So Good Sisterhood

How to See Beauty in the Church After You’ve Been Hurt

Real Talk About Church Hurt - Part 1 Nov 27, 2023

Show notes

If you’ve been a Christian in Church long enough, you’ve experienced the sting of being hurt in Church. Well, today, we are going there! In this episode, we are going to talk about the messiness and the beauty of biblical community and how to manage your expectations.

So Good Moments:

The difference between Church hurt and Spiritual abuse.
How the enemy robs the Church of a full and abundant life.
Why we need to expect more from believers but also manage our expectations.
The importance of creating a space for people to feel safe, seen, and heard.
Why we shouldn’t diminish, discount, or deny hurt.
The 3 stages of biblical community…and more!

Discussion Questions:

What did you learn about the difference between Church hurt and Spiritual abuse?
Why do you think it’s important as believers to make people feel seen, heard, and loved?
Have you ever caught yourself diminishing, discounting, or denying your hurt or someone else’s hurt? What could you do differently next time?
Pastor Julie shared the three stages of community. Why do you think it’s important to embrace the tension stage?
What are some ways you can manage your expectations for biblical community?

Resources:

The Peacemaker by Ken Sande

After Doubt by A.J. Swoboda

Church Hurt by Jerome Gay Jr.

Love Like You’ve Never Been Hurt by Jentezen Franklin

How to Find a Christian Counselor

TikTok Theology Series

Good and Beautiful and Kind by Rich Villodas

The Epidemic of Loneliness & the Power of Life-Giving Community: Part 2 Nov 20, 2023

Show notes

How do you make others feel known, seen, and loved? In this episode, you’ll hear how to listen well and love through the long haul.

So Good Moments:

How to develop accountability and healthy relationships.
How biblical community helped Pastor Lisa Duvall heal from childhood trauma.
Chick-fil-A franchise owner Nicole Moceri’s 7 guiding principles for new leaders.
How to create a “mentoring memoir.”
Tips for when you want to ask someone to mentor you.
How former news anchor Chandra Rabenecker approaches people she wants to grow with…and more!

Discussion Questions:

What stood out to you from this episode?
Nicole shared 7 guiding principles for new leaders who want to move up—which one stood out to you as something to work on?
Pastor Lisa talked about how being planted in the church helped her heal. What benefits have you experienced from being planted?
Is there a deficit area in your life that you can ask someone to mentor you in?
Pastor Lisa mentioned an awkward moment in her early days of ministry. What’s an awkward moment that taught you something?

Resources:

Leadership Qualities

The Epidemic of Loneliness & the Power of Life-Giving Community: Part 1 Nov 13, 2023

Show notes

Are you surrounded by people but still feel lonely? In this episode, you’ll hear about the value of community and how to pursue the right relationships in your life.

So Good Moments:

How former news anchor Chandra Rabenecker builds biblical community in her life.
How Chick-fil-A franchise owner Nicole Moceri defines who she’s on mission with and who she’s on mission for.
What vulnerability really is and how to steward someone else’s vulnerability.
Obstacles to deep relationships and how to overcome them.
What to say when someone overshares…and more!

Discussion Questions:

What encouraged you from this episode about building intentional community in your life?
In what ways is the Church able to be the solution to the epidemic of loneliness?
What are some obstacles in your life that prevent you from pursuing life-giving relationships? What are some ways you can overcome those obstacles?
Do you have times of “white space” away from your phone? How does that time replenish you?
Pastor Lisa joked about how she’s going to be Latin when she gets to Heaven. What other culture do you admire and why?

Resources:
Leadership Qualities

We’re Going There podcast

Grit Don't Quit: Refusing to Stay Down with Bianca Juárez Olthoff Nov 06, 2023

Show notes

How do you find grit when you want to quit? In this episode, Bianca Juárez Olthoff shares what you need to develop faith and resilience.

So Good Moments:

The three Ps you need to have grit.
How Bianca’s failures helped her find resolve about her calling.
What the Apostle Paul’s life shows us about perseverance.
The power of believing that you and your calling are enough.
Why comparison is robbing you of joy…and more!

Discussion Questions:

What’s one way you’ve kept a resilient perspective?
How have you pivoted when life went a different direction than planned?
How have you kept purpose amidst the pain?
Do you have a tool like Google Calendar to keep organized? What are your best tips?
What inspires you about the Apostle Paul’s life and ministry journey?

Resources:

Grit Don’t Quit

Bianca’s Instagram

Good Morning America Interview

Purposeful Friendships Lead to A Purpose-Filled Future Oct 30, 2023

Show notes

How do your friends impact your future? In this episode, you will hear how intentional friendships fuel your purpose and your faith.

So Good Moments:

Why it’s important to have a legacy perspective with your faith.
How accountability can be life-saving and life-changing.
The power of longevity in friendships and friendships on mission.
What the book of Job shows us about being a good friend.
The regular podcast guest who used to be a competitive hip-hop dancer…and more!

Discussion Questions:

What’s a fun fact about you that only a close friend would know?
Why is it important to have a legacy perspective with our faith?
How do you make sure the right people are running alongside you and in your inner circle?
What are some ways we can fight for the right friendships and relationships?
What’s the best piece of advice you’ve ever been given? (It can be light-hearted or serious.)

Resources:

*Please Note: This episode contains content about dealing with suicidal thoughts. If you or anyone you know is in need of support, always seek the advice of your mental health professional or other qualified health providers. Remember, seeking help doesn’t make you weak—it makes you wise.

Running With People Who Fuel Your Faith feat. Christine Caine Oct 23, 2023

Show notes

Are you prioritizing your past over your future? In this episode, Christine Caine shares how to move forward and run with the right people in the Divine relay race God has for you.

So Good Moments:

Why there is life beyond trauma and how to take the next step toward freedom.
Why Jesus tells us to remember Lot’s wife.
How to be part of the “Holy Relay.”
What it means to surround yourself with people who will fuel your faith.
Why finding your tribe of people isn’t enough…and more!

Discussion Questions:

What stood out to you most about this episode?
Have you ever found yourself getting stuck looking back to the past? What helped you move forward?
Share a time when you had to make a hard choice about friends in your life.
How can you pass the baton of faith to the next generation?
Speaking of looking back to the past, what’s one fashion item you are surprised to see back in style?

Resources:

So Good Perseverance podcast episode with Christine Caine

Don’t Look Back book by Christine Caine

A21

Digital Copy of Connie’s Book

Walk With Me: Investing In Others Doesn't Have to Be Complicated Oct 16, 2023

Show notes

How do you spot God connections around you? In this episode, Lance and Connie Witt are here to show you how investing in others is not that complicated.

So Good Moments:

How mentorship can happen in moments, seasons, and lifetimes.
The importance of being yourself and being vulnerable.
How to practice the art of “holy noticing.”
Why asking good questions is vital to being a good leader.
How to let your life become the curriculum for someone else to learn from.
The best advice Connie and Lance ever received…and more!

Discussion Questions:

What stood out to you about this episode?
Is connecting with others a natural gifting or something you’ve had to grow in?
Share a time when you learned from simply observing someone else’s life or when someone else learned from observing yours.
What are some ways that you have spotted the God moments and connections in your relationships?
What is some of the best advice you’ve ever been given?

Resources:

Replenish by Lance Witt

Your One Life by Lance Witt

Best Air Fryers of 2023

Worth Fighting For: Community, Calling, & Courage Oct 09, 2023

Show notes

Community is God’s plan to fulfill your calling—but sometimes it’s messy, and you have to fight for it. Learn how in this episode!

So Good Moments:

How trials and hardships fuel our purpose to give to others what we didn’t have.
What holds us back from pursuing community, and how to push through.
How it’s possible to fight for unhealthy community, and how to identify if it’s healthy.
The value of longstanding relationships.
How a crisis can be a gift.
A special singing moment, why the air fryer is a game changer…and more!

Discussion Questions:

What does being in community mean to you?
What have you done during busy seasons of your life when you felt God calling you to add something else?
How do you fight to keep relationships strong and healthy in every season?
What’s a piece of advice or wisdom that you’ve gotten from a mentor or someone wise?
What’s your favorite worship song?

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