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The End of an Era Nov 15, 2020

Over the past almost four years, Chris and Erika have shared their trials, tribulations, successes, heartaches, and plenty of advice. And can’t forget the laughs. They can’t thank you enough for being loyal listeners each and every week. They know Sundays won’t be the same, yet all good things must come to an end.

If you want to reach out, they will still be active on social media, or you can send an email directly to Erika at erika@alittlenudge.com.

Best of luck to everyone on their online dating journeys. Erika and Chris will be with you in spirit.

The Penultimate Episode: The Crazier, The Better Nov 09, 2020

In this week’s episode, which leaves one left to get to episode 100, Erika and Chris re-share what is quite possibly the most epic dating story ever — the one that started this whole journey. They then reflect on some of the more memorable stories and express how much this podcast has meant to them.

How Far to Go on a First Date Nov 02, 2020

Holding hands, kissing, warm hugs, masked socially distant walks… in this day and age, it’s almost impossible to know how far to go physically on a first date. This week, Erika and Chris re-share some favorite stories about when a first date doesn’t get off the ground, and when it maybe flies too high.

Dating Pet Peeves… Literally (A Pet’s Place in Dating) Oct 24, 2020

From birds to dogs to the random chinchilla, when you date someone with a pet, you may also be inviting that critter into your life, whether you like it or not. This week, we re-share a fan-favorite story of a date getting interrupted (this story is not “for the birds”), and then Erika and Chris discuss the implications on a relationship when someone treats your pet differently from how you might.

Don’t Assume… Ask Instead Oct 18, 2020

Isn’t it annoying when someone makes an untrue assumption about you? And isn’t it even worse if this happens on a first date? Today, Erika shares a story of one of her own dates gone wrong due to a faulty assumption. Then, Erika and Chris discuss the repercussions of such assumptions and how simply asking a question is a better approach.

Ghosting + Standing Someone Up = Bad News Bears Oct 04, 2020

Ghosting, standing someone up, ignoring someone… all bad habits. This week, Erika and Chris discuss a few stories — some new, some old — and talk about not just ghosting but also how the person at the receiving end feels. Whether after one date or one year, communication is the key to mature dating.

Politics in the Profile: Yay or Nay? Sep 27, 2020

“If you’re a fan of 45, swipe left.” “If you call yourself liberal, move along.” “If you don’t vote, then you won’t get a date with me.” We see things like this all the time in online dating profiles, especially these days. But should you put your political preferences in the profile? And if so, is there a way to do that without sounding negative? Erika and Chris talk politics this week — the dos, the don’ts, the rights, the lefts, and everything in between.

Long-Distance Relationships: Can They Work? Sep 20, 2020

If you’re thinking about having a long-distance relationship, there are many factors that come into play, but the most important by far is each participant’s willingness to try. In this week’s episode, we re-share one of Erika’s craziest online dating stories (think OkCupid, Florida, sarcasm, and toilets), and then Erika and Chris discuss what it means to connect with someone who doesn’t live nearby. In the end, is a simple conversation always worth it? That’s in the eye of the dater.

Everything short of finding your partner is not a failure! Sep 13, 2020

Oh, that pesky thing we call expectations. Many people go online to find “the one,” or at least a long-term partner. That goal is fine, of course. But what’s not fine is measuring “success” to that standard, much of which is not in our control. Online dating is not a spouse-finder, soulmate producer, or magic wand; it is simply a tool, or vehicle — much like the gym — that is available for use in order to meet people. With this tool still comes work, time, and personal accountability. And each and every date you go on is part of the process and the journey… so don’t discount that.

First Step: Read the Profile Sep 06, 2020

Have you ever been on a date, and it seems like the person you’re out with has no idea who you are? Maybe they ask you questions that were already answered in your profile, or maybe they overlooked a dealbreaker in the profile. Whatever it is, it can get awkward! This week, Erika and Chris re-share some stories about dates gone wrong simply because the other person neglected to re-read (or read in the first place) what you had written.

Q&A with Erika and Chris Aug 30, 2020

Today, Erika and Chris answer three burning questions from clients/listeners: 1) How to let someone down gently, 2) Whether meeting someone will always require “fishing,” and 3) Whether to overlook someone’s lackluster communication because of COVID. As always, Erika answers in her no-nonsense manner, and Chris sheds light on the male perspective. For all previous episodes, check out sowemetonline.com.

On the Basis of Race Aug 23, 2020

On today’s episode, Chris and Erika address the hard topics — race and religion as it relates to dating. If you exclude one whole group, is it a preference or a bias… or something in between? Erika shares some intimate details about a triggering meeting with a new client, and then she and Chris delve into how preferences may be overt or latent, big or small, good or bad… and what it may all mean.

Dating in the Time of Coronavirus: Part 2 Aug 16, 2020

Back in April, when COVID was new to us, Erika and Chris shared their insights on dating and how the pandemic might impact things. Now, over four months later — and still very much in the thick of things — they revisit the topic, shedding light on how dating has changed… and how it might never go back to the way it used to be. With some personal stories, client stories, and stories from the LA Times, Erika and Chris delve into how the dating world has evolved in terms of meeting in person, defining a relationship, and having intimate moments… with a mask??

I’m Obsessed! Aug 09, 2020

Whether it’s a hobby, a habit, or an obsession — or a little of each — in every relationship, there has to be a compromise. Do you love Taco Bell but your partner hates it? Maybe get one fewer chalupa per week. Does your partner load the dishwasher in a less-than-efficient fashion? Maybe load it yourself from now on. This week, Erika and Chris talk about people’s idiosyncrasies and how to either work around those or embrace them in a relationship.

Breaking up is hard to do Aug 02, 2020

This week, Chris and Erika each share stories from their own lives and lives of their friends that revolve around breaking up and getting back together. Some people are in relationships for the right reasons, and some simply are not. Is the reason you want to be in a relationship because you feel like you have a lot to offer and would love to add someone to your life… or because you’re lonely? This is an important distinction that only you can make.

First Date Fails Jul 26, 2020

In this week’s throwback episode, Erika and Chris revisit two epic stories — one of an uncomfortably short first date and one of a crazy drunk and sexual first date. Totally different experiences but equally cringe-worthy. Then, they talk about how these stories might differ today, in the time of COVID, when physical interactions are limited and Zoom rules the day.

Manners Maketh the Man Jul 19, 2020

In today’s episode, guest “Superfan Ann” shares a story that, after hearing last week’s episode, she couldn’t hold in. It includes bad manners, soup, and… an exterminator? Then, Erika and Chris delve into manners in general and share how they may differ from chivalry. From opening doors to ordering wine, they give advice on what to do in each unique situation.
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Is Subway Appropriate for Dinner? Jul 12, 2020

This week, Erika and Chris revisit two stories from their past — one about a date that didn’t get off on the right foot and another about what might constitute an appropriate dinner date. They compare their responses three years ago to how they feel today. If you’d like to listen to the original episode, feel free to do so here: https://sowemetonline.com/episode-8-whos-paying-date/

Is it cheating if it’s not a “date”? Jul 05, 2020

This week, Erika shares a never-before-told story about her time on jury duty. There was mystery, intrigue, drama… and a love interest.Erika and Chris then dissect each part of the story, from the infatuation at first sight to the question “Is this a date?” Plus, if you stay to the end, you’ll learn whether the defendant was convicted or not.

Tough Love Jun 28, 2020

On today’s episode, Erika and Chris answer some tough dating questions… often with tough love. Whether it’s about keeping your dating options open, overcoming perceived red flags, or anything else, sometimes the truth hurts, but it’s usually worth hearing in the end.

Up for Interpretation Jun 21, 2020

Why can’t things just be easy? When it comes to texting, or really anything in life, so much is left up to interpretation. In this week’s episode, Erika shares a story about one of her client’s dates and how the interactions can be looked at in very different ways. A red flag to one person may be a turn-on to another. Erika and Chris then delve into how difficult it is to interpret text messages sometimes and then discuss the actual date-planning process and how interpretations may go awry there, too.

Dating Addictions: The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly Jun 14, 2020

When it comes to dating, there are plenty of complications already. But when you add an addition to the mix — to online dating itself, to shopping, you name it — what does it do to a relationship? In this week’s episode, Erika shares a story about a friend who can’t stop swiping, and then Chris and Erika analyze an addiction’s impact on a relationship.

20 Dating Faux Pas NOT to Do in 2020 May 31, 2020

This week, Erika and Chris discussed the article, “20 Things to Stop Doing on Dating Apps in 2020” from Insidehook.com. These range from lying about your age (a no-no) to posting group photos (don’t do it!) to ghosting… and everything in between. While they agree with many of them, there’s one big disagreement at the end.

The Men Ask: Erika and Chris Answer May 24, 2020

In this week’s episode, Erika and Chris tackle three men’s dating questions… one about a woman lying about her age in her online dating profile, one about women writing from all over the country on Match.com, and one about a woman showing a photo with a child. As always, the comments are both insightful and hilarious.

Should I Recycle My Date? May 17, 2020

Sometimes you go on a date with someone. It’s not a 1, but it’s also not at 10. And you never see each other again. If the situation arises at a later date, should you give it another go? This week, Erika shares a crazy first — and second — date story, and then Erika and Chris talk about second chances, different personalities, and when it makes sense to try again or just call it off.

Ask me out already! May 10, 2020

We live in a time when no one knows what to do — ask someone out or not, compliment someone or not, make the first move or not? Is it kosher for a salesperson to ask out a shopper… or a shopper to ask out a salesperson? With online dating, is there even a need to meet people “IRL” now? Erika and Chris, while going on many tangents, discuss the appropriateness of compliments, date requests, and much more.

Don’t Stand Me Up May 03, 2020

Standing someone up is not okay, but unfortunately, it does happen on occasion. So, Erika and Chris, after each sharing stories about getting stood up, share their top five tips on how to cope with getting stood up and move past it.

Hiding Behind Technology Apr 26, 2020

Technology can be amazing — we can set our thermostat from afar, connect with family across the world, and, as you know, find dates. But with everything amazing there come a few drawbacks. This week, Erika and Chris share stories and commentary about people hiding behind technology when it comes to the dating scene. It’s so easy now to be incognito that sometimes people disregard the fact that there’s another person — a human being — at the other end of the interaction. Let’s dive right in.

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Dating in the Time of Coronavirus Apr 08, 2020

It’s a strange and unsettling time in the world for everyone in all aspects of their lives. Chris and Erika are here to talk about how to navigate the dating scene now that in-person dates are off the table. Should you just wait? Or maybe take a video date in your living room with a glass of wine in hand? One guest shares her experiences, and then Chris and Erika give some advice for creating successful video dates and beyond.

When You Know, You Know Feb 02, 2020

When you started dating someone, did you “just know” that it was right? Maybe you married this person. Or maybe you broke up. When people say they “know,” what does it really mean? Chris and Erika share some stories about “just knowing” and then address how this language may be helpful or hurtful to a relationship.

Listener-Submitted Questions Jan 12, 2020

From first dates to sex to physical attraction to social cues, Erika and Chris tackle your questions this week. And if you still have burning questions, post them on our Facebook or Instagram pages, and we’ll include them in a future episode.

Is a Bad First Date a Bad Thing? Dec 29, 2019

Sometimes a first date is great… and sometimes it’s just not good at all. Is either outcome an omen for a potential relationship? Chris shares a story about a Disneyland date gone wrong and how it impacted his views on first dates.

Dating Then & Now: Who Had It Easier? Dec 15, 2019

Dating has changed a lot, not just over the last few years, but over generations. Especially with the advent of dating apps and technology, dating almost seems like a whole different experience from what it used to be. This week, Erika interviews some special guests, and then she and Chris break down the differences of dating in previous years and the pros and cons as compared to today.

The Tall and Short of It Dec 01, 2019

“I only want a man over 6’2.” “I have to be at least six years older than she is.” We hear these arbitrary statements all the time. But when you think about it, are these things really that important in a relationship? This week, guest Miguel shares his story with Erika about his unconventionally sized relationship, and then Chris and Erika delve into the implications on the relationship when you both limit yourself and go outside your comfort zone.

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Take My Profile Down? But How? Nov 23, 2019

Online dating sites are interesting in that they have conflicting incentives — to help you meet a partner and to make money. Erika and Chris discuss this interesting business model, and then they address the question many people have: When should I take my profile down? They then walk through the steps of just how to do that.

Q & A with Erika and Chris Oct 20, 2019

Erika and Chris tackle some dating questions from clients and listeners, such as where to have a first date and whether to text someone before the date. Then, as an added bonus, they share some of the worst online dating pick-up lines they’ve received!

Dating on the Sly Oct 06, 2019

Dating can be hard enough, but dating in secret is another challenge. Why might one have to hide their relationship? Erika and Chris share some fun stories from their youth, and then they talk about dating on the sly in general.

Dating a Friend’s Ex Sep 22, 2019

Dating can already be difficult to navigate, but what happens when you throw in an extra layer… dating a friend’s ex. Is it possible? Are there rules? This week, Erika shares a story from her life, and then Erika and Chris break down rules, best practices, and advice.

First Date Dos and Don’ts Sep 08, 2019

First dates can be fun, awkward, boring, amazing, and anything in between. Today, Erika and Chris share some first date dos and don’ts to make sure you’re on the right track.

Why didn’t you make a move? Aug 24, 2019

Dating can be tricky. When do you kiss? Hold hands? Have sex? Some people want to rush, and others want to take it slow. This week, Erika and Chris (and a fun guest) discuss what it shows, if anything, when someone doesn’t make a move on the first few dates… and what it can mean for the future.

Bringing the Past into the Present Aug 03, 2019

Similar to triggers, sometimes things from the past make their way into the present, whether we want them to or not. Today, Chris shares two stories about how people’s pasts crept up into their new relationships with him, and how it impacted him in the process. We all have pasts, but it’s important to know what stays there and is unique to the person in the past and what should come along for the ride into the future.

Trigger Warning Jul 14, 2019

A trigger is something that sets off a memory tape or flashback transporting the person back to the event of her/his original trauma. In dating, we may not be talking about trauma like PTSD, but there can still be experiences or words that bring back bad memories. And the thing that causes those memories is a trigger. Chris and Erika share some of their own triggers — some more trivial and some more serious — with listeners.

Q&A with Erika and Chris Jun 16, 2019

This week, Erika and Chris tackle three questions from both friends and clients. Topics include ghosting, dating after divorce, and the right time to start dating again.

I want to hold your hand Jun 02, 2019

Hand-holding, kissing, other forms of intimacy… there’s a time and a place for all of them. But, when is that time and place? The first date? The third? And which would you prefer to do first — hold hands or smooch? In today’s episode, Erika shares a story about a first date of her own and then introduces a surprise guest. Then, she and Chris discuss how one person’s hierarchy of intimacy may differ from another person’s.

Can Men and Women Be Friends? May 19, 2019

It’s the age-old question: Can men and women be friends? Erika and Chris tackle this question from several angles, sharing stories of both being the “friend” and the person in a relationship with someone who has an opposite-sex friend. None of this is easy, and there are no right and wrong answers, but just the discussion itself should shed some light on what is possible.

Drink to Impress Apr 21, 2019

Most of us try to make a great first impression, especially when it comes to dating. Sometimes, though, trying to come off as your best self backfires and you end up being someone you don’t want to be. Have you ever accidentally had too much to drink to impress a date? Or, maybe you’ve done something way outside your comfort zone? In this week’s episode, guest Beth shares a personal story, and then Chris and Erika discuss what happens when you try a bit too hard to impress your date.

Communication and Love Languages Apr 07, 2019

Perhaps the most important piece of any relationship, whether romantic or not, is how two people communicate. Can you make yourselves vulnerable? Are you comfortable with conflict, knowing that your partner will truly listen? And when you’re in a relationship, do you know how best to communicate your love for each other? In this episode, Erika and Chris break down what these “Love Languages” are and how they apply to your relationships.

Outside Assumptions and Judgments… And Their Impacts Mar 24, 2019

Have you ever had someone judge you for something that’s completely not his or her business? Or, maybe someone doesn’t understand your life choices, so rather than asking about them, the default is to put you down or make assumptions? Being different is great. Being judged for being different — not so much. In today’s episode, Erika and Chris each share some stories about how outside judgment has affected their own lives and their relationships.

Date, Interrupted Mar 10, 2019

There’s a rare weather storm, you ate some bad cheese, your child needs to be picked up early… whatever the case is, sometimes a date needs to be cut short, or not happen at all. In the first episode of Season 4, Erika shares a personal story, and then she and Chris discuss the reasons why a date might get interrupted and what to do about it.

Q&A with Erika and Chris – All About Relationships Jan 09, 2019

Once you enter a relationship, the work is not over. In fact, that’s often just the beginning. This week, Erika and Chris answer clients’ questions on intimacy, moving in, and the age-old question of whether men and women can be friends.

Non-monogamy, Polyamory, and Open Relationships Dec 23, 2018

As we are seeing more and more these days, there is not a one-size-fits-all solution to relationships… far from it. While monogamy is generally people’s default, Erika and Chris want to shed some knowledge on other types of relationship structures.

Offline Dating – Meeting “IRL” Dec 09, 2018

While the podcast often focuses on online dating, in this week’s episode, Erika and Chris talk about offline dating, or meeting people in real life (IRL). How do you know if someone is available? Is it appropriate to approach someone in this climate? Is rejection worse if it’s in person? After sharing their own stories, Erika and Chris drill down on how exactly to ask someone out in the real world.

Wanting the Unattainable Nov 25, 2018

Why do we want what we can’t have? Does the chase make the outcome sweeter? If we have 10 amazing things (or people) in front of us, why do we focus on the one who’s not there? This week, Chris and Erika each share stories, and Erika covers four theories on why exactly we go for the one we can’t have.

Awkward Interactions Nov 11, 2018

You go to an event. Someone hits on you or otherwise makes you feel “icky.” What do you do? This episode is all about those awkward interactions — how to avoid them in the first place and what to do if you can’t. Guest Claire is back, and, with Erika and Chris, shares a story of her own.

Second and Third Dates Oct 21, 2018

You went on a first date. It was okay. Not great, not terrible, but okay. Do you go on a second date? That’s the question that Erika and Chris try to answer in this episode. In this day and age, with so many options on the dating sites and apps, it’s easy to overlook someone who perhaps doesn’t put out the best first impression. Sometimes nerves are at play. And sometimes it’s just not a match. What criteria should you use to determine wither a second or third date is worth it? Listen to find out.

Serendipity in Dating: Is it Fate or Sheer Coincidence? Oct 07, 2018

This week, guest Bob shares an incredible story about his first date, wondering whether some guiding power (beyond the powers of OkCupid) brought him together with his girlfriend. Then, Erika and Chris talk about their views on fate, soulmates, and coincidences. While they don’t see eye-to-eye, each shares in interesting perspective, while sharing stories along the way.

Q&A 2 – First Date Questions Sep 16, 2018

If you have questions about first dates, then this is the episode for you. Erika and Chris delve into clients’ questions and then provide their own answers to your burning questions, like how long a date should last, when to kiss someone, and much more.

Why Do We Stay in Relationships? Sep 02, 2018

Some relationships stand the test of time because you’re happy and can’t wait to see your partner every day. And, unfortunately, some relationships endure for the wrong reasons. It’s difficult to know when to stick it out and when to throw in the towel. Should you move out or have a baby together? Should you trek cross country together or break up? On today’s episode, a guest shares his story of staying in a relationship despite red flags and then Erika and Chris discuss reasons one might stay a bit too long and ways we rationalize making that decision.

Long Distance Relationships Aug 19, 2018

Whether you don’t live near each other when you meet or your relationship has to turn into a long-distance one after some time, navigating the circumstance can be tricky. How often will you see each other? Are you exclusive? What’s your primary means of communication? Erika and Chris discuss all of this and more this week, and Erika shares her own attempt at meeting someone from afar.

How to Know Whether to Stick with a Relationship Aug 05, 2018

Relationships are not easy. There’s no denying that. And sometimes once you invest more time and energy, it’s hard to know whether to keep investing or to cut things off if the investment is not showing you returns (i.e. happiness). This week, our guest Wendy shares a very personal story about a relationship that goes longer than it perhaps should, and Erika and Chris discuss the implications.

It’s True – Men and Women Date Differently Jul 22, 2018

Have you ever wondered whether men and women really do think differently when it comes to dating? You don’t have to wonder anymore. Erika and Chris break down how truly different their brains are when it comes to dating, both short-term and long-term, and how even the simple concept of attraction can vary. Maybe men really are from Mars and women from Venus… or maybe not.

Is It Too Soon To Get Back Out There? Jul 08, 2018

So many times, people get back out there before they are ready. Maybe it’s because they’re lonely, or maybe they think they should be ready based on some preconceived or arbitrary timeline. The reality is that, just as every relationship is different, the time to heal after every breakup is also different. Erika, Chris, and guest Claire discuss stories about it. Ready or not, here we come.

I Got Stood Up! Jun 24, 2018

In this day and age, with technology everywhere we look, it’s easy to forget that people are, well, people. When you set up a date with someone, there’s a real person at the other end of the equation. So, if you don’t show up, it affects both of you. The moral: Don’t stand people up. It’s a terrible thing to do, and it makes your date feel even worse. Erika and Chris both share stories about Bumble dates — poof — not appearing as planned.

Gender Roles and Stereotypes in Dating Jun 10, 2018

Dating is confusing. And in the #MeToo era, it’s even moreso. Not everyone has the same views on the gender roles, if there are any, in dating, yet many feel that someone should simply “know” how to act. In this episode, Chris and Erika, along with a guest, share personal stories highlighting that some stereotypes are meant to be broken and some may be here to stay.

Q&A 1 – Pre-Date Questions May 27, 2018

Sometimes even before the first date, things can get confusing. What if you’re not sure how attracted to someone’s profile you are? What if you can’t get over an ex? What if you just don’t even know where to begin? This week, Chris and Erika discuss actual dating questions from Erika’s clients about what to do before the first date.

A Pet’s Place in Dating May 13, 2018

Is Rover part of your dating life? How about little Whiskers? When it comes to dating, what role should your pet play? Guest Naomi shares her story, and then Erika And Chris each have some furry experiences of their own.

Dating in the #MeToo Era Apr 29, 2018

The #MeToo movement has gone beyond giving a voice to those who have incurred sexual harassment or misconduct. It has also brought about social change and consequences. But, where does that leave us when it comes to dating? Chris and Erika each share their own stories — in addition to stories of friends, clients, and those in the media — while giving their advice male and female perspective on things along the way.

Money and Relationships Apr 15, 2018

In any relationship, especially long-term, money can be a hot-button topic. What if one partner thinks an occasional splurge is appropriate, and the other doesn’t? Even the word “splurge” is subjective. It’s so important to have aligned expectations about money. Erika and Chris share some personal stories and discuss money’s place in a relationship.

Valentine’s Day! Feb 14, 2018

Happy Valentine’s Day to all of our listeners. This week, Erika shares one of her own more memorable Valentine’s Day experiences, and then Chris and Erika discuss how dating can be different — and more stressful — when it’s around a holiday.

Is There a Dating Lemon Law? Feb 04, 2018

You’re on a date. It’s not good. You want out. Is there ever a polite way to extricate yourself from a less-than-ideal date? Or, is it best to see it through? With a story from guest Teddy as their guide, Erika and Chris navigate the waters of bad dates… one text, drink, and embarrassing moment at a time.

Politics, Religion, Equality… Oh My! Jan 21, 2018

Are certain first date topics taboo? Should you get your deal-breakers out of the way early, or should you get to know someone a bit first? This week, we hear a story about religion, marriage equality, and gun rights… all on one date. Then, Erika and Chris talk about how these perhaps no-longer taboo topics can impact the trajectory of a relationship.

Q&A with Erika and Chris – Part III Jan 06, 2018

What guidelines should we follow when sharing information about ourselves on a first date? Do you cover up your baggage or put it all on the table from the start? And how soon into a relationship should you turn off your dating profiles? Erika and Chris are back with another session of answering your most pressing dating questions.

Will I Meet the Old You or the New You? Dec 17, 2017

Online dating is an interesting place where you promote yourself in any way you choose. We hope that people are being honest. Some are, and some aren’t. Today, Chris and Erika discuss what information to share online versus what to wait to reveal in person. Is there one correct answer? No. That’s what makes it tricky.

You’re HOW old? Think Outside the Box When Searching Online Dec 03, 2017

Sometimes online dating can feel like you’re ordering a pizza. Everything is laid out on a menu in front of you, and all you have to do is select what you want. But, when meeting someone in person, that’s not the case. We are more open-minded and less beholden to our “type.” Does meeting someone offline who doesn’t fit your criteria affect your online behavior? Hear what Erika and Chris have to say about it.

How far should things go? Nov 12, 2017

When you’re dating someone new, it’s hard to know how fast (or slow) things should move… sexually. One person might have one idea, and the other may have the opposite idea. Or, maybe one person is adventurous in bed and the other is more conventional. Erika and Chris invite Rachel to share her story and then discuss the intricacies of sex, relationships, “the bases,” and the timing of it all.

Q&A with Erika and Chris – Part II Oct 29, 2017

Want to know how to move from the dating app to the first date? Or, maybe you’re texting with a potential date, but the planning of the date itself has stalled? Erika and Chris are back with another session of answering your most pressing dating questions.

Dating After Divorce Oct 15, 2017

Getting back out there after a divorce? Have anxiety and fears about it? This week, Erika and Chris discuss what it’s like when someone starts dating again after having been married. And our guest, Tony, shares his awkward experience… and there’s a rose involved.

How’s Your Dating App-titude? Oct 01, 2017

Tinder got you down? Not getting responses from your Bumble matches? Sick of all of the matches on Hinge who just write “hey there” to you? On this week’s episode, Erika and Chris do a deep dive into the dating apps — everything from what you write in your profile to how to speedily get to the first date. Have dating app questions? This episode is for you.

Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater? Sep 17, 2017

Cheating. It’s never pleasant. There’s always more to the story. On today’s episode, Erika talks to Natalie about her experience, and then Erika and Chris discuss their takes on the nuances of cheating and relationships.

Q&A with Erika and Chris Sep 03, 2017

Want your burning (hopefully not literally!) dating questions answered? In this episode, Erika and Chris tackle some commonly asked dating questions, with both some timely advice and, of course, some crazy stories.

Ghosting, Benching, and Kittenfishing… Oh My! Aug 20, 2017

Ghosting — the act of ending a relationship without actually ending it — is bad, and our guest Becca shares her experience. Then, Erika and Chris delve into other modern dating behaviors (and their “interesting” names) and what they mean for all of us.

Oh, The Hair Down There Aug 06, 2017

Manscaping, grooming, a landing strip or a Brazilian. There are so many ways to wear your hair… down there. For the Season 2 premier, Erika and Chris go a little deeper, discussing current trends in the grooming department. Are there norms, preferences, expectations? Episode 19 is all about going public with the pubic.

Season 2: Here’s a Taste of What’s Coming Jul 30, 2017

Are you looking for more dating stories? Got ’em! More sex? Got that too! More Crazy Cupcake Lady? Well, even we can’t outdo her.

Erika and Chris are back for Season 2 of So, We Met Online… Subscribe now at https://sowemetonline.com and get ready for the new season coming August 6th.

Remember these stories? Part 2 May 14, 2017

While Erika and Chris start planning for a new season of the show, we thought you’d enjoy listening to some of the highlights from the last few months. This week, Erika shares some of her favorite moments.

Remember these stories? Part 1 Apr 30, 2017

While Erika and Chris start planning for a new season of the show, we thought you’d enjoy listening to some of the highlights from the last few months. This week, Chris shares some of his favorite moments.

I can’t believe you asked that! Apr 23, 2017

No one likes to be interviewed on a date. So what questions should you ask and what questions should never be asked when you begin to date someone new? Chris and Erika take both sides as we hear how the wrong questions can instantly turn someone off, and how the right questions can easily lead to another date.

Didn’t you read my profile? Apr 16, 2017

You sign up for a dating site. You write a profile. You message some people. You plan the date. You assume that your date has read the profile you wrote. This seems like a natural progression, right? Sadly, not always. Erika and Chris each share stories about going on dates where the information they put out there online was blatantly ignored… and both hilarity and a couple bad dates ensued.

Second Chances Apr 09, 2017

How often have you considered giving someone a second chance? Does it work out the second time? When a relationship didn’t work out because of timing, distance or communication issues, we all seem to ponder the question “what if?” Chris shares a story about his 6th grade crush and what happened after multiple chances, then Erika shares a story about a long lost relationship and if people ever really change.

Is this a date? Apr 02, 2017

Someone asks you to do something… maybe it’s a drink, maybe a coffee, or maybe a trip to Disneyland. But, it is a date? Erika and Chris discuss how to know whether something is a date or not. Is it the language someone uses when he or she asks? Is it the activity you do? Should we all just be in the dark, or should we just ask, “Is this a date?”

Is Chivalry Dead? Mar 26, 2017

Ah, chivalry. Some people crave it. Some people hate it. Some people don’t even know what it is. Erika and Chris each share stories about chivalry… or lack thereof. Together they discuss if chivalry is about the action, or the motivation? And then they go over some “Chivalry 101” for listeners.

You can’t change me! Mar 19, 2017

The ability to change is important… but how much can–or should–someone change to be in a relationship? And, on the flipside, how much can–or should–you ask someone to change? Erika and Chris each have a story talking about change. In Erika’s case, there was one quality in a date that she couldn’t flippin’ take anymore! And in Chris’ case, well, a Subway sandwich strikes again.

Textiquette Mar 12, 2017

What should you say or not say over text to a date? How do you handle getting to know someone, arranging a date, or getting flirty? What about those shirtless selfies? Erika starts this episode off with a story about how she dealt with one of those selfies. Then Chris shares a story about receiving a text… one meant for someone else. All of this and more is covered this week as we learn more about textiquette.

You Stalked Me! Mar 05, 2017

How much online “research” is too much… and do you tell the other person you did look them up before your date? Chris starts us off with a story about a woman he looked up before his date and how he navigated the conversation in order to not reveal what information he already knew about her. Erika then shares a story about false impressions we form when we do find information online about someone, before we get to know them in person. Do you research your dates online?

Who pays for the date? Feb 26, 2017

You’re on a first date. The check comes. What happens next? In this episode, Erika and Chris discuss the ins and outs of paying for dates. Who does it? Is there an obligation for the man to pay? How should the woman respond? Erika starts with a story about a latte, a baking dish and more. Then Chris brings us a few stories, about Mexican food and Subway. While you are listening, take a moment to share your opinion on our survey below, and be entered to win a $50 gift card to our favorite sandwich shop. But remember, if you can swing your food, it’s probably not appropriate for dinner.

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To be or not to be… exclusive Feb 19, 2017

Are you ready to have THE talk? Deciding to be exclusive with someone is a critical step in any relationship, especially in the world of online dating where options are limitless. Although there are no set rules on having this discussion, Chris kicks the episode off with a story about how one of his dates asked the day after the first date. Well, at least she asked. Erika shares a story about where the conversation probably should have happened before it did. Listen to the latest episode and share your thoughts in the comments below!

A Real Profile Picture Feb 12, 2017

Have you ever gone on a date and the person you meet is not what they look like in their profile picture? Unfortunately, it happens more often than we’d like. The horrors of fake, bad or misleading profile pictures is one of the biggest topics in online dating. So what types of pictures should you use? Which pictures shouldn’t you post? In this episode, Erika and Chris discuss the pros and cons of posting real profile pictures.

Erika starts us off with a story about age and height, and Chris dives into a story about time-stamps on profile pictures. While you listen, here’s a great list of profile picture tips.

Have at least 3 – 5 pictures of yourself. Any more than 5 you run the risk of turning someone off.
Always be alone in your pictures. No one wants to play “Where’s Waldo?” with your photos,
and you risk having someone be more attracted to your friend than you.
Have CURRENT photos, in the last 1 or at most 2 years. They should be recent.
If your pictures are more than 5 years old, get new ones taken.
Have at least 1 face picture.
Make sure your pictures are not blurry, small, cropped, edited, photoshopped or anything else
that distracts from what you really look like.

Remember, people are looking to meet the real you, not a made up version of the you, you believe they want.

What are some of your profile picture tips? Share your tips and this week’s podcast with your friends.

To Drink or Not to Drink? Feb 05, 2017

This week we discuss when to drink or not to drink on a date. Although some people have a strict no drinking rule, for others, it’s an opportunity to share in an activity both people love. But, can it go too far? Listen as Chris shares another great horror story when his date had a little too much to drink before the date even started. Imagine what you would do if your date went too far at a family restaurant? Then listen as Erika shares a story about a lovely birthday drink. Should cost be considered when ordering drinks?

Whether you love a great glass of wine, or simply need to calm the nerves before a first date, you’ll want to listen to this episode. We look forward to hearing your thoughts. #drunkdates

**Do’s and Don’ts for First Dates** Jan 29, 2017
Have you ever had one of those dates you wanted to bail in the first 10 minutes? Have you ever left a date? Most of us probably have. Whether it’s someone not being who they said they were, not looking like their pictures, or simply being rude, there are dozens of Do’s and Don’ts for first dates.

Erika starts us off with a date she left, when the comedy routine wasn’t that funny. Then Chris lays one out there, a major DON’T you DON’T want to miss. Do you have some great do’s and don’t advice? We’d love to hear about it, so tag us your #dosanddonts on Twitter!

In the meantime, as we discussed on this week’s podcast, enjoy Erika being herself, in all her wonder! Singing at the top of our lungs because we just don’t care!

Let’s Talk About Sex Baby Jan 22, 2017

Are you ready to talk about Sex baby? Well this is the episode for you. Listen to Erika and Chris discuss sex on the first date, when you should definitely not ask for sex, and how your profile image may send the wrong message. Are you showing a little too much PPC? Subscribe to So, We Met Online and share this episode with a friend. You don’t want to miss it.

Ghosting vs. Saying Goodbye Jan 15, 2017

The practice of ending a personal relationship with someone by suddenly and without explanation withdrawing from all communication.Have you ever been ghosted? Have you ghosted someone you were seeing? Join Erika and Chris as they explore the rationales and stories behind one of the most cowardly ways to end a relationship.

Has ghosting become just part of our dating culture now? How has technology impacted the way we communicate and end relationships? Erika shares one of the most awful ghosting stories you’ve heard, while Chris looks at how technology has made our culture more afraid of conflict and simple communication. Let’s be adults here, and learn that telling someone you aren’t interested, is much better than not saying anything at all.

The Crazy World of Online Dating Jan 08, 2017

Welcome to So, We Met Online. A new podcast that explores the world of online dating, from the first connection, to intimacy and everything in between. We invite you to register, subscribe and join us each week as we take a humorous look at the challenges, pitfalls and successes of dating in a digital world.

We start off sharing a little bit about ourselves and move into a great story from Chris and a flaming cupcake. Immediately Erika and Chris dive into some great topics about what to share or not to share with someone you have just met, and how fast you should take things. Do you have a 3 date rule? Is there a double standard when it comes to sex? See how that worked out for Chris and his date.

Next Erika shares a story about a repeat offender. This is less about giving someone a second chance, and more about being honest in your attempt. Are dating horror stories just an excuse to avoid online dating? Do you love sushi? Be sure to order a couple of rolls while you sit back and listen to this date gone wrong.

We would love to hear your thoughts. Please share some feedback with us and comment on the episode below!

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