Private Parts Unknown: Sex & Love Around the World

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“Amsterdam Ave” Explores the Intersection of Dutch & American Culture Sep 11, 2019

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For the 12th episode of Private Parts Unknown, your hosts Courtney Kocak & Sofiya Alexandra welcome another duo of female filmmakers — Dionne van den Berg & Pooja Tripathi — who created, wrote & star in the upcoming web series Amsterdam Ave about following your dreams, especially if they take you abroad (aka international apartment swapping between New York & the Netherlands!!!), loosely based on their friendship & real-life experiences.

We get into how their meet-cute at a club in Saint-Tropez turned into a long-distance friendship before evolving again into a creative partnership, their cosmic pizza connection, bullshit cultural stereotypes (plus some that kinda hold up) & dating as 20-something women in NYC & around the world — plus the beauty of not having time for anything but your career & your ride or die BFF.

For more Dionne van den Berg & Pooja Tripathi:

Watch the Amsterdam Ave teaser on YouTube
Check out their website for more info on screenings amsterdamave-theseries.com
Follow the show on Instagram @amsterdamave.theseries
Follow Dionne on Instagram @dionnevandenberg
Follow Pooja on Instagram @winne_thepooj

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Dominatrix & Healer Aleta Cai on Radical Confidence, Subspace & Why “50 Shades of Grey” Was Annoying Aug 28, 2019

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For the 11th episode of Private Parts Unknown, your hosts Courtney Kocak & Sofiya Alexandra drop the final dispatch from their recent trip to New York. For this NYC edition, we're joined by dominatrix and healer Aleta Cai, who tells us about her entrée into the BDSM world after growing up in a traditional Chinese home.

We chop it up about the intersection of BDSM and healing, why she doesn’t usually see women in her practice—except sex workers, the tendency towards submissiveness in Chinese culture, what happens in subspace, the radical confidence that came when she started domming, what her clientele has in common, falling in love with one of her slaves & why 50 Shades of Grey was annoying.

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Check out her website aletacai.com
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Wendi Starling is a Feminist Sugar Baby Aug 21, 2019

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For the 10th episode of Private Parts Unknown, your hosts Courtney Kocak & Sofiya Alexandra are back with another dispatch from their recent trip to New York. For this NYC edition, we're joined by hilarious comedian Wendi Starling, who gives us a glimpse into the world of sugaring & what it's like to be a sugar baby... it's probably a lot hotter & more feminist than you'd expect.

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For more Wendi Starling:

Listen to the Pussy Fart Gang podcast
Follow her on Twitter @wendistarling
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Billy Procida, Manwhore About Town in NYC Aug 15, 2019

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For the 9th episode of Private Parts Unknown, your hosts Courtney Kocak & Sofiya Alexandra return with a dispatch from their recent trip to New York. For this NYC edition, we're joined by crazy/sexy/cool/freaky/funny comedian Billy Procida, host of The Manwhore Podcast.

We met Billy at a standup show in Brooklyn and wound up interviewing him the next day in Dumbo about his foray into sex parties, his home club Hacienda, having a gender-fluid ex, organizing gangbangs (3 in 6 months!!!), his long-standing identification with non-monogamy, commons misconceptions about polyamory & why he won't call himself a feminist.

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For more Billy Procida:

Listen to The Manwhore Podcast
Follow him on Twitter @TheBillyProcida

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Men Have Abortions Too, Part 3 Jul 25, 2019

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For the 8th episode of Private Parts Unknown, your hosts Courtney Kocak & Sofiya Alexandra are back with the 3rd & final installment in our 3-part series featuring men talking about their personal experiences with abortion. For this edition, we're joined by two more guys — first, standup comedian & podcaster Jeff May (@heytherejeffro) who shares his story about supporting his ex-girlfriend through her decision to get an abortion, despite not liking the choice she made at the time. Then we talk to an anonymous father of two whose heartbreaking story touches on the genetic abnormality component to the issue.

For this 3-part series, we flipped the script & asked dudes to shout their abortions. Many thanks to the five men who shared their nuanced stories with a humility & vulnerability so often missing from this hot button issue.

People in Alabama, Georgia, Missouri, and Louisiana need our help. Please consider a donation to https://yellowhammerfund.org/, https://www.plannedparenthood.org/, https://abortionaccessfund.org/, or any other reputable organization engaged in this fight for reproductive justice.

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Men Have Abortions Too, Part 2 Jul 04, 2019

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For the 7th episode of Private Parts Unknown, your hosts Courtney Kocak & Sofiya Alexandra are back with the 2nd installment in our 3-part series featuring men talking about their personal experiences with abortion. For this edition, we're joined by two guys — first, former youth pastor/current standup comedian Derrick Murray (@drokcomedy) & then filmmaker/writer/VR extraordinaire Christopher Morrison (@Reality_Plus_) — who exemplify how subtle religious indoctrination can manifest in surprising ways as the shame & stigma surrounding the issue are processed.

As you learned in the last episode, Matt Monroe's Instagram post made us realize how rare it is to see men we know speak publicly about their abortions. Busy Philipps started the viral hashtag #YouKnowMe & a flood of women shared their experiences. But obviously #YouKnowHim too. So we flipped the script & asked dudes to shout their abortions for this 3-part series. Many thanks to the five men who shared their nuanced stories with a humility & vulnerability so often missing from this hot button issue.

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Men Have Abortions Too, Part 1 Jun 20, 2019

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For the 6th episode of Private Parts Unknown, comedian/engineer Matt Monroe (@heymonroe) joins your hosts Courtney Kocak & Sofiya Alexandra. He tells the story behind his recent social media post that began “And now, an abortion story... “ followed by his personal experience after he got a casual hookup pregnant at the age of 25.

Matt made us realize how rare it is to see men we know speak publicly about their abortions. Busy Philipps started the viral hashtag #YouKnowMe and a flood of women shared their experiences. But obviously #YouKnowHim too. So we flipped the script & asked dudes to shout their abortions for this 3-part series. Many thanks to the five men who shared their nuanced stories with a humility & vulnerability so often missing from this hot button issue.

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Grandmas, Sisters & the Foundation of Feminist Finland May 30, 2019

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For the 5th episode of Private Parts Unknown—the 3rd in our Helsinki series—your favorite commuter companions, Courtney Kocak & Sofiya Alexandra, are thrilled to introduce you to feminism in Finland & how it got that way.

We explore how World War II helped pave a foundation for feminism to thrive in Finland, their world-famous maternity package, the influence of grandmas & sisters on our interviewees' personal lives & businesses, young female entrepreneurship in Helsinki & the subtle significance of having older women depicted in art.

Thanks to the following people for lending us their voices & teaching us about their culture. Follow them on Instagram to find out more about their dope lives & businesses:

Pirjo Suhonen – @ivanahelsinki
Caroline Suinner – @carolinesuinner
Elisabeth Rundlöf – @elisabeth.rundlof
Emma Lumme – @jotainlainattua
Minna Parikka – @minnaparikkashoes
Cristal Snow – @iamcristalsnow

(Also, go back and listen to our 1st two Helsinki episodes if you haven’t already!)

This episode is brought to you by #MyHelsinkiResidence. Check out myhelsinki.fi to plan your visit & follow @myhelsinki for beautiful pics of local hot spots!

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Hei Girl Hei: Dating & Romance in Helsinki, Finland—The Happiest Country in the World May 07, 2019

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For the 4th episode of Private Parts Unknown—the 2nd in our Helsinki series—your favorite commuter companions, Courtney Kocak & Sofiya Alexandra, are thrilled to introduce you to dating & romance in the capital city of the happiest country in the world: Helsinki, Finland.

We delve into the “classic Finnish” quirks that inform how they approach dating, romance & happiness, including their hatred of small talk, their pursuit of self-improvement in the name of efficiency & their collective island fantasy. We also learn about popular first dates in Helsinki, explore the recent phenomenon of Finnish women “importing” foreign men for relationships & struggle with the difference between being alone and being lonely.

Thanks to the following people for lending us their voices & teaching us about their culture. Follow them on Instagram to find out more about their dope lives & businesses:

Aino Pursiainen – @ainopr
Pirjo Suhonen – @ivanahelsinki
Hannu Virtanen – @lifeof2men
Caroline Suinner – @carolinesuinner
Elisabeth Rundlöf – @elisabeth.rundlof
Emma Lumme – @jotainlainattua
Minna Parikka – @minnaparikkashoes
Cristal Snow – @iamcristalsnow

(Also, go back and listen to our 1st Helsinki episode with Finnish therapist & relationship expert Tony Dunderfelt if you haven’t already!)

This episode is brought to you by #MyHelsinkiResidence. Check out myhelsinki.fi to plan your visit & follow @myhelsinki for beautiful pics of local hot spots!

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Advice from Finland’s Foremost Relationship Expert Tony Dunderfelt Apr 24, 2019

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For the 3rd episode of Private Parts Unknown—the 1st in our Helsinki series—your favorite commuter companions, Courtney Kocak & Sofiya Alexandra, are thrilled to welcome psychologist, author, relationship expert & on-set therapist for the Finnish version of Married at First Sight, Tony Dunderfelt.

We couldn't be more excited to kick off our Helsinki series with a primer from Tony! He teaches us the 30-second rule, the six levels of sexuality, how to make sure all three suns of love (loving care, attraction & sexuality) are generating heat in your romance, tips for diagnosing your relationship rut & the difference between Finnish vs. American Married at First Sight.

This episode is brought to you by #MyHelsinkiResidence. Check out myhelsinki.fi to plan your visit & follow @myhelsinki for beautiful pics of local hot spots!

For more Tony Dunderfelt:

Check out his website tonydunderfelt.com

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