Swinger Diaries

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SD 47 How long can you keep the spark alive before you start thinking that you suck at swinging? Aug 31, 2017

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We are back from our amazing lifestyle cruise through the Mediterranean and we have so much to talk about! After skipping our usual release date in the middle of this month, we are bursting with stories and reviews of our journey. Please excuse the length of this episode. Although its a long one, we barely scratched the surface of all of our adventures and observations. After that trip, we will surely have diary stories for many years to come. After all, it was truly the trip of a lifetime.

True to our format, after recapping our fantastic swinger cruise, in this episode we discuss the question of how long it should take to get into swinging. We talk about tips and advice for keeping the sexy spark alive with a couple in anticipation of a date that is still far away. Then we expose our own occasional crisis of confidence and talk about when and why we sometimes think that we suck at swinging.

Though almost all of our diary entries are memories of our sexiest encounters, not every evening ends with mind-blowing orgasms. This journal entry is the memory of a night when we left the club with unfulfilled fantasies. Sometimes you just lose your mojo and when that happens, you have to wisely assess the situation, pack up, make a graceful exit, and know that there will always be more sexy opportunities in the future.

SD 46 After your first playdate with a “no kissing” couple, how do you tell them that you don’t want to do it again? Jul 31, 2017

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As we excitedly pack our bags for our much anticipated Mediterranean swingers cruise, we are smashing every sexy outfit we own into the suitcases for what will be the longest vacation of our lives. Unfortunately there won’t be any room for podcasting equipment so, for the first time, we will only be releasing one episode in the upcoming month of August but we promise to return with stories of what is sure to be an epic adventure.

As always, in this episode we crowd source the answers to our three questions. We talk about the wisdom or folly of sticking to the plan of not playing on the first date. We discuss playing with couples who have a “no kissing” rule. Then we explore advice on how to occasionally explain to people, with whom you've been intimate at least once, that you don’t want to do it again.

Our diary story is from our very first encounters in the swinging lifestyle and the newbie excitements and challenges of exploring boundaries for the first time. Those first experiences are always emotionally charged and can lead to some awkward decisions and impulsive rules.

SD 45 Even with condoms, is it too slutty to play during your period? Jul 15, 2017

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Please excuse our raspy smokers’ voices as we are still recovering from another awesome Naughty in N’awlins convention! Although we were flattered and humbled by meeting so many fans of our show at NiN who were curious about our impressions of the largest swingers convention in the world, as our regular listeners know, our format isn't really about interviews or event reviews. Instead, we will leave it to all of other podcasting friends to offer their recount of the week. In our traditional style, rather than recapping all of the parties, friends, theme nights and playroom adventures we had, in this show we dive right into our three questions which were answered, as always, by you, our listeners.

This episode’s questions deal with how to handle that awkward transitional moment during play when the condoms come out, what to do if you get your period when you had a sexy encounter planned, and a sensitive, philosophical question about being “too slutty”.

Our diary story is part sexy memory, and part sobering lesson as we recall a quick connection and the powerful sexual momentum that resulted in an impulsive and hot playtime with a couple on a trip to Hedo Then we remember how we later second guessed ourselves about the experience after watching them interact with others. We cant deny it, for better or worse, like almost everybody in the swinging lifestyle, we are a little judgy.

SD 44 Does the vanilla world know the best way to finish a soft swap with an uncircumcised cock? Jun 30, 2017

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Play preferences with circumcised men, soft swap finishes, and the vanilla world’s biggest misconception about the lifestyle; those are the topics discussed on this episode.

As always, we received so many great responses to our questions and, in particular, people had clear and passionate opinions on all the ways that the vanilla world misunderstands swinging. While we aren't ready to be the poster-children for the swinging lifestyle, we do hope that our little podcast helps the cause of explaining the joys and wonders that swinging can bring to a healthy, mature, loving marriage.

In our diary story, we recall yet another of our many fantastic experiences at our favorite place on earth, Desire Resort in Cancun, Mexico. Our journal entry is the memory of our first ever soft swap experience with a couple who's man had an uncircumcised cock. Bucket list… check!

SD 43 Is it bisexual men or women who are in charge of cheating on profile stats? Jun 15, 2017

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An overwhelming number of responses made this episode easy to record. Sometimes our questions solicit more replies than others but these questions must have touched a nerve because we had pages and pages of replies.

In this episode we discuss answers to the question about playing with bisexual people and the challenges and intimidations of that delicate situation. Then we give commentary about profile stats and tap dance on the narrow line of using an online profile to put your best foot forward but also the importance of being honest and accurate. Lastly, we explore the commonly heard and almost universally agreed trope that, “women run the lifestyle”.

In our diary story we remember an encounter with a comfortable, charming single man which allowed Paige to call all the shots and be the center of attention. This gentleman is one of those rarest of swingers; a classy, openminded, sexy, respectful single guy. Because we were all so comfortable with each other and he was so willing to please, this experience challenged the boundaries of Penn’s straight sensitivity, all in the interest of Paige’s pleasure.

SD 42 Have you ever searched Google for a sex toy and thought, "No thank you"? May 31, 2017

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One of the unexpected but wonderful advantages of this podcast has been the fantastic relationships we have developed with you, our listeners. Through your emails and social media messages, we have discovered that podcast listeners are indeed genuine, curious, engaged and often very sexy, a fact that we have recently verified.

For the first time in what is sure to be many more, in this episode we discuss three questions posed by you, our listeners. As always, we crowd-sourced the answers to your questions. Using other listeners advice as a guide, we discuss our own opinions and experiences about researching a couple on social media sites; the frequency and preference of using sex toys in swinging play; and one of the most common worries, the best language to use in order to tell a couple that you aren't interested in getting physical with them.

When we took a hiatus from podcasting last year, we were still very active in the swinging lifestyle. When we would come home from a party or date with new exciting memories, we were often disappointed and frustrated to know that we no longer had a podcast through which to re-live the night’s events. The stories would bubble up inside us and we felt like we just needed to tell somebody. Generously, our good friends the Joneses from the We Gotta Thing podcast allowed us to use them as our private audience during that time period and they became an occasional outlet for our stories. This episode’s diary story is one that we originally recorded for their ears only about a year and a half ago. It is a sexy story about an experience using a certain sex toy that was a first for us. It was such a hot memory that, rather than re-tell it, we just spliced the original, unfiltered version right here into this show. Hope you enjoy it.

SD 41 What’s the right mix of alcohol and dirty talk that makes you squirt? May 15, 2017

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With summer upon us and therefore kids out of school, we are trying to figure out how to adjust our habits a little to continue to preserve our sexy secrets from an always inquisitive family. We learned recently how frighteningly important that is. Despite the wonderful benefits of swinging, the vanilla world is not ready for our lifestyle no matter how amazing it is.

In this slightly longer than usual episode, as always we cover three new topics. We tell the story of our introduction to squirting and reflect on how our attitudes about it have developed and changed. Then, we talk about the practical problem of selecting the best alcohol for an evening of sexy fun. Finally, we explore the spectrum of what counts as dirty talk and what’s appropriate and preferred with a new partner.

Our diary story is a memory of one of the very first things we ever did in this lifestyle. Back when we were brand new and nervous, we made a road trip to visit a couple. While it was a sexy encounter, as four eager but inexperienced swingers will do, we made some classic, newbie mistakes.

SD 40 How long should you spend watching strippers before going to the swingers club? Apr 30, 2017

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This episode exposes the fact that some swinging questions are unanswerable. While we got lots of replies to our questions about the length of time for a play session, and a seemingly universal agreement about strip clubs, absolutely nobody seems to know why people enter the swingers clubs after 1:00 in the morning. Its still a mystery.

In this show, we give out our preferences and read some of your answers and then we announce that in the next episode we will be asking questions sent in by our listeners.

Our diary story is about a club night when we coyly flirted with a sexy couple and, taking advantage of the seductively erotic show in the playrooms and the right casual atmosphere for experimentation, we coaxed them into a wild, hot and very wet playtime.

SD 39 Why are there no pics of men getting blowjobs while listening to podcasts? Apr 15, 2017

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Our quest to crowd source the answers to the unknown mysteries of the swinging lifestyle continues. We are excited by the dozens of responses we again received in order to help us answer our queries and we are thrilled by the surprising number of listeners who have written to pose new questions to ask our audience. We see a “listener question” episode coming soon.

In this episode we explore the puzzle of why so many swinging dating profiles have no pics of men. Then we spend some time talking about the personal preference to give or to receive oral sex with a new play partner. Finally, we explore the reasons our listeners say they enjoy lifestyle podcasts and what they get out of listening to them.

In our diary story, we remember an encounter that incorporates all three of this episode’s questions as we tell about a road trip to meet new friends and the unexpected situation that provided us a rare and exciting opportunity in which Penn was able to have a fantasy fulfilled that he didn't even realize he had.

SD 38 Do you tell your kids that you secretly kiss your motorcycle? Mar 31, 2017

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Paige is not so crazy about these new episode titles but in this show, we answer our customary three questions and this time they deal with motorcycles, advice for curious adult children and the grey area of kissing and telling.

We rely heavily on listeners emails about their experiences with the motorcycle culture since we don't have (or want) a bike. Then, we imagine the hypothetical world in which we had to give one of our six children advice about swinging. Lastly, as a couple with a podcast that describes the very intimate details of our sexy encounters, we try not to be too hypocritical in exploring the etiquette of how much detail is acceptable when we inevitably kiss and tell about our play experiences with others.

Our diary story is the memory of a Las Vegas getaway with Harley-Davidson loving friends and the unusual and steamy opportunity that exchanging hotel room keys provided us.

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