Sex Out Loud with Tristan Taormino

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Kevin A. Patterson & Alana Phelan on Creating the Superheroes You Want May 18, 2020

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Kevin A. Patterson & Alana Phelan, the authors of the For Hire series, join us to talk about their new books featuring queer polyamorous heroes and magicians. It's a world like our own, but the emergence of superhumans has created shifts in culture that play out in changes both subtle and monumental. They chat about what inspired the characters, the story, and whether shadow government conspiracy theories are real.

Kevin Patterson, M.Ed has been practicing ethical nonmonogamy since August of 2002. In April of 2015, Kevin was inspired to start Poly Role Models, a popular interview series blog. The blog extended into speaking engagements about how race and polyamory intersect and the writing of the book, Love's Not Color Blind. Kevin took a month-long break from Love's Not Color Blind to write the first draft of For Hire: Operator. Alana Phelan is a librarian, writer, editor, and community organizer. She lives in South Jersey with her family, two cats, and a surprisingly large Dorbz collection. You can find her online as The Polyamorous Librarian, where she writes a weekly advice column and offers workshops and relationship support. She wasn't supposed to be a co-writer on For Hire: Operator, only an editor, but here we are.

Carley Moore on The Not Wives May 11, 2020

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Author Carley Moore talks about the new gritty, sexy, queer novel The Not Wives. Tristan talks with her about writing queer characters and hot sex scenes in fiction, telling stories from The Occupy Movement, and what New York City in 2011 has in common with today. Many publishers said they didn't know these characters, but for many queer people, the depictions reflect our real life in ways not often seen in mainstream books. They chat about bisexuality, pansexuality, coming out, and when it feels like when a threesome could happen at any moment.

Tristan's #MeToo Experience in a Sex-Positive Space May 04, 2020

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A personal interview with Tristan Taormino about a recent experience she had a sex-positive event that made her reconsider her work and career. She tells her story and discusses the outcome, what it means going forward, and how communities can be better prepared for dealing with these scenarios.

Content note: boundary-crossing, harassment, interpersonal conflict.

Sex, Love & Intimacy During a Global Pandemic Apr 27, 2020

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Tristan talks with Tina Horn (and producer Raymond) about how we're coping with staying sane and finding room for pleasure and connection while living through COVID-19. They discuss how to broaden your idea of intimacy, give space for complicated feelings, try new techniques, and how to eroticize anything.

Live from Cancun: Swingset Takes Desire Part 2 Apr 20, 2020

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In 2019 Tristan went to Cancun for Swingset Takes Desire, along with Matie Fricker of Self Serve Toys. They recorded a live episode on the beach with audience discussion on accessibility for all bodies in sex spaces, creating community that intentionally welcomes everyone, navigating rejection, and what bisexual men's paradise looks like. Topics include: polyamory, swinging, sexual fantasy, body acceptance, self-love. (This is Part Two of the discussion which took place before the global pandemic.)

Live from Cancun: Swingset takes Desire Part 1 Apr 15, 2020

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Last year Tristan went to Cancun for Swingset Takes Desire with Matie Fricker of Self Serve Toys. They recorded a live episode on the beach with audience discussion on body appreciation, struggling to be evolved, managing your triad, and more. Topics include: polyamory, swinging, sexual fantasy, body acceptance, self-love. (This is Part One of the discussion which took place in 2019, before the global pandemic.)

Jaclyn Friedman on How Trusting Women Can Change the World Mar 27, 2020

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JoEllen Notte on Sex, Depression, and the Conversations Were Not Having Mar 20, 2020

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Angelica Lindsay-Ali aka The Village Auntie on Being a Love and Sex Doula Mar 13, 2020

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Kathy Labriola on Navigating Polyamory Breakups Mar 06, 2020

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