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Interview w/ Timothy Ballard Mark Mabry January 11, 2016 Final Transcript Intro: You are listening to Slave Stealer. Tim: Welcome to Slave Stealer podcast, where we take you into the dark world of trafficking so you can help us find the solution. We are talking here with co-host, Mark Mabry. Mark: That's me. And we did a little change in format. This is part two of our 'Meet Tim' series, because he has had a really interesting story. And what I found amazing in getting to know Tim over the last few years, is that sacrifice of peace of mind, sacrifice of kind of this level of innocence that 99.9% of the rest of us enjoy. And, to recap, we talked about Tim's story a little bit, how he got into child crimes, and how he was invited by HSI to be on that team, and then we talked about his family. He has got young kids, and his son is now 15. And, the birds and the bees talk is awkward enough. What about that talk about what dad does for a living?" Tim: Well, you know, yeah..Let me say this first: I was scared to death some 15 years ago when I was asked to enter this dark world of child crimes. And the thing that scared me the most was the fact that I had kids, and I didn't know how that would affect me. Would I see an image that reminded me of my kids, would that make me a paranoid father, would that turn me... My wife was scared to death that I would turn into just some cynical, just bitter old dude. And I was scared to death. I mean, you've got to wade through the sewer to find the crap. Mark: And what if the pornography took, I mean, worst case scenario, you turn into somebody that is actually into it? Not that that would happen with you knowing you, but... Tim: You know, what I have found that's..a lot of people think that, and they go there, but... Mark: Those people are stupid. Tim: The people who had that suggestion are really idiotic. No, but it's a logical conclusion. But what I have found is, frankly, kind of the opposite. Because when you are exposed to children - unless you are a pedophile, right - when you are exposed to that, it makes you want to distance yourself even more from all things pornography. At least that was my experience, and as I watched other agents who I have worked with, who have to be exposed to this. It turns you off so much to the whole industry, even the legal part of it, because it's so, frankly, similar that it actually, at least for me, it has had the effect of major deterrent, even from any temptation my own part to even look at regular pornography. Does that make sense? Mark: Yeah! Tim: And, for the child stuff, it is just a punch in the stomach every time, and it is worse and worse every time. And you learn how to cope, you learn how to be able to see this stuff and still move on. But, like in the last show, I was talking about how the first thing I want to do when I saw particular images or videos, is just grab my kids and bring them to the safest place I know, which is my home, and just hold them. And so the whole concept, the whole idea to your question of how I bring together these two worlds, of what I do outside versus what I do inside - you have to factor in all these things. But my kids do start asking questions. I was addressing a group that was doing a benefit for Operation Underground Railroad just two nights ago. And they had the kids there and they wanted me to talk about it, and it was so hard, because I'm sitting there, and they say, "Tell us what you do!", and I'm going, "All right, well I'll start..." Mark: How old were the kids? Tim: Oh, the kids were as young as five, six, seven, eight, nine, ten, eleven, twelve. Mark: Oh, geez.. Tim: It was like all these neighborhood kids. And their parents wanted them to know that there are kids who are less fortunate and that we need to help them. That was the idea. So, I thought to myself, "I'll start with the software that we are building." The software is called 'Stars'. It's a pretty name. Until one of the kids says, "What does STARS stand for?" And it stands for Sex Traveler Apprehension Retention System, right? So, I say SEEEE ugh...I can't say it, I can't even say the name of the software! Mark: Super Terrific Apprehension... Tim: Yes! So, I couldn't, and it was so..it's so difficult. A little kid raises his hand after I'm talking about slavery in general terms, and he said, "Why would someone want to steal a child? Wouldn't they rather steal an adult because they'd be better at being a slave and a stronger worker?" I just looked at this little kid, I was like, "I know exactly the truth of your question, I know how to answer that, but I cannot answer that." And so these issues that I was grappling with at this charity event, are the same issues I grapple with every day with my kids. When they see something on the news, and with my small children I just tell them, you know, I help kids, we help kids, we help kids who've been kidnapped. That's all they know, and they seem ok with that. But as they get older, they start asking questions. And it intersects at the same time that I need to start talking to them about the birds and the bees. My wife and I are very open, I mean, I think my job has made me the most desensitized to all things sex, like I can say anything to anyone, because the conversations that I have had with people, with perpetrators especially during interrogations, where we were talking about things, or undercover, where they're selling me kids. There is nothing that makes me blush, right. So, I can just take my kids and sit down, and say, "Hey", talk about everything, embarrassing things, everything from pornography to masturbation to dating and all this stuff. It is rare that we talk about that, somehow it leads to the fact that - again these are my more adolescent, teenage kids - it always leads to some kind of an explanation that they are asking me for about, "Why would an adult want to do that to a child?" Mark: When they say THAT, what ..I mean.. Tim: I mean they kind of..they know, I mean, they figured it out. Mark: Yeah. Tim: They do, because they know what is what we're talking about. And so, I think, in the world of child pornography and sexual abuse of children, you don't want to be graphic with the kids at all, even with my teenage kids. I kind of let them just figure it out and let their brain stop them where they should be stopped, because the brain will do that. Mark: Oh, adults don't even grasp it. Tim: Adults don't grasp it. I was sitting with my father-in-law - a brilliant man, PhD - we were in his kitchen, this was when I was an agent, and I heard him, he started talking.. What had happened was that I arrested one of his friends - not like a close friend, right, but... Mark: "So, what did you do today, Tim?" "Well, I busted Larry." Tim: Right! Mark: I have heard this story. Tim: He knew this guy, he had been to his home. So he knew this guy, and he started saying, "You know...I kind of feel bad for this particular individual, because it's not really their fault. I mean, these girls dress in a certain way that is provocative, and it is not totally their fault." And, I'm just dying. I'm like, "Wait, wait, wait, what?! You are telling me that a 5-year old puts on clothes, and now it's not the pedophile's fault that they look at the 5-year-old!" And his eyes almost popped out of his head! He says, "Five years old?! Why are you talking about 5-year-olds?!" Mark: He's thinking the 17 ½-year-old. Tim: He's thinking 17, 16 years old, where you can't really maybe tell the difference between a 17- and an 18-year-old, right. His eyes popped out of his head, and he says, "What?!" I said, "Yeah...Dad, you don't know this, but what George was looking at was 5- to 7-year-old children, boys and girls, being raped, ok?" Mark: They sent a picture in the tub. Tim: Exactly. Being raped by adults. And he just kind of put his head down, shook it, and he said, "Now, that is weird.." I remember he said, "That is just weird...", and he walked out of the kitchen. He couldn't handle it, and I don't blame him. Our minds don't even let us go there. And this is the problem. This is the problem that, frankly, is the obstacle to the solution. And the problem is we don't want to see, we don't want to believe it. I remember in the very beginning, in the early 2000s, when we were taking cases, child porn cases, to the judges, federal judges and state judges on pornography cases, on child pornography cases. And they were sentencing them to the most minimal sentences. Like this one guy had this collection that was unbelievable, categorized it by the names - he would name the kids in the videos, and create little files for them. It was unbelievable. He had hundreds of thousands of videos, images and everything else. And when the judge sentenced him, he sentenced him to four or five months in jail, but weekends only. Mark: What?! Tim: And, I thought, "What is going on?!" The prosecutor I was working with, she said, "You know, the problem, Tim, is they don't get it.The judges don't get it!" They don't get it. And we asked the judges if we could please show..during the sentencing they brought me in, and said, "Agent Ballard wants to show you the images." He said, "I don't want to see that junk! I don't want to see that junk." He's embarrassed to even look at it. The human side of him doesn't want to even watch him looking at it, so he says, "I don't need to see, I don't need to see it!" So, we didn't show it to him, and then that sentence came out. I guarantee you, I guarantee you that he doesn't want to accept it. You know, the reports indicated that the kids were as young as five or four years old. His brain - my theory - wouldn't let him grasp it, wouldn't let him grasp it. And so he just gave him this super light sentence. But if I would have just opened that laptop, and say, "You have to watch this, you need to see this." Now, I'm not advocating for showing child porn to people. Mark: Exactly. Tim: At all! At all! Mark: But, maybe we emphasize, highly illegal: if you download this, even for altruistic, I'm-going-to-expose-myself, but... Tim: You will go to jail. Don't do it! Don't do it! Mark: Yes! Tim: But what I'm telling you is, be aware that it is there, and we have got to talk about it. It hurts...You mentioned that when you talk about this, and this is why people don't want to talk about it, you hit the nail in the head: you lose part of your own innocence. Mark: Absolutely. Tim: And every time you talk about it, some more of your innocence, even as adults, it goes away. You have to sacrifice that, but you sacrifice it for the kids. Because if we don't sacrifice a part of our innocence to know this is happening, they have no hope, because we are the adults, we are the ones who will...if anyone's going to save them, it is going to be the adults, that have the power and the influence and the ability. But if we don't know about it, we are not going to save them. But to know about it, you must sacrifice some of your innocence. And so that's what we ask people to do: sacrifice some of your innocence, listen to this show, go to our website, learn about trafficking. It's the fastest growing criminal enterprise on earth. Two million children, and more, are being sold for sex, over ten million children sold for labor. Add all the adults, we're on a 30-40 million range. I mean, wake up! Help them out! But it does require a sacrifice of innocence. Mark: So, back to the question at hand, did you actually have, have you had a sit-down, "Ok, let me talk to you about this, son"? Like, let me ask it this way: have your kids seen the documentary? Tim: Here's my policy and my wife's, I mean, every kid is an individual, right. Every kid you treat differently, because it is not a 'one size fits all' solution to raising kids. Mark: You have how many? Tim: I have six kids. Mark: That's awesome! Tim: So, our kind of general policy, guideline on the documentary, which is 'The Abolitionists' documentary, which films my team going into different countries and helping the police infiltrate trafficking rings and so forth... Mark: Catching you soliciting pimps for underaged girls. Tim: Right. Mark: Asking "Hey, will she do this, will she do that?" Tim: Oh, yeah. Mark: Your kids have to hear you saying that. Tim: My kids are hearing that, yeah. So, what we've decided is, generally speaking, if this particular video or this particular documentary includes children, who are being sold, who are, say, 12 years old, then I'm going to let my 12-year-old watch it. And that is because I think it's important for him to see what he has and what someone else doesn't have. "Someone your age is being trafficked. You get to play football; they are being sold for sex." And, I think it's important for kids to recognize what they have, and then it instills in them a sense of responsibility: "How can I help that kid, who doesn't get to play football? What can I do?" And it makes them aware of the world and aware of what's happening. So, that is kind of how we deal with it. And then again I let them watch it, I don't rehash it with them, I don't bring it up too much, at least graphically. Mark: Yeah. Tim: I let their mind stop them where it needs to stop. Mark: Smart. I like that principle that you said with adults, with kids, with everyone - they will go to a point that they are ready to go to. Tim: Right. But here's the point that I was making too - once you are an adult and you have real influence to help, it changes a bit in my mind, right. Mark: Especially if you are a judge. Tim: Especially if you are a judge. I don't want it to stop where your mind wants it to stop. And this is our job at Slave Stealer podcast and other places, other people's responsibility, who are in the know-how, who have seen it, you've got to say "No!" No, I'm not going to let you stop. I am not going to let you shake your head and walk out of the kitchen. I'm going to make you stay until your mind grasps this enough to where you are going to act. And that's the problem, is people hit that point where their brain wants them to stop, and they shake their head and walk away. We can't have that. If we do that, these kids will not be liberated. Mark: If that happens in 1860, you have still got millions of slaves in the South. Tim: Absolutely! Mark: Because we have talked about it. Tim: Absolutely. That's why, because people shook their head and walked out of the kitchen. Mark: Yeah. You have got to show it to them. There are so many questions - I'm trying to think of a logical order here. You talked about it with your father-in-law, and we are not talking about 17 ½-year-old girls. Tim: Right. Mark: We are talking about kids that are groomed, And, maybe.. let's define the term. We kind of need to have like a trafficking glossary on our site. But grooming, and, maybe in the case of Lady, that we talked about - that's when you explained it to me, you know, when I was going to go be a scoutmaster. I had to go through the whole 'how to identify a perv', right, and one of the terms they used was grooming. And they're like, "Well, when you prepare a child for…" whatever. But you really broke i…
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