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Influenza 2019 Feb 27, 2019

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2/3 of our household has the flu! Stu is stuck in the studio so he doesn't get it. We'll be back with a new show when we are all healthy!!

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Stupendous Marriage Minute Intro Feb 20, 2019

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This is a super short intro to let you know that we wanted to share with you something new and different...

"The Stupendous Marriage Minute"

The next three episodes (after this one) are one minute encouragements for you and your marriage.

1. Download them

2. Listen to them

3. Put them into practice

4. Let us know if you like them and would like more!

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Does your Spouse Complete You Feb 20, 2019

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We’ve been hoodwinked by Hollywood!

Hey, Its Stu and Lisa Gray from Stupendous Marriage dot com and this is your Stupendous Marriage Minute.

Tom Cruise said it in Jerry Maguire. It's a Romantic scene, all the girls swoon and he gets the girl back. But the truth is - its bogus.

Your spouse does NOT complete you. They compliment you. You are a complete person in Christ before and after you get married. If you don’t think you are, then you should not have gotten married. But if you did, then you need to figure out your identity in Christ.

A more realistic quote about marriage comes from John Candy, talking to his Jamaican bobsled team about the Olympics in Cool Runnings:

"A gold medal is a wonderful thing, but if you're not enough without the medal, you'll never be enough with it."

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TV In the Bedroom... Feb 20, 2019

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We don't have a television in our bedroom.

Hey, Its Stu and Lisa Gray from Stupendous Marriage.com and this is your Stupendous Marriage Minute.

Early on in our relationship, we decided not to put a television in our bedroom. We didn't do it intentionally, we just thought it would be a good thing to Have the bedroom be a "bedroom" not a mini family room!

I hear so many couples who lay in bed and read on their phone and watch television and fall asleep with the TV on and their screens on their chest and dribble running down their chins... and their neck hurting in the morning... because they've been looking at their phone all night long.

Take some time out have a 'digital detox' especially in your bedroom.

I think it'll be good for your marriage! It might be tough, but try it out see if it works for you and your spouse.

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Change Your Marriage Atmosphere with This Feb 20, 2019

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What’s one thing that can change the atmosphere in a room and connect you and your spouse?

Hey Its Stu and Lisa Gray from Stupendous Marriage.com and this is your Stupendous Marriage Minute.

I went to a parenting seminar recently and the speaker talked about one change she made to her behaviour whenever her teen son came into the room.

She smiled at him.

That's all.

He never said anything about it, but the first time his mom DIDN’t Smile (after several months) he asked her right away - Mom, What’s Wrong?

Smile at your spouse. Enjoy their presence and connect with them. Think of something positive before you see them and smile when they come into your presence.

Mother Theresa said, "You never know all the good that a simple smile can do."

A smile at your spouse changes the atmosphere in the room and can connect the two of you together simply by putting it on your face.

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My Husband is Emotionally Lacking Feb 13, 2019

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On the Show Today: Her husband is emotionally unavailable, and she feels trapped after starting a family at a young age. Stu and Lisa answer some of her questions.

Email Highlights for today:

My husband and I are 26 years old. We have been together for 9 years (married for 5). I was raised in a single mom household with a strict mother who worked 3 jobs so I stood home and babysat my sister (4 years younger than me.) I was never allowed to have friends over or hang out with friends...My mother did everything she could to make sure we were cared for but because she worked so hard I didn’t have much of a personal life. My husband was the opposite. He was from a married parent home, dad worked mom stood home. They gave him all the freedom in the world to do as he pleased but they are a very reserved family. No emotions, no affection...I feel like personally, I felt trapped. I went from not being able to do anything as a teenager to being tied down by the family life with kids and a husband. I felt, and sometimes still feel like, I was never able to find myself and who I am as a person which is why I started to grow in my faith and take the journey with the Lord...But my husband is the “problem” he is an AMAZINNGGGG husband!! He helps out more than I could imagine at home. He does dishes, does laundry, sweeps, mops, makes beds, works 40 hours a week, cooks meals when I don’t have the strength, takes the kids to and forth but he lacks emotionally. I am a stay at home mom. When I bring up my feelings to other women, especially my own mom, she claims I am being a “brat” or a “baby” and whining about nothing, he is great and it's me who has the problem. I have now learned to keep my mouth shut but it is affecting our marriage...my husband is an amazing provider and partner in our home but he lacks in affection, attention and following the lord. Stu and Lisa, please help me. I feel like I have exhausted every angle from praying for us both, sending him little articles or highlights of the articles (neither which he will read), dropping hints, approaching conversations the right way, using I statements vs making it about him, I praise him, I encourage him, I lift him up but I see none of that in return. I overfill his love tank and my children’s while mine is running on empty.

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Help for an Abusive Relationship Feb 06, 2019

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Help for an Abusive Relationship

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On the Show Today:

Lisa and Stu are Destination Imagination team managers for this school year again. Yee Haw.

Email for today:

Hi, Stu & Lisa. I know this is a marriage podcast but I love your advice. I am married and I grew up in a pretty loving Christian household and I feel deep down that my marriage is loving and Christ-honoring. I have a brother who a little younger than me & is in a current relationship. He is a Christ follower and his girlfriend is not. The woman he is with is very verbally abusive to him & has even said some pretty horrible things to me and my parents. She has also put her hands on my brother a time or two as well as kicked the dash in his car, smashed his phone etc. I and my family are completely devastated to see my brother date someone of this nature. We are confused to see how he ended up with someone that is like this considering that the marriage examples he has been given are nothing like the relationship he is in. It’s very hard to watch because I love my brother. He says he wants to break up with her but can’t because he is scared of her aftermath. How can you help someone get out of an abusive relationship? And how do you do it in a Christ-honoring way?

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Creative Gift Giving Jan 30, 2019

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Creative Gift Giving to your spouse.

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On the Show Today:

Deleting Facebook and Social Media - More and more people are doing it.

Email for today:

...you mentioned that it is hard to buy Christmas gifts for Lisa because she liked experiences rather than things. My wife is the same way. On top of it, my wife doesn't like to plan... my primary gift to her has been a date plan for the upcoming year. I try to plan at least one activity that we can do together each month for the upcoming year. It is a great gift because she likes the activities and we both like to have plans we can look forward to. I can usually plan at least the first 9 months of the upcoming year. After that it can get difficult because schedules are not available that far out.

Activities have included theater tickets (which she likes and I don't but I like her so I love to go), concert tickets (Casting Crowns and Toby Mac this year - woo-hoo!), an occasional sports ticket (minor league hockey this year), pottery classes, glass making classes, Discover SCUBA classes, an occasional weekend trip as the budget allows, and other things like that. I will not do the typical dinner and a movie date and it can be tricky ... sometimes we have to drive which can turn it into a full day activity - which is better for the Quality Time people...Some of the plans I have made in the past have even been free. I have found it is not about how much money I spend on her but that I was being intentional in planning activities that we can do together.

Christmas morning package presentation has included just giving her tickets (which is no fun), photo albums with pictures of what we are going to do, and calendars. I would be interested in your thoughts on ideas of more things to do and ways to present them on Christmas morning in a package that can be unwrapped.

We are glad you are back broadcasting regular episodes. We started listening at about episode 30 so we missed you while you were gone.

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My Wife Doesn't Trust After My Behaviors Jan 23, 2019

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My wife doesn't trust me after my behavior

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On the Show Today:

Adulting can be tough.
Looking for a new car (car is dying), new microwave (microwave is dead), and new lights in our home.
Could be worse, but we are a little overwhelmed

Email for today:

I just stumbled on your podcast - I believe it's a sign. My wife and I have been together for 7 and a half years. - married for 2 and a half. We have two children together but - also have children from previous relationships. In the beginning, we had an amazing relationship, - after our first daughter together was born, an ex of mine got in contact with me and I felt like I was keeping it professional. she would take it too far talking about intimate times we had. I responded to one or two of those and then realized it was a horrible thing to do and cut off contact completely. My wife found these messages and that's where our whole relationship took a turn for the worse. Since then she has had trust issues - We hit church hard, became believers and would be in and out of the word. When things were good we weren't in the word as much when things were bad we got back in the word. No consistency. I recently had a one night stand that I regret - I had to tell her about it and it broke her heart. I have a lot of work to do to be me. And I'm doing it. She is in and out. One minute wants nothing to do with me, the next we are back together. It's confusing. I know she cares but, she says she wants to see what else is out there (she's afraid our relationship was toxic for so long that things will never change). I understand her, but I believe there's nothing that's happened that God can't heal. II want to find a way to show her this without being suffocating at the same time. I love her, I'm working on finding out the truth about why I did what I did. In the meantime I sadly feel I'm the only one putting forth the effort like she's already given up. Thank you

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