Swinger Diaries

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SD 17 Aren’t you worried that one of you will fall in love? Aug 21, 2016

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Lets be totally honest, if you are not in a rock solid committed relationship, then swinging is probably not right for you. Most swingers are so secure in their own relationships that they have no interest in more than just social friendships with anybody but their partner. In the swinging lifestyle, nobody is looking to take anybody else's spouse.

We all love many people in our lives and that love doesn’t diminish our commitment to our life partner. We love our family, our job and even our possessions, so loving our friends is natural and normal. In this episode we talk about friends with benefits, exclusive swinging relationships and swayers.

Our diary story is about an intimate and relaxing afternoon spent with a couple that have become very dear to us and how familiarity with great friends allows for exploration into play situations that we never knew we would even want to try.

SD 16 Have you ever been to a house party? Aug 21, 2016

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Infamously, house parties are the most intense situation for play. They can be very intimidating but good house parties are often some of the most exciting experiences in the swinging lifestyle.

In this episode we talk about tips and suggestions that will help insure that you select the right party for you and give advice on how to get comfortable with the potentially high-pressure situations that are part of the house party scene.

In our sexy diary story we remember a great house party where we met a sexy couple and the challenges that we faced in playing with them in a typical house party situation where privacy isn’t always available.

SD 15 Aren’t all swingers in to kinky sex? Aug 21, 2016

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Back when we started swinging and everything was new and wild, we were easily intimidated, awed and even freaked out by some of the things we were exposed to and by some of the variety of sexual preferences that people seemed to enjoy. A new friend of ours once gave us some good advice to help encourage us to explore our interests. He told us… "Remember, its only kinky the first time.”

As an alternative sexual lifestyle, most people would probably consider swinging to be kinky, and in a way it is. After all, having consensual sex with people other than your spouse is kinky to most people, but what we have found its that the swinging world is only one part of a spectrum of amazing kinky worlds that exist. There are many parallel universes of kink that weave in and out of the swinging lifestyle. If you spend any time with swingers, you are bound to learn a little about some of them and maybe even be enticed to explore and experiment. We have been.

Our Diary story is about a few of our brushes with some colorful people in the kink scene and how they taught us that sometimes sex is about pushing your boundaries in order to enhance your pleasure.

SD 14 Where should we go for our first lifestyle vacation? Aug 21, 2016

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Like so many swingers, we started in this lifestyle by taking a chance and traveling to a distant, exotic location where we could just watch, learn and then eventually participate in the sexy fun. The experience was so amazing that we have returned many times and have had the pleasure of visiting most of the other lifestyle friendly resorts and events too. We travel often for sexy fun.

In this episode we answer the most frequently asked question from our email and discuss our recommendation for the best destination for your first swinging vacation.

Our journal entry this time is about the experience we had a couple of months ago as we hosted an impromptu birthday orgy in our Passion Suite at Desire. It was a sexy evening and the clean-up afterwards confirmed it!

SD 13 Do you really go on dates with other couples? Aug 21, 2016

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Inspired by questions from listeners about how we seemingly find so many awesome sexy people in our travels who become entries into our Swinger Diaries, on this episode we expose some of the truths about a few of our dating failures.

After all, while we do go on dates with other couples, of all the ways to meet potential play partners, we have found that a two-on-two date is the least probable to end in a connection.

Unfortunately, that high pressure situation is fraught with tension, overly eager optimism, nervous anticipation, and all too often, disappointment.

We actually have had a few successful dates and in our sexy journal entry, we remember one of our most favorite play experiences which really did begin with a rare situation; a fun, flirty, successful, couples date.

SD 12 Are swingers amazing lovers? Aug 21, 2016

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We all know that practice makes perfect and since swingers have lots of sex, it would be a reasonable assumption that they are amazing lovers. While this point is true for some swingers, just like any other skill, some are better than others.

In this episode we discuss the skills and attitudes that make for a good lover. We also talk about the trickiness of having sex with new partners and the challenges and awkward situations which nervous excitement and distraction sometimes creates in the swinging lifestyle.

In our sexy diary journal entry, we remember answering a "Hot Date" listing and meeting an incredibly hot and experienced couple with whom we had such great bedroom communication, that we were able to venture into some wild new territory for us.

SD 11 Rules? What are your rules? Aug 21, 2016

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If you are curious about the swinging lifestyle and you do any research, the most common advice found in articles, blogs or podcasts is, “Before you do anything, make sure to discuss your rules.” So, what exactly are these rules? Is there a checklist somewhere? How do you go about discussing your rules if you don’t know where to start?

Everybody has rules. The term “rules" is just a synonym for boundaries, limits or even preferences. In an effort to begin to explore the endless numbers of potential rules a couple could adopt, in this episode we talk about what we see as the 15 most common rules that should be discussed among newbies. Then in the spirit of our format, we give a description of our own personal position on each. While in no way an exhaustive list, it should give a good starting point for conversations with your partner and in so doing, help reduce the potential drama that can arise from getting into a situation for which you were not prepared.

In our diary story, we remember a time in which we were swept up in the hot steamy excitement of a group play situation without talking clearly with our playmates

about our rules. While it was sexy fun, it also resulted in a few unnecessary awkward moments.

SD 10 Isn’t swinging really just cheating? Aug 21, 2016

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Flattered by messages and questions that we have received from our listeners, in this episode we answer one of our most frequently asked email inquiries. Many people wanted to know about the countless conversations and baby steps that moved us from being a faithful, conservative, monogamous couple who had never even fantasized about inviting others into our sex life, to becoming ... that dreaded "S-word".

Like most swingers, there was no pivotal moment or monumental decision that marked our entrance into the lifestyle. It was a slow gradual process and long probing conversations had with charming new friends that slowly coaxed into this amazing new exciting world.

In our sexy diary entry, we remember one of many steps in our journey. We recall the encounters that transitioned us from soft swap to full swap; the reasoning, conversations, rationale, excitement, intimidation, apprehension, and eventually the affect on our attitudes about sharing our sex life with others.

SD 09 Aren’t you worried that God will punish you with and STD? Aug 21, 2016

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Paige was not happy when the idea of these topics came up. Neither religion nor STIs are sexy conversation topics, but we know they are high on the list of curiosities and concerns when it comes to swinging. Originally, we had two separate topics, "Isn't swinging against your religion?" and "Aren't you worried about STDs?", but Paige protested having two separate episodes about such unsexy topics so we combined them into one show.

As classic swingers, our views on these topics are more mainstream than you might realize. So many swingers are like us, professional churchgoing people, who are active members of their community, have kids and vanilla social lives, and work out at the gym and take care of themselves in an attempt to stay physically and emotionally healthy. In this show we talk about how religion fits into our swinging life and also about our observations about the risks and rewards involving STIs and the standard practices of prevention and protection in the swinging community.

Paige chooses the story for our journal as we remember a very recent hotel takeover where we had a date to meet up with old friends and the excitment of how our foursome turned into a wild and hot six-way connection with the introduction of new friends too.

SD 08 So, you just have sex with anybody? Aug 21, 2016

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Many people imagine that swingers are just indiscriminate sex-crazed maniacs who are only interested in random hookups and wild orgies and while sex is a big part of the swinging lifestyle, the truth is that all swingers are actually very selective about who they wish to share their bodies with.

In this episode, we talk about how swinging is like dating for couples and just like in the dating scene, there are things that turn you on and turn you off about other people. Swingers are really looking for that rare and special connection even if its only for one night and sometimes that means that they have to be prepared to decline the invitations of others when it just doesn't feel right.

In our sexy journal entry, we remember an adventurous night at one of our favorite swinger clubs in South Florida called Trapeze and the challenge of politely declining offers of play from aggressive people in the back play area that night.

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