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Amy J. Brown: amy@amyjbrown.com
Carrie M. Holt: carrie@carriemholt.com
Sara Clime: sara@saraclime.com
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Episode 175: Decmeber 5, 2024
In all the talk of Christmas being wonderful, there's also a huge sense of dread for mothers to get it all done. There are so many expectations of us during this time of the year. Carrie, Amy, and Sara discuss what lessons we have learned over the years. There are some rhythms and things we cut out in December to be more present and at peace. We want to encourage you to do the same, so listen in!
Key Moments:
[1:48] You don’t have to be a Pinterest mom
[7:21] Kids remember you being present and not stressed
[9:41] Keep things the same to minimize decision-making
[16:33] Put on Christmas music?
[27:07] Changes coming to our lives and the podcast
Resources:
Shadow and Light: A Journey into Advent
Ep. 63 Ten Tips for Thriving this Holiday Season
Invisible Challenges: Navigating Advocacy and Support While Parenting Challenging Behaviors.
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Sara met with the author and founder of We Are Brave Together, Jessica Patay, to discuss the beautiful things that come from being in a community of women caregivers. Jessica's community provides mentoring, meaningful conversations, and an authenticity that very few outside the caregiving community can replicate. She launched the nonprofit to support mothers of children with disabilities or mental health challenges. In her book, "Becoming Brave Together," she shares real stories of caregiving mothers to encourage understanding caregivers and their families and friends. Listen in to hear the inspiration for her nonprofit and her heart for special needs caregiving women.
Key Moments:
[8:44] Vulnerability breeds connections among caregiving women
[19:40] We hide our real emotions because of inspirational expectations.
[21:29] The book gives insight for friends of caregivers, too.
[24:55] We don’t want to be a burden so we avoid hard conversations.
[26:23] You are not meant to do this journey alone.
Resources:
Home Page: https://www.wearebravetogether.org
Book: Becoming Brave Together: Heroic, Extraordinary Caregiving Stories from Mothers Hidden in Plain Sight
Support: Connection Circles
Bite-Sized Self-Care Suggestions
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Find Sara at www.saraclime.com or on Instagram @saraclime
Amy, Sara, and Carrie explore the pervasive feelings of loneliness and isolation that special needs parents experience. They discuss how their past focus on efficiency led to prioritizing tasks over relationships. Now, years into their special needs parenting lives, they need intentional connection. They discuss their strategies for pushing past isolation and loneliness towards deeper friendships and finding their worth in the Lord.
Join the conversation to learn how to nurture meaningful relationships and gracefully navigate the loneliness challenge.
Episode 173: November 5, 2024
Key Moments:
[1:44] Even 18 years later, I still feel unseen
[7:21] The loneliness of isolation prevents carefree time with friends
[19:15] Overwhelmed exhaustion keeps me from planning things
[20: 40] Being honest and continue to reach out
[24:49] Have a website to send to a friend who wants to understand
{28:56} Make an effort, especially to those who have been faithful to us
Resources:
https://www.amazon.com/Show-Up-Bring-Coffee-Disabled/dp/B0CFZKZGS8
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Carrie M. Holt sat down with Sandy Ramsey-Trayvick, author of the new book, "When Dreams Are Disrupted," to talk about Sandy’s mindset journey as she was forced to step into the role of caregiver for her child. When a childhood illness changed the life of her son, it left her feeling helpless. In this episode, she shares what God revealed concerning her choices and how she’s been working with this new set of options God has given her. This conversation with Sandy will inspire you to choose an “un-disabled” mindset as you raise your child with disabilities or special needs and fill that role of caregiver.
Ep. 172: October 15, 2024
Key Moments:
[1:45 ] God-given choices persist despite diagnosis
[12:15] Humans struggle to believe God's unconditional love
[17:12] Trustworthy friends dispel irrational fears
[27:30} Parents impact children but should prioritize just being present
[31:35] God handles outcomes; human understanding is limited
Resources:
Undisabled Lives Website
Sandy’s Coaching
When Dreams Are Disrupted
The Bix Six: Things Kids Need From Their Parents: Adam Young
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Long-term caregiving requires a mindset shift for our emotional life and our relationship with God and others. Carrie, Amy, and Sara discuss practical tips for surviving and thriving long term. They discuss spiritual practices, practical habits to avoid burnout, and mindfulness to address the stressors and difficulties that come with caregiving. You’ll walk away with valuable tips you can begin incorporating into your life right now!
Ep. 171, October 1, 2024
Key Moments:
[6:39 ] Our permanent situation and loss of dreams
[13:25] Where was Jesus in that moment?
[21:22] Caregiving is worship
[28:35] My roles and my boundaries
[36:51] Accepting help
Resources:
Interview with Laura Hernandez
Episode 157
The Place We Find Ourselves Podcast: Free Therapy!
The Allender Center Podcast
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In this episode, Amy Brown interviews Megan Amrich, author of the book 'Show Up and Bring Coffee: How to Support Your Friends with Disabled Children.' They discuss practical ways to support parents of children with disabilities, including being knowledgeable but not a know-it-all, being an extra set of hands, and making events and celebrations accessible. Megan emphasizes the importance of asking your friends what they need and being open to learning about their child's diagnosis. She also encourages friends to share their big news with sensitivity and understanding.
Introduction and Welcome
02:51 The Importance of Practical Support
06:15 Trusting Your Friend's Knowledge
10:35 Being an Extra Set of Hands
17:19 Finding the One Thing That Would Benefit Your Friend
20:41 Small Acts of Help Can Make a Big Difference
25:18 Making Events and Celebrations Accessible
36:14 Sharing Big News with Sensitivity
41:33 Conclusion and Where to Find Megan
Megan’s Website
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In this episode, we sit down together to discuss joy and how we can capitalize on the moments that we have. We talk about adjusting our expectations, addressing past trauma, and embracing the fleeting nature of life to cultivate joy in the present moment. We discuss the struggle of feeling constantly on guard and the tendency to brace oneself for negative experiences, hindering the ability to be open to moments of joy. Lots of good takeaways to help you foster joy in your life!
Key Moments:
[3:36] Difficulty in letting go and playing with kids
[10:50] Struggling to enjoy things without them perfect
[19:03] Assuming best intentions, past interactions do not dictate
[27:23] Self-reflection and noticing what brings you joy
[37:06] Joy in relationships, celebrating your child’s growth
Resources:
Cozy Minimalist Community
House Rules
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Today, Sara talks with Dr Maureen Michele, physician, life coach, and author of the book Reclaiming Life: A Guide For Parents of Chronically Ill Children. We dive deep into the essential aspects of advocacy and emotional resilience, particularly in the context of parenting chronically ill children. We discussed the "4 C's" - consciousness, curiosity, commitment, and courage - and how these principles give us as caregivers and our children the tools we need to manage our thoughts and emotions. Plus, Dr. Maureen shares helpful advice for effectively disagreeing and handling emotions during doctors or IEP appointments focusing on the need for curiosity, fascination, and grace in approaching disagreements.
Key Moments:
[4:38] Noticing our own thoughts
[13:48] Wins and losses provide valuable growth
[17:16] Approach meetings with curiosity and a list.
[31:36] Caregivers have real feelings in front of our children, modeling vulnerability
Resources:
Website: https://maureenmichelemd.com
Instagram: @maureenmichelemd
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/maureenmichelemd
Book on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BNKXF3VQ
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There are emotional complexities and practical considerations of caring for children with disabilities or special needs during emergencies. In this episode, we discuss our conversations with our kids about emergencies, how we prepare for these inevitabilities, and how to recognize our personal needs to find emotional support during these crises. This episode will empower you to have a plan but prioritize your well-being while caring for all your children in these challenging times.
Key Moments:
[4:34] Censoring medical history for son, balancing information
[11:49] Mom's emotions and the need to express them
[18:00] Emergencies caused by behavior should be discussed after it happens
[39:50] Anxious about an upcoming trip because of past trip traumas
[43:25] What calms you? How to avoid a meltdown
Resources:
Sara's Emergency Checklist: 6 Manageable Steps to Prepare Your Backup Caregiver
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Carrie sat down with Kristin and Todd Evans to discuss their newly released book, How to Build a Thriving Marriage As You Care for Children with Disabilities. They talk about communication strategies for couples, how they manage stress, and the ongoing grief we experience as special needs parents. This episode offers practical advice and emotional support for couples facing similar challenges.
Ep. 166; May 21, 2024
Key Moments:
[4:49] Lots of shame that we can feel as parents
[11:14] Marriage struggles: we had hurt each other a lot
[16:19] Deliberate moments and mindfulness relieve stress and bond each other together
[24:08] Ignoring our emotions led to unhealthy coping strategies
[34:42] Family/Friends offer helpful, specific things they can do
Resources:
How To Build a Thriving Marriage As You Care For Children With DisabilitiesKristin & Todd’s Website
Kristin & Todd’s Previous Interview on Take Heart
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Join hosts Carrie, Sara, and Amy as we take a deep dive into the grief we face as mothers of children with disabilities. In this episode, we talk about how grief can feel like fear or anger, the need to be honest with ourselves, and the transformative nature of lament. This topic is something you may not know that you need until you allow yourself the space.
Eps. 165: May 7, 2024
Key Moments:
[4:23] Guilt says “I didn’t do enough.”
[7:29] My anger is actually grief
[11:04} Why doesn’t God stop the pain
[17:58] “Everything is not going to be ok, but we’re gonna get through it”
Resources:
Extraordinary Kids: Nurturing & Championing Your Child With Special Needs
How To Build A Thriving Marriage
Dark Clouds Deep Mercy
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We are excited to share Amy’s conversation with Michele Cushatt, an author, communicator, and 3-time cancer survivor. Michele's latest book, "A Faith That Will Not Fail," offers practices to strengthen faith during challenging circumstances. Amy and Michele talk about acknowledging and dealing with trauma honestly, offering hope. They also discuss the concept of lament and the practice of relinquishment.
Eps. 164 : April 16, 2024
Navigating Family Trauma: Finding Hope Amidst Hardship with Michele Cushatt
Summary:
Key Moments:
[9:20] Fear of letting go
[18:34] Struggle to be content, envy is natural
[23:08] Suffering reveals gifts
[35:12] Guide children loosely, but then let go
[41:20] Permission to grieve and trusting the process
Resources:
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Carrie, Amy, and Sara answer listener’s questions in this episode. Questions like, “How do you make good decisions regarding your child’s health?” and “What’s the appropriate amount of information you give when answering someone’s question about your child?” We have learned some real lessons over the years through trial and error and want to share with you some practical advice from our experiences.\
Eps. 163
Date: April 9, 2024
Key Moments:
[3:45] Choosing who you speak to about the hard things
[15:44] Advocating for privacy and understanding in healthcare
[21:54] Ask for more time to make decisions
[35:08] Life’s changes and feeling jealous of others
Resources:
A Blessing for the Gift of Doubt
Ep 143: God’s Faithfulness in the Midst of Daily Suffering
Sara’s Wedge Boots
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We are honored to welcome the inspiring Kelley Coleman to our podcast. Kelley shared her deeply personal journey as a parent of a child with multiple disabilities and how she ended up writing her book, "Everything No One Tells You About Parenting." Her authenticity and wisdom shine through in this interview. We discuss the lack of information parents are provided on diagnosis and how there’s not one specific place a parent can go to find the info and support they need. We talked about the crucial aspects of caregiving in navigating the healthcare system, accessing financial support, and our need for self-care that might be unconventional.
Ep. 162; March 19, 2024
Key Moments:
[7:03] Care plan for my dependent child brings victories
[15:52] State disability definitions and benefits
[26:12] Getting a second opinion is freeing
[39:57] Balancing rewards and guilt of parenting challenges
[44:05] Going home Googling things and crying
Resources:
https://www.kelleycoleman.com/
https://www.kelleycoleman.com/books
https://www.instagram.com/hellokelleycoleman/
https://www.facebook.com/kelley.coleman.56
https://emilypfreeman.com/next-right-thing-book/
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Find Sara at www.saraclime.com or on Instagram @saraclime
As caregivers, we are well acquainted with transitions, and very much so in regard to our children. In this collaborative, Amy, Sara, and Carrie discuss the difficulties of life transitions as parents. They talk about their personal experiences, including making medical decisions and educational changes. The challenges of balancing autonomy and outside influences, going against medical recommendations, and seeking guidance for decisions are all discussed. We hope this episode offers valuable insights and practical tips for you!
Key Moments:
[2:20] 4 different types of transitions
[7:59] Planned our son’s birth…but have learned our lesson
[11:25] We don’t use ‘never’ when it comes to health
[24:34] Comparing to others make transitions harder
[35:30] Balancing hope and grief
Resources:
https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1002/ace.193
Hospital Stay Guide by Carrie M. Holt: Listen to Episode 140, “Hospital Stay Survival: Spiritually & Practically.” You can access the transcript with links to her guide HERE.
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Being a parent to a child with special needs comes with its own unique set of challenges, and being misunderstood is a chief issue. As Amy, Carrie, and Sara share their personal experiences and insights, they provide valuable guidance on responding with grace and resilience when faced with misunderstandings…even though they don’t do it perfectly every time. They discuss the balance of speaking the truth and advocating for their children without being intentionally hurtful to others and not feeling the need to explain everything, instead using their child's trauma as an explanation only when necessary. Join us for a funny and truthful episode about real life.
Ep. 160; February 27, 2024
Key Moments:
[1:35] One thing we want to set straight about a misunderstanding
[4:06] People ask the most inappropriate things, even those in medicine
[13:40] The tension of mishandling comments and drawing boundaries around ourselves
[21:00] Trying to understand others' intentions in church and beyond
[28:23] Why don’t more people understand trauma
Resources:
The Place We Find Ourselves Podcast
The Allender Center Podcast
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Summary: Sara opens up about the challenges of feeling misunderstood as a mom and caregiver to a son with disabilities. Her top 5 instances when she has felt misunderstood touch on assumptions about strength, the perpetual feeling of needing to do more, finding a balance between identity and the constant impact of the diagnosis, and more. We know you’ll feel seen by listening to Sara’s honesty. So, grab a cup of coffee and prepare to dive into the heartfelt truth in this episode.
Key Moments:
[1:54] “You’re so strong!” and “I couldn’t do what you are doing!”
[7:02] Believing in God but having fear
[8:05] We can be busy, never alone but not fulfilled
[10:22] Life outside of our child’s diagnosis
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As parents of special needs kids, we have felt the weight of being misunderstood. In this episode, Carrie shares her experience with people who have made assumptions about us or our children and how it affects us as parents. She explains three things she wishes people understood about her parenting journey and three ways to handle ourselves when we have been misunderstood. Experiencing this life can be lonely, and this episode will give you some practical ways to manage the complex feelings that come.
Ep.158: February 13, 2024
Key Moments:
[0:52} A hospital experience I’ll never forget
[5:08] Our grief is just as heavy as losing someone
[8:22] Is this assumption worth addressing?
[9:58] Assume the best intent, ask questions before assuming
[11:25] Our reaction may not be about the offender
Resources:
Scriptures mentioned: Exodus 14:14; Isaiah 53
No Other King
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Do you ever feel like people just don't get it? We've all had those experiences - whether it's strangers at the grocery store or even our closest friends not understanding our journey as special needs parents. Amy shares some practical things you can do to bridge the divide and navigate the challenges of being misunderstood. We don’t want to stay isolated because of other people’s lack of awareness. Amy encourages us to continue the quest for connection.
Key Moments:
[2:25] Comparing a difficult child to a dog?
[4:39] Shifting our perspective
[6:00] Let’s calm down, being a nonanxious person
[8:30] Give them a glimpse into your life
Resources:
A Curious Pursuit of Christ: Jamie Harper
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Carrie welcomes her longtime friend, Erika Weise, a mother navigating the complexities of caring for a son with a trach and ventilator. Erika shares her personal insights on acceptance of this new life vs. living in denial, finding meaning in adversity, and creating a support network for families facing similar challenges. This down-to-earth discussion will inspire you with their stories of friendship and the unwavering belief that, even in the face of adversity, everything will be okay.
Ep.156; January 30, 2024
Key Moments:
[3:17] Birth stories and diagnosis
[15:51] Dealing with doctor's negative perspective
[18:55] Parenting a 20-year-old vs. a child
[20:00] A friend who will walk with you
[22:50] Using this to help someone else
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The Power of Perspective: Amy, Carrie, and Sara Share Their Stories
Summary: Amy, Carrie and Sara look back at their early years of parenting. They share the stories from the days of early diagnosis and what they thought back then…noting with humor how ridiculous it seemed back then. But looking at the early days has helped them appreciate how far they’ve come, giving them perspective. They discuss the concept of advocating for their child, the desire for control (even though they didn’t have it!) and the worry that they carried. They have found that this life really does hold grief and gratitude at the same time.
Key Moments:
[13:21] Not thinking through all the “what ifs”
[16:16] Advocating for our child
[20:54] Looking back, need to give ourselves grace
[34:43 ] Grief and gratitude
Resources:
Holding Grief and Gratitude as a Special Needs Mom: An Interview With Dr. Lynne M. Baab
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Summary: There are real differences between parenting and caregiving. Sara shares about the dichotomies of the responsibilities that we have and how those play out in our daily lives when considering traveling, hiring a babysitter and even just going to the grocery store. Noticing the differences in the roles allows us to give ourselves grace for this road we are on.
Key Moments:
[1:34] Parent diaper bag vs Caregiver care bag for a lifetime
[2:19] Parent babysitting vs Caregiver child care accommodations
[4:45] Parent to the grocery vs Caregiver grocery experience
[5:43] Parent vs Caregiver Vacations with special needs children
[9:14] Caregiving is tiresome and grace is needed
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Do you have times when things are chaotic, and you wonder if God is even there? Looking back on her earlier parenting, Carrie discusses three things she wished she knew and fully understood as a mom to a medically fragile child: giving herself grace as she prioritized different things in life, releasing self-criticism, and living fully in the midst of life's chaos with the overarching theme of seeing God's presence in every circumstance and difficulty. Don't miss this episode.
Ep.153; January 9, 2024
Key Moments:
[0:40] Somethings you have to experience to learn them
[3:50] Balance in life is a myth
[7:10] Waiting for life to be calm
[9:30] Look for Him in chaos
Resources:
Scriptures Mentioned: Job 23:8-10; Psalm 91:1-2
The Bible Recap by Tara Leigh-Cobble
Julian Consulting
Episode 147: How Creativity Keeps Us Grounded & Present
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Episode 152: January 2,2024
Summary: Amy shares her top four things she wishes she could have done differently through her 31-year journey as a mom, particularly to her kids with invisible disabilities. Things like managing emergencies, acknowledging responsibility boundaries, and understanding the limitations of love are topics she touches on in this episode. Join the conversation and discover that you are a great mom as you walk your special needs journey!
Key Moments:
[2:45] Not everything is an emergency
[4:45] Hurry is an inner condition that is fear based
[7:50] Being present but not responsible
[9:45] Loving my child in her way
Resources:
The Good and Beautiful God: James Bryant Smith
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We often think of the three gifts the Wise Men gave to Jesus, but what about the intangible gifts of time, worship, and many others? Sara encourages us to consider the intangible gifts given to the Savior, and how we can offer these same ones to God and one another.
This is a replay of Episode 66, which was originally aired on December 21, 2021. The original recording and transcript are available on our website HERE.
Key Moments:
[0:59] Matthew 2:1-12
[3:19] The intangible gifts from the wise men
[5:17} What we can learn from the wise men
Resources:
Scripture mentioned: Matthew 2:1-12
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In the struggles of daily life, it can be difficult to believe God, His Word, His will, and to relinquish control. In Advent, we see the example of Mary, who chose small steps of obedience and surrender while facing many obstacles. May we follow her pattern and choose belief in small ways each day.
This is a replay of Episode 65, which was originally aired on December 14, 2021. The original recording and transcript are available on our website HERE.
Key Moments:
[0:49] Luke 1:26-30
[1:52] An announcement that changed life’s course
[4:15] When did Mary begin to believe?
[6:20] Struggle with surrender
Resources:
Scripture mentioned- Luke 1:26-30, 38, 78-79
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Mary, Jesus’ mother, had to embrace the unknown and the unfamiliar to welcome life. Amy shares how saying yes to the unknown can draw us into the deeper meanings of this season and our relationship with God.
This is a replay of Episode 64, which was originally aired on December 7, 2021. The original recording and transcript are available on our website HERE.
Key Moments:
[0:37] Luke 2:8-19
[2:17] I can relate to pregnant Mary
[3:35] Mary kept saying yes to God
[4:40} God is with us
Resources:
Scripture-Luke 2:8-19
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In this collaborative episode, Amy, Sara, and Carrie talk about their own recent experiences and vulnerabilities- feelings of worthlessness, lack of control, and fear that often accompany these calmer seasons. They talk about how to recognize and process these emotions and offer practical advice and wisdom to help listeners navigate the unsettling emotions of transitions and change. They encourage you to welcome emotional resilience by inviting God into the depths of your emotions.
Key Moments:
[9:30] When our work becomes our worth
[13:00] We grow too fond of our suffering
[21:24] I didn’t want to think about how I feel
[25:38] Know your triggers
[40:47] Studies show only feel deep emotions for a short time
Resources:
The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown
Building A Resilient Life by Rebekah Lyons
A PDF copy of Dr. Gloria Wilcox’s Feeling Wheel by www.positivephsychologyprogram.com
Resilient by Jon Eldredge
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Finding rest as a caregiver can be just another thing on our to-do list, but it's a vital part of sustaining our long-term well-being. Host Sara Clime talks about the benefits of putting in the effort to make space for rest in our lives. Discover the 7 different types of rest and learn how to engage in restorative activities that suit your unique needs and lifestyle. From physical and mental rest to emotional and social rest, Sara offers tips and strategies to help you prioritize rest and find moments of rejuvenation.
Episode 150: November 21, 2023
Key Moments:
[0:42 ] Rest isn’t intuitive or easy to plan but we need to practice!
[4:11] No isn’t a dirty word
[6:14] Sensory rest
[8:19] Social rest: spend time with re-fueling people
Resources:
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Find Sara at www.saraclime.com or on Instagram @saraclime
In this week's podcast episode, "Where Do You Find Comfort," Carrie shares the delicate balance between positive and negative emotions while exploring the need for comfort. Carrie talks about the emotional journey of special needs parents, explains some essential truths about comfort and discusses the constant place we can go to find it.
Eps. 149; November 14, 2023
Key Moments:
[02:33] Lessons from "Inside Out"
[05:07] The Holy Spirit as the Comforter
[08:11] Comfort through other believers
[10:12] Identify the lies we are believing
[12:19] A prayer for comfort
Resources:
Scriptures Mentioned: John 14:16-17a,c, 18;
II Corinthians 1:3-4; II Corinthians 7:6;
Psalm 119:76; Ephesians 3:14-19
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Episode 148:: November 7, 2023
How to Be Content When Your Life Isn’t Easy
Summary: In this episode, Amy discusses the concept of contentment and how it can be challenging to achieve when life isn’t easy. Amy explores the impact of unmet expectations, "if only" thinking, and comparison that contribute to our discontent. She shares personal stories and offers practical steps to help you shift your perspective, find gratitude, and embrace delight in your life.
Key Moments:
[3:10] Three traps that lead to discontent
[5:11] Endless "if onlys" suggest we're never enough
[9:08] Delight doesn't fix what's broken, gives us fuel to press on
[10:36] Noticing the good
Resources:
Is this what you expected? Lisa Qualls
On Delight and Why it Matters: Shauna Niequist
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Amy speaks with Jodie Gerling, an advocate for families facing medical challenges. They explore the transformative role of creativity in healing and processing emotions. Drawing from her personal experiences, Jody uses creativity as a tool for grounding herself, finding strength and the comfort of home even when she’s in the hospital and embracing gratitude. She has found that creativity leads her to present-moment living and noticing the little God moments in the stress of complicated things.
Episode 147: October 31, 2023
Key Moments:
[1:51] Creativity does matter
[5:14] Staying present is hard but necessary work.
[9:48] Don’t have a creative bone in your body?
[14:08] Pack something for ourselves when going to the hospital
[21:32] Our past hospital memories can creep up and turn to fear
Resources:
Jodie’s Reading in Our Story Magazine
Jodies Website.: Jodiegerling.com
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In this collaborative episode, Carrie, Amy, and Sara discuss how best to support friends and family members who are going through difficult times. Speaking from personal experience, they talk about the blessings and difficulties of walking through suffering with others. This episode practically discusses how to provide compassionate care to others, alongside what is and isn’t helpful when walking through something difficult with friends. They share stories and insights on vulnerability, carrying other friends’ burdens, and navigating grief.
Ep.146; October 24, 2023
Key Moments:
[4:30] Empathetic listeners
[7:50] Unhelpful platitudes
[11:54] Having different friends is important for different aspects of life
[17:42] Shying away from suffering
[21:10] Being with people, not solving the difficult questions
[24:36] How to support friends with “fewer” burdens
Resources:
And Life Comes Back by Tricia Lott Williford
Every Moment Holy Volume II
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In this episode, Sara shares stories from her personal journey of raising a child with disabilities, and how she found a deeper faith through her times of struggle. Through sharing her own experiences, she teaches a framework listeners can use to not only acknowledge pain but also shape it into fulfilling God’s purposes in their lives. Pain is inevitable. So we invite you to learn how to transform difficult circumstances into positive outcomes. This is an inspiring conversation that will leave you feeling encouraged to keep pressing forward.
Episode 145: October 15, 2023
Key Moments:
[2:30] Connecting with God in times of grief and suffering
[4:00] From a broken and bitter mother to positive and hopeful
[6:46] How God's grace can transform suffering into purpose
[7:42] 4 ways to know whether suffering is constructive or destructive
Resources:
https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/suffering
https://www.dictionary.com/browse/suffering
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Carrie M. Holt dives into the complex emotions and challenges that come with being a special needs mom but even just a person experiencing suffering. Carrie draws parallels between running and suffering, the tension that arises from both experiences. Carrie shares her insights on how past suffering can strengthen our faith and prepare us for future sorrows. She gives some helpful mindset shifts by looking at it from God's perspective and offers strategies for dealing with suffering, including the practice of lament and finding purpose in pain.
Ep. 144; October 10, 2023
Key Moments:
[1:40] The tension of suffering
[4:19] Muscle memory strengthens us; suffering prepares us.
[6:41] Allow yourself to see suffering's purpose
[11:31] What suffering produces
[13:03] Suffering beyond special needs parents
Resources:
Scriptures mentioned: I Peter 4:12, II Corinthians 4:17, James 1:2-4
Blessings by Laura Story
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Eps. 143: October 2, 2023
God’s Faithfulness in the Midst of Daily Suffering
Summary: In this episode, Amy explores the complexities of faithfulness in the midst of suffering as a special needs parent. She shares her own experiences of feeling betrayed and angry at God as she faced challenging behaviors daily from several of her children. Amy discusses the disconnect between her expectations of what it means to be faithful and the reality of her lived experiences. Offering a shift in perspective, she reflects on a silent retreat and the importance of remembering ourselves as beloved by God, held in his hand. Amy encourages listeners to embrace the messiness and doubts of faithfulness and find solace in being God's beloved.
Key Moments:
[1:02] Is it possible to just trust and obey God? It’s not that simple
[3:17] Feeling mad, betrayed, low—God can handle it
[9:10] Deep life security and not task management
[11:09] Not servants but beloved family
Resources:
What it feels like to be the Nurturing Enemy
The Unhiding of Elijah Campbell: Kelly Flanagan
Mission Shaped Spirituality: Susan Hope
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In this collaborative episode, all three hosts answer listeners’ questions. They discuss the importance of embracing the present moment and finding joy in the little things while navigating the journey of special needs parenting. They share personal experiences and reflections on how their own dreams and expectations have shifted over time. The episode highlights the need to grieve the loss of old dreams while also allowing space for new dreams to emerge. They talk about strategies for parenting the siblings of their special needs children and how to manage the emotional well-being of everyone in the household. Thanks for submitting your questions!
Eps. 142: Sept 26, 2023
Resources:
Ep. 136 Growing Slow with Jennifer Dukes Lee
Growing Slow: Jennifer Dukes Lee
How to Find Strength and Compassion in Struggle with Aundi Kolbler
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Sara Clime talks about transitions in this week's episode. As a caregiver, transitions are something that is common, yet rarely easy. Join Sara as she gives some practical (and unapologetic) steps that she has implemented over the years to help reduce the overwhelm, decision fatigue, and general anxiety that comes with inevitable change. Getting practical through a transition (big or small) doesn't eliminate the emotions. However, getting practical establishes an element of control when the world around us seems to be in chaos.
Ep.141; September 19, 2023
Key Moments:
[3:42] Feeling the feels when navigating transitions
[6:16] Getting practical when in transition-overwhelm (5 steps)
[6:28] Step 1: "No." is a complete sentence
[6:46] Step 2: 3 pieces of paper, an app, and a matrix
[10:12] Step 3: Recruit
[10:42] Step 4: Calendar
[11:21] Step 5: Be adaptable
Resources:
https://asana.com/
Explanation of the Eisenhower &/or Covey Matrix
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Carrie Holt discusses how to spiritually and practically navigate hospital stays with our children. Drawing from her own experiences, Carrie talks about the importance of recognizing the armor we put on in these situations, such as control, withdrawal, and cynicism, and how they can hinder our ability to trust in God. She encourages listeners to invite God into these spaces and remember that He is always with us, even during hospital stays. Carrie also offers practical advice for dealing with unplanned hospital stays and emphasizes the importance of grieving the losses that come with these experiences. She encourages listeners to know their limits, rely on scripture and prayer, and seek support from therapists and counselors during hospital stays.
Ep.140; September 12, 2023
Key Moments:
[1:16] Spina Bifida and my coping mechanism
[5:00] Looking for Jesus in the moment
[7:43] Letting grief come
[9:29] Practical hospital survival tips
[13:43] CaringBridge: How Carrie uses it
Resources:
Ep. 101: Identity Theft (References Breath Prayers)
CaringBridge
Footprints Poem
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In this first episode of season 4, Amy Brown kicks it off with a topic close to her heart: resourcing yourself as a caregiver. Amy shares her personal journey of learning to listen to her own life and prioritize self-care. Drawing from her experiences and the insights of women like Jennifer Dukes Lee and Taylor Elise Morrison, Amy explores the importance of asking ourselves questions like, “How am I contributing to my own chaos? Where am I feeling disconnected? Where do I need rest or space?” She suggests that finding moments of rest and joy, and letting go of the constant hustle and overwhelm can provide the resources you need to press on. Discover practical ways to resource yourself and create space for connection in your life as a caregiver.
Ep. 139: August 8, 2023
Key Moments:
[1:46]The starting point for most people's self care isn't a purchase.
[5:45] Situational strength (white-knuckling life) masks anxiety
[6:40] Are “The Overs” taking over?
[10:23] Asking ourselves questions is the perfect starting place
Resources:
Strong Like Water; Aundi Kolber
Peace is a Practice: Morgan Harper Nichols
Let Your Life Speak: Parker Palmer
The Next Right Thing Podcast: Why Self Care isn’t Selfish
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In this episode, Carrie welcomes guest author and therapist Cathy Loerzel to discuss the importance of embracing grief and negative emotions in order to heal and move forward. The conversation draws from three archetype characters of past wounding and how it shows up in our lives and relationships with others. The episode emphasizes the necessity of dealing with past wounds which leads to healthier lives and the ability to handle present challenges. It offers hope in understanding and addressing the core wounds of orphanhood, stranger, and widowhood, and encourages individuals to press into their pain and grief towards their own healing journeys.
Ep.138; July 25, 2023
Key Moments:
[1:26] Healing past wounds for a better present
[6:20] Three different “characters” of our pain
[8:53] Our kids reveal to us places we need more healing
[16:18] Learning to recognize and embrace lament's power
Resources:
Cathy Loerzel’s Website
Cathy’s Instagram
Redeeming Heartache
Wild Edge of Sorrow
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Join Amy and therapist and author of “Try Softer” and “Strong Like Water,” Aundi Kolber, as they delve into the concept of "try softer," the idea of giving compassion to navigate the challenges of parenting children with complex medical or emotional issues. They recognize the validity of responding from a place of danger or crisis while also exploring the transformative power of paying compassionate attention to our own experiences. By turning towards reality with compassion, we can process and move on from threats, accurately assess our own needs, and create practices for healing. Discover the importance of acknowledging pain, finding support, and ultimately experiencing goodness and healing simultaneously in this illuminating episode.
Ep,137; July 18, 2023
Key Moments:
[2:48] Honor the reality, respond with compassion.
[9:15] Importance of grounding and connecting with your support people
[21:15] Moving beyond your crisis/situational strength
[33:29] How to help siblings work through situations without trauma themselves
Resources:
Try Softer
Strong Like Water
Aundi’s Website
IG: @aundikolber
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Amy welcomes writer Jennifer Dukes Lee as she reflects on a picture from 20 years ago when she and her husband made the bold decision to leave their successful careers behind and embark on a journey of farming. Amidst the doubts from others, Jennifer’s journey of slow growth vs. hurried comparison taught her how to relinquish control. They discuss the cultural pressure of progress, achieving results, and the profound lessons learned, including the realization that the best things in life take time. Join us for a fun conversation about how slow growth can give you life!
Ep.136; July 11, 2023
Key Moments:
[2:45] Life isn't linear. It’s circular.
[9:43] Practical ways to grow slow
[18:50] Spending time with children creates unexpected memories
[20:42] Seasons teach us about growth and life
[25:08] Finding beauty and growth in difficult times
[30:34] New guided journal with writing prompts
Resources:
Growing Slow
Stuff I'd Only Tell God: A Guided Journal of Courageous Honesty, Obsessive Truth-Telling, and Beautifully Ruthless Self-Discovery
Jennifer’s Website
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Carrie is joined by guest Marissa Bondurant, author of the Bible Study “Who Cares for You?” Marissa draws parallels between her own experiences as a caregiver for her daughter undergoing medical treatments and the humble acts of service performed by Jesus. They discuss living out our faith through everyday tasks and self-sacrifice, allowing others to see Jesus at work in us. Marissa also talks about the challenges faced by being a caregiver and responding to others’ perceptions, the importance of community support, and the need to bring hidden thoughts and feelings into the open. This episode brings a message of hope, reminding you that God sees, cares, and walks with you on your difficult journey.
Ep.135; July 4, 2023
Key Moments:
[4:00] Becoming a Caregiver: Marissa's Journey
[10:48] “I don’t know how you do it!”
[19:00] Shifting perspective from burden to gift
[24:11] Overcoming guilt because of our child’s needs
[28:49] The burden of making others comfortable
[32:54] God's mercy that is sustaining us
Resources:
Marissa Bondurant’s Website
Who Cares For You? A 4-Week Bible Study For Caregivers
Marissa’s Instagram
Marissa’s Facebook
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On this episode, Amy speaks with author, Lisa Qualls, who is an adoptive mom and shares her experience parenting children with trauma and the resulting blocked care. She talks about the challenges they faced and how their family has changed because of their children's needs. Lisa also discusses her book, The Connected Parent, which provides practical and honest tools for parenting children with trauma, and emphasizes the importance of seeking support from trauma-informed counselors. Lisa believes we can reclaim compassion by releasing the idea that we can completely heal our children. Join us for an insightful and eye-opening conversation.
Ep.134; June 27, 2023
Key Moments:
[07:07] Admitting you need help with traumatized kids
[11:45] Grieving old family dynamics
[15:30] Blocked care: stress-induced defense mechanism in parenting
[19:44] Compassion for self and child's trauma.
[27:24] Reclaim Compassion: regulate your nervous system, not gritting your teeth
Resources:
The Connected Child
The Connected Parent
The Whole Brain Child
Reclaim Compassion
The Adoption Connection
IG@lisacqualls
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Sara talks with writer and professor, Dr. Lynne Baab, who shares her wisdom on carrying both grief and gratitude in one's life. Lynne offers practical tips and advice for nurturing a gratitude practice, improving listening skills, and navigating difficult emotions such as sadness and anger. The conversation also delves into the challenges of receiving unsolicited advice and the importance of finding a supportive community.
Ep.133; June 20, 2023
Key Moments:
[2:46] Grief and gratitude both stretch you
[10:20] How we deny gratitude in our American culture
[14:28] Our perspective shift as Christians
[18:38] Prayer is key for grief and gratitude balance
[23:52] Listening is a skill that can improve
[30:49] Anger & sadness are taboo in Christian society
[33:51] Learning to listen and finding spiritual direction
Resources:
https://www.lynnebaab.com
Two Hands: Grief and Gratitude in the Christian Life by Lynne M. Baab
Joy Together: Spiritual Practices for Your Congregation by Lynne M. Baab
Sabbath Keeping: Finding Freedom in the Rhythms of Restby Lynne M. Baab
Prayers of the Old Testament (LifeGuide Bible Studies) by Lynne M. Baab
Prayers of the New Testament (LifeGuide Bible Studies)by Lynne M. Baab
Grief AND thankfulness: How to Listen an article by Lynne M. Baab
*Lynne Baab has a friend who is expanding her spiritual direction practice, Lisa Keosababian. Lisa conducts spiritual direction by zoom, so location is no problem: https://www.spiritualdirectionwithlisa.com
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Carrie talks with author Johnna Hensley, a mother of three biological and three adopted children, including her firstborn son, who has a trach and a ventilator. We hear the thought processes behind their decision to foster, then adopt more children with an open-handed willingness to follow God’s leading. They call it walking in "yes" and being open to what God has, even if it leads to difficult circumstances. Throughout the episode, Johnna emphasizes the importance of faith in God's sovereignty and generosity and His promise to provide.
Ep. 132; June 13, 2023
Key Moments:
[2:45] Supporting her son's grief journey
[5:51] Importance of giving autonomy to children when they are able
[7:00] Deciding to become adoptive parents after biological children and a diagnosis
[10:31] Walking in "yes" until it became a "no"
[13:11] The world’s brokenness makes heaven brighter
[17:18] What I would say to my younger self
Resources:
Johnna Hensley’s Website
Johnna’s Instagram & Facebook
The Bible Recap Podcast
Reckless Yes
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Amy Brown talks with Emily P. Freeman, author, and podcast host of The Next Right Thing, about what happens in the space between when we have a decision to make and when the decision is made. Emily talks about the importance of doing one thing at a time and how decluttering our inner life can help us make clear and confident decisions. Emily’s journal, the Next Right Thing Journal, helps her in her practice of reflection and encourages her to notice patterns. Both she and Amy use it to process their lives to help make decisions with ease.
June 6, 2023; Ep. 131
Title: Discerning Your Next Right Thing: An Interview with Emily P Freeman
Key Moments:
[4:04] Soul minimalism and decision-fatigue
[8:19] Trust yourself towards the best decision at the time
[10:26] Focus on becoming better through decision-making, even if the outcome is not ideal
[15:02] Improving decision-making
[17:36] Reflecting on past decisions can lead to confident future decisions
[21:09] Benefits of The Next Right Thing Journal
Resources:
Emily P. Freeman.com
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When Sara, Amy and Carrie met, they discovered a shared sense of determination and drive to care for their children and support each other. In their new book, The Other Side of Special, they share their individual stories and hope to offer encouragement and hope to other special needs families. Sara discusses her struggles with emotions towards God, the challenges she faced in caring for a child with disabilities, and the importance of relying on God and her community for support. She shares that despite not being alone, she often felt lonely. Sara expresses that the special needs family community understands you like no one else does.
Ep.130; May 30, 2023
Key Moments:
[0:43] Receiving a diagnosis changed our lives
[3:13] Feeling alone despite having loving and supportive family and friends
[5:19] Suppressing messy emotions causes anger
[8:11] Feel various emotions and struggles, but find solace in God and supportive friends
[13:10] Bonding over the slew of emotions that a caregiver feels
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Take Heart’s host, Carrie, shares her personal experience as a mother to a child with Spina Bifida, who has undergone 61 surgeries. She talks about how having a child with a disability can feel like being in a pit and how God sustains and loves us even in the hardest times. She encourages us to let God write our own story, even the painful parts, and to let go of unrealistic expectations and having all the boxes checked. Carrie also shares the reasons why you should write your story down, keep anything that brings you encouragement and allow God to give you what you need each day.
Ep. 129; May 23, 2023;
Key Moments:
[1:33] Toby’s diagnosis and medical needs
[5:10] Reading my journals from this time period
[6:34] Our story is a story of scars
[11:00] God will give you a new song
Resources:
Psalm 40:1-3
The Other Side of Special
Scars by I Am They
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Co-Host Amy J. Brown shares her life and adoption journey in reference to Take Heart hosts’ newly released book, “The Other Side of Special.” She addresses the struggles and challenges that come with being a mother dealing with the invisible disabilities of their children. She shares her journey of adopting children, including one with fetal alcohol syndrome, which led to many emotional and mental difficulties. She shares candidly in the book about her experiences in hopes that it helps other mothers with similar struggles to know that they are not alone and are valued by God.
Ep. 128; May 16, 2023
Key Moments:
[2:06] Amy’s struggle with infertility and adoption decisions
[6:42] Feelings of loneliness
[7:54] When the family doesn’t want to understand
[8:56] Sharing the journey
[9:25] You are not alone in this journey
Resources:
The Other Side of Special
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As we celebrate the release of our new book, The Other Side of Special, we share about how we met and what we have learned as we have spent time together collaborating on the book and our podcast. Even though our children have very different diagnoses, we have realized we have so much in common which lends itself to caring for each other! Being vulnerable with each other but more importantly, in writing this book, can be difficult but we have seen God’s redemption in those stories which motivates us to continue. We have been so encouraged by your support of us and want to celebrate with you!
Ep.127; May 9, 2023
Key Moments:
[0:20] Our book, The Other Side of Special, is here today!
[4:42] Join us at the “Lake House”
[11:30] We learn empathy by hearing others' stories
[20:35] The importance of being honest about emotions
[25:42] Our book is not a ‘how-to’
[26:50] Pay attention to our body and name those emotions
Resources:
Purchase the Other Side of Special
Episode 100: Story Behind Take Heart
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On this episode of Take Heart Special Mom Podcast, we delve into the importance of self-care for special needs moms. Sara England, a mother of three, shares her experience with burnout and the lessons she's learned about prioritizing her wellness. We discuss the challenges of balancing self-care with the demands of caring for a child with special needs, strategies for setting boundaries and saying no, and the importance of small moments of joy. The episode also covers the speaker's struggles with infertility, miscarriage, and her journey to prioritize self-care to keep her rejuvenated for the long haul. Join us to learn actionable tips for implementing self-care into your daily routine and how even small actions can lead to personal growth and change.
Eps. 126; May 2, 2023
Key Moments:
[1:12] From a nurse to a stay-at-home mom
[7:18] Sara’s infertility journey
[15:07] Hitting a wall & setting up boundaries
[18:46] Taking care of your children is taking care of you
[24:05] Burned out
[28:35] How much is too much for our kids and therapy?
[32:56] Mental assessment…what brings me joy?
Resources:
Check out Sara’s FREE Special Need Moms Survival Guide! Sara also has a FREE Caregiver Burnout guide to help you begin to heal and prevent burnout!
The Fitness Planner: A 12 Week Health and Fitness Journal to Track Meals, Workouts and Weight Loss for Women - Exercise and Food Journal
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On this episode of Take Heart Special Mom Podcast, Carrie M Holt welcomes Todd and Kristin Evans, who share their personal struggles in their marriage while navigating their lives as special needs parents. Both Todd and Kristin emphasize the importance of self-care, reflective listening, and validation of emotions between spouses. They stress the need for open communication and finding ways to navigate ongoing grief as a couple. They also reveal practical skills they learned through therapy that can help couples navigate the unique challenges they face. This episode offers valuable insight and support for those struggling with the demands of caring for a special needs child while maintaining a healthy and happy relationship.
Ep.125; April 25, 2023
Key Moments:
[5:49] Todd and Kristen’s different experiences with grief
[12:40] Sharing feelings and being vulnerable is important in dealing with grief
[17:49] Spouses react differently to grief
[20:20] Support is key
[21:23] Practice reflective listening in your marriage.
[25:56]Managing the stress together
Resources:
Disability Parenting
Kristin & Todd on Instagram
Kristin’s Facebook Group
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Jodie Pine shares her experience and insight from adopting two boys with special needs, one with clubbed feet and the other with Spina Bifida. Through the challenges of raising a child with significant special needs, she was led to look at her kids through the lens of wholeness instead of deficits. She emphasizes the importance of accepting children for who they are rather than focusing on their progress or appearance and her perspective from feeling like she had to fix everything to allowing her sons to be her teacher.
Ep. 124; April 18, 2023
Key Moments:
[3:56] Jodie’s adoption and diagnosis story
[9:27] Allowing her child to be her teacher
[13:22] What is living life to its fullest?
[14:45] Learning to pay attention
[21:39] Not looking to the medical community for breakthrough
[28:59] Joni Erickson-Tada Beyond Suffering
Resources:
Radical Acceptance
This Here Flesh
Joni and Friends: Beyond Suffering
Joni and Friends Family Camp
Soul Care Institute
Jodie’s Blog
Unfinished
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Sara interviews author and former journalist/news anchor, Jillian Benfield as she shares her unexpected journey of having a child with Down Syndrome and the societal pressure to "overcome" grief quickly. Jillian emphasizes the importance of allowing yourself to fully grieve and unlearn negative beliefs about worth and disability. She also discusses her book, "The Gift of the Unexpected," which talks about laying down her thoughts and leaning into what God was showing her.
Ep. 123; April 11, 2023
Key Moments:
[3:39] Jillian’s diagnosis story
[10:25] Undergoing grief, not overcoming it
[13:17] Life after diagnosis is transformative
[15:27] Worth attached to my resume
[22:12] How to handle the seasons when there is no bright side
[26:22] Asking ‘why’ is a worthwhile question
Resources:
Jillian Benfield’s Website
The Gift of the Unexpected: Discovering Who You Were Meant to Be When Life Goes Off Plan
Working Through Weariness: 6 Tools to Reclaim Goodness
5 Spiritual Comforts for Parents of Kids with Disabilities
Goodreads Giveaway
Join our Book Launch Team
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Carrie and Jenna Erlandson of Bridge of the Faithful Podcast sit down to talk about Jenna’s expectations on motherhood and how trying to control her circumstances played out in her life played out. She discusses the hard work of breaking the habit of control, and gives several practical tips on how she has grown in her walk with the Lord and her perspective as a special needs mom.
Ep. 122; April 4, 2023
Key Moments:
[2:08] Pride and Control
[11:58] Living in the world of “What If”
[15:50] Strategies to combat control and guilt
[21:22] Conceiving again, after the special needs child
[27:26} Ways to work on forgiving
{32:26} Tension isn’t a bad thing
Resources
Bridge of the Faithful Website
Bridge of the Faithful Podcast
Jenna’s e-mail
Goodreads Giveaway
Join our Book Launch Team
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Amy sits down with Jennie Owens, who has parented over 100 kids and has trained thousands of families in trauma-informed care, therapeutic parenting, and caregiver self-care. The episode delves deep into the concept of trauma and explains how the nervous system perceives it. Jennie shares how trauma can cause one to feel overwhelmed and how rejection can activate the same part of the brain as physical pain. This episode will help you give yourself permission to prioritize self-care and understand that it's not selfish but just as important as caring for your child.
Ep. 121: March 28, 2023
Key Moments:
[7:43] Nervous system needs time off to relax
[8:42] Allow for self-care and respite to reduce guilt and anxiety
[14:31] Moms can have PTSD; Understanding the nervous system
[21:49] What you should do when you feel the trauma response
[25:51] Defining trauma
Resources
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In the final part of this three-part series, Amy, Sara, and Carrie dive into what we thought therapy would be like versus the reality of therapy. We share our experiences dealing with past traumas and how they affect our present reactions. We discuss managing expectations and self-care after a session. We also touch on vulnerability and how it's not weakness, but rather a courageous way to understand our past experiences. If you're interested in learning more, listen to all three parts of this series.
Ep. 120; March 21, 2023
Key Moments:
[2:18] Procrastinating going to therapy for years
[6:05] Apologizing to your kids
[8:34} Carrying around baggage without knowing it
[13:52] The story behind the story
[18:47] Therapy is not exhausting every time
Resources:
Parenting: How Your Story Is Affecting Your Relationship With Your Children Part 1
Parenting: How Your Story Is Affecting Your Relationship With Your Children Part 2
The Allender Center Podcast
Healing Care Ministries
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In part two of this three-part series, Amy, Sara and Carrie share about the barriers to therapy and why special needs moms are reluctant to see counselors. There are legitimate reasons, such as cost, lack of knowledge and awareness, and a stigma associated with mental health. Working to break down these barriers, Amy, Sara, and Carrie give practical advice, so moms will pursue the help they need.
Ep. 119; March 14, 2023
Key Moments:
[1:31] Therapy For Kids With Behavioral Issues
[3:23] Overcoming the Lie of Failure
[5:14] Biggest Barrier to Counseling Was Me!
[10:45] Trying DifferentTtherapists
[12:02] The Necessity of Taking Care of Your Mental Health As a Special Needs Parent
Resources:
The Allender Center
The Allender Center Podcast
The Place We Find Ourselves by Adam Young
Redeeming Heartache by Dan Allender & Cathay Loerzel
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In part one of this three-part series, Amy, Sara, and Carrie share their experiences with therapy or counseling. They discuss how they began going to therapy, how each has personally benefited, what they’ve learned practically, and how it has helped them see themselves in a more compassionate and life-giving way.
Ep. 118; March 7, 2023
Key Moments:
[2:12] Why & When To Begin Therapy
[7:54] Valued Benefits
[8:10} Prioritizing Feelings
[10:17] Ignoring Depression
Resources:
The Allender Center
The Allender Center Podcast
Healing Care Ministries
Resilient: Chapter 8 (Reference to living in the shallows)
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The statistics are staggering. 90% of families with special needs feel ignored, unwelcomed, or devalued in churches. This is a huge number, and it shows how much work needs to be done to make churches more inclusive. The overall feeling of special needs families is that they want to feel wanted, accepted, and seen. Carrie, Amy, and Sara discuss the experiences of special needs families and how churches can change. Through church education, accommodations, and empathy, families could feel welcomed and cared for.
Ep. 117; February 28, 2023
Key Moments:
[4:37] Encouraging adoption, but unwilling to deal with traumatized kids
[7:16] Churches aren’t ADA-compliant, and it’s apparent to us
[12:55] The parents and those who have disabilities are the experts; ask us!
[18:29] Kids with hidden disabilities and/or trauma need a point person and kindness, not judgment
[23:33] Advocate for their child inside the walls of their church
[38:47] Things the church has done well
Resources:
Episode 113: Interview with Amber Reynolds
Ep. 88: Interview with Barb Stanley
Wonderful Works Ministry
SOAR
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Today, Sara shares how you, as a special needs mom, can help your family and friends learn how to support you. She shares the hardships that special needs families face on a daily basis. She stresses the importance of listening and asking appropriate (not intrusive) questions to understand better what a special needs family is going through. She emphasizes encouraging the family rather than pitying them and shares examples from her life as an example of what NOT to do. She gives helpful ideas for making special needs children and moms feel wanted and included. This is a fabulous episode if you are a friend of a special needs mom who wants to do better but doesn’t know how.
February 21, 2023; Ep. 116
Key Moments:
[1:02] Acknowledge that the special needs family life is hard
[2:27] We don’t have the luxury of turning hardships off
[3:30] Do research on the child’s deficit so you can know more
[5:00] Be curious and ask questions but not intrusive ones
[7:26] Offer to spend time with the child, to get to know him
[9:03] Ask, “How can I help you?” not “Can I help you?”
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No matter what stage of the journey a special needs mom is in, from the initial diagnosis to hospital stays to on-going medical/emotional support, it is important to remember that they need love and support. Carrie gives very practical ideas on how you can support a special needs mom through the stages of their child’s life.
February 14, 2023; Ep. 115
Key Moments:
[1:36] Practical ways to support a special needs mom
[2:31] Fear that people are going to get tired of your neediness
[3:18]Initial diagnosis
[4:28]Child-growth chaos
[5:26] Hospital stays and lots of them
[9:34] Through the school years
[11:24]Check on the moms with teenagers
Resources
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As a special needs mom, it can be difficult to feel understood and supported. Strangers don’t know us and our lives, and even those closest to us can miss the mark. This can be especially true when it comes to family members. We want them to understand our situation and be helpful, but their attempts to support us often make us feel more alone. Amy shares some great ideas and mindset shifts that will help us understand how to navigate these situations.
February 7, 2023; Ep. 114
Key Moments:
[2:53] A change in mindset
[5:07] Starts with setting a boundary
[7:14] If you're a family member of a special needs family
[10:51] Prayer of St. Francis
Resources
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Today, we have an interview with Amber Reynolds. Amber is married to her college sweetheart, Chris, and they live on a farm in northwest Illinois with three children. Their children came to them through foster care and adoption. Amber talks about the isolation of people not understanding trauma, ways to care for your mental health, the importance of her marriage, and letting go of how you come to God.
January 31, 2023; Ep. 113
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The messages we hear about perseverance can feel so cliche when in reality, it can be challenging to persist through hard times. On this episode of Take Heart, Sara, Carrie, and Amy discuss their stories and perspectives of perseverance with children with disabilities, how to find a balance to persevere longer and what they have learned about it along their motherhood journeys. This is an insightful and refreshing conversation about how to know when to persevere and when to put in helpful boundaries, among other practical and life-giving advice!
Ep. 112; January 24, 2023
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There have probably been times you have persevered and were disappointed with the stress you felt, the way you responded, and its impact on those around you. What does it mean to persevere with grace? What could it look like to put yourself in a position to care for yourself and others, supported by a loving God, to handle your season gracefully? Listen to today’s episode with Sara, who reflects on gracious perseverance and how we can have more of it, especially as a mom with kids with disabilities.
January 17, 2023; Ep. 111
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Did you know that the desire for a good, calm life has been built into us by God? Sometimes that desire seems easier to reach when we cope with temporary pleasures. What do we do when we are tired, traumatized, and feel like we're done with life? Listen to this episode of Take Heart as Carrie speaks to the small ways we persevere with Jesus instead of trying to fill that need ourselves and what the big picture looks like with God in the center.
January 10, 2023; Ep. 110
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How do you keep going when life is relentlessly hard? What can be done to persevere when the diets, exercise, and ‘better’ systems have not succeeded? Listen in as Amy shares some well-earned advice she has learned through her journey. Learn to change HOW you persevere through the ups and downs of parenting a child with disabilities or behavioral needs.
January 3, 2023; Ep. #109
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How do you hold on to hope when your child has a terminal diagnosis? Today, Sara Clime shares how she holds on to hope while living with that reality. She encourages us that when we start to lose hope, we simply need to look further ahead. With Jesus, our hardships are never wasted.
December 20, 2022
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Sometimes hope requires us to wrestle with grief over the way things currently are and the desire of what we want them to be. Listen in today as Carrie shares her thoughts about wrestling with hope.
December 13, 2022
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It can be difficult to experience hope when we are not rescued from our circumstances or protected from hardships. Amy gently reminds us today of Zachariah and Elizabeth, who experienced years of unanswered prayers. She encourages us to look to God for our hope in times of silence with three practical reminders.
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Thank you for listening to this month's topic on rest. We are following our advice and will be off this month in December. In the coming weeks, enjoy three of our favorite Christmas episodes on hope (released the first three Tuesdays of December). We look forward to the new year and want you to join us in listening to new episodes and amazing interviews with the coming of our new book, The Other Side of Special, which, releases in May of 2023.
Today’s collaborative episode dives into the topic of rest. It's no secret that special needs moms are tired, not just physically but emotionally and spiritually too. We often deny our limits or go full speed for so long that we don't even recognize our need to stop. We assume this hurried pace is normal. Amy, Carrie, and Sara address five common misconceptions about rest and some ways to combat the hurried pace.
November 22, 2022; Ep. 108
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We are continuing to talk about rest this month, and in today’s episode, Sara Clime discusses what it means to be in a season of unrest. If you are looking for a step-by-step podcast on how to find rest, this might not be it. But, if you are struggling and want to hear from someone struggling to find rest, or even want to define it, this episode is for you.
November 15, 2022; Ep. 107
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This month on the podcast, we are talking about rest. You may think, how can I ever experience rest as a special needs mom? It may seem impossible. The type of rest Carrie is talking about is where, as Sally Breedlove writes, “we are meant to flow from a solid garden core of spacious inner quiet.” This comes from a connection with Jesus and gives us the resilience we need when hard things come our way. It's something that she’s personally been working on lately. Listen in!
November 8, 2022; Ep. 106
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This month’s topic is rest. When we started discussing this as a theme, Amy told Sara and Carrie, that she didn't have much to say about the rest. After some thought and consideration, she realized this is an area of her life that she doesn’t practice very well. In this episode, Amy shares a few lessons she has learned and some areas of practice she is working on, as she practices better rest. Whether you feel weary or fully rested, this episode will help you to create a rhythm of rest that is tangible for you and your life.
November 1, 2022; Ep. 105
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What happens when we wrap our identity around things we can’t control? What could our relationship with God mean for our identity? On this episode of Take Heart, Amy J. Brown and Carrie M. Holt sat down with counselor, coach, writer, and host of the “Be Known” podcast, Kerrah Fabacher. They discuss their very real experiences with misplaced identity and Kerrah gives some invaluable tips about finding a safe friend to open up with.
October 25, 2022; Ep. 104
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Have you ever had an identity crisis? We all struggle with our identity in some way and at different times in our life. In this episode, Sara Clime redirects us from a misplaced identity to one that is built on a firm foundation. She also shares about someone from scripture that may have had an identity crisis when he was chosen for God’s good work.
October 18, 2022; Ep. 103
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Who are we, really? What labels have we allowed to define us? What would it mean to trade these labels for something better? This month, we are talking about identity. In this episode, Carrie Holt shares about her own struggles with identity, especially as a mom and the very practical ways that she redirects comparison. Listen in to be encouraged in your own struggle with misplaced identity.
October 11, 2022; Ep. #102
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We are kicking off this month’s theme on identity. In this episode, Amy J. Brown is talking about identity theft, not the kind that causes us to cancel our credit cards, but the type that causes us to forget who we are. Listen in as she asks some poignant questions and walks listeners through an excellent practice to help us remember where our identity comes from.
October 4, 2022; Ep. 101
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Welcome back to the third season of the Take Heart Podcast. It’s our 100th episode and we are celebrating! As we kick off this new season, we wanted to start by going back to the beginning of how Take Heart came to be, and share with you the reason we do this work, and the importance of our name Take Heart.
In this episode all three of us our coming together to talk about how this podcast, Take Heart came to be. We thought it would be fun to take you back to the beginning of how we met and how we started this podcast. We are grateful for each and every one of you, our listeners. Thank you for being here with us.
September 27, 2022; Ep. 100
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Welcome back to the third season of the Take Heart Podcast. As we kick off this new season, we wanted to start by going back to the beginning of how Take Heart came to be, and share with you the reason we do this work, and the importance of our name Take Heart.
Today, Sara is transparent in this episode as she tells us the significance behind the name Take Heart and how Psalm 27:14 has both comforted and convicted her.
Sep 20, 2022; Ep. #99
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Welcome back to the third season of the Take Heart Podcast. As we kick off this new season, we wanted to start by going back to the beginning of how Take Heart came to be, and share with you the reason we do this work, and the importance of our name Take Heart.
In this episode, Carrie walks us through the verse in Mark 10:49, and what it means to be of good courage or cheer.
Sep 13, 2022; Ep. #98
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Welcome back to the third season of the Take Heart Podcast. As we kick off this new season, we wanted to start by going back to the beginning of how Take Heart came to be, and share with you the reason we do this work, and the importance of our name Take Heart.
In this episode, Amy J. Brown shares the scripture that the podcast name comes from and what this message holds for us special needs moms.
Sep 6, 2022; Ep. #97
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Correction: The Wonderfully Made Conference is October 19-21, 2022.
In this episode we meet Stephen “Doc” Hunsley, hear his incredible story of loss, hope, and how God has used life’s trials to prepare him to lead SOAR and the Wonderfully Made Disability Conference in Kansas City.
July 26, 2022; Ep. 96
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Our guest, Kara Ryska, shares the story of struggling with her son’s diagnosis, wrestling with God’s goodness, stuffing feelings, and grief. She share the importance of giving our kids space to be honest about the pain, how others can help our families, and what full inclusion looks like in our churches and communities.
July 19, 2022; Ep. 95
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Today’s guest, Sally Clarkson, is the author of several books. She shares about her parenting her “outside-the-box” child, creating space for yourself, and how finding beauty in the everyday struggles of parenting in hard places requires radical acceptance of your situation. Sally’s prayer at the end is for you. Don’t miss it.
July 12, 2022; Ep. 94
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Today’s guest, Madeline Cheney, is from The Rare Life Podcast. She shares her journey with her son who has a rare disorder, her struggles with guilt, and how finding community gave her confidence to reach out to others.
July 5, 2022: Ep. #93
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Our guest, Kristin Faith Evans, shares with us about her struggles with faith, mental health, and how shame over difficult feelings about our situations, isolate us. She discusses how God taught her to reframe the message she was telling herself and step into the light of support, community, and love.
June 28, 2022; Ep. 92
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Our guest, Jillian Benfield shares with us how we can find beauty in the midst of the hard, her tips for advocating, and encouragement for moms starting out on this journey.
June 21, 2022; Ep. 91
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Today’s guest is special needs ministry leader from Brentwood Baptist Church in Tennessee, Tiffany McCullough. She discusses the joys and challenges of special needs ministry, the importance of eduating, equipping, and allowing all friends to find community, serve, and be a visible part of the body of Christ.
June 14, 2022; Ep. 90
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Jillana is a foster, adoptive mom, and special needs mom. She shares how her life has been stretched by love and how she has learned to look for signs of hope in her life.
June 7, 2022; Ep. 88
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Today we kick off our summer interview series with Barb Stanley from Wonderful Works Ministry. She shares her perspective on growing up with a brother with autism and the kingdom impact when churches meet the needs of special needs families.
May 31, 2022; Ep. 88
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Discouragement is a powerful tool the devil uses to block the light of hope from God. In today’s collaborative, Sara, Amy, and Carrie talk about how the devil uses this sneaky tool in our lives, how to recognize it, the pitfalls, and some ways to turn toward encouragement.
May 24, 2022; Ep. 87
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When you feel discouraged, it’s easy to believe that God doesn’t care. In this episode, Sara encourages us to invite God into our spaces of discouragement, and how to adjust our posture to receive God’s care. You don’t have to look at the world as though your glass is half-full or half-empty because God restores our glasses when they shatter and refills them when they’re empty.
May 17, 2022; Ep. 86
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As special needs mothers, we fight the battle of discouragement on a daily basis. In today’s episode, Carrie discusses several tools we can use to safeguard our hearts from losing hope: rest, remembering, and filling. Most importantly, she reminds us that God cares and his desire is for us to cast our cares on him.
May 10, 2022; Ep. 85
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Daily Discouragement can make us feel like we are walking in the dark. In this episode, Amy shares four ways she is learning to walk towards the light of God’s love and provision and how this moves us away from discouragement.
May 3, 2022; Ep. 84
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As special needs parents, we have a deep-seated fear that we are messing up our kids. It’s important to remember to trust God to give us what we need., to nurture the soil of our children’s hearts, and love each one in their own unique way. In this episode, Sara, Amy, and Carrie discuss how to help your children feel heard, things they might have changed in their parenting journey, and how to celebrate the uniqueness of your family.
April 26, 2022; Ep. 83
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Growing up in a special needs family can sometimes cause siblings to feel invisible, but there are ways parents can take the time to help all their children have the attention they need. In this episode, Sara interviews her oldest son, Connor, discussing both the positive and negative of growing up in a special needs family and the importance of the foundation of faith.
April 19, 2022; Ep. 82
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There are blessings and difficulties when growing up with a sibling who has special needs. In today’s episode, Carrie’s oldest boys talk about some struggles, the benefits, and most importantly the spiritual impact it’s had on their lives with some practical tips for how others can support families of children with special needs.
April 12, 2022; Ep. 81
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Special needs moms often worry that they are not doing enough. This is especially true when it comes to our other kids. We make assumptions about how our other kids are doing. In this episode, Anna Brown shares her perspective of being a sibling to a child with RAD and FASD and the blessings and challenges that brings.
April 5, 2022: Ep. #80
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Special needs families have heard all types of fixes, remedies, and advice throughout their parenting journey. How do we react to these phrases with love and grace, and figure out the false beliefs behind these statements? Listen to today’s collaborative episode to find out.
March 29, 2022; Ep. #79
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All moms struggle with believing lies about their motherhood: who they should and shouldn’t be, what they should or shouldn’t feel or do. In this episode, Amy, Carrie and Sara dive into some of the lies special needs moms believe, ways to recognize them, and how to replace them with the truth.
March 22, 2022; Ep. 78
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We often believe the lies that we should do this, we should be this. In today’s episode, Sara helps us deconstruct the lies of “should”, and helps us recognize our true worth in Jesus Christ.
March 15, 2022; Ep. 77
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What do you do when God doesn’t answer your prayers the way you desire? Sometimes these situations cause us to believe lies about God. In today’s episode, through Carrie’s personal story you will learn how to recognize the lies and what to do about them.
March 8, 2922; Ep. 76
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Lies bind us and cause us to live in bondage, but we do not always recognize the lies we believe. In this episode, Amy helps us to recognize the lies, reconnect to the truth, and relinquish our false narratives to God.
March 1, 2022; Ep. 75
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Sometimes we equate surrender with quitting or giving up, yet we forget that surrender means wrestling, trusting, and asking questions. It means letting go of our need to know the future in God’s capable hands. This week’s podcast dives into what surrender looks like, its cost, and unexpected gifts.
February 22, 2022; Ep. 74
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Sometimes we have a preconceived notion that surrender means quitting. In this episode, Sara dives into what it means to surrender to God as an active daily choice the benefits that come as a result.
February 15, 2022; Ep. 73
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*Note: Scripture mentioned is Hebrews 12, not Romans 12.
To give up control over one’s life and plans is difficult because we want to protect ourselves from pain. In this episode, Carrie reminds us that surrender is an invitation to three things and how to know when you’re struggling with giving up control.
February 8, 2022; Ep. 72
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Surrender is not easy, but it is essential to living a life of peace and joy as a special needs parent. In this episode, Amy shares some of her struggles and three important steps that will help you give up control and open your hands to God.
February 1, 2022; Ep. 71
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Finding connection as a special needs parent can be a challenge. This week, Sara, Amy, and Carrie share about authentic connection, what to do with conflict, and ideas on finding the support and friendship you need.
January 25, 2022; Ep. 70
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Our most important weapon to combat loneliness is our connection with God. We need to be intentional about connecting to our Heavenly Father and with others. This week Sara shares some tools to fight the false narratives and tips on creating quality connection with God and others.
January 18, 2022; Ep. 69
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It can be difficult when our children with special needs are rejected and don’t have many friends. Today, Carrie shares some practical tips for creating those opportunities for connection and an important reminder that Jesus understands rejection, and He is with you in your heartache.
January 11, 2022; Ep. 68
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Special needs moms often feel lonely. In this episode, Amy encourages us to look for invitations to connect. She gives us tools to connect with God, ourselves, and others.
January 4, 2022; Ep. 67
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We often think of the three gifts the wisemen gave to Jesus, but what about the intangible gifts of time, worship, and many others. In this episode, Sara encourages us to consider their intangible gifts given to the Savior, and how we can offer these same ones to God and one another.
December 21, 2021; Ep. 66
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In the struggles of daily life it can be difficult to believe God, His Word, His will and relinquish control. In advent, we see the example of Mary, who chose small steps of obedience and surrender while facing many obstacles. May we follow her pattern and choose belief in small ways each day.
December 14, 2021; Ep. 65
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Mary had to embrace the unknown and the unfamiliar to welcome life. In this episode, Amy shares how Mary had to say yes to life and how we as special needs moms can see God in this season.
December 7, 2021; Ep. 64
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As a parent of a child with special needs, the holidays can be particularly overwhelming. Amy, Carrie, and Sara will share their top ten practical tips for celebrating the holidays with your family.
November 30, 2021; Ep. 63
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Sometimes, fear disguises itself as other emotions, and it’s important to recognize it for what it is. Fear of the future can paralyze us. In this episode, Sara, Amy, and Carrie dive into recognizing fear, dealing with fear of the future, and some practices for living led by God’s love.
November 23, 2021; Ep. 62
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Through the story of Lazarus, we learn how as we face even the fear of death that God’s love for us is authentic and active. He is never late, always in control, and He cares for us. In this episode, Sara always shares her practical exercise of how to live with fear, not in it.
November 16, 2021; Ep. 61
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Fear can be paralyzing and cause us to say or do things we normally wouldn’t. There are many times in scripture where the phrase “take heart” or a variation of the phrase is written. Carrie reminds us of some strategies to move our focus from fear to Jesus.
November 9, 2021; Ep. 60
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Fear is a common emotion among special needs parents. It distorts our thoughts and hijacks our reason. Fear keeps us in the dark. In this episode, Amy teaches us how to walk out of the darkness and into the light.
November 2, 2021; Ep. 59
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Finishing up the topic of jealousy, Take Heart hosts share about seasons of jealousy, vulnerable stories, and how we parent children struggling with these feelings. Remembering that God is our portion, and He can handle any emotion we have, we learn to grieve, be grateful, and see God’s design in each of our paths.
October 26, 2021; Ep. 58
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Jealousy is seeing only one side of the story. It keeps us focused on what we don’t, rather than what and how God has provided. In her humorous way, Sara shares her story of jealousy, and five practical strategies for dealing with the feelings of envy, jealousy, resentment and bitterness.
October 19, 2021; Episode #57
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It doesn’t take much effort to look at others’ situations and feel despair, envy, and discontentment when we judge their circumstances as easier than our own. In this episode, Carrie shares our common struggles with jealousy, and encouragement on how to positively compare.
October 12, 2021; Ep. 56
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Feelings of jealousy and comparison are common, especially in our lives as special needs moms. In this episode, Amy reminds us that jealousy never serves us well. She offers three practices to help us open our hands and see the life God has given us with gratitude and joy.
October 5, 2021; Ep. 55
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Advocacy happens in everyday situations with our children. Most importantly it’s helping others see your child, setting the tone for his or her diagnosis, and using your experiences to inform you. While standing in the gap for them, it’s imperative that you lean into who God created you to be and don’t walk this journey alone.
September 28, 2021; Ep. 54
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Learning to be an advocate for your child means leaning into how you’re created. In today’s episode, Sara gives some wildly practical tips for when to engage and when not to engage with others’ stares, looks of judgment, or comments. She gives us the three “C’s” of advocacy along with encouragement about how Jesus is our advocate.
September 21, 2021; Ep. 53
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It can be a difficult balance between fight or flight when it comes to advocating for our children with special needs. With Christ in us, we can learn to fight for what our child needs, or rest and wait. Today, Carrie reminds us of nine practical tips for advocating, the greatest to remember is that Jesus is our advocate. He will equip you with what you need.
September 14, 2021; Ep. 52
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How do you feel about advocating? Do you feel unqualified, overwhelmed, or intimidated? Amy shares how her first experiences advocating for her child with invisible disabilities left her frustrated and tearful, and seven lessons she’s learned to help you advocate with calm and confidence.
September 7, 2021; Ep. 51
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Author, blogger, and special needs parent, Jolene Philo, joins us to share a little bit about her thoughts on God’s provision, connecting with others and how to discover your child’s love language. Don’t miss it.
July 27, 2021; Ep. 50
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Jess Ronne, the author of Blended with Grit and Grace, mom of eight, and a special needs mom reminds us that in all situations God is in control, the importance of mental health for caregivers, and some excellent advice about not borrowing trouble from tomorrow.
July 20, 2021; Ep. 49
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Jennifer Magnano is a special needs mom, a doula, and also struggles with her own chronic illness. She speaks life into the hard spaces and encourages us to be gracious to ourselves, find the moments to look for God's goodness, and be open with your struggles. You are loved, seen and known in this wild life as a special needs mom.
July 13, 2021; Ep. 48
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Author and podcast host, Sandra Peoples shares her perspective on filling two roles in a special needs family, being both the sibling and a mother. Her insights regarding three different stages siblings of special needs children experience and how parents should support their children in these stages is encouraging and perceptive.
July 6, 2021; Ep. 47
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Mark Arnold, the Additional Needs Blogfather, shares about how his faith has grown as a special needs dad, how we can be an inclusive church, and some of the joys he’s experienced raising his son with additional needs. Don’t miss this dad’s perspective.
June 29, 2021; Episode #46
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As a mother to two kids with special needs, today’s guest, Jenn Soehnlin, struggled with anxiety and depression. While she questioned God, He gave her the word “embrace”. She invites us to embrace our journeys as special needs moms, surrender control, and see the beauty in this life.
June 22, 2021; Ep. 45
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Becky Davidson from Rising Above Ministries shares about raising her son, the loss of her husband, and how she’s dealt with both types of grief. Practical tips for connection with God and others as well as reminders that as mothers, we set the tone for how others perceive our children with special needs will leave you encouraged.
June 15, 2021; Ep. 44
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Today Ellie Sanazaro, the author of the book Image Bearer, shares her story of misdiagnosis and adoption. She encourages us to remember that the value of our children with special needs depends NOT on what they do, but rather how they have been created fearfully, wonderfully, masterfully, and purposefully by God.
June 8, 2021, Ep. 43
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Laura Hernandez from Mama Systems shares about the victories and struggles of parenting children with fetal alcohol syndrome and reactive attachment disorder. She shares advice for parents including: being an advocate, getting someone in your corner, learning vulnerability, and creating systems for peace in a chaotic situation. Don’t miss it.
June 1, 2021: Ep. 42
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Amy, Sara, and Carrie dive into the topics of mom guilt over their child’s diagnosis, doubting their faith, and balancing the needs of siblings. It includes encouraging reminders about listening to the right voice, seeing a therapist is about having another wise adult speak into your life, and focusing on the little joys in every day.
May 25, 2021
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Guilt and shame are very different. Guilt convicts, but shame makes us feel worthless, unworthy, and doesn’t come from God. Sara encouragingly reminds us of who we are in Christ, and a beautiful practice of taking our thoughts captive when Satan whispers shame in our ear.
May 18, 2021
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Discerning the difference between accusation and conviction requires us to rely on the Holy Spirit. God wants us to bring our burden of guilt to Him. In this episode, Carrie encourages us to remember that as believers, we have been given the power of the Holy Spirit to be the mother perfectly equipped for your children.
May 11, 2021
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Guilt is a common feeling we have as special needs moms. In this episode, Amy considers the stories we tell ourselves around guilt. She provides pratical insight on how to reframe our stories.
May 4, 2021
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The grief of a special needs mom is unique, isolating, overwhelming, and continuous.Today, Amy, Sara, and Carrie discuss how it changes throughout the special needs journey, practices for processing it, mindsets for dealing with its constancy, and important hopeful reminders how God is near to the brokenhearted.
April 27, 2021
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Today’s episode is a gentle reminder that grieving our circumstances doesn’t mean we don’t accept and love our current life as special needs moms. God will not leave you in the broken places of your grief. You can run to Him with your sorrow, letting Him write new dreams for your life.
April 20, 2021
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Grief is an ongoing part of the special needs parenting journey. Today, Carrie reminds us that it’s important not to rank grief, what grief looks like, and how God is sovereign through all types of loss. Her eight practices for processing grief as a special needs parent will greatly encourage you.
April 13, 2021
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As special needs moms we are familiar with grief. We have the big losses that change our lives in a moment and the little griefs we often fail to recognize. This week, Amy shares her experience with grief and the lessons she has learned.
April 6, 2021
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This collaborative episode wraps up part two with sharing some practical tips for self-care. This includes some advice on planning and protecting the time, and how important it is to ask for help. Most importantly is the idea that we cannot wait for life to be calm to take care of yourself.
March 30, 2021
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Choosing self-care means overcoming some limiting beliefs such as we aren’t worth it or that we can’t leave things undone to take the time to rest. In today’s episode, Amy, Sara, and Carrie discuss how self-care is a form of worship, how Jesus taught us to take time away, and learning to rest in the present moment. Don’t miss it.
March 23, 2021
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Today Sara reminds us that self-care isn’t selfish, it’s protecting your well-being, and the importance of saying no. She encourages us to set boundaries and the necessary act of making self-care a practice in our daily lives as special needs moms.
March 17, 2021
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Self-care is an act of choosing rest or Sabbath for our body, mind, and soul. God was the perfect example for us when he created the world, and Jesus took time away from his ministry to rest and pray. Today, Carrie shares the 5 “P’s” of Self-care and encourages us to not allow guilt or shame to prevent us from self-care.
March 9, 2021
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Self care is not an extravagant extra for special needs moms, it is essential for soul care. Limiting beliefs keep us from self-care, but with Amy’s Seven Steps to Help You Breathe, you will be encouraged to take care of your mind, body, and soul.
March 2, 2021
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Limiting beliefs, care fatigue, creative ways to find connection, and connecting with others during a crisis are all topics on this week’s collaborative episode. Amy reminds us to lay aside our limiting beliefs about connection. You never know who God is going to bring into your life at just the right moment.
February 23, 2021
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What real or perceived obstacles do you need to overcome to connect with others as a special needs mom? Today, Sara Clime encourages us to list these on paper, find creative ways to overcome these barriers, and most importantly reminds us to be vulnerable. In vulnerability we find connection.
February 16, 2021
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Connection is crucial for thriving and having JOY in this special needs journey, first with God, then through relationships with others. Carrie shares some practical tips on these types of connections, their importance, and a lovely story of how God orchestrates our friendships.
February 9, 2021
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Limiting beliefs make connection difficult for special needs moms. Today, Amy shares some of the common limiting beliefs we experience, a stirring personal story when she shut out a friend, and six practical tips for overcoming excuses, so we can take steps toward deep meaningful connection.
February 2, 2021
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Today’s collaborative episode uses Psalm 23 as a reminder of the importance of crying out to God and grieving loss and change in our lives as special needs moms. Amy, Sara, and Carrie also discuss our constant companion, adjusting to the new normal of invisible disabilities, and the significance of giving yourself grace. You don’t want to miss this episode.
January 16, 2021
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Today Sara shares her struggle with the term “new normal”, and the fighting posture special needs moms take on while caring for their kids. She encourages us in understanding what finding a new normal means. (I don’t want to give away the secret) and how to find joy in the waiting. You won’t want to miss her special needs mom pep talk that may bring you to tears and her thoughtful prayer for you. Don't miss this one!
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Today Carrie discusses the emotions we often experience with adjusting to new normal, the importance of grieving, changing expectations, and worship. She also gives some practical tips on how they are helping their son walk through acceptance of his new normal, and what Jesus taught us about disability in John 9.
January 12, 2021
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Today Amy introduces our topic New Normal for this month and shares her thoughts about adjusting to new normals, both big and small. She inspires us with three practical tips for dealing with change in our lives.
January 5, 2021
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Amy, Sara, and Carrie wrap up this month on hope discussing how Mary, the mother of Jesus, is an example of surrender. They will encourage you to allow others to help, focus on answered prayers, and hold onto hope by remembering who Jesus is.
December 22, 2020
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Summary: Today Sara Clime shares how she has held on to hope knowing her son has a terminal condition. She encourages us that when we start to lose hope we simply need to look further ahead.With Jesus our hardships are never wasted.
December 15, 2020
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Sometimes hope requires us to wrestle with our current circumstances and the expectation of desiring them to improve. Listen in today as Carrie shares her some practical tips on wrestling with hope.
December 8, 2020
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It can be difficult to experience hope when we are not rescued from our circumstances or protected from hardships. Amy gently reminds us today about Zechariah and Elizabeth, who experienced years of unanswered prayers. She encourages us to look to God for our hope in times of silence with three practical reminders.
December 1, 2020
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Join us today as Amy, Carrie, and Sara discuss how they work at the practice of gratitude through being still, reflective evaluation, and living small.
Date: November 24, 2020
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Gratitude can be difficult while living in the darkness of our hard situations. Listen in today as Sara encourages us to rejoice in today and how gratitude comes because of the darkness.
November 17, 2020
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Carrie shares with us how she began to learn the practice of gratefulness during a difficult hospital stay and what that has taught her about God and how He provides.
November 9, 2020
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Today, Amy introduces our topic for November, Gratitude. As we recognize some of the barriers we face to being grateful, Amy reminds us that deep gratitude occurs in our current life situation and shares some simple steps to moving forward in thankfulness.
November 2, 2020
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As special needs moms, we hold a heavy cup of our children’s diagnosis and special needs. The daily grind can be so difficult. How do we shift our mind-set about this cup? Listen in to find out.
October 27, 2020
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So often we sink into despair with our child’s diagnosis, but it doesn't have to be this way. Listen in today as Sara shares her story of shifting from complaining, to praise, to generosity. You won’t want to miss it.
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Summary: Today Carrie M. Holt shares her struggles with changing her mind-set around control. She gives some practical tips for relinquishment and how she’s learned to trust God when life feels out of control.
October 13, 2020
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Summary: Today Amy J. Brown introduces our topic for October: Changing Your Mind-set. She shares with us some lovely words and practical tips on her struggles with fear and anxiety. You won’t want to miss it.
October 6, 2020
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Today on our podcast, we discuss our faith journeys and the question: Would you go back and change your child’s diagnosis? Listen as we tackle that tough question and more.
Ep. 8; September 29, 2020
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Anger is a normal feeling when life doesn’t go as planned, but what do we do with that emotion? This week, Sara shares honestly about her struggles with doubt and anger. As she was honest with God and dove deep into studying who God is, He met her with compassion and comfort.
Ep. 7; September 22, 2020
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Summary: Where do you turn when troubles pile up on you when your life is already difficult? What do you do when it feels like God is looking the other way? In this episode, Carrie reminds us that God’s faithfulness does not depend on our feelings or our situation. He is weaving a beautiful tapestry out of our mess even when we can’t see it.
*Please note: The song mentioned in this podcast is “I Will Trust You” by Steven Curtis Chapman
Ep. 6; September 15, 2020
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Oftentimes on this special needs journey, we doubt that God's plans are NOT to harm us and to give us a hope and a future. We want to focus on the scenery, the steep climbs, and the destination, forgetting our Companion offers us peace and His presence. Listen in as Amy gently reminds us that God is the God who sees! He welcomes our doubts and wants to give us HIS peace.
Ep. 5; September 8, 2020
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This week Amy, Sara, and Carrie collaborate together to bring you some hope and encouragement in handling your child’s diagnosis. A diagnosis can be like a heavy backpack, but oftentimes we add more things than we need. Listen in, as they share what they added to make it heavier, what they’ve learned to take out, and how you can find rest.
September 1, 2020
Diagnosis 101
Collaboration: Episode 004
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Anger is a normal emotion to experience when faced with your child’s diagnosis. In this episode Sara Clime shares her story, the anger she felt, and how she dealt with her crisis of faith. She also shares what she prays each and every day, which gives her the strength to handle her son’s diagnosis.
September 1, 2020
Diagnosis 101: Episode 003
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When you face a life-altering diagnosis with your children, you experience grief and denial. In this episode, Carrie M Holt explores the news of her third son's diagnosis, the grieving journey it began, and some practical tips for dealing with that grief.
September 1, 2020
Diagnosis 101: Episode 002
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Sometimes our child’s diagnosis is clear cut and defined. Other times the disability is hidden, and we are judged by others. In this episode, Amy Brown reminds us it’s okay to say we don’t know, stop striving, and give ourselves grace. She reminds us that God cares for us, loves us and our children.
September 8, 2020
Diagnosis 101: Episode 001
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Welcome to Take Heart a weekly podcast for special need moms by special needs moms. Join your hosts, Amy Brown, Carrie Holt and Sara Clime each week as they offer a safe place for moms to find authentic connection, fervent hope and inspiring stories.
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