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295. Buyer Beware: Pseudoscience and the Wellness Industry, featuring Pooja Lakshmin Mar 22, 2023

When it comes to self-help, it's important to be cautious of information that seems too good to be true. Especially, in today's world of digital wellness influencers where there is a lot of misinformation out there that could cause you more harm than good. Subsequently, it's essential to thoroughly research products and services before making any decisions or commitments.

To raise awareness about this issue, we (Debbie, Jill, and Yael) got together to co-host an episode dedicated to this very important conversation. We also invited Pooja Lakshmin, a board-certified psychiatrist and author of the book ‘Real Self-Care: A Transformative Program for Redefining Wellness’ to discuss the nuances of pseudoscience and what it means to practice real self-care. Expect evidence-based self-care methods, in addition to tips on how to do your due diligence as a consumer.

Listen and Learn:

What led Pooja to make some pretty drastic decisions in her own quest for self-care
The differentiators between faux self-care and real self-care
The idea of using ‘pauses’ when making decisions and boundary setting
Pseudoscience and the challenges it poses to the field of psychology
Examples of scientists behaving badly
Red flags for identifying faux self-care
Suggestibility: we can be easily influenced in ways that are problematic

Resources:

Guest

Learn more about Pooja and her work as a psychiatrist, author, founder, and speaker: https://www.poojalakshmin.com
Order your copy of Real Self-Care: A Transformative Program for Redefining Wellness (Crystals, Cleanses, and Bubble Baths Not Included): https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780593489727

Articles

Controversy Over Ego Depletion/Decision-Fatigue

Books

Quick Fix: Why Fad Psychology Can’t Cure Our Social Ills by Jesse Singal
Gospel of Wellness: Gyms, Gurus, Goops, and the False Promise of Self-Care by Rina Raphael
American Detox: The Myth of Wellness and How We Can Truly Heal by Kerri Kelly
Think Again: The Power of Knowing What You Don’t Know by Adam Grant
Against Empathy: The Case for Rational Compassion by Paul Bloom

Podcasts

About Pooja Lakshmin

Pooja Lakshmin is a psychiatrist, New York Times contributor, an assistant professor at George Washington University, and a leading voice at the intersection of mental health and gender with a focus on helping individuals escape the tyranny of self-care. In 2020, she founded Gemma, a physician-led women’s mental health platform centering on impact and equity. She also maintains a private practice where she treats women struggling with burnout and perfectionism, as well as clinical conditions like depression and anxiety. Her new book which we are here to discuss, Real Self-Care: A Transformative Program for Redefining Wellness (Crystals, Cleanses, and Bubble Baths not Included) is out now.

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294. Yes And: Improv in Psychology with Kelly Leonard Mar 15, 2023

Let's talk about the magic that is improvisation, or what us cool kids call "improv." It's an art form that's all about unleashing your creativity and performing without a script or plan. Sure, you may have heard of it as a side-splitting comedy act, but improv goes a lot deeper than that. From acting to business to mental health, improv skills can be applied in various areas of life.

Enter Kelly Leonard, the VP of Creative Strategy, Innovation, and Business Development at the infamous Second City in Chicago. Kelly, who over the decades has produced hundreds of original revues with comedians such as Stephen Colbert, Tina Fey, and Seth Meyers (to name a few) has a unique understanding of behavioral science through the lens of improv.

Regaling us with lessons and stories from his career and book, ‘Yes And’, we learn how to utilize improv to help us adapt, empathize, communicate, trust, and collaborate better. We are reminded that saying ‘yes’ to new ideas and experiences sparks creativity and can lead to beneficial outcomes. From deepening our relationships with others by practicing active listening and learning to accept and appreciate new ideas, regardless of their origin. It also teaches us to think on our feet and work together to create innovative solutions to problems.

Listen and Learn:

How Stephen Colbert came to write a blurb for Kelly’s book, Yes, and: How Improvisation Reverses No, But Thinking and Improves Creativity and Collaboration
Why so many successful comedy performers have an improv background
How improv skills can help us to empathize, communicate and collaborate
The idea of the ‘Yes And’ exercise
Why Kelly prefers to use the word ensemble vs. team
Improv's positive impact on caregiver burden and depression
An introduction to the ‘I Am Somebody Who’ exercise
Why adopting a Yes And mentality helps create a psychologically safe environment
How improv can be applied in therapy
If improv were an animal, what animal would it be?
What’s next for Kelly’s work in science and the arts

Resources:

Learn more about Kelly: https://www.secondcity.com/people/kelly-leonard+
Get your copy of Yes, And: How Improvisation Reverses No, But Thinking and Improves Creativity and Collaboration: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780062248541
Check out The Second City website: https://www.secondcity.com/
Listen to Kelly’s podcast, Getting to Yes And: https://www.secondcityworks.com/podcast

About Kelly Leonard

Kelly Leonard is the Executive Director of Learning and Applied Improvisation at Second City Works. His book, “Yes, And: Lessons from The Second City” was released to critical acclaim in 2015 by HarperCollins and was praised by Michael Lewis in Vanity Fair who called it “...an excellent guide to the lessons that have bubbled up in Second City’s improv workshops.” Kelly is a popular speaker on the power of improvisation to transform people’s lives. He has presented at The Aspen Ideas Festival, The Code Conference,TEDx Broadway, Chicago Ideas Festival, The Stanford Graduate School of Business and for companies such as Coca Cola, Microsoft, Twitter, Memorial Sloan Kettering and DDB Worldwide.

Kelly co-created an initiative with the Center for Decision Research at the Booth School at the University of Chicago, The Second Science Project, that looks at behavioral science through the lens of improvisation. He also hosts the podcast, “Getting to Yes, And,” for Second City Works and WGN radio that features interviews with academics, authors and leaders such as Brene Brown, Adam Grant, Michael Lewis, Lindy West, Ash Carter and Amy Edmondson.

For over twenty years, Kelly oversaw Second City’s live theatrical divisions where he helped generate original productions with such talent as Tina Fey, Stephen Colbert, Amy Poehler, Seth Meyers, Steve Carell, Keegan Michael Key, Amy Sedaris, Adam McKay and others. In 2019, Arts Alliance Illinois awarded Kelly and his wife Anne Libera with their Creative Voice Award.

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293. Quit with Annie Duke Mar 08, 2023

Quitting is often viewed as a sign of failure, but in some cases, it might be the best decision. Whether it's quitting a bad habit, a job, or an unhealthy relationship, it is always important to know when to call it quits.

Annie Duke, an expert in decision-making and author of Quit: The Power of Knowing When to Walk Away, inspires us to feel empowered and proud when we choose to quit. She encourages us to embrace the freedom and opportunity that comes with knowing when to let go and move on to something better. So, let us be bold and confident in our choices to quit, and relish the journey of growth and self-discovery that follows.

Listen and Learn:

Annie’s thoughts on Tom Brady's repeated retirements
Why is there such a stigma around quitting
Defining expected value decisions
How to wisely use expected value decisions
The sunk cost fallacy and some ways that we can manage this
Asso Teller’s monkeys and pedestals tool for quitting
Growth mindset and quitting goals

Resources:

Learn more about Annie’s work on her website: https://www.annieduke.com/
Get your copy of Quit: The Power of Knowing When to Walk Away: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780593422991
Alliance for Decision Education: https://www.annieduke.com/the-alliance-for-decision-education/
Connect with Annie on Twitter or Instagram

About Annie Duke

Annie is an author, corporate speaker, and consultant in the decision-making space, and a former professional poker player who is the only woman to have won the World Series of Poker Tournament of Champions and the NBC National Poker Heads-Up Championship. Annie’s previous book, Thinking in Bets, is a national bestseller, and her latest book Quit: The Power of Knowing When to Walk Away is, in our humble opinion, nothing short of transformative. We are here to discuss Quit today.

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211. Subtract with Leidy Klotz

200. Growing Grit with Angela Duckworth

291. Finding Freedom From Regret with Robert Leahy

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292. Adult Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers with Stephanie Kriesberg Mar 01, 2023

Having a narcissistic parent while growing up can be incredibly difficult and painful. The emotional instability of the relationship can be detrimental to one's sense of self-worth, making it hard to trust others and form healthy relationships. Furthermore, the lack of consistent support and nurturing can lead to feelings of insecurity and the fear of being abandoned.

Be inspired by our guest Dr. Stephanie Kriesberg, a clinical psychologist and author of ‘Adult Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers: Quiet the Critical Voice in Your Head, Heal Self-Doubt, and Live the Life You Deserve’. Through her research on narcissistic parenting, Stephanie has dedicated her work to helping adults lead healthier and happier lives. If you experienced a childhood with a narcissistic parent, let Dr. Kriesberg guide you in managing the difficulties of this complex relationship so you can live life on your own terms.

Listen and Learn:

Stephanie’s experience working with women who are impacted by narcissistic parenting
The significance of the relationship between daughters and mothers
The core features of narcissism
How narcissism impacts the parent-child dynamic
What does gaslighting look like
How does growing up in a home with a narcissistic mother impact other relationships within the family
Examples of the patterns female adults who grew up with a narcissistic mother might exhibit
The work involved in grieving the parent you had versus the parent you wanted
Setting boundaries with a narcissistic mother

Resources:

Visit Stephanie’s website: https://www.drstephaniekriesberg.com/
Buy Adult Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers: Quiet the Critical Voice in Your Head, Heal Self-Doubt, and Live the Life You Deserveat our Bookshop page: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781648480096

About Dr. Stephanie Kriesberg

Dr. Stephanie Kriesberg brings over twenty-five years of experience to her practice. She has extensive training in the treatment of anxiety disorders and in the use of clinical hypnosis. Recently she was honored to be elected as President-Elect of the New England Society for Clinical Hypnosis. She is the author of the book Adult Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers: Quiet the critical voice in your head, heal self-doubt, and live the life you deserve.

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291. Finding Freedom From Regret with Robert Leahy Feb 22, 2023

We have all experienced a feeling of regret at some point in our lives. It can be a deep sadness and disappointment that results from realizing how we could have done things differently or a feeling of guilt or shame that we experience when we make a mistake. Regret is a powerful emotion, one that can send us spiraling. However, it is possible to move beyond it and not become stuck in the feeling of despair.

Discussing his remarkable guide, If Only...: Finding Freedom from Regret, we are honored to be joined by renowned psychologist and the Founder of the American Institute for Cognitive Therapy, Dr. Robert Leahy. As we explore the impact of regret, we gain insight and actionable exercises from Robert on how it can be utilized as a valuable tool to create opportunities and inform our decisions in more productive ways. Listen in to understand and manage regret, so that it doesn't control your life!

Listen and Learn:

What is regret?
Using the multiple selves concept to avoid regretful decisions
How different styles of decision-making lead to more or less regret
What distinguishes productive regret from unproductive regret
How to identify when you are caught in an unproductive cycle versus using regret productively
Existential perfectionism and regret
Why is regret a more dominant experience in modern times
The negation exercise
The importance of risk assessment in managing regret

Resources:

Visit the American Institute for Cognitive Therapy website: https://www.cognitivetherapynyc.com/dr-robert-leahy/
Watch Barry Schwartz’s, The Paradox of Choice TEDx Talk mentioned in this episode: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VO6XEQIsCoM
Grab your copy of If Only...: Finding Freedom from Regret: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781462547821

About Robert L. Leahy

Robert L. Leahy is the Founder and Director of the American Institute for Cognitive Therapy in NYC, Clinical Professor of Psychology in Psychiatry at Weill Cornell Medical College, and Past-President of the Association of Behavioral and Cognitive Therapies, The Academy of Cognitive Therapy, and The International Association of Cognitive Therapy. He is the recipient of the Aaron T. Beck Award for outstanding contributions in CBT, is the author of 29 books and is a frequent keynote speaker and presenter of workshops worldwide. His new book isIf Only...Finding Freedom from Regret.

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290. Shared Sisterhood: Collective Action for Racial and Gender Equity at Work with Tina Opie and Beth Livingston Feb 15, 2023

To make our world a more harmonious and equitable place, we must take the time to build bridges across the divides of race and gender. This can be challenging, but it is an essential step to take in order to remove bias, reduce tensions, forge deeper connections, eliminate disparities, and create respect, trust, and greater understanding among all people.

Dr. Tina Opie and Dr. Beth A. Livingston, co-authors of Shared Sisterhood, How to Take Collective Action for Racial and Gender Equity at Work, join us for this episode to discuss how they are driving gender and racial equity in organizations. Their groundbreaking book provides leaders and individuals with effective guidance and tools on how to establish a safe, and equitable work environment.

Learn why gender equity cannot be realized without also striving for racial equity, and how we can move beyond individual solutions toward collective action to effectively bridge the gap. Hear first-hand stories and get practical tips on how we can work together across challenging divides and develop collaborative approaches that can transform the workplace and our lives.

Listen and Learn:

What brought Beth and Tina together as friends, colleagues, and co-authors
A history of the divide between black and white women
Inauthenticity surrounding the conversation on racism
The shortcomings of feminist movements that white feminists should be aware of
The overarching goal of the shared sisterhood approach and what it has to offer
The three-step process for individuals to build Shared Sisterhood

Resources:

Grab your copy of Shared Sisterhood, How to Take Collective Action for Racial and Gender Equity at Work at our Bookshop page: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781647822835
Learn more about Opie Consulting Group: https://www.opieconsultinggroup.com/about-tina-opie
Check out Tina’s website: https://www.drtinaopie.com/
Visit Beth’s website: https://bethalivingston.com/
Connect with Tina on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook
Connect with Beth on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook

About Tina Opie and Beth A. Livingston

Dr. Tina R. Opie is an associate professor of management at Babson College, and an award-winning teacher, researcher, and consultant. She is a sought-after speaker and has advised large firms in the financial services, entertainment, media, beauty, educational, and healthcare industries. Her research has appeared in such outlets as O Magazine, the Washington Post, the Boston Globe, and Harvard Business Review, and has been published in multiple academic journals.

Dr. Beth A. Livingstonis an Associate Professor in Management and Entrepreneurship at the University of Iowa’s Tippie College of Business. She is a researcher, speaker, and consultant, working with large companies and nonprofits. Her research has been highlighted in the New York Times, Harvard Business Review, and on NPR and has been published in several top academic journals.

Together, they have co-authored the book Shared Sisterhood, How to Take Collective Action for Racial and Gender Equity at Work.

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289. Happily Even After with Jonah Paquette Feb 08, 2023

It can be hard to find feelings of happiness in our lives. After all, life is unpredictable and we’re all facing our own unique challenges. Nonetheless, it is possible to find happiness, even during difficult times.

Specializing in the science of well-being, Clinical Psychologist, Jonah Paquette is dedicated to helping us understand the significance of positive psychological principles in achieving happiness. Drawing from learnings in his book, Happily Even After: Daily Practices to Recover Joy After Hardship, Heartache, and Heartbreak, Jonah offers us practical exercises to strengthen our 'emotional fitness', reduce suffering and build resilience even amid challenging times.

Whether you’re facing a challenging situation in life, or simply want to know how to cultivate more happiness and peace, this episode will provide you with actionable steps on how to do just that.

Listen and Learn:

How can we expect to build happiness in the face of hardship, heartache, or heartbreak
Why Jonah uses the term ‘emotional fitness’ and how this skill can help you in challenging times
Distinguishing between happiness and toxic positivity
Practices to help you cultivate emotional fitness
What is awe and how it relates to happiness
How can we access the experience of awe in times of hardship
Creative ways to find connection when you feel the most isolated

Resources:

Get to know more about Jonah: https://www.jonahpaquette.com
Subscribe to Jonah’s newsletter: https://www.jonahpaquette.com/site/contact
Check out Jonah's books: Happily Even After: Daily Practices to Recover Joy After Hardship, Heartache, and Heartbreak and Awestruck: How Embracing Wonder Can Make You Happier, Healthier, and More Connected
Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych, including Yael’s new book, Work, Parent, Thrive!
Check out Debbie, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more!

About Jonah

Jonah Paquette, PsyD, is a psychologist, author, and speaker who specializes in the science of well-being and emotional fitness. He is the author of four books including Happily Even After, Awestruck, The Happiness Toolbox, and Real Happiness. Jonah’s writing aims to provide readers with practical, research-backed strategies to foster greater well-being and connection in our everyday lives. In addition to his clinical work and writing, Jonah offers training and consultation to organizations on the promotion of well-being and conducts professional workshops for clinicians around the country and abroad. He is a sought-after media contributor, having been featured regularly in print, online, radio, and podcast outlets. To learn more about Jonah and his work, visit www.jonahpaquette.com.

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288. The Fun Habit with Mike Rucker Feb 01, 2023

We all want to live a fun and fulfilling life, but the hustle and bustle of everyday life can leave us feeling overwhelmed and exhausted. That's why it's so important to make time for fun, even as an adult. From reducing stress to better relationships and improving mental and physical health, carving out time for fun activities can have a transformative impact on many aspects of our lives.

Mike Rucker, an organizational psychologist, is here to share his best practices for incorporating fun habits into our day-to-day lives. Illustrating scientific evidence from his book, The Fun Habit: How the Pursuit of Joy and Wonder Can Change Your Life, we discover why fun is beneficial and what fun habits you can create to make life more enjoyable. So, let's dive in and learn why fun isn't just for kids—it's an essential part of adult life too.

Listen and Learn:

Fun: what is it all about?
What makes fun different from happiness
Why is it beneficial for us to prioritize fun as busy adults?
Finding time for fun
The importance of reminiscing on fun experiences
The question of friendship or parenting
How to create and maintain fun habits
The Rucker-PLAY model
How to incorporate more fun into our friendships

Resources:

To learn more about creating fun habits, visit Mike’s website: https://michaelrucker.com/
Visit https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781982159054 to purchase The Fun Habit: How the Pursuit of Joy and Wonder Can Change Your Life.
Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych, including Yael’s new book, Work, Parent, Thrive!
Check out Debbie, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more!

About Mike Rucker

Dr. Mike Rucker is an organizational psychologist and charter member of the International Positive Psychology Association whose work has been published in the International Journal of Workplace Health Management and Nutrition Research. His ideas about fun and health have been featured in The Wall Street Journal, The Washington Post, Fast Company, The Telegraph, Psychology Today, Forbes, Vox, Thrive Global, mindbodygreen, and more. Named one of ten digital changemakers by the Healthcare Information and Management Systems Society, he currently serves as a senior leader at Active Wellness.

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287. Think, Act, Be with Seth Gillihan Jan 25, 2023

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is a powerful practice that has been proven to effectively reduce symptoms of depression and anxiety. But, while CBT can help bring us relief in the short term, it doesn't always create lasting change. That’s why many mental health professionals are now combining CBT with another technique - mindfulness. By combining the two practices, we can start to create long-term improvements in our behavior, thoughts, and attitudes.

Here to discuss research-based practices from his recently published book, Mindful Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, A Simple Path to Healing, Hope and Peace, is best-selling author and psychologist, Seth Gillihan. Seth offers a model of fresh and practical strategies that build upon traditional techniques of CBT to transcend our capacity to control negative thinking and take the right steps to live in the present and enjoy life. Tune in to learn how these powerful practices can unlock a new path to healing.

Listen and Learn:

Seth's experience sharing so much of his personal mental health struggle in his book
What mindfulness can do to help transcend the limitations of cognitive behavioral therapy
Why mindfulness has lost its essence and how we can use mindfulness in a way that's beneficial
An introduction to mindfulness for someone who might be resistant
Acceptance vs. passivity
Seth’s thoughts on psychiatric medication as a form of mental health treatment
The relationship between cognitive behavioral therapy and acceptance and commitment therapy

Resources:

Learn more about Seth here: https://sethgillihan.com/
Check out Seth’s podcast: https://sethgillihan.com/podcasts/
Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych, including Yael’s new book, Work, Parent, Thrive!
Check out Debbie, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more!

About Seth Gillihan

Seth Gillihan, PhD, is a licensed psychologist who specializes in mindful cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT). He was a full-time faculty member at the University of Pennsylvania from 2008 to 2012, and taught in the Psychology Department at Haverford College from 2012-2015. He has been in private practice since 2012. Seth completed a doctorate in psychology at the University of Pennsylvania. He is the author of multiple books on mindfulness and CBT, Therapy Advisor with the self-therapy app Bloom, a medical reviewer for Everyday Health, and host of the Think Act Be podcast.

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286. Not Drinking Tonight with Amanda White Jan 18, 2023

Alcohol is a pervasive part of many of our lives, but have you ever questioned your relationship with alcohol? Taking an honest look at the way we use alcohol can be a powerful tool in identifying our motivations behind drinking, allowing us to make more conscious decisions and better manage our consumption.

Therapist, Author, and Founder of Therapy for Women, Amanda E. White is determined to challenge the traditional “black-and-white” outlook on “alcoholism” by encouraging people to unlock a deeper understanding of their relationship with alcohol.

Exploring practices from Amanda’s books Not Drinking Tonight, A Guide to Creating A Sober Life and Not Drinking Tonight: The Workbook: A Clinician's Guide to Helping Clients Examine Their Relationship with Alcohol, we examine how to identify the purpose alcohol serves in your life and how to use this knowledge to recognize patterns of unhealthy behavior, develop boundaries and create a healthier lifestyle.

Listen and Learn:

Amanda’s own journey with alcohol
Why people don't have the language to explore their relationship with alcohol
Why Amanda’s books are geared toward people who don’t necessarily meet the criteria for an alcohol use disorder
Why the black-and-white mentality of alcohol is problematic
What makes us feel obligated to give the right reason for not drinking alcohol
How therapists can examine the issue of alcohol use with their own patients
Why do emotional relationships with alcohol make it increasingly harder to cut ties
Why Amanda coined the term ‘disordered drinking’
How mindfulness practices can be helpful for people who want to change their drinking habits
The importance of self-care in cutting down or quitting drinking
What to do if we think a loved one’s relationship with alcohol is problematic, but they don't agree or they don't see it

Resources:

Learn more about Amanda and her work here: https://amandaewhite.com/
If you are looking for modern approaches to therapy, visit Therapy for Women: https://therapyforwomencenter.com/
You can buy both of Amanda’s books here: Not Drinking Tonight, A Guide to Creating A Sober Life: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780306925856 and Not Drinking Tonight: The Workbook: A Clinician's Guide to Helping Clients Examine Their Relationship with Alcohol: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781683735519
Follow Amanda on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therapyforwomen/

About Amanda E. White

Amanda E. White is a licensed therapist and the creator of the popular Instagram account @therapyforwomen. She is the author of the book “Not Drinking Tonight: A Guide to Creating A Sober Life You Love,” and the corresponding workbook by the same title. She is the founder and owner of the group therapy practice, Therapy for Women Center, based in Philadelphia serving clients across the country. In her clinical work, she specializes in substance use disorders. People are drawn to Amanda’s unique expertise, accessible approach to healing and mental health. She has been featured in notable publications such as Forbes, Washington Post, Self, Shape, Women’s Health Magazine, and more.

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285. What Do You Want Out of Life? Values Fulfillment Theory with Valerie Tiberius Jan 11, 2023

Taking the time to reflect on our values and goals is an essential practice for living a meaningful life. By considering what is most important to us, we can gain a greater understanding of our place and purpose in this world. It can help us to determine what direction to go in and how to prioritize our time and energy. Reflecting on our values and goals can also help us to stay motivated and inspired as we work towards achieving them.

Valerie Tiberius, Professor of Philosophy, is here to provide us with a practical look at how to define and fulfill our values and goals. Through illustrative examples from her book, What Do You Want Out of Life?: A Philosophical Guide to Figuring Out What Matters, Valerie guides us in finding our true purpose in life and how to get there. With her wise words and actionable advice, you’ll unlock the power to create the life you want and overcome obstacles to achieving it. Don't let this opportunity pass, take the chance to define your aspirations and make the most out of life!

Listen and Learn:

How psychology and philosophy intertwine to improve well-being
An introduction to values fulfillment theory of well-being and what it has to offer
Defining values and goals from a philosophical perspective
Are some values better than other values?
Managing conflict between competing goals
Reinterpreting values
When is it time to give up a goal that is important to you?
Strategies for figuring out your values and what you want out of life
How our moral values harmonize with our other values
Real-world barriers that prevent us from realizing our goals

Resources:

Learn more about Valerie: https://www.valerietiberius.com/
Get Valerie’s book, What Do You Want out of Life?: A Philosophical Guide to Figuring Out What Matters: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780691240688
Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych, including Yael’s new book, Work, Parent, Thrive!
Check out Debbie, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more!

About Valerie Tiberius

Valerie Tiberiusis the Paul W. Frenzel Chair in Liberal Arts and Professor of Philosophy at the University of Minnesota. Her work explores the ways in which philosophy and psychology can both contribute to the study of well-being and virtue. She is the author of The Reflective Life: Living Wisely With Our Limits (Oxford 2008), Moral Psychology: A Contemporary Introduction (Routledge 2015), Well-Being as Value Fulfillment: How We Can Help Others to Live Well (Oxford, 2018), and What Do You Want out of Life?: A Philosophical Guide to Figuring Out What Matters (Princeton University Press, 2023). She has published numerous articles on the topics of practical reasoning, prudential virtues, well-being, and moral psychology, and has received grants from the Templeton Foundation and the National Endowment for the Humanities. She served as President of the Central Division of the American Philosophical Association from 2016-17.

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284. Things We Love with Aaron Ahuvia Jan 04, 2023

We often form deep emotional relationships with things that are important to us, from cherished items to hobbies and more materialistic possessions. But why do we become so emotionally attached to the things that we love and how does this affect our lives?

Here to delve deeper into the topic and talk about his book, The Things We Love: How Our Passions Connect Us and Make Us Who We Are, isauthor and expert on non-interpersonal love, Dr. Aaron Ahuvia. We explore the psychology of how passions shape our identity and connect us in meaningful ways, as well as offer advice for optimizing how we love and use our things to live more value-aligned lives.

Listen and Learn:

Is the word 'love' accurate in describing how we feel, or is it just hyperbole?
The parallels that exist in relationships between people and the relationships between people and the objects that they love
Why do we get more frustrated with objects we love than the people we love?
The ability to love things isn't a flaw in human nature, but rather a useful trait
Loving things can detract from loving people - how to find the balance
What can materialistic people do to love things more deeply?
Letting go of objects that you are emotionally attached to
How attachment styles with people translate to our attachment style with objects
Tips for using our things in more value-aligned ways

Resources:

Visit Dr. Aaron Ahuvia’s site for more on his work: https://thethingswelove.com/about-aaron/
Sign up for Aaron’s blog: https://thethingswelove.com/subscribe/
For even more insights on the things we love, check out Aaron’s article on Peace, Love, and Happiness (and Marketing): https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/peace-love-and-happiness-and-marketing
Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych, including Yael’s new book, Work, Parent, Thrive!
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About Dr. Aaron Ahuvia

Dr. Aaron Ahuvia is the most widely published and cited academic expert on non-interpersonal love.

A scientific study listed him as one of the top 20 most influential scientists studying consumer behavior, out of thousands US researchers working on related topics.

Dr. Ahuvia has been at the forefront of this research since he published the first major scientific study on this topic entitled I Love It! Towards a Unifying Theory of Love Across Diverse Love Objects, over twenty years ago. Professor Ahuvia has over 100 academic papers and conference presentations. His research has been quoted in Time, The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, Glamour, and major publications in Europe and Japan. Dr. Ahuvia has also appeared on public radio talk shows as well as popular Television shows such as the Oprah Winfrey Show.

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283. Healthy Habits with Dayna Lee-Baggley (Re-release) Dec 28, 2022

Happy New Year, dear listeners! As we begin this new year, it's a great time to start developing some new healthy habits. It may seem like a challenge, but we can do it! Let's make this year a time for taking care of ourselves and striving for the best version of ourselves.

If you're serious about your health but don't feel the urge to jump out of bed, drag yourself to the gym, and reward your progress with a kale smoothie, this episode is for you! We all know what constitutes a healthy lifestyle, but it can be hard to stay consistent, especially when it feels like a chore!

Join Debbie for an engaging discussion with Dr. Dayna Lee-Baggley, author of Healthy Habits Suck: How to Get Off the Couch and Live a Healthy Life….Even if You Don’t Want To, about evidence-based strategies on how to overcome the internal obstacles that make behavior change hard, and how to sustain lifelong healthy habits.

Listen and Learn:

Why healthy habits violate the hard-wiring of our “caveman brain”
How linking health habits to values can make them more meaningful and build motivation
The benefits of focusing on behaviors rather than outcomes to foster success
What is a “smart goal” and how to make them work for you
How to work with the thoughts and emotions that makes healthy habits hard

Resources:

Visit Dayna's website: https://drleebaggley.com/about/
Listen to the interview Make the Most of Your Time with Laura Vanderkam mentioned in this episode here: https://offtheclockpsych.com/time/
Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych, including Yael’s new book, Work, Parent, Thrive!
Check out Debbie, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more!

About Dayna Lee-Baggley

Dr. Dayna Lee-Baggleyis a Registered Clinical Psychologist in Nova Scotia, British Columbia, Ontario and Alberta with reciprocal agreements for clients in Atlantic Canada and Quebec. For close to 15 years she worked as a Clinical Health Psychologist for medical, surgery, and cancer care units at the hospital. She has taken all this experience to open Dr. Lee-Baggley and Associates, a virtual health psychology clinic offering clinical interventions, training for healthcare providers, and educational courses on health related topics. She holds an Assistant Professor appointment in the Department of Family Medicine and a cross-appointment in the Department of Psychology and Neuroscience at Dalhousie University and an Adjunct Professor appointment in the Department of Industrial and Organizational Psychology at Saint Mary’s University. She is an internationally recognized trainer in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy.

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282. Toxic Positivity with Whitney Goodman Dec 21, 2022

Toxic positivity is a phenomenon that has become increasingly prevalent in recent years. It is characterized by the constant reinforcement of an overly optimistic attitude, to the point of ignoring, invalidating, or minimizing the hardships or feelings faced by individuals. This can create a sense of disconnect between people. It can also be detrimental to those struggling with mental health issues, as it invalidates their experiences and makes them feel like they are not allowed to have genuine emotions.

To address the concept and challenges of toxic positivity to individuals and relationships, we consulted Psychotherapist, Whitney Goodman. Walking us through her book aptly titled Toxic Positivity: Keeping It Real in a World Obsessed with Being Happy, Whitney helps us understand how to create an atmosphere of open communication, where people can be honest about their feelings without fear of judgment or invalidation.

Listen and Learn:

Toxic positivity: what does it mean?
The repercussions of toxic positivity
How toxic positivity can stunt creativity
What does healthy non-toxic positivity look like?
Why has the concept of toxic positivity become so controversial?
How to avoid toxic positivity
Toxic positivity in the workplace: challenges and solutions
How do we let go of toxic positivity?
The benefits and drawbacks of complaining

Resources:

Learn more about Whitney on her site: https://sitwithwhit.com/
Grab your copy of Toxity Positivity: Keeping It Real in a World Obsessed with Being Happy: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780593418277
Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych, including Yael’s new book, Work, Parent, Thrive!
Check out Debbie, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more!

About Whitney Goodman

Whitney Goodman, LMFT, is the radically honest psychotherapist behind the hugely popular Instagram account @sitwithwhit. She is also an author and the owner of The Collaborative Counseling Center, a virtual therapy practice in Florida. Whitney's debut book TOXIC POSITIVITY: KEEPING IT REAL IN A WORLD OBSESSED WITH BEING HAPPY, shows readers how to shift the goal from being happy to being authentic in order to live fully. A millennial on a quest to make mental health information accessible and easy to understand, Whitney helps people who want to improve their relationships and emotional wellness. She earned her undergraduate degree at Tulane University and a graduate degree in Counseling Psychology from The University of Miami. Whitney has a column in Psychology Today and has been featured in several publications, including The New York Times, Teen Vogue, NY Magazine, and Good Morning America.

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281. Belonging Uncertainty and Bridging Divides with Geoffrey Cohen Dec 14, 2022

Belonging uncertainty is a common experience in social life. It is a feeling of not fitting into a particular social group or environment. People who experience this may feel like an outsider, isolated from those around them, or unable to connect with people in their environment. Professor of Psychology, Geoffery L. Cohen is here to remind us of the importance of fostering self-awareness to better understand our feelings and the actions we should take when faced with a sense of belonging uncertainty.

Geoffery's book Belonging: The Science of Creating Connection and Bridging Dividesprovides a fascinating look into the realm of social psychology and how it can be used to combat the daunting feeling of not belonging. Through Geoffery's knowledge and insight, you will gain a clear understanding of the changes that can be made to conquer feelings of belonging uncertainty. His work is invaluable in the effort to empower individuals to create strong, meaningful connections and build bridges of understanding and empathy.

Listen and Learn:

The role of social psychology in turning everyday encounters into opportunities for understanding, connection, and growth
An overview of Geoffery's research on social problems
Belonging uncertainty unpacked
How social climate can contribute to certain behaviors
The concept of stereotype threat
How can we cultivate a sense of belonging in the workplace
What can be done to change that feeling of not belonging?
The difference between perspective gathering and perspective taking
Bridging the divide by helping people feel heard and understood

Resources:

Geoffrey L. Cohen’s website: https://www.geoffreylcohen.com/
For more about Geoffery, check out his Stanford faculty page: https://ed.stanford.edu/faculty/glc
Get your copy of Belonging: The Science of Creating Connection and Bridging Divides here: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781324006183

About Geoffrey L. Cohen

Geoffrey L. Cohen is a Professor of Psychology and the James G. March Professor of Organizational Studies in Education and Business at Stanford University. He is a social psychologist by training and received his PHD at Stanford and his BA at Cornell. Professor Cohen’s research examines the processes that shape people’s sense of belonging and self-concept, and the role that these processes play in various social problems. He has studied the big and small threats to belonging and self-integrity that people encounter in school, work, health care settings, politics, communities, and relationships. He and others have developed concrete, science-backed strategies to create more welcoming spaces for people from all walks of life. He believes that the development of psychological theory depends not just on descriptive and observational research but on theory-driven intervention. He has long been inspired by Kurt Lewin’s quip, “The best way to understand something is to try to change it.”

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280. Choose Growth with Scott Barry Kaufman Dec 07, 2022

Striving for what you want in life can be difficult, especially when you find yourself in a stagnant situation or lack direction. However, with the assistance of Dr. Scott Barry Kaufman, a Cognitive Scientist, and Humanistic Psychologist, you can learn how to implement the steps necessary to achieve your ambitions.

Take a journey with us as we explore the life-changing work of Dr. Scott and Jordyn H Feingold in their new book, Choose Growth: A Workbook for Transcending Trauma, Fear, and Self-Doubt! This episode is full of empowering insights that will help you unlock your potential and create an inspiring new path for yourself. We talk about all kinds of exciting topics from reaching our goals through nontraditional paths, the growth that comes from embracing uncomfortable experiences, and the importance of finding the harmony between overusing and underusing your strengths.

Listen and Learn:

Introduction to Scott and his many accolades
Scott's experience being featured in Oprah Winfrey's ‘The Life You Want Class’
Did Scott foresee bringing evidence-based psychology to such a broad audience at the start of his career?
Scott’s tips on achieving goals through non-traditional paths
The reason Scott wrote 'Choose Growth' now
The importance of internal vs external locus of control
Reimagining Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs
The value in enduring uncomfortable experiences for growth and development
The ways tribalism can hinder our growth and keep us stuck
Passive, constructive responses are the worst way to respond to somebody's good news
Healthy boundary setting
The link between healthy self-esteem and narcissism
Finding the balance between overusing and underusing our strengths
Is it necessary to screen everyone for mental health?

Resources:

Article about Jonathan Haidt “tribalism” incident: https://reason.com/2022/09/30/mandated-diversity-statement-drives-jonathan-haidt-to-quit-academic-society/
Scott’s website: https://scottbarrykaufman.com/
Yael and Brad Stulberg’s article about Therapy versus Coaching: https://www.washingtonpost.com/wellness/2022/05/05/therapist-coach-difference-choose/

About Dr. Scott Barry Kaufman

Scott Barry Kaufman is a cognitive scientist and humanistic psychologist exploring the mind, creativity, and the depths of human potential. He is a professor at Columbia University and founder and director of the Center for the Science of Human Potential. Scott hosts the super popular The Psychology Podcast and uses his research to help all kinds of minds live a creative, fulfilling, and self-actualized life. He is the author and editor of 10 books including his newest, Choose Growth: A Workbook for Transcending Trauma, Fear, and Self-Doubt that he co-authored with Jordyn Feingold and that we’ll be discussing today. Welcome Scott!

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279. ACT for Healing Black Racial Trauma with Jennifer Shepard Payne Nov 30, 2022

Racial trauma has been caused by centuries of discrimination and violence against African Americans; a legacy of injustice that has had a long-term impact on mental, emotional, and psychical well-being. While there is no one-size-fits-all approach to healing Black racial trauma; transformation and change are still possible. A powerful tool to help those who have been impacted by racism is Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT).

We talk with Research Scientist and Clinician, Jennifer Shepard Payne who in her book, Out of the Fire: Healing Black Trauma Caused by Systemic Racism Using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, offers a thorough examination of the application of ACT to the unique problems that African Americans face. Jennifer describes how she is culturally adapting traditional ACT practices, and how this therapy can help African American communities heal from generations of oppression.

Listen and Learn:

What motivated Jennifer to specialize in culturally tailoring Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) for African American communities
Why Jennifer wrote a book on healing Black Trauma
Jennifer's personal experience with racism as a Black woman in America
What Jennifer thinks about the disparity in the current mental health system for African Americans
Jennifer’s perspective on resilience in relation to Black racial trauma
What inspired Jennifer to pursue ACT, and how beneficial it can be in assisting African Americans who have suffered racial trauma
The concept of Racial Battle Fatigue
The importance of collective black values for the future

Resources:

Visit Jennifer's website to discover more about her: https://www.drjspayne.com/
Grab your copy of Jeniffer’s book: Out of the Fire: Healing Black Trauma Caused by Systemic Racism Using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781684039883
Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych, including Yael’s new book, Work, Parent, Thrive!: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781611809657
Check out Debbie, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more!

About Jennifer Shepard Payne

Jennifer Shepard Payne, Ph.D., LCSW, is a Research Scientist and Clinician for the Kennedy Krieger Institute in the Center for Child and Family Traumatic Stress (CCFTS) and theCenter for the Neuroscience of Social Injustice. She is also an Assistant Professor in the John Hopkins University School of Medicine with a primary appointment within the Department of Psychiatry, Division of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry. She serves as the coordinator of the Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) Clinical Services within the adult segment of CCFTS.

Dr. Payne received her doctorate from the UCLA School of Public Affairs and is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker with many years of experience in mental health clinical practice and administration. Her research interests include developing culturally tailored community-based depression and trauma interventions and addressing minority mental health disparities.

For several years, Dr. Payne has been working on culturally tailoring Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) for African American communities experiencing racial trauma. She developed a culturally-tailored ACT intervention called POOF® and is training and consulting on the model: www.POOF-PullingOutOfFire.com. Additionally, she is a board member of MEND, an international organization of clinicians of color who are trauma-trained to help oppressed communities (www.mendminds.org).

Her new book is called Out of the Fire: Healing Black Trauma Caused by Systemic Racism Using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy.

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278. The Gift with Edith Eger and Marianne Engle Nov 23, 2022

As we go through life, we all have experiences, both positive and negative, that shape who we are. Sometimes, we focus too much on the negative experiences and start to think "why me?". In order to counter this negative spiral, we can choose to focus on the positive and use this to empower ourselves. Instead, ask yourself "what now?". You can improve your outlook on life by changing your mindset. This in turn will help free yourself from limiting beliefs, heal and move forward.

With great admiration and gratitude, we welcome an inspiring mother-daughter duo, Dr. Edith Eger, and Dr. Marianne Engel who through their expertise as Clinical Psychologists, work together to promote healing, positivity, and personal growth. In this deeply personal, yet profound interview, we take a look at the learnings presented in the latest edition of Dr. Eger’s uplifting and actionable guide to healing, The Gift: 14 Lessons to Save Your Life.

Paralleled by lessons from the book, we also learn about Edith’s courageous story of surviving Auschwitz and finding her path to freedom, as well as Marianne’s own experience as the child of an immigrant parent and holocaust survivor, navigating marriage and raising children. Focusing on overcoming adversity, relationships, giving up shame, and living with purpose, we bring you a powerful and thought-provoking episode that inspires you to take on any obstacles life presents.

Listen and Learn:

The dangers of being a prisoner of your own mind
Survivor vs. victim mindset
Why Marianne is grateful to her mother for shielding her from her painful past
What drew both Edith and Marianne to the field of clinical psychology
The best way to move towards readiness to confront trauma
Holding your truth while relinquishing the need for power and control
The importance of flexible thinking in relationships
Why Edith believes people should give up perfectionism
How do we resist hating the haters, and we why should
Edith and Marianne's tips for parents hoping to have close relationships with their children throughout their lives

Resources:

To learn more about Edith, visit: https://dreditheger.com/
To learn more about Marianne, visit: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-engle-7b930a2b
Check out Edith’s book, The Gift: 14 Lessons to Save Your Life: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781982143091
Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych, including Yael’s new book, Work, Parent, Thrive!: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781611809657
Check out Debbie, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more!

About Edith Eger:

Dr. Edith Eger is a sought-after clinical psychologist and lecturer who brings a message of healing and personal growth in her speaking and in her books The Choice and The Gift. She uses her past as a Holocaust survivor and thriver to inspire people to tap their full potential and shape their very best destinies regardless of their circumstances. It’s a message of CHOICE to move from recovery to discovery and beyond and encouragement to find the gifts of even the most painful situations.

About Marianne Engle:

Dr. Marianne Engle, is Edith’s daughter and collaborator. Marianne is also a psychologist with training in sports psychology. As a child, Marianne watched her mother struggle in the aftermath of the Holocaust. In fact, Edith didn’t tell Marianne about her experiences in the Holocaust until Marianne discovered it by finding a book in her parent’s collection and put the pieces together.

Edith and Marianne are an inspiring mother-daughter duo working together to bring healing and positivity to the world and we’ll be focusing on messages offered in the newest edition of Dr. Eger’s book, The Gift: 14 Lessons to Save Your Life, which is colored with Marianne’s influence

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277. Silence is Golden with Justin Zorn & Leigh Marz Nov 16, 2022

Finding moments of silence can be difficult in our chaotic, constantly-connected world. But, Justin Zorn and Leigh Marz, co-authors of ‘Golden: The Power of Silence in a World of Noise’, say it's worth the effort.

Shedding light on the many dimensions of silence, Justin and Leigh explore how cutting through the clutter can lead to greater clarity, structure, and improved health in our lives. You'll discover how to transcend the noise and uncover a more fulfilling life and edified mind in the process.

Listen and Learn:

What compelled Justin and Leigh to write a book on silence?
Silence: what is it and why does it matter?
Silence vs. mindfulness
The implications of auditory and informational noise in today’s modern world
What causes us to fear silence and how can we overcome it?
The role silence plays in achieving clarity, awareness, and a better sense of connection
Shared silence magnifies its impact
Practicing silence in the midst of chaos
The importance of identifying noise and appreciating silence

Resources:

To learn more about Justin, visit: https://justinzorn.com/
To learn more about Leigh, visit: https://leighmarz.com/
Check out Justin’s and Leigh’s book, Golden: The Power of Silence in a World of Noise
Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych, including Yael’s new book, Work, Parent, Thrive!
Check out Debbie, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more!

About Justin Zorn:

Justin Talbot Zorn has served as both a strategist and a meditation teacher in the US Congress. A Harvard-and-Oxford-trained specialist in the economics and psychology of human thriving, he has written for the Washington Post,The Atlantic, Harvard Business Review, Foreign Policy, and other publications. Justin is the coauthor of Golden: The Power of Silence in a World of Noise, published by HarperCollins in the US, Penguin/Random House in the UK, and globally in 11 other languages. He is cofounder of Astrea Strategies, a consultancy that bridges contemplation and action, helping leaders and teams envision and communicate solutions to complex challenges. Justin lives in Santa Fe, New Mexico, with his wife and three children.

About Leigh Marz:

Leigh Marz is a collaboration and leadership coach for major universities, corporations, and federal agencies as well as a longtime student of pioneering researchers and practitioners of the ritualized use of psychedelic medicines in the West. She has led training programs to promote an experimental mindset among teams at NASA and a decade-long cross-sector collaboration to reduce toxic chemicals in products, in partnership with Green Science Policy Institute, Harvard University, IKEA, Google, and Kaiser Permanente. Leigh is the coauthor of Golden: The Power of Silence in a World of Noise, published by HarperCollins in the US, Penguin/Random House in the UK, and globally in 11 other languages. She is the co-founder of Astrea Strategies. Leigh lives in Berkeley, California, with her husband and daughter.

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276. Assertive Communication Skills with Randy Paterson Nov 09, 2022

Assertive communication is one of the most important skills when it comes to human relationships. Be it in the workplace, with family, or in friendships, it is a skill that you must learn to develop in order to communicate in ways that are respectful, clear, and effective. Without assertive communication, your goals will be difficult to meet.

Joining us for this episode is Randy Paterson, Psychologist, Director of Changeways Clinic, and Author of The Assertiveness Workbook. Randy breaks down the significance of assertive communication and associated misconceptions, when assertiveness is not always the best approach, and the different communication styles you can use to confidently express your needs, wants, and opinions in your personal and professional life.

Listen and Learn:

What assertive communication skills are and why they are important
How people can benefit from practicing assertive communication skills
When assertive communication isn't always the best approach
Randy’s thoughts on picking your battles
The challenges that come with assertive communication
Understanding the different communication styles and how to use them
The link between control and assertive communication
Analyzing gender-related differences in communication styles
The specifics of assertive communication and examples
How to structure requests for desired outcomes
The best way to give and receive feedback, both positive and negative

Resources:

Learn more about Randy at his webpage: https://www.randypaterson.com/
Check out Randy’s books The Assertiveness Workbook, How to be Miserable, How to be Miserable in Your Twenties, Private Practice Made Simple, and Your Depression Map.
Read Debbie’s blog post on Assertive Communication
Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych, including Yael’s new book, Work, Parent, Thrive!
Check out Debbie, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more!

About Randy Paterson: Dr. Randy Paterson is a psychologist in Vancouver, British Columbia. He is the director of Changeways Clinic; and provides training programs across Canada and internationally on evidence-based mental health practice. He is the author of several books, including: How to Be Miserable, How to Be Miserable in Your Twenties, Private Practice Made Simple, and The Assertiveness Workbook, which is now in its second edition. He offers courses for professionals and the public through his online teaching website, psychologysalon.teachable.com.

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275. Work, Parent, Thrive with Yael Schonbrun Nov 02, 2022

Working parenthood is not for the faint of heart. Sometimes the stress of toggling between family and professional roles can feel like too much! And... it can also be a meaningful source of joy, inspiration, and creativity.

In this extra special episode, we talk to our very own co-host, Dr. Yael Schonbrun about her new book, Work, Parent Thrive: 12 Science-Backed Strategies to Ditch Guilt, Manage Overwhelm, and Grow Connection (When Everything Feels Like Too Much). Yael draws on psychology research as well as her own experience as a working mom of three, to offer ideas that will help even the most stressed of working parents! This book banishes the idea that the key to ultimate working parenthood is the ability to do it all. Instead, the key is to learn how these roles, together, help you thrive.

Listen and Learn:

● How Yael’s own experience as a hard-working mother of three informed her ideas for her book.

● How to shift from a “work family conflict mindset” to a “work family enrichment mindset”

● Why interruptions that feel really annoying might actually be good for you.

● Whether or not finding perfect work-life balance is a realistic goal (spoiler alert: it’s not)

● The role of values in making choices about work and family

● How to deal with parental guilt effectively

● How working parenthood offers opportunities for growth

● About how cooking has offered Jill a lesson in when to grit and when to quit

● The power of rest, and what Yael is up to on her tech-free Saturday sabbath days

Resources:

● Get your copy of Work, Parent, Thrive!

● Check out Yael’s webpage and her POTC episodes!

● Read Yael’s New York Times article on working parenthood, and other media appearances in the Wall Street Journal, Greater Good Science Center, Behavioral Scientist, Kveller, Lilith Magazine, The Wise Brain Bulletin, Psychology Today, and Motherly.

● Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych.

● Check out Debbie, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more!

About Yael: Dr. Yael Schonbrun is a co-host of the greatest podcast of all times, Psychologists Off the Clock, and that’s all you need to know about her.

Just kidding! Yael Schonbrun, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist, assistant professor at Brown University, co-host of Psychologists Off the Clock, and mother of three. She has a Ph.D. in clinical psychology from the University of Colorado, Boulder, and completed her postgraduate training at Brown University. Yael’s academic research explores the interaction between relationship problems and mental health conditions. She has authored the book Work, Parent Thrive: 12 Science-Backed Strategies to Ditch Guilt, Manage Overwhelm, and Grow Connection (When Everything Feels Like Too Much), as well as chapters in several books and dozens of scientific articles. In her private practice, writing, and podcasting, Yael uses evidence-based science to help individuals and couples learn to manage work, parenting, and marriage in more effective and fulfilling ways. Yael’s writing on work, parenting, and relationships has appeared in the New York Times, Wall Street Journal, Greater Good Science Center, Behavioral Scientist, Kveller, Lilith Magazine, The Wise Brain Bulletin, Psychology Today, and Motherly. You can follow her on Twitter, where she posts about the science and practice of work and family.

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274. Quarterlife: The Search for Self in Early Adulthood with Satya Doyle Byock Oct 26, 2022

If you're trying to figure out how to navigate this whole adulthood thing, and maybe even do some personal growth along the way, we have the perfect episode for you this week!

Listen in as Debbie talks with Satya Doyle Byock, Jungian psychotherapist, and author of the book Quarterlife: The Search for Self in Early Adulthood. Satya shares her ideas about the struggle to find both meaning and stability in adulthood, and offers ideas for fostering psychological growth.

Listen and Learn:

Hear Debbie's attempt to "nutshell" all of Jungian psychology in two minutes or less (Jungians everywhere, please forgive her!)
Some of the unique aspects of the stage of quarterlife (or early adulthood, typically in the 20s and early 30s), and why Satya loves working with this age group in her clinical practice.
Why quarterlife can be a time of "crisis" for some people, and how it can be viewed as an opportunity for psychological growth
How the traditional markers of adulthood reflect acquisition culture.
How the traditional markers of adulthood reflect acquisition culture.
The tension between seeking meaning and stability, and the unique challenges faced by "meaning types" and "stability types"
What Carl Jung had to say about the "serpentine path" of self-exploration
Why it can be worthwhile to explore the darker, "shadow" aspects of ourselves
The four pillars of psychological growth
How Jungian and behavioral psychology approaches might have more in common than you realize! (And yes, non-therapist listeners, we know you might not care about this at all!)

Resources:

Buy the book Quarterlife: The Search for Self in Early Adulthood!
Find Satya online at SatyaByock.com and follow her on Instagram @satyabyock.
Check out some online salons & seminars on classical Jungian psychology and its current application at SalomeInstitute.com and on Instagram: @satyabyock.
Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych.
Check out Debbie, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more!

About Satya

Satya Doyle Byock is a psychotherapist in private practice in Portland, Oregon and the author of Quarterlife: The Search for Self in Early Adulthood(Random House, 2022). Her clinical work and writing focus on how developmental psychology attends to the first twenty years of adulthood, incorporating a depth psychological as well as social justice lens. Rather than just emphasize the search for security and stability in this stage of life, Satya has introduced a framework for an exploration of meaning as well.

Satya’s clinical work, writing, and teaching are rooted in Jungian psychology, trauma-informed care, and historical research. She teaches online at The Salome Institute of Jungian Studies, which she founded and directs.

You can find her at SatyaByock.com and SalomeInstitute.com and on Instagram: @satyabyock.

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273. A More Just Future with Dolly Chugh Oct 19, 2022

Doing social justice work of any kind, whether it's in our homes with their families or out in the world causes us to encounter uncomfortable feelings like confusion, shame, guilt, and overwhelm. But, according to Dolly Chugh, the author of a powerful new book, A More Justice Future, it isn't a problem to have those emotions; it's more a question of what should we do with them? Join the conversation with Dolly to gain insights into our wired-in biases, our natural emotional responses to reckoning with a painful past and present, and science-backed tools to use our responses more skillfully to build a more just future.

About Dolly Chugh:

Dr. Dolly Chugh is an award-winning social psychologist at NYU Stern School of Business where she studies bounded ethicality, or what she calls the psychology of good people. In 2018, she delivered a popular TED talk, “How to Let Go of Being a Good Person and Become a Better Person.” She is the author of The Person You Mean to Be, which offered the argument that the more we believe we are already good people, the harder it is to become better people. And her new book, which we are here to discuss, is A More Justice Future.

Listen and Learn:

The power of learning to pronounce one another’s names
The paradox of the narrative around American pioneers, like the Laura Ingalls Wilder family
The value of being a lifelong “unlearner”
How principles from acceptance and commitment therapy can help us reckon with the past
How to unhook from the dominant cultural narratives to capture greater accuracy and more helpful nuance
How studies of home team bias and group identity in sports help us understand that bias is wired into us as part of being human
How Dolly understands the controversy around Critical Race Theory
Different narratives around history, and what are the most useful kinds of narratives to adopt.
What is a paradox mindset and how to practice having one
How stories we tell about our history problematically obscure how change happens
The power of a growth mindset in doing social justice work
How to build more nuance into some of our cultural fables (and why we should)
The fable of Dolly's own life that she's worked to introduce nuance into

Resources:

Dolly’s website
A More Justice Future, by Dolly Chugh
The Person You Mean to Be, by Dolly Chugh
Dolly’s TEDx Talk, How to Let Go of Being a Good Person and Become a Better Person

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272. Middle School Matters with Phyllis Fagell Oct 12, 2022

Parenting books and research on kids often lump middle schoolers together with young elementary school kids or older adolescents. This obscures the fact that middle school is its own distinct phase. Join Jill as she talks with therapist, school counselor, and middle school expert, Phyllis Fagell, about the unique challenges middle schoolers face and how parents can help them build key skills to thrive. Fagell sees middle school as parents’ “last best chance” to influence their kids at a time when they are still impressionable and still really care what their parents think.

Listen and Learn:

· What Yael’s friends and son shared were their greatest middle school challenges

· Why middle school matters—what is unique about this development stage and why we should attend to it

· How we can encourage critical thinking in middle schoolers using hypothetical scenarios

· The importance of purpose, what purpose really means, and how to help kids connect with theirs

· Why kids tell lies and how to handle it when they do

· How to manage tough questions about sex, drugs, and other challenging topics

· The difference between bullying and other interpersonal challenges and when to intervene vs letting kids work things out on their own

About Phyllis Fagell

Phyllis L. Fagell, LCPC is the school counselor at Sheridan School in Washington, DC, a therapist who works with kids and families in

private practice, and an author and journalist. She's the author of “Middle School Matters” and a frequent contributor to the Washington Post. She also freelances for publications including Psychology Today, CNN, Working Mother, U.S. News & World Report and Your Teen, and her ideas have been shared in outlets including The New York Times,The Atlantic, The New Yorker, Edutopia, Mindshift and NPR. Phyllis currently is working on her next book, "Middle School Superpowers, Raising Resilient Tweens in Turbulent Times," (Hachette, August '23). She lives in Bethesda, MD with her husband and three children.

Resources:

Phyllis’s website and sign up for her

newsletter: https://phyllisfagell.com

Phyllis’s twitter: @pfagell

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· Episode 113. Self-Compassion for Parents with Susan Pollak

· Episode 159. Challenging Time During Adolescence with Louise Hayes

· Episode 214. How to Raise Kids Who Aren’t Jerks

· Episode 240. Talking to Kids and Teens with Big Feelings with Adele LaFrance

· Episode 265. Social Justice Parenting with Traci Baxley

· Episode 267. You Are Not a Horrible Parent with Carla Naumburg

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271. Cultivating Friendships in Adulthood Featuring Adam Dorsay Oct 06, 2022

Friendships matter deeply for our mental, emotional, and physical wellbeing. But unlike kids, adults generally don’t knock on their neighbors’ doors and say, “Hey wanna come outside and play?” Making and keeping friends in adulthood is tricky (to say the least). Join us for a special conversation about friendship. In the first half of this episode, Yael and Debbie discuss how they see some of the issues in cultivating friendships in adulthood. The second half of this episode features clinical psychologist, Adam Dorsay, whose TEDx talk, Friendships in Adulthood: Five Things to Know lays out important ideas we can all learn from. Tune in to learn about common challenges and tips for overcoming them, what to look for in friends, how to be a good friend yourself, and much more.

Listen and Learn:

The science behind why quality (not quantity) friendships are so important in adulthood
Common challenges to making friends in adulthood
The problem of loneliness
The challenges inherent in investing in adult friendships relationships
The dangers of expecting too much of any one friend and how to overcome that challenge
Ideas for finding new friends
Considerations in choosing friends
Understanding what being a good friend looks like
Data on why is friendship good for our love lives

About Adam Dorsay

Dr. Adam Dorsayis a licensed psychologist and a certified executive coach working in private practice in San Jose, CA. He is the co-creator of Project Reciprocity, a resiliency program based out of FaceBook’s headquarters. In 2021, Adam was a featured TEDx speaker on the topic of friendships in adulthood.

Resources:

Adam’s website: https://dradamdorsay.com/

Adam’s TEDx talk: Friendships in Adulthood: Five Things to Know

Article on the power of the casual check-in

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Bonus Episode: Regret with Daniel Pink (excerpt from A Slight Change of Plans podcast) Oct 03, 2022

In this special bonus episode, we hear an excerpt from Daniel Pink, author of the book The Power of Regret, on the podcast A Slight Change of Plans, cohosted by cognitive scientist Dr. Maya Shankar.

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270. How Am I Doing? with Cory Yeager Sep 28, 2022

In order to show up as our best selves for others, for all the roles that matter most to us, and to make the world a better place, we need to be able to have the important conversations with ourselves. In his new book, How Am I Doing?: 40 Conversations to Have with Yourself,Dr. Cory Yeager, a clinical psychologist and therapist for the Detroit Pistons, offers us 40 questions to help us start those important conversations with ourselves. Join Dr. Cory and Yael for a powerful conversation about why we need to have these conversations with ourselves and how to get that conversation started.

Listen and Learn:

Why we should be having more conversation with ourselves
What can get in the way (and how to overcome it)
The value of balanced positivity in the face of racial injustice
What narrative solution focused therapy is
How to form a helpful internal supreme court
How to move from making the “right”choices to making your choices right
Why being vulnerable can free you
Why moving forward often requires us also to look back
What you can do with just 23 seconds

Resources:

How Am I Doing?: 40 Conversations to Have with Yourself,By Cory Yeager
Dr. Corey’s website

About Dr. Corey Yeager

Dr. Cory Yeager is a therapist who merges his two main passions–athletics and therapy–as the Detroit Piston’s psychotherapist. In this role, he supports the overall organization, individual players, coaching staff, and front office leadership. His work also aims to advance dialogue about race and racism and he has facilitated conversation across the country with various organizations including The Oprah Winfrey Network and elsewhere. And he is also known for his appearance on Harry and Oprah's show, The Me You Can’t See on Apple TV+.

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269. Connection Through Vulnerability with Rikke Kjelgaard Sep 22, 2022

Do you want to be a badass? Sometimes being a badass means asking for help, being vulnerable, and admitting you can’t do it all on your own. Join Jill as she talks with psychologist and ACT trainer, Rikke Kjelgaard about how to live a full and meaningful life through psychological flexibility. In this episode, Rikke and Jill get personal, sharing their own vulnerable stories and experiences in hopes of inspiring listeners to get out of their comfort zones and get brave.

Listen and Learn:

What it means to live “full size” and be a badass
How Rikke’s learning history led her to be a “superwoman” who never asked for help—and how she overcame this
How childhood patterns “work” when they develop but cease to be helpful later in life
The importance of discriminating in what contexts behaviors work or don’t work
The importance of connection and community, especially when being psychologically flexible gets hard
A values clarification exercise developed by one of Jill’s clients
The importance of holding outcomes lightly
How to play big even after you get cut down

About Rikke Kjelgaard

Rikke Kjelgaard is a licensed psychologist, peer-reviewed ACT trainer, an awarded fellow of the ACBS, author, speaker and chief rock’n’roller in her own business. Rikke is on a mission to help therapists thrive and to be brave and authentic helpers. Trained as a clinical psychologist, she has a 15 year background in the science of human behaviour and the practice of behaviour change. Rikke is a popular speaker at the Scandinavian as well as the international stage, and she is known to bring both passion and vulnerability to her talks. She transforms the lives of her audience by bringing evidence based strategies to her listeners in ways that are edible, manageable and impactful. Rikke is known to leave her audience in tears with compelling stories from her own life and to create extraordinary interactions between people.

Resources

Rikke’s essay in Passionately Striving in Why: An Anthology of Women Who Persevere Mightily to Live Their Purpose: https://www.rikkekjelgaard.com/passionately-striving-in-why/

Rikke’s website: www.rikkekjelgaard.com

Rikke’s ACT Practitioner’s Academy that opens on October 1st:

https://www.rikkekjelgaard.com/actpractitionersacademy/

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265. The Power of Emotions at Work

262. Hope and Values in Dark Times with Us

252. Getting the Help You Need with Us

238. Values During Times of Transition with Us

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198. Break the Good Girl Myth with Majo Molfino

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268. Coping with Suicidal Thoughts with Kathryn H. Gordon Sep 14, 2022

Suicidal thoughts are a more common human experience than you may realize, and many lives are impacted by suicide. Often suicidal thoughts are an indication that a person is in emotional pain, and there are tools that can help. Talking more openly about suicide can help to reduce stigma, and encourage people to reach out for support.

September is Suicide Prevention Awareness Month, and this week we are grateful to have Dr. Katie Gordon, a suicide expert and author of The Suicidal Thoughts Workbook on the show. In this conversation, Katie shares practical ideas that will be helpful for people having suicidal thoughts, as well as their friends and family who want to support them.

Listen and Learn:

How stigma about suicide can can get in the way of much-needed support, and why we at POTC think it’s important to talk more openly about suicidal thoughts.
Why people think about suicide
Ways to cope with suicidal thoughts and urges
The role of hope and hopelessness in suicidal thinking
The importance of belonging and meaning in suicide prevention
How to support a loved one who is thinking about suicide.
About safety planning for a suicidal crisis

Resources

Pick up a copy of Katie's book, The Suicidal Thoughts Workbook
988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline (1-800-273-8255)
Crisis Text Line
Website for International Suicide Hotlines: http://www.suicide.org/international-suicide-hotlines.html
National Sexual Assault Hotline
Trans Lifeline
The Trevor Project
Rocky Mountain MIRECC for Veteran Suicide Prevention
Suicide Prevention Resource Center
Click here for information on what to do when someone is suicidal
Click here for information on what not to say about suicide
The My3 Safety Planning App
The Virtual Hope Box App for Apple and Google Play
Postvention Alliance (for coping with suicide attempts or suicide)
SPRC Postvention Resources
Uniting for Suicide Postvention
Click here for information on how to talk to a child about a suicide attempt
Safety Planning Intervention Webpage
A suicide safety plan quick guide
Two different options for safety planning templates can be found here and here
Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych.
Check out Debbie, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more!

About Katie Gordon

Kathryn Hope Gordon, PhD, is a licensed clinical psychologist. She lives in the Boston area and specializes in cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT). Prior to working as a therapist, Gordon was a professor for ten years. She is a mental health researcher who has published more than 80 scientific articles and book chapters on suicidal behavior, disordered eating, and related topics. Her clinical scientist approach is informed by her graduate training at Florida State University, and her predoctoral internship at the University of Chicago Medical Center. She is the author of The Suicidal Thoughts Workbook: CBT Skills to Reduce Emotional Pain, Increase Hope, and Prevent Suicide. Gordon cohosts the Psychodrama podcast, blogs for Psychology Today, and shares mental health information through her website: www.kathrynhgordon.com. She writes a newsletter called Mental Health Minute, which you can subscribe to here. She is licensed in Massachusetts, Minnesota, and North Dakota and provides suicide prevention trainings to clinicians.

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267. You are Not a Horrible Parent with Carla Naumburg Sep 07, 2022

If you think you’re a horrible parent, well, you’re not alone! Thinking we such at parenting seems to be an inherent part of parenting made worse by the pandemic, financial stressors, and general unease we live with. The wise and witty Carla Naumburg joins us to share tools from her latest book, You are Not a Sh*tty Parent. Along with some humor and spicy language,we can self-compassion to better cope with the unavoidable stressors of parenting.

Listen and Learn:

What is self-compassion and what isn’t it
How self-compassion differs from being nice
Why engaging in self-criticism to connect gets us in trouble
The metaphor of first versus second arrows and how this helps us understand how to better respond to our suffering
Noticing practices
Practices to connect to the present
Practices to connect to common humanity
Practices of curiosity

About Carla:

Carla Naumburg is an author, clinical social worker, and mother. She’s the author of five non-fiction books, including her international bestseller, How to Stop Losing Your Sh*t With Your Kids as well as You Are Not a Sh*tty Parent. Carla’s writing has appeared in a variety of online and print publications, including The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Huffington Post, Mindful Magazine, Slate.com, Psychology Today, WBUR’s Cognoscenti Blog, Brain, Child, Motherwell, Parents.com, PsychCentral, and Today Moms.

Resources:

Article on the dangers of body positivity: What’s the Difference Between Body Positivity and Body Neutrality?
Carla’s website
Book: How to Stop Losing Your Sh*t With Your Kids
Pre-order You Are Not a Sh*tty Parent here!

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266. Future Tense with Tracy Dennis-Tiwary Aug 31, 2022

Anxiety has long gotten a bad wrap. But maybe part of why anxiety is so much on the rise and harming so many people comes back to how we understand anxiety. Tracy Dennis-Tiwary, author Future Tense: Why Anxiety is Good for You (Even Though it Feels Bad)joins us to discuss why re-thinking anxiety can help us out. As Adam Grant noted in his blurb, this conversation and this book “Is going smash your existing views about anxiety and replace them with more helpful ones.”

Listen and Learn:

The three principles of being anxious in the right way
Tracy’s insights into the difference between fear, stress, anxiety, and anxiety disorders
Why anxiety has a public relations problem
What are the useful functions of anxiety
Why hope is so fundamental to anxiety
How shifting our anxiety mindset can help treatment for anxiety disorders more effective
Why the medical model of treating anxiety is so problematic
Why children, even children with anxiety, are anti-fragile (and how to wisely approach anxiety in youth)
In-the-moment strategies to manage an upsurge in anxiety
What Attention Bias Modification is and how it works to help us manage anxiety
The connection between anxiety and creativity

Resources:

Jeremy Jamieson’s study of mindest shift for individuals with social anxiety
Study cited investigating the link between creativity and anxiety
Alia Crum’s Ted Talk
Kelly McGonigal’s Ted Talk
Tracy's website
Tracy's book, Future Tense: Why Anxiety is Good for You (Even Though it Feels Bad)

About Tracy Dennis-Tiwary

Tracy A. Dennis-Tiwary, is a professor of psychology and neuroscience, Director of the Emotion Regulation Lab, and Co-Executive Director of the Center for Health Technology at Hunter College. Her company, Wise Therapeutics, translates neuroscience and cognitive therapy techniques into gamified, clinically validated digital therapeutics for mental health. Dr. Dennis-Tiwary has published over 100 scientific articles and delivered over 400 presentations at academic conferences and for corporate clients, and has been featured throughout the media, including the New York Times, Wall Street Journal, ABC, CBS, CNN, NPR, The Today Show, and Bloomberg Television. You can find Tracy at her website or on Twitter.

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265. The Power of Emotions at Work with Karla McLaren Aug 24, 2022

If you think emotions don't belong in the workplace, think again! Emotions, when welcomed and respected, are an essential part of productive and healthy workplace environments. In this episode, Debbie talks with Karla McLaren about the power of emotions at work, problems with the modern workplace environment, and her ideas for how to implement real cultural change at work.

Listen and Learn:

Why Debbie is such a big fan of Karla's work on emotions at work.
Reasons why so many workplaces are "toxic" and what makes them so.
The toll of invisible emotional labor.
Why emotions are important and necessary at work.
Ways we can foster better communication and more humane workplace environments.

About Karla McLaren:

Karla McLaren, M.Ed. is an award-winning author, social science researcher, workplace consultant, and empathy pioneer. Her lifelong work focuses on her grand unified theory of emotions, which revalues even the most “negative” emotions and opens startling new pathways into self-awareness, effective communication, and healthy empathy. She is the founder and CEO of Emotion Dynamics LLC and the developer of the Empathy Academy online learning site. Her applied work, Dynamic Emotional Integration® (also known as DEI) is a trailblazing approach to emotions and empathy that reveals the genius and the healing power within the emotional realm. Karla has also developed the groundbreaking Six Essential Aspects of Empathy model that highlights all of the processes in healthy empathy and makes them easily understandable, accessible, and attainable. Karla is the author ofThe Power of Emotions at Work: Accessing the Vital Intelligence in Your Workplace (2021), Embracing Anxiety: How to Access the Genius of this Vital Emotion (2020), The Dynamic Emotional Integration® Workbook (2018), The Art of Empathy: A Complete Guide to Life’s Most Essential Skill (2013), The Language of Emotions: What Your Feelings are Trying to Tell You (2010), and the multi-media online course Emotional Flow: Becoming Fluent in the Language of Emotions (2012). Karla has won several honors and awards, including the 2010 Gold Medal from the Independent Publisher Book Awards. Karla has taught at such venues as the University of San Francisco, Esalen, Bioneers, Naropa University, Kripalu Center, and the Association for Humanistic Psychology. She’s also a Certified Human Resource Administrator and a Certified Career Development Facilitator with a Master’s Degree in Education. She lives in Sonoma County, California.

Resources:

Grab your copy of Karla's book, The Power of Emotions at Work: Accessing the Vital Intelligence in Your Workplace (2021)
Grab copies of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych.
Check out Debbie, Diana, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more!

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183. Permission to Feel: Emotional Intelligence with Marc Brackett

130. Working Less with Alex Pang

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264. Raising Intuitive Eaters with Sumner Brooks and Amee Severson Aug 18, 2022

Many of us grew up being told we must be members of “the clean plate club” or that we shouldn’t waste food because there are starving children in other countries. The diet industry rakes in billions, profiting off messages around striving for an unattainable “thin ideal.” All of this contributes to the development of unhealty relationships with food and our bodies. As parents, we are at risk of passing along unhealthy messages and patterns. In this episode, Jill interviews Sumner Brooks and Amee Severson about how we can break these patterns and raise children outside the toxic diet mentality so they have healthier relationships with food and their bodies.

Listen and Learn:

What is meant by “intuitive eating.”
What is diet culture and why is it problematic
The inaccuracy of data around obesity and morbidity/mortality
The three keys to raising an intuitive eater
Why it’s important to talk about bodies
The power of modeling healthy attitudes and behaviors toward food and bodies
The difficulty and importance of letting go of over-control
How Acceptance and Commitment Therapy can help

Resources

Sumner and Amee’s book, How to Raise an Intuitive Eater
Evelyn Tribole and Elyse Resche’s book Intuitive Eating
The ALLHAT study about the surprising relationship between BMI and cardiovascular risk.

About Sumner Brooks and Amee Severson

Sumner Brooks is a mom and licensed registered dietitian nutritionist (LD, RDN) based in Oregon who has spent over 13 years working in the field of nutrition and eating disorders. Her experience includes providing nutrition therapy for adolescents and adults, public speaking and pursuing advanced training in trauma-informed, weight-inclusive healthcare. She is also the founder of the online training platform Eating Disorder Registered Dietitians and Professionals (EDRD Pro).

Amee Severson a Registered Dietitian (RD) in the Washington State (CD) with a private practice outside of Seattle, Washington. Amee specializes in eating disorder recovery, healing and preserving food-body relationships, and focuses on gender-inclusive and LGBTQ+ affirming care. She is a Certified Intuitive Eating Counselor, and a Certified Body Trust Provider.

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263. Relationships with Emotionally Immature People with Lindsay Gibson Aug 10, 2022

Many of us grew up with or are in a current relationship with someone who is emotionally immature. And if that’s the case, you may feel anger towards that person, and a lingering sense of loneliness and anxiety in intimate relationships. Lindsay Gibson, the author of the bestselling book, Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, helps us understand why these relationships cause us such pain, how to heal, and even how to navigate relationships with an emotionally immature person in our adult life. Join us to learn how to find a new way to be in relationship with an emotionally immature person.

Listen and Learn:

Why Lindsay first began writing and treating adult children of emotionally immature parents
The value of understanding what emotional immaturity is, but also the caution we should use in applying labels
The hallmark qualities of emotional immaturity (and emotional maturity)
The research that highlights why being raised by an emotionally immature parent can cause such long-term pain
The surprising stance Lindsay has on cultivating compassion for an emotionally immature person
Strategies for growing relationships in that don't resemble those which you were raised with
Understand how you can help a relationship with an emotionally immature person grow
Lindsey’s thoughts on estrangement from an emotionally immature parent or partner

Resources

Ed Tronick’s still face experiment
Fault Lines: Fractured Families and How to Mend Them, by Karl Pillemer
Atlantic Article: Why Parents and Kids Get Estranged

About Lindsay Gibson

Lindsay C. Gibson, PsyD, is a clinical psychologist in private practice who specializes in individual psychotherapy with adult children of emotionally immature parents. She is author of Who You Were Meant to Be and writes a monthly column on well-being for Tidewater Women magazine and she’s here today to talk with me about her books, Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents and Recovering From Emotionally Immature Parents. Welcome, Linsday!

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262. Hope and Values in Dark Times with Us Aug 03, 2022

The world is chock full of bad news right now, and many are feeling the impacts. From war to revocation of rights, the world around us can easily (and not unreasonably) feel hopeless. On this week’s episode of POTC, Debbie, Yael, Jill, and Michael come together to discuss the psychological impact of the socio-political climate as well as practical advice for navigating these difficult times. Join us in this episode to learn expert-approved strategies for fostering hope and compassion in times of anger, using anger in values-oriented ways, distinguishing between healthy and unhealthy avoidance, and much more today.

Listen and Learn:

The psychological impact of the socio-political climate
Practical advice for living consistently with your values during hard times
The validity in feeling numb, detaching, and isolating
Important distinctions in healthy and unhealthy avoidance
Expert-approved strategies for using anger in healthy ways
The cognitive load of uncertainty and practical advice for tolerating it
Evidence-based methods for fostering hope and taking action
Role-models who endured hopelessness with bravery and compassion
The strategies the POTC team uses to foster hope in their personal lives
How to balance feelings of guilt and shame
Practical advice for deciding when it’s time for self-care and when it’s time for taking action
Expert-approved strategies for staying informed without burning out or doom scrolling
How to have difficult conversations about heavy socio-political topics with even the most difficult of people
Clarifying your values by finding the grains of sugar in life

Resources:

Read Melinda Moyer’s article, The 'Psychic Numbing" of Mass Tragedies
Read Jane Goodall and Douglas Abrams’ book, The Book of Hope: A Survival Guide for Trying Times
Check out Michael in his cow hat and with Jane Goodall!
Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych.
Check out Debbie, Diana, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more!

About our team:

Debbie Sorensen, PhD, (she/her) is a psychologist in private practice in Denver, Colorado She is co-author of ACT Daily Journal: Get Unstuck and Live Fully with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. You can learn more about Debbie, read her blog, and find out about upcoming presentations and training events at her webpage, drdebbiesorensen.com.

Yael Schonbrun, PhD, (she/her) is a licensed clinical psychologist and assistant professor at Brown University. Yael’s book, Work, Parent, Thrive comes out in November and is available for pre-order now!

Jill Stoddard, PhD, (she/her) is a clinical psychologist and author of The Big Book of ACT Metaphors: A Practitioner’s Guide to Experiential Exercises and Metaphors in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and Be Mighty: A Woman’s Guide to Liberation from Anxiety, Worry, and Stress Using Mindfulness and Acceptance.

Michael Herold (he/him) is the head coach at The Art of Charm and a public speaker and speaker coach. Clients he has coached for presentations have been featured on NBC, Fast Company, Forbes, and the Oprah Winfrey Network.

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261. The Secret Life of Secrets with Michael Slepian Jul 27, 2022

Secrets are a double-edged sword. They can both inflict and remedy physical and psychological injury for us and our loved ones. But regardless of whether they offer benefit, keeping secrets is often burdensome for the keeper. Michael Slepian, author of The Secret Life of Secrets, has dedicated his career to the psychology of secrets and how keeping secrets affect variables that govern social and organizational life. In this episode of POTC, Michael and Yael discuss the personal and relational value in sharing as well as the impact of keeping secrets. Join us in this episode for surprising statistics and findings on secret-keeping, practical advice on assessing when and how to share your secrets, evidence-based strategies on building trust, and much much more, today!

Listen and Learn:

Yael and Debbie discuss the power of tightly held secrets
Why secret-keeping is often overlooked in the realm of mental health
Michael’s expert definition of secrecy
Important distinctions between deception and private information
The impact of secret-keeping on our well-being
Some surprising findings from Michael’s research on secret-keeping
The first steps in overcoming a tightly held or particularly burdensome secret
The hazards and gifts associated with professional secret-keeping as a clinician
Revealing statistics on secrets and secret-keeping
An expert definition of ambitious secrets
Practical advice on assessing when and how to share your secrets
Guidelines for helping children understand the differences between the right to privacy and the dangers of keeping certain kinds of secrets
Pros and cons of snooping
Evidence-based strategies on building trust
Michael’s coping compass and how it can help you decide whether or not to disclose a secret
Michael’s personal experiences sharing and learning secrets
The personal and relational value in sharing secrets

Resources:

Buy your copy of Michael’s book, The Secret Life of Secrets: How Our Inner Worlds Shape Well-Being, Relationships, and Who We Are!
Michael’s study, Relieving the burdens of secrecy: Revealing secrets influences judgments of hill slant and distance
Check out Danny Shapiro’s book Inheritance: A Memoir of Genealogy, Paternity, and Love
Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych.
Check out Debbie, Diana, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more!

About Michael Slepian:

Michael Slepian is the Sanford C. Bernstein & Co. Associate Professor of Leadership and Ethics at Columbia Business School. He previously was a visiting scholar at Stanford University, and received his Ph.D. from Tufts University. He is an elected fellow of the Society of Experimental Social Psychology, has received the Rising Star Award from the Association for Psychological Science, and received the National Science Foundation Graduate Research Fellowship.Michael studies the psychology of secrets and how keeping secrets affect variables that govern social and organizational life. For more information see his research and publications.

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260. Health Anxiety with Karen Lynn Cassiday Jul 20, 2022

It’s not uncommon to have some anxiety about your and others’ health. However, health anxiety, at its worst, can become an overwhelming, life-consuming experience that keeps you from thriving. Millions of people experience health anxiety, and the pandemic has certainly contributed to the recent rise in numbers of people who experience this. Dr. Karen Cassiday, author of Freedom from Health Anxiety, is nationally recognized as an expert clinical psychologist in the diagnosis and treatment of anxiety disorders in children, teens, and adults. In this episode of POTC, Karen and Debbie discuss the common experience of health anxiety, and Karen’s evidence-based methods for approaching it. Join us in this empowering episode for distinctions between normal and problematic health anxiety, practical advice for dealing with catastrophic thinking patterns, and much more, today!

Listen and Learn:

Debbie and Yael’s thoughts on the pervasive experience of health anxiety
Dr. Cassiday’s expert opinion on the rise of health anxiety in the general public
Practical distinctions for when health anxiety is normal vs. when it’s problematic
Important differences between orthorexia and health anxiety
Practical advice for dealing with catastrophic thinking patterns about your health
An expert breakdown of the reassurance seeking cycle
The importance of function in your health-related behaviors
Evidence-based strategies for practitioners and patients dealing with health-anxiety
How Dr. Cassiday uses Exposure and Response Prevention in her work
The common experience of health anxiety, and new, evidence-based methods for approaching it

Resources:

Grab your copy of Karen’s book, Freedom from Health Anxiety: Understand and Overcome Obsessive Worry about Your Health or Someone Else's and Find Peace of Mind
Check out Yael and Barry Schwartz’s article on Radical Uncertainty
Read Barry Schwartz's Practical Wisdom: The Right Way to Do the Right Thing
Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych.
Check out Debbie, Diana, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more!

About Dr. Karen Lynn Cassiday:

Dr. Karen Cassiday is an author and nationally recognized as an expert clinical psychologist in the diagnosis and treatment of anxiety disorders in children, teens and adults. She empowers patients to overcome their struggles with anxiety, compulsions, phobias, social anxiety, worry, and depression. She approaches each patient with enthusiasm, persistence, and a keen sense of humor, crafting individualized, research-based treatment plans for each person. Her goal is to make each patient an expert at managing their own anxiety, so that they can face any future event with confidence and courage. A sought after national speaker on television, radio and at professional training seminars, Dr. Cassiday has appeared as a psychological consultant on Animal Hoarders on TNT and on NBC’s Today Show. Her expertise has been tapped through commentary in the Wall Street Journal, New York Times, Chicago Tribune, and numerous other publications. Make sure to check out Karen’s book, Freedom from Health Anxiety: Understand and Overcome Obsessive Worry about Your Health or Someone Else's and Find Peace of Mind.

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259. Rethinking Delusions with Victoria Sheperd Jul 13, 2022

Delusional beliefs have a long and varied history, with false beliefs ranging from those as minor as imposter syndrome to those as significant as thinking we are dead or decapitated. Victoria Shepherd, author of A History of Delusions, has dedicated her career to exploring the history of fixed false beliefs and the context in which false beliefs can develop. On this episode of POTC, she and Yael discuss the importance of understanding the function of delusions within social context. Join us in this episode for practical advice on caring for loved ones who experience delusions, evidence-based methods of being compassionate towards yourself and others when dealing with delusional beliefs, and much, much more, today!

Listen and Learn:

Yael and Jill’s take on delusional thinking and fixed false beliefs
The importance of understanding the functionality of delusions within a context
Practical advice for caring for loved ones who experience delusions
Common delusions we all frequently experience
Three ways delusions might be helpful for distressed individuals
Expert-approved strategies for becoming more aware of your own delusional thinking and managing overwhelm and uncertainty
How the human desire for agency over a situation plays into delusional thinking
Some of the experiences of the intriguing characters in Victoria’s book!
Perceptions of individuals in power that influence widely held beliefs
How biological causes contribute to delusions
Evidence-based methods of being compassionate towards yourself and others when dealing with delusional beliefs

Resources:

Grab your copy of Victoria’s book, A History of Delusions: The Glass King, a Substitute Husband, and a Walking Corpse!
Learn more about Charles The Mad
Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych.
Check out Debbie, Diana, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more!

About Victoria Shepherd:

Victoria Shepherd, a born and bred south Londoner, has an M.A. from the University of East Anglia in creative writing. She’s an experienced audio producer for BBC Radio making documentaries and podcasts, and her short film documentary, 2 Princelet Street, was selected by the National Film School Docs program. Many of her documentaries can be found on BBC Sounds, and recent highlights include: ‘A History of Delusions’, presented by Professor Daniel Freeman (co-produced by Eve Streeter), ‘The Glass Delusion’, presented by Adam Phillips; ‘A History of the Future’, and ‘Experiments in Living’ presented by Juliet Gardiner; ‘This Old Heart of Mine’ presented by Giles Fraser, ‘A Natural History of the Banker’ presented by Andrew Ross Sorkin, ‘The Periodic Table’ presented by Chris Addison; ‘Headstrong and Proud’ presented by Michael Crick, ‘The Wizard of Oz’, presented by Salman Rushdie. Learn more about her work here, and buy her book A History of Delusions: The Glass King, a Substitute Husband, and a Walking Corpse now.

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258. How to Have a Kid and a Life with Erika Souter Jul 06, 2022

Women and gender-expansive individuals are often expected to take on the largest portion of emotional labor, home-making, and parenting work. This and a myriad of other unrealistic expectations contribute to #secretparenting and the “motherhood penalty,” leaving women and gender-expansive individuals to suffer and fall behind their white, cis-gender, male counterparts. Ericka Sóuter is a nationally recognized voice in parenting news and parenting advice. On this episode of POTC, she and Jill discuss the challenges mothers often face in their parenting journey and provide practical, realistic advice for facing those challenges. Join us in this episode to learn the research behind caring for yourself first, how to use mom-judgment for good and not evil, statistics behind #secretparenting, and much more today!

Listen and Learn:

Jill and Yael’s experiences with the challenging elements of parenting
How Ericka came upon the title of her book
The unmet or unrealistic expectations about parenthood
The evidence-based place to start improving your experience with parenthood and overwhelm
What the research says about caring for your own well-being before that of your child’s
Practical advice for building a community of “the right mom friends” during even the busiest, most hectic of times
Expert-approved advice for using mom-judgment for good and not evil
The disturbing statistics behind #secretparenting and practical advice for how to engage with the “motherhood penalty”
Why the frequency of sex may decrease during and after pregnancy and how to ensure it rebounds down the road

Resources:

Grab your copy of Ericka’s book, How to Have a Kid and a Life: A Survival Guide!
Check out Ericka’s articles!
Learn more about #secretparenting
The C-Suite: 70% of top male earners in the US have a spouse who stays home
Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych.
Check out Debbie, Diana, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more!

About:

Ericka Sóuter is a nationally recognized voice in parenting news and parenting advice. She has over 20 years of journalism experience and is a frequent contributor on Good Morning America and other national broadcast outlets, where it’s her job to speak to parents across the country about the issues, controversies, and trends most affecting families today. Her new book is How to Have a Kid and a Life: A Survival Guide. Ericka’s work appears on the Bump, What to Expect, CafeMom, and Mom.com, all high-traffic parenting sites that reach millions of moms each month. Her writing has also been featured in People magazine, Us Weekly, Essence, Cosmopolitan, Self and WebMD. She received her bachelor’s degree from Georgetown University and master’s degree from the Columbia University Graduate School of Journalism.

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257. The Gift of Being Ordinary with Ron Siegel Jun 29, 2022

Human beings are evolutionarily hard-wired to compete with one another, and this drive to compete encourages us to compare our standing to that of our fellows and despair when we don’t match up. This “compare and despair” mindset can lead to unworkable or harmful cycles of behavior that leave us feeling worse-than-ordinary. Ron Siegel, author of The Extraordinary Gift of being Ordinary, is faculty at Harvard Medical School and teaches internationally about mind-body medicine and the application of mindfulness and compassion practices in psychotherapy and other fields. On this episode of POTC, Ron talks with Yael about why being ordinary is actually an extraordinary gift! Join us to learn about addiction to self-esteem, what genetic analysis says about social comparison and organization, scientifically-backed practices for embracing and savoring your ordinariness, and more, today!

Listen and Learn:

Yael and Debbie’s thoughts on the connection between being ordinary and belonging
The inescapable cycle of comparing and despairing
The evolutionary roots of our desire to be extraordinary
What genetic analysis has to tell us about social comparison and organization
Evidence-based strategies for responding to natural urges and impulses when they’re not workable
Practical advice for reorienting towards value-aligned actions after you’ve unhooked from addiction to self-esteem
Ron’s favorite practices for embracing and savoring your ordinariness
The importance of embracing impermanence (including your own mortality)

Resources:

Snag your DISCOUNTED copy of Ron’s book, The Extraordinary Gift of being Ordinary. Enter code DFSL2 when item is in shopping cart. Code will be valid through 9/30/22.
Then, come chat with Ron at our book club meeting August 11th at 12pm EST (US)! To join the book club, email us at offtheclockpsych@gmail.com with "book club" in the subject line
Learn more about the differences between Bonobos and Chimpanzees!.
Read the Cherokee Legend of the Two Wolves
Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych.
Check out Debbie, Diana, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more!

About Ron Siegel:

Dr. Ron Siegel is an Assistant Professor of Psychology at Harvard Medical School, where he’s taught for over 35 years. A long-time student of mindfulness meditation, he serves on the Board of Directors and faculty of the Institute for Meditation and Psychotherapy and the faculties of the Center for Mindfulness and Compassion at the Cambridge Health Alliance and the University of Massachusetts Medical School. He teaches internationally about mind-body medicine and the application of mindfulness and compassion practices in psychotherapy and other fields. He currently maintains a limited private clinical practice in Lincoln, Massachusetts. He has edited and written several books including the critically acclaimed professional text, Mindfulness and Psychotherapy, 2nd Edition, The Mindfulness Solution: Everyday Practices for Everyday Problems, Sitting Together: Essential Skills for Mindfulness-Based Psychotherapy, Wisdom and Compassion in Psychotherapy, Back Sense, and his most recent book, The Extraordinary Gift of Being Ordinary: Finding Happiness Right Where You Are!

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256. Social Justice Parenting with Traci Baxley Jun 22, 2022

Social justice involves action. In our society which has historically privileged whiteness, many racist and other prejudicial ideas are widely accepted as the standard and are pervasively practiced as the norm. Because of this, allies must engage in anti-racism and take action against racist behaviors. One form of action involves parenting practices. Traci Baxley, author of Social Justice Parenting, is an expert in child development, elementary education, curriculum and instruction, diversity and inclusion, anti-bias curriculum, and social justice education. On this episode of POTC, Debbie and Traci come together to discuss the importance of Social Justice Parenting Practices. Join us in this episode to learn expert-approved strategies for accepting your child for who they are, practical advice for moving from being a “good person” to being an advocate for historically excluded communities, the main qualities of a pro-justice home, and so much more!

Listen and Learn:

Jill and Debbie’s experiences implementing Social Justice Parenting practices
The personal story behind Traci’s work
Traci’s experience with “The Talk” that black families must have with their children in the U.S.
Belonging as a universal, fundamental motivation
Expert-approved strategies for accepting your children for who they are
Traci’s expert definition of Social Justice Parenting
Why parents struggle to implement Social Justice Parenting practices (and how to overcome those struggles!)
The importance of Social Justice Parenting practices
Practical advice for moving from being a “good person” to being an advocate for historically excluded communities
The main qualities of a pro justice home
How to start conversations about hard topics with your kids (no matter their age!)
Expert-approved strategies for responding to difficult, scary questions from your kids and bringing others into the conversation of social justice

Resources

Check out Traci’s book, Social Justice Parenting: How to Raise Compassionate, Anti-Racist, Justice-Minded Kids
Take Traci’s online courses for white mothers who want to be allies to the Black community and raise antiracist children (who will be change agents in the world) and for parents who want to implement Social Justice Parenting practices in their family’s daily lives
Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych.
Check out Debbie, Diana, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more!

About Dr. Traci Baxley:

Dr. Traci Baxley is a Associate Professor of education at Florida Atlantic University, consultant, parenting coach, and speaker. An educator for over 30 years with degrees in child development, elementary education, and curriculum and instruction. She specializes in diversity and inclusion, anti-bias curriculum, and social justice education. She teaches two online courses for white mothers who want to be allies to the Black community and raise antiracist children (who will be change agents in the world) and for parents who want to implement Social Justice Parenting practices in their family’s daily lives. Make sure to grab your copy of her book, Social Justice Parenting: How to Raise Compassionate, Anti-Racist, Justice-Minded Kids.

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255. Influence is Your Superpower with Zoe Chance Jun 15, 2022

Influence is power, but it’s a power not reserved just for the few. In fact, each of us has the power to impact those around us. Because of this, it’s incredibly important that we meaningfully hold and use that power for good! Dr. Zoe Chance, author of INFLUENCE IS YOUR SUPERPOWER, is a writer, teacher, researcher, and climate philanthropist obsessed with the topic of interpersonal influence. On this episode of POTC, Zoe and Yael discuss how to use your personal values to change the world for the better. Join us in this episode to learn important differences between influence and manipulation, strategies for influencing your child, practical advice for navigating negotiations with difficult people, and more!

Listen and Learn:

How Yael and Jill use their values to change the world for the better
Zoe’s expert definition of influence
Important differences between influence and manipulation
Expert-approved tips and tricks for those afraid to exert their influence
What parents, CEOs, central bankers, and princess have in common
The secrets to influencing your child
Why compromising can be an optimal outcome
Practical advice for negotiating with even the most difficult or powerful of people
Evidence-based strategies for listening to someone you disagree with (even when the disagreement makes you want to turn inward)
Zoe walks us through her Empathy Challenge

Resources:

Grab your copy of Zoe’s book, INFLUENCE IS YOUR SUPERPOWER!
Read Adam Grant’s Think Again: The Power of Knowing What You Don't Know
Learn about False Polarization Bias
Learn more about Naomi Eisenber’s research on social rejection and pain
Check out Debbie, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more!

About Zoe Chance:

Dr. Zoe Chance is a writer, teacher, researcher, and climate philanthropist obsessed with the topic of interpersonal influence. She earned her doctorate from Harvard and now teaches the most popular course at Yale School of Management, which is the basis for her international bestseller, INFLUENCE IS YOUR SUPERPOWER. Her framework for behavior change is the foundation for Google’s global food policy, and before academia, she managed a $200 million segment of the Barbie brand at Mattel. Today, Zoe teaches smart, kind people to raise money for charity, get elected to political office, fund startups, start movements, save lives, find love, negotiate great deals and job offers, and even get along better with their kids. In other words, she helps people to use their superpower of influence as a force for good.

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Episode 51. The Psychology of Political Division with Yael and Debbie

Episode 197. Influence and Adventure with Jon Levy

Episode 196. The Neuroscience of Marketing with Matt Johnson and Prince Ghuman

Episode 180. Choosing to Live Your Values with Benji Schoendorff

Episode 234. The Power of Us with Dominic Packer

Episode 252. Getting the Help You Need, with Us

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254. Cultivating Compassion for a Lasting Connection with Michaela Thomas Jun 08, 2022

It’s incredibly easy (and completely normal) to become caught in the heat of the moment and lash out when arguing with our partners. However, it’s not always the most functional behavior, and it almost never aligns with our values. Michaela Thomas, author of The Lasting Connection, is a clinical psychologist who has centered her career around helping women develop love and compassion for themselves and their partners. On this episode of POTC, Jill and Michaela discuss the key elements to building lasting connections and provide evidence-based strategies for incorporating them into your relationships. Listen in to this episode to discover the top reasons modern couples disconnect, engage in a real-time compassion-flow practice, learn strategies for identifying your relationship values, and much more today!

Listen and Learn:

Jill and Yael’s thoughts on incorporating ACT, CFT, Behavioral Therapy for couples
The three elements that help build lasting connections
Expert-approved strategies for identifying when you’re too “hot” or “cold” in your relationship (and practical advice for turning that flame up or down!)
Three critical directions your compassion should be flowing in order to build a lasting, loving connection
Jill and Michaela engage in a real-time exercise for allowing compassion to flow in from others
Evidence-based strategies for moving from high conflict into compassion
Dr. Thomas provides the top reasons modern couples disconnect
Tips and tricks for identifying your relationship values as a couple

Resources:

Grab your copy of Michaela’s book, The Lasting Connection!
Listen to Michaela’s podcast, Pause Purpose Play.
Take Michaela’s online course, The Compassionate Couple
Check out Debbie, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more!

About Michaela Thomas:

Michaela Thomas is a Clinical Psychologist, couples therapist and founder of the private practice The Thomas Connection. Michaela specialises in perfectionism, helping high-striving women let go of the pressure of perfection, to find the balance to burn bright, not burn out. She has authored the book The Lasting Connection - develop love and compassion for yourself and your partner. Michaela can be found on her Pause Purpose Play podcast and on Instagram under @the_thomas_connection. Her online course The Compassionate Couple has been described as 'life changing'.

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253. Free Range Kids with Lenore Skenazy Jun 01, 2022

The pressure to be the perfect parent and create the perfect environment for your kids to grow feels pervasive for many modern parents. Because of this, many caregivers have had the thought that they are the world’s worst parent. However, that title belongs to Lenore Skenazy, president of Let Grow and founder of the Free-Range Kids movement (and book), who was once nationally dubbed "America's Worst Mom". On this episode of POTC, Yael and Lenore discuss the data behind how trusting your kids more and giving them more independence allows them to better grow into capable, confident, and happy adults. Join us in this advice-packed episode to learn about what’s actually risky for your kids, strategies for trusting your parenting skills more, methods for unhooking from perfect-parenting-pressure, and much more, today!

Listen and Learn:

Yael and Jill’s experiences with stigma and conforming to social norms when it comes to raising their kids
Important social and personal changes for Lenore since the release of the first edition of Free-Range Kids
Practical advice for the parents worried about their children’s safety in social contexts
Lenore defines the “worst first thing” and provides expert advice on how to respond to that tendency
Evidence-based and time-proven strategies for shifting your perspective around what’s actually risky for your kids
How to begin trusting your parenting instincts and thriving in your role as a parent
Expert-approved tips and tricks for incorporating more approach and less avoidance behavior in your parenting repertoire
The data that supports the free-range kids movement and having faith in your own parenting skill sets
Lenore’s expert advice on unhooking from pressure around being the perfect parent and relating to your kids as people

Resources:

Read Lenore’s book, Free-Range Kids and check out the Free-Range Kids movement as well!
Get involved in Lenore’s non-profit, Let Grow, and check out the FREE resources at the Let Grow Play Club!
Check out Jonathan Haidt’s work, The Coddling of the American Mind: How Good Intentions and Bad Ideas Are Setting Up a Generation for Failure and The Fragile Generation
Check out Debbie, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more!
For a hilarious view of free range partnering, check out this SNL clip

About Lenore Skenazy:

Lenore Skenazy, graduate of Yale University and Columbia University and formerly named "America's Worst Mom", is president of Let Grow, a non-profit promoting childhood independence and resilience, and founder of the Free-Range Kids movement (and book!). She is also a speaker, blogger, syndicated columnist, author, and reality show host. A former newspaper reporter, she lives in New York City with her husband. Their sons have flown the coop, which is good for “proof of concept” purposes, but she misses them. Check out her book, Free Range Kids and all the FREE resources available at letgrow.org.

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252. Getting the Help You Need, with Us May 25, 2022

Asking for help can put us in a vulnerable space. For some, asking for help feels like an admission of failure or weakness. However, many (including the POTC crew) would argue that asking for help demonstrates incredible strength, intelligence, and bravery. On this episode of POTC, our co-hosts, Jill, Yael, and Debbie, gather to discuss the importance of asking for help. They provide clinician-approved methods for identifying appropriate help, asking for help, and overcoming common barriers to asking for help. Listen in to this help-filled episode, today!

Listen and Learn:

Why our co-hosts are drawn to the topic of asking for help
Barriers to asking for help when you need it most
Practical strategies to reframe shame and guilt related to asking for help
Specific challenges related to seeking out professional help through therapy or coaching
When to seek professional help vs. emotional support from your loved ones
Important differences between therapy and friendship
Clinician-approved methods for finding a therapist who’s a good fit for you and your needs
Cultural challenges to finding a therapist and starting treatment
Expert-approved ways to build out a reciprocal “helping network” with people you feel comfortable with

Resources:

Read Yael and Brad Stulberg’s Washington Post piece, Therapist or coach: Understanding the difference and how to pick one
Read Debbie’s Psyche article, How to ask for help
Check out Flynn and Lake’s research on asking for help
Read Zoe Chance’s Influence Is Your Superpower: The Science of Winning Hearts, Sparking Change, and Making Good Things Happen
Check out Dr. Jessi Gold’s article, Your Therapist Is Not Your Friend, Take It from a Psychiatrist
Check out Debbie, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more!

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251. Wonder with Frank Keil May 18, 2022

Richard Dawkins has been quoted as saying, “The feeling of awed wonder that science can give us is one of the highest experiences of which the human psyche is capable.” Many agree with him and have referred to wonder as the beginning of wisdom, the seed of science, and the basis of men’s desire to understand. When we are little, most of us are filled with wonder and experience it often. However, we tend to lose our sense of wonder as we age into adults. On today’s episode of POTC, Dr. Frank Keil, author of Wonder, talks with Jill about why it’s so important to encourage a sense of wonder in younger generations and reconnect with our own sense of wonder as well. Join us in this episode to break cycles of over-imitation, learn about important research on wonder and well-being, engage in deeper, more interesting conversations, and so much more, today!

Listen and Learn:

Jill and Yael discuss the difference between wonder and curiosity
Frank expertly defines wonder and provides some insight as to its history
The research-backed reasons why we lose our natural sense of wonder over time
Practical, evidence-based advice on fostering the continuance of wonder for your little ones
Negative consequences of losing your sense of wonder
The positive outcomes related to wondering with others
Over-imitating - what it is, how it works, and why we continue to do it
How wonder lends itself to compassion and understanding
Frank’s favorite findings from his research on wonder
Expert-approved strategies on reconnecting with your sense of wonder as an adult

Resources:

Read Frank’s books, Developmental Psychology: The Growth of Mind and Behavior and Wonder: Childhood and the Lifelong Love of Science!
Check out Chris Ferrie’s book, Quantum Physics for Babies
Read Richard Dawkins’ book, Unweaving the Rainbow: Science, Delusion and the Appetite for Wonder
Check out Debbie, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more!

About

Frank C. Keil is the Dilley Professor of Psychology, Linguistics, and Cognitive Science at Yale University. Much of his research involves asking how intuitive explanations and understandings emerge in development and how they function in adults. These topics are linked to broader questions of what concepts and explanations are, how they change with increasing expertise, how people understand the limits to their own knowledge and how they navigate the division of cognitive labor. Dr. Keil received a Ph.D. in Psychology from the University of Pennsylvania , a M.A. in Psychology from Stanford University, and a B.S. in Biology from MIT. He is the author of hundreds of articles and several books including Developmental Psychology: The Growth of Mind and Behavior, and most recently, Wonder: Childhood and the Lifelong Love of Science.

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250. Anxiety and Perfectionism with Clarissa Ong May 12, 2022

Many of us make use of control agendas and get caught up in managing our experiences to be exactly the way we want them. Sometimes this is a good, rewarding type of behavior, but more often than not, perfectionistic behavior can leave you feeling stuck in a cycle of failure. Dr. Clarissa Ong, author of The Anxious Perfectionist, is an expert in the intersection of anxiety and perfectionism. On this episode of POTC, she and Debbie discuss this intersection and explore practical strategies for overcoming problematic, perfectionistic tendencies. Join us in this episode for advice on moving from rigidity into flexibility, practical strategies for distinguishing between helpful and harmful perfectionism, and so much more!

Listen and Learn:

Debbie and Jill discuss the double-edged sword of perfectionism
Dr. Ong’s personal experiences with perfectionism
Practical strategies for distinguishing between helpful and harmful perfectionism
The different forms of perfectionism and how they may present themselves
The intersection between anxiety and perfectionism
Contexts that can nurture or contribute to a person’s perfectionistic tendencies
Evidence-based advice for parents who don’t want to water the seeds of perfectionism in their children
How perfectionism can be like playing a game
What you lose when you’re trapped by perfectionism
Expert-approved advice on moving from rigidity into flexibility around perfectionism (and on helping your friends and loved ones do so as well!)
Practical advice for incorporating a little self-kindness into behaviors governed by perfectionism

Resources:

Read Clarissa’s book, The Anxious Perfectionist!
Follow her on Twitter, @ongclarissaw!
Check out Debbie, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more!

About Clarissa Ong:

Clarissa W. Ong, PhD, is a postdoctoral associate at the Center for Anxiety and Related Disorders at Boston University. She received her doctoral degree in clinical/counseling psychology from Utah State University, and completed her clinical internship at McLean Hospital/Harvard Medical School. Her research interests include acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), process-based therapy, obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), hoarding disorder, and perfectionism. She has contributed to more than sixty peer-reviewed publications and a book. She has also received funding from the Association for Contextual Behavioral Science (ACBS). She and Dr. Michael Twohig recently published a self-help book on perfectionism, The Anxious Perfectionist.

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249. How to Be Single & Happy with Jenny Taitz May 04, 2022

In the past decade, online dating has become a multi-billion dollar industry with three in ten adults in the United States claiming to have ever used a dating app. But despite all this dating, experiences of loneliness are on the rise, and three out of five U.S. adults report lacking companionship or feeling left out or poorly understood. Dr. Jenny Taitz, author of How to be Single and Happy, is passionate about helping others live meaningful, value-based lives, regardless of their relationship status. On this episode of POTC, she and Yael discuss the central challenges faced by unhappily single people and evidence-based methods for overcoming them. Join us today for practical advice related to dealing with big emotions in dating, creating long-lasting relationships, dating throughout the life-span, and finding happiness no matter your relationship status! Listen and learn: Katy and Yael discuss living meaningfully even when dating and relationships feel imperfect Practical advice for those who are in an unhappy partnership or those who struggle with dating and finding a partner (regardless of your age, gender, or experiences!) Dr. Taitz’s personal experience of being unhappily single and her journey to write her book Taitz’s expert opinion on if you can be single (not by choice) and happy Expert-approved strategies the unhappily single can use to thrive Three central challenges faced by the unhappily single and evidence-based practices you can use to unhook yourself from themPractical strategies for helping those who feel shame and regret about dating experiences Dr. Taitz’s words of wisdom for staying hopeful when you’ve been on the dating scene for a long time Problematic emotions that can arise with dating struggles and how to respond to them Specific, expert-approved advice for dating when you want to have a child The problem of loneliness and how to manage it Dr. Taitz’s thoughts on dating apps, meeting people, and starting conversationsPractical advice on creating long lasting relationships How to live well, regardless of your relationship status Resources: Read Dr. Jenny’s books, End Emotional Eating and How to be Single and Happy!Check out Dr. Jenny’s website, and while you’re there, take advantage of her resources! Find Jenny's New York Times pieces here, here, and hereRead Daniel Pink’s book, The Power of Regret: How Looking Backward Moves Us Forward.Read Matt Haig’s book, The Midnight Library.Read Chris Wilson’s book, The Master Plan: My Journey from Life in Prison to a Life of Purpose. Check out Debbie, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more! About Jenny Taitz: Dr. Jenny Taitz, is board certified in cognitive behavioral therapy by the American Board of Professional Psychology and a Diplomate in the Academy of Cognitive Therapy. Dr. Taitz is one of the first psychologists to merit Linehan Board Certification in DBT. She is the founder of LA CBT DBT, a discrete, boutique, private therapy practice prioritizing compassionate, effective, and time-sensitive therapy. Dr. Taitz is grateful to offer secure telehealth appointments to clients residing in New York and California. In her work, she aims to coach her clients to achieve their life goals. Dr. Taitz practices the acceptance and values-based living she teaches and recently ran the LA Marathon (postpartum!) for suicide prevention. Additionally, Dr. Taitz serves as an Assistant Clinical Professor in the Department of Psychiatry at U.C.L.A. and her writing appears in numerous prominent publications including the New York Times and Wall Street Journal. Jenny is the author of End Emotional Eating: Using Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills to Cope with Difficult Emotions and Deve... Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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248. Let’s Talk About Sex & Intimacy with Zoë Kors Apr 27, 2022

It's hard to talk about intimacy and sex. Cultural norms around intimacy work their way into our minds when we’re young, causing us to have rigid (and often completely incorrect, unworkable, or dysfunctional) views about how we should express ourselves sexually. Zoë Kors, author of Radical Intimacy, is a sex and intimacy coach who is passionate about opening up this conversation to help people develop healthier sexuality and intimacy. On this episode of POTC, Yael and Zoë discuss the stigma and awkwardness we often feel around discussions about sex, Zoë’s Radical Intimacy model of sexual wellbeing, strategies for getting un-hooked from ideas about how you should be when it comes to sex and intimacy, and so much more. Join them for a conversation about sex and intimacy that can help you build towards greater fulfillment in your relationships! Listen and Learn: Yael and Debbie’s thoughts on our first episode on sex (and the stigma that prevented us from doing it earlier!)Expert-advice on how to start conversations with your partner or ask for help from a therapist or intimacy coach about sexZoë’s Radical Intimacy model of sexual wellbeingPractical advice for couples with mis-matched levels of comfort in different areas of intimacyImportant differences between desire and arousalZoë busts some common myths and misconceptions about intimacyAnswers to age-old questions about the importance of sex and interest in a relationshipEvidence-based advice on rekindling your sparkStrategies for getting un-hooked from ideas about how you should be when it comes to sex and intimacyThe role of power in intimacyHow to support vulnerable partners in feeling safe during intimate momentsEnergetic intimacy - what it is and why it’s so importantWhat it’s like for Zoë’s husband to live with a sex guru! Resources: Buy your copy of Zoë’s book, Radical Intimacy: Cultivate the Deeply Connected Relationships You Desire and Deserve!Read Zoë’s viral article, 6 Ways to Have Radically Intimate Sex.Listen to Zoë’s podcast, The Radical Intimacy Podcast!Learn more about Sensate Focus Therapy.Read Gary Chapman’s The 5 Love Languages.Esther Perel’s advice for turning a spark into a flame. Check out Debbie, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more! About Zoë Kors: Zoë Kors holds a BA in Art History from University of Pennsylvania. Her post graduate work includes certification as a Co-Active Coach with the prestigious Co-Active Training Institute in San Rafael, CA, as well as dozens of programs and courses in sexuality and spirituality. She is the resident sex and intimacy coach and contributor at sexual wellness app Coral. Zoë is the former Senior Editor and Creative Director of LA Yoga Magazine and is a contributor to Elephant Journal, MindBodyGreen, Avocado Green Mattress and Fabletics blogs. In addition to a thriving private practice, Zoë offers her services through Center for Relational Healing, which specializes in the treatment of sex addiction and betrayal trauma. As a member of the CRH team, Zoë works with clients to reintroduce healthy sexuality and intimacy after the trauma of betrayal. Make sure to read her book, Radical Intimacy: Cultivate the Deeply Connected Relationships You Desire and Deserve! Related Episodes: Episode 32. Social Connection: Exploring Loneliness and Building Intimacy with Debbie and Diana Episode 61. Becoming Our Best Relationship Selves By Identifying Core Values And Schemas With Avigail LevEpisode 76. Gender and Sexual Minorities with Aisling Leonard-Curtin and Matthew SkintaEpisode 92. Marriage in Midlife: The Rough Patch with Daphne de MarneffeEpisode 179. How to Be An Adult in Relationships with Dave ... Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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247. Find Your Unicorn Space with Eve Rodsky Apr 21, 2022

In this psychology podcast, Jill interviews Eve Rodsky about carving out creative time separate from being in the roles of parent, partner, and professional Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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246. Burnout and Boundaries with Tammie Chang Apr 13, 2022

Physician Tammie Chang talks to us about burnout prevention and setting boundaries. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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245. Family Firm with Emily Oster Apr 06, 2022

Dr. Emily Oster, author of The Family Firm, Expecting Better and Cribsheet, has dedicated her career to discovering the hard, data-backed truths about parenting strategies. In this episode of POTC, she delivers some of those parenting truths to you. Emily then delights Yael by going beyond the world of data-driven parenting to discuss how to ask good questions in complicated parts of life (and how to answer them!). Emily also shares tools for gathering good information from the media—even if you aren't someone with a science background. Join the conversation as Yael and Emily discuss The Family Firm and making wise choices within very complicated life roles. Listen and Learn: Yael and Jill discuss strategies to approaching thorny parenting decisionsDifferences between parenting in early versus middle years of childhoodThe benefits to thinking about family, co-parenting, and marriage as a firmHow Emily’s family has applied this data to their personal lives (and her family’s mission statement!)Practical advice for staying engaged as a parent while maintaining a demanding careerThe importance of framing good questions and evidence-based strategies for doing soThe Family Firm approach to making decisions: The Four F’sWhat the data says about social pressure and extracurricularsConsideration of how scientists should be interacting with systems outside of science Emily’s personal experience with being outspoken about data with people who have strong feelings otherwiseHow those interested in evidence can interact with media in ways that are less biasedThe inside scoop on Emily’s data-driven newsletter Resources: Pick up your copy of Emily’s book, The Family Firm: A Data-Driven Guide to Better Decision Making in the Early School Years!Sign up for Emily’s newsletter, Parent Data.Check out this article on AlloparentingLearn about the Sunk Cost Fallacy. Read Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother by Amy Chua Check out Debbie, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more! About Emily Oster: Emily Oster, PhD, is a Professor of Economics at Brown University and the author of Expecting Better, Cribsheet, and The Family Firm. She holds a PhD in Economics from Harvard. Prior to being at Brown she was on the faculty at the University of Chicago Booth School of Business. Oster’s academic work focuses on health economics and statistical methods. She is interested in understanding why consumers do not always make “rational” health choices — why do people not eat a fully healthy diet, or pursue all recommended preventative health behaviors? Her work also concerns methods for learning causal effects from observational data. Sign up for her newsletter and check out her website for all the most recent updates on data related to pregnancy and parenting! Related Episodes: Episode 33. Couples with Young Children: Relationship Challenges and Strategies with Yael SchonbrunEpisode 86. Mom Brain with Ilyse Dobrow DiMarcoEpisode 87. Cribsheet with Emily OsterEpisode 143. Happier Parenting KJ Dell’AntoniaEpisode 149. How Not Lose It with Your Kids with Carla NaumburgEpisode 200. Growing Grit with Angela DuckworthEpisode 214. How to Raise Kids Who Aren’t Jerks with Melinda Wenner MoyerEpisode 223. Mom Brain Returns with Ilyse Dobrow DiMarcoEpisode 235. The Urge: The Shaping of Addiction & Mental Health with Carl Erik Fisher Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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244. What You Feel Is Not All There Is with Aprilia West Mar 30, 2022

Dr. Aprilia West shares how to respond to respond to emotions effectively and become boss-level choice maker! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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243. Motivation to Get it Done with Ayelet Fishbach Mar 23, 2022

Learn about the science of goal setting, building motivation, and how to get things done in this conversation with Dr. Ayelet Fishbach. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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242. Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management with Oliver Burkeman Mar 16, 2022

Join this meaningful conversation with Oliver Burkeman about how to make the most of your time in the roughly 4,000 weeks you'll live! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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241. Emotion Coaching Skills for Families with Mindy Solomon (EFFT Part 2 of 2) Mar 09, 2022

We continue the conversation on Emotion-Focused Family Therapy (EFFT) with Dr. Mindy Solomon on Emotion Coaching Skills. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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240. Talking to Kids and Teens with Big Feelings with Adele LaFrance (EFFT Part 1 of 2) Mar 02, 2022

Dr. Adele LaFrance shares skills from Emotion-Focused Family Therapy (EFFT) to help parents and caregivers handle big emotions effectively. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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239. Edit Your Story, Change Your Life with Lori Gottlieb Feb 24, 2022

An interview with best selling author, Lori Gottlieb, about how to edit our unhelpful narratives so we may grow in our relationships, lives, and well being. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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238. Values During Times of Transition (with Us) Feb 17, 2022

Jill, Yael, and Debbie talk all about values! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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237. Farewell to Diana Hill: Appreciations, Regrets and Hopes Feb 10, 2022

In this episode, Diana Hill and Debbie Sorensen bring it back full circle to chatting over coffee about their time together as friends, co-authors and co-hosts. Listen in to learn how they continue to apply ACT strategies to their lives and where Diana Hill is headed on her new podcast Your Life in Process. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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236. Mental Health and Flourishing with Margaret Chisolm Feb 02, 2022

Dr. Margaret Chisolm, professor of psychiatry at Johns Hopkins, talks with us about mental illness, stigma, and pathways to flourishing. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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235. The Urge: The Shaping of Addiction & Mental Health with Carl Erik Fisher Jan 26, 2022

According to the National Center for Drug Abuse Statistics, since 2000, the United States has experienced over 700,000 deaths due to drug overdose. Addiction and substance use disorders are at the root of this enormous loss, and about half of people who struggle with substance use disorder will experience some mental health disorder during their life. And vice versa—many individuals struggling with mental health disorders also struggle with various forms of addiction. Carl Erik Fisher, author of The Urge: Our History of Addiction, has expertise in law, ethics, and policy related to psychiatry and neuroscience. His personal struggle with addiction in combination with his professional expertise converges to help us understand the forces that have shaped addiction throughout our history. On this episode of POTC, Carl and Yael discuss the social contingencies and historical contexts that lead to addiction, substance use disorder, and co-morbid mental health issues. Join us in this episode to learn more about commonly held beliefs about addiction, prescribers’ blind spots to certain medications, and much much more! Listen and Learn: Yael and Debbie discuss the importance of contextualizing human behaviorHow society tends to neglect the historical context of addictive behaviors (and why it’s so important to overcome this neglect)The issues that come with treating addiction differently than other mental health disordersPractical advice for clinicians and patients working with co-morbid addiction and other mental health disordersCarl provides insights on how addiction has been weaponized to serve corporations and politiciansAn important, historical example of what happens when scientists and researchers rigidly adopt a particular view (read: biases) but find information that conflicts with that viewThe expert-approved definition of harm reductionCarl answers commonly held beliefs about addiction (e.g., is addiction a brain disease?)How Carl, a practicing psychiatrist with an in-depth knowledge of the history of addiction and mental health, approaches prescription by balancing values, change, and harm reduction Things consumers should know about prescribers’ blind spots to certain medicationsCarl’s personal story of addiction and recoveryWhat to consider when balancing evidence- and RCT-based treatments with clients’ individuality and choicesPractical advice for helping those who are in denial of their substance abuse problem Resources: Read Carl’s book, The Urge: Our History of Addiction! Check out Carl's recent New York Times piece, Why It's misleading to call addiction a diseaseListen to Carl’s podcast, Flourishing After Addiction! Read RAND reports on drug policy research, prescription drug abuse, and substance abuseGrab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych.Check out Debbie, Jill’s, Yael, and Diana, websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more! About Carl Erik Fisher: Carl Erik Fisher (USA), psychiatrist and author of The Urge: A History of Addiction, New York, May 24, 2021. Photograph © Beowulf Sheehan Carl Erik Fisher, M.D., is an addiction psychiatrist, bioethics scholar, and author of The Urge: Our History of Addiction. He is an assistant professor of clinical psychiatry at Columbia University, where he studies and teaches law, ethics, and policy relating to psychiatry and neuroscience. He received his B.A. in Music (vocal performance) and Biology from the University of North Carolina, his M.D. from the Columbia University College of Physicians and Surgeons, and completed psychiatric residency at Columbia University. He then completed fellowship training in forensic psychiatry in the Columbia/Cornell Residency in ... Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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234. The Power of Us with Dominic Packer Jan 19, 2022

Dominic Packer talks with Jill about the power of shared identity to impact human thought, feeling, and behavior. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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233. Dopamine Nation with Anna Lembke Jan 12, 2022

In this episode, Dr. Lembke and Diana redefine addiction, discuss its consequences, and provide practical advice on addressing it in all its forms. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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232. Grounded to Soar Into 2022 with Brad Stulberg Jan 05, 2022

As we venture into the New Year, many of us are striving to reach new goals and maintain resolutions. It's easy to default to focusing solely on succeeding or attaining those goals, striving to feel the “high” that accompanies that success. But this kind of approach can unwittingly interfere with healthy and sustainable success. Brad Stulberg, author of The Practice of Groundedness, has dedicated his career to understanding and fostering a healthier, more sustainable model of success. An expert in organizational behavior and public health, Brad suggests that constantly striving for and focusing on reaching the peak is neither a healthy nor sustainable way to actually reach it. In this episode of POTC, Brad and Yael discuss healthier methods of feeling the “highs” that accompany success. Listen in to this episode where we redefine “peak performance”, get in touch with your “lows”, and discover tip that work to remain grounded as you journey towards success in 2022 and beyond! Listen and Learn: Yael and Diana discuss groundedness and striving The mental health journey Brad endured while writing his booksBrad’s expert definitions of groundedness and successThe core values guiding Brad’s workHow principles from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy can help you engage in more grounded behaviorPractical advice for developing a healthy association with your ego (even in harsh or toxic environments)The relationships between non-duality and groundednessImportant differences between vulnerability and performative vulnerability in social media and digital spacesExpert-approved tips for building nurturing communities that foster ongoing health and sustainability, accessing alone time, and balancing the twoBrad’s personal experience with groundedness and fatherhood Resources: Read Brad’s books, The Practice of Groundedness: A Transformative Path to Success That Feeds--Not Crushes--Your Soul and Peak Performance: Elevate Your Game, Avoid Burnout, and Thrive with the New Science of Success! Check out Brad’s coaching practice and online platform, The Growth Equation, dedicated to defining and attaining a more fulfilling and sustainable kind of successRead this New York Times article discussing social media following and book salesBrad's article from Outside Magazine that shares his personal story with how a stress expert manages mental illness Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych.Check out Debbie, Diana, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more! About Brad Stulberg: Brad Stulberg received his undergraduate (organizational behavior) and graduate (public health) degrees from the University of Michigan. He is an avid strength trainer, reader, and outdoor enthusiast and does almost all of his best thinking in the gym, while reading, or on the trail. Brad’s books are The Practice of Groundedness and Peak Performance. They have sold more than 250,000 copies and have been translated into more than 20 languages. His work has appeared in The New York Times, Wall Street Journal, Washington Post, Los Angeles Times, Wired, New Yorker, Forbes, GQ, Time, and more. He is also a contributing editor at Outside Magazine, where he writes a regular column on the science and art of sustainable success. In his coaching practice he works with executives, entrepreneurs, physicians, and athletes on their performance and overall well-being. He is also co-creator of The Growth Equation, an online platform dedicated to defining and attaining a more fulfilling and sustainable kind of success. Related Episodes: Episode 102. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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231. Eating Skills and Emotional Eating with Josh Hillis Dec 29, 2021

Ring in the new year by learning about flexible eating skills with fitness expert Josh Hillis! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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230. The Laziness Lie with Devon Price Dec 22, 2021

Dr. Devon Price, author of Laziness Does Not Exist, talks about the "laziness lie," where it came from, and why it can be harmful to our wellbeing. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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229. Teaching Kids to Bounce with Alice Kearney Dec 15, 2021

Alice Kearney joins Jill for a discussion about teaching kids to build resilience in a challenging world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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228. Heart Medicine with Radhule Weininger Dec 08, 2021

Radhule Weininger and Diana discuss how and why we engage in painful patterns, how to transform them, and how to use mindfulness and psychology to find freedom today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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227. The Science of Happy with Sonja Lyubomirsky Dec 02, 2021

Most people would agree that happiness is one of the most salient and significant dimensions of human experience. After all, wouldn't we all like to be happy? But what exactly is happiness? And how do we get more of it? Sonja Lyubomirsky, Ph.D., has dedicated her career to studying human happiness, and on this episode of POTC, she joins Yael to answer this question and more! Join us in this episode to learn the empowering practice of cultivating your own happiness through practical, evidence-based strategies today! Listen and Learn: The evidence-based strategies Yael and Diana use to foster happiness in their livesSonja expertly breaks down what different studies are telling us about predicting and maintaining happinessSonja’s goals for your happiness and how she can help you build those through evidence-based strategies and practicesThe empowering practice of cultivating your own happinessHedonic adaptation and how it fits into the scientific art of cultivating happinessPractical advice for taking charge of your own happiness right now!Fostering happiness in the presence of positive and negative memories and experiencesWhich happiness-building activities work better for specific dispositions and temperamentsThe erroneous beliefs and myths about what makes us happy or unhappy Resources: Read Sonja’s books, The How of Happiness: A New Approach to Getting the Life You Want and The Myths of Happiness: What Should Make You Happy, But Doesn't, What Shouldn't Make You Happy, But DoesLearn more about Barbara Fredrickson Read Danny Kahneman’s study on parenting and happiness Paul Bloom's recent Atlantic piece on parenting and happinessGrab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych.Check out Debbie, Diana, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more! About Sonja Lyubomirsky: Sonja Lyubomirsky, Ph.D., is a Distinguished Professor and the Vice Chair of the Department of Psychology at the University of California where she currently runs the Positive Activities & Well-Being Lab. She earned both her A.B. in Psychology and her Ph.D. in Social Psychology from Stanford University. She has dedicated her career to studying human happiness, focusing on three main questions: 1) What makes people happy? 2) Is happiness a good thing, and 3) How and why can people learn to lead happier, more flourishing lives? Sonja has published numerous studies and made multiple media appearances exploring and discussing the answers to these questions. She has also published multiple books about happiness including The How of Happiness: A New Approach to Getting the Life You Want and her most recent work, The Myths of Happiness: What Should Make You Happy, But Doesn't, What Shouldn't Make You Happy, But Does. Learn more about Sonja at her website, sonjalyuobmirsky.com! Related Episodes: Episode 2. Hygge – Happiness and the Danish Art of Cozy Connection Episode 48. Practical Wisdom with Barry SchwartzEpisode 97. The New Happiness with Matthew McKayEpisode 116. Building a Meaningful, Values-based Life with Jenna LeJeune Episode 180. Choosing to Live Your Values with Benji SchoendorffEpisode 192. Happier with Tal Ben-ShaharEpisode 224. The Sweet Spot with Paul Bloom Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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226. ACT for Perfectionism with Jennifer Kemp Nov 24, 2021

Tired of the pressure to be perfect? Learn all about perfectionism with Jennifer Kemp, author of the ACT Workbook for Perfectionism! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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225. Psychedelics with Brian Pilecki and Nathan Gates Nov 17, 2021

A psychology podcast about the use of psychedelic drugs in psychotherapy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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224. The Sweet Spot with Paul Bloom Nov 10, 2021

Paul Bloom and Diana discuss the pleasures of suffering and the intersection of meaning and pain. Learn about why humans so frequently choose pain and how suffering and meaning are connected. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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223. Mom Brain Returns with Ilyse Dobrow DiMarco Nov 03, 2021

Moms are frequently expected to wear many hats. While juggling the numerous responsibilities, mothers must also deal with the cognitive overload many refer to as “Mom Brain”. Ilyse Dobrow DiMarco, Ph.D., author of Mom Brain, is a clinical psychologist specializing in working with moms struggling with the overwhelm that comes with parenting young children. On this episode of POTC, Yael and Ilyse discuss evidence-based strategies mothers can use to overcome some of the innumerable challenges of parenthood. Listen in today for expert-approved strategies to managing feelings of overwhelm, clarifying your newfound values as a parent, and much, much more! Listen and Learn: Yael and Debbie’s personal experiences using their values and evidence-based strategies to juggle the different stressors that come with parentingWhy Ilyse’s book focuses on exclusively on momsIlyse’s response to criticisms about focusing on the individual, working parent rather than society at largeAn evidence-based, expert approved definition of mom-brainTips and tricks (read: evidence-based behavioral strategies) for managing when you’re feeling tired and overwhelmedRecommendations for clarifying your values as they change throughout parenthood Expert-approved strategies for approaching difficult conversations with your partnerHow to distinguish between the “big stuff” and the “small stuff” when it comes to disagreements with your partner Resources: Buy Dr. DiMarco’s book, Mom Brain: Proven Strategies to Fight the Anxiety, Guilt, and Overwhelming Emotions of Motherhood--And Relax Into Your New Self Read Dr. DiMarco’s blog! Everything you need to know about The Gottman InstituteLearn about the DEAR MAN strategy The Bullseye worksheet for clarifying valuesGrab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych.Check out Debbie, Diana, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more! About Ilyse Dobrow DiMarco: Ilyse Dobrow DiMarco, Ph.D., is a Clinical Psychologist specializing in working with stressed moms. She received her B.A. from Yale University and her Ph.D. from Rutgers University. She has received extensive training in cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) and is a Diplomate of the Academy of Cognitive Therapy. As Dr. DiMarco navigated her own personal parenting journey and worked with other moms in her practice, it occurred to her that she had the tools—cognitive-behavioral therapy strategies—to help herself and other moms face the everyday challenges of motherhood. She also came to understand that moms often won’t make time to see a therapist, but will make time to read their favorite mom blog on their phone. So she decided to create DrCBTMom.com, a site combining the expert advice of a CBT self-help book with the warmth and readability of a mommy blog. Since starting the blog, she has written a book, Mom Brain and other, shorter pieces for numerous publications (including The Washington Post, Parents.com, Today Parents, Motherwell, Scary Mommy, Psychology Today, The Week, and Motherly). Check out her work for strategies for managing all kinds of motherhood stresses, from how to cope when you feel like a hot mess to how to cope with your neighborhood “hot moms;” from dealing with pressure from overzealous PTA reps to dealing with pressure from meddling in-laws, and much more! Follow her on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. Related Episodes: Episode 33. Couples with Young Children: Relationship Challenges and Strategies with Yael SchonbrunEpisode 86. Mom Brain with Ilyse Dobrow DiMarco Episode 87. Cribsheet with Emily OsterEpisode 137. The Complexities of Motherhood with Daphne de MarneffeEpisode 149. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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222. Living With Food Allergies with Tamara Hubbard Oct 27, 2021

On this psychology podcast, learn how to thrive living with food allergies or supporting a loved one with food allergy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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221. Birth Trauma with Jan Smith Oct 20, 2021

Birth trauma and maternity care expert Dr. Jan Smith shares about the psychological impact of traumatic birth experiences. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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220. Our Stories of Infertility and Pregnancy Loss with Diana Hill, Alexis Bachik, and Anne Cushman Oct 14, 2021

Co-host Diana Hill shares her story of stillbirth and how she grappled with applying the processes of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy to her own loss. Alexis Bachik, a professor of positive psychology, shares how hard it was to stay positive in the face of years of exhausting and devastating infertility treatments. Anne Cushman reads from her powerful memoir about love and loss in motherhood. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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219. Strategies for Infertility and Pregnancy Loss with Sunita Osborn Oct 13, 2021

Diana Hill talks with Sunita Osborn, a clinical psychologist and expert in reproductive trauma about strategies to navigate the loss and unpredictability of infertility, miscarriage and stillbirth. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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218. Off the Clock with Us Oct 06, 2021

If you’re a frequent listener of the show, you may wonder what makes this team tick? Behind the scenes, we are a team that spans 5 time zones, two countries, 6 states, and lots of interests. Join us in a special episode celebrating our off-mic team members, 1.5 million downloads, and discussing what we are up to and what matters most to us. Listen and Learn: What the team is really like behind the scenesWhat the team looks for in a good podcast episodeWhat the team is readingThe different ways co-hosts prepare for interviewsHow each time member would spend their days if they knew they were the last! Resources & Recommendations: Yael’s recommendations: Tinker, Tailor, Soldier, Spy: A George Smiley Novel, I Feel Bad About My Neck: And Other Thoughts on Being a Woman, Winnie-The-Pooh, Part of Your World: A Twisted Tale, The Paradox of Choice: Why More Is Less, Paradox of Choice by Barry Schwartz TEDx TalkKaty’s book recommendations: We Were Never Here, Reese’s Book Club Picks, The Paper Palace, Be Mighty: A Women’s Guide to Liberation from Anxiety, Worry, and Stress Using Mindfulness and Acceptance, Written Exposure Therapy for PTSD: A Brief Treatment Approach for Mental Health Professionals, The Boy, the Mole, the Fox, and the Horse Diana’s book recommendations: Harry Potter Illustrated, Home Body, Never Good Enough, episode with Stephen PorgesDebbie’s book recommendations: “heavy” fiction book (part of Hillary Mantel’s series about Thomas Cromwell), The Mirror and the Light Michael’s recommendations: ACT On Your Business, Stephen King books, Terry Pratchett Discworld novels, Unwinding Anxiety, Man’s Search for Meaning.Attend Diana’s Values-Rich Living Retreat and her free online summit From Striving to Thriving (coming up October 15th and stream anytime after release date)Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych.Check out Debbie, Diana, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more! About Our Team Diana Hill, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist and co-author of ACT Daily Journal: Get unstuck and live fully with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. She offers regular teachings in compassion and ACT through Insight LA , Mindful Heart Programs and her blog on Psychology Today Through her online teachings, executive coaching, clinical supervision, and private therapy practice Diana encourages clients to build psychological flexibility so that they can live more meaningful and fulfilling lives. Diana practices what she preaches in her daily life as a mom of two, homesteader, and yoga teacher. Learn more about her latest offerings here and follow her on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter to get tools to build psychological flexibility into your daily life. Dr. Debbie Sorensen is a clinical psychologist with a Ph.D. in Psychology from Harvard University and a bachelor’s degree in Psychology and Anthropology from the University of Colorado, Boulder. She works with adults in her private practice in Denver, Colorado, and is a part-time clinical research psychologist at the Rocky Mountain Regional VA Medical Center. She is a co-host of the Psychologists Off the Clock podcast, and has co-authored the book ACT Daily Journal: Get Unstuck and Live Fully with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. She loves living in her home state of Colorado with her husband, two daughters, and dog, and getting outdoors in the beautiful Rocky Mountains. Dr. Yael Schonbrun is a licensed clinical psychologist who wears a number of professional hats: she a small private practice specializing in evidence-based relationship therapy, she’s an assistant professor at Brown University, Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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217. Redefining Rich with Shannon Hayes Sep 29, 2021

We haven't spent much energy discussing money on POTC, yet richness in all its forms is a dominant force in our modern well-being. Not surprisingly, richness serves many functions. At its best, wealth-growing can be incredibly rewarding and lend itself to an enriched quality of life. But there's another side to wealth. Striving for richness can hook you into an unsustainable cycle of overwork, unfulfilled desire, stagnation, and even persistent unhappiness. Shannon Hayes, Ph.D., author of Redefining Rich, is a sustainable farmer, entrepreneur, cafe owner, and the Chef and CEO of Sap Bush Hollow Farm, LLC. She has spent her career researching (and growing her own) sustainable wealth. In this episode of POTC, Shannon and Yael discuss the importance of balancing your practical and psychological desires and relationship with wealth. Listen in today to learn how to redefine rich for yourself. Listen and Learn: Yael and Diana dig into the research behind dimensions of psychological wealth and predictors of happinessHow the work of Alex Pang impacted Shannon’s philosophical stanceFlexible ways to approach wealth in order to foster sustainability both personally and globallyShannon explains Money Paradox and why it’s integral in redefining richness for yourselfYael’s expert application of ACT to getting “unhooked” from unhelpful, traditional views of wealthThe strategic balance of meeting both your practical and psychological needs that leads to a deeply enriched lifeHow Shannon uses napping, rest, and boundaries to enrich her quality of life and grow sustainable wealthPractical advice for saying “no” (even when feelings of guilt show up!)The role of diversification in defining and redefining wealth and in supporting ongoing richness throughout your life Resources: Buy Shannon’s book, Redefining Rich: Achieving True Wealth with Small Business, Side Hustles, and Smart Living!Listen, rate, review, and subscribe to Shannon’s podcast, The Heart of Sap Bush Hollow.Check out Shannon’s weekly essays on her blog, and support her research by visiting her Patreon.Read the research behind becoming Psychologically Rich.Antifragile, by Nassim Nicholas Taleb Rest, by Alex PangThe Power of a Positive No, by William UryAttend Diana’s Values-Rich Living Retreat and her free online summit (coming up October 15th) where you’ll learn how to go from striving to thriving! Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych.Check out Debbie, Diana, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more! About Shannon Hayes: Shannon Hayes is a sustainable farmer, entrepreneur, cafe owner, and the Chef and CEO of Sap Bush Hollow Farm, LLC. She holds a Ph.D. in sustainable agriculture and community development from Cornell University and a bachelor’s in creative writing from Binghamton University. Shannon is the host of The Heart of Sap Bush Hollow podcast and the author of several books. Her work is frequently used in college classrooms and has been featured on national television as well as in the New York Times, New York Times Magazine, Brain, Child magazine, U.S. News and World Report, the Atlantic, National Public Radio, Grit magazine, YES! magazine, Elle magazine, JUNO magazine, and many national newspapers across the globe. Shannon also speaks nationally, teaching about sustainable business and inspiring rural and urban families alike to live creative lives in harmony with community and planet. Learn more about Shannon by visiting her website, http://theradicalhomemaker.net, and make sure to buy her latest book, Redefining Rich! Related Episodes: Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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216. Managing Anger and Irritability, Featuring Russell Kolts Sep 23, 2021

Anger and irritability are running high, and we're here to help! Learn strategies for managing anger, and listen to Dr. Russell Kolts talk about compassion and anger. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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215. How to Change with Katy Milkman Sep 15, 2021

Behavioral Scientist Katy Milkman provides evidence backed strategies for initiating and maintaining behavioral change. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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214. How to Raise Kids Who Aren’t Jerks with Melinda Wenner Moyer Sep 08, 2021

Worried your kid is an asshole? Or that he or she is well on the road to becoming an asshole? You're not alone. Bad behavior (read: assholery) is no fun to be around, let alone to parent around. In this episode of POTC, Yael and Melinda Wenner Moyer, author of How to Raise Kids Who Aren't Assholes, discuss what kinds of behavior to be concerned about, the risk factors for assholery, and evidence-based practices for intervening with asshole behavior. Listen in to this episode for practical advice on identifying the function of asshole behavior, instilling theory of mind, setting the stage for empathy, responding to sibling rivalry, and much more! Listen and Learn: Yael and Jill’s personal experiences and struggles raising kids in a world of too much parenting adviceThe conflicting responses to Melinda’s book’s titleA science-based explanation of why kids act like assholes Melinda’s personal experience managing parenting and work (and practical advice on how you can too)Expert-approved recommendations for teaching kids to take responsibility for their behaviorPractical advice for teaching kids to consider others’ perspectives and how their own behavior impacts othersMelinda explains growth mindset, fixed mindset, how the two differ, and why they’re important for your child’s developmentPractical advice for utilizing rewards without fostering assholeryWhat the science says is an effective approach to curbing sibling fightsHow to approach kid screen time with younger kids and teensHow to know when assholery is code for needing additional support from a parent or an expert (like a psychologist)And much, much more! Resources: Melinda’s book, How to Raise Kids Who Aren't Assholes: Science-Based Strategies for Better Parenting--From Tots to Teens!Check out Anders Ericcson’s and Robert Pool’s Peak: Secrets from the New Science of Expertise Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych.Check out Debbie, Diana, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more! About Melinda Wenner Moyer: Melinda Wenner Moyer has a master’s in Science, Health & Environmental Reporting from NYU and a background in cell and molecular biology. She is a contributing editor at Scientific Americanmagazine and a regular contributor to The New York Times, Washington Post, and other national magazines and newspapers. She is a faculty member in the Science, Health & Environmental Reporting program at NYU’s Arthur L. Carter Journalism Institute. Melinda was the recipient of the 2019 Bricker Award for Science Writing in Medicine, and her work was featured in the 2020 Best American Science and Nature Writing anthology. Buy Melinda’s most recent book, How to Raise Kids Who Aren't Assholes: Science-Based Strategies for Better Parenting--From Tots to Teens! Keep up-to-date with Melinda’s work by subscribing to her newsletter, here! Related Episodes: Episode 58. Balancing the Big Stuff with Miriam Liss and Holly Schiffrin Episode 83. The Tao of Work and Family Balance with Tod Perry and Carl TottonEpisode 113. Self-Compassion for Parents with Susan PollakEpisode 123. Tantrum Survival Guide with Rebecca Schrag HershbergEpisode 149. How Not to Lose it With Your Kids with Carla NaumbergEpisode 166. How to Manage Multiple Life Roles Skillfully with Sarah ArgenalEpisode 187. Raising a Child with ADHD, with Russell Barkley Episode 200. Growing Grit with Angela Duckworth Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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213. Back To School! How To Talk With Kids To Build Motivation, Stress Tolerance and A Happy Home with Dr. William Stixrud and Ned Johnson Sep 01, 2021

Parenting and education experts, Dr. William Stixrud and Ned Johnson, discuss how to talk with kids about anxiety, stress, motivation and technology. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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212. Stuff That’s Loud: OCD and Anxiety with Lisa Coyne and Ben Sedley Aug 25, 2021

OCD and Anxiety experts Dr. Lisa Coyne and Dr. Ben Sedley talk about ideas from their book, Stuff That's Loud: A Teen's Guide to Unspiraling When OCD Gets Noisy! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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211. Subtract with Leidy Klotz Aug 18, 2021

At the beginning of Dr. Seuss’s The Lorax, the Once-ler says, “I meant no harm. I most truly did not. But I had to grow bigger. So bigger I got.” Biggering, it turns out, is the default setting for most of us. For years, Leidy Klotz, author of Subtract: The Untapped Science of Less, has studied how we transform things from how they are to how we want them to be. Both his research and the Once-ler’s tale relay similar sentiments: we gravitate towards adding and systematically neglect subtracting. This remains true even when subtracting might add considerable value to our lives! On this episode of POTC, Yael and Leidy discuss the science supporting addition by subtraction. Listen to this episode today to learn how to be deliberate in your choices, subtract what’s no longer serving you, and add value to your life in the process! Listen and Learn: Yael and Diana discuss the role of values and subtraction in their personal lives The values reinforcing Leidy’s life journey to “less”The important distinction between “less” and “subtraction”What happens to subtraction options when we're under pressureWhy we tend to add when subtracting is the better optionPractical advice for being more deliberate in your choices Important differences between saying “no” and subtractingThe story behind Leidy’s interdisciplinary approach to behavioral scienceEvidence based advice for subtracting in your personal lifeHow to be more deliberate about making subtractive changes at a global level Resources: Buy Leidy’s book, Subtract: The Untapped Science of LessCheck out Leidy's experimental findings in his Nature paper, "People systematically overlook subtractive changes."Learn more about the KonMari Method Check out Dr. Seuss's book, The Lorax Attend Diana’s Values-Rich Living Retreat! Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych.Find out more from the co-hosts, Debbie, Diana, Yael, and Jill’s by heading to their websites where you'll get access to their offerings, can sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more! About Leidy Klotz Leidy Klotz, PhD, studies how we transform things from how they are to how we want them to be. His research on the science of design has appeared in both Nature and Science, and he has written for The Washington Post, Fast Company, LitHub, The Globe and Mail, and The Behavioral Scientist. Leidy’s work applies whenever we are designing and problem-solving, whether for climate change, art, parenting, or personal finance. The range of implications of Leidy’s research have been highlighted in outlets including The Wall Street Journal, Grist, The Boston Globe, and national newspapers on five continents. A professor at the University of Virginia, Leidy has authored more than 80 original research articles and secured more than $10 million dollars in competitive funding to support his and others’ work in this area. Recognized nationally as a professor who inspires, Leidy has taught thousands of students, including 21 Ph.D. advisees, whose designing and teaching shapes the world. Before becoming a professor, Leidy designed schools in New Jersey and before that he played professional soccer. Buy his latest book, Subtract: The Untapped Science of Less, and follow him on Twitter @Leidyklotz! Related Podcast Episodes: Episode 45. Rest with Alex PangEpisode 73. Essentialism with Greg McKeownEpisode 99. Make the Most of Your Time with Laura VanderkamEpisode 130. Working Less with Alex PangEpisode 182. Do More With Less: How to Stretch in Work and Life with Scott Sonenshein Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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210. Strategies for Becoming Safely Embodied with Deirdre Fay Aug 11, 2021

In recent years, mindfulness has become a buzzword in Western culture. A recent study by the CDC found that mindfulness was the fastest growing trend in complementary healthcare, and more than merely a buzzword, mindfulness is currently a multibillion dollar industry. Deirdre Fay, author of Becoming Safely Embodied, has dedicated her career to exploring the intersection of trauma, attachment, and yoga and meditation. In this episode of POTC, Diana and Deirdre discuss her radically positive approach to healing trauma and provide practical strategies for becoming safely embodied. Join us in this episode for real-time yoga practices, evidence-based mindfulness skills, and more! Listen and Learn: Diana and Debbie discuss different approaches to connecting to our bodies and emotionsDeirdre’s personal experience becoming safely embodied and expert definition of what that meansThe evidence-based skills involved in Deirdre’s skills-based approach to embodiment How Deirdre cultivates a sense of belonging (and why this is so important!)Seven fundamental attachment needs and practical advice on fulfilling themReal-time yoga practices to become more safely embodiedThe evidence behind physicalizationDiana and Deirdre’s experiences integrating practice into their personal livesMindfulness, the risks involved, and how to mediate them Resources: Grab a copy of Deirdre’s books, Becoming Safely Embodied, Attachment-Based Yoga, & Meditation for Trauma RecoveryAttend Diana’s Values-Rich Living Retreat! Attend Diana’s Weekly, FREE, Live Online Talk and Meditation Read Breath: The New Science of a Lost Art by James NesterGrab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych.Check out Debbie, Diana, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more! About Deirdre Fay: Deirdre Fay Deirdre Fay, MSW, has decades of experience exploring the intersection of trauma, attachment, yoga and meditation, and teaches “a radically positive approach to healing trauma”. Deirdre’s most recent book, Becoming Safely Embodied became a best-seller before it was published. It’s based on the BSE groups she started in 1996 and continues to lead online. She is also the author of Attachment-Based Yoga & Meditation for Trauma Recovery, co-author of Attachment Disturbances for Adults, as well as the co-author of chapters in Neurobiological Treatments of Traumatic Dissociation. A former supervisor at The Trauma Center, Sensorimotor Psychotherapy Institute trainer from 2000–2008, certified in Internal Family Therapy, qualified trainer in Mindful Self-Compassion, former board member of the New England Society for the Study of Trauma and Dissociation, and trained in Self-Awakening Yoga and LifeForce Yoga, Deirdre is a respected international teacher and mentor for working safely with the body. She currently resides in France. Related Episodes: Episode 53. Yoga For Trauma With Deirdre FayEpisode 129. Yoga for All and Body Kindness with Jennifer WebbEpisode 15 (Part 1) and Episode 16 (Part 2) of Embodiment Episode 37. Post-Traumatic Growth with Diana and Debbie Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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209. The Art of Managing Pressure with Hank Weisinger Aug 04, 2021

The Olympic Games provide excellent examples of people under pressure. This pressure has led to some inspiring wins, and one can only imagine the pride parents of Olympic medalists must have when watching their child succeed. However, pressure can also negatively impact one’s performance - leading to disappointment, anxiety, and hopelessness. In this episode of POTC, Yael and Dr. Hank Weisinger, author of The Unlikely Art of Parental Pressure, discuss how “stress” and “pressure” are often used synonymously but lead to very different outcomes. In fact, the APA defines stress as the physiological or psychological response to internal or external stressors and pressure as excessive or stressful demands, imagined or real. Join Hank and Yael for a conversation about how to think about stress and pressure, how to manage them, and much more! Give your Olympic-hopeful a squeeze, and join us to learn value-based approaches for pushing yourself and your loved ones to be their best! Listen and Learn: Yael and Debbie discuss workable aspects of stress Dr. Weisinger’s expert break-down of pressure, what it is, how it interferes with our performance, and how to manage itThe evolutionary function to our pressure responseImportant differences between pressure and stress“Pressure traps” and how they can trip you upDr. Weisinger’s thoughts on the Yerkes Dodson CurveHow to befriend a stressful momentPractical advice on connecting to your values to improve your performanceDr. Weisinger’s pressure solutions, from thinking about multiple opportunities to shrinking the importance of a momentReframing how you think about your performance using Ranking Mindset vs. Excellence MindsetPractical advice for parents who fear their kids aren’t doing their best (even when they say they are!)Dr. Weisinger’s thoughts on applying pressure to our kidsExpert-approved tips and tricks for upping your parental performance Resources: Buy Dr. Weisinger’s The Unlikely Art of Parental Pressure Lib/E: A Positive Approach to Pushing Your Child to Be Their Best SelfCheck out Dr. Kelly McGonigal’s The Upside of Stress: Why Stress Is Good for You, and How to Get Good at It Learn more about the Gottman Institute Understand the Yerkes-Dodson Curve Attend Diana’s Values-Rich Living Retreat! Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych.Check out Debbie, Diana, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more! About Hank Weisinger Dr. Hank Weisinger is a creator, innovator, practitioner, influential psychologist, and two -time New York Times bestselling author. Performing under pressure, giving and taking criticism, managing emotions, responding effectively to the feelings and emotions of others, motivating oneself and others, and resolving conflict are all “emotional intelligence skills” that are part of Dr. Weisinger’s expertise that has been recognized and sought out by leading business schools, influential government agencies, Fortune 500 Companies and dozens of professional organizations such as The Young Presidents’ Organization. With the publication of his recent New York Times Bestseller Performing Under Pressure, Dr. Weisinger introduces the concepts of “pressure management” and “pressure coaching” to the corporate world and executive education programs with the major revelation that contrary to conventional wisdom, nobody performs better under pressure – not even Jordan, Jeter and Brady! To bring this knowledge to more people, Dr. Weisinger has transformed Performing Under Pressure into a state of the art empowering E-Course Workshop Experience for businesses and students! For more information on Dr. Weisinger, Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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208. Coping with Illness with Liz Stuntz Jul 28, 2021

When it comes to serious illness, we might assume that medical treatment is where it's at. And of course, when it comes to medical illness, medical treatment is central. But research also shows that talk therapy can help improve health, extend life, and make it easier to tolerate many of the challenges of illness. On today’s episode of POTC, Yael and Elizabeth Cohn Stuntz, co-author with Marsha Linehan of Coping with Cancer, discuss the usefulness of one such talk therapy, Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT). DBT offers concrete, simple skills to deal with serious medical illness. From managing pain to communicating with providers and loved ones, Liz offers on-the-ground strategies that you can put into action today to help manage health, prolong life, and make meaning. Listen in for an expert-breakdown of evidence-backed skills and practical advice you can put into practice to help yourself or loved ones struggling with serious illness. Listen and Learn: Yael and Debbie discuss the usefulness of skills like emotion regulation for extreme, stressful, or scary health-related situations The role of evidence-based psychological interventions in the world of medical treatmentWhy DBT is particularly useful for managing severe medical illnessesExpert definitions and explanations of DBT basics The DBT practices Liz has used in her personal lifePractical advice for dialing down emotions when they become too intense How to use your Wise Mind to make values-rich choicesHow you can wisely and flexibly select from a menu of useful skillsExpert-advice for those who struggle with self-critical narratives that interfere with interpersonal functioningLiz’s favorite DBT skills for practicing self-kindness and helping others How to be effective in relationships with medical providers and loved onesConnecting with meaning while struggling with illness DBT training resources for clinicians, patients, and loved ones Resources: Read Liz’s book, Coping with Cancer: DBT Skills to Manage Your Emotions--and Balance Uncertainty with HopeSign up for more information on Liz’s DBT training for clinicians, patients, and loved onesAttend Diana’s Values-Rich Living Retreat! Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych.Check out Debbie, Diana, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more! About Elizabeth Cohn Stuntz: Elizabeth Cohn Stuntz, LCSW-R, trained in social work at Smith College prior to earning her psychoanalytic certification. After this, she studied Zen, Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), and the application of neuroscience to psychotherapy, integrating these perspectives into her clinical practice and the ways she teaches coping with adversity. She frequently presents on topics related to coping skills, psychoanalysis, and DBT. Liz currently works as a psychotherapist and teacher in Mamaroneck, New York. Make sure to grab a copy of the book she co-authored with Marsha Linehan, Coping with Cancer: DBT Skills to Manage Your Emotions--and Balance Uncertainty with Hope. Related Episodes: Episode 108. Is Your Self-Control Out of Control? Radically Open DBT with Hope Arnold (part 1)Episode 109. How to Loosen Up and Be Less Overcontrolled: Radically Open DBT with Hope Arnold (part 2) Episode 117. Bearing Unbearable Loss: A conversation About Grief with Joanne CacciatoreEpisode 120. Use DBT Skills To Regulate Emotions And Be More Effective In Relationships With Matthew McKayEpisode 157. The Art of Dying Well with Katy Butler Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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207. Burnout with Debbie and Jill Jul 21, 2021

The World Health Organization includes burnout in its International Classification of Diseases and defines it as work-induced stress leading to exhaustion and cynicism. If you find yourself experiencing symptoms of burnout, you might try many things to get rid of them. For example, you might try engaging in large amounts of rest, meditation, or relaxation exercises. In contrast, you might try to rid yourself of burnout symptoms by engaging in even more work. Each of these strategies would likely provide you with some short-term relief, but eventually the symptoms of burnout would reemerge, leaving you just as exhausted and cynical as before (if not more!). In this episode of POTC, co-hosts Debbie and Jill discuss the causes of burnout and provide practical approaches to preventing and finding relief from its symptoms. You’ve fought the good fight. Now, put your feet up and listen in to learn more about finding peace and joy in your work today! Listen and Learn: An expert-approved definition of burnoutThree hallmark signs and symptoms of burnout The pandemic’s impacts on burnoutPractical, pragmatic approaches to self-careOverlaps and distinctions between compassion fatigue and burnoutDebbie and Jill’s personal experiences with burnoutActionable steps for professionals, caregivers, and parents who are experiencing burnout but still have bills to pay Skills for preventing burnoutShort- and long-term consequences of burnout-related behaviorsHow and why certain exercises fail to "fix" burnout in the long runDebbie defines institutional betrayal and talks about the impact of minority stress on burnoutHow you can push against, and work toward changing, the systemic issues that cause burnout Resources: Check out Debbie's website and buy her book, ACT Daily Journal: Get Unstuck and Live Fully with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Attend Debbie’s webinar on ACT for Burnout!Look here for more information on the work of David Whyte Try some of these exercises to identify and move toward your valuesFind out more about Christina Maslach, the original investigator of burnoutAttend Diana’s Values-Rich Living Retreat! Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych.Check out Debbie, Diana, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more! About Debbie Sorensen and Jill Stoddard: Debbie Sorensen, co-founder and co-host of Psychologists Off the Clock, is a clinical psychologist with a Ph.D. in psychology from Harvard University and a private therapy practice in Denver, Colorado. She specializes in providing individual Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) for adults. In addition to private practice, she holds a part-time appointment as a Clinical Research Psychologist at the Rocky Mountain MIRECC for Suicide Prevention. She currently lives in Colorado, her home state, and where she enjoys reading fiction, cooking, travel, and getting outdoors in the beautiful Colorado Rockies with her family and dog. Check out her and co-host Diana Hill’s book, ACT Daily Journal: Get Unstuck and Live Fully with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. Jill Stoddard earned her Ph.D. in clinical psychology from Boston University where she trained at the highly regarded Center for Anxiety and Related Disorders under the mentorship of Dr. David Barlow and Dr. Stefan Hofmann. She is founder and director of The Center for Stress & Anxiety Management, co-founder and vice president of the non-profit San Diego Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Consortium, and member-at-large for The Association of Contextual and Behavioral Sciences (ACBS). Dr. Stoddard specializes in the treatment of anxiety and related disorders and has expertise in Accepta... Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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206. Fair Play Part 2 with Eve Rodsky Jul 17, 2021

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205. Thrivers with Michele Borba Jul 07, 2021

Children and their parents have struggled mightily with mental health during the pandemic. Now, in this new phase of the pandemic, we are beginning to rebuild and re-envision our lives with bravery and resilience. Michele Borba, Ed.D. is an internationally renowned educator, award-winning author, and parenting child expert recognized for her solution-based strategies to strengthen children’s character, resilience, and reduce peer cruelty. In this episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Yael and Michele discuss Thriving and the character strengths it takes to be one. Join us to learn practical strategies proven to help children build those character strengths and thrive in their lives. Listen and Learn: Yael and Jill’s personal experiences with thriving and how they approach this topic with their kiddosMichele’s expert-based definition of what it means to be a ThriverThe character strengths of Thrivers How to thrive in real life (warts and weaknesses in tow!)Practical advice to foster bravery and resilience in childrenOn-the-ground, proven strategies parents can apply to help ALL kids develop the characteristics of thriving (read: even those with hormonal imbalances or de-stabilizing life experiences)Michele and Yael’s thoughts on creating environments where your children might most easily thriveFollowing your kids’ passions and allowing them to develop hobbies and how to set up useful boundaries in the meantime (we see you, Fortnite and Minecraft parents!)The usefulness of cutting one thing out of your activity list for the weekEverything you need to know about the important differences between self-confidence and self-esteemMichele’s expert tips on praising your kids in ways that support the development of self-confidence rather than inflating their egoPractical strategies for what to do in real-life, tricky situations where you must balance fostering perseverance or “bubble-wrapping” How to best support thriving and the development of resilience in children who have experienced varying forms of traumaMichele’s (surprising!) favorite movie and book recommendations for inspiring your kids Resources: Michele’s book, Thrivers: Surprising Reasons Why Some Kids Struggle and Others Shine Alison Gopnik’s book, The Gardener and the Carpenter: What the New Science of Child Development Tells Us about the Relationship Between Parents and Children and its accompanying workbookMichele’s book recommendation, Alexander and the Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad DayAttend Debbie’s webinar on ACT for Burnout!Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych.Check out Debbie, Diana, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more! About Dr. Michele Borba: Michele Borba, Ed.D. is an internationally renowned educator, award-winning author, and parenting child expert recognized for her solution-based strategies to strengthen children’s character, resilience, and reduce peer cruelty. A sought-after motivational speaker, she has spoken in 19 countries and five continents, and served as a consultant to hundreds of schools and corporations. She offers realistic, research-based advice culled from a career working with over one million parents and educators worldwide. Dr. Borba is an NBC contributor who has appeared over 150 times on the TODAY show and countless others. Michele is recognized globally for her work in bullying and youth violence prevention and is currently a media spokesperson for several major corporations. She is the award-winning author of 24 books translated into 19 languages including her latest book (spring 2021) Thrivers: Surprising Reasons Why Some Kids Struggle and Others Shine and its accompanying workbook. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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204. Ageless with Andrew Steele Jun 30, 2021

In 2020, the global market for anti-aging products was estimated at US$52.5 Billion and is projected to reach US$83.2 Billion by 2027. Some of this market is certainly due to ageism, pseudoscience, and harmful marketing practices. However, ideas around aging (and the way it’s portrayed in media and marketing) seem to be changing for the better, and some anti-aging techniques are showing great promise. Dr. Andrew Steele, author of Ageless, has dedicated his professional career to identifying factors that age us. In this episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, he and Diana discuss the science behind why we grow old and the evidence-based approaches individuals of all ages can use to target those aging factors. Join us in this episode to learn basic strategies you can implement to inhibit the aging process and enhance your quality of life today! Listen and Learn: Diana and Debbie’s thoughts on the pseudoscience and fear that typically fosters ageism and the evidence-based approaches to healthy agingAndrew’s expert description of the humanitarian science of aging (and why it’s so important we study this right now!)Ten key factors that contribute to aging and evidence-based ways to target themWhat evolutionary neglect is and why we have evolved to grow oldAndrew’s expert explanation of senescent cells and practical advice for targeting them Basic strategies you can implement today to inhibit the aging process and enhance your quality of lifeNew and incoming interventions designed to increase telomere lengthThe psychological impacts of living longer The values underlying Andrew’s mission of building respectful, supportive communities for the elderlyEasy anti-aging practices young people can implement into their daily routine Resources: Andrew’s book, Ageless: The New Science of Getting Older Without Getting Old Elizabeth Blackburn and Elissa Epel’s book, The Telomere Effect: A Revolutionary Approach to Living Younger, Healthier, Longer Attend Debbie’s webinar on ACT for Burnout!Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych.Check out Debbie, Diana, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more! Dr. Andrew Steele About Andrew Steele: After obtaining a PhD in physics from the University of Oxford, Dr. Andrew Steele decided that ageing was the most important scientific challenge of our time, and switched fields to computational biology. He worked at the Francis Crick Institute, using machine learning to decode our DNA and predict heart attacks using patients' medical records. He is now a full-time science writer and presenter based in London. He has appeared on Discovery and the BBC. Follow him on instagram @andrewjsteele, twitter @statto, and facebook @DrAndrewSteele. Read his Psychology Today interview, and check out his Today Show appearance Related Episodes: Episode 125. Why We Age and the Science of Longevity with David SinclairEpisode 13. Healthy Aging and the Brain Episode 194. How to Be (and raise) an Adult with Julie Lythcott-HaimsEpisode 174. How to Work and Parent Mindfully with Lori Mihalich-Levin Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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203. The Unbreakable Student with Nic Hooper Jun 23, 2021

For many years now, college students have been experiencing a mental health crisis. The events of the past year have only worsened this crisis, and according to experts, it’s not getting better. Transitioning from adolescence into adulthood while simultaneously transitioning from high-school to university living is never going to be easy, but that doesn’t mean it can’t be meaningful and worthwhile. Dr. Nic Hooper, an expert in clinical psychology, wrote The Unbreakable Student as a guide to help students navigate these transitions in meaningful, value-informed ways. On this episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Nic and Debbie discuss the unique challenges university students face and how values can help students overcome those challenges. Join us for practical advice on embracing your university adventure today! Listen and Learn: Debbie and Diana's thoughts about the unique challenges of the college student phase of lifeThe sweet story behind Nic’s book, The Unbreakable StudentNic’s evidence-informed list of the unique challenges that arise during the transition from adolescence to adulthoodSix areas of wellbeing and how they impact university studentsPractical, evidence-based, advice for overcoming common university hurdles like procrastination, test anxiety, and more!Self-care strategies for the high-achieving student and how to talk about self-care to the beloved high-achievers in your lifePractical, expert-approved, advice on how to fully embrace your university adventureThe one piece of insightful advice Nic would give to his younger self Resources: Buy Nic’s books, The Unbreakable Student: 6 Rules for Staying Sane at University, The Acceptance and Commitment Diary (published annually), and The Research Journey of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy.Check out Nic’s website nichooper.co.uk, and follow him on twitter @nichooper7!Attend Debbie’s webinar on ACT for Burnout!Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych.Check out Debbie, Diana, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more! About Nic Hooper: Dr. Nic Hooper is an expert in clinical psychology and a senior lecturer at the University of the West of England in Bristol. He has authored many scientific articles, book chapters and books, including The Acceptance and Commitment Diary (published annually) and The Research Journey of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. Nic is also a co-director of Connect, which is an organization that offers a psychological wellbeing curriculum for primary school children. In 2017, inspired by his students, Nic began to write a book of life advice to his son, Max, which was to be given to him on his eighteenth birthday. Over time, that book slowly transformed into The Unbreakable Student. Visit his website, nichooper.co.uk, and follow him on twitter @nichooper7 for updates, resources, and more! Related Episodes: Episode 189. Imposter Syndrome with Jill and DebbieEpisode 193. Heal Unhealthy Striving with Diana and YaelEpisode 182. Do More With Less: How to Stretch in Work and Life with Scott SonensheinEpisode 172. Performing Under Pressure with Sian BeilockEpisode 65. Self-care, Kindness, and Living Well with Kelly Wilson Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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202. The Addiction Inoculation with Jess Lahey Jun 16, 2021

A psychology podcast episode about reducing the risk of addiction in kids and teens. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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201. Fierce Compassion with Kristin Neff Jun 09, 2021

Kristin Neff is a pioneer in the field of self-compassion research, teaching us that compassion involves kindness, mindfulness and common humanity. In her new book, Fierce Self-Compassion, Kristin explores the balance between tender self-compassion and action oriented self-compassion. “Sometimes compassion means standing up, saying, ‘no, you are treating me unfairly’ and setting boundaries.”Kristin Neff In this episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Diana and Kristin discuss the duality of self-compassion, women and anger, and the inner power needed to stand up and protect what you care about. Listen in and harness your kindness, claim your power, and thrive today! Listen and Learn: A breakdown for beginners - Diana defines “Yin”, “Yang”, “Kali”, and “Durga” and discuss their metaphors for self-compassionKristin Neff’s expert description of the yin and yang of self-compassionThe role the feminist movement has played in racism and oppression and what this has to do with fierce self-compassionNuances of feminine energy and how those nuances are embodied in different goddesses How to access and embrace your feminine energy (read: how to balance your yin and yang and why it’s important to do so!)Kristin’s personal experience finding wholeness and developing self-compassion amidst divorce, single parenthood, and tumultuous work experiencesWhen and why emotions traditionally dissociated from femininity (e.g., anger) are usefulThe functionality of fierce self-compassion and practical advice for embracing it in your own lifeKristin and her friend, Angela Duckworth’s (check out our episode with her where we discuss Grit) thoughts on the bind women find themselves in when it comes to likeability and competenceKristin’s expert, research-based definition of self-compassionWhy self-compassion is so difficult to achieve How Kristin’s personal experiences have informed her perspective on women, relationships, compassion, and wholenessPractical advice on how to use your values to inform your balancing behaviorWhat it means to be a compassionate mess and why it should be your goal Resources: Kristin’s book, Fierce Self-Compassion: How Women Can Harness Kindness to Speak Up, Claim Their Power, and ThriveLearn more about goddesses who embrace feminine energy: Kali, Durga, Sekhmet, and Diana The Origins and Nature of Compassion Focused Therapy by Paul GilbertDiana and Debbie’s book, ACT Daily Journal Diana will be hosting a workshop on Compassion and ACT: Acceptance, Allowing, & Making Space where you will learn to use journaling, meditation & embodied yoga practice to explore Acceptance through compassion Dr. Kristin Neff About Kristin Neff: Kristin Neff is currently an Associate Professor of Educational Psychology at the University of Texas at Austin. She is a pioneer in the field of self-compassion research, conducting the first empirical studies on self-compassion almost twenty years ago. In addition to writing numerous academic articles and book chapters on the topic, she is author of the book Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself. In conjunction with her colleague Dr. Chris Germer, she has developed an empirically supported training program called Mindful Self-Compassion, which is taught by thousands of teachers worldwide. They co-authored the Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook and Teaching the Mindful Self-Compassion Program: A Guide for Professionals. Her newest work focuses on how to balance self-acceptance with the courage to make needed change. In June 2021, she will publish Fierce Self-Compassion: How Women Can Harness Kindness to Speak Up, Claim Their Power, and Thrive. For more information on Kristin Neff please visit her website, Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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200. Growing Grit with Angela Duckworth Jun 02, 2021

As co-hosts, this podcast has provided many opportunities to interview incredibly high-achieving people. Our line-up has included authors, designers, artists, academics, scientists, doctors, lawyers, CEO’s, and more! We’ve had these individuals on the show to discuss topics such as humans' yearning to belong, steps we can take to begin mending racial trauma, and femininity in the modern world, and throughout these interviews, a common question arises: What does it take to become the kind of high-achieving individual we frequently interview? In this special 200th episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Angela Duckworth, founder and CEO of Character Lab and author of Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance, and Yael discuss grit and how it’s associated with high achievement. By combining passion and perseverance in the pursuit of a singular goal, many have found success. Join us in this episode to learn more about what it takes to succeed and how you can grow grit in your own life today! Listen and Learn: The joy we feel in reaching our 200th episode and the passion and perseverance (read: Grit) it took to get hereDiana’s personal experience using her values to guide her grit (and when and how you can do the same!)The values that continue to guide our podcast’s growthA peek inside Angela and Stephen’s podcast, No Stupid QuestionsAngela’s expert definition of grit and how it is associated with achievementHow grit and parenthood can build upon and strengthen one anotherThe importance of values in your relationship with perseverance Some differences between how interpersonal skills, likeability, and grit each lend themselves to successPractical advice for knowing “when to grit” and “when to quit”Yael’s expert break-down of how grit works with principles of ACTAngela’s simple, evidence-based recommendations for growing grit Resources: Angela’s book, Grit: The Power of Passion and PerseveranceAngela’s TED talk (one of the most-viewed TED talks of all time!)Angela and Stephen Dubner’s podcast, No Stupid QuestionsKaty Milkman’s book, How to Change: The Science of Getting from Where You Are to Where You Want to BeRobert Cialdini’s book, Influence, New and Expanded: The Psychology of PersuasionAdam Grant’s book, Think Again: The Power of Knowing What You Don't KnowDaniel Kahneman’s book, Noise: A Flaw in Human Judgment Elizabeth Nyamayaro’s book, I Am a Girl from Africa Esther Wojcicki’s book, How to Raise Successful People: Simple Lessons for Radical Results About Dr. Angela Duckworth: Angela Duckworth, PhD, is the founder and CEO of Character Lab, a nonprofit whose mission is to advance scientific insights that help children thrive. She is also the Rosa Lee and Egbert Chang Professor at the University of Pennsylvania, faculty co-director of the Penn-Wharton Behavior Change for Good Initiative, and faculty co-director of Wharton People Analytics. Angela completed her undergraduate degree in Advanced Studies Neurobiology at Harvard, graduating magna cum laude. With the support of a Marshall Scholarship, she completed an MSc with Distinction in Neuroscience from Oxford University. She completed her PhD in Psychology as a National Science Foundation Graduate Fellow at the University of Pennsylvania. A 2013 MacArthur Fellow, Angela has advised the World Bank, NBA and NFL teams, and Fortune 500 CEOs. Prior to her career in research, Angela founded a summer school for underserved children that was profiled as a Harvard Kennedy School case study and, in 2018, celebrated its 25th anniversary. She has also been a McKinsey management consultant and a math and science teacher at public schools in New York City, San Francisco, and Philadelphia. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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199. Belonging From the Inside Out with Meg McKelvie May 27, 2021

When our innate yearning for belongingness is unmet or mismanaged, we might question or worthiness or act inconsistently with our values. Dr. Meg McKelvie talks to us about how to cultivate a sense of belonging from the inside out, and outside in. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Mending Racial Trauma with Carynne Williams and Jennifer Shepard Payne (Special Bonus Episode) May 25, 2021

On the one-year anniversary of the murder of George Floyd, we share a powerful poem by Dr. Jennifer Shepard Payne, and Carynne Williams tells the story of her mission to help clinicians of color access trauma trainings. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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198. Break the Good Girl Myth with Majo Molfino May 19, 2021

For generations, girls have been taught a certain set of rules. These rules are rooted in harmful, patriarchal ideas about what it means to be feminine. Followers of these rules may be referred to as “Good Girls,” and though following these rules makes us more palatable for society, it makes us quieter, less powerful members of society as well. In fact, inflexibly following these rules can prevent women from engaging with the full extent of their feminine power. Join Jill and Majo Molfino, women’s leadership expert and author of Breaking the Good Girl Myth, as they talk about five “Good Girl” myths, why we continue engaging in them, and how to break them today! Listen and Learn: What Jill and Debbie were like as little girls before society’s rules and myths impacted their behaviorWhy and how Jill and Debbie have re-embraced some of the behaviors they engaged in as little girlsWhat Majo was like as a little girl and why she asks each of her podcast guests what they were like as little girlsThe “Good Girl” Myths, how they’re rooted in the patriarchy, and how they impact girls and womenWhich “Good Girl” Myth might be impacting your behavior right nowMajo’s expert explanation of the spectrum of “Good Girl” MythsHow to recognize and break behavioral cycles rooted in myths about being a “Good Girl”Why the edge of vulnerability is the sweet spot for growthPractical advice for breaking preconceived, gender-related rules that are no longer serving you (read: stepping into your feminine power)The complex web of relations between imposter syndrome, capitalism, and the patriarchyHow Majo uses design principles to influence change in people’s livesSome big rules Jill and Majo have broken that have changed their lives for the betterThe positive aspects and strengths related to the “Good Girl” Myths and how to use them for your benefit Resources: Check out Majo’s podcast, Heroine where she interviews top female leaders, creatives, and visionariesTake Jill’s imposter quiz to find out exactly what kind of imposter YOU areBuy Majo’s book, Break the Good Girl Myth: How to Dismantle Outdated Rules, Unleash Your Power, and Design a More Purposeful Life Buy Jill’s book, Be Mighty Participate in Majo's meditations here. About Majo Molfino: Majo Molfino is an Argentine American author, designer, and women's leadership expert. She's the host of the Heroine Podcast, featuring top female leaders, creatives, and visionaries. Her leadership program, Ignite, guides women to design and share a creative dream with the world. With a master’s in Design from Stanford University and a bachelor's degree in psychology with a minor in cultural studies from McGill University, she supports women in designing their creative purpose without quitting their day jobs. She lives in California with her husband. Buy her book, Breaking the Good Girl Myth, take her free feminine power quiz, and take advantage of her free meditations through her website, majomolfino.com. Related Episodes: Episode 121. Be Mighty: An Episode for Stressed Out, Worried Women with Jill StoddardEpisode 163. The Likeability Trap with Alicia Menendez Episode 185. Good Guys: Allies in the Workplace with Brad Johnson and David SmithEpisode 176. Fair Play with Eve Rodsky Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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197. Influence and Adventure with Jon Levy May 11, 2021

Debbie talks with behavioral scientist Jon Levy about his new book You're Invited: The Art and Science of Cultivating Influence. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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196. The Neuroscience of Marketing with Matt Johnson and Prince Ghuman May 05, 2021

Today’s world is more digitally-based than ever before, and in this digital world, brands are constantly marketing their products to you. This constant, often covert marketing can negatively impact vulnerable consumers. In fact, this has become such a problem that in recent years the Federal Trade Commission has cracked down on influencers and celebrities disclosing their relationship with brands. Now more than ever it is important that we as both consumers and marketers be conscientious and knowledgeable of our marketing practices. In this episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Matt Johnson and Prince Ghuman, founders of Pop Neuro and authors of Blindsight, talk with Diana about the neuroscience of marketing. Take a break from scrolling, and join us in this episode to learn more about the neuroscience of marketing and how it impacts you, today! Listen and Learn: Diana and Jill’s take on neuromarketing and how psychology influences our lives through mediaThe history behind Matt and Prince’s collaboration Why Matt and Prince chose to combine their knowledge of neuroscience and marketing and how they did itWhat a mental model is (and how marketing capitalizes on them!)Practical advice for making your marketing more memorable A sneak peak inside Matt and Prince’s bookHow Matt and Prince used principles from neuroscience in the creation of their book and why those principles keep you interested in reading itLife hacks on why some products more or less addictiveWhy Matt and Prince are passionate about educating consumers on marketing practices and how they put that passion into practice in their bookHow and why branding is impactfulWhat in marketing makes us like some things more than other thingsThe positive (and negative) ways we communicate through marketingWhat neural coupling is and how it affects you The future of marketing, where it’s going, and where it is right nowExpert-approved skills and strategies that Matt and Prince use as both consumers and marketers for their ‘digital well-being’ Resources: A 4-1-1 on what the Coke vs Pepsi Challenge was all about Take The Big Five Personality Test Check out Prince’s Ted Talk Make sure to grab a copy of Prince and Matt’s’ book, Blindsight: The (Mostly) Hidden Ways Marketing Reshapes Our BrainsInterested in becoming certified in neuromarketing? Sign up for their bootcamp!Read their blog to stay updated on all the recent news with neuromarketing Follow Pop Neuro on Twitter (@Pop_Neuro) and on Instagram (@Pop.Neuro) About Pop Nuero, Matt, and Prince: Pop Neuro reveals the deeper, neuroscientific, and psychological blueprint behind consumer behavior and neuromarketing. Based on 25+ years of combined experience, it’s the brainchild of consumer neuroscientist Matt Johnson, PhD, and neuromarketer Prince Ghuman. Matt Johnson, PhD is a professor at Hult International Business School, where his research focuses on the application of neuroscience and psychology to marketing. He received his BA from UC San Diego, and his PhD in Cognitive Psychology from Princeton University. A contributor to major news outlets including Forbes, Entrepreneur, Business Insider, and VICE and writer for Psychology Today, he regularly provides expert opinion and thought leadership on a range of topics related to the human side of business. He advises both start-ups and large brands in his native Bay Area, and has served as an expert-in-residence to Nike’s Innovation Team in Portland, Oregon. Along with co-author Prince Ghuman, Johnson founded PopNeuro.com for anyone interested in approachable consumer psychology. Follow Matt on Twitter (@MattJohnsonIsMe) or LinkedIn! Prince Ghuman’s journey into marketing started during his studies at the... Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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195. ACT Daily with Diana Hill and Debbie Sorensen Apr 28, 2021

Our mission at Psychologists Off the Clock is to bring evidence-based psychological treatments and practices to the public. One of our favorite treatments is Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (or ACT, pronounced as one word). In this episode, ACT experts, authors, and POTC co-hosts Diana and Debbie discuss how you can use ACT to get unstuck and thrive! Diana and Debbie's new book, ACT Daily Journal: Get Unstuck and Live Fully with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, breaks ACT processes and strategies down into simple, fun, and actionable steps. Yael chats with Debbie and Diana about how you can start implementing ACT strategies into your life starting today. Join the conversation to learn ACT as a beginner or to beef up your existing ACT toolbox! Listen and Learn: POTC’s resident Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) experts’ definition and break down of this therapeutic approach All about Diana and Debbie’s book and how it can help you thrive in your own life. here and nowDebbie and Diana’s personal experiences with ACT, writing, and the development of their bookPractical advice on fostering psychological flexibility and building value-based habits into your dayWhy this book is different than any other book you’ll find on ACTHow Diana and Debbie packed empirical, evidence-based information into digestible, bite-sized stories and exercises for the ultimate ACT-informed self-help book Practical advice for folks who feel they might lack the discipline to engage in self-help workWhy self-compassion is so important to building psychological flexibility Some examples of the six core ACT processes in actionWhy it’s so challenging to be present and expert-approved tips and tricks to engage in present-moment awarenessThe personal elements Debbie and Diana (including insider information on the egg-related stories that got cut)About some of the biggest challenges you might face when putting ACT processes into practicesA goodie for you! Diana and Debbie each read a vignette to give you a taste of what’s inside their book! Resources: Make sure to grab a copy of Debbie and Diana’s book, ACT Daily Journal: Get Unstuck and Live Fully with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and join the Facebook group to get active in learning and discussing: https://www.facebook.com/ACTDailyJournal And if you’d like to win a free copy of their book, make sure to enter our book giveaway! To enter, write us a review on Apple Podcasts and send us an email (with "Book Giveaway" in the subject line) letting us know you did so at offtheclockpsych@gmail.com. For more information about ongoing and upcoming giveaways, follow us on Instagram at @offtheclockpsych. About Dr. Diana Hill and Dr. Debbie Sorensen: Dr. Diana Hill specializes in evidence-based and compassion-focused approaches to living well. She helps her clients build a values-rich life and unpacks the science of ACT through the cutting-edge podcast Psychologists Off the Clock, online teachings, and her book ACT Daily Journal: Get Unstuck and Live Fully with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, co-authored with Dr. Debbie Sorensen. Dr. Debbie Sorensen is a psychologist in private practice in Denver, Colorado with a bachelor’s degree in Psychology and Anthropology from the University of Colorado, Boulder, and a Ph.D. in Psychology from Harvard University. In addition to private practice, Debbie works part-time as a clinical research psy... Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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194. How to Be (and raise) an Adult with Julie Lythcott-Haims Apr 21, 2021

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193. Heal Unhealthy Striving with Diana and Yael Apr 14, 2021

Throughout the past year, many of us have redefined what it means to “work hard” or “strive” in our own lives. The pandemic and the accompanying social distancing mandates have challenged us to work and live much differently than ever before. For many, this has meant striving more than ever to simultaneously be the perfect employee, parent, partner, or etc. Though striving can often be healthy, many times we engage in unhealthy striving that can leave us feeling exhausted and chronically burnt out. In this episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Yael and Diana, co-author with Debbie of ACT Daily Journal, discuss healthy and unhealthy striving. They explain the neuroscience behind this behavior and provide some practical advice for noticing and changing unhealthy striving in your life. Reconnect with your values and take the first step toward healthy striving by listening to this episode right now! Listen and Learn: Why exploring healthy vs unhealthy components of striving is important to Yael and Diana How Diana and Yael started exploring the topic of strivingThe signs and symptoms of unhealthy vs. healthy striving The neuroscience behind strivingSome examples of what healthy striving might look like in your lifeDiana’s expert definition of effortless action and what it means to embody a balance of effort and surrenderPractical advice for moving from competition to collaborationWhat the striving cycle looks like as a process in many different domains of lifeHow values clarification can help break your striving cycle and orient you towards healthier strivingA few red flags that might indicate unhealthy striving patterns (and some resources for when you notice them)Engage in an experiential exercise with Diana and Yael, and start breaking your pattern of unhealthy striving today! Resources: Check out Diana's blog posts for her wisdom on ACT, mindfulness, and much, much more Make sure to pick up Debbie and Diana’s book, ACT Daily Journal: Get Unstuck and Live Fully with Acceptance and Commitment TherapyJoin Diana for her free Tuesday Teachings for a live, online talk, movement, and meditation practice led by the master herself About Diana and Yael: Dr. Diana Hill Dr. Diana Hill specializes in evidence-based and compassion-focused approaches to living well. She helps her clients build a values-rich life and unpacks the science of ACT through the cutting-edge podcast Psychologists Off the Clock, online teachings, and her book ACT Daily Journal: Get Unstuck and Live Fully with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, co-authored with Dr. Debbie Sorensen and coming in May 1, 2021! Dr. Yael Schonbrun Dr. Yael Schonbrun is a practicing clinical psychologist and a professor at Brown University. In her clinical practice and in her research, she brings effective treatments to those who are struggling with the transition to parenthood, with relationship problems, depression, anxiety, general unhappiness, substance use, and life stress. Related Episodes: Episode 31. DBT for Binge Eating with Debra Safer Episode 192. Happier With Tal Ben-Shahar Part #1 and Part #2 of our episodes on Neurodharma with Rick Hanson Episode 156. The Psychology of Radical Healing Collective with Helen Neville, Hector Adames, Bryana French, and Grace Chen Episode 123. Tantrum Survival Guide with Rebecca Schrag Hershberg Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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192. Happier With Tal Ben-Shahar Apr 07, 2021

Happiness is tricky. Poets, philosophers, and musicians have written about this emotion throughout history, yet most of us would struggle to define it if asked. In fact, psychologists and other mental health professionals often abandon the topic for pathology. In this episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Yael and Tal Ben-Shahar, happiness expert and author of the best-selling book, Happier, discuss happiness and what it means to be happy in today’s world. Pause a moment and take inventory of your emotions. What shows up? What’s missing? Join us in this episode, and take a step toward embracing and making room for all of your emotions today! Listen and Learn: About how Debbie first came to know Tal Yael and Debbie’s happiness hacks and the practices they use to build happiness in their busy livesHappiness expert Tal’s definition of happinessThe differences between well-being and pleasureWhy it might be important to make room for all types of experiences (even the negative ones!)How Tal’s life experiences have informed his work in the field of happinessPractical advice for teaching your kids how to embrace and make room for uncomfortable emotionsTal’s wisdom for choosing your responses in uncomfortable situationsOn-the-ground practices you can use to build happiness into your busy lifeTal’s evidence-based thoughts on perfectionists, optimists, and performance-based happinessAbout the most influential books Tal has read in the past year Resources: It's Okay That Your’e Not Ok (Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn’t Understand) by Megan Devine The Paradox of Choice: Why More is Less by Barry Schwartz The Myths of Happiness: What Should Make You Happy, but Doesn't, What Shouldn't Make You Happy, but Does by Sonja LyubomirskyTal’s personal book recommendations: Aristotle’s Nicomachean Ethics, The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem by Dr. Nathaniel Branden, and The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment by Eckhart Tolle About Tal Ben-Shahar: Tal Ben-Shahar is an author and lecturer. He taught two of the largest classes in Harvard University’s history, Positive Psychology and The Psychology of Leadership. Today, Tal consults and lectures around the world to executives in multi-national corporations, the general public, and at-risk populations. The topics he lectures on include leadership, happiness, education, innovation, ethics, self-esteem, resilience, goal setting, and mindfulness. His books have been translated into more than twenty-five languages, and have appeared on best-sellers lists around the world. Tal is a serial entrepreneur, and is the co-founder and chief learning officer of Happiness Studies Academy, Potentialife, Maytiv, and Happier.TV. An avid sportsman, Tal won the U.S. Intercollegiate and Israeli National squash championships. Today, for exercise, he swims, dances, and practices Yoga. He obtained his PhD in Organizational Behavior and BA in Philosophy and Psychology from Harvard Book Giveaway! POTC is doing another book giveaway, this on e accompanying Yael’s interview with happiness guru, Tal Ben-Shahar. You can enter the drawing for a free copy of his inspirational book, Choose the Life You Want: The Mindful Way to Happiness, by: Going to Instagram and locate, like, and SAVE the giveaway postIf you don't yet follow us, please do!For an EXTRA entry, share the post to your Instagram story and tag @offtheclockpsych Related Episodes Episode 2. Hygge – Happiness and the Danish Art of Cozy ConnectionEpisode 48. Practical Wisdom with Barry SchwartzEpisode 97. The New Happiness with Matthew McKayEpisode 85. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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191. Conversations that Connect with AJ Harbinger Mar 31, 2021

Meaningful social connection does not always come naturally. And during the pandemic, it has been extra challenging to learn how to connect while at a distance. AJ Harbinger offers strategies to relate in deeper ways, on and off the screen. Many of us have felt isolated during the pandemic, and yet, it’s anxiety-provoking to re-open again! In this episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Diana and AJ Harbinger, co-founder of The Art of Charm, Inc, provide expert insights on connecting with people through vulnerable, authentic conversation. Together they discuss the importance of sitting with silence, how to let your values guide your behavior in relationships, and much, much more. Take some pressure off yourself, step into a more meaningful connection, and listen to this episode today! Listen and Learn: Diana and Debbie apply AJ’s wisdom to reopening and reconnecting with people after the pandemic Practical advice for building more comfortable, relaxed connections with others How to captivate people using conversational skillsRules, recommendations, and practical tips for being a more captivating presenter on non-traditional presentation platforms (looking at you, Zoom!)AJ’s ultimate tips and tricks for getting your audience to remember your materialHow to engage in meaningful connection with people onlineWhat it means to ‘filter people’ in or out How to use emotion as a way to connectAJ’s personal background with connecting to people and the history behind how his values guided him to this point in his careerPractical advice from the current AJ to the past AJ (and for all of us struggling with major decisions)About John Gottman’s work and how it has influenced AJThe four horsemen of relationships and how they might be impacting your relationships with others and with yourselfThree types of captivating questions that can help you explore another person more meaningfullyWhy it’s so important to sit with awkward silencesSome emotional avoidance strategies that can be problematic in building meaningful connectionHow AJ implements these strategies with his teamOn a scale from 0-10 how awesome is Michael HeroldAJ’s answers to all of your questions including ones about tone and conflict in relationships, mirroring as a communication tool, and much more! Resources: Check out AJ’s podcast, The Art of Charm on iTunes or Google PodastsMore information on John Gottman and The Gottman Institute Make sure to take a listen to The Art of Charm’s episode with our very own, Jill Stoddard, and their episode with Michael Herold on making deeper connections as well Pre-order your copy of ACT Daily Journal today!Sign up for Diana and Debbie’s webinar with Praxis Continuing EducationJoin Diana’s April events to help you bring ACT into your daily life About AJ Harbinger: AJ Harbinger AJ Harbinger is a relationship expert, podcaster, public speaker, Fortune 100 executive consultant, and co-Founder of The Art of Charm, Inc. Over the last 13 years, AJ has trained thousands of people on how to unlock and channel their inner charisma to effortlessly connect with others, and harness the power and opportunities that come with building high-value relationships. Related Episodes: Episode 173. Confidence, Self-Doubt, and Overcoming Limitations with Michael HeroldEpisode 32. Social Connection: Exploring Loneliness and Building Intimacy with Debbie and Diana Episode 168. Everyday Conversations: How Conversational Style Impacts Relationships with Deborah Tannen Episode 180. Choosing to Live Your Values with Benji Schoendorff Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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190. ACT for Suicide Prevention with Sean Barnes Mar 24, 2021

Mental health clinicians want to alleviate human suffering and do what we can to help prevent suicide. And yet, like many stigmatized topics, suicide is often avoided in conversations - including clinical conversations. Basic behavioral science tells us that we humans tend to avoid painful stimuli, and thanks to the double-edged sword of verbal behavior, painful stimuli (like conversations about suicide and suffering) can be both physical and psychological. Suicide stigmatization, as well as uncomfortable thoughts and feelings, can keep even the most experienced clinicians and providers from effectively helping their clients who are experiencing suicidal thoughts and behaviors. In this episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Debbie and Sean Barnes, clinical research psychologist and principal investigator of the ACT for Life study, discuss suicidal behavior, ways suicide is challenging for clinicians, and how to effectively engage with clients who have thoughts and feelings related to suicide. As clinicians, we often have limited behavioral repertoires around suicidality in our clients. We often tend to focus on helping clients ‘not die.’ However, there is more to life than ‘not dying,’ and suicide prevention is only the first, albeit vital, step in recovery. Join us in this episode to learn how to help your client build a life worth living! Workshop for Therapists: Join Sean, Debbie, and their colleagues for ACT for Life: Experiential training on a Contextual Behavioral Approach to Suicidal Ideation and Behavior at the Association for Contextual Behavioral Science’s virtual pre-conference workshop, June 12-13, 2021. Listen and Learn: Why it’s important to talk more openly about suicideThe plethora of resources available for suicide prevention, postvention, and safety planningSome of the challenges for therapists in managing suicide risk and working effectively with suicide (and some insight as to why it can be so challenging)Sean and Debbie’s expert, experienced-backed opinions about talking to clients about suicidal behaviors, risk, and safety planning.An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) conceptualization of suicide and why this approach to conceptualizing suicide is unique compared to more traditional approachesThe function of suicidal behavior and why it’s important to explore function as a clinicianAbout Sean’s intervention, ACT for Life, and how he is targeting suicidal behavior from a contextual behavioral approachWhat creative hopelessness is, how to use it, and why it can often feel scary for cliniciansHow to implement mindfulness and acceptance into your clinical work with suicidal clientsWhat it means to expand someone’s behavioral repertoire in the presence of suicidal thoughts and feelings About Sean Barnes: Sean M. Barnes, Ph.D. is a clinical research psychologist at the Rocky Mountain Mental Illness Research, Education, and Clinical Center (MIRECC) for Veteran Suicide Prevention and an assistant professor in the Department of Psychiatry at the University of Colorado Denver School of Medicine. Sean is a consultant for the Department of Veterans Affairs Suicide Risk Management Consultation Program and an Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) for Depression provider and training consultant. He is also the principal investigator of the ACT for Life study, testing a brief ACT protocol for maximizing recovery after suicidal crises. Other aspects of Sean's research focus on the use of contextual behavioral interventions for moral injury, and the study of suicide risk assessment, but all his projects share a common goal of alleviating suffering and helping others build vital meaningful lives. Sean's MIRECC Webpage: https://www.mirecc.va.gov/visn19/staff/barnes. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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189. Imposter Syndrome with Jill and Debbie Mar 17, 2021

Imposter syndrome involves doubting your abilities or skills, and can often leave high-achieving people feeling fraudulent or undeserving of their achievements. In fact, this syndrome has affected some of the most renowned celebrities (e.g., Lady Gaga), CEO’s (e.g., Howard Schultz), and a few of our favorite podcast co-hosts. In this episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, two of our high-achieving co-hosts, Jill and Debbie, rely on both their personal experiences and empirical evidence in their discussion of imposter syndrome. Fellow imposters and frauds, please join us to learn more about imposter syndrome, and get some practical advice for dealing with it! Listen and Learn: About the ACBS panel that inspired Debbie and Jill to do this episode on imposter syndrome togetherSome of Jill and Debbie’s personal experiences with imposter syndromeTheir empirically-backed, expert definition of imposter syndromeCommon thoughts and emotions that show up with imposter syndromeWhen, why, and how imposter syndrome currently shows up for Debbie and JillPractical advice on what to do instead of “comparing and despairing” and information on how that behavior impacts imposter syndromeEmpirical evidence on why marginalized groups are disproportionately affected by imposter syndrome Actual statistics on imposter syndrome and who it affectsThe evolutionary, social implications behind imposter syndromeAbout the subtypes of imposter syndrome (and how to find yours!)Some practical advice from our co-hosts for dealing with imposter syndrome Resources: The Art of Charm Podcast’s episode with Jill on Imposter Syndrome Suzanne Imes and Pauline Clance’s paper on The Imposter Phenomenon in High Achieving Women More information on David Barlow and his Center for Anxiety and Related Disorders Valerie Young's book, The Secret Thoughts of Successful WomenAlicia Menendez’s book, The Likeability Trap Eve Rodsky's book, Fair Play Jill's book, Be Mighty and her Imposter Syndrome Subtype quiz More information on Janet Helms and her work on WHMPS Dr. Bessima Tewfik - MIT professor who researches Imposter Syndrome About Jill Stoddard and Debbie Sorensen: Total Imposter, Jill Stoddard Jill Stoddard earned her Ph.D. in clinical psychology from Boston University where she trained at the highly regarded Center for Anxiety and Related Disorders under the mentorship of Dr. David Barlow and Dr. Stefan Hofmann. She is founder and director of The Center for Stress & Anxiety Management, co-founder and vice president of the non-profit San Diego Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Consortium, and member-at-large for The Association of Contextual and Behavioral Sciences (ACBS). Dr. Stoddard specializes in the treatment of anxiety and related disorders and has expertise in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. She is an award winning teacher, peer-reviewed ACT trainer, author of two books, and co-host of the popular Psychologists Off The Clock podcast. Complete Fraud, Debbie Sorensen Debbie Sorensen, co-founder and co-host of Psychologists Off the Clock, is a clinical psychologist with a Ph.D. in psychology from Harvard University and a private therapy practice in Denver, Colorado. She specializes in providing individual Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) for adults. In addition to private practice, she holds a part-time appointment as a Clinical Research Psychologist at the Rocky Mountain MIRECC for Suicide Prevention. She is also a co-founder of ImpACT Psychology Colorado, a psychotherapy collective in Denver/Boulder, and the Healthcare Wellbeing Collective, which provides mental health support and resources for Healthcare Professionals... Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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188. Unwinding Anxiety with Judson Brewer Mar 10, 2021

Anxiety can be an exhausting cycle. When you worry, you have a false sense of control and a feeling that you are “doing something” about what you fear, but it only leads to more anxiety and stress in the long term. In this episode Diana sits down with Dr. Jud Brewer, neuroscientist and author of Unwinding Anxiety, for a second time! They explore a fresh, science-backed perspective on anxiety. According to Dr. Jud, anxiety is a habit loop, and there are simple strategies to break the cycle. Listen in for some practical advice on how to unwind your anxiety today! Listen and Learn: How Diana and Debbie approach anxiety from an ACT perspectiveSome of the intricacies of exposure-based therapy with ACTWhy Dr. Jud dedicated his book to the “Amazon addict” About Dr. Jud’s model of anxiety as a habit loopThe three gears to shift out of anxiety and how it is linked to reward-based learning What to do when all you can think about are your worriesHow to identify the point of diminishing return and form new habit loops (and what both of those things are!)Practical advice on working with curiosity amidst anxietyJud’s research-backed wisdom on when (and if) anxiety improves your performanceDr. Jud’s personal experience with anxiety Jud’s hopes for the future in helping people with anxiety Resources: Jud’s book, Unwinding Anxiety: New Science Shows How to Break the Cycles of Worry and Fear to Heal Your Mind Don't Shoot the Dog!: The New Art of Teaching and Training by Karen Pryor To find out more about Jud’s Unwinding Anxiety App, look here Jud’s programs, TED talks and videos, and clinician resources Pre-Order Diana and Debbie’s new book: ACT Daily Journal and get some freebies! About Jud Brewer: Dr. Jud Brewer is an internationally renowned addiction psychiatrist and neuroscientist. Dr. Jud is the director of research and innovation at the Mindfulness Center and associate professor in psychiatry at the School of Medicine at Brown University, as well as the executive medical director of behavioral health at Sharecare. His most recent book is Unwinding Anxiety: New Science Shows How to Break the Cycles of Worry and Fear to Heal Your Mind. Related POTC Episodes: Episode 167. Get Curious and Change Unhealthy Habits with Judson Brewer Episode 139. Neurodharma with Rick Hanson (Part 1)Episode 140. Neurodharma with Dr. Rick Hanson (Part 2)Episode 131. COVID-19 Anxiety, Cultivating Safeness, and Polyvagal Theory with Stephen Porges Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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187. Raising a Child with ADHD, with Russell Barkley Mar 03, 2021

Parenting is challenging. Some of the challenges—like effective disciplining and present moment awareness—are ubiquitous to parenting. No matter who you or your kids are, moments and experiences will test your patience and your wisdom. But while no parent has it easy, parenting children with special needs, neurodiversity, or mental or physical health issues comes with unique, extraordinarily trying experiences, and big questions to which it can be hard to find reliable answers. In this episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Yael talks with Dr. Russell Barkley, an international authority on ADHD. Russ is also author of many books, including the bestselling Taking Charge of ADHD and his recently released 12 Principles for Raising a Child with ADHD. Using principles from his books and decades of research, Russ takes on questions Yael collected from friends, family, and peers about parenting children with ADHD. Join us to hear in-depth and reliable answers to our most pressing questions about how to raise neurodiverse children! Listen and Learn: The seven executive functions and how they’re impacted by ADHD Russ’ expert, in-depth answers to your questions about parenting and loving people with ADHD! What ADHD is and why the label can be misleading About some misconceptions parents often have about ADHD How to better parent a child with ADHD How to be compassionate towards yourself and your child as you parent Key differences in behavioral markers of ADHD and Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD) About the long-term data on medication for children How to find, appreciate, and reinforce strengths that show up in neurodiverse children Effective parenting and discipline strategies for children with ADHD Russ’ hopes for his legacy, and the future of ADHD Resources Discussed on this Podcast Episode: Dr. Barkley’s book, 12 Principles for Raising a Child with ADHDFind some of Dr. Barkley’s lectures on his websiteFind other interviews with and lectures by Dr. Barkley on YouTubeEmily Perl Kingsley’s poem, Welcome to HollandJon Kabat Zinn’s book, Everyday Blessings: The Inner Work of Mindful ParentingAlison Gopnik’s book, The Gardener and the Carpenter About Dr. Russell Barkley: Russell A. Barkley, Ph.D., is an internationally recognized authority on attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD or ADD) in children and adults who has dedicated his career to widely disseminating science-based information about ADHD. Dr. Barkley retired as a Professor of Psychiatry and Neurology from the University of Massachusetts Medical Center (1985-2002) and subsequently worked as a Professor of Psychiatry and Health Sciences at the Medical University of South Carolina (2003-2016). He is currently a Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at Virginia Commonwealth University Medical Center (2016-present). In semi-retirement, he continues to lecture widely and develop continuing education courses for professionals on ADHD and related disorders, as well as consult on research projects, edit The ADHD Report, and write books, reviews, and research articles. Related Podcast Episodes: Episode 14. Mindful ParentingEpisode 48. Practical Wisdom with Dr. Barry SchwartzEpisode 123. Tantrum Survival Guide with Dr. Schrag HershbergEpisode 149. How Not To Lose It with Your Kids with Dr. Carla NaumburgEpisode 161: The Gift of Failure with Jessica Lahey Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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186. Set Boundaries Find Peace with Nedra Tawwab Feb 24, 2021

Setting healthy boundaries can be challenging, whether it is with someone you love or someone you dislike. Sticking with your boundaries once you set them, is also difficult. Relationship expert Nedra Tawwab, author of Set Boundaries, Find Peace, has the insight and tools you need to set boundaries so that you can thrive. In this episode, Diana and Nedra discuss strategies to overcome barriers to boundary setting so that you can set boundaries and find peace today! Listen and Learn: Diana and Jill’s take on the importance of boundary setting Nedra’s expert definition of boundaries and explanation of how they impact mental healthThe science behind how setting healthy boundaries can provide peace and freedom from anxietyPractical advice on how to set boundaries with toxic individuals, narcissists, your parents, your in-laws, your children, and yourself!Barriers that might be affecting your ability to set a healthy boundaryWhat to do with the feeling of guilt when it shows up during the boundary-setting processNedra’s practical advice on how to be a clear communicator and set effective boundaries in particularly toxic dynamicsThe differences between a soft boundary and a rigid boundary (and when to be flexible with them!)What clear boundaries sound likeThe subtle differences between assertiveness, aggressiveness, and passivityNedra’s take on setting ultimatums (and why they aren’t always a bad thing)Why it’s important to set boundaries with your kids and how to teach them to set their own Nedra’s personal experience with boundaries and how setting them has changed her life Resources: Nedra’s book, Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself Nedra’s website which has TONS of FREE resources including worksheets, a relationship quiz, a boundaries quiz, and Nedra's book recommendationsCheck out co-host Diana’s workshop, An Introduction to ACT: Growing Psychological Flexibility through Acceptance, Caring, and Tiny Daily Practices on February 28th from 2pm to 5pm Pacific Standard Time About Nedra Tawwab: NEDRA GLOVER TAWWAB, a licensed therapist and sought-after relationship expert, has practiced relationship therapy for twelve years and is the founder and owner of the group therapy practice Kaleidoscope Counseling. She has been recently featured in The New York Times, The Guardian, Psychology Today, Self, and Vice, and has appeared on numerous podcasts, including Don't Keep Your Day Job, Do the Thing, and Therapy for Black Girls. Tawwab runs a popular Instagram account where she shares practices, tools, and reflections for mental health and hosts weekly Q&As about boundaries and relationships. She lives in Charlotte, North Carolina, with her family. Connect with Nedra Tawwab on Instagram @nedratawwab. Find out more about her book, here. Related Episodes: Episode 98. Narcissism with Dr. Avigail Lev and Dr. Robyn Walser Episode 174. How to Work and Parent Mindfully with Lori Mihalich-LevinEpisode 168. Everyday Conversations: How Conversational Style Impacts Relationships with Deborah TannenEpisode 134. What to do When Work, Parenting, and Partnership Collide During Quarantine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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185. Good Guys: Allies in the Workplace with Brad Johnson and David Smith Feb 17, 2021

Being an ally in the workplace involves a willingness and personal commitment to take action in pursuit of justice and equality for the disenfranchised. Too often, the burden of attaining equality is placed on marginalized individuals. A good ally takes on that burden instead. In this episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Jill is joined by Brad Johnson and David Smith, co-authors of Athena Rising: How and Why Men Should Mentor Women and Good Guys: How Men Can Be Better Allies for Women in the Workplace, to discuss how men can be better allies to women in the workplace. Together, they discuss good ally behavior including educating oneself about different identities or experiences, challenging one’s assumptions and beliefs, and learning and practicing the skills necessary to make lasting change. Engage in some good ally behavior right now, and listen in to this episode to learn how to be a better ally today! Listen and Learn: -Brad and David’s take on the problem of gender equality and whose job it is to solve it-How to practice situational awareness and make invisible workplace issues more visible-What the zero sum bias is and how to use the most current research on it to inform your behavior-All about EQ, IQ, and how they can work for you (or against you) in the workplace-How to be a ‘good guy’ in the workplace and how to inspire other ‘good guys’ to take action-What a likeability penalty is, who it affects, and why-Expert-approved steps you can take to be a more proactive ally at home and at work-Why the global economic benefits to eliminating the gender pay gap aren’t more of a concern and who to hold accountable for eliminating that gap-Brad and David’s views on the pandemic and gender in the workforce Resources: Brad and David’s books, Athena Rising: How and Why Men Should Mentor Women and Good Guys: How Men Can Be Better Allies for Women in the WorkplaceAlicia Menendez’ book, The Likeability Trap: How to Break Free and Succeed As You AreEve Rodsky’s book, Fair Play: A Game-Changing Solution for When You Have Too Much to Do (and More Life to Live)Brad and David’s most recent article on Harvard Business Review about male allyshipKimberle Crenshaw’s article, Demarginalizing the Intersection of Race and Sex: A Black Feminist Critique of Antidiscrimination Doctrine, Feminist Theory and Antiracist Politics About Brad and David: Dr. Brad Johnson is Professor of psychology in the Department of Leadership, Ethics and Law at the U.S. Naval Academy, and a Faculty Associate in the Graduate School of Education at Johns Hopkins University. Dr. Johnson is the author of more than 130 journal articles and book chapters—many on the topic of mentoring—and 14 books, in the areas of mentoring, gender in the workplace, and professional ethics. He speaks around the globe on the topics of mentorship and cross-gender workplace relationships. Dr. David Smith is Associate Professor of sociology in the College of Leadership and Ethics at the U.S. Naval War College. As a sociologist trained in military sociology and social psychology, he focuses his research in gender, work, and family issues including bias in performance evaluations, retention of women, dual career families, military families, and women in the military. Dr. Smith is the author of numerous journal articles and book chapters—many on the topic of gender and the workplace—and 2 books in the area of gender in the workplace and inclusive mentoring relationships. He speaks around the globe on the topics of mentorship and cross-gender workplace relationships. They are co-authors of Athena Rising: How and Why Men Should Mentor Women and Good Guys: How Men Can Be Better Allies for Women in the Workplace. Learn more about being a workplace ally, here at workplaceallies.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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184. Getting Past Affairs and Other Relationship Betrayals with Kristina Coop Gordon Feb 10, 2021

Valentine’s Day is a day to celebrate love. But this holiday can be challenging for anyone that’s been stung in their relationships. And it's especially difficult for individuals who’ve experienced an affair or other significant relationship betrayal. In this episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Yael and Dr. Kristina Coop Gordon, co-author of Getting Past the Affair and Helping Couples Get Past the Affair, discuss affairs, major relationship betrayals, and how you CAN (contrary to a common cultural message) heal and get past them. So grab your a box of Valentine’s candy and join us to learn about using emotions for good, effective listening, forgiveness, and much more! And speaking of celebrating those we love, we at POTC want to celebrate you, our listeners! We’re giving away Dr. Gordon’s book Getting Past the Affair to a few lucky listeners! If you, someone you care about, or those you treat are dealing with an affair, you'll want this book in your arsenal of tools. This book teaches an assortment of crucial strategies for coping, healing, and moving forward that have been proven to work. For details on how to enter our #bookgiveaway, check out our Instagram, @offtheclockpsych. Listen and Learn: Yael and Debbie’s thoughts on anger and other emotions and when and how they’re useful (and when and how they’re not!) How Kristina's research on forgiveness helps couples Dr. Gordon’s expert definition of forgiveness and how to grant it Why affairs are so common and how couples can recover from them If there are times to not tell your partner about an affair and how to decide if it’s one of those times About the three stages of healing from an affair What might be happening psychologically for each member of a couple after an affair Practical (game-changing!) advice on how to effectively listen to your partner during tough conversations The difference in how guilt and shame impact relationships Dr. Gordon-approved tips on working through big emotions in ways that serve your values Exercises for communicating more effectively with your partner, even in the face of painful feelings How to talk about the details of an affair Common reasons that partnerships become vulnerable to affairs Examples of how Dr. Gordon would approach therapy with couples at various stages of healing How Dr. Gordon guides couples through the decision to stay together or not About Dr. Kristina Coop Gordon: Kristina Coop Gordon, PhD, is Associate Professor and Associate Director of Clinical Training in the clinical psychology program at the University of Tennessee at Knoxville. Her research focuses on forgiveness, infidelity, and couple’s therapy. In Knoxville, she maintains a private practice specializing in couple’s therapy. She is coauthor of the self-help resource Getting Past the Affair and of the related book for professionals, Helping Couples Get Past the Affair. Resources Mentioned in this Podcast Episode: Dr. Gordon’s books, Getting Past the Affair and Helping Couples Get Past the AffairYael and Dr. Gordon’s paper from 2007, Predicting sexual infidelity in population-based sample of married individuals.Dr. Gordon’s paper investigating forgiveness in women who were in domestic abuse situations, Predicting the intentions of women in domestic violence shelters to return to partners: Does forgiveness play a role? Related Episodes: Episode 25. Resilience: Bouncing Back After DifficultyEpisode 28. Maintaining And Healing Romantic Bonds With Relationship Expert Dr. Yael SchonbrunEpisode 92. Marriage in Midlife: The Rough Patch with Dr. Daphne de MarneffeEpisode 126. Surviving Break-Ups and Divorce: How to Mend a Broken Heart, Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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183. Permission to Feel: Emotional Intelligence with Marc Brackett Feb 03, 2021

Emotional Intelligence is not really about feeling better but, rather, it’s about getting better at feeling. In this episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Debbie and Dr. Marc Brackett, founding director of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence and author of Permission to Feel, discuss practical skills you can use to better understand your emotions, and respond to them effectively. Emotional intelligence is often neglected in pursuit of what some refer to as “rational thinking.” However, emotional intelligence skills can actually help with thinking - and might even save you time and money. Find out how in this episode, and learn more about naming, understanding, and expressing your emotions in healthy ways! Listen and Learn: Diana and Debbie’s break down of “stress” and “overwhelm” and how they practice emotional intelligence skills in their own livesPractical skills you can use to get better at feeling right now!A real-time example of Marc Brackett and Debbie naming their emotionsWhy children and adults struggle to understand and express their emotions in a healthy way (and how problematic that can be)How Marc is working to make sure everyone receives an “emotion education”The emotion expert’s explanation of how emotional intelligence actually helps with “rational” thinking An overview of the RULER emotional skill set, and the contexts where those skills show upHow learning some emotional skills might save you time and money in the futureWhat a “Meta-Moment” is, and how to do it in four stepsWhether the director of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence thinks children will be okay after the pandemicMarc’s practical words of wisdom for parents, teachers, caregivers, and anyone else invested in helping kids make it through tough times like the pandemic Resources: Marc’s book, Permission to Feel: Unlocking the Power of Emotions to Help our Kids, Ourselves, and our Society Thrive Find out more about Marc at his website, www.marcbrackett.comGet access to the recorded version of POTC’s First Annual Wise Minds Summit here, https://www.accelevents.com/e/POTCSummit#about About Marc Brackett: Marc Brackett, Ph.D., is founding director of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence and professor in the Child Study Center, Yale School of Medicine at Yale University. His research focuses on the role of emotions and emotional intelligence in learning, decision making, creativity, relationships, health, and performance. Marc is the lead developer of RULER, an evidence-based, systemic approach to SEL that has been adopted by over 2,000 schools across the United States and in other countries. He has published 125 scholarly articles and received numerous awards. Marc consults regularly with corporations like Facebook, Microsoft, and Google on integrating emotional intelligence principles into employee training and product design and is co-founder of Oji Life Lab, a digital emotional intelligence learning system for business. His research has been featured in popular media outlets such as the New York Times, USA Today, Good Morning America, and NPR. He is the author of Permission to Feel: Unlocking the Power of Emotions to Help our Kids, Ourselves, and our Society Thrive, published by Celadon Books, a division of Macmillan. Find out more about Marc on his website, www.marcbrackett.com. Related Psychologists Off the Clock Podcast Episodes: Episode 120. Use DBT Skills To Regulate Emotions And Be More Effective In Relationships With Dr. Matthew McKayEpisode 85. Emotion Efficacy with Dr. Aprilia West Episode 69. Emotional Intelligence and the Science of Meditation with Dr. Daniel Goleman Episode 9. Children’s Emotions: Understanding and Responding to Your Child’s Feelings Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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182. Do More With Less: How to Stretch in Work and Life with Scott Sonenshein Jan 27, 2021

There's a common belief that to be more successful we need more resources — that we should earn more money, acquire more resources, accomplish more, spend more time, and expand our network of people. But when we focus on chasing down additional resources rather than using those already at our disposal, we are rarely satisfied with our work, and may in fact be less successful in the long run. Instead, could it be possible to do more with less? In this week’s episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Debbie and Dr. Scott Sonenshein, author of Stretch and coauthor with Marie Kondo of Joy at Work, discuss the ideas of "chasing" and "stretching." Scott shares some practical wisdom for how to stretch in work and life. The conversation adds a whole new meaning to TLC’s lyric “don’t go chasing waterfalls!” Listen and Learn: How Debbie and Jill are trying to stretch in their personal lives How Scott Sonenshein, an expert in organizational psychology, applies principles from organizational psychology to other domains of life About a potential silver lining of the pandemic and our "new normal" (and Scott’s practical advice for creating your own silver lining anytime!) Debbie’s delicious example of constraint leading to resourcefulness in her own life Scott’s breakdown of the two mindsets that can help or hinder our efforts to be flexible Scott’s personal experience with the chase mindset in Silicon Valley and the lessons he learned in the dot com era The benefits of the stretch mindset — and practical advice on how to get into that mindset today The ultimate question for starting your growth journey Why it’s okay to not be an expert and how dabbling in many areas can be useful Practical examples of how to move from a chasing mindset to a stretching mindset The most important thing Scott learned from collaborating with Marie Kondo What ‘activity clutter’ is, how it might be impacting you, and three questions you can use to prioritize Resources Scott Sonenshein’s book, Stretch: Unlock the Power of Less and Achieve More than You Ever Imagined. Scott’s and Marie Kondo’s book, Joy at Work: Organizing Your Professional Life Sign up for POTC’s First Annual Wise Minds Summit: How to Adapt and Thrive in Today’s Challenging Times Dr. Scott Sonenshein Scott Sonenshein, Ph.D. is the Henry Gardiner Symonds Professor of Management at Rice University and New York Times best-selling author whose books have been translated into over 20 languages. His award winning research, teaching, and speaking has helped Fortune 500 executives, entrepreneurs, and professionals in industries such as technology, energy, healthcare, retail, education, banking, manufacturing, and nonprofits. He holds a PhD in organizational behavior from the University of Michigan, an MPhil from the University of Cambridge, and a BA from the University of Virginia. His research appears in the very top academic journals and has contributed to several topics in management and psychology, including change, creativity, personal growth, social issues, decision making, and influence. Scott sits on five distinguished editorial boards and is a former associate editor of his field’s top publication, the Academy of Management Journal. Scott also worked as a strategy consultant for companies such as Microsoft and AT&T and lived the rise and fall of the dotcom boom while working for a Silicon Valley startup. He serves on the External Advisory Board of McKinsey & Company’s implementation practice. Scott has written for the New York Times, Time Magazine, Fast Company and Harvard Business Review. He has been interviewed on national and local television, NPR stations throughout the country, and has been featured in most major newspapers. To find out more about Scott’s work, visit his website, Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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181. Stop Avoiding Stuff with Matt Boone Jan 20, 2021

In today’s world, it’s easy to stay on-the-go. Sometimes, on-the-go behaviors are necessary and functional. But often we engage in these behaviors to avoid discomfort. In this episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Jill and Matt Boone, co-author of Stop Avoiding Stuff, discuss avoidant behavior and how to address it with skills from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. Make a committed action and join us in this episode to learn more about what you might be avoiding and how to respond instead! Listen and Learn: Jill and Debbie’s personal encounters with “doom scrolling” and other behaviors that feel good in the moment but cost us in the long-run Matt’s breakdown of what his book, Stop Avoiding Stuff, is about and how you can benefit from it Why Matt decided to write about avoidance in a digestible (bathroom-book) format About Matt’s professional understanding of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Other places where Matt can train you in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy How to effectively use your understanding of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy to practice the skills in Matt's book Why Matt’s accessible explanations of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy are particularly useful right now The inside-scoop on what’s inside Matt's book Practical advice on how to identify and become more mindful of your own avoidant behaviors Exercises for practicing awareness and willingness right now! How Matt came to Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and what role it plays in his personal life Resources: Matt’s book, Stop Avoiding Stuff: 25 Microskills to Face Your Fears and Do It Anyway, and the editor of Mindfulness and Acceptance in Social Work Jill’s books, Be Mighty and The Big Book of ACT Metaphors Matt’s webinar on Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Sign up for POTC’s First Annual Wise Minds Summit: How to Adapt and Thrive in Today’s Challenging Times About Matt Boone: Matt Boone is a social worker, psychotherapist, and public speaker who specializes in translating mental health concepts for the general public. He is the co-author, with Jennifer Gregg and Lisa Coyne, of Stop Avoiding Stuff: 25 Microskills to Face Your Fears and Do It Anyway, and the editor of Mindfulness and Acceptance in Social Work. He is the director of programming and outreach at the student mental health services of the University of Arkansas for Medical Sciences, where he’s an instructor in psychiatry. At Lyra Health, a mental health tech startup, he led the clinical development of Lyra’s mental health coaching program and gave talks on subjects like stress and stigma to audiences at Facebook, Uber, and Genentech. At Cornell University, he oversaw the development of Let's Talk, an outreach program to underserved students that has since been replicated at nearly 100 colleges and universities. He is an Association of Contextual Behavioral Science peer-reviewed acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT) trainer and a former consultant for the VA ACT for Depression training rollout. He regularly provides ACT trainings for professionals and the general public. He lives in Little Rock with his wife, cat, and guitars, and he loves talking about mental health with people who think psychotherapy and self-help are a bit cringy. Find out more about Matt on his website, matthewsboone.com. Related Episodes: Episode 180. Choosing to Live Your Values with Benji SchoendorffEpisode 121. Be Mighty: An Episode for Stressed Out, Worried Women with Dr. Jill StoddardEpisode 116. Building a Meaningful, Values-based Life with Dr. Jenna LeJeuneEpisode 102. A Liberated Mind with Dr. Steven Hayes Episode 72. Committed Action with Dr. DJ Moran Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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180. Choosing to Live Your Values with Benji Schoendorff Jan 13, 2021

It’s only the second week of the New Year, and many of us have already failed at (or given up on) achieving our New Year’s Resolutions. We often rely on sheer willpower to achieve these types of goals. However, willpower simply isn’t enough. On this week’s episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Diana and Benjamin Schoendorff, co-author of The Essential Guide to the ACT Matrix and The ACT Practitioner's Guide to the Science of Compassion, discuss the Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) matrix. The matrix is a complex therapeutic tool used to help clients contact experiences which keep them from living in ways that serve their values. In this episode, Benjamin breaks down the ACT matrix in a way that is accessible for all. Grab a cup of coffee, and join us to learn, practice, and grow today! Listen and Learn Diana and Yael’s take on the ACT matrix, what it is, and how it’s helped them to live in ways that serve their valuesBenji’s expert definition of psychological flexibility Some practical exercises you can use to become more psychologically flexible right nowBenji’s breakdown of each quadrant in the matrix and what they represent About Diana’s personal experience working through the matrixHow the ACT matrix can be helpful for couples, parents, organizations, achieving New Years Resolutions, and much more!What the “Dead Man Rule” is and how it might be impacting your mental healthWhy values are often more important than willpower when it comes to achieving your goalsWhat ‘loops’ and ‘hooks’ are and how we get stuck in them (and how to behave in service of your values instead!)Benji’s personal explanation of how moving through the ACT matrix influenced his spiritual practice Resources Books Benji co-authored, The Essential Guide to the ACT Matrix : A Step-by-Step Approach to Using the Act Matrix Model in Clinical Practice and The ACT Practitioner's Guide to the Science of Compassion: Tools for Fostering Psychological Flexibility Paperback – Illustrated, December 1, 2014 Connect with The Contextual Psychology Institute Read more on what the ACT matrix is (and see what it looks like) here: https://contextualscience.org/act_matrix Register for Diana’s free, weekly meditation course here: https://drdianahill.com/tuesday-teachings/ Sign up for POTC’s First Annual Wise Minds Summit: How to Adapt and Thrive in Today’s Challenging Times About Benjamin Schoendorff Benji Schoendorff Benjamin Schoendorff is a licensed psychologist and international trainer living near Montreal. Benji has a passion for helping people get unstuck and move toward valued living and travels the world over to train clinicians from all backgrounds in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and Functional Analytic Psychotherapy (FAP). In addition to his clinical and training practice, he currently researches ACT in the treatment of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder as part of the Montreal university mental health institute. As an author and trainer, Benji is renowned for his down-to-earth, authentic, relationship-centered and deeply compassionate style. He believes effective science-based methods to get unstuck are too precious to remain confined to academia and has made it his life mission to disseminate them in an engaging and easily accessible way. Simple, but not simplistic. Benji dreams of a scientific psychology in the service of spreading love, peace and understanding. He has written books and chapters in French and English including co-authoring The Essential Guide to the ACT Matrix and The ACT Practitioner's Guide to the Science of Compassion. Related Episodes Episode 116. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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179. How to Be An Adult in Relationships with Dave Richo Jan 06, 2021

Attention, acceptance, appreciation, affection, and allowing. These five words (Richo's "Five A’s") are necessary ingredients to any healthy relationship, but many of us don’t start off with them in our relationship pantry. In this episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, co-host Yael is joined by Dr. Dave Richo, author of How to Be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Loving. Join us as Yael and Dave discuss the power of the Five A’s. You'll learn how fulfilling these needs affects both our personal growth and our behavior in relationships. So grab your partner (and your ingredients!), and join Yael and Dave today to learn more about how to be an adult in your relationship. Listen and Learn: Yael and Debbie’s real life hacks to meeting “The Five A’s”What makes Dave's, How to Be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Loving, so enduringly helpful for peopleDave’s expert breakdown of the ideal goals for adults in relationshipsProfessional, evidence-based advice for how to (healthily) orient around “The Five A’s” in your relationshipHow your childhood experiences may be impacting your relationship The way mindfulness applies to relationshipsDave's approach to productively reframing and working with blame and feelings of rage towards your partnerAbout avoiding landslides of grief in relationships when years-old mountains of ill will loom nearby (and why it’s important to fully experience that grief instead!)Practical exercises for reframing your orientation in unhealthy relationships How Dave and Yael might apply “The Five A’s” and some of Dave’s tools in therapy with a couple (READ: free thought-exercise for therapists listening in!)What to do when you’re feeling unloved or unlovable Resources: Dave’s book, How to Be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful LovingDave's book, Triggers: How We Can Stop Reacting and Start HealingAnger: Wisdom for Cooling the Flames by Thich Nhat HanhThe New York Times breakdown of Harry Potter, So You Know Nothing About ‘Harry Potter’? Let’s Catch You Up About Dave Richo: David Richo, PhD, MFT, is a psychotherapist, teacher, workshop leader, and writer who works in Santa Barbara and San Francisco California. He combines Jungian, poetic, and mythic perspectives in his work with the intention of integrating the psychological and the spiritual. His books and workshops include attention to Buddhist and Christian spiritual practices. One of his best sellers, How to Be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Loving, is going to be coming into its 20th anniversary this fall. Find out more about Dr. Richo on his website, davericho.com. Related Episodes: Episode 61. Becoming Our Best Relationship Selves By Identifying Core Values And Schemas With Dr. Avigail Lev Episode 120. Use DBT Skills To Regulate Emotions And Be More Effective In Relationships With Dr. Matthew McKayEpisode 168. Everyday Conversations: How Conversational Style Impacts Relationships with Deborah TannenEpisode 176. Fair Play with Eve Rodsky Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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178. Slowing Down, Timeshifting and Reflecting with Diana, Debbie, and Stephan Rechtschaffen Dec 30, 2020

Ending a tumultuous year like 2020 calls for slowing down and reflecting. In this episode, Diana and Debbie take a pause to answer some end of year questions. Then they share their hopes for the New Year. Afterwards, Diana chats with Dr. Stephan Rechtschaffen who is the author of Timeshifting. He is a co-founder of the Omega Institute and Blue Spirit Costa Rica. During the conversation, we explore slowing down, finding intention, and trusting the process. Happy holidays and blessings for a healthy New Year in 2021 from all of us at Psychologists Off the Clock! Resources for Slowing Down and Reflecting: Check out Diana’s 20 Journal Prompts to Close 2020 on Instagram @drdianahillTimeshifting by Stephan RechtschaffenHow to Be an Antiracist by Ibram X. KendiThe Brave Learner by Julie BogartNeurodharma by Rick HansonSlow by Brooke McAlaryAnne Lamott on business and how to find timeResearch on time perception and the pandemicNPR story on how the pandemic has changed our sense of time Stephan Rechtschaffen M.D. About Stephan Rechtschaffen, M.D.: Stephan Rechtschaffen, M.D. founded Blue Spirit Costa Rica and co-founded the renowned Omega Institute in Rhinebeck, NY. He is a nationally recognized holistic physician who lectures on health, wellness, nutrition, longevity, and time. For decades, he has been involved in developing communities that model sustainable and spiritual dimensions of living a more wholesome and authentic lifestyle. He is a coauthor of Vitality and Wellness and author of Timeshifting, a book that focuses on one’s relationship to time and stress amidst the quickening pace of modern life. These interests have drawn him to living and working in the more mindful and slower paced environment of Blue Spirit in Costa Rica. 99. Make the Most of Your Time with Laura Vanderkam139. Neurodharma with Dr. Rick Hanson (Part 1)141. Educating Our Kids at Home with Julie Bogart Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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177. Mind-Body Practices for Stress and Overwhelm with Rebekkah LaDyne Dec 23, 2020

We humans are pretty good at learning from experience, and it turns out, it’s not all in our heads — it’s in our bodies too! In this week’s episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Rebekkah LaDyne explains how both our minds and our bodies learn from stressful experiences. Rebekkah talks with our co-host, Debbie, about how undersupported, overwhelming, and unwanted life events can dictate how we respond to future stress and overwhelm. The learning that takes place in those events can get in the way of effective responding for years to come. Bring your mind and your body, and join us in this episode to learn some body-based practices to help you more effectively respond to stress and overwhelm! In this Podcast You'll Learn: About Rebekkah, Diana, and Debbie’s personal experiences with stress and overwhelm How day-to-day stress is different from overwhelm About the process of becoming overwhelmed and what to do when/if you’re thereRebekkah’s expert breakdown of hyper-activation, hypo-activation, and functional activationWhat’s actually happening and what to do when it feels like you’re spinning out The important differences between freeze, fight, and flight mode and how they affect you physiologicallyWhy “thinking your way out” of overwhelm doesn’t work and a few (expert-approved) methods that doRebekkah’s empirically-based approach to dealing with stress and overwhelm Practical exercises for returning to a felt sense of ease and well-being Resources Rebekkah’s book, The Mind-Body Stress Reset: Somatic Practices to Reduce Overwhelm and Increase Well-BeingCheck out our First Annual Psychologists Off the Clock Wise Minds Summit for all sorts of self-care goodness! Rebekkah LaDyne About Rebekkah LaDyne Rebekkah has spent twenty-five years in the field of embodied well-being. After working in therapeutic mindfulness for 15 years, she studied Mind-Body Medicine at Saybrook University and conducted clinical research in somatic self-regulation. Based on her research in mind-body medicine, her comprehensive training with the Somatic Experiencing Institute, and her decades of professional experience, she authored The Mind-Body Stress Reset, with a foreword by Kathy Kain and endorsed by Peter Levine. In addition to her book, she has recorded several wellness CDs, appears on the radio, and YouTube. As a somatic wellness specialist, she meets with clients online from all over the globe in her. Rebekkah lives with her husband, two daughters, and their puppy-dog in the San Francisco Bay Area. You can learn more about Rebekkah on her website. Episode 145. Caring, Compassion, and Cooperation with Dr. Paul Gilbert Episode 142. FOMO (Fear of Missing Out) With Patrick McGinnisEpisode 121. Be Mighty: An Episode for Stressed Out, Worried Women with Dr. Jill StoddardEpisode 170. A Gift For You. Soothing Rhythm Breathing (re-release)Episode 131. COVID-19 Anxiety, Cultivating Safeness, and Polyvagal Theory with Dr. Stephen Porges Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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176. Fair Play with Eve Rodsky Dec 16, 2020

For far too long, women have been held responsible for completing an unfair share of work (especially invisible labor) at home. Even if a woman works a full-time job outside of the home, she is often also expected to complete the majority of domestic and emotional labor. What’s to be done about all the “invisible work” women do to keep partnerships afloat? In today’s episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Eve Rodsky, author of Fair Play: A Game-Changing Solution for When You Have Too Much to Do (and More Life to Live), and co-host Jill answer that question. Women have been held to an unreachable standard for too long. Now, take a breather, and join us to learn about creating equal partnerships at home, navigating unmanageable demands, and much, much more! Listen and Learn: About Jill, Diana, and Eve’s personal struggles with trying to be the perfect partner, mother, and worker How an invisible “I should do” list might be affecting your life and your relationship Some important (and shocking!) statistics on how motherhood affects women Why women’s invisible workload matters and how you can help shift the system that supports it Eve’s breakdown of Fair Play - her empirically based, step-by-step system for impacting lasting change in your partnership The important differences between playing fair and keeping score with your partner How modeling good-partner-behavior might impact your kids for the better About Jill’s experience playing Eve’s card-game, The Fair Play Deck (and Eve’s tips-and-tricks for playing fairly) How to connect your work-time balance to your values through a minimum standard of care Resources: Eve’s book, Fair Play: A Game-Changing Solution for When You Have Too Much to Do (and More Life to Live) The accompanying card deck for Eve’s book, The Fair Play Deck: A Couple's Conversation Deck for Prioritizing What's Important Marianne Cooper’s work on women in the workplace and more Jill’s 2020 report on women in the workplace About Eve Rodsky, J.D. Eve Rodsky is working to change society one marriage at a time by coming up with a new 21st century solution to an age-old problem: women shouldering the brunt of childrearing and domestic life responsibilities regardless of whether they work outside the home. In her New York Times bestselling book Fair Play, she uses her Harvard Law School training and years of organizational management experience to create a life-management system to help couples both rebalance all of the work it takes to run a home and reimagine their relationship, time and purpose. Eve Rodsky received her B.A. in economics and anthropology from the University of Michigan, and her J.D. from Harvard Law School. After working in foundation management at J.P. Morgan, she founded the Philanthropy Advisory Group to advise high-net worth families and charitable foundations on best practices for harmonious operations, governance and disposition of funds. In her work with hundreds of families over a decade, she realized that her expertise in family mediation, strategy, and organizational management could be applied to a problem closer to home – a system for couples seeking balance, efficiency, and peace in their home. Rodsky was born and raised by a single mom in New York City and now lives in Los Angeles with her husband and their three children. Visit her website to learn more! Related Episodes: Episode 137. The Complexities of Motherhood with Daphne de MarnEpisode 168. Everyday Conversations: How Conversational Style Impacts Relationships with Deborah TannenEpisode 121. Be Mighty: An Episode for Stressed Out, Worried Women with Dr. Jill StoddardEpisode 174. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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175. How to Sleep Better with Rafael Pelayo Dec 09, 2020

Sleep is a hot topic right now, and many health experts argue your sleep is as important as eating well and exercising for your mental and physical health. Sleep medicine research has advanced a lot, and there is new information about what it is and why we do it, and strategies that work for insomnia. We can all rest easy because in this episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, co-host Diana is joined by one of the top experts -- Dr. Rafael Pelayo from Stanford Health Care Sleep Medicine Center. In this episode, Dr. Pelayo, author of How to Sleep, provides an overview of sleep, sleep’s function, and strategies to help you get a better night’s rest tonight. Get cozy, and join us to take a deep dive into the world of sleep and change yours for the better! Listen and Learn: The different stages, the cycles within the stages, and what happens when any of those are interruptedWhat the function of dreams might beThe indications of remembering (or not remembering) your dreams What happens when we experience insomnia and how to put it to bedHow our phones (or, as Dr. Pelayo calls them, our handheld computers) are impacting our sleep and what to do about itWhat to do when you wake up in the night (Hint: It’s not what you think!)How to get your kids to fall asleep and stay in bedDr. Pelayo’s expert opinion on co-sleepingAbout Diana and Dr. Pelayo’s personal experiences with winding down before bedtimeWhat to look for and when it’s the right time to visit a specialist Why you should probably go visit a doctor if your snoring every night Sleep Resources: Dr. Pelayo’s book, How to Sleep: The New Science-Based Solutions for Sleeping Through the NightVisit Diana's website to get her FREE meditation to help you fall asleepCheck out our First Annual Psychologists Off the Clock Wise Minds Summit where Dr. Paleyo will offer a live question and answer session! About Rafael Pelayo, MD: Dr. Rafael Pelayo Dr. Rafael Pelayo, author of How to Sleep, is a clinical professor at Stanford University where he co-authored the textbook for and continues to teach the popular Sleep and Dreams undergraduate course (where you may get squirted with a water gun for sleeping!). Since 1993, he has worked with the Stanford Health Care Sleep Medicine Center. His initial exposure to sleep medicine was as a medical student working with Dr. Michael Thorpy at the Albert Einstein College of Medicine. He joined the Stanford Sleep Disorders Clinic in 1993 as a fellow and never left. In 2013, he was appointed as a clinical professor at the Sleep Medicine division of the department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Science at Stanford University. Dr. Pelayo’s clinical focus has been the treatment of sleep disorders in patients of all ages. He has lectured nationally and internationally and has appeared frequently in television, radio, and print. He has served as chair of the Sleep Disorders Research Advisory Board of the National Center for Sleep Disorders Research at the National Heart Lung Blood Institute at the NIH. He has also chaired the pediatric special interest section of the American Academy of Sleep Medicine. You can find out more about Dr. Pelayo on his Stanford profile or at the California Sleep Society webpage. 7. Insomnia: Strategies to Stop Struggling with Sleep with Dr. Alisha Brosse60. Helping Children Sleep With Gaby Wentworth59. Zzzzzz…The Science of Sleep45. Rest with Dr. Alex Soojung-Kim Pang Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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174. How to Work and Parent Mindfully with Lori Mihalich-Levin Dec 02, 2020

Working parenthood is hard, and even the most Instagram-perfect parents and professionals have their fair share of tears, overwhelm, guilt, and anxiety. Though there are no simple solutions, learning how to work and parent more mindfully can help you build greater success and have more joy. Join our conversation with Lori Mihalich-Levin, author of Back to Work After Baby: How to Plan and Navigate a Mindful Return from Maternity Leave, founder of Mindful Return, and Working Mother Magazine's “working mama guru.” Lori talks with co-host Yael about the ins and outs of mindful working parenthood. When you tune in, you'll learn tips that can help you work and parent more successfully and more joyfully, even in the face of the day-to-day challenges working parents experience. So go ahead and snuggle your nearest kiddo while you learn how to more mindfully enjoy your baby and your career! Listen and Learn: What motivates Lori and her personal tips on how to take on the impossible in work and parenting Why companies fail to retain women after they have children How to be a psychologically flexible working parent About the strategies Lori uses in her personal life to navigate parenting, her career, and her sanity What mindfulness is, what it involves, and how to be mindful in your own life Recommendations for parents who struggle with the guilt that often accompanies juggling multiple roles How to plan effectively (even if you aren’t a self-proclaimed planning nerd like Lori!) Why boundaries are necessary and how you can establish them Lori’s tips for using your parenting skills to become a more effective leader at work How to build community, and why you should About the importance of passion projects for your work as a parent and your work at work! About Lori’s work in diversifying her Mindful Return courses to meet the needs of more individuals, including dads and parents of children with special needs Work, Parenting, and Mindfulness Resources Mentioned in This Episode Lori’s Mindful Return Program (and the mom-specific, dad-specific, and parents of children with special needs versions, as well as a course for employers) Lori’s book, Back to Work After Baby: How to Plan and Navigate a Mindful Return from Maternity Leave The Free Meditation App - Insight Timer Emily Oster’s book, Cribsheet: A Data-Driven Guide to Better, More Relaxed Parenting, from Birth to Preschool Lori's podcast, Parents at Work Parenting in a Pandemic support groups for moms and dads About "Working Mama Guru" Lori Mihalich-Levin, JD Lori is the founder of Mindful Return, author of Back to Work After Baby: How to Plan and Navigate a Mindful Return from Maternity Leave, and creator of the Mindful Return Maternity Leave E-Course. She is mama to two wonderful red-headed boys (ages 7 and 9), is the co-host of the Parents at Work Podcast, and is a partner in the health care practice at Dentons US LLP. Her passion is empowering new parents by providing them with the strategies and tools they need to be present with their babies and in their careers. Lori’s work has appeared in the New York Times Parenting, The Washington Post, Thrive Global, and The Huffington Post. And just recently, she was featured in The Female CEO Magazine. Lori holds a law degree from the Georgetown University Law Center and completed her undergraduate studies at Princeton University’s Woodrow Wilson School of Public and International Affairs. She has been committed to promoting women’s equality and leadership throughout her career. Most recently, she founded and Co-Chaired for two years Dentons’ Parent Professional Network (now ParentsLEAD). In her prior job, she founded both the Returning to Work Community (RWC) for mothers at Association of A... Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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173. Confidence, Self-Doubt, and Overcoming Limitations with Michael Herold Nov 25, 2020

In his TEDx talk, Michael Herold, public speaker, confidence coach, and podcaster extraordinaire, says, “Things you will achieve in your life, you will achieve because of your disability, not in spite of it.” In this week’s episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Michael talks with Debbie and Yael about confidence, self-doubt, and overcoming limitations. Limitations are all around us. These might be thoughts about how unqualified we are, feelings of anxiety, or even physical disabilities such as spinal muscular atrophy, but Michael Herold has some good news. We can overcome the limitations that come from our own heads, by taking Comfort Zone Challenges! Join us in this episode to learn about how to work with those limitations, instead of against them, to achieve the life you want. The Psychologists Off the Clock are excited to welcome Michael aboard as our new Strategic Consultant. Join us to for this episode to meet Michael and learn about our new team member! Listen and Learn How to build confidence and step outside your comfort zone About Michael’s transition from animator to public speaker, coach, and podcaster Why Acceptance and Commitment Therapy resonates with Michael and how it changed his life How Michael’s disability, spinal muscular atrophy, has shaped his unique perspective How you can use values to overcome your limitations About motivational porn and the microaggressions we often use when discussing people who have ‘overcome’ disability-related limitations Why it’s so important to connect with people and how to do that Inside information on how Coach Michael works to build his clients’ confidence Tips and tricks from the master himself on how to build your own confidence Resources from this Podcast Episode Michael's TEDx talk Michael’s website Michael's podcast: The Art of Charm The Art of Charm Podcast's Episode featuring Michael The Art of Charm Podcast's Core Confidence Program Viktor Frankl's Book: Man's Search for Meaning Michael’s Short Film “When I grow up” All of Michael’s short animated films Michael Herold About Michael Herold Early in his life, doctors told Michael Herold’s parents that his severe disability would keep him from living a normal life. The doctors were right. Michael’s life has been anything but normal. In fact, he is quite a renaissance man. For over a decade, Michael was a successful animator for Nickelodeon and worked on a variety of shows including Penguins of Madagascar and Kung Fu Panda. He currently does public speaking around the world and has recently spoken in front of parliament and given a TEDx talk. Michael also uses skills and exercises from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy to provide coaching on a variety of life-skills including public speaking, self-doubt, communication, and, primarily, confidence. Visit Michael’s website to find out more! Episode 91. Disability as a Form of Diversity with Dr. Erin AndrewsEpisode 169. Microaggressions, Mental Health Disparities, and Racial Trauma with Monnica WilliamsEpisode 102. A Liberated Mind with Dr. Steven HayesEpisode 72. Committed Action with Dr. DJ MoranEpisode 32. Social Connection: Exploring Loneliness and Building Intimacy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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172. Performing Under Pressure with Sian Beilock Nov 17, 2020

Performance pressure is pushing down on us and Queen was right - that pressure is terrifying! In this Psychologists Off the Clock podcast episode, Yael speaks with Dr. Sian Beilock, an expert on performance and brain science, and author of Choke: What the Secrets of the Brain Reveal About Getting it Right When You Have to. Listen in to hear Sian's insights and about her research into how our experiences, neurology, emotions, and thoughts interact to both foster and stump our ability to perform under pressure. You'll learn about how mind-body communication leads to sub-optimal performance. And you'll gain knowledge and strategies to make high pressure situations work to your advantage! Performing under pressure is a skill, like any other, Sian tells us. Tune in to learn how to build it. Listen and Learn: Why Sian started studying choking in the first place (hint: it was a bit of 'me-search') Sian’s definition of choking What types of situations and personal characteristics lend themselves to choking What’s going on physiologically and neurologically when you're choking under pressure Strategies, tips, and tricks from Sian for dealing with choking About embodied cognition, rest, and relaxation How perfectionism and role switching might be involved in choking Why self-compassion is so important when you’re performing under pressure How prejudice, stereotypes, diversity, and evaluative apprehension impact the likelihood of choking Performing Under Pressure Resources Mentioned: Sian’s book - Choke: What the Secrets of the Brain Reveal About Getting it Right When You Have to Sian’s book - How the Body Knows Its Mind: The Surprising Power of the Physical Environment to Influence How You Think and Feel Alex Pang’s book, Rest: Why You Get More Done When You Work Less Jessica Lahey’s book, The Gift of Failure Carol Dweck’s book, Mindset: The New Psychology of Success Deborah Spar’s book, Wonder Women: Sex, Power, and the Quest for Perfection About Choke Expert Dr. Sian Beilock: A cognitive scientist by training, Dr. Sian Beilock earned her Bachelor of Science in cognitive science from the University of California, San Diego, and doctorates of philosophy in both kinesiology and psychology from Michigan State University. Sian has served as the eighth President of Barnard College at Columbia University since 2017. Her work as a cognitive scientist revolves around performance anxiety and reveals simple psychological strategies that can be used to ensure success in everything from test taking and public speaking to athletics and job interviews. Sian is one of the world’s leading experts on the brain science behind performing under pressure and the brain and body factors influencing all types of choking (from test-taking to public speaking to your golf swing). She has authored two critically acclaimed books published in more than a dozen languages - Choke: What the Secrets of the Brain Reveal About Getting it Right When You Have to and How the Body Knows Its Mind: The Surprising Power of the Physical Environment to Influence How You Think and Feel, as well as over 100 peer-reviewed publications. Her 2017 TED talk on why we choke under pressure has been viewed over 2 million times. You can find out more about Dr. Beilock here. Related Episodes from The Psychologists Off the Clock Podcast: Episode 34. Strengths, Goal Setting, and Grit with Dr. Alexis Karris Bachik Episode 45. Rest with Dr. Alex Soojung-Kim Pang Episode 75: Mindful Self-Compassion with Christopher Germer Episode 88. Perfectionism with Sharon Martin Episode 161. The Gift of Failure with Jessica Lahey Episode 166. How to Manage Multiple Life Roles Skillfully with Sarah Argenal Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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171. Compassionate Mind Training with Dennis Tirch and Laura Silberstein-Tirch Nov 11, 2020

Compassion is not a passive process, but an active one. It means being aware that someone (including you) is suffering and moving toward that suffering so that you can offer help. Compassion takes courage, wisdom, and strength. And, we can build more compassionate minds with practice. In this episode, Diana talks with Dennis Tirch and Laura Silberstein-Tirch about Compassion Focused Therapy, how they apply the principles of compassion to their family and in their work as founders and director of the Center for Compassion Focused Therapy. Listen in to hear heartfelt insights for a more compassionate future. Listen and Learn: Why it’s so hard to be compassionate when we feel threatenedWhy we have an inner critic and how to respond when it shoes itThe core qualities to develop to build a more compassionate mindHow compassion is different from kindnessHow we can respond to a long, dark winter with compassionHow we can heal divides with compassionWhat yoga and compassion focused therapy have in commonSuggestions to build a more compassionate future together Resources: The ACT Practitioners Guide to the Science of Compassion by Dennis Tirch, Benji Schoendorff, and Laura TirchHow to be Nice to Yourself by Laura Silberstein-TirchStephan Porges on the Polyvagal TheoryThe Compassionate Mind Foundation About Laura Silberstein-Tirch Dr. Laura Silberstein-Tirch Laura R. Silberstein-Tirch, PsyD, is the Director of the Center for Compassion Focused Therapy., and serves as an Adjunct Assistant Professor at Albert Einstein College of Medicine of Yeshiva University. Dr. Silberstein-Tirch is a clinical supervisor and compassion-focused therapy (CFT) trainer who presents internationally on mindfulness and compassion and is an author of 3 books, including “How to Be Nice To Yourself." She is a founder and Past-President of the New York City chapter of the Association for Contextual Behavioral Science and the Compassionate Mind Foundation USA. Her research interests include psychological flexibility and emotions as well as CFT for anxiety and depression. About Dennis Tirch Dr. Dennis Tirch Dennis Tirch, Ph.D. is the Founder of The Center for Compassion Focused Therapy (CFT) in NYC, Past-President of The Association for Contextual Behavioral Science (ACBS), President of The Compassionate Mind Foundation, North America and an Associate Clinical Professor at The Icahn School of Medicine at Mt. Sinai, NYC. He is an internationally acknowledged expert psychotherapist, supervisor and trainer in CFT, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and Buddhist Psychology (BP). Dr. Tirch is an author of 7 books, numerous book chapters and peer-reviewed articles on mindfulness-based psychotherapies. Dr. Tirch regularly trains CFT and ACT globally, through workshops and courses in-person and online. His work has been covered by The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, The Washington Post and NPR among other media outlets. Through regular Twitter and other social media posts, Dr. Tirch shares compassion focused insights with tens of thousands of people each day. Dr. Tirch is an Ambassador for the Ram Dass Fellowship, and an advocate for yoga, sobriety, and vegetarian/vegan living. Dr. Tirch is a Zen dharma holder, lay teacher of Sharma. 50. Compassion Focused Therapy with Dr. Russel Kolts145. Caring, Compassion, and Cooperation with Paul Gilbert90. Dr. Paul Gilbert on Tricky Brains, Caring, and Living like Crazy147. Extending Compassion with Dr. Janina Scarlet and Sara Shairer 46. Altruism and the Flow of Compassion with Dr. Yotam Heinberg131. COVID-19 Anxiety, Cultivating Safeness, and Polyvagal Theory with Dr. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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170. A Gift For You. Soothing Rhythm Breathing (re-release) Nov 05, 2020

Join Diana for a short but sweet Soothing Rhythm Breathing break! Soothing Rhythm Breathing is an exercise from Compassion Focused Therapy. It is particularly helpful when you feel anxiety, anger, or other emotional dysregulation. Soothing Rhythm Breathing stimulates the vagus nerve, increases heart rate variability, and activates the Parasympathetic Nervous System. Soothing Rhythm Breathing shifts your body/brain systems from drive and threat toward safeness and compassion. 131. COVID-19 Anxiety, Cultivating Safeness, and Polyvagal Theory with Dr. Stephen Porges81. A Gift For You: 10 Min Breathing Meditation70. A Gift For You: Loving-Kindness MeditationA Gift For You: Pranayama Breathing Meditation Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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169. Microaggressions, Mental Health Disparities, and Racial Trauma with Monnica Williams Oct 28, 2020

Microaggressions. These small, often unintentional acts of racism are probably affecting you more than you know! In this week’s podcast episode, Dr. Monnica Williams, author of Managing Microaggressions: Addressing Everyday Racism in Therapeutic Spaces and co-author of Eliminating Race-Based Mental Health Disparities: Promoting Equity and Culturally Responsive Care across Settings, and our co-host Debbie discuss microaggressions in therapy spaces, race-based mental health disparities, and racial trauma. Join us for an informative episode, where we can grow and learn together! "Good people can and do commit acts of racism."Dr. Monnica Williams Listen and Learn: What microaggressions are and why they’re so pervasiveThe different categories of microaggressions How microaggressions have affected Debbie and Dr. Williams personally How self-identity impacts the occurrence and aftermath of microaggressionsHow subtle, covert microaggressions impact race-based Mental Health treatment disparityThe psychological impact of microaggressions and racial traumaDr. Monnica Williams’s recommendations for the mistakes therapists make in therapyDr. Monnica-approved methods for pointing out, apologizing for, and validating the experience of microaggressions if you commit one (as we all do sometimes!) Resources Mentioned on the Podcast: Link to our sponsorship pageFollow Dr. Monnica on Twitter: @DrMonnica Visit Dr. Monnica’s website: http://www.monnicawilliams.com Dr. Monnica’s blog on psychology today: Culturally SpeakingDr. Monnica’s book: Eliminating Race-Based Mental Health Disparities: Promoting Equity and Culturally Responsive Care across Settings Dr. Monnica’s book: Managing Microaggressions: Addressing Everyday Racism in Therapeutic Spaces About Monnica Williams: Dr. Monnica Williams is a board-certified, licensed clinical psychologist, specializing in cognitive-behavioral therapies. She is an Associate Professor in the School of Psychology at the University of Ottawa, Canada Research Chair in Mental Health Disparities, and Director of the Laboratory for Culture and Mental Health Disparities. She is also the Clinical Director of the Behavioral Wellness Clinic, LLC in Tolland, Connecticut, and she has founded clinics in Kentucky, Virginia, and Pennsylvania. Dr. Williams completed her undergraduate studies at MIT and UCLA. She received her doctoral degree in clinical psychology from the University of Virginia. She was an assistant professor at the University of Pennsylvania School of Medicine in the Department of Psychiatry for four years, where she worked with Dr. Edna Foa who is a world renowned expert on OCD and PTSD. She was also a director of the Center for Mental Health Disparities at the University of Louisville. Dr. Williams has published over 100 peer reviewed articles, books, chapters, and scientific reports with a focus on anxiety related conditions and cultural considerations. She was named one of the top 25 thought leaders in PTSD by PTSD Journal, and she frequently contributes to the public scientific discourse as a media expert. She is frequently featured on PBS, NPR, and the New York times, and she has a fantastic blog on psychology today called Culturally Speaking. Along with Daniel Rosen and Johnathan Kanter, Dr. Monnica co-authored the book Eliminating Race-Based Mental Health Disparities: Promoting Equity and Culturally Responsive Care across Settings. In this episode, we discussed her most recent book, Managing Microaggressions: Addressing Everyday Racism in Therapeutic Spaces. You can learn more about all of Dr. Williams’ work here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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168. Everyday Conversations: How Conversational Style Impacts Relationships with Deborah Tannen Oct 21, 2020

A great wizard once said, “Words are, in my not-so-humble opinion, our most inexhaustible source of magic. Capable of both inflicting injury, and remedying it." Humans are social animals who thrive on effective communication. However, each of us has a different communication style, and sometimes, differences in those communication styles inflict injury. In today’s world, where communication looks very different than it used to, understanding differences in communication styles and learning to remedy word-inflicted wounds is of utmost importance. In this timely episode, Dr. Deborah Tannen talks with Jill about how communication styles affect our everyday relationships. Join us to learn more on the ‘best’ way to talk in different contexts, gender differences in communication styles, saying what you mean, meaning what you say, and much more! Listen and Learn: Dr. Tannen’s definition of conversational styleWhy communication style is important in various domains including intimate relationships, workplace relations, and difficult conversations Saying what you mean and meaning what you sayJill and Dr. Tannen’s account of gender differences in communication stylesDr. Tannen’s wisdom on the ‘best way to talk’What a double bind is and how it affects women Questions and phrases you can use to improve your communication style right nowHow different communication platforms change the intent of your words Resources Link to our sponsorship pageGary Chapman’s five love languagesVisit Yael’s website to find out more on her work with couples Dr. Tannen’s memoir and where you can purchase itInformation on Dr. Arlie Hochschild Dr. Tannen’s books, That's Not What I Meant! and Talking from 9 to 5Alicia Menendez’s book, The Likeability Trap Dr. Tannen’s training video on women’s language in the workplace The New York Times’ article, It's Not Just You: In Online Meetings, Many Women Can't Get a Word In About Dr. Deborah Tannen Dr. Tannen is a University Professor and Professor Linguistics at Georgetown University and author of many books and articles about how the language of everyday conversation affects relationships. She is best known as the author of You Just Don't Understand: Women and Men in Conversation, a book that has brought gender differences in communication style to the forefront of public awareness as a New York Times best seller. Her collected works include eight books for general audiences as well as sixteen books and over one hundred articles for scholarly audiences. Dr. Tannen is one of only six in Georgetown University’s College of Arts and Sciences who hold the distinguished rank of University Professor. She has been McGraw Distinguished Lecturer at Princeton University and spent a term in residence at the Institute for Advanced Study in Princeton, New Jersey. She has twice been a fellow at the Center for Advanced Study in the Behavioral Sciences at Stanford in Palo Alto, California. The recipient of five honorary doctorates, she is a member of the PEN/Faulkner Foundation Board of Directors. Read her recent essays in The New York Times and The Forward or view a full list of her articles for general audiences here. To learn more about what Dr. Tannen is up to, visit her website at deborahtannen.com. Related episodes Episode 163: The Likeability Trap with Alicia MenendezEpisode 165: How We Talk and Why It Matters with Katherine KinzlerEpisode 62: Language, Suffering, and Meaning with Dr. Matthieu VillatteEpisode 104: You’re Doing it Wrong with Professors Bethany Johnson and Margaret QuinlanEpisode 121: Be Mighty: An Episode for Stressed Out, Worried Women with Dr. Jill StoddardEpisode 28: Maintaining And Healing Romantic Bonds With R... Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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167. Get Curious and Change Unhealthy Habits with Judson Brewer Oct 14, 2020

We all have unhelpful habits, and whether you overeat, use substances, or worry, you may have noticed these habits have gotten worse lately. In this episode, Diana joins Dr. Judson Brewer (Dr. Jud), neuroscientist and author of The Craving Mind: From Cigarettes to Smartphones to Love - Why We Get Hooked and How We Can Break Bad Habits, for a fascinating conversation about why stress makes our habits and addictions worse. Additionally, they talk about what’s happening in your brain when you’re caught in these habits, and how to unhook from even the trickiest ones using mindfulness and curiosity. Listen and Learn: Diana’s and Debbie’s pandemic habitsHow Diana’s shifting unhelpful habits to values-based ones (get her free download here!)The three core elements of a habitWhat’s happening in your brain when you are cravingWhy uncertainty and stress makes it harder to break unhealthy habitsHow anxiety and rumination are similar to smoking and eating Dr. Jud’s groundbreaking brain research on mindfulness and the Default Mode NetworkHow curiosity changes your brain and why it is key to unhooking from habit loopsWhy it doesn’t work to “think your way out of a craving” or “think your way out of anxiety”Mindfulness tools you can use right now with yourself and your kids to get groundedWhy swapping choosing kindness and generosity over self-righteous rumination is “so much sweeter”The personal values that underlie Dr. Jud’s work Resources Five Finger Breathing with Dr. Jud BrewerWatch Dr. Jud study Anderson Cooper’s brain in an fMRIThe Craving Mind: From Cigarettes to Smartphones to Love - Why We Get Hooked and How we can Break Bad Habits, by Dr. Judson BrewerDr. Jud’s Ted Talk: A Simple Way To Break a Bad HabitDr. Jud’s App-based behavior change programs: Unwinding Anxiety®, Eat Right Now®, and To Quit®. Get 20% off with coupon code OFFTHECLOCKChange unhealthy habits into values-rich ones with this handoutDr. Yotam Heinberg on “growing roots” practice Listen to Diana’s interviews with Paul Gilbert here and here to learn more about threat, drive, and compassion systems in the brain Dr. Jud Brewer About Dr. Judson Brewer Dr. Judson Brewer is the Director of Research and Innovation at the Mindfulness Center and associate professor in psychiatry at the School of Medicine at Brown University, as well as a research affiliate at MIT. Before that, he held research and teaching positions at Yale University and the University of Massachusetts’ Center for Mindfulness. Read more about his research here. As an addiction psychiatrist and internationally known expert in mindfulness training for treating addictions, Dr. Jud has developed and tested novel mindfulness programs for habit change, including both in-person and app-based treatments for smoking, emotional eating, and anxiety (Eat Right Now, Unwinding Anxiety and Craving to Quit). Based on the success of these programs in the lab, he co-founded MindSciences, Inc. to create app-based digital therapeutic versions of these programs for a wider audience, working with individuals, corporations, and hospital systems to put effective, evidence-based behavior change guidance in the hands of people struggling with unwanted behaviors and “everyday addictions.” 72. Committed Action with Dr. DJ Moran103. Healthy Habits with Dr. Dayna Lee-Baggley4. Habits: The Science of Behavior Change90. Dr. Paul Gilbert on Tricky Brains, Caring, and Living Like Crazy145. Caring, Compassion, and Cooperation with Dr. Paul Gilbert46. Altruism And The Flow Of Compassion With Dr. Yotam Heineberg Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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166. How to Manage Multiple Life Roles Skillfully with Sarah Argenal Oct 08, 2020

Dr. Seuss told us, “You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself any direction you choose.” But what do you do when you’re in charge of many brains in many heads? What happens when you’re in charge of steering many feet (some of which have tiny shoes) traveling in many different directions? Is there any room left to choose? In this week’s episode, Sarah Argenal, author of The Whole SELF Lifestyle for Working Parents: A Practical 4-Step Framework to Defeat Burnout and Escape Survival Mode for Good, discusses her framework to escape survival mode, find balance, and defeat burnout. She explains that we often find ourselves working from problem-solving mode, moving from problem to problem and finding the quickest solution for each. As we get caught up in solving problem after problem, we experience burnout and find ourselves trapped in survival mode. Unless we get more strategic in how we approach our many life roles, life can become small and lose its vitality. Sarah provides a strategic framework for working from the inside-out so that we can allow our many purposes to better serve us, and to bring back a vitality that guide us in each of our many life roles. Listen and Learn: How survival mode might be affecting you right nowFour steps you can take toward creating a more vital lifeTips and tricks for escaping survival modeStrategies for including more self-care into your routinesMethods for discovering what areas of your life are most important to you (and which are less important)What gets in the way of working from the inside-out, and how you can approach this work (even if you are too busy and tired!)How to make your purposes better serve you (instead of you serving them!)How to defeat burnout, find balance, and escape survival mode About Sarah Argenal: Sarah Argenal attained her masters in counseling psychology with an emphasis in marriage and family therapy and adult development from the University of San Francisco. She is the founder of the The Argenal Institute LLC based in Austin, TX, host and executive producer of Working Parent Resource Podcast, and author of the book The Whole Self Lifestyle for Working Parents: A Practical 4-Step Framework to Defeat Burnout and Escape Survival Mode For Good. Sarah uses twenty years of experience and her signature program, the Whole SELF Lifestyle™, to help working parents escape survival mode and enjoy their lives. Resources: The Whole SELF Lifestyle for Working Parents: A Practical 4-Step Framework to Defeat Burnout and Escape Survival Mode for Good, by Sarah Argenal For more from Sarah’s work, check out the resources at The Argenal Institute. Yael’s essay on working parenthood in the Wall Street Journal. 24. Choosing Both: Straddling Meaningful Career and Parenthood with Dr. Yael Schonbrun 45. Rest with Dr. Alex Soojung-Kim Pang 58. Balancing the Big Stuff with Drs. Miriam Liss and Holly Schiffrin 73. Essentialism with Greg McKeown 83. Tao of Work and Family Balance 134. What to do When Work, Parenting, and Partnership Collide During Quarantine Thank you for joining us on this episode of Psychologists Off The Clock. Like what you’re hearing? Support us on Patreon. We appreciate your feedback. Please take a moment to leave a quick rating and review of the show on Apple Podcasts. It helps us spread the word to more folks like you! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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165. How We Talk and Why It Matters with Katherine Kinzler Sep 30, 2020

How you talk informs who you are, who you group up with, and how you perceive others. But while language is a profoundly powerful influencer of how we engage in the social world, we seldom acknowledge its impact on social injustice. In this episode, Yael talks with professor and psychologist Katherine Kinzler about the role of language and accent in prejudice, empathy, identity, morality, and ingroup/outgroup formation. In Katherine’s book, How You Say It: Why You Talk the Way You Do-And What It Says About You, she describes how language and accent are an often overlooked contributor in cultural affiliation and discrimination. Katherine offers evidence for their critical role in perpetuating injustice, and shows us why increasing awareness of linguistic biases can empower us to pave the way towards a more just and compassionate future. Listen and Learn: The surprising ways that language influences who we are and our cultural affiliationThe power of language in perpetuating prejudice and stereotypingHow media and film perpetuate stigma related to language and accentWhy the evolution of language can predispose humans towards prejudiceHow recent events demonstrate the overlooked role of linguistic discriminationThat language is not just about communication, but rather is about social lifeWhy common myths about monolingualism are wrongHow we can use language as a tool to increase compassion and empathy, and reduce prejudice About Katherine Kinzler Dr. Katherine Kinzler is a psychology professor at the University of Chicago. Her research sits at the intersection of developmental and social psychology where she focuses on the origins of prejudice and ingroup outgroup thinking with an emphasis on understanding how language and accent mark social groups. Katherine’s writing has appeared in the New York times and other media outlets and the world economic forum named her as one of the 50 scientists under 40 working to shape our future. Resources: How You Say It: Why You Talk the Way You Do-And What It Says About You, by Katherine Kinzler NPR Interview with Katherine Kinzler NYT Book Review on How You Say It Katherine’s University of Chicago webpage Other Resources: Article showcasing the work of Dr. Deborah Tannen Link to Duolingo, a fun, game-based app that helps adults and children learn new languages Psychologists Off the Clock 163. The Likeability Trap with Alicia Menendez 62. Language, Suffering, and Meaning with Dr. Matthieu Villatte Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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164. Pandemic Stress: Strategies from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy with Debbie and Diana Sep 22, 2020

If you are experiencing Pandemic Stress, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) can help! This is a stressful time for most of us; the mental health aftermath of a pandemic is sometimes called a "second pandemic" because of the rise of depression, anxiety, and PTSD. And in addition to fear of the coronavirus itself, we are currently facing other major, global stressors like climate change, forest fires, systemic racism, economic uncertainty, and political divisiveness. No wonder so many of us are exhausted! In this podcast episode, co-hosts Diana Hill and Debbie Sorensen discuss Pandemic Stress and give examples of how they use ACT practices themselves, as they experience emotional ups and downs. Whether you are anxious, depressed, lonely, or irritable, Diana and Debbie have some strategies from ACT that might help you be more flexible and accepting in the face of the pandemic. As Diana says in the episode, "it's almost like ACT was made for Pandemic Stress!" Listen and Learn About Pandemic Stress and the "second pandemic" of mental health concerns. Diana and Debbie's own experiences with Pandemic Stress. The difference between threat, fear, and anxiety.How Psychological Flexibility and ACT offer the key to navigating pandemic stress.Why practicing acceptance is more helpful than experiential avoidance. Shifting your perspective when "doom and gloom" thoughts arise.Letting go of unrealistic personal expectations, and finding a healthy routine that supports your wellbeing. Loneliness, moral distress, and loss during COVID.How we can reconnect to our values, do the next right thing, and have a sense of common humanity.Building social connection and effectively working from home. Resources Diana’s 6 ACT Strategies for Transforming Anxiety & Increasing Psychological FlexibilityDebbie’s Pandemic Stress Blog PostsIf you need a good cry, here’s a link to the song The Next Right Thing from Frozen 2Diana's friend Gwendolyn's beautiful song and you can sign up for Gwendolyn's community singing newsletter Pandemic Stress Articles "How I used ACT to cope with COVID"Article on Pandemic-Related DistressUncertainty and Psychological FlexibilityFamily systems and Psychological Flexibility The Moderating Roles of Psychological Flexibility and Inflexibility on the Mental Health Impacts of COVID-19 Pandemic and Lockdown in ItalyResponding to Moral Dilemmas in the age of COVID Older Adults and Social Connection while Social Distancing 4. Habits: The Science of Behavior Change (Part 1)5. From Awareness to Action: Behavior Change (Part 2)7. Insomnia: Strategies to Stop Struggling with Sleep with Dr. Alisha Brosse37. Post-Traumatic Growth42. Strategies to Increase Focus and Work More Effectively43. Willpower With Dr. Kelly McGonigal44. Anxiety Happens with Dr. John Forsyth52. Palliative Care and Healing with Dr. Michael Kearney59. Zzzzzz…The Science of Sleep62. Language, Suffering, and Meaning with Dr. Matthieu Villatte77. Acceptance and Commitment Therapy with Dr. Jill Stoddard (now our fabulous co-hosts!)116. Building a Meaningful, Values-based Life with Dr. Jenna LeJeune117. Bearing Unbearable Loss: A conversation About Grief with Dr. Joanne Cacciatore118. Moral Injury and Shame with Dr. Lauren Borges and Dr. Jacob Farnsworth124. Nutritious Movement and Why it Matters with Katy Bowman131. COVID-19 Anxiety, Cultivating Safeness, and Polyvagal Theory with Dr. Stephen Porges132. The Joy Of Movement With Dr. Kelly McGonigal 133. Mental Health in the Age of COVID-19 with Dr. Robyn Walser134. What to do When Work, Parenting, and Partnership Collide During Quarantine138. Exploring Existence and Purpose: Existentialism with Dr. Robyn Walser146. Parental Burnout with Lisa Coyne149. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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163. The Likeability Trap with Alicia Menendez Sep 17, 2020

Women are told to be nice, but not too nice. Be successful, but not too successful. Just be likeable. Join Jill for her interview with award-winning journalist and author of the book The Likeability Trap, Alicia Menendez, as they examine the impossible bind women find themselves in: to succeed, women must be competent and likeable; but the more women are seen as competent, and the more they achieve, the less likeable they become. Alicia discusses how women can let go of old rules and reimagine leadership rather than reinventing themselves. Listen and Learn What likeability traps areWhat the "Goldilocks Conundrum" isThe problem with focusing on women as the solutionThe need for systemic changeIdeas for where to start moving the conversation forwardHow to think about ambition during a pandemic and how to juggle the challenges of today’s difficult times About Alicia Menendez Alicia Menendez Alicia Menendez is an MSNBC anchor and host of the Latina to Latina podcast. Dubbed “Ms. Millennial” by The Washington Post, “journalism’s new gladiator” by Elle, and a “content queen” by Marie Claire, her interviews and reporting have appeared on ABC News, Bustle, FusionTV, PBS and Vice News. Her first book, “The Likeability Trap” was published in November 2019. She lives in New Jersey with her husband and two daughters. Resources Visit Alicia's webpage Buy the book The Likeability Trap: How to Break Free and Succeed As You Are 49. Empowering Women with Dr. Robyn Walser 121. Be Mighty: An Episode for Stressed Out, Worried Women with Dr. Jill Stoddard Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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162. APA Guidelines on Race and Ethnicity in Psychology with Karen Suyemoto Sep 11, 2020

In this episode, Diana interviews Dr. Karen Suyemoto, the chair of the APA Guidelines on Race and Ethnicity in Psychology. Race and culture are present in all of our interactions. As mental health professionals, it is our ethical responsibility to understand the ways in which race and ethnicity impact us personally, our interactions with clients, and the communities we serve. Everyone is also caught in the system of racism and oppression. It is our responsibility as mental health providers to strive towards understanding the complexities of this system and how we can contribute to systemic change. Listen and Learn How do race and ethnicity interact, and how are they definedWhy understanding the influences of race and ethnicity is so central to psychologyThe role personal inquiry plays in the guidelinesWhy practicing cultural humility and understanding positionality is important in the work of a psychologistHow racism and privilege has impacted the field of psychologyHow the therapy room can be a reenactment of racial traumaWhat it means to be an activist in psychologyHow we can carry out a deep commitment to changeHow to hold both race and the individual authentic relationship in our inter-racial interactions About Karen Suyemoto Karen Suyemoto has a joint appointment with the Psychology Department and the Asian American Studies Program and Critical Ethnic and Community Studies graduate program at the University of Massachusetts, Boston. Their research interests focus generally on Asian American psychology and issues related to social justice and anti-racist therapy/ practice/education. Their research addresses fostering awareness and advocacy for social justice through examining relations of race and racism to mental health; investigating effects of resistance and coping with racism, and exploring the complexity of relative and ascribed power and intersectional discrimination. Additional research addresses how cultural responsiveness and racial social justice can be developed through and integrated into education, training, research methods, and practice. Their current research projects include a quantitative study examining the effects of racism for people of color and how taking action to challenge racism may moderate negative psychological effects and a two-book project focused on transformative teaming and learning about oppression and privilege (with Grace Kim and Roxanne Donovan). Professor Suyemoto was the Chair of the recently released Guidelines for Race and Ethnicity for the American Psychological Association. They served as the past president of the Asian American Psychological Association and as the AAPA delegate to the American Psychological Association Council of Representatives. In 2013, they were recognized as a White House Champion of Change: Asian American Pacific Islander Woman Leader and also awarded the Asian American Psychological Association’s Distinguished Contributions Award. Resources: APA Guidelines on Race and Ethnicity in PsychologyDr. Suyemoto's Web site 150. Immigrant and Refugee Mental Health with Dr. Sandra Mattar156. The Psychology of Radical Healing Collective144. Healing Racial Trauma with Dr. Kristee Haggins (Re-Release from June 2019)96. Effective Conversations About Diversity Issues with Drs. Anatasia Kim and Alicia del Prado Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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161. The Gift of Failure with Jessica Lahey Sep 02, 2020

Modern parenting is high stakes, leaving parents terrified of failure in their parenting and in their children. But it turns out that the overprotective behaviors driven by our fears undermine our children’s—and our own—successes throughout life. Join Yael for a conversation with best-selling author, teacher, podcaster, and parent Jessica Lahey for a thought-provoking conversation about how parents can learn to relate to failure differently for themselves and their children. And why we should. Listen and Learn: How overprotective parenting can undermine competence, independence, academic potential, and emotional healthWhy failure gets a bad rap and how to reframe itHow autonomy, competence, and relatedness can help our kids learn to learn betterThe importance of intrinsic motivation and how to help children build itWhat external motivators are and why they are problematicHow to “parent in place” with greater ease (what we can do less of and what we can focus on while our children are learning at home)Why it’s important to focus on process over product About Jessica Lahey: Jessica Lahey Jessica Lahey is a teacher, writer, and mom. Over twenty years, she’s taught every grade from sixth to twelfth in both public and private schools. She writes about education, parenting, and child welfare for The Atlantic, Vermont Public Radio, The Washington Post and the New York Times and is the author of the New York Times bestselling book, The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed. She is a member of the Amazon Studios Thought Leader Board and wrote the educational curriculum for Amazon Kids’ The Stinky and Dirty Show. Jessica earned a B.A. in Comparative Literature from the University of Massachusetts and a J.D. with a concentration in juvenile and education law from the University of North Carolina School of Law. She lives in Vermont with her husband and two sons. Her second book, The Addiction Inoculation: Raising Healthy Kids in a Culture of Dependence, will be released in April 2021. Resources from Jess: Jessica’s WebsiteThe Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed, by Jessica Lahey #AmWriting Podcast with Jessica Lahey, KJ Dell’Antonia, and Sarina BowenParenting in Place Masterclass From The Atlantic, Why back-to-school night made me feel like a bad mom, by Jessica Lahey Other Resources: Yael’s essay in Rick Hanson’s Wise Brain Bulletin, How to Be a Happier Parent Under Quarantine Jessica's bibliography containing the books referenced during this episode (and many others Jess refers to in various speaking engagements and writing).The Stinky and Dirty Show on Amazon Prime 78. The Self-Driven Child with Dr. William Stixrud141. Educating Our Kids at Home with Julie Bogart Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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160. Schooling at Home, Pandemic Pods, And Socially Just Parenting With Jen Lumanlan Aug 30, 2020

Parenting is stressful right now. This is because we are educating our kids at home while juggling work with limited childcare. We are also navigating difficult, important conversations about racism, the pandemic, and world events. How can we regain our sanity and parent in a way that is meaningful? Join us for a conversation with Jen Lumanlan, a child development expert and podcast host from Your Parenting Mojo. During this episode, we explore homeschooling, pandemic pods, and socially just parenting. Listen and Learn: How Diana and Debbie are navigating school at homeHomeschooling strategies that foster deep learning and keep kids engagedHow to form a pandemic pod in a socially just wayWhat is “patriarchy” in parenting and how it harms our childrenWhite privilege in parentingActions parents can take against racism Jen Lumanlan About Jen Lumanlan Jen Lumanlan holds an M.S. in Psychology (Child Development) and an M.Ed. She hosts the Your Parenting Mojo podcast which is a reference guide for parents of toddlers and preschoolers based on scientific researchers and the principles of respectful parenting. In each episode, she examines a topic related to parenting and child development from all sides to help parents understand how to make decisions about raising their children. She lives in California with her husband and daughter. Resources Your Parenting Mojo Podcast Resources: Trying to make a decision about homeschooling versus school-based programs?Looking for resources related to parenting and race?Want to start a Pandemic Pod? Try the Pandemic Pods 'in a box' courseWant to get started with Homeschooling? Check out The Confident Homeschooler Other Resources Mentioned: Nice White Parents PodcastYuval Noah Harari on what the year 2050 has in store for humankind Carol Gilligan on Patriarchy in Parenting with Jen LumanlanHow to Get Away with Parenting podcastUrban Intellectual Black History Flashcards 141. Educating Our Kids at Home with Julie Bogart69. Emotional Intelligence and the Science of Meditation with Dr. Daniel Goleman159. Challenging Times During Adolescence with Dr. Louise Hayes78. The Self-Driven Child with Dr. William Stixrud142. FOMO (Fear of Missing Out) With Patrick McGinnis9. Children's Emotions: Understanding and Responding to Your Child's Feelings14. Mindful Parenting Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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159. Challenging Times During Adolescence with Louise Hayes Aug 26, 2020

Pandemic, online school, social distancing, climate change… this is an especially difficult time for adolescents, who are already in a transitional time of life. Dr. Louise Hayes is one of the world’s foremost experts on using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy with Adolescents. She joins us on the podcast for the second time, to talk about her new book for adolescents, and share her thoughts on helping adolescents cope with today’s challenges. Listen and Learn The unique challenges of the pandemic for adolescents, and how they can cope.Why losses associated with the pandemic, even seemingly small ones, are real. Why we should all be listening to what adolescents have to say.About the concept of “active hope.”Louise Hayes’s thoughts about bullying and procrastination. How to take small steps toward self-care during difficult times.How to go from “zombieland” to “vitalityland.” About Dr. Louise Hayes Dr. Louise Hayes is a clinical psychologist who is well known for her work using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy for young people in schools and clinical settings. She is a former president of the Association for Contextual Behavioral Science. Dr. Hayes is an author, international speaker, a senior fellow with The University of Melbourne and Orygen Youth Health, and a peer-reviewed Acceptance and Commitment Therapy/Training (ACT) trainer. Dr. Hayes is the co-author of the The Thriving Adolescent: Using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and Positive Psychology to Help Teens Manage Emotions, Achieve Goals, and Build Connection. Her newest book is called Your Life, Your Way: Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Skills to Help Teens Manage Emotions and Build Resilience. Together with Joseph Ciarrochi, she conducts research and treatment development; her latest work uses a DNA-v (Discoverer-Noticer-Advisor-Values) treatment model for young people. Louise is also an active humanitarian, taking mental health professionals into the Himalaya to developing their mindfulness skills and raising funds for poor children in remote Nepal. Resources: Your Life, Your Way: Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Skills to Help Teens Manage Emotions and Build Resilience https://amzn.to/3iTWEva Praxis DNA-V online training with Louise Hayes: https://www.praxiscet.com/events/dna-v/The Thriving Adolescent: Using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and Positive Psychology to Help Teens Manage Emotions, Achieve Goals, and Build Connection https://amzn.to/31fZvsu Sherry Turkle Reclaiming Conversation https://amzn.to/3laC3VJ Helping Adolescents Thrive with Dr. Louise Hayes: https://www.offtheclockpsych.com/podcast/helping-adolescents-thriveParental Burnout with Dr. Lisa Coyne: https://www.offtheclockpsych.com/podcast/parental-burnout Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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158. Maybe You Should Talk to Someone with Lori Gottlieb Aug 19, 2020

In this episode, Jill speaks with Lori Gottlieb, psychotherapist and best-selling New York Times author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone, about her smash hit book and the art and heart of therapy. Join their intimate discussion about ultracrepidarianism (one of Lori’s favorite words!), vulnerability, breaking therapy rules, reducing mental health stigma, and more! About Lori Gottlieb: Lori Gottlieb Lori Gottlieb is a psychotherapist and author of the New York Times Bestseller Maybe You Should Talk to Someone which is being adapted as a television series. In addition to her clinical practice, she writes The Atlantic Weekly’s “Dear Therapist” advice column and contributes regularly to the New York Times and many other publications. Her recent TED Talk is one of the 10 most-watched of the year. A member of the advisory council of the Bring Change to Mind and advisor to the Aspen Institute, she is a sought-after expert in media such as The Today Show, Good Morning America, The CBS This Morning, CNN, and NPR’s “Fresh Air.” She is also the co-host of the new iHeart Radio Podcast “Dear Therapists”, produced by Katie Couric. Learn more at LoriGottleib.com or by following her on Twitter @LoriGottlieb1 and Instagram at lorigottlieb_author. Resources: Maybe You Should Talk to Someone by Lori GottliebThe Atlantic Weekly’s “Dear Therapist” advice column by Lori GottliebLori’s TED TalkiHeart Radio Podcast “Dear Therapists” with Lori Gottlieb and Guy WinchLoriGottleib.com“In Psychotherapy the Toilet has Become the New Couch” April 30, 2020, The New York Times Article by Lori Gottlieb@LoriGottlieb1, Lori’s Twitter accountlorigottlieb_author, Lori’s Instagram 106. Therapy from "The Heart of ACT” with Dr. Robyn Walser Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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157. The Art of Dying Well with Katy Butler Aug 12, 2020

Our culture shies away from talking about death. But Katy Butler, author of The Art of Dying Well: A Practical Guide to a Good End of Life, argues we have an obligation to think about what constitutes a well-supported death. In this episode, Yael embarks on a thought-provoking, important, and timely conversation with Katy. In their discussion, Katy shares ways we can honor the death process relationally, practically, medically, emotionally, and spiritually, both for ourselves and those we love. Listen and Learn: How we can honor death in the time of Covid-19What it means to die wellThe value of longevity versus quality of lifeWhat is slow medicine?Ways to infuse sanctity, even in a hospital roomWhat is an advance directive?The importance of cleaning up our emotional legacyUsing ritual in virtual ways (The Bathing and Honoring Ritual)How we can cultivate hope when prolonging life becomes tenuous About Katy Butler: Katy Butler Katy Butler is an award-winning journalist, public speaker, and bestselling author. Katy Butler has written two groundbreaking books about the end of life and is a thought leader in the national movement for medical reform. Her newest book is The Art of Dying Well: A Practical Guide to a Good End of Life. Her first book, Knocking on Heaven’s Door: The Path to a Better Way of Death, a national bestseller, was named one of the 100 Most Notable Books of 2013 by the New York Times. Katy’s writing has appeared in The New Yorker; Mother Jones; Scientific American, Atlantic, Tricycle, Psychotherapy Networker; Best American Essays, and Best American Science Writing. She has taught writing at Esalen Institute in Big Sur and at Tassajara Zen Mountain Center. A Buddhist, Katy was lay-ordained by the Vietnamese monk and peace activist Thich Nhat Hanh. Resources: The Art of Dying Well: A Practical Guide to a Good End of Life by Katy ButlerKnocking on Heaven’s Door: The Path to a Better Way of Death by Katy Butler“What Broke My Father’s Heart: How a Pacemaker Wrecked Our Family’s Life,” June 18, 2020 New York Times article by Katy ButlerKaty Butler’s websiteFive Wishes, ways to talk about advanced care directives 138. Exploring Existence and Purpose: Existentialism with Dr. Robyn Walser117. Bearing Unbearable Loss: A conversation About Grief with Dr. Joanne Cacciatore52. Palliative Care and Healing with Dr. Michael Kearney Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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156. The Psychology of Radical Healing Collective with Helen Neville, Hector Adames, Bryana French, and Grace Chen Aug 06, 2020

Join Diana for an important and empowering discussion with Dr. Helen Neville, Dr. Hector Adames, Dr. Bryana French, and Dr. Grace Chen, four BIPOC psychologists and members of The Psychology of Radical Healing Collective, about steps we can take at the individual and community level to heal from racial oppression. Collectively. Listen and Learn What is radical healing?How does radical healing differ from conventional healing approaches?Why NOW’s a key time to raise the critical consciousnessWhy cultural authenticity mattersWays radical healing can help BIPOC communities weather Covid-19 Tips on how to talk about race, racism, and inclusivityHow to approach “hot moment” conversations about race to engender changeWhat is radical hope and how to cultivate it in trying timesResources, resources, resources! About The Psychology of Radical Healing Collective Dr. Helen Neville About Dr. Helen Neville: Dr. Neville is a Provost Fellow and Professor at the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign in the Educational Psychology and African American Studies departments. She is the former President of the Society for the Psychological Study of Culture, Ethnicity, and Race (American Psychological Association Division 45) and the lead editor of the Handbook of African American Psychology. Dr. Neville has authored, coauthored and edited 7 books and close to 90 articles. She also serves on the editorial boards of several other psychology and Black Studies journals. Dr. Neville received her doctorate in counseling psychology from the University of California at Santa Barbara. Dr. Hector Adames About Dr. Hector Adames: Dr. Adames is an Associate Professor at The Chicago School of Professional Psychology, Chicago Campus and the Co-Director of the IC-RACE Lab (Immigration Critical Race And Cultural Equity Lab). He is also the editor of Latinx Psychology Today (LPT) and is on the editorial board of The Counseling Psychologist and Professional Psychology: Research & Practice. Dr. Adames is the co-author of Cultural Foundations and Interventions in Latino/a Mental Health: History, Theory and within Group Differences. He also co-authored two forthcoming books; Race and Colorism: Towards a Racially Conscious Understanding of Latinxs and Caring for Latinxs with Dementia in a Globalized World: Behavioral and Psychosocial Treatments. Dr. Adames received his doctorate in Clinical Psychology from Wright State University in Ohio. Dr. Bryana French About Dr. Bryana French: Dr. French is an Associate Professor in the Graduate School of Professional Psychology at the University of St. Thomas. She researches the psychosocial impacts of sexual coercion among racially diverse adolescents and the radical healing of black, and indigenous people. Dr. French’s work has been published in several journals such as The Counseling Psychologist, Journal of African American Studies, and Journal of Interpersonal Violence and she has held several leadership roles in the American Psychological Association. Dr. French earned her Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology at the University of Illinois. Dr. Grace Chen Dr. Grace Chen: Dr. Chen is a licensed psychologist and life coach in Menlo Park, CA. Dr. Chen specializes in helping clients with marginalized identities to feel heard and understood and empowers them to embrace their strengths, gifts and potential. Dr. Chen also facilitates support groups for graduate women students at Stanford’s Graduate School of Business and was formerly a professor at the Palo Alto University. Dr. Chen earned her Ph.D. in counseling psychology from the University of Texas at Austin. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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155. Mindfulness and Recovery with Rebecca Williams Jul 29, 2020

You are not alone if you’re feeling more stressed out and using unhealthy means to cope. Four months into the pandemic may find you Netflix binging, stress eating, or reaching for that extra glass of wine more than you would like. Or you may be struggling with addiction and/or working hard to maintain recovery in the midst of increased pandemic stress. In this episode Yael speaks with Dr. Rebecca Williams, a psychologist and co-author of The Gift of Recovery: 52 Mindful Ways to Live Joyfully Beyond Addiction and The Mindfulness Workbook for Addiction. Her approach offers strategies for managing the big emotions we’re feeling now and concrete strategies to build the neural pathways in our brains to pivot toward wellness and healing (rather than of unhealthy coping mechanisms/problematic addictive behaviors) in the face of stress. Listen and Learn: What is addiction?Why mindfulness is key for those struggling with addictionNeuroplasticity’s role in healing and ways to cultivate it Why our feelings don’t have to change for us to be okTeasing apart cravings from commandsTips for folks with a hard time getting in touch with their valuesThe relationship between loss and addictionTips for individuals who love someone struggling with addiction About Dr. Rebecca Williams: Dr. Rebecca Williams Dr. Rebecca Williams is a psychologist and award-winning author of two books, integrating mindfulness and recovery from addictive behaviors. Her first book, The Mindfulness Workbook for Addiction: A Guide to Coping with Grief, Stress, and Anger that Trigger Addictive Behaviors incorporates over 60 worksheets and exercises for readers and therapists to identify healthy coping strategies in recovery. And her second book, The Gift of Recovery: 52 Mindful Ways to Live Joyfully Beyond Addiction is a pocket coach of mindfulness skills that readers can practice every day to stay focused on self-care and commit to a healthy recovery. Rebecca is a lifelong yoga practitioner and brings the ancient teachings of yoga and meditation into understanding mental health and recovery. Resources: The Mindfulness Workbook for Addiction: A Guide to Coping with Grief, Stress, and Anger that Trigger Addictive Behaviors by Rebecca E. Williams, PhD and Julie S. Kraft, MAThe Gift of Recovery: 52 Mindful Ways to Live Joyfully Beyond Addiction by Rebecca E. Williams, PhD and Julie S. Kraft, MA, MFTA Better Chance: A non-profit organization dedicated to creating leaders of color.Untamed, by Glennon Doyle 101. The Complete Family Guide to Addiction with Thomas Harrison and Dr. Hillary Connery Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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154. Healthcare Professional Wellbeing with Abbie Beacham, Kerry Makin-Byrd, and Bernard Chang (Part 2) Jul 24, 2020

Healthcare professionals usually choose their careers because patient care is meaningful; most want to make a positive impact and help others. However, with a broken healthcare system and unending occupational stressors, burnout is all-too-common, sometimes resulting in tragic consequences. Join Debbie for Part 2 of a rich two-part series with health psychologist Dr. Abbie Beacham, a clinical psychologist/trauma expert Dr. Kerry Makin-Byrd, and Dr. Bernard Chang, Associate Professor of Emergency Medicine at Columbia University, on the wellbeing of healthcare providers. Part 2 is about strategies for refueling for the deeply meaningful work providers do. Listen and Learn (Part 2): Strategies, strategies, strategies…The power of micro-moments - like the 20-second handwash!How to embrace the wobble board of a busy life.The importance of saying yes to basic needs, and why providers’ basic needs matter too!How to put pragmatic mindfulness to work for you.The benefits of self-compassion (and ways to sneak some in). About Dr. Abbie Beacham: Dr. Abbie Beacham Abbie Beacham, PhD is a Clinical Psychologist who has spent her career working in healthcare and medical settings. She has her PhD in Clinical Psychology from the University of Louisville. Dr. Beacham also completed her internship in Clinical Health Psychology at the University of Florida Health Sciences Center and Post-doctoral Fellowship at the University of Kentucky Colleges of Medicine and Dentistry. Over the past four years she has worked extensively with physicians and other healthcare professionals across the Rocky Mountain Region addressing their stress, burnout and well-being. As part of this work, she collaborated with colleagues to develop and implement evidence-based well-being programs for health professionals. Her most recent training “Cultivating Personal Resilience” has been presented to hundreds of professionals in both in-person and online formats. Dr. Beacham recently relocated from University of Colorado School of Medicine in Aurora, CO to assume the position of Director of Behavioral Science at the University of Louisville School of Dentistry in Louisville, KY. She is co-founder of Project Well-Being, where she continues to do presentations, trainings and online well-being programs to audiences large and small. A licensed psychologist in Colorado and Kentucky (provisional) she maintains a small private practice serving healthcare professionals via online consultation and therapy. In her spare time, she can be found hanging out with her family or pedaling her road bike (“Ruby”) among the birds, trees and streams in Kentucky and Colorado. Her guilty pleasure is searching the world over for the best cup of coffee (medium-dark roast please). About Dr. Kerry Makin-Byrd: Dr. Kerry Makin-Byrd Dr. Kerry Makin-Byrd is a clinical psychologist on a mission to help professionals create deep, meaningful lives. She uses evidence-based therapy and coaching to foster resilience, mindfulness, and purpose-driven work. Dr. Makin-Byrd received her Ph.D. from Pennsylvania State University, and subsequently received advanced training at the University of California San Francisco and Stanford University. She has held professional appointments at the National Center for PTSD and at New York University. She has served as a researcher and national subject matter expert on trauma and PTSD, and has authored over 30 peer-reviewed studies, Congressional reports, and clinical chapters on trauma and resilience. She received the Special Contribution Award from the Veterans Health Administration in recognition of the national impact of her policy contributions and clinical teaching on VA mental health services. Kerry is a founding board member of the Kids Compassion Project,... Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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153. Healthcare Professional Wellbeing Abbie Beacham, Kerry Makin-Byrd, and Bernard Chang (Part 1) Jul 23, 2020

Healthcare professionals usually choose their careers because patient care is meaningful; most want to make a positive impact and help others. However, with a broken healthcare system and unending occupational stressors, burnout is all-too-common, sometimes resulting in tragic consequences. Join Debbie for Part 1 of a rich two-part series with health psychologist Dr. Abbie Beacham, a clinical psychologist/trauma expert Dr. Kerry Makin-Byrd, and Dr. Bernard Chang, Associate Professor of Emergency Medicine at Columbia University, on the wellbeing of healthcare providers. Part 1 is an exploration of issues related to healthcare professional wellbeing, both before and during the era of COVID-19. Listen and Learn (Part 1): About the occupational stressors and systemic factors in medicine that contribute to burnout.The impact of COVID-19 on healthcare professional wellbeing.Why mental health symptoms are higher among physicians than the general public.The physical health impacts of working in medicine.Why a multi-pronged approach to healthcare professional wellbeing is key. About Dr. Abbie Beacham: Dr. Abbie Beacham Abbie Beacham, PhD is a Clinical Psychologist who has spent her career working in healthcare and medical settings. She has her PhD in Clinical Psychology from the University of Louisville. Dr. Beacham also completed her internship in Clinical Health Psychology at the University of Florida Health Sciences Center and Post-doctoral Fellowship at the University of Kentucky Colleges of Medicine and Dentistry. Over the past four years she has worked extensively with physicians and other healthcare professionals across the Rocky Mountain Region addressing their stress, burnout and well-being. As part of this work, she collaborated with colleagues to develop and implement evidence-based well-being programs for health professionals. Her most recent training “Cultivating Personal Resilience” has been presented to hundreds of professionals in both in-person and online formats. Dr. Beacham recently relocated from University of Colorado School of Medicine in Aurora, CO to assume the position of Director of Behavioral Science at the University of Louisville School of Dentistry in Louisville, KY. She is co-founder of Project Well-Being where she continues to do presentations, trainings and online well-being programs to audiences large and small. A licensed psychologist in Colorado and Kentucky (provisional) she maintains a small private practice serving healthcare professionals via online consultation and therapy. In her spare time, she can be found hanging out with her family or pedaling her road bike (“Ruby”) among the birds, trees and streams in Kentucky and Colorado. Her guilty pleasure is searching the world over for the best cup of coffee (medium-dark roast please). About Dr. Kerry Makin-Byrd: Dr. Kerry Makin-Byrd Dr. Kerry Makin-Byrd is a clinical psychologist on a mission to help professionals create deep, meaningful lives. She uses evidence-based therapy and coaching to foster resilience, mindfulness, and purpose-driven work. Dr. Makin-Byrd received her Ph.D. from Pennsylvania State University, and subsequently received advanced training at the University of California San Francisco and Stanford University. She has held professional appointments at the National Center for PTSD and at New York University. She has served as a researcher and national subject matter expert on trauma and PTSD, and has authored over 30 peer-reviewed studies, Congressional reports, and clinical chapters on trauma and resilience. She received the Special Contribution Award from the Veterans Health Administration in recognition of the national impact of her policy contributions and clinical teaching on VA mental health services. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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152. Helping the Helper with Susan David Jul 15, 2020

How can we, as helpers, give the best care to our clients, loved ones, and ourselves during this unprecedented time? We’re being called to live through something as massive as a global pandemic while simultaneously helping others experience and process it too. In this episode, Jill speaks with Harvard Medical School psychologist and popular TED speaker, Dr. Susan David, about the importance of getting back to the basics when we feel as if we really have nothing left to give. Listen and Learn: What is “gentle acceptance” and why it is so important right nowHow to optimize the small moments Why achieving and striving aren’t helpful right nowWhat’s structure got to do with it? Striking the balance between structure and letting goThe power of letting ourselves be cared for About Dr. Susan David: Dr. Susan David Susan David, Ph.D. is one of the world’s leading management thinkers and an award-winning Harvard Medical School psychologist. Her new #1 Wall Street Journal bestselling book, Emotional Agility based on the concept Harvard Business Review heralded as a Management Idea of the Year and winner of the Thinkers50 Breakthrough Idea Award, describes the psychological skills critical to thriving in times of complexity and change. Susan’s TED Talk on the topic went viral with over 1 million views in its first week of release. She is a frequent contributor to the Harvard Business Review, New York Times, Washington Post, Wall Street Journal, and guest on national radio and television. Named on the Thinkers50 global list of the top management thinkers, Susan is a sought-after keynote speaker and consultant, with clients that include the World Economic Forum, EY, United Nations, Google, Microsoft, NASDAQ, and many other national and multinational organizations. Her focus is on defining and executing effective strategy, especially in the areas of engagement, high-performance leadership, and culture change. Susan is the CEO of Evidence Based Psychology, on the faculty at Harvard Medical School, a Cofounder of the Institute of Coaching (a Harvard Medical School/McLean affiliate), and on the Scientific Advisory Boards of Thrive Global and Virgin Pulse. Susan lives outside of Boston with her family. Resources: www.susandavid.comChecking in with Susan David, a podcast with TED related to pandemic copingEmotional Agility by Susan David, Ph.D.The Gift and Power of Emotional Courage TED Talk by Dr. Susan DavidEmotional Agility Quiz, Dr. Susan David’s online quiz with a free 10-page personalized report offering specific strategies to help you become more emotionally agile 73. Essentialism with Greg McKeown113. Self-Compassion for Parents with Dr. Susan Pollak Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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151. Intuitive Eating with Evelyn Tribole Jul 13, 2020

Many of us struggle in our relationship with food and weight. If we are going to have a chance at restructuring our relationship with food, it helps to understand the complex interactions at the individual and systemic levels. In this episode, Evelyn Tribole shares her expertise on intuitive eating, a non-diet approach to healing your relationship with your body and food. Listen and Learn: 10 principles of intuitive eatingHow diet culture contributes to being disconnected from your body and loss of control over foodWays to cultivate your inner wisdom around eatingHow to rediscover your hunger and fullness cuesWays to get started on your intuitive eating journey todayHow to support intuitive eating in your kids About Evelyn Tribole: Evelyn Tribole Evelyn Tribole, MS, RD is an award-winning registered dietitian, with a nutrition counseling practice in Newport Beach, California. She has written nine books including the bestsellers Healthy Homestyle Cooking and Intuitive Eating (co-author). Her newest book is the Intuitive Eating Workbook: Ten Principles for Nourishing a Healthy Relationship with Food. Evelyn was the nutrition expert for Good Morning America, appearing from 1994-’95 and was a national spokesperson for the American Dietetic Association for 6 years. She was a contributing editor for Shape magazine where her monthly column, Recipe Makeovers, appeared for 11 years. She is has appeared on hundreds of interviews, including CNN, Today Show, MSNBC, Fox News, USA Today, Wall St. Journal, and People magazine. Evelyn qualified for the Olympic Trials in the first-ever women’s marathon in 1984. Although she no longer competes, Evelyn runs for fun and is an avid skier and hiker. She also enjoys surfing, kayaking, and white water rafting. Evelyn’s favorite food is chocolate when it can be savored slowly. Resources: Intuitiveeating.orgIntuitiveeatingcommunity.org; a free peer-to-peer support group Intuitive Eating Training for Health Professionals@evelyntribole; InstagramIntuitive Eating, 4th Edition: A Revolutionary Anti-Diet Approach by Evelyn Tribole and Elyse Resch The Intuitive Eating Workbook: Ten Principles for Nourishing a Healthy Relationship with Food by Evelyn Tribole and Elyse ReschCheck out this great article and podcast on Decolonizing Beauty Standards Check out this article on the impact of weight stigma on health Psychologists Off the Clock has had a number of experts on the show sharing their expertise in weight concerns, the neuroscience of eating, eating disorders, and movement. Check them out here! 67. The Hungry Brain: Outsmarting Instincts That Make Us Overeat With Dr. Stephan Guyenet93. Effective Weight Loss with Dr. Evan Forman36. Weight Loss Strategies From Acceptance And Commitment Therapy With Dr. Jason Lillis129. Yoga for All and Body Kindness with Dr. Jennifer Webb132. The Joy Of Movement With Dr. Kelly McGonigal124. Nutritious Movement and Why it Matters with Katy Bowman, M.S.128. ACT For Food Restriction And Anorexia With Dr. Rhonda Merwin18. Appetite Awareness Training with Dr. Linda Craighead31. DBT for Binge Eating with Dr. Debra Safer Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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150. Immigrant and Refugee Mental Health with Sandra Mattar Jul 08, 2020

Over 40 million US residents are foreign-born. Immigrants and refugees face many circumstances impacting their mental health. These include the trauma of the immigration process and the acculturation process that follows. Additionally, many face systemic oppression and the threat of deportation. These challenges are complex and multifaceted. Therefore, therapy and psychology need to do a better job at orienting toward contextual and systemic factors in mental health treatment. Join Diana for this inspiring conversation with Dr. Sandra Mattar, Assistant Professor at the Boston University School of Medicine and leading expert on immigrant and refugee mental health. Dr. Mattar speaks of her experience as an immigrant to the US. Additionally, she talks about the impact of trauma and health disparities in the populations she serves. Dr. Mattar also discusses how to provide compassionate, culturally sensitive treatment to support these members of our community to heal and thrive. Immigrant mental health is American mental health. As the Informed Immigrant states: “You deserve to feel safe and empowered, no matter your immigration status.” Listen and Learn The individual and systemic challenges impacting immigrant and refugee mental health How the recent Supreme Court decisions on DACA and refugee asylum impact immigrant and refugee mental healthWays to shift from an individualistic therapy approach to one prioritizing contextual factors How mental health treatment with immigrants and refugees is adapting to COVID-19 Ethnocentric ways to address the ongoing trauma that immigrant communities faceHow to practice self-care and self-compassion while taking values-based action as a therapist About Dr. Sandra Mattar Dr. Sandra Mattar Dr. Sandra Mattar is a clinical psychologist and an Assistant Professor in the Department of Psychiatry at the Boston University School of Medicine and the Boston Medical Center Boston Center for Refugee Health and Human Rights. Her research and clinical interests include culturally informed trauma treatment, immigrants and refugee mental health, mental health disparities, multicultural psychology, and mindfulness and spirituality. Dr. Mattar is an Associate Editor for the Journal of Psychological Trauma and a member of the American Psychological Association (APA) Race and Ethnicity Guidelines Task Force. Dr. She was also a founding member of the Division 56 (Trauma Psychology) of the APA and a Past Chair of the Committee on Ethnic Minority Affairs of APA. Dr. Mattar is a graduate of the William James College (formerly MSPP) and the Universidad Católica Andres Bello in Venezuela. An immigrant herself, Dr. Mattar was born and raised in Venezuela. Resources Connect with Sandra Mattar:Twitter: @Sandramattar23Website at Boston University School of MedicineAPA Guidelines on Race and Ethnicity in PsychologyImmigrant Mental Health Resources from the Informed ImmigrantCOVID-19 and U.S.-based refugee populations by Sandra Mattar and Linda Piwowarczyk in June’s issue of Psychological TraumaThe Undocumented Americans by Karla Cornejo VillavicencioAwakening Together: The Spiritual Practice of Inclusivity and Community by Larry YangMcMindfulness: How Mindfulness Became the New Capitalist Spirituality by Ronald PurserACBS World Conference 2020 ONLINE 91. Disability as a Form of Diversity with Dr. Erin Andrews144. Healing Racial Trauma with Dr. Kristee Haggins (Re-Release from June 2019) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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149. How Not Lose It with Your Kids with Carla Naumburg Jul 01, 2020

Summer is here, which for parents means Season Two of pandemic parenting. Parent tempers are triggered in so many ways now and we’ve lost access to the time and space that we need to calm our buttons. If you’re a parent and losing your cool more than you’d like with your kids, join Yael for an engaging and refreshingly irreverent interview with Dr. Carla Naumberg, author of How to Stop Losing Your Sh*t With Your Kids: A Practical Guide to Becoming a Calmer, Happier Parent. Spoiler alert: This episode’s chock-full of advice for how to make temper buttons less pushable and practical skills for what to do when you’re ready to explode at your kids! Listen and Learn: Carla’s 5 basic truths about losing it with our kids Owning our triggersWhy kids are button pushers and not triggers Specific practices to “calm” our buttonsWhy self-compassion is key, especially now, and how to engage itBest practices to apply after losing it with your kids/after the sh*t storm About Dr. Carla Naumburg: Dr. Carla Naumburg Carla Naumburg, Ph.D., is a writer, mother, and clinical social worker. She is the author of three parenting books: the bestselling How to Stop Losing Your Sh*t With Your Kids (Workman, 2019), Ready, Set, Breathe: Practicing Mindfulness with Your Children for Fewer Meltdowns and a More Peaceful Family (New Harbinger, 2015), and Parenting in the Present Moment: How to Stay Focused on What Really Matters (Parallax, 2014). Carla has appeared in The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Huffington Post, CNN, and Mindful Magazine, among other places. Carla lives outside of Boston with her husband, daughters, and two totally insane cats. Resources: How to Stop Losing Your Sh*t With Your Kids: A Practical Guide to Becoming a Calmer, Happier Parent by Carla NaumburgReady, Set, Breathe: Practicing Mindfulness with Your Children for Fewer Meltdowns and a More Peaceful Family by Carla NaumburgParenting in the Present Moment: How to Stay Focused on What Really Matters by Carla NaumburgSelf-Compassion for Parents: Nurture Your Child By Caring for Yourself by Susan Pollack 113. Self-Compassion for Parents with Dr. Susan Pollak123. Tantrum Survival Guide with Dr. Schrag Hershberg Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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148. Solitary Confinement and Criminal Justice Reform with Taylor Pendergrass Jun 24, 2020

Criminal Justice Reform is an important, and often overlooked element of Racial Justice. In the U.S., Black men are significantly more likely to be incarcerated. Individuals in the criminal justice system are likely to experience inhumane and dehumanizing practices, including solitary confinement. Severe social isolation can have a harmful long-term impact on physical and mental health. In this eye-opening episode, Debbie speaks with Taylor Pendergrass, an ACLU lawyer dedicated to criminal justice reform and co-editor of Six by Ten: Stories from Solitary. The book includes a collection of the rarely heard personal stories of people who have experienced long-term solitary confinement. In the episode, Taylor and Debbie discuss mental health, incarceration, and why we need to end the dehumanizing practice of long-term solitary confinement in the United States. Listen and Learn: Why solitary confinement is used in the U.S, and why long-term solitary confinement is a problem.About “SHU syndrome,” and the long-lasting psychological and physical effects of isolation on humans. Why mental health units are a more effective, humane alternative.What conditions are like in solitary confinement cells. What we can learn from European prison systems.How you can help promote criminal justice reform! About Taylor Pendergrass Taylor Pendergrass Taylor Pendergrass is a lawyer and activist who works on criminal justice reform for the ACLU. He has spent over a decade collecting stories of people who have been impacted by the criminal justice system. Along with Mateo Hoke, Taylor co-edited the book Six by Ten: Stories from Solitary which, through personal history narratives gives readers a better understanding of the horribly dehumanizing impact of solitary confinement on people’s lives. Taylor has a BA in Environmental Policy from Duke University and earned his law degree from the University of Colorado Law School. Resources Six by Ten: Stories from Solitary by Taylor Pendergrass and Mateo HokeDebbie's unabridged interview of Taylor Pendergrass on The New Books Network13th, a documentary directed by Ava DuVernay on NetflixThe New Jim Crow: Mass Incarceration in the Age of Colorblindness by Michelle Alexander “I Begged Them to Let Me Die”: How Federal Prisons Became Coronavirus Deathtraps by Keri Blakinger and Keegan Hamilton, The Marshall Project, June 18, 2020 “Coronavirus Cases Rise Sharply in Prisons Even as They Plateau Nationwide” by Timothy Williams, Libby Seline and Rebecca Griesbach, New York Times, June 16, 2020 ‘People are Sick All Around Me’: Inside the Coronavirus Catastrophe in California Prisons by Sam Levin, The Guardian, May 20, 2020 NY Times articles (here and here) about solitary confinement in Colorado by Rick RaemischPen Pal program with people in solitary confinementAn overview of research on the psychological impact of solitary confinement by Craig Haney, Department of Psychology, University of California, Santa Cruz 144. Healing Racial Trauma with Dr. Kristee Haggins (Re-Release from June 2019) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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147. Extending Compassion with Janina Scarlet and Sara Schairer Jun 17, 2020

Many of us are struggling during this time of COVID-19 and police brutality. It can feel hard to extend compassion to those with different views, let alone to ourselves. In this episode, psychologist and creator of Superhero Therapy, Dr. Janina Scarlet, shares her origin story that led from exposure to Chernobyl radiation as a child to immigration to bullying to discovering her calling: helping people with emotional pain become the heroes of their personal journeys. A major element of her Superhero Therapy is practicing compassion. Remembering to apply these useful skills can be a challenge. That’s where the founder of the non-profit Compassion It., Sara Schairer, comes in. Sara shares her inspiring story of how she created a worldwide social movement to teach and spread compassion. Janina and Sara talk with us about extending compassion even to those with whom we disagree, and why this matters, especially right now. And Sara leads us in an experiential compassion practice. Listen and Learn What Superhero Therapy isWhat Compassion it.tm is and how we can join the compassion missionHow we define compassionWhy compassion toward others, including those with whom we disagree, is importantA helpful compassion exercise About Dr. Janina Scarlet Dr. Janina Scarlet Dr. Janina Scarlet is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist, a scientist, and a full-time geek. A Ukrainian-born refugee, she survived Chernobyl radiation and persecution. She immigrated to the United States at the age of 12 with her family and later, inspired by the X-Men, developed Superhero Therapy to help patients with anxiety, depression, and PTSD. Dr. Scarlet was awarded the Eleanor Roosevelt Human Rights award from the United Nations Association for Superhero Therapy. She is the author of “Superhero Therapy,” “Therapy Quest,” “Harry Potter Therapy,” “Dark Agents” Superwomen,” and “Supernatural Therapy”. About Sara Schairer Sara Schairer is the founder and executive director of Compassion It®, a nonprofit organization and global social movement whose mission is to inspire daily compassionate actions and attitudes. Sara Schairer A facilitator of the Compassion Cultivation Training® (CCT) course developed at Stanford University, Sara has led trainings for audiences of all walks of life, from corporate executives to inmates at a maximum-security prison. She also led compassion trainings in Africa sponsored by the Botswana Ministries of Health and Education and spent a week at a Rwandan refugee camp working on unleashing compassion within its health care system. Sara is a contributing author to the book The Neuroscience of Learning and Development: Enhancing Creativity, Compassion, Critical Thinking and Peace in Education, and writes for Deepak Chopra’s Center for Wellbeing website. Sara gives talks and leads experiential workshops on burnout prevention, implicit bias, mindfulness, and compassion. She also created the one-of-a-kind reversible Compassion It wristband that prompts compassionate actions on six continents, 50+ countries and all 50 states. Resources The Center for Stress & Anxiety ManagementSuperhero TherapyCompassion ItBe An AdvocateWristbandMeditation 50. Compassion Focused Therapy with Dr. Russell Kolts Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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146. Parental Burnout with Lisa Coyne Jun 14, 2020

Burnout. It can happen at work, and it can happen to parents, too. Nowadays, with the COVID-19 pandemic, parents are especially stressed. They are navigating new roles and demands while trying to parent, teach their kids, and provide for their families. All of this with no childcare breaks. It’s the perfect storm for Parental Burnout. In this episode, Dr. Lisa Coyne, a parenting and child expert at McLean Hospital/Harvard Medical School, speaks with Debbie about signs of parental burnout. She offers practical strategies to help. Dr. Coyne gives suggestions for talking with children and teenagers about the emotional aspects of coping with the pandemic. She provides us an exercise to help reconnect with their big-picture parenting values. Listen and Learn What is parental burnout?Who’s at risk?Why pandemic parenting may lead to parental burnoutSimple practices to shift fed-up mood states and increase self-compassionThe power of treating kids as if they’re about to do the next right thingStrategies to support emotional growth in kids of all ages The crucial first response when parenting frustrating kidsPutting “values and vulnerabilities” conversations to work for youA helpful values exercise for overtaxed parents About Lisa Coyne Ph.D. Dr. Lisa Coyne Lisa W. Coyne, Ph.D., is a licensed clinical psychologist, assistant professor in the department of psychiatry at Harvard Medical School, and founder of the McLean OCD Institute for Children and Adolescents (OCDI Jr.). She also founded and directs the New England Center for OCD and Anxiety and is a peer-reviewed Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) Trainer. Dr. Coyne has authored or co-authored several books on parenting, children and families including The Joy of Parenting: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Guide to Effective Parenting in the Early Years; Acceptance and Commitment Therapy: The Clinician’s Guide for Supporting Parents; Stuff That’s Loud: A Teen’s Guide to Unspiraling when OCD Gets Noisyand Stop Avoiding Stuff: 25 Microskills to Face Your Fears and Do It Anyway. She is the incoming president of the Association for Contextual Behavioral Science (ACBS) and earned her BA in Psychology from the University of Scranton and her Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology from the University of Mississippi. Resources PRAXIS: An ACT Approach to Parental Burnout Webinar with Dr Lisa Coyne and Evelyn Gould“Dr. Lisa Coyne Offers Support for Kid and Teens During the Pandemic” McLean Hospital Webinar“Dr. Lisa Coyne Offers Tips to Help Parents Prevent Burnout” McLean Hospital Webinar“Dr. Lisa Coyne Shares Coping Strategies for Families During COVID-19” McLean Hospital Webinar“What Happened to American Childhood?” The Atlantic April 17, 2020 Article by Kate JulianThe Joy of Parenting: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Guide to Effective Parenting in the Early Years; by Lisa Coyne, Ph.D. and Amy R. Murrell Ph.D.Acceptance and Commitment Therapy: The Clinician’s Guide for Supporting Parents by Koa Whittingham Ph.D. and Lisa Coyne Ph.D.Stuff That’s Loud: A Teen’s Guide to Unspiraling when OCD Gets Noisyby Ben Sedley Ph.D. and Lisa Coyne Ph.D.Upcoming book for Pre-order: Stop Avoiding Stuff: 25 Microskills to Face Your Fears and Do It Anyway by Matt Boone, LCSW, Jennifer Gregg Ph.D. and Lisa Coyne Ph.D. 79. Helping Adolescents Thrive with Dr. Louise Hayes116. Building a Meaningful, Values-based Life with Dr. Jenna LeJeune Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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145. Caring, Compassion, and Cooperation with Paul Gilbert Jun 09, 2020

Compassion is good for your body and brain. Caring for and collaborating with others is also key for a healthy future. In this episode, Dr. Paul Gilbert, founder of Compassion Focused Therapy, offers some wisdom and action steps to harness your compassionate mind and get through this pandemic, cooperatively. Listen and Learn How our brains evolved to cooperateHow you can use your compassionate mind to regulate your threat systemWhat is the “Flow of Compassion” and how can we use it to navigate COVID-19 and beyondThe science behind compassion for others/cooperationTips to not let the psychology of entrapment get the best of us in quarantineA heartening take on the impact of social distancing on our childrenWays to harness our drive system to strengthen immune function About Dr. Paul Gilbert Dr. Paul Gilbert Paul Gilbert, FBPsS, Ph.D., OBE is Professor of Clinical Psychology at the University of Derby and honorary visiting Prof at the University of Queensland. Until his retirement from the NHS in 2016 he was Consultant Clinical Psychologist for over 40 years. Dr. Gilbert has researched evolutionary approaches to psychopathology with a special focus on mood, shame, and self-criticism in various mental health difficulties for which Compassion Focused Therapy was developed. He was made a Fellow of the British Psychological Society in 1993, president of the BABCP 2002-2004, and was a member of the first British Governments’ NICE guidelines for depression. Dr. Gilbert has written/edited 21 books and over 250 papers and book chapters. In 2006 he established the Compassionate Mind Foundation as an international charity with the mission statement: To promote wellbeing through the scientific understanding and application of compassion. Dr. Gilbert was awarded an OBE by the Queen in March 2011 for services to mental health. He established and is the Director of the Centre for Compassion Research and Training at Derby University UK and has written and edited many books on compassion. His latest Book is Living Like Crazy. Resources The Compassionate Mind FoundationLiving Like Crazy, by Paul Gilbert, PhDThe Compassionate Mind, by Paul Gilbert, PhDIn the Battle Against Corona Virus, Humanity Lacks Leadership by Yuval Noah Harari 144. Healing Racial Trauma with Dr. Kristee Haggins (Re-Release from June 2019)89. A Gift For You. Soothing Rhythm Breathing90. Dr. Paul Gilbert on Tricky Brains, Caring, and Living Like Crazy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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144. Healing Racial Trauma with Kristee Haggins (Re-Release from June 2019) Jun 03, 2020

In response to current events, we are re-releasing an interview Diana conducted in June 2019 with an African-centered psychologist and expert on racial trauma, Dr. Kristee Haggins. Racism is a public health crisis with deep, ongoing negative impacts on psychological and physical health. In this episode, Dr. Kristee Haggins discusses how to identify racial trauma and strategies to support healing. Dr. Haggins describes how black people can connect with the truth of their history, cultivate healing, and make choices that are good for themselves, their families, and larger communities. Dr. Haggins also offers recommendations for the work that those who do not identify as black can do to promote racial healing and change. Listen and Learn How do you know if you or someone you care about is experiencing racial trauma and stress? Effective self-care practices that black communities are using to heal racial trauma together Internal and collective “work” white and other non-black people can do to promote systematic and grassroots change Ways in which mental health professionals can better meet the needs of black and other diverse communities About Dr. Haggins Dr. Kristee Haggins is a community healer, African centered psychologist and professor who takes a holistic approach to healing mind, body, spirit, and community. She is a founding member of Safe Black Space Community Healing Circles and is committed to promoting health and wellness particularly in the Black community. Dr. Haggins studied Psychology as an undergraduate at the University of Southern California where she received a B.A. with honors. She earned her M.A. and Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology from The Ohio State University. Dr. Haggins has had a multifaceted career as a clinician, educator, consultant, trainer, and university administrator. Currently, she is a professor at California Northstate University and at Alliant International University, Sacramento where she teaches courses in multicultural counseling and therapy skills. Dr. Haggins has expertise in racial stress and trauma; African American mental health; multicultural psychology/diversity issues; and spirituality and mental health. She offers training and tailored workshops and consultation in these areas, in addition to others upon request. In 2016 she was awarded the Community Healing Award by the Community Healing Network (CHN) for her collaboration with CHN and the Association of Black Psychologists. Resources Dr. Kristee Haggins Web siteSafe Black Space Community Healing CirclesAssociation of Black PsychologistsThe Racial Healing Handbook by Annelise SinghSomebody Told a Lie One Day quote by Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. 96. Effective Conversations About Diversity Issues with Drs. Anatasia Kim and Alicia del Prado51. The Psychology of Political Division Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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143. Happier Parenting KJ Dell’Antonia May 27, 2020

If you – like us – are prone to parental guilt, struggle with pandemic parenting, and wonder if it’s possible to satisfy your own soul while raising kiddos then this is the episode for you! Dive in and join Yael for a candid discussion with KJ Dell’Antonia, former editor of The New York Times Motherlode Blog and author of How to Be a Happier Parent: Raising a Family, Having a Life and Loving (Almost) Every Minute. KJ offers practical advice for pandemic parenting, on mindset shifts to increase parenting satisfaction, and in raising happy, healthy, capable, and resilient kids. Listen and Learn Why happier parents make for happier kidsWhy you can be happy – even when your children aren’t4 things happy parents do wellHow to find success with kids and chores How to approach screen time Why not accommodate your kid’s every whim About KJ Dell’Antonia DJ Dell'Antonia KJ Dell’Antonia is the author of How to Be a Happier Parent: Raising a Family, Having a Life and Loving (Almost) Every Minute and a regular contributor to the New York Times, where she covers the personal and policy aspects of parenthood. Her research, interviews and reporting on the topic are geared towards helping all of us figure out “how it’s done” in the bits of family life we find most challenging. KJ is the former editor of The New York Times’ Motherlode blog and co-host of the #AmWriting podcast. An attorney and former prosecutor, KJ is a graduate of Kansas State University and the University of Chicago Law School. She lives in Lyme, New Hampshire with her husband and four children. Resources Diana's free resource "My Summer Map for Kids"How to Be a Happier Parent: Raising a Family, Having a Life and Loving (Almost) Every Minute by KJ Dell’Antonia“Why I Won’t Sacrifice My Sanity to My Kid’s Online Schooling” WBUR April 27, 2020 Commentary by KJ Dell’Antonia“What Happened to American Childhood?” The Atlantic April 17, 2020 Article by Kate Julian“Turn Your Demanding Child Into a Productive Co-Worker” New York Times April 30, 2020 Article by Michaeleen Doucleffkjdellantonia.comInstagram and the #BooksThatWon’tBumYouOut seriesTwitter: @KJDellAntoniaFacebookKJ’s irregular emails about creative family life: http://followkj#AmWriting PodcastThe Chicken Sisters by KJ Dell’Antonia (released June 30, 2020) 141. Educating Our Kids at Home with Julie Bogart75. Mindful-Self Compassion with Dr. Christopher Germer 113. Self-Compassion for Parents with Dr. Susan Pollak24. Choosing Both: Straddling Meaningful Career and Parenthood with Dr. Yael Schonbrun Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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142. FOMO (Fear of Missing Out) with Patrick McGinnis May 20, 2020

Wouldn’t it be great to feel more confident, courageous, and less stuck about decision-making? In this episode, Jill talks with Patrick McGinnis, who coined the term FOMO (Fear of Missing Out) about his new book Fear of Missing Out: Practical Decision-Making in a World of Overwhelming Choice. Join us for this fun and rich discussion about the causes and pitfalls of FOMO. We also talk about FOMO’s darker cousin FOBO (Fear of a Better Option). Later get tips for how to overcome indecision You'll find the power to choose what’s right for you by honing your decision-making skills. Listen and Learn What are FOMO and FOBO? FOMO and FOBO’s evolutionary roots FOMO’s dark tollFOBO’s darker tollWhy FOMO’s good- in moderation- and FOBO’s always badHarnessing FOMO’s upside to work for youPatrick’s hacks to squelch indecisiveness Tips to help your kids not fall prey to FOMOHow FOMO and FOBO fluctuate across the lifespan About Patrick McGinnis Patrick J McGinnis is an international venture capitalist and author of Fear of Missing Out: Practical Decision-Making in a World of Overwhelming Choice. Patrick coined the term FOMO (Fear of Missing Out) as well as the term FOBO (Fear of a Better Option) in a 2004 article in the student newspaper at the Harvard Business School. FOMO has since been added to the dictionary and FOBO has become an increasingly popular framework to describe analysis paralysis. Patrick is the host of the hit podcast FOMO Sapiens, which is distributed by Harvard Business Review, and the author of the international bestseller The 10% Entrepreneur: Live Your Startup Dream Without Quitting Your Day Job. He has been featured in the New York Times, Politico, The Financial Times, the Guardian, and Inc, and gave a popular 2019 TED Talk on FOBO and decision-making. Patrick has traveled to 103 countries and lives in New York City. Resources Fear of Missing Out: Practical Decision-Making in a World of Overwhelming Choice by Patrick McGinnisThe 10% Entrepreneur: Live Your Startup Dream Without Quitting Your Day Jobby Patrick McGinnisWebsite: www.patrickmcginnis.com Podcast: FOMO Sapiens Instagram: @patrickjmcginnisTwitter: @pjmcginnisFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/ItsPatrickJMcGinnis 127. Indistractable with Nir Eyal Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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141. Educating Our Kids at Home with Julie Bogart May 14, 2020

We have been unexpectedly thrust into the responsibility of educating our children from home. How can we survive the "wandering nomads", boredom, video games, and parental fears that our children are “falling behind”? Is it possible to find magic, a love of learning, and joy while educating at home? In this episode, Diana interviews Julie Bogart, a master in compassionate, meaningful home education. Julie shares her homeschool expertise and practical tips for thriving while learning at home. She guides us on how to harness your children’s interests, build family bonds, and create life-long learners of our children while at home. Listen and Learn: How to embrace the home environment and flexibly shift our schooling methods How to use a child’s interests and values to support curiosity, problem-solving skills, and buy you some more time!Answers to common concerns about math, academic standards, and social connection when educating from homeHow to use the cozy home environment to nurture learning What Diana is doing (and not doing) with her kids during this wild learning experiment!Resources to transition to homeschooling if you choose to for the short/long termWhat to do when you are exhausted from it all About Julie Bogart: Julie Bogart Julie Bogart is the popular voice of common sense and compassion for home educators. Her online coaching community, The Homeschool Alliance, her podcast, and her YouTube channel are lifelines for tens of thousands of weary homeschoolers all over the world. Julie’s the author of The Brave Learner: Finding Everyday Magic in Homeschool Learning and Life. She also the creator of the award-winning, innovative online writing program called Brave Writer and the fast-growing weekly habit called Poetry Teatime. Julie home educated her five children who are now globe-trotting adults. Today, Julie lives in Cincinnati, Ohio, and can be found sipping a cup of tea, planning her next visit to one of her lifelong-learning kids. Resources: Read Julie’s book The Brave Learner: Finding Everyday Magic in Homeschool Learning and Life.Find Julie on Social Media: Instagram, Twitter, FacebookJulie's online coursesGet Julie's summer resources for parents and kids by signing up to her email listHere is Julie's online resource for math at home: Boco MathDebbie's article on Medium.com Parents: Get Ready for The Summer of Boredom 134. What to do When Work, Parenting, and Partnership Collide During Quarantine123. Tantrum Survival Guide with Dr. Schrag Hershberg9. Children’s Emotions: Understanding and Responding to Your Child’s Feelings Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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140. Neurodharma with Rick Hanson (Part 2) May 08, 2020

Join Yael for Part 2 of a truly transformative two-part series with Dr. Hanson about his latest book, Neurodharma: New Science, Ancient Wisdom, and Seven Practices of the Highest Happiness. Continue to explore what’s happening in the brains of individuals who have made it their life’s work to develop a more grounded, calm and contented sense of being and learn more concrete and accessible practices from Neurodharma to develop your own unshakable core. Listen and Learn: How missing “the now” diminishes happinessThe neurological basis for how mindfulness increases wellbeingSimple hacks to take things less seriously and amplify happinessConcrete practices for increased awe, gratitude, and transcendenceWhy play and exuberance help hardwire Neurodharma seven power practices About Dr. Hanson: Dr. Rick Hanson Rick Hanson, Ph.D., is a psychologist, senior fellow at the UC Berkeley Greater Good Science Center, and the founder of The Wellspring Institute for Neuroscience and Contemplative Wisdom. Dr. Hanson is also a meditation teacher and New York Times best-selling author of several books including his newest book, Neurodharma: New Science, Ancient Wisdom, and Seven Practices of the Highest Happiness. Dr. Hanson’s other books include Resilient: How to Grow an Unshakable Core of Calm, Strength and Happiness; Buddha’s Brain: The Practical Neuroscience of Happiness, Love, and Wisdom; and Hardwiring Happiness: The New Brain Science of Contentment, Calm and Confidence. Dr. Hanson has spent decades both researching and steeping himself in neuroscience, clinical psychology and contemplative practices and is deeply committed to teaching people scientifically-validated methods to help them take charge of changing their brains for the better, from the inside out. Dr. Hanson received a B.A. from UCLA and his Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology from the Wright Institute. Resources: Neurodharma (affiliate link): Dr. Hanson’s 8-week online program in the practical science of a steady mind, kind heart and inner peace...SAVE $40: Promo Code: OFFTHECLOCK40The Foundations of Wellbeing (affiliate link): Dr. Hanson’s yearlong online program in positive neuroplasticity...SAVE $40: Promo Code: OFFTHECLOCK40 Being Well Podcast with Dr. Rick Hanson and Forrest HansonThe Wellspring Institute for Neuroscience and Contemplative WisdomNeurodharma: New Science, Ancient Wisdom, and Seven Practices of the Highest Happiness, by Rick Hanson Ph.D.Resilient: How to Grow an Unshakable Core of Calm, Strength and Happiness, by Rick Hanson Ph.D. with Forrest HansonHardwiring Happiness: The New Brain Science of Contentment, Calm and Confidence, by Rick Hanson PhD Buddha’s Brain: The Practical Neuroscience of Happiness, Love, and Wisdom, by Rick Hanson Ph.D. with Richard Mendius, MD Just One Thing: Developing a Buddha Brain One Simple Practice at a Time, by Rick Hanson Ph.D.Mother Nurture: A Mother’s Guide to Health in Body, Mind, and Intimate Relationships, by Rick Hanson Ph.D., Jan Hanson, and Ricki Pollycove, MDThe Neurodharma of Love: Rewire Your Brain for Healthy Relationships, an audio CD by Rick Hanson Ph.D. Just One Thing, Dr. Hanson’s free online newsletter 139. Neurodharma with Dr. Rick Hanson (Part 1)122: Taking in the Good with Dr. Rick Hanson Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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139. Neurodharma with Rick Hanson (Part 1) May 06, 2020

What if you could grow a little stronger, more loving, calmer, and clearer each day? Starting today? And what if you sustain these qualities even during times of stress? This is possible, according to Dr. Rick Hanson, a neuropsychologist and senior fellow at the UC Berkeley Greater Good Science Center. He offers a set of concrete practices to develop seven key qualities steeped in ancient wisdom practices and cutting-edge neuroscience. Join Yael for the first episode of a transformative two-part series with Dr. Hanson about his latest book, Neurodharma: New Science, Ancient Wisdom, and Seven Practices of the Highest Happiness. During the episode, you'll hear a fascinating discussion about what is happening in the brains of individuals who have made it their life’s work to develop a more grounded, calm, and contented sense of being. Then you'll have a chance to try some of the very accessible practices recommended in Neurodharma to develop your own unshakable core. Listen and Learn: What are Neurodharma’s seven power practices? Why mindfulness meditation is so powerfulHow savoring the good cultivates equanimity (and feels great!)The neurological basis for taking in the goodThe neurological basis for why suffering tends to stick in our brainsDr. Hanson’s personal favorite compassion exercises About Dr. Hanson: Dr. Rick Hanson Rick Hanson, Ph.D., is a psychologist, senior fellow at the UC Berkeley Greater Good Science Center, and the founder of The Wellspring Institute for Neuroscience and Contemplative Wisdom. Dr. Hanson is also a meditation teacher and New York Times best-selling author of several books including his newest book, Neurodharma: New Science, Ancient Wisdom, and Seven Practices of the Highest Happiness. Dr. Hanson’s other books include Resilient: How to Grow an Unshakable Core of Calm, Strength and Happiness; Buddha’s Brain: The Practical Neuroscience of Happiness, Love, and Wisdom; and Hardwiring Happiness: The New Brain Science of Contentment, Calm and Confidence. Dr. Hanson has spent decades both researching and steeping himself in neuroscience, clinical psychology and contemplative practices and is deeply committed to teaching people scientifically-validated methods to help them take charge of changing their brains for the better, from the inside out. Dr. Hanson received a B.A. from UCLA and his Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology from the Wright Institute. Resources: Neurodharma (affiliate link): Dr. Hanson’s 8-week online program in the practical science of a steady mind, kind heart and inner peace...SAVE $40: Promo Code: OFFTHECLOCK40The Foundations of Wellbeing (affiliate link): Dr. Hanson’s yearlong online program in positive neuroplasticity...SAVE $40: Promo Code: OFFTHECLOCK40 Being Well Podcast with Dr. Rick Hanson and Forrest HansonThe Wellspring Institute for Neuroscience and Contemplative WisdomNeurodharma: New Science, Ancient Wisdom, and Seven Practices of the Highest Happiness, by Rick Hanson Ph.D.Resilient: How to Grow an Unshakable Core of Calm, Strength and Happiness, by Rick Hanson Ph.D. with Forrest HansonHardwiring Happiness: The New Brain Science of Contentment, Calm and Confidence, by Rick Hanson PhD Buddha’s Brain: The Practical Neuroscience of Happiness, Love, and Wisdom, by Rick Hanson Ph.D. with Richard Mendius, MD Just One Thing: Developing a Buddha Brain One Simple Practice at a Time, by Rick Hanson Ph.D.Mother Nurture: A Mother’s Guide to Health in Body, Mind, and Intimate Relationships, by Rick Hanson Ph.D., Jan Hanson, and Ricki Pollycove, MDThe Neurodharma of Love: Rewire Your Brain for Healthy Relationships, an audio CD by Rick Hanson Ph.D. Just One Thing, Dr. Hanson’s free online newsletter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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138. Exploring Existence and Purpose: Existentialism with Robyn Walser Apr 30, 2020

Many therapists have had clients who question the purpose of existence, or who are waiting until things change to start living life fully. As Dr. Robyn Walser gently reminds us in her latest book, The Heart of ACT: Developing a Flexible, Process-Based, and Client-Centered Practice Using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, each moment spent waiting is another moment of life gone by. In this episode, Dr. Robyn Walser, a frequent guest of the podcast, and Debbie explore the power of connecting with our own mortality and existence, in order to cultivate a greater sense of aliveness and remind us to do what’s most important today. “Since you're here anyway, you're here and you're conscious… What will you do? You can close down, and shut down, and hide and be afraid. Or you can take risks, and open up, and taste life as much as possible.” Dr. Robyn Walser Listen and Learn: Why getting in touch with our own death can enrich life by giving purpose to our existence.How ideas from existentialism can deepen therapy sessions How we can cultivate greater meaning and purpose during times of adversity (like COVID-19)Wise words for those who are reluctant to consider their own mortalityAbout the concept of “Compassionate Immediacy”Some tips to infuse more meaning into day-to-day lifeHow to build perspective-taking skills to increase freedom and choice About Robyn Walser Dr. Robyn Walser Robyn D. Walser, Ph.D. is staff at the National Center for PTSD, co-director of the Bay Area Trauma Recovery Center and is an Assistant Clinical Professor at the University of California, Berkeley. As a licensed clinical psychologist, she maintains an international training, consulting and therapy practice. Dr. Walser is an expert in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and has co-authored 5 books on ACT including Learning ACT, 2nd Edition, The Mindful Couple, ACT for Clergy and Pastoral Counselors: Using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy to Bridge Psychological and Spiritual Care, and The Heart of ACT: Developing a Flexible, Process-Based, and Client-Centered Practice Using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. Resources: The Heart of ACT: Developing a Flexible, Process-Based, and Client-Centered Practice Using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy by Robyn WalserDebbie's blog post on how touching mortality can help us contact values and meaning. COVID Coach: Free mobile app from the National Center for PTSD designed to help EVERYONE in the community cope with feelings of stress and anxiety in response to the COVID-19 pandemicOnline course, Treating Trauma with ACT, with Dr. Robyn Walser 106. Therapy from “The Heart of ACT” with Dr. Robyn Walser116. Building a Meaningful, Values-Based Life Episode with Dr. Jenna LeJeune133. Mental Health in the Age of COVID-19 with Dr. Robyn Walser37. Post-Traumatic Growth Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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137. The Complexities of Motherhood with Daphne de Marneffe Apr 23, 2020

If you’re anything like us, parenting—and most certainly parenting under quarantine—can feel tedious, exhausting, mundane, and sometimes downright maddening! Yet time and again parents say some of their deepest joys in life stem from the time shared with their children. In this rich episode, Yael speaks with parenting expert Dr. Daphne de Marneffe, author of Maternal Desire: On Children, Love, and the Inner Life. They discuss the challenges of parenting for women. They talk about navigating seemingly competing interests in a manner that allows you to manage the stressors more wisely and experience more pleasure, when and where you can. Listen and Learn: The value of parenting for our children and ourselvesHow parenthood makes us more skillful in the workplace The value in being “around and there” (even if you are distracted)The emotional complexity of childcare Making household tasks feel less chore-likeWhy time is so important in our relationship with our childrenHow to value and honor the difficulties in parentingAnd how to value, honor, and take advantage of the times when we make parenting mistakes. Dr. Daphne De Marnefe About Dr. Daphne de Marneffe Daphne de Marneffe, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist, couples and parenting expert, and author of Maternal Desire: On Children, Love, and the Inner Life and The Rough Patch: Marriage and the Art of Living Together. Dr. de Marneffe’s clinical work and writing are informed by developmental psychology and her decades of experience treating couples and parents. Her work has been published in academic journals and the popular press, including The New York Times, and she is a contributing editor to Parents Magazine where she writes a regular column on couple relationships. Dr. De Marneffe received a B.A. from Harvard University and her Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology from U.C. Berkeley. Resources: Maternal Desire: On Children, Love, and the Inner Life, by Dr. Daphne de MarneffeThe Rough Patch: Marriage and the Art of Living Together, by Dr. Daphne de Marneffe Daphne’s website Other Resources for Parents During Quarantine A preprint of the article “First Things First: Parent Psychological Flexibility and Self-Compassion during COVID-19,” by Lisa Coyne, Evelyn Gould, Mikala Grimaldi, Kelly Wilson, Gabriel Baffuto, Anthony Biglan. 134. What to do When Work, Parenting, and Partnership Collide During Quarantine92. Marriage in Midlife: The Rough Patch with Dr. Daphne de Marneffe Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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136. Effective OCD Treatment for Teens with Patricia Zurita Ona Apr 15, 2020

Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) can be paralyzing and severely affect one’s life. Successfully diagnosing and treating OCD in the teen years gives young people their lives back by helping them meaningfully re-engage with friends, school, and life in general rather than losing hours a day to awful and unwanted thoughts. In this episode, Jill talks with OCD expert and clinical psychologist Dr. Patricia Zurita Ona, author of The ACT Workbook for Teens with OCD: Unhook Yourself and Live Life to the Full by Patricia Zurita Ona, Psy.D.about this new resource that combines the best of Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP) and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) to successfully treat teens who struggle with OCD. Listen and Learn: What is Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP)?Why combine ERP and ACT for teens with OCD?Fun exercises like Scrambling and Singing Your Obsessions to engage teens Why this OCD expert adds “choice points” to every exposure session About Dr. Patricia Zurita Ona Dr. Patricia E. Zurita Dr. Patricia Zurita Ona, or “Dr. Z.,” is a licensed clinical psychologist, founder of the East Bay Therapy Center in Walnut Creek, California, and author The ACT Workbook for Teens with OCD. She is also a faculty member at The Wright Institute in Berkeley, California and has authored Escaping the Emotional Roller Coaster: ACT for the Emotionally Sensitive and coauthored Parenting a Troubled Teen: Manage Conflict and Deal with Intense Emotions with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. Dr. Zurita Ona specializes in treating obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), trauma, anxiety and emotion regulation issues and works with children, teens, and adults. She is passionate about helping her clients unhook from fear to live the lives they were meant to live. Dr. Zurita Ona was born and raised in Bolivia and received her Psy.D. from the Wright Institute. Resources actbeyondOCD.com: Dr. Patricia Zurita Ona’s online class for people struggling with OCDThe ACT Workbook for Teens with OCD: Unhook Yourself and Live Life to the Full by Patricia Zurita Ona, Psy.D.Living Beyond OCD: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for OCD by Patricia Zurita Ona Psy.D. (published in October 2020)Parenting a Troubled Teen: Manage Conflict and Deal with Intense Emotions with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy by Patricia Zurita Ona Psy.D., Matthew McKay, Ph.D., and Kirk Stroshal, Ph.D.Escaping the Emotional Roller Coaster: ACT for the Emotionally Sensitive by Patricia Zurita Ona Psy.D. 108. Is Your Self-Control Out of Control? with Hope Arnold (Part 1)79. Helping Adolescents Thrive with Dr. Louise Hayes78. The Self-Driven Child with Dr. William Stixrud54. Anxiety in Children and Adolescents with Dr. Veronica Raggi Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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135. Power of Empathy and Motivational Interviewing with Stephen Rollnick Apr 08, 2020

Trying to drag people to change doesn’t work. Motivational Interviewing (MI) is a collaborative approach that increases people’s inner motivation and commitment to positive change. Motivational Interviewing is used across numerous settings including weight loss, exercise, smoking, substance use, teaching, coaching and supports people in making change for themselves. In this episode, Diana interviews the co-founder of Motivational Interviewing, Dr. Stephen Rollnick. He discusses the power of empathy and open-ended questions as he demonstrates the spirit of Motivational Interviewing. He offers communication strategies you can use as a parent, teacher, coach, health care worker, partner or friend. “The more we try to persuade people to change, tell them why it was a good idea, tell them how to go about it, the harder they seem to kick back.”Stephen Rollnick Listen and Learn How to use empathy to respond to ambivalence and resistanceHow you can speak with somebody to get the best out of themWhy being a problem solver isn’t always helpfulWhy affirmation is more powerful than praise when it comes to changeHow Motivational Interviewing is used in health care, pediatric AIDS and with athletesWhy being an expert can backfireHow even the co-founder of Motivational Interviewing falls into traps of pushing for change About Stephen Rollnick Dr. Stephen Rollnick Dr. Stephen Rollnick is a co-founder of Motivational Interviewing. He an Honorary Distinguished Professor in the School of Medicine in Cardiff University, Wales, UK with a research record focused on good practice in efforts to promote change and behavior change among patients, clients and the practitioners who serve them. His work has included support to programs for pregnant teens, children with HIV-AIDS in Africa and medication adherence in different areas. He is a co-founder of PATA (Paediatric Aids Treatment for Africa) and the Motivational Interviewing Network of Trainers (MINT), an international network for trainers. He is the co-author of Motivational Interviewing: Helping People Change (Miller and Rollnick, 1991; 2001 & 2012), Health Behaviour Change: A Guide for Practitioners (Rollnick, Mason & Butler, 1999) and Motivational Interviewing in Health Care (Rollnick, Miller & Butler, 2008), Motivational Interviewing in Schools (2016) and Coaching Athletes to Be Their Best: Motivational Interviewing in Sports (2020). Resources for Motivational Interviewing Motivational Interviewing: Helping People Change by Willaim Miller and Stephen RollnickMotivational Interviewing in Health Care by Stephen Rollnick, William Miller, and Christopher ButlerCoaching Athletes to Be Their Best: Motivational Interviewing in Sports by Stephen Rollnick, Johnathan Fader, and Jeff Breckon 101. The Complete Family Guide to Addiction with Thomas Harrison and Dr. Hilary Connery66. Helping People Change Using Motivational Interviewing With Dr. Nadine Mastroleo72. Committed Action with Dr. DJ Moran3. The Science of Self-Compassion Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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134. What to do When Work, Parenting, and Partnership Collide During Quarantine with Yael and Diana Apr 01, 2020

We are facing an unprecedented challenge of how to work, parent, homeschool, and partner in the time of the Coronavirus Pandemic. During this tragedy, many of us have felt overwhelmed by the nuts and bolts of maintaining our most important life roles. In this episode, Yael and Diana draw from psychology research, personal experience, and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT). We discuss strategies to keep our heads above water in each of our life roles while keeping an eye towards finding slivers of possibility to support our work, parenting, and relationships during this quarantine. Listen and learn: How to soothe your nervous system when stressed-outStrategies to engage self-compassion and psychological flexibility How to take breaks, find meaning, and explore the possibilityPerspective shifting so that you can manage expectations, mistakes, and challengesTo look for opportunities for growth and joy in our parenting, work, and relationshipsWays to make room for complex emotions How to support positive connections between work, parenting, and relationships while quarantined Resources: Blessings of a Skinned Knee: Raising Self-Reliant Children, by Wendy Mogel Learn more about self-compassion and resilience: 75. Mindful Self-Compassion with Christopher Germer22. Taking in the Good with Rick Hanson Ideas for Parenting Effectively and Compassionately: 78. The Self-Driven Child with Dr. William Stixrud113. Self-Compassion for Parents with Dr. Susan Pollak Ideas for Managing Work Under Difficult Circumstances 42. Strategies To Increase Focus And Work More Effectively58. Balancing the Big Stuff with Drs. Miriam Liss and Holly Schiffrin73. Essentialism With Greg McKeown83. The Tao of Work and Family Balance130. Working Less with Dr. Alex Pang Ideas for Maintaining Healthy Partnerships 21. Fostering A Connected Partnership61. Becoming Our Best Relationship Selves By Identifying Core Values And Schemas With Dr. Avigail Lev92. Marriage in Midlife: The Rough Patch with Dr. Daphne de Marneffe Learn about Values and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT): 116. Building a Meaningful, Values-based Life with Dr. Jenna LeJeune121. Be Mighty: An Episode for Stressed Out, Worried Women with Dr. Jill Stoddard Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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133. Mental Health in the Age of COVID-19 with Robyn Walser Mar 26, 2020

In this episode, Robyn Walser, a frequent guest of the podcast, and Debbie explore how we can be our “better angels” in the midst of these extreme challenges. We can do this by making values-based decisions, while still caring for ourselves and our loved ones. Dr. Walser discusses strategies for effectively caring for one’s mental health in this current moment of extreme trauma and stress, and beyond. We talk about mental health factors like anxiety, alcohol/substance abuse, and sleep. Then we explore how we can come together collectively to find meaning and hope during these difficult times with the new coronavirus, COVID-19. During this time of global crisis with COVID-19, many of us are experiencing fear, sadness, anger, and anxiety. We are all impacted by this pandemic, directly or indirectly, and many are experiencing a high level of stress. Therefore, it is a time when caring for both physical and mental wellness, is more important than ever. About Robyn Walser Dr. Robyn Walser Dr. Walser is staff at the National Center for PTSD, co-director of the Bay Area Trauma Recovery Center and is an Assistant Clinical Professor at the University of California, Berkeley. As a licensed clinical psychologist, she maintains an international training, consulting and therapy practice. Dr. Walser is an expert in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and has co-authored 5 books on ACT including Learning ACT, 2nd Edition, The Mindful Couple, ACT for Clergy and Pastoral Counselors: Using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy to Bridge Psychological and Spiritual Care, and The Heart of ACT: Developing a Flexible, Process-Based, and Client-Centered Practice Using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. Resources Former podcast guest and ACT co-founder Steve Hayes’s blog post on How to be a Corona Virus Hero.Self-care guide in the time of COVID-19 by Dr. Andrea Birnbaum Tips from our former podcast guest Tara Mohr on Handling Tensions While Stuck at Home Together Centers for Disease Control and Prevention websiteCOVID Coach: Free mobile app from the National Center for PTSD designed to help EVERYONE in the community cope with feelings of stress and anxiety in response to the COVID-19 pandemicOnline course, Treating Trauma with ACT, with Dr. Robyn Walser Books by Pema Chodron Supporting Mental Health The Wisdom of No Escape: and the Path of Loving-Kindness Start Where You Are: A Guide to Compassionate LivingWhen Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times Comfortable with Uncertainty: 108 Teachings on Cultivating Fearlessness and Compassion 44. Anxiety Happens with Dr. John Forsyth49. Empowering Women with Dr. Robyn Walser102. A Liberated Mind with Dr. Steven Hayes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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132. The Joy Of Movement With Kelly McGonigal Mar 18, 2020

We all know we “should” move our bodies but some of us struggle with wanting to or get caught up in complicated, negative and rule-bound messages about how to move our bodies. Join Jill for an uplifting and motivating discussion with Dr. McGonigal, author of The Joy of Movement: How Exercise Helps Us Find Happiness, Hope, Connection, and Courage about the intrinsic power of movement for everybody, and ways to change your relationship with physical exercise so your brain comes to actually like, want, and need it! Listen and Learn: Tips to train your brain to find joy in movementThe surprising upside of lactic acidHow exercise improves and enhances social connection/communityThe power of moving in synchrony. About Dr. Kelly McGonigal: Kelly McGonigal, Ph.D. is a health psychologist, a lecturer at Stanford University, and best-selling author of The Upside of Stress and The Willpower Instinct. She also helped design the Stanford Compassion Cultivation Training, a course originally developed for the Stanford Center for Compassion and Altruism, that is now offered worldwide to help individuals cultivate greater empathy, compassion, and social connection. Dr. McGonigal has spent decades researching and steeping herself in neuroscience, health psychology, and movement practices and is deeply committed to translating the latest research from these fields to help others experience improved health, happiness, and wellbeing. Dr. McGonigal received her Ph.D. in psychology from Stanford University and a B.A. in psychology and B.S. in Communications from Boston University. Resources: Kellymcgonigal.comThe Joy of Movement: How Exercise Helps Us Find Happiness, Hope, Connection, and Courage by Kelly McGonigal, PhD The Upside of Stress: Why Stress is Good for You and How to Get Good at It by Kelly McGonigal, PhDThe Willpower Instinct: How Self Control Works, Why It Matters, and What You Can Do to Get More of It by Kelly McGonigal, PhDYoga for Pain Relief: Simple Practices to Calm Your Mind and Heal Your Body by Kelly McGonigal, PhD 43. Willpower With Dr. Kelly McGonigal124. Nutritious Movement and Why it Matters with Katy Bowman, M.S.129. Yoga for All and Body Kindness with Dr. Jennifer Webb Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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A Gift For You: Pranayama Breathing Meditation Mar 15, 2020

Join Diana in a short Pranayama or yogic breathing meditation. Take 10 minutes to savor the present moment and your breath! Related Psychologists Off The Clock Episodes 81. A Gift For You: 10 Min Breathing Meditation70. A Gift For You: Loving-Kindness Meditation122. Taking in the Good with Dr. Rick Hanson114. The Way of Effortless Mindfulness with Loch Kelly Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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131. COVID-19 Anxiety, Cultivating Safeness, and Polyvagal Theory with Stephen Porges Mar 15, 2020

Stress and anxiety levels are high right now due to the spread of the COVID-19 virus. In this episode, Dr. Stephen Porges offers us a model of our physiology of threat and strategies to boost feelings of safeness, especially with COVID-19 anxiety. Through the lens of Polyvagal theory, Dr. Porges and Diana explore what it means to be human in the face of infectious disease, trauma, and global uncertainty. “To be able to be supportive to those who are around us if they're feeling anxious or uncomfortable, we can't just say to them, ‘forget it, it's not important.’ Polyvagal Theory says our goal, our responsibility, is to support those around us so that they feel safer.”Dr. Stephen Porges Listen and Learn: How Debbie and Diana are responding to current their own COVID-19 anxiety.What “prosocial distancing” is, and how you can participate.Debbie and Diana’s tips for refocusing on values, improving mental health, and maintaining social connection.How the Vagus Nerve regulates our response to stress.The heart-face connection and its role in feeling safe.Why your eyes and voice matter in co-regulating others. How the Polyvagal Theory informs our current understanding of trauma and treatment.The benefits of chanting, singing, and breathing together! Stephen Porges About Dr. Stephen Porges Stephen W. Porges, Ph.D. is a Distinguished University Scientist at Indiana University where he is the founding director of the Traumatic Stress Research Consortium. He is Professor of Psychiatry at the University of North Carolina, and Professor Emeritus at both the University of Illinois at Chicago and the University of Maryland. He served as president of the Society for Psychophysiological Research and the Federation of Associations in Behavioral & Brain Sciences and is a former recipient of a National Institute of Mental Health Research Scientist Development Award. He has published more than 300 peer-reviewed papers across several disciplines including anesthesiology, biomedical engineering, critical care medicine, ergonomics, exercise physiology, gerontology, neurology, neuroscience, obstetrics, pediatrics, psychiatry, psychology, psychometrics, space medicine, and substance abuse. In 1994 he proposed the Polyvagal Theory, a theory that links the evolution of the mammalian autonomic nervous system to social behavior and emphasizes the importance of the physiological state in the expression of behavioral problems and psychiatric disorders. The theory is leading to innovative treatments based on insights into the mechanisms mediating symptoms observed in several behavioral, psychiatric, and physical disorders. He is the author of The Polyvagal Theory: Neurophysiological foundations of Emotions, Attachment, Communication, and Self-regulation (Norton, 2011), The Pocket Guide to the Polyvagal Theory: The Transformative Power of Feeling Safe, (Norton, 2017) and co-editor of Clinical Applications of the Polyvagal Theory: The Emergence of Polyvagal-Informed Therapies (Norton, 2018). He is the creator of a music-based intervention, the Safe and Sound Protocol ™, which currently is used by more than 1400 therapists to improve spontaneous social engagement, to reduce hearing sensitivities, and to improve language processing, state regulation, and spontaneous social engagement. Resources: The Safe and Sound Protocol by Stephen PorgesMore information about Stephen Porges Polyvagal Theory: Neurophysiological foundations of Emotions, Attachment, Communication, and Self-regulation by Stephen PorgesThe Pocket Guide to the Polyvagal Theory: The Transformative Power of Feeling Safe by Stephen PorgesSanta Barbara Song Circles Facebook group: Community Singing Network of the Central CoastWorldwide Song Circles: singworldwide.org Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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130. Working Less with Alex Pang Mar 11, 2020

In this episode, Dr. Alex Pang is back on the podcast to discuss his new book, Shorter: Work Better, Smarter, and Less - Here's How. Last time he came on the show (Episode 45. Rest with Dr. Alex Pang), Alex told our listeners about the surprising benefits of deliberate rest on productivity and creativity. In his new book, he takes his ideas to a new level by exploring how organizations can help prevent burnout and dissatisfaction, and even increase profits, by shifting to shorter workweeks. In an era where overworking has been the norm, many of us feel we have to put in long hours at the office, and then go home to work even more. With modern technology, many feel the pressure to be working constantly. But a culture of overworking can be costly to individuals, leading to burnout and dissatisfaction. For organizations, a culture of overwork can lead to high turnover and employees who are less productive and creative than they could be. By taking a fresh perspective on how we structure our work into shorter workweeks, Dr. Pang offers a hopeful alternative, backed up by research and successful examples, of a new workplace culture that supports a better work-life balance for all. Listen and Learn: How shorter workweeks can lead to…Increased retention More creative and focused workSustained productivity and profitabilityReduced office stigma About Dr. Alex Pang Dr. Alex Pang is the author of four books, including Shorter: Work Better, Smarter, and Less - Here's How, and Rest: Why You Get More Done When You Work Less. He is the founder of Strategy and Rest, a consultancy devoted to helping companies and individuals harness the power of rest to shorten our workdays while staying focused and productive. He has given talks and workshops around the world about the 4-day week and the future of work, and how deliberate rest makes creative careers more productive and sustainable. Related Psychologists Off The Clock Episodes: Episode 45. Rest with Dr. Alex Pang Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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129. Yoga for All and Body Kindness with Jennifer Webb Mar 04, 2020

How often do you find yourself relating to your body as a physical being rather than a physical object? Celebrating what it can do for you instead of fixating on how it looks in the mirror? If you’re like most people, not often! All too often we find ourselves comparing how our body looks to narrowly-defined cultural ideals that are unhealthy, unsustainable, and just plain inaccessible! In this episode, Dr. Jennifer Webb, associate professor at UNC Charlotte, and Yael discuss strategies for responding to the cultural messages that we receive in ways that cultivate body kindness and inclusivity. Listen and Learn: How looking at our body as process is more useful than looking at our body as an objectHow body shaming de-motivates healthy behaviors How to integrate an acceptance and commitment therapy take on “body flexibility”Specific practices to cultivate body flexibility and kindness About Dr. Webb: Jennifer Webb, Ph.D., is a clinical health psychologist and Associate Professor in the Department of Psychological Sciences at the University of North Carolina (UNC) in Charlotte, North Carolina. Dr. Webb is also the Director of the MIND-BATCH Lab at UNC Charlotte, which is dedicated to furthering research about positive psychology, mindfulness, body acceptance, culture, and health. Her research is informed by multiculturally inclusive values and Dr. Webb is specifically interested in the experience of young ethnic minority women as well as the effects of weight-related body shaming and the mind-body connection on appetite, metabolism, and weight. Dr. Webb received her bachelor’s degree in Cognitive Neuroscience from Harvard University and her Ph.D. in Psychology from the University of Southern California. Resources: To learn more about Jennifer’s research, follow these links: https://www.researchgate.net/profile/Jennifer_Webb2https://www.researchgate.net/lab/MIND-BATCH-Lab-Jennifer-B-WebbRealizing Yoga’s All-Access Pass: A Social Justice Critique of Westernized Yoga and Inclusive MovementIs “Yoga Bod” the New Skinny?: A Comparative Content Analysis of Mainstream of Yoga Lifestyle Magazine CoversThe interview with Jennifer on the Body Kindness podcast To learn more about yoga inclusivity resources, check out the following: Yoga and Body Image CoalitionAccessible YogaDecolonizing YogaBody Positive YogaCurvy YogaJessamyn StanleyDianne BondyYes! Yoga Has Curves Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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128. ACT for Food Restriction and Anorexia with Rhonda Merwin Feb 26, 2020

According to Dr. Rhonda Merwin, individuals with anorexia and low weight are, “doing exactly what society has told them makes sense to be a good person.” At the same time, having anorexia and being over-controlled with food narrows your life, increases preoccupation with weight, and has negative health consequences. ACT offers a novel approach to treating eating disorders. By stepping back from eating disorder thoughts, identifying values and increasing acceptance and willingness, men and women can gain headway in recovery from one of the most difficult mental health issues. In this episode, Diana talks with Dr. Rhonda Merwin, Associate Professor at Duke University Medical Center and lead author of ACT for Anorexia Nervosa: A Guide for Clinicians about ways to apply ACT to find freedom from anorexia and restrictive eating. In honor of National Eating Disorder Awareness Week, this episode is dedicated to all who are seeking recovery in their relationship with food and weight. May you find peace. #NEDAwareness #ComeAsYouAre Listen and Learn The power of appreciating the benefits of an eating disorderWhy some people at higher risk for anorexia or restrictive eatingWhy ACT is especially effective for anorexia and disordered eatingWhat functional analysis is and how to use it to assess and treat disordered eatingWhat it means to be “emotion phobic” and how it relates to restrictive eatingWhy over-working, people-pleasing, and being compliant are often linked to anorexiaHow to create a more flexible sense of self that is not coupled with the eating disorderThe role that self-parenting plays in recovery from an eating disorderWhat is it really like to have ACT co-founder Kelly Wilson as your mentor? About Dr. Rhonda Merwin Rhonda Merwin, Ph.D. is a licensed psychologist and Associate Professor in the Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences at Duke Medical Center. She conducts research on the mechanisms and treatment of eating disorders, specifically restrictive eating disorders and eating disorders in the context of Type 1 Diabetes. Dr. Merwin is also a Peer-Reviewed ACT Trainer, the Director of the ACT at Duke University Clinical and Training Program, and lead author of ACT for Anorexia Nervosa: A Guide for Clinicians. Resources ACT for Anorexia Nervosa: A Guide for Clinicians, by Rhonda Merwin, Ph.D., Nancy Zucker, Ph.D., and Kelley Wilson, PhDACT at Duke.org for further information about Dr. Merwin’s research and educational and clinical activitiesAppetite Awareness Training with Dr. Linda Craighead, Psychologists Off the Clock Episode #18Self Care, Kindness and Living Well with Dr. Kelly Wilson, Psychologists Off the Clock Episode #65 Diana with Dr. Rhonda Merwin Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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127. Indistractable with Nir Eyal Feb 18, 2020

Do you find yourself so distracted by your phone, email, text, or social media that it’s pulling you away from things that matter? According to Nir Eyal, author of the best-selling book Indistractable, technology is not the enemy. We merely need to learn how to identify and manage the internal and external triggers that lead to distraction and make more time for traction--showing up for what matters. Join Jill for her first Psychologists Off The Clock interview with Nir Eyal as they talk about how to make yourself indistractable. Listen and Learn: What is distraction, and its opposite, tractionWhy we get so easily distractedWhat are internal and external triggers of distractionHow we can change our relationship to internal triggersHow we can change our environment to “hack back” external distractions About Nir Eyal Nir Eyal writes, consults, and teaches about the intersection of psychology, technology, and business. The M.I.T. Technology Review dubbed Nir, "The Prophet of Habit-Forming Technology." Nir founded two tech companies and has taught at the Stanford Graduate School of Business (where he also attended) and the Hasso Plattner Institute of Design at Stanford. He is the author of two bestselling books, Hooked: How to Build Habit-Forming Products and Indistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life. Indistractable received critical acclaim, winning the 2019 Outstanding Works of Literature (OWL) Award as well as being named one of the Best Business and Leadership Books of the Year by Amazon and one of the Best Personal Development Books of the Year by Audible. Nir's writing has been featured in The Harvard Business Review, Time Magazine, and Psychology Today. He also writes a blog at nirandfar.com Resources Watch Nir’s TED talk hereNir’s website with access to his books, blog, courses, supplemental Indistractable workbook, and more can be found at www.nirandfar.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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126. Surviving Break-Ups and Divorce: How to Mend a Broken Heart, with Yael and Debbie Feb 13, 2020

Breaking up is hard to do, and time-stamped events (like, say, Valentine’s Day) can make the pain of a broken heart stand out even more than usual. As painful as it may feel, you’re not alone in what you’re experiencing. Join Yael and Debbie for a conversation about common responses to break-ups and how you can take steps towards healing. Join us as we draw from psychological science, clinical examples, and personal experiences to discuss practices that can help you to mend your heart. Listen and Learn: Why you might have such extreme emotional responses (or not) in response to breaking up.How to turn towards your pain with openness and acceptance Strategies to manage the pain and prevent persistent sufferingThe role of self-compassion, forgiveness, and seeking kindnessHow to translate pain into wisdom and growthAnd, most importantly, that whatever you are experiencing, you are not alone Resources: How to Fix a Broken Heart by Guy WinchThe Wisdom of a Broken Heart by Susan PiversThe Divorce Recovery Workbook by Mark Rye and Crystal Dea MooreThe Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path of Healing Ourselves and Our World, by Desmond TutuPodcast Episodes on Grief (Bearing Unbearable Loss with Dr. Joanne Cacciatore) and Self-Compassion (Mindful Self-Compassion with Dr. Christopher Germer)Guided Self-Compassion Meditations from Dr. Kristen Neff Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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125. Why We Age and the Science of Longevity with David Sinclair Feb 06, 2020

What if you could slow down the clock on your aging? According to aging expert and Harvard geneticist, Dr. David Sinclair, we now have the knowledge and technology to live longer lives, healthier. In his revolutionary research, Dr. Sinclair has identified mechanisms behind aging giving us clues into the behaviors and molecules that can potentially extend life. Listen and Learn: Why is aging a disease and how can it be slowedWhat are longevity genes and what role do they play in healthWhat is epigenetics and how does it relate to aging and healthWhat is hormesis and why is being too comfortable bad for our longevityWhat behavioral strategies can you start today that will lead to a longer lifeWhat molecules Dr. Sinclair’s lab is researching that could be our future fountain of youthWhat are the social and individual impacts of living longer with more healthWhat does Dr. David Sinclair do each day to activate his longevity genes Resources: Lifespan: Why we age and why we don’t have to by David SinclairThe Harvard Study of Adult Development About David Sinclair David A. Sinclair, Ph.D., A.O. is a Professor in the Department of Genetics and co-Director of the Paul F. Glenn Center for the Biology of Aging at Harvard Medical School. He is best known for his work on understanding why we age and how to slow its effects. He obtained his Ph.D. in Molecular Genetics at the University of New South Wales, Sydney in 1995. He worked as a postdoctoral researcher at M.I.T. with Dr. Leonard Guarente where he co-discovered a cause of aging for yeast as well as the role of Sir2 in epigenetic changes driven by genome instability. In 1999 he was recruited to Harvard Medical School where he has been teaching aging biology and translational medicine for aging for the past 16 years. Dr. Sinclair is co-founder of several biotechnology companies (Sirtris, Ovascience, Genocea, Cohbar, MetroBiotech, ArcBio, Liberty Biosecurity) and is on the boards of several others. He is also co-founder and co-chief editor of the journal Aging. His work is featured in five books, two documentary movies, 60 Minutes, Morgan Freeman’s “Through the Wormhole” and other media. He is an inventor on 35 patents and has received more than 25 awards and honors including the TIME magazine’s list of the “100 most influential people in the world”. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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124. Nutritious Movement and Why it Matters with Katy Bowman Jan 30, 2020

Do you want to move your body more but find it hard to fit movement into your schedule and valued activities? It’s not your fault! According to Katy Bowman, bio-mechanist and movement specialist, our modern environment is a mismatch for our movement needs. Katy Bowman offers us some out of the box solutions to build a movement rich life that is optimal for physical, social and emotional health. Join Diana for a thought-provoking and empowering discussion with Katy Bowman about the benefits of “nutritious” movement and a plethora of simple movement opportunities to stave off the slow steady trickle of movement loss that happens as we age. Listen and Learn: What are diseases of captivity?What is nutritious movement? And how are we engaging in “junk food” movementWhy squatting, hanging and walking are essential macro-movements The difference between exercise and movementTips for evaluating where and how to add “move more” options into your day About Katy Bowman, M.S. Katy Bowman, M.S. is a biomechanical scientist, author and educator. She has written eight books on diseases of captivity and the value of re-introducing movement into our daily lives, including Move Your DNA: Restore Your Health Through Natural Movement. Katy directs and teaches at the Nutritious Movement Center Northwest in Sequim, Washington and leads classes, workshops and retreats both internationally and online. She also hosts an award-winning podcast, consults on how to create movement rich communities and educational spaces, and is frequently interviewed on TV shows like NBC’s Today Show. Katy received her Master of Science in Kinesiology and Biomechanics from California State University Northridge. Resources Learn more about Nutritious Movement at Katy’s websiteLearn more about Poco Organic FarmSome of Our Favorite Books by Katy Bowman:Move Your DNA: Restore Your Health Through Natural Movement, by Katy BowmanDynamic Ageing: Simple Exercises for Whole Body Mobility, by Katy Bowman, M.S. with Joan Virginia Allen, Shelah M. Wilgus, Lora Woods, and Joyce FaberMovement Matters: Essays on Movement Science, Movement Ecology, and the Nature of Movement by Katy Bowman Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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123. Tantrum Survival Guide with Rebecca Schrag Hershberg Jan 22, 2020

If you’re a parent you’ve likely had your buttons pushed by your toddler in the throes of a tantrum. We know we have! It’s downright difficult to handle your toddler’s distress and maintain your cool when they’re howling about you doing it “all wrong” … for the sixth time today. In this episode Yael speaks with Dr. Schrag Hershberg, a clinical psychologist and author of The Tantrum Survival Guide: Tune into Your Toddler’s Mind (and Your Own) to Calm the Craziness and Make Family Fun Again, about what tantrums are, how to reduce their frequency and duration, and new and creative ways for parents to manage their own responses to these developmentally appropriate emotional meltdowns. Listen and Learn: What are tantrums and what function do they serve?Strategies to reduce the intensity, frequency, and duration of tantrumsCommon causes of toddler tantrumsHow to reconnect with that loving feeling during a meltdown or painful developmental phaseCreative ways to interrupt a tantrumWhy timeouts and tantrums don’t mixStriking the balance between love and limits About Dr. Schrag Hershberg: Rebecca Schrag Hershberg, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist and founder of the Little House Calls Psychological Services which is based in New York and aimed at helping parents and families manage early childhood challenges. Dr. Schrag Hershberg is also the mother of two young boys and the author of The Tantrum Survival Guide: Tune into Your Toddler’s Mind (and Your Own) to Calm the Craziness and Make Family Fun Again. She Resources: The Tantrum Survival Guide: Tune into Your Toddler’s Mind (and Your Own) to Calm the Craziness and Make Family Fun Again by Rebecca Schrag Hershberg, Ph.D.“Stop Posting You Child’s Tantrum on Instagram” New York Times August 22, 2019 Opinion Page Article by Rebecca Schrag Hershberg, Ph.D. and Daniel T. Willingham, Ph.D.“To Give In or Not Give in” Psychology Today Blog Post by Rebecca Schrag Hershberg“Just Another Gratitude Post” Psychology Today Blog Post by Rebecca Schrag Hershberg“Beautiful Two’s” from Joel Mitchell Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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122. Taking in the Good with Rick Hanson Jan 15, 2020

Your brain is “Velcro for negative experiences and Teflon for positive ones,” according to neuropsychologist Dr. Rick Hanson. What if you could re-wire your brain to be more grateful, loving, and resilient? In today’s episode, Dr. Hanson offers strategies to use self-directed neuroplasticity changing your brain for the good and developing resilience and wellbeing. Dr. Hanson is a senior fellow at the UC Berkeley Greater Good Science Center, a pioneer in the field of positive neuroplasticity, and teaches how taking in moments of good can sculpt your brain for the better. Listen in to hear Diana and Rick Hanson embark on a heartfelt and deeply personal discussion about developing resilient wellbeing one day at a time. Dr. Hanson shares wisdom from his recent book Resilient: How to Grow an Unshakable Core of Calm, Strength and Happiness. Start developing key inner strengths like grit, compassion, and gratitude today! The brain is continually being changed...the only question is, 'is it being changed for the better and who is doing the changing?’Rick Hanson Listen and Learn: What is self-directed neuroplasticityHow to shift our brain’s negativity bias toward inner qualities of wisdom, love, and enduranceStrategies to face our middle of the night fears and what Diana does to soothe her threat systemTips on matching specific inner resources and threatsHow to grow psychological resources using the H.E.A.L. practice for developing resilience and wellbeing SPECIAL OFFER for Psychologists Off the Clock Listeners Join Rick Hanson's Foundations of Well-Being program Save $40! Enter Promo Code OFFTHECLOCK40 Become stronger, calmer, and happier with weekly practices and tools from Rick Hanson!This step-by-step journey will help you build the inner strengths you need to hand whatever life throws your way. Lifetime access, 30-Day Money-Back Guarantee, and Mental health professionals can earn 20 CE credits. About Dr. Hanson: Rick Hanson, Ph.D., is a psychologist, senior fellow at the UC Berkeley Greater Good Science Center, and the founder of The Wellspring Institute for Neuroscience and Contemplative Wisdom. Dr. Hanson is also a meditation teacher and New York Times best-selling author of several books including Resilient: How to Grow an Unshakable Core of Calm, Strength and Happiness; Buddha’s Brain: The Practical Neuroscience of Happiness, Love, and Wisdom; and Hardwiring Happiness: The New Brain Science of Contentment, Calm and Confidence. Dr. Hanson has spent decades both researching and steeping himself in neuroscience, clinical psychology, and contemplative practices and is deeply committed to teaching people scientifically-validated methods to help them take charge of changing their brains for the better, from the inside out. Dr. Hanson received a B.A. from UCLA and his Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology from the Wright Institute. Resources: Being Well Podcast with Dr. Rick Hanson and Forrest HansonThe Foundations of Wellbeing, Dr. Hanson’s yearlong online program in positive neuroplasticity. Enter OFFTHECLOCK40 to save $40!!!The Wellspring Institute for Neuroscience and Contemplative WisdomResilient: How to Grow an Unshakable Core of Calm, Strength and Happiness, by Rick Hanson Ph.D. with Forrest HansonHardwiring Happiness: The New Brain Science of Contentment, Calm and Confidence, by Rick Hanson PhD Buddha’s Brain: The Practical Neuroscience of Happiness, Love, and Wisdom, by Rick Hanson Ph.D. with Richard Mendius, MD Just One Thing: Developing a Buddha Brain One Simple Practice at a Time, by Rick Hanson PhD Mother Nurture: A Mother’s Guide to Health in Body, Mind, Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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121. Be Mighty: An Episode for Stressed Out, Worried Women with Jill Stoddard Jan 09, 2020

Women of the world, are you stressed out and worried? Do you find yourself up fretting at 4 a.m.? If so, you’re not alone! In a culture where women are expected to look perfect, juggle relationships and career effortlessly, and “just deal” with the harsh realities of misogyny and gender inequities, is it any wonder we’re also twice as likely to be stressed out, overwhelmed, and anxious? Fortunately, there are real tools you can use now to build resilience in a difficult world, conquer your stress and frustrations, and live mightily. In this episode, we talk with our mighty new co-host, Dr. Jill Stoddard, about her new book Be Mighty: A Woman’s Guide to Liberation from Anxiety, Worry & Stress Using Mindfulness and Acceptance. The book teaches you to respond more consciously to life’s daily triggers, discover what really matters to you, and connect with your most authentic self. Listen and Learn: Some fun facts about our new co-host, Jill, and about her work!Why so many women and girls are stressed out and anxious these daysAbout the difference between anxiety and stressWhy we have anxiety and the upside of stressA unique approach, based on Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, for responding effectively to anxiety and stressHow to respond effectively to your inner criticWays women can support each other and work toward prevailing over systems of power Be Mighty: A Woman’s Guide to Liberation from Anxiety, Worry & Stress Using Mindfulness and Acceptance Resources: Jill’s book Be Mighty: A Woman’s Guide to Liberation from Anxiety, Worry, and Stress Using Mindfulness and Acceptance.Kelly McGonigal’s TED TALK on StressJill’s blog post “When You Stress About Stress You Are Stressed”McKinsey article “When Women Lead, Workplaces Should Listen”Writing Class Radio elephant hatsBook The Likeability Trap: How to Break Free and Succeed as You Are by Alicia MenendezWebsite for Rikke Kjelgaard, who offers the online course Fierce, Fabulous, and FemaleBook Playing Big: Practical Wisdom for Women Who Want to Speak Up, Create, and Lead by Tara Mohr (and be sure to check out our interview with Tara Mohr!)Book WOLFPACK: How to Come Together, Unleash Our Power, and Change the Game by Abby Wambach Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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120. Use DBT Skills To Regulate Emotions And Be More Effective In Relationships With Matthew McKay Jan 01, 2020

Some of us have a harder time managing our emotions. Therefore, we find ourselves engaging in destructive behaviors to cope. Enter Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT). Developed by Dr. Marsha Linehan, DBT is proven to help people manage overwhelming emotions. It does so by teaching people specific change-based strategies. Because of this, DBT skills help people regulate their emotions. In this episode, Diana speaks with psychologist and author Dr. Matthew McKay. They discuss his newly revised book, The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook: Practical DBT Exercises for Learning Mindfulness, Interpersonal Effectiveness, Emotion Regulation, and Distress Tolerance. In this book, Dr. McKay makes traditional DBT skills more practical and accessible to everyone. Because let’s be honest. We could all use skills to help us more effectively downregulate strong emotions from time to time! “Helping people get down-regulation skills is really important, not only to help them feel better emotionally but to also help them lead less impulsive and dangerous lives.”Dr. Matthew McKay Listen and Learn Key DBT skills useful in regulating emotionsWhat three behaviors perpetuate emotion dysregulationWhy some people are better at regulating their emotions than othersTips to reduce emotional vulnerability About Dr. McKay Matthew McKay, Ph.D., is a professor of psychology at the Wright Institute in Berkeley, CA. He is the co-director of the Bay Area Trauma Recovery Clinic with Robyn Walser. Dr. McKay is the co-founded Haight Ashbury Psychological Services, a low-fee community clinic in San Francisco, CA. He is the founder of New Harbinger Publications. Dr. McKay received his Ph.D. in clinical psychology from the California School of Professional Psychology. Dr. McKay is also an accomplished writer. He has authored many books including “The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook,” “The New Happiness: Practices for Spiritual Growth and Living with Intention,” “The Relaxation and Stress Reduction Workbook,” “Self-Esteem, Thoughts and Feelings,” “When Anger Hurts,” and “ACT on Life Not on Anger.” Resources for Practicing DBT Skills The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook: Practical DBT Exercises for Learning Mindfulness, Interpersonal Effectiveness, Emotion Regulation, and Distress Tolerance by Matthew McKay, Ph.D., Jeffery Wood, PsyD, and Jeffery Brantley, MD The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Card Deck: 52 Practices to Balance Your Emotions Everyday by Matthew McKay, Ph.D. and Jeffery Wood, Psy.D. 85. Emotion Efficacy with Dr. Aprilia West109. How to Loosen Up and Be Less Overcontrolled: Radically Open DBT with Hope Arnold (part 2)108. Is Your Self-Control Out of Control? with Hope Arnold (Part 1) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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119. Holiday Episode Guide Dec 24, 2019

The holiday season means joy and connection, but it also means an onslaught of stressors. It can be helpful to think about how to manage the challenges more effectively, as well as enhance the positive elements of what the holidays bring. Many of our previous episodes can help us do just that! In this episode, we point you to previous episodes that can help you navigate the holidays. Episodes to help you manage holiday stressors: For managing the stressors of political debates, check out Episode 51: The Psychology of Political Division To deal with difficult family members who fail to ask you about your life, listen to Episode 98: On Narcissism with Avigail Lev and Robyn Walser To manage the challenges of drinking problems often exacerbated during the holidays, check out Episode 101: The Complete Family Guide to Addiction with Thomas Harrison and Hilary Connery For those of us struggling with loss at this time of year, listen to Episode 117: Bearing Unbearable Loss with Joanne Cacciatore Take a soothing rhythm break with Episode 89: A Gift For You: Soothing Rhythm Breathing Episodes to enhance the positive elements of the holidays: Build your resilience and self-kindness Episode 75: Mindful Self-Compassion with Christopher Germer To prepare for success with keeping New Year’s resolutions (you can do it!), listen to Episode 43: Willpower with Kelly McGonigal Episode 72: Committed Action with DJ Moran Episode 103: Healthy Habits with Dayna Lee Badgley Episode 116: Building a meaningful, values-based life with Jenna LeJeune.. To remind ourselves of strategies to get some peace within the busyness, listen to Episode 26: Our Psychology on Nature Episode 45: Rest with Alex Pang. Thank you for your support in 2019! We can’t wait to dive into a new year full of ideas for living meaningful, rich lives. Happy holidays from us at Psychologists off the Clock! _________________________ Thank you for joining us on this episode of Psychologists Off The Clock. We appreciate your feedback. Please take a moment to leave a quick rating and review of the show on Apple Podcasts. It helps us spread the word to more folks like you! Subscribe for free where you listen to podcasts! Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, Deezer, iHeartRadio Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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118. Moral Injury and Shame with Lauren Borges and Jacob Farnsworth Dec 21, 2019

Shame, betrayal, guilt, anger. As social animals, humans are wired to have moral emotions that bind us to our groups. When we experience a transgression against our moral values, we might experience Moral Injury. Moral injury is a normal human response to a violation of our strongly held moral beliefs, and it can have a deep impact on people’s lives, making it difficult to move forward. In this episode, Debbie interviews two psychologists who are researching moral injury with veterans, Dr. Lauren Borges, and Dr. Jacob Farnsworth, about this cutting-edge and important topic in psychology. In this episode you’ll learn: What moral injury is, and types of situations in which people might experience morally injurious events.How moral injury can impact people’s lives.Why we have moral emotions like guilt and shame.How PTSD and moral injury are related, and how they are different.How Acceptance and Commitment Therapy might be a helpful approach for working with people who are struggling with moral injury. Resources: A seminal paper by Litz on Moral Injury: Moral injury and moral repair in war veterans: A preliminary model and intervention strategy. Clinical Psychology ReviewLauren’s case study: A Service Member's experience of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy for Moral Injury (ACT-MI) via telehealth: Learning to accept my pain and injury by reconnecting with my values and starting to live a meaningful life. ) Journal of Contextual Behavioral Science.Papers by Dr. Borges, Dr. Farnsworth, and their research team: Temporal Associations Between Moral Injury and Posttraumatic Stress Disorder Symptom Clusters in Military Veterans. Journal of Traumatic Stress.Is and Ought: Descriptive and Prescriptive Cognitions in Military‐Related Moral Injury. Journal of Traumatic Stress.A functional approach to understanding and treating military-related moral injury. Journal of Contextual Behavioral SciencePhysicians aren’t ‘burning out.’ They’re suffering from moral injury Stat Sebastian Junger’s documentary films on Moral Injury in war: RestrepoKorengal Dr. Lauren M. Borges is a clinical research psychologist at the Rocky Mountain Mental Illness Research, Education, and Clinical Center (MIRECC) for suicide prevention. She holds an academic appointment of assistant professor in the Department of Psychiatry at the University of Colorado School of Medicine. Dr. Borges’ primary line of research concerns the use of contextual behavioral interventions to help Veterans approach emotions like guilt and shame more flexibly. She is a principal investigator on a federally funded study focused on investigating the acceptability and feasibility of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy for Moral Injury (ACT-MI). She is also interested in using skills from Dialectical Behavior Therapy (e.g., the chain analysis skill) to help Veterans identify and intervene on their suicidal behavior. Beyond her focus on interventional research, Dr. Borges is developing and validating novel approaches to measuring facets of responding to guilt and shame. Dr. Jacob Farnsworth is currently a staff psychologist at the VA Eastern Colorado Health Care System. Jacob's primary research interest is in the area of military-related moral injury. His most recent efforts have focused on the further development of the construct’s definition, assessment approaches and comparing existing and novel intervention approaches for moral injury. He is a co-author of the Expressions of Moral Injury Scale-Military Version. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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117. Bearing Unbearable Loss: A conversation About Grief with Joanne Cacciatore Dec 13, 2019

At some point, each and every one of us will lose someone we love. But grief is no cakewalk. And however hard grief is, the pain gets exponentially greater when we are met with the deafening silence and discomfort of others. Join us to create space and a voice for grief with a frank conversation about death, love, and the heartbreaking journey of bearing unbearable loss. In this touching and personal conversation, Yael speaks with Joanne Cacciatore, author of Bearing the Unbearable: Love, Loss, and the Heartbreaking Path of Grief about the nature of grief, how grievers can take their journeys more wisely, and what you can do for someone you love who is grieving. Join us to learn: How to turn towards the grief, and why it is important to How we can help ourselves, or support someone we care about, during times of grief How to grieve, even when your life feels too full to make the time and space Why anger often emerges during grief, and how we can respond to it How grief changes over time About Dr. Joanne Cacciatore Joanne is the author of Bearing the Unbearable: Love, Loss, and the Heartbreaking Path of Grief. Joanne is an associate professor at Arizona State University and conducts research on traumatic loss and grief. She offers a graduate certificate in trauma and bereavement at ASU. You can learn about her novel work with care-farming and grief or about the Kindness Project by clicking the links. You can find Joanne on Facebook and you can watch the breathtaking story of the famous rescue horse, Chemakoh, here. _________________________ Thank you for joining us on this episode of Psychologists Off The Clock. We appreciate your feedback. Please take a moment to leave a quick rating and review of the show on Apple Podcasts. It helps us spread the word to more folks like you! Subscribe for free where you listen to podcasts! Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, Deezer, iHeartRadio Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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116. Building a Meaningful, Values-based Life with Jenna LeJeune Dec 04, 2019

Living a values-based life is different from a goal-oriented one. A values-based life encompasses more than trying to “feel good” or get to a final destination. When you direct your life toward what really matters to you, you will feel an increased sense of meaning and vitality, whatever situation you find yourself in. Values-based living has greater depth and staying power than goals and resolutions. Join Debbie and Dr. Jenna LeJeune, author of Values in Therapy: A Clinician’s Guide to Helping Clients Explore Values, Increase Psychological Flexibility, and Live a More Meaningful Life, for an encouraging discussion about what “living well” really means and how to increase values-based living in yourself and in your clients. Listen and Learn: What do “values” really mean, and how are they different in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy? How to disentangle values from morals and goals Tips for how to explore what “living well” means to you Why pain deserves appreciation What to do when you feel like your values conflict with each other About Dr. Jenna LeJeune Dr. Jenna LeJeune is a clinical psychologist, author, and co-founder and president of Portland Psychotherapy, an evidenced-based psychotherapy clinic in Portland, Oregon. Dr. LeJeune specializes in using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) to help individuals reorient toward what matters to build a more meaningful and well-lived life. She is a peer-reviewed trainer in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and serves as a mental health expert co-host of the podcast Beyond Well with Sheila Hamilton. A Clinician’s Guide to Helping Clients Explore Values, Increase Psychological Flexibility, and Live a More Meaningful Lifeis Dr. LeJeune’s first book. Resources Values in Therapy: A Clinician’s Guide to Helping Clients Explore Values, Increase Psychological Flexibility, and Live a More Meaningful Life by Jenna LeJeune and Jason LouomaThe Other Side of Happiness: Embracing a More Fearless Approach to Living by Brock Bastian PhDPortland Psychotherapy Clinic Sponsor: Praxis Continuing Education ACT BootCamp® with Steven C. Hayes, Ph.D., Robyn Walser, Ph.D., and Kelly Wilson, Ph.D., cofounders of ACT Portland, OR | February 20–23, 2020; up to 32 CE/CME credits available Sign up with a friend to save 20% off the professional registration price! Meet Our New Co-Host, Dr. Jill Stoddard! In this episode, we also make an exciting announcement about a new Co-Host joining us in January 2020. Listen to learn more about her and her upcoming book you can pre-order! Be Mighty: A Women’s Guide to Liberation from Anxiety, Worry, and Stree Using Mindfulness and Acceptance _________________________ Thank you for joining us on this episode of Psychologists Off The Clock. We appreciate your feedback. Please take a moment to leave a quick rating and review of the show on Apple Podcasts. It helps us spread the word to more folks like you! Subscribe for free where you listen to podcasts! Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, Deezer, iHeartRadio Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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115. Creating Meaningful Gatherings with Debbie and Diana Nov 26, 2019

Whether you are planning a holiday dinner, a work conference, or a group therapy session, how you design your gathering has a big impact on its outcome. In this episode, Diana and Debbie use the book The Art of Gathering by Priya Parker to explore strategies to make your groups transformative. Grab a slice of pie, some people you love, and enjoy an episode all about meeting with a purpose! Listen and Learn: How to use purpose to design your next party, meeting, or friends’ weekend away Examples of successful gatherings Diana and Debbie have designed and attended What group therapy teaches us about creating effective meetings Why Debbie is practicing “scruffy hospitality” and why Diana likes to visit her purse at parties Ideas to make your Thanksgiving, Winter Holiday or New Year’s celebration impactful With the help of this episode, we hope you gather well this holiday season, and beyond! Resources and Books Mentioned in this Episode: The Art of Gathering: How We Meet and Why It Matters by Priya Parker Playing Big by Tara Mohr Wolf Pack: How to Come Together, Unleash Our Power, and Change the Game by Abby Wambach The Blue Zones: Lessons for Living Longer From the People Who've Lived the Longest by Dan Buettner Article on The Blue Zones Moais Article on Scruffy Hospitality The Bear That Wasn’t by Frank Tashlin Joss Paper Diana uses in group work Theory and Practice of Group Psychotherapy by Irvin Yalom Sponsor: Praxis Continuing Education ACT BootCamp® with Steven C. Hayes, Ph.D., Robyn Walser, Ph.D., and Kelly Wilson, Ph.D., cofounders of ACT Portland, OR | February 20–23, 2020; up to 32 CE/CME credits available Sign up with a friend to save 20% off the professional registration price! Ep. 95. Healing Racial Trauma with Dr. Kristee Haggins Ep. 112. Nature vs. Nature: Why Temperament Matters with co-hosts Debbie Sorensen and Yael Schonbrun Ep. 109. How to Loosen Up and Be Less Overcontrolled: Radically Open DBT with Hope Arnold Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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114. Way of Effortless Mindfulness with Loch Kelly Nov 23, 2019

Ready to take your mindfulness practice to the next level? What if you could approach life by relaxing back and down into an already awake mind and heart? Join Diana for an inspiring and illuminating discussion with Loch Kelly, seasoned meditator and author of the bestselling book The Way of Effortless Mindfulness: A Revolutionary Guide for Living an Awakened Life about awake awareness, an advanced form of mindfulness that, through little efforts and shifts of awareness, imbues living from a more spacious, interconnected, and heart-centered space. Listen and Learn: What is awake awareness? What does “effortless” have to do with it? How does awake awareness differ from deliberate awareness? Awake awareness vs empathy The value of “glimpses” About Loch Kelly: Loch Kelly, MDiv, LCSW, is a psychotherapist, meditation teacher, and expert in the field of meditation and psychotherapy. He has also authored the best-selling book The Way of Effortless Mindfulness: A Revolutionary Guide for Living an Awakened Life and founded the Open-Hearted Awareness Institute in New York City. Loch’s primary mission is to teach others how to access awakening and to live from open-hearted awareness. Loch contributes to research at the University of Pennsylvania, Yale, and New York University on how training in awareness improves compassion and wellbeing. He received his degrees from Columbia University and Union Theological Seminary. Resources Open-Hearted Awareness Institute The Way of Effortless Mindfulness: A Revolutionary Guide for Living an Awakened Life, book by Loch Kelly Shift into Freedom: The Science and Practice of Open-hearted Awareness, book by Loch Kelly Effortless Mindfulness Now: Awakening Our Natural Capacity for Focus, Freedom, and Joy, audiobook by Loch Kelly Shift into Freedom: A Training in the Science and Practice of Open-hearted Awareness, audiobook by Loch Kelly _________________________ Thank you for joining us on this episode of Psychologists Off The Clock. We appreciate your feedback. Please take a moment to leave a quick rating and review of the show on Apple Podcasts. It helps us spread the word to more folks like you! Subscribe for free where you listen to podcasts! Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, Deezer, iHeartRadio Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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113. Self-Compassion for Parents with Susan Pollak Nov 20, 2019

Parenting can be joyful, but, let’s be honest, it can also be a rough ride sometimes! We try to be good parents to our children and still discover that we feel we are falling short. Author and clinical expert, Dr. Susan Pollak, joins Yael for a discussion about how self-compassion can help you journey through parenting more effectively, confidently, and happily. Join the conversation to learn: What self-compassion is and why it’s so useful in parenting The core components of self-compassion Several mindfulness exercises to build self-compassion (Try them while you are listening!) Self-compassion practices that can be done in three minutes, even with eyes open and your kids in the room! About Dr. Susan Pollak: Dr. Susan Pollak is the President of the Institute for Meditation and Psychotherapy, a co-founder and teacher at the Center for Mindfulness and Compassion. She is also the author of Self-Compassion for Parents—Nurture Your Child by Caring For Yourself. Resources: Susan’s website Guided meditations with accompanying handouts from Susan A recent piece on A Mindful Exercise to Heal Old Wounds, by Susan Pollak Welcome to Holland piece, by Emily Kingsley Sitting Together, by Susan Pollak Self-Compassion for Parents, by Susan Pollak, Thomas Pedulla, and Ronald Siegel Susan’s Psychology Today Blog, The Art of Now The Institute for Meditation and Psychotherapy Diana’s interview on Self-Compassion with Dr. Christopher Germer __________________________ Thank you for joining us on this episode of Psychologists Off The Clock. We appreciate your feedback. Please take a moment to leave a quick rating and review of the show on Apple Podcasts. It helps us spread the word to more folks like you! Subscribe for free where you listen to podcasts! Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, Deezer, iHeartRadio Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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112. Nature vs. Nurture: Why Temperament Matters with Debbie and Yael Nov 14, 2019

You might sometimes wonder if it’s nature or nurture driving the differences between people. For example, why are some of us extroverts and others introverts? Why are some children risk-takers while others are more inhibited? Well, it turns out that both nature and nurture are important! The nature part of the equation is sometimes overlooked, but our biological temperament plays an important role in the kind of person we become. In this episode, Debbie and Yael discuss Childhood Temperament, the topic of Debbie’s dissertation research at Harvard. They delve into some longitudinal research on the temperamental underpinnings of shyness and behavioral inhibition. They also discuss the clinical implications of individual differences in emotional reactivity, and the personality constructs of introversion and extroversion. Listen and Learn: How “high-reactive” infants differ from “low-reactive” infants How early reactivity correlates with behavioral inhibition and shyness later in childhood Why Attachment research may leave out some important information The importance of “goodness of fit” between parents and their children Whether you a “carpenter” or a “gardener” as a parent parent What introversion and extroversion really means and how to appreciate your personality style Resources: The APA’s list of Eminent Psychologists of the 20th Century Brief Video Showing Kagan’s Temperament Study with Infants Books by Kagan on Temperament: Galen’s Prophecy: Temperament in Human Nature by Jerome Kagan The Long Shadow of Temperament by Jerome Kagan and Nancy Snidman The Gardener and the Carpenter: What the New Science of Child Development Tells Us About the Relationship Between Parents and Children by Alison Gopnik Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World that Can’t Stop Talking by Susan Cain __________________________ Thank you for joining us on this episode of Psychologists Off The Clock. We appreciate your feedback. Please take a moment to leave a quick rating and review of the show on Apple Podcasts. It helps us spread the word to more folks like you! Subscribe for free where you listen to podcasts! Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, Deezer, iHeartRadio Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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111. Brave New Medicine with Cynthia Li Nov 08, 2019

The delineation that we like to make between mind and body is really an illusion. It’s one complete circuit. -Dr. Cynthia Li In Brave New Medicine: A Doctor’s Unconventional Path to Healing Her Autoimmune Illness Dr. Cynthia Li, an internal medicine physician by training, writes about how her world came crashing down after developing an autoimmune thyroid condition and how she had to journey beyond what Western medicine has to offer to truly heal. Join Diana for a fascinating and important discussion with Dr. Li about functional medicine, a client-centered, science-based approach to looking at and treating the root cause of chronic imbalances in our body. Listen and Learn: How functional medicine differs from both Western and Integrative medicine What are the five main causes of chronic imbalance according to Functional Medicine Tips on specific classes of foods that promote optimal wellness How healing emotional wounds impact physical healing Suggestions for detoxifying your house, re-inhabiting your body, and more! About Dr. Cynthia Li Cynthia Li, MD is a physician, functional medicine practitioner, and author of Brave New Medicine: A Doctor’s Unconventional Path to Healing Her Autoimmune Illness, a memoir about chronic illness and return to wellness that challenges the current healthcare system model. Dr. Li has a private practice in integrative and functional medicine in the San Francisco Bay Area and serves as faculty at the University of California San Francisco Medical School. She is a member of the American Board of Internal Medicine, the Institute for Functional Medicine, and Integrative Medicine for the Underserved. Dr. Li is also a contributing author to the Huffington Post’s “Thrive Global” and Psychology Today. Dr. Li received her medical degree from the University of Texas Southwestern Medical Center in Dallas, Texas. Resources: Brave New Medicine: A Doctor’s Unconventional Path to Healing Her Autoimmune Illness by Dr. Cynthia Li The Institute for Functional Medicine Dr. Cynthia Li’s website, where you can access her blog and links to Functional Medicine resources __________________________ Thank you for joining us on this episode of Psychologists Off The Clock. We appreciate your feedback. Please take a moment to leave a quick rating and review of the show on Apple Podcasts. It helps us spread the word to more folks like you! Subscribe for free where you listen to podcasts! Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, Deezer, iHeartRadio Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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110. Parenting Multiples with Susan Wenze Nov 01, 2019

Caring for a newborn has its challenges, but imagine the challenges of caring for two or more newborns at once! More feedings, diapering, laundry and gear to schlep. We are hardwired to respond to our infants so how do you handle more than one infant crying at once? And when the heck do you sleep? It’s no wonder that parents of multiples experience increased sleep deprivation and mental health issues even as they face greater logistical barriers to accessing mental health treatment and care. In this episode, Yael speaks with Dr. Susan Wenze, a mother of twins and clinical psychologist. Sue offers advice for parents of multiples and describes research on the perinatal mental health of parents with multiples. Listen and Learn: Specific mental health concerns for both mothers and fathers of multiples Clever ways to practice self-care in the midst of parenting twins or more How parenting multiples can bring partners closer together and other benefits of parenting twins and more How to ask friends and family for the help that you need Ways to help non-twin siblings also feel special How to do self-care when you are a parent of multiples (terrific advice that can be used by all tired parents!). About Dr. Susan Wenze Susan Wenze, PhD, is a clinical psychologist and assistant professor at Lafayette College in Easton, PA. She conducts research on depression in the general population and perinatal mental health for parents of multiples. Dr. Wenze is also the parent of elementary school-aged identical twins. She received her PhD in Clinical Psychology from American University and completed her clinical residency and postdoctoral fellowship at Brown University. Resources: Sue’s Lafayette College research website Sue’s work, as featured on NPR National Organization of Mothers of Twins Club, an online resource and community for parents of multiples Twiniversity, an online resource and community for parents of multiples Twins and Multiple Births Association (recently changed the name to Twin Trust), an online resource in the UK __________________________ Thank you for joining us on this episode of Psychologists Off The Clock. We appreciate your feedback. Please take a moment to leave a quick rating and review of the show on Apple Podcasts. It helps us spread the word to more folks like you! Subscribe for free where you listen to podcasts! Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, Deezer, iHeartRadio Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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109. How to Loosen Up and Be Less Overcontrolled: Radically Open DBT with Hope Arnold (part 2) Oct 25, 2019

Have your friends or loved ones suggested for you to chill out or relax? If our first podcast episode with Hope Arnold, about excessive self-control, leaves you wondering how to help with this biologically-based personality trait, then keep listening! Join Debbie for another engaging discussion with Hope Arnold, senior clinician, and trainer in Radically Open Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (RO DBT), for evidence-based strategies on how to work with “over-controlling” biology in the service of loosening up a bit, more fulfilling relationships, and gaining the capacity to just chill! Listen and Learn: Why eyebrows are important and too much Botox might be a problem. The benefits of being “ordinary,” being wrong, and seeing what hard experiences can teach us about ourselves. How our threat and safety systems play into overcontrol and treatment The importance of “social signaling” How “Radical Openness” differs from “Radical Acceptance” Resources: Hope’s blogs on Psych Central and Radically Open.net Hope’s webpage Radically Open.net Radically-Open DBT Textbook and Skills Training Manual Take the Styles of Coping Word Pairs Questionnaire here Article on RO-DBT effectiveness https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3lSm5DASuVY https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=An4WpxGOaHE https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aFDayTx4zL0 About Hope Arnold: Hope Arnold, LCSW, MA is a Senior Clinician and one-day Trainer in Radically Open DBT (RO DBT). She began her RO DBT training with Dr. Tom Lynch, treatment developer, in 2016. Hope writes a blog for PsychCentral on RO DBT topics called Radical Hope. In her clinical work, Hope is the founder of RO DBT Denver in Denver, Colorado, a center dedicated to evidence-based care and treating disorders of overcontrol. She specializes in personality disorders (Obsessive Compulsive PD, Paranoid PD, Dependent PD, Avoidant PD), eating disorders, autism spectrum disorders (special interest in female autism), and treatment-resistant disorders (depression and anxiety). Prior to opening RO DBT Denver, Hope was in private practice at the DBT Center of Houston and was the RO DBT Lead Clinician. Hope graduated from Loyola University in New Orleans with a BBA in marketing. She worked for two of the largest private financial and consulting firms in the world before transitioning to clinical work. She has master’s degrees in social work from the University of Houston and psychology from Saybrook University with a concentration in Jungian studies. Hope has presented at the local, national, and international level on topics related to Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, Radically Open DBT, and Jungian Analysis and Theory. She is licensed as an LCSW in the states of Colorado, Texas, and Virginia. For fun, Hope enjoys hiking, traveling, visiting with friends and family, and creating art. __________________________ Thank you for joining us on this episode of Psychologists Off The Clock. We appreciate your feedback. Please take a moment to leave a quick rating and review of the show on Apple Podcasts. It helps us spread the word to more folks like you! Subscribe for free where you listen to podcasts! Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, Deezer, iHeartRadio Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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108. Is Your Self-Control Out of Control? Radically Open DBT with Hope Arnold (part 1) Oct 22, 2019

Are you good at doing things right, following the rules, and controlling your emotions? Maybe a little too good? Having some degree of self-control, emotional regulation, and willpower can be useful in a lot of ways! But having too much self-control has some downsides. Many people who have an Overcontrolled style of coping look like they have it all together on the outside, but in reality, they don't feel like they do, and their suffering often goes unnoticed. Focusing too much on doing everything “right” can lead to rigidity, perfectionism, and loneliness, making it hard to connect with others and enjoy life. In this episode, the first of a two-part series, Debbie talks with Hope Arnold, a therapist, and trainer who specializes in Radically Open DBT (or RO DBT), which is designed to help people who are Overcontrolled learn to loosen up and reconnect socially. In Part 1, we discuss: The difference between being overcontrolled and under controlled Characteristics associated with overcontrol Some of the common pitfalls of overcontrolled coping How overly controlled facial expressions can affect social connection. In Part 2 of the series, Debbie and Hope will discuss evidence-based clinical strategies for helping people with overcontrol to loosen up and reconnect socially! Resources: Hope’s blogs on Psych Central (Radical Hope) and Radically Open.net Hope’s webpage Radically Open.net Radically-Open DBT Textbook and Skills Training Manual Take the Styles of Coping Word Pairs Questionnaire Article on RO-DBT effectiveness About Hope Arnold: Hope Arnold, LCSW, MA is a Senior Clinician and one-day Trainer in Radically Open DBT (RO DBT). She began her RO DBT training with Dr. Tom Lynch, treatment developer, in 2016. Hope writes a blog for PsychCentral on RO DBT topics called Radical Hope. In her clinical work, Hope is the founder of RO DBT Denver in Denver, Colorado, a center dedicated to evidence-based care and treating disorders of overcontrol. She specializes in personality disorders (Obsessive Compulsive PD, Paranoid PD, Dependent PD, Avoidant PD), eating disorders, autism spectrum disorders (special interest in female autism), and treatment-resistant disorders (depression and anxiety). Prior to opening RO DBT Denver, Hope was in private practice at the DBT Center of Houston and was the RO DBT Lead Clinician. Hope graduated from Loyola University in New Orleans with a BBA in marketing. She worked for two of the largest private financial and consulting firms in the world before transitioning to clinical work. She has master’s degrees in social work from the University of Houston and psychology from Saybrook University with a concentration in Jungian studies. Hope has presented at the local, national, and international level on topics related to Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, Radically Open DBT, and Jungian Analysis and Theory. She is licensed as an LCSW in the states of Colorado, Texas, and Virginia. For fun, Hope enjoys hiking, traveling, visiting with friends and family, and creating art. __________________________ Thank you for joining us on this episode of Psychologists Off The Clock. We appreciate your feedback. Please take a moment to leave a quick rating and review of the show on Apple Podcasts. It helps us spread the word to more folks like you! Subscribe for free where you listen to podcasts! Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, Deezer, iHeartRadio Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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107. Playing Big with Tara Mohr Oct 07, 2019

Do you have something you want to create, a message you want to share, or a calling you keep ignoring? Tara Mohr has practical wisdom for you to unhook from praise and criticism, find your calling, and step into Playing Big. Psychologists Off The Clock started with Taking A Leap inspired by Tara Mohr’s work. Now Diana has the chance to talk with her directly about why it is so difficult for women to speak up, how motherhood re-organizes everything and stepping out of ego into wholeness. So drag your dreams out from under the carpet and join us for a thought-provoking conversation with Tara Mohr, author of the Apple iBooks best book of the year Playing Big: Practical Wisdom for Women Who Want to Speak Up, Create, and Lead. Listen and Learn: Two types of fear that show up for women in Playing Big How to meet criticism in a patriarchal world Why acting on “100% certainty” doesn’t make sense How to reclaim your power through speech How “Playing Big” changes in motherhood The role of women supporting women in Playing Big Resources: Playing Big: Practical Wisdom for Women Who Want to Speak Up, Create, and Lead by Tara Mohr Tara Mohr’s Blog Playing Big: A leadership program for women The Hivery: A co-working space for women The Triple Goddess: Maiden, Mother, and Crone About Tara Mohr: Tara Mohr is an influential author, Huffington Post columnist, and expert in woman’s leadership and well-being. Her 2015 book Playing Big: Practical Wisdom for Women Who Want to Speak Up, Create, and Lead was named a best book of the year by Apple’s iBooks. Through her Playing Big Leadership Program and Playing Big Facilitators Training Program Tara seeks to empower women to find their voice and contribute to the creation of a more sane and compassionate world. Tara has an MBA from Stanford University, an undergraduate degree in English from Yale University, and her work has been featured in numerous media outlets such as the Harvard Business Review, ForbesWoman, and The Financial Times. Tara lives in San Francisco, CA with her husband and two children. 1. Taking a Leap Into Something Meaningful Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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106. Therapy from “The Heart of ACT” with Robyn Walser Sep 30, 2019

Dr. Robyn Walser is back on the podcast for an intimate and heartfelt conversation with Debbie about her new book The Heart of ACT: Developing a Flexible, Process-Based, and Client-Centered Practice Using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. As a master therapist and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (or ACT) trainer, Robyn reflects on how the interpersonal relationship unfolding in the therapy room all too often takes a backseat to applying techniques or interventions when learning a new therapy like ACT. Give this interview a listen for some wise words on how to deepen your clinical practice by showing up more fully and engaging your clients from a process-oriented place. Listen and Learn: How to sit in the therapist seat wholeheartedly Tips on balancing process and technique when doing ACT When to break the therapy “rules” What role does existentialism play in ACT? About Robyn D. Walser, Ph.D. Dr. Walser is staff at the National Center for PTSD, co-director of the Bay Area Trauma Recovery Center and is an Assistant Clinical Professor at the University of California, Berkeley. As a licensed clinical psychologist, she maintains an international training, consulting and therapy practice. Dr. Walser is an expert in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and has co-authored 5 books on ACT including Learning ACT, 2nd Edition, The Mindful Couple, ACT for Clergy and Pastoral Counselors: Using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy to Bridge Psychological and Spiritual Care, and The Heart of ACT: Developing a Flexible, Process-Based, and Client-Centered Practice Using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. She has expertise in traumatic stress and has authored a number of articles, chapters and books on this topic. Dr. Walser has presented her research findings and papers at international and national conferences, universities and hospital settings; and she has been invited to international conferences to speak about ACT and mindfulness. She is invested in developing innovative ways to translate science-into-practice and continues to do research and education on the dissemination of ACT and other therapies. She has had a number of leadership roles in international and national organizations and she served as Member At Large and President for the Association for Contextual and Behavioral Science. New York Times article on making therapy apps: Silicon Valley Goes to Therapy hearts Image by conger design from Pixabay __________________________ Thank you for joining us on this episode of Psychologists Off The Clock. We appreciate your feedback. Please take a moment to leave a quick rating and review of the show on Apple Podcasts. It helps us spread the word to more folks like you! Subscribe for free where you listen to podcasts! Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, Deezer, iHeartRadio Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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105. The Self-Care Prescription with Robyn Gobin Sep 21, 2019

Self-care is a hot topic these days and many of us feel like we should be doing more of it. Yet, the last thing we need is another “to do” on our list. In this episode, Dr. Robyn Gobin and Diana talk about why self-care is more than just pedicures and bubble baths. Dr. Gobin shares her personal experience with self-care and strategies you can put into practice today. So, practice some real self-care and take a listen! Listen and Learn: The 6 domains of self-care Why “listening in” and mindfulness are keys to physical self-care How Dr. Gobin is working to change the narrative around self-care and mental health in communities of color How to use "Emptying The Jug” to tend to your Emotional Self-Care How Dr. Gobin practices self-care on her busiest days and what Diana is doing for self-care before bed Simple strategies for therapist self-care About Dr. Robyn Gobin Dr. Robyn L. Gobin is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist and Assistant Professor at the University of Illinois at Urbana Champaign. She is a nationally recognized expert on interpersonal trauma, women's mental health, and the cultural context of trauma recovery in the African American community. She received her doctorate in clinical psychology from the University of Oregon and completed an internship and postdoctoral training at The National Center for PTSD, Brown University, and the San Diego Department of Veterans Affairs. Her latest book, "The Self-Care Prescription: Powerful Solutions to Manage Stress, Reduce Anxiety, and Enhance Well-Being" aims to change the narrative around mental health and self-care in communities of color and teach people how to incorporate self-care into their busy lives in a sustainable way. Dr. Gobin serves on national and community boards and committees, including the American Psychological Association's Society for the Psychological Study of Ethnicity, Culture, and Race. She is the recipient of the Judy E. Hall Early Career Psychologist Award from the National Register of Health Service Psychologists and a Citizen Psychologist Presidential Citation from the American Psychological Association. To learn more about Dr. Gobin, visit her website at www.robyngobin.com or connect with her on Instagram or Facebook. To learn more about her book and purchase your copy, visit Amazon or www.selfcareprescriptions.com. Resources: The Self-Care Prescription: Powerful Solutions to Manage Stress, Reduce Anxiety, and Enhance Well-Being by Robin Gobin __________________________ Thank you for joining us on this episode of Psychologists Off The Clock. We appreciate your feedback. Please take a moment to leave a quick rating and review of the show on Apple Podcasts. It helps us spread the word to more folks like you! Subscribe for free where you listen to podcasts! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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104. You’re Doing It Wrong with Bethany Johnson and Margaret Quinlan Sep 13, 2019

Join us for a journey through the fascinating history of motherhood, media, and medical expertise! Yael interviews professors Bethany Johnson and Margaret Quinlan about the causes and consequences of medicalizing pregnancy and childbirth, and how technology and culture have long created a message that mothers are doing it all wrong. Learn why we need to change that message, and how we can. In this episode, we explore the following questions: How have different forms of mothering expertise grown over history, and how has that development impacted women’s experience in mothering? What are some of the ways that social media proliferates expertise? How does the message of “you’re doing it wrong” impact our experience? What is the difference between lay and technical expertise and why does it matter for our mothering experience How has postpartum care evolved over time and what does that mean for the modern mothering experience? What strategies can we employ to combat the messages of “you’re doing it wrong”? About Bethany Johnson and Margaret Quinlan Bethany L. Johnson (MPhil, M.A.) is an instructor in history and an associate member to the graduate faculty and research affiliate faculty in the department of communication studies at the University of North Carolina at Charlotte. She studies how science, medicine, and health discourses are framed and reproduced by institutions and individuals from the 19th century to the present. She has published in interdisciplinary journals such as Health Communication, Women & Language, Departures in Critical Qualitative Research and Women's Reproductive Health. Margaret M. Quinlan is an associate professor in the department of communication studies at the University of North Carolina at Charlotte. She explores how communication creates, resists and transforms knowledge about bodies. She critiques power structures in order to empower individuals who are marginalized inside and outside of healthcare systems. She authored approximately 40 journal articles, 17 book chapters and co-produced documentaries in a regional Emmy award-winning series. Resources You’re Doing it Wrong: Mothering, media, and medical expertise, by Bethany Johnson and Margaret Quinlan (30 percent discount available for our listeners if you use the code to make the purchase through this website. Code: 02AAAA17) Click here to head to Maggie and Bethany’s research page or here to get more information about their new book. You can find Maggie and Bethany on social media using the following links: Twitter: https://twitter.com/JQ_Research Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JohnsonQuinlanResearch/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/johnsonquinlanresearch/ The Marketplace of the Marvelous, by Erika Janik Previous episodes we refer to during our conversation include an episode on Practical Wisdom with Barry Schwartz and our interview with Emily Oster in which we explore strategies to better decision-making in parenthood. __________________________ Thank you for joining us on this episode of Psychologists Off The Clock. We appreciate your feedback. Please take a moment to leave a quick rating and review of the show on Apple Podcasts. It helps us spread the word to more folks like you! Subscribe for free where you listen to podcasts! Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, Deezer, iHeartRadio Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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103. Healthy Habits with Dayna Lee-Baggley Sep 06, 2019

If you care about your health, but aren’t the type of person who loves to jump out of bed, hit the gym, and reward your efforts with a kale smoothie, this is the podcast episode for you! We all know what healthy behaviors are, but most of us struggle with how to engage in them, especially when they feel hard and unenjoyable. Join Debbie for an engaging discussion with Dr. Dayna Lee-Baggley, author of Healthy Habits Suck: How to Get Off the Couch and Live a Healthy Life….Even if You Don’t Want To, about evidence-based strategies on how to overcome the internal obstacles that make behavior change hard, and how to sustain lifelong healthy habits. Listen and Learn: Why healthy habits violate the hard-wiring of our “caveman brain” How linking health habits to values can make them more meaningful and build motivation The benefits of focusing on behaviors rather than outcomes to foster success What is a “smart goal” and how to make them work for you How to work with the thoughts and emotions that makes healthy habits hard About Dayna Lee-Baggley: Dayna Lee-Baggley, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist and health-behaviors researcher based in Nova Scotia, Canada where she conducts research on behavior change, obesity, chronic disease, and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT). Dr. Lee-Baggley holds appointments as an assistant professor in the Department of Family Medicine at Dalhousie University and as an adjunct professor in the Department of Industrial and Organizational Psychology at Saint Mary’s University. She is also the director of the Centre for Behaviour Change Research in Nova Scotia where she conducts research and training in chronic disease management. In addition, Dr. Lee Baggley is an internationally respected ACT trainer, has authored close to 40 peer-reviewed publications, and is the author of the book Healthy Habits Suck: How to Get Off the Couch and Live a Healthy Life….Even if You Don’t Want To. Resources: Healthy Habits Suck: How to Get Off the Couch and Live a Healthy Life….Even if You Don’t Want toDayna’s Website (https://drleebaggley.com), where you can find out more about her research, training, and clinical practice.@DrLeeBaggley, Dayna’s Twitter account, where she tweets about healthy habits and tips for healthcare providers From Debbie and Diana’s Introduction to the Episode: Check out these Beeswax Wraps and Reusable Produce Bags recommended by Diana to reduce single-use plastic consumption! Debbie roasting broccoli to go with tofu and peanut sauce, as a move toward her values-based goal of a more plant-based diet! __________________________ Thank you for joining us on this episode of Psychologists Off The Clock. We appreciate your feedback. Please take a moment to leave a quick rating and review of the show on Apple Podcasts. It helps us spread the word to more folks like you! Subscribe for free where you listen to podcasts! Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, Deezer, iHeartRadio Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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102. A Liberated Mind with Steven Hayes Aug 27, 2019

Steven Hayes, a co-founder of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, is back on the show! This one is big. Dr. Hayes shares with Diana about his groundbreaking book, A Liberated Mind. This book has been 11 years in the making and is a comprehensive, accessible, hands-on exploration of ACT. It was a tall order to interview Hayes on such a masterpiece, and we hope we have done it justice. Let us know in a review! Listen and Learn: What Debbie and Diana love about this book Why avoiding thoughts and feelings can cause us trouble How “feel better” tricks have led us astray The 6 processes that together will help you develop a Liberated Mind How Diana ended up singing her self-doubt thoughts out loud on the show, for all the world to hear! How you can apply psychological flexibility not just to your suffering but also to enhance your performance WIN A FREE COPY OF A LIBERATED MIND! Deadline Sept 15, 2019 Here’s how to enter: Post a review of the podcast on Apple Podcasts Share this episode on social media (Twitter, Facebook, or Instagram) with #wehurtwherewecare Contact us and let us know you completed the above tasks Resources: A Liberated Mind: How to Pivot Toward What Matters by Steven Hayes Steven Hayes’s freebees (including how to get his daughter’s book!) Our past episodes with Steven Hayes on Process-Based CBT and Evolution and Behavioral Science Check out more episodes on ACT Here! About Steven C. Hayes: Steven C. Hayes is Nevada Foundation Professor in the Behavior Analysis program at the Department of Psychology at the University of Nevada. An author of 44 books and nearly 600 scientific articles, his career has focused on an analysis of the nature of human language and cognition and the application of this to the understanding and alleviation of human suffering. He is the developer of Relational Frame Theory, an account of human higher cognition, and has guided its extension to Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), a popular evidence-based form of psychotherapy that uses mindfulness, acceptance, and values-based methods. Dr. Hayes has been President of Division 25 of the APA, of the American Association of Applied and Preventive Psychology, the Association for Behavioral and Cognitive Therapy, and the Association for Contextual Behavioral Science. He was the first Secretary-Treasurer of the Association for Psychological Science, which he helped form and has served a 5-year term on the National Advisory Council for Drug Abuse in the National Institutes of Health. In 1992 he was listed by the Institute for Scientific Information as the 30th “highest impact” psychologist in the world and Google Scholar data ranks him among the top ~1,500 most cited scholars in all areas of study, living and dead (http://www.webometrics.info/en/node/58). His work has been recognized by several awards including the Exemplary Contributions to Basic Behavioral Research and Its Applications from Division 25 of APA, the Impact of Science on Application award from the Society for the Advancement of Behavior Analysis, and the Lifetime Achievement Award from the Association for Behavioral and Cognitive Therapy. __________________________ Thank you for joining us on this episode of Psychologists Off The Clock. We appreciate your feedback. Please take a moment to leave a quick rating and review of the show on Apple Podcasts. It helps us spread the word to more folks like you! Subscribe for free where you listen to podcasts! Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, Deezer, iHeartRadio Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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101. The Complete Family Guide to Addiction with Thomas Harrison and Hillary Connery Aug 22, 2019

Addiction is often perceived as a weakness, lack of will power, or a choice. It isn’t. Addiction is a brain disease. It is also a family disease that requires a holistic family approach to treat. Join Yael for an important discussion with the authors of The Complete Family Guide To Addiction: Everything You Need To Know Now To Help Your Loved One And Yourself. This discussion explores the nature of addiction and evidence-based approaches to responding to a family member or friend in ways that heal the disease, yourself, and your relationship with your loved one. Listen and Learn: What addiction is and what addiction is not Why addiction is a family disease How our usual way of responding might reinforces our loved one’s addictive behavior How Community Reinforcement and Family Training (CRAFT) and positive reinforcement facilitates healing Practical tips to care for yourself while supporting your loved one during treatment. About Thomas Harrison and Dr. Hillary Connery: Thomas Harrison is an author who has spent many years as a legal editor and publisher translating highly complex and technical information into simple English. After a close friend developed a substance use disorder, he realized the need for someone to translate the complicated and technical knowledge of addiction research into practical language for family members and friends struggling to cope with the challenges of addiction. Thomas is also the author of The Family Addiction Guidebook. Hillary Connery, MD, PhD is the Clinical Director of the Substance Use Disorders Division at McLean Hospital in Belmont, Massachusetts. She is also an assistant professor of psychiatry at Harvard University and the New England Director for the American Academy of Addiction Psychiatry. Dr. Connery contributed to the American Psychiatric Association Practice Guidelines for the treatment of substance use disorders and specializes in treating opioid use disorders and co-occurring mental illness and substance use disorders. Resources: The Complete Family Guide to Addiction: Everything You Need to Know Now to Help Your Loved One and Yourself by Thomas Harrison and Hillary Connery, Ph.D., M.D. The Family Addiction Guidebook by Thomas Harrison __________________________ Thank you for joining us on this episode of Psychologists Off The Clock. We appreciate your feedback. Please take a moment to leave a quick rating and review of the show on Apple Podcasts. It helps us spread the word to more folks like you! Subscribe for free where you listen to podcasts! Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, Deezer, iHeartRadio Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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100. Celebrating 100 Episodes Aug 16, 2019

We are proud and grateful that we’ve made it to our 100th episode! Take a listen as Debbie, Diana, and Yael share behind-the-scenes bloopers, episode clips, and how Psychologists Off The Clock has changed our lives. The podcast has been a labor of love for all of us. On the journey to our 100th episode, we have learned a lot about the art of podcasting, and about new strategies and science within the field of psychology. We have welcomed renowned psychologists and writers, explored a variety of important topics, and shared personal and professional practices that we use to flourish. Join us in celebrating and reflecting on lessons learned in our first 100 episodes! Listen to hear Debbie, Diana, and Yael discuss: How and why we started the podcast. What happens behind the scenes (loud children, technical glitches, and guests we admire to the point of verbal paralysis). Which episodes we use most in our own daily lives, and which episodes we have recommended to our clients and friends. Some of the Many Episodes We’ve Recommended To Clients and Friends: 7. Insomnia: Strategies to Stop Struggling with Sleep with Dr. Alisha Brosse 36. Weight Loss Strategies From Acceptance And Commitment Therapy With Dr. Jason Lillis 41. Kissing The Frog: How To Establish a Morning Routine 43. Willpower With Dr. Kelly McGonigal 44. Anxiety Happens with Dr. John Forsyth 51. The Psychology of Political Division 62. Language, Suffering, and Meaning with Dr. Matthieu Villatte 77. Acceptance and Commitment Therapy with Dr. Jill Stoddard 78. The Self-Driven Child with Dr. William Stixrud 79. Thriving In Adolescence with Dr. Louise Hayes 82. Clinician's Corner: Therapist Self-Doubt with Jim Lucas 91. Disability as a Form of Diversity with Dr. Erin Andrews 92. Marriage in Midlife: The Rough Patch with Dr. Daphne de Marneffe The three of us—Diana, Debbie, and Yael—want to extend our gratitude to listeners, for both listening and for providing us with terrific feedback. Thank you so much for making this a worthwhile venture! Here we are, recording our big 100th episode! (Clockwise from upper left: Diana, Debbie, and Yael) __________________________ Thank you for joining us on this episode of Psychologists Off The Clock. We appreciate your feedback. Please take a moment to leave a quick rating and review of the show on Apple Podcasts. It helps us spread the word to more folks like you! Subscribe for free where you listen to podcasts! Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, Deezer, iHeartRadio Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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99. Make the Most of Your Time with Laura Vanderkam Aug 03, 2019

Time is arguably our most valuable resource, and yet we often don’t manage, allocate, or savor it effectively. In this episode, Debbie talks with Laura Vanderkam, author of several books on time management and productivity, about strategies to make time feel more abundant, memorable, and enjoyable. Listen and Learn: Tips for savoring and stretching out pleasure in the passage of time How to best optimize time by prioritizing your core competencies Why effortful fun trumps effortless fun The benefits of keeping a time log for a week About Laura Vanderkam: Laura Vanderkam is the author of time management and productivity books, including Juliet’s School of Possibilities, Off the Clock, I Know How She Does It, What the Most Successful People Do Before Breakfast, and 168 Hours. Her work has appeared in publications including the New York Times, the Wall Street Journal, Fast Company, and Fortune. She is the host of the podcast Before Breakfast and the co-host, with Sarah Hart-Unger, of the podcast Best of Both Worlds. She lives outside Philadelphia with her husband and four children, and blogs at LauraVanderkam.com. Resources: Laura’s Books: 168 Hours: You Have More Time Than You Think I Know How She Does It: How Successful Women Make the Most of Their Time What the Most Successful People Do Before Breakfast Off the Clock: Fell Less Busy While Getting More Done Juliet’s School of Possibilities Laura’s Podcasts: Before Breakfast Best of Both Worlds, co-hosted by Sarah Hart-Unger Laura’s Website, where you can find her blog and time logs - fill one out for yourself! __________________________ Thank you for joining us on this episode of Psychologists Off The Clock. We appreciate your feedback. Please take a moment to leave a quick rating and review of the show on Apple Podcasts. It helps us spread the word to more folks like you! Subscribe for free where you listen to podcasts! Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, Deezer, iHeartRadio, TuneIn Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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98. Narcissism with Avigail Lev and Robyn Walser Jul 23, 2019

Whether it’s your boss, your client, or a family member, interactions with a narcissist can be challenging. Narcissism can present as obvious grandiosity and self-importance but also shows up in more insidious and subtle ways. Covert forms of narcissism make interpersonal interactions confusing and difficult to understand, and can elicit self-doubt, guilt, and even a sense of “going crazy” in others. In this episode, Drs. Avigail Lev and Robyn Walser delve into a rich discussion on the different types of narcissism, how to spot a narcissist, and how to protect yourself and/or clients from covert forms of this personality trait. Listen and Learn: Signs you may be interacting with a highly narcissistic person. “Gaslighting” and how to spot it. Strategies for dealing effectively with the narcissistic people in your life. Whether or not people with Narcissistic Personality Disorder can be treated in psychotherapy. Resources: Recorded Online training: ACT For Victims of Narcissistic Abuse by Drs. Lev and Walser Books about narcissism: https://www.amazon.com/Psychopath-Free-Expanded-Emotionally-Relationships/dp/0425279995/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?crid=H943HC0BLUJA&keywords=psychopath+free&qid=1649117574&sprefix=psychopath+free%2Caps%2C118&sr=8-1 https://www.amazon.com/NARCISSISTS-SECRETS-Know-things-they-ebook/dp/B01ITFG65U/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?crid=KYO8L249D544&keywords=The+narcissists+secrets&qid=1649117955&sprefix=the+narcissists+secrets%2Caps%2C114&sr=8-1 https://www.amazon.com/Charm-Harm-Everything-Narcissist-Narcissistic/dp/1523820179/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?crid=3ACAZAPTX4I9D&keywords=from+charm+to+harm&qid=1649118029&sprefix=from+charm+to+harm%2Caps%2C138&sr=8-1 https://www.amazon.com/Becoming-Narcissists-Nightmare-Narcissist-Supplying/dp/B01MFGC6KI/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?crid=1UGJ3XQAYBR5R&keywords=The+narcissist+nightmare&qid=1649117614&sprefix=the+narcissist+nightmare%2Caps%2C129&sr=8-1 https://www.amazon.com/STOP-Dancing-Gaslight-Recognize-Domestic-ebook/dp/B00GBJANJM/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?crid=23N3UFG1FA698&keywords=Stop+dancing+in+the+gaslight&qid=1649117642&sprefix=stop+dancing+in+the+gaslight%2Caps%2C85&sr=8-1 https://www.amazon.com/Human-Magnet-Syndrome-Codependent-Narcissist/dp/168350867X/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?crid=3J74EFMA9VUD5&keywords=human+magnet+syndrome&qid=1649117705&sprefix=human+magnet+syndrome%2Caps%2C134&sr=8-1 https://www.amazon.com/Why-Does-He-That-Controlling/dp/0425191656/ref=mp_s_a_1_3?crid=1H7C23AJ3VM65&keywords=why+does+he+do+that&qid=1649117860&sprefix=Why+does+he+do+that%2Caps%2C112&sr=8-3 https://www.amazon.com/s?k=psychopaths+and+love&crid=13Z162P3WYFT3&sprefix=psychopaths+in+love%2Caps%2C96&ref=nb_sb_ss_ts-doa-p_1_19 Books on narcissism written by narcissists: https://www.amazon.com/Malignant-Self-Love-Narcissism-Sam-Vaknin/dp/8023833847/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?crid=2SAQYQ4CJQZBR&keywords=malignant+self+love&qid=1649117508&sprefix=malignant+self+love%2Caps%2C83&sr=8-1 https://www.amazon.com/Fuel-H-G-Tudor/dp/1535383550/ref=mp_s_a_1_5?adgrpid=58809104609&gclid=EAIaIQobChMI0_SxlNH79gIVdgaICR0XuggKEAAYASAAEgJnnPD_BwE&hvadid=274736472700&hvdev=m&hvlocphy=9012130&hvnetw=g&hvqmt=b&hvrand=4742615707929732414&hvtargid=kwd-341301954950&hydadcr=22220_10176634&keywords=hg+tudor+books&qid=1649117436&sr=8-5 https://www.amazon.com/Psychopath-Inside-Neuroscientists-Personal-Journey/dp/1617230154/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?crid=3OT4Q20KWFVWS&keywords=The+psychopath+within&qid=1649117538&sprefix=the+psychopath+within%2Caps%2C101&sr=8-1 About Avigail Lev & Robyn Walser: Avigail Lev, PsyD, is a psychotherapist, author, and executive coach in the Bay Area. She is the director of the Bay Area CBT Center, a clinic in San Francisco and Oakland that provides Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for individuals and couples. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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97. The New Happiness with Matthew McKay Jul 12, 2019

What comes to mind when you think of happiness? Joy? Pleasure? A sense of fulfillment? While these states of happiness may make us feel truly wonderful, they are temporary and context-specific. Join us for a discussion about the core components of the “New Happiness,” a path for finding a deep and lasting sense of contentment that springs from discovering and acting upon one’s personal spiritual values. In this inspirational and heartfelt episode, Dr. Matthew McKay, an expert psychologist, professor, and accomplished author provides a fresh perspective on how to cultivate lasting happiness based on psychological research and spiritual wisdom. He also explains the importance of acting on love. Always. Listen and Learn: What role can spirituality play in happiness? How to achieve genuine happiness based on spiritual values and actions The importance of service values and self-growth values, and why both are necessary to experience a deep sense of connection and happiness How moments of choice and pain serve us on the path toward happiness How to love in the face of loss and change Resources: Article Diana sent her psychology tribe: “How to be Happy? A Nearly 90-Year-Old Has Some Advice,”article in Glamour Magazine What Debbie is reading to her kids: Lulu is Getting a Sister: (Who WANTS Her? Who NEEDS Her?) by Judith Viorst Watch and read more about Dr. Sonia Lyubomirsky’s Pie Chart of Happiness here and here Read about 5 Gates of Grief here: The Wild Edge of Sorrow: Rituals of Renewal and the Sacred Work of Grief by Francis Weller ACT and Process-Based CBT with Dr. Steven Hayes, “Psychologists off the Clock” Episode Process-Based CBT: The Science and Core Clinical Competencies of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy edited by Steven C. Hayes and Stefan G. Hofmann About Dr. McKay: Matthew McKay, Ph.D., is a professor of psychology at the Wright Institute in Berkeley, CA and co-director of the Bay Area Trauma Recovery Clinic with Dr. Robyn Walser. He also co-founded Haight Ashbury Psych Services, a low-fee community clinic, in San Francisco, CA and is the publisher and co-founder of New Harbinger Publications. Dr. McKay specializes in cognitive-behavioral approaches to treating anxiety and depression and co-developed numerous ACT-based protocols, including ACT for interpersonal disorders, ACT for couples, ACT for anger problems, and ACT for spiritual growth. Dr. McKay is also an accomplished writer, having authored and co-authored several books including The New Happiness: Practices for Spiritual Growth and Living with Intention, The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook, The Relaxation and Stress Reduction Workbook, Self-Esteem, Thoughts, and Feelings, When Anger Hurts, and ACT on Life Not on Anger. Dr. McKay received his Ph.D. in clinical psychology from the California School of Professional Psychology. Books by Dr. McKay: The New Happiness: Practices for Spiritual Growth and Living with Intention by Jeffery C. Wood and Matthew McKay ACT on Life Not on Anger by Georg H. Eifert, Matthew McKay, and John P. Forsyth The Dialectical Behavioral Therapy Skills Workbook by Matthew McKay, Jeffery C. Wood, Jeffery Brantley The Relaxation and Stress Reduction Workbook by Martha Davis, Elizabeth Robbins Eshelman, and Matthew McKay __________________________ Thank you for joining us on this episode of Psychologists Off The Clock. We appreciate your feedback. Please take a moment to leave a quick rating and review of the show on Apple Podcasts. It helps us spread the word to more folks like you! Subscribe for free where you listen to podcasts! Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, Deezer, TuneIn Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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96. Effective Conversations About Diversity with Anatasia Kim and Alicia del Prado Jul 06, 2019

Discussions of diversity issues are more critical than ever. And yet, conversations about these topics can be difficult, polarizing, and ineffective, leading to anger and hurt on both sides. In this episode, Debbie interviews Dr. Anatasia Kim and Dr. Alicia del Prado about their new book It's Time to Talk (and Listen): How to Have Constructive Conversations About Race, Class, Sexuality, Ability, and Gender in a Polarized World. Drs. Kim and del Prado offer a glimpse into their practical eight-step approach, the Kim Constructive Conversations Model. This approach can help listeners have difficult conversations by talking authentically about issues related to culture and diversity. If you’ve ever had discussions about diversity issues with co-workers, family, or friends that led to anger or frustration, this episode is for you! Listen and Learn: Why conversations about diversity issues can be so painful and challenging. Why we might sometimes choose not to speak up about diversity issues, and why sometimes it’s worth the effort. How values-guided conversations can promote healing. How to set an effective tone in a conversation and how to raise difficult issues while maintaining the relationship. Ways to respond to valid emotions (like fear and anger) without losing effectiveness. About Drs. Kim and del Prado: Anatasia S. Kim, Ph.D., is a tenured associate professor at The Wright Institute in Berkeley, CA, where she also has a private practice specializing in treating adolescents and young adults. She is a National Ronald McNair Scholar and the recipient of numerous awards, including the American Psychological Association Minority Fellowship, Okura Mental Health Fellowship, and APAGS Guardian of Psychology Award. Kim has served as president of the Alameda County Psychological Association, chair of the California Psychological Association (CPA) Immigration Task Force, and diversity delegate of the CPA. She has presented and published in the areas of cultural competency and training, immigration, women of color in academia, and more. Alicia del Prado, Ph.D., is a tenured associate professor at The Wright Institute in Berkeley, CA, and a licensed counseling psychologist with a private practice in Danville, CA. She has published numerous journal articles and chapters on cross-cultural psychology, personality, acculturation, and ethnic identity, including the first enculturation scale for Filipino Americans. She provides consultation and training on multicultural issues to companies and colleges. Del Prado is chair and co-founder of the Asian American Psychology Association’s (AAPA) Division on Asian Americans with Multiple Heritages and was awarded both the Alameda County Psychological Association’s Janet Hurwich Award and the AAPA Okura Community Leadership Award. To Purchase The Book: It's Time to Talk (and Listen): How to Have Constructive Conversations About Race, Class, Sexuality, Ability & Gender in a Polarized World Resources: Dr. Kim’s webpages: https://anatasiakim.com/ and https://www.wi.edu/psyd-faculty-anatasia-kim Dr. del Prado’s webpages: http://www.drdelprado.com/ and https://www.wi.edu/psyd-faculty-alicia-del-prado __________________________ Thank you for joining us on this episode of Psychologists Off The Clock. We appreciate your feedback. Please take a moment to leave a quick rating and review of the show on Apple Podcasts. It helps us spread the word to more folks like you! Subscribe for free where you listen to podcasts! Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, Deezer, iHeartRadio, TuneIn Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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95. Healing Racial Trauma with Kristee Haggins Jun 28, 2019

Racism is a public health crisis with deep, ongoing negative impacts on psychological and physical health. In this episode, Dr. Kristee Haggins, an African centered psychologist, discusses how to support healing racial trauma. Dr. Haggins describes how black people can connect with the truth of their history, cultivate healing, and make choices that are good for themselves, their families, and larger communities. Dr. Haggins also offers recommendations for the work that those who do not identify as black can do to promote racial healing and change. Listen and Learn: How do you know if you or someone you care about is experiencing racial trauma and stress? Effective healing and self-care practices that black communities are using to heal together Internal and collective “work” white and other non-black people can do to promote systematic and grassroots change Ways in which mental health professionals can better meet the needs of black and other diverse communities About Dr. Haggins: Dr. Kristee Haggins is a community healer, African centered psychologist and professor who takes a holistic approach to healing mind, body, spirit, and community. She is a founding member of Safe Black Space Community Healing Circles and is committed to promoting health and wellness particularly in the Black community. Dr. Haggins studied Psychology as an undergraduate at the University of Southern California where she received a B.A. with honors. She earned her M.A. and Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology from The Ohio State University. Dr. Haggins has had a multifaceted career as a clinician, educator, consultant, trainer and university administrator. Currently, she is a professor at California Northstate University and at Alliant International University, Sacramento where she teaches courses in multicultural counseling and therapy skills. Dr. Haggins has expertise in racial stress and trauma; African American mental health; multicultural psychology/diversity issues; and spirituality and mental health. She offers training and tailored workshops and consultation in these areas, in addition to others upon request. In 2016 she was awarded the Community Healing Award by the Community Healing Network (CHN) for her collaboration with CHN and the Association of Black Psychologists. Resources: Safe Black Space Community Healing CirclesAssociation of Black PsychologistsThe Racial Healing Handbook by Annelise SinghSomebody Told a Lie One Day quote by Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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94. Parenthood in the Age of Fear with Kim Brooks Jun 20, 2019

Do worries about your kids’ safety dominate your parenting choices? How often do you feel pressured to make parenting choices as a result of judgment from others? We are parenting in an age of overwhelming fear and constant judgment. Understanding how we got here, what the dangers really are (and are not), and how we can parent more courageously and wisely, can help us to better navigate parenting in the modern age. In this episode, Kim Brooks, author of Small Animals: Parenthood in the Age of Fear, joins Yael and offers deep wisdom in parenting well in the current cultural climate. Listen and Learn: Why parenting culture has devolved into fearWhat some of the important dangers are, and which common worries are not worthy of the attention we give themWhy we judge parents, particularly mothers, so harshlyHow to become a more brave and effective parent in this cultural milieu About Kim Brooks Kim Brooks is the author of Small Animals: Parenthood In the Age of Fear. Small Animals was an NPR Best Book of the Year and described by National Book Review as “an impassioned, smart work of social criticism and a call for support and empathy.” Kim’s writing has appeared in NYT, NY Magazine, Salon, and Buzzfeed. Kim has appeared on CBS This Morning, GMA, NPR’s All Things Considered, 20/20, among others. Resources Small Animals: Parenthood in the Age of Fear, by Kim BrooksKim’s WebsiteFollow Kim on TwitterMotherhood in the Age of Fear, New York Times essay by Kim BrooksWhat a Horrible Mother, Salon essay by Kim Brooks Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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93. Effective Weight Loss with Evan Forman Jun 12, 2019

If you struggle with maintaining a healthy weight, it’s not your fault. Evolutionary biology, our obeseogenic environment, and psychological barriers make weight loss challenging. In this episode, Dr. Evan Forman, a senior researcher, and expert on obesity, offers cutting edge strategies that incorporate acceptance-based and behavioral skills to change your eating behaviors for good. Listen And Learn: Change your relationship with shame, stress, and other emotions that drive overeating and underexercisingNot waste your resources fighting what you cannot controlHow psychological acceptance enhances self-monitoring of food intake and weightHow to sustain motivation by clarifying values and cultivating willingnessStrategies to enhance stability and habit formation to lose and maintain weight loss About Dr. Forman: Evan Forman, Ph.D, is a professor of psychology and the founding director of the Center for Weight, Eating and Lifestyle Science, or the WELL Center, at Drexel University. His research focuses on evaluating novel behavioral and technology-based approaches to treating obesity and weight loss. His recent research includes Mind Your Health, an NIH-funded study assessing an innovative acceptance-based behavioral treatment (ABT) for obesity. Dr. Forman also evaluates technological-based approaches such as computerized neurocognitive training, smartphone technology, and Artificial Intelligence to optimize weight control. His research has been supported by the National Institutes of Health (NIH) for over 10 years. Dr. Forman has authored nearly 150 publications, including Effective Weight Loss, a set of books for clinicians and clients that is a part of the Oxford Press’s “Treatments that Work” series. Resources: Center for Weight, Eating and Lifestyle Science, or the WELL Center, at Drexel UniversityEffective Weight Loss by Evan FormanPsychologists Off The Clock interview on The Hungry Brain with Dr. Stephan GuyenetPsychologists Off the Clock Interview on Body Image with Dr. Emily Sandoz Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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92. Marriage in Midlife: The Rough Patch with Daphne de Marneffe May 31, 2019

Is your marriage rewarding or is it feeing a bit mundane? Has sex become lifeless or non-existent? Do you miss the person you used to be before marriage? It is common for most long-term relationships to hit a “rough patch” during the mid-life years. What does it take to weather the rough patch and end up with a supportive, lasting marriage? In this episode, author and couples therapist Dr. Daphne de Marneffe discuss her new book, The Rough Patch: Marriage and the Art of Living Together, with Yael. Daphne offers us wisdom in overcoming marital challenges, Including challenges in our sexual relationships. Listen and discover new and helpful ways to understand and engage in your marriage! Listen to hear more about: Why rough patches are inevitable in long-term committed relationshipsWhy sex matters but at times is so challenging during the long haulWays to approach differences in sexual desireWhether or not to worry about fantasies and crushes outside the marriageThe difference between secrecy and privacy in marriage About Dr. de Marneffe Dr. Daphne De Marnefe Dr. de Marneffe completed her graduate work at UC Berkeley and her work has been published in academic journals, as well as in the popular press, including the New York Times. She is a contributing editor to Parents Magazine and writes a regular column on couple relationships. Dr. Daphne de Marneffe joins us to discuss her book, The Rough Patch: Marriage and the Art of Living Together. Her previous book, Maternal Desire: On Children, Love, and the Inner Life explores the role of child-rearing in women’s lives. Resources The Rough Patch: Marriage and the Art of Living Together, by Daphne de MarneffeDaphne’s New York Times pieceDaphne’s talk at GoogleDaphne’s websiteMaternal Desire: On Children, Love, and the Inner Life, by Daphne de Marneffe Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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91. Disability as a Form of Diversity with Erin Andrews May 26, 2019

Disability is an experience that millions of people have, and yet it is often overlooked in discussions related to diversity and inclusivity. Today Debbie talks with Dr. Erin Andrews, a rehab psychologist and advocates for disabilities rights. Listen and Learn: Why it’s okay to #SayTheWord Disability.How our attitudes related to Disability can contribute to stigma and shame.Disability culture, and models of Disability.Disability issues Related to parenting and children.How we could do better, and why we need to! Photo purchased from PhotoAbility , a source of Disability-Affirmative stock photos! About Dr. Erin Andrews: Dr. Erin Andrews is a clinical associate professor at Dell Medical School and supervisory psychologist and the co-director of psychology training at the Central Texas Veterans Health Care System. She is a board-certified rehab psychologist with her doctorate from Wright State University and a Bachelor of Science from Michigan State University. Dr. Andrews has had numerous publications and professional lectures on disability topics related to her areas of research interest in disability culture, identity and inclusion. She is a past co-chair of the APA Committee on Disability Issues in Psychology and chair of Division 22 Disability Identity Committee from its inception until 2018. Dr. Andrews has completed innovative work to address the needs of parents with disabilities. She is a co-founder of the Disabled Parenting Project (DPP), a resource for support and information for parents and prospective parents with a wide range of disabilities. Her advocacy work in this area includes representing the American Psychological Association (APA) during a 2013 congressional briefing regarding parents with disabilities and participating in a White House forum on the civil rights of parents with disabilities in May 2016. Dr. Andrews has received numerous awards for her work, most recently an APA Citizen Psychologist Presidential Citation in 2018. Resources: Erin’s book, Disability as Diversity: Developing Cultural Competence is now available!Article “#SayTheWord: A Disability Culture Commentary on the Erasure of ‘Disability’”Dr. Erin Andrews’s professional webpage: https://dellmed.utexas.edu/directory/erin-andrewsDisabled Parenting Project: http://www.disabledparenting.com/author/erin/Stella Young’s TED TalkRhoda Olkin’s book What Psychotherapists Should Know About Disability.No Pity: People with Disabilities Forging a New Civil Rights Movement by Joseph ShapiroAPA Division 22: Rehab Psychology Webpage: https://division-rehabpsych.squarespace.com/List of Suggested Reading in Rehab Psychology APA Citizen Psychologist Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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90. Paul Gilbert on Tricky Brains, Caring, and Living Like Crazy May 16, 2019

Our human brains have evolved to be quite “tricky.“ They have the capacity to provide compassionate caring and also callous destruction. Dr. Paul Gilbert offers hope: “We get to decide which evolved part of us runs the show.” In this interview, Dr. Gilbert, father of Compassion Focused Therapy, discusses “caring psychology” — psychology that integrates evolution science, attachment theory, mindfulness, neuroscience, and Jungian archetypes. This approach offers a coherent model to alleviate human suffering. Listen and Learn: How our tricky brains are a mismatch for our modern-day environmentThe difference between seeking safety and feeling safeWhy our minds loop and what to do about itCaring psychology and hope for our planet About Dr. Gilbert: Paul Gilbert, FBPsS, Ph.D., OBE is Professor of Clinical Psychology at the University of Derby and honorary visiting Prof at the University of Queensland. Until his retirement from the NHS in 2016 he was Consultant Clinical Psychologist for over 40 years. He has researched evolutionary approaches to psychopathology with a special focus on mood, shame, and self-criticism in various mental health difficulties for which Compassion Focused Therapy was developed. He was made a Fellow of the British Psychological Society in 1993, president of the BABCP 2002-2004, and was a member of the first British Governments’ NICE guidelines for depression. He has written/edited 21 books and over 250 papers and book chapters. In 2006 he established the Compassionate Mind Foundation as an international charity with the mission statement: To promote wellbeing through the scientific understanding and application of compassion. There are now a number of sister foundations in other countries. He was awarded an OBE by the Queen in March 2011 for services to mental health. He established and is the Director of the Centre for Compassion Research and Training at Derby University UK. He has written and edited many books on compassion. His latest Book is Living Like Crazy. Resources: The Compassionate Mind FoundationLiving Like Crazy by Paul GilbertThe Compassionate Mind by Paul GilbertTed Talk: How Mindfulness Fosters Compassion with Paul GilbertCFT Made Simple by Russell Kolts Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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89. A Gift For You – Soothing Rhythm Breathing May 09, 2019

Join Diana for a short but sweet Soothing Rhythm Breathing break! Soothing Rhythm Breathing is a simple technique from Compassion Focused Therapy. It is particularly helpful when you find yourself anxious, angry, over-busy, or emotionally dysregulated. Soothing Rhythm breathing stimulates the vagus nerve, increases heart rate variability, and activates the Parasympathetic Nervous System. Soothing Rhythm Breathing shifts your body/brain systems from drive and threat toward safeness and compassion. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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88. Perfectionism with Sharon Martin May 01, 2019

Do you set unrealistically high expectations for yourself and others? Are you goal-driven, always busy, and have a hard time relaxing? Do you avoid making mistakes? And when you do, do you dwell on them? If so, you may be a perfectionist. Underneath perfectionism is a desire for approval and to connect. Yet, perfectionists often find themselves disconnected from their values and fearing other’s judgment. In this episode, Diana interviews Sharon Martin, LCSW, an expert on perfectionism, about the underpinnings of perfectionism and CBT strategies to let go of your self-critic and find more balance. Listen and Learn: the key signs of perfectionismhow and why perfectionism developsthe dark side of perfectionismstrategies to unhook from and challenge perfectionism thinkingCBT techniques to change perfectionistic patterns Resources: CBT Workbook For Perfectionism by Sharon Martin, LCSWSharon Martin’s blogThe Gift of Imperfection by Brene BrownBrene Brown’s Ted Talk on Vulnerability and Imperfection About Sharon Martin, LCSW: Sharon Martin, LCSW is a licensed psychotherapist and codependency expert practicing in San Jose, CA. She specializes in helping perfectionists and people-pleasers embrace their imperfections and overcome self-doubt and shame. Her own struggle to feel “good enough”, inspired her passion for helping others learn to accept and love themselves. Sharon writes for PsychCentral.com and is the author of the book The CBT Workbook for Perfectionism. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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87. Cribsheet with Emily Oster Apr 23, 2019

Dr. Emily Oster joins Yael to discuss her new book, a-Driven Guide to Better, More Relaxed Parenting, from Birth to Preschool. Emily discusses how data and decision-making strategies can guide better and more relaxed parenting during the early years of parenthood. Join us to discover reassuring ideas and practices to address the biggest and most anxiety-provoking questions you have about parenting. Listen to hear more about: A two-step approach to making good parenting choices (hint—scientific findings and your personal preferences both matter!)Whether breast is really best (or whether we should give it a rest)What science (versus your judgy neighbor) says about sleep training, location, and positionDoes working outside the home negatively impact your children?How to make good choices for childcare without losing your mindThe best parenting advice Emily ever received Dr. Emily Oster About Dr. Emily Oster: Emily is an award-winning economist, professor at Brown University, Ted speaker, author, and mother of two. Emily’s just-released book, Cribsheet: A Data-Driven Guide to Better, More Relaxed Parenting, from Birth to Preschool is a follow-up to her bestselling book, Expecting Better: Why the Conventional Pregnancy Wisdom Is Wrong—and What You Really Need to Know). Cribsheet provides the hard science behind so many parenting questions we all have using both research data and decision-making strategies drawn from economics. In our interview, Emily walks us through some of the biggest minefields in parenting, including sleep training, breast-feeding, and working versus stay-at-home parenting. Her humor and warmth in bringing the data to parents will provide helpful direction and reassurance as you travel the journey of the early years of parenting. Resources: Cribsheet: A data-driven guide to better, more relaxed parenting, from birth to preschool, by Emily OsterExpecting Better: Why the conventional wisdom is wrong—and what you really need to know, by Emily OsterEmily’s New York Times excerpt from Cribsheet.Emily’s interview with AP News, covering several of the topics from Cribsheet. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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86. Mom Brain with Ilyse Dobrow DiMarco Apr 16, 2019

Dr. Ilyse Dobrow DiMarco joins Yael for a conversation about how evidence-based psychology can help moms deal more effectively with stress. If you, too, have complicated feelings about being #grateful and/or wanting to sell your child to the highest bidder, join us for a conversation about managing the emotional challenges of parenthood. Listen to discover: The normal range of maternal emotionsHow to recruit helpful supportHow to clarify your values as a parentStrategies for better self-care About Dr. Ilyse Dobrow DiMarco Ilyse is a clinical psychologist, Diplomate of the Academy of Cognitive Therapy, and writer who specializes in treating stressed out moms using evidence-based approaches (when she isn’t busy being a stressed-out mom to her own two young boys). Ilyse’s writing has been featured in ScaryMommy, Motherwell, Motherly, PopSugar, and she hosts her own blog, drcbtmom.com. Ilyse is currently working on a book that explores mom stress and offers helpful guidance from the world of cognitive-behavioral therapy. Resources: Mom Brain: Proven Strategies to Fight the Anxiety, Guilt, and Overwhelming Emotions of Motherhood―and Relax into Your New Self Ilyse’s blog, Dr. CBT MomBeing a Toddler-Mom Can Cause Anxiety—But Here’s What You Can Do, by Ilyse Dobrow DiMarcoTurns Out There Are Some Things We Can Control As Parents, by Ilyse Dobrow DiMarcoSometimes it Makes Sense Not to Give a F*ck, So I’m Learning to Chill Out, by Ilyse Dobrow DiMarco Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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85. Emotion Efficacy with Aprilia West Apr 10, 2019

Having emotions is part of being human. At times we may find emotions overwhelming or act ways that are out of alignment with our values when we are emotionally triggered. In this episode, Diana interviews Dr. Aprilia West about how to increase our emotion efficacy and why it matters. Listen and learn: Why we are so different in how we experience emotionsSkills needed for emotion efficacyHow to surf an emotion waveWhat Diana is overwhelmed by this week and how to use emotion efficacy skills to helpThe components of Emotion Efficacy Training About Aprilia West, Psy.D. Dr. Aprilia West is a Los Angeles-based licensed clinical psychologist, trainer, executive coach and founding partner of coevolve, an organizational consulting firm. She has also served as an advisor, organizational consultant, mediator and executive coach for Fortune 500 companies, entertainment industry executives, U.S. Members of Congress and national and international non-profit advocacy groups and campaigns. Dr. West is recognized as an expert in emotion efficacy and authored Emotion Efficacy Therapy (EET), which helps people excel under intense stress and distress. She has extensive experience in performance training, working with executives, creatives, and leaders to help them access their full potential and to cultivate resilience in the face of difficulty and challenge. Resources: Learn More About Emotion Efficacy Therapy hereClinicians can purchase clinician's guide to Emotion Efficacy Therapy HereRegister for Emotion Efficacy Therapy training in Oakland Here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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84. Courageous Conversations to Prevent Childhood Sexual Abuse with Feather Berkower Apr 04, 2019

April is Child Abuse Prevention month. Therefore, we thought it would be a good idea to bring back Feather Berkower, a leading expert in childhood sexual abuse prevention. During Feather's first visit to our podcast, she spoke to us about ways for Keeping Children Safe from Sexual Abuse. Today Debbie and Feather dive deeper into how to have uncomfortable conversations, with both adults and children, to promote sexual assault prevention. Listen and learn: How to talk to children about sex and body parts in an open, developmentally-appropriate way. What to say to an adult whose behavior with your child makes you uncomfortable. A leading expert’s opinion about sleepovers, play dates, and online safety. The difference between normal sexual play between children and sexual abuse. Ways to encouraging children to tell if sexual abuse occurs, and how to talk to children after a disclosure of abuse. Feather Berkower About Feather Berkower: Feather Berkower, Founder of Parenting Safe Children, is a licensed clinical social worker and one of the nation’s leading experts in child sexual assault prevention. She has dedicated her career — which now spans over three decades — to educating parents and youth professionals on how to make their communities “off limits” to childhood sexual assault. Using her community-based approach, she has trained over 100,000 school children, parents, and youth professionals across the United States. Resources: The Parenting Safe Children webpageBehaviors to watch out for when adults are with children.Feather’s book Off Limits: A Parent’s Guide to Keeping Kids Safe from Sexual AbuseThe Parenting Safe Children workshop calendar and registrationOnline workshop, for those outside the Denver Metro Blog post Feather mentioned about sleepovers Books for Children: Some Parts are Not for Sharing by Julie K. Federico I Said No! A Kid-to-kid Guide to Keeping Private Parts Private by Kimberly & Zack KingAmazing You by Gail Saltz and Lynne Cravath It’s Not the Stork (ages 4+) by Robbie H. Harris It’s So Amazing (ages 7+) by Robbie H. HarrisSome Secrets Should Never Be Kept by Jayneen Sanders What Makes A Baby by Cory SilverbergSex is a Funny Word: A Book about Bodies, Feelings, and YOU by Cory Silverberg and Fiona SmythAdditional book recommendations on the Parenting Safe Children webpage 19. Keeping Children Safe from Sexual Abuse with Feather Berkower Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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83. The Tao of Work and Family Balance with Tod Perry and Carl Totton Mar 26, 2019

In this episode, Yael is joined for a discussion of Taoism by What’s This Tao All About podcast hosts, Tod Perry and Dr. Carl Totton. Join us for a lively discussion about how ancient wisdom of Tao can help us find greater balance between work and family roles. Listen and learn: New ways to think about the conflict between work and family rolesHow Taoists define yin and yang and how the balance of these forces support greater balanceHow to find moments of quiet in the busyness of modern working parent lifeHow Taoist principles can help us find greater happiness About Tod Perry and Dr. Carl Totton Tod Perry is head writer at Upworthy and has a history of doing podcasting, producing shows for Howard Stern and Adam Corolla. Tod became interested in Taoism after reading The Tao of Pooh (by Benjamin Hoff) in his 20’s. Several years later, Tod sought out podcast resources to revitalize his spirituality, but was unable to find something that spoke to his needs. So, he decided to start his own podcast, and What’s This Tao All About was born. Dr. Carl Totton is a clinical psychologist and founder of the Taoist Institute in Los Angeles, where he offers Chinese internal health and martial arts instruction. Dr. Totton has studied Chinese healing and martial arts for over 45 years and is certified as a qigong and martial arts grandmaster. He has worked in diverse clinical settings including private practice, hospitals, community mental health clinics, and schools. Dr. Totton is listed in the US Martial Arts Hall of Fame and has taught Taoism to many members of the film, music, and entertainment industries. On What’s This Tao All About, Tod and Dr. Carl Totton offer a lighthearted and fun look at the ancient wisdom of Taoism. They explore the meaning of ancient texts and wisdom and apply these ideas to problems of modern living. Most importantly, they keep it real and really funny. Resources from Tod Perry and Dr. Carl Totton: What’s This Tao All About PodcastA Few Particularly Relevant Episodes:What’s This Tao All About, Episode #7 on Balance and MeditationWhat’s This Tao All About, Episode #31 on The Tao of PoohWhat’s This Tao All About, Episode #40 on Balance The Taoist Institute, Los Angeles A Few Books to Introduce You to Taoism: The Tao of Pooh by Benjamin HoofThe Tao te Ching, Lao TzuThe Book of Chuang TzuThe Tao of Daily Life, by Derek Lin Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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82. Therapist Self Doubt with Jim Lucas Mar 19, 2019

As therapists, we may sometimes self doubt whether our skills are good enough to help our clients. Surprisingly, self-doubt may actually be useful, when used courageously as a tool for improvement. In this episode, Debbie speaks with Jim Lucas, a therapist in the UK who specializes in training and supporting mental health therapists. Listen and Learn: The upside of self-doubt for therapists The surprising relationship between therapist self-doubt and client outcomes Balancing how to find self-compassion with the courage to improve your work A brief self-enquiry exercise that can be used to foster healthy therapist self-doubt About Jim Lucas: Jim Lucas is an ACT Therapist based in UK who works in private practice and higher education. He is an accredited Cognitive Behavioral Psychotherapist with British Association for Behavioral & Cognitive Psychotherapies and a Teaching Fellow in the School of Psychology at University of Birmingham. Jim lives and works in Birmingham, UK’s 2nd largest city and ‘city of 1000 trades.’ He runs a psychology business called Openforwards, which specialises in supporting people who work in healthcare, education and other helping professions. As well as offering individual therapy, Jim takes an interest in delivering training to teams of practitioners on Acceptance & Commitment Therapy (ACT) and wellbeing. He is an ACBS peer-reviewed ACT Trainer and runs his own monthly podcast called Self-Help-Sat-Nav. Resources: Jim Lucas’s Guidance On How To Do Self-Enquiry in a JournalJim Lucas’s webpageSelf-Help-Sat-Nav (Jim’s Podcast)Developing Openness to Feedback through Cultivating Healthy Self-Doubt (Article by Jason Luoma on www.ActwithCompassion.com)Article “Love yourself as a person, doubt yourself as a therapist.”Radically Open DBT WebsiteThe Resilient Practitioner by Thomas M. Skovholt and Michelle Trotter-Mathison. Related POTC Episode: 46. Altruism And The Flow Of Compassion With Dr. Yotam Heineberg Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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81. A Gift For You: 10 Min Breathing Meditation Mar 13, 2019

Join Diana in a short breathing meditation. Take 10 minutes to savor the present moment and your breath! A Gift For You: Pranayama Breathing Meditation89. A Gift For You. Soothing Rhythm Breathing122. Taking in the Good with Dr. Rick Hanson70. A Gift For You: Loving-Kindness Meditation Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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80. Meditation for Fidgety Skeptics with Jeff Warren Mar 06, 2019

In this episode, author and meditation expert Jeff Warren reveals the art, science, and fun of meditation for the fidgety skeptics among us. If your interest has been piqued by the buzz around meditation but you haven’t been able (or willing) to develop a meditation practice, then check out Yael’s conversation with Jeff Warren. Jeff is the co-author of the recent best seller, Meditation for Fidgety Skeptics: A 10% Happier How-to Book. Listen and Learn What “counts” as meditation (hint: satin cushions, an empty mind, and major life changes are not required).Why equanimity is the “super juice” of meditation.The benefits (and drawbacks) of incorporating technology into a meditation practice.How Jeff deals with intense emotions and fidgety-ness in his own meditation practice. About Jeff Warren Jeff Warren Jeff is a meditation teacher, writer, founder of the Consciousness Explorers Club, and co-author of the recent best seller, Meditation for Fidgety Skeptics. In this book, authors Jeff Warren, Dan Harris (ABC News correspondent and Good Morning America co-anchor), and Carlye Adler offer an irreverent exploration of the how’s and why’s of meditation. Jeff and his co-authors translate the science and practice of meditation with wisdom, wit, and by revealing their own personal challenges. Using his humor and personal touch, Jeff has successfully taught meditation concepts and practices to audiences ranging from the Canadian Royal Mounted Police to squirmy six-year-olds to suspicious journalists. Jeff’s ongoing work includes his Consciousness Explorer’s Club, his weekly YouTube “Do Nothing Project,” and his traveling workshop and book aiming to teach individuals how to start their own local meditation groups using his Community Activation Kit. In addition to Meditation for Fidgety Skeptics, Jeff is also the author of The Head Trip: Adventures on the Wheel of Consciousness. He offers guided meditations on the 10% Happier app and is a semi-regular guest on the 10% Happier Podcast. Resources Jeff Warren Web site (guided meditations, upcoming events, and media)The Consciousness Explorers Club’s (CEC) “Community Practice Activation Kit”Meditation for Fidgety Skeptics retreat (Omega Institute, Rhinebeck, NY, May 10-12, 2019)How to Guide Meditation: A Training for Everyone (Toronto, April 5-7, 2019)The 10% Happier AppMeditation for Fidgety Skeptics: A 10% Happier How-To Book, by Dan Harris, Jeff Warren, & Carlye AdlerThe Head Trip: Adventures on the Wheel of Consciousness, by Jeff Warren10% Happier: How I Tamed the Voice in my Head, Reduced Stress Without Losing my Edge, and Found Self-Help that Actually Works—a True Story, by Dan HarrisThe Wisdom of No Escape by Pema Chodron 81. A Gift For You: 10 Minute Breathing Meditation Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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79. Thriving In Adolescence with Louise Hayes Feb 26, 2019

How can we help adolescents develop skills to live well and reach their full potential? In this episode, Debbie talks to Dr. Louise Hayes, co-author of The Thriving Adolescent: Using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and Positive Psychology to Help Teens Manage Emotions, Achieve Goals, and Build Connection. Together they explore her approach to helping adolescents thrive, not just survive, this challenging time in their development. Listen and learn: The unique developmental tasks of adolescenceWhy adaptive risk-taking is necessary and important in adolescenceHow the skills of Discoverer, Noticer, Advisor and Vitality (DNA-V) help adolescents develop flexible strengthWhat matters most for parents of teenagersWhy adolescents are sunsets…not problems to be solved About Dr. Louise Hayes Dr. Louise Hayes Dr. Louise Hayes is a clinical psychologist who is well known for her work using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy for young people in schools and clinical settings. She is currently the President of the Association for Contextual Behavioural Science. Dr. Hayes is an author, international speaker, a senior fellow with The University of Melbourne and Orygen Youth Health, and a peer-reviewed Acceptance and Commitment Therapy/Training (ACT) trainer. Dr. Hayes is the co-author of the best-selling book, Get Out of Your Mind and Into Your Life for Teenagers: A Guide to Living an Extraordinary Life, and the newly released book, The Thriving Adolescent: Using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and Positive Psychology to Help Teens Manage Emotions, Achieve Goals, and Build Connection. Together with Joseph Ciarrochi, she conducts research and treatment development; her latest work uses a DNA-v (Discoverer-Noticer-Advisor-Value) treatment model for young people. Louise is also an active humanitarian, taking mental health professionals into the Himalaya to developing their mindfulness skills and raising funds for poor children in remote Nepal. Resources: Dr. Hayes’s website with links to her upcoming trainings and workshopsClick here to see a visual image of the DNA-v modelDr. Hayes’ Books:The Thriving Adolescent: Using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and Positive Psychology to Help Teens Manage Emotions, Achieve Goals, and Build Connection Get Out of Your Mind and Into Your Life for Teens: A Guide to Living an Extraordinary Life 78. The Self-Driven Child with Dr. William Stixrud100. Celebrating 100 Episodes of Psychologists off the Clock with Debbie, Diana, and Yael!116. Building a Meaningful, Values-based Life with Dr. Jenna LeJeune Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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78. The Self-Driven Child with William Stixrud Feb 19, 2019

According to neuropsychologist Dr. William Stixrud, parents should be their kids’ consultants, not their managers. When we spend our time trying to control our kids, we weaken them and exhaust ourselves. In this episode, Diana talks with Dr. Stixrud about his book The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives. Additionally, they discuss how to support healthy development, self-motivation, and emotional resilience in our kids. This episode is a game-changer for parents and clinicians, but, of course, “It’s your call” if you want to listen! Listen and Learn Why giving kids more sense of control sets them up to thriveA more effective approach to homework battles, technology use, and underage drinkingThe parenting magic of the words, “It’s your call”How to prepare your kids for college (and it’s not practicing SAT’s!) About Dr. William Stixrud: Dr. William Stixrud William R. Stixrud, Ph.D., is a clinical neuropsychologist and founder of The Stixrud Group, a lifespan neuropsychology practice. He is also a member of the faculty at Children’s National Medical Center, and he is an Assistant Professor of Psychiatry and Pediatrics at the George Washington School of Medicine. Additionally, Dr. Stixrud is a frequent lecturer the author of scientific articles and book chapters on Transcendental Meditation and other topics. Most recently, he is the author--with co-writer Ned Johnson--of The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives. Dr. Stixrud has been quoted often in publications including The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Times of London, Scientific American, Time.com, NPR, The Wall Street Journal, Barron's, Businessweek, and Vogue. He is also a rock and roll musician and plays in the band Close Enough. Resources The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives by William Stixrud and Ned JohnsonThe Stixrud Group: A Lifespan Neuropsychology PracticeWhen a College Student Comes Home to Stay - The New York TimesOn Leave: College Wellness, Mental Health and Not Returning to Campus - On Point 87. Cribsheet with Dr. Emily Oster112. Nature vs. Nurture: Why Temperament Matters With Co-hosts Debbie Sorensen and Yael Schonbrun79. Helping Adolescents Thrive with Dr. Louise Hayes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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77. Acceptance and Commitment Therapy with Jill Stoddard Feb 12, 2019

In nearly every episode on our podcast, we describe how ACT-based concepts and principles help us heal from pain, make life-affirming choices, and build happiness. Join us for a conversation about a powerful therapeutic approach and general guide to living well, acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT). Dr. Jill Stoddard walks us through the principles of ACT, which have been shown to help individuals with anxiety, depression, chronic pain, relationship problems, and general stress improve their happiness and general well-being. Dr. Jill Stoddard explains the basics of ACT and how we can use ACT-based ideas and strategies to live more meaningfully. Listen and Learn: About psychological flexibility, the ability to stay in touch with present circumstances so that you can make choices to persist or cease behaviors in the service of your most important valuesHow reframing emotional pain can allow you to make that pain work better for youIlluminating metaphors that bring to life the 6 core processes of ACT which help us to live more effectively Resources: The Big Book of ACT Metaphors: A Practitioner's Guide to Experiential Exercises and Metaphors in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy by Jill StoddardBe Mighty: A Woman's Guide to Liberation from Anxiety, Worry, and Stress Using Mindfulness and Acceptance by Jill StoddardGet Out of Your Mind and Into Your Life: The New Acceptance and Commitment Therapy by Steven HayesThe Center for Stress and Anxiety Management, Director Jill Stoddard About Dr. Jill Stoddard Jill Stoddard, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist, the director of the Center for Stress & Anxiety Management in Carlsbad. She received her Ph.D. from the renowned Boston University Center for Anxiety and Related Disorders under the mentorship of David Barlow. Jill is an award winning teacher and peer-reviewed ACT trainer who has presented at local, national and international conferences and has co-authored articles on CBT, ACT, anxiety disorders, and cardiac and chronic pain. Her newest book, Be Mighty: A Woman's Guide to Liberation from Anxiety, Worry, and Stress Using Mindfulness and Acceptance can be pre-ordered and will be released by New Harbinger next year. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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76. Gender and Sexual Minorities with Aisling Leonard-Curtin and Matthew Skinta Feb 05, 2019

On today’s episode, we are joined by Dr. Matthew Skinta and Aisling Leonard-Curtin, two mental health providers who specialize in working with gender and sexual minority clients. We discuss: the emotional impact current events can have for gender and sexual minoritiescoming out with compassionissues of shame, rejection, and minority stress than can arisepromoting resilience among gender and sexual minoritiesa mindfulness- and acceptance-based clinical approach to working with LGBT clientsthe importance of community and connection Resources: Dr. Matthew D. Skinta and Aisling Curtin co-edited the book Mindfulness and Acceptance for Gender and Sexual Minorities: A Clinician's Guide to Fostering Compassion, Connection, and Equality Using Contextual Strategies.They also co-chaired a conference on evidence-based advances in psychotherapy for sexual orientation and gender diverse clients in the Bay Area in 2017, and are following up with a second international conference in Budapest in September, 2019. You can find Information about the conference here: Advances in Evidence-Based Psychotherapy for Working with Gender and Sexual Minorities Conference (2nd International)Aisling’s wonderful TEDx Talk, The Power of SmallA Clinician's Guide to Gender-Affirming Care: Working with Transgender and Gender Nonconforming ClientsAPA Practice Guidelines for LGB ClientsAPA Guidelines for Psychological Practice with Transgender and Gender Nonconforming PeoplePFLAG (Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays) For a great source for LGBTQ positive and diversity-oriented children’s books , check out the Flamingo Rampant webpage! About Our Guests: Aisling Leonard-Curtin, M.Sc., C.Psychol., Ps.S.I., is a chartered counselling psychologist with the Psychological Society of Ireland who lives with her wife Trish in Dublin, Ireland. She is a TEDx speaker, co-director of Act Now Purposeful Living, has a small private practice, and consults with a number of organisations to deliver acceptance and mindfulness workshops. Aisling is a peer-reviewed acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT) and functional analytic psychotherapy (FAP) trainer. Aisling teaches on many university training programmes, and regularly gives workshops and talks internationally throughout Europe, North America and Australia. She has over a decades experience working in a wide range of settings including adult psychiatry, psycho-oncology, educational, health and community settings. Aisling co-authored The Power of Small: Making Tiny But Powerful Change When Everything Feels Too Much., alongside her wife fellow psychologist Trish, a self-help book aimed at those feeling overwhelmed, which was just recently released in 2019. Aisling has led public workshops since 2010. Her passion is making psychological concepts easy to understand and apply for all in the community. Matthew D. Skinta, PhD, ABPP, is a board-certified clinical health psychologist who lives with his husband in San Francisco, CA. His private practice focuses on challenges posed by shame and interpersonal rejection and their interaction with health behaviors or minority status, and for four years he directed the Sexual and Gender Identities Clinic at Palo Alto University. Matthew’s past research has focused on the impact of stigma and shame on health behaviors of sexual minority men, particularly as it relates to sexual health and HIV-related care. He is a peer-reviewed acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT) trainer, and is certified as both a compassion cultivation training (CCT) teacher, and as a trainer of functional analytic psychotherapy (FAP). Matthew has provided workshops for professional organizations, universities, Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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75. Mindful Self-Compassion with Christopher Germer Jan 24, 2019

Self-compassion is a hot topic in psychology. It predicts everything from emotional resilience to therapy outcome. The exciting news is, with practice, you can increase your self-compassion. In this episode, Dr. Christopher Germer, pioneer in self-compassion and co-founder of the Mindful Self-Compassion Program, discusses: His personal struggle that led him to self-compassion How being kinder to yourself impacts your well-being Common fears about self-compassion that keep us stuck in self-criticism How self-compassion benefits your romantic partnerships Our podcast has dedicated a number of episodes to compassion for a reason. Increasing self compassion and compassion for others, may just be the key to your well-being. It is an honor today to have Dr. Christopher Germer, leader in the integration of mindfulness in therapy and co-developer of the international Mindful Self Compassion Program onto our show. Diana has been studying his work for a number of years, and it was a joy for her to interview him in person. It is a rare occasion to learn directly from an expert so wise and personally grounded in his work. In this episode, Diana and Dr. Germer dive into “Self-Compassion 101” while also exploring how they practice self-compassion on and off the couch. Diana also demonstrates an exercise she learned from Dr. Germer at a recent couples retreat. So, open your heart and take a listen! Resources: Test how self-compassionate you are! Mindful Self-Compassion Program Upcoming Workshops with Dr. Christopher Germer The Mindful Path to Self-Compassion by Christopher Germer The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook by Kristen Neff and Christopher Germer About Dr. Christopher Germer: Chris Germer, PhD is a clinical psychologist in private practice and lecturer on psychiatry (part-time) at Harvard Medical School. He teaches on the faculty of the Institute for Meditation and Psychotherapy and the Center for Mindfulness and Compassion, both based in Cambridge, MA. He is a co-developer (with Kristin Neff) and popular teacher of the Mindful Self-Compassion program (which has been taught to over 50,000 people around the world), author of The Mindful Path to Self-Compassion, co-author of The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook (which is consistently the #3 book in Social work on Amazon since it’s release) and co-editor of Mindfulness and Psychotherapy and Wisdom and Compassion in Psychotherapy.His newest book, for professionals, Teaching the Mindful Self Compassion Program will be released in Summer 2019. __________________________ Thank you for joining us on this episode of Psychologists Off The Clock. We appreciate your feedback. Please take a moment to leave a quick rating and review of the show on Apple Podcasts. It helps us spread the word to more folks like you! Click Here to Subscribe via Apple Podcasts Click Here to Subscribe via Stitcher Click here to Subscribe via Google Play Please note that the information in the podcast and on this site is intended for informational purposes only. It should not be used as a substitute for psychological or medical care. If you are looking professional help, visit our resources page for guidance on how to find a therapist. If you are experiencing a mental health emergency, call 9-1-1. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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74. Mastering Adulthood with Lara Fielding Jan 15, 2019

Interested in becoming an emotional grown up? In this episode, Debbie talks with Dr. Lara Fielding, author of Mastering Adulthood: Go Beyond Adulting to Become an Emotional Grown-Up, about such topics as: some of the challenges of young adulthood helpful ways to think about thoughts, emotions, and behavior patterns how to increase awareness and skillfulness to live a meaningful life About Dr. Lara Fielding: Dr. Lara Fielding is a Clinical Psychologist in California, specializing in the Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Behavioral Therapies. She studied the psychophysiology of stress and emotions at the University of California, Los Angeles; and Harvard; before getting her doctorate at Pepperdine University graduate school of education and psychology, where she is an adjunct professor. Resources: Dr. Fielding’s book Mastering Adulthood: Go Beyond Adulthood to Become an Emotional Grown-Up Dr. Fielding’s website, Mindful-Mastery.com, where you’ll find videos that accompany the book. __________________________ Thank you for joining us on this episode of Psychologists Off The Clock. We appreciate your feedback. Please take a moment to leave a quick rating and review of the show on Apple Podcasts. It helps us spread the word to more folks like you! Click Here to Subscribe via Apple Podcasts Click Here to Subscribe via Stitcher Click here to Subscribe via Google Play Please note that the information in the podcast and on this site is intended for informational purposes only. It should not be used as a substitute for psychological or medical care. If you are looking professional help, visit our resources page for guidance on how to find a therapist. If you are experiencing a mental health emergency, call 9-1-1. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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73. Essentialism with Greg McKeown Jan 10, 2019

In this episode, best-selling author Greg McKeown talks with Yael about Essentialism, a systematic discipline designed to support making life decisions that help you to make your “highest possible contribution towards the things that really matter.” Join us for an inspirational conversation and learn: Why it is important to distinguish the essential from the nonessential How to identify what is most essential Strategies to create a system that supports the disciplined pursuit of what is essential to you How Greg walks individuals through the steps of Essentialism About Greg McKeown Greg is the author of the the best-selling book, Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less. He is also afrequent contributor to Harvard Business Review, a sought after keynote speaker, a repeating guest on the Steve (Harvey) show, and his work on Essentialism is regularly written about in media (see Resources). Greg is also founder/CEO of McKeown, Inc., a strategy design center. Resources The Book: Essentialism: The disciplined pursuit of less, by Greg McKeownRecent piece in the New York Times featuring Essentialism: “Why you start things you’ll never finish”Article in Harvard Business Review by Greg McKeown: “To do things better, stop doing so much”Article in Harvard Business Review by Greg McKeown: “The unimportance of practically everything”Greg McKeown’s Website __________________________ Thank you for joining us on this episode of Psychologists Off The Clock. We appreciate your feedback. Please take a moment to leave a quick rating and review of the show on Apple Podcasts. It helps us spread the word to more folks like you! Click Here to Subscribe via Apple Podcasts Click Here to Subscribe via Stitcher Click here to Subscribe via Google Play Please note that the information in the podcast and on this site is intended for informational purposes only. It should not be used as a substitute for psychological or medical care. If you are looking professional help, visit our resources page for guidance on how to find a therapist. If you are experiencing a mental health emergency, call 9-1-1. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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72. Committed Action with DJ Moran Jan 07, 2019

Are you ready to make a behavior change for 2019? Join us for a motivational episode with commitment expert, Dr. DJ Moran where we take committed action to make changes for our wellbeing. Listen and learn: Common internal obstacles to behavior changeHow to make mindfulness accessibleHow he used values to change his healthWhat is blocking Diana from her New Year’s resolution About Dr. Moran Dr. Daniel J. Moran is the founder and executive director of the MidAmerican Psychological Institute, and founder of Pickslyde Consulting. He co-authored ACT in Practice and Committed Action in Practice – two books using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy to help people reduce suffering and improve quality of living. Dr. D.J. has appeared on The Learning Channel, Animal Planet, and the Oprah Winfrey Network discussing behavioral health concerns. He also received the Outstanding Mentor Award from the Association for Behavior Analysis International. Dr. D.J. is a Recognized ACTrainer, Board Certified Behavior Analyst, and the past president of the Association for Contextual Behavioral Science, the worldwide Acceptance and Commitment Therapy organization. Resources Committed Action in Practice: A Clinician’s Guide to Assessing, Planning, and Supporting Change in Your Client by Dr. DJ Moran, Patricia Bach, and Sonja BattenContact Dr. DJ MoranUpcoming Trainings with Dr. DJ MoranACBS World Conference 2019 66. Helping People Change Using Motivational Interviewing With Dr. Nadine Mastroleo82. Clinician's Corner: Therapist Self-Doubt with Jim Lucas Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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71. Simplify, Declutter, and Create Space for the New Year with Diana and Debbie! Jan 01, 2019

Happy New Year! Do you have a resolution to simplify your life and clear the clutter? Are you tired of being stressed out by too much stuff? In this episode, co-hosts Debbie and Diana explore: How simplifying and slowing down can help you create a more meaningful life Thoughts and emotions that may arise when you finally tackle that closet you’ve been avoiding Why buying the next little gift shop trinket won’t provide you with lasting happiness Helpful strategies from behavioral psychology that can help you declutter your home and simplify your life! So take a listen if you could use some practical strategies and inspiration in your quest to simplify. We wish you a peaceful and meaningful 2019! Resources for More Inspiration: Slow: Simple Living for a Frantic World by Brooke McAlary The Slow Home Podcast We have mixed feelings about the book The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing by Marie Kondo. See if the KonMari method works for you! New Minimalism: Decluttering and Design for Sustainable, Intentional Living by Cary Telander Fortin and Kyle Louise Quilici Atomic Habits by James Clear On Clutter and Stress: The Clutter Culture (about a UCLA study of 32 families in LA documenting the clutter problem and a link between high cortisol (a stress response) and clutter among the women), and the book that came out of the study, Life at Home in the Twenty-First Century: 32 Families Open Their Doors. How Clutter Affects Your Brain (and What You Can Do About It) in Life Hacker Why Mess Causes Stress: 8 Reasons, 8 Remedies: The Mental Cost of Clutter in Psychology Today __________________________ Thank you for joining us on this episode of Psychologists Off The Clock. We appreciate your feedback. Please take a moment to leave a quick rating and review of the show on Apple Podcasts. It helps us spread the word to more folks like you! Click Here to Subscribe via Apple Podcasts Click Here to Subscribe via Stitcher Click here to Subscribe via Google Play Please note that the information in the podcast and on this site is intended for informational purposes only. It should not be used as a substitute for psychological or medical care. If you are looking professional help, visit our resources page for guidance on how to find a therapist. If you are experiencing a mental health emergency, call 9-1-1. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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70. A Gift For You: Loving-Kindness Meditation Dec 22, 2018

Please Enjoy This Loving-Kindness Meditation From Us At Psychologists Off The Clock. We Wish You Peace, Ease, And Health This Holiday Season. -Diana, Debbie, and Yael 89. A Gift For You. Soothing Rhythm Breathing81. A Gift For You: 10 Minute Breathing Meditation80. Meditation for Fidgety Skeptics with Jeff Warren Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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69. Emotional Intelligence and the Science of Meditation with Daniel Goleman Dec 17, 2018

Are you emotionally intelligent? Listen to Diana interview Dr. Daniel Goleman, and learn about: What it means to be emotionally intelligent Why EI trumps IQ when it comes to being a good leader How empathy is being impacted by current technology Why we should be teaching social emotional skills in our schools The neuroscience of meditation, and the differing benefits of different types of meditation Three practices the Dali Lama recommends for all of us Emotional Intelligence involves self awareness, self control, relationship management and social awareness. Being emotionally intelligent can make you a better leader, parent, friend and partner. In this episode, Diana talks with Dr. Goleman, a pioneer in the field of positive psychology, about the neuroscience of emotions and why it is important to foster emotional intelligence in kids and leaders. Dr. Goleman also explores how meditation can result in permanent trait changes so that we are better able to regulate emotions and survive an “amygdala highjack.” About Dr. Goleman: Daniel Goleman, best known for his worldwide bestseller Emotional Intelligence, is most recently co-author of Altered Traits: Science Reveals How Meditation Changes Your Mind, Brain and Body. A frequent speaker to businesses of all kinds and sizes, Goleman has worked with leaders around the globe, examining the way social and emotional competencies impact the bottom-line. Goleman’s articles in the Harvard Business Review are among the most frequently requested reprints of all time: his article there, “The Focused Leader”won the 2013 HBR McKinsey Award for best article of the year. Goleman has been ranked among the 25 most influential business leaders by several business publications including TIME and The Wall Street Journal.Apart from his writing on emotional intelligence, Goleman has written books on topics including self-deception, creativity, transparency, meditation, social and emotional learning, ecoliteracy and the ecological crisis. Resources: Emotional Intelligence by Daniel GolemanAltered Traits: Science Reveals How Meditation Changes Your Mind, Brain, and Body by Daniel Goleman and Richard DavidsonA Force For Good: The Dali Lama’s Vision For Our World by Daniel GolemanThe Daniel Goleman Emotional Intelligence Coaching and Training ProgramsAdditional Books on EI Competencies, Leadership, and Teamwork by Daniel Goleman Thank you for joining us on this episode of Psychologists Off The Clock. We appreciate your feedback. Please take a moment to leave a quick rating and review of the show on Apple Podcasts. It helps us spread the word to more folks like you! Click Here to Subscribe via Apple Podcasts Click Here to Subscribe via Stitcher Click here to Subscribe via Google Play Please note that the information in the podcast and on this site is intended for informational purposes only. It should not be used as a substitute for psychological or medical care. If you are looking professional help, visit our resources page for guidance on how to find a therapist. If you are experiencing a mental health emergency, call 9-1-1. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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68. Body Image and Eating Disorders with Emily Sandoz Dec 10, 2018

Most of us can be self-critical about our bodies sometimes. At the extreme, painful thoughts and emotions about body image can lead to emotional suffering and even impact quality of life. In this episode, Debbie interviews Dr. Emily Sandoz about her acceptance-based approach to working with clients on body image and eating disorders. Dr. Sandoz explores the concept of “Body Image Inflexibility,” her values- and acceptance-based clinical approach, and cultural influences that can contribute to how we feel about our physical selves. In this episode we discuss: the emotional struggle and critical thinking we can get into about our own bodies a values- and acceptance-based approach to treating eating disorders and body image concerns social media and physical appearance ideas for talking to children about their bodies Dr. Emily K. Sandoz is the Emma Louise LeBlanc Burguieres/BORSF Endowed Professor of Social Sciences in the Psychology Department at the University of Louisiana at Lafayette. Emily is the Director of the Louisiana Contextual Science Research Group and the Editor-in-Chief of the Journal of Contextual Behavioral Science. She has co-authored three books on acceptance and commitment therapy for struggles with eating and body image, along with chapters and journal articles on ACT, Relational Frame Theory, values, the therapeutic relationship, and psychological flexibility. Emily has led more than 70 professional training workshops around the world, and serves as a peer-reviewed ACT trainer. She also practices as a Clinical Psychologist, focusing on clinical behavior analysis of body-related difficulties. Resources: Living with Your Body and Other Things You Hate: How to Let Go of Your Struggle with Body Image Using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy by Emily K. Sandoz and Troy DuFrene Acceptance and Commitment Therapy for Eating Disorders: A Process-Focused Guide to Treating Anorexia and Bulimia Paperback by Emily K. Sandoz, Kelly G. Wilson, and Troy DuFrene The Mindfulness and Acceptance Workbook for Bulimia: A Guide to Breaking Free from Bulimia Using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy by Emily K. Sandoz, Kelly G. Wilson, and Troy DuFrene Acceptance and Commitment Therapy for Body Image Dissatisfaction: A Practitioner's Guide to Using Mindfulness, Acceptance, and Values-Based Behavior Change Strategies by Adria Pearson, Michelle Heffner, and Victoria Follette. The Anorexia Workbook: How to Accept Yourself, Heal Your Suffering, and Reclaim Your Life by Michelle Heffner and Georg H. Eifert Article: “The Relationship Between Frequency of Instagram Use, Exposure to Idealized Images, and Psychological Well-Being in Women” __________________________ Thank you for joining us on this episode of Psychologists Off The Clock. We appreciate your feedback. Please take a moment to leave a quick rating and review of the show on Apple Podcasts. It helps us spread the word to more folks like you! Click Here to Subscribe via Apple Podcasts Click Here to Subscribe via Stitcher Click here to Subscribe via Google Play Please note that the information in the podcast and on this site is intended for informational purposes only. It should not be used as a substitute for psychological or medical care. If you are looking professional help, visit our resources page for guidance on how to find a therapist. If you are experiencing a mental health emergency, call 9-1-1. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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67. The Hungry Brain: Outsmarting Instincts That Make Us Overeat With Stephan Guyenet Nov 29, 2018

In this episode, Diana talks with Dr. Guyenet, neurobiologist and obesity researcher, about the unconscious systems that lead to overeating and weight gain. Dr. Guyenet discusses why dietary guidelines alone are not enough to change our eating behavior. He explores the biological and evolutionary reasons for overeating and offers concrete strategies to “outsmart” our hungry brains. This episode is a perfect accompaniment to go with the holidays, when we are bombarded with tasty food cues and stress induced overeating. In this interview with Dr. Stephan Guyenet and you will learn: Why your brain is driving you to overeat How food and drugs of abuse impact our brains in similar ways Strategies to trick your brain into feeling full and change your set point So, pull up some Brussels sprouts and take a listen! About Dr. Stephan Guyenet: Stephan Guyenet is a researcher, science consultant, and science communicator. He earned a BS in biochemistry at the University of Virginia and a PhD in neuroscience at the University of Washington, where he continued as a postdoctoral fellow studying the brain mechanisms that regulate body fatness and eating behavior. His scientific publications have been cited more than 2,000 times by his peers. His book, The Hungry Brain, was named one of the best books of the year by Publishers Weekly and called “essential” by the New York Times Book Review. He is currently a Senior Fellow at GiveWell and scientific reviewer for the Examine.com Research Digest. He grows much of his own food and brews a mean hard cider. Resources: The Hungry Brain by Stephan GuyenetIdeal Weight Program With Stephan GuyenetPsychologists Off The Clock Episode with Dr. Jason Lillis on The Diet TrapEffective Weight Loss by Evan Forman and Megan Butryn __________________________ Thank you for joining us on this episode of Psychologists Off The Clock. We appreciate your feedback. Please take a moment to leave a quick rating and review of the show on Apple Podcasts. It helps us spread the word to more folks like you! Click Here to Subscribe via Apple Podcasts Click Here to Subscribe via Stitcher Click here to Subscribe via Google Play Please note that the information in the podcast and on this site is intended for informational purposes only. It should not be used as a substitute for psychological or medical care. If you are looking professional help, visit our resources page for guidance on how to find a therapist. If you are experiencing a mental health emergency, call 9-1-1. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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66. Helping People Change Using Motivational Interviewing With Nadine Mastroleo Nov 20, 2018

Join us for a conversation with Dr. Nadine Mastroleo, an expert in motivational interviewing. You will learn: What motivational interviewing is.How the motivational interviewing approach sets the stage for behavior change.How you can use these strategies to increase others’ motivation to change addictive and other problem behaviors. In this episode, Yael interviews Dr. Nadine Mastroleo on using therapeutic practices to increase behavioral change. Nadine’s knowledge and relatable style provides an introduction to an evidence-based treatment called motivational interviewing. Nadine shares her research on what motivates others to change and how the science of therapy can offer strategies to use in your personal relationships. Nadine’s research focuses on substance use and can be expanded for use with anyone who is stuck and unmotivated to change problem behaviors. About Dr. Nadine Mastroleo Dr. Nadine Mastroleo is an associate professor at Binghamton University, whose primary areas of expertise and research are on a treatment called motivational interviewing (or MI), on teaching MI, and in examining how within-session behaviors during brief motivational interventions predict behavior change over time. You can find out more about Nadine and her research on her university web page, and she welcomes listeners to contact her directly with questions about her work through email at nmastrol@binghamton.edu. Resources Motivational Interviewing: Helping people change, by William Miller & Stephen RollnickBuilding Motivational Interviewing Skills, by David RosengrenMotivational Interviewing in Health Care: Helping Patients Change Behavior, by Stephen Rollnick, William Miller, and Christopher ButlerYou can also link to more information about motivational interviewing here, and to motivational interviewing training opportunities here. ____________ Thank you for joining us on this episode of Psychologists Off The Clock! We appreciate your feedback, so please take a moment to leave a quick rating and review of the show on Apple Podcasts. Your feedback also helps us to spread the word to more folks like you! Click Here to Subscribe via Apple Podcasts Click Here to Subscribe via Stitcher Click here to Subscribe via Google Play Please note that the information in the podcast and on this site is intended for informational purposes only. It should not be used as a substitute for psychological or medical care. If you are looking professional help, visit our resources page for guidance on how to find a therapist. If you are experiencing a mental health emergency, call 9-1-1. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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65. Self-care, Kindness, and Living Well with Kelly Wilson Nov 14, 2018

In this interview, Diana talks with Dr. Kelly Wilson about kindness and the common humanity of feeling inadequate and broken. Dr. Wilson describes the evolutionary science behind suffering and how “evolutionary mismatch” plays an important role in modern-day physical and psychological illness. Dr. Wilson, a co-founder of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), demonstrates acceptance and compassion as he describes his personal path to self-care and the regular self-care practices he engages in. On the eve of his retirement, Dr. Wilson shares what’s next for him on his ongoing journey towards kindness and meaning. In this episode you will explore: What it would be like to start caring for yourself like someone you loveWhat evolution science tells us about the link between your mental health physical healthPatterns and practices you can engage in daily that match how your body is designed to liveWhy imperfection makes you a better parent About Kelly G. Wilson Kelly G. Wilson, Ph.D., is a professor of psychology at the University at Mississippi. He is past and founding President of the Association for Contextual Behavioral Science (ACBS). Dr. Wilson is one of the founders of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and has devoted himself to the development and dissemination of ACT and its underlying theory and philosophy for nearly 30 years. Dr. Wilson has published more than 90 articles and chapters, as well as 11 books including Acceptance and Commitment Therapy: The Process and Practice of Mindful Change, Mindfulness for Two, and Things Might Go Terribly, Horribly Wrong. He has central interests in the application of behavioral principles to understanding topics such as health and well-being, purpose, meaning and values, therapeutic relationship, and mindfulness. Dr. Wilson is the founder of Onelife Education and Training, LLC and has presented workshops and provided consultancy in 32 countries. Resources: Kelly Wilson Blog: 8 Practices for a Well Lived LifeKelly Wilson’s chapter on Evolutionary Mismatch is in the book Evolution and Contextual Behavioral ScienceMindfulness For TwoKelly Wilson’s Blog Post 30 Years in RecoveryACT Trainings with Kelly Wilson Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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64. Clinician’s Corner: Contextual Schema Therapy with Eckhard Roediger Nov 06, 2018

Join Us In Our First Clinician’s Corner Segment For A Deep Dive Into Contextual Schema Therapy With Dr. Eckhard Roediger! Discover how schema therapy fits into the broader market of evidence-based treatments. Learn about schemas, modes, and mode awareness, and how these concepts are utilized in contextual schema therapy. Hear about some of the core strategies employed in contextual schema therapy. In this episode, Yael talks with expert and author Dr. Eckhard Roediger about the ins and outs of contextual schema therapy. In his recent book, Contextual Schema Therapy: An Integrative Approach to Personality Disorders, Emotional Dysregulation & Interpersonal Functioning, Dr. Roediger describes an integrative approach to schema therapy that incorporates the latest advances in contextual behavioral psychology. This episode offers an introduction to many of the concepts and practices employed in contextual schema therapy. About Dr. Eckhard Roediger Dr. Roediger is the director of the Schema Therapy Training Center in Frankfurt, Germany, and was President of the International Society of Schema Therapy (ISST) from 2014-2016; he is currently the ISST treasurer. Dr. Roediger has been a schema therapy trainer and supervisor and has authored numerous books, book chapters, and articles on schema therapy. Link here to a access recordings from a contextual schema therapy workshop with Dr. Roediger Books by Dr. Roediger Contextual Schema Therapy: An Integrative Approach to Personality Disorders, Emotional Dysregulation and Interpersonal Functioning. Schema Therapy with Couples: A Practitioners Guide to Healing Relationships Breaking Negative Relationship Patterns: A Schema Therapy Self-Help and Support Book ————————— Thank you for joining us on this episode of Psychologists Off The Clock. We appreciate your feedback. Please take a moment to leave a quick rating and review of the show on Apple Podcasts. It helps us spread the word to more folks like you! Click Here to Subscribe via Apple Podcasts Click Here to Subscribe via Stitcher Click here to Subscribe via Google Play Please note that the information in the podcast and on this site is intended for informational purposes only. It should not be used as a substitute for psychological or medical care. If you are looking professional help, visit our resources page for guidance on how to find a therapist. If you are experiencing a mental health emergency, call 9-1-1. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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63. The Ape That Understood The Universe With Steve Stewart-Williams Oct 31, 2018

Join Us For An Interview With Dr. Steve Stewart-Williams And Discover: How Knowledge Of Our “Human Design” Can Help Us To Make Better Choices In Our Everyday LivesHow And Why Men And Women Differ In Our Desire For Casual Sex, Our Preferences In Partners, And In Our Preferred Levels Of Parental InvestmentHow Knowing That We Are Not Blank Slates Can Empower Us To Be More Effective In Building Value-Driven Lives In this episode, Yael takes a dive into evolutionary psychology with professor and author, Dr. Steve Stewart-Williams. Steve’s recent book, The Ape That Understood the Universe: How Mind and Culture Evolveoffers an opportunity to step away from our held understanding of human nature by taking on the alien perspective. Steve’s vast knowledge and wonderful sense of humor will give you new perspectives on emotions and drives, and new ideas to guide values and behaviors. About Dr. Steve Stewart Williams Steve is an associate professor of psychology at Nottingham University, Malaysia Campus. His research explores how evolutionary biology can offer insights into the human mind and human behavior and he focuses, in particular, on sex differences and altruism. Steve has written two books, most recentlyThe Ape That Understood the Universe. Go to Steve’s university website or personal website to find out more about his work. Books by Dr. Steve Stewart-Williams The Ape That Understood the Universe: How Mind and Culture Evolve Darwin, God, and the Meaning of Life: How Evolutionary Theory Undermines Everything You Thought You Knew ____________ Thank you for joining us on this episode of Psychologists Off The Clock. We appreciate your feedback. Please take a moment to leave a quick rating and review of the show on Apple Podcasts. It helps us spread the word to more folks like you! Click Here to Subscribe via Apple Podcasts Click Here to Subscribe via Stitcher Click here to Subscribe via Google Play Please note that the information in the podcast and on this site is intended for informational purposes only. It should not be used as a substitute for psychological or medical care. If you are looking professional help, visit our resources page for guidance on how to find a therapist. If you are experiencing a mental health emergency, call 9-1-1. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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62. Language, Suffering, and Meaning with Matthieu Villatte Oct 23, 2018

Join us for an interview with Dr. Matthieu Villatte to explore: Why language may be getting you get stuck in worrying, comparing, and rigid behavior patterns How to flexibly respond to problems and live according to your values Language-based strategies that can help you stop struggling and build motivation and meaning in your life So take a listen to this thought provoking interview on Relational Frame Theory! Photo by Manasvita S on Unsplash Humans are the only animals that can use language processes to create abstract, symbolic thoughts. This is both a blessing and a curse. Although symbolic processes have many benefits to humans, they can also lead us to great suffering. We worry about the future, fret over the past, get stuck in rigid rules, and create problems for ourselves that exist only in our minds. In this episode, Debbie talks to Dr. Matthieu Villatte, an expert on Relational Frame Theory (RFT), about how language processes can contribute to human suffering. Dr. Villatte describes how awareness of these processes can help us to build motivation find meaning in our lives. About Dr. Matthieu Villatte Dr. Matthieu Villatte, PhD is an Assistant Professor at Bastyr University in Seattle, Washington. He is the author of numerous books and chapters on mindfulness, acceptance, experiential therapies, and contextual behavioral science, including Mastering the Clinical Conversation: Language as Intervention, co-authored by Jennifer Villatte and Steven Hayes. As a peer-reviewed trainer in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy recognized by the Association for Contextual Behavioral Science (ACBS), he has facilitated over one hundred clinical trainings around the world as well as dozens of online trainings. Resources: Mastering the Clinical Conversation: Language as Intervention Learn more about Relational Frame Theory Contact Dr. Matthieu Villatte _________________________ Thank you for joining us on this episode of Psychologists Off The Clock. We appreciate your feedback. Please take a moment to leave a quick rating and review of the show on Apple Podcasts. It helps us spread the word to more folks like you! Click Here to Subscribe via Apple Podcasts Click Here to Subscribe via Stitcher Click here to Subscribe via Google Play Please note that the information in the podcast and on this site is intended for informational purposes only. It should not be used as a substitute for psychological or medical care. If you are looking professional help, visit our resources page for guidance on how to find a therapist. If you are experiencing a mental health emergency, call 9-1-1. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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61. Becoming Our Best Relationship Selves By Identifying Core Values And Schemas With Avigail Lev Oct 17, 2018

Interested In Deepening Your Understanding Of How Relationships Work And How You Can Work Them More Skillfully? Curious About How Early Childhood Experiences Influence Your Adult Relationships? Want To Learn How To Better Handle Pain In Romantic Relationships? Join Us For A Journey Into Relationships With Dr. Avigail Lev! In this episode, Yael discusses common struggles in adult romantic relationships with expert and author, Dr. Avigail Lev. Avigail discusses how early childhood experiences contribute to the development of schemas that can negatively impact our approaches to relationships. She explores how we can use concepts available in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy to improve our relationship selves. Avigail uses a combination of evidence-based treatment approaches to help individuals and couples struggling with painful relationships. In this episode, you will hear ideas and strategies you can bring to your own relationships. About Avigail Lev Dr. Lev (Avigail, or Abby) specializes in integrating acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT) with schemas therapy to address interpersonal problems and unhelpful patterns in relationships. Avigail is the coauthor of three books on ACT for interpersonal problems (see below). Go to Avigail’s website to find out more. Resources: Acceptance and Commitment Therapy for Couples: A Clinician’s Guide to Using Mindfulness, Values, and Schema Awareness to Rebuild Relationships The Interpersonal Problems Workbook: ACT to End Painful Relationship Patterns Acceptance and Commitment Therapy for Interpersonal Problems: Using Mindfulness, Acceptance, and Schema Awareness to Change Interpersonal Behaviors Relationship Schema Questionnaire ____________ Thank you for joining us on this episode of Psychologists Off The Clock. We appreciate your feedback. Please take a moment to leave a quick rating and review of the show on Apple Podcasts. It helps us spread the word to more folks like you! Click Here to Subscribe via Apple Podcasts Click Here to Subscribe via Stitcher Click here to Subscribe via Google Play Please note that the information in the podcast and on this site is intended for informational purposes only. It should not be used as a substitute for psychological or medical care. If you are looking professional help, visit our resources page for guidance on how to find a therapist. If you are experiencing a mental health emergency, call 9-1-1. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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60. Helping Children Sleep With Gaby Wentworth Oct 09, 2018

Do You Struggle With Getting Your Children to sleep? Are You Too Sleep Deprived To Make Sense Of Children’s Sleep Books? Unsure How To Handle Bedtime and Naps? Try These Helpful Strategies From Gaby Wentworth, Child Sleep Consultant, and Get Your Family Some Much-Needed Sleep! Children’s brains and bodies need regular high-quality sleep to thrive. When children aren’t getting enough sleep, the entire family suffers. In today’s episode, we talk to Gaby Wentworth, a Pediatric Sleep Consultant who offers some straight-forward and research-based strategies for improving children’s sleep. Gaby Wentworth, LCSW is a certified pediatric sleep consultant based in Denver, Colorado. Gaby got her BA in sociology from the University of Notre Dame, received her MSW at the University of Denver, and got her certification as a Pediatric Sleep Consultant from The Family Sleep Institute. Gaby experienced a great deal of trouble with her first child’s sleep. Recognizing the negative impact that it had on her family’s wellbeing, she knew something had to be done. After having the life changing experience of hiring a pediatric sleep consultant, Gaby decided to combine her background in mental health and newfound passion for children’s sleep solutions and open Rockabye Rockies. Resources: Rockabye Rockies Pediatric Sleep Consulting http://www.familysleepinstitute.com ______________ Thank you for joining us on this episode of Psychologists Off The Clock. We appreciate your feedback. Please take a moment to leave a quick rating and review of the show on Apple Podcasts. It helps us spread the word to more folks like you! Click Here to Subscribe via Apple Podcasts Click Here to Subscribe via Stitcher Click here to Subscribe via Google Play Please note that the information in the podcast and on this site is intended for informational purposes only. It should not be used as a substitute for psychological or medical care. If you are looking professional help, visit our resources page for guidance on how to find a therapist. If you are experiencing a mental health emergency, call 9-1-1. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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59. Zzzzzz…The Science of Sleep Oct 02, 2018

Curious What Is Happening When You Sleep? Want To Know What Sleep Deprivation Does To Your Brain And Body? Need Strategies To Help You Get Some Restorative Sleep? Join Debbie And Diana For A Journey Into The Fascinating World Of Sleep Science! Most of us spend a quarter to a third of our lives asleep. But why? What is our brain doing while we are in this seemingly inactive state, and what good does sleep do for our minds and bodies? In this episode, Diana and Debbie take a look at current sleep research, delving into topics like dreams, sleep stages, and sleep deprivation studies. Finally, they share some science backed suggestions to help you get a good night’s sleep tonight! Ten Habits for Getting Plenty of Sleep: Use classical conditioning to condition your mind for sleep Set a regular sleep schedule Limit artificial light and increase daytime exposure to outdoor light Leave screens out of the bedroom! Engage in a soothing bedtime ritual Avoid stimulants Keep the bedroom cool and wear socks to bed! Avoid napping Limit alcohol before bed Get exercise Resources: Book: Why We Sleep: Unlocking the Power Of Sleep and Dreams National Geographic article on sleep Science shows that beauty sleep is a real thing! Check out: Cues of Fatigue: Effects of Sleep Deprivation on Facial Appearance Review paper on Severe Sleep Deprivation For a plethora of sleep information check out: The National Sleep Foundation _____ Thank you for joining us on this episode of Psychologists Off The Clock. We appreciate your feedback. Please take a moment to leave a quick rating and review of the show on Apple Podcasts. It helps us spread the word to more folks like you! Click Here to Subscribe via Apple Podcasts Click Here to Subscribe via Stitcher Click here to Subscribe via Google Play Please note that the information in the podcast and on this site is intended for informational purposes only. It should not be used as a substitute for psychological or medical care. If you are looking professional help, visit our resources page for guidance on how to find a therapist. If you are experiencing a mental health emergency, call 9-1-1. Debbie hard at work prepping this episode! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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58. Balancing the Big Stuff with Miriam Liss and Holly Schiffrin Sep 19, 2018

Are You Curious About How To Build Healthy And Happy Life Balance? Wondering How You Can Develop More Effective And Sustainable Practices At Work And At Home? Interested In How Social Science Can Help Shatter Unhelpful Myths That Interfere With Your Effectiveness And Happiness? Join Us For An Exploration About The Art And Science Of Balancing The Big Stuff With Psychologists And Authors Drs. Miriam Liss And Holly Schiffrin! In this interview, psychology professors and authors Drs. Miriam Liss and Holly Schiffrin talk with us about their book, Balancing the Big Stuff: Finding Happiness in Work, Family, and Life. We tackle topics including the science of best work and parenting practices, the myths that interfere with effectiveness, and helpful ways to think about success in our most important roles. We also offer concrete practices that can help you build and sustain happiness in the midst of your busy life. Guests: Dr. Miriam Liss is widely published on the topics of feminism, division of labor, parenting, and child autism and other developmental disorders. She has been interviewed on the topics of intensive parenting and attachment parenting for the Washington Post, MSNBC, and Live Science, and has co-authored a textbook titled the Psychology of Women and Gender with Norton coming out. Dr. Holly Schiffrin specializes in child development, parenting, and early intervention and has served as the president of the Virginia Academic and Applied Psychologist Academy of the Virginia Psychological Association. She has been interviewed about her research on parenting and well-being for Time.com and various other newspapers and parenting magazines. Click the links to go to the university web pages for Dr. Miriam Liss and Dr. Holly Schiffrin. Resources: Check out Balancing the Big Stuff: Finding Happiness in Work, Family, and Life, by Drs. Miriam Liss and Holly Schiffrin Check out the New York Times essay on parenthood and ambition by Yael Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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57. Evolution and Behavioral Science with Steven Hayes and David Sloan Wilson Sep 06, 2018

Curious What Evolution And Behavioral Sciences Can Learn From Each Other? Wondering What Traits Make Humans Most Unique As A Species Want To Hear Two “Big Picture" Thinkers Discuss Technology Use, Awe, And Altruism? Join Us In An Intellectually Rich Conversation With Evolutionary Scientist Dr. David Sloan Wilson And Behavioral Scientist Dr. Steven Hayes! Evolution science and behavioral science both have strong theories that can help us understand humans in context, and yet, until now, the two fields have been mostly separate. In this episode, Dr. Steven Hayes and Dr. David Sloan Wilson share how they are collaborating to bridge this divide. They discuss their recent co-edited book,Evolution and Contextual Behavioral Science: An Integrated Framework for Understanding, Predicting, and Influencing Human Behavior, and they explore about how taking an evolutionary view of humans can be helpful in daily life, and in psychotherapy practice. Dr. Steven C. Hayes is a Professor of Psychology at the University of Nevada. An author of 44 books and nearly 600 scientific articles, he is especially known as a co-developer of "Acceptance and Commitment Therapy" or “ACT,” one of the most widely used and researched new methods of psychological intervention over the last 20 years. His popular bookGet Out of Your Mind and Into Your Lifehas sold over a quarter million copies worldwide. Dr. Hayes has received several national awards, such as the Lifetime Achievement Award from the Association for Behavioral and Cognitive Therapy, and is ranked among the top most cited psychologists in the word. Dr. David Sloan Wilson is an American evolutionary biologist and a Distinguished Professor of Biological Sciences and Anthropology at Binghamton University, part of the State University of New York. He applies evolutionary theory to all aspects of humanity in addition to the rest of life. His numerous books include Darwin’s Cathedral: Evolution, Religion, and the Nature of Society, Evolution for Everyone: How Darwin’s Theory Can Change the Way We Think About Our Lives, andThis View of Life: Completing the Darwinian Revolution. Dr. Wilson publishes in anthropology, psychology, and philosophy journals in addition to his mainstream biological research, and is the Editor-in-Chief of Evolution: This View of Life. He started the Evolutionary Studies program at Binghamton University to unify diverse disciplines under the theory of evolution. Resources: Evolution and Contextual Behavioral Science: An Integrated Framework for Understanding, Predicting, and Influencing Human Behavior, Edited by David Sloan Wilson and Steven C. Hayes Steve Hayes on "Wowfulness" Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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56. ACT and Process-Based CBT with Steven Hayes Aug 28, 2018

In this inspirational episode, Diana interviews Dr. Steven Hayes, co-developer of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), about the future of evidence-based therapy. Dr. Hayes describes the core processes involved in effective change and presents a model that breaks free from diagnoses and protocols. Dr. Hayes shares how he uses principles of process as a parent, leader and ally to underrepresented populations in psychology. Take a listen as Dr. Hayes, on his 70th birthday, paints the big picture of a process-based model of psychology that will revolutionize our field as we know it! Listen and Learn: How To Become More Psychologically FlexibleAbout Acceptance And Commitment Therapy And The Core Processes Involved In Effective CBTHow ACT Co-Founder Dr. Steven Hayes Uses ACT Principles In His Own LifeHeartfelt And Cutting Edge Interview With Dr. Steven Hayes On His 70th Birthday! About Steven Hayes, Ph.D. Steven C. Hayes Steven C. Hayes is a Nevada Foundation Professor in the Behavior Analysis program at the Department of Psychology at the University of Nevada. An author of 44 books and nearly 600 scientific articles, he has shown in his research how language and thought leads to human suffering and has guided the development of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, a powerful therapy method that is useful in a wide variety of areas. His popular book Get Out of Your Mind and Into Your Life was featured in Time Magazine among several other major media outlets and for a time was the best-selling self-help book in the United States. Dr. Hayes has been president of several scientific societies and has received several national awards, such as the Lifetime Achievement Award from the Association for Behavioral and Cognitive Therapies. Google Scholar data ranks him as among the topmost cited scholars in all areas of study, living and dead. Resources Process-Based CBT: The Science and Core Clinical Competencies of Cognitive Behavioral Therapies, by Steven C. Hayes (Eds) and Stefan G. Hofmann (Eds)Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Second Edition: The Process and Practice of Mindful Change, Second Edition, by Steven C. Hayes, Kirk D. Strosahl, and Kelly G. Wilson.Learn more about ACT through the Association for Contextual Behavioral SciencesAttend a Training with Dr. Steven Hayes HEREFind an ACT therapist in your area HERE 102. A Liberated Mind with Dr. Steven Hayes57. Evolution and Behavioral Science with Dr. Steven Hayes and Dr. David Sloan Wilson Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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55. Aware with Dan Siegel Aug 21, 2018

Are You Curious, What Is The Mind? Want To Learn How You Can Grow A Healthier, Integrated Brain? Interested In How Quantum Physics Is A Gateway To Understanding Thoughts? Join Us For A Mind Opening Interview With Dr. Dan Siegel! In this episode, Diana interviews Dr. Dan Siegel about his new book, Aware: The Science and Practice of Presence. Dr. Siegel describes interpersonal neurobiology and how he has learned from mathematics, anthropology, biology, physics, sociology, and neuroscience to understand the mind. He discusses a powerful practice called The Wheel of Awareness, which cultivates focus, interoception and inter-connection. Dr. Siegel dives into quantum physics to describe how thoughts arise as a flow of energy in the mind. About Dan Siegel Dr. Siegel is a clinical professor of psychiatry at the UCLA School of Medicine and the founding co-director of the Mindful Awareness Research Center at UCLA. He is also the Executive Director of the Mindsight Institute which focuses on the development of mindsight, which teaches insight, empathy, and integration in individuals, families and communities. Dr. Siegel has published extensively for both the professional and lay audiences. His New York Times bestsellers are: Mind: A Journey to the Heart of Being Human, Brainstorm: The Power and Purpose of the Teenage Brain, and two books with Tina Payne Bryson, Ph.D.: The Whole-Brain Child and No-Drama Discipline. His other books include: The Developing Mind (2nd ed.), Mindsight, The Mindful Brain, The Mindful Therapist, The Yes Brain (also with Tina Payne Bryson, Ph.D.), and his upcoming book Aware (2018). Dr. Siegel also serves as the Founding Editor for the Norton Professional Series on Interpersonal Neurobiology which contains over sixty textbooks. Resources The Wheel of Awareness Practice Image and Guided Meditation Aware: The Science and Practice of Presenceby Dan Siegel The Whole Brain Child by Dan Siegel Brainstorm: The Power and Purpose of the Teenage Brain by Dan Siegel Oak Meditation App Headspace Meditation App Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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54. Anxiety in Children and Adolescents with Veronica Raggi Aug 14, 2018

Interested In Learning About Child And Adolescent Anxiety? Want Tips For How To Talk To Children About Fear And Encourage Bravery? Looking For Creative Ideas About How To Face Your Fears Using Exposure Therapy Techniques? Let's Learn From A Childhood Anxiety Expert! While most children experience some fear and anxiety, some develop more extreme forms of anxiety that can impair their daily functioning. In this episode, Debbie interviews Dr. Veronica Raggi, expert on childhood and adolescent anxiety disorders and coauthor of the book Exposure Therapy for Treating Anxiety in Children and Adolescents: A Comprehensive Guide.Dr. Raggi provides some information about anxiety in young people, and discusses the use of exposure therapy techniques in helping children and adolescents face their fears and overcome anxiety. Dr. Veronica L. Raggi is a licensed clinical psychologist who has specialized in treating children and adolescents for the past ten years in private practice, school, hospital, and outpatient medical settings, including New York University (NYU) Child Study Center, Children’s National Medical Center, and the University of Maryland, College Park. She presents, consults, and trains mental health professionals in utilizing cognitive behavioral therapy, and has published in numerous scholarly journals on evidence-based treatment approaches for mental health disorders in youth. She has developed CBT Tools for Kids, an iPhone application to help children and adolescents monitor their thoughts and feelings, and utilize CBT skills. She has recently published a book called Exposure Therapy for Treating Anxiety in Children and Adolescents, along with co-authors Jessica Samson, Julia Felton, Heather Loffredo and Lisa Berghorst. Resources: Exposure Therapy for Treating Anxiety in Children and Adolescents The Yes Brain by Daniel Siegel Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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53. Yoga For Trauma With Deirdre Fay Aug 08, 2018

Are You Interested In Learning How Yoga Philosophy Can Be Integrated Into Trauma Treatment? Want To Learn How Yoga And Meditation Can Cultivate Feelings Of Safeness In The Body? Curious How Attachment Theory Maps On To Yoga And Embodiment? Join Us For An Interview With Deirdre Fay, Author Of Attachment-Based Yoga And Meditation For Trauma! In this episode, Deirdre Fay, LICSW discusses how she integrates yoga, meditation and attachment theory into healing trauma. Ms. Fay discusses the intersection between yoga philosophy and attachment theory. She explores why embodiment is important in the healing of trauma and how she cultivates a "nourishing opposite" when shame accompanies a traumatic response. Ms. Fay leads us through two experiential exercises, Modified Half Archer and Anjali Mudra, to demonstrate these concepts. About Diedre Fay: Deirdre Fay, LICSW has decades of experience exploring the intersection of trauma, attachment, yoga and meditation. Having meditated since the 70’s and lived in a yoga ashram for six years in the 80’s and 90s Deirdre brings a unique perspective to being in the body. In the 90’s Deirdre was asked to teach yoga and meditation to those on the dissociative unit at McLean Hospital. Having amassed skill sets in trauma treatment (as a supervisor under the guidance of Bessel van der Kolk at the Trauma Center), attachment theory (13 years of training with Daniel Brown), body therapy (as a trainer in Sensorimotor Psychotherapy) Deirdre now teaches an integrative approach which Chris Germer calls “a radically positive approach to healing trauma.” Deirdre founded the Becoming Safely Embodied skills groups and is the author of Attachment-Based Yoga & Meditation for Trauma Recovery (W.W. Norton, 2017), Becoming Safely Embodied Skills Manual (2007), and co-author of Attachment Disturbances for Adults (W.W. Norton, 2016) as well as the co-author of chapters in Neurobiological Treatments of Traumatic Dissociation. A former supervisor at The Trauma Center, Sensorimotor Psychotherapy Institute trainer from 2000–2008, certified in Internal Family Therapy, qualified trainer in Mindful Self-Compassion, Self-Awakening Yoga and LifeForce Yoga practitioner Deirdre is a respected international teacher and mentor for working safely with the body. Resources: Deirdre Fay's Website and Resources The Becoming Safely Embodied Online Program Attachment-Based Yoga and Meditation for Trauma Recovery by Deirdre Fay Becoming Safely Embodied Skills Manual by Deirdre Fay Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone

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