Boundaries (24:56 - 25:50) Identity and Needs Met Through God (28:14 - 29:36) Self-Discovery and Leadership Preparation Journey

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Finding Freedom in Discomfort- Our Deeply Uncomfortable Europe Journey with God Nov 10, 2023

We're Back!! From Europe...and it was all fairy tales and unicorns right??

Wrong...

We experienced so much discomfort on this trip and realize that God was on ALL of it.

How do you respond when all of your comfort is being threatened?

What do you do when you realize your life has become complacent in different areas?

Are we made for comfort or something else?

In this episode, we share stories from our trip to europe and how God did a big thing in our hearts as a result.

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Highlights:

(02:53 - 04:34) The Value of Discomfort and Growth (102 Seconds) (06:31 - 07:58) Trusting God's Guidance for Adventure (88 Seconds) (12:05 - 13:49) Adjusting to Uncomfortable Circumstances in Europe (103 Seconds) (19:22 - 20:46) Finding Hope in Big Emotions (84 Seconds) (23:39 - 25:28) Transformative Journey of Surrender (109 Seconds)

Exploring Supernatural Experiences: The Power of Trusting God's Love Aug 01, 2023

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Expect to be stirred as we recount transformative stories of divine encounters and healing that have deepened our understanding of God’s relentless pursuit for us.

Journey with us as we navigate the unexpected ways God shows up to answer prayers, and the life-changing decisions that follow. We invite you into intimate discussions about cultivating honesty in our relationship with God and bask in the sense of security this vulnerability can bring into other relationships. Understand the importance of shedding the chains of shame, legalism, and religious routines to truly experience the supernatural. We hope that our spiritual voyage will inspire you to be open to miracles, shed inhibitions, and bolster your faith.

In this rich tapestry of discussions about God's love, pursuit, and his knack for using seemingly ordinary moments for extraordinary purposes, we delve into knowing Jesus intimately. We challenge the pressure to perform and inspire the transition to a deep desire to truly know Jesus. Finally, we explore the beauty of bringing raw honesty to God, an act that can unlock deeper intimacy and provide a secure anchor in times of doubt or anxiety. Whether you're grappling with doubts, keen to deepen your faith, or simply curious about the spiritual journey of others, this episode is a spiritual banquet that has a lot to offer. Join us and reignite your spiritual journey.

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(0:00:01) - Journey to Becoming Alive and Free (3 Minutes)

We're hosting two upcoming retreats in Costa Rica - one for couples and one for women. Continuing our conversation about God stories, I share a story about praying for a man on the street corner and his response. It's a reminder of how God can show up in unexpected ways to answer our prayers. These moments of faith bring God's reality into our lives.

(0:07:27) - God's Kingdom Displayed (3 Minutes)

My roommate and I met up with a girl I had met a long while back and her cousin was with her. He was curious about theology and miracles, and I suggested that we could pray for people on the street to learn about it. He was excited and it ended up sparking a huge conversation with our clients on a coaching call. We were risking having faith on the streets and praying for people in order to see God's kingdom come.

(0:10:10) - Miraculous Healing and Life Transformation (4 Minutes)

We explore how God can show His love and power through a seemingly small moment. We have a conversation with an army veteran and experience how God can build faith and lead to a life-changing decision. We also discuss how witnessing such an event can have a lasting impact on those around it. We share how God can use even the smallest of moments to bring healing, hope, and faith to both those directly involved and those who observe.

(0:14:39) - Expecting God's Healing and Miracles (6 Minutes)

We {explore} the importance of letting go of shame, legalism, and religion when it comes to the supernatural. We {discuss} how formulas and rule-systems pull us away from an intimate relationship with the Father. We {reflect} on how the miracles of God are meant to be a signpost and an encounter with the Father that demonstrate His love and power. We also {consider} how our own lack of experience, pain, and trauma can form theological beliefs and truths that are not true. We share a story about my cousin Sarah who battled cancer for 14 years before passing away. We talk about how God is growing us into sons and daughters and how we are still learning to trust and have faith in Him.

(0:20:24) - Finding Faith and Experiencing Love (9 Minutes)

We talk about the importance of a life dedicated to knowing Jesus intimately. We discuss the pressure of striving to perform and how to shift our hearts from going after miracles to wanting to know Jesus. We reflect on the value of having four hours of margin per day and how that season of dedication has been a source of strength for us. Finally, we contemplate the beauty of being the beloved disciple and how it gives us insight into Jesus’s heart.

(0:29:05) - Honest Conversations (5 Minutes)

Bringing our raw honesty to God can be the key to unlocking deeper intimacy with Him. We explore how to bring our fears and questions to God, and how to trust what we hear in return. Carving out time to be real and vulnerable with God is what true intimacy looks like. We share how this type of intimacy has created a security in our relationships with God, as well as our marriages, and how it can be incredibly anchoring in times of doubt or anxiety.

(0:34:30) - Exploring God's Love and Pursuit (8 Minutes)

We look at how God is available and accessible, and how we can let go of the lies and beliefs that keep us from getting real and vulnerable with Him. We discuss Damon Thompson's podcast and his parable of the merchant in the field, and how it reveals God's pursuit of us. We examine how Jesus reveals the true nature of God, and how we need to view Scripture through a Christological filter. We explore how the Israelites missed the Messiah and how we must honor the traditions of our mentors while still trusting God's revealed nature in Jesus. We consider how the Old Testament is full of people misunderstanding God, and how we should not accept any doctrine that is not rooted in the person of Jesus.

How Good is God Really? Jul 21, 2023

We all grow up with different lenses and perspectives of God, life, and they were all introduced by our parents, families, churches, and life experiences...

But what if God was better than we thought?

How do you know God is good?

How do you connect with that God?

Those are all questions we wanted to address in this episode.

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Building Trust and Safety: A Vulnerable Journey into the Heart of Relationships Jul 14, 2023

Wondering why you keep hitting the same barriers in your relationship? Perhaps, it's time to dig deeper and reconsider how you create safety and trust. We, Sammy and Spencer, are here to pioneer this unfiltered expedition into the core of relationships. We share our personal tales, mistakes, and victories of nurturing a fortified bond filled with trust. Our discussion unravels how we bridged the gap between us by unearthing our childhood experiences, shedding our defense mechanisms, and revealing our true selves to each other.

We shed light on how we navigated the tumultuous waves of our past relationships, and how they often left an indelible mark on our current ones. Unmasking our own insecurities, we reveal how markers from our past can stimulate codependency and a sense of disconnection. We delve into the gravity of vulnerability and sincerity in relationships, and how it forms the unshakeable foundation of a secure partnership. We also discuss our personal endeavors of breaking free from codependent patterns, learning to meet our own needs, and finding a steadfast source of safety in our faith.

In conclusion, we impart some pragmatic tips to help you foster an environment of safety and connection in your relationships. We explore how the blame game can build a chasm in relationships and how using "ownership language" can mend it. We also share how forming a genuine connection with a higher power, in our case God, can provide a sense of security and fulfillment that no human being can offer. Tune in as we unravel these hidden dynamics of relationships, safety, trust, and emotional wellbeing. Come along on this journey of getting real about relationships and discovering the essence of connection.

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0:00:31 - Choking Hazards While Eating LOL (65 Seconds) 0:02:31 - Emotional Safety in Relationships (119 Seconds) 0:08:56 - Finding Safety and Connection With God (108 Seconds) 0:11:50 - Navigating Safety and Communication Challenges (87 Seconds) 0:27:08 - Navigating Social Media and Relationship Triggers (107 Seconds) 0:42:25 - Sharing Fears and Requesting Change (43 Seconds)

Keywords: Relationships, Safety, Trust, Vulnerability, Codependency, Childhood Influences, Emotional Wellbeing, Connection, Higher Power, Unconditional Love, Compassion, Ownership Language, Triggers, Defensiveness, Prioritizing Connection

Money, Status, Boob jobs, and Ego- Our Trip to Orange County May 02, 2023

We used to live in OC and haven't for almost 5 years now.

Coming back into town for a quick vacation, it reminded us of past struggles and insecurities.

It is a culture dominated by people looking for status, importance, beauty, and ultimately looking for love in all the wrong places.

But we also believe christians can enter into shame and blame for a culture like this without knowing how to thrive and get needs met and be a light in the darkness.

This episode is a dialogue on our process around it.

Enjoy the crazy background noises and the occasional baby wimper.

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How to Feel Enough and Show Up When You Feel Like A Failure Apr 19, 2023

"I'm not a good provider".

"I'll never feel loved"

"I'm a failure."

"I have no community"

It's difficult when life throws us into things that we are not good at or are new to like parenting, marriage, new jobs, new business...

And it's tempting to try and prove through action that we are enough and that we are lovable. How do we avoid that vicious cycle but also continue showing up in "the hard" of life without giving up?

In this episode we dive into how to practically work through those feelings and beliefs as well as how to show up with big capacity.

Enjoy!

Letting Go of External Control and Finding Peace Within Apr 11, 2023

Have you ever felt wildly out of control in seasons?

Have you felt alone in community?

Have you felt purposeless in your job?

Has parenting or marriage just taken the wind out of your sails?

It happens to all of us...but what do we do when we feel like our external circumstances and relationships feel totally outside of our control?

In this episode, Spencer and Sammi share the invitation God has given to them recently for turning inward and resting in His goodness.

If you like the new style of podcast, please let us know in the reviews!

When it's time to surrender your mind, not your heart: When your beliefs fail you Apr 07, 2023

In this episode, Spencer has a discussion with one of his mentors, Steve Backlund of Igniting Hope Ministries.

If you've felt hopeless about anything or you've struggled to have faith or connect with God, don't miss this episode.

One highlight: "Any area of your life that isn't glistening with hope is an area you're believing a lie, and that area is a stronghold of the enemy in your life."

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Connection with God in Any Season and the Nature of God Feb 28, 2023

We were recently asked on a podcast review what our connection with God looks like and how we navigate prayer and guidance from God.

In this episode we discuss our current season of connection with God despite running 2 businesses, having a 6 month old baby, and all the current challenges of marriage.

The truth is that every season looks different and our connection to God might change as well.

How do we truly thrive in every season without holding onto the external circumstances we need to "connect with God"?

Are some things spiritual but other things aren't?

Is God always for us?

Are we supposed to spend a certain amount of time in the word? in worship?

These are questions we answer in this week's podcast.

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Our Hard Week of No Sleep and Triggers Jan 31, 2023

We all have really hard weeks, really hard seasons, and sometimes we all just get depleted.

This week, we wanted to let you into a low moment of ours while we felt depleted.

We have a beautiful 5 month old baby, named Wilder and he is such a gift but this past week has been rough.

Sammi was sleep deprived.

Spencer feels over-worked.

In this episode, we talk about the tips and tools that get us through these hard times.

Enjoy!

TRIGGER-WARNING-Post Partum Sex- Staying Connected in Sexual Struggle Jan 26, 2023

TRIGGER WARNING!!!

We are talking about post-partum sex and our journey with sex recently.

If you don't want to hear nitty gritty details and a full sexual vocabulary, then don't listen.

Hope you enjoy!

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Forming Healthy Friendships- Confrontation and When to Heal Jan 17, 2023

Friendships can be difficult.

We've been in seasons when it feels like nobody is close or connected and seasons when life feels so full incommunity.

Then there are times when we have to confront people with pain and feedback and focus internally on the pain we're spilling out onto others.

Either way, relationships can be messy and forming healthy, secure friendships can be very difficult.

In this episode, Sammi and I wanted to get vulnerable about our season of community, the difficulties we've faces, how we've addressed those difficulties, and how you can possibly become more powerful in your friendships.

If you've had any type of friendship pain, we made this episode specifically for you.

Hope you get something from the discussion and we hope you enjoysome laughs along the way!

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How to fully embrace parenting and connect in the midst of "out of control" Jan 03, 2023

This week we are responding to instagram DMs.

The questions we are answering are, "How is Spencer able to attach to his baby so well? I have never seen a father attach to a newborn like that." and the 2nd question, "How does Sammi keep such a powerful perspective on mothering?"

Now, we are new parents...but we do believe our healing journey has set us up for success in so many areas, especially parenting.

If you're wondering how to be powerful in the midst of out of control scenarios, this episode is for you.

The Destructive Results of Black and White Thinking with Justin Stumvoll Dec 14, 2022

As a society we love being right and we hate being wrong.

Not only do most people hate being wrong, but we feel so deeply unsafe and insecure when we are wrong.

Right and wrong, black and white thinking destroys our ability to have real connection with eachother and with god.

In today's episode, we break down this type of thinking and introduce a healthier approach to life and relationships.

If you have felt judged by religion, this episode will hopefully bring healing and introduce you to new mindsets to set you free.

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What is Healthy Masculinity? With Justin Stumvoll Dec 08, 2022

MEN!!! This world needs healthy, masculine men.

This week I interviewed my friend and mentor, and someone I received coaching from for years...my good friend, Justin Stumvoll.

This week, we discussed the problems that men face: shame, porn, performance, and self-sufficiency.

There is a healing journey available for men but few men find it and few men take courage to run after it.

Hopefully, for you men, this episode gives you hope, reveals more of your true masculine identity, and gives you clarity on how you can get there.

If you are not a woman, but know know at least one man, lol then i'm sure this episode will help give you compassion and understanding towards the struggles of men and what a healthy man might look like.

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My Friend the Ex-Demon Worshipper: A Fun Dialogue about Life, Miracles, and the Supernaturaal Nov 30, 2022

This week will be inspiring for your walk with God.

Spencer interviews one of his best friends, Nick Bayerle, CEO of Billion Dollar Body, a Community of Entrepreneurs going after health, wealth, and wholeness.

The unique thing about Nick...

He used to host big Oujie Board Parties at his house.

Spencer led him to Jesus over 10 years ago, but since then Nick and Spencer have seen so many miracles with God and want to invite you into a deeper experience of God's manifest kingdom here on earth.

Hope you enjoy!

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Is God Really in Control? Deconstructing theology that makes us blame Him Nov 22, 2022

We've all heard that "God is in Control." But is it true?

We've heard things like, "Everything happens for a reason," or "The Lord Givith and the Lord Taketh Away," and could it be that we misunderstand God's sovereignty?

We believe that beliefs like this dictate the way we do life, the lens through which we perceive people and life, and impacts our internal state, freedom, and purpose.

In this episode, Sammi and Spencer dialogue about their beliefs and invite you into a discussion about God being in control.

They also go through the many questions you guys have asked on her instagram poll and answer them live on the episode.

We hope you enjoy this week's episode.

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Freedom From Religion- An Interview with John Mark Pantana Nov 10, 2022

John Mark Pantana, Worship Artist and Author, creator of Love Secrets and Mighty Grace shares his story with Spencer of coming out of the chains of religion as well as a life of rebellion towards God as well as drug use and self hatred.

John Mark and Spencer talk about religion and its devastation on their lives.

John shares about his encounters with God, intimacy with Him, and how to live connected to the Father.

If you haven't heard John Mark's music, you are missing out, Sammi and Spencer listen to it and worship wo it often.

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Purpose & Presence- When to work on yourself and when to go after vision Nov 01, 2022

Maybe you have been the person that has had huge vision for your life and have fought for the things in life you've wanted or felt called to.

Or maybe you've been the monk that has sought fulfillment within and hasn't cared about building or achieving anything in life.

Which is right?

When is it important to build, fight, run after things and when is it important to look inside yourself and find inner peace and fulfilment?

As very driven people, yet hungry for inner fulfillment, Sammi and Spencer have a conversation about the two.

Tony Robbins says that the worst form of failure is not the inability to find success, but for those that find success but still feel unfulfilled.

So should we be lazy and do nothing and hide our gift?

All these questions, Sammi and Spence tackle head on in this episode.

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Attachment Styles and Our Messy Past in Relationships Oct 18, 2022

Attachment Styles...

Are yout typically anxious for attachment when you get triggered in relationships?

Or are you typically apathetic and avoidant when you get triggered in relationships?

In this episode, we dive into attachment styles as well as give you an inside scoop into our relationship so that you can learn how to heal even more deeply.

The more self-aware you become, the more compassion you can find in the Father's love for your heart, and the more healing you can experience.

We want you to thrive in your relationships.

Enjoy the episode.

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Staying Connected and Full When Everything Else Is Trying to Empty You Oct 12, 2022

Our baby, Wilder is 7 weeks old now and we are navigating connection in the midst of so much output.

How do you stay full?

How do you stay connected?

We've all had busy seasons, painful seasons, or dead seasons...

In this episode we wanted to share some of the "Real" of what we've been experiencing in this new season and also share some of the ways we've stayed full, connected to ourselves, and not sunk into powerlessness or hopelessness.

It's so easy to get to a point in process where it feels like things are always going to be this way or like we can't get out of certain feelings.

To get our inside scoop, listen to this episode.

Also, enjoy some random Wilder noises throughout...he's so cute!

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Interview with My Dad, the Alcoholic Sep 27, 2022

I interviewed my Dad.

He's an alcoholic.

I've had a ton of pain and neglect from childhood because of him.

His parenting has marked my life.

But he has also chosen to confront his biggest failures and pain and although our connection is a work in progress, I have so much respect for the humility that he lives his life with.

My dad was pretty distant, disconnected, disassociated for a lot of my childhood.

I felt like I was always the problem that needed to be fixed.

I always felt like there was something wrong with me and I felt like nobody will ever love me for me...the authentic "me".

The process I've walked through with my parents and my father has been a redemptive one.

And who better to tell this story than my father...and me.

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A convo with my mom about family pain Sep 20, 2022

I felt codependent with my mom my whole life.

I felt like the only way to satisfy her was by shutting down my heart and emotions.

I had so much resentment towards her but DID NOT KNOW IT.

So I went through a healing process that lasted nearly a decade to no longer feel powerless and to connect with her.

I interviewed my mom this week for the podcast.

This is really cool because many of you have heard my story with my mom and the pain thatwe've walked through together as well as the childhood pain and codependency that we've healed from.

This episode is for those of you that want insights on how to navigate childhood pain with your parents in your adult life.

I get vulnerable.

My mom gets vulnerable.

And for a lot of you listeners, you're looking for inspiration and "how-to's" for connecting with your parents.

When we don't share our pain with our parents, we create distance.

When we hold onto resentments, it hurts us.

Hopefully this episode will help you get free from some of those areas you fell stuck.

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Our Birth Story- The Good, the Bad, & the Messy Process Sep 06, 2022

We just had our baby 2 weeks ago and have been on a podcast hiatus...both enjoying our new little boy and also processing some of the grief and trauma from the labor and birth.

We all have moments in our lives that aren't just black and white, good or bad.

How do we celebrate without dismissing grief?

How do we grieve without living in perpetual hopelessness?

A lot of you have been asking about how our birth experience was with Wilder...and this podcast episode is our response.

But besides the facts and events, we wanted to share about our raw process and how we navigated through disappintment despite having the most incredible day of our lives.

We hope you enjoy this episode.

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True Emotional Health Leads to Jesus Aug 16, 2022

We've seen people go after healing and leave christianity entirely.

We've seen people take license to just be triggered at everybody that sin't "safe".

We've seen people cling to religious legalism when healing and freedom is so close.

Whatever the case...there are a lot of "paths" out there to walk in our lives...a lot of options for how to do life and what to worship.

While many people have to intentionally question what they believe about God and many really should reconstruct their faith at some level, when do you go too far?

At what point do people miss out on the most freeing relationship that ever existed?

The truth is that Jesus is the most life-giving source of freedom that ever lived.

He is the person of unconditional love.

While some emotional health and psychologies philosophize and theorize unconditional love, we worship a real God and person that is the true manifestation of Love.

We don't have to fabricate this love in our minds.

He's a person that demonstrated this love to us.

We wanted to dialogue about God and the gospel and help listeners recenter to Him.

If you enjoyed this episode or found it helpful at all, please share with a friend! Who knows, they might need to hear it.

Weaponizing Emotional Health and Taking Ownership Aug 09, 2022

We, as human beings, love to learn new language and understanding and point it at other people rather than ourselves...

It is so easy to learn new emotional health language and become more self aware and emotionally Intelligent to then want to point it at others when they/we are triggered.

We have done this so many times...

And it doesn't help.

We've also made turned emotional health into another "fix yourself" process and have resented it in different seasons.

If you struggle with needing control or you have been someone that has felt safer by "knowing" or "understanding" things...

Then this episode is for you.

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Our Culture of Hurry and Busy and Slowing Down Aug 02, 2022

As a culture we are way too busy for our own good...

But why?

Why isn't it good?

In this episode we talk about how to work through overwhelm triggers and feeling out of control and how we try to take back control or medicate ourselves with work and toil.

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Trading Your Freedom for Fulfillment Jul 26, 2022

Sammi and I are moments away from our first baby...

We are going to be giving up a lot of freedom.

But we often make trade our freedom for relationship and things that we believe will be fulfilling.

Some of us do whatever we can to hold onto freedom and commitments and responsibilities feel terrifying.

How do you know when you're ready for that exchange?

What do you do when you're not ready?

In this episode, we talk about our process around trading freedom for what feels like more fulfillment.

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The Summer We Turned Pretty- Attractiveness & Comparison Jul 21, 2022

Should a person's value be reduced to what number they are on a scale of 1-10?

Is there more to relationships and dating than how attracted you are to someone?

Is attraction even important in relationships, really?

What should we do with the lust, attraction, and comparison that society feeds us?

Sammi and Spencer have both struggled with eating disorders, a deep need to be seen, noticed, and wanted...

And in this episode they discuss what to do with all of this, how to heal, and how to put physical attraction in its proper place.

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Inner Healing vs. Deliverance Part 2 Jul 12, 2022

If you want some nitty gritty stories of the supernatural and the demonic, then this is an episode you don't want to miss.

We're continuing our conversation about the demonic, the supernatural, and inner healing.

We might lose some of you here...but this is real stuff.

The last thing we want is to act like we have all of the answers but there are just things that we cannot ignore and we definitely cannot fake things that we have seen and experienced.

Hopefully, in this episode, you will have some questions and your eyes and lenses might open a little more as we are hoping for and praying for for ourselves as well.

If you liked this episode or any other, please take time to rate and leave a review...

Inner healing vs. Deliverance part 1 Jul 05, 2022

The demonic is very real.

And I'm sure if you've been a part of the church for long enough, you've heard of a bunch of different kinds of inner healing methods or styles...

We've both experienced the demonic and the supernatural but we haven't built a "deliverance" ministry...

This podcast episode answers "why?"

In this episode, we share stories of the supernatural and talk about the differences between inner healing and deliverance and how that overlaps with the healing process.

Hopefully, some of your boxes will be broken and this dialogue will encourage you to keep an open mind.

If you loved this episode, please take 20 seconds to rate and review the podcast and of course, share with a friend.

Sex Part 3- How We Healed from Sexual Trauma Jun 28, 2022

**TRIGGER WARNING**

Do NOT listen to this with children around and if you do not want to hear very nitty gritty details on our sexual experiences that we have healed from.

We made this episode to discuss the times we have been taken advantage of, the times we have chosen into destructive sexual decisions, and the process we went through afterward to heal.

This is for you if you feel stuck in shame, you feel scared of sexuality, or you feel powerless to your sex drive.

We are continuing the discussion on sex and inviting you in to more healing.

Please Rate and Review the podcast if you got anything out of it and if you do leave a review, let us know what else you want us to talk about.

Keep posted for our new Come Alive Program coming soon for men and women.

Sex! Part 2 (Cultivating Emotional and Sexual Intimacy in Marriage) Jun 21, 2022

After our last podcast episode on Sex, we received so many messages and comments from you guys.

This episode is the first of many responses to those questions.

So yes...we do listen to you :P

In this episode, we get very vulnerable but also share how we've cultivated safety for eachother sexually, how we've navigated disconnect, and how we have pursued eachother.

Whether you're married and wanting to create deeper connection in your marriage or you're single and wanting to create vision for the future, we made this episode for you.

We address men and their sexual pursuit of women and we address women and their sexual turn-on.

Enjoy!

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Sex! Jun 14, 2022

Don't live in shame.

Don't live powerless to it.

Don't keep silent.

And don't miss out on all of it's beauty.

In this episode, we have an honest dialogue about sex, our struggles, others' struggles, and how to get free from the shame that often keeps us stuck.

Don't keep reading this description...just go listen already!

Seriously, get goin'

What are you still doin' here?

;)

As always, these episodes are free for you...

it would really bless us if you took 20 seconds to rate and leave a review of the podcast.

Thanks in advance!

What to do when you feel alone and nobody can help Jun 07, 2022

We all get triggered in relationships...or even when we are just alone by ourselves.

What do you do when you can't shake that feeling that you're alone or nobody loves you?

So many of us blame the ones closest for not being or doing enough...

A lot of us escape to friends and people and can't be alone because being alone feels tormenting.

Where does that feeling come from and can we do anything to deal with it?

In this episode, we take a deep dive into loneliness and how it affects us and our relationships...

We actually just had a really triggering day ourselves and we wanted to invite you into it so you can know and understand what we do with those beliefs and feelings when they come up.

You were never meant to be powerless to it.

If this episode was valuable, please take 20 seconds to rate and review.

What Do Christians Need to Get Healthy? Interview w/ Life Consultant Laura Duncan May 31, 2022

Laura Duncan has coached men and women for a decade and teaches her compassion coaching method in our Coach Launch Program.

She has helped people get free from porn addiction, work through grief and loss, heal relationships, connect to God, get free from depression and suicidality, and heal with compassion.

In this episode, she, Sammi, and Spencer talk christianity and emotional health.

How should christians deal with their shame, pain, and problems?

You weren't meant to be fixed but loved.

Laura is also a mom of 4 kids and lost her husband several years ago and has a deep understanding of compassion and grief.

If you want to deepen your journey into heart healing and stepping into new levels of freedom, don't miss this episode.

If you enjoyed this episode, please take 20 seconds to rate and review the podcast!

And if you want to learn how to coach from us and from laura duncan and start your own life coaching career, CLICK HERE to apply.

How We Built Alive & Free Part 2 The Pains of Growing a Business and the Nitty Gritty May 24, 2022

Young Entrepreneurship is a hot topic nowadays...

And Christians are trying to figure out their place in it all.

Building our business has been so difficult and so rewarding...

It has put pressure on our marriage and also revealed and refined us in some of the best ways.

This episode is an invitation to you to grow in your beliefs, your capacity for risk, and the clarity of direction you might not have for where you want to go.

This is vulnerable for us to share with you but hopefully it saves you heartache in your entrepreneural endeavors and gives you some nudging to go after what you care about.

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And as always, take 20 seconds to leave a rating and review if this episode was beneficial in any way

The Alive & Free Story- How we built the company May 17, 2022

If you don't think entrepreneurship is vulnerable or that making a business and going after your dreams is triggering, then you have got it all wrong.

We would have never created A&F if it weren't for the inner healing process we went through with God.

It was scary to try, there was resistance, and there were people that didn't believe in us.

But we decided not to settle for mediocrity in our lives...and this is what came as a result.

In this episode, we wanted to share our story and the beliefs we had to change to be successful.

If you like this episode and want more, leave us a review and tell us.

If you want to contact us, email info@aliveandfreeconsulting.com

To apply for our new coach launch program where we teach you our inner healing/emotional health coaching methods and teach you how to build a 1-1 business from scratch, then CLICK HERE to apply.

If not, enjoy the free content and feel zero obligation to do anything!! Much Love.

Reconciliation Between Parents and Children May 10, 2022

Is reconciliation possible for children and their parents?

What would healthy dialogues look like between children and parents that may have caused childhood pain?

How can parents respond to the pain from their children?

Are some parents not worth confronting and hoping for deeper connection?

We explore all of this and more in this episode.

Melanie and Amanda are a mom-daughter duo looking to share the pain and restoration of their relationship after years of fear and control. To learn when the book launches, you can sign up for their mailing list at melaniehuggard.com. You can follow their book writing process on Instagram @momdaughterconnection.

Big News: Where is Alive & Free Going?! May 03, 2022

There is a lot of big news here...

So stay tuned...

But in this episode, we also break down the deep need for emotional health in the church.

Why is all of the pressure put on pastors to counsel marriages? Are church leaders equipped to help with people's trauma?

Is the Word ALL we need?

We discuss all of this in this episode.

For Men that want Resources, email info@aliveandfreeconsulting.com

To Apply for our Come Alive Program, go to yourheartfree.com/book-a-call

To look into our Coach Launch Program and apply, CLICK HERE

And of course, rate and review If you got anything out of this episode and leave your questions you want answered in the review!

Let's Get Vulnerable! What to do with the "hard" of life Apr 26, 2022

We are so vulnerable and raw and had a rough day.

It was a rough day for us and for Alive & Free.

There is no such thing as a pain free life and we have chosen not to shove our pain and we've chosen not to be powerless to it either.

What do you do when the "hard" of life feels unbearable and how do you grieve and value emotions and also put on your adult hat and get things done?

This is a vulnerable episode and a good one.

Links from the episode below!

If you're a woman and want to apply for our 100 Days to Come Alive Coaching Program, click the link below: https://www.yourheartfree.com/book-a-call

If you want to become a coach and learn how to transform lives and make a successful business out of it, apply here: https://www.yourheartfree.com/coach-launch

When Life Drastically Disappoints You Apr 19, 2022

In this Episode where I (Spencer) Interview my friend Matt, we talk about some really tough news he and his wife found out when their second son was born.

Their new son was born with Down-Syndrome...

And they were not expecting it at all.

9 months of dreaming, expecting, thinking about the future...totally and drastically changed...

But this became an incredible gift in their lives.

In this episode, Spencer and Matt talk about our relationships with expectations, healthy grieving of failed desires, and giving up control in a life surrendered to God.

Is life more about absolutes or possibilities?

This is a dense conversation that you guys don't want to miss.

If you got anything out of this episode, please take 20 seconds to rate and leave a review.

And if you want to learn more about us or what we offer, check us out at aliveandfreeconsulting.com

Get the inside scoop into our business and life Apr 12, 2022

How do you find God and trust Him in the midst of high highs and low lows?

We are emotional health coaches but we're also normal human beings with pain and our own issues and we also run a company of 35+ employees.

In this episode, we have an laid back chat about the current issues we're personally facing and how we're processing life.

If you like this episode and want more like it, let us know at info@aliveandfreeconsulting.com

If you got anything out of this episode, please take 20 seconds to rate and review the podcast- seriously it means a lot to us and helps us reach more people.

What's Wrong with the Church?! Part 2 Apr 05, 2022

We're continuing the conversation from our last episode on the problems, humanity, and pain found in the christian church and what to do with that pain.

If you're a woman and you want help working through your past pain, triggers, relationship disconnection and wounds, then apply for our 100 Days to Come Alive Coaching Intensive- apply here:

https://www.yourheartfree.com/book-a-call

The truth is, your pain can be a launching pad into deeply feeling, loving, and connecting in the reklationships that matter most to you, the Come Alive Program fro Women connects women to their hearts and to God and prepares them for a thriving marriage and/or other relationships.

Join if that's you and you're ready to take ownership for your life and step into a freedom you've never felt before.

https://www.yourheartfree.com/book-a-call

What's Wrong with the Church?! Part 1 Mar 29, 2022

What's wrong with the church?

A lot..

But should it have as much control over us or our emotions as it does?

Why are some church cultures so toxic and what can we do about it to make change and also show up powerfully?

Sammi and Spencer talk about the church hurt that they've processed through and some of the observations they've made about the christian church and what they believe could be better.

This is part 1 of this dialogue...

Hope it blesses you.

If you liked this episode, please rate and review...and if you believe a friend needs to hear it, share it with a friend!

Balancing Contentment and the Desire for More Mar 22, 2022

We've seen people often fall into two extremes of thought...

Either "focus on what you want, relentlessly, and confidently expect it until you step into it...be obsessive and go after your dreams."

Or...

"Just be content...desire for nothing- in fact kill you desires and just be okay with no pleasure or desires fulfilled and definitely don't dream..."

Is balance between the two what's healthy?

Or is there another way to look at it?

Sammi and Spencer talk about their journey around maintaining a relationship with their hearts desires, submitting to God, wrestling with contentment and dreaming, and all the questions that come with it.

If you want to find fulfilment in your life, this is an episode you don't want to miss!

And PEOPLE...if you got any value out of this episode...please rate and leave a review. You have no idea how valuable that is. This content is free and that is a quick and easy way to give back.

Anatomy of a Healthy Dating Process Mar 15, 2022

Spencer and Sammi Interview Kait Warman, author of Thank You For Rejecting Me and Host of Heart of Dating Podcast.

Kait has been a dating coach, author, and speaker to christian singles for years now and has hosted several Heart of Dating Conferences for thousands of singles.

In this episode, we have a dialogue about what a healthy dating process actually looks like and Kait gets vulnerable about her recent journey up until her recent engagement.

This episode is one you don't want to miss!

To see Kait's book and resources and her dating community, go to www.heartofdating.com

Are you triggered? Mar 08, 2022

Triggers can either destroy relationships or be the doorway to your personal freedom.

Triggers reveal past pain and past wounds and if left unresolved can control your relationships...especially your closest ones.

Sammi and Spencer discuss their own triggers as well as the most common triggers in relationships and what to do when you experience yours.

To download our triggers course for only $19, go to compassionfortriggers.com

If you liked this episode and found it valuable, please take 20 seconds to rate and leave a review.

If you are a woman and want to join us on a luxury retreat in Tennessee, email sulaine@aliveandfreeconsulting.com for details!

Do Emotionally Healthy Men Exist? Interview w/ SF Giants Pitcher Tyler Beede Mar 01, 2022

On this podcast episode, Spencer interviews San Francisco Giants Pro Pitcher Tyler Beede on what it means to be an emotionally healthy man on a journey.

It is rare these days for men to choose into confronting pain and hard emotions...

The world tells us to suck it up and just get over it while women are begging men to have a heart and connect.

Men's emotions run deep and there is a fight for our childlikeness and health.

In this episode, Spencer and Tyler tackle questions araound masculinity, performance anxiety, depression, and being a believer in a high performance, professional athletics world.

It was Sammi's birthday last week and if you wanted to give her a gift for her birthday, please take 60 seconds to rate and review the podcast- it would mean a lot.

If you liked this conversation, share it with a man you love or anyone else you think might benefit from it.

[Min 2:30-5:30]. What's it like to be a professional athlete?

[Min 5:30-6:30] Is it hard to be a believer in professional baseball?

[Min 7:00-9:00] How did you meet/find God?

[Min 9:00-12:00] Performance anxiety, depression, turning down $2.5 million]

[Min 13:00] Emotional Health

Forming a Healthy Community Around You and Healing from Past Relationships Feb 22, 2022

Sammi and Spencer talk about the pain of community, the difficulty of trusting people, and the struggle of building friendships with people.

It's not easy to put yourself out there with new people.

It's particularly scary to get close and intimate with people.

To let them see you- see the real you.

And even scarier to feel misunderstood, betrayed, unseen, unloved, abandoned, or rejected.

And It is SO HARD to risk hurt again...but life is bland and meaningless without people to share it with.

We hope this conversation blesses you!

If you like this episode or any other, again please take 20 seconds to rate and review the podcast...or share with a friend that needs it.

It's an easy way to help rank the podcast and get the word out.

Love y'all.

How to Not Abandon Yourself in Relationships Feb 15, 2022

For a lot of people, it's easy to abandon their heart, their voice, their needs, and their desires in relationships.

It can be scary to own your needs and desires.

Many of us have been trained growing up in family to not trust ourselves or to believe that our hearts don't matter.

This can destroy connection and intimacy in relationships.

If you have ever had a tendency to lose yourself in relationships, this podcast episode is for YOU!

If you liked this episode or any other, please take 20 seconds to rate and review the podcast- it's an easy way to give back and it's super quick.

If you feel like this episode could help a friend, feel free to share the link!

Dating Fails & Healing from Break-ups Feb 08, 2022

We have so many clients that have had painful dating scenarios...

A guy ghosts them on a date or after texting for awhile...

They find out a guy is nothing like how they thought...

Spencer has been verbally shamed for the way he has dated...

Sammi has been secretly dated behind her back and we've heard so many other painful experiences from other women.

In dating, we have all different belief systems and styles and we wanted to unpack some of those experiences and how to be powerful in the midst of them.

We also wanted to give practical tools and process for healing from breakups because we know so many of you are trying to stay open while also making sure to not end up devastated.

If you loved this episode or any other, please take 20 seconds to rate and review the podcast.

And if you are a woman and you'd like to apply for our 100 Days to Come Alive Program to heal and prepare for a thriving relationship, go to: https://www.yourheartfree.com/book-a-call

You can apply and if you qualify, you can have a free call with one of our enrollment coaches.

Timestamps

[3:53] Podcast content starts-banter is all done

[7:09] Spencer's dating fail story

[17:00] Rest of episode

Is numbing, checking out, dissociation stealing from your life? Feb 01, 2022

Do you find yourself endlessly scrolling on instagram or tick-toc, or facebook? Do you ever feel like you're having out of body experiences? Do you feel like it's hard to stay present and feel pain or process disappointment and connect to the people right in front of you?

If so, you're not alone.

In this episode, Sammi and Spencer break down dissociation in relationships and when it becomes damaging and destructive and how to deal with it.

They share vulnerable stories of their own lives as well as client stories.

This is an episode you don't want to miss!

If this episode was helpful, please take 20 seconds to rate and review the podcast. This is free content and it would be an easy way for you to give back. Hope it blesses you!

Relinquishing Control- Or should you be controlling? Jan 25, 2022

How many of us experience fear in relationships? Or fear in general…

Fear makes us do all kinds of crazy things…

Especially if we are scared we won’t have our needs met.

So what do we do? We control.

I think if most of us admitted, we would say we all have dealt with control in one way, shape, or form.

And not all control is bad, but in relationships, control destroys our connection.

Control takes all of our safety away and makes us feel trapped.

But what if you’re the one controlling?

In this episode, Sammi and Spencer break down control and how to relinquish it so your relationships can have better connection.

If you liked this episode or any other please take 20 seconds to rate and review the podcast. And share it with a friend.

Healing the Ways We See God as Not Fully Good Jan 18, 2022

Whether we've "backslidden", we've felt disconnected from God, we've felt angry at Him, or we think He withholds good things from us, we all have opportunities to draw conclusions about who God is.

What causes this?

Is it our past pain?

Our theology?

Church leaders?

Our parents?

Or is that just how God really is?

In this Episode, Spencer and Sammi explore why we have different beliefs and perspectives of God and how those beliefs affect the way we relate to Him and do life.

They also talk about what to do to address those views and how to change them and how to heal our pain that might be connected to those views.

If you have questions or topics that you want us to explore, email them to info@aliveandfreeconsulting.com.

But if you got anything out of this episode today or any other episode…Please subscribe, rate, and leave a review. …And of course use the link to share with a friend if you think this conversation could help them too.

New Year, New You? Healing Your Relationship with Discipline Jan 11, 2022

New Years can be a time that re-engages us with desire and discipline or a time that triggers us into performance or burnout and for some, even self-hatred and judgment for not having accomplished what we've wanted. If you have a shaky relationship with discipline whether you feel very reactive to discipline or you punish yourself to accomplish, this episode is for you. We want to invite you into vulnerable stories of our burnout and healing journey towards discipline and desire and give you tools that we've learned in goal setting, vision-casting, and how to have a healthy relationship with self-discipline. Discipline is not punishment and it's also not bad. Discipline is a valuable tool...But if you don't know who you are or how loved you are, discipline can become twisted. In this episode, we want you to feel powerful, connected to vision, and ready to take action steps in your life.

If this episode blessed you or any other episode did, please rate and review- it takes 20 seconds...and if you know a friend that needs this, share it with them.

How Might We Be Holding Ourselves Back From Our Future Spouse?? Jan 04, 2022

There are times and seasons that God has us in but there are also self-inflicted seasons of being stuck and powerless in our lives.

In this episode, Spencer and Sammi explore the possible reasons why people keep themselves stuck, alone, single, or ending up with the "wrong person".

If you want to feel confident in the relationship you choose, this episode is a great cinversation to be apart of.

Failing Forward- Why people let failure hold them back Dec 28, 2021

We as people often let failures and mistakes define us.

We get scared and make vows to never fail again. We think failure makes us unlovable, unacceptable, and it keeps us from risking again and living a life we love because of it.

Fear of failure keeps so many of us trapped in our lives and stuck.

But we don't have to live powerless to it and failures don't have to be the end.

If you get anything valuable out of this episode or any others, please rate and review- it takes only 20 seconds and it would help a lot!

Does God Tell Us Who to Marry? Is that the Way a Christian Should Date? Dec 22, 2021

In this episode, Sammi and Spencer break down dating and christianity. They filmed a youtube video a while back titled "God Will Tell You Who to Marry" and received a lot of great responses as well as a TON of flack... In this podcast episode, Sammi and Spencer discuss healthy ways to approach dating for believers as well as some "not so healthy" approaches.

If you get anything out of this podcast episode or any others...Please rate and review. It takes literally 30 seconds and can help get this conversation out to people that need it!

The Emotionally Healthy Believer- Psychology and the Gospel Dec 22, 2021

Is counseling better or is the Word? Where does emotional health even fit into the gospel and Jesus? Maybe you're so knowledgable of emotional health and the Word but for some reason your relationships still don't reflect it. We all know brilliant psychologists that have blown up their relationships as well as the most knowledgable pastors...

So what is health? How DO we make our relationships thrive?

If you get anything out of this podcast episode or any others...Please rate and review. It takes literally 30 seconds and can help get this conversation out to people that need it!

How Hard are the First 3 Years of Marriage? Can You Avoid Pain and Mistakes in Marriage? Dec 22, 2021

If you're single, dating, or engaged, it can feel like a mystery of what to expect for marriage someday. Our perspectives of marriage can be formed by our view of Mom and Dad's marriage, others', and even our fantasies. What's real and what can you expect?

We talk: sex, pain, messes, connection, adventure, grieving, and doing life powerfully.

Why is marriage SO HARD for most people?

If you get anything out of this podcast episode or any others...Please rate and review. It takes literally 30 seconds and can help get this conversation out to people that need it!

What does it mean to be healthy? Take these Steps to Come Alive in Your Life Dec 22, 2021

What does it mean to be Alive & Free? What does it look like to be a healthy believer?

In this episode we explore the meaning of thriving in life, relationships, and connection with God.

Life can bring so many messes, losses, and high highs but sometimes we can get derailed and lose track of what we're doing, why we're growing, and what the goal actually is.

In this episode, Sammi and Spencer have a conversation about Coming Alive in life.

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