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ICYMI: Want To Be A Successful Investor? Here’s How To Choose The Ideal Asset Mix For Your Risk Tolerance And Goals (Plus, What To Do When The Market Crashes), with Jessica Moorhouse Apr 03, 2023

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Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed.

Investing doesn’t have to be complicated, and you certainly don’t need to be rich to do it. We’re ready to flip that narrative with the help of expert Jessica Moorhouse. We’re throwing it back to her fire advice for understanding and simplifying investing, identifying your goals, time horizon and risk tolerance, and choosing an asset mix accordingly. (Plus, what to do when the market continues to crash.)

Jessica is a millennial money expert, speaker, Accredited Financial Counsellor Canada®, award-winning blogger, host of the More Money Podcast and founder of the Millennial Money Meetup, a series of empowering personal finance events. Her mission is to teach others how to take control of their lives by taking control of their money and we are here for that!

We hope this helps you start building your financial skillset so you can invest with confidence!

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The Quickie: How To Say “No” To Get More Of What You Really Want Mar 29, 2023

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This might come as a surprise, but telling people “no” isn’t actually one of the seven deadly sins. Here’s what actually happens when you say “no” to things you don’t align with that consistently drain you: You open up all of the doors for the “HELL YES” opportunities to come flooding in!

But if you’re anything like us and tend towards people pleasing, creating boundaries can feel foreign. And that inherent desire to avoid conflict and keep the peace can often do more harm than good. That’s why we’ve committed to learning how, and when, to prioritize our own needs, so we can show up as our best selves for all the wonderful things we say yes to. Because we can’t do it all, and our time and energy are finite resources.

There's a lot of talk, and a lot to be said, for the power of Yes, but No hasn’t gotten the same star treatment and we think it’s time to change that. From increasing productivity and preventing burnout to building healthy relationships, this week we’re giving “No” the rebrand it deserves!

Join us as we chat about:

Overcoming the need to people-please
How to rewire your brain to make different decisions
Our one exception for avoiding “no”
The ways no has changed our lives and opened new doors
How to set healthy boundaries and communicate effectively
Tips for getting better at saying no
The importance of honesty and vulnerability
The 3 questions to help you make any decision

We hope this helps you harness the power of doing less shit that you don’t enjoy, so you can make space for all the stuff that’s worth it.

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ICYMI: How To Craft A Winning Resume And LinkedIn Profile, with Emily The Recruiter Mar 27, 2023

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Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed.

Crafting the perfect resume and LinkedIn can be stressful AF. These days it feels like a full-time job just trying to keep everything updated and optimized for each posting you apply to. But are we overthinking it?

We called in Talent Attraction expert, career coach, and your recruitment big sister, Emily Durham, aka Emily The Recruiter, to teach us the keys to perfecting your job application. Emily breaks down everything that actually matters on your resume, cover letter, and LinkedIn, so you can shoot your shot at that dream job with confidence.

Emily is a senior recruiter at a major software company, but you may know her from her killer podcast, The Straight Shooter Recruiter, or from her TikTok and Instagram @Emily.The.Recruiter where she reaches over 2 million people with her helpful and relatable career advice.

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Asking For A Friend: How Do I Navigate Friendships When We’re All In Different Life Stages? Mar 22, 2023

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Picture this: You just turned 30. One friend just bought a home, while another is travelling the world. One is starting their own business, and one is skyrocketing up the corporate ladder. Some are getting married and having babies, and some are single AF. None of us can decide on a date to catch up, and where to go for dinner. So no one told you life was gonna be this way…

As we go through our 20s and 30s, we all start adulting in different ways and at different rates, and maintaining our ride-or-die connections can start to feel complicated. Navigating these different life stages means that our friendships sometimes end up at the bottom of the list, or we start growing in different directions and losing common ground. But every friendship goes through different seasons, and change doesn’t need to be a bad thing!

This week we’re tackling two juicy Qs: How to maintain our friendships when we’re at different life stages, and how to deal with comparison when those big milestones crop up.

Join us as we chat about:

How to stop comparing and start leading with curiosity
Getting rid of timelines and expectations for where you *should* be
Navigating feelings of isolation during a big life change
Why it’s as important to be there in the good times as it is in the bad
Celebrating your friend’s wins like they’re your own
Giving your friends the space to change and grow
Finding new ways to make memories together
How to communicate and self-regulate when your friendship dynamics shift
Bringing your people along for the journey

No matter where you’re at in life, your closest friendships are worth nurturing — they’re the family we get to choose! — and we’re choosing to fight for them.

If you have any burning questions for us and you want to get us in the hotseat, DM or email us your Qs at contact@teachmehowtoadult.ca and we’ll dive into them in an upcoming Asking For A Friend.

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ICYMI: Organization Tricks And Neuroscience Hacks To Spring Clean Your Life, with Megan Golightly Mar 20, 2023

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Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed.

It’s officially the first day of Spring (!!!) and we are in full swing cleaning mode. But after years of half-assing our own organization, we set out to really declutter, put systems in place, and get *Monica clean*.

We’re throwing it back to the top questions to ask during your decluttering journey, and the psychology behind organization and your belongings, with Megan Golightly. Megan is a professional home organizer and founder of Calgary-based business, Simplified, which helps people organize, pack and unpack their homes. Megan blends her degree in psychology and passion for neuroscience research with practical organization strategies.

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The Quickie: How To Be More Compassionate Towards Yourself And Others Mar 15, 2023

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We humans are social creatures, we thrive on community and connection. But in these times of social media comparison and cancel culture, it can feel like we’ve lost sight of something vital — compassion. With mean girls dominating the news cycle, we thought this would be the perfect time to get deep and teach ourselves a lesson on the importance of compassion, how to give it to others and most importantly, how to give it to ourselves.

At its core, compassion is about putting aside judgment and making an effort to understand the struggles within ourselves and others. It helps us create meaningful connections, build healthy relationships, and develop emotional intelligence, which coincidentally all make for a well-adjusted adult! We’re all a lot more similar than we are different so let’s get positive (but not in a toxic way we promise).

Tune in as we chat about:

What compassion actually means
The difference between pity, sympathy, empathy and compassion
The importance of finding similarities with others
How assuming positive intent can shift your mindset
Why we should validate someone before trying to find solutions
Holding space for someone's pain
Using the "RAIN" method to cultivate self-compassion
Gill's favourite Loving-Kindness mediation for next-level compassion

We hope this episode helps you have more compassion for the people in your life, but most importantly, for yourself.

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ICYMI: How To Change Your Life Using Visualization And A Simple Daily Check-In, with Raia "Coach" Carey Mar 13, 2023

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Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed.

Here’s the secret to breaking out of any rut, limiting beliefs, or periods of low self-esteem: You can completely change your life with one easy mindset tweak. So this week we’re throwing it back to the totally doable and life-changing tools Raia "Coach" Carey teaches to help clients gain confidence and break out of impostor syndrome… visualization, daily check-ins, and positive self-talk. Learn how to pursue the life you want, from the inside out, in just 5 minutes.

Coach Carey is a 3x certified life coach and motivational speaker who specializes in confidence, visualization, and career coaching. She's worked with global companies like RBC, LinkedIn, H&M, SoHo House and Get REAL, teaching others the tools she’s used to completely transform her own life.

We hope this episode helps you harness your confidence, overcome impostor syndrome and chase the success you deserve.

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Teach Me How To Plan My Dream Wedding (Without All The Stress), with Wedding Planner Rebecca Chan Mar 08, 2023

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Wedding season will soon be upon us, and if you’re planning to tie the knot, dreaming up a future wedding, or supporting a bride/groom in your life — this one’s for you. Whether you’re planning the event of the year, or an intimate and budget-friendly micro-celebration, every single wedding is a beautiful opportunity to celebrate love, so don’t lose sight of what’s important.

But no matter the scale or scope, weddings can be stressful, so we got the inside scoop from luxury wedding planner Rebecca Chan. Rebecca is the owner and lead planner of Rebecca Chan Weddings & Events, which specializes in planning beautiful, luxury weddings and events in Toronto and abroad. She’s been orchestrating stunning events for over a decade and is a regular Cityline guest expert. She’s even planned events for celebrities like Rupi Kaur!

So if you're ready to say "I do", tune in as we chat about:

Planning for the wedding that YOU want
Getting clear on what matters most
The big-ticket items you need to plan for
Hidden fees you might not know about
How to navigate the guest list and avoid hurt feelings
Subtle ways to ask for cash instead of gifts
Pro tips for having the perfect timeline on the day of your wedding
When you should start dress shopping
Qs to ask when finding the perfect venue

We hope this episode helps you plan the wedding of your dreams, minus all the nerves and overspending.

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ICYMI: 4 Ways To Crush Negotiations And Get What You Deserve, with Fotini Iconomopoulos Mar 06, 2023

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Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed.

How different would your life be if you weren’t afraid to ask for what you deserve? This week we’re throwing it back to a game-changing episode with negotiation expert, Fotini Iconomopoulos, where she shares four key ways to crush your next negotiation.

And here’s the thing: Negotiations are not about bulldozing others so you can get your way...they are about creating a collaboration that helps both parties get what they want. The key is confidence, clear communication, listening and empathy, and when you break it down like that, a lot of us already have these skills—we just need to apply them…and maybe practice with a friend!

Fotini’s been helping people get what they want, both personally and professionally, for decades. Through her keynotes, workshops and virtual courses, Fotini helps teach the negotiation and communication skills required to navigate any scenario. She teaches MBA Negotiations at the Schulich School of Business at York University, and is the author of the book “Say Less, Get More: Unconventional Negotiation Techniques to Get What You Want”.

We hope this episode inspires you to go after what you want and ask for what you deserve!

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Asking For A Friend: How Do I Prepare For Pregnancy (The Good, The Bad & The Mood Swings)? Mar 01, 2023

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If you’re starting to think about having a bébé, or newly expecting (congrats!), it’s totally normal for a laundry list of Qs — like, WTF IS THIS GOING TO FEEL LIKE!? — to start building up. The unknowns can feel daunting, and there are so many aspects of pregnancy that still aren’t openly talked about. Like the whole nipple situation.

Luckily for us, Cailyn tried out pregnancy for nine whole months, all so that we may benefit from her experiences and advice. Buckle up, because our resident mama is here to spill the tea on everything she learned during pregnancy.

Join us as we chat about:

How to know if you’re ready to start trying for a baby
WTF to do when you first find out you’re pregnant
Debunking the narrative that you should wait three months to tell people
How to approach telling your boss that you’re pregnant
Wild pregnancy symptoms you may not know about
How to know if you're doing all the right things
Having compassion for yourself and your body
The honest scoop on how Cailyn’s body changed
The best pregnancy advice Cailyn received

Stay tuned for our upcoming deep-dives into fertility, labor, postpartum realtalk, and life with a baby! Wherever you are in your pregnancy/fertility journey, we hope you have all the support and love you deserve during this incredible time in your life.

If you have any burning questions for us and you want to get us in the hotseat, DM or email us your Qs at contact@teachmehowtoadult.ca and we’ll dive into them in an upcoming Asking For A Friend.

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