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I Was Sober for 11 Years... Then I Went Back | Matt Farnsworth Jun 11, 2026

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What happens when someone stays sober for 11 years... and still ends up relapsing?

In this powerful episode of That Sober Guy Podcast, Shane sits down with keynote speaker, bestselling author, filmmaker, and recovery coach Matt Farnsworth to discuss the hard truths about sobriety, relapse, identity, and what it actually takes to build a life worth staying sober for.

Matt shares his incredible story of achieving more than a decade of sobriety before relapsing and spiraling into a devastating car accident that left him with a broken neck and clinically dead for three minutes. Yet even after surviving the crash, he found himself seeking alcohol again just hours later.

Together, Shane and Matt explore why simply removing alcohol is often not enough, how many people mistake abstinence for recovery, and why rebuilding identity is one of the most important parts of lasting transformation.

They also discuss the tendency toward self deception, the danger of trying to recover alone, and why rock bottom may be the beginning of a comeback rather than the end of the story.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why white knuckling sobriety often leads to relapse • The difference between being sober and being truly free • How identity shapes long term recovery • Why the brain that got you addicted cannot be trusted to get you out • The cycle of temptation, isolation, shame, and relapse • Why outside help, accountability, and community matter • How to turn rock bottom into a launchpad for change • What it takes to build a life worth staying sober for

Whether you're newly alcohol free, years into recovery, or simply looking to level up your life, this conversation offers practical wisdom, hope, and a reminder that your past does not have to define your future.

Takeaway:

If you're a man looking to quit drinking, improve your health, and build momentum in your life, join our free online men's community, The Victory Circle.

You'll connect with other men committed to becoming stronger husbands, fathers, leaders, and business owners while living alcohol free.

You can also check out our 30 Day Alcohol Free Performance Challenge, designed to help high performing men eliminate alcohol, increase focus, improve energy, and unlock their full potential.

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Personal Responsibility vs. Addiction: What Actually Works? | Dr. Tyler Evans Jun 04, 2026

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Is addiction really a disease? Or does personal responsibility play a bigger role in recovery than most people realize?

In this episode of That Sober Guy Podcast, Shane sits down with Dr. Tyler Evans, addiction medicine physician, public health leader, and CEO of Wellness Equity Alliance, for a thought provoking conversation about addiction, recovery, personal responsibility, and the systems that influence our health and behavior.

Together, they explore some of the most debated topics in recovery, including the disease model of addiction, the role of trauma, the power of personal choice, and whether our current approach to recovery is helping people or holding them back.

If you've ever questioned what you've been told about addiction, wondered why some people successfully quit drinking while others struggle for years, or challenged the labels and beliefs often associated with recovery, this episode will give you plenty to think about.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Is addiction a disease, a behavior, or something in between? • How personal responsibility impacts long term recovery • Why alcohol remains one of society's most accepted addictive substances • The role of trauma, environment, and individual choice in recovery • Whether recovery labels help people heal or keep them stuck • How alcohol impacts performance, leadership, and reaching your full potential

Whether you're sober curious, alcohol free, in recovery, or simply looking to optimize your health and performance, this conversation offers a fresh perspective on one of the most important topics affecting millions of people today.

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You can also check out our 30 Day Alcohol Free Performance Challenge, designed to help high performing men eliminate alcohol, increase energy, sharpen focus, and build momentum in every area of life. https://www.thatsoberguy.com/quit-drinking-alcohol-for-30-days

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What If “Alcoholic” Is the Wrong Identity? May 29, 2026

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What if alcohol was never really the problem?

In this episode of That Sober Guy Podcast, Shane Ramer dives into identity, addiction, purpose, and why he no longer identifies as an “alcoholic.” From recovery culture and the disease model of addiction to faith, connection, masculinity, and personal responsibility, this is an honest and controversial conversation about what real freedom actually looks like.

If you’ve ever felt stuck in labels, shame, or the endless cycle of escape, this episode will challenge the way you think about sobriety, and yourself.

Sobriety gave me clarity. Purpose gave me freedom.

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Everything Is ‘Self-Care’ - Except Quitting Drinking Apr 30, 2026

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Everything Is ‘Self-Care’… Except Quitting Drinking?

Everywhere you look, it’s “protect your peace,” “prioritize your mental health,” and “build better habits.”

But somehow… drinking still gets a free pass.

In this episode, we take a fun, honest look at the irony of modern self-care culture, where we track our sleep, invest in routines, and talk about mental health… while doing the one thing that quietly works against all of it.

From “you deserve it” mentality to the real impact alcohol has on stress, sleep, and performance, this episode breaks it down in a relatable (and slightly sarcastic) way.

Most of what we call self-care isn’t actually helping.

If you’ve ever felt stuck in that cycle, or started questioning it, this episode will hit home.

Because real self-care isn’t always comfortable—
but it’s what actually moves your life forward.

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Things That Used to Sound Fun… Until You Quit Drinking Apr 24, 2026

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Remember when staying out late, bar hopping, and “just one drink” sounded like a great idea? Yeah… not so much anymore.

In this episode, we’re keeping things light, fun, and real as we talk about the things that used to feel exciting while drinking, but now just sound exhausting. From late-night chaos to hangovers that ruined entire weekends, we’re looking at how your definition of fun changes when you quit drinking.

Sobriety isn’t boring. It’s clarity, energy, peace, and actually enjoying your life again.

If you’ve ever realized that your priorities shifted after quitting alcohol, or you’re starting to feel that shift happening—this episode will make you laugh, nod your head, and maybe even feel a little proud of how far you’ve come.

You didn’t lose fun when you quit drinking. You upgraded it.

If you're tired of guessing… If you're tired of starting over… If you're ready to build structure instead of relying on willpower…

That's exactly why I created the 30-Day Sober Performance Challenge.

It's a simple, step-by-step daily framework to help you reset your habits, build discipline, and prove to yourself that you can do this.

If that sounds like what you need, you can check it out in the description.

If you're ready to commit to 30 days and build momentum, you can start here:

https://www.thatsoberguy.com/quit-drinking-alcohol-for-30-days

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The Real Reason You Can’t Quit Drinking Apr 16, 2026

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Most men think they can’t quit drinking because they lack willpower.
They tell themselves they need more discipline, more motivation, or to just try harder next time.

But that’s not the real problem.

In this episode, I break down the truth most men never hear: drinking isn’t random, it’s functional. It’s solving something. Stress, pressure, boredom, loneliness, or the need to escape. And when you try to remove alcohol without replacing what it was doing for you, your brain fights back.

Not because you're weak.
Because you're wired for survival.

We’ll talk about why quitting feels so hard, what’s actually happening behind the scenes, and how shifting your focus from willpower to structure can change everything.

If you’ve ever found yourself stuck in the cycle of starting over, this episode will help you finally understand why, and what to do next.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

Why willpower alone isn’t enough to quit drinking
The real reason alcohol becomes hard to let go of
How habits form around stress, routine, and reward
Why structure beats motivation every time
The first step to breaking the start-stop cycle

Ready to stop guessing and start building a plan?

That’s exactly why I created the 30-Day Sober Performance Challenge — a simple, step-by-step daily framework to help you reset your habits, build discipline, and prove to yourself that you can do this.

If you're ready to commit to 30 days and build momentum, you can start here:

https://www.thatsoberguy.com/quit-drinking-alcohol-for-30-days

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How to Quit Drinking for 30 Days (Step-by-Step Plan) Apr 10, 2026

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Thinking about quitting drinking for 30 days but not sure where to start?

In this episode, I break down a simple, practical step-by-step plan to help men go alcohol-free for 30 days without white-knuckling it or relying on willpower alone. This isn't about perfection — it's about discipline, clarity, and building momentum.

You'll learn:

• Why most men fail to quit drinking
• The biggest mistake guys make in the first week
• How to prepare your environment for success
• What to expect during the first 30 days
• How to stay consistent when motivation drops

If you're tired of starting over every Monday, this episode will give you a clear path forward.

And if you're ready to take action, I created the 30-Day Sober Performance Challenge — a simple daily plan designed to help men build discipline, improve performance, and gain control of their habits.

Try our 30-Day Sober Performance Challenge — https://www.thatsoberguy.com/quit-drinking-alcohol-for-30-days

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How Do I Stay Sober Without Feeling Like I'm Missing Out? Apr 08, 2026

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When you quit drinking, one of the biggest fears is this:
Am I going to miss out on all the fun?

In this episode, I talk honestly about the fear of missing out, and why sobriety doesn’t make life boring… it makes life better.

I share how alcohol culture sells us the idea that drinking equals fun, why that belief is so hard to shake, and the mindset shifts that helped me realize I wasn’t missing out, I was leveling up.

If you’ve ever worried that life without alcohol will feel dull, lonely, or restrictive, this episode will give you a new perspective and practical ways to enjoy life, stay social, and build a life you don’t need to escape from.

In this episode, we cover:
• Why FOMO is common in early sobriety
• The truth about alcohol and fun
• How to reframe the “I can’t drink” mindset
• Ways to stay social and enjoy life without alcohol
• Why sobriety gives you more, not less

And if this topic resonates with you, be sure to check out my book,
Sober Guy: How Do I? — Real Answers for Men Who Want to Quit Drinking and Win at Life, where I dive deeper into the exact strategies and mindset shifts we talk about in this episode.

Because the truth is simple:
You’re not missing out. You’re leveling up.

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How Do I Deal With Cravings and Triggers? Apr 03, 2026

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Let me paint you a picture.

You walk into the grocery store for a normal errand… and suddenly the beer aisle lights up like a Christmas tree. You weren’t planning on drinking. You weren’t even thirsty. But out of nowhere, the craving hits.

If you’ve ever found yourself negotiating with your own brain -
"Maybe just one."
"No, don’t do it."
"Come on, you deserve it."

- then you know exactly what I’m talking about.

In this episode of That Sober Guy Podcast, we’re continuing the 4-week series from my book:
Sober Guy: How Do I? — Real Answers for Men Who Want to Quit Drinking, Lead Strong, and Win at Life.

We’re breaking down what cravings really are, why triggers happen, and the simple tools you can use to stay in control when the urge to drink shows up.

Because here’s the truth:
Cravings are normal. They’re temporary. And they don’t control you.

In this episode, you’ll learn:
• Why cravings and triggers happen (and why they’re not a sign of weakness)
• The HALT method to identify what’s really driving the urge
• The 5-minute rule that helps cravings pass
• How to interrupt the pattern before you relapse
• Simple strategies to stay strong in real-life situations

If you’re trying to quit drinking, stay sober, or just want better tools to handle urges when they hit, this episode is for you.

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How Do I Deal With Stress Without a Drink? Mar 25, 2026

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Stress was one of my biggest drinking excuses.

Rough day at work? I deserved a beer.
Bills piling up? Couple drinks would “take the edge off.”
Kids bouncing off the walls? Let’s drink about it.

But here’s the truth I had to learn the hard way: alcohol never removed stress, it just delayed it.

In this episode of That Sober Guy Podcast, I break down practical, real-life ways to handle stress without reaching for a drink. We’ll talk about why stress is such a powerful trigger, how drinking actually stacks stress instead of solving it, and the simple tools that help you stay calm, focused, and in control when life gets heavy.

This episode is part of a special 4-week series from my book:
Sober Guy: How Do I? — Real Answers for Men Who Want to Quit Drinking, Lead Strong, and Win at Life.

If you’re feeling overwhelmed, burned out, or tempted to drink when pressure hits — this one’s for you.

You’ll learn:
• Why stress triggers the urge to drink
• How to reset your mind and body in minutes
• The simple daily habits that reduce anxiety
• How to respond to stress instead of escaping it

Remember:
Drinking made stress worse.
Sobriety makes you sharper.

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