Stay ConnectedTraditional marriage counseling and marriage coaching will tell you to work on communication. A pastor might tell you to sacrifice more and forget about yourself.
But, what actually works when it comes to creating a strong, passionate marriage? One that’s full of love, connection and intimacy?
Find out with us on our podcast, Strong Men Strong Marriages.
Hosted by psychiatrist and marriage coach Mike Frazier, MD
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A few weeks back we talked about the Invalidation Triple Threat.
That’s when you tell your wife:
-She’s wrong for what she’s thinking
-She’s wrong for what she’s feeling
-You’re right
This causes her to close her heart… and body… off from you.
We all do this sometimes, and luckily we can reverse it by reversing those 3 steps:
-Tell her how you were wrong for responding the way you did
-Understand how she could feel that way
-Understand how she could think that way
This helps her feel safe and open her mind, heart and body more to you.
Watch on YouTube here.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MytcPIKG2xk
Dr. Mike
P.S. Get the 7 Day Email Series: How To Be More Attractive To Your Wife at StrongMen.io
Tuesday you learned how to stop a marriage fight by…
Step 1 - Notice the anger
Step 2 - Release the anger
Step 3 - Listen or walk away
Now, try it and see how it goes!
Dr. Mike
P.S. Get the 7 Day Email Series: How To Be More Attractive To Your Wife at StrongMen.io
My wife and I got in a fight last night…
And it reminded me of 3 steps I can take in the future to step out of the “who’s right” pattern…
Creating less safety and closed hearts…
And step into a pattern that allows more connection and intimacy….
Step 1 - Notice the anger
Step 2 - Release the anger
Step 3 - Listen or walk away
Watch on YouTube here.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JjjxlpDd52A
Dr. Mike
P.S. Get the 7 Day Email Series: How To Be More Attractive To Your Wife at StrongMen.io
So you learned that getting mad back, the invalidation triple threat and trying to make your wife happy won’t work.
Instead, try…
Responding with kindness…
Serving her because you want to (going the extra mile)...
Or just saying “no.”
And let me know how it goes.
Dr. Mike
P.S. Get the 7 Day Email Series: How To Be More Attractive To Your Wife at StrongMen.io
When your wife gets mad at you for something, most men either…
Get mad back…
Tell their wife she’s wrong and justify themselves (invalidation triple threat)...
Or tuck tail and just try to make her happy.
Unfortunately, all of these lead to disconnection and lack of intimacy.
Learn what to do instead… in today’s episode.
Watch on YouTube here.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a4DTUrjjLco
Dr. Mike
P.S. Get the 7 Day Email Series: How To Be More Attractive To Your Wife at StrongMen.io
Relationships are built by…
Talking to people
Spending time together
Doing things together
To build a relationship with Jesus, you need to do the same things.
Choose 1 to do this week.
And let me know how it goes.
Dr. Mike
P.S. Get the 7 Day Email Series: How To Be More Attractive To Your Wife at StrongMen.io
Do you feel like you’re doing what God wants you to do in your marriage…
Putting your wife first, serving her, losing so she can win…
But you don’t feel blessed by God for those efforts?
In fact, you just feel resentful?
Learn today what Jesus was REALLY saying in his Beatitudes (according to The Divine Conspiracy by Dallas Willard)
So you can find joy, healing and love NOW in your life and marriage.
Watch on YouTube here.
Dr. Mike
P.S. Get the 7 Day Email Series: How To Be More Attractive To Your Wife at StrongMen.io
Your wife’s heart has closed to you because it’s been hurt.
By you.
Today, recognize a way you have hurt her heart.
Apologize.
And stop doing it.
As a bonus, do the opposite to help her start healing and opening her heart.
Let me know how it goes.
Listen on the Strong Men Strong Marriages Podcast.
https://strongmenstrongmarriages.buzzsprout.com/
Watch on YouTube here.(Lorena new links here)
https://youtube.com/shorts/U3zdkBBU-JU (Lorena new links here)
Dr. Mike
P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible sexual, mental and emotional intimacy with your wife, and create an amazing legacy for your family to follow… starting TODAY…
CLICK HERE to apply to join my Strong Men Strong Marriages program.
P.S. Get the 7 Day Email Series: How To Be More Attractive To Your Wife at StrongMen.io
How To Get Your Wife’s Heart To Open To You
If you feel like roommates in your marriage…
If you’re getting one-word answers from your wife…
If you feel disconnected emotionally and sexually…
Your wife has closed her heart to you.
How do you get it to open back up, so you have the connection, looks of love and physical intimacy you want?
Learn in today’s episode.
Listen on the Strong Men Strong Marriages Podcast.
Watch on YouTube here.
Dr. Mike
P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible sexual, mental and emotional intimacy with your wife, and create an amazing legacy for your family to follow… starting TODAY…
CLICK HERE to apply to join my Strong Men Strong Marriages program.
P.S. Get the 7 Day Email Series: How To Be More Attractive To Your Wife at StrongMen.io
There’s something important to your wife that isn’t important to you.
Maybe it’s the way towels are folded. The way counters are wiped. Leaving the toilet seat up.
Instead of dismissing this as stupid…
See this as a chance to serve her in her language.
Put the toilet seat down.
Not as a way of “caving in,” but as a way to speak love to her in her language.
Let me know how it goes!
Listen on the Strong Men Strong Marriages Podcast.
Watch on YouTube here.
Dr. Mike
P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible sexual, mental and emotional intimacy with your wife, and create an amazing legacy for your family to follow… starting TODAY…
CLICK HERE to apply to join my Strong Men Strong Marriages program.
P.S. Get the 7 Day Email Series: How To Be More Attractive To Your Wife at StrongMen.io
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