Sex With Emily

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Top 5 Sex Myths Debunked Oct 29, 2021

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Let’s be honest: there are certain myths about sex that are SO common, they seem like truth. Things like: what it means to be wet, what it means to be hard, and what it means if you use a vibrator a lot. But guess what? A ton of the things you and I have both heard about sex aren’t based on science - they’ve just been repeated a lot. So on today’s show, I’m debunking the top sex myths I see and hear, and giving you the actual facts.

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What does it mean about your sexual ability if you’ve had a lot of partners - or conversely, hardly any? We talk about it. How about if you’re not getting wet during sex. Does that mean you’re not turned on? We discuss! Let’s say you use a vibrator a lot - can you get addicted to it? Or my favorite: does having an orgasm mean the sex was good? I tackle both of these. And finally, we face the truth about anal sex, because spoiler alert...it’s not just for gay men.

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Dame: Practice Your Pleasure

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Episode: Lube It Or Leave It

Episode: Kink & Casual Sex w/ Justin Lehmiller

Episode: Seducing the Booty w/ Alicia Sinclair

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Relationship Reset Oct 27, 2021

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Have you ever been in a relationship with someone who can read your mind, anticipate your needs 24/7, and fulfill them perfectly? Yeah...me neither. The truth is, deep relationships require deep communication skills, and the most important skill is this: being able to articulate what you need, sexually and otherwise. The result? Way healthier relationship dynamics.

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So on today’s Ask Emily show, I give you communication tools to put in your back pocket, so you can improve your relationship one talk at a time. How about when you’re tired of hookups and want a relationship with real depth? Or maybe, you want more than one relationship? I talk you through ways to approach both.

What about when your partner is emotionally detached, or you want your child to grow up with more positive sex messaging than you had? We get into it. Finally, we talk through getting the kind of touch you need in bed because let’s face it - sometimes pain is fun, and sometimes it’s just painful. With the right communication, you can find just the right sweet spot.

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Sex, Love & Gwyneth Paltrow Oct 23, 2021

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You know Gwyneth Paltrow: actor, CEO of goop, bestselling cookbook author, and cultural conversation starter. But now, Gwyneth’s got a new show on Netflix called “Sex, Love & Goop,” where she hopes to spark another conversation: how couples can save their sex lives, through touch, communication, and giving themselves permission to talk about sex in the first place.

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In this show, I talk to Gwyneth about the healing modalities you see in the series, like sexological bodywork and vulva mapping, as well as the women who crave a different dynamic with their husbands. Gwyneth also tells me how she prioritizes her pleasure, why goop created a beautiful, “sculpture-like” vibrator, why she believes menopause needs to be rebranded, and how nutrition healed her hormones after Covid quarantine. Gwyneth’s accomplished a lot in this life - now, she wants to conquer a taboo, by making sex talks more mainstream. And on my show, that’s exactly what I like to hear.

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Connected Sex Oct 20, 2021

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When it comes to sex, do you have a growth mindset? Whether you’re a new parent and your sex drive has tanked, or you’re trying to break free from a mental pattern that’s blocking your pleasure, we all experience sexual roadblocks. Never fear: you can have a sex reset! On today’s Ask Emily show, I’m helping you ID the obstacles to your sexuality, from trauma, to a repressive upbringing, to a disconnect with your partner. And one by one, I help you figure out solutions that open the door to self-exploration.

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What do you do when you’re “spectator-ing” yourself during sex, and battling against mental chatter? Or you’ve got a religious past, that makes sex a bit triggering for you? In both cases, I provide mindfulness techniques that help you quiet the mind, and feel into your pleasure. What about when it’s a block with your partner, when you’re just not on the same page about your desires? I’ve got ideas to normalize sex talks, and help you communicate your needs. How about when you crave a certain type of power dynamic, but aren’t sure how to explore it? I give you ideas for approaching it safely and consensually, with a play partner. This episode is all about self-exploration, and helping you reclaim your full sex potential.

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Foreplay Everyday Oct 16, 2021

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To lots of folks, “foreplay” is shorthand for...hand stuff. But foreplay - or outercourse, as I call it - is actually way more about emotional intelligence, than anything having to do with your fingers. On today’s show, I dive into the psychology of foreplay and intimacy, a fascinating study on the difference between a good’ and ‘bad’ sex life, and how to get aroused with specific (and quite sexy) pre-game tips.

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We also talk about what to do if foreplay and overall sex with your partner has gotten a bit stale, how to tease and arouse yourself, what to do if your partner isn’t so keen on exploring new things, and how to handle a partner who won’t reciprocate foreplay...after you give them all sorts of pre-game love. Plus, I answer your questions! I share what to do if you find yourself fantasizing about a past crush (while in a committed relationship), and give tips for how to have an orgasm… for the first time.

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Episode: The Gottmans on Compatibility, Conflict & Conversation

Episode: Talk Dirty To Me w/ Joanna Angel

Article: Ask Emily: How Do I Get Better at Dirty Talk?

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More Pleasure, Please! Oct 13, 2021

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There are wants, and then, there are needs -- sexual needs, to be precise. On today’s Ask Emily show, everyone has that one need that they’re longing to satisfy...they just don’t know how to do it. Good news: the sex expert has arrived, and I’m here to help you take that vital next step.

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If you’ve never had an orgasm before, but desperately want to, I’ve got some ideas for that. Or if you want a hotter sex life, but your partner shuts down around sex convos, I’ve got communication tips. How about when you want to give your partner a crazy orgasm, but don’t know the right techniques? Yep, we talk about great ones. And finally, if your partner desires sexual experiences like swinging, but you aren’t sure, what in the world do you do? Answer: you listen to this episode! Because I promise, for every sex problem, there is a path forward.

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Article: 6 Tips for Mastering the Game-Changing Technique of Mindful Masturbation

Episode: The Gottmans on Compatibility, Conflict & Conversation

Episode: Talk Dirty To Me w/ Joanna Angel

Audio Erotica: Dipsea and Quinn

Book: Curvy Girl Sex

The Liberator

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Your Top 5 Sex Questions, Answered Oct 09, 2021

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When it comes to your most pressing sex issues, have you ever wondered: “ugh, is it just me?” I promise: it’s not just you! To prove it, I’m tackling your top five sex questions in this episode. From raising your libido to acing your oral, we cover a lot of ground in this one.

How do you talk to your partner about sex? I teach you how to broach this conversation with compassion, and how to normalize sex talks in general. How about amping up your sex drive? There are hacks for that! Maybe you want to last longer in bed, get better at oral, or spice up your sex life. There’s a whole world of solutions for those, and I walk you through them. Whether it’s toys, technique, or just a good talk, this episode is all about finding answers, so you can have the pleasure you deserve.

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Guide: Three Ts of Communication

Guide: Edging

Yes No Maybe List

Article: Mind-Blowing Oral Sex in Under 5 Minutes: The Kivin Method

Book: She Comes First

Episode: Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex w/ Ian Kerner

Episode: Seducing the Booty w/ Alicia Sinclair

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Everybody Loves Oral Oct 06, 2021

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It’s the holy grail of sexual connection -- a quality oral sesh. Or...is it? On this best of mashup episode, I’m sharing some top shelf advice on how to up your oral game: both giving, and receiving.

Sometimes, hot oral comes down to technique, like the Kivin Method: we talk about why this is so delicious for vulva owners, and how you can execute it. But other times, good oral is more about lip service - no, not that kind, the communication kind. How do you ask for more oral from a partner who’s hesitant? How do you ask for LESS from a partner who’s a little too enthusiastic? And man oh man, what about when you desperately want to give - but your partner has some blocks around it? We get into all of it, alongside my guest Sadie Allison: sexologist, relationship expert and author, who has some A+ hacks to make your next oral sesh super sexy.

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Article: Mind-Blowing Oral Sex in Under 5 Minutes: The Kivin Method

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Communication Is A Lubrication Oct 01, 2021

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Here’s a secret. The #1 obstacle standing between you and the sex of your dreams probably comes down to exactly one thing: communication. It’s not a cliche - it’s a skill, and on today’s Ask Emily show, we’re talking our way to better sex. So let’s bravely face the awkwardness, with communication hacks for even the most nerve-wracking of convos.

Clamming up during sex talks? I’ve got a confidence-building solution for that. How about giving tough feedback, like asking for better handjobs, or addressing a funky smell? We get into it! Finally, we tackle tough topics like telling a friend you have feelings for them, whether or not to open a relationship, and if you should stay in a partnership if the sex is just OK. Communication is lubrication, but you know what? It’s also liberating, and by the end of this episode, you’ll be feeling a lot freer.

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Yes, No, Maybe List

Episode: Hot Sex with STIs w/ Dr. Ina Park

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The Gottmans on Compatability, Conflict & Conversation Sep 29, 2021

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No one goes to relationship school, so Dr. John & Julie Gottman created the Gottman Institute to find out what makes relationships work. As today’s guests (and partners for over 30 years), the Gottmans talk about their iconic research, including the myth of compatibility, the four behaviors that tank a relationship, and what is UP with pheromones and attraction. Yep: we’re talking t-shirt smell test.

We’re also taking a research-based approach to conflict, and finding out how curiosity and conversation can help you navigate it. Finally, we discuss the Gottmans’ book Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love and take your Instagram questions about vulnerability, attraction, and how to stay sexually connected -- even when you’re exhausted.

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Book: For Yourself: The Fulfillment of Female Sexuality by Lonnie Barbach

App: Gottman Card Decks

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