Refamulating

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Host: Julia Winston

Producer: Claire McInerny

Audio Engineer: Josh Gilbert

Theme Music: Luke Top

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Creating A Village: An Audio Diary of the First Year of Solo Motherhood Jun 23, 2026

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Paula always wanted to be a mom, and she always assumed her path to motherhood would look like getting married in her late twenties and having a baby before 30. When that timeline didn't materialize, she realized she didn’t want to wait for a romantic partner to become a mom. So she froze her eggs, found a sperm donor, got pregnant and gave birth on her own. Paula kept an audio diary from the first year of her daughter’s life. In this episode we listen as she navigates the joys and challenges of motherhood, as well as her journey of building a parenting village without a co-parent.

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Host: Julia Winston

Producer: Claire McInerny

Audio Engineer: Josh Gilbert

Theme Music: Luke Top

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Parallel Paths: A Surrogacy Story with a Twist Jun 16, 2026

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Brad and Alyssa tried for three years to have a baby. After multiple miscarriages, five failed IVF embryo transfers and a diagnosis of "unexplained infertility", they eventually turned to surrogacy. That turned out to be the path that finally opened the door to parenthood, but it wasn’t the end of their journey. During their surrogate’s pregnancy they got a surprise that changed the course of how they were building a family.

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Host: Julia Winston

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Audio Engineer: Josh Gilbert

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“Back and Forth”: From Next Door Neighbors to Chosen Family Jun 09, 2026

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When Sage bought a small pink house in Boulder, Colorado, she had no idea her next-door neighbor would become something closer to family. Over the last 18 years, Sage and Margaret wove their lives together, sharing meals, childcare, grief, and joy, in ways neither of them could have planned. Their story is a quiet argument for proximity, and for building family with the people closest to you.

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Host: Julia Winston

Producer: Claire McInerny

Audio Engineer: Josh Gilbert

Theme Music: Luke Top

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REFAM CHAT: A New Way To Freeze And Donate Your Eggs with Lauren Makler Aug 26, 2025

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Years ago, Lauren Makler was diagnosed and treated for a rare abdominal disease. Doctors told her her ovaries might not survive the surgeries she needed, so when she conceived her first child without any assistance, she was shocked. She took that feeling of having a baby despite the odds and turned it into her business, Cofertility. She wanted anyone who wanted kids to have access to fertility technology, and not let cost stand in their way. People who freeze their eggs with Cofertility don’t have to pay for the procedure (or storage) if they donate some of their eggs to a family looking for an egg donor. In this episode, Julia and Lauren talk about this new business model, the fertility industry as a whole and the emotional process some face in starting a family.

Additional Resources:

Some of the resources Lauren mentioned in this episode:

Fertility IQ - a place to find the best fertility doctor in your area

SART - learn about IVF and fertility best practices so you go into a doctor’s appointment with knowledge.

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REFAM CHAT: How We’re Re-examining Wedding Traditions Jul 29, 2025

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Julia and Claire are both getting married this year (cute!) and the wedding planning process has opened up new refamulating questions for them: who do we include in the celebration? What traditions are important and what do we want to ditch? And what is the best way to take back a wedding invite to all of your extended family (we have tips)!

And then they reminisce on Claire’s recent bachelorette party in the woods where everyone talked about their feelings and cried. (And why this was the best!)

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REFAM CHAT: How To Find Your People (And Community) with Katherine Goldstein Jun 24, 2025

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For a lot of Americans, it’s getting harder and harder to find community. Fewer people are religious, we move around more and with more things online, we spend less time running errands and interacting with people in real life. In this Refam Chat, Julia talks to Katherine Goldstein, author of the upcoming book "How to Find Your People" and creator of The Double Shift substack, which gives advice on how to cultivate an in person community.

Additional Resources:

Check out Katherine’s newsletter, The Double Shift.
Here’s her essay about striking up conversations at the farmer’s market and her essay about why introverts need community too.
Block Party USA- learn how to throw your own block party!

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REFAM CHAT: It’s Okay To Put Friendship At The Center Of Your Life (with Rhaina Cohen) May 27, 2025

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Our culture spends a lot of time talking about the importance of romantic love: finding it, keeping it, and normalizing it as THE most important person in your life. But that completely discounts the deep, meaningful friendships so many of us have. In this Refam Chat, Julia talks with author Rhaina Cohen about her book The Other Significant Others: Reimagining Life With Friendship At The Center. Rhaina and Julia talk about the importance of friendship and how many people (including herself) are living with friends, raising kids together and placing friendships at the center of their lives.

Check out:

Rhaina’s book

Rhaina’s Ted Talk

Rhaina’s newsletter

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Pre-order Ruthie’s memoir The Mother Code now!!!

Our team

Host: Julia Winston

Producer: Claire McInerny

Audio Engineer: Josh Gilbert

Theme Music: Luke Top

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REFAM CHAT: Cracking ‘The Mother Code’ with author Ruthie Ackerman Apr 22, 2025

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When Ruthie Ackerman was in her late 30s, she realized she wanted to have a baby. But there was a problem- she was married to someone who didn’t. So, she got divorced and began a transformative process to motherhood. In this Refam Chat, Julia talks to Ruthie about her experience with IVF and egg donation to finally get pregnant, what it was like to confront the stories about motherhood she grew up with, and how she’s created a new definition of motherhood for herself and her daughter.

Anyone who pre-orders the book can attend a writing masterclass with Ruthie on May 5.

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EMAIL: hello@refamulating.com.

Our team

Host: Julia Winston

Producer: Claire McInerny

Audio Engineer: Josh Gilbert

Theme Music: Luke Top

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20 I Refriendulating: A celebration of platonic soulmates Mar 11, 2025

Show notes

To wrap season 2, we honor and celebrate the unsung heroes of our emotional lives—our closest friends. While we celebrate romantic milestones with parties and gifts, our friendships—often life's most enduring relationships—frequently go unhonored. In this episode, Julia shares an intimate conversation with her platonic soulmate, Lia, about what makes their friendship special and how they’ve stayed close through hard moments that could have separated them.

The episode transcript can be found here.

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