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Domestic Violence (Power and Control Wheel)(2016 Rerun) Nov 28, 2025

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[Rerun] Dr. Kirk Honda talks about domestic violence. May 30, 2016
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Domestic Violence (Cobras vs Pitbulls)(2016 Rerun) Nov 27, 2025

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[Rerun] Dr. Kirk Honda talks about domestic violence. February 24, 2016
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Limerence Deep Dive (Chapter 3 - Signs and Disorder Justification) Nov 26, 2025

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Dr Kirk Honda provides his long-awaited lecture on limerence. November 26, 2025
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00:00 Intro
05:37 The signs of experiencing limerence
18:22 The functional impact
28:53 How does limerence disrupt life?
46:43 How is it different from a crush?
1:06:43 Is it possible to have a healthy relationship?
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Limerence Deep Dive (Chapter 2 - Definition and TikTok Reactions) Nov 25, 2025

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Dr Kirk Honda provides his long-awaited lecture on limerence. November 25, 2025
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00:00 Dr. Kirk's definition of limerence
09:14 Exploring terminology of limerence
12:30 What types of relationships involve limerence?
21:48 Clarifying the state of limerence
24:59 A 'bad' definition
31:05 Reacting to TikTok takes
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Limerence Deep Dive (Chapter 1 - I Was Wrong) Nov 24, 2025

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Dr Kirk Honda provides his long-awaited lecture on limerence. November 24, 2025
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/KIRK to get 10% off your first month.
00:00 What is limerence?
08:1 How did Dr. Kirk get here?
22:48 What does the current research and discourse look like?
48:02 An exercise for limerence
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Mental Health Hot Takes #4 Nov 21, 2025

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Dr Kirk Honda reacts to mental health hot takes from the listeners. November 21, 2025
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00:00 Intro01:16 Self-care culture can cause undue pressure
03:42 Teachers should be banned from using mental health terms
11:04 Autistic individuals are frequently misdiagnosed with Borderline
18:04 Humor is the best coping mechanism
18:13 Those in the US are prone to exaggeration
19:27 Excessive screen time impacts our mental health
25:21 We don't all suddenly have ADHD
27:33 People with personality disorders shouldn't be politicians
30:10 Frequent trauma reflection can become unhealthy wallowing
40:16 People use diagnosis as an excuse for bad behaviors
41:00 It's OK to use Borderline language without a diagnosis
42:33 Authenticity with clients is not about full transparency
46:35 Narcissism is both over and under diagnosed
47:10 Shame isn't always bad
50:05 Medication doesn't work for everyone
52:08 People with psychosis can benefit from talk therapy
55:28 You can cut out those that negatively impact your life
56:36 Therapists only validate their clients
1:00:20 Romantic love is unethical
1:00:58 Trauma dumping is a quick way of rescinding empathy
1:01:10 It is too much work to become a mental health professional
1:08:13 There's too many types of psychotherapy
1:14:38 Boundaries are just a way to be avoidant
1:15:50 Understanding mental illness is still in infancy
1:22:12 Embrace being average
1:26:10 DID is a trauma response not a personality disorder
1:30:31 Mental health issues come from family of origin trauma
1:30:46 EMDR can do more harm than good
1:33:52 Imposter syndrome points to grandiosity rather than humility
1:37:48 Social media isn't harmful per se, just in our societal context
1:38:09 Client-centered therapists "just" listen
1:39:37 CBT is for therapists who are afraid of doing real work
1:42:08 You can't love yourself without being loved by others
1:44:54 Can someone be in love with two people at once?
1:51:22 Schema therapy is the best model
1:54:35 Mandatory therapy should be paid for by the government
1:57:23 Eclectic therapists don't understand any model well enough
1:59:10 Stop focusing on your mental health
2:03:14 Organized attachment is the exception, not the norm
2:05:09 Those in open relationships just have insecure attachment
2:09:29 It's not easy being green
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Fearful Transference (2016 Rerun) Nov 20, 2025

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[Rerun] Dr. Kirk Honda talks about being afraid of your therapist. January 21, 2016
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Mental Health Hot Takes #3 Nov 19, 2025

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Dr Kirk Honda reacts to mental health hot takes from the listeners. November 19, 2025
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00:00 Intro
01:16 There should be therapy for friends
03:55 Therapists incentivise their clients to act immorally
04:41 Self improvement is a loop that leads to dissatisfaction
05:37 There is a lack of resilience of those born after 1990
12:09 Highlighting your inner child implies adults shouldn't act like that
13:36 Modalities of therapy are just placebo
14:57 Post-partum is just pathologizing women
18:24 People with high trauma & anxiety hide behind introversion
21:46 Diffusion of mental health concepts complicates conversation
22:09 Psychopaths can be good people
24:35 Too many people have ADHD
24:55 Poor mental health is persisted by poor living conditions
27:13 Licensed experts should have social media badges
31:55 People need to learn how to deal with discomfort
32:17 Disassociation should be prevented
34:38 'I don't owe anyone anything' makes society cold
35:09 Caring vs. worrying for myself
35:41 Pathology vs human experience
37:26 Some cultures need less therapy
38:14 Self diagnosis should not be taken seriously
38:35 Jungian typology is helpful
38:46 Emergency responders struggle the most with their relationships
40:35 Those that put others above themself care less about themself
40:57 Empowering women intimidates men
42:09 Too much therapy can be harmful
42:45 Beating yourself doesn't lead to healing
43:12 Avoiding hugs is from trauma
47:26 There is no such thing as faking mental illness for attention
51:08 Online dating advice is useless
53:39 You can be autistic and an asshole
54:24 Not showing up for your friends isn't holding boundaries
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Sexual Fantasies (2018 Rerun) Nov 18, 2025

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[Rerun] Dr. Kirk and Humberto talk about sexual fantasies. November 2, 2018
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Mental Health Hot Takes #2 Nov 17, 2025

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Dr Kirk Honda reacts to mental health hot takes from the listeners. November 17, 2025
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00:00 Intro
03:21 Post-communist regimes breeds fearful avoidance
06:04 Patriarchy is the reason we say 'big egos'
11:05 First time clients should read a transference for dummies
14:32 More than one thing can be true at once
14:42 Catatonia is much more common than realized
15:27 Anxiously attached people have weaponized attachment theory
17:25 Mob think makes the reasonable unreasonable
18:47 Psychologists are the police of capitalism
20:30 Spirituality has benefit to mental health
25:01 Emergency mental health services are more harmful than helpful
38:54 Personality disorders will eventually be obsolete
45:18 'Being strong' is just hiding your feelings
45:52 Most people take illegal drugs to manage their mental health
46:50 Good mental health begins and ends with compassion
47:01 Mental health is incompatible with modernity
50:28 Too much self reflection isn't helpful
57:20 "I have anxiety" is an excuse for cowardice
1:00:13 You don't need a new diagnosis, you need movement
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