Restore The Glory Podcast

Redemptive Suffering (Part 1) Oct 30, 2024

This week, Jake and Bob dive deep into the concept of redemptive suffering. Whether you are grieving the loss of a loved one, processing a medical diagnosis, or struggling to love your neighbor, we all experience suffering in many forms throughout our lives. Jake and Bob discuss how these sufferings allow us to see clearly into our hearts and notice the compassionate ways God is working to unite us more closely to Him. They also explore the nature of suffering as an experience of evil, the healing power of suffering, and share personal stories of how suffering redeemed their lives.

Key Points:

Suffering is the experience of evil
Redemptive suffering often involves facing deeper issues than we initially recognize
Our understanding of God is often revealed in our response to suffering
Community and communion with others are essential during times of suffering
Surrendering to God in suffering leads to healing

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Healing & Trust w/ Carrie Archual Oct 16, 2024

This week, Jake and Bob are joined by Carrie Archual, a longtime friend and prayerful intercessor in their families’ lives. Carrie walks us through her profound journey of a cancer diagnosis. From learning surrender to experiencing deep spiritual consolations, Carrie shares the transformative power of faith in the face of suffering. They also discuss the duality of pain and healing and how true healing isn’t always physical restoration alone.

Key Points:

Healing is often more than just physical restoration of our bodies
Faith can provide a profound peace amidst chaos and suffering
Offering one’s suffering for another brings meaning to the suffering
God is already there with us in our darkest moments
The physical and emotional wounds we experience in our lives are opportunities to see and experience God’s faithfulness and grace.

Resources:

JJ Heller - Only Time Will Tell (Music Video)

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Rooted In Love w/ Isaac Wicker Oct 02, 2024

This week, Jake and Bob are joined by Isaac Wicker, a licensed counselor and co-founder of Known, a 12-week online Catholic coaching program to heal wounded relationships with God the Father. Isaac shares his story of his own mental health journey, his approach to helping others overcome their struggles and discover their worth, as well as the role of loving people in therapy. They also discuss the importance of bringing all our emotions and desires to God, especially when we are exploring our own woundedness.

Key Points:

All good therapy is rooted in love.
Isaac’s approach to help low-income adults overcome their struggles involves focusing on values and collaborative problem-solving.
The Kown program helps individuals discover their purpose and live fully alive by healing our wounded relationship with God the Father
Being secure and relational with God allows for exploration of difficult emotions without being overwhelmed.
Having a concrete schedule, routine, and accountability within the healing process helps one stay dedicated along the sometimes difficult journey.

Resources:

Isaac’s Website (Ready to Be Known)
soulandpsych@gmail.com
The Whole Human Podcast with Isaac Wicker

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Anatomy of Freedom with Fr. Mark-Mary Ames, CFR Sep 18, 2024

This week, Jake and Bob are joined by Fr. Mark-Mary Ames, CFR to discuss the anatomy of freedom. Fr. Mark-Mary talks about the three pillars of freedom, the components of being loved, and how these concepts have helped bring about healing within his ministry work. They also discuss the importance of naming our needs, surrendering them to God, and why this act of surrender helps us love and be loved more authentically.

Key Points:

The three pillars of authentic freedom are being seen and known, loved, and safe.
The components of being loved include being heard, understood, chosen, and receiving personal treatment.
Being loved authentically also involves being celebrated, sacrificially served, offered forgiveness, and pursued.
Having clear rules, consistency, and sufficient resources contribute to our sense of safety.
We should surrender our needs to the Father so that we can then be more open and able to receive healing from those around us.

Resources:

Fransiscan Friars of the Renewal (CFRs) on Ascension Presents (YouTube)
Poco a Poco Podcast
The book Habits for Holiness by Fr. Mark-Mary Ames, CFR
The book The Father: 30 Meditations to Draw You Into the Heart of God by Fr. Mark-Mary Ames, CFR

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Back to the Basics Sep 11, 2024

This week, Jake and Bob go back to the basics of healing. They reflect on the idea that it is not what happens to us that harms our souls, but rather our response. Jake and Bob also discuss the problem of evil done to another, the challenges that come with accepting the reality of what happened, and the role of pain in the healing process.

Key Points:

There is a difference between blame and responsibility. It is important to hold abusers accountable while also recognizing our personal role in the healing process
Our souls are harmed in our response to a trauma but that does not mean we are responsible for the trauma itself
Grace and divine assistance are necessary for acknowledging the reality of what happened and experiencing healing
Healing is the process of being restored to our original God-given glory. It involves encountering God as the source of our healing and developing a right relationship with Him
Healing is not just the removal of pain, but the freedom to will the good and the capacity to live in accordance with our true nature

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Friends of the Bridegroom w/ Fr. John Burns and Sr. Miriam James Heidland Aug 14, 2024

This week, Jake and Bob are joined by Fr. John Burns and Sr. Miriam James Heidland to talk about their ministry called Friends of the Bridegroom. Their ministry seeks to renew the Church through the healing, renewal, and expansion of women’s religious life in America. They also discuss the nuptial meaning of every vocation, the unique beauty women bring to the Church, and how in every state of life, we are all called to live for another.

Key Points:

Priests and religious play a vital and unique role in the health and healing of the Church
A Church without religious sisters is like a family without a mother
No matter our state of life, we are not meant to be living for ourselves. Our hearts are made to be lived for another
Friends of the Bridegroom seeks to bring God’s glory forth by awakening a movement in the Church for the restoration of the Bride. When the Bride radiates, everyone understands their place within it.
Prayer, fasting, and almsgiving are three ways we can offer a penitential sacrifice for the renewal of the Church.

Resources:

Friends of the Bridegroom Website
Healing Through Forgiveness with Sr. Miriam and Fr. John (from SEEK23)
Forgiveness Meditation with Sr. Miriam

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Spiritual Parenting w/ Lance and Nicole Rodriguez Jul 31, 2024

This week, Jake and Bob are joined by Lance and Nicole Rodriguez to discuss spiritual parenting and the profound impact it has had on their lives. Lance and Nichole share their story of loss and restoration from learning they could not have biological children, to experiencing spiritual parenting, and from there, recognizing how God created an opportunity within this sorrow to cultivate a spiritual family. They touch on the challenges that arise in spiritual parenting, the importance of receiving love before offering it to others, but most of all, the fruits that have grown out of this place of surrender.

Key Points:

Receiving love and healing is essential before offering it to others as a spiritual parent.
Loss and suffering can lead to unexpected blessings.
Spiritual parenting can be messy and challenging, but is also transformational and fulfilling.
Building a spiritual family requires openness, vulnerability, and a willingness to enter into the pain and joy of others. It also means creating a safe and loving space for young people to grow and discover their identity in Christ.
Spiritual parenting is a ministry that evolves and requires ongoing prayer, discernment, and reliance on God's grace.

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Parenting w/ Duane and Carrie Daunt Jul 17, 2024

This week, Jake and Bob are joined by Duane and Carrie Daunt to discuss what living out our identity of father or mother can look like as a biological parent. Duane and Carrie share the challenges and joys of parenting a large family and the role sacrifice plays in creating a strong and loving home. They also talk about how their own woundedness has impacted their parenting journey, the role of community, and what to do when spouses disagree.

Key Points:

Duane’s sacrifice and willingness to put the needs of his family above his own is an essential aspect of creating a loving home.
Community and mentorship play a crucial role in raising children and passing on the faith.
Parenting a large family comes with unique challenges but also brings great joy and fulfillment.
Our own woundedness and past experiences can impact our parenting journeys. It is important to seek healing and restoration in those areas.
We are human and will make mistakes. Seeking to reconcile with your children afterwards is important for healing and repair.

The Pillars of Duane and Carrie’s Parenting Style:

Be conscious of the parenting you received growing up and how that has affected you
The husband sacrificing creates the foundation of a loving home
Both spouses should have vision and alignment
Support from the community is necessary
The Catholic faith is the centerpiece of life
Do what it takes to be involved in your children’s lives
You may never see the fruit of your parenting efforts, but that doesn’t matter
Be open to feedback
Be Holy Spirit led
The messages your kids are hearing explicitly and implicitly matter and be attentive to them
Pray for the Holy Spirit to fill your inadequacies as a parent
Always attempt to repair
Root your kids in the truth

Resources:

Institute for Priestly Formation
Duane and Carrie’s books:
Beloved Daughter by Carrie Daunt
Undone by Carrie Daunt
Man Your Post by Duane and Carrie Daunt
JPII Healing Center Retreats (specifically the Unveiled couples retreat and the Undone women’s retreat)

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The Four Identities (Father/Mother) w/ Heather Khym Jul 03, 2024

This week, Jake and Bob are once again joined by Heather Khym to conclude their four part series on the four identities of a human. In this episode, they focus on the identity of father/mother, discuss maturation versus healing, and explore how unresolved wounds in the other three identities surface in the identity of mother/father. They also discuss the unique yet complementary qualities of a good mother or father and how they represent different traits of God’s character. Whether you have biological or spiritual children, remember the key to experiencing the fullness of our role as mother/father is becoming little and allowing God to love and heal us.

Key Points:

Mothers and fathers have unique giftings that can bless their children in different ways.
Mothers and fathers cannot be replaced by each other and represent different aspects of God's character.
Corresponding words and deeds are important in embodying the roles of mother and father.
Becoming little and allowing God to love and heal us is key to experiencing the fullness of our roles as mothers and fathers.

Resources:

The Abiding Together Podcast series on Identity (Mother, Daughter, Sister, Bride)

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The Four Identities (Bride/Bridgroom) w/ Heather Khym Jun 19, 2024

This week, Jake and Bob are once again joined by Heather Khym to continue with part three of their four part series on the four identities of a human. In this episode, they focus on the identity of bride/bridegroom and delve into the interconnectedness of each identity and why healing is essential to living them out fully. They discuss self-giving vs. self-seeking love, the role of bride/bridegroom in every vocation, and how learning to love others well is an important aspect of our healing journeys.

Key Points:

The four identities of a person (son/daughter, brother/sister, bride/bridegroom, mother/father) are interconnected and require healing and integration to be lived out fully.
The healing process involves both receiving love and learning to love well through practice and maturation.
The sacraments play a crucial role in the restoration of relationships and offer a framework for understanding love and healing within various vocations and states of life.
The bride/bridegroom identity points towards our universal call to love within different states of life (single, married, and religious life).

Resources:

The Abiding Together Podcast series on Identity (Mother, Daughter, Sister, Bride)

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The Four Identities (Brother/Sister) w/ Heather Khym Jun 05, 2024

This week, Jake and Bob are once again joined by Heather Khym to continue with part two of their four part series on the four identities of a human. In this episode, they focus on the identity of brother/sister and explore the sense of belonging, safety, and camaraderie that stems from these types of relationships. They also delve into the wounds a broken brother/sister relationship can cause, discuss the healing power of healthy affection, and how the saints can become our spiritual siblings.

Key Points:

Healthy brother and/or sister relationships provide safety, camaraderie, and healing through healthy affection and mutual support.
Woundedness in brother and sister relationships can lead to deep despair and a sense of not belonging.
The power of brotherhood and sisterhood lies in the invitation to belong and the opportunity to heal from wounds.
The saints can become our spiritual brothers and sisters.

Resources:

The Abiding Together Podcast series on Identity (Mother, Daughter, Sister, Bride)

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The Four Identities (Son/Daughter) w/ Heather Khym May 22, 2024

This week, Jake and Bob are joined by Heather Khym to begin a four part series on the four identities of a human: son/daughter, brother/sister, husband/wife, father/mother. In this episode, they focus on the identity of our sonship/daughtership, explore why this is the foundational identity, and unpack the core realities behind this identity from both a masculine and feminine perspective. They end the episode by sharing personal stories of healing and restoration within their identity as a beloved son/daughter.

Key Points:

Identity is bestowed by God and is a gift to be received.
A solid foundation in sonship and daughtership is essential for all other identities to flourish.
Trust and receptivity are key elements of a secure identity.
Wounds and brokenness can disrupt and distort our understanding of our identity.
Healing and restoration are necessary to fully embrace our true identity as beloved children of God.
Healing comes through receiving love and being rooted in God's love.

Resources:

The Abiding Together Podcast series on Identity (Mother, Daughter, Sister, Bride)

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Our Hopes and Concerns for Psychotherapy May 08, 2024

This week, Jake and Bob discuss the current state of therapy and its increasing popularity in society. They explore the factors contributing to the rise of interest in therapy, highlight the importance of philosophy and theology in therapy training, and reflect on the importance of objective truth in the healing process.

Key Points:

Therapy has become increasingly popular in society, with more people seeking it out and discussing it openly.
The breakdown of trust in various institutions, including the church, has contributed to the rise in therapy as a means of finding support and guidance.
A solid foundation in philosophy, anthropology, and theology is essential in therapy training to provide a proper understanding of the human person and their needs.
Subjective experiences without objective truth and care can be dangerous, and therapy should aim to integrate both subjective and objective realities.
Resilience and the ability to repair are part of human nature and therefore are important aspects of therapy and personal growth.
The sacraments provide structure and guidance in relationships and can contribute to healing and growth.
Therapy should be situated within the context of faith and community, and not isolated from them.
Discernment is crucial when considering a career in therapy, and motivations should be rooted in a genuine call rather than popularity or personal dysfunction.
Healthy Christian communities have the potential to provide healing and support, and may reduce the need for therapy.
Jesus should be the centerpiece of the healing journey.

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Our Call Beyond Therapy Apr 24, 2024

This week, Jake and Bob discuss their journeys away from being therapists and the reasons behind their decisions. They reflect on their experiences, share how they outgrew their roles as therapists, and how they found other outlets to use their charisms and gifts. Jake and Bob also share the burdens they felt before and after making the change and how surrendering their work to the Holy Spirit has helped bear more fruit than ever before.

Key Points:

Therapy can be a demanding profession that requires selflessness and a high level of holiness.
Outgrowing the role of a therapist can be a natural part of personal growth and development.It could be a difficult but necessary step in answering God's call to a larger audience.
Supernatural opposition can occur when bringing the Kingdom of God into the world.
The Holy Spirit is the primary therapist and therapists should surrender to His guidance.

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Healing Through Holy Sites Apr 10, 2024

This week, Jake and Bob discuss their recent ministry experiences at Franciscan University, Assisi, and various JPII Healing Center events. They explore the transformative power of healing ministry, why they prefer ministering to groups instead of individuals, and the significance of holy sites. Jake and Bob also share insights into why we need so much healing in today’s culture.

Key Points:

Team ministry is powerful and allows for mutual submission and a greater impact.
Holy sites have an accumulation of grace and can facilitate powerful encounters with God.
Blessing spaces is important to invoke God's presence and protect against spiritual contamination. Blessing places and spaces is critical for inviting the presence of God and experiencing His grace.
The desecration of authority and the degradation of holy spaces contribute to the loss of worship, healing, and the culture's current state.
Therapists and pastors have distinct roles, and it is important to recognize the limitations of therapy and the need for spiritual authority.
Prayer has a powerful impact and can bring about healing and transformation in the lives of others.

Resources:

Fr. Joe Freedy and The Power of One Hail Mary Video

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Parts Work (Part 3) w/ Bishop Andrew Miller Mar 27, 2024

This week, Jake and Bob are joined by Bishop Andrew Miller, the founder of HeartSync Ministries and a priest in the Orthodox Evangelical Episcopal Church to conclude their series on Parts Work. Bishop Andrew discusses the four core parts of HeartSync, the importance of placing God in the center of our hearts, and his process for helping others heal from brokenheartedness. He also discusses the ultimate goal of healing as bringing the whole heart into a loving relationship with God and how giving thanks to God can help bring us into deeper relationship and healing. For more information about HeartSync or Bishop Andrew, visit his website here.

Key Points:

Heart Sync is a therapeutic approach that focuses on healing brokenheartedness and integrating the core components of the heart.
The four core components of the heart are function, guardian, emotion, and true self.
Many people have parts of their heart that are not in relationship with God, and healing involves bringing these parts into communion with Him.
Healing also involves making relational connections with God through memories and experiences as well as expressing thanksgiving to deepen the bond with God.
It is important to recognize union with God as the ultimate goal of inner healing and deliverance.

Resources:

Bishop Andrew’s website

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Parts Work (Part 2) w/ Brya Hanan Mar 13, 2024

This week, Jake and Bob are joined by Brya Hanan, a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, to continue their series on parts work. Brya shares her personal story from trauma to healing and how it has influenced her work as a therapist. She introduces her model of parts work, discusses the five A’s of parts work therapy, and shares a practical meditation you can use to begin your healing journey. For more information, check out Brya’s book Befriending Your Inner Child.

Key Points:

Understanding and integrating the different parts of ourselves is essential for healing and wholeness.
Embodiment and the awareness of the body's sensations and needs can be the first step in one’s healing process.
The relational aspect of parts work, including self-compassion and love, is vital for healing and integration.
The five A's of Internal Family Systems therapy are Anchor, Acknowledge, Attune, Ask, and Act.
Incorporating Jesus into the therapy process can deepen the healing and anchoring experience.

Resources:

Brya’s new book: Befriending Your Inner Child
Brya’s website

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Parts Work (Part 1) w/ Gerry Crete Feb 28, 2024

This week, Jake and Bob are joined by Gerry Crete, a marriage and family counselor to discuss his work on internal family systems, or parts work. Parts work is a therapeutic approach that involves exploring and understanding the different “parts” of our personality and how they can influence the decisions we make in life. Jake, Bob, and Gerry explore the transformative applications of parts work in therapy, distinguish the differences between desires and wounds, and discuss the role of love and compassion in the healing journey. For more information check out Gerry’s book Litanies of the Heart.

Key Points:

Parts work, or internal family systems, can lead to remarkable breakthroughs in therapy by helping individuals connect with and understand their different parts.
Harmony and unity within oneself can be achieved through the integration of different parts, allowing for a more balanced and authentic experience of self.
Understanding the distinction between desires and parts can help individuals navigate conflicting motivations and make choices that align with their true selves.
Practical applications of parts work include using analogies and visualization techniques to help individuals relate to and understand their parts.
It is important to recognize and distinguish parts from the true self, which is characterized by compassion and love.

Resources:

Gerry’s new book Litanies of the Heart
Gerry’s practice Transfiguration Counseling

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Divorce (Part 3) w/ Bob's Mother Feb 14, 2024

This week, a special guest joins the podcast - Bob’s mother, Peggy. Bob has shared the story of his absent father and the healing that took place over years of prayer. Now, Peggy shares her testimony of tender love, hardship, and forgiveness. She opens up about the beautiful relationship she had with her husband, the pain experienced in the divorce, and her self-sacrifice as she raised her 7 children.

Key Points

The impact divorce has on childhood & those previously in the marriage.
The process of forgiveness and the role it plays in daily life.
The power of prayer and the impact conversion has.
What it takes to get through a divorce.
The reason why many men struggle in marriage.

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Divorce (Part 2) w/ Nicole Rodriguez Jan 31, 2024

This week, Jake and Bob are joined by Nicole Rodriguez as they continue their series on divorce. Nicole’s parents divorced when she was 11 years old & the trauma she experienced affected her through childhood and into her marriage. In the episode, she shares how her marriage suffered because of these wounds as well as the healing she has received through her relationship with the Lord, her spiritual parents & her husband’s willingness to walk alongside her.

Key Points

The impact divorce has on childhood & marriage.
Children have a deep need for their parents.
How to process the pain of divorce.
The role spiritual parents have for children of divorce.
Bring divorce wounds to Jesus in adoration.

Resources

Undone Retreat (virtual or in person)

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Divorce (Part 1) w/ Joey Pontarelli Jan 17, 2024

This week, Jake and Bob are joined by Joey Pontarelli, the founder and president of the ministry “Restored”. After finding a lack of help after his parents’ divorce, Joey decided to begin ministry with “Restored” to offer practical guidance and support for teens and young adults from broken families. Jake, Bob, and Joey discuss the wounds that come from divorce, their personal experiences, and practical advice on how to respond to this woundedness.

Key Points

If there isn’t any transformation in the wounds, then the sins we fall into, as a remedy, make sense. They don’t work, but they make sense.
We often don’t want to face these wounds, so we try to outrun them. But we can’t outrun our wounds. We’re made for more than that.
The Lord understands why you struggle with each particular sin. It doesn’t surprise or scandalize Him. And He loves you where you are.
Divorce is a wound of broken love. So the medicine can only work when you reach the wound. Love is what heals.
Relationship with God is the primary healing element and agent. Give God your attention, quality time, and trust Him.
Consume great content that involves trauma and healing. Seek out coaching - a therapist, spiritual director, or mentor. Have a good community and deep relationships.
For a healthy marriage - spend time with a couple who has a healthy marriage.
The temptation in marriage is to harden your heart and to close yourself off. But instead, we are called to tenderness and vulnerability.

Resources

Restored Ministry Website
RTG Anatomy of a Wound Series
Adam Young’s Podcast: The Place We Find Ourselves
Restored Ministry Podcast
Restored Ministry Podcast with Sr. Miriam
It’s not Your Fault (Book by Joey)
Restored Ministry courses
5 tips to navigate the holidays in a broken family guide
Jay Stringer
Jason Evert

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Questions & Answers : Love, Healing & Maturation Jan 03, 2024

Happy New Year! Jake & Bob kick off the year by answering YOUR questions. They field listener submitted questions on topics including parenting, loneliness, anxiety, scrupulosity & maturity.

Key Points

Cultivating an environment of unconditional love as parents
Our kids are observing and modeling our behavior more than we realize
How to handle loneliness when it pops up in our lives
Dealing with anxiety & scrupulosity
The similarities & differences between healing & maturing

Resources

Fr. Boniface on Matt Fradd’s Podcast

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Healing & Christmas Dec 20, 2023

Merry Christmas from Jake & Bob! This week, they discuss the healing power of Jesus' infancy narrative. They recognize that this time of year can be difficult for many people and offer some solutions. Jake shares some of his triggers & wounds around the Christmas season so Bob leads him through a deep prayer and meditation. It’s a beautiful insight into the work that they both do. We hope you all have a very blessed Christmas.

Key Points

The healing power of the Christmas story & Jesus’ infancy narrative
Dealing with difficult feelings and triggers during the holidays
Bob leads Jake (and us) in a prayer through the difficult parts of the Christmas season.
The role animals can play in our attachment healing

Resources

Life Restoration Website

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Adoption (Part 4) w/ Sr. Miriam James Heidland Dec 06, 2023

Sr. Miriam James Heidland shares her experience of being adopted. Jake, Bob & Sister have worked together for years and start the conversation off by discussing her impactful ministry, finding identity in Christ & her healing journey. She then shares about finding out she was adopted & the struggles & graces experienced along the way.

Key Points

Getting to a place where you are secure in your own identity that people’s reaction to you doesn’t affect you.
A discussion exploring why Sr. Miriam’s ministry connects so well with people.
“The man who loves to walk will go further than the man who loves the destination.”
We are all adopted sons & daughters of God.
What it means to truly belong.
Sister shares her experience of finding out that she was adopted.
Experiencing the kindness of the Lord that doesn’t pull away or act harshly.
Sister shares the struggles and graces during her healing process.

Resources

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Adoption (Part 3) Nov 22, 2023

Chris & Michelle Benzinger share their story of adopting two children from Haiti after a hurricane devastated the country. They share with Jake & Bob how they weren’t planning to adopt until the Lord put it on their heart. They discuss how they navigated integrating these children into their family & how there was joint restoration for everyone involved. Michelle also talks about her experience with Safe & Sound protocol & it’s role in her healing journey.

Key Points

Before adoption, the call from the Lord was “Will you welcome them into your heart?”
How Chris & Michelle’s community helped to welcome their new children.
The disorientation of the kids coming to a new place, with new people and they don’t understand the language.
Joint restoration for everyone involved. Healing of attachment wounds for Chris & Michelle as well as their kids.
The importance of listening to your body in healing & a discussion of somatic methods.
Our minds and body are so connected that healing in one helps the other.
Safe & Sound Protocol explanation & it’s usefulness in our own healing and especially in our parenting.

Resources

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Adoption (Part 2) Nov 08, 2023

This may be the most special episode of the podcast yet! Jake & Bob are joined by Bob’s sister, her husband and his 48 year old nephew Brian that Bob just met for the first time this year! They gave up their son for adoption after a teenage pregnancy and the wounds were still there for everybody after over 40 years. Then, by nothing short of a miracle, the family was reconnected! It’s a beautiful story of grace, healing, reconciliation and God’s abundant love.

Key Points

Nick & Kathy the experience of giving up their son for adoption after a teenage pregnancy.
Brian shares his story of finding out he was adopted and his experiences with both families.
“In my deepest wound, I saw Your glory and it dazzled me.” -St. Augustine
The beauty of the reunion of the family after many years apart.
Offering support and encouragement to other parents who gave babies up for adoption.

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Adoption (Part 1) Oct 25, 2023

Jake & Bob kick off a new series on adoption. We have all been impacted by adoption, whether through family situations or spiritually since we are all adopted as sons and daughters of God. Jake & Bob tackle heart dynamics of adoption, separation anxiety & ruptures of primary relationships along with defining dissociation & attachment trauma. This series will have something for everyone!

Key Points

We have all been impacted by adoption, whether through family situations or spiritually. We are all adopted as sons and daughters of God.
The heart dynamics of adoption, separation anxiety & ruptures of primary relationships.
Attachment & attachment trauma is a popular topic in pop psychology.
Healthy attachments are formed between the mother and child in the womb.
An explanation of the different types of memory.
Nothing is beyond the scope & capacity of God to heal.
Dissociation is a God-given dynamic where we self-protect but it’s not meant to be permanent.

Resources

The Places we Find Ourselves Podcast by Adam Young

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Barriers to Trust Oct 11, 2023

Trust is vitally important to the healing process. Jake & Bob discuss broken trust, healing relationships where trust has been broken and the barriers we put up that prevent us from building trust in our relationships. They share about how trust issues can affect our relationship with God, those closest to us & how we can rebuild that trust.

Key Points

Trust is vitally important to the healing process
Gen 3:10 “I was afraid because I was naked so I hid.” This verse is foundational to the human experience and a barrier in our relationship with God and others
Wrestling with trust issues in marriage
The first attack the enemy made in the garden was against trust
Jesus still had wounds after His resurrection, but they were healed and became signs of glory as opposed to wounds of death
Working through beliefs and vows that affect our ability to trust

Resources

Chastity & the Refusal to Grasp article
Dr. Karl’s Lehman’s Website https://www.kclehman.com/

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Immanuel Approach with Dr Karl Lehman Sep 27, 2023

Dr. Karl Lehman joins Jake & Bob to discuss his Immanuel Approach to healing. He shares from his years of training and extensive therapy work on how to use this approach to bring people to deeper healing. Dr. Karl has been a leader in the field for decades and we are overjoyed to share this conversation with you.

Key Points

Dr. Karl explains the Immanuel Approach to therapy. He shares from his years of training and extensive work with people on how to use this approach to bring people to a place of healing.
Encountering Jesus in both positive and negative memories.
Dr. Karl shares how he has trained other professionals and volunteers to use this approach and the results it has gotten in people finding healing, particularly in 3rd world countries.
Dr. Karl shares his personal experience with healing ministry and common blockages in people’s minds and spirits.
Finding healing in the the presence of the Eucharist
How to know when we are truly encountering Jesus

Resources

Dr. Karl’s Website https://www.kclehman.com/
The Immanuel Approach Book https://www.immanuelapproach.com/
Fr. Basil’s Immanuel Approach in Catholic Theology
Outsmarting Yourself Website https://outsmartingyourself.org/
Mind and Brain Book https://www.amazon.com/Mind-Brain-Separate-but-Integrated-ebook/dp/B0CC17X3X7

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What is Healing? Sep 13, 2023

We’re back! Jake & Bob return after a summer break tan & ready to dive deep into the topic of what healing really is. They also share insight into the problem of suffering, how to shift mindsets when it seems like healing isn’t coming & a consistent reminder that God is always up to something good.

Key Points

Healing is an essential part of the Church’s mission as our mission is Jesus’ mission & healing was an important part of His ministry.
Healing is more than just physical.
Suffering is an essential dimension of redemption
“Healing is the restoration of our God-given glory” -Jake Khym
God is always up to something good, even it we can’t see it at the moment
Healing is bringing about a greater good from whatever is experienced
The dangers of disassociation
Suffering is the door into healing, not the absence of healing

Resources

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Emotions (Part 3) Movements of the Heart Jun 21, 2023

This week, Jake and Bob talk about what it means to “process your emotions” and give ways to practically do that. They share that the steps to regulate emotions include awareness, feeling the emotion, naming the emotion, and relationships. They create a scenario where they navigate someone through a lot of intense emotion and bring it back to a wound. Through this scenario, they share the importance of uncovering a wound in order to bring about healing.

Key Points

The steps to regulating your emotions include: Awareness, feeling the emotion, naming the emotion, & relationship.
How parents respond to their emotions affect their children’s emotions & how to be aware of this as adults.
They walk through a counseling scenario to recognize the root wound behind specific emotions.
They discuss praying against, breaking, renouncing, & discovering any lies surrounding a vow.
What “bodily anchor” means & how the nervous system has feeling sensors across the body that can be labeled as a specific emotion

Resources

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Emotions (Part 2) Movements of the Heart Jun 07, 2023

This week, Jake and Bob dive deeper into their series on emotions. They discuss how the Church often seems to deemphasize our emotions and the culture overemphasizes them which can leave us confused about the role emotions play in our lives. They discuss how having emotions is natural and good and how we can best integrate them into a holy lifestyle. They also make the important distinction between an emotion, a wound, and a spirit.

Key Points

What is an emotion and why is it there?
Holiness does not mean getting rid of emotion
Jesus as the model for how to have emotions
Understanding the emotion of anger
Distinction between an emotion, a wound, and a spirit
How to process our emotions in a healthy way

Resources

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Emotions (Part 1) Movements of the Heart May 24, 2023

Bob and Jake introduce a new series on emotions. Bob shares some personal exciting news to kick off the conversation & then he and Jake discuss what emotions are, where they come from & how we regulate them.

Key Points

What are emotions, where do they come from & how do we regulate them?
Some exciting personal news for Bob!
How to deal with your feelings maturely
How emotions have caused the breakdown of many families
Social Media battling for your attention & its impact on your emotions
St. Thomas Aquinas on dealing with emotions/passions
Lessons from negative emotions & where they stem from
How emotions & love are connected
The distinction between emotions & feelings

Resources

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Questions & Answers May 10, 2023

Jake and Bob answer questions submitted from the audience. They take time to diligently answer questions about spirituality & healing that Jake and Bob are able to answer based on experiences within their extensive careers in psychology. The questions range from what type of media we should be consuming, dealing with intrusive thoughts, working through vows & finding a spiritual director.

Key Points

How to discern whether or not you should watch movies with sinful actions in them. Art vs. Morality
Dealing with intrusive thoughts. Should we focus on them or let them pass?
Working through unhealthy vows
Discussion of the future series topic, transgenderism
Finding a spiritual director

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The Three Essential Relationships (Part 4: Others) Apr 26, 2023

This is the final installment in our series on "Healing Our Primary Relationships." Jake & Bob close this series by discussing how we can love others better. They open up about areas of struggle that can arise in relationships and the various avenues available for coming towards solutions with your spouse, friends & coworkers. Jake and Bob also pull important lessons from the teachings and lives of prominent Catholic role models like St. Mother Teresa and Pope St. John Paul II.

Key Points

Living out the greatest commandment
We can better share the love of God with others when we have received His love first
The importance of maturity in relationships, especially marriage
An explanation of the “art” of loving: caring, respecting, responding & knowing
Understanding the intentions of your partner & the importance of listening in loving
Practical tips on how to love others more fully
Stepping into love and vulnerability & sharing growth areas

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The Three Essential Relationships (Part 3: Myself) Reflections & Comments on Episode 79 Apr 12, 2023

Jake and Bob break open the conversation they had in the previous episode with Dr. Peter Malinoski and dive deeper into the key points from that episode. This leads to a discussion where Jake and Bob talk about their own struggles with feelings of rejection and how to process that. The guys also talk about forgiving and loving our past selves, dealing with anxiety & the dangers of self-reliance.

Key Points

Were there “parts” before the fall?
A deeper discussion into how “parts” play a role in our personal lives.
Inviting Jesus into tough situations.
Forgiving and loving our past selves.
Confession is approaching a merciful God who loves us, not just temporarily removing his hatred towards us.
How to deal with anxiety.
The dangers of self-reliance. We can’t fight pride with more pride.
Examining the areas of self-hatred in our lives. Ask the Father how He sees you there.

Resources

RTG Episode 79

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The Three Essential Relationships (Part 2: Myself) with Dr. Peter Malinowski Mar 29, 2023

Jake and Bob bring on fellow podcast host & Catholic psychology leader, Dr. Peter Malinoski. Dr. Malinoski is a clinical psychologist and the president and co-founder of Souls and Hearts. In this episode, Dr. Malinoski talks about the different “parts” of ourselves and the process of getting those parts into a more perfect unity. This process will help us to live the Greatest Commandment more fully because when we love ourselves, we can love our neighbor more fully.

Key Points

In order to fulfill the greatest commandment, we must also love ourselves
We have many different “parts” of ourselves that we need to try to bring in to more perfect unity
Sin fragments us
The role of a therapist in helping us become more unified
Turning to love in the face of challenges
The process of integrating a “part” of ourselves into the whole
Building a better relationship with our self
Working through self-hatred

Resources

Souls and Hearts Website. Dr. Peter’s work that grounds psychology and human formation in a Catholic understanding of the human person
Dr. Malinowski’s Podcast “Interior Integration for Catholics” Particularly Eps 71 & 73, 93, 100, 102 & 104. The show is a long-form solo podcast focused on helping Catholics come to embrace their identities as beloved, cherished little sons and daughters of God the Father and Mary our Mother.
CCC 330 - http://www.scborromeo.org/ccc/para/330.htm

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The Three Essential Relationships (Part 1: God) Mar 15, 2023

Following up on their series about healing and deliverance, Jake & Bob move into a conversation about healing our primary relationships with God, ourselves and with others. This stems from a recent talk that Bob gave with the assistance of his new book “Do You Want to be Healed.” Bob shares his own story of healing and how some key stories in the Gospels aided in his journey.

Key Points

Theology and anthropology go hand in hand for healing
Dealing with anger without shifting to timidity
How to understand the balance between the justice of God and the mercy of God
Bob shares from his own personal experience about finding healing from trauma through the compassion of another person.
How Jesus interacted with broken people in the Gospels like the woman at the well.
The idols that we put in front of our relationship with God.
“Jesus' desire for us precedes our desire for Him.” -Bob
Jesus changes the woman at the well’s relationship with Him, herself and her community.
“Worshiping the true God is the only integrating factor in our life.” -Bob paraphrasing the Catechism

Resources

“Do You Want to be Healed” Bob’s new 10-day retreat book with 10 Scriptures about healing that lead to prayer & action.

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Spiritual Discernment & Deliverance (Part 5) Wrap-up Mar 01, 2023

In this episode, Bob and Jake reflect on all of the great conversations that have happened with their guests through the course of the season. They share their favorite insights that they gleaned from their guests and share their own final thoughts on discernment & deliverance.

Key Points

The Spiritual & Human components of our nature
Renouncement of the lies of the enemy
The different doorways we create that can allow the enemy to come into our lives
Why deliverance ministry matters
A review of the 5 Keys
Closing thoughts on the discernment of spirits

Resources

Summary of The Rules for Discernment

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Spiritual Discernment & Deliverance (Part 4) with Fr. Boniface Hicks Feb 15, 2023

In this episode, Jake and Bob sit down with Fr. Boniface Hicks, the director of The Institute for Ministry Formation at St Vincent Seminary in Latrobe, Pennsylvania. They discuss the role that spirituality plays in the healing of trauma and the numerous ways that opportunities for healing reveal themselves. There are several instances in this episode in which the hosts discuss the ways that Father Boniface's advice has led to healing within their own lives.

Key Points

Ways to distinguish between our own inner voice and God's voice
How a soul may find change
A discussion about some of the things that may bring about transformation
How the formation of our thoughts and feelings are linked
How a spiritual director's duty includes helping relationships grow
Why spiritual direction is different than counseling
Attunement and why it is necessary for healing

Resources

The Institute for Ministry Formation

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Spiritual Discernment & Deliverance (Part 3) with Neal & Matt Lozano Feb 01, 2023

Jake & Bob are joined by their friends from Unbound Ministry, Neal and Matt Lozano. The conversation takes us through the journey of lifelong faith and how to spot the tactics used by the enemy in attempts to shake our foundations set in Christ. Neal and Matt share experiences from their relationships with Christ and their interpersonal relationships. They also share their system called the 5 Keys to Freedom, that helps to re-aim our sights back to the Father in times of trauma which leads to deeper healing.

Key Points

Discussion on the tactics used by the enemy & how evil spirits work primarily with deception.
Acts of faith, such as renouncement, take away the weight of thoughts brought on by the enemy because of our inherent identity in Christ.
Being able to identify the schemes of the devil are an essential part in implementing the 5 Keys to Freedom.
The explanation of what it means to obtain deliverance.
Working through the 5 Keys help to release you from the bondage in your life and to more fully see how Jesus is at work in you.
Discussing how to seek God for revelation instead of blaming God for trauma and how that simple adjustment can contribute a great deal towards healing.
The power that resentment has to control someone's life and how to break that connection through forgiveness.

Resources

Matt and Neal’s Podcast - Open Doors: Conversations with Heart of the Father
“Unbound” by Neal Lozano
Heart of the Father Website

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Spiritual Discernment & Deliverance (Part 2) with Fr. Justin Brady Jan 18, 2023

Jake & Bob are joined by Fr. Justin Brady who leads the Office of Healing, Deliverance and Exorcism in the Diocese of Boise and has a long history of connection to our hosts. They continue the conversation on discernment and deliverance that began last week with Fr. Tim Gallagher. Fr. Justin shares insights from his work in deliverance ministry on how we can be brought back into right relationship with God, ourselves and our neighbors.

Key Points

Fr. Justin shares his conversion story and how he got involved in his faith and his current work as a priest.
Embracing the fullness of Catholicism but uniting the tradition of the faith with movements of the Holy Spirit today through things like the charismatic renewal.
Exorcisms are reunifying a person into right relationship with themselves and with God.
True Religion is living charity: loving God and our neighbor as ourselves.
“God desires your healing” -Fr. Justin
The power of combining spiritual work like deliverance prayer with professional counseling.
A walk through of healing/deliverance prayer and an idea of how exorcisms work.
A lie is a lie that needs to be healed, no matter whether the lie comes from myself or a demon.

Resources

Previous Episode with Fr. Tim Gallagher
Fr. Tim’s book “The Discernment of Spirits”

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Spiritual Discernment & Deliverance (Part 1) with Fr. Timothy Gallagher Jan 04, 2023

Jake & Bob are joined by Fr. Timothy Gallagher for a discussion on how discernment and healing go hand in hand. Fr. Tim is the author of the incredible book “The Discernment of Spirits” that teaches us how to utilize St. Ignatius’ rules of discernment. He shares the process of discernment while Jake & Bob combine his knowledge with their expertise on healing. The process of healing and discerning God’s will for us work beautifully together.

Key Points

Discerning what is from the voice of the Holy Spirit and what is from the voice of the evil one.
The rules of St. Ignatius are an invitation to hope.
“The more healing that can happen on both the physical and psychological levels, the harder the enemy’s task becomes.” -Fr. Tim
The first step in discernment is to notice any movements, thoughts or stirrings of the heart. Identify whether it is from the good spirit or the bad spirit and then take the appropriate action. If it is from the good spirit, take it in and be guided by it. If it is from the enemy, reject it.
The discernment process happens repeatedly throughout the healing process. It is continual and helps you know how to move forward.
Our parents/guardians are the first representatives of God to us. We may often hear God’s voice as our parent’s voices which can either be positive or negative. If we believe lies about ourselves from our parents, we need to work through those so that we don’t hear those lies coming from God’s voice in our hearts. We need to invite Jesus’ to speak His truth in our hearts.
In times of desolation, never make a change.
Renouncement prayer is a way to practically renounce lies and accept the opposing truths.

Resources

Fr. Tim’s book “The Discernment of Spirits”
Fr. Tim’s Discerning Hearts Podcast
Free Discerning Hearts App
Fr. Tim’s website

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Hope and Hopelessness (Part 2) Dec 21, 2022

Jake and Bob continue their series on working through hopelessness to find hope. When we feel hopeless, we often avoid God because we feel ashamed, guilty or unloved. In these times we only see God as a judge, pointing out our failings. But God is also our Savior who loves us even in the places we feel unloveable. We can try to find hope through things or people but this will let us down. God is the only one who can provide us with the hope we desire. Our hosts walk us through how to find hope again through an Encounter with the God who loves us.

Key Points

Hopelessness closes our hearts to the Encounter with God.
When the sickness of our lives becomes evident to us, we often only see God as Judge and not as Savior.
Jesus loves us in the places we feel unloveable.
Healing is a real encounter that brings us into wholeness, truth and communion.
If you lose sight of the Savior, Christianity is meaningless.
When we put hope in things or people that aren’t God, they become idols, and idols will always disappoint us.

Resources

Spe Salve by Pope Benedict XVI (Encyclical)

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Hope and Hopelessness (Part 1) Dec 14, 2022

The season of Advent is a time of hope and waiting: preparing for the birth of Christ and welcoming Him into our hearts in a new way. But a season focused on hope can often reveal the places in our hearts that are hopeless. Jake and Bob kick off a new series on how to move from hopelessness to hope. They discuss how a lack of hope can often stem from a lack of trust, patience and intimacy with the Lord. Listen as they share some helpful shifts in mindset to grow in the virtue of hope this Advent season.

Key Quote

“The person who loves intimacy with Jesus will get farther in the healing journey than the person who just wants to be healed.” -Jake Khym

Key Points

How the holidays and the Advent focus on hope can often reveal where we feel hopeless
We need to desire relationship with Jesus even more than the healing He can give us. He wants to give us good gifts but desires our hearts more than all.
A lack of hope can often come from a lack of intimacy and trust.
Trust is the currency in the economy of relationship.
“Gratitude is an antidote to hopelessness.” -Bob Schuchts

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Healing and the Holy Family with Sr. Miriam James Dec 07, 2022

The seasons of Advent and Christmas can bring up difficult family dynamics in our hearts, as well as a deep desire for a more whole and holy family. In today’s episode, Jake and Dr. Bob welcome Sr. Miriam James Heidland onto the podcast to talk about her new Advent devotional, “Behold” which touches on these dynamics through relationship with the Holy Family. The Holy Family provides a healing lens for us to discover new depths and completeness in our understanding of motherhood, fatherhood, childhood and our own family life. Links to the Behold weekly videos can be found in the resources section below.

Key Quote:

The hidden life at Nazareth allows everyone to enter into fellowship with Jesus by the most ordinary events of daily life - CCC 533

Key Points:

Why Sister loves speaking about healing
Family dynamics around Advent and the Christmas season
Sister’s new Advent book and how it draws us into relationship with the Holy Family and our own family relationships
Reflections on Mary’s motherhood
Ideas on how to tangibly connect with the Holy Family
The analogy of radio waves and how we can tune into the Lord’s kindness and tenderness
Jake, Bob and Sister share about sculpting the Holy Family and the safety that it creates
The importance of receiving our identity in different stages of life (ie. husband, wife, parent) before giving from it
The difference between someone who is simply giving to give, and someone who is giving in order to receive
How can we embody the Holy Family for one another?

Practical Application/ Reflection Questions:

Which member of the Holy Family are you most drawn to?
Allow yourself to be loved by the Holy Family this Advent, especially inviting Mary to mother you and St. Joseph to father you.
Pray about how you can embody the Holy Family for others in your family this coming Christmas season.

Resources:

Behold: A Guided Advent Journal for Prayer and Meditation, Sr. Miriam James Heidland (book)
Trailer for Behold Advent series (video)
Behold: Introduction (video)

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Forgiveness (Part 2) Nov 23, 2022

Episode 69: Forgiveness (Part 2)

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Show Notes:

In this incredibly practical and reflective episode, Jake and Bob walk listeners through a thirteen step process of forgiveness, offering guiding insights along the way. You may wish to find a quiet, prayerful place to listen to this episode in order to apply the exercises. We are praying for you!

Key Quote:

For with the judgment you make you will be judged, and the measure you give will be the measure you get. - Matthew 7:2

Key Points:

Surrender as part of the Christian approach to forgiveness
Thirteen steps to forgiveness:

Step 1: Ask the Holy Spirit to show you who you need to forgive.
Step 2: Picture the person in front of you and pay attention to how you feel.
Step 3: Make an account of the debt they owe you.
Step 4: Imagine yourself telling them what they did to hurt you and how it has affected you. If you can, notice that this is not the person they were designed to be. Separate their dignity from the evil they have done.
Step 5: Ask the Holy Spirit to reveal to you what you believe about yourself based on that incident.
Step 6: Renounce the identity lies.
Step 7: Ask the Holy Spirit to reveal the judgements towards the person who hurt you.
Step 8: Renounce those judgements.
Step 9: Ask Jesus to forgive the person. Invite the person to stand at the cross with you.
Step 10: Forgive the person.
Step 11: Pray a prayer of blessing over that person, ask God to bless them in the opposite way they hurt you.
Step 12: Ask Jesus to seal his forgiveness and heal the wounds.
Step 13: Thank God for his healing.

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Forgiveness (Part 1) Nov 09, 2022

Forgiveness is not an easy topic. It’s intimately connected to our hurts and areas that need healing. But forgiveness is also misunderstood. Building off the previous series on right judgment, mercy and healing, Jake and Dr. Bob begin a two-part series on forgiveness, diving into the etymology of the word, addressing our misinterpretations, and challenging us to look at how Jesus models forgiveness. They look at how forgiveness is the perfect marriage between right judgment and mercy, and go deep into the Catechism to unpack the spiritual and human reality of this virtue. Be prepared to pause, rewind and listen to this episode again and again.

Key Quote:

It is there, in fact, "in the depths of the heart," that everything is bound and loosed. It is not in our power not to feel or to forget an offense; but the heart that offers itself to the Holy Spirit turns injury into compassion and purifies the memory in transforming the hurt into intercession. - CCC 2843

Key Points:

How right judgment and mercy combined equal true forgiveness
Why dividing right judgment and mercy creates an awful reality
The etymology of the word ‘forgive’
Why we hold on to unforgiveness
Misinterpretations of what forgiveness is
Reconciliation and restitution
The pain and shame on both sides of hurt that can become identity lies
Two powerful paragraphs from Catechism of the Catholic Church on forgiveness
Forgiveness will not always be followed by restoration of the relationship
The places we’re not willing to forgive may be places where we’ve created idols in our lives
Forgiveness and the connection with trust and surrender to God
How forgiveness didn’t diminish Jesus’s dignity
Applying what’s been discussed to the sex abuse crisis in the Church

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Judgement, Mercy & Healing (Part 2) - Mercy Oct 26, 2022

When we understand and exercise right judgement then we can offer and receive mercy, which leads to healing. Jake and Bob break down the role of mercy with helpful analogies and discussion to draw a more complete picture of healing. They also take a look at what happens when we get judgement wrong.

Key Quote:

Without the presence of the merciful Father, we are delivered up to our faults, without any possible remedy. There would be no forgiveness of error or sin. No place for weakness, frailty, or failure, all of which are nonetheless a part of our lives. - Fr. Jacques Philippe, Priestly Fatherhood

Key Points:

Bob illustrates with examples how mercy cannot exist without right judgement
The opposite of wrong judgement leads to false or cheap mercy
Mercy is the what leads to healing
A sound anthropology is needed for real healing
Mercy is a combination of truth and love
Hesed = an Old Testament word for God’s mercy and love toward his people, an undeserved kindness and generosity
Misericordia = a heart for our misery
Jake and Bob share personal experiences of experiencing hesed and misericordia
The importance of remembering our encounters with God’s mercy
Notice what captivates you, and notice what challenges you

Resources:

Episode 66: Judgement, Mercy & Healing (Part 1) - Right Judgement
Episode 14: Anatomy of a Wound (Part 3)
Priestly Fatherhood, Fr. Jacques Philippe (book)

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Judgement, Mercy and Healing (Part 1) - Right Judgement Oct 12, 2022

In response to the previous series on same-sex attraction, Jake and Bob begin a new series on Judgement, Mercy and Healing from a Catholic lens. The first topic on the table is Right Judgement as they address the tension between ‘we have to judge’ and ‘we can’t judge’.

Key Quote:

Forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us - Matt 6:12

Key Points:

Jake and Bob revisit some feedback from the series on same-sex attraction
The umbrella of truth that underpins the entire podcast
Catholic anthropology is the basis of good therapy
Subjectivity as defined by JPII
How the parable of the prodigal son illustrates Bob and Jake’s approach to the podcast
Defining right judgement and false judgement
The tension between “we have to judge” based on objective truth and “we can’t judge” because justice belongs to the Lord
The important distinction between sharing truth and the way in which it’s shared
The backlash against judgement has manifested in the woke community
Cancel culture
What Scripture says about judgement

Resources:

Anatomy of a Wound series

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Same-Sex Attraction (Part 6) Summary Sep 28, 2022

Jake and Bob take time to debrief the series on Same Sex Attraction and address feedback from listeners.

Key Quote:

For our struggle is not with flesh and blood but with the principalities, with the powers, with the world rulers of this present darkness, with the evil spirits in the heavens. - Ephesians 6:12

Key Points:

Jake and Bob address some listener feedback about the series
The distinction between a pastoral approach and a philosophical or theological approach to the conversation
Can heterosexual and homosexual sins be weighted the same?
The denial of truth that’s pervasive in our current culture
Why it’s problematic to apply the term ‘conversion therapy’ too broadly
Bad therapy vs good therapy
The difference between being ‘value neutral’, imposing an ideology or respecting a client’s freedom in therapy
Defining healing and the healing process
Jake and Bob close with their hopes for this past season and a reveal of what’s coming next

Practical Application/ Reflection Questions:

Did you experience a reaction of grief during any episodes in this series? Note when and why and spend some time in prayerful reflection.
Consider the distinctions presented between a pastoral approach vs a philosophical or theological approach to this topic. How do you find yourself more inclined to respond to others? Where might you need to adjust your approach to bringing more truth or more love to the conversation?
What’s your response to Jake and Bob’s distinction between ‘good therapy’ and ‘bad therapy’?
Which guest did you appreciate hearing from the most and why?

Resources:

Begin our series on Same-Sex Attraction here
Living the Truth in Love: Pastoral Approaches to Same Sex Attraction, Janet Smith & Fr. Paul Check (book)

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Same-Sex Attraction (Part 5) with Christopher Dowling Sep 16, 2022

In this extended episode, Jake and Bob sit down with Christopher Dowling for a deeply nuanced conversation examining the the Catechism of the Catholic Church, ‘camps’ that exist around the Church’s teaching on homosexuality, and how we can love one another while fundamentally disagreeing on how to approach same-sex relationships. Christopher came out as gay in 2018 and is currently engaged to be married to another man. He and Bob know one another from their time in shared ministry, and for the first time revisit how the events of 2018 affected them individually. This is a powerful conversation that we hope is one small step towards healing and relationship as we respectfully dialogue about grief and hope, doubt and faith, sadness and love.

Key Quote:

We stand in different camps, but where we can be united is in reverencing each other, and wanting to understand each other’s heart. - Jake Khym

Key Points:

Christopher shares his background in the Church, including several major ministries that he’s worked for or spent time with
Jake and Christopher define what sort of ‘camps’ they see emerging in the conversation around Church teaching and homosexuality
Christopher shares his experience of ‘coming out’ and choosing to pursue relationships with men
Jake pauses the conversation to assess how people may interpret the questions that he and Bob are posing to Christopher
Christopher and Bob speak for the first time about how they both felt when Christopher came out in 2018
The men take time to address the personal and unique grief and hurt that is at the heart of much conversation around homosexuality and the Church, and how we can do better to listen to one another
Christopher answers the common question, ‘How can I love you without compromising my beliefs?’
Christopher speaks to the difference between accepting vs affirming
The men unpack how the pastoral tone changes around this topic when we’re in relationship with each other and truly ‘sitting across the table’ instead of in a faceless forum
A discussion ensues about paragraph 2357 in the Catechism of the Catholic Church that references the unexplained ‘psychological genesis’ of same-sex attraction and the ‘great variety of forms’ it has taken throughout history
The episode concludes, as Christopher puts it, with lingering feelings of doubt, grief and sadness, but simultaneously faith, hope and love

Practical Application:

Do you find it difficult to listen to and receive someone who has an opinion or lifestyle that’s different from yours? Practice having a conversation with someone you love without interrupting them to share your own opinion right away.
Pay attention to how you feel throughout the episode. What emotions come up for you? Do you feel defensive or grieved by anything that is said? Do you feel encouraged? Consider your involuntary feelings and allow yourself to feel these things without jumping to immediate conclusions.

Resources:

Catechism of the Catholic Church para 2357

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Same-Sex Attraction (Part 4) with Hilde Aug 31, 2022

Jake and Bob sit down for an honest conversation with Hilde, a woman who would have once called herself a ‘gay Catholic.’ Hilde’s lifelong attraction to the truth made her feel intensely divided between the Catholic faith she was raised with and a lifestyle of same-sex relationships. Then, a spontaneous trip to Medjugorje changed everything. Now, Hilde defines herself more through her identity as a daughter of God than her sexual desires. Hilde’s unflinching retelling of her story is a beautiful example of how God always pursues us.

Key Quote:

Being Christian is not the result of an ethical choice or a lofty idea, but the encounter with an event, a person, which gives life a new horizon and a decisive direction. - Deus Caritas Est (Benedict XVI)

Key Points:

While wrestling with some deep questions, Hilde found a copy of ‘Be Healed’ on campus and ended up connecting with Bob for the first time
Through her friendship and conversation with Bob, Hilde slowly grew trust and encountered inner healing
Hilde shares her upbringing as the youngest in a large, orthodox Catholic family
During a time of difficulty in her relationship with her mom, Hilde was innocently drawn into a relationship with an older woman which became sexual
Hilde wrestled with questions of her identity and conscience while entertaining same-sex relationships, and some poor spiritual advice furthered her exploration
In a moment of turmoil and prayer, Hilde felt drawn to go to Medjugorje and it was a transformative experience
Hilde exhorts priests and spiritual leaders to share the truth in love about the Church’s teaching, beginning with finding our identity as sons and daughters rather than focussing on our attractions
Hilde continues her story, sharing what happened after Medjugorje and how she feels a strong new desire to become a saint, but doesn’t feel called to marriage
Each layer of healing comes with facing different shame but also experiencing deeper relationship with Jesus and new freedom

Practical Application:

Listen to this episode with a pen and paper in hand. What stands out to you? Make notes about key ideas that stand out to you. Reflect on why you highlighted those particular themes.

Resources:

Be Healed, Dr Bob Schuchts (book)
Redeeming Love, Francine Rivers (book)

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Same-Sex Attraction (Part 3) with A.J. Benjamin Aug 17, 2022

This episode, Jake and Bob sit down with AJ Benjamin, the author of “When the Son Frees You.” They discuss his journey of healing that led to his writing a book. AJ discusses his childhood wounds, the pathway of his healing and how it led to a fulfilled life with his wife.

Key Quote:

“The purification of our hearts has to do with paternal or maternal images, stemming from our personal and cultural history, and influencing our relationship with God.” (CCC 2779)

Key Points:

-AJ’s journey of same-sex attraction.

-His insistence on not labelling people as gay or straight because in his mind labels box people in and people are more than their sexual orientation.

-A discussion of gender/sexual fluidity

-Working through wounds from childhood to find healing

Practical Application:

Look into the work of Desert Stream Ministries and Living Waters small groups.
Reflect on your own relationship with your mother and father and how it influenced your view of God and your experience your sexuality.
Explore one of the resources below.

Resources:

When the Son Frees You: A Catholic Man's Journey of Healing From Same-Sex Attraction (Book by A.J. Benjamin)
Desert Stream Living Waters
Theology of the Body, Pope John Paull II (writings)
Theology of the Body Institute (ministry from Christopher West)

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Same-Sex Attraction (Part 2) with Andrew Comiskey Aug 03, 2022

This week in our series on same-sex attraction, Jake and Bob speak with Andrew Comiskey, founder of Desert Stream Ministries. Desert Stream helps people of all every sexual orientation begin to heal areas of sexual brokenness. Andrew brings his humor, passion, faith and care to this conversation. Andrew desires to offer a safe space within the Church to those who are seeking integration, wholeness and healing in areas of sexuality and we hope you experience the Father’s merciful heart through him in this episode.

Key Quote:

The heart is our hidden center, beyond the grasp of our reason and of others; only the Spirit of God can fathom the human heart and know it fully. - CCC 2563

Key Points:

Andrew introduces himself and his ministry
The common ground of sexual healing no matter your sexual orientation and/or brokenness
Why small groups at Living Waters are made up of women and men working through a variety of brokenness toward greater integration
Andrew expresses his desire to see the Church be known for being a place that is safe, merciful and healing
Andrew shares his testimony of experiencing same-sex attraction and encountering evangelical Christianity in his youth which set him on a path to reconcile his desires to Christ
Andrew and Bob discuss some formative writings on this subject, especially those of Leanne Payne - they address why she’s sometimes seen as controversial
Andrew addresses some cultural shifts that have occurred in our view of homosexuality as well as enduring truths
Jake and Bob summarize their conversation with Andrew and offer further clarification and explanation of what was discussed

Practical Application:

Look into the work of Desert Stream Ministries and Living Waters small groups.
Reflect on your own relationship with your masculinity or femininity.
Explore one of the resources below.

Resources:

Andrew Comiskey
Desert Stream Living Waters
Theology of the Body, Pope John Paull II (writings)
Theology of the Body Institute (ministry from Christopher West)
Leanne Payne
Crisis in Masculinity, Leanne Payne (book)
Broken Image, Leanne Payne (book)
The Healing Presence, Leanne Payne (book)
Restoring the Christian Soul, Leanne Payne (book)

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Same-Sex Attraction (Part 1) Introduction Jul 20, 2022

Jake and Bob begin a series on same-sex attraction with the desire to bring hope, clarity and understanding to this topic and the Church. Why this series? We have seen this topic impact many people who are trying to navigate this conversation well. As we move forward, we want to be sensitive and use great reverence toward the people that this directly affects, including our listeners. We believe that love and charity are essential in this discussion, as well as humility in the pursuit of truth. The depths of the human heart are holy ground.

Key Quote:

The number of men and women who have deep-seated homosexual tendencies is not negligible. This inclination, which is objectively disordered, constitutes for most of them a trial. They must be accepted with respect, compassion, and sensitivity. Every sign of unjust discrimination in their regard should be avoided. These persons are called to fulfill God's will in their lives and, if they are Christians, to unite to the sacrifice of the Lord's Cross the difficulties they may encounter from their condition. - CCC 2358

Key Points:

Jake and Bob introduce the topic, acknowledging that it is sensitive and may bring up many feelings for people
We believe that the Church teaches infallibly what is true, and we also believe that this topic can be discussed in the Church with greater charity and humility
Desires themselves are not inherently wrong, and disordered desires extend beyond same-sex attraction
We define what is meant by ‘psychological genesis’ and why the Catechism of the Catholic Church does not attempt to explain a psychological genesis for same-sex attraction
How to simultaneously honor the objective reality of who we are and the subjective reality of what we experience in our sexuality
Trauma is inflicted on those who experience homosexuality when they are not treated with dignity
Behind every disordered desire is a search for something good, for love
Jake and Bob acknowledge the mystery and the unknown behind several dimensions of this topic

Practical Application:

Read and reflect on the section of the Catechism of the Catholic Church regarding the Sixth Commandment.

Resources:

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The Healing Process: A Testimony from Renee Lemire Jul 06, 2022

In this episode, Jake and Bob speak with Renee Lemire, a podcast listener who used Dr. Bob’s book, “Be Restored” as a guide for a personal healing retreat that led to tremendous healing. Her story has aspects that are common to us all, and we pray that this gives you hope that healing in your own life is possible and doesn’t need to be costly or complicated.

Key Quote:

“And they implored Him that they might just touch the fringe of His cloak; and as many as touched it were cured.” - Matthew 14:36

Key Points:

Renee shares how she went from a destructive party lifestyle in highschool to finding comfort in the Church and ultimately experiencing an encounter with Jesus at Florida State University that changed her life
After the initial conversion of her heart, Renee experienced a feeling of disintegration that she needed healing in other areas of her life
“Be Restored” gave Renee words to understand her wounds and what needed to be healed
Renee shares the origin of the wounds in her identity as a daughter
Renee recounts her experience of going on a personal retreat and using Dr. Bob’s book as a guide to healing
Renee shares insight into what she tangibly did during her retreat and how she let the Holy Spirit lead

Practical Application:

Ask the Holy Spirit to be your guide in the healing process.
Consider taking time out of the year ahead to use “Be Restored” as a guide for personal healing.
If you can’t take a day of time to conduct a personal retreat, simply read through “Be Restored” at home.

Resources:

St. Paul’s Outreach (SPO)
Brotherhood of Hope
Be Restored, Dr. Bob Schuchts (book)
Episodes 57 & 58: The Healing Process, Restore the Glory
Florida State University - Catholic Student Union

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The Healing Process (Part 2) Jun 22, 2022

Jake and Bob walk step-by-step through the practicals of the healing process using the Immanuel Approach. This episode is packed with practical content that you’ll want to revisit again and again.

Note to listeners: there was an issue with Jake's audio in this episode and we are working to fix this for future recordings. Thanks for your patience.

Key Quote:

[In the Immanuel process], the goal of healing is connection with God - Jake

Key Points:

The disposition of our hearts and receptivity to grace
How self awareness helps us respect the process
Our interpretation of events matter - do we fear our triggers or see them as God wanting to heal us?
A complete walk-through of the steps in the healing process, based on the Immanuel Approach (see the practical application)
We can have pre-verbal memories that are attached to wounds
Types of barriers: vows, judgements, lack of forgiveness, unconfessed sin
Renunciation of vows and the announcing of God’s truth/ blessing

Practical Application:

Draw your attention to God. Recall a positive memory of connection with God or others and allow it to overflow in an expression of gratitude to Him. This is called the ‘Immanuel Moment.’
Now, bring to mind a moment of recent distress or disconnection. What is it that you’re feeling in that moment? What are you ‘believing in the feelings’?
Ask Jesus to show you the root of the distress; don’t try to figure it out yourself.
Identify the painful experience and corresponding belief.
Ask the Lord to reveal what He desires for you to know.
If you begin to feel ‘stuck’ in the process, there is likely a barrier present. Address the barrier using a corresponding technique such as renunciation.
Test the fruit: go back to the original memory and original distress and sense if there is peace. If difficult emotion is still present, go back and repeat the relevant steps.

Resources:

The Immanuel Approach
Anatomy of a Wound (Restore the Glory series)
Be Healed, Dr. Bob Schuchts (book) and the seven signs of healing
Be Restored, Dr. Bob Schuchts (book) and appendix with healing prayer scripts
Be Transformed, Dr. Bob Schuchts (book)
Healing content on the Hallow App with Dr. Bob Schuchts and Sr. Miriam James Heidland, SOLT
Healing the Whole Person (retreat)

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The Healing Process (Part 1) Jun 08, 2022

Jake and Dr. Bob get practical about the healing process and provide examples of what it looks like to allow Christ to be the Healer.

Note to listeners: there was an issue with Jake's audio in this episode and we are working to fix this for future recordings. Thanks for your patience.

Key Points:

Examples of inner healing happen throughout Scripture
The pattern of healing through Christ looks like this:

Always begins with an encounter with Jesus, Him seeing the person and their true dignity
Jesus speaks the truth with hope and love
Jesus offers himself as a remedy

The Raising of Lazarus is a great analogy of our woundedness and healing through Christ
There has to be awareness and desire for healing to take place. This takes humility.
We have to understand what what it means to be human in order to enter into healing
Begin the process of healing by deepening self-awareness and identifying where you are currently struggling
Let Jesus be the Healer, rather than worshiping the process
Some insights and specific examples modeling prayer ministry as part of the healing process
Examples of internal barriers to healing

Practical Application:

Begin your healing journey by praying about questions that Dr. Bob posed:

Where am I struggling in my relationships?
Where are the areas of habitual sin?
Where are the desires that are disordered in my life, even if I’m not acting on them?
Where am I struggling emotionally in situations?

Resources:

Episode 55: Security, Maturity, Purity (Part 3)

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Integrated Healing with Dr. Tom Nelson and Fr. Burke Masters May 25, 2022

Jake and Dr. Bob are joined by two special guests: Fr. Burke Masters and Dr. Tom Nelson. As experts in their respective fields, the four men discuss integrated healing of the whole person: body, soul and spirit. They draw on their experience of working together at healing retreats through the JPII Healing Center and share how integrated healing has changed the way they minister. We hope this blesses you!

Key Points:

Healing has to do with wholeness and communion - no matter what angle you’re approaching healing from (body, soul, spirit), it’s important to keep the whole person in mind
Sculpting, ‘Visio Divina’ and the power of touch for integrated healing
Dr. Tom and Fr. Burke’s experience with leading healing retreats based on Dr. Bob’s model
Dr. Tom discovered integrated healing as a skeptic who attended a retreat from Dr. Bob
Fr. Burke also discovered integrated healing Dr. Bob’s and his book ‘Be Healed’
Dr. Tom and Fr. Burke share how practicing integrated healing has brought them joy in their fields

Practical Application:

Consider whether you give weight to one area of healing over the others: body, soul and spirit (mind). How could you approach your own healing or the journeys of those around you in a more integrated way?
Explore a new method of prayer using Visio Divina.

Resources:

Be Healed, Dr. Bob Schuchts (book)
Visio Divina

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Security, Maturity, Purity (Part 3) May 11, 2022

Note to listeners: there was an issue with Jake's audio in this episode and we are working to fix this for future recordings. Thanks for listening!

Jake and Bob conclude the series on Security, Maturity, Purity, by talking about Purity. The development of this area is about much more than sexuality. Purity begins when we orient ourselves towards love by both seeing God and seeing like God. This episode challenges us to see ourselves and others more through God’s eyes with the healing gaze of love.

Guiding Quote:

Blessed are the pure of heart, for they shall see God. - Matthew 5:8

Key Points:

How the Gospel story of the Healing of the Blind Man of Bethsaida illustrates Security, Maturity and Purity
Purity of heart means seeing God and seeing like Him.
Seeing like God means not just seeing someone’s brokenness but seeing them in their wholeness… this includes ourselves
When we talk about purity, we need to look at the heart not just actions
We must encounter God in his fullness through security and maturity before we can truly embrace the wholeness of God’s love for us
At the root of an addiction or impurity is an absence of love. When we invite God (love) into our impurity there can be healing. Do we trust him enough for this?
It’s inadequate to simply talk about ‘right or wrong’ in the Church
An indicator of purity is the quality of relationship we offer to others: being able to admonish another and at the same time love them through a problem they have
Impurity is any deviation from love
The power of the healing gaze of Jesus

Practical Application:

Where is there addiction or impurity in my life? Where am I not living in freedom, and what does it mean to hold Jesus’s hand in that area?
What does it look like to admonish others and be ready to love them through their struggles?

Resources:

None this week

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Security, Maturity, Purity (Part 2) Apr 27, 2022

Jake and Bob continue their series on Security, Maturity and Purity by looking at the difference between false maturity vs maturing into our true selves through yoking ourselves to Christ.

Guiding Quote:

The real Son of God is at your side. He is beginning to turn you into the same kind of thing as Himself. He is beginning, so to speak, to "inject" His kind of life and thought into you; beginning to turn the tin soldier into a live man. The part of you that does not like it is the part that is still tin. - CS Lewis, Mere Christianity

Key Points:

Why Maturity comes after Security in the order of healing
The true purpose of healing is to help us love well, rather than to make life easier
We find ourselves when we make a gift of ourselves, and this sacrifice requires maturity
False maturity can come from woundedness. We want to mature past the false self into our true selves.
Jake breaks open the analogy of Jesus’s yoke which helps us understand submission to Christ as a path to maturity
Jake and Bob each share from their stories about their personal journeys to maturity

Practical Application:

If you haven’t listened to Part 1 on Security, go back and begin with that as the foundational episode of the series.
Consider the analogy of the yoke. How might your frustrations in the Christian life or healing journey point toward an area of your life in need of maturity?
Pray for Godly mentors (or ask someone you know for wisdom and guidance) who can help you mature in areas of false maturity.

Resources:

Security, Maturity Purity (Part 1)

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Security, Maturity, Purity (Part 1) Apr 13, 2022

Join Jake and Bob as they begin a new series discussing Security, Maturity and Purity. These three things are not only foundational to our healing, but are essential to the entire Christian life. In this first episode, Jake and Bob spend time unpacking what they mean by Security, including the role our parents play in shaping this for us, and how to begin healing in this area. Bookmark this series because you’re going to want to keep coming back.

Guiding Quote:

The language of faith thus draws on the human experience of parents, who are in a way the first representatives of God for man. [But] no one is father as God is Father. - CCC 239

Key Points:

Bob shares the story of his eight-day retreat and where the concept of “security, maturity, purity” originated
RIM (Relationship, Identity, Mission) fits directly into Security, Maturity, Purity
Security is founded in trust and love
There’s a direct link between our relationship with our parents and our relationship with God
Security is foundational to our relationship with Jesus and God the Father
Some helpful ways to begin healing in the area of security

Practical Application:

Be curious about your life story. Ask the Holy Spirit to accompany you as you take an honest look at how you’ve been loved or not loved well throughout your life.
What are key moments of security or insecurity in your past? Invite the Holy Spirit to reveal these memories with gentleness and tenderness.
Ask, how have you grown in trust in different areas of your life?

Resources:

The Immanuel Approach

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Healing and Leadership (Part 7) w/ Patrick Lencioni Mar 30, 2022

After an incredible series on Healing and Leadership, Jake and Bob sit down for one final episode with renowned leadership expert Patrick Lencioni. Lencioni is founder of the Table Group, a consulting firm which has helped businesses across the globe in their quest for organizational health. He is a practicing Catholic and a force behind the Amazing Parish project. Pat opens up about his short fuse (and new peace he's discovered), why people-pleasing is so deadly, and why the only kind of leadership is servant leadership. We hope you enjoy this conversation as much as we did!

Guiding Quote:

Do I want to be a leader because of what it does for me, or do I want to be a leader because it’s a huge responsibility to love and serve others? - Patrick Lencioni

Key Points:

Pat shares how he met Dr. Bob, began to dive deeper into healing, and how that’s impacted his leadership
What we might be missing in the story of St. Paul’s conversion
Why agreeableness is not a healthy position for a leader
The difference between ‘niceness’ and kindness and love
What a lack of conflict indicates
Lencioni’s 5 healthy functions of an organization

Vulnerability-based trust
Healthy conflict
Commitment
Accountability
Collective Results

Why all leadership is servant leadership
The difference between head level knowledge of faith and heart level relationship with Jesus, truly believing that God loves us uniquely and unconditionally
Pat demystifies what leaders are like in the business world and and why it’s not as scary as we might think to bring faith into the workplace
Pat’s advice to leaders: purify your intentions, get healthy (work towards wholeness and integrity), and shepherd the people closest to you

Practical Application:

The next time you catch yourself being ‘agreeable’ when you have a different perspective, speak up instead.
Is your faith something that you believe with your head or a person you’ve encountered in your heart? Don’t be afraid to go to God in prayer with the truthful answer. Be honest with him about any areas of doubt in his goodness and love.
Take some time to identify who those 'closest to you' are, who you may be called to invest more of your leadership efforts into and shepherd well.
Choose one of the resources to explore more with your team at work or in a small group in your church community.

Resources:

Five Dysfunctions of a Team, Pat Lencioni (book)
The Motive, Pat Lencioni (book)
The Advantage, Pat Lencioni (book)
The Working Genius Assessment (online assessment)
The Simple Reminder (podcast)
At the Table (podcast)
The Working Genius Podcast
The Table Group
The Amazing Parish
Be Healed, Dr. Bob Schuchts (book)

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Healing and Leadership (Part 6) w/ the Carmelite Sisters of the Most Sacred Heart Mar 16, 2022

It is an honor to welcome two incredible leaders onto the podcast today, Mother Superior Gloria Therese and Sr. Regina Marie of the Carmelite Sisters of the Most Sacred Heart of Los Angeles. Several years ago, their community of Carmelite Sisters reached a crisis point. The Order had been founded during a period of religious persecution in Mexico and compounded by individual trauma they were collectively in need of deep healing. Mother Superior and Sr. Regina Marie discovered Dr. Bob’s ‘Healing the Whole Person’ and soon the entire Community had taken the program. Together, the Sisters recount this profound experience of rediscovering their stories and learning to trust that God can use our brokenness to minister to the world. Theirs is a story of hope and a picture of God’s deep desire for our wholeness.

Guiding Quote:

I will lead the blind by a road they do not know, by paths they have not known I will guide them. I will turn the darkness before them into light, the rough places into level ground. These are the things I will do, and I will not forsake them. - Isaiah 42:16

Key Points:

How the Sisters came into contact with Dr. Bob’s work
None of us pass through childhood without some need for healing because it is such a vulnerable time in our lives
Sr. Regina Marie shares about a family tragedy that occured in her teenage years and how she found healing when Jesus came into the memory
Sister reveals how unhealed trauma affected her leadership with the Carmelite Sisters
What artificial harmony is and how that impacts relationships in a community
A brief history of the traumatic events which shaped the history of the Carmelite Sisters of the Most Sacred Heart
What the Carmelite community looks like now that they’ve been through the ‘Healing the Whole Person’ program
A word to other religious communities who may find themselves in need of healing

Practical Application:

Do you find yourself living out ‘artificial harmony’? How might you take the first step to become more integrated in spaces where you tend to do this?
In prayer, ask Jesus where he has been in your story. Ask him to show how he has been with you through hard things, even if you didn’t feel his presence at the time.
Invite Jesus into any specific memories which you may find yourself revisiting. Ask him to reveal himself in the scene and to be with you there.

Resources:

Carmelite Sisters of the Most Sacred Heart of Los Angeles (website)
Carmelite Sisters of the Most Sacred Heart on Facebook
Carmelite Sisters of the Most Sacred Heart on Twitter
The Interior Castle, St. Teresa of Avila (book)
The Collected Works of St. John of the Cross (book)
Be Healed, Dr. Bob Schuchts (book)
Healing the Whole Person (retreat)
The 4 Disciplines of a Healthy Organization (video)

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Healing and Leadership (Part 5) w/ Brett Powell Mar 02, 2022

In this episode, Jake and Bob host Brett Powell on the podcast. Brett is co-host with Jake on Way of the Heart Podcast, a conversion for men about journeying through life with a heart fully alive. Brett has extensive experience in leadership within the church and a passion for men’s ministry and fatherhood. Brett gets real about the heart of leadership: relationship with others and relationship with God, and why our relationships at home matter more than anything else as leaders. Thank you, Brett, for the gentle reminder to re-evaluate what we’re prioritizing in light of what’s most important!

Quote:

We are not the sum of our weaknesses and failures, we are the sum of the Father's love for us and our real capacity to become the image of His Son Jesus. - St. John Paul II

Key points:

Work is an easy place to go for affirmation, but parenthood is where our true selves show
How leadership manifests in fatherhood
How performance orientation can get in the way of unconditional love
What does ‘freedom to fail’ mean and look like?
The importance of desiring good for the people you lead
The heart multiplies itself into the people it leads
The yoke of Christ vs the yoke we put on others
The impact of shame and an unhealed heart in leadership
Why prioritizing relationships in the home matters more than anything else
The currency of trust is foundational in organizations

Practical Application:

Assess: where are you currently putting your resources either in your business or your family life? What does this communicate about your priorities?
Read Fr. Jacques Philippe’s article on Fatherhood (below in the shownotes).
Choose to do one thing this week to build trust in a family relationship, work relationship and/or a friendship.
Take time to reflect on where you might be living out of a performance orientation. How might this be affecting your relationships and what’s one thing you can do this week to work on that?

Resources:

Brett and Jake’s podcast for men: Way of the Heart Podcast
7 Habits of Highly Effective People (book)
Ordering Your Private World (book)
The Urgent Need for Fatherhood, Fr. Jacques Philippe (article)
Jason Wilson karate video: There's A Time for Tough Love... Just Not All The Time!
Cinderella Man scene (video)

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Healing and Leadership (Part 4) w/ Peter Herbeck Feb 16, 2022

Today, we welcome Peter Herbeck from Renewal Ministries onto the show. Peter would describe his younger self as a troublemaker and rule breaker, acting out because of an alcoholic father. But, when his father miraculously and voluntarily turned himself in for treatment after his sister called on the family to pray, Peter was introduced to healing: clinically and through Christ. It was a step in the right direction, but his healing journey was far from over. Join our conversation as Peter shares how his understanding of ‘healing the whole person’ shifted in his fifties and how this has impacted his leadership forever.

Key points:

Peter’s early life was heavily influenced by his father, a war vet who was successful but an alcoholic
Healing began in Peter’s father’s life with Jesus and then led to healing in the family
Peter was introduced to counseling during treatment for his father
Well into his fifties, Peter didn’t address his healing head on, but simply tried to ‘trust God’ more
Dr. Bob’s book, “Healing the Whole Person” was transformational for Peter and catalyzed his adult journey of healing
Wounds from Peter’s early life around public failure led to beliefs and vows
Even though there was grace and no deep sin in Peter’s life, he was experiencing brokenness as an adult because of unresolved trauma
Healing allows you to walk in the joy of the Lord
Acknowledging our brokenness and leaning into Jesus is necessary for leaders

Practical Application:

If you are in ministry, ask yourself if you feel pressure to be ‘perfect’ all the time. Find a trusted friend or ministry colleague who you can share honestly with about your shortcomings.
Take the time to ask yourself, “What do I really want or desire?” What is in your heart once you cut past any sin or fear of failure? Journal what comes up.
If you have unresolved trauma in your life, seek support.

Resources:

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Healing and Leadership (Part 3) w/ Jackie Mulligan Feb 02, 2022

Jake and Bob sit down for a practical and rich conversation with Jackie Mulligan, the Foundress and CEO of Reform Wellness, a functional and holistic wellness practice rooted in Christ. As a successful young woman, Jackie seemed like she had it all together while internally, her striving and performance-oriented attitude was steadily leading her to a place of dysregulation and illness. Jackie began her healing journey in the adoration chapel where she recognized her need to reform her life by placing Christ at the center of everything from her meals to movement to thought patterns. Now, Jackie is leading others to wholeness in Christ by addressing all aspects of their lives through her groundbreaking program: Reform Online. Space is still available in the Lent 2022 intake.

Guiding Quote:

“Take care of your body as if you were going to live forever, and take care of your soul as if you were going to die tomorrow.” - St. Augustine

Key points:

Reform Wellness is both/and a business and a ministry
Jackie’s journey from high performance to getting Lyme disease to reforming her life to invite Christ to be at the center of everything in her life.
The foundations of Reform Wellness
The temptation toward striving, success and the appearance of having it all together
How Mary’s fiat is the antidote to striving
What the Reform program looks like and why it’s an investment for anyone: priests, bishops or lay people
The pillars of Reform Wellness and how Reform defines health
Jackie provides one practical tip for each of the Reform pillars

Practical Application:

What are you allowing to form or deform you?
Take some time to pray about how Mary’s fiat can help orient you toward a life reformed in Christ.
Which of the wellness tips that Jackie mentions can you begin to implement this week?

Resources:

Reform Wellness: reformwellness.co
Reform Online this Lent
Reform Wellness on Instagram: @reform_wellness
Jackie Mulligan’s Instagram: jackie_mulligan

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Healing and Leadership (Part 2) w/ Archbishop Alexander Sample Jan 19, 2022

Jake and Bob welcome a very special guest onto the podcast from Portland, OR: Archbishop Alexander Sample. Appointed a Bishop at the young age of 45, Archbishop Sample has served over 15 years in the episcopate and has recently embarked on a journey of healing that has totally transformed his approach to spiritual fatherhood of priests. Together with Jake and Bob, Archbishop Sample shares some key childhood wounds and healing in parts of his story, demonstrating how healing helps unite us to Christ and those we lead.

Guiding Quote: It’s not the critic who counts… The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood. - Theodore Roosevelt

Key points:

How the Archbishop began his healing journey about two years ago
The Archbishop shares vulnerably about father wounds and bullying he experienced as a young boy
Jake affirms strength in vulnerability and the safety it creates
How brokenness has affected Archbishop Sample and his leadership, particularly in his relationship as a spiritual father to his priests
How healing has impacted the Archbishop’s spiritual fatherhood and relationship with the priests in his Archdiocese
The importance of having people in your life who are instruments of healing
How a leader’s healing and transparency can lead to healing in the people he leads

Practical Application:

Ask yourself, “Am I willing to do what I ask of others?”
What are some parts of your story that you aren’t ready to tell yet? Might you need more healing in these areas?
Write an encouraging letter to a priest or bishop in your diocese. We often only reach out to them when we have a bone to pick!

Resources:

Archbishop Sample’s bio with the Archdiocese of Portland, OR
Archbishop Sample’s Twitter: @ArchbishpSample
Forty Weeks to Healing and Transformation for Priests (book)
Be Healed (book)
Man in the Arena quote from Theodore Roosevelt

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Healing and Leadership (Part 1) Jan 05, 2022

Today we're excited to launch a brand new, multi-part series on leadership, a topic that impacts everyone. Who is a leader and what is leadership? Why does healing matter for leaders? How can leaders bring healing to others? All these questions and more will be addressed in the weeks ahead as we hear from Jake, Bob and loads of special guests. In part one, Jake and Bob share parts of their own stories as they explore why ongoing healing is essential for anyone who takes leadership seriously.

Guiding Quote:

“Whoever can be trusted with very little can also be trusted with much, and whoever is dishonest with very little will also be dishonest with much.” (Luke 16:10)

Key points:

Leadership is everywhere
We’re all called to be leaders
Jesus treats leaders differently and the Bible addresses leadership often
Character is amplified in leadership
Leadership is about self-sacrifice even unto death
How secrecy and avoiding healing affects leadership
The Holy Spirit is not condemning
What it looks like to operate out of a place of sonship rather than as an orphan
Healing is an ongoing process

Practical Application:

Reflect on who you are influencing. How are you a leader in ways that go beyond your position at work?
Ask yourself the following questions:
1. How has brokenness affected your leadership?
2. How has healing affected your leadership?
3. How are you bringing healing to others?
4. How do you see the role of healing in leadership?

Resources:

Restore the Glory Episodes 12-16: Anatomy of a Wound
Restore the Glory Episodes 17-22: The Life of Peter

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How to Get the Most Out of Therapy (Part 2) Dec 22, 2021

Bob and Jake continue to answer your burning questions about therapy. Much of this episode is dedicated to clinicians and those studying clinical psychology. Bob and Jake explore more therapeutic and healing prayer methods that contribute to good integrated psychological practice. They also address why your emotional and relational health matters as the therapist in the room. They conclude with some simple advice for aspiring therapists and those seeking therapy, most importantly that Jesus is the ultimate healer and therapists simply facilitate that healing. We hope this episode blesses you! Key points:

Recommended areas of formation
What is EMDR?
The overlap between EMDR and inner healing prayer (such as Transformation Prayer Ministry)
How do you pray in a session and is it okay to pray?
How do you choose a good therapist and how do you know if it’s a good fit once you start?
Things to watch out for and avoid in a therapist
Healthy therapist-client boundaries
How attachment can happen and how to navigate that as a therapist
A few pieces of advice from Jake and Bob for therapists and anyone seeking therapy

Practical Application for therapists:

How can I allow Christ to live and work through me in therapy?
How can I continue to grow as a therapist both professionally, spiritually and personally so that I can be a knowledgeable, faithful and healthy therapist?

Resources:

Recommended areas of formation

Integrated methods of formation:

Other resources:

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How to Get the Most Out of Therapy (Part 1) Dec 08, 2021

We receive a lot of questions about therapy on the show, naturally. In this first of a two part series, Jake and Bob begin to tackle your burning questions about faith and therapy, whether you're an aspiring therapist or seeking therapy. They cover everything from the client-therapist relationship, to the professionals they have studied and model, to what it looks like to have faith inform your work in an integrated approach to therapy. This episode is packed with suggested resources, so be sure to check out that section below.

Guiding Quote:

“Understanding is the basis of care. What you would take care of you must first understand, whether it be a petunia or a nation.” - Dallas Willard

Key points:

Why therapy is becoming increasingly popular and how it fills a need in our culture
Thoughts about the ideals and limitations of the client-therapist relationship
The important link between understanding and care
Theology of the Body providing a foundational understanding of the human person
An explanation of integrated therapy, where personal faith complements therapy practice
Therapists who have informed Jake and Bob’s work
Suggested resources
Suggested universities with schools of psychology
Answering the question: is it better to begin in public or private practice after graduating?

Resources:

The Place We Find Ourselves by Adam Young (podcast)
The Divine Conspiracy, Dallas Willard (book)
Be Healed, Dr. Bob Schuchts (book)
Healing & Wholeness Catholic Psychotherapist Conference (registration opens January 10)
Theology of the Body & Healing (Part 1 - Introduction), Restore the Glory series
Jesus and the Scriptures

Individuals who have impacted Jake and Bob:

Conrad Baars (Catholic psychiatrist and author)
John Eldredge and Wild at Heart (Christian therapist, author and writer)
Dr. Larry Crabb and Larger Story (Christian psychologist)
Leanne Payne (Founder of Ministries of Pastoral Care)
Dr. Jim Wilder and Life Model Works (Christian psychologist)
Dr. Dan Allender (Christian psychologist, speaker, professor)
Dr. Karl Lehman and Immanuel Healing Prayer
Henri Nouwen (Catholic priest and author)

Recommended Schools of Psychology:

Divine Mercy University, Virginia
Franciscan University of Steubenville, Ohio (Undergrad only)
Trinity Western University, Vancouver

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Sexual Healing (Part 7) with Christopher West... continued Nov 24, 2021

Jake and Bob continue their conversation with Christopher West. If you haven’t heard part one, click here to listen because it’s essential for understanding the content of today's episode.

Join Jake, Bob and Christopher as they take a deep ‘excavating’ look at the transformation and healing of identity through the power of an honest and loving spouse. Sexual healing is more than just the healing of sexual things, it’s a deeper healing of our identity as men and women made in the image of God. Overtime, within the safety of a loving marriage, each man has discovered areas of their hearts that are in need of redemption. Humility before God and our spouses, and a willingness to invite the Lord into our wounds leads to powerful healing and wholeness.

Guiding Quote:

“It is not in our power to not feel or to forget an offense; but the heart that offers itself to the Holy Spirit turns injury into compassion and purifies the memory in transforming hurt into intercession.” (CCC 2843)

Key points:

Sexual healing is more than a healing of sexual things, it’s a healing of our masculinity and femininity
How the excavation/ archaeological process is a rich analogy for the cooperative healing that can happen between God and ourselves
The importance of where we find our identity
The power of an honest spouse in sexual healing
If we’re not living out our commitment of marriage in love for our spouse, then we’re also not honouring God
God is the ultimate healer, because there are things that are beyond our human capacity to transform
The enemy distorts and sets up idols that prevent us from seeing the God’s goodness in world as he intended it
Breaking open an analogy of self-condemnation: coming ‘face to face with the hunchback in the woods’

Practical Application:

Where do I find my identity: in what others think or in how God sees me?
What in my life have I turned into an idol, and how might that get in the way of loving my spouse well?
How would my perspective shift if I saw the idols in my life as icons providing a window to God?
Where have I made agreements with the opinions of others that has led to self-condemnation? Go to the Lord in prayer and ask him to love you back to wholeness in those places.

References:

Theology of the Body Institute from Christopher West
The Good News about Sex and Marriage, Christopher West (book)
Christopher West on Pints with Aquinas (podcast)

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Sexual Healing (Part 6) with Christopher West Nov 10, 2021

This week, Jake and Bob spend time with an old friend, Christopher West. They reminisce about their spiritual history with each other, and Christopher gets real about his own journey of healing from rejection wounds. Christopher is well known as ‘the Theology of the Body guy,’ but after nine years of hiding his own brokenness behind masks in his marriage, he was confronted with the reality that he was living out his brokenness with his wife. Christopher walks us through his testimony of learning to take off the masks to let God love him.

Guiding Quote:

“For Christ did not send me to baptize, but to preach the gospel—not with wisdom and eloquence, lest the cross of Christ be emptied of its power.” - 1 Cor 1:17

Key points:

Christopher, Jake and Bob talk about their friendship and how they first met
How Christopher’s wounds of rejection created a blindspot that prevented him from loving his wife well in their first decade of marriage
How wounds of rejection can affect identity
We have to go into our family history to understanding our wounds
The ‘archaeological dig’ into our own wounds must be done with Christ
Our wounds play out in the marriage bed
We can show up as we are because we’re loved by God

Practical Application:

What is your spiritual legacy? Who has shared the faith with you and is your spiritual father or grandfather?
Where have you experienced rejection wounds? Pray over those areas to ask God to heal those wounds.
Reflect on how God has worked in your history to bring you to where you are today.

References:

Theology of the Body Institute from Christopher West
The Good News about Sex and Marriage, Christopher West (book)
Christopher West on Pints with Aquinas (podcast)

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Sexual Healing (Part 5) - Take Heart in the Battle Against Pornography Oct 27, 2021

This week, Jake and Bob reflect on the last episode conversation with Matt Fradd. They discuss the link between shame and compulsion, the addiction cycle and how to truly find healing from sexual sin.

Guiding Quote: “Take heart!” - John 16:33

Key points

The link between shame and compulsion
Pornography blurs the lines of fantasy and reality
A fresh perspective on deeper, long-lasting healing
Explanation of the addiction cycle
How our attitude toward our wounds and our sin affects our spiritual lives
Practical advice about the process and next steps in the healing journey
The role of grace in the healing process

Practical Application:

Where have you not experienced love that there might be a shame response?
Pray about what might be your ‘holy desire’ (for God, connection, love, etc) behind areas of shame, and what might be your unholy desires?
Every morning, reflect on your wedding vows and recommit to them.

References:

Sexual Healing (Part 4) - Battling Pornography with Matt Fradd, Restore the Glory Podcast
Unwanted, Jay Stringer (book)
Be Transformed, Dr. Bob Schuchts (book)
Be Restored, Dr. Bob Schuchts (book)
Be Healed, Dr. Bob Schuchts (book)
Breaking Free From Pornography w/ Fr. Sean Kilcawley, Pints with Aquinas Podcast

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Sexual Healing (Part 4) - Battling Pornography with Matt Fradd Oct 13, 2021

Renowned expert Matt Fradd joins the conversation for our fourth episode in the series on Sexual Healing. Matt shares about ongoing journey to freedom from a pornography addiction that began at a young age. Matt, Jake and Bob discuss compulsions towards porn, how to avoid temptation and overcome addictions over time with the help of God and His people. If you or someone you know is battling a porn addiction, we hope you find this episode and the resources below helpful.

Guiding Quote: “But he said to me, "My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness." - 2 Corinthians 12:9

Key points

- Dealing with the fallout from a porn addiction in childhood- Desire and compulsions that come in response to unmet desire- How to find recovery from porn addiction- The lie that there is a ‘silver bullet’ to healing. Rather, it’s a consistent effort to break free from addictions- Why it’s often hard to talk about these things in the church - God loves us in our weakness and failures- Overcoming shame - The importance of compassion and exhortation

Resources:

- Treating Pornography Addiction: The Essential Tools for Recovery, Dr. Kevin Skinner (book) - The Porn Myth, Matt Fradd (book)- Matt Fradd’s Podcast, Pints With Aquinas (podcast)- Strive: 21-Day Porn Detox (for men)- Magdala Ministries for women struggling with sexual addiction- Forged: 33 Days Toward Freedom, Jason Evert & Matt Fradd (book)- Integrity Restored: resources for overcoming porn addiction

Practical Application:

Find a trusted person to share honestly about your struggle, if you find yourself battling pornography use.
Thank God for the opportunities he has given you to show you his power through your weakness.
Explore one of the resources on our list to find new ways to support a loved one or overcome your own struggles.

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Sexual Healing (Part 3) - Revisiting Theology of the Body Sep 29, 2021

As they continue the series on Sexual Healing, Jake and Bob share their takeaways and insights from last episode’s conversion with Sr. Miriam James Heidland. If you missed that powerful episode, please go back and listen! Jake and Bob revisit some core aspects of Theology of the Body, how Sister’s story illustrates these principles, and how we can find healing and help others do the same.

Key points

What stood out to Jake and Bob from last episode’s conversation with Sr. Miriam James Heidland
Revisiting insights from Theology of the Body as applied to healing journey
Where to begin in our own healing journey
Healing of our identity and how we see God’s identity
Understanding the importance of the healing of trust in our relationship with God and others
The role of shame and how to find freedom from shame
We’ve all experienced disorder in our sexuality by virtue of living in a fallen world

Resources:

Theology of the Body Series: Episodes 3-8 from Restore the Glory (podcast)
The Wounded Heart by Dan Allender (book)
Be Restored by Bob Schuchts (book)
Unwanted by Jay Stringer (book)

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Sexual Healing (Part 2) with Sr. Miriam James Heidland Sep 15, 2021

Show Notes

It’s a joy to welcome our dear friend and special guest, Sr. Miriam James Heidland, onto the podcast. Continuing the series on Sexual Healing, Sr. Miriam teaches us how to have a disposition of tenderness and reverence toward our own stories, what she calls holy ground. Jake, Bob and Sr. Miriam regularly work alongside each other leading healing events, so this conversation is familiar territory. We are grateful for her vulnerability. Content warning: sexual abuse and the impacts of childhood abuse are discussed within this episode.

References:

Abiding Together Podcast
Sr. Miriam’s Twitter
Loved As I Am, book by Sr. Miriam
JPII Healing Center
Society of Our Lady of the Most Holy Trinity (SOLT Sisters)

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Sexual Healing (Part 1) - An Intro to Sexual Healing Sep 01, 2021

In this episode, Jake and Bob lay the groundwork for a new series on sexual healing. Sexual woundedness affects almost everyone on some level. Jake and Bob offer their professional perspective on healing in this important area and share why it's important to let the Holy Spirit lead us when it comes to addressing wounds. Please note: specific examples of trauma and disordered sexuality are discussed within this episode. Listen with discretion.

Healing in Marriage (Bonus) with Chris & Natalie Stefanick Aug 18, 2021

In this bonus episode in our series on Healing in Marriage, Jake and Dr. Bob are joined by Chris & Natalie Stefanick. Ten years into their marriage, the recognition of childhood abuse launched them into a challenging season of healing that ultimately demonstrates the power of God’s love, the grace of the sacrament of marriage and hope that healing from deep wounds is not only possible, but part of God’s desire for our restoration.

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Healing in Marriage (Part 4) with Heather Khym Aug 04, 2021

Today, we welcome our first ever guest onto the show! Heather Khym joins us so that she and Jake can share the powerful story of how they found restoration in their marriage after Jake’s struggle with addiction came to light early in their marriage. This is a “must listen” conversation for married couples as Jake and Heather share from both the husband and wife’s perspective on dealing with tough issues and coming out stronger on the other side.

Healing in Marriage (Part 3) - Restoring Trust Jul 21, 2021

We all bring brokenness into marriage and by God’s grace, we also get to participate in our spouse's healing journey. In part three of the Healing in Marriage series based on Dr. Bob’s book, “Be Devoted,” Jake and Bob discuss how to restore trust in broken areas of a marriage. They give practicals on how to navigate this often difficult journey, and show us how reconciliation is possible for anyone who is willing.

Healing in Marriage (Part 2) - Forgiveness and the Healing Process Jul 07, 2021

Part 2 in our series on “Healing in Marriage” shines a light on healing and forgiveness, but getting to the good stuff often requires addressing things we’d rather ignore. Jake and Dr. Bob share thoughtfully how areas of immaturity, woundedness from our childhood and character weaknesses inevitably come to the surface in marriage. How we handle these moments for ourselves and with our spouse is crucial. Discover how to find healing as you learn to love your spouse (and yourself!) in your imperfections.

Healing in Marriage (Part 1) - Conflict and Honor Jun 23, 2021

This week kicks off a new series on “Healing in Marriage.” If you’re struggling in marriage, you are not alone. How can you find healing in difficult situations with your spouse? This episode addresses the presence of conflict in marriage, and how to honor your spouse. Jake and Dr. Bob draw on stories from their marriages as well as experience from their practice in professional counseling to shed light on this reality in relationships.

Unity in Marriage (Part 5) - Sexual Intimacy Jun 09, 2021

Sexual intimacy is the final area covered in this series on unity in marriage, since this form of unity flows from all the others (Spiritual, Emotional, Companionship, Teamwork). In the episode, Jake and Dr. Bob share how sexual desire and self-gift are made to become integrated in marriage through the Holy Spirit, making a way for healing and deep intimacy.

Unity in Marriage (Part 4) - Companionship and Teamwork May 26, 2021

Part four of the series on Unity in Marriage explores the joy of companionship and teamwork. Jake and Dr. Bob flesh out what it means to become one of mind and heart, and share personal examples of how they’ve had to tackle self-focus in order to move toward deeper connection through selflessness in their marriages. They also address the question, “How do we honor one another’s strengths and complement in a way that builds teamwork instead of moving in opposite directions?”

Unity in Marriage (Part 3) May 12, 2021

Jake & Dr. Bob discuss emotional intimacy in this next episode in their series on unity in marriage. Generally, this type of intimacy is more difficult for men, while it's one of the deepest desires of women. Our hosts share stories of how they have grown in emotional intimacy through their own marriages, and provide practical tips on how to develop deeper emotional intimacy in your own relationship.

Unity in Marriage (Part 2) Apr 28, 2021

Jake & Bob continue the series on unity in marriage by laying out the five pathways to marital communion. The first of these pillars is the spiritual connection to God and each other. This is the foundation for everything else in the marriage. You may have heard it suggested to pray together as a couple but didn’t try or gave up because it felt awkward. The hosts give practical tips on how to make the spiritual life a foundation without it being awkward. Be encouraged and challenged by this week’s episode.

Unity in Marriage (Part 1) Apr 14, 2021

This week kicks off a new series on finding unity in marriage. Jake and Bob will share what they’ve learned through their own marriages and their professional work with married couples. In this episode, they discuss how marriage is a union of two broken people, but by inviting in the love of God, growing together in unity is made possible. A couple can grow and heal together during the journey of their marriage. Our hosts set the stage for a great series and share tips that will help a marriage become stronger.

Family Wounds: Part 4 (Siblings) Mar 31, 2021

Jake and Bob finish up their series on the Healing of the Family by discussing sibling wounds. They frame the conversation around the Old Testament story of Joseph and his brothers. Whether sibling wounds were caused due to individual sins or inadvertently, the hosts share insight for finding healing. This episode is filled with practical tips for how to navigate the healing process in general and specifically for sibling wounds.

Family Wounds: Part 3 (Marriage) Mar 17, 2021

Jake and Bob continue their series on the Healing of the Family and dive into marriage/family wounds. The family is the primary way children learn how to give and receive love, treat other people, & find their identity. As adults, we can look back at our upbringing and see how we were formed in healthy ways and ways that caused us to struggle. Jake and Bob offer suggestions on how to find healing from our family/marriage trauma and how our families can create a loving culture where our children can thrive.

Family Wounds: Part 2 (Mothers) Mar 03, 2021

Jake and Bob continue their series on the Healing of the Family. Last week, they started with father wounds and this week they dive deep into the topic of mother wounds. The connection that children have with their mother is a powerful one that can lead to light and joy or it can lead to hurt. Both hosts not only share their expertise but also their personal stories about some mother wounds and how they have been healed. Be sure to tune in next time for the third episode in the series regarding marriage wounds.

Family Wounds: Part 1 (Fathers) Feb 17, 2021

Dr. Bob and Jake discuss the power of a father’s love and his capacity to wound. Fathers plant deep seeds in their children’s hearts with what they said or didn’t say and what they did or didn’t do. The restoration of wounds from our fathers is life-changing.

The Life of Peter: Part 6 (Filled with the Holy Spirit) Feb 03, 2021

After recapping how Peter’s pride, shame, and false self have been stripped away, Dr. Bob and Jake discuss the amazing transformation in Peter after his healing encounter with Jesus and being filled with the Holy Spirit. The series concludes with reflections on how each of us can find ourselves in Peter’s story and experience a similar transformation.

The Life of Peter: Part 5 (Healing Peter’s Shame) Jan 20, 2021

After explaining the meaning and power of shame, Dr. Bob and Jake reflect on the restorative encounter between Jesus and Peter on the shores of the Sea of Galilee. We can all resonate with Peter’s experience of denying Jesus and the resulting shame. Our hearts long to be healed and restored. Jesus comes to Peter, not to further shame him, but to heal him.

The Life of Peter: Part 4 (Coming Into the Light) Jan 06, 2021

This week’s episode goes deeper into the life of St. Peter. Through personal stories and experiences, Bob and Jake help us appreciate the value of seeing ourselves as we truly are because in vulnerability, as we carry the cross, our hearts move deeper through the journey of healing. How we respond at these times brings us along the path of either Peter (hope) or Judas (despair).

The Life of Peter: Part 3 (Identity) Dec 23, 2020

Bob and Jake continue the series on healing as seen through the life of St. Peter. Identity is the core of who we are and something that God wants to assure and clarify in us. Jesus changes Simon’s name to Peter signifying a deepening of his identity. God sees truly and clearly. He sees who we are meant to be. Our search for identity and validation is most perfectly rooted in our relationship with Him.

The Life of Peter: Part 2 (Beyond Control) Dec 09, 2020

Bob and Jake continue the series on healing as seen through the life of St. Peter. In the healing process, we can be focused on a dynamic that is important but not as deep or far reaching as what Jesus is addressing. Trusting Jesus and interpreting our journey in trust and goodness is best because we move beyond control.

The Life of Peter: Part 1 (Eyes on Jesus) Nov 25, 2020

Bob and Jake start a new series on how the life of St. Peter reveals important lessons for the healing journey. In Part 1, the impact of shame and the value of keeping our eyes on Jesus are discussed.

Anatomy of a Wound: Part 5 Nov 11, 2020

Bob and Jake finish the series on the anatomy of a wound and discuss vows which are inner resolutions that we make in response to wounds and beliefs. We make these resolutions in an attempt to avoid the original pain we experienced in a wound. Vows can significantly affect the way we do life and can go unnoticed since we often perceive them as normal and necessary.

Anatomy of a Wound: Part 4 Oct 28, 2020

Bob and Jake continue the series on the anatomy of a wound and discuss judgements which are a type of belief that distort our perceptions of others and become a barrier to love.

Anatomy of a Wound: Part 3 Oct 14, 2020

Bob and Jake continue the series on the anatomy of a wound and discuss beliefs. Our lives are filled with experiences and we interpret these experiences and put meaning to them. We then agree with the beliefs that are either truths or lies.

Anatomy of a Wound: Part 2 Sep 30, 2020

Bob and Jake continue the series on the anatomy of a wound and discuss Type A and Type B wounds as well as seven categories of woundedness called the seven deadly wounds.

Anatomy of a Wound: Part 1 Sep 16, 2020

Bob and Jake start a new series about the components of a wound. Wounds, beliefs, and vows are critical aspects that, when noticed and addressed, lead to healing and freedom.

Faith or Fear: Part 3 Sep 02, 2020

Bob and Jake conclude the series on faith or fear by explaining how our fears form a false self. Jesus invites us to deny our false self, come to Him, learn from Him, and look into His eyes of mercy.

Faith or Fear: Part 2 Aug 19, 2020

Bob and Jake continue the series on faith or fear and discuss seven deadly wounds and their impact on our lives. We have dynamics in our hearts that are below the surface and, although they are unseen, impact our peace, love, and joy.

Faith or Fear: Part 1 Aug 05, 2020

Bob and Jake start a new series about faith and fear. Understanding our heart’s reaction to life and why we become afraid leads us to name our fear before God and invite Him to love us, heal us, and set us free.

Theology of the Body & Healing: Part 6 (Healing Our Shame) Jul 22, 2020

Bob and Jake finish their series on the Theology of the Body (TOB) and healing by focusing on God’s design for humans to be unashamed. We were designed to bear God’s image, see as He sees, and love as He loves. Our healing journey requires us to bring the depths of our shame into the light and love of God so we can live our lives to the full.

Theology of the Body & Healing: Part 5 (Union of Man and Woman) Jul 08, 2020

Bob and Jake continue the series on the Theology of the Body (TOB) and healing by focusing on the idea of “original unity” and how the relationship between men and women was intended, how it’s wounded, and how it’s restored.

Theology of the Body & Healing: Part 4 (Female) Jun 24, 2020

Bob and Jake continue the series on the Theology of the Body (TOB) and healing by focusing on how females uniquely reveal God's glory, how they are wounded, and how they are healed.

Theology of the Body & Healing: Part 3 (Male) Jun 10, 2020

Bob and Jake continue the series on the Theology of the Body (TOB) and healing by focusing on how males uniquely reveal God's glory, how they are wounded, and how they are healed.

Theology of the Body & Healing: Part 2 (Identity) May 27, 2020

Bob and Jake continue the series on the Theology of the Body and healing by talking about how our identity is found in God. God gives us our identity but it’s possible we have a skewed image of God that affects our identity and peace. It’s important that we are aware of where we are bringing the deep questions of our hearts because if we lose God’s identity, we lose our identity.

Theology of the Body & Healing: Part 1 (Introduction) May 13, 2020

Bob and Jake start a series on the Theology of the Body (TOB) by sharing stories of how the TOB has brought healing into people’s lives. They discuss various aspects that are essential to the healing process and ground TOB as an essential background for healing.

Our Background Apr 29, 2020

Bob and Jake discuss how their (and our) life story is the critical backdrop to our healing journey.

Our Story Apr 13, 2020

Bob and Jake share some stories about their personal restoration and how important honest and openness are in the healing journey.

Introduction to Restore The Glory Podcast Mar 30, 2020

We are two Catholic therapists with over 50 years combined experience who now lead healing ministries. We are excited to share what we've learned and experienced to help you have greater freedom.

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