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Taking Radical Responsibility of Your Lack of Fulfillment with Ludmila Woodruff Jun 08, 2021

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When you are constantly finding yourself in resentful relationships or sticky situations, do you look outwards to find blame, or do you look inwards to find radical responsibility?

In this episode, life and relationship coach Ludmila Woodruff joins Jessica to talk about taking ownership over your life circumstances and just how empowering that can be. Whether it’s exploring your self-abandonment issues or breaking your toxic patterns, Jessica and Ludmila cover all the bases necessary for you to reflect on the roles you play in your relationships. So join the conversation and begin your journey towards taking radical responsibility with Jessica and Ludmila today!

About Ludmila

Ludmila Woodruff is a Life and Relationship coach who helps high-performing women thrive in their relationships as much as they do in their careers. Through a direct but caring approach, Ludmila combines her training with her unique communication skills to transform her clients’ relationships so they can show up as their best selves.

KEY POINTS / MAIN TAKEAWAYS:

How to take ownership over hard truths.
Finding connection and healing through the little things.
The causes of self-abandonment.
What does true self-care look like?
How to remove the ‘should’s and shame in your relationship.
Understanding and applying The Model by Brooke Castillo.
The power of holding space for yourself and others.
Why are you always choosing the same, wrong partner?
How to break your toxic patterns.

QUOTABLES:

“Relationships define the quality of our life.”

“You can be broken and a badass.”

“A friendship and a true relationship should be unconditional giving without the thought or the need for return because otherwise, you're just looking to fill some type of void.”

PRODUCTS / RESOURCES:

Visit Ludmila’s website at https://ludmilawoodruff.wixsite.com/mysite

Follow Ludmila on Instagram @ludmilawoodruff - https://www.instagram.com/ludmilawoodruff/?hl=en

Like Ludmila’s Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/Ludmila-Woodruff-Life-Relationship-Coaching-354156572047982/

Connect with Ludmila on Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ludmila-woodruff-07166733/

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Breaking Trauma Bonds, Unhealed Wounds, and Manifesting the Soulmate Love You Desire with Vanessa Nance May 25, 2021

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Women are often told that they can’t have both; that we are doomed to choose between high levels of success or deep, loving relationships in our lives. Well, it’s time to shatter that notion and create a new one for ourselves because believe it or not, you CAN have both. How, exactly?

In this episode, we are joined by feminine energy coach, Vanessa Nance, to explain the dynamics between our masculine and feminine energies, how to reconnect with them, and how to balance them. You will learn to embrace and tap into the power of your feminine energy in relationships, all while standing firm in your masculine abilities. So join Jessica and Vanessa as they take a deep dive into the fundamentals of dating and relationships, and uncover the key to manifesting your greatest love vision.

KEY POINTS / MAIN TAKEAWAYS:

The roles that your masculine and feminine energies play.
Polarity dynamics and how to mirror a man’s level of effort in dating.
The key component to healing your feminine energy.
How to know when to fight for your love and when to walk away.
What do healthy boundaries look like in a relationship?
How to navigate and heal through distrust in relationships.
When is it time to start dating again?
What is your love vision and how do you manifest it?
Alignment vs Chemistry in dating and relationships.

QUOTABLES:

“Mirror a man's level of effort, but don't exceed it.”

“Seek and you shall find. If you are seeking evidence that your partner's liking other people, you're going to find it. Your mind is that powerful. You're going to go look for something that's going to affirm it.”

“Every time you see what you don't want, you're actually getting more clarity on what it is you do want.”

PRODUCTS / RESOURCES:

CLAIMED with Anna Rova podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/claimed-feminine-masculine-polarity-femininity-embodiment/id1296155915

Visit Vanessa’s website at www.magneticfeminine.com

Follow Vanessa on Instagram @magnetic_feminine - https://www.instagram.com/magnetic_feminine/

Contact Vanessa at vanessa@magneticfeminine.com

Love what you’re hearing? Follow Jessica Hurley on social media and share the love!

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Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Thestrandedphase/

Visit The Stranded Phase website at http://www.thestrandedphase.com/

Gain access to more of Jessica’s resources here: https://linktr.ee/jessicahurley__

The Stranded Phase is edited by Instapodcasts (visit at www.instapodcasts.com)

Dealing & Healing From A Narcissist with Shelea Daily Part 2 May 20, 2021

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Join Jessica and Shelea in part 2 of this interview as they continue their discussion on dealing with and healing from a narcissist. In this episode, you will learn the vital difference between what you’re attracting and what you’re accepting, and how to get clear on the things you will and will not accept in a relationship. Find out how your heart and brain are connected with each other, and the things you can do to strengthen that connection and radically transform your core beliefs. Shelea also explains why our feelings are not facts, and shows us how to embrace the full spectrum of our emotions with love and compassion. So join in on the conversation and take one step closer to inner peace and healing with Jessica and Shelea!

KEY POINTS / MAIN TAKEAWAYS:

The power of living in the present moment.
How to see opportunity in your pain.
The key to changing your core belief system.
Applying the 1% theory in your life.
What can you do to break your toxic patterns?
The importance of safeguarding your value.
Things you should never compromise on.
How to get clear on what you want.

QUOTABLES:

“You're going to keep on accepting shit when you think you're shit. You're going to keep on accepting people that treat you badly when you think that's what you're worth.”

“If you can give me my value, you can take it away.”

“If you can feel pain, you can feel immense joy.”

PRODUCTS / RESOURCES:

Visit Shelea’s website at https://www.sheleadaily.com/

Follow Shelea on Instagram @sheleadaily - https://www.instagram.com/sheleadaily/

Like Shelea's Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/coachingwithshelea

Love what you’re hearing? Follow Jessica Hurley on social media and share the love!

Instagram @jessicahurley__ - https://www.instagram.com/jessicahurley__/?hl=en

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Thestrandedphase

Visit The Stranded Phase website at http://www.thestrandedphase.com

Gain access to more of Jessica’s resources here: https://linktr.ee/jessicahurley__

The Stranded Phase is edited by Instapodcasts (visit at www.instapodcasts.com)

Dealing & Healing From A Narcissist with Shelea Daily Part 1 May 18, 2021

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It is one thing to leave an abusive relationship, but it’s another to heal from it. Narcissist and abuse expert Shelea Daily was all too familiar with doing both but has since then been helping others deal and heal from their own narcissistic relationships. In this episode, Shelea sheds some light on Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) - Is Narcissistic Personality Disorder something you are born with or something you develop? How can you tell if someone you love is a narcissist? What do you do to heal from a narcissistic relationship? Tune in for a clinical perspective on NPD and inner healing, as well as how to own and embrace your trauma so you can truly move on from it.

KEY POINTS / MAIN TAKEAWAYS:

How the Pain to Purpose project was born.
What is Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD)?
The mechanisms behind someone with NPD.
What to do when you start questioning yourself.
Understanding the fear behind leaving an abusive relationship.
How to speak to your inner child.
Meditation: How to create your own safe space.

QUOTABLES:

“We cluster things to give labels to it so we can learn to treat it. Well, once you understand, like, this is toxic and it's not me, move on. Move on to healing. Don't stay stuck in reading books trying to understand a disorder that keeps you stuck. It is what it is.”

“Are there some things I need to change? Some traumas I need to acknowledge? 1000%. But I don't want to take the situation and become somebody I'm not destined to be. And that requires me to process this shit - good, bad, ugly, and indifferent.”

PRODUCTS / RESOURCES:

The Shadow Effect by Deepak Chopra

Visit Shelea’s website at https://www.sheleadaily.com/

Follow Shelea on Instagram @sheleadaily - https://www.instagram.com/sheleadaily/

Like Shelea's Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/coachingwithshelea/

Love what you’re hearing? Follow Jessica Hurley on social media and share the love!

Instagram @jessicahurley__ - https://www.instagram.com/jessicahurley__/?hl=en

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Thestrandedphase/

Visit The Stranded Phase website at http://www.thestrandedphase.com/

Gain access to more of Jessica’s resources here: https://linktr.ee/jessicahurley__

The Stranded Phase is edited by Instapodcasts (visit at www.instapodcasts.com)

My Toughest Transformation with Claire Hammil May 11, 2021

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In this episode, Jessica makes a special guest appearance on the Curvy Collective podcast with host Claire Hammill! Tune in as they dive deep into their transformation journeys and share the biggest, most valuable lessons that they’ve learned from them. You will uncover the very things that are holding you back in life and what you can do to triumph over them. Jessica and Claire also chat about grit in entrepreneurship, the power of vulnerability, and the futile chase for perfection. So join this honest, heartfelt conversation between your two hosts and see just how empowering tapping into your feminine circles can be!

KEY POINTS / MAIN TAKEAWAYS:

The struggles and lessons of entrepreneurship.
How asking for help is not a weakness.
Why you need to lean on your fellow women.
The power of feminine energy.
Embracing constant change and evolution.
The importance of trusting yourself.
How to turn your triggers into triumphs.

QUOTABLES:

“Confidence and clarity come through action.”

“Entrepreneurship is just a cycle of being uncomfortable over and over again. How uncomfortable are you willing to be? That is directly correlated with how much success you're going to have in your business.”

“I can't change the thing that happened. What I can change is what I believe about it.”

PRODUCTS / RESOURCES:

Tune in to the Curvy Collective podcast: https://www.clairehammill.com/curvy-collective

Visit Claire’s website at https://www.clairehammill.com/

Follow Claire on Instagram @clairehammill - https://www.instagram.com/clairehammill/?hl=en

Follow Claire on Twitter @hammill_claire - https://twitter.com/hammill_claire?lang=en

Love what you’re hearing? Follow Jessica Hurley on social media and share the love!

Instagram @jessicahurley__ - https://www.instagram.com/jessicahurley__/?hl=en

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Thestrandedphase/

Visit The Stranded Phase website at http://www.thestrandedphase.com/

Gain access to more of Jessica’s resources here: https://linktr.ee/jessicahurley__

The Stranded Phase is edited by Instapodcasts (visit at www.instapodcasts.com)

The Dark Night of The Soul May 04, 2021

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What do you do when you’ve hit your lowest of lows, and everything seems hopeless and bleak? These painful moments we call the Dark Night of the Soul can either change us for the better or for the worst, and Jessica is no stranger to those very moments. In this episode, Jessica opens up about the darkest times of her life, but also how they have awakened a newer, better version of herself. She also shares how sitting through your pain can help you achieve new levels of clarity on who you are and how much you are worth. So tune in and learn how you, too, can emerge from your pain stronger than ever.

KEY POINTS / MAIN TAKEAWAYS:

What is the dark night of the soul?
How to turn your dark knight of the soul into your calling.
Take stock of what and who you attract.
Learn to love yourself again.
Understanding the power of Now.
It’s okay not to be okay.
Why you must break down to breakthrough.
How to have compassion for yourself and others.
The power of meditation and breathwork.

QUOTABLES:

“Pain is a question that you're trying to answer. And sometimes there's no answer so it has to live inside you without condition. And that's okay. You're not broken. You will not stay like this forever. You will heal. Don't run from it. When your pain comes, listen.”

“Depression comes from living in the past. Anxiety comes from living in the future. You live in neither if you live in presence; the right now”

PRODUCTS / RESOURCES:

Tune in to the Live Awake Podcast: https://www.sarahblondin.com/podcast

Love what you’re hearing? Follow Jessica Hurley on social media and share the love!

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Visit The Stranded Phase website at http://www.thestrandedphase.com/

Gain access to more of Jessica’s resources here: https://linktr.ee/jessicahurley__

The Stranded Phase is edited by Instapodcasts (visit at www.instapodcasts.com)

Grow Through Your Grief With Gianna DeMedio May 04, 2021

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True growth never comes without pain. And one of the biggest, most common forms of pain we feel is grief. So how do we overcome this pain that can oftentimes cripple and overwhelm us? In this episode, we kick off our new season with special guest Gianna Demedio - a grief expert who has helped countless people process the experiences and emotions that come with grief through her So Sorry For Your Loss Podcast. Whether you are grieving the loss of a relationship, loved one, or a missed opportunity, this episode will help you not only navigate your grief but wear it like a badge of honor. Tune in now and reframe your narrative of grief into a healthier and more positive one!

KEY POINTS / MAIN TAKEAWAYS:

What is grief and when do we experience it?
Why your grief is not linear.
How to deal with memories of someone you’ve lost.
Why you need to sit in your pain.
How growth comes with grief.
Ways to support someone through grief.
How do you know when you’ve truly healed?
The importance of giving yourself grace.
Do men and women grieve differently?

QUOTABLES:

“Healing doesn't mean the damage never existed; it means it no longer controls your life.”

“All grief is, is learning to rewrite the story without someone who you thought would be forever in it.”

“If you look at it, yes, it's grief, but it's also growth. You're not supposed to be the same person after this is. It's unfortunate that you have to have growth in this way, but this is the way that the world is telling you that you needed to do it.”

PRODUCTS / RESOURCES:

Follow Gianna on Instagram @gianna.de - https://www.instagram.com/gianna.de/

Tune in to the So Sorry For Your Loss Podcast at www.ssfylpodcast.com

Love what you’re hearing? Follow Jessica Hurley on social media and share the love!

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Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Thestrandedphase/

Visit The Stranded Phase website at http://www.thestrandedphase.com/

Gain access to more of Jessica’s resources here: https://linktr.ee/jessicahurley__

The Stranded Phase is edited by Instapodcasts (visit at www.instapodcasts.com)

15 MIN FRI: The Masks That We Wear As Women Mar 12, 2021

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There are many masks that we wear in life, and oftentimes the very masks we choose to wear reveal the things we try to hide the most. So what are these masks that we women wear? And how do we lay them down and tap back into the power of our feminine energy? Tune in as Jessica explains all the masks that we wear as women, so that you can identify the ones that you wear and how they may be harming or healing you. Whether you want to understand yourself more, or you would like to connect with your partner better, this episode is a must-listen. So grab a pen and paper, maybe a glass of wine, and reflect on the masks you wear as you write them down - which one of these masks applies to you?

KEY POINTS / MAIN TAKEAWAYS:

Getting to the first, second, and third versions of yourself.
Understanding the 9 masks that men wear.
The masks that women wear.
How to balance your masculine and feminine.
Finding power in your femininity.

QUOTABLES:

“This year is about unbecoming. It's about being naked and unashamed. It's about the deepest, soul-wrenching, spiritual journey that I have avoided for a long, long time. I have prayed for this, I promise you. I know it's everything I prayed for. I just didn't know that it would look like this. And I think so many of you can relate to that. Because we pray for things that we are not ready for.”

“Women's ultimate goal is to be seen, heard, respected. and loved. Yet so many of these masks make us invisible.”

PRODUCTS / RESOURCES:

The Mask of Masculinity by Lewis Howes - https://www.amazon.com/Mask-Masculinity-Embrace-Vulnerability-Relationships/dp/1623368626

He-motions by T.D. Jakes - https://www.amazon.com/He-motions-Even-Strong-Men-Struggle/dp/0399151966

Love what you’re hearing? Follow Jessica Hurley on social media and share the love!

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Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Thestrandedphase

Visit The Stranded Phase website at http://www.thestrandedphase.com

Gain access to more of Jessica’s resources here: https://linktr.ee/jessicahurley__

The Stranded Phase is edited by Instapodcasts (visit at www.instapodcasts.com)

R.I.P. To Toxicity with The Queen of Affirmation Music, Toni Jones Feb 23, 2021

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If you are feeling down in the dumps or frustrated at your life’s circumstances, then this episode is a must-listen. By infusing words of affirmation with sultry, hypnotic beats, Toni Jones, the Queen of affirmation music, creates music not to entertain but to heal and soothe the human soul. Toni shares with us her journey of artistry and self-healing, and how to embrace, cope and heal from the pains in your life. So join this intimate chat between Jessica and Toni as they unveil many golden nuggets of truth that you do not want to miss!

KEY POINTS / MAIN TAKEAWAYS:

The inspiration behind Toni’s music journey.
How to be the guardian of your emotional reality.
The importance of embracing and learning from your pain.
Why you need a strong support system.
Love is serving the Third Thing.

QUOTABLES:

“Music has always had a medicinal legacy. And somehow down the line, it became entertainment. But music is designed for the human soul, mind, and mental health.”

“I knew that I was accountable to be the guardian of my emotional reality. And I couldn't give that up for anybody. So if I was misunderstood, my mental health is worth being misunderstood.”

PRODUCTS / RESOURCES:

Listen to Toni Jones:

iTunes: https://music.apple.com/us/artist/toni-jones/1456669345

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/6PXEwzEXJYzH2DcpU3WVOa

Follow Toni Jones on Instagram @iamtonijones - https://www.instagram.com/iamtonijones/?hl=en

Visit the Toni Jones website at https://www.iamtonijones.com/

Love what you’re hearing? Follow Jessica Hurley on social media and share the love!

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Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Thestrandedphase

Visit The Stranded Phase website at http://www.thestrandedphase.com

Gain access to more of Jessica’s resources here: https://linktr.ee/jessicahurley__

The Stranded Phase is edited by Instapodcasts (visit at www.instapodcasts.com)

In The Middle Of A Mess With Chris Bruce Feb 16, 2021

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Jessica returns after a six-week hiatus with her most raw, real, and vulnerable story yet. In this unscripted episode, Jessica and Chris open up about their relationship to show you both sides of the struggles in a life partnership. As they invite you to listen to their individual perspectives, understand that life may unexpectedly throw us more questions than answers at times. But as all things happen for a reason, we encourage you to tune in to this episode with love, understanding, and an open heart.

KEY POINTS / MAIN TAKEAWAYS:

Jessica

The power of sharing your story.
Why it’s okay to want more.
Embracing your pain to find your purpose.
Trusting that there is always a reason.
Learning to love yourself again.

Chris

Making space to be vulnerable.
Understanding the six human needs.
Ways to experience true intimacy with your partner.
How to recognize and meet your partner’s needs.
Why you need to look within yourself.

QUOTABLES:

“But one thing I know that I was created for was to share it all. Share it all when it's ugly, when it don't make sense, when it don't work, when you did the thing and it's still not happening... I was created to share it all.”

“No great gift is given without pain.”

PRODUCTS / RESOURCES:

The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida: https://www.amazon.com/Way-Superior-Man-Spiritual-Challenges-ebook/dp/B004A8ZWM4

He-motions by T.D. Jakes: https://www.amazon.com/He-motions-Even-Strong-Men-Struggle/dp/0399151966

Love what you’re hearing? Follow Jessica Hurley on social media and share the love!

Instagram @jessicahurley__ - https://www.instagram.com/jessicahurley__/?hl=en

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Thestrandedphase/

Visit The Stranded Phase website at http://www.thestrandedphase.com/

Gain access to more of Jessica’s resources here: https://linktr.ee/jessicahurley__

The Stranded Phase is edited by Instapodcasts (visit at www.instapodcasts.com)