Same Shit, Different Mom

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How to Stop Letting ADHD Hold You Back and Start Owning Your Power Aug 26, 2025

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In this episode, Carly dives deep into the nuances of navigating ADHD, autism, and neurodivergence as an adult—while challenging the limiting narratives around what it means to thrive.

Late-diagnosed herself, Carly shares her personal journey of redefining identity, dismantling internalized ableism, and shifting from focusing on “what’s hard” to intentionally creating a reality that matches your desires. This isn’t about bypassing challenges or ignoring your wiring. It’s about understanding the power of your attention, regulating your energy, and unlocking the next version of yourself.

Carly weaves together personal stories, hard-earned insights, and practical tools to help you step out of self-judgment and step into your highest potential. If you’ve ever felt like your big emotions, different wiring, or intense way of processing the world is holding you back—this conversation will give you hope, validation, and a powerful new perspective.

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What happens when your identity shifts… again? Aug 19, 2025

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In this episode of Same Shit, Different Mom, Carly Ely shares a raw and honest life update. After months of being quiet online, Carly opens up about her personal and business evolution—how she’s moving beyond labels, pivots, and expectations to embrace full transparency in her journey. She reflects on her shift from school psychologist to sleep consultant to conscious motherhood mentor, and now toward a deeper focus on self-leadership and multidimensional identity as a late-diagnosed neurodivergent woman. Carly explores the tension between wanting to present polished expertise versus sharing what’s truly alive in the moment. She describes how her mentor challenged her to stop overthinking and start documenting her journey daily—even if it feels messy, imperfect, or self-indulgent. This episode invites listeners to embrace their own evolving identity, trust their inner wisdom, and recognize that the right people will resonate with their story, even if it’s unfinished.

Masking, Misalignment, and Motherhood: The Truth About Being a Neurodivergent Woman Jun 12, 2025

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In this raw and unfiltered episode, I'm getting honest about something I've only ever skimmed the surface of before—what it’s really like to navigate motherhood, business, and personal growth while living with late-diagnosed ADHD and autism.

If you’ve ever felt like you were “too much” or “not enough”…

If you’ve been performing, pleasing, and pushing through, wondering why it’s so damn exhausting…

If motherhood has cracked you wide open and left you questioning everything—

This episode is for you.

-The identity crisis that came with my late autism and ADHD diagnosis

-The invisible toll of high-functioning masking—and why so many women miss the signs

-How internalized ableism made me afraid to share my truth

-Why I'm done performing for comfort and ready to show up unmasked

-How motherhood became the portal to awakening, not just struggle

Whether you’re a mother, a highly sensitive woman, or a late-realized neurodivergent soul, this episode is a mirror and an invitation—to unlearn, unbecome, and finally come home to yourself.

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Invisible Cycles You're Breaking Part 2 May 08, 2025

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In part two of our series on the invisible generational cycles we’re breaking as conscious millennial moms, we explore some of the most profound unconscious patterns we’ve inherited: victim mentality, hustle-as-worth culture, and emotional suppression.

These aren’t just buzzwords—they’re baked into the way we move through motherhood, and today’s episode is an invitation to unravel them with compassion, self-responsibility, and power. If you’ve ever caught yourself saying “If only they would listen, I wouldn’t yell,” or rushing around the house like it’s an emergency when it’s not... this one’s for you.

00:00 – Welcome Back + Series Recap

Carly introduces this continuation of the generational cycle-breaking conversation and why these invisible patterns matter so much.

01:48 – The Biggest Cycle We’re Breaking:

08:50 – Moving from Reaction to Response

12:25 – Why the Boomer Generation Struggles with Accountability

15:40 – The Protective Nature of Victim Mentality

17:10 – Hustle, Rush, Productivity: The Cycle of Anxiety

25:15 – Emotional Suppression: The Core Wound We’re Healing From

30:05 – Why Kids Can’t “Control” Their Emotions

33:00 – Your Healing Creates Emotional Safety for Future Generations

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Invisible Generational Cycles You're Breaking Part 1 May 05, 2025

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In this episode of 'Same Shit Different Mom,' we delve into the concept of breaking generational cycles and what it truly means to be a cycle breaker.

Emphasizing the importance of changing behaviors and becoming an evolved version of oneself, we explore the deeper psychological and emotional work involved.

We introduce three key cycles you're breaking for yourself and your kids.

00:18 Understanding Generational Cycles

00:48 Personal Journey and Professional Approach

04:31 Common Misconceptions About Breaking Cycles

07:21 Deeper Meaning of Breaking Generational Cycles

08:17 Healing Internalized Beliefs and Patterns

10:12 Subconscious Mind and Generational Cycles

18:34 Practical Examples and Patterns to Break

19:19 Cycle of Self-Abandonment

22:36 Cycle of Vanity and Image

26:50 Cycle of Fear of Judgment

32:28 Conclusion and Next Steps

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Why You Feel Mom Guilt and How to Let It Go Jan 30, 2025

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In this episode, we're diving into the complex topic of "mom guilt" and unpacking how societal conditioning shapes our feelings of inadequacy. We explore the difference between guilt rooted in actions versus guilt over thoughts or feelings. I'm sharing audience responses to what triggers mom guilt and offering powerful insights for shifting the narrative around guilt, self-awareness, and emotional regulation in motherhood.

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Addicted to Stress? The Hidden Habits That Keep Moms Burnt Out Dec 16, 2024

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In today’s episode of Same Shit, Different Mom, we’re diving deep into the mind-body connection and why it’s the foundation for true transformation in motherhood—and life. Have you ever wondered why it feels so hard to break the same old patterns, even when you’re determined to change? Or why you keep reacting in ways you swore you wouldn’t? The truth is, your nervous system and subconscious mind are running the show more than you might realize. But the good news? Understanding this connection is the first step to rewiring those loops and breaking free. Join me as I break down how your body becomes “addicted” to certain emotional responses, why familiar patterns feel safe even when they’re not serving you, and how to start shifting into a new way of being—one rooted in healing and thriving, not just surviving. This episode is packed with insights, practical reframes, and actionable steps to help you create meaningful change. Tune in, and let’s start turning your emotional patterns into opportunities for growth.

[02:30] What is the Mind-Body Connection?

[05:00] Emotional Addiction [10:30] The Role of Awareness

[15:00] The Role of Generational Patterns and Epigenetics

[18:00] Reframing Negative Patterns as Opportunities

[22:00] Practical Takeaways for Moms

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How to Stay Calm During Power Struggles Nov 27, 2024

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In this episode of the 'Same Shit Different Mom' podcast, we're talking about handling power struggles with your kids without losing your cool. Sharing personal stories and expert advice, we dive into why control and connection are key, how your own unmet needs can affect your parenting, and some easy-to-follow tips to stay calm during those tough moments. We look at real-life scenarios like bedtime battles and daily instructions to give you practical tools. Plus, there's a free guide to help moms understand their triggers and manage those intense emotions better.

00:00 Introduction to Power Struggles

01:24 Understanding the Need for Control

03:34 Common Scenarios of Power Struggles

04:33 Mastering Emotional Reactions

10:58 Effective Strategies and Tips

18:31 Setting Boundaries and Maintaining Control

22:13 Preventative Measures

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The Truth About Your "Mom Rage" Sep 23, 2024

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You know those moments when the stress builds up, and before you know it, you’re yelling at your kids and feeling out of control? In this episode of Same Shit, Different Mom, we’re tackling a topic that so many of us experience but rarely talk about—mom rage. It’s not just about losing your temper—it’s a signal from your nervous system and your subconscious. In this episode, we’ll explore the real causes of mom rage, the emotions it’s masking, and how you can begin to break the cycle of reactivity with practical tools and self-compassion. Tune in for a transformative conversation that will help you parent with more calm, clarity, and connection.

Highlights:

[01:44] - The Experience of Mom Rage

[03:46] - The Nervous System's Role in Reactivity

[04:53] - The Emotion Behind the Anger

[07:55] - Overwhelm and Unmet Needs

[09:14] - The Role of Guilt and Shame

[13:14] - The Impossible Standard of Motherhood

[17:43] - Real-Life Example of “Mom Rage”

[18:47] - Self-Reflection and Releasing Unrealistic Expectations

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Why Are Millenial Moms So Overwhelmed? Sep 12, 2024

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If you’ve ever felt misunderstood or judged by older generations for how you choose to parent and the struggles you face, this episode is for you. I sat down with my curious boomer parents for an open conversation about the evolution of parenting styles across generations. In this episode, we touch on the following topics: [03:01 - 10:00] – Reflecting on the Past: How Parenting Has Changed [10:01 - 17:00] – The Challenge of Parenting Without a Model [17:01 - 25:00] – Understanding Triggers and Emotional Reactivity [25:01 - 32:00] – Rewriting the Parenting Narrative [32:01 - 38:00] – Structural Challenges and Societal Expectations [38:01 - 45:00] – Embracing Growth and Change in Parenting I’d love to hear your thoughts on this conversation! DM me on Instagram @heycarlyely If you’re interested in learning more about working with me, reach out on IG or email me at suport@carlyely.com

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