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Vote for Yourself: Five Ways to Champion Your Dreams
To truly champion yourself, it is essential to have a clear vision of what you want in life, much like political candidates who articulate their visions during campaigns. A well-defined vision serves as a guiding light, helping you navigate the complexities of your personal and professional journey.
Host Tonya Leigh poses a thought-provoking question: What if you applied the same passion and conviction seen in political campaigns to your own dreams and aspirations? Tonya explores five powerful ways to become your own champion, encouraging listeners to "vote for yourself" with enthusiasm. She shares her recent experiences from the SOSI tour in Europe and expresses excitement for the final stop in New York, emphasizing the importance of community and setting intentions for the upcoming year.
Tune in to discover how to champion your own goals and dreams!
Talking Points:
01:29 - The Elephant in the Room: U.S. Election 02:24 - Cognitive Bias and Personal Growth 03:19 - Campaigning for Yourself 05:07 - Championing Your Own Vision 07:04 - Vision Questions and Exercises 10:07 - Avoiding Vision Shame 13:10 - Strong Beliefs and Convictions 18:09 - Finding Belief in Yourself 19:12 - Being Your Loudest Supporter 22:04 - Overcoming External Doubts 24:00 - The Power of Environment 25:47 - Writing Your Victory Speech
Quotes:
"What if you brought the same passion, conviction, and unwavering belief that you often see in political campaigns to your own dreams and aspirations?"
"Just allow yourself to dream."
"Coaching is one of the best investments you will ever make in yourself. And I stand by that 1000%."
"If you have to get up and look in that mirror every morning and be like, listen girl, here we go. Today's gonna be an amazing day. You know why? Because you are amazing."
"What I've noticed is that when I just go within and I bet on myself, I evolve to the next level."
"You have a vision for your life, you build your campaign promises, you become your own rally, you invest in your victory, and you build your dream team."
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Finding Peace: Techniques to Release Attachments and Anxiety
In the journey of personal growth and freedom, awareness serves as the foundational step. Becoming aware of our thoughts, emotions, and attachments is crucial for breaking free from the cycles of worry and anxiety that often trap us.
Host Tonya Leigh dives into the transformative art of letting go, a topic she has passionately coached and personally navigated. Drawing from her own experiences and insights, Tonya emphasizes the importance of releasing attachments to ideas, people, and things, which can often lead to suffering and anxiety. She shares a pivotal moment during a vacation in Paris, where a friend's advice and the book "Awareness" by Anthony de Mello sparked a profound realization about the roots of unhappiness.
Tune in to discover powerful techniques and wisdom from spiritual teachers and psychologists that can help you cultivate calm and break free from the cycle of worry.
Talking Points:
01:19 - The Concept of Letting Go 01:39 - Awareness by Anthony DeMello 02:02 - Attachment Causes Suffering 03:29 - Happiness and External Factors 05:37 - Embrace Reality as It Is 06:19 - Importance of Self-Observation 07:34 - Love Without Attachment 09:10 - Letting Go of the Ego 10:19 - Letting Go of the Need for Approval 14:15 - Embracing Uncertainty 18:16 - Dedication vs. Attachment 20:55 - Fall in Love with the Practice 21:59 - Let Go of the Rope
Quotes:
"All of my suffering was because of attachment."
"Happiness doesn't come from things outside of you."
"I want everything for you. I need nothing from you."
"All I need to do is let go. Just let go. And yet it's so hard."
"The ability to just show up in the world as you truly are, sharing the things that you truly love, expressing yourself in a way that feels true to you, is the most freeing thing in the world."
"The reason why you're suffering right now is most likely because you are attached to something or you fear losing something, which is also an attachment."
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Mastering Productivity: Signature Work Habits with My Executive Assistant
Beginning and concluding your day effectively are essential practices that can significantly influence your productivity and overall mindset throughout the workday. Tonya Leigh and her executive assistant, Abigail Schroeder, explore the importance of these two bookends of the day and how they contribute to a more effective and fulfilling work experience.
Tonya opens the conversation by addressing a common question she receives: how she manages to get so much done. Tonya shares the story of how she found Abigail amidst over 500 applicants and highlights the importance of having a supportive team. Together, they explore effective work strategies, insights on collaboration, and the value of intuition in hiring.
Tune in to discover how to enhance your productivity and learn from Abigail's expertise in managing tasks and supporting a busy, thriving executive by creating a positive, effective work environment.
Talking Points:
01:53 - Role of an Executive Assistant
02:27 - Abigail's Responsibilities
07:04 - The Four Ds Framework
09:16 - Abigail's Signature Work Habits
10:51 - Starting Your Day Well
13:26 - Self-Awareness and Acceptance
16:01 - Knowing Your Strengths and Weaknesses
20:10 - Writing Everything Down
25:08 - Prioritize with Focus and Rest
31:14 - Diffuse Mode of Thinking
37:58 - Most Impactful Work Habit
39:33 - Company Culture
Quotes:
"My two main goals in my role is to optimize your time and to support the overall vision you have for the company."
"If you're going to do it, don't do something and then be struggling and arguing with it."
"At any moment, you can do a U-turn and recommit, do whatever you need to do to get yourself back on track."
"It's just part of the human experience. We're not supposed to be great at everything."
"You wouldn't expect yourself to be able to run a marathon without training for it, you know? And so we have to treat our brain the same way."
"Ending your day well can look like, I don't know, cooking, hanging out with friends, going on a walk, playing a game."
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Transform Your Workspace: Tools and Techniques for Enhanced Focus and Creativity
Creating a productive environment involves establishing "micro-environments" tailored to different types of work, such as deep creative tasks or administrative duties. This concept is based on the understanding that our surroundings can significantly impact our ability to focus and produce high-quality work.
Tonya Leigh shares her personal journey of navigating a busy season filled with travel, program launches, and the joy of productivity. After a summer of significant changes and commitments, including the SOSI tour and the launch of the style experience, Tonya reflects on the importance of creating a productive environment to enhance focus and effectiveness. She introduces the concept of "productive surroundings" and discusses strategies that have helped her manage her workload and achieve her goals.
Tune in to discover how you can set yourself up for success and engage in deep, quality work amidst the distractions of the digital age.
Talking Points:
00:39 - Life Update: Busy Season and Achievements 02:04 - Concept of Productive Surroundings 04:00 - Personalizing Productivity Strategies 04:43 - World of Constant Distractions 05:57 - Deep Work and Distractions 07:02 - Specific Goals for Deep Work Sessions 09:11 - Micro-Environments for Different Tasks 11:01 - Office as CEO Time 13:09 - Creative Brainstorming at Breakfast Table 16:00 - Asana for Project Management 18:29 - Power of Routine and Music 19:24 - Getting Dressed for Productivity 22:04 - Collaborative Work for Productivity 24:46 - Importance of Downtime
Quotes:
"There are seasons where you may work more, there may be seasons where you work less, but there is a harmony that I feel like we're all seeking."
"I used to jump from task to task, always busy, but never really accomplishing anything substantial."
"I went from being completely unproductive to being the most productive I've ever been and creating the most results I've ever created from the process that you teach."
"Put your downtime on the calendar first, because if you don't, you will continuously push it to the back burner."
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Finding Your Place: The True Meaning of Belonging
True belonging begins with the acceptance and love of oneself, enabling you to show up authentically in any situation. This concept is central to the podcast episode, where Tonya Leigh emphasizes that belonging is not merely about fitting in or conforming to the expectations of others. Instead, it is about embracing your true self and cultivating a profound sense of acceptance from within.
Tonya shares her recent experiences at the SOSI tour stop in L.A., highlighting the joy of connecting with a supportive community. She reflects on the common feelings of insecurity and social anxiety many of us face, especially when entering new environments. The episode is inspired by her journey to cultivate a sense of belonging and acceptance, starting from within.
Tune in to discover valuable insights on overcoming feelings of isolation and building genuine connections with yourself and others.
Talking Points:
00:01:48 - The Essence of Belonging
00:03:25 - Need for Confidence and Connection
00:05:13 - Misconceptions About Belonging
00:05:45 - Authenticity and Confidence
00:08:47 - Vulnerability and Connection
00:10:04 - Embracing All Parts of Yourself
00:13:00 - Rejection is God's Protection
00:16:26 - Thoughts That Nurture Belonging
00:17:32 - Developing a Belonging Mindset
00:19:08 - Belonging in Luxurious Environments
00:20:26 - Taking Responsibility for Your Own Belonging
00:23:35 - Cultivating Belonging in Daily Life
00:25:09 - Celebrating Differences
00:26:13 - Challenge for the Week
Quotes:
"It's like this is the essence of what we are all about. Women celebrating each other, sharing and supporting."
"You will never belong in a group of people if you don't first belong to yourself."
"When you show up in that fullness of who you are, that's what really creates connection and true belonging."
"You belong because you exist."
"True belonging starts with you accepting yourself exactly as you are."
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From Ruts to Renaissance: How Style Can Change Your Life
A style renaissance is not merely about updating your wardrobe or following the latest fashion trends; it is a profound journey of self-discovery and personal growth. In her podcast episode, Tonya Leigh emphasizes that true style comes from within and reflects who you are at your core. A style renaissance can help you rediscover your true self and use style as a powerful tool for self-expression.
Tonya invites listeners to embark on a transformative journey through their style. She introduces the Style Experience, an annual program designed to help women redefine their approach to fashion and personal expression. Tonya shares her own struggles with understanding style, highlighting a common experience of trying to mimic trends without a true sense of self. The episode emphasizes the importance of an inside-out approach to style, encouraging listeners to explore how their wardrobe can empower and elevate their lives. Tune in to discover how this unique experience can facilitate personal growth and unlock your authentic style.
Talking Points:
01:08 - Style Experience Transformation Journey
02:24 - The Deeper Questions of Style
04:10 - The Importance of Style in Personal Development
05:33 - Defining a Style Renaissance
06:16 - Rediscovering Your True Self Through Style
06:49 - Sign 1: Major Life Transition
08:14 - Sign 2: Being in a Rut
11:16 - Sign 3: Getting Dressed is a Chore
13:00 - Finding Joy in Getting Dressed
14:14 - Sign 4: Envy of Other Women's Style
15:30 - Sign 5: Hitting an Upper Limit
24:00 - No More Waiting for the Perfect Time
29:20 - Speeding Up Your Style Journey
Quotes:
"It never answered the deeper questions that come with a style journey, which is, who are you really?"
"A style renaissance is a personal awakening, a rejuvenation, a rebirth of who you are in relationship to style."
"Getting dressed is a form of self-care and self-expression. It shouldn't be a burden."
"I literally crawled out of my hole. I overcame an upper limit with style as one of the major tools in doing so."
"I can look back and see how style has been responsible for so many of the opportunities that I have been blessed with."
"A style journey really is a journey back home to yourself."
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Dressing for You: How to Break Free from Style Myths and Embrace Authenticity
Many individuals find themselves standing in front of a closet full of clothes, yet feeling as though they have nothing to wear. This common frustration often arises from a mindset that prioritizes an ideal body weight or shape over the current self. The belief that one must wait until they achieve a certain physical state before investing in their style is not only limiting but also counterproductive.
Tonya Leigh discusses her own experience with what she describbes as the "waiting game." She recalls how she spent years convincing herself that she would invest in her style once she lost a certain amount of weight or reached a specific body shape. This mindset creates a cycle of negativity, where individuals continuously reinforce a narrative rooted in self-doubt and dissatisfaction. As she explores her past and the lessons learned, Tonya encourages listeners to consider their own style choices and what they may have outgrown.
Join her for an inspiring discussion on embracing your unique style and stepping into your authentic self.
Talking Points:
00:00:37 - Tonya's Morning Motivation and Style Journey
00:01:43 - The Deep Connection Between Style and Self-Image
00:02:59 - The Style Experience: A Unique Approach
00:04:05 - Enrollment for The Style Experience
00:05:08 - Style Mistake #1: The Waiting Game
00:09:23 - Style Mistake #2: The Numbers Game
00:13:25 - Style Mistake #3: The Label Trap
00:18:25 - Style Mistake #4: Trapped by a Self-Image
00:22:40 - Style Mistake #5: The Knowledge Gap
00:28:18 - Conclusion: Embrace Your Style Journey
Quotes:
"Style may seem superficial on the surface, but in reality, it's so deep."
"Everything you choose is confirming a story about yourself."
"Waiting for the perfect body is like waiting for a train that never arrives."
"The moment you stand up and you say, I'm no longer waiting to feel beautiful, to live the life that I want to live, that's when you get all of your power back."
"Your style isn't defined by the quantity of your clothes, but how well they reflect and serve you."
"Style is a skill. Like any skill, it can be learned, practiced, and improved upon."
"True style is about being comfortable in your own skin and your life, not in someone else's expectations."
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Gentle Persistence: A Journey of Sauntering Towards Success
Sauntering beyond your limits is a powerful approach that involves combining ambition with ease, playfulness with purpose, and approaching obstacles with curiosity rather than frustration. In the podcast episode, Tonya Leigh discusses how sauntering involves walking with purpose yet unhurried, being playful yet focused, and curious yet determined. This approach allows individuals to maintain a sense of calm and gratitude while pursuing their goals, even in the face of challenges.
By sauntering beyond your limits, you are encouraged to adopt a mindset that values the journey as much as the destination. Instead of constantly pushing yourself to go faster and do more, sauntering allows you to explore your limits with a sense of curiosity and openness. When faced with obstacles, the sauntering approach encourages individuals to stop, assess the situation, and consider alternative paths or solutions. This contrasts with the typical hustle culture that promotes pushing through obstacles without taking the time to reflect or adjust course.
Join Tonya as she discusses the power of taking a more relaxed and enjoyable approach to personal development and life.
Talking Points:
01:41 - The Concept of Sauntering 02:24 - Visualization Exercise 03:17 - Sprinting vs. Sauntering 05:02 - Curiosity Over Frustration 06:28 - Expanding Limits 07:43 - Playful Exploration 08:46 - Creative Problem Solving 11:02 - Detaching from the Outcome 16:02 - Lessons from Nature 20:36 - Micro-Adventures 22:02 - Style Challenge
Quotes:
"You know, we live in a world that's always telling us to push harder, go faster, do more. It's all hustle culture and no pain, no gain."
"What can I learn from this obstacle? How can I work with it rather than against it?"
"But a lot of successful people in the world have become successful because of their playful approaches to overcoming their limitations."
"To truly saunter beyond your limits, you must practice detaching from the outcome."
"You have the power to saunter beyond your limits. You can be ambitious and enjoy your life. You can make progress without burning out. You're capable of so much more than you know."
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Interior Design for the Soul: 5 Life Lessons to Elevate Your Self-Image
One crucial aspect of embracing contrast in life is recognizing and integrating all facets of oneself, including the shadow side. Tonya Leigh explores the significance of embracing contrast in interior design and how it can be applied to life. Just as in design, where contrasting elements can add depth and richness, embracing the diverse aspects of our personalities enables us to explore neglected or denied facets of ourselves, fostering personal growth and self-acceptance.
Tonya stresses the concept of the shadow side, a term introduced by psychologist Carl Jung, which refers to the darker, less desirable aspects of our personalities that we often try to conceal or suppress. She underscores the importance of not only showcasing our positive traits but also acknowledging and accepting the parts of ourselves that may not always be bright and cheerful.
Tune in to explore the parallels between interior design choices and self-image transformation.
Talking Points:
00:52 - Chaotic House and Podcast Recording
01:45 - Interior Design Lessons for Life
02:06 - First Impressions and Self-Image
03:09 - Designing Your Environment for Self-Image
04:40 - Creative Brief and Future Vision
06:10 - Curating Elements of Life
07:04 - Intentional Curation Beyond Physical Spaces
08:19 - Five Key Interior Design Principles
09:12 - Lesson 1: Embrace Contrast
13:20 - Lesson 2: Create Focal Points
19:15 - Lesson 3: Functionality is Essential
25:00 - Lesson 4: Embrace White Space
31:07 - Lesson 5: Don't Be Afraid of Making Mistakes
37:02 - Ongoing Process of Life Design
38:40 - Conclusion and Application
38:50 - Invitation to Soul Style Quiz
Quotes:
"Just as we thoughtfully curate our living spaces, we can intentionally design our lives to reflect our truest selves and support our personal growth."
"The key is to recognize that these contrasts aren't contradictions. They are complementary aspects of your whole self."
"We try to be good at so many different things versus really focusing and harnessing on the things that we're naturally good at."
"Remember, just as white space and design allows important elements to stand out, creating space in your life allows priorities to shine through very clearly."
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Quality Over Quantity: The Key to an Elegant Closet
An elegant closet transcends mere clothing and accessories; it is about curating a selection that truly embodies your authentic style, meets your lifestyle needs, and brings you joy every time you open its doors. Tonya Leigh stresses the significance of crafting a closet that effortlessly reflects who you are. This involves meticulously choosing pieces that resonate with your personal style and values.
When curating an elegant closet, it is crucial to consider not only the visual appeal of the items but also their practicality in meeting your daily lifestyle demands. The clothes and accessories in your closet should serve a purpose and align with the activities and occasions you typically engage in. By ensuring that your wardrobe is tailored to your lifestyle, you can feel confident and comfortable in your outfits, knowing that they cater to your needs.
Get inspired to turn your closet into a personal sanctuary that truly reflects who you are.
Talking Points:
00:44 - Tonya's New Home and Office
01:37 - Designing an Elegant Closet
03:03 - Four Essentials of an Elegant Closet
04:19 - Emotional Benefits of an Elegant Closet
04:30 - Inspiration from a French Friend
05:33 - Misconceptions About Elegance
05:55 - Soul Style Quiz
07:00 - Solving the "Nothing to Wear" Problem
07:21 - Easier Packing for Trips
08:25 - Investing in Timeless Pieces
10:22 - Challenge: Choosing Quality Pieces
16:02 - Personal Story: High Heels vs. Sneakers
20:09 - Organizational Tools and Tips
26:52 - Final Thoughts on Closet Curation
Quotes:
"When I was designing my closet, what I wanted was an elegant closet. And it turns out elegance isn't big. It's not massive. It's not over the top. It's about curating a closet that allows the beautiful expression of you."
"An elegant closet eliminates decision fatigue, it boosts your self-esteem, and it sets this positive tone for your day."
"Because let me tell you, no amount of cheap thrills can fill the space that's meant for true quality pieces that resonate with your soul."
"It is an intimate journey designed for the discerning woman who knows she's capable of more, but needs that extra guidance and inspiration."
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Creating Harmony: The Art of Morning Rituals
Creating a beautiful morning routine is not about overwhelming yourself with a long list of tasks but rather about being intentional with small parts of your day. Tonya Leigh believes a healthy morning ritual sets the tone for a successful day and starts with focusing on specific rituals that support your well-being and drive positive energy first thing in the morning.
Tonya emphasizes the importance of starting the day with a capsule collection of non-negotiable activities that contribute to your overall well-being. These activities can vary from person to person but should be chosen based on what makes you feel better emotionally and sets you up for a successful day.
Join Tonya as she explores crafting your own beautiful beginnings for a more purposeful day.
Talking Points:
01:24 - The Power of Morning Routines
02:08 - Intentional Small Changes
02:40 - Soft vs. Hard Mornings
05:01 - Capsule Collection Concept
05:33 - No Tech in the Morning
06:26 - Waking Up Naturally
07:09 - Better Sleep App
07:41 - Hydration and Music
08:46 - Sunshine and Stretching
09:18 - Honoring Life and Gratitude
11:51 - Family Time and Journaling
13:18 - Skincare Routine
15:05 - Meditation and Breath Work
17:04 - Soul Style Quiz - http://schoolofselfimage.com/stylequiz
19:44 - Decadent Breakfasts
22:04 - Structuring Beautiful Beginnings
23:11 - Creating Intentional Days
Quotes:
"I love how it feels when I'm not plugging into the world first thing in the morning because it's coming."
"I love to honor my life. This is so important."
"There's something to be said for asking yourself what you can give to your life versus always thinking, what can life give to me?"
"I really find that my soul is like an old world kind of soul."
"A beautiful life is nothing more than a collection of beautiful days."
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The Art of Becoming: Navigating Life's Transformations
Embracing the process of becoming involves shedding old identities, beliefs, and habits to align with one's true self. As discussed in the podcast episode, the journey of becoming is likened to a metamorphosis, much like a caterpillar transforming into a butterfly. This transformation requires individuals to let go of who they have been to become who they truly are or aspire to be.
Host, Tonya Leigh, shares her personal experiences of going through various stages of becoming, including facing challenges, reevaluating her identity, and making intentional changes to align with her true nature. She emphasizes the importance of letting go of comfortable ways of being, confronting difficult truths about oneself, and being willing to evolve into a new version.
Join Tonya as she delves into the process of shedding old identities and embracing new versions of ourselves.
Talking Points:
02:32 The Art of Becoming
05:13 Letting Go of Identities and Beliefs
10:31 The Butterfly Metamorphosis Analogy
11:26 - Martha Beck's Change Cycle
16:17 Cocooning Yourself with Self-Care
19:30 Square One Mantra
23:34 Reimagining and Nourishing Your Soul
28:20 Embracing Failure and Obstacles
32:05 The Promised Land
36:45 Embracing Constant Change
Quotes:
"We must be willing to let go of the life we planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us."
"This is the part of the butterflies metamorphosis where it's literally dissolving into what she calls a person soup."
"Coming from the truest part of you, that takes a lot of courage and a lot of people will never do that."
"I don't know what the hell is going on and that's okay."
"I don't regret any of this, not a single part of it. I don't believe in regret."
"You need to give yourself permission to daydream. Let it run wild."
"That obstacle is there to grow me, not to back away from, not to run from, but to run towards."
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Creating a Lasting Impression with Your Soul Style
Understanding your soul style involves aligning your values, personality, passions, and dreams with your outward appearance. Host Tonya Leigh stresses the importance of knowing and embracing your soul style, which transcends mere clothing choices. She breaks down the components of soul style into four key elements: values, personality, passions, and dreams.
By paying attention to how you feel in different outfits and embracing the evolution of your style, you can create a wardrobe that truly reflects your inner essence and makes you feel confident, comfortable, and authentic.
Join Tonya as she delves into the journey of self-discovery and the significance of expressing your inner self through your personal style.
Talking Points:
00:00:51 - Personal Update from Tonya
00:01:45 - Reflecting on Life and Belongings
00:03:00 - Understanding Soul Style
00:05:45 - Components of Soul Style
00:06:32 - Values and Their Impact on Style
00:10:05 - Personality and Style Expression
00:12:54 - Dreams and Future Self in Style
00:16:16 - Creating Your Style Cocktail
00:17:09 - Primary Style Archetypes
00:21:03 - Reflecting and Experimenting with Style
Quotes:
"It's more about shedding layers to reveal the truth of who you are, the truth of your essence, the truth of your soul."
"I love taking care of my beauty, and I have been ridiculed for that, and that's okay."
"What I want for you all is that you are showing up in a way that truly represents who you are at your deepest level, at your core."
"Your soul style should make you feel confident, comfortable, and like you. It should feel like freedom."
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From Overwhelmed to Empowered: Transforming Your Style with Five Key Habits
Celebrating 400 episodes! In this special episode, Tonya reflects on her podcast journey, starting from her first nervous recording to reaching this significant milestone. She shares the importance of pushing past self-doubt and critical voices to keep going. A heartfelt thank you to listeners and her team for the support.
Then, Tonya dives into ‘The Five Style Habits That Transformed My Life’.
Intentional style habits play a crucial role in enhancing personal style, saving time, money, and energy, while boosting confidence and authenticity. In a podcast episode, Tonya Leigh discusses five key style habits that have elevated her life, highlighting their positive impact on overall well-being.
Intentional Shopping with a Style Vision: Developing a clear style vision helps individuals make intentional shopping decisions, reducing impulse purchases and ensuring every item aligns with their personal style.
Daily Outfit Photos: Taking daily outfit photos and analyzing them with curiosity rather than criticism helps individuals understand what works for them.
Quarterly Closet Edits: Regularly reviewing and organizing the closet allows individuals to assess their wardrobe, identify items that no longer serve them, and make room for new pieces that align with their style vision.
Keeping Everything in Sight: Organizing the closet for maximum visibility helps individuals see and appreciate all their clothing items, reducing the feeling of having nothing to wear.
Practicing Gratitude for the Wardrobe: Cultivating gratitude for the current wardrobe fosters a positive relationship with clothing, leading to contentment and authenticity.
Tune in for an inspiring episode filled with gratitude, motivation, and style inspiration.
Talking Points:
03:09 Style as form of self-care.
05:56 Relationship with clothing and style.
11:09 Style habits for elevated life.
13:15 Creating a style vision.
18:36 Elevating style with daily photos.
26:36 Quarterly Closet Edits
31:47 Creating a sense of abundance.
35:30 Gratitude in building a wardrobe.
42:17 Elevating personal style and confidence.
Quotes:
"I want to encourage you, I want to challenge you to think about style as a form of self-care."
"Style has this trickle effect. Because it's not even about the clothes, it's about you and how you feel."
"Clothing has helped me create the life that I'm living today."
"I love the mantra of I'm letting this go so that something else better can take its place."
"Gratitude can help us enjoy the process of evolving our style."
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Challenging the Status Quo: The Power of Asking Why
One of the key themes discussed in the podcast episode is the importance of challenging the status quo by asking why and questioning what we have accepted as normal. Tonya Leigh emphasizes the significance of questioning the beliefs and norms that have been ingrained in us without critical examination.
Tonya shares a personal anecdote from her childhood where she questioned the teachings in Sunday school, demonstrating her early inclination to challenge the status quo. She highlights how questioning the norms around her led her to develop a mindset of curiosity and critical thinking, which ultimately shaped her ability to challenge societal norms and expectations.
Join her at the School of Self-Image where personal development meets style, and learn how the audacity to ask can open unexpected doors in your life and career.
Talking Points:
01:00 - Gratitude Amidst Chaos
02:31 - Childhood Memories and Aspirations
04:17 - The Power of Asking: Transforming Lives
06:00 - Questioning Societal Rules and Norms
09:53 - Questioning Religious Teachings
10:12 - Fighting for Possibilities: How Can I?
12:27 - The Importance of Quality Questions
14:45 - Shifting Focus: From Limitations to Possibilities
16:08 - Overcoming Self-Sufficiency and Asking for Help
18:29 - The Role of Rejection in Asking
20:36 - Observing Others: The Power of Asking
23:02 - The ATM Machine Analogy
24:11 - Expansive Energy: The Audacity to Ask and Receive
25:09 - Invitation to Join the Private Podcast Series
Quotes:
"Learning to ask the right questions of yourself and others can open doors you never knew existed."
"If you have the audacity to ask, your life will begin to change in the most beautiful of ways."
"Energy is everything, my friends, everything. Where your attention goes is where your energy is flowing."
"I ask for help. I ask for what I want."
"The more willing you are to ask for what you want, are you also more willing to give without any kind of resentment?"
"I want you to see you as an ATM machine."
"A beautiful life requires you."
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Failing Forward: Lessons in Style and Business
Failure is often viewed negatively, but in this episode, Carmin and Sherry Black share with host Tonya Leigh their stories of failure and how they turned it into a stepping stone to success. Carmin explained how her business, Half United, faced a setback due to a manufacturing defect that resulted in a lawsuit. She realized that the failure was not solely due to external factors but also stemmed from her own decisions and priorities.
Similarly, Sherry Black shared her experiences of encountering obstacles and setbacks in her career as an interior and furniture designer. From relocating from Hawaii to Alaska to launching restaurants in Raleigh, Sherry faced various challenges along the way. However, she emphasized the importance of embracing failure and using it as a learning experience.
Both Carmen and Sherry's narratives illustrate the significance of embracing failure as a stepping stone toward success. By acknowledging their mistakes, learning from them, and making necessary adjustments, they were able to evolve, grow, and ultimately achieve their goals. Their stories serve as a reminder that failure is not the end but a valuable opportunity for growth and improvement in future endeavors.
Talking Points:
02:45 Stylish careers.
05:15 Childhood fascination with glamorous decor.
09:42 Fashion faux pas anecdote.
14:32 Individuality and self-expression.
18:34 Starting a business with $200.
24:05 Bullets turned into jewelry.
28:39 Overcoming failure and resilience.
30:40 Manufacturing challenges and growth decisions.
38:33 Embracing challenges for growth.
44:25 The impact of personal style.
52:13 Taking risks in business.
59:25 Experience stacking.
01:05: Entrepreneurial mindset and resiliency.
01:16: Signature style preferences.
01:22: Mr. Rogers obsession.
01:23: The value of simplicity.
01:27: Setting daily goals for success.
01:30:58 Imagine possibilities beyond limits.
Quotes:
"Yeah. Yeah, Christian, my brother and I, when we started our first brand, we had no money. I am talking no money. Big money buying mugs from Salvation Army."
"You can still look chic in your workout Clothes, you know a cute little ponytail and put on some lip gloss and you've changed the whole vibe."
"Style is timeless and it starts with you."
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Unleashing Your Inner Style: My Summer of Self-Expression
Style is not just about clothing and accessories; it is a powerful tool for self-expression that can transform how we experience the world. In the podcast episode, Tonya Leigh discusses how style goes beyond fashion choices and can impact various aspects of our lives. She emphasizes that style is a mindset that can influence how we express ourselves and interact with the world around us.
Tonya Leigh shares her personal journey of how embracing style has changed her life and helped her become more confident and intentional in her self-expression. By paying attention to the details of her style choices, she has been able to rewrite her story and create a more joyful and fulfilling life.
Join Tonya on this journey of self-discovery and learn how style can be a powerful tool for personal growth and transformation.
Talking Points:
00:52 - Designing Your Dream Summer 01:46 - How Style Changed My Life 03:01 - A Decade of Study and Exploration 03:23 - Diana Vreeland: Inspiration and Creativity 04:18 - Why Don't You: New Private Podcast Series 06:05 - Joyful Self-Expression 07:20 - Attracting Like-Minded People 08:18 - Dressing with Intention 12:45 - Telling Your Story Through Style 16:26 - Style Evolution and Growth 18:03 - Daily Attention to Details
Quotes:
"What if the secret to a more joyful, confident life was hidden in the details you've been overlooking?"
"I want to use style to help birth this next version of me."
"You have to be willing to repel people."
"Your style choices are telling a story about who you are and who you aspire to be. Style is your visual autobiography."
"I used to think happiness was a fairy tale forever, just out of reach. I felt stuck a lot of the times helpless and like I was constantly failing."
"Perhaps that last point is the most important because I've found that if we're not mindful, we can get so caught up in the big, the big goals."
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Emotional Residency: Packing Up Your Life for Joyful Reinvention
Assessing what parts of our lives we are ready to leave behind and what we want to bring along as we move forward is a crucial aspect of personal growth and transformation. In a podcast episode, Tonya Leigh discusses the process of packing up her belongings as she prepares to move to a new house. This physical act of packing serves as a metaphor for the emotional and mental process of evaluating what serves us and what no longer aligns with our current goals and values.
She emphasizes the importance of being intentional about what we choose to bring along on our journey. This includes not only physical items but also emotional baggage, old beliefs, and outdated thought patterns. By taking the time to assess these aspects of our lives, we can make conscious decisions about what to let go of and what to hold onto as we move forward.
Join Tanya as she shares her own emotional journey of packing up her current home and moving into a new chapter.
Talking Points:
00:30 - Introduction to Packing Up and Moving On
05:30 - Emotional Baggage and Letting Go
10:33 - Sunken Cost Fallacy and Letting Go
15:19 - Packing Up for the Future
18:41 - Moving into a New Chapter
22:47 - Joyful Reinvention through Packing Up and Moving On
Quotes:
"This has been about me deciding what parts of myself I'm ready to leave behind, what things I'm ready to let go of, and equally, what I'm ready to move towards."
"I had divorce papers, I had emails, I had things that when I read them, I was like, oh my goodness, like, who was I and who was my ex because we both had grown up."
"Does this spark joy? Does this belong in my future? Does this excite me? Does this align with my values? Does it represent who I am today?"
"Your brain doesn't know what it's like to walk through the world feeling like you are deserving."
"I believe that packing up and moving on, whether it's metaphorically or it's reality, is one of the most powerful tools for joyful reinvention."
"But then I discovered a simple shift. Or three, that changed everything."
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Creating Magic in Everyday Moments: A Guide to Romanticizing Your Life
Romanticizing your life involves being mindful and appreciating the present moment. Host and Master Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh emphasizes the importance of being present and mindful to romanticize your life in this weeks School of Self-Image podcast. She highlights the significance of slowing down, being with yourself, and appreciating the details of your life. By being fully present in the moment, you can tend to the details of your life and truly appreciate the joyous moments that may otherwise be overlooked.
Tonya also stresses the practice of slowing down and being present with oneself or those around you. By taking the time to truly be present with yourself and others, you can cultivate a deeper sense of appreciation for the blessings in your life. This involves not being distracted by worries about the future or regrets about the past, but rather focusing on the beauty and goodness that the present moment offers.
Tune in to discover how you can infuse your daily life with meaning and enjoy the present moment rather than rushing toward the future.
Talking Points:
01:00 - Introduction to Romanticizing Your Life
05:30 - Philosophical Perspectives on Romanticizing Your Life
08:32 - Benefits of Romanticizing Your Life
09:16 - Embracing Adventure in Everyday Situations
11:34 - Importance of Mindfulness in Romanticizing Your Life
17:06 - Morning Routine for Romanticizing Your Life
21:18 - Importance of Self-Appreciation in Romanticizing Your Life
25:38 - Balancing Idealism and Realism in Romanticizing Your Life
29:03 - Finding Joy in Work and Daily Activities
31:31 - Building Meaningful Connections and Appreciating Moments
32:45 - Slowing Down and Being Present in Your Life
Quotes:
"Romance is not something that you have to wait until one day to have. In fact, to create a romantic life, it requires that you start right now."
"I will tell you, learning to romanticize my life has been one of the biggest gifts that I've given myself."
"You can filter it in a way that makes you feel optimistic, that makes you feel full of gratitude, that makes you feel abundant."
"I chose to create this alternative universe that I could live in. That's full of adventure. That's full of opportunities. It's full of surprises."
"Looking for the blessing, looking for the joy, looking for the love, looking for the abundance. It's there if you're looking for it."
"Love on yourself more if you want to romanticize your life."
"Really, romanticizing your life is not that hard. It's about you being awake. It's about you appreciating. It's about you tending to the details of your life. And most importantly, it's about loving yourself."
"Appreciate all of the goodness that life offers."
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The Truth About Confidence: 5 Myths Exposed
Confidence is often misunderstood, and host Tonya Leigh debunks five prevalent myths surrounding it in this episode. I encourage listeners to build a confident relationship with themselves and to understand that doubt is a natural part of the journey. Confidence in your abilities will grow over time through repeated actions and experiences.
Tonya dives into the topic of confidence, debunking five common myths surrounding it. She shares personal stories about her journey to self-assurance and highlights that while confidence is desirable, it is not mandatory for living an incredible life. Tanya encourages listeners to pursue their dreams even in the face of self-doubt, emphasizing that confidence can be cultivated through thoughts and actions. Tune in to challenge your beliefs about confidence and discover the power of embracing the unknown in your journey towards self-assurance.
Talking Points:
00:40 - What is Confidence? 01:02 - Confidence is Overrated 01:13 - Action Before Confidence 01:58 - Myth 1: Confidence is Needed for Amazing Things 03:16 - Self-Assurance Over Confidence 04:08 - Personal Story: First Mastermind Retreat 05:54 - Building Confidence Through Repetition 07:01 - Myth 2: Confidence Comes from External Validation 09:02 - Building Self-Trust 10:32 - Myth 3: Confidence Requires Being the Smartest and Loudest 11:57 - True Confidence is Comfort with Oneself 12:29 - Myth 4: Confidence Equals Arrogance 13:56 - Confidence Has Nothing to Prove 15:02 - Myth 5: Confident People Never Doubt Themselves 16:36 - Doubt as a Companion to Confidence
Quotes:
"And honestly, I sort of think confidence is overrated, even though I want you all to feel it."
"There is a big difference. And a lot of you are trying to have confidence in something that you've never done before. And it is practically impossible."
"It becomes this thing that needs to be fed from the outside world."
"Confidence has nothing to prove."
"Doubt is not a reason to stop. It's a reason to keep going."
"Confidence comes from just believing and trusting in yourself."
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Soul Cravings: The Path to Joy and Fulfillment
Pay attention to your soul cravings and align with your core values, strengths, and passions for deep fulfillment. In the podcast episode, Tonya Leigh emphasizes the importance of listening to your soul's cravings, which originate from the deepest part of you and are in harmony with your core values, strengths, and passions. These cravings differ from societal cravings influenced by external expectations and norms. By paying attention to your soul cravings, you can experience a profound sense of purpose, joy, and alignment in your life.
Tonya shares her personal journey of discovering her soul cravings, such as a desire to learn about the world, feel at home in different cultures, and explore various cuisines. By following these cravings, she was able to align with her true self and move towards her North Star. She highlights the contrast between societal cravings, which may offer temporary approval or success but lack deep fulfillment, and soul cravings, which lead to a sense of purpose and joy.
She encourages listeners to pay attention to their own cravings and explore what their soul truly longs for in life.
Talking Points:
00:39 - Tanya's New York City Experience 01:55 - Identifying Your Cravings 02:36 - Personal Development Journey 03:08 - Essential Self vs. Social Self 04:12 - Excavating Your True Self 05:06 - Following Soul Cravings 06:08 - Discovering Worldly Cravings 07:00 - Societal vs. Soul Cravings 10:03 - Discomfort in Following Cravings 12:12 - Recognizing Soul Cravings 13:05 - Creating Space for Soul Cravings 14:10 - Developing Self-Trust 15:37 - Paying Attention to Intuition and Body 21:02 - Practical Exercise: Mood Boards 24:04 - Energy from Soul Cravings
Quotes:
"By listening to my soul's cravings, not my societal cravings, but my soul's cravings, has led me towards my North Star."
"I believe in honoring your soul cravings."
"You will know a soul craving because it will bring you joy. Even if it's hard, it'll bring you so much joy and satisfaction."
"You have to be the one that puts up a red velvet rope around your mind, around your soul, so that you can hear you again, so that you can listen and pay attention to what you're being nudged towards and what you're being nudged away from."
"That's not it. I just moved away from my sweet spot."
"What is that one thing that your soul is craving right now? Listen, it's trying to speak to you. Pay attention."
"Unleash your inner powerhouse."
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Overcoming Overwhelm: What to Do When You're Drowning in Your To-Do's
One of the key insights from the podcast episode is the understanding that overwhelm is an emotion created by the thoughts in our heads. Host and Master Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh explains that when we feel overwhelmed, we are often in a state of fight or flight, where our sympathetic nervous system is activated. This heightened state of stress and panic can make it challenging to think clearly and find solutions to our overwhelming to-do lists.
To manage overwhelm effectively, Tonya suggests accessing the parasympathetic nervous system. This system is responsible for rest and digest functions, promoting a state of calm and relaxation. By engaging the parasympathetic nervous system, we can counteract the fight or flight response and regain clarity of thought. She reflects on her own journey through overwhelm and provides tools to help listeners manage and conquer their to-do lists effectively.
If you've ever felt like you're drowning in tasks, this episode is a must-listen for practical advice and inspiration.
Talking Points:
00:00 - Introduction to Feeling Overwhelmed
05:30 - Overcoming Overwhelm with Self-Care
0:22 - Filtering To-Do List with the Four D's
13:04 - Providing Clarity through Scheduling
4:06 - Releasing Perfectionism for Productivity
16:28 - Embracing the Journey, Not the Destination
18:26 - Celebrating Choices and Finding Inner Peace
20:10 - Empowering Action with Dream Life Masterclass
Quotes:
"What to do when you feel like you're drowning in your to-do's."
"I want to be like that bird. I want to be able to find my stillness.
"Who you're being is up to you."
"Because if you take action off of guilt and fear over and over, you're just building a life that feels like a prison."
"Tonya, you're never going to be done. So stop trying to get to that place that doesn't exist and learn to enjoy the day that you're in."
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Life's Highs and Lows: Discovering Your Path to Alignment
Being outside of your comfort zone and navigating through that phase successfullly requires curiosity and self-reflection. This episode delves into the concept of embracing life's lows as much as you yearn for the highs. Tonya Leigh stresses that straying from your comfort zone is a natural part of the journey and should not be seen as a setback. Being outside of your comfort zone and navigating through that phase successfullly requires curiosity and self-reflection.
Tonya underscores the importance of not being too hard on yourself when you're not in your comfort zone. Instead, she urges listeners to embrace it, stay curious about themselves, and extract the lessons that being out of the comfort zone can offer. By embracing the lows, one can savor the highs even more when they arrive.
The analogy of trying on different outfits is used to illustrate the process of finding what suits you best in life. Just like trying on clothes to find the perfect fit, life is about experimenting and trying new things to discover what resonates with your values and essence. T
This mindset fosters growth, self-discovery, and the chance to correct course when necessary. Tonya's message inspires listeners to value the contrast between highs and lows, understanding that both experiences contribute to personal growth and a deeper self-awareness.
Talking Points:
01:24 Finding your sweet spot.
04:58 Embracing Life's Ups and Downs.
11:09 Core values and connection.
17:12 Living in your sweet spot.
22:23 Making tough decisions about change.
30:44 Joyful reinvention and self-image.
35:08 Embracing life's contrasts.
39:27 Feeling stuck and stagnant.
Quotes:
"I'm feeling so at peace. I'm feeling so excited about the future. I'm feeling healthier. I'm feeling vibrant. I feel like I'm in my sweet spot."
"But unfortunately, what a lot of people do is they just continuously focus on what they don't want."
"You're more motivated. You're more excited about your life. You feel more aligned."
"Every moment is a chance to turn back to you."
"Clarity comes through action."
"What if you learn to embrace the lows as much as you crave the highs?"
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Creating Intentional Self-Image Events for Personal Growth
Self-image events play a crucial role in shaping our identities, as discussed in the podcast episode. These events can be intentional or unexpected, and reflecting on both types from our past is essential for personal growth and self-awareness.
Intentional self-image events are experiences or activities that we consciously choose with the purpose of changing our self-image and identity. By setting extraordinary goals and immersing ourselves in new environments, we challenge our existing beliefs, push beyond personal boundaries, and facilitate the development of new skills and perspectives. These intentional events are designed to push us out of our comfort zones and help us evolve into a new way of being in the world. Embracing intentional self-image events can be a catalyst for personal development and lead to a more empowered and fulfilling life.
Join in to explore how moments, both intentional and unexpected, shape our identities and help us evolve personally.
Talking Points:
02:58 - Understanding Self-Image Events
04:03 - Childhood and Self-Image Formation
06:09 - Conflicting Identities: Pageants and Church
07:03 - Overcoming Negative Self-Image from Bullying
08:05 - Gaining Power Through Understanding Self-Image
10:02 - Adult Unexpected Self-Image Event
12:10 - Cognitive Dissonance and Self-Imag
14:08 - Adapting Self-Image to New Realities
17:13 - Negative Self-Image Events and Recover
19:00 - Compassion in the Face of Self-Image Challenges
20:05 - Creating Intentional Self-Image Events
27:45 - Intentional Self-Image Events for Future Growth
Quotes:
"Life is about all of it. And I've just come to the understanding that embracing that is the secret to true fulfillment."
"I always felt like I was sinning and I was going to go straight to hell."
"The scared little girl in me trying to protect herself from the world. But as the adult me, I've got me."
"This is too good to be true. This surely isn't going to work out. This isn't as good as it seems to be."
"There's going to be so much cognitive dissonance between your beliefs about yourself and your actions."
"When I started to look for the commonalities, it lessened the cognitive dissonance, which allowed me to entertain saying yes to this opportunity that would shape my self-image in a whole different way."
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You Are Enough: Celebrating the Uniqueness of Motherhood
Drawing from her personal journey as a mother, Tonya highlights moments of doubt, frustration, and guilt she has faced. Despite these challenges, she stresses the importance of recognizing and celebrating the love and effort that mothers put into raising their children. By acknowledging the sacrifices, hard work, and dedication that mothers invest in their children, they can begin to appreciate and love themselves more.
The episode also addresses the common feelings of guilt experienced by mothers. Tonya suggests that instead of dwelling on guilt, mothers should embrace innocence - recognizing that their intentions are always rooted in love and care for their children. By letting go of guilt and accepting that they are doing their best, mothers can start showing themselves the same grace and understanding they offer to their children.
Tune in for a touching tribute to the strength and beauty of motherhood.
Talking Points:
02:26 The journey of motherhood.
05:17 Motherhood and astrology signs.
12:31 Guilt and Innocence as Options.
16:18 Your needs matter as a mom.
20:01 Embracing imperfection as a mom.
Quotes:
"This is the most hard and beautiful and awful and amazing journey any person could go on. That of being a mother."
"Can I return her? Because right now, I don't like her."
"I was a great mother. I decided that everything has happened the way it was supposed to."
"Guilt is always an option. But do you know what else is an option? Innocence."
"Your needs matter too."
"There are times that I wish I could pack my bags and just move away. Yeah, I'd probably come back, but sometimes I fantasize about it. And that's okay."
"You are enough. Really let that sink in. You are enough."
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Transforming Your Relationship with Food and Exercise: Insights from Laura Hinton
Weight loss can be achieved by changing our eating habits and our relationship with food, rather than fixating on strict diets and clean eating. Laura Hinton shares her journey with Tonya Leigh of losing 50 pounds by shifting her mindset around food. She stressed that she didn't have to eat only "clean" or "good for you" foods to lose weight. Instead, she focused on consuming the same foods she had been eating but in moderation and with a fresh perspective.
Laura's story underscores the importance of impartial evaluation and self-acceptance when it comes to food choices. She mentioned transitioning from self-judgment to self-love, which ultimately yielded more effective results in her weight loss journey. By approaching food with love and grace, she was able to make sustainable changes without feeling deprived or restricted.
When individuals shift their focus from self-criticism to self-acceptance, they are more likely to make healthier choices, listen to their bodies, and approach weight loss from a place of empowerment rather than punishment. This shift in mindset can lead to enduring results and a more positive relationship with food, exercise, and self-image.
The 3 Big Weight Loss Myths:
Myth #1: Clean Eating for Weight Loss
Myth #2: Exercise Intensity and Weight Loss
Myth #3: Self-Criticism and Weight Loss
Talking Points:
00:51 Weight loss myths debunked.
05:44 Body image and weight struggles.
10:31 Society of immediate gratification.
14:47 Surprising lessons from weight loss.
17:43 Relationship with food changes.
26:05 Liberation from food obsession.
29:26 Debunking clean eating myth.
34:58 Exercise mindset and expectations.
38:35 Exercise as punishment mindset.
43:05 Self-love and weight loss.
Quotes:
"But the really pivotal moment was when I got engaged and that was 2008. I suddenly had this fear and panic that I was going to be fat, quote unquote, for my wedding."
"We want the quick fix now. We want to lose weight by the wedding. We want to lose weight by bikini season. And we have just set ourself up for this toxic cycle of white knuckling."
"So 100%, the most surprising thing to me was that I'm in charge of the way that I feel."
"Well, I think the biggest thing that changed for me in terms of my relationship with food is that food is no longer a source of comfort."
"There aren't good or bad foods. There's just food."
"In a way, it was like a dopamine hit. It was fun for the first day or two thinking about this new diet that may work."
"You can still have pizza, but instead of eating half the pizza, we're gonna have two slices and see how that goes."
"So many people, especially in the diet industry, they use exercise as a form of punishment."
"Yeah, it makes me think of one of my favorite Abraham quotes where they say, there is no happy ending to an unhappy journey."
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Unlocking Lasting Peace with Your Body
Success should be judged beyond the scale and dress size. This episode emphasizes the importance of redefining how we measure success with our bodies. Host and Master Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh highlights that relying solely on the scale or dress size as indicators of success can be detrimental to our overall well-being. Instead, she encourages listeners to shift their focus towards how they feel emotionally and physically.
Tonya shares her personal journey of struggling with weight and body image issues, where she found herself trapped in a cycle of using external measurements to determine her worth. She explains that tying success to a number on the scale can lead to feelings of discouragement, fear, and obsession. By shifting the focus to how we feel each day and how our bodies feel, we can create a more sustainable and fulfilling approach to body success.
Join Tonya as she delves into finding beauty and joy in life, beyond the numbers on a scale.
Talking Points:
02:25 Finding peace with your body.
10:18 - Rethinking Body Success Measurement
15:28 - Creating Intrinsic Body Success
18:10 - Embracing Imperfection and Gratitude
21:01 - Choosing Definitions of Body Success
Quotes:
"If you even look at the definition of the word slim, it's to rid of the excess, to slim down."
"We have a limited amount of energy and how much of yours is going into obsessing, hating, resisting, trying so hard to lose weight?"
"I have this belief that we're successful even when we fail, if we use those failures to grow us."
"You'll never feel better when you've set up your world and your paradigm that you can only feel good if you look a certain way."
"Wait, W-A-I-T, leads to wait, W-E-I-G-H-T. It's time to stop waiting to feel better."
"You're not here to be perfect. You're here to enjoy your life, to enjoy your body, to learn and to grow."
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Illuminating Your Path: The Decision Switch in Action
Making decisions is essential for moving forward in life and creating change. In the podcast episode, Tonya Leigh emphasizes the importance of making decisions to break free from feeling stuck and to propel oneself towards desired outcomes. She discusses how indecision can keep individuals in a state of paralysis, preventing them from progressing in life. She also highlights that decisions, whether big or small, play a crucial role in shaping the trajectory of one's life and influencing the overall experience.
This episode underscores the transformative power of making decisions and highlights how each choice, no matter how small, can have a significant impact on one's life journey. By embracing the decision-making process and being willing to step into the unknown, individuals can break free from stagnation, create positive change, and ultimately shape a more fulfilling and purposeful life.
Talking Points:
00:42 - The Decision Switch Concept 02:22 - Reasons for Decision Paralysis 04:38 - Overthinking and Perfectionism in Decisions 05:45 - External Pressures Impacting Decisions 07:53 - Worry and Business 08:15 - Breaking Connections with Old Self 09:41 - Team Dynamics and Decision Confidence 11:59 - Stop Self-Criticism 14:38 - Personal Decision to Build a House 17:50 - Clarity After Making Decisions 18:12 - Relationship Decisions: Stay or Go 19:05 - Comfort in Indecision 19:37 - Removing Right or Wrong from Decisions 23:00 - Investing in Personal Growth
Quotes:
"People fear losing things more than they get excited about gaining things."
"I literally said out loud, I am no longer available to worry about my business. It is not even an option."
"What is the decision switch that you need to make in your life right now?"
"It was like, oh, now I am a homeowner. Now I am adulting officially. And it was the best feeling."
"Either way, just switch the light on. That's what decisions do. They turn the light on so you can see what your next steps are."
"There is no right or wrong decisions that we will make from a place of wanting the best for ourselves."
"It is done. Now, can you learn something from it? 100%."
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From Stuck to Unstoppable: Strategies for Personal Breakthroughs
To overcome feeling stuck, it is crucial to provide your brain with clarity and direction. In this podcast episode, Tonya Leigh emphasizes the importance of giving clear instructions and goals to your brain. She shares that when she felt stuck while recording the episode, it was because she lacked the direction and clarity needed to move forward.
Tonya also stresses the significance of setting extraordinary goals to combat feeling stuck. Many individuals struggle with this because they have not determined what they truly want. By establishing clear and specific goals, individuals can give their brains a sense of purpose and direction, enabling them to progress and break free from feeling stuck.
Tonya highlights how perfectionism can hinder progress and steal time. By letting go of the need to be perfect and focusing on taking action, individuals can overcome the fear of imperfection, make decisions, and move forward in their personal and professional lives.
Join Tonya as she delves into why we get stuck and how to move forward with purpose and intention.
Talking Points:
01:24 - Clarity and Direction for Getting Unstuck 02:18 - Choosing an Extraordinary Goal 03:42 - Discomfort of Change 07:21 - Acceptance and Authenticity 08:03 - The Trap of Perfectionism 09:07 - Embracing Where You Are 10:00 - The Analogy of Water Skiing 11:46 - Letting Go of the Rope 13:22 - Creating Desired Feelings 14:48 - Moving Towards Desired Emotions
Quotes:
"You don't know what you're trying to create. And the reason why the majority of you don't know is because you're afraid of the answer."
"Perfectionism will not only steal your time, it will steal your life."
"But if I've learned anything, the world doesn't want the perfect version of you. They want the real you."
"The way to get unstuck is to let go of the rope. Let go for a minute and just relax."
"Done is better than perfect"
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How Your Environment Shapes Your Self-Image
Let's delve into the psychology of space and how our environments can shape our self-image. Tonya shares personal experiences of how different homes she has lived in reflect her inner world and how she uses her spaces to evolve her own self-image. She discusses the importance of using our spaces intentionally to change how we feel and see ourselves. By making small changes in our homes, we can align our spaces with who we want to become. She also emphasizes the power of using our spaces as tools for personal growth and transformation. Overall, the episode highlights the significance of our environments in influencing our self-image and provides practical tips for using our spaces to support our personal development journey.
Talking Points:
00:00:00 - Introduction to the Psychology of Space
00:05:30 - Reflecting on the Story of Different Homes
00:10:38 - Personal Style and Home Decor Preferences
00:15:04 - Using Spaces to Change Self-Image
00:18:39 - Bridging the Gap Between Current Space and Desired Self-Image
00:22:17 - Blooming in Your Current Space
Quotes:
"Our environments are shaping us and we shape our environments."
"Our homes are more than just physical spaces. They are literally mirrors that reflect our inner world."
"Red is very fiery, very passionate. And let me tell you, that was me. And not in a good way."
"If you want to see yourself as a woman who is fit and healthy, imagine what her kitchen looks like. Imagine what her pantry looks like."
"I'm going to clean this up and I'm going to organize it. And I'm going to keep it that way to send the message to my brain of this is who I am."
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From Negative to Neiman: Upgrading Your Thought Wardrobe
To enhance your life and mindset, it is essential to intentionally select and upgrade your thoughts to higher quality ones. In a podcast episode, Tonya Leigh stresses the significance of being mindful of the thoughts we entertain daily. She classifies thoughts into different levels, ranging from "Goodwill thoughts" inherited from past experiences to "Neiman Marcus thoughts" that are of superior quality and more empowering.
Tonya urges the audience to evaluate their current thought patterns and beliefs, highlighting that negative or outdated thoughts can hinder individuals and impact their overall well-being. By deliberately choosing thoughts that align with their values, dreams, and desires, individuals can cultivate a more positive and empowering mindset.
Join Tonya as she takes you thorugh her thought clloset and inspire listeners to consciously select empowering beliefs and shed outdated or limiting ones to cultivate a more positive, resilient, and fulfilling mindset.
Talking Points:
Quotes:
"I'm going to bloom where I'm planted. I'm going to really show up in this position, in this role, and I'm going to give it my all because it matters."
"I love believing that failure is what dreams are built upon."
Unveiling Your Inner Queen: The Power of Self-Respect and Self-Care
Giving yourself a royal treatment involves creating a personalized plan for self-care and self-respect. In this School of Self-Image episode, host, and master Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh emphasizes the importance of treating oneself like royalty and prioritizing self-care. She shares the story of a client named Sarah who transformed her life by implementing a royal treatment plan tailored to her needs. This plan included setting boundaries at work, taking lunch breaks, exercising, and engaging in hobbies she enjoyed.
The concept of a royal treatment goes beyond superficial indulgences like spa days and manicures. It is about connecting with one's true nature, listening to internal cues, and establishing a strong inner kingdom. By tuning into one's body and soul, individuals can determine what they need to feel their best and align with their natural rhythm. This process involves building a strong relationship with oneself based on love, respect, and self-worth.
Tune in to learn why every woman needs to prioritize herself and treat herself like royalty.
Talking Points:
00:00:00 - Introduction to the Royal Treatment
00:05:30 - The Consequences of Self-Neglect
00:10:16 - Overcoming Excuses for Self-Care
00:13:05 - Increased Confidence through Self-Care
00:17:32 - Attractiveness and Energy
00:21:31 - Unveiling Your True Nature
00:24:34 - Building a Strong Inner Kingdom
00:26:19 - Invitation to the Royal Treatment Workshop
Quotes:
"When are you going to start treating yourself like a queen?"
"Confidence is something that you create with your thoughts, with your mind. It is a belief in your abilities."
"I've done those things, and it creates this deep trust in myself. This feeling of like, girl, I've got you."
"Would you rather attract rusty old nails or shiny gold coins? I'm guessing your answer is shiny gold coins."
"It is going to have the most beautiful cascading effect into every area of your life."
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Embracing 'No': The Key to Living a Life Aligned with Your Values
Saying no is a powerful tool for setting boundaries and taking back control of your life. In the podcast episode, Master Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh emphasizes the importance of establishing boundaries to prioritize your well-being and align with your values and goals. Here are some key points to consider when it comes to setting boundaries through saying no:
Prioritizing Your Well-being: By saying no to commitments or requests that do not serve you, you are prioritizing your mental, emotional, and physical well-being. Empowering Yourself: Saying no is a way of empowering yourself and demonstrating self-respect.
Taking Control of Your Life: Without boundaries, you may feel like you are being run over by the demands and expectations of others.
Living in Alignment: Setting boundaries through saying no allows you to live in alignment with your decisions, goals, and values.
Building Self-Image: Saying no can positively impact your self-image and self-esteem.
Saying no is not just about declining requests; it is a powerful act of self-care and self-empowerment. By setting boundaries through saying no, you can take control of your life, prioritize your well-being, and live in alignment with your values and goals.
Join Tonya as she delves into the power of saying no, inspired by quotes from Steve Jobs and Paulo Coelho, and explores the importance of listening to our gut feelings and setting boundaries by saying no when necessary to avoid feeling overwhelmed or drained.
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Episode Details:
00:01:25 - Embracing Joyful Yeses 00:01:57 - Mastering the Art of Saying No 00:03:11 - Free Guide to Saying No 00:04:14 - Societal Pressures and FOMO 00:05:08 - The Consequences of Yes 00:06:33 - The Jar Metaphor 00:08:10 - Identity and Priorities 00:12:36 - The Upside of Saying No 00:15:16 - The Clarity of Prioritizing Yes 00:18:30 - Elegance and Quality Over Quantity 00:23:53 - The Pleasure of Saying No 00:25:28 - The Invitation to Say No
Quotes:
"Innovation is saying no to a thousand things."
"No is my new favorite word."
"When you say yes to everything, you live someone else's life."
"I prioritize my wellbeing to demonstrate that I am worthy and I am confident in who I am."
"The power of no lies in saying no to the junk, to the low quality."
"I lived a large part of my life lying to everybody. Not on purpose, but to me, when you say yes to something that you don't really want to do, it's like you're lying."
"The power of no after years of being afraid of it, I can tell you it's one of the best two-letter words in my vocabulary."
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The Power of Self-Appreciation: 5 Steps to Delight in You
Inspired by a quote from Anais Nin, Tonya Leigh reflects on the concept she has adopted that is centered on delighting in oneself. Tonya shares her experience of a delightful day spent alone and discusses the importance of analyzing and journaling about such days to create more moments of joy. She offers five ways to delight in oneself, encouraging listeners to take pleasure and satisfaction in who they are.
By prioritizing self-care, nurturing self-relationship, and appreciating one's own value, individuals can cultivate a deeper sense of joy, fulfillment, and self-love. These practices not only benefit personal well-being but also have a positive impact on external relationships, work, and overall quality of life. Embracing these aspects can lead to a more fulfilling and delightful existence, where individuals can truly thrive and experience the fullness of life.
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Episode Details:
00:49 Delighting in yourself
06:52 Prioritize self-care
09:35 Making time for joyful activities
15:31 Being your own best friend
20:14 Quality alone time
21:51 Cultivating a deeper relationship with yourself
Quotes:
"My mission, should I choose to accept it, is to find peace."
“A joyful woman is a magnet for her desires. Energy is always looking for its equal match. Delighting is an energy. It is a vibration that you put out into the world.”
"You are the longest commitment you will ever have in your life. Make the choice to lovingly commit to yourself."
"What if you just decided you're never going to beat yourself up again? Instead, you're going to be your own best friend, your greatest cheerleader."
"You are worth that time. You are valuable enough to delight in yourself."
"There's nothing wrong with you. You are not broken. But your approach probably is."
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Ditching Apologies: Cultivating Self-Love and Confidence
Over-apologizing can become such a habit we don't even realize we are repeating the behavior. School of Self-Image host Tonya Leigh discusses the tendency for women to over-apologize and the impact it can have on their self-esteem and confidence. She explores why women tend to over-apologize, including societal expectations and the desire to please others.
Tonya emphasizes the importance of recognizing when apologies are unnecessary and offers strategies for breaking the habit, such as replacing "I'm sorry" with "thank you" and focusing on solutions instead of apologies. She encourages women to take ownership of their space, needs, and voice without feeling the need to apologize constantly.
Tune in to discover how over-apologizing can impact your daily life and learn how to break free from this ingrained behavior.
Episode Details:
00:51 Over-apologizing in daily life
05:32 Apologizing for things beyond control
10:41 Recognizing over-apologizing habits
13:44 Swapping "sorry" for "thank you"
17:52 Refusing to apologize for being you
Quotes:
"I'm so sorry I'm crying. I'm like, why are you apologizing for feeling your human emotions? We should never apologize for having emotions."
"When you apologize for things that aren't your fault, you're basically saying, I'm sorry for having needs. I'm sorry for taking up space. I'm sorry for needing support."
"You have valuable thoughts and ideas to share. You are deserving of taking up space. You are worthy of support and love."
"I am all for taking responsibility when it's my responsibility. But I was taking on the world's responsibility when I was over-apologizing."
"The last suggestion I can offer you is to begin to ask questions with confidence instead of apologizing because sometimes, sorry just becomes a crutch to get someone's attention."
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Unlocking the Lessons of Aging: Embracing Your Journey with Gratitude
Embracing your age with joy, purpose, and gratitude at every stage of life is a powerful mindset shift that can lead to a more fulfilling and enriching experience. In the podcast episode, Tonya Leigh discusses the importance of loving your age, regardless of where you are in life. She emphasizes the need to appreciate the present moment and find beauty in every stage of life.
One key point highlighted is the significance of reframing aging from being seen as a burden to being viewed as a blessing. Aging is not a disease but a privilege, offering opportunities for growth, learning, and new experiences. By shifting our perspective on aging, we can approach each stage of life with a sense of gratitude and excitement for what it has to offer.
Join Tonya as she dives into breaking free from societal aging expectations and embracing your unique identity at every age, so you can cultivate a sense of empowerment and self-expression.
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Episode Details:
00:39 Loving Your Age
08:27 Reframing aging as a blessing.
12:26 Intergenerational friendships.
15:18 Creating age loving environments.
19:10 Dressing for desired energy.
25:38 Choosing Positive Aging Narratives.
27:25 Embracing new experiences.
31:37 Overcoming people pleasing and approval.
Quotes:
"You can't help getting older, but you don't have to get old."
"I'm not going to waste time wishing I was 20 again, because I'll never be 20 again."
"Aging is not a disease. It is a privilege, a privilege truly of a lifetime."
"Push against what you've been told older folks can supposedly do or can't do. I mean, who decided that?"
"I love what Iris Eiffel says. She's like, style has no age. It's an attitude, not age."
"I want to chase less and enjoy more."
"I used to think happiness was a fairy tale, forever just out of reach."
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Raising the Bar: How to Set Higher Standards for Self-Love
What is your self-love standard? This week Tonya Leigh discusses the importance of self-love standards and how they can impact our lives. Self-love is not just about fluffy feelings, but about setting expectations for how we treat ourselves. So, how do we raise our self-love standards? By examining how we talk to ourselves, how we treat our bodies, and how we expect to be treated by others. Tonya shares personal experiences and examples to illustrate the power of self-love standards and how this manifests in our self-image. Tonya encourages listeners to align their standards with their future self-image and create a life that reflects their highest potential.
Episode Details:
03:24 The power of self-talk
07:32 Raise the standard of self-love
09:19 Self-love and body image
14:49 Alignment and synergy
17:09 Reevaluate current standards
21:35 Elevating your self-image
Quotes:
"I am so proud of you for trying. I am so proud of you for putting yourself out there. You are smart. You are kind. You are beautiful. You have what it takes. Go get it, girl."
"As someone who used to be so mean to the reflection in the mirror, I just refused to do that anymore because nothing good came out of it. It just made me feel terrible, which then led me to take terrible actions that just kept me perpetuating terrible results, truly."
"You will always prove to yourself how you see yourself."
"If you're constantly comparing. to either past versions of yourself or other people, you will not see your own."
"If you don't love yourself, madly, ridiculously, unapologetically, this world will run all over you."
"It is time for you to create your own 'powerfully ever after'."
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Stepping into the Spotlight: Embracing Your Superpower of Visibility
What is fear of being seen? Host and Master Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh gives valuable insights on the fear of being seen and the impact it can have on women. She shares personal experiences and highlights the societal pressure for women to blend in and not rock the boat. Tonya emphasizes the importance of embracing authenticity and stepping into the spotlight of our lives. She offers tools and strategies for overcoming the fear of being seen, including acknowledging the fear, starting small, building a support network, shifting the narrative, challenging the inner critic, taking action, finding inspiration, and remembering one's why. She also encourages women to celebrate their milestones and to be willing to be judged and fail in order to reclaim their stories and voices. She concludes by reminding listeners that they are worthy, powerful, and meant to be seen.
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Episode Details:
01:01 Fear of being seen
04:54 Blending In
09:45 Harnessing the superpower of visibility
13:22 Imposter syndrome
19:16 Celebrating small milestones and progress.
23:54 Fear of being judged.
Quotes:
"When I think about going after extraordinary goals, one of the things that is required is that you're seen on some level."
“I got over my fear of being seen. I was willing to be judged. I was willing to be ridiculed."
"Remember, and this is really important, visibility isn't about validation."
"What I have known to be true is the more imperfect I am, the more vulnerable I am, the more I share the ins and outs of my life, the more people can connect to that."
"Fear has no control over you in this part of your life. When you're willing to be judged, when you're willing to get it wrong, when you're willing to be imperfect, when you're willing to look stupid, when you're willing to fail, all of a sudden the fear is gone."
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Comfort vs. Strength: Creating a Life of Fulfillment
The importance of finding a balance between comfort and strength in order to live a fulfilling and adventurous life is the focus on this episode of School of Self-Image with host Tonya Leigh. She emphasizes that while comfort can be enjoyable, too much of it can prevent us from pursuing our dreams. On the other hand, strength is necessary for personal growth and achieving our goals. Leigh encourages listeners to embrace discomfort and take small brave steps outside of their comfort zones. She also highlights the importance of mindfulness and self-compassion in navigating the balance between comfort and strength. Ultimately, she suggests that true fulfillment comes from embracing both comfort and strength in our lives.
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Episode Details:
00:22 Finding balance between comfort and adventure
07:25 There's low risk with comfort
09:43 Leisurely hustling
12:47 Setting extraordinary goals
17:04 A beautiful waltz of comfort and strength
Quotes:
"Find a balance between rest and restlessness. Find a balance between the life you dream of and the life you live."
"Strength is that inner knowing that you've got your own back, that you are going to do what you say you're going to do, that you're going to handle the obstacles that come your way, that you're going to have courage."
"True pleasure is the absence of pain."
"There's something beautiful about seeing what you're made of"
"A life that's built from both comfort and strength, because ultimately true fulfillment lies not in choosing one over the other, but in mastering the art of embracing both."
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Learning from the Past and Creating Your Future
Have you ever considered how amazing it would be if you chose to learn from the past intentionally? How this might create a better future? Welcome to this week's episode of School of Self-Image podcast with host, Master Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh.
Tonya is all in on the concept of a monthly reset and shares her personal experience of starting a new morning routine. She encourages listeners to tune in to their future selves and take action towards their goals, even if they feel off track. She reassures them that it's never too late to make a change and improve their lives.
Hitting that monthly reset goal is such a part of self-image work and in shaping experiences and outcomes. By changing how individuals perceive themselves, they can create new evidence and transform various areas of their lives, including relationships, finances, and personal growth. This is the power of the monthly reset.
Episode Details:
00:02:46 Never too late to reset
00:06:33 How you see yourself
00:10:15 Monthly reset and review
00:14:08 Celebrating wins and dissecting failures
00:19:07 Creating new evidence of success
00:22:06 The power of self-reflection
Quotes:
"Every moment is a chance for a U-turn."
"I'm a woman who creates her life on purpose."
"Every moment is truly a blank slate, yet we bring all of our old baggage into this moment."
"I already know that the obstacle that I am going to encounter is my own brain."
"Without a mind that is intentional, that is focused, that is disciplined, you're going to struggle in life."
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Finding Fulfillment Through Trusting Your Intuition
Do you struggles with not trusting intuition? Tonya Leigh knows exactly what that feels like and how it has impacted her life. Throughout this episode, she emphasizes the benefits of following intuition. Listening to intuition can lead to a more fulfilling life and make decision-making easier. Intuition is described as an inner compass connected to one's true self and higher purpose. Tonya encourages listeners to pay attention to their bodies and not ignore the signals they receive. Ignoring intuition can lead to suffering and keep individuals in a state of scarcity. Being overly cognitive and overthinking things can override gut feelings and lead to decisions that are not in true service of oneself.
To reconnect with intuition, Tonya suggests asking oneself questions and tuning into the inner voice. "If my highest self could speak, what would she say?" and then imagining the wisest self advising. By removing outside opinions, societal expectations, and the influence of others, individuals can tap into their own inner knowing.
Tune in to discover how you can make decisions that align with your values and priorities and experience a greater sense of flow and fulfillment in life.
Episode Breakdown:
01:09 Overriding that gut knowing
06:32 When intuition is nudging you
09:35 Getting off track
14:09 Listen to your body
19:29 The power of intuition
23:21 Following your inner compass
26:36 Intuition versus fear
33:32 What do I know deep down?
36:04 Elevating the quality of mindset
Quotes:
"Albert Einstein said, the intuitive mind is a sacred gift, and the reflective, rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift."
"Showing up and sharing and helping and serving and offering value is the greatest way to sell anything."
"They can be saying all of the right things, they can be smiling in your face, on paper they can look like the perfect person for you, but your gut is saying run."
"Learning to listen and decode your intuition is going to lead to a greater, more fulfilling life."
"Sometimes it's pursuing a career path, even though you feel it does not genuinely align with your interests, your soul, or your strengths."
"Intuition usually isn't panicked. It's just this very calm, gentle, subtle voice."
"But what I do know is that you know, and that answer is found within your body, not your mind, but within your body."
"Listening to your intuition requires space. It requires time to just be with yourself."
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Creating New Habits for a Transformed Life
Habits are the actions we engage in daily, often without conscious thought. They serve as the foundation of our lives and have a profound impact on our self-perception. Our habits reinforce how we view ourselves and shape our identity.
As host, Master Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh, reflects on the power of habits and how they shape our lives, she shares her personal journey of examining her habits. This episode details the five habits that she wants to create in 2024. These habits include unplugging more from her cell phone and other devices, reading more books, journaling daily, drinking less alcohol, and committing to getting fit. Tonya discusses the importance of aligning our habits with our self-image and how changing our habits can lead to significant changes in our lives. She invites listeners to consider the habits they want to cultivate in order to create the life they truly desire.
Tune in to learn how small actions can have a big impact on your life in 2024 and beyond.
Episode Breakdown:
01:22 Any moment is a chance to start again
02:41 Write a letter to 18-year-old you
05:09 Self-image habits
09:08 5 habits I want to be on autopilot
13:14 Habits that get you back in alignment
20:53 Unplugging and staying connected
24:47 The act of reading
27:20 The habit of journaling
31:40 Drinking less as a habit
37:44 Aging powerfully
Quotes:
“If you want to see your life change, take a look at your habits."
“Think about all of it, and you get to make up this amazing story about 18-year-old you. But it's not just enough to use our imagination. Our imaginations need evidence to really root in that self-image.”
“The things that we do day in and day out are literally the building blocks of our lives.”
“It's almost like I've gotten into this pattern of just enjoying, which is a beautiful thing, and riding the wave. But I miss that aliveness, that, oh my god, I just cannot wait to saunter into this day.”
“If I want to see myself as a royal being, which I think we all are, what do I want to say to myself? How do I want to treat myself? And so with those two questions, I came up with five habits that I am committed to creating this year and making them habits, making them just autopilot, just what I do.”
“I've noticed over the last month since I got that report, because I don't know why I haven't really been paying attention to the report, but we all need to look at that report and think about the number of hours a day you're spending on your phone and what else you could be doing with that time.”
“I want to be more active on Instagram this year. And that's the crux. That's the hard part is when you have a business that requires that you share your work and you put yourself out there, you have to find the balance between unplugging and plugging back in.”
“Maybe we should try reading more. I want to get back into books. There is a world that exists within books that opens you up to new ideas, new perspectives, new artists, new lands, new stories.”
"The work that needs to be done is around your self-image. When you change how you see yourself, you change what you do."
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What is Tonya’s WOTY? She has been selecting a word of the year for the past decade, finding it to be a transformative process. She firmly believes that merely setting goals and taking action is insufficient for creating lasting change. Instead, Tonya emphasizes the significance of personal growth and transformation in order to consistently approach things differently and achieve different outcomes. Having a word of the year serves as a guiding principle, providing direction and support.
However, Tonya faced difficulty in choosing a word of the year for 2024. Initially, she contemplated words like "power" and "integrity," but they didn't resonate with her. It was during a luncheon for the Good Friends organization that she witnessed a woman on stage who embodied qualities she deeply admired, such as power and integrity.
The word "royal" encapsulates the host's desired qualities of integrity, generosity, and elevating self-care. She explains that embodying royalty means radiating an energy filled with integrity, grace, compassion, and empathy. It entails adhering to moral principles and a code of ethics in both behavior and leadership.
Tune in to discover how to aim toward treating yourself with the utmost care and refinement.
Episode Breakdown:
00:33 Choosing a word of the year
02:14 One of the biggest mistakes that we make
06:09 My word of the year for 2024 is royal
08:24 Seeing yourself as someone of status
09:28 Lead with integrity
13:12 What is ‘being royal’?
14:59 Being more generous in 2024
18:11 The Royal Treatment
19:39 My extraordinary goal
Quotes:
“My extraordinary goal this year is around leadership and my business and my team. I want to be a really royal leader.”
“I don't believe in giving when you're doing it to get rid of guilt or to, you know, impress other people. I think that is the energy in which a lot of people sometimes give and then they start to feel resentful and it doesn't feel good.”
“One of the traits that the woman who was on stage that revealed my word of the year to me showed me that I want more of this year is generosity.”
“We are going to make mistakes, we are going to get it wrong sometimes. But the biggest mistake is in pretending you didn't make one.”
“Because so often we discount ourselves, we shrink ourselves, we put ourselves down, we place other people above us.”
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Host Tonya Leigh kicks off the new year by asking listeners to reflect on the characters they are tired of playing and the ones they are ready to step into. The episode discusses the external factors that support a person's character, specifically focusing on style and environment. The host emphasizes the importance of these external factors in expressing and confirming one's character.
Tonya also mentions an exercise called "Characters in Your Closet" where individuals can examine the clothes in their closet and identify the characters they have been playing based on their clothing choices. She suggests that by intentionally choosing their style, individuals can embody new characters that align with their desired self-image.
Tune in to start the year off right with this thought-provoking episode.
Episode Breakdown:
01:17 What does it mean to create, not fix
03:21 Live Like an Editor Workshop
08:27 We can have fixed mindsets
10:55 The character of the abdicator
12:49 The cost of playing this character
17:40 Responding to the world around you
19:06 Your character determines your relationships
22:08 This was the year that it ended
25:01 Famous Rachel Zoe philosophy
27:25 The character of an energized woman
Quotes:
“I want you to think about the difference in saying to yourself, I need to fix myself or I want to create myself.”
“So many people, when I've talked to them about this concept of you can change who you are, they want to tell me, no, there's just an internal blueprint that you can't change.”
“Last year, I found myself playing a character that I've been really good at playing. And in some ways, it has served me because that's the thing. If it didn't serve us, we wouldn't play it.”
“ I feel like I have stepped in my power in so many ways, but there were a couple of things specifically that I looked at and I was like, Oh, I've been playing the character of abdicator.”
“That's a key aspect of character. It's not just about how you act. It's also about how you interact and connect with others”
“I'm going to speak up when I feel like someone is out of integrity. I'm going to speak up when there is something that needs to happen. And I'm going to be willing to have the hard conversations and make the hard decisions so that those things happen”
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What are your big takeaways from 2023? Heading into a new year always brings up moments of reflection. In this episode, self-image coach Tonya Leigh reflects on her top five lessons from 2023.
Tonya's top five lessons include: 1) Health is your greatest wealth, 2) Don't delay what needs to be done, 3) Don't take anything for granted, 4) Trust your intuition, and 5) Focus on your own path.
Tonya emphasizes the importance of seeing oneself as a masterpiece and approaching life from a place of love and joy. She also introduces her upcoming workshop, "Live Like an Editor," where participants can create their own magazine covers and set intentions for the new year. She encourages listeners to reflect on their own lessons from the year and carry them into the new year.
Join Tonya as she dives into these valuable lessons and provides insights for listeners.
Episode Breakdown:
00:26 - Bird Poop Anecdote and Good Luck for 2024 01:50 - The Concept of Creating vs. Fixing in Personal Development 03:20 - Live Like an Editor Workshop 06:45 - Reflecting on the Past Year's Lessons 08:10 - Lesson One: Health as the Greatest Wealth 12:55 - Lesson Two: Don't Delay Necessary Actions 16:40 - Lesson Three: Don't Take Anything for Granted 20:10 - Lesson Four: Trusting Your Intuition 23:45 - Lesson Five: Focus on Your Own Path 27:30 - Encouragement to Reflect on Personal Lessons 29:50 - New Year Wishes
Quotes:
'One of the biggest beliefs that keep us stuck in patterns and cycles that don't serve us is that we are broken."
"When you come at yourself as if you are broken, you end up perpetuating brokenness."
"I want you to see yourself as a masterpiece."
"I know that focusing on my health is my greatest love."
"If you need money to be free, then you're not really free because you are going to be a slave to money."
"We are responsible for our own vision and focusing on our own path."
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Unlocking Your Superpowers: Embracing Your Quirks
Summary:
Are you tired of trying to fit in and be like everyone else? It's time to love your quirks and embrace what makes you unique. Discover the secret to a more confident and joyful life: loving your quirks. Host Tonya Leigh takes listeners into just how powerful embracing one's quirks is and how it positively impacts self-confidence. When individuals accept and love their unique qualities, they send a message to their subconscious mind that they are deserving of love and acceptance. This, in turn, bolsters self-confidence as they no longer seek external validation or conform to societal norms. Instead, they embrace their authentic selves and allow their true essence to shine.
Moreover, embracing one's quirks attracts individuals who appreciate and celebrate their own uniqueness. When individuals exude confidence in who they are and unapologetically embrace their quirks, they naturally attract like-minded individuals who appreciate and resonate with their authentic selves. These are the people who see the beauty in their quirks and celebrate them rather than passing judgment or criticism.
By embracing their quirks, individuals also inspire others to do the same. When people witness someone confidently embracing their quirks and living life on their own terms, it grants them permission to do likewise. The willingness to be different and embrace one's uniqueness can inspire others, creating a ripple effect of self-acceptance and joy. Join Tonya as she dives into the power of celebrating our uniqueness.
Episode Details:
00:01 The power of loving your quirks.
01:04 Re-examining everything
03:18 Am I too feminine?
05:22 You are what you love
07:56 Bachelorette Hannah Brown’s quirkiness
09:30 Rejecting some part of yourself
14:03 The weakest tithing I could ever do
19:20 When I accept myself as I am
22:40 Care less about whatt other people think
Quotes:
"I believe the secret to the most amazing and magical and extraordinary life is, drumroll, accepting and hopefully loving every part of yourself."
“We spend a lot of time changing and adapitng to please others.”
“It’s like telling that little girl within you, ‘You shouldn't be that’.”
“So much of our dis-ease with ourselves is because we havn’t accepted ourselves.”
“If you hang around certain types of people and you’re in certain environments, there is a standard of behavior and sometimes your quirks don’t fit in.”
“Society will always try to shape you into what it wants you to be. “
“What makes you, you? What are your little quirks? Whatt makes you different from everybody else? I think those are your superpowers.”
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Did you know that our brains are wired to default to worst-case scenarios? When we allow a worst-case mindset to take hold, this can hold us back from taking risks and making changes necessary for an extraordinary life to unfold.
Host Tonya Leigh challenges listeners to play the role of their angel's advocate by focusing on best-case scenarios. Tonya shares her personal experience of making big changes in her business and how focusing on best-case scenarios has helped her overcome fear and create a better life. She explains the pain-pleasure principle and how visualizing best-case scenarios and associating pain with staying in the current situation can motivate us to take action. Tonya emphasizes the importance of self-image and how our expectations shape our future. She encourages listeners to imagine and believe in best-case scenarios, take action to confirm their beliefs and create a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Episode Details:
02:09 Managing our minds
05:19 The pain-pleasure principle
09:06 Visualizing a magnificent future
15:47 All roads lead back to self-image
17:32 Believing in best-case scenarios
23:03 Being your angel's advocate
Quotes:
"This is the role of looking for, finding and focusing on best-case scenarios."
"Your expectations shape your future."
"That is why it's so important, my friends, that we give time to our best-case scenarios."
"Because of who I've become, I now can allow people into my life at this level."
"It's within our daily journal practice, really thinking about how you want to think and show up on purpose."
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Creating Extraordinary Years: The Power of Planning
In this episode, Tonya Leigh discusses the power of planning for extraordinary years. She emphasizes the importance of moving from wishing to taking action and shares her personal experience of making extraordinary decisions and plans. Tonya acknowledges the mix of excitement and fear that comes with stepping into the unknown and encourages listeners to embrace the opportunity for growth and change. As the year comes to an end, she reminds us that there is still time to make a powerful impact and create an extraordinary finish to the year, and shares how she believes the last month of the year can be the most impactful. Join her as she encourages listeners to embrace the scary and exciting aspects of pursuing what they desire.
Episode Details:
01:11 Extraordinary decisions
04:13 Creating an extraordinary year
10:29 Wishing versus planning
13:21 Obstacles to planning
18:04 The power of planning
23:58 Wishing for 2024
26:15 Turning dreams into reality
Quotes:
“Over the last couple of weeks, I have made some extraordinary decisions."
"She makes bold decisions and she's navigating to extraordinary."
"Planning is sexy."
"But not having a plan is a guarantee that you won't get there."
"If everything's important, then nothing really is."
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In this episode, host Tonya Leigh discusses the concept of embracing the slow life and the tendency to rush toward our goals. She explores the idea that many of us believe that the future is better than the present, leading us to constantly strive for something more. Tonya also delves into the idea that we often try to outrun our own stories and seek validation and worthiness through accomplishments. Tune in to gain insights on how to slow down and find fulfillment in the present moment.
Episode details:
00:01:10 Embracing the slow life
00:06:05 Slow and sustainable growth
00:09:26 Extraordinary goals and personal growth
00:14:32 Slow growth and sustainable success
00:18:03 Self-image transformation
Quotes:
00:04:26 - "The real work is seeing yourself as worthy now and building from that place."
00:08:30 - "But I'm so afraid of failing. I'm so afraid of what my dad will think. I'm so afraid of not making money that I don't know how to stop."
00:10:19 - "But when you change your whole approach, when you change your mindset, when you make a declaration that you are going to enjoy your life and not postpone it until 'one day when', then a goal setting can become delicious."
00:14:39 - "It may look slow to the outside world, but you are like growing deep, deep roots underneath the surface that maybe people can't see, but it's going to be what allows you to have sustainable success."
00:17:09 - "I've tried both ways and I will take slow growth any day of the week."
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In this episode, Tonya explores the concept of self-gratitude and how often people undermine their success and achievements. She shares her gratitude for various aspects of her life, including her family, health, and the School of Self-Image community. Tonya references Snoop Dogg's speech in which he thanked himself and highlights the importance of acknowledging and appreciating one's own efforts and accomplishments. She encourages listeners to thank themselves and give themselves credit for the positive things they have done in their lives. Tune in for this insightful glimpse into self-gratitude.
Episode details:
00:00:12 Practice self-gratitude
00:03:20 Self-gratitude and Snoop Dogg
00:04:40 Thanking myself for self-improvement
00:12:41 Body gratitude
00:14:11 Overcoming and Becoming
Quotes:
00:02:38 - "If you are grateful for me, I just want you to know I am so grateful for you."
00:04:40 - "I want to thank me for believing in me. I want to thank me for doing all this hard work. I want to thank me for having no days off. I want to thank me for never quitting. I want to thank me for always being a giver and trying to give more than I receive. I want to thank me for trying to do more right than wrong. I want to thank me for being me at all times."
00:07:31 - "We are so used to being our own worst critic, our own worst enemy, of being perfectionist and making our love very conditional towards ourselves."
00:11:05 - "I remember when I did my very first podcast, which by the way, I'm thankful for the version of me who was willing to suck at it."
00:14:57 - "I want to thank me."
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In this podcast episode, Tonya Leigh discusses the concept of elegant eating and how it can revolutionize one's relationship with food and body. She shares her experience of hosting an event and the positive feedback she received. Tonya explains that elegant eating is about choosing quality over quantity and thinking long-term. She emphasizes the importance of slowing down while eating, learning to eat to the point of elegant satisfaction, and finding pleasure in activities outside of food. Tonya encourages listeners to practice self-love throughout the holiday season and commit to loving themselves no matter what. She also mentions the slim self-image program available in the School of Self-Image membership.
Episode Details:
04:05 Personal struggle with food and desire for a healthy relationship
05:49 Introduction to the concept of elegant eating and its simplicity
07:26 The tendency to complicate the relationship with food
08:50 The importance of self-possession and long-term thinking in elegant eating
10:18 Eating with love and grace for oneself
13:33 Eating mindfully and savoring food with others
14:19 Importance of feeling and understanding emotions instead of numbing
17:09 Listening to and understanding the body's signals
20:39 Taking action to support a new self-image
23:19 Diversifying sources of pleasure beyond food
26:14 Finding pleasure in showing up for oneself
28:12 Committing to loving yourself through the holidays
Quotes:
"Elegant eating is about quality over quantity."
"The majority of people have complicated their relationship with food."
"We neglect just timeless truths and wisdom that have worked throughout the ages, that resides in elegant eating."
"Elegant eating is about eating with love and grace for yourself."
"Train the brain. The brain's going to want to come back to old patterns, come back to old ways of thinking. Place that attention on the food, and you just have to train it, like, no, it's not where we're going."
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Discovering Glimmers of Happiness and Contentment
This episode revolves around the concept of "glimmers," which are small moments of joy and peace. Tonya Leigh explains that these glimmers are micro-moments that can bring about feelings of joy, peace, calmness, and contentment, ultimately soothing our nervous system.
By actively seeking out these glimmers, Tonya suggests that we can shift our state of being and cultivate a sense of inner peace. She encourages listeners to make it a daily intention to discover these glimmers in their everyday lives. Even during challenging times, finding just one glimmer a day can make a significant difference and provide hope. To further support this practice, Tonya recommends keeping a journal of favorite glimmers to revisit and find encouragement when needed.
Additionally, Tonya mentions that glimmers can be found in favorite environments such as parks, restaurants, and trails. The episode emphasizes the importance of paying attention to these small moments of joy and cultivating a mindset of finding and appreciating glimmers in everyday life.
Episode Details:
01:51 A charmed life
07:38 Glimmers
10:00 Glimmers of joy in life
14:09 Finding glimmers in everyday life
19:37 Sweater weather and glimmers
Quotes:
"To rising above the fray and protecting your peace and showing up as the most expansive version of you."
"The glimmers are always there."
"But because I'm very intentional now on finding glimmers, I notice how incredible that felt."
"When you understand them and you know what glimmers feel like to you and where they most likely are hanging out, you can intentionally begin to place yourself in environments and around people where glimmers are more prevalent."
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In this episode, Tonya Leigh discusses the importance of slowing down and savoring the slow life. She shares her morning routine and emphasizes the need to create space and not rush through life. Tonya reflects on the desire to slow down and the sense of slowness often missing in our everyday lives. She explores the question of how to combine ambition with ease. Tune in to discover Tonya's insights on embracing a slower pace and finding balance in life.
Episode Details:
00:01:18 Savor the slow life
00:06:55 Embrace the present moment
00:17:32 Slow down, focus, schedule
00:20:59 Savor the slow life
00:28:30 Embrace and savor the slow life
Quotes:
"It's that feeling of being in flow."
"It's that feeling of being so present that time becomes irrelevant."
"And I have just witnessed personally, so many people struggle with this, fight it, and when they finally embrace it, that's when things take off for them."
"I am, two most important words you will ever speak, because you're claiming it as your identity, and you will always work to prove your identity true."
"Through weekly classes and coaching, you'll learn powerful techniques on how to elevate the quality of your mindset, style, and surroundings to change how you see yourself and create extraordinary results in your life."
"At what point are we all going to wake up as women and realize that we must take care of ourselves in order to better serve, to take care of other people?"
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Building a Healthy Relationship with Money: The Key to Enjoyment
In this episode, Tonya talks about the importance of treating your money like a cherished relationship. She discusses the need to nurture our finances and enjoy the value that money brings to our lives. Tonya emphasizes the balance between saving and spending and encourages listeners to find joy in their financial journey. Join her in the Money Garden workshop to explore your relationship with money further.
Episode Details:
01:37 How to enjoy money.
05:47 Trusting yourself with money.
10:07 Balancing saving and spending.
14:02 Celebrating financial milestones.
19:57 Enjoying money and letting go.
22:09 Relaxing around money.
Quotes:
"Because at the end of the day, money is a tool that we have to enhance our lives and the lives of those around us."
"We can get into these patterns around our spending that keep confirming stories that we have about ourselves around money."
"Girl, give me peace over a Chanel bag any day of the week."
"I had a whole crisis a few years ago where I found myself more successful financially than I'd ever been. I was so full of anxiety, and now I can see why. I was just hitting a self-image limit."
'I was not even planning to say this, but it just occurred to me, that part of enjoying money is being willing to let it go."
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The Money Garden: Design, Nurture, and Enjoy Your Financial Life
In this episode, Tonya Leigh discusses the concept of elegance in budgeting. She emphasizes the importance of spending in a way that enhances life and brings abundance, rather than scarcity and fear. Tonya shares her personal practice of having a monthly "money date" to intimately connect with her finances and make intentional decisions. She highlights the positive impact this practice has had on her net worth over the years. Tonya also mentions her upcoming workshop, "The Money Garden," where she will delve deeper into money mindset and intentional money management.
Living within our means is also highlighted as an important aspect of an elegant budget. Overspending can lead to stress, anxiety, and a sense of scarcity. The host encourages living within our means to create a sense of abundance and wealth. This means appreciating and fully utilizing what we already have before bringing in new things. It is about being mindful of our purchases and avoiding buying things that will go unused or sit in our closets.
Overall, the episode promotes the idea of an elegant budget as a way to create a fulfilling and abundant life. It encourages conscious spending that is driven by joy, excitement, and alignment with our values and goals.
Episode breakdown:
00:01 Elegance in spending.
05:10 The elegant budget.
09:41 The Three Mothers
12:44 The Pareto principle.
17:09 Investing in personal growth.
23:38 Maximizing your means.
Quotes:
"Between overindulgence and frugality is elegance."
"Go out there, eat the cake, spend the money, dance on tables, enjoy life today."
"Eating what you want, when you want, spending as much money as you want today is stealing from your future in some ways."
"People can call me superficial, they can call me whatever they want, but I love pretty things."
"I want to be wealthy in all of the ways and not just financially."
"Are you ready to tend to your wealth, watch it grow and make money feel beautiful?"
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Lessons, not Mistakes: Transforming Your Relationship with Money
In this episode, Tonya Leigh discusses reframing money mistakes as money lessons. She shares three personal money lessons she has learned and how she has grown from them. The first lesson involves being scammed by a store in Aspen and realizing the importance of not making purchases out of pressure or scarcity. The second lesson involves selling stocks during the market downturn in 2020 and learning the importance of understanding investments and seeking expert advice. The third lesson involves hiring an interior designer and not thoroughly reading the contract, leading to unexpected costs and the importance of asking questions and understanding financial agreements. Leigh emphasizes the need to forgive oneself for past money mistakes and focus on designing a wealthy self-image. She also promotes her upcoming workshop, The Money Garden, where she will teach participants how to nurture and enjoy their financial garden.
Episode details:
00:55 Money struggles and self-image.
06:11 Living a rich life.
09:30 Stop beating yourself up.
16:08 The pressure to buy.
23:41 Learning from financial mistakes.
26:09 Ask questions about your money.
30:41 Money garden workshop rendezvous.
Quotes:
"What if there are no money mistakes, just money lessons?"
"But don't let someone pressure you into buying anything ever."
"Don't make decisions out of scarcity because it's just going to keep perpetuating scarcity."
"Because what I know is that mistake is really just a lesson."
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How to Overcome a Scarcity Mindset and Embrace Abundance
In this episode of the School of Self-Image, host Tonya Leigh explores the concept of scarcity and how it affects our mindset and beliefs about money. She shares a story about a woman who had millions of dollars but still lived in fear of running out of money. Tonya also recalls her own experience in Costa Rica, where she encountered a village that taught her the true meaning of abundance. She emphasizes that abundance is not determined by external factors like wealth or possessions, but rather by our belief in enoughness. Tonya encourages listeners to flip the script on scarcity and embrace the feeling of abundance by believing in themselves and recognizing that there is enough for everyone.
Episode Details:
01:21 Abundance in a Costa Rican village.
06:24 Money scripts and subconscious beliefs.
10:23 Rewriting the money script.
14:21 Abundance and spending habits.
18:14 Creating a wealthy self-image.
22:32 Challenge your own thoughts.
26:36 The ingredients of a charmed life.
Quotes:
"I can earn money and it's safe to be generous."
"There are many, many, many different forms of wealth, and what good is a bunch of money if your relationships are terrible?"
"But what I know to be true, the more I do this work, the wealthier I become."
"The moment you say things like, I can't afford it, you are perpetuating a scarcity mindset."
"One, that your nine-year-old self will raise a flute to one day and say, well done, darling."
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Cultivating Everyday Magic: Simple Practices for More Beauty, Joy, and Wonder
In this episode, Tonya Leigh shares her beliefs around creating everyday magic. She discusses the upcoming event, SOSI South, which aims to help participants live a charmed life. Tonya believes that this kind of life is available to everyone with certain skills and shifts in mindset. She encourages listeners to attend the event and spend two and a half days focusing on their charmed life and learning how to create and experience it.
Show Details:
02:24 Creating everyday magic.
17:15 Creating a charmed life.
37:11 Fearless creativity..
43:39 The soirees.
46:26 Slowing down for a charmed life.
50:01 Deciding your intentio
53:15 You are the magic.
Quotes:
03:04 - "And the other is as though everything is a miracle."
34:06 - "I am the magic."
34:38 - "My life is way more magical when I put this away and I get into life and I experience it."
39:30 - "You're going to fascinate the world when you start fascinating yourself."
41:37 - "And I've never seen such energy and support and celebration of one another as I do within the School of Self-Image community."
44:25 - "And remember, a charmed life requires that you stop waiting and you step into the magic of new experiences."
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The Responsible Hedonist: Balancing Pleasure and Responsibility
In this episode of the School of Self-Image podcast, host Tonya Leigh explores the philosophy of hedonism and how it can be practiced responsibly. She discusses the importance of prioritizing pleasure and happiness in life, while also being ethical and making choices that positively impact the world. Tonya shares her personal experience of being accused of being a hedonist and how she embraces it as a compliment. Despite growing up in a culture that viewed pleasure as sinful, she believes in finding a balance and maximizing life's pleasures. Tune in to learn how to be a responsible hedonist and create a better, brighter, and more fulfilling life.
Episode Breakdown
02:51 Responsible hedonism.
07:34 Ultimate pain of unfulfilled potential.
10:26 Responsible hedonism.
14:11 Hedonistic budgeting.
20:58 Ultimate hedonism.
22:46 Your charmed life awaits.
Quotes:
02:46 - "But I also consider myself a responsible hedonist."
04:13 - "So many people have confused true pleasure, which is what I teach within the School of Self-Image, with escaping their lives."
07:34 - "That is at the end of your life, on your deathbed, looking back and realizing that you lived maybe 5% or maybe even less of what your potential held."
15:11 - "Allocating your pleasures wisely ensures the steady stream of joy throughout your life rather than a one-time explosion of happiness."
17:14 - "What I can tell you is that the more I savor my life, the more I enjoy it, the more I am present in it, the better my life gets."
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In this unscripted episode, Tonya opens up about her resistance to recording a very personal podcast. She discusses her journey of getting back to her roots and the challenges she has faced along the way. Tune in to join her as she shares her experience and reflects on the importance of embracing the unscripted moments in life.
Episode Details:
01:36 Moving back home and personal experience.
06:39 A wild time in my life.
09:29 Search for identity and purpose.
13:55 Returning to my roots.
19:22 Sense of community and longevity.
24:26 Southern culture and alignment.
28:08 Getting back to our roots.
32:38 A charmed life.
Quotes:
"Maybe some of you are listening to this and you're thinking, I want to get away from this place as far as I can."
"We set off and we try on different things and we go on this great adventure, all trying to figure it out."
"I think when you are being true to yourself when you're being honest about what you desire; when you are not trying to follow everybody else, but you're listening to your own internal wisdom, I think that is always, always progression."
"But what's crazy is I'm coming back as a new version of myself."
"I have built a monster. I'm not happy. I want to burn it down."
"I believe that our roots will always help us grow."
"You know, when I think about Southern Charm, I think about taking the time to appreciate the little moments, the morning coffee, the smile from a stranger."
"Your nine-year-old self will raise a flute to you one day and say, well done, darling."
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Creating Your Couture Life: The Power of Dream Fittings!
In this episode, Tonya Leigh discusses the concept of a "couture life" custom-made to fit our souls. She introduces the idea of "dream fittings" and emphasizes the importance of pursuing our dreams.
Tonya also discusses the significance of working on one's identity and self-image. She points out that many people neglect this aspect of personal development, which can lead to feeling stuck and self-sabotage. By not working on our identity, individuals may struggle to create the life they truly want.
Tonya emphasizes the need to prioritize this aspect of personal development encourages listeners to explore their true desires and aspirations and explores the importance of tangible experiences, trying things on to test out dreams and goals. She encourages individuals to actively engage in real-world situations to gain a better understanding of what truly aligns with their passions and values. Enjoy this insightful 'Dream Fittings' episode
Episode Details:
02:26 Appreciating the ordinary.
05:58 A couture life.
09:23 Fear of failure and confidence.
13:48 Finding a fitting dream.
8:00 Dream fittings and exploration.
20:31 Blessings in disguise.
30:47 Join to learn more.
Quotes:
"Because when you really appreciate the ordinary, that's when it becomes extraordinary."
"It's why so many people sabotage themselves because they don't work on the number one thing that is determining the quality of their life."
"It's believing that no matter what's going to happen, you're going to be okay."
"I'm someone who's willing to fail."
"You're so afraid of being called flighty or flaky that you're not willing to experiment."
"You're going to have to go out there and try it on."
"Testing your dreams out in little ways to see how they fit is the key to living a couture life."
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Handling Fear with Confidence
In this episode, host Tonya Leigh discusses the topic of fear and how it is something that we will always experience to some degree. She emphasizes that being fearless is not realistic, but instead suggests that we can approach fear with style and grace. Tonya shares her insights on different types of fears, from normal fears to phobias, fear of failure, fear of rejection, and existential fears. She encourages her listeners to embrace their fears and find ways to navigate through them. This episode is part of Tonya's "Week of Calm" series and offers valuable insights on fear and personal development. Join Tonya as she shares her wisdom on how to do fear in style.
Episode breakdown:
00:01:41 Fear of failure.
00:05:13 Overcoming fear and limitations.
00:09:39 Not being afraid of fear.
00:15:58 Style and dealing with fear.
00:19:30 Alter egos and power poses.
00:22:23 Courage through fashion.
Quotes:
00:20 - "I believe if we're going to do fear, we can do it in style."
03:36 - "It's really unfortunate that they don't teach us how to navigate fear when we're in elementary school."
09:49 - "I look fear in the eye and I say to it, I'm not backing down. Let's go."
11:53 - "When you reprogram your identity to be a match for what you want, what you want starts seeking you in return."
16:08 - "Style has actually helped me to not be afraid of being afraid and to deal with fear."
16:48 - "If I'm going to be afraid, I want to do it with some swagger."
21:19 - "I deserve to be seen."
24:02 - "Figuring out what style of clothing and what color of clothing helps you to feel confident and courageous can help you not be afraid of being afraid."
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Finding Calm in a Stressful World
In this episode, Tonya Leigh discusses the importance of chilling out and finding relaxation in our lives. She shares her personal experiences with anxiety and the tendency to be intense and controlling. Tonya explores whether this mindset serves us and if we want to change it. She also touches on a conversation she had with Sarah and her boyfriend about anxiety and how it can push us forward. Tune in to learn more about finding calm and enjoying life.
Episode Details:
3:32 How to chill out.
06:37 Learning to chill out.
11:00 Technology and relaxation.
13:11 Body conditioning and self-image.
20:28 Chilling out and productivity.
23:10 Can I be competitive and chill at the same time?
26:27 Not chill in the passenger seat.
31:10 Monitoring and questioning assumptions.
34:49 Healthy lifestyle choices.
Quotes:
"Anxiety keeps me going."
"I was running from the fear of not being able to take care of my daughter."
"I'm blown away by how this is the missing piece that I just did not understand."
"Can I be competitive and chill at the same time?"
"I want to practice being a Federer, not a McEnroe."
"Even at the end, I'm going to be right there with you going nowhere and just giving myself so much love and compassion and reminding myself in this moment, I am OK."
"Did they increase your negative tension or did they inspire you to take a deep breath and to chill out?"
"One is there is no hurry because usually when I'm stressed, my brain wants to freak me out, tell me I need to hurry, hurry, hurry."
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Conscious Consumption: How Your Choices Impact Your Life
In this episode of the School of Self-Image podcast, host Tonya Leigh discusses the importance of conscious consumption. She prompts listeners to reflect on what they have consumed throughout the day and its impact on their lives. Tonya also introduces the upcoming "Week of Calm" workshop and shares her experience of finding calm amidst the chaos of the COVID-19 pandemic. Tune in to learn more about the power of conscious consumption and how it can positively shape your life.
What Tonya covers in this episode:
01:04 Week of Calm.
07:05 Conscious consumption.
09:22 Self-image and reference group.
15:11 Consuming sexy foods.
18:38 Letting go of consumption.
Quotes:
What have you consumed today? From the books you've read to the people you've hung out with to the music you've listened to, and even to the food that you've ingested. I want you to think about the impact that those consumptions are having on your life. Are you consuming consciously?
If it's meant to be it's up to me.
If you want to change your life one of the quickest and fastest ways to do it is to start consciously consuming what you want to become.
I put myself in certain environments that instantly shook me up to potential new perspectives and new ways of thinking and therefore fast-tracked my growth and my experience in those areas.
Do you want to become that thing that you're consuming? Because if you don't, you need to stop consuming it.
A beautiful life has more to do with what you subtract than what you add.
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In this week's episode, Tonya shares her own challenges she is currently facing around understanding and overcoming emotional reactions, or triggers, and how we can get untriggered.
Tonya discusses the concept of feeling triggered and how to become unbothered by external events and emphasizes the importance of emotional resilience. She also announces the upcoming "Week of Calm" challenge and encourages listeners to sign up for this transformative experience. Tune in to gain insights on handling emotional triggers and finding inner peace.
The breakdown:
[00:02:27] Being untriggered.
[00:06:20] Reacting to triggers.
[00:09:12] Childhood coping mechanisms.
[00:17:39] Accepting and experiencing human emotions.
[00:18:49] Exploring irrational thoughts.
[00:24:04] Protecting our peace and discomfort.
Quotes:
"It is all about being untriggered, how to protect your peace in any situation."
"Over the past week, I have been triggered several times by someone that I love deeply."
"His reaction and what he learned to do from a very young age is fight."
"What part of you needs to step up and claim your power?"
"I am a human being having a human emotion right now. And this emotion is here to teach me something."
"I'm going to experience this emotion that I'm having with so much love and so much compassion."
"At the end of the day, I really do think that we all just want to be loved. We just want to be loved, to be understood, and to be respected."
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In the episode, host Tonya Leigh discusses the overwhelming nature of the world's constant expansion, particularly in terms of technology and information. She explains that this constant exposure can overwhelm our nervous systems, leading to feelings of chaos and anxiety. Tonya emphasizes the importance of having specific strategies and techniques to calm our nervous systems in order to avoid creating health issues. Without these strategies, it can be difficult to create what we want in our lives. Rather than labeling herself as an anxious person, Tonya reframes it as being a woman who sometimes experiences anxiety and believes that anxiety can serve a purpose in our lives.
Overall, the episode emphasizes the idea that anxiety can be embraced and used as a tool for personal growth and self-discovery. By reframing our relationship with anxiety and viewing it as a normal part of life, we can learn valuable lessons about ourselves and harness its potential for positive change.
Tonya also shares a list of things that bring her joy, emphasizing the importance of appreciating what we already have. Despite experiencing anxiety, Tonya reminds listeners that they are not alone. She also shares an exciting announcement about her work called 'A Week of Calm' which helps thousands of people create more calm in their lives. Tune in to find out more about Tonya's journey with anxiety and how she finds joy amidst it all.
In this episode:
00:01:35 Anxiety is a common experience.
00:09:45 Embrace and make peace with anxiety.
00:12:37 Embrace and accept your anxiety.
00:20:05 Movement and self-care reduce anxiety.
00:28:36 Romance and embrace your anxiety.
00:32:03 Choose calm for transformative resilience.
Quotes:
"If you want to worry less and create more, if you want to stop spending your time fearing the worst-case scenario and feeling paralyzed by your fear, then you want to join us for the week of calm."
"I needed to surrender to it. I needed to fall into the mystery of it."
"And the moment I just embrace my anxiety and not try to change it, it starts to dissipate. It doesn't have that big of a grip on me."
"I can do amazing things with anxiety."
"You will unlock a superpower that empowers you to build an extraordinary life that you love."
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Overcoming Appearance Obstacles: Transforming Your Self-Image
In this episode of the School of Self-Image podcast, host Tonya Leigh discusses how to overcome appearance obstacles. She emphasizes that appearance obstacles are actually thinking obstacles and shares insights on how our thoughts about our appearance can hold us back from feeling confident and achieving our goals. Tune in to learn how to shift your mindset and embrace the beauty within yourself.
In this episode, Tonya discusses:
[00:01:38] Overcoming appearance obstacles.
[00:06:14] Aging online is a real thing.
[00:09:20] Happiness.
[00:16:28] Changing physical appearance.
[00:19:11] Embracing aging and societal expectations.
[00:23:34] Valuing inner beauty over appearance.
[00:29:19] Appreciating natural beauty with age.
[00:31:31] Struggles with appearance in today's world.
Quotes:
"The true key to happiness is changing your inner world."
"The way I approach this is I think about what can I change and what can't I change?"
"What is for myself and what am I doing to meet societal and external expectations?"
"It's the whole package. And yet we spend so much of our lives just focusing on the shell versus what the shell houses."
"I was looking at my face in the mirror and I could hear that little voice saying, oh, my God, look at the neck. Look at those extra lines around your eyes. Like I could hear that. But there was this other voice of like, oh, my goodness, look at you."
"Because if you don't change what's going on inside, what's outside will never matter."
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In this episode, Tonya Leigh explores the topic of self-forgiveness and how it can lead to a beautiful life. She shares a powerful quote by Doreen Virtue that encourages listeners to forgive themselves for past actions or decisions.
Tonya discusses the importance of extending grace, love, and compassion to oneself and offers guidance on how to forgive. If you're struggling with self-forgiveness, this episode is for you.
Don't miss out on the opportunity to let go of shame, guilt, and regret and embrace a more positive and self-loving mindset.
The takeaways:
[00:03:47] Withholding forgiveness from ourselves.
[00:07:00] Self-forgiveness and personal growth.
[00:11:14] Acceptance and taking responsibility.
[00:13:36] Forgiveness and self-growth.
[00:19:36] Unconditional love for ourselves. [
00:24:12] The renewal stage.
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Quotes:
"I came across this quote by Doreen Virtue that caused me to consider that self-forgiveness is the answer to a beautiful life."
"But it's also hard to just go to, I forgive myself."
"I love what Byron Katie says, to argue with reality is to argue with God and you only lose 100% of the time."
"Forgiveness is saying, I forgive you for being a human."
"The people who have a hard time forgiving you are the same people that have a hard time forgiving themselves."
"No one wins by you withholding forgiveness for yourself and for other people."
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In this episode, host Tonya Leigh shares the power of changing our past and introduces the concept of how our perception of our past can greatly impact our present and future. Tanya reflects on her experience in the Bay Area and how she had to adjust her expectations of the weather. She also discusses her fiancé, Fonz, and his remarkable perspective on his difficult childhood. Despite facing challenges growing up, Fonz sees his past as a grand adventure.
By adopting this mindset and storytelling of our future selves, we can build confidence and become unstoppable. This episode highlights that it is the story we have about events from our past that holds us back, not the events themselves. We possess the power to change our story, which in turn can change our perception of the past. By reframing our past experiences in a positive and empowering light, we can overcome fear, lack of confidence, and other obstacles that may impede us from pursuing our dreams.
Tune in to learn how shifting our perception of our past can transform our lives.
The details:
[00:02:08] Fonz's unique childhood perspective.
[00:07:20] Shame and fear holding back.
[00:10:01] Changing your past.
[00:14:00] Personal transformation and empowerment.
Quotes:
"He talks about how at five years old, how he would just go around the city by himself on the bus and all of the interesting characters that he would meet. He learned to hustle from a very young age and all of the amazing lessons that he learned on the streets and how that experience shaped him in a positive way."
"You can change the past by changing the story."
"The story is where you are giving away your power because everybody can agree that she's going to be disrespected."
"Say goodbye to the self that's holding you back and hello to the new you."
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In this episode, host Tonya Leigh explores the concept of worthiness and how it can impact our lives. She discusses the importance of recognizing our own value and how it relates to bringing value to the world. Tonya shares personal experiences and insights on making the decision to see oneself as worthy, emphasizing that worthiness is not something that needs to be earned. Tune in to learn more about the "worthy decision" and how it can lead to a life of deep satisfaction and well-being.
The details:
[00:02:27] Being worthy and self-value.
[00:06:03] Your spending habits change.
[00:10:09] A worthy decision.
[00:13:49] Pay attention to your desires.
Quotes:
"It was really a decision of seeing myself as worthy."
"When you see yourself as worthy; when you see yourself as having nothing to prove, that's when the magic happens."
"Things can't make you worthy or make you less worthy."
"You're worthy enough to ride in that beautiful car and to pull up in style."
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Enclosed cognition is the idea that the clothes we wear can influence our thoughts, emotions, and behavior by triggering certain associations and expectations that we have with those clothes. By using clothing to create associations and shape our self-image, we can influence how we see ourselves, think, feel, and behave. This can also impact how others perceive us and the narrative that is built around us. Changing our style can lead to significant changes in our lives, as it is all interconnected. Therefore, it is important to ask ourselves what emotions and beliefs we want to cultivate about ourselves and choose our clothes accordingly. This concept is a core pillar within the school of self-image.
In this podcast episode, Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh, discusses how we can control the narrative of how we want to be perceived through our clothing and style choices.
Enclosed cognition suggests that our clothes can trigger certain associations and expectations. By choosing clothes that align with our desired self-image, we can cultivate beliefs about ourselves and behave accordingly. Tonya emphasizes the importance of making associations between ourselves and our clothes first, before considering how others may perceive us. She also shares personal experiences of how her style choices have led people to associate her with certain places or qualities. This episode highlights the power of using clothing to transform our self-image and behavior.
Timestamps:
[00:01:40] Enclosed cognition and clothing.
[00:05:11] Personal style.
[00:07:18] Clothing shapes self-image and perception.
[00:10:55] Power of clothing associations.
Quotes:
"This concept suggests that the clothes we wear affect our thoughts, our emotions and behavior by triggering certain associations and expectations that we have with those clothes."
"It's about an emotional journey."
"You can shape how the world sees you."
"When a woman changes her style, she changes her life because it's all connected."
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In this episode of the "School of Self-Image" podcast, host Tonya Leigh talks about how to get out of a life rut. She shares common signs that you may be in a rut, such as lacking energy and feeling stuck. Tonya also advises listeners to seek professional help if they suspect they may be dealing with depression. The episode aims to provide guidance and inspiration for listeners who feel like they are stuck in a repetitive cycle and want to break free to live a more fulfilling life.
[00:02:57] Comfort zone and fear.
[00:04:32] Being in a rut.
[00:09:16] Life Ruts and Getting Unstuck.
[00:13:48] Life Ruts and Introspection.
[00:19:44] Making Bold Moves.
[00:27:59] Shaking up your mind.
[00:32:07] Choosing an extraordinary goal.
Quotes:
"There is no comfort in a comfortable life. How ironic is that?"
"Acceptance is the first step to change."
"You are a human being having a human moment when you are in a life rut."
"Do not underestimate the power of style and changing your self-image and helping you get out of a life rut."
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In this episode, Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh emphasizes the importance of shaping our surroundings to change our thoughts and self-image. She believes that merely thinking our way to a better life is not enough because there are too many factors involved, such as triggers and trauma. Therefore, she encourages her listeners to change their surroundings to give themselves a fighting chance. This includes changing what we see in the mirror every day, as the reflection tells us a story about ourselves.
Tonya discusses the five signs that it's time for a closet cleanse. The first sign is that you have a closet full of clothes, but nothing to wear. This means that you have a lot of items in your closet, but you don't feel confident or comfortable in any of them. The second sign is that you're holding onto clothes that are outdated or no longer fit your current style. The third sign is that your clothes don't fit properly, either because they're too small or too big. The fourth sign is that you have evolved as a person, but your closet hasn't kept up with your changes. This means that you may have different style preferences or body shape than you did in the past. The fifth and final sign is that you feel overwhelmed or stressed when you look in your closet. This could be because you have too many options or because you don't have a clear sense of what you want your style to be. Overall, the host emphasizes the importance of regularly cleansing your closet to ensure that you have a wardrobe that reflects your current style and makes you feel confident and comfortable.
Furthermore, the host discusses the dangers of going unconscious and overstuffing our closets. She compares it to overeating to soothe ourselves and buy more to solve our problems. When we don't stop and assess our habits and behaviors, we can accumulate so many things that our closets become too full, and we can't find anything. Tonya believes that cleaning out our closets is a symbolic gesture to the universe that we're ready for change and that it's essential to stop and assess our habits and behaviors to avoid overstuffing our closets and our lives.
[00:00:00] Closet Cleanse Signs.
[00:08:45] What Your Closet Says About You.
[00:13:23] Personal style and wardrobe.
[00:18:05] Embracing empty spaces.
[00:25:30] Style for reinventing identity.
[00:27:40] Transforming your self-image.
Quotes:
Because there's nothing healthy about being caught up in a cycle of self-loathing and frustration with your body and really being at war with yourself.
But the question becomes, have you taken time to really get to know yourself? Know yourself on the inside and the outside. I am worthy. I deserve beautiful things. I love taking care of the body I have right now.
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The School of Self-Image's annual membership is currently open for a limited time, and the episode delves into its benefits. Members gain access to various courses, including the newly created SLIM Self-Image program. This program focuses on creating a lasting self-image that supports healthy habits by letting go of what's holding you back. The host and a coach who has successfully used the self-image method to lose weight will teach the program live over eight weeks. Interested individuals can join the annual membership and access the SLIM Self-Image program by visiting schoolofselfimage.com/slim.
The episode's main focus is on using style as a tool to transform one's self-image and ultimately change their identity. Tonya explains that changing how you look at yourself can significantly impact your mindset and overall outlook on life. She encourages listeners to envision how they want to see themselves and how that version of themselves would show up in the world, not just through their style, but also their speech and body language. She shares her own experience of using style to change her identity from a full-time nurse to a successful business owner. She emphasizes that expanding one's self-image can create new possibilities and achieve extraordinary goals. Overall, the episode suggests that transforming one's self-image through mindset, style, and surroundings can be a powerful tool for personal growth and success.
Tonya emphasizes that the word "slim" does not necessarily mean skinny or a certain size, but rather a healthy and confident version of oneself. She also discusses the importance of finding joy and pleasure in life, rather than constantly focusing on dieting and weight loss. Additionally, Tonya mentions that changing one's style and wardrobe can be a helpful tool in reinventing oneself and creating a new identity.
[00:03:51] Becoming a slim woman.
[00:07:57] Using style to reinvent yourself.
[00:09:03] Reinventing Yourself Through Style.
[00:13:07] Changing identity through style.
[00:17:03] Cultivating personal style.
[00:21:17] Creating your ideal identity.
Quotes:
"Our goal is to help you change your identity so that then the results just become effortless."
"I put on something that said, I matter."
"I cannot believe how focusing on this one thing is helping me to skyrocket my self-image."
"Just by upping my athleisure wear, it motivates me."
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Tonya Leigh has set a goal to assist 5,000 women in creating their "after" and documenting the process. She considers the reviews left by listeners on iTunes as a form of "after" because they share how the podcast has impacted their lives. The host expresses gratitude towards the listeners who have left a review and encourages others who have benefited from the podcast to do the same.
In this episode, the concept of be actions versus outcome actions is discussed in detail. Tonya explains that most people struggle to achieve their goals because they focus solely on the outcome they want, rather than the person they need to become to achieve that goal. She emphasizes the importance of focusing on one's identity or "being" rather than just the outcome or "getting." The host gives examples from her own life, such as struggling with weight loss and money, where she would take outcome actions such as going on a diet or trying to work out, but would ultimately sabotage herself and go back to her old state of being. She realized she needed to focus on becoming the person she wanted to become, rather than just achieving the outcome. By focusing on 'be actions', the outcome will become effortless, and once the outcome is achieved, it will be easier to sustain because the person's identity has already changed to match what they want.
By focusing on creating small wins and little bits of evidence every day that she is a fit woman, the host is able to shift her focus from the outcome to her self-image. She creates new neural pathways that confirm her new identity, and as a result, her outcomes change. Tonya emphasizes that changing one's identity is the key to achieving desired outcomes, not the other way around.
[00:02:25] Be actions vs. outcome actions.
[00:05:02] Overcoming limiting beliefs.
[00:08:45] Changing identity for effortless outcome.
Quotes:
When I think about myself having a fit body, then who is she? How does she identify? What is her self-image?
We create our extraordinary goal, which is the outcome that we want. But then we look at who do we need to become to achieve that goal, to achieve that outcome.
The reason why the majority of people struggle in achieving their goals is because they are taking action for an outcome versus taking action for a new state of being.
We focus on changing our identity so that the outcome literally becomes effortless.
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In this episode of the School of Self-Image podcast, Tonta Leigh discusses the "dos and don'ts" of living a charmed life, inspired by a quote from Neil Donald Walsh. She encourages listeners to be the source of charm in the lives of others and to make everyone they touch feel lucky for crossing paths with them. Tanya also shares some anecdotes from her personal life, including hosting family and training for her first pickleball tournament. Finally, she reminds listeners that it's the little things in everyday life that can bring the most joy.
[00:03:35] Living a charmed life.
[00:04:33] The meaning of 'charm'.
[00:06:20] SOSI South.
[00:13:01] Being a Giver, not a taker.
[00:16:51] Impress yourself.
[00:21:13] Stop focusing on the unattractive.
[00:25:03] Don't sweat the small stuff.
[00:29:29] Slowing down for a charmed life.
Quotes:
Charm means the power of giving delight or arousing admiration to achieve something as if by magic.
Life gives to the giver and takes from the taker.
Live to impress yourself.
Another thing to do if you want to live a charmed life is to unplug from the unattractive.
Charm and complaining don't go together.
But the other beautiful thing about slowing down is that you begin to realize that life can only be as beautiful as you make this moment."
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Thinking on Your Life: The Importance of Planning Your Future
In this episode of the School of Self-Image podcast, host Tonya Leigh talks about the importance of setting aside time to think about your life. She emphasizes that planning your life on purpose is necessary in order to bear the fruits of a well-planned life. Tonya encourages listeners to take time to think about their life direction and make plans to change it if necessary. She reflects on the impact of COVID on the world's pace and how it forced people to slow down and be with their own thoughts, which can be scary at times. The episode ends with an invitation for listeners to take time to reflect on their life and make it a priority.
[00:02:05] Time to think during COVID.
[00:07:11] Deep thinking for a better life.
[00:11:00] Creativity and fulfillment.
[00:14:01] Creating thinking time.
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The Impact of Travel on Self-Image: A Conversation with Solo Travel Expert Alessia Tenebruso
In this episode of the School of Self-Image podcast, life coach Tonya Leigh interviews her first video podcast guest, Alessia Tenebruso, owner of "One Girl Travel," a solo travel-focused life coaching company. Alessia shares her experience of how solo travel has changed her self-image and how it can empower women. Tonya and Alessia also discuss the benefits of travel for personal development and creating a positive self-image.
[00:03:18] Travel and self-image impact.
[00:04:07] Solo travel as personal growth.
[00:08:05] Traveling alone safety tips.
[00:11:22] What thoughts you're telling yourself.
[00:15:23] Living life like a vacation.
[00:20:25] Fashion and identity while traveling.
[00:23:46] I am my future self.
[00:27:41] Solo travel forces decisiveness.
[00:29:38] Solo traveling guide.
Quotes:
Even if it's just a weekend away, at a nearby resort or hotel just to give yourself that experience.
When you begin this journey, it's going to be uncomfortable like I'm telling you upfront It will be uncomfortable knowing that going into it and do it anyway.
When I'm traveling that's like when I get to dream and think of what I want and what I don't want. It's a very Reflective time.
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On this episode of the School of Self-Image Podcast with host and Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh, she breaks down her top lessons from growing up in the South. Tonya is back in the South after being away for many years and reflects upon the importance of environment in personal development. With deep gratitude for being back home, she admires the beauty of the trees in Charlotte, North Carolina, and the lessons that served her well growing up in the South.
[00:00:00] Growing Up in the South.
[00:06:33] Don't get too big.
[00:11:20] Never be too busy.
[00:12:54] Balancing goals and relationships.
[00:19:56] Slowing down and being present.
[00:21:44] Living life in a rush.
Quotes:
When I think about my future self she always makes time for her family and friends.
My mom did the best with what she had and she really taught me a beautiful lesson that I didn't realize was so important until later when I noticed that a lot of people around me had a lot of fear around using their best and for me I was like this is just what we do.
There was a level of expectation as to how you treated each other and now I realize it's one of the things that I appreciate about the French culture. I didn't realize it at the time but ma'am and sir come from the French madame and monsieur. There is a level of civility and respect for one another and how you communicate and how you address people, how you talk and I think that is a beautiful thing. Quite honestly, it's missing in a large portion of our society today.
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In this episode of the School of Self-Image, host Tonya Leigh talks about the importance of being sold on oneself and emotional fluency. She challenges the listener to believe in their own value, worth, and capabilities. Tonya emphasizes the need to appreciate where we are now and not fight against it. She also shares about her current workshop, the Royal Treatment Workshop, and the positive feedback she has received from participants. The episode ends with a reminder to focus on where we can reach from where we are now.
[03:13] Self-image and weight loss.
[00:08:04] The Slim Self-Image.
[00:10:13] Emotional fluency.
[00:14:18] Primary emotional language.
[00:17:35] Back to harmony with your self-image.
[00:22:08] Emotional language keeping you stuck.
[00:26:37] Transitional emotions.
Quotes:
One of the most important aspects of self-image is understanding our emotions.
In order to become emotionally fluent, we must practice our new language. We must be willing to feel the discomfort of change and the discomfort of letting go of familiar emotions.
We must believe in ourselves and our abilities to succeed. We must be sold on ourselves.
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In this episode of the School of Self-Image podcast, host Tonya Leigh discusses the value of personal opinions. She starts by encouraging listeners to join the School of Self-Image membership program. She then mentions her own obsessions, including pickleball and the world of style. Tonya talks about how many of us struggle with valuing our own opinions and conforming to society's expectations. She shares tips for building confidence and believing in our own opinions, including understanding our values and setting boundaries. Tonya reminds listeners that their opinions matter and encourages them to speak up and share their unique perspectives with the world.
[00:02:06] Lessons from building a house.
[00:03:48] Valuing our own opinions.
[00:04:38] Women wanting to be saved.
[00:09:28] Being mentally lazy.
[00:13:39] Do this one thing right now.
[00:16:59] Your opinion matters the most.
Quotes:
I am loving learning all the things about color and scale. And it's very similar to styling yourself. It's just taking a lot of those same principles and applying them to your home.
I was thinking about why is it that we don't value our own opinion. Why is it that we ask other people their opinion and value it over our own? And I'm really curious about what you think. What is your opinion about this?
And we began to just be a sponge for everybody else's opinions without being encouraged to come up with our own. And that is exactly why when clients come to me and they'll ask me a question, I will be like, I don't know, you tell me, what do you think?
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"Overcome the Fear of Being Seen: A Guide to Embodying Your Queen Energy".
SUMMARY
Tonya Leigh is a master life coach and the host of the School of Self-Image podcast. In this episode, she is discussing the importance of having the courage to be seen.
Courage is an important quality to cultivate in order to be successful in life. This is why self-image work is so important. It involves seeing yourself as worthy, capable and deserving, and then having the courage to back this up with action. This is why the School of Self-Image is offering a five day workshop, where participants will learn valuable things and will be taught in a new way. It's a great opportunity to bring friends, family and confidants along. During the episode, Ambrose Red Moon's quote about courage is discussed, which states that courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the judgement that something else is more important than fear. This is a useful reminder when it comes to overcoming the fear of being seen, which is a common fear for many people.
In this conversation, Tonya discusses the fear of being seen and the reasons why people may be afraid of this. The fear of judgement, rejection, and failure, as well as cultural norms and trauma that may have been experienced when being seen. Tonya also talks about how the majority of the world is actually rooting for people to be seen, and encourages them to take up space and express themselves. The key takeaway from this conversation is that although it may be scary to be seen, it is worth it to live a full, authentic and bold life.
What We Cover in This Episode:
0:00:00 Stepping Into Your Queen Energy
0:01:50 Overcoming the Fear of Being Seen
0:04:27 Self-Discovery and Awareness
0:06:12 Overcoming Fear and Embracing Your Authentic Self
0:13:23 Reflections on Courage and Self-Judgment
0:15:48 Fear of Being Judged: How to Embrace Courage and Reach Extraordinary Goals"
0:17:39 A Challenge for the Week
Quotes:
Would you rather be like the person who's on stage giving it their all or the person up in the stands criticizing?
Because, let's face it, if you've been fearing being seen for years, maybe even decades, it's not going to go away overnight.
A big life requires that you feel big emotions. So this means that the courage to be seen is not about not fearing it.
To me, the other reason why you may be afraid of being seen is because of cultural norms.
It's a lot of self discovery and awareness and overcoming fear. And one of the common fears that I see when women start to dress differently is that they're so afraid of getting attention because their entire lives, they've dressed to avoid that attention, because attention is scary.
I'm talking about being seen for who you are. Have you ever had that person in your life who just sees you? You know that they see who you really are, and there's so much love and celebration and acceptance of that. It's a beautiful thing.
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"Unleash Your Inner Queen: 3 Crown Jewels of Queen Energy"
SUMMARY
In this episode, Tonya Leigh discusses the three crown jewels of Queen Energy - ways of being and attitudes that create Queen energy. The first crown jewel is taking commitments to oneself seriously. The second crown jewel is self-care. The third crown jewel is that of an attitude of acceptance.
A queen is someone who takes their commitments to themselves seriously and does not shy away from the discomfort of making changes in order to become a powerful leader of their own life. A queen also has a 'red velvet rope'; they know how to set boundaries and limit access to their life. This can mean saying no to people and events they don't want to participate in. A queen is someone who sets high standards for themselves and respects their own needs and wants. They understand that in order to achieve their goals, they must make sacrifices and push through the discomfort of change.
This conversation is about why it is important to set boundaries for yourself in order to be the queen of your life.
What we cover in this episode:
0:00:00 "The Three Crown Jewels of Queen Energy: Taking Your Commitments to Yourself Seriously"
0:04:05 Building Trust with Yourself
0:07:48 Becoming a Queen: Crown Jewels 1 & 2
0:10:09 "The Power of the Red Velvet Rope: Setting Boundaries and Becoming a Queen of Your Life"
0:14:54 Exploring Queen Energy: Accepting Yourself Fully to Create Results and Feel Better
0:17:12 Accepting Yourself: A Conversation on How to Embrace Your Humanness and Move Forward in Life
0:20:30 "The Three Jewels of Queen Energy: Taking Commitments to Yourself Seriously, Creating Boundaries, and Accepting Yourself Fully"
Quotes:
We have to be willing to have our own backs. And to me, that is the epitome of Queen Energy.
A queen takes her commitments to herself seriously.
Anything that you do that's unfamiliar is difficult. In the beginning, our brain wants to fight the unfamiliar because the brain doesn't trust it. And so part of being a queen, and this is not even one of the crown jewels, but it encompasses all of this, is that you must be willing to feel discomfort in order to change and step up and be the powerful leader of your own life. So that is crown jewel number one.
And every time you make a commitment to yourself and you don't show up for it, you are breaking trust with yourself.
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"Fostering a Positive Public Image Through Developing Self-Image"
SUMMARY
In this episode, host Tonya Leigh discusses the importance of self-image over public image. She is recording from a destination location she has dreamed of visiting for 15 years: The Maldives.
Between snorkeling in an aquarium-like environment every day and playing pickleball with her friends, Tonya is unplugging from technology to enjoy the moment and treat herself like a queen. Inspired and rested, Tonya will be hosting a five-day workshop soon called the Royal Treatment. Stay tuned for more information coming soon.
So what’s the difference between self-image and public image? Aligning the two can create extraordinary results. Self-image refers to how a person perceives and sees themselves, including their thoughts, appearance, personality, and capabilities. Public image, on the other hand, is related to how one is perceived by the external world and is shaped by one's self-image.
This conversation explores self-image, the mental picture you have of yourself, and includes your strengths, weaknesses, and personal characteristics. This is shaped by your experiences, beliefs, and values. Tonya also explores public image, how other people perceive you, and is shaped by your behaviors, actions, and interactions. Although both are important, without a strong self-image, true happiness, and well-being can't be achieved. When working on your public image, it is important to do it in service of who you are becoming, not just to impress others. Doing this work in service of yourself, focusing on your self-image first, will have a positive impact on your public image.
What we cover in this episode:
0:00:00 Guess where I am?
0:01:06 Dreaming of the Maldives and Experiencing the Royal Treatment
0:03:17 Exploring the Difference Between Self Image and Public Image
0:11:44 The Impact of Positive Self Image on Public Image
0:13:43 Aligning Your Self Image with Your Public Image
Quotes:
Without a positive self-image, you are going to suffer. It doesn't matter how great your public image is. If how you see yourself isn't compassionate and loving and kind and positive, it is going to impact your sense of well being, which is why we always have to bring it back to how we see ourselves.
It's so hard to keep up a positive public image when your self-image is so negative.
It's hard to create what you want unless you're willing to change your self-image to allow for that result. So I will always vote for self-image as being more important than public image.
Your public image, on the other hand, refers to how other people perceive you as an individual. It's the external representation that you want to present to others and it's the story that other people have about you and it is shaped by your behaviors, your actions, and the way you interact with other people.
Useful Resources:
FREE Download: Self-Image Manifesto
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Your home is a reflection of the stage or even the state of mind you are in.
Welcome to today’s episode of the ‘School of Self-Image’ Podcast with host and self-image coach, Tonya Leigh, where personal development meets style. This is a go-to podcast for women who desire to transform their self-image so that they can create mind-blowing results in their lives.
Do you agree that your home is a reflection of who you are? Because I strongly believe that your home represents and reveals so much about a person, even their personality. The way you decorate your home, the colors you choose, and the furnishings you choose based on your preferences, speak volumes about you. The things you display such as photographs or mementos that connect to your values and beliefs show what is most important to you. And what about your experiences? Do you travel? Do you cherish those memories and places? Anyone who enters your home will know this instantly depending on what they see. Is your home calm, cluttered, busy, or colorful? What does your home reveal about you?
Over the years of moving from one place to another, I've had so many where I have learned so much about someone just by living for a time in their space. Your home is part of your self-image, even without you knowing it. If you’re curious to know more about what your home reveals about you, head over and listen to this week’s episode!
What I Cover In This Episode:
0:00 - Intro
1:21 - Tips for getting things done
2:15 - What does ‘home mean to you’?
6:05 - How is Tonya Leigh living her life?
10:44 - What is your home saying about you?
14:14 - My top 4 values
15:38 - What is your version of your own ‘ideal wealthy home’?
21:44 - How to be a woman for the future?
23:23 - Reasons why your home is a great reflection of who you are
Quotes:
“I often say your inner world creates your outer world. So, how you think and feel impacts the choices that you make, and those choices create results equal to your outer world. Everything that's around your environment, your home, the people you hang out with impact your inner world.”
“I'm a big advocate of changing your outer world to help you change your inner one. One of the ways that we can do that is to focus on elevating, transforming, and possibly even changing our home ~ the place that we live because our home reveals so much about us.”
“When we're looking at our homes, it tells a big meta-story about us. It can tell us our fears. It can tell us about our darkest secrets. It can tell us about our personality, and our dreams. Our house can reveal so much. It also offers us a snapshot of what's going on within us at this moment.”
“I look around at the things that I've chosen to have. Over the next year as we live here, it's actually really telling. That's the beauty of a home. It will reveal to you what's important. It will reveal to you what your values are. It will reveal to you maybe even your dreams and your fears.”
“No matter the state of your home right now, you are an amazing, beautiful woman. So what your home is revealing about you is simply your thought and about your environment, because at the end of the day, that's our whole experience, what we think about everything.”
Useful Resources:
FREE Download: Self-Image Manifesto
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Overcome Superwoman Syndrome: Prioritize, Say No and Get Help
SUMMARY
This episode is dedicated to all the superwomen out there who are trying to do it all and be it all. Host Tonya Leigh explains how many women find themselves in the predicament of trying to fulfill multiple roles such as being a career woman, mother, wife, friend, daughter and more while also trying to maintain high standards in each role. This is referred to as the Superwoman Syndrome, a term coined in the 1980s by Dr. Marjorie Hansen Chavez in her book The Superwoman Syndrome. Women may feel guilty or ashamed if they cannot meet their own expectations and feel like they need to do and be everything to everyone.
The Superwoman Syndrome is a condition which leads to burnout, stress, and other negative health outcomes. People afflicted with the syndrome are not prioritizing their self care, playing, or resting, as they are too busy trying to live up to the expectations of others. To get out of the toxic cycle of the Superwoman Syndrome, one must understand the root of the fear and deal with it.
Additionally, they must be willing to say no to things that are not important to them in order to help them focus on their most important priorities. Finally, they must acknowledge that this may mean disappointing some people, but it is necessary in order to take control of one's life.
Here is what we cover in this episode:
0:00:00 Exploring the Superwoman Syndrome: A Conversation with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh
0:02:54 Understanding the Causes and Consequences of Superwoman Syndrome
0:04:34 Facing the Fear of Not Being Good Enough
0:09:25 Prioritizing and Saying No
0:13:37 Self Care, Saying No, and Being Imperfect
0:15:38 Tips for Entrepreneurs
0:17:57 The Benefits of Hiring Help: Taking Advantage of Available Resources
Quotes:
There's a thing where you can get a dog sitter. There are all these amazing apps with help at your fingertips, and yet a lot of you refuse to take advantage of it. Why? Why aren't you getting the help that you need?
To overcome superwoman syndrome, you're going to have to be willing to be imperfect and to realize that it's a beautiful thing. Because that means you've accepted yourself as you are. And you're showing up in your most expansive self. And expansive does not mean perfect. Expansive means true.
I'm not good enough, and I'm afraid of being found out. So let me put on this facade and pretend that I am perfect. This is what superwomen do.
Even when you make mistakes, even when you fail, even when it's not all buttoned up and buttoned up and tidy, you're still extraordinary. You're still amazing.
Let me tell you all, resentment is a telltale sign that you may be suffering from Superwoman Syndrome. So pay attention if you're feeling resentful or angry or frustrated on a daily basis. Those are three emotions that often indicate that you have this syndrome.
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"Unlock Your Potential With A Pain Push - Your Guide To Personal Development Through Style & Self-Image"
SUMMARY
In this episode of The School of Self-Image, the host Tonya Leigh talks about the concept of a pain push, which is a way of motivating yourself to take action and achieve your goals, even when you feel like you're sabotaging your own efforts. She explains that it's important to recognize what your pain points are, and use them as your motivators.
In this conversation, Tonya reflects on a moment in her life when she hit rock bottom and was fed up with her own behavior. She calls it a pain push and views it as a blessing in disguise that was the catalyst to make big changes in her life.
TIMESTAMPS
0:00:01 Episode #1: Harnessing the Power of a Pain Push to Take Action and Achieve Your Goals
0:02:15 "The Power of Being Fed Up: How Pain Can Be a Catalyst for Change"
0:06:03 Reflection on Rock Bottom Moment: A Catalyst for Change
0:08:26 Heading: Exploring the Concept of Pain Pushes Before the Pain
0:10:38 Using Pain as a Motivator: How to Get Moving Towards Your Goals
0:15:17 Exploring the Use of Pain as a Motivator for Change
0:17:05 "Using Pain to Push Yourself Towards Your Goals"
Quotes:
So maybe you want to visualize the pain. If you continue to do what you're currently doing, that's causing you to create results that are painful, that's causing you not to live the life that you know you're here to live and allow yourself to sit in that for a moment.
You have a brilliance within you and I'm simply here to help you figure out what that is.
You can think about something and the brain's like, oh, we're in trouble just from visualizing it and thinking about it. And so knowing this, how can you visualize pain in a way to inspire you to take action?
Sometimes, my friends, it takes a good old pain push to get you going.
Useful Resources:
FREE Download: Self-Image Manifesto
Style Experience: schoolofselfimage.com/styleexperience
Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh:
Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh/?hl=en
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC1RNNnPWpxvq7y7jK5rlOmQ
Summary:
What is your minimum style standard? If you don’t know yet, this is the perfect episode ofor you. Setting a standard for yourself in so many areas of your life is important, including your style standard. Maybe it is lip gloss and mascara before leaving the house, or never wearing sweats. One of mine is, spoiler alert, hoodies. Hoodies are great and many women can really rock a great hoodie. But they just are not my style nor part of my style standard.
Style standards vary widely depending on a number of factors such as cultural norms, personal preferences, and current fashion trends. But your everyday style standard is focused on your expression of YOU. Styling what you wear helps boost confidence and a positive self-image. You want someone to see you, and your style, and know it expresses your unique authentic self. This is the very reason why I emphasize style and I advocate it.
If you’re curious to know more about how you can start elevating your style standards, be sure to check out The Style Experience with me while you listen to this week’s episode!
What I Cover In This Episode:
0:00 - Intro
0:30 - Little things that count
1:25 - How do I decide what to wear
3:07 - What are my style standards?
3:57 - The importance of consistency
5:09 - The impact of your “I am” statements
6:11 - How to create your style standards
8:34 - How to raise your style standards
9:27 - How style is essential in boosting your confidence and self-respect
12:09 - Reasons why you should consider having your style standards
15:53 - How to define your purpose
Quotes:
“We can use our style and our environment to help us create new feelings. Which is why I'm an advocate of changing our environments. I'm an advocate of changing our style. I'm an advocate of taking action to shake things up. Because it gives you new perspectives. It allows you to access new thoughts. And it's a quick and easy way to shift the energy at the moment.”
“Do you have a set of operating principles that you live by that make it easy to make decisions in terms of how you dress, how you carry yourself, or how you communicate? These sets of operating principles also help you to see yourself in a way that serves you. They help you to elevate your self-image.”
“What my standard is may not be your standard. That's the point of style. Style is to be original to figure out who you want to be and to express that on purpose.”
“So stop being lazy, stop looking like a bum, let's get up, get dressed, and put our best self out to the world. But more importantly, put your best self out there for you.
“You can have one outfit, one pair of shoes, one statement necklace, one bold red lip, one haircut, one pantsuit, one pair of jeans, one jacket, but literally can change your life.”
Useful Resources:
FREE Download: Self-Image Manifesto
Enroll now in The Style Experience with Tonya Leigh: https://schoolofselfimage.com/the-style-experience/
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Uncovering The ROI Of Style
In this episode of School of Self-Image, host and Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh, shares insights about the return on investment (ROI) of style. She shares how she has noticed improvements in her physical and mental health since moving to a new environment and how her friend has seen a tenfold increase in her business as a result of investing in style.
Instead of spending a lot of money on expensive clothing to appear wealthy, the ROI of true style is emotional. It will make the wearer feel abundant, confident, powerful, and great in their own skin. The conversation also discusses how investing in designer items, such as a handbag, can help change the wearer's self-image. It can provide evidence for what they want to believe about themselves and be life-changing. The speaker suggests that action alone isn't enough and that the action needs to be taken with purpose in order to change thoughts about oneself. Finally, the conversation wraps up by discussing how feeling better, more confident, and more empowered will also have an emotional ROI.
What I cover in this episode:
0:00:01
"Exploring the ROI of Style: A Conversation with Tanya Lee"
0:06:32
Exploring the Impact of Style on Our Lives
0:09:44
"The Importance of Taking Care of Yourself: How Our Appearance Affects Our Perception"
0:11:25
The ROI of True Style: Leveraging the Brain to Get a Return and Make Our Lives Better
0:17:26
"The Power of Intentional Dressing: How Investing in Your Style Can Lead to Financial and Emotional Returns"
0:19:48
"The Power of Style: How to Use Attention to Your Advantage"
0:24:11
The Power of Professional Style: How to Elevate Your First Impression and Increase Your Net Worth
0:26:37
"The Power of Elevating Your Status Through Style"
0:28:45
"The Power of Style: How to Make Lasting Impressions and Transform Your Self-Image"
Quotes:
You are trying to increase your net worth. You're wanting to attract quality men. You're wanting to place yourself in quality environments. And therefore, it's important that you match the energy of that which you want. Style has the ability to help you do that.
The ROI of style also impacts your first impressions and making a great first impression matters.
So the emotional return on not only discovering your style, because that is a sign that you've taken the time to get to know yourself, that you know what you love and what you don't love, but also how you feel when you put an effort.
A Gucci or Chanel handbag isn't going to change your life unless you change how you see yourself.
Useful Resources:
FREE Download: Self-Image Manifesto
Style Experience: schoolofselfimage.com/styleexperience
Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh:
Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh/?hl=en
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC1RNNnPWpxvq7y7jK5rlOmQ
"Dress to Attract: Using Style to Influence Your Life Trajectory"
SUMMARY
In this episode of the School of Self Image, host Tonya Lee reports good news for those who have been following her moving drama. Her things arrived and she is grateful. She shares how her mind can work in funny ways, as she was worried she was scammed after reading forums about people who had been scammed by movers. She encourages her community to focus on what they want and not take on other people's stories to avoid being a mess. In the end, her things arrived, in their completeness.
Tonya Leigg recently took on a six-month no shopping challenge and it was inspired by her realization that often when people make more money, they spin out of control and fill their lives with more and more things. She found that what people are really after is a feeling and that buying things does not necessarily create those feelings. She created a Style Experience program to help women get clear on what they want and how they want to show up in the world. In the program, they will engage in virtual style days, coaching calls, and the Style Lounge where the speaker will provide feedback and inspiration.
Tonya discusses the importance of clothing and the effect that it can have on how one views themselves and how others see them. Everything is energy, and one's clothes are no different. According to the Law of Attraction, people will be attracted to those with similar dress styles. The speaker used to dress in scrubs and sweatpants to hide her body, but she changed when she discovered the Style Experience, which is a luxurious experience that helps people discover their unique style and how to express it.
What we cover in the episode:
0:00:00 Exploring the Power of Self-Image and Style
0:02:45 Reflection on Moving Day: A Conversation with Fonz and My Mom
0:04:15 The Role of Shopping and Clothes in Our Lives
0:09:28 The Impact of Your Clothes on Your Energy and Attraction
0:11:53 Dressing on Purpose: How Clothing Can Impact Your Mental and Emotional Processes"
0:18:11 The Power of Professional Style: How Dressing for Success Can Impact Your Life
0:19:58 Attracting People and Opportunities Through Your Style
HIGHLIGHTS
I was recently on a podcast with my friend Stacey Bayman. She has a great podcast called Make Money as a Life Coach, and she brought me on to talk about the effective style in our lives. And she was sharing about when she needs to write copy for a sales page or for her programs. She will get dressed up to the nines, because the energy that she feels can be felt, in her words, because everything's energy, you all it's all connected.
There's a term called enclosed cognition, and basically it's a psychological phenomenon that looks at the effects of clothing on your mental and emotional processes. And they've done studies, one being that they put students in a lab coat and compared their grades with students who weren't in a lab coat. And the students in the lab coat scored higher on the test. And it's because the association of a lab coat symbolizes intelligence, power, confidence, and how that impacts how you think.
And the same goes for clothes. Your clothes have an energy that impacts how you see yourself. And so on one level, those clothes are calling forth an action from you. And at the same time, it's attracting opportunities and people that are attracted to that energy. So at the end of the day, the clothes impact your energy. They impact how you see yourself, but also it's impacting how other people see you.
So come and join us at the Style Experience. You can go to schoolofselfimage.com/styleexperience and check out all of the details. So today I have a question for you. What are your clothes attracting? And I want you to sit with that question for a moment and really think about it. Because everything is energy. Everything is attracting certain things to it. It's why certain people gather in certain places. There is an energy there that calls like energy towards it.
We're going to be having virtual style days along with coaching calls. We're going to have the Style Lounge, where I'm giving feedback around style and sharing stylish inspiration. And so if you have not checked this out, it's going to be a very high end, luxurious experience where you are going to elevate how you show up in the world. And you are going to discover your unique style and how to express that, not only in how you dress, but in how you carry yourself and what you choose.
Useful Resources:
FREE Download: Self-Image Manifesto
Style Experience: schoolofselfimage.com/styleexperience
Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh:
Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh/?hl=en
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC1RNNnPWpxvq7y7jK5rlOmQ
Are you aware that the #1 reason why people shop is based on emotion? Yes. Emotional shopping is a thing!
Welcome to today’s episode of the ‘School of Self-Image’ Podcast with host and self-image coach, Tonya Leigh, where personal development meets style. This is a go-to podcast for women who desire to transform their self-image so that they can create mind-blowing results in their lives.
Style is my life, so obviously shopping was part of my idently. If you’re listening to this podcast, you know that I’m currently detoxing from shopping. I decided to challenge myself for 6 months. No shopping. Period.
4 months have passed and to tell you honestly, I’m still struggling. I have a bunch of pushback from myself and the people around me. I never really felt the "pressuer" before now. Is it culteral? It is an addiction? Is it a comfort or a way to fit in? I am learning so much from saying no to shopping for six month and learning a lot about myself that I am excited to share. And today, I can finally say that shopping is not everything to me! Yes, you heard that right!
So if you’re up for this challenge and too curious about what it can do in your life, join me and listen to this week’s episode!
What I Cover In This Episode:
0:00 - Intro
0:35 - Life update!
2:30 - Reasons why you should focus on things you have control with
3:20 - What’s God's plan?
3:43 - SOSI: Figuring out what’s working and what’s not for you
7:53 - Takeaway #1: Some of your friends would think you’re crazy.
9:49 - Takeaway #2: Have a plan when you’re experiencing struggles to break a habit.
11:37 - Takeaway #3: Energy is everything.
12:34 - Takeaway #4: The bigger the challenge, the more likely you might fall along the way.
17:01 - Takeaway #5: Some of your spending decisions come from luck and scarcity.
18:31 - Takeaway #6: Keep your why in front of you.
19:38 - Takeaway #7: It feels good to honor your own words and commitment to the future.
21:56 - Takeaway #8: How to separate abundance from spending.
24:15 - Takeaway #9: It gives me time to realize what my future needs are.
25:38 - Takeaway #10: You learn to maximize the things you already have.
26:51 - Takeaway #11: A space for investing and appreciating assets more.
Quotes:
“ … I've remained calm. I'm staying focused. I'm dealing with the things that I can manage and control and letting everything else go because there's nothing I can do about it.”
“When you're in a state of worry, when you're in a state of stress, one of the things that help me is I write everything down that I'm worried about, and I create two lists, on one side, it's my list, and I move things to that side that I can influence, manage, control with my actions.”
“Listen, you all know I love beautiful clothes. I love style. I think the style has the ability to transform your life. However, I also know that we can have excuses and sabotage ourselves in the name of certain things, in the name of style, in the name of money, in the name of whatever.”
“You have to keep your 'why' in front of you.”
“Everybody was shopping, some people were buying things. I was so happy to just look. I did not feel at all. I was missing out. In fact, I felt like I was getting so much because visually I was so just happy. I was also happy knowing, number one, that I was honoring my commitment, even though I saw beautiful things. I was like, ‘Ooh, that looks like me, but not today.’ That felt good just knowing I was honoring my word and my commitment. Then it also felt good to know that I was investing in my future. By not spending money mindlessly, that money is going to exist in my future. Therefore, I'm investing in my future. “
“I think the best way to create your goal is to appreciate where you are right now because that is the energy of your future. You need to be practicing it now. But for me, the abundance that I've been feeling from this no-shopping challenge is about appreciating what I already have.”
Useful Resources:
FREE Download: Self-Image Manifesto
Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh:
Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh/?hl=en
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC1RNNnPWpxvq7y7jK5rlOmQ
“Never underestimate the power of self-love, because loving yourself is an avenue to an extraordinary life.”
Welcome to today’s episode of the ‘School of Self-Image’ Podcast with host and self-image coach, Tonya Leigh, where personal development meets style. This is your go-to podcast for women who desire to transform their self-image so that they can create mind-blowing results in their lives.
A productivity hack is a tip, trick, or technique that can help you work more efficiently and effectively, often by streamlining or simplifying a process or task. These hacks can range from simple tools or apps that help you stay organized, to more complex strategies for managing your time and energy. The reason I’m telling you this is to answer one of the most asked questions I hear: ‘How do you get so much done in your life?’.
First, being productive is part of choosing to live an extraordinary life. Next, having an amazing support system and a schedule is essential. These are probably the obvious ones, but those are not my secret productivity hack. Today I am revealing one secret productivity hack that really works for me. This is the foundation of how I can be extraordinary with all the things I do and all the tasks I juggle.
So if you’re ready to know what it is, be sure to listen to this week’s episode!
What I Cover In This Episode:
0:00: Intro
0:49 - How’s my life in North Carolina living in my suitcase
2:56 - LAST CALL to join The School of Self-Image
3:54 - What’s my secret productivity hack?
5:11 - How to love yourself
5:40 - Thought #1: ‘I am not good enough.’
6:19 - Thought #2: ‘I am behind.’
7:22 - Reasons why you should not turn yourself down
8:59 - The more you speak love with yourself, the more you will be productive
12:18 - How to make yourself a priority
17:26 - The importance of self-love
Quotes:
“Today is your day. You get up and you go love yourself enough to honor your word. And to take care of you. And trust that everything's gonna fall into place.”
“When we treat ourselves lovingly and when we speak kindly to ourselves, then we can get on board with what we really want. That's when we can get so much more done. Let’s blow our minds with what we're capable of achieving, not through self-loathing, but through self-love, self-encouragement, and self-respect. That is how you achieve extraordinary things. That is how you become more productive. So self-love, is how you speak to yourself.”
“To take a step back and make yourself a priority by taking care of yourself.”
“Self-love, this is my secret productivity hack. It's my hack to an extraordinary life in general. I know it may sound woo-woo to say self-love is the answer, but it's true. It's the answer to everything.”
Useful Resources:
An extraordinary life belongs to those who create it!
Welcome to today’s episode of the ‘School of Self-Image’ Podcast with host and self-image coach, Tonya Leigh, where personal development meets style. This a go-to podcast for women who desire to transform their self-image so that they can create mind-blowing results in their lives.
I’m back living in my hometown, North Carolina. Known for its stunning Atlantic coastline and great Smoky Mountains, this is a place that brings me an internal sense of calm in my spirit. This is an extraordinary place. Self-image is so much more than an external, appearance focused goal or conversation. It is about how we feel internally. It is about our inner dialogue and taking time to nurture what makes us truly extraordinary.
No matter where you are on your self-image journey, there are five things you can do to help guide you towards the end result you are committed to, which is to become the very best version of yourself. In this week's episode I share the 5 things you should be thinking and doing to ensure you stay focused and intentional.
Enjoy! Be sure to comment and let me know what you do to help you be the best version of yourself!
What I Cover In This Episode:
0:20 - Reasons why you should join The School of Self-Image
2:24 - How’s waking up in our new home in Charlotte, North Carolina
4:32 - Let’s define the word ‘extraordinary’
7:21 - 5 ways to create an extraordinary life
7:32 - Way #1: You must choose extraordinary goals.
11:54 - Way #2: You must think in extraordinary ways.
15:45 - Way #3: You must be willing to feel extraordinary emotions.
18:22 - Way #4: You must have extraordinary style.
20:41 - Way #5: You must place yourself in extraordinary surroundings.
23:29 - Perks of joining the community of extraordinary women
Quotes:
“I decided to tap into my own extraordinaryity because at the end of the day, we're all just ordinary people who choose to be extraordinary or we choose not.”
“...to be extraordinary, it's about constantly pushing the limit of your self-image. And therefore pushing the limit of what's possible for you.”
“Let's decide that we're gonna choose extraordinary goals. Goals that demand a new version of us, goals that excite us and scare us all at the same time. Goals that are remarkable and out of the ordinary.”
“Style isn't just about what you wear. Style is how you communicate, how you treat other people, and how you express what is on the inside to the outside.”
Useful Resources:
Are you gonna feed your past or feed your future?
Welcome to today’s episode of the ‘School of Self-Image’ Podcast with host and self-image coach, Tonya Leigh, where personal development meets style. This a go-to podcast for women who desire to transform their self-image so that they can create mind-blowing results in their lives.
Let’s first define habits! Habits are the small actions you make and the actions you do every day. As we reflect on the past year and set goals for 2023, it works hand-in-hand with change like ~ How can you make yourself better? How can you achieve greater heights? How can you be the best possible you? Bottomline is, people try to crack bad habits and to be the better version of themselves.
In life, it’s actually part of nature. People are capable to make decisions and perform actions. Well, that’s a fact. And I admit, I had bad habits. I can proudly say that I’m not away from all that. I’m not an exemption because it’s part of the process toward a better life. Until I helped myself to stand out and succeed. The very reason I created discovered my own self-image. The good news is, you can do it too by joining The School of Self-Image today!
What I Cover In This Episode:
0:45 - LIFE UPDATE: I’m leaving Colorado for good!
1:50 - How can self-image work for you
6:01 - Habits define your life
7:48 - How to build good habits and break bad ones
11:31 - The Self-Image Habits
12:51 - Self-Image Habit #1: Speaking kindly to myself
16:57 - Self-Image Habit #2: Practicing the habit of eating until elegant satisfaction
22:20 - Self-Image Habit #3: Getting dressed on purpose every day
26:01 - Self-Image Habit #4: Investing money
29:03 - Self-Image Habit #5: Wearing well-fitted and beautiful lingerie
32:30 - Self-Image Habit #6: Having fresh flowers in my house at all times
Quotes:
“How you see yourself is determining how you show up, what opportunities you say yes to, and what opportunities you attract.”
“Habits are creating your entire life… habits are reflecting your self-image back to you, and your self-image determines your habits.”
“So when you begin to practice habits with the purpose of changing your self-image, don't be shocked when other amazing things begin to happen in the rest of your life because you're gonna start working to prove yourself true.”
“... when you begin to see yourself as that version of you that's in the future, you'll begin to create that future with so much ease and fun and excitement.”
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What’s your ultimate goal for 2023?
Welcome to today’s episode of the ‘School of Self-Image’ Podcast with host and self-image coach, Tonya Leigh, where personal development meets style. This a go-to podcast for women who desire to transform their self-image so that they can create mind-blowing results in their lives.
It’s been my New Year exercise to choose a word for the year. This has been the way to start a fresh and new year. I’m actually doing this for over a decade now, which I’m really proud of.
Imagine one word that would set the tone. A word to focus on. A word that will motivate you to do better. A word to guide you to stand still in times of challenges and doubts. A word that will light up the direction, no matter where you are in the world. A word is a key to achieving your end goals for the year.
So, I’m inviting you to not just listen in this week’s episode but to choose your word for the year and share it with me today!
What I Cover In This Episode:
0:43 - Getting ready for Lunar New Year
1:14 - Reasons why you should choose your word for the year
3:03 - Abundant: My first word of the year
4:10 - I’m torn between two words!
5:28 - What is my word for 2023?
7:45 - The concept of the ‘Be, do have’ model
12:42 - Focus #1: Be extremely mindful of my thoughts and words.
14:23 - Focus #2: Change my working environment.
17:35 - Focus #3: To increase my physical energy.
20:21 - How to create a new version of yourself
Quotes:
“I love a goal because they inform who I need to become in order to reach them. They become my guide to reveal to me what's holding me back, and also to reveal to me my own becoming.”
“Self-image transformation is the study of energetics. We are all a ball of energy, and that energy is attracting certain things and repelling certain things.”
“What you do isn't as important as who you are when you're doing it.”
“When you deeply understand this concept and you apply it to your life, prepare to be delighted. Navigating life without this model will lead you to frustration and hopelessness. As desperately as you want things to be different, you'll keep feeling stuck.”
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Happy 2023!
Welcome to today’s episode of the ‘School of Self-Image’ Podcast with host and self-image coach, Tonya Leigh, where personal development meets style. This a go-to podcast for women who desire to transform their self-image so that they can create mind-blowing results in their lives.
Indeed 2023 is a brand new year to welcome and celebrate at once! This is going to be awesome, not just for you but for all of us. Join me as I turn my visions into action and life ~ and if I can, you can do that too!
Today, let me share something exciting and new, The Self-Image Method. As I strongly believe that your self-image shapes your entire life, the key is to put your desires into action. Now is the best time to stop waiting and start creating!
2023 will become our/ your year, claim it!
What I Cover In This Episode:
0:43 - Happy New Year!
1:22 - My ‘Oh my goodness’ moments
2:02 - The importance of having a schedule
3:27 - Thinking about your life in a magazine
6:06 - Reasons why the Self-Image workshop will be your best investment this year
8:49 - NEW things to watch out for The School of Self-Image this 2023
13:52 - 3 things to focus on
18:58 - The Self-Image Method
22:19 - 5 steps to the Self-Image Method
22:25 - Step #1: To access ~ you must choose one life area to focus on.
23:51 - Step #2: To define ~ you must identify what you want and who you want to become to create it.
27:21 Step #3: To edit ~ you must remove things that aren’t working.
27:57 Step #4: To add ~ you must have a goal and be clear of your after.
29:51 Step #5: To refine ~ you must set the next goal and practice steps 1-4.
Quotes:
“When you’re done, you’re dead.”
“At The School of Self-Image, we focus on transforming how we see ourselves so that we can create lasting results.”
“You get to want whatever you like without apology.”
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Are you ready for 2023?
Welcome to today’s episode of the ‘School of Self-Image’ Podcast with host and self-image coach, Tonya Leigh, where personal development meets style. This is a go-to podcast for women who desire to transform their self-image so that they can create mind-blowing results in their lives.
New Year is one of the biggest celebrations in the world. A time when people are both thankful and hopeful for another year with 12 months, 365 days, 525,600 minutes, and 31,536,000 seconds.
Before we finally kick into 2023, let me share my New Year’s Eve tradition today to keep you more inspired and excited as I do. So make sure to listen to this episode and let’s welcome 2023 with bright thoughts, life celebrations, and open arms!
What I Cover In This Episode:
0:49 - Are you excited about the New Year?
4:58 - Reasons why it's important to celebrate
6:29 - How to welcome 2023
8:11 - #1: Celebrate your wins.
10:28 - #2: Celebrate your regrets and mistakes
18:42 - #3: Celebrate the time ahead.
23:43 - Don’t forget to celebrate everything about 2022 and the year to come, 2023!
Quotes:
“You’re always a work in progress.”
“Mistakes and failures are how you learn…. He wants kids to be comfortable with failure. Because he knew that failure is the process to success.”
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‘Tis the season of giving!
Welcome to today’s episode of the ‘School of Self-Image’ Podcast with host and self-image coach, Tonya Leigh, where personal development meets style. This a go-to podcast for women who desire to transform their self-image so that they can create mind-blowing results in their lives.
Holidays are just around the corner and I can’t wait to celebrate them. But for now, let me give you a gift that can start to change your life!
2022 has been a fantastic year for me and another 365 days will come in. I’m starting to plan out my next year and what I can share for now is that I’m very excited about 2023. How about you? Are you feeling the same excitement as I do? If yes, then I’m happy for you and if not, I got you covered!
Today, I’ll share a gift with you. This is something intangible but for me is the most important and first bold move to make your next year a breakthrough. If you’re ready, then head over to listen to the full episode of this topic.
What I Cover In This Episode:
0:53 - 2021 gift of self-validation
2:40 - The gift of fun
4:08 - Difference between fun as an action from feeling
5:58 - The benefits of having fun
14:29 - The negative impact when you’re not having fun
16:12 - The importance of humor
18:14 - How to create your own flavor of fun
23:20 - Reasons why you prioritize fun in your life
Quotes:
“Fun is not just because fun falls in my lap. I create it. I am it. I love to think thoughts that are fun and exciting.”
“…people love to be around fun people.”
“Having fun is not a diversion from a successful life. It's the pathway to it. I have built this life by not only being the fun but also following the fun.”
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You only live once!
Welcome to today’s episode of the ‘School of Self-Image’ Podcast with host and self-image coach, Tonya Leigh, where personal development meets style. This a go-to podcast for women who desire to transform their self-image so that they can create mind-blowing results in their lives.
Living in the now could be easy for some, but for others is not. So, let me ask you a question ~ When was the last time you try something new? There can be a lot of different ways to answer this. One thing that stands out is if you’ll answer it based on what you think or what you feel.
I know, sometimes life could be good or not-so-good. This can either drive you to stop or keep moving forward. But this can also affect how you are living today. Life is simply life itself for you, for us to live.
As 2022 is nearly bidding goodbye, I’d like to share some of my favorite firsts of the year. I thought of sharing this topic because it might help you get inspired to do further beyond your own limits (or probably what your mind thinks so.)
So, let me challenge you to do more things for the first time in 2023. If you’re up for this challenge, time to listen to today’s episode! And don’t forget to connect with me on Instagram so we can talk more about this!
What I Cover In This Episode:
1:38 - How life is built with your first
3:27 - Why you should NOT stop having first
5:10 - Understanding the fear of the unknown
7:22 - Is it normal to be scared the first time?
9:44 - Never good as the first time
13:02 - How death will be your last first
13:29 - 2023 challenge to have more first
19:19 - How the universe works
31:37 - Defining the future with first
35:26 - The power of first
Quotes:
“Our firsts are what make life so incredible and amazing. It's what grows our character. It's how we learn about the world, it's how we learn about ourselves.”
“Everything ~ your first breath, your first steps, or your first day at school are a collection of your first.”
“You have to be willing to be bitten by life to enjoy the delights of life.”
“... you are never too old for a first.”
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How do you like spending your time alone?
Welcome to today’s episode of the ‘School of Self-Image’ Podcast with host and self-image coach, Tonya Leigh, where personal development meets style. This a go-to podcast for women who desire to transform their self-image so that they can create mind-blowing results in their lives.
Today, I’ll be sharing the key takeaways from the book of Benjamin Hardy, ‘Slipstream Time Hacking.’ It is a self-improvement book that revolves around time, life, mindset, and decisions. Imagine yourself taking control of your life where time is the number one currency and reasons why you should take action.
Time = Money. For Ben, time is the new money. In the book, you will realize the value of time in a very realistic way. Every page has that effect on your life ~ what you do, what you think, and what you know.
So, here I am challenging you to live the life you always wanted to live right now! But before that, listen to this week’s episode to learn ways how to make it possible.
What I Cover In This Episode:
0:37 - 2022 Thanksgiving
2:11 - The concept of slipstream
6:32 - Takeaway #1: Measuring life as distance traveled rather than time elapsed.
10:26 - Takeaway #2: A well-lived life is nothing more than a collection of well-lived days.
15:24 - Decision making: speed VS magnitude
16:34 - Takeaway #3: “Work expands so as to fill the time available for its completion.”- Parkinson's law
18:44 - The story of Tim and Ben
21:40 - Takeaway #4: Change doesn't have to take a long time, it happens the instant we decide.
25:49 - Takeaway #5: Time is our only currency.
30:19 - Takeaway #6: Those who become the greatest and go the farthest are highly selective about what they take on.
31:22 Takeaway #7: Most of us engage in far too many priorities.
32:20 - Takeaway #8: Despite turbulence and other conditions, keeping the plane off course.
34:20: Takeaway #9: True commitment can only occur when turning back is no longer an option.
36:15 - Takeaway #10: When you commit to something a hundred percent, all of your future choices are already made no matter how attractive the circumstances.
36:52 - Takeaway #11: Time is sacred in the first few hours of your day.
37:49 - Takeaway #12: Leveraging other people's time, skills and money are essential for getting where you want to go faster.
39:05 - Takeaway #13: We all have invisible doors and the direct proximity that will transport us decades into our best futures.
40:55 - Takeaway #14: You're bound to fumble along the way.
42: 06: Takeaway #15: When the end of life comes, we leave with nothing but our relationships.
Quotes:
“I set really big goals for myself.”
“If a task is perceived to be unimportant, it will take enormous amounts of time to complete. Conversely, if a task is perceived to be important, it will get done soon. Sometimes immediately depending on how important and urgent the task is.”
“... think about how we're spending our time. Are we spending our time on the things that we really want to be spending it on?”
“Life in general in our world with limitless options, limitless books to read, limitless clothes to wear, a limitless path to take it is extremely important to be picky.”
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It’s the most wonderful time of the year!
Welcome to today’s episode of the ‘School of Self-Image’ Podcast with host and self-image coach, Tonya Leigh, where personal development meets style. This a go-to podcast for women who desire to transform their self-image so that they can create mind-blowing results in their lives.
Indeed, the holiday season is just around the corner as people start to prepare. One of the things to prepare is gifts to give family, friends, colleagues, and more. The list of ideas and names is probably getting longer as the years by, isn’t it? But let me tell you, don’t forget to give yourself a gift too!
If you have no idea of what to give yourself this holiday season, I’ll be sharing my top 5 gifts that I’ve given myself. Honestly, it was really hard to choose just 5 ‘cause I really thought of the best things that I had for the past years and came up with my top 5.
Also, get the first dibs on our upcoming holiday party and more announcements when you listen to today’s episode!
What I Cover In This Episode:
0:44 - How to join our Holiday Party
4:07 - Reasons why you should enroll in The School of Image today
7:02 - The festivities of the holiday season & gift-giving
8:49 - My favorite things I gifted myself
9:28 - Gift #1: Travel
12:12 - Gift #2: Style
16:09 - Gift #3: Wealth
23:01 - How to achieve financial discipline
27:03 - Gift #4: Coaching
30:39 - Gift #5: Wellness
Quotes:
“We are always elevating our environments to allow us to have access to different ideas and thoughts and possibilities that don't exist in our current environment.”
“The gift of self-exploration for the purpose of self-expression ~ the journey of style has been so much deeper than it may seem when I talk about this.”
“Believe it or not, a true style journey will give that to you because before you can express something intentionally, you have to know who you are that's wanting to be expressed.”
“Do you know what they're using their brains for to create wealth? And that's been the ultimate gift of gifting myself with wealth. Learning how to think and be a wealthy woman first, learning how to tune in to me instead of plugging into the world, deciding on purpose what I wanna believe about money, my ability to earn it, manage it and grow it.”
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Go for it!
Welcome to today’s episode of the ‘School of Self-Image’ Podcast with host and self-image coach, Tonya Leigh, where personal development meets style. This a go-to podcast for women who desire to transform their self-image so that they can create mind-blowing results in their lives.
How do you differentiate success from happiness? This happens to be the question I often get to ask myself lately. Your definition today might not be applicable tomorrow or in the next few days. As we try to live in the present, we tend to focus on short-term goals or wants.
Let me break this cycle today by sharing my thoughts about ‘wanting what you have.’ Take time to pause and take a look at the things you already have. This will guide you to having that content and staying away from shiny little things around you.
Join me for another action-packed episode of living life with gratitude, appreciation, and just positive vibes. Wherever you are right now, I wish you a beautiful Thanksgiving, my gorgeous friends!
What I Cover In This Episode:
1:16 - The concept of ‘wanting what you have’
3:20 - Delaying gratification: good or bad?
4:16 - How to live with appreciation
10:48 - My no-spend challenge: I will not buy anything for 6 months!
13:30 - How to practice gratitude
14:20 - Thinking about your future self
Quotes:
“You either have to choose to have big goals in order to be happy, or you have to choose to be happy with where you are right now.”
“Nothing will ever be enough. It’s always us chasing more, more and more.”
“I would love to see gratitude be a lifestyle for all of us.”
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Success has a billion definitions in the world. Time to start yours today!
Welcome to today’s episode of the ‘School of Self-Image’ Podcast with host and self-image coach, Tonya Leigh, where personal development meets style. This a go-to podcast for women who desire to transform their self-image so that they can create mind-blowing results in their lives.
When you search for the word ‘success’ in Google, you’ll end up seeing a million of content such as posts, stories, blogs, videos, and the like. Success is one of the most-used and powerful words across the globe. That’s how success is to people. People aim to achieve it by all means.
For me, it took a while to realize the true definition of success in my life. I was in awe of those shiny objects around me, of people telling me what should I be, and trying to fit myself in society. But here am I, sharing my story as I hope you can start to create your own.
So today, I’m inviting you to listen to this episode as I explore more about success. I’ll share tips on how you can start defining success, winning more in life, and just living who you really are and would want to be!
What I Cover In This Episode:
0:38 - I’m still on a SOSI high!
3:07 - Reasons why you should have your own definition of success
4:12 - How to have that ‘successful mindset’
5:49 - Figuring out success for yourself
8:34 - Best definitions of success
10:12 - How to live your life to the fullest
12:26 - Tips for staying focused on your desired outcomes
17:05 - A step-by-step guide to defining your own success
20:52 - The importance of having the courage
23:47 - How to pursue success with your strengths
29:22 - How to find your gift
31:34 - The benefits of incorporating fun with success
34:30 - How success can help you grow
Quotes:
“ Success is a degree or measure of succeeding, a favorable or desired outcome, and the accomplishment of an aim or a purpose. So just in that definition, it ties with an end outcome.”
“... if you set that goal and you went all in. You grew. You expanded. And you learned to me you are a huge success.”
“Success is having the courage to go for it and having the courage to go for what you want.”
“...success is having fun on the way to your goals.”
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It’s all in the mind!
Welcome to today’s episode of the ‘School of Self-Image’ Podcast with host and self-image coach, Tonya Leigh, where personal development meets style. This a go-to podcast for women who desire to transform their self-image so that they can create mind-blowing results in their lives.
Will you agree if I say love can either be the most beautiful experience or the most painful when being left behind? These kinds of experiences are part of one’s life which is inevitable. It’s in our nature to feel and be part of the process. But at the end of the day, it’s still your choice.
Leaving something (or someone) you love is a situation that most of us have experienced in life, right? As I know the emotions and thoughts might be overflowing, but you really have to decide whether to be stuck where you are or make a stand to move forward with your life.
It all comes back to your choice ~ are you gonna be the same version of yourself forever? Or are you gonna leap yourself up, act smart, and accept the situation for good?
So if you’re unsure yet of which one to choose, listen to find out how you can turn this leaving situation into something positive and bright!
What I Cover In This Episode:
1:34 - How to figure out the reason you’re leaving
4:17 - Why you should start to take responsibility
6:10 - How to know if a person, situation, or experience belongs in your future
8:29 - The importance of having a niche
10:17 - Pointers #1: Don’t second guess yourself
12:26 - Pointers #2: Be ready and be willing to feel the discomfort of leaving
14:29 - Pointers #3: Spend time being grateful for that person or that situation
16:41 - Pointers #4: Make sure to have your own back
17:51 - Pointers #5: Be okay with people being upset and disappointed
18:04 - Pointers #6: Have the time to look toward where you're going
21:24 - What is your greatest act of love
Quotes:
“You are your own answer.”
“Here's the secret, the success is within you. As when you have a successful self-image, you can make any niche work.”
“Just make sure you're leaving for the right reason. You are leaving so that you can grow and evolve and place yourself in expansive environments. You're not leaving to find something outside of you to fix your feelings.”
“You get to decide how you feel no matter where you are. And you can also place yourself in places where it's so much easier to feel the way you want to feel.”
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Want to know what I have learned from recording 300 episodes of my podcast? Listen to this episode3: https://youtu.be/Alr6CdhDWGo
Discover the importance of a style statement here: https://youtu.be/MefUFgIrbjI
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Don’t settle for less. It will always be You VS You!
Welcome to today’s episode of the ‘School of Self-Image’ Podcast with host and self-image coach, Tonya Leigh, where personal development meets style. This a go-to podcast for women who desire to transform their self-image so that they can create mind-blowing results in their lives.
Most of you can resonate that we compare ourselves to others without even knowing it ~ I wish I can achieve so much at an early young age as her. I wish I have a successful career just like her. I wish I can look more radiant as she is. I wish I didn’t settle for less than I deserved. Stop wishing and start doing it for yourself.
I strongly believe that when you set high standards, you can raise your expectation of what’s possible. You begin expecting more from yourself, more from your actions, and more from the people around you.
Setting standards is the topic I want to highlight today. Let me share the importance of having standards in your life, how setting standards high can help boost your self-image, and how to be your ideal woman. This works for me and will definitely work for you too!
So, make sure to grab a pen and paper and start upgrading these five standards immediately. All that and more when you listen to this episode!
What I Cover In This Episode:
0:48 - The importance of having standards in life
2:14 - The definition of a standard of what is considered to be normal or average
5:13 - How to change your self-image
6:56 - #1: Set high self-opinion standards
10:34 - #2: Set your style minimums
14:03 - #3: Set how you should do self-care
16:39 - #4: Set what you feed your mind
19:57 - #5: Set your people standards
Quotes:
“...life does not give you what you want. It gives you what you expect and what you expect is a reflection of your standards.”
“One of the stories that it reinforced for myself is that I shouldn't want for too much.”
“The things around you are affecting you. The things outside of you if you ingest them, become you.”
“As you raise your standards, as you raise what you expect and what's normal for you, the universe will begin to mirror that back to you.”
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Want to know what I have learned from recording 300 episodes of my podcast? Listen to this episode3: https://youtu.be/Alr6CdhDWGo
Discover the importance of a style statement here: https://youtu.be/MefUFgIrbjI
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5 Investments That Have Changed My Self-Image
Summary:
Invest in yourself, it pays the best interest!
Welcome to today’s episode of the ‘School of Self-Image’ Podcast with host and self-image coach, Tonya Leigh, where personal development meets style. This a go-to podcast for women who desire to transform their self-image so that they can create mind-blowing results in their lives.
When I talk about investments, probably your first thought would be about money and getting rich. Yes, it is part of taking a leap but there’s more than that. Investments may come in different forms ~ one of which is investing with yourself.
Investing in yourself should have a positive impact on boosting confidence and self-esteem. As you equip yourself with new knowledge and skills, you gain more focus for your self-development. This is a great opportunity to know yourself better.
So today, let me share some of the best investments that changed my life, and I hope you can learn a thing or two!
What I Cover In This Episode:
1:43 - Why NOW is the best time to invest in yourself
5:01 - How to deal with scarcity
7:29 - Let’s talk about money and investments
10:55 - #1:Invest with coaching
15:16 - #2: Invest with your style
18:17 - #3: Invest with your own space
25:19 - #4: Invest in hiring an assistant
29:13 - #5: Invest in working with a tax and business attorney
33:50 - Join the challenge in The School of Self-Image
Quotes:
“We open up when everyone is afraid. We find our peace when everybody's clinging and hanging on out of fear. We let go out of faith. And I will tell you that way of a being helps us to transcend all that's happening in reality and it helps us to create a new reality.”
“If you're full of scarcity, if you're worried, it's the perfect time to invest in yourself. You are your greatest asset…”
“...some of you may argue that you don't need to make investments to change your thoughts and this is true. You don't need to do anything. You can attempt to do this work without investing time, money, or energy into anything. But without investments in yourself, you will slow your progress and you will make it so much harder.”
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Summary:
Dress to impress!
Welcome to today’s episode of the ‘School of Self-Image’ Podcast by Tonya Leigh, where personal development meets style. This a go-to podcast for women who desire to transform their self-image so that they can create mind-blowing results in their lives.
As a woman, you’re in the main spotlight that’s why you always come prepared. Preparation could mean many things ~ answering questions, sharing ideas and insights about current issues, and dressing up. Today, dressing up is the topic that I want to highlight in this episode.
Here are some scenarios and self-ask questions that I know you can resonate with: “Why don’t I have anything to wear today? Do I have too many clothes? Am I too short to wear flat shoes? Am I too tall for heels? Is this outfit too short for work? Why did this outfit look cute and fine before I left the house, but it looks indecent now that I’m at work and can’t change it? What style will look more of me?”
Let me dive in in answering all these and more! As I will define what luxurious life is and explore boosting your self-confidence, make sure to grab a pen and paper while you listen and learn some tips on how you can start dressing up as a high-value woman!
What I Cover In This Episode:
0:43 - My big decisions in life!
1:42 - The importance of having a support community
2:03 - What it means to live a luxurious life
6:10 - How to use your style to manifest dreams
7:37 - The impact of dressing up
12:05 - Tip #1: Defining what a high-value woman looks like to you.
13:48 - Tip #2: A high-value woman knows her style.
14:59 - My journey of self-discovery
15:41 - Tip #3: Dress to impress yourself.
18:21 - How your journey of style is a self-discovery
19:11 - Tip #4: A high-value woman makes her decisions out of confidence.
21:14 - Tip #5: Dress on purpose.
23:20 - Tip #6: A high-value woman of style chooses quality where it matters.
26:54 - Tip #7: Prioritize grooming.
19:13 - ‘How are you going to dress up this week’ Challenge
30:07 - Tip #8: A high-value woman knows that she is her greatest asset.
Quotes:
“Style is one of those tools I have used to manifest my dreams… It is a very underrated tool within the personal development world, and that's why I wanna talk about it more.”
“Dress the way you want to be addressed.”
“A great style is understanding how to mix high and low.”
“It's about care. It's about intention. It's about respecting yourself, and it's about impressing yourself… That is what it means to show up and dress like a high-value woman.”
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Don’t let your doubts stop you!
Welcome to today’s episode of the ‘School of Self-Image’ Podcast by Tonya Leigh, where personal development meets style. This a go-to podcast for women who desire to transform their self-image so that they can create mind-blowing results in their lives.
With all the happenings in our lives, the focus is a challenge. We tend to live in a world where people are so much into overthinking and what-ifs. To some extent, our doubts are pulling us away from doing what should be done. Doubts strike our confidence and control our thoughts too. Don’t be like this!
Today, I’ll define what doubts and confidence are, give some situations based on my personal experience, and explore ways to turn your doubts into confidence.
So, let’s cut the strings attached to your doubts and join me in my upcoming 5-Day Challenge: Worthy Woman Workshop where you will truly understand the power of your mind and how it can impact your life!
But for now, learn some ways on how you can transition your doubts to become the most confident version of yourself!
What I Cover In This Episode:
0:21 - Why I believe doubt is normal
1:04 - That feeling of ‘doubt’
1:34 - Doubt VS Confidence
4:01 - The importance of having good thoughts
5:44 - What is the right mindset
8:08 - How to become confident
9:19 - Reasons why you should do the opposite
10:03 - ‘I love to doubt my doubt!’
12:42 - Defining your future self-act
17:12 - The positive impact of workout
17:50 - How to dress with confidence
20:44 - Worthy Woman Workshop
Quotes:
“You don't become confident by avoiding the hard things and avoiding the doubt. You become confident by doing the things that the doubt tells you not to do.”
“I had a lot of doubt, but I kept going. I kept doing the things that doubt told me I shouldn't do.”
“ I want you all to know that when you see me, it's not that I don't ever have doubt. I want you to know that probably a lot of what you're feeling, I feel too. It's part of growing, it's part of evolving, and it's part of changing our identities. That's all normal. The difference is I don't let it stop me. I continue to grow and overcome my doubt instead of letting doubt control me.”
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See the beauty within yourself!
Welcome to today’s episode of the ‘School of Image’ Podcast by Tonya Leigh, where personal development meets style. A go-to podcast for women who desire to transform their self-image so that they can create mind-blowing results in their lives.
Admit it, you can’t live the house without looking yourself in the mirror right? Beauty has this sense of power lying deep within us. We are so much conscious of how we look at. We are always eager to try different ways that can us feel more beautiful and confident to face the world. We are always on our phones checking how many likes or hearts your photo has already like it’s a number game.
Today, I’d like to explore what real beauty looks like so that you don’t have to sacrifice your true being and body to achieve those picture-perfect looks. That you can always see the beauty of yourself no matter the circumstances. That you can be just you.
So, join me in my upcoming 5-Day Challenge: Worthy Woman Workshop where you will truly understand not just your worth but what true beauty should mean. Let’s make beauty your superpower!
But for now, find out my top 5 beauty mistakes and I hope you learn one or two from these!
In This Episode with Self Image Coach Tonya Leigh:
0:22 - What is beauty to every woman
1:20 - How to create your own beauty
1:38 - Worthy Woman Workshop
3:43 - My childhood story of being unattractive and not beautiful
4:36 - Defining ‘beauty’
8:08 - The importance of knowing your true beauty
9:54 - Top Mistake #1: Getting stuck in a hair rut
12:44 - Top Mistake #2: Getting eyelashes extensions
14:55 - Top Mistake #3: Bleaching the crap out of my hair
17:26 - Top Mistake #4: Not paying attention to the ingredients of my beauty products
18:33 - ‘Not So Pretty’ documentary series
18:57 - Top Mistake #5: Not knowing the in-depth details of beauty procedures
Quotes:
“Beauty is our superpower, and it's something that each of us has, and yet most of us aren't looking for it.”
“Beauty is also something that you create on the outside. Beauty requires attention. It requires intention. It requires care and respect.”
“Beauty is actually one of my core values. I love to surround myself with it. I love to create it and I love to feel it.”
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How do you define your self-worth?
Welcome to today’s episode of ‘School of Image’ Podcast by Tonya Leigh, where personal development meets style. A go-to podcast for women who desire to transform their self-image so that they can create mind-blowing results in their lives.
In this world where everyone seems to have an eye on you, you’re so conscious to do things perfectly that we tend to forget how to live and enjoy life itself. I resonate with this very much as I experienced it myself. 20 years ago, I’m just one of those ‘that girl' who was trying to live her life according to what society want me to be.
Today, let’s break that cycle of unworthiness and join me in my upcoming 5-Day Challenge: Worthy Woman Workshop where you will understand your value, worth and the possibilities and opportunities that lie when you stop setting yourself down. Promise, this will become the best challenge of your life!
But for now, find out how you can stop these 5 unworthy stories you probably telling yourself over and over again!
Timestamps:0:10 - How to find your self-worth
1:45 - Who is ‘that girl’?
3:49 - Reasons why you should join the 5-day challenge to become a worthy woman
6:11 - Unworthy Story #1: I need to be perfect.
7:51 - Unworthy Story #2: I don’t deserve that.
9:46 - Unworthy Story #3: I need x to complete me.
11:43 - The importance of having the right mindset
12:05 - Unworthy Story #4: That’s too big.
13:12 - Unworthy Story #5: Something is wrong with me.
Quotations:
“When you are striving to be perfect, you don't show up in the fullness of who you are, which is the best part of you when you are being the fullness of who you are.”
“I wanna tell you all worth is just something you get to decide.”
“... I'm just a human being.”
“When I look at the results of my life, it is a reflection of all of this work that I've done around my self-image and my worth. Because worth and self-image go hand in hand.”
“A woman who knows her worth the world will mirror it back to her.”
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Summary:
“A good relationship does not happen overnight, but rather entails love, commitment, and choice to keep going.”
Welcome to today’s episode of the ‘School of Self-Image’ Podcast by Tonya Leigh, where personal development meets style. A go-to podcast for women who desire to transform their self-image so that they can create mind-blowing results in their lives.
As a woman myself, I have undergone a couple of breakups, marriage, divorce, and long-term relationships. I know you can resonate that it’s not always romantic excitement. There’s really no exact formula for a perfect relationship.
Find out the things I learned from my past relationships, and how self-improvement has helped me to cope with these things and take it to the other, much brighter side of my life!
What I Cover In This Episode:
0:28 - Let’s talk about relationships
1:58 - How to embrace that ‘honeymoon stage’
2:51 - Tip #1: Don’t hide who you are.
5:26 - Tip #2: Having your secret garden is important.
9:48 - Tip #3: Treat your relationship like a business.
12:26 - Tip #4: Understand your partner’s love language
14:48 - Tip #5: Put your ego and need to be "right" aside.
16:41 - Tip #6: Make date nights a priority.
Quotations:
“Do you know the best thing about relationships? There is always something to learn.”
“I had made a commitment to myself that I'm not gonna hide any of who I am. I'm gonna put it all out on the table from the beginning so that if I'm not a match with someone we're not gonna waste each other's time. I'm not gonna try to pretend to be someone just so someone likes me. I'm gonna be who I am and let that decide whether that person's attracted to me and hopefully they'll do the same.”
“I also think it's important that you fill your own cup. If you're always looking to your partner to fill your needs, you're gonna be greatly disappointed. Your partner is not meant to fulfill all of your needs, yet that's the pressure that we put on them. I've done that before in previous relationships and it's just not fair to that person. As it's not fair to you because that person cannot give you everything that you need, nor should they, it is up to you to fill your own cup.”
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Summary
“It’s ok to not be okay.”
Welcome to today’s episode of the ‘School of Self Image’ Podcast by Tonya Leigh, where personal development meets style. A go-to podcast for women who desire to transform their self-image so that they can create mind-blowing results in their lives.
As a coach and mentor, I can totally say that no one has a perfect life and it’s ok to not be okay. I might not know you all, but trust me I feel you. As part of the human experience, we all have these little moments in our lives that we need to experience to recharge. That’s why in this episode, I will be sharing 10 little things that you can start doing to boost your self-image.
Find out the reasons why I love to practice these things every week! Also, tune in as I will share details about my upcoming event in Scottsdale, Arizona!
What I Cover In This Episode:
0:31 - ‘You are not alone!’
2:32 - The importance of focusing on little things
7:48 - #1 Sit down and write a success list.
9:56 - #2 Get dressed up.
12:17 - #3 Do something for someone else.
13:22 - #4 Tidy up an area.
15:56 - #5 Keep a small promise to yourself.
16:56 - #6 Give yourself a future pep talk.
18:38 - #7 Go for a workout.
20:12 - #8 Go for a future act.
21:16 - #9 Try something new.
22:37 - #10 Plan a trip.
24:18 - Happening soon! SOSI Desert Live Event
Quotes:
“...small things turn into big things over time. Because what you're really doing is you are creating evidence for a future. You are telling your brain, ‘Hey, listen, this is who we're becoming.’ We are taking steps in that direction versus standing still and reconfirming the self that keeps us stuck in so many patterns..”
“Everything is about energy. Your self-image is a collection of energy. Your self-image is the result of the thoughts that you have about yourself. Well, every thought you think has energy. And so as you begin to think about yourself differently, you're gonna start to feel differently and that's gonna produce different energy.”
“When you feel good about yourself, you are willing to go out there and try new things. You're willing to go out there and believe in yourself. You're willing to go out there and be devoted to your dreams. You're willing to show up for them until you create the result you want. When you're feeling good about yourself, everything comes back to you and your self-image.”
“Style is about so much more than what you wear. It's you designing your thoughts on purpose, and you design your surroundings on purpose. Yes! It is also about how you express your inside to the outside.”
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Tune in this week to discover how to start creating your after story. I’m showing you how to stop focusing on your before story and everything that’s wrong, come up with the vision, begin working towards it, and see all of the progress you’re making with every small action you take along the way.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://schoolofselfimage.com/301
Creating this podcast has been an amazing opportunity to grow and evolve, so join me this week to hear all about it. I’m sharing the importance of keeping things simple, showing up consistently and authentically, as well as all of the secrets for finding your people, letting go of the people who will never be your people and the evolution that’s waiting for you on the other side.
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Tune in this week to get curious and come up with your very own intentional style statement. I’m showing you how to see where your current style is influencing your self-image, and how to instead take the time to decide what you want your wardrobe and your environment to look like, so you can begin styling your life with purpose.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://schoolofselfimage.com/299
Tune in this week to start giving your mind the self-care it deserves. I’m giving you insights into the daily practices that help keep my mind clean, some practical tips on journaling, meditation, thought work, the importance of intentionally selecting what you allow beyond the red velvet rope of your mind, and the best investment you can make in doing this work.
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There’s a wise woman out there who wants the best for you, so tune in this week to discover how to start having conversations with her. I’m showing you how to start bringing your future self into every decision you make today, why these conversations are so transformational, and why, if it doesn’t feel like love, it’s not your future self doing the talking.
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How would you describe your relationship with your body? If it’s anything less than extraordinary, you need to tune in and listen closely this week because I’m showing you how I created an extraordinary relationship with my body, how that relationship is evolving as I get older, and how you can cultivate an extraordinary relationship with your own body.
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Everything I have built is a result of hard work and dedication, but never at the expense of rest and leisure when my brain and body need it. Anyone can hustle themselves into burnout, but honoring your inner lady of leisure is the secret to longevity here, so it’s time you created a work philosophy that allows for both in your own life too.
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Discover the power that lives within the big decisions. I’m sharing why making any decision at all is so tricky for a lot of people, and how to call upon your future self, so you can make the big decisions that will allow you to live into that self-image you want to create.
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Discover why it’s so difficult to say no sometimes, and why saying yes when you don’t mean it isn’t the solution. I’m sharing my guide to saying no, doing it with honesty, grace, and integrity, and deciding what you do want instead.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://schoolofselfimage.com/293
If you’re wondering where to find the fun in your life, today’s episode is going to blow your mind because I’m taking you behind the scenes of a class that I taught within the School of Self-Image membership all around how to be a fun person and bring out the fun that currently lives inside of you but hasn’t seen the light of day in a while.
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I want you to fill your social media feed with things that feel good, calm your nervous system, and make you excited to be alive. So, tune in this week to discover what you need to need to banish from your feed, so you can experience the creativity, positivity, and peace that is there to be enjoyed if you make enough room to allow it into your life.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://schoolofselfimage.com/291
Discover why some time alone in an unfamiliar environment is just what you need to kickstart your productivity. I’m sharing my own experience of having a work retreat and giving you some ideas on how to prepare your brain, environment, and schedule to have an experience that truly gets you moving.
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Discover how journaling is the key to transforming your self-image. I’m sharing how journaling has simplified every aspect of my life over the past decade, how journaling allows your brain to operate at a higher level, and how to make it a daily practice in your life starting from today.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://schoolofselfimage.com/289
Discover how to speak from your future, so you can create the kind of self-image that allows you to create truly extraordinary results. How you see yourself matters, so I’m sharing how to live from a future that you know is going to be amazing, instead of being stuck in a past that is still weighing you down and holding you back.
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Discover why a life lived from, “I don’t know,” always leads to a life you don’t really want to have. I’m sharing why the answer to any question always lies within you, and I’m giving you the tools you need to start accessing those answers right now.
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Discover the secret to clearing your obstructive thoughts from the path that leads to your most extraordinary goals and dreams. I’m sharing how to first see your problem thoughts, and how you can start taking them down one by one so you can start to make real progress on your journey, whatever it is you want to create.
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Discover what you would include in your self-care business plan if you could recreate your health and wellbeing in any way you wanted. I’m sharing how to allow yourself to want what you want unapologetically, and sell yourself on the possibilities.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://schoolofselfimage.com/285
Discover how to step into queen energy. I’m sharing why so many women decide not to give themselves the royal treatment they deserve, and I’m showing you why now is the time to stop hiding, decide what you want, and go after it embodying the energy of a leader and an icon.
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Discover where you need to work from the outside-in alongside your usual thought work. I’m sharing how everything you wear, the places you go, and how you take care of your environments are all influencing your thoughts about yourself, and why it might be time to start changing them.
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Discover what you need to do when people don’t like the changes you’re experiencing in your life. I’m sharing my own stories from life, love, and business about making the difficult decision to move on, why I’ve never regretted it, and why if you do the same, you won’t either.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://schoolofselfimage.com/282
Discover how to bring a little beauty into your life on those ugly days. I’m sharing why every woman experiences ugly days, no matter how beautiful they may look on the outside, and what you can do to meet yourself with love and curiosity, and compassion instead of more ugly thoughts.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://schoolofselfimage.com/281
If you feel like you’re a wilted flower right now and you want me to come and put some water on you so that you can begin to bloom again, you're in the right place. Tune in this week because I’m discussing what I’ve noticed within myself over the past decade that has landed me in this beautiful place right now where I feel so full of life, and I’m ready to share it with anyone who needs it.
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Discover the fastest and most effective way to experience massive changes in your self-image. I’m sharing how I’ve experienced this myself multiple times in my life, what you can do to put your thoughts and limiting beliefs to one side and how to give yourself the opportunity to thrive.
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Discover how to start looking out for yourself, just like you would for your best friend. I’m sharing why the discomfort of having your own back is so worth it, and I’m walking you through how to gain that clarity and confidence that allows you to have your own back in any situation.
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Discover the secret to cultivating a winning attitude. I’m sharing why it’s so easy to get stuck in a loser’s mentality, and how to help yourself come around by uncovering what you want to work toward, embodying the belief that you are a capable, amazing human, and you’re here to win.
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I walk you through my business image evolution over the years. I’m taking you behind the scenes on my business’s journey, showing you how every time I’ve expanded my self-image, my business has been transformed to accommodate my vision, and how you can create the same exponential growth in your life, whether you’re in business or not.
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Discover how to meet yourself with compassion, and show up, even when it feels impossible. This isn’t about ignoring reality; far from it. I’m showing you how to process what’s going on around you in difficult times, and uncover your compelling reasons for showing up, so you can be a light in the world during chaos and uncertainty.
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Discover how to leverage your emotions to attract more brilliance into your life. I’m sharing how to see the ways your current emotional state is attracting things you don’t love, and I’m giving you the step-by-step for how to attract more of what you want, even when you’re not feeling your absolute best.
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If you want to show up differently in your relationships, change how you make decisions around money and how you navigate your career or business, tune in this week because starting this work of being selective will change all of it. I’m sharing how to decide what you want your life to look like, and then where you need to start being more selective in order to make that vision your reality.
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I give you five reasons to start bringing more celebration into your everyday. I’m showing you how to start taking a moment to enjoy the journey that you’re on, and why doing so will bring you more confidence, happiness, and ease when it comes to achieving your biggest dreams.
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I share a very recent example of a time when I experienced serious doubt about something and decided to do it anyway. I’m showing you how entertaining your doubt only serves to keep you spinning, and how to start arguing for your success, instead of worrying about your possible failures.
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Discover how to start using your calendar to change your beliefs. You have an amazing opportunity to collect evidence for what you want to believe about yourself. And if you don’t like what your current calendar is saying about you, I’m sharing instead how to start scheduling your time with your desired result in mind.
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Find out why an extraordinary life is a mixture of hard and easy, and how to find the balance between the two. I share the problem with only choosing the easy or hard route in your life, and how to use this concept to live a life you truly love.
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Would you like to have more awesome days? If so, tune in this week because I’ve been studying my awesome days to see what makes them awesome, and in this episode, I’m sharing all of my tips with you. Get ready to learn my formula to set yourself up for an awesome day, every day.
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I spent a lot of time in December really thinking about 2022 and what I wanted to experience more of, my goals, and who I needed to become in order to make all of that a reality. I think I’ve come up with the perfect word of the year for 2022, and I’m sharing it with you in this episode.
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How do we change our identity? Tune in this week to find out. I’m sharing all of the details from my own shift in identity over the years, and the four steps you need to follow in order to do this transformative work in your own life.
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Tune in this week to discover the five takeaways from my year that I want to share with you, in hopes that you can apply them and maybe see them more in your life, so that you can create the results that you want for yourself in 2022.
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I've been pondering the question: If I could give my community any gift this year, what would it be? I've figured it out.
Today, I’m gifting you something special that will change your life in the most extraordinary way. But before I give it to you, I want you to promise me that you are going to take it, you are going to practice it, and you are going to use it to transform your life. Do we have a deal?
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Discover the places that you’re going to go in 2022 that will begin the work of transforming your self-image. This might feel a little uncomfortable at first, but I’m showing you how to see the ways the places you currently go are holding you back, and what you can do to start putting yourself out there and feeling at home in the world.
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I see so many women beating themselves up because they can’t seem to change, and this needs to stop! Whether you want to work on your weight, your money, or your style, join me in this episode to discover the secret to changing your habits. I’m sharing why this journey is so tricky, and how to create the habits that will help you achieve anything in 2022.
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I share why believing you’re somehow behind where you’re supposed to be is not the motivator that you think it is. Sitting in this belief deeply affects our emotions and our actions, so I’m giving you some alternative thoughts you can try on, reassuring you that, wherever you are right now, that’s exactly where you’re meant to be, and you can move forward from there.
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Tune in this week to start seeing the negatives in your life in a whole new way. I’m sharing where I had to do this work in my own life, and the empowerment that is waiting for you when you can start to have more gratitude, even for the most uncomfortable things.
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I share my personal experience of success, what it has cost me, and some of the things that it can cost you. Discover what happens when you start to create success for yourself and the importance of being willing to feel discomfort so you can become unstoppable in your success.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://schoolofselfimage.com/259
Discover how to discern the risks that will evolve you and your self-image, and how to develop the courage to start taking them. I’m sharing where I’ve done this in my own life over the past couple of years, and what will change when you can do the same work in your own life.
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I’m sharing 3 new habits you can introduce into your life to increase your abundance and expand your capacity to receive money. I’m discussing where I see women especially coming up against their edges, and showing you how to approach everything with a positive attitude when it comes to money.
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Discover how to start bringing more fun to whatever journey you’re on in your life right now. I’m sharing what stops us from focusing on fun, and how developing this skill set will change everything in your life.
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Discover how to start thinking intentional thoughts. I’m sharing the awareness you will need to develop in order to start creating intentional thoughts, and why taking action without working on thought-creation is never going to move you forward.
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Discover how to put a red velvet rope around your life. I’m sharing how to start this work by setting boundaries and expectations with yourself, and what will change when you start being more discerning about what and who is allowed in your personal VIP room.
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Discover what your upper limits might be, and how to know when you’re running into them. I’m giving you some reassurance that it is safe to be successful. It is safe to have abundance. It is safe to create achievements. And you’re worthy of all of it.
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Discover how your current thoughts about yourself in relation to money are the only thing stopping you from building the wealth you want for your life. I’m sharing where to look to find the kind of thoughts that will build your self-image as a woman deserving of money, and how to get rid of the thoughts that have held you back for too long.
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Discover how to start living your life like an editor. I’m sharing the three Es of being an editor that will help you get clear on what you want for your life, be willing to try everything to make it happen, and then create the habits that are required to make those decisions become just part of the fabric of who you are.
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Discover how to stop fixing yourself, and instead start creating yourself from a place of wonder, opportunity, love, and awe. I’m sharing the power of self-improvement from a place of embracing your imperfections as much as your strengths and showing you how to grow and evolve from this place of abundance to create a new version of yourself.
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Discover why trying to stay out of people’s way and being a low-maintenance woman is keeping you from enjoying everything this life has to offer. I’m not talking about being a diva here, but I’m sharing how to reframe when people call you high maintenance, and why embracing it instead will lead to more of what you want.
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Whether you want to start your business, get healthy, find the love of your life, pay off your debt, or start building your wealth, I want you to tune in this week to discover how you can create the desire that is required to make those dreams an effortless reality.
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I'm showing you how to change your focus and reframe your goals in a way that expands and delights you. You have the power to change the way you think about things, so I’m showing you how to create an expansive focus and feel more motivated and inspired by your goals.
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You wouldn’t put up with a friend who always broke her promises to you, so it’s time to stop doing the same to yourself. Join me this week to discover how to start keeping your promises and show up for yourself in the way that you deserve. I’m sharing my tips for making promises you can actually keep, and why doing this work will blow your world wide open.
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Join me on the podcast this week for an audacious update. I’m sharing the huge shifts I have made in my life since the start of the year - all thanks to showing up with audacity - and how I’ve managed my mind around some of the major changes that are just around the corner.
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Discover how to deal with those occasions when you lose motivation. I’m sharing why feeling this way from time to time is inevitable, what’s going on in your brain when it happens, and how to show yourself grace and compassion, so you can show up when you really need to.
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I’m sharing the importance of acting in alignment with what you really want when other people have opinions of you and the changes you’re making, and how doing the mindset work I’m bringing you today will increase your capacity for making positive changes in your life.
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This week, I'm talking about the concept of acting out your script and I want to offer you permission for it to be awkward, for it to feel weird, for it to not feel like who you really are, at least just for now as you’re learning how to play a new role.
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Discover the power of being underestimated. I’m sharing the inspiration behind my own transformation, even when people in my life told me it was never going to happen, and I’m giving you some questions to ask yourself to ensure the opinions of others don’t affect your own self-image.
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Discover what it means to delight in yourself, and how you can start doing it right now. I’m sharing the thought patterns and self-image issues my clients have had to overcome in this process, my own experiences with this, and why, when you can delight in yourself, everything starts to change.
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There is a place called the Attitude Store. It’s open 24/7, everyone is welcome, and they’ll take the attitude you picked out this morning by mistake and exchange it for a new one. And in this episode, I’m showing you where to find it.
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Discover how to decide what abundance means for you, and why it feels so amazing. I’m sharing why so many people are confused about abundance, and how understanding it will allow you to transform your self-image and live an elegant and joyful life, no matter where you live or how much cash you have in the bank.
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Discover how to make your future self proud this week. I’m sharing what I have learned on my journey, the decisions we have all made with our future selves in mind, even if we didn’t realize it at the time, and I’m giving you some tips that you can implement if you’re struggling just picturing your future self, let alone talking to her.
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Whether you want to lose weight, move to a new city, start a business, get out of debt... whatever it is, if you want to achieve your goals faster, you need to elevate your self-image, which makes elevating your environment a non-negotiable. And I’m showing you how to start that process in this episode.
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Discover whether you are a creator or a consumer. I’m sharing why I believe we should all be creating more than we consume, and how you can work on creating at a level that allows you to grow without becoming burned out.
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Discover how having a negative body image held me back for so many years. I’m sharing how a negative perception of my body affected every area of my life, where to look so you can see how it could be affecting yours, and why everything improves when your body image becomes more positive.
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Discover what it really means to be a resourceful woman. I’m sharing the tools I have used to cultivate the resourcefulness required for success, and how you can start negotiating life’s challenges as the resourceful woman that I know you can be, so you can have your own back when things get tricky.
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Discover why there’s nothing wrong with you if keeping it up is a struggle for you. I’m sharing where I used to struggle in this area and the daily practices that will help you in building the consistency required to achieve your goals and dreams.
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Discover first why we procrastinate and neglect the things we truly want to do, and then how to motivate yourself out of that place and actually get started. And be sure to tune in next week where I’ll be giving you the next piece of this puzzle: cultivating dedication and followthrough.
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Join me on the podcast this week to discover 5 ways to elevate your energy physically and mentally, so you can start creating a life that truly lights you up. And be sure to come join us in the School of Self-Image where, for the month of May, we’re diving deep into this topic. The doors just opened but we're going to be shutting them down soon, click here to find out more and to join.
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Join me on the podcast this week to find out the real reason we have bad moments, what to do when you feel a spiral coming on, and the tools I use to course-correct when I find myself in a bad moment. Remember, you’ve been through hard times before and you can get through them again, especially when you use the tools I’m sharing with you here.
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Join me on the podcast this week to discover how to sell you to yourself and why other people can sense when you are not sold on yourself. I’m sharing what this process is going to require of you, and why once you are sold on yourself, the rest of the world will be sold on you too.
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What do I mean by living in the question? Well, the best way for me to explain it is to share with you my approach to living in the question. So, join me on the podcast this week to discover what you can do to start asking the right questions, and find the answers you’ve been looking for your entire life.
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Join me on the podcast this week to discover the power of personal branding. I’m discussing how you can start telling your story in a way that serves you, and why personal branding will bring more ease into your life, by helping you make decisions that align with the version of you that you want yourself and the world to experience.
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Join me on the podcast this week to discover how engaging in high-value activities will bring more elegance into your life. I’m sharing the importance of your reasoning behind these activities, and what you can do to take what I’m sharing today and make them part of everything you do.
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Join me on the podcast this week to discover how elegant women create their own luck, and how resisting this idea is exactly what’s stopping luck from flowing into your life. And if you find yourself thinking, “Tonya, that’s impossible. Some people are really just lucky…”, I’m sharing what you can do to start embodying that same energy and mindset, so you too can live a lucky life.
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Join me on the podcast this week as I share the 10 style commandments that all elegant women hold dear and how following them will enable you to become more intentional and more self-expressed on purpose. Discover how to use these commandments when making decisions about how you want to show up, both visually and in terms of your energy, and how to truly express yourself through your style.
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Join me on the podcast this week to discover how to identify the habits and behavior patterns that are no longer serving you and the 5 ways elegant women create new ones. I’m sharing why we get stuck in these loops, where I have seen myself going wrong in making unsustainable changes to my life and routines, and how to create habits you can actually stick to in the long-term.
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Join me on the podcast this week to discover the 5 areas elegant women manage like a CEO. I’m sharing how I manage these areas in my own life and what has changed as a result, how you can start cultivating the courage required to start saying no to the things that don’t serve you, and how to allow more of the things that allow for progress, even when it’s uncomfortable.
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Join me on this episode of the podcast to discover the 5 time wasters that elegant women avoid. I’m sharing how these seemingly harmless things damage your experience of life in ways you might not realize right now, and the beauty that is available when you start intentionally living a life free from distractions and people who aren’t serving you.
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Join me on the podcast this week to discover why you don’t need anyone else to have an enthralling romance. I’m discussing what is standing in the way of you having a beautiful and insightful relationship with yourself, why a self-made romance is more than just liking yourself, and how to start making the changes necessary to really cultivate the most important relationship you will ever have.
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Join me on the podcast this week to discover how to be more attractive. I’m sharing what really contributes to our attractiveness, how to develop the mind of magnetism that attracts your ideal partner, and how your own self-image plays into this whole process.
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Join me on the podcast this week to discover the secrets to the art of becoming. I’m sharing the small daily practices that go into making big changes in your life, where you need to start, and what you need to focus on to keep moving in the right direction, which is where the universe wants to take you.
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Join me on the podcast this week to discover how to embrace failure as the most important part of living a successful and fulfilling life. I’m sharing why we’re so afraid of failure, why that fear is creating nothing in our lives, and what your life could look like if you’re willing to cultivate the mindset required for embracing failure.
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Join me on the podcast this week to discover the power of scheduling your dreams. I’m sharing why so many people avoid scheduling, what that practice is not serving you, and what is possible in your life when you put your dreams on your calendar and make time for them.
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It is my firm belief that the world orchestrates to fulfill that which you think about yourself, so we need to start thinking of ourselves in the best way imaginable.
On the podcast this week, I’ll be sharing my own story of transformation, how I worked to change my self-image and began creating the life that I always dreamed of but never dreamed was possible, and how you can start doing the same in your life.
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Join me on the podcast this week as I present my word of the year that I plan on embodying over the next 12 months. I’m also sharing how you can discover your own self-image word of the year, and how to apply it in every single thing you do, creating a life you truly love along the way.
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Join me on the podcast this week to discover how to create a sense of calm when it seems like the world around you is going crazy, and instead of indulging in it, make time for the things you truly love. I’m sharing the mindset shift that it takes to see solutions instead of problems, and what’s possible when you prioritize feeling good and experiencing pleasure in front of everything else.
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Join me on the podcast this week to discover how to create a sense of calm when it seems like the world around you is going crazy, and instead of indulging in it, make time for the things you truly love. I’m sharing the mindset shift that it takes to see solutions instead of problems, and what’s possible when you prioritize feeling good and experiencing pleasure in front of everything else.
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Join me on the podcast this week to discover how to start living an amazing life, one that challenges you while taking you in the direction that you want to go. I’m sharing how to tune out the negativity in the world that holds so many people back, and why 2020 could still be your best year yet.
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For over 10 years, I have been writing love notes to this community. I’ve shared some of them in emails. Others I’ve posted on social media. But today is just a very small collection of these love notes that I have written in hopes to inspire you to live a most extraordinary life.
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Gratitude is easy when things are going the way you think they’re supposed to go. You’ve hit your goals, everybody’s behaving the way you want them to behave, the weather is great, life is good. But what about having gratitude when things get challenging? Tune in this week to discover the impact of choosing gratitude and living your life from that space.
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When I look around at my life, one of the things that’s had the biggest impact for me is how I feel about myself. I am truly in love with me. And if you think that sounds arrogant or narcissistic, I want you to listen in closely this week because I truly believe that loving yourself is the only option if you want to live an extraordinary life.
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We all have moments where we feel like giving up. We set goals, and in that process, we have a vision in our mind of how our life will look once we’ve achieved them. However, the reality of the journey is never that simple. But if you can just hold onto that vision that you have for your future self no matter what, the wisdom of coming from that place will always guide you in the right direction.
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Join me on the podcast this week to discover how you might be lying to yourself and why this habit is keeping you from experiencing the true joy that life has to offer. As my grandmother told me when I was a little girl, the truth will set you free, so I’m sharing the lies I used to tell in my own life, and the pure magnificence that honesty has brought me since.
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Are you at a place where you’re finding it hard to create lasting results in your life? When it comes to losing weight, maybe you’re great at losing 10 pounds, but before too long, you’ve put it back on. Maybe you are making progress in a business and find yourself thinking it’s too good to be true, and you start making decisions that don’t serve you. If this sounds familiar, this episode is for you.
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Join me on the podcast this week to discover why being beautiful is a choice, and how you can start making that decision for yourself right now. I’m sharing how to surround yourself with beauty now, instead of waiting until one-day-when, and what you can do to create your own standard of beauty: one that never goes out of style.
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Join me on the podcast this week to discover the difference it makes when you stop playing small and start setting yourself extraordinary goals. I’m sharing why it’s okay that your extraordinary goal feels impossible, and what you can do right now to stop getting caught up in the how, and start living a life that challenges you to grow and evolve every single day.
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Tune in this week for the how-to guide on making extraordinary friends and cultivating meaningful relationships that move and inspire you. I’m sharing where your thoughts might be preventing you from attracting the kind of friendships you want in your life, and what you can do to work on your contribution to a friendship, so others genuinely want to share their experiences with you.
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Tune in this week to discover how to stop defining yourself by your past, and instead how to be your future, decide on your dreams, and work towards your extraordinary goals from that energy. I’m sharing why deciding is the most important thing you can do right now, and why I know beyond any doubt that deciding your future and creating it is within your reach.
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Join me this week to discover what your how your perception of yourself creates every result you get in your life. I’m sharing how we form our self-image throughout our lives, and most importantly, how to transform it forever.
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Join me on the podcast this week to discover five ways to start living an extraordinary life. And the beauty is, all of these things you can start doing immediately. You’re going to have to shake your world up to become extraordinary. And I can tell you, it’s one of the greatest things you will ever do for yourself.
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Join me on the podcast this week to discover how the quality of your questions affects the quality of your whole life. I’m sharing how to distinguish between low and high-quality questions, the poor-quality questions that we need to address, and how we can start replacing them with questions that excite and motivate us.
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Join me on the podcast this week as we discuss where you should focus if you feel defined by your big mistakes, how to incorporate self-love as a daily practice, how to decide on your next big goal, having confidence in front of the camera, and so much more.
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Join me this week to discover the impact that being easily offended might be having on your life, and what’s going on in your brain when you’re in this space. I’m sharing both sides of the story; how to start the work of not being so easily offended, and how to deal with the people in your life who, it can seem, take offense at anything and everything.
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Join me on the podcast this week to discover my three steps towards graceful thinking that you can start practicing right now. I’m sharing why eliminating negative thoughts is not a realistic goal, and how to deal with your negative thoughts when they do come up, so you can work with them, instead of fearing them.
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Join me on the podcast this week to discover why I know you’re more valuable than you currently believe, and why realizing and increasing your value will change everything in your life. I’m sharing how discovering this played out in my own life, and how to find the areas in your life where you can increase the value you offer the world.
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Tune in this week to discover why increasing your capacity will bring more of whatever it is you want for your life. I’m sharing how we self-sabotage when our capacity isn’t big enough for our goals, and what you can do to embrace the discomfort of increasing your capacity right now.
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Join me on this episode as I dive into my vault of questions from the French Kiss Life community. I’m sharing the secrets of how I stay healthy, motivated, and grounded, as well as what you can do to free your life of boredom and loneliness, and live an elegant life, no matter your circumstances. Oh yeah, I’m also sharing why my lashes have been looking so amazing lately.
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Join me on this week’s episode to discover a new way to think about how your body is changing. I’m sharing why we need to love and support our body now more than ever, and what you can do to continuously check in with your body, and give it what it needs so it can keep serving you for decades to come.
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Tune in this week to discover the truth about thinking highly of yourself. I’m showing you why dismissing this practice as egotistical or narcissistic is not helping anyone, and instead how to start thinking highly of yourself in a way that also embraces your human imperfection.
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Join me on the podcast this week to discover how to analyze the actions you’re taking now, notice where they’re coming from, and how they’re impacting your current life. I’m sharing why actions based in the past keep us stuck, and what you can do to start taking action from your future right now to create a life you love.
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Tune in this week to discover how you might be unconsciously setting yourself up for an unpleasant day, and what you can do to start pre-deciding how you’re going to show up instead. To help guide you in this process, I’m sharing the ways I approach my day, allowing me to find the pleasure in everything that life throws my way.
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Tune in this week to discover the importance of protecting your peace, especially at a time when the whole world is experiencing such a heightened level of collective anxiety. I’m sharing the thoughts that help keep me centered and peaceful, and what you can do to create boundaries in your life for those things and people that you love, but aren’t necessarily serving you.
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Join me on the podcast this week to discover how to live from your future. I’m sharing what you can do to notice where your past thinking is keeping you stuck, and how you can start to deeply question yourself and become the version of you who attracts all of the brilliance that life has to offer.
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Join me on the podcast this week to discover how we keep ourselves stagnant when we get stubborn and defensive and refuse to acknowledge that we could be wrong. I’m sharing how to show yourself and others love throughout this learning process, even if people come at you with anger and why, if you don’t have a willingness to accept you might be wrong, you will never be able to get it right.
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Join me on the podcast this week to discover why self-discipline truly is the key to your freedom. I’m sharing what so many of us have gotten wrong about self-discipline, and how to practice it from a place of abundance and enoughness, so you can really reap the benefits of adding a little discipline into the areas of your life where you’re not as free as you want to be.
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Listen in this week to discover how to create an ease mindset in every aspect of your world. Ease does not mean easy, so I’m sharing how you can still go after your big dreams and goals, and start living intentionally while embodying an ease mindset every step of the way.
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Tune in this week as I share how I cultivated a “bring it” attitude, and the thoughts that have allowed me to truly believe that life is happening for me. You’ll discover how resisting the challenging times is stopping you from enjoying the good times, and how to open your arms wide and say, “Bring it. I was made for this.”
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How I spent too much of my life trying to convince other people of my worth when the only person I really needed to convince was myself. Once you can see the energy that you show up with when you don’t truly believe in yourself, you’ll be amazed at how much peace and joy is waiting for you when you can move past needing others to believe you are worthy.
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Join me on the podcast this week to discover why taking a moment to enjoy life’s simple pleasures – the ones that cost nothing – will make your life richer and bring you closer to whatever it is you want to achieve. I’m sharing examples from my life where I lost perspective of the importance of these simple pleasures, and how every aspect of life improves when we celebrate them.
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Join me on the podcast this week for part-three of my dream-making series as I share the three qualities of grace that we need to embody in pursuit of our goals. This is so important because, when you discover how to treat yourself with compassion and kindness, you’ll be able to look back on your life, as your 90-year-old self, without a single regret.
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Join me on the podcast this week as I share what grit is and how you can cultivate it. I’m also sharing how to develop the growth mindset required for going after your big dreams, and what you can do to get really clear on your why, so that the how comes naturally.
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Tune in this week to discover what gumption is, and how embodying gumption is the first step to taking the situation we are in now and turning it into a long-term success. I’m sharing why we need to get clear on our dreams now more than ever, and how to show yourself the evidence that you have what it takes to make those dreams come true.
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We often think that in order to enjoy our own company, we have to force ourselves to be someone we’re not. But that simply isn’t the case. So, join me on the podcast this week to discover how to be your own best friend and accept yourself for who you are.
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Join me on the podcast today and discover how to stay at home in style. I’m sharing how to use this time to produce something that adds value to your life and the whole world. Who we are when we’re by ourselves will determine whether we are a victim during this pandemic, and how you do that is completely up to you, my friend.
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Join me on the podcast this week as the nurse in me geeks out a little over what’s going on biologically when we feel stressed, and how you can work with your brain to assess the situation we are in, to start feeling better right now. You’ll discover how to analyze your thoughts, identify what exactly you can control, and then implement practices to move away from anxiety and into relaxation.
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Discover how to become the CEO of your own mind and run it like a successful business. When you’re making big changes in your life, you’re going to experience some thoughts telling you what you’re doing isn’t going to work. But letting these thoughts influence your direction is not serving you, and even if they’re thoughts that have been with you since the beginning, it’s time to fire them and employ some new ones.
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In today’s episode, I want to tell you about the power of tiny habits. I’ve created quite a few tiny, daily habits over the past few years that have helped me get where I am today. And not only have they helped me make my dreams come true; they’ve also helped me learn to love the journey.
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In this episode, I’ll tell you all about how your inner and outer world work together to create your life. We’ll talk about how slow and steady changes in both of them will allow you to pursue whatever dream you’re dreaming – no matter how far away it might feel right now.
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Once we become adults, it’s up to us to decide what we want to hold on to and what we want to let go of. We get to decide what patterns are going to end with us, and we get to be intentional about what patterns and beliefs we want to hand down to the next generation.
In this episode, I’m sharing some of the beliefs that I’ve decided to let go of and what values I’ve chosen instead.
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Today I want to share six of my favorite practices for being a person who brings the sunshine on a cloudy day. We’ll talk about what it means to be a breath of fresh air, why some people may not pick up on the energy you’re putting out, and how to remain unaffected by what’s going on around you.
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In today’s episode we’re talking all about borrowing beliefs and how to choose beliefs that empower you, not drag you down. I’ll share more of my experiences with trying on beliefs and tell you how you can start doing this, too.
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When we embrace our humanness and stop trying to be perfect, life gets a lot more fun.
This episode is really a pep-talk from the heart. I’m talking about why I’ve decided to embrace more and more of my messy humanness over the years and some of the things we all deal with.
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It’s no wonder so many of us feel confused, uninspired, or discontent. We’re using certain words and phrases and constantly reinforce those feelings – and usually, we don’t even realize we’re doing it! Today, I want to give you some tools for shifting these stories and ideas about what you can say instead.
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In this episode I’m talking about the book that really helped me shift from being an entrepreneur to embodying CEO energy. I’ll tell you about why great CEOs make swift decisions, why they know their numbers, and why your number one job is to add value. And I’ll give you a peek into how I built and coached my team through our biggest year ever.
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This episode has some great exercises for deepening your connection with your word of the year, and we’ll even fast-forward to the end of 2020 and celebrate all the things our words have helped us accomplish. I can’t wait to see what your words help you create this year!
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In this episode, I’m talking about why I love choosing a word of the year and why it’s such a great exercise. Then I’m sharing my exact process for picking out a word of the year (and sharing my 2020 word with you!). This practice should be done from a place of relaxation, openness, and with plenty of time – not a place of scarcity or reaction.
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In this episode I want to share the three celebrations I do at the end of every year. These little ceremonies help me reflect on the year that’s passed – both on the highs and the lows – and prepare myself for the beautiful and successful year ahead.
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In this episode, I’m sharing five steps I’ve taken in the past when my confidence has been shaken. We’ll talk about why it’s essential to start by looking inside your own mind – rather than the outside world – to figure out why you’re not feeling confident.
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In this episode, I’m talking all about how to make yourself available for what you do want and unavailable for those things you’re done tolerating. I’ll share some of my experiences with this idea, including the points when I was done tolerating mean self-talk, friendships that didn’t fit, and scarcity.
You get what you tolerate. So what are you no longer going to be available for in 2020?
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In this week’s episode, I’m talking all about “what ifs” and how to manage them. I’ll tell you about some of my experiences with what ifs, how you can turn negative what ifs into positive ones, and how your what ifs can help you create the life of your dreams.
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Emotional Outsourcing happens when we put the responsibility for our emotions on other people. Today, we'll talk about the impact it has on our minds and lives. We’ll also talk about how you can choose the emotions you want to feel in any situation, and why this doesn’t mean that you have to put up with behavior you don’t like.
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We all deal with confusion in life, and it’s important to know how to move through it. If we just sit in confusion, we won’t make any progress! So today I wanted to talk about three ways to break up with confusion: gathering more information, making a decision, and taking action. When you free up brain space by breaking up with confusion, you’ll have so much more energy to pour into the things you really want to do!
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There are 3 Es of extraordinary living, and that’s what we’re talking about in this episode.
If you upgrade your education, your environment, and your energy, there’s no limit to the amazing things that you will do, see, and become.
Today I’m talking you through some of the ways you can upgrade your education, environment, and energy and sharing my experiences with all three.
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In today’s episode, I’m telling you all about the in-between and my experiences with this strange but enlightening place. I’ll share what I like to ask myself when I’m in this stage, how I encourage myself to keep going, and what I’ve learned from the in-between over the years.
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In today’s episode I’m talking about how to live a rich life and what you can do now to create more abundance in your everyday life. I’m sharing four steps you can take to get closer to your version of a rich life. Here’s a hint for you: it’s mostly in your mind.
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Today, I want to share seven tips with you that will help you communicate like a queen. It’s an incredibly empowering approach, and you’ll be amazed how much better it feels to communicate like this than it does to be timid, indirect, and unsure.
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Today you’ll learn how you can change your life in five seconds or less, thanks to sacred pauses. I’ll tell you about how this practice has helped me in my life and career, and why it’s such a useful tool for shaping the life you want, five seconds at a time.
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In today’s episode I’m talking about enoughness and why the truth is – and always has been – that you are enough. I’ll share four things with you that I did to train myself out of a scarcity mindset and into enoughness. And we’ll also talk about why celebration is a key ingredient for this transformation.
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Have you ever tried so hard to achieve something that you made yourself completely miserable in the process? Perhaps so miserable that the entire journey didn’t even feel worth it by the end?
In this episode, I’m sharing five steps you can take to retrain your brain and take a new approach to weight loss. Retraining your mind and thinking new thoughts isn’t an easy undertaking, but it’s one of the most worthwhile things you’ll ever do in your life.
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In today’s episode, I’m talking about the necessity of exposing yourself to different things so you can figure out what you really do (and don’t) want. You’ll hear about three areas to explore to expand your horizons and find new things to love. The world is wide open for all of us – we just have to get out there and discover it.
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In this episode, I’m talking about how to overcome the doubt that’s telling you you’re not ready. I’ll share some of my experiences with starting before I was ready and how to catch your brain when it’s trying to keep you from going after what you want.
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Since I travel a lot, I get tons of questions from you all about how I like to travel and what I do to make it easier. I thought I’d answer some of those questions today!
The questions you asked fell into four categories: mindset, logistics, money, and packing – so I answer a few questions from each of those areas in this episode.
I’ll tell you how I manage my mind before and after travelling so I can have the most relaxing experience possible. I also share some of my favorite packing tips and products, and talk about why I love to travel.
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In this episode we’re talking about the beauty of imperfection and why it’s time to accept yourself exactly as you are. We’ll chat about why perfectionism is so damaging to our minds, souls, and dreams, and how to start to let this tendency go. We’ll also talk about the gifts of imperfection and why people who accept themselves and their flaws fully are the ones that light up a room.
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This episode, I’m sharing the secret to living an exceptionally passionate life with you all. I used to feel numb and lifeless in my career as a nurse, until I decided to start showing up as the passionate woman I knew I was underneath all of the stress and negative thinking. I’ll share that story and several things you can do to start bringing passion back into your every day.
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In this episode, I’m talking about the feeling of overwhelm and why it’s the opposite of a productive, creative mindset. I share some of my experiences with overwhelm and some of the thoughts I’ve had to shift in order to find more ease, flow, and relaxation. And I’m also running through five areas you can watch in your own life – including your language and your thoughts – if you want to reduce the amount of overwhelm you’re feeling as you go through each day.
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The five parts of yourself that you need to break up with to create your most abundant, fulfilled self. I’ll tell you about some of the pieces of myself that I’ve broken up with, why each one had to happen, and how I handled these transitions with gentleness and kindness for myself. I’ll also share some of the wonderful things that are on the other side of these breakups, because I promise you have so much to look forward to.
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Today, I’m sharing five reasons for every woman to discover her inner icon. I start off by sharing how I got back into my sweet spot after getting pulled off track recently, and talk about how my program Modern Day Icon helped me get there. I’ll also ask you a crucial question that will encourage you to think about who you want to be as a woman and how to start showing up as her today. And I’ll run through the five things you’ll learn once you start to step into your inner icon and allow her to guide the way.
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Why so many people find decision making to be difficult and scary and how to shift your mindset around this. I also share how you can limit the number of decisions you need to make during the day, why it’s so important to trust what your body is telling you about your choices, and how to let your values guide your decisions.
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In this episode we’re talking about core values and how to decide what yours are. We’ll cover why you should determine your values if you want to build the life you’re dreaming of and some important questions you should be asking yourself. I share some of the values that have shaped my life and my business thus far and how I use them to make decisions. And I’ll tell you about the core values we embody here at French Kiss Life and how they impact everything that we do and build for you.
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I’ve had many mentors and friends over the years who have put my life on a new trajectory, and I wanted to spotlight three of them today and share their fantastic advice with you. I believe it’s important to have people to look up to in life, people who are a bit further along on the journey who are happy to lend support, guidance, and a bit of real talk when we need it.
Today I’ll introduce you to three women who have literally changed my life thanks to their inspiring work and sound advice.
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In today’s episode, we’ll talk about why so many women feel like they’ve lost touch with the sensual and sexual aspects of life. I’ll share a whole bunch of tips for reviving enjoyment, connection, and presence, so you can soak in all of the amazing sensations that this world has to offer. And we’ll talk about why managing your mind is such a key component to feeling sexy, sensual, and present.
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Today I dive deep into “purpose” and how to find it. I share my own struggle with “finding my purpose” and what worked to finally figure it out. We’ll also discuss why curiosity is a key ingredient to engineering your life’s purpose, and why your focus should be on showing up with purpose where you are right now, rather than waiting for some distant, purpose-filled future.
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Why I think being a self-possessed woman is a great goal. I’ll share what self-possessed means to me, why it requires you to take radical responsibility for yourself, and how it can set you free from some of the stories that are holding you back. And I’ll walk you through six areas in your life where you can practice self-possession, including your emotions, your self-opinion, your desires, and your decisions.
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Why worrying is such a frustrating and unproductive habit, why you might be worrying so much, and how to stop the seemingly endless worry-cycle. I’ll share the steps I took to stop my worrying habit and my favorite journaling practice for clearing the worries out of my mind & making myself feel empowered. And I’ll tell you how to conduct your own Worry-Free Diet, so you can bring joy, abundance, and confidence to mind instead.
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In this episode, I want to convince you that love has the power to heal us, connect us, and make us healthier & wealthier. I share my journey to love and how I struggled to let love back into my life. I talk about the effects of choosing love on my relationship with myself, my family, and my community as a whole. And I talk about how to handle it when you’re finding someone incredibly difficult – or even impossible – to love.
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Today I’m talking about the sneaky grip the word “no” holds on many of our lives – and why the word “yes” is the key to breaking it. We’ll examine why the brain loves the familiar and is scared of change, and talk about how you may be closing yourself off to some of life’s most incredible experiences. And we’ll cover how you can identify the things you’re dying to say “yes” to and build up the courage and commitment to embrace them.
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In this episode, I’m talking all about elegant mornings and how to create them. Elegant mornings combine intention, simplicity, and effectiveness to set you up for a wonderful day. I’ll share my morning routine, why I make time for gratitude every morning, and how your morning mindset can improve your whole life. Plus, I share some of the practices and little luxuries that make my every morning a great one.
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There’s a big difference between wanting and committing. And that’s what we’re going to discuss today.
In this episode, I tell you all about that gap between wanting and committing and what it takes to close it. I also share the reasons why I love commitment and the special joy that comes as a result of truly making up your mind to make something happen.
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Listen to this episode as I stroll down memory lane to recount how 3 moments and 3 questions helped me become the woman I am today, while also loving the woman I used to be. I’ll tell you about my secret for success, my old limiting beliefs, and why I started living all of my “One Day When…” dreams.
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In this episode, I dive into the concept of upgrading your identity in order to create long-lasting change. I share the two most powerful words you will ever speak, how to become your future self now, and why it’s important not to expect yourself to completely change overnight.
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In this episode, I talk about why you need a Celebration Circle in your life and how to build one. I’ll share how celebration will help you take responsibility for your own energy and approach to life, and why celebration is such a sacred act. And I’ll share some of my favorite Celebration Circle practices so you can schedule one of your own.
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Once I began a dedicated practice of bringing joy into my life in small ways every single day, my relationship with food – and my weight – changed gradually and completely. Now, food isn’t my only source of joy, but simply one of many. In this episode, I’m sharing the five essential components of my Joy Diet. It’s made up of practices that, when woven into your everyday life, will help you feel more content, more abundant, and less wrapped up in stress and fear.
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In this episode, I walk you through a simple process for spring cleaning your mind. I encourage you to pick one area of your life to clean and how to get started. I talk about why it’s so helpful to write down all your thoughts about this area of your life, and how to make small changes to your thinking that, over time, can produce truly incredible results.
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Your brand is the way you show up in the world, the way you tell your story, the way you live your life.
Many people don’t create their brand (or their life) with intention. They get caught up working in their life and forget to work on their life. But at French Kiss Life, we’re all about living life creatively and on purpose. All about asking the big questions that will help you create the life you’re dreaming of.
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In this episode, Tonya shares what's been happening behind the scenes at French Kiss Life, including some exciting projects she's been working on and what you can expect in the coming months.
It's that time of the year where we give thought to our dreams and goals for 2019. Part of this process for Tonya is choosing her "word of the year." In this episode, she shares the unexpected word that at first, she wanted to reject until she began to imagine herself fully embodying it in her own feminine way. As she shares her word of the year, she also offers you 10 traits that will help you be a leader of your own life.
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Is less *really* more? Tonya thinks so. It was the antidote to her self-created chaos. She thought that restraint would feel shackling, but what has surprised her the most is how much more freedom she feels after applying it into her life. In this episode, Tonya will share with you how she applies restraint into every area of her life to generate stellar results. Want support from Tonya to help you cultivate the Elegance of Restraint so you can bring your dreams to life?
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As a dedicated French Kiss Life Podcast Listener, you're cordially invited to Join the Dream Atelier. This is Tonya's newest program geared for any woman who’s ready to stop talking about her dreams and start creating them. go here to enroll >> www.thedreamatelier.com/enroll In this LIVE 30 day workshop, Tonya will teach you the elegant mindset and framework that Tonya personally uses to turn her ideas (and her client's ideas) into reality. When you follow the process, you will have created something that doesn’t yet exist . . . in 30 days. go here to enroll >> www.thedreamatelier.com/enroll Final enrollment closes on Saturday, December 8, 2018
They say, “You are the sum of the 5 people you spend the most time with.” Tonya believes that you are sum of the conversations you have with them. If you want to live a well-lived life, reach your full potential and create your dreams, create your conversations on purpose. In this episode, Tonya offers 5 ways you can raise your conversation vibration so that you can constantly evolve and expand your mind with new ideas, perspectives, inspiration and abundance.
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Are you ready to make your dreams come true? In today’s podcast Tonya will be sharing with you the #1 thing that your dream is going to ask of you -- and it’s not what you think. In fact, it’s going to be the BEST part; She believes that it is even more impactful than your intended end goal. And in order to make this happen, there are three things you must give up. What are they? Tune in as Tonya shares from personal experience how to identify these dream killers, and how to overcome them. And when you do, be prepared to amaze yourself with what’s possible. Let’s do this!
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So many women have stopped dreaming. They say they’re confused or don’t know what they want. They use “contentment” as a reason to not want more. They use doubt and fear as an excuse to stay stagnant in life. But, when you French Kiss Life, you’re daring enough to dream. In this episode, Tonya talks about why women have stopped dreaming and invites us all to look within our hearts to discover what we want. Plus, she’s making an exciting and scary dream declaration of her own.
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Mimi, one of our community members clearly embodies one of the FKL keys: French Kissing Life allows you to Leisurely Hustle. It was Tonya's signature French Kiss Life program, The Slim, Chic & Savvy Immersion, that turned everything around for Mimi.
If you are interested in learning more, please go to www.SlimChicAndSavvy.com
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Martha, one of our community Members clearly embodies one of the FKL keys: French Kissing life allows you to Birth a New Way of Life (At any age!) It was Tonya's signature French Kiss Life program, The Slim, Chic & Savvy Immersion, that turned everything around for Martha.
If you are interested in learning more, please go to www.SlimChicAndSavvy.com
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Dahlia, one of our community members, clearly embodies one of the FKL keys: French Kissing Life allows you to Let go of Perfectionism. It was Tonya's signature French Kiss Life program, The Slim, Chic & Savvy Immersion, that turned everything around for Dahlia.
If you are interested in learning more, please go to www.SlimChicAndSavvy.com
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Do you have a Red Velvet Rope Policy? And why exactly, do you need a Red Velvet Rope Policy? At this upcoming French Kiss Live Live Virtual Soiree, Tonya is going to personally walk you through how to create your own Red Velvet Ropy Policy so that you can become the kind of woman you admire.
You now know that Tonya loves giving gifts. And she is giving a gift to all French Kiss Life Subscribers. It’s exclusive access to a workshop that normally only paying members in our signature FKL program gain access to. This exclusive workshop ensures that women, just like you, can Uncover the Most Radiant You. But you have to be on the list to receive this gift. If you are not yet a subscriber, sign up here --> www.frenchkisslife.com/join
Buying programs, hiring mentors and filling up your kindle with the latest self help books… What at first seems to offer so much possibility, often quickly turns into deep sadness. Here’s how to ensure that this doesn’t happen to you.
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If you’re a woman who wants to be comfortable, captivating and confident in every room you enter, I’d like to introduce you to my newest course, “Charm The Room”. Get my one of a kind system to learn the Art of Charm and you will cultivate deeper connections, dynamic friendships, & abundant opportunities...and leave them wondering “Who’s that Lady?” Check out the course here: http://www.charmtheroom.com/enroll
There are many benefits to learning the art of charm — more opportunities, better relationships, more money, more influence. But, the most surprising benefits have nothing to do with other people. In this episode, Tonya pulls back the curtain, revealing 6 surprising benefits of how the art of charm made a positive impact on the relationship she had with herself.
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In this episode, Tonya answers listeners’ questions about all things charm: overcoming shyness, how to deal with weight embarrassment, the importance your self-image, how to become more attractive plus so much more.
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Tonya often gets asked many questions, but this question of “How to Cultivate Social Confidence” always tops the list. People skills are the most important skill to learn, and often the most overlooked, if you want to live a more abundant and joyful life. In this episode, Tonya explains why Charm is the missing X factor to success, what is the #1 killer of charm , and six signs to look out for in your life to know if you’re guilty.
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When you look at your life, you can decide that it’s rich or poor, beautiful or terrible, joyful or full of sadness. You also get to decide what you believe about yourself. In this episode, Tonya shares the #1 opinion she held about herself that caused her a lot of unnecessary suffering. She also demonstrates how she changed it. Get ready to see yourself differently.
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Tonya answers more listener questions on this “Dear Tonya” episode, covering topics ranging from comparison to fear of starting something new to glamour.
Want to get coached LIVE? Come to Tonya’s upcoming virtual Soiree, where she will uncover the “10 Ways to live Slim, Chic & Savvy” http://frenchkisslife.com/soiree
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On this inaugural “Dear Tonya” episode of the French Kiss Life podcast, Tonya answers listeners’ questions about passion in relationships, starting from a place of happiness to achieve your goals, responding to detractors, and how to attain body acceptance.
To watch Tonya’s free video series about “The 3 Truths of Elegant Women”, go here: http://frenchkisslife.com/elegant/
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Join Tonya LIVE via video broadcast where she will share 10 Ways to live Slim, Chic & Savvy- these are concepts that Tonya stands behind not only because they completely transform her own life, but the lives of over one thousand women whom she’s taught and coached over the years. Your ticket is free but you must RSVP to reserve your space (it’s limited!). Go to www.FrenchKissLife.com/Soiree to register.
For years, Tonya tried to lose weight by trying every diet under the sun. She could lose the weight, but inevitably, it would creep back on. Why? Because she was missing the essential ingredient that’s required for lasting weight loss and overall well-being. If you’re tired of struggling with your body, tune into this episode to discover what may be the root cause of the toxic cycle women are in when it comes to their bodies and what to do about it.
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I'd like to invite you dive into my free course, The 3 Truths of Elegant Women.....a clear "How To" on shifting your mindset to become more Elegant, because after all, Elegance is a state of mind. Please note that access to this free course is only available for a limited time as this contains content that I reserve for paying clients....so if you've interested, sign up now! http://frenchkisslife.com/elegant/
Do you ever feel jealous? Of course, no one wants to feel this emotion, but we’re human and sometimes it creeps in when you least expect. In this episode, Tonya shares a recent pang of envy that came from nowhere. She also shares a whole new perspective on jealousy that allows her to turn what we often consider a “nasty” emotion into a beautiful experience. Want to discover how to use jealousy to your advantage? This episode is for you.
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What is it about the French culture that draws us in? Is it how they live their lives as poetic works of art? The style that has become the chic standard? Is it the delicious food and wine? It’s hard to put into words, which the French would call that je ne sais quoi (that I don’t know what but it’s something). Because of the mystique that surrounds the French culture, many women dream of moving there. The good news is that you can (without ever changing your address). In this episode, Tonya shares ways that she’s incorporated things she adores about her time in France into her everyday life, so you’ll be inspired to add a little ooh-la-la to your life.
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Okay, confession time. When was the last time you had fun? Does this word feel foreign to you? Perhaps, it’s even scary to think about living a more fun life. We’ve been disillusioned with this crazy myth that we must be serious and work hard to create a life we love. And, yet, statistics on depression and anxiety are proof that this way of being isn’t working. In this episode, Tonya shares a conversation that included 3 words spoken by a Frenchman that inspired her to make fun a priority. The result is the life she’s created, which has been built on a foundation based on having fun. Get ready to be inspired to lighten up and have more fun in your everyday.
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In this episode, Tonya shares what she considers the “worst day of middle school.” She tried a style experiment that failed miserably. The humiliation and self-loathing that ensued created years where she ignored her desire to be a stylish woman. Today, Tonya is revisiting her 12-year old self to give her a love letter that is applicable to all women who want to make the world their runway and be their best selves.
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Are you conflicted about what you want? Perhaps you want a “simple” life but feel guilt that you’re not pushing yourself more? Or maybe y0u want to build and empire and make millions but feel that you should be happy with less? With society having so many opinions about what we should want, it’s time to tap into your version of playing big (or grande). No one gets to decide what you want for yourself but you, and when you feel good about the game you’re playing, you become unstoppable. In this episode, Tonya shares a story of her “petite” dreams that led to a big life. Plus, you’ll learn the question she asks when considering any desire.
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Do you feel stuck in a state of complaining and resisting life? In this episode, Tonya shares 2 words that she instilled in her from her Southern parents that she used to bring a sense of romance back into her life after forgetting her “manners” for far too long. No matter what your circumstances are, you can use these two words to completely turn your life around. She also has a 7-day challenge for you to start practicing this simple, yet powerful concept. Tune in to learn a simple tool that will help you feel better by waking up to the miracles of your life.
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Spirituality isn’t only found in shrines and silence. It can be found while searching for that coveted “luxury” item you can’t stop thinking about. Materialism gets such a bad rap. Yes, things won’t give you permanent happiness. And yes, our society is obsessed with constant consumerism. But, when we French Kiss life, we choose to look at all things through the eyes of spirituality. Everything we purchase, including a handbag, is energy. And, what we consume, carry and converse about is creating our lives. No, you don’t have to renounce consumerism to be a spiritual person. Not when you’re French Kissing Life, at least. And in Tonya’s case, God tapped her on the shoulder in Paris and led her straight out of Chanel and into the most unexpected place to find her perfect handbag. If you want to learn the questions to ask when making purchases (or any decision for that matter), tune into this episode.
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The simple luxuries of life are often neglected when you’re in a state of scarcity and lack. If you’re not mindful, you’ll deny yourself of the very things that will help you reach your goals by inspiring you to feel better. In this episode, Tonya shares her personal journey of becoming a rich woman by purchasing a bouquet of flowers after being inspired by a dinner at Madame Clement’s home in the South of France. Discover why acting poor keeps you poor and simple steps to become a rich woman from the inside out.
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Do you live in constant anxiety that you’re missing out on life? Maybe you’re triggered by an Instagram pic or that voice in your head that is always telling you that you should be doing more with your life. This is called FOMO — fear of missing out. It’s become such a huge epidemic in our society that the acronym earned a place in the Oxford dictionary. The problem with FOMO is that it’s not only exhausting, it can be paralyzing and lead you further away from a truly well-lived life. In this episode, you will learn 6 mantras to turn your FOMO into something much more rewarding: JOMO — the joy of missing out. Are you ready to live with more elegance and joy in your everyday? This episode is for you.
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Of course, it’s important for you to learn how to love yourself, but what if trying to do so actually leads you further away from self-love? In this episode, we explore why trying to love yourself can lead to a life of self-obsession and away from cultivating self-love. What if there’s a much more fun approach? There is. Listen to this episode to discover the conversation Tonya had with a friend that changed how she approaches self-love.
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Most of Tonya’s work is about beautifying your “inner world” — your thoughts and emotions. But, she’s often asked about her favorite beauty secrets. While she’s not a beauty expert, she believes that health & beauty begins on the inside. Along with style and make-up, she has been studying, researching and applying a more holistic approach to beauty and health, and in this episode, she’s sharing her top 10 beauty secrets….cultivated from the inside out.
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What if you could create what you want NOW? The good news is you can! In this episode, Tonya shares how the old way of chasing success only made her more miserable. When she started to apply an ancient teaching to create her life, everything began to change … with ease. If you are a woman who has dreams and wants to discover a new approach to cultivating success, from the inside out, this episode is for you. Did you enjoy this episode? Then you’ll LOVE Tonya’s upcoming free French Kiss Life LIVE soiree where she’ll dive deeper into the concept of creating what you want.
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Elegance is at the core of living a French Kissed Life. However, if it’s a word that you’ve been turned off by (or you think it’s unobtainable in this lifetime), this episode will challenge you to reconsider that it’s not only available to every woman, it’s necessary to living a well-lived life. At its core, elegance is all about simplicity and effectiveness, from the thoughts you think to the actions you take. Tune in and be inspired to live more elegantly.
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The end of a year and the beginning of a new year is a natural time for self-reflection. In this episode, Tonya reveals her 2018 Word of the Year, and shares ideas to help you find yours. French Kissing Life is all about living in the possibilities and seeing the world as your playground. In order to do that, you must chisel away all that keeps y0u shackled.
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Another New Year is around the corner. And, you know what that means? Time for resolutions... or not! Let me give you some startling statistics. 42% of us make New Year’s resolutions. 9% actually keep them. Think about that: Out of almost half our humankind, only 9 out of 100 people actually follow through on their goals. Pretty startling, right? All I can think about is how many people end the year feeling super disappointed and like they’ve wasted another year. The worst part of this whole fiasco is that when you say you’re going to do something and then don’t show up for yourself, you lose trust in yourself. So what’s a women to do? Try the French Kiss Life approach to starting the New Year.
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Instead of dragging across the finish line of 2017 with yet another holiday of exhausting hustle, absolute regret, and being completely drained..... Let’s make sure that you Sparkle Bright this Holiday Season. These Mind Makeover audios are yours to keep.... forever! It's Tonya's no strings attached Holiday Gift to You! Pick up your gift at http://frenchkisslife.com/sparkle
Tonya moved in with her man in his “little cabin in the woods.” She recalls the day she started packing up my things to move in. It didn’t feel so heavenly in her head. In fact, her mind went a wee bit insane. Tune in to find out how to she overcame her fear, and how you can French Kiss Life anywhere. In a little cabin in the woods. Or in a penthouse on Madison Avenue.
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People love to talk about the past. The downside is that it holds you back. You cannot create a new future while also hanging out in the past. In this podcast, Tonya shares her attitude when it comes to the past and the only thing you need to know about it. Get ready to be inspired to let go of “past thinking” so that you can create a future full of joy and abundance.
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There is something magical about our American tradition of gathering for a day to give gratitude with the air starting to chill and the scents applex of spices in the air. Unfortunately, far too many women approach the holidays the way they go about their lives – hurried, pressured and overwhelmed. I know, because I used to be one of them. I want to make sure that this year, your Thanksgiving holiday is filled with elegance, style and joie de vivre. So I have put together a list of 22 ideas just for you.
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You're invited! Chocolate, Chanel, & Champagne: How Indulging in Parisian Hedonism Creates Lasting Personal Success
Ever wonder why French women can eat rich food, drink wine every day, and still stay slim and elegant? It’s a paradox that perplexes most Americans. But the answer isn’t about how many calories or what types of food they consume, how much they walk or whether they smoke cigarettes! Listen to Tonya sharing the story of her revelation about why French women can stay so slim and elegant while eating croissants and drinking wine, how it completely changed her life, and how it can change yours! Ever wonder why French women can eat rich food, drink wine every day, and still stay slim and elegant? It’s a paradox that perplexes most Americans. But the answer isn’t about how many calories or what types of food they consume, how much they walk or whether they smoke cigarettes! Listen to Tonya sharing the story of her revelation about why French women can stay so slim and elegant while eating croissants and drinking wine, how it completely changed her life, and how it can change yours!
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There are lessons in everything. In this podcast, Tonya shares the tough lessons she learned from a very interesting time in her life: as a Pageant Queen. She also discusses the discomfort we feel when we go after our dreams, the fears that pop up along the way, the jealousy that we feel or that may be directed towards you and so much more. These life lessons are what she applies every single day to live fully and on purpose.
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Confession time (especially from you that work from home): do you ever spend all day in your pajamas or sweatpants because no one sees you? We’ve all done it. It’s easy to become lazy and create a habit of dressing like a homeless woman when you’ve got so many other things to do. But, what if dressing with intention would positively impact your life? Your clothes speak your story. What story do you want to tell, most importantly when no one’s watching? Listen to Tonya sharing her chic awakening years ago and how it’s impacted her life.
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In a world that is going harder and faster, a proper dinner party seems to have become a thing of the past. In this podcast, Tonya shares the stories of inspiring dinner parties in Paris and South of France that left a huge impression on her and why she’s made a commitment to bring back dinner parties to her modern life. She debunks many of the excuses that people have as to why they don’t make time to host and entertain and why you may want to reconsider not making room for such a fun and elegant, yet non-essential affair.
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While I am deeply grateful for what technology allows us to do, it’s not how a true bon vivant thrives. (FYI: a Bon Vivant = one who knows how to live well.) In the French Kiss Life community, we adore face to face interaction fueled by luxurious surroundings. We want our creative flutes to be filled to the rim with possibility, beauty and love. We deeply desire to transcend the ordinary and tap into something greater. For these very reasons, I am SO excited to present. The French Kiss Life 2017 World Tour! Go to tonyaleigh.com/experience to see what city is near you.
Are you afraid of not being liked? Do you try to win people's affection? In this podcast, I share the shift I made that released me from the need to be liked and the reason why this is the best way to operate in the world. What if you just walked away from people who you have to work hard to convince?
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If you’re struggling or feel like you can’t create results in your life, learning to cultivate elegance is key, because elegance is a mindset. Learn 3 truths that Tonya learned from women who came into her life at the right time to teach her core principles that changed her life. Go to frenchkisslife.com/elegant to gain instant access.
Do you ever feel like your clothes don’t match the woman you’ve become? Does it feel difficult to wear things that you’re not accustomed to seeing yourself wearing? It’s so easy to get in a style rut (or any life rut for that matter) and just continue to do and wear the same things day after day. If you want to get out of any life rut, you must be willing to shake things up and be uncomfortable. In this podcast, Tonya tells the story of how one outfit began to change how she saw herself as a woman, and ever since that day, she’s been pushing her style and life edge. Ready to get out of a rut? This podcast is for you!
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You can start creating an elegant mindset right now regardless of the balance in your bank account, the number on a scale or your relationship status.
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How do I combine ambition with ease? This is a question I’ve been asking for almost a decade, experimenting with creating a mindset, along with inspired actions to create a life that is truly fulfilling. I don’t think we were born to just work, pay bills and die. Yet, far too many people go through life, doing the same things day after day and wondering, “Where did my life go?” In this podcast, I turn to the French for inspiration on practical tips for living a passionate, driven life while not forgetting to enjoy it. And get an insider’s view to learn the secrets of living the French lifestyle that are almost never talked about in my complimentary book, "An Insider's Guide to the French Way of Life" and learn how you can incorporate the best of the French way of life into yours. https://frenchkisslife.com/french
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Travel is one of the greatest gifts we can give ourselves. To travel alone is an even greater gift. In this podcast, Tonya shares the 8 exuberant and heart wrenching ways that traveling solo made her a better woman. If you are a woman seeking to evolve, you may find yourself booking that ticket after listening to Tonya's story of how solo travel changed her life for the better. Don't forget to grab her free travel audio guide at frenchkisslife.com/solotravel
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Join my free video program: The 3 Truths of Elegant Women. Elegance isn't about how much money you have in the bank or the clothes you wear. It's a state of mind. Learn 3 mindset shifts you can practice to go from struggling to creating your life.
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Do you obsess over your weight? Do you pinch, obsess over and curse your fat? That was me years ago. When I looked in the mirror, there I stood 75 pounds more than my ideal weight. That’s when I went on a mission to get rid of my fat. For the next decade, I dieted, exercised and went to even more extreme measures to lose weight. Yet, the harder I tried, the harder it became. Finally, I tried something different, something that radically changed not only me weight, but my life. I listened to what my fat was really telling me and started approaching my life with elegance.
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All too often, women give all of their time, energy and resources to others and leave nothing for themselves. Then, we wait for someone else to rescue us or give us the things we deeply want. When others don’t read our minds, we can become resentful and bitter. In this podcast, Tonya tells the story of the Christmas gift that inspired her to stop waiting for others to give her the life she wanted. Plus, grab The French Kiss Life Holiday Guide, all hand curated picks by Tonya herself. Enjoy!
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Can we “create more time”? Of course not. We all have the same 24 hours a day. But a few years back, after completing a (disturbing) in-depth analysis of how I was spending my time, I made a startling discovery and came up with a simple workaround. In this podcast, I will share the things that I have discovered are not worth my time, plus offer you a tool to help you discover where you may be wasting time and what to do about it.
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Sweet music wafting over the Seine, a balmy Parisian night, and a glass of Bordeaux. Why, merci, don’t mind if I do. Everyone should make a trip to the City of Light and Love, but not to see the sights (although they are gorgeous). “Doing Paris” is about more than finding a great cheese place – it’s about finding yourself. I went in with some serious preconceived notions about who I was and how much better I would be if I could be more continental (the oh-la-la kind of continental). In that respect, my journey to become French was a fiasco. I learned that I will never be French. What surprised me however, is why that’s a good thing. What surprised me even more is how we can all take a page out of the book of being French, without being French. Or definitely not French in my case. Still visit Paris though. Because…Paris.
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Are you exhausted from this political season and all of the hate, fear and personal attacks? Do you have family members or friends who see things very differently? Are you personally angry and scared about what’s happening in the world? If so, Tonya has finally given in to her commitment to NOT talk about this political season after being asked by so many people, “How are you handling these emotional times with a positive attitude?” In this podcast, Tonya shares the 8-steps she’s taking to remain calm, joyful and passionate even when she’s surrounded by what feels like such opposite states. They are practical and life-changing practices that can be applied to all areas of life, not just this presidential election.
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Life can get hectic. There are deadlines to meet. Children to raise. A job to show up for. Business to run. Bills to pay. We live in a society that drives ambition and success over time and quality, which can make a woman afraid to stop for five seconds to appreciate a sunset, much less an entire day at the beach. Our feminine hearts crave everyday beauty, yet we don’t take the time or create the space to tend to this need. The result is stress, boredom, frustration and all sorts of other negative emotions that deprive us even more of experiencing the beauty of our everyday lives. In this podcast, Tonya turns to one of her sources of inspiration, France, to share a French feminine secret that guides how she lives her days and has helped her thrive in all areas of her life. It’s these small simple actions paired with awareness that will certainly elevate the quality of an ordinary day.
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Do you constantly pressure yourself to be happy? Do you avoid uncomfortable emotions? Are you feeling like you'll never "be there?" If so, it's time to get some French inspiration and discover why chasing happiness is the worst advice ever, and what to do instead.
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Do you constantly feel overwhelmed? Is time something you never seem to have enough of? Are you not taking care of yourself? In this episode, Tonya shares how the French culture inspired her to start taking time for leisure. And, when you do, the world doesn’t fall apart. If anything, it becomes more rich and full. Ready to take the challenge?
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Have you created a vision board, only to find that your vision is still just a dream? While it’s fun to cut and paste your dreams onto a sheet of paper, vision boards are a waste of time if you don’t do show up for your vision. While Tonya does firmly believe in the law of attraction, she equally believes in the law of action. Listen to this episode to hear Tonya’s story of her first and last vision board. You’ll gain inspiration about how to take your vision and make it a reality.
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If you don't like standing in long lines with a big group of other tourists, discover ways to experience Paris like a local.
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There’s so much written and taught about the concept of self-love. But, have you stopped to consider why it’s so important? In this powerful podcast, Tonya explains why cultivating self-love is the most determining factor in a person’s success. She shares not only the internal aspect of cultivating self-love, but also gives you samples of way you can treat yourself as your own lover. And, when you do, life becomes so much more fun!
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Have you ever tried to put on your favorite jeans and find that they no longer fit? If so, do you, like many women spiral into doom and gloom? Tonya shares her story of tight jeans and how she was able to find her “sweet spot” that allowed her to slide back into them with ease without dieting or drama. In this podcast, you’ll learn what the “sweet spot” is and why it’s so important for a woman to be able to clearly know how to get back into hers when things don’t go right. As Tonya says, “The worst thing that can happen with tight jeans is what happens in your own mind.”
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The word bikini can bring up feelings of anxiety, dread and hopelessness. Each year, women around the world try and fix their bodies so that they can feel worthy of enjoying their summer. In this podcast, Tonya shares how a summer in St. Tropez inspired her to create the perfect bikini season.
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In this podcast, Tonya describes what she is fiercely committed to. There are two “F” Words, she believes, which embody what the French Kiss Life-style is all about. In a world that tells women to go harder and faster, Tonya relies on these two words to entice us to slow down, touch pause and inject our everyday lives with a little more...listen to find out.
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Is your life lacking passion? Are you constantly looking for your passion? In this podcast, Tonya reveals how a dinner party in the South of France changed the way she thought about passion. She reveals why searching for your passion is not the answer, and what to do instead.
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Do you have those days when life feels out of control? You’re not alone. In a world that pushes us to go harder and faster, women are so overwhelmed and frustrated with their own lives. However, Tonya has discovered the secret to taking that control back. The answer is simple: elegance. In this podcast, Tonya will dive into 6 reasons why elegant women rarely feel out of control.
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Do you secretly wish that you could live more like a Parisian — with style, elegance and joie de vivre? Are you ready to let go of the constant overwhelm, chaos and living life like a race? If you, you will enjoy this podcast where Tonya shares 25 ways to infuse an ordinary day with more of the exquisite. It doesn’t matter if you live in a highrise in Brooklyn or a farmhouse in Nebraska, you can cultivate a Paris state of mind. Access the show notes and other information about the French Kiss Lifestyle here:
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In this podcast, Tonya tells the story of how she liberated herself by cleaning out her closet. A woman’s closet says a lot about who she is and who she’s becoming. If you think cleaning your closet is just about organizing, this podcast will demonstrate how this home project is about so much more. With 2 specific questions and the courage to face her fears, a woman can begin to liberate herself with one dress, pair of shoes and accessory at a time.
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In a world of vulgar, excess and rudeness, Tonya exposes the belief that elegance could be in the answer to a more beautiful life. However, she debunks that elegance is about wearing pearls and fancy clothes. It’s much deeper. In this podcast, she’ll share the 12 things elegant women don’t do so that you can create more joy, beauty and meaning in your life.
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Each day, we have a choice to meticulously choose what we allow into our lives, from the food we eat to the people we surround ourselves with. Most importantly, we can decide what we consume mentally. Your mind is your greatest commodity; treat it exquisitely. If you want to live a beautiful life, you must put effort into cultivating a beautiful mind. In this episode, Tonya reveals one of the easiest ways to cultivate a beautiful mind (hint: you’re doing it the moment you press play).
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While Americans are busy writing out their 5-year visions and checking off their to-do lists, the French culture places a lot of value on the details of life. More specifically, they focus on 3 areas of their daily life. My experience has been that when you pay attention to these 3 areas, everything else in your life works so much better. What are these 3 areas? Check out this episode to find out.
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Description: Why do we fill our calendars with so many obligations? Why do we kill ourselves to try and reach goals? Why do we try to be everything to everyone? Why do we resist enjoying beautiful moments? Why do we cram our lives with excess? Years ago, I was an overwhelmed mess, filling my calendar and life with excess. It was exhausting and I couldn’t keep up. Then, I went to Paris, and I discovered how I wanted to feel in my daily life. In this episode, I’m sharing 6 ways that you can go from an overwhelmed mess to calm sophisticate.
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Have you heard of choosing a word of the year? That word that will be your guide over the next 365 days? If you have, then maybe you experienced what I did this year. The same old words, such as authentic, joyful, calm or ease just aren’t doing it for you. They don’t get you excited or aren’t big enough for what you desire to embody or step into. I had decided that I may not have a word of the year until a friend of mine shared hers, and I had a lightbulb moment. My word found me, and if you’re looking for some WOY inspiration, this may be exactly what you need.
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Every New Year’s Eve is the same thing: resolutions that you NEVER seem to remember. Whether it’s losing weight, eating healthier, or learning how to become an Extreme Couponer, you somehow find yourself falling off course within the first week! But what if I told you there’s a way to begin your New Year in a positive new way that will make you excited and hungry for what it has in store for you? I’ve come up with two simple questions that will not only help motivate you toward reaching your goals, but will also help you remain grateful for everything you’ve already achieved.
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Tis the season for those painstakingly dreaded family gatherings. Your brother and cousins are fussing at each other, your grandfather is fighting with your other grandfather, and your aunts are commenting on your weight fluctuation and insisting that it’s why you aren’t married with children yet. Yes, family gatherings take a toll on everyone’s nerves and it’s a comfort to know that your family isn’t the ONLY one gone completely crazy. As a matter of fact, here are 13 things that will absolutely guarantee a dreadful family gathering experience.
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In a world where a certain look is deemed desirable, it’s easy to get lost in what is displayed as the “perfect woman.” A small waist, dazzling smile and long flowing locks are great assets to have, but if you don’t possess those characteristics you may find yourself picking away at what you assume are your flaws. Well, it’s time to get rid of that mindset and focus on what I like to call your iconic appeal. Channeling your energy toward your best assets, features and passions will allow you to embrace your unique qualities which will leave you happy and free!
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During the holiday season, it’s so easy to forget that there are people out there who are struggling just to find some compassion from another human being. After watching the news, I realized that there’s so much calamity in the world and while my personal impact may be small, that it’s a step toward a better future nonetheless. I feel as though the “season of giving” should extend not only to those we know, but to the people we don’t know as well. With that being said, I’ve listed some of my favorite charities to give to during the holidays. T’is the season of giving!
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Are you someone who gets slightly discouraged when you see others around you doing amazing things? Maybe you’ve ventured into a non-conventional career path and you feel as though you should conform to what you think would be considered a better, more impressive life. Whatever your case may be, I’m here to tell you to that that’s no way to feel. The only way you’ll be able to succeed and enjoy life to its fullest potential is once you’ve found your “shine.” So, what exactly is your “shine” and how do you tap into it? I’m glad you asked…
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For part 2 of the Beauty Manifesto, we’ll be focusing on outward appearance. Have you ever noticed those women who can walk into a room and demand attention without even saying a word? There’s something to be said about the way a woman carries herself, and it’s no secret that if you feel great on the inside, that it’ll show on the outside. But the same thing works in reverse- if you look like a million bucks on the outside, you’ll feel great on the outside as well! Here are some steps on how to be the most beautiful woman in the room, both internally and externally.
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Sometimes it’s so easy getting wrapped up in a busy work schedule that you take absolutely no time to work on yourself. Working to impress everyone else comes first and you seem to begin putting yourself on the backburner a lot. Although rolling out of bed, grabbing a cup of coffee and rolling back into bed seems ideal, why not do something more for yourself? Whether you plan on leaving the house today or not, catering to yourself and remaining organized in your work day should be at the very TOP of your list of priorities. With that being said, here are a few tips on how to blow your mind every day.
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Age is Not an Excuse by Tonya Leigh, Master Life Coach & Founder of The French Kiss Life Movement
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Have you ever had one of those days where you felt like the whole world was conspiring against you? Believe me, we’ve all reached the point where at the end of the day all we wanted to do was down a pint of ice cream and wallow in our self pity, but that gets us nowhere and may actually do us more damage than good. What if I told you that there’s a way to handle your situations so that they aren’t as horrible as they may seem? Can you really turn your bad day around for the better?
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Living in a constant comfort zone can seem pretty…well, comfortable. But is everything as good as it could be? Could you be doing better in certain areas of your life? There’s a difference between maintaining a certain balance in your life and just settling for what is, and it’s a shame that most of us usually opt to settle. Setting your standards higher will enable you to challenge yourself to reach your goals and, luckily enough, there is a way to push yourself over whatever plateau you may be facing. Here’s what I experienced before I chose to set my standards higher…
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Life teaches us many different things and, more often than not, we choose to ignore what we’ve learned in order to please everyone. Everyone but ourselves. Not to mention the fact that with so much negativity in the world, it’s no wonder people are so miserable. But there is a way to take control of your life to rid it of the negativity you may be facing whether it be from family, friends, or even yourself. This in turn will result in a happier, healthier you. Here are a few ways I managed to put the joie back into my vivre!
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Going out to a restaurant and only ordering 3 fries seems pretty ridiculous and almost impossible, right? I mean, I can down a whole plate of fries by myself so to limit myself to just 3 sounds like unnecessary torture to some. But believe me, there is a definite method to the madness which boils down to a simple word we all know- moderation. Whether you choose to apply this method to your eating habits, overspending, or your exercise routine, here are a few reasons why you should apply the 3 French Fry Method to your life.
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It's so easy to get wrapped up in the glitz and glamour of someone else's life that we seem to forget that they probably face the exact same problems that we do. Wanting someone else's life only causes us to downplay our own as “not good enough,” sending us into a whirlwind of unnecessary despair. Sometimes we believe we'll have it easier if we could just be someone else for a day, but would we really? Here are a few quick reasons why you should reconsider wanting someone else's life and focus on improving the life you already have…
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Growth is inevitable. Sometimes we try so hard to hold on to what God is really trying to tear apart from us that we wind up hurting no one but ourselves! You can't become who you want to be if you're trying so desperately to hold on to your past. I struggled for a while before I decided that letting go and evolving is better than trying so hard to have everything remain the same. It was during that time when I found out that it's best to just go with the flow and let nature run its course, and here's what else I learned…
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The way a question is worded can either make or break you, so you have to be careful when reflecting on your goals and aspirations. Viewing your current situation as a problem instead of living in the moment can cause discouragement. Luckily enough, there is a way to turn those questions around so that they not only benefit your day, but motivate you to do better!
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Sometimes we get so wrapped up in improving large parts of our lives (careers, relationships, etc.), that we forget the little things matter too. Not doing so can have you feeling like you're living a double life where you're the chic, put-together professional out in public, but look like a homeless beggar when you're alone at home. Whether it's the old slippers we like to wear around the house, the quality of the food we shop for, or even the way we organize our closets, we should pay attention to those “small” things and focus on improving them as well! Here's how I decided to rid myself of the double life I was living…
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Getting everything done while still managing to find time for yourself seems like a pretty impossible task. It seems like no matter what you do or how you reorganize your schedule, you never have time for leisure or even relaxation. The woman who effortlessly finds her balance between leisure and hustle can pretty much achieve any and EVERY thing she sets her mind to. And while effortlessness is a trait we all wish we'd been blessed with at birth, sometimes we need to learn how to work smarter instead of harder so that effortlessness is second nature. With that being said, here’s how I managed to hustle leisurely…
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Finding the time to appreciate the little things is not as impossible as it seems. Taking the time to enjoy the life you've been given just pays homage to the fact that you've been blessed to see another day. Did you buy yourself some flowers? Have you noticed how clear the sky is today? Did you talk to someone you love? Sometimes enveloping all of the positivity around you is enough to turn your day from drab to fab. So instead of wasting your time focusing on negativity, take the time to relax, appreciate and focus on yourself by making every day enchanting.
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Fitness has become an unnatural obsession in the US, causing women to dread the very idea of working out. I remember the days of mindlessly lifting weights, doing crunches, squats and everything else to keep myself in shape and I was still unhappy and miserable! I found that adopting the European approach to exercise is actually more effective, less stressful, and a cheaper alternative to the gyms I used to patronize in the states. Here are a few simple changes that I added to my daily regimen that has helped me stay trim and happy…
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The fast-paced life is something all of us know a little too well. Feeling as though you have absolutely no time at all to do anything can leave you frustrated, physically drained and stressed, which is by no means fabulous. I realized that sometimes it's best to slow down, recharge, and leave what can be done later for later. Here's an example of how I manage to slow down my hectic schedule to a more pleasurable experience without completely dropping all of my priorities. Here is how I successfully saunter through life…
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Traveling is something that we are very familiar with, but for the longest time I always managed to over-pack, over- stress, over-spend and over-complicate my whole experience! Too many bags, clothes and other unnecessary items will have you looking like a real bag lady, and that is definitely NOT French Kiss Life. I've learned so much about how I could travel a little more eloquently by studying others' habits, and by really taking the time to organize my trip, I was able to come up with 12 tips that have made traveling an effortless experience.
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In the age of over-consumerism, it's pretty easy to get caught up in all of the hype. We want to try all of the new products and gadgets for no other reason than to say we did. This, without a doubt, has caused so many people (including myself) to buy things unnecessarily, which both drains your bank accounts and bogs you down with too much junk! Thankfully, after witnessing how elegant minimalism could be, I began paying attention to my spending habits and once I did it started become part of my everyday life. Here a few steps on how you can cultivate elegant simplicity.
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Many of us get so caught up in our work that we feel as though we aren't in control of our lives. Taking control while working a 9-5 may seem impossible but it actually isn't. There are ways to implement simple pleasures into your day in order to de-stress, unwind and enjoy your life for what it is. Whether it's taking an hour to yourself to read your favorite book, or taking the time to prepare a beautiful meal, balancing your priorities with pleasure is the simple key to living a happier life. With that being said, here's how I managed to refocus my time so that instead of living to work, I was working to live.
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Maintaining positivity is something we all want, right? It just makes sense to get rid of all of the people who either don't agree with/support you so that you can go on to grow, find better friends and live happily ever after, but unfortunately that's not how the world works. While it is true that negativity does need to be cut out from your life, cutting people off completely shouldn't be your go-to solution. Through a lot of trial and error, I have learned that it's best to sit down and really evaluate the situation because sometimes the problem may actually be you. Here are 5 things to consider before making drastic cuts in your life
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I'm pretty sure most women have gotten to a point where they've "let themselves go" in a sense. Whether you've stopped working out, stopped dressing up, always cancel your hair appointments and etc. all of these actions are a cry of inner despair. Luckily enough, with a little bit of intuitiveness, you can turn that despair into some well-needed motivation for both your current and future self. Here’s how I went from a self-pitying, Cheetoh-crusted mess, to making every day the perfect day for a little black dress.
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When you think of something that you really desire, what's your first thought? Do you feel as though you don't deserve it? Do you think it's too expensive? Does it seem like a waste of time? Investments of any kind need to be done in order to improve your life, so why is it that, more often than not, we come up with excuses instead of making the commitment? No matter which area of your life you choose to invest in, it is important to always make sure you're doing it with the intention of bettering not only yourself, but the world around you. Here are a few investments that I’ve made that have allowed me to become the person that I am today
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The French Kiss Life woman does not spend her time obsessing over her weight, complaining about her job, or downing a pint of ice cream every time her day doesn’t go as planned. I have struggled for many years trying to figure out how I could enjoy food without having to constantly worry about my weight, and I've finally figured it out! The one simple component that is the root to all happiness, success, and even weight loss! I know you’re curious to find out exactly what I could be talking about so here we go
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How many of you are guilty of wishing for an easier life? Not having as many meetings, sleeping in late, not having to work out…those all sound good, but an easier life would mean no growth, no advancement and no reward. While an easier life sounds tempting, it’s honestly not what you’re really looking for. As a matter of fact, the thing you may be thinking of isn’t necessarily an easier life; what you’re actually looking for is ease. Here’s exactly what I mean by that…
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Transitioning from childhood into womanhood requires many things- changing hormones, experience and wisdom, trial and error. While age defines your physical position in life, what it does not define is how you choose to carry yourself. That princess mentality can stay with you for as long as you live, meanwhile there are other women blossoming into strong queens. Are you self-empowered or do you need outside reassurance? Do you make excuses or do you make moves? Here’s how to determine whether you’re a princess or a queen…
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For some, God resides in either a church, temple, or within themselves. I typically see God in some unconventional places and I’ve never forgotten any of those experiences! Sometimes simple things like meditation, prayer, or even just some alone time shopping can tap into your spirit and make you feel at peace. Here’s the tale of my most recent run-in with God…
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Sheet1 In my last Leisurely Hustle post I talked about dressing to impress even if it’s just for yourself, making time for fun and working to live instead of living to work. Now that my business has expanded EXPONENTIALLY, I’ve both modified and added to my list of leisure hustling. Maintaining your business while also finding the time to maintain yourself can be tricky, but it’s all a matter of organization and drive. Here are 14 more tips on how to hustle, leisurely!
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If your schedule is hectic, you can easily lose sight of your motivation, goals and the promises you’ve made yourself. Take a minute to slow down and really evaluate if you’re living your life to its fullest potential. Ponder on whether or not you’re treating yourself like the queen that you are and focus on the positive instead of the negative! A brand new day is full of promise and I’ve found myself asking this one question everyday to not only keep me motivated, but to also keep me humble and excited for my future!
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The one thing I love most is being able to share my experiences with you. Answering your questions not only allows me to share my thoughts, mistakes and achievements, but it has also given me the opportunity to reflect on myself, where I’ve come from, and how far I have left to go. Not to mention the fact that I get to share specific personal details about myself as well! You ladies are my community, my family and my friends so without further adieu, here are some of the answers you’ve been wanting to know…
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How many of you have seen the Wizard of Oz, or some variation of it? Dorothy winds up in an unfamiliar place that she doesn't like, and all she wants to do is go back to her familiar surroundings. Does this sound familiar? As a matter of fact, is that how you’re feeling right at this moment? Relocating is hard, especially if it’s not particularly what you’d consider your idea of French Kissing Life. But at the end of the day, Dorothy found time to grow, and eventually you will too! Here are a few ways you can bloom no matter where you're planted...
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Fun is something that we define as desirable no matter how down in the dumps we’re feeling. But how can you incorporate more fun into your life? Wouldn’t that be seen as immature? Irresponsible? Careless? No matter what others may think, fun can actually bring along a lot more productivity, relieve stress and leave you feeling more satisfied with life that you’ve ever felt before. With that being said, here’s how you can follow the fun in your life…
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Price tag shock can happen at any given place, at any given time, to any given person. Believe me, I clutch my pearls in horror when I think of how much money I’ve actually spent on shoes and accessories. I mean, who do I think I am? Unapologetically worthy, that’s who. Because you see, it’s not what the purchase that you need to focus on, it is what your intentions where when you were purchasing it. Treating and investing in yourself is just as important as any business you’re running, and here’s some advice on how I manage to steer away from the guilt trip…
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In a world where a certain look is deemed desirable, it’s easy to get lost in what is displayed as the “perfect woman.” A small waist, dazzling smile and long flowing locks are great assets to have, but if you don’t possess those characteristics you may find yourself picking away at what you assume are your flaws. Well, it’s time to get rid of that mindset and focus on what I like to call your exotic appeal. Channeling your energy toward your best assets, features and passions will allow you to embrace your unique qualities which will leave you happy and free!
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If you’re someone who feels as though you need to constantly be on the go, then this list is for you. While bogging your schedule down seems to be the norm in Western society, who says that you have to conform to it? Why can’t you take the time to enjoy life instead of constantly being in a rat race? Why make life so hard and unpleasant? I’m here to tell you that you don’t have to struggle through life. As a matter of fact, here are 10 ways to live life with more ease…
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The French Kiss Life applies to every aspect of life, even money. Whether you have a lot or a little, getting to a place of monetary stability is a very comforting feeling and is something that we can all attain with a little bit of discipline. With that being said, here are a few tips on how you can French kiss your money…
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If you’re not jetting off to Rome, or if you find yourself spending more time sucking down coffee to stay awake at work than that sangria or mimosa you so desperately desire, chances are you feel as though your life is boring. More often than not, we feel as though living the average, everyday life is enough and then we retire and that is NO way to live! Finding pleasure and acting on bouts of spontaneity, even doing your everyday tasks is what truly makes life worthwhile. Here are a few tips on how to light a flame under that derriere…
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Does stepping out of your comfort zone scare and intimidate you? It should. If you’ve never experienced a moment where you felt as though you had just possibly made the biggest mistake of your life, then you’re probably not trying hard enough. As backwards as I seems, sometimes it takes that moment of fear for you to realize that the situation you’re in actually isn’t that bad! Here’s why…
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Do you wake up in a bad mood? Do you ask yourself discouraging questions instead of working to build yourself up? While life may have its downfalls, we don’t always have to live in a state of terror and uncertainty. As a matter of fact, the only way you can truly be miserably is if you choose to be miserable. Here’s what I mean…
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When you hear the word “glamour,” what’s the first thing that comes to mind? Is it a mimosa every morning? Sauntering to the spa after work? Keeping yourself dressed to the nines? If you’re looking to add more glamour to your life, it isn’t difficult. As a matter of fact, if I managed to accomplish a glamorous lifestyle, ANYONE can. Here are 10 of my best tips on how to add some more glamour to your day no matter what you're doing!
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Death is something that is inevitable and feared by most. But, why?. While many people say they fear the thought of dying, I actually think people fear the thought of dying with regret. Not eating that slice of cake or never leaving the country. I’m pretty sure I’m the only person worried about my tombstone at this point, but I want to leave this life just as I lived it-with a bang! Here’s some inspiration that may leave you brainstorming a clever epitaph of your own...
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At the beginning of the new year, we often find ourselves discouraged if we aren’t living up to our resolutions and will just decide to give up on them until the next year. This is a perfect example of what not to do. Whether you aspire to lose weight, start a business, pamper yourself more, or be more charitable, the time is now and one way to trick yourself into progressing successfully into the new year. Here are two questions that will not only motivate you, but will make you proud this year…
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With the New Year on the horizon, getting caught up remembering all of the bad stuff is usually what happens, right? And then you toast to a bigger, brighter, happier New Year and find yourself feeling depressed again within a week because you missed a couple of days at the gym. It’s no secret that you can only feel misery if you allow misery into your life, so how exactly can you turn everything around so that your new year actually goes as successfully as you want it to? What should you reflect on from the previous year? What did you learn? Here are 12 things I learned and relearned in 2014 and how I plan on transitioning them into the new year!
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With the holiday season among us, I’ve been so enveloped in all that I’ve learned this past year. From the major growth of my business, to meeting and speaking to many of you beautiful ladies, it seems as though I’d been living like it was Christmas every day! Since you’re pretty much family I, of course, have some chic, sexy, French Kissed well wishes for you and your dreams for this upcoming year…
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Have you found yourself so bogged down by your “priorities” that you forget to prioritize yourself and have fun? Don’t get discouraged because it happens to the best of us. We get so wrapped up in our routine that we forget that we need to think outside of the box in order to keep us on our toes. Keeping your happiness and occasional spontaneity at the very top of the list is something that we seldom do, but that very mindset is key when you’re living the French Kissed Life. With that being said, here are 22 of my desires that I don’t “need” to do, but absolutely must get done this year...
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Too often have we limited ourselves to what society thinks we should be, think or do. I’m here to tell you that there’s no room for growth for a woman who’s stuck in a box. Are you someone who thinks you can’t lift weights because you’re a woman? Do you stop yourself from introducing yourself to people because you’ve been told that you’re too forward? Have you grown a little too accustomed to your comfort zone? If so, here’ why you should revitalize your thinking so that you no longer feel trapped…
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We’ve all been asked what we want to do when we grow up, but have you ever really thought about who you want to be? In a world that seems to be full of limits and obstacles, it’s easy for women to force themselves into a mold of what they think they should be instead of going out and becoming exactly who they want to be. This is something that has shifted my whole entire mindset, made me readjust my goals, and helped me become the woman I longed to become! Here’s how and why I got started…
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With so much going on in our lives, it’s pretty hard to lose focus on pretty much anything that doesn’t fall within the schedule. We may eat too many donuts, the car probably hasn’t been washed in the last 3-4 months, relationships may fall at the wayside, but we move forward. Instead of taking the time to pay attention to the little things , we neglect certain people in our lives and give credit where credit is due. With that being said, here’s the main person you need to French Kiss as often as possible and 7 ways to do it!
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How many of you have ever kept a diary or journal? Within those pages you’ve written some of your deepest desires, wildest dreams and biggest heartbreaks, am I right? While this is the conventional way of journal keeping, I’ve decided to take a different approach (of course). Instead of documenting every little story that has happened in my life, I take the time to organize my thoughts and use it to start my day off on a positive note instead of ending it with a dreadful story about all of the bad things that happened that day. Here are a few tips on how to implement a journal into your regimen as a tool of motivation, clarity and peace.
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Madame Clement is one of my biggest role models, a great friend and a wonderful mentor to me. Being so accustomed to the Western ideal of life, I had found myself lost, miserable, and desperate for change. Madame Clement has so many pearls of wisdom on how to live life to the fullest instead of driving yourself crazy trying to play catch up, and you know I have to share them with you. Here’s some much-needed advice from Madame Clement on how to live abundantly.
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18 Ways to Make an Ordinary Day Exquisite by Tonya Leigh, Master Life Coach & Founder of The French Kiss Life Movement
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The Question I Ask When Deciding What To Do by Tonya Leigh, Master Life Coach & Founder of The French Kiss Life Movement
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Live luxuriously no matter where you are on the map!
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My rant about what's pissing me off these days: the whole self-help industry. And, I also appreciate the personal development world. In this post, I talk about how I overcame my self-help addiction and changed my life through the French Kiss Life-style. Enjoy:).
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