Polyamory Weekly

605 Poly change management Nov 09, 2021

How do you handle moving, job loss, death, and other relationship changes?

00:30 Introduction and host chat

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We’re heading to Croatia for a vacation!

2:12 Lusty Guy’s Politics Corner

The gap between people’s stated positions and what they actually vote for.

5:28 Contact us

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5:51 Interview: Dan and dawn on poly change management

Dan and dawn have been a lifestyle couple since 2001 and have presented at over 100 events around North America. Not only do they enjoy teaching workshops and classes, they also share via books, specialized events, and fun consent negotiation playing cards! They were last on Poly Weekly in 2014 on episode 400: Poly for introverts.

They are also the co-hosts of the Erotic Awakening Podcast, an educational show that explores “all things erotic” since 2011; co-founders of the Columbus Space, an alternative community center; 2016 MAsT International Member’s Choice Presenter of the Year Award winner; Great Lakes region title holders (2010); creators of the Scarlet Sanctuary and Path of the Qadishti (sacred sexuality spaces); featured educators on both Kink Academy and Creative Sexuality; and mentioned in a number of books, articles, and other media.

Poly change management

Embrace the power of “I don’t know”
Balance appreciating what you have with mourning the loss of a partner or lifestyle
Understand that emotions happen
Change is a type of loss. Don’t avoid that grief; lean in to it.
Update your partner before your Facebook status

Find Dan and Dawn at Erotic Awakening, on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. Find their polyamory toolkit here.

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27:15 Listener question

A listener writes in asking for advice on continuing a romantic relationship. She was poly but agreed to marry her now-husband P with the idea that they would open up the marriage later. She has a friend of seven years, J, with whom she recently connected and wants to pursue a romantic relationship. She is anxious every time J goes on a date with someone else, fearing he’ll dump her for someone who will be monogamous with him. How does she avoid getting hurt by love?

You don’t. To love is to risk vulnerability. You minimize risk by minimizing joy and intimacy.
Take the Buddhist approach: embrace love, accept the pain that comes with it.
If you really want to minimize pain, have some difficult conversations. Where is P in all this? Does he support you? Talk through best and worst case scenarios with P and J.

35:25 Feedback

Herbalwise recommends the 2014 movie The One I Love as semi-poly-friendly.

36:25 Thank you!

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603 PolyPhilia Sep 18, 2021

Leanne is a bisexual, autistic, Asian poly polyamory educator, influencer, comedian, blogger, community mentor, and founder of Poly Philia, the largest page dedicated to non-monogamy education in the UK.

00:30 Introduction and host chat

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00:40 Poly in the news

Leanne was on the British version of Fox News talking about polyamory, and she ran circles around the host!

3:00 Lusty Guy’s Politics Corner

A white cis man’s view on abortion. Our big mistake is loading abortion with value and framing it as a women’s issue. It’s an issue of civil rights and bodily autonomy for all of us.

08:40 Contact us

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09:30 Interview: Leanne, PolyPhilia

Leanne is a polyamory educator, influencer, comedian, blogger, community mentor, and founder of Poly Philia, the largest page dedicated to non-monogamy education in the UK. She created the #PolyamoryTipoftheDay series, and has narrated several polyamory audiobooks. Her polyamory advocacy is influenced by her experiences as a bisexual, autistic, Chinese woman.

Her poly origin story
Why she started the PolyPhilia blog
How to meme (Minx asks for a tutorial!)
On being Asian and poly
On being autistic and poly (her own experience only)
How the hell do I use TikTok?

She offers peer support to non-monogamous individuals and couples worldwide, polyamory merch, Ko-Fi (like Patreon) with exclusive content for supporters, and narrates audiobooks about polyamory. All her links in one place.

Her blog is here, Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok channels.

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42:10 Feedback

Thanks to David for writing in with such nice compliments, including “Your show has been nothing but truly enlightening to me.”

43:30 Happy poly moment

Lusty Guy shares his own happy poly moment!

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603 Welcome to Kinkyville Aug 30, 2021

Emily Blake and Gabriel Figueroa share their goal with their new animated sex ed series, Welcome to Kinkyville. Support their Kickstarter here!

00:30 Introduction and host chat

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The empathy gap and why it’s hard to predict your behavior in a hot state when you’re in a cold state. Related to our idea of “experience shock.” Hidden Brain podcast The Empathy Gap
A group at Harvard Law School, PLAC (Polyamory Legal Advocacy Coalition, which is an initialism), is working on legal protections for poly folks. The Harvard Law article.

08:16 Lusty Guy’s Politics Corner: is it legal to require vaccines?

This issue was settled definitely by the Supreme Court in 1905 with Jacobson V Massachusetts.

13:19 Contact us

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14:15 Topic: Welcome to Kinkyville

We interview Gabriel Figueroa and Emily Blake about their new animated sex-ed series, Welcome to Kinkyville.

Emily and is a polyamorous switch and screenwriter who over the last three years has been developing Welcome To Kinkyville. She has been on more than one list of writers with great potential who almost sold a screenplay. She's a script supervisor, an obsessive Dungeons and Dragons player, and a geek fashion designer. But mostly, she's on a crusade to rid the world of sexual shame and abuse brought on by years of oppressive societal conditioning. She is on Twitter a LOT.

Gabriel is was born and raised in Puerto Rico. He now lives in Hollywood where he is a professional trailer editor who's created commercials for Hollywood studios, streaming platforms and independent productions. He uses Twitter to raise awareness about polyamory and kink. Above all, he is known for his serious collection of hats and BDSM accoutrements.

Back their Kickstarter campaign, check out the Kinkyville Facebook page, their Kinkyville’s Twitter, the Kinkyville’s Instagram, their YouTube, and Emily’s Twitter account.

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30:20 Feedback

The guy from episode 432 writes in with an update!

31:12 Happy poly moment

S shares an NRE happy poly moment.

32:20 Thank you!

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602 Loving an addict Aug 14, 2021

A listener falls in love with a relapsed, suicidal alcoholic and asks how to move forward when her husband hates this new relationship that makes her so happy.

0:45 Introduction and host chat

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1:30 Lusty Guy’s Politics Corner: look at your party’s track record

The next time you’re wondering about what side of any given political debate to adopt, consider the track record of the folk advocating for each given side. If they are among those who think the 2020 election was stolen, say, you can reasonably assume they have a long track record of being wrong. And, as we all know, past behavior is the best predictor of future performance.

6:20 Contact us

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6:30 Topic: My husband doesn’t like that I’m dating a relapsed, suicidal alcoholic

A married listener is dating a relapsed alcoholic. When her husband asked her to stop seeing him, she tried, but he was too drunk to understand and then threatened suicide. A while later she took up with him again and tried to get him into a facility, and then she started not telling her husband when she was seeing him. How do you go forward when your husband hates the new relationship that makes you happy?

Loving an addict is hard
What does N’s wife have to say about his behavior?
Forming feelings before meeting someone face to face is a warning sign
This is why addicts lose everyone before they bottom out
Put yourself and your safety (not your feelings) first

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18:05 Feedback

In response to episode 485, Kate says that aromantic folks call that emotion “squish”

18:50 Happy poly moment

A happy v in Montana!

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601 Shifting from hierarchy to equality Aug 02, 2021

A listener in a hierarchical relationship with her nesting partner asks how to start the conversation about moving to a more egalitarian one.

0:00 Introduction and host chat

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In episode 189 of the Normalizing Non-Monogamy podcast, the guest Brea said they used Eight Things I Wish I’d Known About Polyamory Before I Tried It and Frakked It Up!

2:50 Poly in the news

Folks are getting serious about creating a new poly flag

5:00 Lusty Guy’s Politics Corner: A note to my fellow white people

White people don’t always know what racism is, and saying “I don’t see color” or confuse intentions with outcomes are signs that you don’t understand. Whites should listen to the Black voices around you and read How to be an Anti-Racist by Ibram X. Kendi to start understanding.

9:35 Contact us

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10:00 Topic: Shifting from hierarchy to equality

A listener has a nesting partner, and when they started, they agreed to a hierarchy. Now she has a boyfriend, and she feels forced to make her boyfriend feel like a secondary partner. How does she open up a conversation with her nesting partner about moving to a more egalitarian model?

Be brave and bring it up! Ask for what you want. Hear your partner’s needs without taking them personally.
Maybe a theoretical And then what? exercise and start doing regular check-ins, if you’re not already.
Equal or egalitarian? Equality or fairness? Equal respect, not equal outcomes.
Define “hierarchy.” Get specific about new desired behaviors.

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21:05 Feedback

Politics corner should be its own podcast, redux
Feedback on the Israeli-Palestine conflict from episode 599

21:50 Happy poly moment

Elbereth shares a happy poly moment from Europe.

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600 Polyamorous while Asian Jul 07, 2021

Michelle Hy is from Portland, Oregon and runs the page Polyamorous While Asian, which seeks to normalize non-monogamy through an intersectional lens and amplify the voices of other people of color.

0:00 Introduction and host chat

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Livin’ it up in Hawaii!

3:15 Interview: Michelle Hy

We ask Michelle her poly origin story, how her poly and Asian identities intersect, why she started Polyamorous While Asian, the pitfalls she warns against, and dating during the pandemic. We talk about how allies must consider Asian inclusion from the beginning rather than tacking it on.

“All relationships are political, whether or not they feel political. Because politics is just us deciding how we relate to one another, and how we feel that power should be distributed.”

Michelle Hy is from Portland, Oregon and runs the page Polyamorous While Asian, which seeks to normalize non-monogamy through an intersectional lens and amplify the voices of other POC. She offers non-monogamy peer support sessions and also touches on topics related to body confidence, sex positivity, and more. Follow her on Instagram @polyamorouswhileasian and learn more via her website at polyamorouswhileasian.com

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23:41 Feedback

Friggin’ Limey likes our use of “relationship orientation”
Politics corner should be its own podcast
Jen thanks us for episode 598; it was frighteningly similar to what ended her relationship

27:14 Happy poly moment

G shares a camping happy poly moment!

28:18 Thank you!

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599 When to call it quits Jun 01, 2021

Meagan is queer and married a cis man to fulfill family and societal expectations. She’s had mind-blowing sex with a new partner as is questioning her desire to stay in her marriage and be a wife. Meagan isn’t sure they can commit to the hierarchical poly their husband wants.

0:00 Introduction and host chat

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Next episode will be from Hawaii

1:35 Lusty Guy’s Politics Corner

On the Palestine-Israeli conflict—it’s OK to admit you don’t know enough. Recommended reading, anyone?

3:40 Contact us

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4:20 Topic: When do I call it quits on my marriage?

Meagan is queer and married a cis man to fulfill family and societal expectations. The past year (2019), her husband H and she moved to a new city and have been dating a lot. She’s had mind-blowing sex with a new partner as is questioning her desire to stay in her marriage and be a wife. Meagan isn’t sure they can commit to the hierarchical poly their husband wants.

If you’re not sure who you are or what you want, focus on your most important relationship: the one you have with yourself. Take time to understand yourself, your needs, and your shame through counseling, journaling, meditation, or whatever method works for you.
Uncharted territory can be seen as an opportunity.
If you’re close to your mom, it’s likely that she will even accept your queerness and poly, in time.

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14:35 Feedback

Yubi wrote in to object to our “date your species” advice and our reluctance to date poly newbies.

20:45 Happy poly moment

We hear from our old friend Greedy Paul about discovering a poly rideshare driver!

22:40 Thank you!

Thanks to new Poly Weekly Playmate Samuel!

Thanks to our Poly Weekly Playmates for your financial support! We also love when you review us on Apple Podcasts or your favorite podcatcher (including Spotify!) and when you share us with your friends directly. Thanks also to Pacemaker Jane for letting us use their song Good Suspicions as our intro and outro music and to you for listening and sharing.

598 My husband vetoed my partner May 19, 2021

Mathias' husband vetoed Mathias' feelings for and non-threesome sex with his new partner. Should Mathias end his 13-year relationship or stay but resent his husbands' veto?

0:00 Introduction and host chat

If you’re under 18, visit scarleteen.com
Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy are doing Navigating Consent classes

4:30 Poly in the news

Romper published a 4,000-word feature with the arresting title The Nonmonoga-Moms Next Door

7:30 Lusty Guy’s Politics Corner

Lusty Guy defines fascism and comments on its consolidation within today’s Republican party.

Fascism
Liz Cheney ousted from leadership role for refusing to support the false claim that the election wasn’t legitimate
Republican efforts to suppress voting following the 2020 election

13:30 Contact us

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14:00 Topic: My husband vetoed my partner

Mathias and his partner have been together 13 years, married just over three. They’ve had threesomes. Then Mathias met Markus, dated him independently, and fell for him pretty hard. He did bring Markus home for a reportedly amazing threesome followed by breakfast! Mathias kept dating Markus independently, came home later than expected (by 30 min) one night, and the hubbie vetoed both feelings for and independent sex with Markus. They have continued to date and enjoy a romantic friendship, but Mathias wants more, so he proposed polyamory.

This is a permission model of relationship, which is putting you in a parent-child dynamic
Think of this as a mutual renegotiation of the rules of engagement to provide security for him and honesty for Mathias
Those who force the choice lose the choice
And then what exercise to deal with insecurity
If this does spell the end of your marriage, resist the urge to think of it as a failure; it’s a successful relationship that came to a conclusion.

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27:15 Feedback

Chloe from episode 359 Being out, poly, pregnant, and judged gives us an update.

32:05 Happy poly moment

From Instagram

32:45 Thank you!

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597 I had the best s*x of my life with another guy May 12, 2021

SAF's first poly experience outside her marriage was the best sex she's ever had. How does she address the ho-hum sex with her husband?

0:00 Introduction and host chat

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00:45 Poly in the news

Poly community builders Christopher Smith, Robyn Trask, Marina Reiko, Ruby Bouie Johnson and others did an impressive job for more than an hour on Areva Martin's influential online talk show The Special Report

2:00 Lusty Guy’s Politics Corner

Today’s politics corner is the argument for D.C. statehood. The over 700,000 inhabitants of Washington, D.C. pay their taxes and have no voting representation in Congress. The arguments against: it’s unconstitutional (it’s not); you could shrink the size of D.C. to encompass just the White House and government buildings. Others have pointed out the inherent racism, since D.C. has a large percentage of Black people, and there is the partisanship, as D.C. is likely to vote Democratic. When Rep. Mondaire Jones (D-N.Y.) pointed that out, his words stating the racism of the opposing view were against the rules of the house and had to be removed from the record. Please support D.C. statehood!

11:00 Feedback

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11:30 Topic: I had the best sex of my life with another guy. Help!

After eight years of marriage, Stressed as Fuck and her husband opened up their marriage. Stressed quickly had sex with another guy. She says, “the problem is, when I had sex with this other guy it was fucking incredible. Most amazing sex I’ve ever had. It made me realize I haven’t enjoyed sex with my husband. I should also add that he doesn’t want anyone else for sex. But I’m feeling a lot of pressure and just am not feeling like being sexual with him. I feel a lot of guilt. Am I horrible? Is this normal?! Help!”

You can’t respect boundaries that aren’t yet defined, so keep that discussion ongoing.
It’s not unusual or surprising that the second person you’ve ever had sex with is good sex. It’s good because it’s different, so don’t assume it’s love. And if sex with your husband was mediocre, explore your emotional connection and sexual desires with your husband. And yes, it’s normal to feel guilty.
Poly doesn’t fix or destroy relationships, but it does shine a spotlight on issues. You can see as an opportunity to explore ways to improve your sex life. Tons of books will help you explore role play, BDSM, porn, public sex, or other fantasies that could help.
For the guilt, try the And then what exercise.

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20:45 Feedback

Cory, another fan of LustyGuy’s politics corner, writes in.

22:30 Happy poly moment

Kristen writes in to share a happy poly moment of the first weekend she, her husband, and metamour spent together.

25:45 Thank you!

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596 How does poly in person look? Apr 27, 2021

Two topics this week! What does post-pandemic poly look like, and how do you keep your boyfriend from surprising you with new partners when you've asked him not to?

0:00 Introduction and host chat

If you’re under 18, visit scarleteen.com
We’re in top 20 podcasts about polyamory! https://blog.feedspot.com/polyamory_podcasts/
Minx is fully vaccinated, pending 10 more day’s wait. A massage and travel are on the horizon!

3:15 Poly in the news

3500-word BBC article quoting Dossie Easton and great to show to relatives who think it’s just you: https://polyinthemedia.blogspot.com/2021/03/major-bbc-article-rise-of-multi-partner.html
COVD and poly https://polyinthemedia.blogspot.com/2021/03/at-one-year-mark-polyamorys-many-sided.html

5:15 Lusty Guy’s Politics Corner

Most white U.S. citizen don’t know about the MOVE bombing, in which when the Philadelphia Police Department bombed a residential home occupied by the militant black anarcho-primitivist group MOVE, and the Philadelphia Fire Department let the fire burn out of control. Five children and six adults were killed. More links:

The Guardian’s article on reconciliation
NPR’s recent coverage of losing the children’s bones
Our take on the Chauvin verdict

14:15 Feedback

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15:00 Topic 1: How does poly in person look?

K started her poly journey during the pandemic and has only had socially distanced dates with her new partner. How do you act when you all get together in person so it’s not awkward?

20:45 Topic 2: My partner only tells me about new girlfriends after their dates

W is in a relationship with her husband and has a boyfriend, who is also married. He has repeatedly casually dropped that he was going to have an overnight with someone else on her last-minute. She has asked him for advance notice to process, but he continues to bring up his dates last-minute. She wants to know what her “recourse” is, and if she’s overreacting.

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28:20 Feedback

Matt from 593 shares an update! Emma ghosted him shortly after he sent it, but says, “While I didn't hear your advice now back then, I did essentially come to terms with a lot of what you said. I think you both were accurate with how you looked at things (as usual!) and with hindsight being (not gonna say it), it was tough for a while but I definitely got through it and am feeling good about a lot of things, minus the pandemic that happened since then and still continues. You are not however going lose a follower! You two are absolute gems and I appreciate so much the work that you both do as educators to so many different people. I love learning from you and I hope I continue to take a great appreciation for the awesome work you do. I hope that all is well and continues to be well for you.”

30:00 Thank you!

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595 What if I don't want to hear my partner having s-x? Mar 31, 2021

A listener wants to know if it's OK to consider nesting with a partner if she's not sure she'll be comfortable hearing them have sex with someone else.

0:00 Introduction and host chat

If you’re under 18, visit scarleteen.com
Thanks to L for taking the dog so we could record! And forgive Baloo saying hello a few times in the episode. J
D asked for our poly pet peeves, so here they are:
- Sex negativity in the poly community. Nothing wrong if it IS all about the sex!
- Folks who describe polyamory as “more evolved.”
- Poly gatekeepers.

8:30 Poly in the news

Three best poly 101 articles: https://polyinthemedia.blogspot.com/2021/03/the-3-best-poly-101-articles-to-share.html

10:00 Lusty Guy’s Politics Corner

We all need to listen to BIPOC voices with respect to U.S. history. Watch the Netflix series Amend: The Fight for America, executive produced and hosted by Will Smith.

14:30 Feedback

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15:00 Topic: is it OK to not want to hear my partner having sex with someone else?

E and her partner of two years are moving in together but concerned about hearing metamour sex and having private space. She asks if being completely okay with hearing one’s partner getting down with a meta a pre-requisite for being good nesting partners? What are your thoughts on ways to progress to this point of compersion/okay-ness?

Don’t borrow trouble. You don’t know how you’ll react, and your actual reaction will probably be different, anyway.
If it turns out that you don’t, own your shit. It’s your issue to address, not your partner’s.
What would monogamists do? When monogamists are concerned about living together, they do test runs--a weekend away, a week or two vacation—to experiment with domesticity.
It’s a two-way door decision: if you don’t like it, you can go back to living apart.

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27:15 Feedback

Mica encourages us and you to continue the hard work of being allies to BIPOC.

30:00 Happy poly moment

Gigi writes in with a happy poly moment about community. Even though her local meetup hadn’t met since February, she wanted to build community by giving back and adopted a family for the holidays. The group jumped at the chance, got every item on the family’s list, including four bikes, and more! A great demonstration of building community by giving back.

32:15 Thank you!

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594 How to talk to kids about polyamory and stuff Mar 19, 2021

Ashley Robertson, child care provider and sex-positive educator, makes her podcast debut to answer questions about age-appropriate sex education.

0:00 Introduction and host chat

If you’re under 18, visit scarleteen.com
Same ole’ same ole’ pandemic, just waiting for the vaccine

2:25 Poly in the news

5:55 Feedback

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6:40 Interview: Ashley Robertson on talking to kids about polyamory and sex

Ashley identifies as a feminine, bi-curious, ethically solo-polyamourous, sexual submissive. With over a decade of experience in the BDSM community, she isn't shy of perverse topics. She is a liberated, ethical slut who wishes to share with others the freedom of sexuality without shame.

Ashley is an expert question-asker. With three teaching degrees, she's an educator who is fed up with the idea that learning comes from a teacher. Instead, she crafts workshops and activities that invite introspection and curiosity while accommodating for all learners. She's at her happiest when working with youth; demonstrating consent, guiding them towards comfort surrounding condoms, and providing honest answers to questions about sexuality. She's trained to facilitate the Our Whole Lives curriculum and adapts the workshops to fit diverse audiences. Her workshops have reached local audiences for parent education events and audiences far and wide via virtual workshops hosted by educational, outreach organizations. Ashley's non-coercive, comprehensive approach to sex ed is what we all wished we had growing up. You can find her group on Facebook, Let's Talk About Sex Ed with Ms. Ashley.

How do you approach sexual topics with kids?
Our Whole Lives

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28:44 Happy Poly Moment

Fun story about the wife offering protection and safety tips to the metamour!

30:20 Thank you!

Welcome Ivo to the PW Playmates!

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593 How do you handle going platonic? Mar 01, 2021

Matt writes in to ask what to do after a partner asks to be platonic while she figures things out. Lusty Guy and Minx give advice.

0:00 Introduction and host chat

If you’re under 18, visit scarleteen.com
Let’s talk about snow and the polar vortex. Seattle snow was fun for us and our puppy, but Minx was worried about her family in Texas.

4:30 Lusty Guy’s Politics Corner

We all learned about the pilgrims founding America to enjoy religious tolerance, but it’s not true. They decamped England and went to Amsterdam and then Leiden, where they faced no religious persecution. They stayed there for 10 years and ran for office in order to try to impose their religious views on everyone else. They weren’t fleeing religious persecution; they wanted to establish it. Smithsonian Magazine reference, the pilgrims’ time in Holland
A primary reason the US government forbade membership in a specific church to run for office was because no one could agree on which church that should be. Want to find out more? Watch Stephen Fry in America or read the book.

9:45 Feedback

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10:15 How do you handle a relationship going platonic?

Matt had a preexisting relationship with A.J., and Emma fell into that relationship. Emma realizes she needs to spend time on herself and wants to shift the relationship to a platonic friendship.

Minx suggests seeing this as unrequited love and treating the shift in the nature of the relationship as a breakup.
Lusty Guy also suggests taking time apart to do that healing from the breakup. He’s also concerned that Matt might have a white knight or “nice guy” syndrome and be wishing for a transactional nature to the relationship.
Consider that waiting for her sounds a lot like wanting to change her, so do take the time to heal and put yourself first instead.

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22:15 Feedback

This week’s feedback is an appreciation of Lusty Guy’s politics corner.

23:15 Happy Poly Moment

R wrote in to share that she uses Poly Weekly to redirect her anxiety. She expected to be anxious when her partner asked to bring a date over to their place for the first time, and she was pleased when she discovered it didn’t kick off her anxiety. She believes she can be healthy and poly!

25:15 Shout out

Shout out to Jenn and Catherine with love from Tammy on their three-year anniversary!

Thank you!

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592 How do you like to bond? Feb 10, 2021

Dr. Eli Sheff joins today to share her new project, The Bonding Project, in which she seeks to help people understand how they bond.

0:00 Introduction and host chat

If you’re under 18, visit scarleteen.com
Minx was down for a week with horrible symptoms of menopause, but feeling better now. Hoping to get Heather Corinna, author of What Fresh Hell Is This: Perimenopause, Menopause, Other Indignities, and You, soon!

3:45 Poly in the news

Chris Smith and Ben Schenker's have proposed legislation to the Washington, DC, City Council to expand domestic partnership and anti-discrimination laws to include multi-partnered relationships. More info from Chris on how to participate.
Amy Dickinson finally gives good poly advice! Ask Amy: Polyamory creates an extra family challenge. Alan’s blog post.

If you have questions, comments, or feedback call 802-505-POLY or email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an MP3 file with your questions. To book us or anything that involves a calendar, email lustyguy@polyweekly.com.

6:15 Interview with Dr. Eli Sheff

Dr. Elisabeth “Eli” Sheff is a researcher, expert witness, coach, speaker, and educational consultant. With a PhD in Sociology (University of Colorado, Boulder, 2005) and certification as a Sexuality Educator from the AASECT (the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists, 2012), Dr. Sheff specializes in gender and sexual minority families, consensual non-monogamy, and kink/BDSM. Sheff is the foremost academic expert on polyamorous families with children, and her 20+ year Polyamorous Family Study is the only longitudinal study of poly families with children to date.

Find her at https://elisabethsheff.com/, on Twitter, Facebook, and YouTube. Check out https://www.bondingproject.com/ and her blog on Psychology Today.

26:45 Eli Sheff’s Ranty Pants

In this new segment, we provide space for guests to rant about anything they like, big or small. Today: why are anti-maskers so anti-abortion but also apparently anti-life?

29:30 Join the conversation

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30:00 Thank you!

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591 Unf*ck your polyamory Jan 20, 2021

Dr. Liz Powell and Kevin Patterson share insights from their new online course, Unf*ck your polyamory

0:00 Introduction and host chat

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1:00 Poly in the news

BBC 2 has a new drama called Trigonometry centered around black poly folks

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2:00 Interview with Kevin Patterson and Dr. Liz Powell: Unfuck your polyamory

Kevin Patterson has practiced consensual nonmonogamy since 2002. In 2015, he started Poly Role Models, an interview series and polyamory's most inclusive platform. This has led to the writing of the book, Love's Not Color Blind and along with co-writer Alana Phelan, the sci-fi novel series, For Hire.

Dr. Liz Powell is a licensed psychologist (CA 27871) and coach who specializes in helping you build your most fulfilling, authentic life. They teach, write, and consult on areas of sexual diversity and pleasure, non-traditional relationships, and sexual empowerment.

Unfuck your polyamory is a 6-week course covering polyamory 101, boundaries, couple privilege, jealousy and compersion, metamours, and power dynamics that will give you easy, guided practice to put your skills into practice right away.

Kevin is at PolyRoleModels.tumblr.com, on Twitter at http://twitter.com/PolyRoleModels, Facebook at facebook.com/PolyRoleModels, Instagram at http://instagram.com/@PolyRoleModels. For Hire is on Facebook at facebook.com/ForHIreMag or you can order For Hire: Operator directly at tinyurl.com/ForHireMag1.

Dr. Liz is at www.sexpositivepsych.com or www.drllizpowell.com, on Twitter at https://twitter.com/sexpospysch, Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/sexositivepsych, Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/drlizpowell. Their book is at http://buidingopenrelationships.com and YouTube channel is at http://youtube.com/c/sexpositivepsych.

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29:00 Happy poly moment

R shares a story of her anxiety NOT getting the better of her!

30:15 Thank you!

Welcome new Poly Weekly Playmates Theresa, Rebecca, and Jillian!

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590 How do I develop compersion? Jan 06, 2021

How to experience and nurture compersion in your relationships

0:00 Introduction and host chat

If you’re under 18, visit scarleteen.com
The Book of the Kiss is a fantasy romance sourcebook designed to be system-agnostic. Poly Weekly listeners can get half off the cover price here.
Love is Polytical was a conference in Berlin last weekend.

3:50 Lusty Guy’s polyamory and politics corner

Both sides are not the same. If what you are looking for deep, systemic reform to systems, yeah, they are similar. But with 300,000 new cases of COVID in the U.S., the response would have been different with a Democrat in office. If you’re a woman seeking an abortion, an economist, a climatologist, or a trans person, you can see the difference.

8:45 Contact us

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9:00 Topic: How do I develop compersion?

If you don’t feel compersion, how do you develop the capacity to experience it.

Compersion is the non-sexual joy you feel in seeing joy in others. It’s empathy, and you likely experience it all the time. If you’ve ever been happy for a friend at their wedding or joyful that your kid won their soccer game, you’ve felt compersion.
Start noticing and naming the compersion you feel already. If insecurity or jealousy are blocking you from feeling it in your poly relationships, try some of our jealousy/insecurity exercises, such as Discuss, Distract, Do and And Then What.
Consider compersion a muscle that you can exercise. Practice it mentally. For example, try experiencing feeling empathy/compersion when your metamour wins a video game.

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16:30 Feedback

A listener in Vancouver, Canada calls in to support Lusty Guy’s politics corner
David Wheeler provides an audio review of the Smart Girl’s Guide to Polyamory

19:15 Happy poly moment

S shares a story of her metamour saving their life
R finds strength and courage to pursue polyamory

23:45 Thank you to our subscribers and contributors

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589 My dom's girlfriend is domblocking me Dec 31, 2020

Worried and her roommate are seeing the same long-distance dom, and her roommate started dating him and then put restrictions on Worried's time with him. Should they move in together?

0:00 Introduction and host chat

If you’re under 18, visit scarleteen.com
The surprising obstacles to polyamorous marriage

2:40 Lusty Guy’s polyamory and politics corner

Lusty Guy provides insights on expertise: what is it, when do you have it, and what to do in its absence. To start increasing your expertise on U.S. politics, LG’s suggests reading Howard Zinn’s A People’s History of the United States.

6:50 Topic: My dom’s girlfriend is domblocking me

Worried has a roommate, and they have both been playing with the same long-distance dom for two years. The roomie and the dom began dating, and the roomie began “putting restrictions” on the dom’s play with Worried. Worried thinks that the roomie is fabricating issues to enforce her girlfriend status. They are talking about moving in together.

Don’t move in until this is resolved
Why are you blaming the roommate instead of the person performing the unwanted actions, the dom?
When you have a conversation with your roommate, go in seeking to understand and with vulnerability
Claim your autonomy; it’s your choice whether to obey your roommate’s rules
This smells like a relationship by crisis model in which whoever has the biggest crisis gets the most attention. So just ask your dom for what you want, regardless of crises. Ask for what you want!
Are they a good roommate, outside of the dom issue? Can you easily share household chores or choose a restaurant for dinner?
Put yourself first

18:35 Feedback

Welcome to our listeners in the US, Canada, Germany, Australia, UK, Netherlands, Poland, and New Zealand. Shout out to that one person listening in Belize, Tunisia, Luxembourg, Ecuador, and Chile!

19:15 Happy poly moment

From S in Mexico on her family accepting her polyamory and her partner participating in her
A COVID story from L!

22:45 Thank you to our subscribers and contributors

Welcome to our new PW Playmates, Ivo, Erin, Laurel, Monica, and Nathanael. Thanks to all our PW Playmates! Also to Pacemaker Jane for letting us use their song Good Suspicions as our intro and outro music and to you for listening and sharing.

23:00 Contact us

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588 Where the f-ck have we been Dec 08, 2020

Why we didn't produce an episode for eights months and what to expect from Poly Weekly moving forward.

0:00 Introduction and host chat

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1:00 Host chat: why haven’t we produced for eight months

Puppy!
COVID pandemic left me frustrated, helpless, and unmotivated to podcast
Stay-at-home had a negative effect on our relationship for a while
Lack of access to coping strategies. Swimply is the app to rent outdoor pools by the hour.
George Floyd, BLM, CHAZ/CHOP, federal stormtroopers, kids being tear gassed

14:30 What Poly Weekly will be moving forward

We’ll be talking more about politics when it’s relevant. We believe it should be OK to talk about politics, like we believe it should be OK to talk about sex. The personal is political. And we’ll be making calls to action like this one: volunteer with the critical senatorial runoff election in Georgia, donate to Stacey Abrams’ Fair Fight, or donate or volunteer for the candidates Jon Ossoff and Reverend Raphael Warnock.

And the name of the show is still Poly Weekly, so we’ll still be giving relationship advice, sharing happy poly moments, and addressing your feedback. We’ll just also be sprinkling in more politics when it’s relevant.

If that isn’t your thing, we invite you to subscribe to the Multiamory podcast or listen to Esther Perel’s sex podcast or any other poly- or sex-oriented podcast.

Contact us

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587 Love in the time of coronavirus Mar 24, 2020

How do we practice poly responsibly during a pandemic? Is it OK to move my metamour in with me rather than not see her for the duration of enforced social isolation?

0:00 Introduction and host chat

If you’re under 18, visit scarleteen.com
Found a new poly podcast, Pod Pod Cvlt Cast, with 34 long episodes!
We’ve got a new puppy to keep us company during #stayathome!

3:00 Poly in the news

Elisabeth Sheff’s four-part series on monogamy in Psychology Today: CNM is not a good choice as a method to fix a relationship that is broken, Four tips for heteroflexible couples who are considering opening their relationships, Three reasons why consensual non-monogamy will not work for people who are monogamous, and her latest, Monogamy by Orientation.
Alan’s Friday Poly in the news roundup, covering primarily the coronavirus pandemic.
- How coronavirus is impacting polyamorous relationships
- How a polyamory expert is dating during the coronavirus pandemic
- What it’s like to isolate with your girlfriend and her other boyfriend
- Is it irresponsible to date around during a pandemic
Minx’s advice
- Use Zoom or Amazon Chime to host a virtual dance party or cocktail hour to stay connected
- Use your webcam to see facial expressions
- Try watching movies “together” over Zoom. Or send dinner to them and Zoom each other to chat during!

10:45 Contact us

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11:25 Topic: should we move my metamour in with us while we socially isolate?

If you’re considering cohabitation that you wouldn’t have considered due to coronavirus social isolation requirements, some advice:

As always, make sure your existing relationships are relatively healthy first.
Ask everyone involved what they need to be happy and healthy in a communal space. Consider personal space, alone time, sexual, and physical needs.
Discuss how finances will work in terms of rent, groceries, and other bills.
Discuss expectations for chores and other responsibilities.
Ask your kids how they feel about your metamour moving in.
Have the pets been introduced? Is there a danger that they might attack each other?
Set up regular check-ins after the move-in. These provide opportunities to bring up what it working well, what isn’t, to express gratitude and appreciations, and to bring up issues before they become bigger.
Take a break from news coverage if it increases anxiety or feelings of depression.

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17: 05 Feedback

S from the Boston area calls in to share a personal neologism, “schmeeling.”
Phenom calls in to ask how to get her partner to date more and make sure everything is OK. She keeps encouraging him to date, but he’s not getting out as much as her.
- There is no issue here except that maybe you feel guilty. Deal with your own guilt and stop pressuring him to date!

24:45 Pervy bird throuple

Oops! Accidentally skipped this one: Perverted Illinois bald eagle threesome threatens sanctity of marriage. What’s next, hawk orgies?

26:00 Happy poly moment

Finding unexpected commonalities with your metamour!

28:45 Thank you to our subscribers and contributors

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586 Feast or famine Feb 05, 2020

What do you do when you have one romantic partner and your partner has none?

0:00 Introduction and host chat

If you’re under 18, visit scarleteen.com
What were your favorite shows of 2019?
- 569 Building open relationships with Dr. Liz Powell--March 18--17,397
- 572 When your partner’s jealousy precludes your polyamory--April 28--14,392
- 568 A framework for consent--March 3--13,440
- 576 Will poly help emotionally unavailable partners--July 1--13,019
- All-time downloads: 7,261,446

5:15 Contact us

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5:40 Topic: Feast or famine: when you have more partners than your partner

Oliver is in his first non-mono relationship with S. S had said she wouldn’t date him if he were monogamous, so he gave it a try. Now he is in a relationship with T, and S has decided that “meaningless sex with strangers” aren’t what she wants. Oliver is afraid S will ask him to stop seeing T, since S has no relationship partners.

Has anyone of you ever come across a situation where you've been frustrated with non-monogamy? How can you manage a situation where one partner has other partners while the other one doesn't?

It’s the people involved, not the relationship style you should question.
Relationships don’t have to be equal; they only need to be fair. Your polyamory isn’t contingent upon your partner having a certain number of relationships/partners.
Relationship ruler: is it making you a happier and healthier version of yourself?
You can be gay and not dating. You can be poly and only dating one person (like Minx)
You get to decide who you date and how you date them. So does she. She doesn’t get to say who you date (although she can certainly establish a boundary that if you date other people, she won’t be with you).

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17:20 Happy poly moment

C writes in to share a happy poly moment about opening her relationship due to a long-distance move, and things went well!

18:50 Thank you to our subscribers and contributors

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585 Poly for the holidays Dec 04, 2019

Advice from six different therapists, relationship coaches, and body workers on navigating family events as a poly person over the holidays

0:00 Introduction and host chat

If you’re under 18, visit scarleteen.com
My Thanksgiving Happy Poly Moment

5:25 Contact us

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5:45 Topic: Poly for the holidays

6:30 Ruby Bouie Johnson, Brené Brown’s BIG
10:45 Libby Sinback
15:00 Karen McDowell, Anxiety is an asshole course
21:00 Spyce
25:55 Anne More, email annemore@gmail.com, Facebook
28:45 Nolan Lawless, Facebook

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32:30 Thank you to our subscribers and contributors

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584 Dealing with abandonment issues Nov 24, 2019

I have abandonment issues, but I don't know what I need when they come up. How do I ask my partners for what I need?

0:00 Introduction and host chat

If you’re under 18, visit scarleteen.com
Thanks to the Close In munch in Portland, Oregon!
Poly for the Holidays contributions

1:55 Poly in the news

November 23 was National Polyamory Day, and other poly holidays
Discrimination in poly pregnancies

5:25 Contact us

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5:55 Topic: Dealing with abandonment issues

Katie has abandonment issues and asks how to better cope with them when poly. She knows she has them but doesn’t know what to ask for when they arise.

Knowing and identifying is half the battle.
Explain to your partners what you shared with me—how it feels. Ask for their help with comfort might you need in the moment. Do the full analysis when you’re not in the midst of the issue.

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17:30 Feedback

Joe writes in with additional advice to the listener in episode 567 on how to find poly community near you.

20:00 Thank you to our subscribers and contributors

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583 Poly Weekly live from Portland! Nov 06, 2019

We interview a munch organizer and field audience questions at the Close In munch in Portland, Oregon

0:00 Introduction and host chat

If you’re under 18, visit scarletteen.com
We’re at the Close In munch in Portland, Oregon!

2:00 Interview with Close In munch organizer Hannah

Lessons learned include:

poly and kinky people are everywhere
it’s important to destigmatize a stigmatized group
“Square up; what you want is fine; fuck ‘em all!”

9:00 Poly Weekly live!

What advice would you give to solo polys?
- net
- Off the Relationship Escalator
12:45 How to come out to folks who aren’t familiar with poly?
- Anticipate questions, be prepared, be calm, don’t take it personally, give them a year to freak out
- Folks will match your tone, so adopt one of calm, easy compassion
16:00 How has poly changed in the last 14 years?
17:45 And now there are terms for everything!
- my Poly Living keynote How Polyamory Became More Mainstream Than Peanut Butter
- all the poly recommended reading
19:05 How do I bring up the birth control discussion?
- Be brave and bring it up. Or leave a birth control pamphlet in the toilet for leisure reading! J
- Use regular relationship check ins as a space to bring up any issues
22:15 What is your take on hierarchies?
- If it works for everyone involved and it’s transparent, fine. But it doesn’t work for everyone (or me).
- The challenge with hierarchies is that it sets up a permission model.
- Be aware if you are talking about power structure or entanglement levels? If the latter, “nesting partner” might be more useful than “primary.”
26:15 My mom thinks my polyamory is a phase. Do you know folks who have lived out their lives as poly?
- Allena Gabosch, Oberon Zell-Ravenhart, and many others.
- Just as with child-rearing, having an extended network to help you in your old age is valuable.

31:15 Contact us

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. If you want us to teach a class at your event, want us to coach you, or want to appear on the podcast, email lustyguy@polyweekly.com.

32:00 Thank you to our subscribers and contributors

Thanks to Pacemaker Jane for letting us use their song Good Suspicions as our intro and outro music and to you for listening and sharing.

582 When you break up with your metamour Oct 23, 2019

581 I'm tired of the restrictions my mono husband puts on me Oct 09, 2019

After four years, listener Newseeker is tired of asking her husband's permission every time she wants to go on a date with her partner of three years. How long should she accommodate his slow pace?

0:00 Introduction and host chat

If you’re under 18, visit scarletteen.com
We have new FAQs!
- The Discuss, distract, do exercise to help deal with event-based jealousy
- When to come out
We’re slowly uploading episodes 1-40 on our LibSyn page to the archives of 2005

4:00 Poly in the news

5:25 Contact us

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6:10 I’m tired of the restrictions my husband is putting on me

Newseeker (married 10 years, open for four, with a partner of three years) writes in to say she is tired of the objections her husband has to how she practices poly. He’d prefer she have more random sexual partners and not be in another loving relationship. Even though opening the relationship was her idea, it’s taxing on her to constantly have to ask when she can see her partner and wait until the last minute to make plans to accommodate hubby.

The permission model doesn’t work for adults, only with kids
No one can maintain an unnatural pace indefinitely
The Relationship Bill of Rights refers to agency: you have a say in how many partners to have, which ones, and how often you see them.

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17:05 Happy Poly Moment

This week’s HPM is from a gay triad with no one feeling left out!

19:00 Thank you to our subscribers and contributors

Thanks to Pacemaker Jane for letting us use their song Good Suspicions as our intro and outro music and to you for listening and sharing.

580 Should I still marry my now-straight partner? Oct 02, 2019

A listener is engaged to her fiancée, who just came out as straight. How does she cope with not having sex with her soon-to-be wife?

0:00 Introduction and host chat

Content warning and why you can’t find our podcast on Apple Podcasts in India.

Let’s celebrate Dixie De la Tour, Bawdy Storytelling, and the Bawdy Storytelling podcast that you can subscribe to on Apple Podcasts. There is also a Facebook group of Bawdy fans that is super fun.

5:30 Poly in the news

Couple-centric and non-diverse article in Cascadia claiming Portland is the center of Pacific NW poly

9:45 Contact us

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10:45 My fiancée now identifies as straight and doesn’t want sex with me

Emily writes in to say that her fiancée recently identified as straight and will no longer have sex with her. She says they are poly, so it doesn’t mean that there won’t be any sex for her, but she is confused. She says she their love is unconditional, so it shouldn’t matter, but what does this mean for their relationship?

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21:00 Happy Poly Moment

This week’s HPM is multinational and tech-assisted!

22:10 Feedback

SLT writes in in response to episode 519 on the issue of poly-friendly housing and

23:30 Thank you to our subscribers and contributors

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570 On writing inclusive fiction with Kevin Patterson and Alana Phelan Sep 08, 2019

Kevin Patterson and Alana Phelan, coauthors of For Hire: Operator and the soon-to-be-released For Hire: Audition, talk about why they write a queer poly superhero universe.

0:00 Introduction and host chat

Thanks to Anita Wagner for introducing me to the term “petamour”

1:30 Poly in the news

Vice has a great new article about poly families and poly parenting

3:05 Contact us

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3:35 Interview: Kevin Patterson and Alana Phelan on writing inclusive fiction

Kevin Patterson and Alana Phelan join us to talk about their next soon-to-be-released queer superhero book, For Hire: Audition. You may remember their last interview with us on episode 563 around For Hire: Operator or Kevin’s interview around his book, Love’s Not Color Blind.

Harlequin is putting out a queer line of romance novels. Submit using Harlequin’s Romance Includes You mentorship (scroll down the page) runs until October 15, 2019.
The Broken Earth Triology by N. K. Jenisin
If It Makes You Happy by Claire Kann
Find Kevin A. Patterson on his website, Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram. Find Alana Phelan on her website, Twitter, or Facebook.
For Hire Audition’s IndieGoGo
Gail Simone’s Twitter

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27:00 Thank you to our subscribers and contributors

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578 How do I avoid feeling like a homewrecker? Aug 21, 2019

Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

577 When love IS a zero sum game Aug 05, 2019

A listener asks what to do when love does feel like a zero sum game; his wife took a lover, and our listener felt like he got even less sex than before.

0:00 Introduction and host chat

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1:00 Intro and host chat

Minx recorded an episode of D&D Dads podcast with J.R. Blackwell, but the podcast hasn’t yet launched. Stay tuned!
We had fun in Copenhagen!

3:00 Poly in the news

9:00 When love IS a zero-sum game

Listener Micah writes in to ask what to do now that his wife brought up the idea of poly, started dating someone half her age, and is now having much less sex with Micah.

If we are painting a rosy, easy picture of poly, we need to change, because the emotional development required for polyamory (or any relationship) takes time and effort.
Lusty Guy wonders about the use of the word “affair”—is this a reflection of your jealousy, or do you feel she wasn’t being honest?
The issue is likely some preexisting issue in your relationship (perhaps the libido difference, perhaps something else). This sounds like “relationship broken, add more people.”
To strengthen your relationship, have an honest conversation with your wife. Stop comparing before and after the metamour and start talking about the behaviors you want to see to feel better in your relationship. And ask for the same of her.

19:00 Happy poly moment

A monogamous listener writes in to share a happy not-poly moment about not panicking when her fiancé shared that he was attracted to a colleague, and our listener could accept it without jealousy or drama!

20:45 Feedback

Soft Shell Crabby wrote in a follow up after we address her question in episode 574 Is it OK to ask to meet my metamour (spoiler: it helped, and they are better now!)
Reama says some really nice things about the quality of our content.

23:40 Thank you!

Thanks to our new Poly Weekly Playmates, Mirjam, Syncione, Quinlan, and Melvin!

24:10 How to make this podcast better

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576 Will poly help emotionally unavailable partners Jul 01, 2019

A listener asks if her new boyfriend is emotionally unavailable, will poly help?

0:00 Introduction and host chat

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2:10 Poly in the news

7:50 Is poly a solution for emotionally unavailable partners?

A listener writes in to ask if polyamory is possible when her partner seems to be currently emotionally unavailable. Our listener met a guy five months ago, when she was a newly-single mom not looking for commitment. They never talked about what their relationship was, but our listener knew she wanted something casual and honest. Then he planned an all-day romantic date, felt relationshippy, which followed up by not reading her text messages, which led her to feel insecure and question her own behavior. They talked, and he mentioned he didn’t want to replicate a previous codependent relationship, and things were fin for a while. Then polyamory came up in a dinner with friends, and he mentioned it might work if she was his primary, but he wasn’t involved with any others.

Good for you for realizing both you and he have boundaries and needs that need to be considered
Short answer is no, a relationship can't be healthy if both you and he are more concerned about enforcing boundaries than letting the relationship develop organically
This falls into the "relationship broken; add more people" paradigm, which typically does not work out well
This is a great opportunity for both of you to negotiate the relationship you each need. Ask for what you want (not to negatively affect your daughter but to still feel appreciated) and listen to what he wants (to have good quality time and lots of space).
Both of you should ask for specific behaviors--what specific things can he do make you feel appreciated? what specific things can you do to make sure he has "space"?
And one last thing--relationship conversations are best in person. Avoid having these discussions over text if at all possible.

15:30 Feedback

Laura from episode 588 When to give up on polyamory wrote in to give us a happy update, a year later!

19:30 Happy poly moment

Laura ends up her feedback by sharing a generous happy poly moment on the part of her husband
A poly newbie in Germany shares a happy poly moment about her partner and metamour providing a bathroom shelf and toothbrush for her!

24:00 How to make this podcast better

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. If you want us to teach a class at your event, want us to coach you, or want to appear on the podcast, email lustyguy@polyweekly.com.

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575 We love Allena Gabosch Jun 17, 2019

Celebrating the amazing sex-positive activist Allena Gabosch, who gave us a big scare last week.

0:00 Introduction and host chat

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Last week, we nearly lost an amazing sex-positive educator to cancer. Allena Gabosch has pulled through, so this week’s episode is a replay of my 2010 interview with Allena.

In Bawdy Storyelling podcast episode 78, Dixie de la Tour shares her feelings about nearly losing Allena Gabosch.

4:30 Interview: Allena Gabosch

The lovely and talented Allena Gabosch, director of Seattle’s Center for Sex Positive Culture, shares the origin story of the Center in its current state and her own experiences with polyamory. Recorded in 2010 from Paradise Unbound!

50:25 Poly in the news

55:30 Thank you!

Welcome Camilla to the Poly Weekly Playmates!

56:00 How to make this podcast better

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. If you want us to teach a class at your event, want us to coach you, or want to appear on the podcast, email lustyguy@polyweekly.com.

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574 Is it OK to ask to meet my metamour? Jun 03, 2019

My boyfriend and I transitioned from a don't-ask-don't-tell relationship to full honest, transparent polyamory. Now I want to meet my formerly DADT metamour when she comes to visit him next month. Is that OK?

0:00 Introduction and host chat

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We’ll be in Copenhagen next month; let us know what we should do/see!

1:50 Poly in the news

Studies showing the best stats on how many people have practiced non-monogamy at some point in their lives. Around 20-21% have practiced consensual non-monogamy at some point in their lives; 4% of relationships are open in some way; and 4-5% of the population of the United States was currently involved in a CNM relationship
Keep in mind that 5% of the current US population identifies at GLBT, with 8.2% of millennials self-identifying at GLBT

6:10 Is it OK to ask to meet my metamour?

Soft Shell Crabby writes in to say she’s 43 and her boyfriend is 42, and they’ve been together for four years. They did a don’t-ask-don’t-tell (DADT) style of nonmonogamy for a while, but they ended up becoming so deeply involved that they talked about being more open, honest, and transparent with each other. He confessed that he’d been poly before but had avoided bringing it up to avoid the tough conversations that would inevitably follow.

He also has a pre-arranged sexy-time visit set up with a girlfriend who was flying in from New York, and Soft Shell Crabby now wants to meet that metamour. She asks if it’s unreasonable to ask for to meet her formerly DADT metamour, and by the way what should she do about the fact that the metamour is cheating on her husband with SSC’s boyfriend? SSC feels like her boyfriend gets to call all the shots.

Everything you feel is reasonable and OK.
He isn’t getting to call all the shots. You get to call your shots; your boyfriend gets to call his shot; your metamour gets to call her shots.
It’s not a good idea to ask a partner to deliver a message to another partner. Direct communication is better.
It IS a good idea to ask for what you want (to meet her), with the understanding that she has the right to say no.
Is there something within the power of your partner to give that would alleviate your feelings? Do YOU want a threesome/group sex like he’s having with her? Ask him to arrange it for you!
How do you forgive your boyfriend for this unethical behavior? First, focus on your limits, not his behavior. Can you be in a relationship with someone who facilitates cheating? If not, you have the right to leave. Second, the way you “forgive your man for conducting his relationships in an unethical manner” is to exercise understanding of the pattern of behavior (he also hid his desire for poly from you) and to exercise compassion. Third, most people have cheated at some point. Consider exercising more compassion and less judgment.
This is a good time to decide what you need at the very minimum in terms of contact from your metamours. You may need a higher or lower level of contact, but this is a good time to explore that and figure out what you need to be happy.

19:15 Happy Poly Moment

Johnny shared a moment in which he picked out his girlfriend’s birthday gift with his wife. And his girlfriend’s husband reached out to Johnny as a poly newbie to see if Johnny needed anything for the big birthday get together!

20:30 Feedback

Jessica gives feedback on episode 573 about using the term “nerd blackface.” We address two concerns: (1) that by using the term “blackface” to refer to nerds, we devalue the power of the original term, which we agree with and (2) that the term doesn’t apply to The Big Bang Theory, which we disagree with. The latter is based on a large group of people who self-identify as nerds and do find the term applies, and we are not comfortable dismissing the critique of that group of people.

25:25 Thank you!

Welcome Camilla to the Poly Weekly Playmates!

25:45 How to make this podcast better

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. If you want us to teach a class at your event, want us to coach you, or want to appear on the podcast, email lustyguy@polyweekly.com.

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573 Should I live with my metamour May 19, 2019

My metamour and I get along great, and I need a roommate. Will it muck things up if I ask them to move in?

0:00 Introduction and host chat

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2:10 Poly in the news

Who really practices polyamory? In Rolling Stone
Leonard’s mom goes poly on Big Bang Theory

9:55 Topic: Should I live with my metamour?

Olipoly writes in about the possibility of living with her metamour; she doesn’t want to live with her partner and gets along with them great. She’s considering asking her metamour to move in to the room that her roommate is moving out of.

Don’t ask us; ask them!
Ask them all the questions you just asked us and think through the possibilities to discover hard limits.
Practice by spending a weekend together.
Treat them professionally, like a client you need to keep happy.
Get a dishwasher.

16:15 Happy Poly Moment

Bunz in Knoxville originally had a negative impression of polyamory. But she and her husband read, talked out it, did exercises, and even started a meetup group in Knoxville!

18:00 Feedback

Mike gives feedback on episode 572 about one person not taking responsibility for someone else’s emotions.

23:35 Thank you!

Welcome Susan to the Poly Weekly Playmates!

23:45 How to make this podcast better

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. If you want us to teach a class at your event, want us to coach you, or want to appear on the podcast, email lustyguy@polyweekly.com.

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572 When your partner's jealousy precludes your polyamory Apr 28, 2019

What do you do when your partner gets so jealous that you feel compelled to give up your boyfriend, while your hubby happily dates away?

0:00 Introduction and host chat

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1:25 Poly in the news

Study could explain why people choose to have multiple relationships

3:25 Topic: what do I do when my partner agrees to be poly but gets jealous when I date?

Debby writes in to ask what to do when polyamory doesn’t work for a couple. She and her husband are in their 50s, four years into their second marriage, and did the research before opening up 18 months into their relationship. He was into no-strings-attached sex but got very jealous when Debby would date. She finally had to dump her boyfriend (in a poly marriage of 15 years) due to her husband’s inability to cope with his jealousy. She asks what to do when polyamory doesn’t work for a couple.

We both think it DID work—he liked the sex, and you loved your boyfriend. The question is, does monogamy work for you?
Debby might be confusing behaviors with relationship labels. You’re still having to deal with all the risks and tasks of polyamory—jealousy, scheduling, emotional issues—but you somehow don’t get to date and experience the benefits.
What steps did he take to address his jealousy? It was a mistake to stop giving him the opportunity to practicing his jealousy coping mechanisms.
There must be a middle ground between “I must live half a life” and “we get a divorce.”
Someone else’s emotions require for them to change behaviors, not yours. It’s not for Debby to take responsibility for her husband’s jealousy. His emotions are his and require action from him, not from her. Don’t let your partner’s emotional reactions control your actions.
So now it seems that Debby feels forced to give up a perfectly healthy relationship due to her husband’s inability to deal with his jealousy. If they do revert to monogamy, how will she take steps to avoid resentment?

18:15 Feedback

Katie gives feedback on scheduling from episode 565—no one with kids has that kind of availability!

21:00 Happy Poly Moment

Heather wrote in to share when one of her partner's besties said to her about Heather (who is happily married) today, "can't you two just be together forever? She is so perfect for you!" Good validation!

23:00 How to make this podcast better

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. If you want us to teach a class at your event, want us to coach you, or want to appear on the podcast, email lustyguy@polyweekly.com.

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571 Growing up poly Apr 17, 2019

On the launch of their new book, Koe Creation shares what it was like growing up in a polyamorous household.

0:00 Introduction and host chat

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We had fun at It’s Complicated in Tulsa, OK!

3:00 Poly in the news

On the opposite site of the earth, is poly on the rise? Collection of media coverage in NZ over the last few years

5:15 Interview: Koe Creation, author of This Heart Holds Many

We talk about Koe’s new book, This Heart Holds Many, and the challenge of writing a semiautobiographical book about growing up in a poly family. Find them online at their website, Twitter, Facebook, or Instagram as @koecreate.

23:00 Happy Poly Moment

Kim writes in to share TWO happy poly moments about her metamour getting married (One Family Podcast)
Olivia writes in to share a Thanksgiving happy poly moment with her asexual partners

26:35 Thank you!

Welcome to our new Poly Weekly Playmates, Chris and Alisha!

27:00 How to make this podcast better

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. If you want us to teach a class at your event, want us to coach you, or want to appear on the podcast, email lustyguy@polyweekly.com.

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570 Poly erotica Apr 04, 2019

We chat with Laura Zielinsky, author of a new poly erotic novel

0:00 Introduction and host chat

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1:15 Host chat

We’ll be speaking at It’s Complicated in Tulsa, OK, April 6th
#sopoco2019 Soly Poly Unconference is happening in San Francisco, CA May 4-5, 2019

3:30 Interview: Laura Zielinsky, author of We Are Three

We interview Laura Zielinksy, author of new poly erotic novel We Three: One and One and One Makes Three.

Book summary: Eric and Elena Tanner have been enjoying their lifestyle membership at the Club Caliente for years. Swinging fulfills their desire to meet new people and engage in group sex.

When the new bartender, Jess, flirts with them and agrees to play in a threesome, Eric and Elena make plans for a single night of pleasure. All three are satisfied, so Jess is invited to come again. And again.

For months Elena, Jess, and Eric meet up for lots of sex, and dinners. There are casual nights in Netflix and chilling. It's heady, addictive and no one wants it to end.

However, they all know that's the deal in the lifestyle. Swingers move out of each other's lives all the time. Complication is the enemy. So what happens when they start to fall in love?

18:25 How to make this podcast better

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569 Building open relationships with Dr. Liz Powell Mar 18, 2019

Sex therapist Dr. Liz Powell rejoins us to talk about how she became a sex therapist and why she wrote her new book, Building Open Relationships.

0:00 Introduction and host chat

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1:15 Host chat

We’ll be speaking at It’s Complicated in Tulsa, OK, April 6th.

2:45 Poly in the news

Non-monogamous relationships are normal, and the stigma needs to end

7:35 Interview: Building open relationships with Dr. Liz Powell

Dr. Liz Powell shares how and why she got into sex therapy, including her stint and internship in the army dealing with combat stress and families, moonlighting in private practice in Savannah, GA serving the LGBTQIA community, and continuing to do sex therapy work afterwards.

Misconceptions about sex therapy: it’s not all about the sex. It’s about the relationship people have with their own bodies, with their partners, and to the stories of sexuality and pleasure. Many therapists only get two days of training on sexuality issues, if at all.

What is the most common communication issue that you see? Expectations of mind-reading and letting things go unsaid rather than communicating your wants and needs openly and honestly.

Why Building Open Relationships? It’s less about theory and more nuts and bolts of how to make a relationship successful with full respect for individual autonomy and consent. For example, think about how your message will land or be perceived rather than just the way you want to say it.

Find it at www.buildingopenrelationships.com or www.sexpositivepsych.com or www.drlizpowell.com. Find her on Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram. Her previous episode on this podcast was 554 Grief and loss in relationships.

31:50 Happy poly moment

Geoff and Sylvie share happy poly moments.

34:45 How to make this podcast better

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568 A framework for consent Mar 03, 2019

Joseph Pred shares the Consent Framework, a tool for community organizers to get and enforce consent at events.

0:00 Introduction and host chat

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1:15 Host chat

Did you enjoy February 28 National Metamour Day?
We’ll be speaking at It’s Complicated in Tulsa, OK, April 6th

2:30 Poly in the news

11:30 Interview: consent framework with Joseph Pred

Download the consent frameworks
Email address: consentframework@gmail.com
Website: consentframework.org
Twitter: @consentframewrk
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/consentframework/

32:45 How to make this podcast better

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567 Do families have to live together Feb 16, 2019

Do families have to live together? My partners and I agreed to live together and have kids, but now I'm not so sure.

0:00 Introduction and host chat

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1:15 Host chat

We took a two-month break to figure out what this podcast will be moving forward. We’re excited about new guests and will be moving to a biweekly format.
NCSF has declared February 28 National Metamour Day
The Iron Realm podcast is an audio drama dungeon crawl RPG adventure.

5:45 Poly in the news

Is there such a thing as poly-dar? Do poly folks have certain recognizable traits?

8:00 Topic: Do families need to live together?

Lewis has a male partner and a woman partner, Sally, and the three of them have discussed living together as a family and fathering kids with Sally. However, Lewis says their communication has not been great and their relationship was pretty dysfunctional until recently. He also values his own space and privacy. Is it OK to father kids if you don’t intend to live together as a family?

Good instinct to get counseling when the relationship isn’t already pretty healthy
You decide what’s good for you, not what’s good for anyone else

17:30 Feedback

A listener calls in to ask how to find poly folks rural Pennsylvania.

22:45 Happy Poly Moment

Danielle shares a snow day happy poly moment.
Lusty Guy shares a surprise happy poly moment!

25:30 Thank you

Thanks to Shelly for the donation, and welcome Laurel and Terra to the Poly Weekly Playmates!

32:00 How to make this podcast better

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566 Toxic masculinity Dec 17, 2018

Kevin Patterson, Chris Smith, Lusty Guy, and Minx discuss what we mean by "toxic masculinity" and how we should respond to both the term and the thing itself.

0:00 Introduction and host chat

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1:15 Host chat 1:30 Topic: Toxic masculinity

Kevin Patterson, creator of the Poly Role Models blog and author of Love’s Not Color Blind and For Hire: Operator, Chris Smith, a doctoral student at Howard University, author of Open to Love: Polyamory and the Black American and relationship researcher, and Lusty Guy, our cohost and producer.

What is toxic masculinity? Setting absolutes on how gender can present and act. What makes it toxic? Anything in too great a quantity can be toxic. How toxic masculinity really relates to sports: if emotions are so key to teamwork, how can masculinity?

What do we want “masculine” to be? It’s not inherent. Why is there a negative reaction to the idea of “toxic masculinity,” as in any other instance where too much of something is toxic? First response should be to do a self-assessment.

How does this relate to polyamory? We need to beware of harem fantasies driving all the media representation of polyamory and of societal scripts of jealousy meaning love and other men being enemies. Everyone’s a little bit toxic.

Find Kevin Patterson on email at PolyRoleModels@gmail.com, online at PolyRoleModels.tumblr.com, on Twitter at @PolyRoleModels, on facebook.com/PolyRoleModels. Oon Instagram at @PolyRoleModels, and his new fiction work For Hire: Operator is on facebook.com/ForHIreMag or on the web here: tinyurl.com/ForHireMag1 We talked with Kevin and Alana about this new work on episode 563 and about Love’s Not Color Blind: Race and Representation in Polyamory and Other Alternative Communities on episode 545.

Chris Smith in on Instagram at @SmithChristopherN or via email at Tenabilitymovement@gmail.com. We talked with Chris about Poly and the Black American on episode 528.

32:00 How to make this podcast better

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. If you want us to teach a class at your event, want us to coach you, or want to appear on the podcast, email lustyguy@polyweekly.com.

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565 Help! I'm polysaturated! Nov 13, 2018

What do you do when your long-distance partners move into town, and you find yourself with too many partners and too little time?

0:00 Introduction and host chat

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1:15 Poly in the news

What is polyamory? This is what it’s really like to have multiple partners. Heath Schechinger is one of the leaders of the new Consensual Non-Monogamy Task Force within the American Psychological Association. They're getting stuff done to advance professional understanding of us and our needs.

2:30 Topic: Help! I’m polysaturated!

Paul writes in as a relative poly newbie who finds himself with more local partners than he can manage. We advise that it’s OK (and in fact, usually required!) to take time for yourself and love yourself first, figure out how you would ideally spend your time (putting your own needs first), and then share that information with your partners to see if that meets their needs and let them decide if they can live with that.

12:45 Happy poly moment

Heath Schechinger writes in to share a happy poly moment about bringing up relationship orientation as part of the intake process at his clinic.
Jim shares a fun story about his teenage son feeling comfortable enough to ask for personal lubricant—and to ask for his mom’s boyfriend to come by (and no, those two things aren’t related!)

16:30 Thank you!

Welcome Abraham, Jim, and Eric as our newest Poly Weekly Playmates!

16:45 How to make this podcast better

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. If you want us to teach a class at your event, want us to coach you, or want to appear on the podcast, email lustyguy@polyweekly.com.

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564 Poly-friendly parentage law Nov 05, 2018

Lawyer Melissa Hall shares exciting news about the new parentage act being enacted in Washington state and hopefully, beyond.

0:00 Introduction and host chat

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1:00 Host chat and announcements

Let’s talk about the new Netflix show, Wanderlust. **SPOILERS FROM 4:30-9:30**

9:30 Poly in the news

Teen Vogue hits it out of the park again.

10:30 Interview: Melissa Hall on new, poly-friendly parentage laws in the U.S.

Melissa Hall shares updates to parentage laws in Washington state and adoptable throughout the U.S. The Parentage Act makes possible third-parent adoptions and establishes rules for de facto parentage. This enables third- (or fourth!)-parent adoptions. “Uniform law” means they’ll push to enact in all 50 states.

New definitions of de facto parenting mean that the court can recognize people as parents when both the adult and kid see the kid as a parent, even if they aren’t a legal parent. Find Melissa on Twitter at @vrimj, online at www.Smol-law.com or via email at Melissa@smollaw.com.

24:15 Feedback

Alana writes in about episode 560 Poly and pregnant, saying that they had to revert to monogamy during her pregnancy due to hormones, stress, and the insecurities that surfaced.

26:15 Happy poly moment

Louise in the U.K. writes in to share a story of going from being lonely and polyunsaturated to being in the middle of a long squiggly polycule and full of NRE.

28:15 How to make this podcast better

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. If you want us to teach a class at your event, want us to coach you, or want to appear on the podcast, email lustyguy@polyweekly.com.

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563 A queer, poly superhero novel centering people of color? Yes, please! Oct 15, 2018

Kevin Patterson and Alana Phelan have come out with a new superhero novel in which queerness, polyamory, and people of color are normalized.

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1:00 Host chat and announcements

Poly Big Fun, an annual workshop and retreat for people who identify as polyamorous, will take place virtually on November 10th, 2018. Franklin Veaux will be presenting “My abuser is Woke: Recognizing abuse when an abuser is skilled in the language of social justice.” Joreth Innkeeper will be presenting “Breaking up in the poly community.” Visit www.polybigfun.com to register and find out more.

3:00 Interview: a poly superhero fiction work

Kevin Patterson and Alana Phelan give us a taste of their new book, a superhero novel in centered on queer, poly people of color. Finally, a love triangle in which the existence of the triangle isn’t the source of conflict! In this world, “operators” are the dirtier, heroes-for-hire in a world where law-abiding superheroes get all the press. What happens when a superhero and an operator are in a relationship?

Release is October 12, 2018 on Amazon; release party is October 24 at 6:00 in Philadelphia at Amalgam Comics and Coffee House. Alana is The Polyamorous Librarian online, on Facebook, and Patreon. Find Kevin as Poly Role Models on Tumblr, Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and Patreon.

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27:30 Thanks

Thanks to Miryam for becoming our latest PW Playmate!

27:45 How to make this podcast better

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. If you want us to teach a class at your event, want us to coach you, or want to appear on the podcast, email lustyguy@polyweekly.com.

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562 Where do my ethics stop and my partner's begin? Sep 30, 2018

If my partner wants to date a long-time monogamous friend without her partner's explicit consent, how to I object without imposing my ethics on my partner?

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2:00 Where do my ethics end and my partner’s begin?

Kate calls is uncomfortable with her partner’s new person of interest (POI), who is a lifetime friend and in a monogamous relationship. The POI says she is bringing up poly with her partner, and Kate, her partner, and the POI are currently negotiating physical contact for an upcoming meeting to discuss Kate’s partner and the POI’s relationship. Kate is worried about violating the POI’s relationship agreement with her mono partner.

We both see this essentially as cheating, and we don’t think it’s a good idea for your partner to ask you to watch him cheat.
Having meeting that doesn’t include the POI’s partner is duplicitous (or “skeevy”, as Minx calls it)
Can you trust a partner who is willing to violate someone else’s relationship agreement?
You can’t tell a grown-ass adult what to do, but you can control your own behavior. You can choose not to participate in the meeting, to insist on talking to the POI’s partner before the meeting to ensure transparency and consent, or you can choose to leave your existing relationship.

15:45 How to make this podcast better

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. If you want us to teach a class at your event, want us to coach you, or want to appear on the podcast, email lustyguy@polyweekly.com.

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561 Can poly work for a sexual mismatch? Sep 23, 2018

If our relationship is healthy, and I want more sex and to explore my bisexuality, will poly work for us?

0:00 Introduction and host chat

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What’s been going on with Minx, why we went on an unexpected hiatus (physical therapy for osteoarthritis).
We’re leaving for a 10-day vacation in Paris!
And we’ll be in Hawaii in January

9:30 Can poly work for a sexual mismatch?

Bryan is a bisexual man in Germany who loves his healthy relationship with his girlfriend of four years, except for one thing—he wants sex daily; she wants sex once a month. Can poly work for their sexual mismatch of their otherwise healthy relationship?

Yes, it can, if your relationship is otherwise healthy.
Unless what you really want is not more sex but more sex with your girlfriend--that won’t work.
Keep aware that even if you say you just want sex and no love/relationship—life doesn’t work like that.
Consider sex workers if you really just want more sex with no danger of anyone falling in love with anyone else. German FKK clubs are wonderful.
If you decide sex workers aren’t for you, take some time to discuss what you’re afraid of. Explore these discussions over time and while you’re in different moods, over weeks or even months.
Do your research, find more books to read. Find your community.

22:30 Happy Poly Moment

R shares a cookie-baking happy poly moment.

25:30 How to make this podcast better

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. If you want us to teach a class at your event, want us to coach you, or want to appear on the podcast, email lustyguy@polyweekly.com.

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560 Poly and pregnant Sep 17, 2018

Chloé is pregnant and now feeling possessive of her husband. Should she ask her metamour to find someone else to date so she's not so in love with Chloé's husband?

0:00 Introduction and host chat

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2:00 Poly in the news

An article came out in TIME Magazine, What Monogamous Couples Can Learn from Polyamorous Relationships, According to Experts, and it’s amazingly good! Here’s how poly folks can school monos, according to the article:

Communication
Defining the relationship
Practicing safe sex
Managing jealousy
Maintaining a sense of independence

Read Alan’s writeup of this article as well as his exhaustive roundup post of similar past articles.

14:00 Poly and pregnant

Chloé and her husband each have a long-distance relationship outside their own, which they see a few times a year. She is now pregnant and feeling more territorial about her husband. She’s finding she wants her metamour not to be so in love with Chloé’s husband and to find her “own” primary.

Your feelings won’t change if your metamour finds someone else, because they are YOUR feelings. Your insecurity is yours to own and manage.
Try the And then what jealousy exercise as well as reviewing the other content we’ve done on jealousy.
Look inwards to your own feelings instead of outward at your metamour.
Your instinct to find a poly support network. Look both in life and online; we recommend the Poly Families Yahoo group.
Phone, video, or in-person are the best media for relationship conversations.

22:30 Feedback

Friggin Limey wrote a response to episode 558 on deciding when to give up on poly. He has given up on poly and decided that monogamy is what he needs.

24:30 Happy Poly Moment

Kimberly writes in with a happy poly moment about her partner moving in with the family! She also asks about when and how to come out at work with her new job—should she bring her poly family to the “bring your family” event occurring before she starts?

31:15 Thank you!

Welcome to Matthew and Jeff as new Poly Weekly Playmates!

32:00 How to make this podcast better

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. If you want us to teach a class at your event, want us to coach you, or want to appear on the podcast, email lustyguy@polyweekly.com.

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559 My partners are making life decisions without me Aug 01, 2018

How to cope when your partners buy a house and consider adopting a teenager with little to no input from you.

0:00 Introduction and host chat

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1:00 Host chat

Thanks toMiss Fisher Con 2018 for hosting us. You should sign up for next year’s mailing list!
Listen to episode 558 to find out more about our sex-positive panel at Miss Fisher Con 2018 and more about the event itself.

2:00 My partners are making life decisions without me

A listener wrote in to ask what to do. He is a queer male in a quad. Seven years ago, he and his partner T moved to be in the same city as W and E. They had talked off and on about cohabitation, and recently W and E decided to get a bigger house that would accommodate the four of them. W and E decided on budget and location and showed their final choice to our letter writer and his partner, which left him feeling excluded from the decision-making process. Later on, he asked about some jokes W and E were making, and it turns out they were considering adopting a teenager, which until recently would have been a deal-breaker for him. He shut down and curled into a ball. He wants to confront them, but he fears losing the relationship.

It’s helpful not to think of this as a confrontation but instead a transparency session where everyone gets to say what they think and feel in a safe space.
Focus on behaviors, not on assumptions about what those behaviors might mean. When you were bothered by your perception that W and E thought that the final home tour would be sufficient, own that you are talking about perceptions instead of actual communication.
Own your own sh*t and ask for what you want. You never indicated that you actually told them how and when or even that you wanted to be involved in the home-buying process—it’s your job to ask for that participation in so many words.
Assume goodwill all around. If you haven’t specified what you want, it’s best to assume others’ intentions are good.
This is a great time to begin the habit of full disclosure. Communicate early and often. State expectations expressly instead of keeping them to yourself.

16:30 Happy Poly Moment

Alan writes in about trying poly because his wife wanted to date an old college boyfriend. He found a special friend at a poly event and they spent a lovely weekend together during which he got to meet his metamours and had a fun poly family experience.

18:30 Thank you!

Welcome to Tara, Christopher, Katherine, Nicola, Kerry, Elizabeth, Tony, and Heidi as new Poly Weekly Playmates!

19:00 How to make this podcast better

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. If you want us to teach a class at your event, want us to coach you, or want to appear on the podcast, email lustyguy@polyweekly.com.

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558 When to give up on polyamory Jul 15, 2018

Allison Moon cohosts this episode offering advice to a listener who wants to know when to give up on polyamory that is making everyone unhappy.

0:00 Introduction and host chat

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1:00 Host chat

Welcome to today’s cohost, Allison Moon, author of Girl Sex 101 and Bad Dyke. Their new podcast is Artgasm.
Allison, Liz Powell, Bianca and I did a fun panel on sex-positivity at Miss Fisher Con 2018! We had such a fantastic time and learned a lot. So grateful for that opportunity, and we learned a lot! You should sign up for next year’s mailing list!
And listen to the Miss Fisher Philes podcast if you’re also a fan of the show; their Tumblr is here.

11:00 When to give up on polyamory

A listener wrote in to ask when to give up on polyamory. They had been married for 10 years and opened up because they both liked the idea; they read all the books; already made all the mistakes; wrote their user manuals; and they both love the idea. But they have yet to feel compersion and now often go to bed sobbing or angry, and the husband is going through depressive episodes. When do you give up on polyamory?

In general, if a relationship structure isn’t making you a happier and healthier version of yourself, it’s OK to go back to one that is
If your reason for trying polyamory isn’t extremely compelling, maybe it isn’t right for you—don’t try to force something that feels wrong to you
How are you measuring success? Consider measuring success by lessons learned or happiness rather than by ability to “get” a partner or by the absence of jealousy.
All the emotions you feel are OK. Quit judging yourself for having emotions and instead use them to increase your self knowledge. Try the And then what
Ignore the “sunk costs” fallacy—everything you’ve done so far will make you better at any relationship, so don’t continue only because you feel you’ve invested so much in poly. You’ve invested that in YOU!

25:00 How to make this podcast better

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here. Check out Poly Weekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write a review on Apple Podcasts! Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”

557 The Wet Coast Confessions of an Anxious Slut Jun 22, 2018

We chat with Kat Stark, blogger, podcaster, and author of Yelling in Pasties: the Wet Coast Confessions of an Anxious Slut

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1:00 Host chat

Episode 555 intro music has been fixed—thanks to those who wrote in to let me know of the error
Thank you to everyone who bought our books—we’re coming to Paris this fall, thanks to your purchases!
Come to the Life on the Swingset LGBTQIA+ takeover of the Desire Resort Riviera Maya in Cancún, Mexico! There will be live nude karaoke, demos of pegging, fisting, and flogging, speed dating, orgies and gang bangs and more! Find out more at com

5:45 Interview: Kat Stark

Kat Stark is a blogger and sex toy reviewer for OnTheWetCoast.com, they co-host the On The Wet Coast podcast, and have lent their voice as audiobook narrator for Cooper Beckett’s novels A Life Less Monogamous and Approaching The Swingularity. They are a genderqueer, sex-positive, geeky, non-monogamous, Canadian, queer, bisexual, deviant, slutty, feminist pervert.

We talk about why they wrote their new book, Yelling In Pasties: The Wet Coast Confessions of an Anxious Slut and what it’s like to open up a relationship, question one’s gender identity, and deal with anxiety in one’s mid-40s.

You can find them on Twitter as @WetcoastKat on Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/WetcoastKat and on Instagram as kat.stark.

28:30 Happy poly moment

Lala writes in about a wonderful experience with a person whom she’s been dating for six weeks.

30:30 Thank you!

Thanks to new Playmates Stacy and Kimberly, and thanks to Ulrike for the one-time donation!

31:00 How to make this podcast better

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here. Check out Poly Weekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write a review on Apple Podcasts! Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”

556 Are shared calendars enough? May 29, 2018

A listener writes in to ask why she was surprised with her partner's dating someone else, even with shared calendars.

0:00 Introduction and host chat

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1:00 Host chat

The Netflix Party Chrome plugin lets you watch the same Netflix show simultaneously at different locations, and it has a chat feature!

3:00 Are shared calendars enough?

A listener is in a closed triad of eight months, joining a married couple (D and Y) of eight years in everyone’s first poly relationship. They only started sharing calendars two weeks ago, and our listener saw a date night on their shared calendar on our listener’s regular Friday date night. It turns out it was a couple D and Y had met previously, decided to have drinks with, and decided not to invite our listener. Our listener felt surprised and wanted to know how to handle scheduling with multiple partners.

It’s not unusual to feel bad about having someone else’s date night sprung on them as a surprise. Calendars are no substitute for communication.
Since you just started sharing calendars, let’s assume goodwill all around and chalk it up to a communication glitch. D and Y might just have fallen into their old couple communications patterns. Minx has had a hard time breaking her solo-poly decision-making patterns, so let’s take this as an opportunity to address a habit that might need to change.
Never assume; always ask.
If you want a standing date night, ask for it explicitly and ask for how you want it changed when changes are necessary.
Calendar changes are great opportunities to do relationship check-ins to see how everyone is feeling about the current relationships.
You get to have a say in dates and relationships that affect you. The Relationship Bill of Rights.
It’s generally better to give someone the option to say no rather than to assume the answer would be no and not invite them.

13:45 Happy poly moment

Natalie writes in with an adorable happy poly moment about her anniversary!

16:15 How to make this podcast better

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here. Check out Poly Weekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write a review on Apple Podcasts! Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”

555 How to weed out the jerks May 14, 2018

A listener writes in to ask how to weed out the jerks when dating.

0:00 Introduction and host chat

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1:00 Host chat

You’ve got me solo because LustyGuy and L are on vacation
GREAT hanging out with Kevin Patterson on his Love’s Not Color Blind book tour

3:10 How to weed out the jerks

Heather writes in to ask whether she should leave “poly” off her dating profile, since the last few guys either dumped her for someone else or might have been lying about being divorced. How does one weed out the creeps when dating?

Poly is no guarantee of easy dating, any more than monogamy is
Tips from No Dick Pics: Your Guide to Creating an Irresistible Online Dating Profile
- Define what polyamory means to you and state specifically how you practice it
- Try putting in a “test”—link to your user manual and ask a question from it to weed out anyone who hasn’t read it. Or put in a quote from your favorite movie and request that respondents put the title of the movie as their message subject—that way, you can see immediately if they took enough time to read directions or not.
- Set dating goals that are independent of other people’s actions, such as “go on five dates this month” or “meet with my friend to sift through messages together” or “spend one night a week on self-care”
- Go do thing you love; be your best and happiest self

15:15 Feedback

Kim calls in to keep Minx honest

16:15 How to make this podcast better

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here. Check out Poly Weekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write a review on Apple Podcasts! Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”

554 Grief and loss in relationships May 07, 2018

Dr. Liz Powell shares advice on dealing with grief and loss in relationships

0:00 Introduction and host chat

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1:00 Announcements

We had a great time and debuted our new class,, The Art of the Breakup, at RelateCon in Boise, Idaho. Thanks for having us!

3:00 Dealing with grief and loss in relationships

Dr. Liz Powell shares insights from her class at RelateCon on dealing with grief and loss in relationships, both in terms of death and of breakups. Find out more about her, her work, and her upcoming book at SexPositivePsych.com and BuildingOpenRelationships.com

34:00 Thank you!

Thanks to Heather and Michael for their generous donations this week!

34:45 How to make this podcast better

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here. Check out Poly Weekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write a review on Apple Podcasts! Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”

553 What if my metamour won't meet me? Apr 22, 2018

What if my metamour won't meet me? My metamour asked my partner to uninvite me to an event he'd invited me to to avoid meeting me, and now I feel displaced.

0:00 Introduction and host chat

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1:00 Announcements

We had a great time at Southwest Love Fest April 6-8
We’re also debuting a new class, The Art of the Breakup, at RelateCon April 25-27 in Boise, Idaho

5:00 What if my metamour won’t meet me?

Nick from New Orleans wants to meet his metamours, but his partner’s lovers don’t want to meet him, and she would typically break up with them before he got the chance.

Figure out your own personal boundaries and how important it is to you.
With the understanding that you can’t force anyone to meet you, express your needs and personal boundaries/limits around meeting metamours to your partner. Give her the chance to know your needs, which she can then communicate BEFORE she starts dating someone instead of after.
Check out the Relationship Bill of Rights.

Rose is a straight cis woman with two partners, one local, and one, Greg, who lives a few hours away. His other partner Alice is monogamous, out-of-state, only tolerates Rose’s existence, and refuses to meet Rose until Rose and Greg break up. Greg recently invited Rose to an event, and Alice asked him to un-invite her so that Alice could enjoy the event with Greg.

Relationship Bill of Rights. You can say “no” to the request, perhaps with a counter-offer that you take this event, and she takes the next one. Begin negotiations. You have the right to seek compromise.
You have an equal say in what your relationship with Greg will look like. Same for your relationship with Alice. And you have a right not to be treated as subordinate to anyone else in the relationship.
It’s important to discuss behaviors (Greg’s uninviting you) and the emotions you feel around that, but resist the urge to assume motivations behind Alice’s behavior.
Having the hinge of the vee do all the communication with the edges of the vee is problematic. Every play “telephone”? Open communication will prevent a lot of drama.

24:00 Feedback

Anonymous asks if women experience a post-coital bliss state similar to that following male orgasm after a squirting orgasm.

27:30 Happy poly moment

A listener wrote in to share the joys of dating your species!

31:00 How to make this podcast better

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here. Check out Poly Weekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write a review on Apple Podcasts! Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”

552 My wife chose her lover over me Mar 26, 2018

Cesar's wife told him she missed him and then left to be with her lover. Is the solution to tell her not to say she misses him?

0:00 Introduction and host chat

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1:00 Announcements

We’ll be teaching Painless Poly Dating 101 and Poly Pitfalls: Fixing Things When They Break at Southwest Love Fest April 6-8
We’re also debuting a new class, The Art of the Breakup, at RelateCon April 25-27 in Boise, Idaho
Professor Marsten and the Wonder Women is now available for streaming on Hulu
And in related news, Minx gave herself permission to stop reading The Secret History of Wonder Woman and opt instead to start a new book more focused on a feminist hero, Americanah

7:45 Poly in the News

A poly quad was on the Today show on March 1 and holy crap it was great

10:00 My wife chose her lover over me

Cesar called in to ask for advice. His wife opened up their relationship and has a “fuckbuddy.” Cesar has four jobs; she has one. Time together is at a minimum. When she picked him up one night, she told him she missed him and then left to spend the night with her other partner. Cesar got mad, asked her not to tell him she missed him if she was going to leave. He feels she should have spent the evening with him having makeup sex instead of with her other partner.

Was her date a surprise? If so, talk about minimizing surprises by discussing scheduling and changes to the schedule in advance.
Did you decide together to open up the relationship, or did your wife make the decision to open up? If the latter, you will have a lot of additional feelings to unpack.
Let her be the expert on her. Believe your partner when she expresses her feelings and vulnerability. Accusing her of lying is responding to her vulnerability with aggression.
Never tell a partner to stop telling you how they feel! Try responding to her “I miss you” with “I miss you, too. When can we make time for each other?” Or try using the “when you ____, I feel ___” structure to share your feelings about what she just said.
Don’t borrow trouble. Stop imaging the worst.
Ask for what you want. Have you asked for more time with her?
She didn’t skip makeup sex with you because you hadn’t made up! You’ve made up when you both have a shared understanding of the conflict, you’ve both apologized for your contributions to it, and you have both agreed on specific actions to prevent it in the future.

27:30 How to make this podcast better

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here. Check out Poly Weekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write a review on Apple Podcasts! Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”

551 Dating the strong, silent type Mar 14, 2018

Is it OK to date someone who doesn't communicate well if he's all that's available and I like him?

0:00 Introduction and host chat

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1:00 Announcements

Take the Relations Decisions Lab survey and click Participants>Open Relationship survey if you are currently monogamous and looking to open up your relationship
Come to Poly Dallas Millennium in Dallas this year!

4:15 Listener question: is it OK to date the strong, silent type?

Copper is in a rural area of Alaska and met a guy that she experienced a strong connection with, but he’s not very communicative, and she’s afraid of oversharing. How does she mesh the “poly culture” of emotional intelligence and communication with the “Alaskan culture” of not communicating around emotions?

Lusty Guy says it’s not about cultures but about what YOU need. And do you really want to date someone who blew you off?
Minx says “you do you.” Be yourself. He might not be afraid of your oversharing—you won’t know until you try.
Fuck poly community standards—do you need someone who communicates well? If not, go to it! If you are OK dating someone you can’t share your shit with or just need Mr. Right Now, go right ahead.

16:00 How to make this podcast better

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here. Check out Poly Weekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write a review on Apple Podcasts! Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”

550 Ask a poly lawyer Mar 05, 2018

Ben Shenker, a lawyer practicing in Maryland and D.C., answers your poly questions

0:00 Introduction and host chat

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1:00 Announcements

Take the Relations Decisions Lab survey and click Participants>Open Relationship survey if you are currently monogamous and looking to open up your relationship
We’ll be at Southwest Love Fest next month!

3:15 Ask Benjamin Shenker, a poly lawyer

Listeners call and write in to ask:

Besides an LLC, how can more than two people own property together? (LLC, partnership, corporation, trust or a tenancy in common)
If my ex has remarried in a more traditional arrangement and my long-term poly partner is married (not to me), does that put me at risk of losing custody of my kids?
Is claiming a second legal marriage the only way to be prosecuted for polygamy?
What are some of the ways to get marriage benefits without being legally married?

Find him at polyamory.law or on Twitter at @polyamorylawyer or Facebook at Law Office of Benjamin Shenker.

NCSF is a resource if you need help with child custody issues.

31:00 How to make this podcast better

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here. Check out Poly Weekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write a review on Apple Podcasts! Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”

549 How to get what you want out of swinging Feb 26, 2018

Diana Ryan and Kieland McClellan advise on how to get the most out of swinging as a person of color.

0:00 Introduction and host chat

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1:00 Announcements

Email PolyLoveStudy@gmail.com if you are 18 or over, live in Canada or the US, are poly with at least one partner, and are willing to participate in a study that requires 12 monthly surveys.

2:30 How to get what you want out of swinging

Diana Ryan and Kieland McClellan give advice to a listener who doesn’t feel welcome in most swinging spaces in Wisconsin and who keeps encountering women interested in her man but not in her.

See who you vibe with and ignore the rest
Ask the host to introduce you to people
If there is a Facebook group, chat people up there first and invite them to say hello when they see you at the live events
Consider reassessing only playing together—maybe playing separately in the same room?
Or consider kink events, where people can be more open-minded

Find Diana on her website, 360 Life Skills, on Twitter at @ch1pmunkryan, Facebook at 360 Coaching & Counseling, and Instagram at with_coach_di. Kieland is available on Facebook at Keiland McClanahan or via email at mailto:thelifestyleentertainmentgrp@gmail.com.

27:45 Happy poly moment

Jai writes in to share her happy sisterhood poly moment after episode 544.

29:00 How to make this podcast better

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548 How I used science to hack my love life Feb 19, 2018

Brenda Wiebe discusses her new book, Catch & Release: How I Used Science to Hack My Love Life

0:00 Introduction and host chat

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1:15 Announcements

Catch & Release: How I Used Science to Hack My Love Life is out now!
Please support Kitty Chambliss’ Patreon for her new podcast on Love Without Boundaries

3:20 Poly in the News

Hidden Brain does a podcast on marriage that mentions consensual nonmonogamy
com article on a poly dad
Polyamory in Iceland

8:05 Brenda Weibe: Catch & Release: How I Used Science to Hack My Love Life

Brenda Wiebe currently lives in downtown Salt Lake City with her partner. She completed two back to back masters’ programs, one in sociology and the other in anthropology. She taught courses at the college level for both subjects. She has also given presentations about polyamory to poly/swinger/kink communities and at a conference about polyamory called RelateCon. Currently, her full time job is social work geared toward helping vulnerable adults.

Three years ago she began working on Catch and Release: How I Used Science to Hack My Love Life where she uses her skills as a researcher of sociology and anthropology to write a review of different relationship patterns throughout human history; as well as, a summary of some of the leading current research on relationships. Intermingled throughout the science is the story of her journey to polyamory. Her goal is to explain how cultural pressures and religious indoctrination have created the current mainstream monogamous model that is so prevalent in today’s society and offer an alternative.

When she’s not writing or working, Brenda enjoys reading fantasy novels, drinking the beer her partner brews, and wandering in the mountains when the weather is nice.

Brenda is at nonmonogblog.com and on Twitter as blwiebe69 and Facebook at B.L. Wiebe and Instagram at blwiebe

Her book is Catch & Release: How I Used Science to Hack My Love Life.

31:00 Happy poly moment

Nancy in Cleveland writes in to share nine months of Happy Poly Moments around organizing her local poly group

33:00 How to make this podcast better

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547 Reassurances in long distance relationships Feb 14, 2018

How to you reassure your new poly partner when you're going to be 8,000 miles away for the next three years?

0:00 Introduction and host chat

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1:15 Announcements

Congratulations to Brooklynn Clark on winning an advance copy of Love’s Not Color Blind: Race and Representation in Polyamorous and Other Alternative Communities
We'll be at Southwest Love Festin Tucson, AZ April 7-9
And we'll be at RelateCon in Boise, ID April 27-29

3:15 Listener question: how do I give reassurances in my long-distance relationship?

Veronica calls in to ask how to reassure her new poly partner who is now 8,000 miles away. Won’t this become a problem when they start seeing other people over the next three years? Minx says to ask her partner what he needs and to say what you need; LustyGuy says not to borrow trouble for something that isn’t yet an issue.

14:45 Feedback

Maria calls in to call Minx out on referring to LustyGuy as “already trained.”

18:00 Happy poly moment

Melissa writes in to share a happy poly moment as to how a solo poly partner can help enrich her partner and metamour’s relationship!

20:25 How to make this podcast better

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here. Check out Poly Weekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write a review on Apple Podcasts! Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”

546 Hierarchies and power dynamics in poly Feb 05, 2018

Erich Viedge interviews Chris Deaton about polyamory and BDSM

0:00 Introduction and host chat

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1:15 Announcements

We'll be at Southwest Love Festin Tucson, AZ April 7-9
And we'll be at RelateCon in Boise, ID April 27-29

2:00 Poly in the news

The tabloids are loving poly story packages

6:30 Interview: Chris Deaton on hierarchy and power dynamics in polyamory

Our South African correspondent Erich Viedge interviews researcher Chris Deaton on hierarchy and power dynamics in polyamory. He is doing a survey on how power exchange in BDSM poly relationships are reflected in poly relationships that might otherwise be egalitarian.

279 Polyamory and BDSM with Raven Kalera

538 Coming out to your kids with Casey Blake

28:00 How to make this podcast better

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545 Kevin Patterson on Love's Not Color Blind Jan 26, 2018

Kevin Patterson discusses his soon-to-be-released new book, Love's Not Color Blind: Race and Representation in Polyamory

0:00 Introduction and host chat

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1:30 Announcements

Solo Poly Con is in Seattle in April with early bird pricing until January 31 #sopoco18
Take the Relations Decisions Lab survey and click Participants>Open Relationship survey if you are currently monogamous and looking to open up your relationship
Lush’s Polyamory bath bomb

5:15 Interview: Kevin Patterson

Poly Role Models blog
Love’s not color blind: race and representation in poly and other alternative communities
New York Times Magazine article
Poly Role Models Facebook page with all the book tour events
He’ll be at Poly Living Philadelphia, Playground Conference in Toronto, CatalystCon, Poly Dallas Millennium and have stops in Portland, Olympia, Seattle, Vancouver
IndieGoGo to get the book early and support the book tour!
Enter to win your advance copy of Love’s Not Color Blind! Click on the Love’s Not Color Blind book tour, click the Share button to share it as a public post, and write a post to share it with your friends to enter!
Find Kevin on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram

27:25 Feedback

A listener calls in response to episode 517 to share a rare but serious danger of HSV

31:00 How to make this podcast better

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here. Check out Poly Weekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review! Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”

544 Sisterhood in poly with Iris Muscarella Jan 12, 2018

Educator, business owner, and burlesque performer Iris Muscarella discusses the importance of nurturing sisterhood in polyamory

0:00 Introduction and host chat

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1:30 Interview: Iris Muscarella on sisterhood in polyamory

New insights on relationship anarchy
Andie Nordren on relationship anarchy
what is sisterhood exactly, and what does that look like in polyamory?
What advice would you give to women who feel they aren’t good at making female friends?
Iris reaches out to her metamours to introduce herself and to show respect for the existing relationship
How to set up metamour group time if you’re an introvert
How to let people play to their strengths

26:15 Feedback

Maria calls in to ask why we don’t use our real names—wouldn’t it be more powerful?
Alan recommended a few Christian poly-friendly churches: the Metro Community Church, Unitarian Universalist church, and the Christian New Thought church

32:30 Happy poly moment

Ann writes in to say that her young triad is happy

33:30 Thanks!

Thanks to Theresa for sending in $100 donation this week!

34:00 How to make this podcast better

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here. Check out Poly Weekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review! Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”

523: 2017--a Poly Weekly year in review Jan 08, 2018

Highlights from the best episodes of 2017

0:00 Introduction and host chat

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1:15 Erich Viege presents a Poly Weekly year in review

The author of original comic series Wonder Woman William Marston was in a polyamorous triad, and a movie based on his life was released in 2017. Episode 536
Response to Mayim Bialik’s rant on polyamory
Ethical Slut 20th anniversary update
43 episodes, 17 listener questions (approximately 1/3); cohosts Lusty Guy, Kevin Patterson, Koe Creation, Erich Viedge
Minx and LG published No Dick Pics: How to Opimize Your Online Dating Profile
Dan Savage was our biggest celebrity
Also Pepper Mint, Kitty Chambliss, Cooper Beckett, Isabelle Broué, Dedeker Winston, Page Turner, and AggieSez
And as we strove for inclusion, Poly Dallas Millennium organizer Ruby Bouie Johnson and Chris Smith, a doctoral student, about his paper called Open to Love; Poly and the Black American. Also Ignacio Rivera spoke on consensual sex education and Iris Muscarella on egalitarian solo poly.
Then there was the New York Times piece (not) featuring Kevin Patterson
And how to love someone who was abused (503) , how to love someone whom you love more than he loves you (506), and how to tell a partner no (514), can poly fix my husband—(no, you have to own your shit (523)

23:00 How to make this podcast better

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here. Check out Poly Weekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review! Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”

542 When your partner is dating a drama queen Dec 29, 2017

Is it OK to use your veto power if your metamour is a drama queen to the point that your needs aren't being met?

0:00 Introduction and host chat

Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com

1:30 Intro and host chat

Lusty Guy cohosts, and we talk over how our polycule handled the holidays this year.

Also, Threadfinder writes in to let us know the Baton Rouge Open and Poly (BROP) group is doing well, and they are also hosting Drums in the Swamp.

9:00 My partner is dating a drama queen

Kathy has been dating for a year a guy who started dating X four months ago. Kathy didn’t get along with the metamour X and feels her own needs were not being met by her partner when he was with the metamour. Kathy feels that Guy would shower X with support, and Kathy would do the emotional labor of supporting Guy through events/breakups with X. But when Kathy needed Guy’s emotional support when she lost her grandmother, she says that Guy couldn’t, and she felt it was because he was always supporting X. Guy and X break up, Kathy supports Guy. He wants to get back together with X, and Kathy feels awful that she just can’t bring herself to back this plan and exercises her veto power. She asks:

So besides sharing my story, I have a question: How do you deal in an ethical way with these situations? How can give my partner the time, space and support he needs while my needs to spend quality time with him and to have a relationship conversation aren't being fulfilled?

Lusty Guy recommends limiting your interactions and vulnerability with Guy if you feel that you and your relationship are being negatively affected by X
He also recommends considering owning your shit and determining what you have contributed to the situation
Minx references the Relationship Bill of Rights and the point that you have the right “to seek balance between what you give to the relationship and what is given back to you.”
Also, be specific—maybe Guy has been thinking he’s been giving you “emotional support,” but it doesn’t look like the support you want. Say what “emotional support” looks like to you when you ask for it—being physically present for a hug, arranging to spend an uninterrupted hour of listening, or maybe just a kind text message or two. What exactly does good “emotional support” look like? Ask for it, and acknowledge when he does it!

19:00 Feedback

D responds to the question on episode 486 about having a partner newly identify as a heteroromantic grey asexual.

21:00 Happy Poly Moment

Scott wrote in to share that he celebrated his 46th birthday by buying himself a ring with his three lovers’ names on it.

21:50 Thank you!

Thanks to Heidi for the pi donation and to Nicholas and Eric for joining as PW Playmates!

23:20 How to make this podcast better

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here. Check out Poly Weekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review! Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”

541 French poly filmmaker Isa Lutine Dec 18, 2017

Erich Viedge interviews French poly filmmaker Isa Lutine, a.k.a. Isabelle Broué, about her latest poly film.

0:00 Introduction and host chat

Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com

1:30 Intro and host chat

Nurse, counselor and poly educator Kathy Labriola shares her poly holiday survival guide tips in a guest blog post.

2:45 Poly in the news

Sudden abundance of black and poly web series and films
Polyamory is one of the most popular relationship search terms of 2017
You, me and polyamory: Inside Philadelphia’s growing nonmonogamous community featuring our own Kevin Patterson and Antoinette Crumby’s poly relationship! And their pastor’s response blog post was awesomely compassionate and loving.

11:00 Interview: Erich Viege interviews filmmaker Isa Lutine, a.k.a Isabelle Broué

Broué is the director of the 2004 film Tout le plaisir est pour moi — all the pleasure is for me — about a radio journalist who realises one day she’s lost her clitoris.

In 2016, She made a feature film about polyamory which won the Best Screenplay AND Best feature at the Vancouver women in Film festival in 2017. Her latest project is called Lutine le Film. You can find it at www.lutinelefilm.com and on Facebook Lutine le Film. Broué herself is on Facebook as Isa Lutine. (“Lutine” is the French word for elf or imp and broadly means something like “polyamorous person.”)

If you would like to arrange a screening, you can contact Broué through her website lutinelefilm.com

31:20 Happy Poly Moment

Angel shares the best possible outcome of coming out to a human resource person at work!

32:50 How to make this podcast better

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here. Check out Poly Weekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write a review on Apple Podcasts! Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”

540 Jealousy Survival Guide with Kitty Chambliss Dec 08, 2017

Kitty Chambliss shares her insights on jealousy and the Jealousy Survival Guide

0:00 Introduction and host chat

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1:30 Intro and host chat

We’re on Spotify!

1:50 Poly in the news

Polyamory in Sicilon Valley

4:10 Interview: Kitty Chambliss, author of the Jealousy Survival Guide

Kitty Chambliss is a #1 Amazon best selling author, relationship coach, polyamorous and sex-positive speaker, activist, and founder of Loving Without Boundaries (LWB). Since 2012 LWB has over 200 blog posts and 70 podcasts to date. Kitty’s work has been featured in Stories From the Polycule, Multiamory, Swingtowns, PostModern Woman, the upcoming book It’s Called Polyamory: Coming Out About Your Nonmonogamous Relationships, and other publications around the globe.

Kitty is a professional dual-certified (CPC and ELI-MP) relationship coach. Lastly Kitty is thrilled to be bringing her first book: Jealousy Survival Guide: How to feel safe, happy, and secure in an open relationship out to the world. Kitty has made it her life’s mission to make thriving relationships – even unconventional ones – attainable to everyone. Find her on her website.

33:40 How to make this podcast better

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here. Check out Poly Weekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review! Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”

539 Guide to Nonmonogamy for Men Into Women Dec 01, 2017

Pepper Mint discusses his new book, Playing Fair: Guide to Nonmonogamy for Men Into Women

0:00 Introduction and host chat

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1:30 Intro and host chat

Minx apologizes for not publishing the last two weeks due to work and family obligations, but yay, we have an interview with Pepper this week!

2:00 Interview: Pepper Mint

Pepper Mint is an activist, educator, and community organizer in the polyamory and BDSM communities in San Francisco. Over the years, he has been responsible for many fun adventures, including Poly Speed Dating and the OpenSF conference. You can find his writings at freaksexual.com and pepperminty.com, and you can buy his new book Playing Fair: a Guide to Nonmonogamy for Men Into Women on Amazon here or at Thorntree Press here.

24:30 Feedback

Nick writes in about how the episode 535 on asexuality was a revelation for him.

28:40 Happy Poly Moment

Catharina shares a happy poly moment about being an awesome partner and metamour!

31:30 How to make this podcast better

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here. Check out Poly Weekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review! Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”

538 Coming out as poly to your kids Nov 09, 2017

South African correspondent Erich Viedge interviews sex educator Casey Blake for tips on how to talk about your poly relationships and your general polyamory with your kids:

0:00 Introduction and host chat

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1:30 Intro and host chat

So excited to bring you another piece out of South Africa. The audio line wasn’t the best, but we hope the great interview shines through!

2:30 Interview: Casey Blake

Casey Blake is a South African sex educator who helps parents to break the silent taboo of speaking about our lives in ways that can make a difference for our children. She founded What Now Counselling in 2013 to provide a variety of services to help people cope with the life, when the first words that come to mind are "What Now?" and runs workshops on how to have “the talks” about sex and relationship with kids.

South African correspondent Erich Viedge interviews Casey Blake to ask about how to come out to his own kids, and she recommends a few things:

Don’t insist on being the source of all correct information—be willing to say you don’t know or to ask them what they think.
Ask them what do relationships mean to you?
If your kid discovers you have a date outside your marriage, ask them what they think about that? What does “date” mean to you?
When we are silent about things, it teaches our children that they can’t talk to us. Bring stuff up, even out of the blue—it teaches them that they can also bring up unspoken things or ask questions after a while.
It’s OK to teach that sex is nice/pleasurable, and that’s why the door is closed.
An easy answer is to ask what do you think. For example, if your kid asks what you do on your date with your girlfriend, ask them, “what do you think?” Don’t let your internalized shame get in the way of communication with your kid.
Ask the children for the information they’ve got in a conversational manner: where did you hear that? What do you think? (Listen, breathe and try not to laugh!) Pixelate what needs pixelating.
Being ignorant makes your kids susceptible to danger.
You can’t talk with your children about something you are ashamed they know you’re doing.

You can find her on Facebook at Tools for Having The Talks - with Casey Blake or on Facebook at Body-Positive Parenting - with Casey Blake

24:00 How to make this podcast better

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here. Check out Poly Weekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review! Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”

537: Consensual sex ed with Ignacio Rivera Nov 02, 2017

Ignacio Rivera shares their latest work on a variety of topics, including consensual sex education

0:00 Introduction and host chat

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1:30 Sponsorship: Relationship Decisions Lab is looking for survey respondents!

The University of Utah Relationship Decisions Lab is looking for survey respondents who are looking to open up their relationships for the first time or who have opened it up before but are looking to open up again. To participate, go to www.relationshipdecisions.org, click on the Participants tab and select Open Relationship Project link. And remember, it’s for science!

2:30 Poly in the news

6:30 Interview: Ignacio Rivera

Ignacio Rivera aka Papí Coxxx who prefers the gender-neutral pronoun “they” is a Two-Spirit, Black Boricua Taíno New Yorker currently living in Baltimore. Ignacio has spoken at home and abroad on various topics including but not limited to sexuality, racism, sexism, transgender issues, anti-oppression, anti-violence, sexual liberation and multi-issue organizing. Ignacio’s work has manifested itself through skits, one-person shows, poetry, lectures, workshops and experimental film.

Ignacio identifies as an independent polyamorist, kinky, switch and sex worker who is on a sexually liberating life-long path. They are the founder of Poly Patao Productions (P3), The HEAL Project and Re(Nude) Sex(uality) Coaching. They can be seen in Pink and White Productions, “The Wild Search " Morty Diamond’s “Tranny Fags” on a “Trans Entity: The Nasty Love of Papí and Wil” and Cheryl Dunye's "Mommy is Coming."

We talk about their consensual sex education projects, their Pure Love talk show with their daughter about what her sex education was like (and the results thereof), and how they came to be poly before the internet. They started Shades of Poly, a nonmonogamous support group for poly people of color.

Re(Nude) Sex(uality) Coaching

Pure Love talk show with their daughter

HEAL project coverage

30:45 Feedback

Kim in Liverpool writes in to say how useful the solo poly conversation with Iris Muscarella was helpful.

33:30 Happy Poly Moment

J shares a first happy poly moment of finally being comfortable with a metamour.

37:00 How to make this podcast better

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here. Check out Poly Weekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review! Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”

536 Professor Marston and the Wonder Women Oct 26, 2017

We review this stellar poly romantic comedy with sociologist Mimi Schippers.

0:00 Introduction and host chat

Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com

1:15 Poly in the news

6:45 Sponsorship: Relationship Decisions Lab is looking for survey respondents!

The University of Utah Relationship Decisions Lab is looking for survey respondents who are looking to open up their relationships for the first time or who have opened it up before but are looking to open up again. To participate, go to www.relationshipdecisions.org, click on the Participants tab and select Open Relationship Project link. And remember, it’s for science!

8:00 Interview: Sociologist Mimi Schippers on the Wonder Women movie

Mimi Schippers is Professor of Sociology and Gender and Sexuality Studies at Tulane University and teaches courses on gender, sexuality, and feminist and queer theory. She also developed one of the first college courses on the sociology of monogamy and polyamory. Her book Beyond Monogamy: Polyamory and the Future Of Polyqueer Sexualities was published in August 2016 and focuses on the feminist, queer, and anti-racist potential of polyamory, multi-adult intimate relationships, and group sex.

Her website is mimischippers.com, and she blogs at marxindrag.com. Find her on Twitter and Facebook.

Why this movie is awesome
Angela Robinson centered the story on Elizabeth and Olive rather than on Marston and male-dominant polygyny
The ultimatum and the six-hour walk
A poly-centered view of the stories of historical figures such as Emma Goldman and e e cummings

Her blog post reviewing the movie is here.

36:15 Movie review: Joreth on Professor Marston and the Wonder Women

Her full 25-minute review and conversation with Alan from the Poly in the News blog is available at www.polyishmoviereviews.com

40:00 How to make this podcast better

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here. Check out Poly Weekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review! Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”

535 Understanding asexuality Oct 19, 2017

Justine of asexuality.org busts asexual myths and shares her experiences

0:00 Introduction and host chat

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1:00 Host chat and announcements

The University of Utah Relationship Decisions Lab is looking for survey respondents who are looking to open up their relationships for the first time or who have opened it up before but are looking to open up again. To participate, go to www.relationshipdecisions.org, click on the Participants tab and select Open Relationship Project link. And remember, it’s for science!

3:00 Interview: Asexuality

Justine/Heart is a physicist by day who volunteers at www.asexuality.org and spoke to us about what asexuality is and how to find resources to learn more.

https://asexualoutreach.org/ for live meetups in North America

To reach Justine, go to the asexuality.org forums and message her.

24:15 Feedback

Andy from Ann Arbor called in to let us know about polyamory in a science fiction book by Nora Jemisin, The Fifth Season. The second book in the series has a poly triad seamlessly worked into the book, and the first two books in the trilogy won the Hugo award two years in a row.

25:45 How to make this podcast better

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534 Janet Hardy and the Ethical Slut third edition Oct 12, 2017

Janet Hardy on the last 20 years of polyamory and the latest edition of the Ethical Slut.

0:00 Introduction and host chat

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1:00 Host chat and announcements

The University of Utah Relationship Decisions Lab is looking for survey respondents who are looking to open up their relationships for the first time or who have opened it up before but are looking to open up again. To participate, go to www.relationshipdecisions.org, click on the Participants tab and select Open Relationship Project link. And remember, it’s for science!

2:45 Interview: Janet Hardy on her life and The Ethical Slut’s third edition

Janet Hardy, author of over a dozen books on sexuality, BDSM and polyamory, joins us for a life and editorial update. She’s sharpening her illustration skills for a brand-new, fully-illustrated edition of The Sexually Dominant Woman and working with her grown sons on their early poly lives, working title “Slut and Sons.”

We talk about that great write up in Rolling Stone, the first headline about geeks making the best lovers that opened the door to talking about poly in the 90s and how that has changed. And we talk about what is new in ES3—consent culture, more inclusiveness and more. Plus, Janet’s favorite musical!

Buy the book from Janet’s Facebook page or book Janet through her website

26:15 Happy poly moment

New listener Sarah shares a happy poly moment about her partners collaborating to make her day.

27:45 Thank you!

Welcome Meiyi to the Poly Weekly Playmates!

28:15 How to make this podcast better

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533: Reducing friction in metamour meetups Oct 08, 2017

A listener asks how to reduce friction and awkwardness in first-time metamour meetings; LustyGuy and Minx respond, and correspondent Erich Viedge offers a relevant interview with and letter from Wilrieke Sophia.

0:00 Introduction and host chat

Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com

1:00 Host chat and announcements

Remember my response to Mayim Bialik’s clueless video about open relationships? She did a correction video here in which she corrected her assumptions about open relationships and polyamory. Huzzah for Mayim!
In personal news, Minx and her kitty moved in with LustyGuy and L to form a blended household.
If you want to have us speak at your event outside the US and are willing to host a fundraiser to finance our travel, we are happy to donate classes, signed books and even relationship coaching to help you out! Interested? Email lustyguy@polyweekly.com

9:30 Topic: reducing friction in first-time metamour meetups

Claire in Portland has three partners with some being long-distance, and she is arranging for everyone to meet for the first time. How can she reduce the awkwardness of this first meeting and make sure everyone is comfortable?

You can’t make anyone do anything
Think of it as a party: set up channels of communication beforehand, introduce people and conversational topics, have favorite foods and drinks at hand, diminish expectations and pressure, have icebreaker activities set up
Model the behavior you want to see: calm and vulnerable
Let everyone know that nothing rides on this—you can flub everything up, and it will still be OK
Ask everyone involved what they would need to be comfy and their ideas for helping to make everyone else comfy
Thanks to Erich Viedge for interviewing poly activist and educator Wilrieke Sophia on a similar topic and having her read her “Letter to the Women Who Sleep with My Man” for us!

27:10 Feedback

A listener wrote in to comment on a response to herpes we discussed on episode 517, pointing out that, while most people experience herpes as a minor inconvenience at most, herpes can be quite painful for some outlier cases.

29:00 Happy poly moment

A listener writes in to share how she and her husband overcame the obstacles to enable her to ask for what she wanted and to be truly happy for her husband and their new lover!

33:35 Book review: Erich Viege interviews Paige Turner

Our correspondent Erich Viedge interviews Paige Turner, author of Poly Land: My Brutally Honest Adventures in Polyamory. Paige Turner is an educator and author living in Cleveland, Ohio and blogs daily at http://www.poly.land, Tweets at @polydotland and has a Facebook group.

42:00 Thank you!

Welcome Theodore and Mallory as new Poly Weekly Playmates! And thanks to Katherine and Craig for your donations!

42:30 How to make this podcast better

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here. Check out Poly Weekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review! Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”

532 Can I be poly if I come too quickly? Sep 21, 2017

Sex therapist Ruby Bouie Johnson addresses a listener question about premature ejaculation.

0:00 Introduction and host chat

Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com

1:30 Poly in the news

The Ethical Slut is in Rolling Stone!
Poly in the news coverage of the Rolling Stone piece
The coverage of the Marston/Wonder Woman poly movie in the Poly in the News blog

7:45 Topic: Can I be poly if I come too quickly?

Sexpert and sex therapist Ruby Bouie Johnson joins us to give advice to a listener who reports suffering from premature ejaculation and wonders if he can be poly with this issue? Does he need to find a partner who also comes quickly?

Ruby ponders a few questions: how quickly is too quickly? Does this happen all the time, even when masturbating?

Video hub of instruction

The Guide to Getting It On

List ?

Urban Tantra

www.sextherapistruby.com www.blacksexgeek.net

www.polydallasmillennium.com

How to make this podcast better

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531 Solo and egalitarian poly with Iris Muscarella Sep 14, 2017

Iris Muscarella, burlesque performer, jazz singer and new poly educator, shares insights on solo and egalitarian polyamory.

0:00 Introduction and host chat

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1:30 Poly in the news

Professor Marsten and the Wonder Women, the bio pic about William Moulton Marsten, the polyamorous creator of Wonder Woman, comes out October 13
It’s time for the church to talk about polyamory

7:05 Interview: Iris Muscarella on solo and egalitarian polyamory

Iris Muscarella, business owner, burlesque performer and jazz singer, host of Dallas-area poly women’s sleepovers and new poly educator, shares thoughts on solo and egalitarian polyamory.

Solo egalitarian poly is the love language of the individual. “I don’t wanna be your whole world; I just wanna be a part of your world.”

How Iris defines solo and egalitarian; relationship anarchy; how solo poly differs from “just dating”; how do you show the importance of your relationship(s) in the absence of typical relationship escalator benchmarks; what do solo poly people need to have in their toolkits; how can people be better allies to people of color in the poly community—listen to hear, not to respond

33:30 Feedback

Herbalwise shares a bit of everyday poly in the podcasting world
Friggin’ Limey calls in to let us hear his accent!

36:00 Happy Poly Moment

A listener writes in to share a sexy and erotic happy poly moment—and breakfast afterwards!

38:00 How to make this podcast better

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here. Check out Poly Weekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review! Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”

530 The political struggles of polyamory today Sep 07, 2017

Listener AJ asks what are the political struggles of the poly movement today.

0:00 Introduction and host chat

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1:00 Announcements

LustyGuy and Kevin Patterson cohost
We were listed as one of the Eight Most Inventive, Informative and Titillating Sex Podcasts by Indie Wire!

3:30 Topic: What are the real political struggles of the poly movement today, and what should they be?

Listener AJ writes in to ask if being considered a target by marketers and being included in the legal system should really be the goals of the poly movement. “Do we really desire inclusion in the system we already have?” they question, along with questioning what are the real struggles of the poly movement today and what we can learn from the LGBTQ resistance movements.

Find Kevin as Poly Role Models on Twitter, Facebook and Instagram.

Tumblr blog

Support Kevin at http://patreon.com/polyrolemodels

He’ll be at CatalystCon speaking on race and sex-positive parenting

How to make this podcast better

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here. Check out Poly Weekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review! Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”

529 Polyamory and sci fi Aug 30, 2017

There is a growing demand for poly plot lines in science fiction novels. Guest host Erich Viege interviews Alisia Gus of Curiosity Quills publishing.

0:00 Introduction and host chat

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1:00 Announcements

Erich Viege is hosting this week

2:15 Poly in the News

Amanda Palmer on her open marriage with Neil Gaiman, now.

3:30 Interview: Curiosity Quills publisher Alisia Gus on polyamory

There is a growing demand for sci fi books with poly in background. And they are accepting submissions, if you’re a writer! Gus wants to partner with other publishers telling more stories of non-mono relationships. And she is offering a subscription box, like book box of the month.

To submit, email curiosity@curiosityquills.com

Current poly sci fi novels from Curiosity Quills:

Kiya: Hope of the Pharaoh

Survival Kit’s Apocalypse

Ruth Fox Sinclair The White Pavilion

Links:

https://curiosityquills.com/

Alisa Gus

Alisa’s Twitter, Curiosity Quills Twitter

18:00 How to make this podcast better

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here. Check out Poly Weekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review! Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”

528: Chris Smith on polyamory and the Black American Aug 24, 2017

Chris Smith on polyamory and the Black American

0:00 Introduction and host chat

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1:30 Poly in the News

A Yoplait ad campaign builds on the idea of polyamory

4:20 Interview: Chris Smith

Chris Smith is a PhD student at Howard University studying higher education and a relationship researcher focused on non-monogamy within the Black demographic.

Open to Love; Poly and the Black American

People raise sex and put it on a pedestal. And that’s OK, but raise communication and flexibility to that same level.
Polyamory as a possible method of strengthening Black economic power
Medical Apartheid: The Dark History of Medical Experimentation on Black Americans from Colonial Times to the Present
Blacks are already ostracized; it can be difficult to add polyamory to the mix. As a Black male, it’s already hard to fight the aggressive and overly sexualized stereotypes; polyamory can appear to reinforce those
Link for the Black and poly survey Let’s get to 3,000!
Black polyamorous anthology description and consent forms to participate email mrtenability@gmail.com
Find Chris Smith on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter as MrTenability

35:50 How to make this podcast better

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here. Check out Poly Weekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review! Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”

527 Establishing relationship patterns Aug 17, 2017

What behavioral patterns do you establish at the beginning of your relationships, and why does that matter?

0:00 Introduction and host chat

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1:00 Announcements

If you want to have us speak at your event outside the US and are willing to host a fundraiser to finance our travel, we are happy to donate classes, signed books and even relationship coaching to help you out! Interested? Email lustyguy@polyweekly.com

5:10 Poly in the News

The third edition of their seminal book, The Ethical Slut!

6:20 Topic: behavioral patterns in your relationships (and how to establish them)

Sarah from Australia asked for Lusty Guy to elaborate on his comment about patterns at the start of relationship establishing what will happen later on in the relationship. What patterns do you establish when you start dating? Any red flag behaviors? What the hell is Lusty Guy talking about?

A pattern is the behavior you adopt in the face of differing styles or approaches to stuff in relationships
The way you establish a pattern is to ask yourself how you ideally want to respond to conflicts or conflicting patterns (such as who plans a date)—and those will often persist throughout the duration of the relationship
What do you want your partner to learn?
LG likes to look for ways to be his very best self in the first relationship conflict. “Whenever you want to reach someone, you have to be reachable.” Be vulnerable!
Red flags: pay attention to the nature of the stories people tell about themselves. Are they the avenging hero? Martyr? Berserker? Affable buffoon? And look for the differences between the behavior you observe and the stories they tell
- Also, do they share?
- How do they talk about their past relationships? Are they respectful of past partners and relationships?
- What comments do they make about strangers?

24:25 Feedback

Thanks for having Goody Howard on the show!

26:00 How to make this podcast better

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here. Check out Poly Weekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review! Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”

526: Poly comet special Aug 10, 2017

What is a "comet," and why are they valuable?

0:00 Introduction and host chat

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Koe Creation cohosts 1:00 Announcements

Poly Dallas Millennium got a great write up in the Dallas Observer!

2:45 Poly in the News

Polish ethicist addresses polyamory—because his grandfather was poly

Poly comedian in the U.K. describes her polyamory as feminist and liberating

Koe mentions Sex at Dawn

7:30 Topic: let’s talk about poly comets!

A listener calls in to ask more about poly comets. Rough definition of a comet: An occasional lover who passes through one’s life semi-regularly, but without an expectation of continuity or a romantic relationship. For more poly terms, check out More Than Two’s excellent poly glossary.

Koe shares their ideas on long-term comets and short-term comets

18:45 Feedback

The chairperson of Poly Denmark writes in to let us know that poly is alive and well in Scandinavia and has been for over 10 years!

Polydan; includes e-mail list. Polyamory.dk (note the interesting version of the infinity-heart logo).

23:15 How to make this podcast better

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here. Check out Poly Weekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review! Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”

525 Profile: Goody Howard, Sex Positive Superhero Jul 27, 2017

Meet Goody Howard, sex positive superhero!

0:00 Introduction and host chat

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1:00 Host Chat

Poly Dallas Millennium was eye-opening!

2:45 Poly in the News

In Australia, TV news coverage of women fired for being poly
Satire: experts warn this Seattle poly relationship could expand to cover all of Seattle!

9:17 Interview: Goody Howard, Sex Positive Superhero

We do a poly profile of Goody Howard, Sex Positive Superhero, whom we met at Poly Dallas Millennium. An intimacy consultant and a sex educator who loves to host toy parties and teach classes on oral sex, her superpower is helping people to be comfortable discussing intimacy, sexuality and their own wants and needs.

To support her trip to the Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit next week, go to PayPal and send your donation to askgoody@gmail.com
Women of Color Sexual Health Network
Her favorite thing to do is to teach oral sex classes, currently available as Lick! Sexy Summer Series 2017 in the Dallas area.

And Goody kindly agreed to give me feedback on what went wrong with my keynote address at PDM. How can I (and others) be more inclusive?

Rather than giving voice to the voiceless, pass the mic. Give the opportunity to speak directly to the POC rather than speaking for them.
Call in versus call out. “Call in” is to address an incident of privilege or implicit bias privately. A “call out” is addressing the incident publicly, in front of others.
Educate yourself. On micro-aggressions and on how systematic racism works so you can recognize when it’s happening.

Find her on Facebook, Instagram, SnapChat, (still looking for her vanity URL on YouTube, so subscribe to her YouTube channel so she can!), and her site is http://www.askgoody.com/.

41:15 Thank you!

Chris donated $69.96 to celebrate the wife and girlfriend going on their first date!

42:00 How to make this podcast better

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here. Check out Poly Weekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review! Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”

524: Will poly fix my husband's cheating? Jul 11, 2017

Listener Shanna calls in to ask if her willingness to be poly will help them get past her husband's cheating.

0:00 Introduction and host chat

Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com

1:00 Announcements

Minx and LustyGuy will be at Poly Dallas Millennium next month
Koe is coaching; hire them at koecreation.com or email koecreation@gmail.com
And teaching The Great Wide World of Nonmonogamy at the Armory in San Francisco on August 31. Get tickets here. And they are also working on their memoir as a second-generation poly person!

4:30 Poly in the News

Wait for the second date to reveal you’re poly? From Savage Love

5:15 Topic: will poly fix his cheating?

Listener Shanna calls in to say that her husband has cheated and she is open to polyamory. How do they move past the cheating and improve their relationship together?

22:40 Feedback

We learn the term “parrot gliding”!

23:45 Happy Poly Moment

Marie shared a happy poly moment in Swedish!

How to make this podcast better

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here. Check out Poly Weekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review! Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”

523: When owning your shit isn't enough Jul 03, 2017

What do you do when your partner dismisses your shit-owning?

0:00 Introduction and host chat

Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com

1:00 Announcements

We’ll be at Poly Dallas Millennium next month

1:20 Poly in the News

Wait for the second date to reveal you’re poly? From Savage Love

4:30 Topic: when owning your shit isn’t enough

Listener A writes in to ask when owning your shit isn’t enough—how about treating your partner with compassion and care. Sometimes, people use “own your shit” to mean “I don’t want to do the work that a healthy relationship requires.” Where is the line between owning your shit and being compassionate and caring for your partner?

Relationship Bill of Rights

12:45 Feedback

A listener calls in to ask why women can have friendships with women but men can’t have friendships with men
Queen of Sodomy calls in from Iceland to question if the poly folks should join the GLBTQIA community

20:15 Happy Poly Moment

Ivan called in with a HPM about kids meeting metamours

21:45 How to make this podcast better

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here. Check out Poly Weekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review! Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”

522: I feel displaced by my metamour Jun 26, 2017

Is it OK that I am feeling displaced by my metamour?

0:00 Introduction and host chat

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1:30 Announcements

We complain about having to close the windows and turn off the fans in order to record when it’s 90 degrees out. J Also!

We’ll be at Poly Dallas Millennium next month
Minx learned how to moderate YouTube comments after posting her response video to Mayim Bialik to YouTube.
Second Favorite Man poly country western ballad by Tight Pajamas will be our outro music. The music video is here, and you can purchase the song here.

6:30 Poly in the News

David gives an audio review of The Secret History of Wonder Woman book about the polyamorous author and recommends it for those interested in comic books, feminism or the fight for birth control
13:30 we also discuss our reactions to the Wonder Woman movie
16:05 Three men in Columbia registered their poly marriage

17:15 Topic: I’m feeling displaced by my new metamour

New to Poly is feeling pushed aside by her partner’s relationship with her new metamour, with whom her partner is exploring BDSM. She is feeling displaced because her partner is repeatedly canceling or changing her established chats in order to make plans with her new metamour. Is it OK to feel this way?

Yes, it’s always OK to feel whatever you feel!
Talk to your partner and own your shit—good job!
Work on a shared solution together

25:00 Feedback

Andy comments on episode 517 STIs for dummies on a situation in which HSV could be a more important issue—pregnancy
AggieSez shares a comment on episode 488 Negotiating metamour meets, reminding us that the metamour gets a say in the timing as well, not just the couple!

31:00 Happy Poly Moment

Diva called in with a happy poly moment about coming out to her kid!

34:20 Thank you!

Welcome Abby as a new playmate and thanks Leadra in Germany for the $69 donation!

17:30 How to make this podcast better

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here. Check out Poly Weekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review! Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”

521: Responding to Mayim Bialik Jun 19, 2017

Minx addresses Bialik's misconceptions about open relationships.

0:00 Introduction and host chat

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1:30 Announcements

Lusty Guy’s My Swinging Origin Story

2:10 Topic: Responding to Mayim Bialik’s video post on open relationships

A few weeks ago, Mayim Bialik made a video post about how she doesn’t get open relationships. Here’s my response video on YouTube and on Facebook (with 22,000 views already!)

She has quite a few misconceptions! Here are the top six misconceptions I created a response video to clear up:

Most primates are monogamous Not true! 97% of mammals are nonmonogamous. Among the primates, a few monkeys and one ape, the gibbon, are monogamous. Every other species is nonmonogamous.
It’s all about the sex. She says she gets it’s not all about the sex, but then proceeds to spend six out of seven minutes talking about the sex. So… who’s making it all about the sex here?
Male sexuality always equals promiscuity, and female sexuality always equals monogamy and lack of sexual interest. This isn’t about sexual dimorphism; it’s about people’s individual orientations. Male sexuality doesn’t equal promiscuity, and female sexuality doesn’t equal monogamy and a lack of sexual interest. In fact, did you know that, when approaching poly from the point of view of a couple, it’s usually the woman’s idea to open up?
If a lifestyle wouldn’t work for me, it couldn’t possibly work for anyone else. Mayim talks about how relationships take time and energy, and she couldn’t imagine having enough focus for another partner in addition to her spouse and kids. Great! But, just as she chose how many kids she could bring into her life and love and care for, consenting adults also get to choose how many partners they can bring into their lives to love.
Poly practitioners are at higher risk for STIs. Wrong! The people at highest risk for STIs are those who are uneducated about transmission methods, who prefer lying or cheating to honest communication and who don’t get tested regularly and share those results with their partners. In fact, STI rates tend to be lower among polyamorists because we educate and communicate without shame about STIs.
People only practice polyamory because they are unhappy in their existing relationships. Wrong again! Well, OK. Sometimes this does happen. But most people practice polyamory, non-monogamy or relationship anarchy because it’s the truest expression of themselves. And by the way, not all non-monogamy starts with a couple. Plenty of people are solo poly.

9:45 Feedback on episode 518

A listener calls in to say that she was interrviewed for that NYT Magazine article and is glad her story wasn’t included with those who came to poly from cheating
AggieSez chastises the journalist for not following journalism 101: not getting direct quotes from people who were not the married partners. If the whole premise is that other people are involved but you never interview or quote those partners, you’re leaving out a huge part of the story! She’s putting together a media guide for journalists wanting to cover poly!

14:40 Happy Poly Moment

Free wrote in to share an HPM about helping out a partner’s sick kid. Parenting happy poly moment for the win!

17:30 How to make this podcast better

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here. Check out Poly Weekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review! Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”

520: Approaching the Swingularity Jun 12, 2017

A chat with podcaster and author Cooper S. Beckett about his new novel, Approaching the Swingularity.

Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com

1:30 Announcements

Lusty Guy’s My Swinging Origin Story

2:00 Interview: Cooper S. Beckett

Cooper S. Beckett, long time host of the Life on the Swingset podcast, talks about his new fiction novel, Approaching the Swingularity.

Our written interview blog post with Cooper about Approaching the Swingularity.

Follow him on Twitter and Instagram.

23:45 How to make this podcast better

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here. Check out Poly Weekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review! Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”

519: Can you be introverted and poly? Jun 01, 2017

A listener calls in from Japan to ask if one can be successfully poly if one is introverted.

0:00 Introduction and host chat

Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com

1:30 Announcements

Lusty Guy’s Swingtowns article on fighting fair

Alan’s poly 101 article

2:20 Topic: Can you be introverted and poly?

A listener writes in from Japan to ask if it’s possible to come across as anything other than lonely and desperate when you’re introverted and poly. Then he calls in a few weeks later to say that, after reading our books and listening to our podcasts, he feels GREAT and is good to go!

Lusty Guy’s article on loving yourself first

14:15 Feedback

Alex asked about my idea of improving the relationships I enter and what Lusty Guy and L would say Minx has improved their relationship? L’s list:

L got a friendship with Minx, a cleaner house, international vacations, an active social calendar
LustyGuy has more energy and has discovered the value of an attractive, organized space

25:15 Happy Poly Moment 29:45 Thank you!

Thanks to anonymous, Kerstin and JA for becoming playmates and for donating to PW!

30:30 How to make this podcast better

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here. Check out Poly Weekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review! Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”

518: That NYT Magazine article May 30, 2017

Kevin Patterson and Ruby Bouie Johnson join the team to review that NYT Magazine article on open marriage from May 11.

0:00 Introduction and host chat

Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com

1:15 Topic: That New York Time Magazine article

In this unrepresentative 12,000 word article, New York Times Magazine chooses to show only dysfunctional poly couples and uses Kevin as The Token Black Guy.

This is their more representative follow up article

Kevin’s response post The Times Piece About Open Marriage Doesn’t Represent My Experience

Ruby’s response post What the New York Times Neglected to See

25:30 How to make this podcast better

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here. Check out Poly Weekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review! Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”

517: STIs for dummies May 11, 2017

Jenn Stauffer of Utah Poly shares her insights on the testing and transmission of four key STIs

0:00 Introduction and host chat

Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com

1:30 Announcements and host chat

I’ll be giving a talk on polyamory at Ignite Seattle on May 18. Keep an eye on the Poly Weekly Facebook page and Twitter account for the livestream if you’d like to watch remotely.

3:10 Topic:

Jenn Stauffer of Utah Poly shares the key takeaways from her RelateCon presentation on The Sensible Slut, a review of the transmission and testing methods of the top four STIs: chlamydia, HPV, HSV and HIV. Contact her via Utah Poly.

28:10 Feedback

Listener K writes in to talk about the newbie poly mistakes they made and to express gratitude at the educational materials PW provides so they don’t feel so alone!

30:05 Thanks

Thanks to our newest anonymous PW Playmate!

29:30 How to make this podcast better

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here. Check out Poly Weekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review! Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”

516: The Art of Three poly romance novel May 04, 2017

An interview with Racheline Maltese, co-author of a new poly romance novel.

0:00 Introduction and host chat

Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com

1:30 Announcements and host chat

I’ll be giving a talk on polyamory at Ignite Seattle on May 18
For more information, read the Eight Things I Wish I’d Known About Polyamory ebook or paperback
For a how to guide to setting up your new poly relationship, read Tristan Taormino’s Opening Up; for a guide to poly ethics, read More Than Two by Franklin Veaux and Eve Rickert

8:30 Interview: Racheline, co-author of The Art of Three poly romance novel

Racheline Maltese, co-author of the new poly romance novel The Art of Three with Erin McRae, talks about the process of writing a romance novel for poly folks.

Racheline Maltese can fly a plane, sail a boat, and ride a horse, but has no idea how to drive a car; she’s based in Brooklyn. Erin McRae has a graduate degree in international affairs for which she focused on the role of social media in the Arab Spring; she’s based in Washington DC. Together, they write romance – often queer, often poly -- about fame and public life. Their work is currently available with, or forthcoming from, publishers including Cleis, Dreamspinner, Riptide, and Simon & Schuster’s Saga Press. As hybrid authors, they also independently publish. Like everyone in the 21st century, they met on the Internet.

Their website

Buy The Art of Three here

Follow Racheline on Twitter or on Instagram or Like their Facebook page

Follow Erin on Twitter or on Instagram

28:30 Feedback

Catherine gives feedback on episode 368 Metamour cock block—she was on the other side of a similar situation, and she is happy to hear the advice given!

33:45 Happy poly moment

Meredith writes in with a sweet family happy poly moment

35:45 Thanks

Thanks to Manfred and Natalie and welcome Stephanie to the Poly Weekly Playmates!

36:00 How to make this podcast better

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here. Check out Poly Weekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review! Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”

515: Help! Compersion squicks me! Apr 27, 2017

Help! Compersion squicks me! Does it mean I'm jealous if hearing about my husband's dates disgusts me?

0:00 Introduction and host chat

Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com

Today’s cohost is Lusty Guy

1:30 Announcements and host chat

New Dutch bank bunq commercial specifically targets polys!

5:15 Topic: help! Compersion squicks me!

Lauren has been married to her husband for 24 years and non-monogamous (mostly swinging) for 12. Five years ago, she discovered he had cheated, and they worked through it. Now they date separately. And while he loves hearing what she does on her dates, but Lauren is grossed out even thinking about what he does on his dates.

15:30 Feedback

Matthew writes in to say he tried the And then what? exercise to deal with jealousy/fear/insecurity but didn’t think he learned anything from it.

21:45 Happy poly moment

A listener writes in with a happy poly moment of her triad going really well, metamours and all!

25:00 Thanks

Welcome to Susan and Rachel, our newest Poly Weekly playmate subscribers!

25:45 How to make this podcast better

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here. Check out Poly Weekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review! Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”

514: How do I tell my partner no? Apr 21, 2017

How do I say "no" to a reasonable request from my partner?

0:00 Introduction and host chat

Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com

Today’s cohost is Kevin Patterson

1:30 Announcements and host chat

Multilinking conference

3:45 Topic: how do I tell my partner no?

Eva writes in to ask how to tell her partner no to a request. Her partner Lisa wants an additional date night each week, but Eva doesn’t feel she can give that and wants to take time to settle into her nesting relationship with Denise. How does she say no to Lisa?

9:15 Feedback

Vir Modestus took issue with our advice in episode 507 How do I get control of my fears?, and even wrote up a blog post about his frustration with “you’re insecure” being used as a way to dismiss someone else’s emotional reponse.

23:15 Happy poly moment

Kevin shares a happy family poly moment

24:45 How to make this podcast better

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here. Check out Poly Weekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review! Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”

513: Does dating poly make me poly? Apr 17, 2017

If I'm dating a poly married guy, am I poly? Can he be my core relationship? If I want a core relationship, do I have to go back to being monogamous?

Search our blog archives of all episode show notes at www.polyweekly.com

0:00 Introduction and host chat

Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com

Today’s cohost is Lusty Guy

1:30 Announcements and host chat

RelateCon was amazing! You should go next year!

5:45 Poly in the news

10:45 Topic: does dating poly make me poly?

A listener writes in to ask how to manage her self-identity as she is dating a man in a couple—what happens when she is ready to focus on a core relationship? Does she disclose her existing relationship? Break it off to pursue monogamy? Or can her sweetie be her core relationship?

You got questions; we’ve got answers!

26:20 Thank you!

Thanks to Spirit, and Craig for their donations! And welcome Blackbird, Fernando, Toby and Brenda to the Playmates!

28:50 How to make this podcast better

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here. Check out Poly Weekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review! Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”

512: How do I avoid being ghosted? Apr 12, 2017

My partner of seven months ghosted me. How can I avoid this in the future? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

0:00 Introduction and host chat

Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com

Today’s cohost is Kevin Patterson

1:30 Announcements and host chat

Foropoliamor is in Spain June 16-18

2:30 Poly in the news

I’m 90% honest; the 10% lying is why our relationship works

A cultural moment for polyamory on NPR

14:15 Topic: how do I avoid ghosting?

Listener Suzy writes in to ask how to avoid being ghosted (suddenly ceasing all communication with someone you are dating in lieu of breaking up)?

23:30 Feedback

Michael gives some kind positive feedback!
The Accessible Multi-linking and Polyamory virtual conference is coming up the first weekend in November

25:00 How to make this podcast better

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here. Check out Poly Weekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review! Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”

511: My metamour wants me to be out of the closet Mar 29, 2017

Help! My metamour wants to post about her relationship on social media, but I'm in the closet, which means she must be, too. Who decides when I come out?

Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com

Today’s cohost is Lusty Guy

1:30 Announcements and host chat

New ebook, No Dick Pics: Your Guide to Creating an Irresisitible Online Dating Profile for just $4.99
Do you love us? Tell a friend about us using #trypod (try this podcast)

4:25 Topic: who decides when I come out as poly?

M writes in to ask: my metamour Nina wants me to be out as poly so she can post about her relationship on social media and is convinced that M is only not coming out so she can hold on to her primary status. What to do?

20:20 Feedback

Alan wrote in to verify that yes, it’s usually the woman who asks for polyamory and to say he finds that Lusty Guy’s hedonism will give our opponents ammunition to use against polyamory
Anonymous poly doctor writes in to give feedback on episode 499 Coming out to your doctor and how to talk to your doctor about poly and STI screenings

32:00 Happy poly moment

Jodi shares a first public happy poly moment

33:30 How to make this podcast better

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here. Check out Poly Weekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review! Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”

510: The Smart Girl's Guide to Polyamory Mar 23, 2017

A chat with Dedeker Winston, author of The Smart Girl's Guide to Polyamory and host of the Multiamory podcast.

Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com

Today’s cohost is Lusty Guy

1:30 Host chat

Planet Money NPR podcast
And then what exercise
Lusty Guy's My Poly Story
Lusty Guy will be doing a Poly in the Heartland road trip. Email him at lustyguy@polyweekly.com if you want to be interviewed!
The Art of Three blog interview

9:10 Poly in the news

A New York judge has officially awarded custody to three parents in a landmark case
The Poly in the News coverage

14:20 Interview: Dedeker Winston, author of Smart Girl’s Guide to Polyamory

Dedeker Winston
The Smart Girl's Guide to Polyamory.
Facebook and Instagram at @dedekerwinston.
Multiamory podcast

37:45 Feedback

episode 501
episode 502on coming out to kids

43:00 Happy poly moment 47:10 Thank you! 49:00 How to make this podcast better

Email polyweekly@gmail.com
Call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY
Twitter
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write an iTunes review
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509: Loving less after a triad implosion Mar 16, 2017

Loving half a couple after a triad implodes. A listener asks: how do I love only the wife after our triad implodes and her husband won't talk to me? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

508: Poly profile: Ruby Johnson Mar 10, 2017

A poly activist profile with the organizer of Poly Dallas Millennium and LCSW, Ruby Bouie Johnson. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

507: How do I get control of my fears? Mar 02, 2017

How do I get control of my own fears to be able to handle poly sex situations better? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

506: What if I love him more than he loves me? Feb 23, 2017

What if I love him more than he loves me? Should I run to avoid risking deep emotional pain? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

505: How do I know if poly is right for me? Feb 19, 2017

We are trying poly for the first time; it was his idea. I like the idea, but I'm having a hard time. At what point do I decide if poly just isn't right for me? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

504: Solo Poly with AggieSez Feb 09, 2017

Solo poly and getting off the relationship escalator with Aggie Sez. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

503: How to love someone who is abused Feb 02, 2017

How to love someone who is in an abusive relationship. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly.

502: Am I too picky? Jan 26, 2017

I'm meeting lots of guys on OKCupid but can't find one I like. Am I being too picky or too impatient? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

501: Is it poly, or is it me? Jan 19, 2017

If three partners ran off to be in monogamous relationships, does that mean that poly doesn't work for me? Or is it me that isn't working? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

500: Dan Savage on polyamory Jan 11, 2017

How has Dan Savage's position on polyamory changed, and is he poly himself? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 499: Coming out to your doctor Jan 05, 2017

How and when to come out to your doctor and how to advocate for yourself when asking for STI screenings. Visit www.polyweekly.com for full show notes and episode archives. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.facebook.com/polyweekly.

PW 498: Help with Compersion Dec 21, 2016

Meet the creator and partial cast of Compersion, the new poly web series, who are not only awesome but fundraising for season two! Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 497: Advising a friend of a poly land mine Dec 19, 2016

How to advise a friend of a poly land mine you yourself dearly want to step on. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 496: Is a joint bank account too intimate? Dec 10, 2016

How do I ask my wife about my setting up a joint bank account to pay for trysts with my sweetie, which involve weekly dinners and a hotel stay? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 495: a poly glossary Dec 05, 2016

Key poly terms, defined, along with some fun new terms. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 494: Labeling your loves Nov 17, 2016

What do you call your partners? Lover, girlfriend, significant other, anchor? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 493: Asking for positive reinforcement Nov 11, 2016

We react to the U.S. presidential election. A listener writes in to ask what to do when you ask a partner to tell you you are loved and that your relationship is important, but the partner refuses to do so. Do you work on your insecurities that require the behavior? Get therapy? Or just leave? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 492: Asking out your metamours Oct 27, 2016

Is it OK to hit on my metamours? How do I do that without appearing lazy? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 491: Your poly ethics Oct 21, 2016

Questions to help you define your poly ethics. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 490: Boundaries vs rules Oct 14, 2016

Poly 101: what is the real difference between boundaries and rules? And do hierarchies work in poly?Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 489: The "other woman" in poly Oct 07, 2016

How "the other woman" archetype affects polyamory and polyamorists. Koe Creation cohosts. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 488: Negotiating metamour meets Sep 22, 2016

Help! My husband doesn't want to meet his metamours right away, but I do! How do we negotiate this?Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 487: When independence hurts Sep 15, 2016

What to do when one's need for autonomy and personal time causes one's partner grief. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 486: Introverts, extroverts and anxiety Sep 08, 2016

How to deal with the need for personal space, self-care and and partners with anxiety. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 485: Do I end my marriage over untried poly? Sep 06, 2016

Is desiring poly (without having tried it) a reason to end my marriage? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 484: Shifting time to match priorities Aug 25, 2016

Is it OK to shift my time commitments as my emotions and priorities change? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 483: Dealing with gossip after coming out Aug 18, 2016

How to deal with the gossip after coming out as poly. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 482: Dealing with a**holes in the poly community Aug 12, 2016

1:00 Poly movie review: The Ethical Slut, the web series 7:00 Topic: I don’t trust someone in my poly community. What do I do? 14:30 Feedback on episode 475: Hierarchies 20:45 Happy Poly Moment

PW 481: How much poly prep do I really need? Aug 06, 2016

A listener asks if she really needs to be 100% mentally healthy, stable and communicative before trying polyamory. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 480: Traversing gender with Lee Harrington Aug 01, 2016

We talk transgender awareness and alliances with Lee Harrington, author of the new book, Traversing Gender: Understanding Transgender Realities. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 479: What you need to know about diversity in poly Jul 25, 2016

What you need to know about diversity in polyamory: Koe Creation interviews Kevin Patterson, founder of the Poly Role Models blog.

Bonus: Minx's Bawdy story Jul 24, 2016

Minx's story told live at Bawdy Storytelling Seattle in May, 2016.

PW hiatus announcement May 22, 2016

We're going on hiatus for two months. See you again in July! Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

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PW 477: What's the trick to triads? May 05, 2016

What's the trick to triads? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 476: How do I know where I stand? Apr 28, 2016

How do I know where I stand with my new poly partner? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 475: When hierarchies collide Apr 20, 2016

How to cope when hierarchic labels get in the way of your relationships. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 474: Recapturing your innocence Apr 07, 2016

How do you recapture your joy after being hurt or abused? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 473: The myth of poly perfection Mar 31, 2016

Koe, our second generation poly cohost, shares thoughts on the myth of poly perfection. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 472: Minx coming out update Mar 24, 2016

Two years after coming out, Minx's family says "you're not welcome in Texas." Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 471: Emotional intelligence Mar 21, 2016

Laurie Ellington shares her insights on emotional intelligence. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 470: Do I have to date my species? Mar 10, 2016

Do I have to date my species? How bad is it if I like someone who is monogamous?Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 469: Non-sexual relationships Mar 03, 2016

The value and navigation of non-sexual relationships with Koe Creation. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 469: Non-sexual relationships Mar 03, 2016

The value and navigation of non-sexual relationships with Koe Creation. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 468: Talking to one partner about another partner Feb 25, 2016

When is it OK to vent about one partner to another partner? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 467 Metamour awesomeness with L Feb 18, 2016

L joins us to share her tips on being a great metamour. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 466 A Life Less Monogamous with Cooper Beckett Feb 11, 2016

Cooper Beckett talks about his new fiction novel, A Life Less Monogamous. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 465: Rules about beds Feb 04, 2016

What rules do you make about sleep and sex in your bed? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 464: Building your poly community Feb 01, 2016

How to build and grow a poly community in your area with Poly Columbus' Karen Hill and Neil Wehneman. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 463: The game changer Jan 25, 2016

Franklin Veaux joins the podcast to talk about his new autobiography, The Game Changer Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 462 Are hierarchies getting a bad rap? Jan 14, 2016

Are hierarchies getting a bad rap? What's so bad about calling someone "secondary"?Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 461: Designer relationships Dec 31, 2015

==Designer relationships with authors Mark A. Michaels and Patricia Johnson. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 460: Top 5 poly trends of 2015 Dec 24, 2015

How did the poly movement change in 2015? The top five trends. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 459: How to avoid polysaturation Dec 17, 2015

How to avoid polysaturation by saying "no" and taking care of yourself with cohost Koe Creation. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 458: Waking up your erotic elements Dec 10, 2015

Sexual empowerment coach Amy Jo Goddard shares her tips for awakening your erotic elements. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 457 My best friend just got married. Can we date now? Dec 04, 2015

My best friend just got married. Can she and I date now? How not to introduce polyamory to a relationship. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 456: Stories from the Polycule Nov 30, 2015

A chat with Stories from the Polycule anthology editor, author and expert witness Dr. Elisabeth Sheff. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 455: Triggering PTSD Nov 19, 2015

My partners have screaming matches that trigger my PTSD! What do I do? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 454: Is two new lovers double the fun? Nov 12, 2015

Is taking two new poly lovers at the same time double the fun or double the drama?Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 453: Loving your body Nov 05, 2015

Alyssa Royse shares insights on fitness and body image for people of all shapes and sizes.

Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 452: Poly on a budget Oct 29, 2015

Polyamory can be expensive! Koe and Minx share tips on how to live and date on a budget.

Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 451: Being party to a lie Oct 22, 2015

In a polyamorous relationship, is it OK to be party to someone else's lie? Is choosing not to facilitate a lie imposing your ethics on others? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 450: My metamour is a *&%$! to me Oct 15, 2015

What do I do if my metamour ignores, snubs or is rude to me? Can I ask my partner not to see her any more? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 449: Teaching consent at any age Oct 08, 2015

When and how do you teach kids consent? Alyssa Royse tells us! Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 448: What to do when you see gaslighting Sep 24, 2015

What to do when you see gaslighting. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 447: Poly people of color Sep 17, 2015

A discussion of diversity within the poly community with Brandon, Rompas and Koe. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 446: Kissing and... how much telling? Sep 10, 2015

How much sexual detail about one partner do you share with others? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 445: How to be a trans ally Sep 03, 2015

Minx and LustyGuy chat with Oblio about how to be a trans ally. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 444 When to stop lying Aug 27, 2015

Facing the HSV stigma and when to stop lying about whom you're dating. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 443: So you wanna be Poly Wan Kenobi Aug 20, 2015

Koe Creation cohosts and gives advice on dating newbies and being their introduction to polyamory. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 442: How I Knew I Was Trans Aug 13, 2015

An interview with Cass in Eugene, OR courtesy of As You Like It. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 441: How to have a threesome Aug 07, 2015

Wanna have a threesome? Sexpert Reid Mihalko shares his tips for getting past the awkward and to the fun! Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 440: A chat with Janet Hardy Aug 03, 2015

Q&A with Janet Hardy at As You Like It in Eugene, Oregon. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 439: How to come out to your social circles Jul 28, 2015

How and when do I come out to my social circle, especially that cute guy/gal that I like? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 438: Is poly marriage legalization next? Jul 12, 2015

The Supreme Court dissenters mention the slippery slope towards poly marriage as an argument against marriage equality. So is plural marriage next? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 437: Talking about money Jun 28, 2015

Uncomfortable talks about money. If you're the breadwinner, would you give your partner money for a date? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 436: Dating your species Jun 19, 2015

Reid Mihalko, the original sex geek, shares how to date your species. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 435: Metamour fears Jun 12, 2015

What do you do when you're intimidated by your unmet metamour? Meet her! Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 434: Five things that suck about polyamory Jun 04, 2015

Let's talk about what is really tough about being polyamorous in today's modern culture: five things that suck about polyamory. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 433: Breaking up is hard to do May 25, 2015

Breaking up is hard to do! How to cope with a poly breakup when losing a partner/metamour that you and your hubbie each feel differently about. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 432: Navigating poly vacations May 18, 2015

Navigating poly vacations. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 431: Dating a dishonest monogamist May 07, 2015

Takeaways from dating a dishonest monogamist with Minx and LustyGuy. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 430: Don't try polyamory before listening to this Apr 27, 2015

Know what everyone fears about polyamory--jealousy, being displaced, change? Those aren't what destroy relationships. Koe Creation and Cunning Minx review what does frak up relationships by referencing Veaux's and Rickert's Relationship Bill of Rights. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 429: OMG Girl Sex with Allison Moon Apr 20, 2015

OMG girl sex 101 with Allison Moon Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 428: Bawdy songstress Rachel Lark Apr 10, 2015

Bawdy songstress Rachel Lark tells how she went from angsty love songs to wildly popular naughty songs for Bawdy storytelling. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 427: Poly geezers with Ken Haslam Apr 06, 2015

Ever wonder about those poly folks in their 60s, 70s and 80s? Join the original poly geezer Ken Haslam to talk about polyamory over 60! Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 426: What YOU wish you'd known about poly Mar 30, 2015

In this 10-year anniversary episode, listeners share what they wish they'd known about poly, and Minx shares what she's learned from 10 years of podcasting with y'all. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 425: Dating again at 37 Mar 20, 2015

How to start dating in your 30s after divorcing the only partner you've ever had! Koe Creation cohosts. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 424: My suggestion backfired! Now what? Mar 15, 2015

What do you do when your well-intended solution to a relationship problem backfires? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 423: How to feel special Mar 07, 2015

How to feel special when you're not the only romantic partner in a poly relationship. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 422: Cooper's life on the swingset Feb 26, 2015

If you like Cooper Beckett on the Life on the Swingset podcast, you'll love this episode! Cooper talks about his new memoir, My Life on the Swingset, documenting his adventures in swinging and polyamory and gives us a special treat! Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 421: Poly didn't work, but I still want it! Feb 23, 2015

Diva and the Don call in to share their epic poly fail, own their shit and to ask how to recover from a classic episode of poly drama due to lack of faithfulness and abundance of micromanagement. LustyGuy cohosts. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 420: New voice on poly and disabilities Feb 14, 2015

A new poly activist shares her thoughts on being poly with disabilities. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 419: Long distance relationships Jan 30, 2015

Koe and Minx cohost this podcast on defining and sustaining long distance relationships. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 418: Emotional abuse Jan 24, 2015

Shannon Perez-Derby of the Northwest Network of Bisexual, Trans, Lesbian and Gay Survivors of Abuse, shares how to recognize, survive and support both survivors and perpetrators of emotional abuse. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 417: Senior Sex with Joan Price Jan 16, 2015

Senior sex kitten Joan Price shares the secrets of hot sex over 50. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 416: Growing up poly, the bad Jan 10, 2015

Is growing up in a poly household bad for the kids? Join Tiana, Susie and Koe, the adult children of polyamorous homes, as they share some of the negative effects of their upbringing. For the positive effects, check out episode 415. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 415: Growing up poly, the good stuff Jan 01, 2015

Koe, Tiana and Susie all grew up in polyamorous households. Listen as they discuss what it was like to grow up with awareness of polyamory and as they share their insights as to the positive effects of being raised in a poly home. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 414: Meeting LustyGuy's wife and my metamour, L! Dec 26, 2014

LustyGuy's wife and my metamour L shares her take on non-monogamy, jealousy and the secrets to non-monogamous relationship longevity. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 413: Polly Superstar! Dec 18, 2014

Poly in the news; interview with Polly Superstar about her new memoir, Polly: Sex Culture Revolutionary; More Than Two winners announced; Happy Poly Moment of the week. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 412: Relationship "rules" of order Dec 12, 2014

LustyGuy shares relationship best practices for relationships that kept him and L together in polyamory for 30 years. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 411: Poly for the holidays Dec 07, 2014

Advice from FBI hostage negotiators on dealing with your family over the holidays. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

Poly Weekly 410: The world according to Gottman Nov 28, 2014

A quick overview of psychologist John Gottman's research on relationships. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 409: Poly and disabilities Nov 21, 2014

What you need to know about polyamory and disabilities with special guest Shanna Katz. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 408: Time enough for love? Nov 06, 2014

Is he not that into me or is this how secondaries are treated? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 407: Poly ethics with Franklin Veaux and Eve Rickert Oct 30, 2014

A chat on ethics, the book tour and more with the co-authors of More Than Two, Franklin Veaux and Eve Rickert! Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 406: Negotiating from a "no" Oct 23, 2014

Negotiating from a "no." Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 405: Testing the poly waters with a monogamist Oct 16, 2014

Testing the poly waters with a long-time friend who is also monogamous. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 404: Is he poly or just chicken? Oct 07, 2014

Is he poly or just chicken? When the point of your vee won't communicate with your metamour, what do you do? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 403: Striking while the iron is cold Sep 24, 2014

Striking while the iron is cold: should you bring in a new poly partner when your current partner agreed to it years ago and you've become distant in the meantime? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 402: Poly Weekly live at CatalystCon Sep 19, 2014

Poly Weekly live at CatalystCon West with special guests Reid Mihalko and Charlie Glickman! Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 401: Fuzzy landmines Sep 08, 2014

Fuzzy landmines and invisible fences that the person entering an existing relationship often encounters--and how to make sure you're not the one making them! Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 400: Polyamory for introverts Sep 01, 2014

Being poly with introverts with guest Dan, dawn and Karen of Beyond the Love! Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 399: Poly Mythbusters Aug 22, 2014

Your favorite myths about polyamory, busted once and for all! Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 398: Poly-mono mix Aug 15, 2014

How do you cope with the challenges of polyamory when you self-identify as monogamous? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 397: Relationship land mines Jun 30, 2014

Minx and LustyGuy gives a few examples of relationship land mines for pre-pondering. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 396: Minx gets bawdy Jun 23, 2014

LustyGuy and Minx review the one-woman poly play Lust & Marriage and discuss an article on whether women want sex; Minx shares her Seattle Bawdy Storytelling experience! Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 395: Unbalanced triads Jun 06, 2014

How do you cope when your triad is unbalanced, and your new lover is more into your husband than you? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 394: Minx comes out! May 30, 2014

Minx comes out! Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 393: How to treat your metamour May 19, 2014

How to treat your metamour. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 392: Everything you ever wanted to know about poly May 10, 2014

Everything you ever wanted to know about polyamory but were afraid to ask, live from Debauchery! Attendees ask for and share advice on their poly queries. For full show notes, visit Poly Weekly.

PW 391: HPV Hope Apr 26, 2014

The straight dope on HPV with Danah Abarr of HPV Hope Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 390: How to date a girl Apr 19, 2014

How does a girl successfully and safely explore her bisexual side when in an existing heterosexual relationship? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 389: Intro to kink with MOLLENA! Apr 11, 2014

How do you safely enter the kink community and find people to play with? Mollena Williams, co-author of Playing Well With Others, gives advice. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 388: It's not about you Mar 31, 2014

For those who wrote in to argue on the everyone is doing poly wrong episode, thank you! And I stand by my message of tolerance rather than policing. Here's why! Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 387: Is monogamy natural? Mar 17, 2014

Are humans biologically or "naturally" monogamous, and why does it matter? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 386: Telling the emperor he has no clothes Mar 09, 2014

Telling the emperor he has no clothes: how do you bring up to the couple you're dating that you see unhealthy dynamics in their relationship? Is it your business? How do you bring up an outsider's perspective to an intimate relationshipw without looking like a homewrecker? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 385: Everyone is doing poly wrong, the podcast Mar 02, 2014

Everyone is doing poly wrong and needs to die in a fire: why we should stop poly policing and promote curiosity and tolerant conversation rather than enforcing One Way To Do Polyamory Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 384: Graydancer update Feb 23, 2014

What is Graydancer up to these days? We catch up with him at Winter Wickedness. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 383: Poly for Valentine's Day Feb 14, 2014

How does one celebrate this sexy holiday when one has entered an existing relationship? Advice for a happy poly Valentine's Day. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 382: Poly for realz Feb 07, 2014

Poly for realz! Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 381: Poly-rope-a-palooza with Lee Harrington Jan 30, 2014

How do polyamory and rope play intersect? An interview with Lee Harrington. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 380: Advice from your secondary Jan 18, 2014

What your secondary wants you to know. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 379: Owning your shit Dec 30, 2013

What does it mean to "own your own shit"? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 378: Poly dating on OKCupid Dec 01, 2013

Poly dating on OKCupid. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 377: What commitment means Nov 24, 2013

Why have a commitment ceremony, and what does it mean to us? Minx and LustyGuy share the motivation behind their commitment ceremony as well as the ceremony itself. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 376: When to bow out Nov 11, 2013

When do you bow out of a relationship? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 375: Minx's big announcement Nov 07, 2013

Minx's big announcement of an upcoming happy poly moment! Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 374: Four mistakes couples make when opening up Oct 26, 2013

Four classic mistakes couples make when opening up their relationships and how to avoid them, all with our amazing guest, Marcia Baczynski Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 373: Sex positive blowout at CatalystCon Oct 18, 2013

Sex positive blowout at CatalystCon--the full report! Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 372: Poly and progressive swinging Oct 12, 2013

Where polyamory and progressive swinging interact with Ginger, Dylan and Cooper of the Swingset podcast! Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 371: Poly and sex work Oct 03, 2013

How does polyamory overlap with sex work? The lovely and talented Sabrina Morgan shares her insights.Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 370: Keeping one bad relationship from affecting others Sep 26, 2013

How to keep one unhealthy or deteriorating relationship from affecting your other relationships. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 369: Getting over the poly hump Sep 19, 2013

How do you come to accept and embrace polyamory when it wasn't your idea? Franklin Veaux and Eve Rickert, who are currently crowdfunding a new poly 101 book, give advice! Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 368: Metamour cock block Sep 13, 2013

What do you do when your metamour cuts off communications with you? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 367: A day in the life of a pro domme/submissive Sep 05, 2013

A peek behind the curtain from a New York pro domme and submissive, immortalized in the film Remedy by Cheyenne Picardo. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 366: Poly in small town America Aug 31, 2013

How do you meet people and poly date when you live in small town America? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 365: Building your poly community Aug 20, 2013

Building your local poly community with meetups.Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 364: In love and vetoed Aug 15, 2013

What to do when you've fallen in love with a partner and get vetoed out of the relationship. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 363: New to poly; same old drama Jul 19, 2013

In this advice episode, a listener asks what to do. He's new to poly and kink and dating a submissive who is monogamous, married and concealing the relationship from her husband.

The power of introverts and orgasms at the gym. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 362: The Killer Wore Leather Jul 12, 2013

Interview with Laura Antoniou, author of the new tongue-in-check murder mystery novel set at a BDSM convention, The Killer Wore Leather.

The power of introverts and orgasms at the gym. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 361: How many partners is too many? Jun 24, 2013

How many polyamorous partners is too many? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 360: Crowdsourcing jealousy Jun 08, 2013

Crowdsourcing jealousy: what are your tips for addressing it? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 359: Being out and pregnant Jun 01, 2013

How to deal with questions and judgments when you're obviously poly and obviously pregnant. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 358: There's an app for that! May 15, 2013

Get ready to get your geek on, 'cuz this week we're talking about apps that facilitate poly relationships!Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 357: How much sex is "normal"? May 05, 2013

In a committed relationship, how much sex is too much? How much is too little? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 356: The poly hype cycle Apr 27, 2013

The poly hype cycle.Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 355: Does penis size matter? Apr 21, 2013

Does penis size matter? The study. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 354: Wife Swap Apr 05, 2013

This week, an episode of the reality show Wife Swap aired, featuring a polyamorous family swapping with gun- and bible-toting tea baggers. Who comes off better? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 353: The polynormativity problem Mar 15, 2013

Andrea Zanin shares thoughts on the issue with polynormativity. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY or leave a comment at www.polyweekly.com.

PW 352: Prostate pleasure and health Mar 09, 2013

Charlie Glickman and Aislinn Emirzian talk prostate pleasure and health. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly, visit our Facebook page or leave a comment at polyweekly.com

PW 350: To fight or not to fight... for poly marriage Feb 27, 2013

Is the fight for legalization of poly marriage worth it? Why or why not? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY or leave a comment at the blog at www.polyweekly.com

PW 351: Mono-poly with Mo Feb 27, 2013

The ins and outs of a mono-poly D/s relationship with the amazing Mollena Williams. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY or leave a comment at www.polyweekly.com.

PW 349: Poly relationship models Feb 17, 2013

Considering polyamory? Nurse and counselor Kathy Labriola shares three basic poly relationship models to consider. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 348: Hwo to deal with a partner's jealousy Jan 25, 2013

How to deal with a partner's jealousy.Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 347: How being kinky prepared me to be poly Jan 20, 2013

How being kinky prepared me to be poly with Lily Lloyd. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 346: Poly and Asperger's Jan 11, 2013

Can people with Asperger's be poly? Does polyamory help Aspy's folks? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 345: Poly for the holidays Jan 04, 2013

Poly for the holidays, poly movie nights and happy poly moments!Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 344: Consent is sexy Dec 24, 2012

Consent is sexy! Two kerfuffles that arose this week: one on nice men rape, too from the Good Men Project and the other, a clever spoof of Victoria's Secret. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 343: The care and feeding of non-primaries Dec 11, 2012

An essential listen for any couple opening up a relationship! AggieSez of the SoloPoly blog on how to treat non-primary partners well. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 342: Getting over your Dom Nov 28, 2012

How to deal with the loss of your poly Dom.Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 341: Poly professional woman Nov 05, 2012

How do you find time to date more than one person when you're a busy professional gal? (Rebroadcast)Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 340: How to argue Oct 30, 2012

How to fight fair in an argument with your sweetie(s).Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 339: Dating someone whose relationship is doomed Oct 23, 2012

How do you date someone whose marriage is falling apart? The PW team and listeners give advice. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY or leave a comment at the show blog at www.polyweekly.com Like this episode? Tweet us!

PW 338: Swingset orgy blowout! Oct 20, 2012

Get your condoms and lube ready as the crew of the Life on the Swingset podcast joins Poly Weekly for a non-monogamous orgy mashup!Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 337: Successful Non-monogamy with Marcia B! Oct 13, 2012

Successful non-monogamy with Marcia Baczinski.Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 336: Moving out without moving on Oct 01, 2012

Moving out without moving on: how to change living arrangements while preserving the relationship. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 335: The Taormino kink advice line Sep 27, 2012

Author, educator and sexpert Tristan Taormino answers your poly questions about kink. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 334: The Ultimate Guide to Kink Sep 14, 2012

Tristan Taormino, author and editor of the new Ultimate Guide to Kink, shares why the book was created and who should read it.Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 333: This week in poly Sep 09, 2012

This week in poly: a three-way union in Brazil, the Republican guide to the female anatomy and a new solo poly blog. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 332: The reality behind Showtime's poly TV Aug 25, 2012

A peek behind the reality TV curtain with Anthony and Vanessa from Showtime's Polyamory: Married and Dating.Email polyweekly@gmail.com, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 331: The schedule dance Aug 15, 2012

Herbalwise asks about how to schedule a new partner while being considering of the life partner. Minx and LustyGuy give advice.Email polyweekly@gmail.com, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 330: From two to three: advice on opening up a couple Aug 09, 2012

From two to three: how to open up a couple--advice from your potential third. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 329: "Reality" polyamory on Showtime Jul 31, 2012

How real is reality TV when it covers polyamory? Polyamory: Married and Dating on Showtime. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 328: My three dads Jul 26, 2012

The proposed law in California that might make it possible for a child to have more than two legal parents. Also, movie reviews of Savages, a poly-friendly film. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 327: Help! I'm rich with a big penis! Jul 17, 2012

Minx and LustyGuy give advice to a listener whose money and big dick often make his metamours jealous. What's a well-hung guy to do? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 326: Negotiating poly within tantra Jul 03, 2012

Our South African correspondent brings an interview with practicing tantrists Andrew and Shima, who are also negotiating a non-monogamous relationship. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 325: Vaginas in the news Jun 27, 2012

Vaginas in the news, from banned lawmakers to pay-per-click pussy. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 324: Poly parenting with Sierra Black Jun 19, 2012

Poly parenting with Sierra Black. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 323: Everything you need to know about the church and gay marriage Jun 14, 2012

Everything you need to know about the church and gay marriage with Dr. Dick. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 322: 50 Shades of Wrong Jun 08, 2012

Just how 50 Shades of Gray got BDSM wrong. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 321: Avoiding meetup drama May 31, 2012

Help! I've started a poly meetup, but now there is drama in the group! Advice on playing well with others as a group founder/leader from Allena Gabosch, Director of the CSPC. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or Our Facebook Page

PW 320: I hate my metamour! May 18, 2012

I think I hate my metamour. What do I do? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 319: Marriage by choice May 10, 2012

Marriage by choice rather than peer pressure. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 318: The New Monogamy May 02, 2012

The New Monogamy with Dr. Tammy Nelson. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 317: Rules redux Apr 26, 2012

Franklin Veaux and Minx tackle YOUR feedback on poly rules--what works and what doesn't. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 316: Queer is a verb Apr 16, 2012

Dr. Charlie Glickman on queer as a verb and the origins of Good Vibrations. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 315: What would monogamists do? Apr 10, 2012

Post-MomentumCon recap and a look at the "what would monogamists do" guiding question.Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 314: Rituals and labels - what carries meaning? Apr 02, 2012

Rituals, definitions and labels with Lee Harrington. What carries meaning and why? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 313: Everyday ecstasy and thinking off Mar 27, 2012

Barbara Carrellas, author of Ecstasy is Necessary, on how to access tantric ecstasy--for the rest of us. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 312: Power of introverts and orgasms at the gym Mar 22, 2012

The power of introverts and orgasms at the gym. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 311: Rules? We don't need no stinkin' rules! Mar 13, 2012

Making poly rules: why it rarely works and what to do instead, with guest host Franklin Veaux. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or leave a comment at the blog.

PW 310: Poly by orientation vs poly by situation Mar 06, 2012

Poly by orientation vs poly by situation--do both work? Can you choose to be poly to deal with a relationship issue? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit the blog (and show notes) at www.polyweekly.com

PW 309: the Myth of Sex Addiction Feb 28, 2012

The Myth of Sex Addiction, a new book, with author and clinical psychologist Dr. David Ley. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 308: Poly in America in the Month of Love Feb 20, 2012

Poly in America for the month of love. 1:00 host chat - 4:20 Topic: what it means to be poly in America around Valentine's Day 2012 and current news stories citing nonmonogamy - 22:10 Feedback with a correction from Musqurat and a self-identity piece from Fred.

Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 307: A Year of Sex with Mia Martina Feb 13, 2012

A Year of Sex with Mia Martina: her explorations into New York sex clubs. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 306: Polyamory vs Polygamy Feb 06, 2012

The differences between modern polyamory and traditional polygamy. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or leave a comment at the blog.

PW 305: You might be poly if... Jan 30, 2012

You might be poly if... Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 304: The autonomy-intimacy scale Jan 24, 2012

Kathy Labriola discusses the autonomy-intimacy scale and how it might be affecting your relationship. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 303: Poly communication tips with Kathy Labriola Jan 18, 2012

Kathy Labriola, a poly counselor and nurse and author of Love in Abundance, offers her tips for communication within open relationships. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 302: When metamours attack Jan 10, 2012

Joreth, Puck and Minx give advice to a gal in a situation with a controlling and uncommunicative metamour. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 301: The metamour approach Jan 03, 2012

How do you approach a third for a threesome or just one-on-one dating? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 300: Celebrating YOU the listeners Dec 20, 2011

Celebrating you the listeners--with content by you.Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 299: Poly Professional Women Dec 13, 2011

How does a poly woman who works long hours and puts her career first find time and energy to date? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 298: The care and feeding of drama Dec 06, 2011

The care and feeding of your poly drama (and how to avoid it)! Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 297: Poly for the holidays Nov 30, 2011

Poly for the holidays advice session with cohosts Joreth and Puck. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 296: Open relationship versus polyamory Nov 21, 2011

What's the difference between an open relationship and a polyamorous one? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 295: Geeky Kink Nov 15, 2011

Review from the Geeky Kink event in New Jersey. mail polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 294: The HSV blues Nov 08, 2011

The HSV blues--what having or not having HSV actually means and how to cope. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 293: It's not them; is IT you Nov 01, 2011

Dealing with difficult people? It's not them; it IS you! Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 292: How not to be a douche Oct 25, 2011

How not to be a douche on FetLife and other poly/kink community and dating sites. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 291: Yes means yes Oct 18, 2011

Cohosts Joreth, Franklin and Puck cover the Yes Means Yes movement. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 290: Football-loving poly Oct 12, 2011

Where does a red-blooded, beer-drinking, football-watching, lawn-mowing guy go to meet the poly girl next door? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 289: The Sister Wives lawsuit--and why you should care Oct 03, 2011

Alan from Polyamory in the Media covers the new Sister Wives lawsuit--and why polyamorists should get on board. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 288: The collision of geeks and kink Sep 25, 2011

The collision of sci-fi geekery and BDSM kink; why do they so often go hand in hand? Special guests Teresa Jusino and Pendard share their insights. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 287: 10 Principles of Burning (Poly!) Man Sep 20, 2011

Applying the 10 principles of Burning Man to polyamory with Joe Zarate-Sanderlin. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 286: Minx's post-Burn burnout Sep 14, 2011

Minx's personal journal of her first Burning Man experience. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 285: Advice for poly newbies Aug 30, 2011

Advice for poly newbies from Anita Wagner at Polycamp Northwest! Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit our Facebook page or blog.

PW 284: The passive aggressive partner Aug 23, 2011

Passive aggressive behavior - what is it good for? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 283: Building poly community Aug 15, 2011

Building poly community - from the Pillow Palace at PolyCamp Vancouver Island! Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 282: Naked in Vancouver Aug 09, 2011

Journal of PolyCamp Vancouver Island. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 281: Infidelity will keep us together Jul 17, 2011

Dan Savage's take on nonmonogamy: infidelity will keep us together. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 280: Kinkster Advice Line Jul 12, 2011

Kinkster advice line with Raven Kalera, answering your questions about BDSM and poly. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 279: Polyamory and BDSM Jul 04, 2011

Raven Kaldera on Polyamory and Power Circuits--for the BDSM practitioner. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

PW 278: Joys of sexting Jun 28, 2011

Is sexting cheating and the pyramid of cheating. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly, visit www.facebook.com/polyweekly or the blog at www.polyweekly.com

PW 277: Jealousy and courage Jun 12, 2011

Jealousy and courage with Franklin Veaux. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly, visit www.facebook.com/polyweekly or visit the blog at www.polyweekly.com

PW 276: "Okay" is a four-letter word Jun 06, 2011

"Okay" is a four-letter word. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or Facebook at or our blog at www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly 275: Introverts and Extroverts May 30, 2011

Introverts vs. extroverts, a topical rebroadcast from 2007. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly, visit our Facebook page or the blog at www.polyweekly.com

PW 274: Am I jealous? May 23, 2011

Listener Wendy describes her situation and asks for advice. Jerith, Pepper and Franklin cohost. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly, comment on the Facebook page or our blog.

PW 273: You're not as kinky as you think May 17, 2011

Massive internet survey determines "there's no such thing as sexual deviance." Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or @cunningminx or leave a comment on our Facebook Page or at the blog: www.polyweekly.com

PW 272: Monogamous Privilege Checklist May 09, 2011

Monogamous Privilege with Cory and Kate. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or @cunnngminx, Like our Facebook page at www.facebook.com/polyweekly or leave a comment on the blog at www.polyweekly.com

PW 271: Secondary to primary May 02, 2011

From listener Amy: what do you do when you are a secondary who longs for the benefits of being primary? Cohosts Franklin Veaux, Joreth and Pepper weigh in. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or @cunningminx, leave a comment on our Facebook page or blog.

PW 270: The State of Poly in the News in 2011 Apr 24, 2011

Alan of Poly in the Media blog reviews state of poly in the news in 2011 at Atlanta Poly Weekend. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, Twitter @polyweekly or @cunningminx, friend us on Facebook or visit www.polyweekly.com

PW 269: Modern Poly Movement Apr 19, 2011

The modern poly movement and new poly events with Jessica Karels. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly, enage on Facebook or visit www.polyweekly.com

PW 268: Sociology of Poly Families Apr 12, 2011

New research into poly families with sociologist Elisabeth Sheff. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or @cunningminx or visit www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly 267: Poly in Atlanta... and sci-fi Apr 01, 2011

Poly in Atlanta at Atlanta Poly Weekend and a review of poly sci-fi novel Triptych. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly 266: Poly in "Reality" TV Mar 17, 2011

Polyamory on TV: Charlie Sheen, Sister Wives reality show. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly 265: Lady Porn Day Feb 22, 2011

Lady porn day, a celebration and discussion of women's relationship with porn. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, Twitter @polyweekly, call 206-202-POLY, visit us on Facebook or visit the blog at www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly 264: Wait; we're monogamous? Feb 18, 2011

A study shows that 40% of couples disagree over whether they are monogamous. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly, visit us on Facebook or at www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly 263: STIpalooza, part 2 Jan 24, 2011

STIpalooza part two! Everything you need to know about HSV and HPV. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly, visit www.polyweekly.com for show notes or our Facebook page for updates

Poly Weekly 262: Pimp my boobs! Jan 17, 2011

This year a vidcast, Pimp my boobs is the lighthearted fun episode in which listeners decorate their boobies in order to spread holiday joy. :-)

Poly Weekly Bonus: Canadian Polygamy Legislation Dec 26, 2010

Zoe Duff and Carol Chanteuse on the efforts to defeat Canadian anti-polygamy laws, recorded with permission at Poly Living West Coast 2010. Visit CPAA, Loving More and Poly Weekly.

Poly Weekly 261: The STI Special, part 1 Dec 24, 2010

Dane Ballard and Danah Abarr share the down-low on HSV, HPV and Sinplex weekend. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly, fan us on Facebook or visit www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly 260: Replacing "primary" and "secondary" Nov 30, 2010

Replacing the awful terms "primary" and "secondary," with special cohost Steve Eley, formerly of Escape Pod. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, Twitter @polyweekly, visit our Facebook page or leave a comment at the blog.

Poly Weekly 259: Mo and the Magic Banana Nov 22, 2010

Mollena Williams on a monogamous-identified gal trying poly. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com.

Poly Weekly 258: The online kinkster Nov 18, 2010

Princess Kali of the Kink Academy. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @poly or visit www.polyweekly.com

Bonus: Poly and Single: Poly Dating 101 Nov 17, 2010

Poly and Single: Poly Dating 101, presented at the Poly Living Seattle conference on October 23, 2010.

Poly Weekly 257: Is it all about the sex? Nov 08, 2010

Is it all about the sex? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly, visit our Facebook page or visit www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly 256: Sex at Dawn Nov 04, 2010

Sex at Dawn co-author Christopher Ryan. Let's talk bonobos! Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit the blog or our Facebook page.

Poly Weekly 255: A Poly Vagabond Oct 31, 2010

Review of the wonderful Poly Living conference. Plus, a poly vagabond--interview with Jason Flores, a poly traveling musician. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or our Facebook page.

PW 254: Is marriage out of style? Oct 18, 2010

Is marriage going out of style? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit the new blog at www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly 253: Allena Gabosch, Sex Positive Activist Oct 11, 2010

More stories from Allena Gabosch on her sex-positive journey. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly , friend us on Facebook or visit the NEW blog at www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly 252: Allena Gabosch Oct 04, 2010

The first half of the long-awaited interview with the Center for Sex Positive Culture's Allena Gabosch, on the origins of the Center. Comment at Poly Weekly. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, or Twitter @polyweekly.

Poly Weekly 251: Boobs or hair? Sep 19, 2010

Boobs or hair? And listener feedback. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or leave a comment at www.polyweekly.com.

Poly Weekly 250: Poly Parenting Q & A Sep 13, 2010

Matt Bullen and Terisa Greenan (Family the web series) share their own experiences with parenting in a poly situation and their thoughts of explaining poly to kids in an age-appropriate way. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly, Like us on Facebook or visit www.polyweekly.com.

Poly Weekly 249: Poly Parenting Sep 07, 2010

Matt Bullen and Terisa Greenan (Family the web series) share their own experiences with parenting in a poly situation and their thoughts of explaining poly to kids in an age-appropriate way. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly, Like us on Facebook or visit www.polyweekly.com.

Poly Weekly 248: Three Wise Women Aug 28, 2010

Three Wise Women: Deborah Anapol, Dossie Easton, Serena Anderlini d'Onofrio. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly 247: What is OK in poly? Aug 18, 2010

What is OK in poly? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly, visit www.polyweekly.com or Facebook at www.facebook.com/polyweekly

Poly Weekly 246: Poly Teen Polina Aug 04, 2010

Joreth and Pepper interview Polina about being poly and a teenager. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly 245: Media Whoring, Part 2 Jul 30, 2010

Media Whoring Panel at Sex 2.0--second half. And a review of Shine, a Burlesque Musical. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly 244: Media Whoring at Sex 2.0 Jul 08, 2010

Media Whoring panel at Sex 2.0 with Reid Mihalko, Veronica Monet, MayMay, Danielle Sipple and Jasen Bartlett. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, Twitter @polyweekly, call 206-202-POLY or visit www.polyweekly.com.

Poly Weekly 243: Time for Poly Camp! Jun 24, 2010

Quintus talks about organizing Poly Camp and his poly life. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly 242: Modern Poly with Jessica Karels Jun 14, 2010

Modern poly with Jessica Karels. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, Twitter @polyweekly, call 206-202-POLY or visit www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly 241: Kink on Tap Chat + Giveaway Jun 09, 2010

MayMay and Emma, hosts of Kink on Tap, give away a poly weekend for two to PW listeners! Visit www.polyweekly.com, call 206-202-POLY, email polyweekly@gmail.com or Twitter @polyweekly.

Poly Weekly 240: J.D. Sawyer counts Down from Ten Jun 07, 2010

J.D. Sawyer discusses his podcast novel, Down from Ten, with poly themes. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com.

Poly Weekly 239: Poly teenager Jun 02, 2010

Joreth and Minx interview Josh, a poly teenager. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, Twitter @polyweekly, call 206-202-POLY or visit www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly 238: Happy Poly Moments May 25, 2010

Happy poly moments. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or, for show notes, visit www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly 237: Personal Growth with Steve Pavlina Apr 27, 2010

Steve Pavlina, personal growth guru, discusses his public explorations of poly. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly 236: Wills the gays get there before the polys? Apr 15, 2010

Will the gays get there before the polys? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, Twitter @polyweekly, visit www.polyweekly.com or call 206-202-POLY.

Poly Weekly 235: Sex Blogger Roundtable Mar 30, 2010

A chat with awesome sex bloggers at SXSW! Nina Hartley talks about her new community, SexWise; Lisa Vandevere, Goose, Miss Julie Sunday, Sexy Sadie and yours truly. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, Twitter @polyweekly, join our Facebook Page or visit the blog at www.polyweekly.com.

Poly Weekly 234: Sex at SXSW Mar 23, 2010

Sex at SXSW. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly 233: What is "sex"? Mar 13, 2010

What is "sex" to you? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #232: Who gets to be the primary? Mar 09, 2010

Who's the primary? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, Twitter polyweekly, call 206-202-POLY or visit www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #231: Poly and the media Feb 27, 2010

Poly and the media--how to deal with reporters and media coverage, a panel from the Arisia sci-fi convention. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com to comment.

Poly Weekly #230: Kink and poly mix Feb 26, 2010

Kink and poly--how do they mix? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit the blog at www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #229: Mark Yu: bondage & poly in Portland Feb 10, 2010

Mark Yu of Jade Gate Studio, rope bondage dude and poly guy. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com. For Poly Weekly iPhone app users, this week's show also contains bonus audio content on dating #Mojo points!

Poly Weekly #228: Does poly cause atheism? Feb 02, 2010

Irreligion: does poly create atheists? Joreth cohosts. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #227: Black Box Republic Jan 26, 2010

Sam Lawrence and April of new sex-positive community site, Black Box Republic. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com for full show notes and links.

Poly Weekly #226: How to choose a partner Jan 18, 2010

How to choose/vet a poly partner. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or the Poly Weekly Facebook Page.

Poly Weekly #225: Modern Poly Fundraiser Jan 14, 2010

Postmodern poly! Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or leave a comment at www.polyweekly.com or on our Facebook page.

Poly Weekly #224: Modern Poly Jan 03, 2010

The new Modern Poly activist website; poly for the holidays. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #223: Communicating while angry & Realism in relationships Dec 14, 2009

Communication while angry and realism in relationships. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, Twitter polyweekly, call 206-202-POLY or visit www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #222: Metamours, Change and Insecurity Dec 10, 2009

Metamours and change--dealing with insecure metamours and managing expectations. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #221: This American Life & Infidelity Nov 23, 2009

Infidelity as covered by This American Life. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #220: Gaia and a Poly Planet Nov 16, 2009

Gaia blessings with Serena Anderlini-d'Onofrio. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #219: Success and Divorce Nov 10, 2009

Success and divorce with cohosts PepperMint and Joreth. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #218: Poly in the UK Nov 02, 2009

Graham Nicholls on polyamory in the UK. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #217: Do the math Oct 26, 2009

Do the math. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 202-202-POLY, Twitter polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #216: Is polygamy feminist? Oct 19, 2009

Is polygamy feminist? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY or Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #215: Christianity and Sexual Ethics Oct 09, 2009

Christianity and sexual ethics--Simon LeClerk gives one view. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com.

Poly Weekly #214: Objectumsexuals Oct 04, 2009

Objectumsexuals. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY or visit www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #213: Group Sex and Orgies Sep 27, 2009

Group Sex and Orgies! Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY or leave a comment at www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #212: Polymorphous serial polygamists snatch babies Sep 11, 2009

Polymorphous serial polygamists snatch babies! Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter cunningminx or visit www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #211: Listener Feedback Frenzy Sep 02, 2009

Listener feedback frenzy! Email cunningminx@gmail.com, calll 206-202-POLY, Twitter cunningminx or visit www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #210: I'm jealous of Facebook! Aug 17, 2009

I'm jealous of Facebook! Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter cunningminx or visit www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #209: Poly hits Newsweek! Aug 06, 2009

Polyamory hits Newsweek! Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, or visit www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #208: Erotica for you and me! Jul 25, 2009

Erotica for you and me! Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter cunningminx or visit www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #207: The death of the 2-parent marriage (so what?) Jul 15, 2009

The death of the two-parent American marriage. And we care because... ? Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter cunningminx or visit www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #206: If Sanford were polyamorous Jul 07, 2009

If Sanford were polyamorous. Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter cunningminx or visit www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #205: Catchup with Minx Jun 28, 2009

Minx catches up; Shibaricon. Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY or visit www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #204: Polyamory at Sex 2.0 May 19, 2009

Polyamory at Sex 2.0. Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter cunningminx or visit www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #203: Poly History 201 with Oberon Zell May 04, 2009

Poly history 201 with Oberon Zell Ravenheart. Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter cunningminx or visit www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #202: Poly History 101 Apr 30, 2009

Poly History 101. Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter cunningminx or visit www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #201: Would dating this person make you less jealous? Apr 20, 2009

Would dating this person make you less jealous? Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter cunningminx or visit www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #200: What I've Learned about Poly Apr 13, 2009

What I learned about polyamory--and what you've learned! Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter cunningminx or visit www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #199: All my love Apr 06, 2009

All My Love, the new play about open marriage in Chicago. Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter cunningminx or visit www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #198: 12 Pillars of Polyamory Mar 30, 2009

The 12 pillars of polyamory by Ken Haslam. Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter or Facebook Cunningminx or visit the blog at www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #197: Monogamy at Poly Living Mar 24, 2009

Monogamy at Poly Living 2009--an interview with Gini and Lauren. Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter cunningminx, leave a comment at www.polyweekly.com or participate in the forums at forum.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #196: Jealousy Roundtable Mar 15, 2009

Jealousy discussion from Conflation. Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter cunningminx or visit www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #195: Victorian (Steampunk) Polyamory Mar 09, 2009

Victorian Steampunk polyamory--roundtable from Conflation. Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter cunningminx or visit www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #194: How to Have a Happy Relationship, Pt. 2 Mar 01, 2009

How to have a healthy relationship with Tacit. Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter or Facebook cunningminx or visit www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #193: How to Have a Happy Relationship Feb 24, 2009

How to have a happy relationship--great observations and advice from Tacit (Franklin Veaux). Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter cunningminx, become a fan on Facebook or visit the blog at www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #192: Sex Positive Feb 15, 2009

The new Chicago film festival, Sex Postive--an interview with Clarisse Thorn. Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter cunningminx or visit the blog at www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #191: Feast of Love Feb 07, 2009

Let's all celebrate the Feast of Love on Feb. 15th! Email cunningminx@gmail.com, 206-202-POLY, Twitter or Facebook cunningminx or visit www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #190: Poly Families Feb 02, 2009

Poly families with Valerie White. Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter cunningminx or visit www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #189: Coming Out Poly Jan 26, 2009

Coming out poly in Milwaukee! Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter cunningminx or visit www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #188: When polys get together Jan 22, 2009

Live from Minx's San Francisco birthday party--this is what polys talk about when they get together! Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter cunningminx or visit www.polyweekly.com.

Poly Weekly #187: Is he not that into me? Jan 17, 2009

Is he not all that into me? Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter cunningminx or visit the blog at www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #186: It would be easier if... Jan 05, 2009

It would be easier if... no, it wouldn't! Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter cunningminx or visit www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #185 PHOTOS: Pimp My Boobs, m4a with photos! Dec 29, 2008

The photo version of the Pimp My Boobs episode 185! Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter cunningminx or visit www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #185: Pimp My Boobs! Dec 29, 2008

Pimp My Boobs out holiday-style! Contestants and winners of the 2008 Pimp My Boobs competition. Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter cunningminx or visit www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #184: Poly for the holidays Dec 22, 2008

Poly for the holidays. Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter cunningminx or leave a comment at the blog at www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #183: Three poly must-have books Dec 13, 2008

Book suggestions and a happy poly moment! Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter cunningminx or visit www.polyweekly.com.

Poly Weekly #182: How to welcome a new metamour Dec 05, 2008

Welcoming a new metamour into your poly family. Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter cunningminx or visit www.polyweekly.com.

Poly Weekly #181: Your first poly munch Nov 25, 2008

Your first poly munch--how to host one and how to attend one without being creepy. Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter cunningminx or visit www.polyweekly.com.

Poly Weekly #180: Is a "happy ending" cheating? Nov 17, 2008

Is a "happy ending" cheating--what is your definition? Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter cunningminx or visit the blog at www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #179: Listener Feedback Extravaganza! Nov 09, 2008

Listener feedback extravaganza! Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter cunningminx or visit the blog at www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #178: Five things to say on a date Nov 02, 2008

Five things to say on a date; ten things not to say on a date. Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter cunningminx or visit www.polyweekly.com or the forums at http://forum.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #177: Poly and Proud, Part Deux Oct 19, 2008

More from NY Poly Pride: Birgitte Philippides, Reid and Marcia of Cuddle Parties and Pete Benson. Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter cunningminx, visit www.polyweekly.comor participate in the forums.

Poly Weekly #176: Poly and Proud! Oct 13, 2008

Poly and proud! Interviews from New York Poly Pride last weekend. Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter cunningminx or leave a comment at www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly: #175 Kalosexual? Oct 06, 2008

Polyweekly #175 Kalosexual?Creating a word for being turned on by sexual honesty. Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-poly, twitter cunningminx or visit www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #174: Fearless Communication Sep 27, 2008

How do I speak up?--fearless communication. Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter cunningminx or www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #173: Jenny Block is "Open" Sep 22, 2008

An interview with Jennie Block: Open, Love, Sex and Life in an Open Marriage. Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter cunningminx, visit the blog at www.polyweekly.com or the forums at http://forum.polyweekly.com. Or join the Poly Weekly Hooligans on Facebook.

Poly Weekly #172: How to Communicate; PolyCamp Toronto Sep 16, 2008

How to communicate with someone who is finding communication difficult; PolyCamp Toronto report. Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter cunningminx or leave a comment at www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #171: But Cheating is in my Genes! Sep 06, 2008

The monogamy/cheating gene? Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter cunningminx, visit the blog at www.polyweekly.com or the forums at http://forum.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #170: Loving More with Robyn Trask Aug 31, 2008

An interview with Robyn Trask of Loving More. www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #169: Quit hurting my partner! Aug 23, 2008

How to deal with being angry with your metamours when they hurt your partner. Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter cunningminx or visit the blog at www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #168: If you don't like it, you can't have any Aug 16, 2008

If you don't like it, you can't have any: an interview with Oberon Zell. Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter cunningminx or visit the blog at www.polyweekly.com.

Poly Weekly #167: Real people open up Aug 11, 2008

Real people open up: the online PW book club discusses Tristan Taormino's Opening Up. Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter cunningminx or comment at the blog at www.polyweekly.com.

Poly Weekly #166: "Okay" is a four-letter word Aug 04, 2008

"Okay" is a four-letter word. Ban it from your language! Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter cunningminx, visit www.polyweekly.com or the forums.

Poly Weekly #165: Polyamory in Metamor City Jul 28, 2008

Polyamory in Metamor City, a chat with Chris Lester on the specific polyamory in the science-fiction world he created. Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter cunningminx, leave a comment at www.polyweekly.com or participate in the forums at http://forum.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #164: Ten Poly Do's Jul 20, 2008

Ten poly do's--your own guidelines for polyamory! Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter cunningminx or visit www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #163: I Vant to Be Alone Jul 14, 2008

I vant to be alone--ever want periods of focus and attention, for yourself or with your partner? Is that normal for poly folks? Let's discuss! Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter cunningminx, visit the blog at www.polyweekly.com or the forums at http://forum.polyweekly.com.

Poly Weekly #162: Swingtown and Swinging Jul 07, 2008

Reviews of CBS's new series, Swingtown, and what that means for us non-monogamous types. Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter cunningminx or visit the blog at www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #161: Bitterness & Frubble Listener Feedback Jun 29, 2008

Listener feedback special: bitterness, frubble and more on where to meet poly people. Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter cunningminx or visit the blog at www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #160: Tristan Taormino Answers Your Questions Jun 20, 2008

Tristan Taormino answers listener questions about her new book, Opening Up! And Miss Poly Manners discusses who sits in the front seat of the car. Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter cunningminx, join the forums at http://forum.polyweekly.com or leave a comment at the blog at www.polyweekly.com.

Poly Weekly #159: Tristan Taormino Opens Up Jun 16, 2008

Tristan Taormino talks about her new book, Opening Up. Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY or Twitter cunningminx. Visit the blog at www.polyweekly.com and leave a comment, or participate in the forums at http://forum.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #158: How to Hit on People Jun 07, 2008

How do you hit on people in the first place, mono or poly? Expressing interest and following through. Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter cunningminx or post at the blog at www.polyweekly.com or the forums at forum.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly Public Service Announcement Jun 04, 2008

A plea for help from a fellow podcaster, Chris Fisher, plus Minx asks for support to the Midwest Teen Sex Show. Donate to them here if you can!

Poly Weekly #157: RTFM! Jun 01, 2008

RTFM! Write and read the user's manual for YOU! Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter cunningminx or visit the blog at www.polyweekly.com or the forums at forum.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #156: Practical Polyamory with Tacit May 24, 2008

A practical guide to polyamory and NRE, an interview with Tacit. Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter cunningming or visit the blog at www.polyweekly.com or the forums at http://forums.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #155: Multiple O May 14, 2008

A review and interviews with cast and crew of Multiple O, a play inspired by The Ethical Slut. Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter cunningminx or visit the blog at www.polyweekly.comComment at the forums at http://forum.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #154: Metamour Relations May 11, 2008

Metamour relations--how and when do you communicate with your partner's partners? Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY or Twitter cunningminx. Visit the blog at www.polyweekly.com or the forums at http://forum.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #153: Listener Feedback Frenzy! May 04, 2008

Listener feedback frenzy! Listen as we discuss Torchwood spank, where to meet poly people and the new play in Madison, Multiple O, based on The Ethical Slut. Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter cunningminx or leave a comment at PolyWeekly.com.

Poly Weekly #152: Trans like me Apr 17, 2008

Trans like me: being transgendered and poly, an interview with Benny. Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, visit www.polyweekly.com or participate in the forums at http://forum.polyweekly.com.

Poly Weekly #151: Can you love two at once? Apr 11, 2008

Can you really love two people at once? And interviews from the Poly Living Conference, 2008, courtesy of Alan of the Poly in the Media blog. Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter cunningminx or visit the blog at www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #150: Five Places to Meet Polys Apr 06, 2008

Where are all the polys hiding? Find out five places to meet other poly people or at least poly-friendly folks. Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter cunningminx, leave a comment at the blog at www.polyweekly.com or participate in the forums at http://forum.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #149: Eros, a Bisexual Polyamorous Memoir Mar 27, 2008

Eros, a bisexual polyamorous (and at times extremely juicy!) memoir: an interview with Serena Anderlini-d'Onofrio about her book, Eros: a Journey of Multiple Loves. Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter cunningminx, comment at www.polyweekly.com or participate in the forums at http://forum.polyweekly.com

PW 147 and 148 files working Mar 25, 2008

Hey,guys! I talked with Rob Walsh last night, and episodes 147 and 148 are working now.

Poly Weekly #148: Is monogamy "natural"? Mar 22, 2008

Is monogamy biologically "natural" for humans? Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY or visit the blog at www.polyweekly.com

Problem with PW #147 Mar 21, 2008

If you haven't already discovered it, there is a problem with downloading PW #147. I've got calls in to LibSyn, and I'll update as soon as the file is available. Just hold on with me! In the meantime, why not visit www.polyweekly.com or the forums at http://forum.polyweekly.com, just for fun?

Poly Weekly #147: Listener Feedback Mar 16, 2008

Listener feedback, including the "normality" of lying and cheating, dealing with NRE, and a poem promising conditional love. Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY or visit the blog at www.polyweekly.com. New forums are up at http://forum.polyweekly.com.

Poly Weekly #146: Sexy Shenanigans! Mar 07, 2008

Sexy shenanigans! Honey trappers, choreplay, Christian sex toys, fight with your spouse or die! Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, leave a comment at www.polyweekly.com or join the discussion at the forums at http://forum.polyweekly.com.

Poly Weekly #145: Coming into Poly Mar 01, 2008

A Poly in the Media report from Alan; panelists talk on how they came into poly. Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY or visit the blog at www.polyweekly.com.

Poly Weekly #144: Polyamory Pitfalls for Newbies Feb 24, 2008

Polyamory pitfalls for newbies--everything you need to know, be prepared for and avoid when you're considering polyamory. Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY or visit the blog at www.polyweekly.com.

Poly Weekly #143: NRE: the Good, the Bad and the Ugly Feb 18, 2008

New Relationship Energy (NRE): the good, the bad and the ugly. What's great about NRE and what NOT to do when in its throes. Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY or visit the blog at www.polyweekly.com or the forums at http://forum. polyweekly.com.

Poly Weekly #142: LIVE from Arisia Sci-Fi Feb 11, 2008

Alan reports live from the Arisia science fiction conventions three polyamory panels; Minx mulls over an article on how we drive our partners crazy in marriage. Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY or visit the blog at www.polyweekly.com or the forums at http://forums.polyweekly.com.

Poly Weekly #141: You're fat! Redux Feb 05, 2008

You're fat! redux--how to communicate the tough stuff. Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY or visit www.polyweekly.com.

Poly Weekly #140: I CAN live without you! Jan 28, 2008

I can live without you, and love doesn't last forever. Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY or visit the blog at www.polyweekly.com. Also, join in the forums at http://forum.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #138: You're fat! Jan 20, 2008

You're fat! How much honesty is too much honesty? Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY or visit the blog at www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #139: Dirty, rotten cheaters Jan 20, 2008

Dirty, rotten cheaters! What is cheating in monogamy? In poly? Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY or visit the blog at www.polyweekly.com or the forums at http://forum.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #137: Ten Poly Vocab Words You Need to Know Jan 05, 2008

New and old poly vocabulary you need definitions of to be poly or poly-friendly in the new year! Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY or check out the blog at www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #136: You're Poly--But None of Your Friends Are! Dec 30, 2007

What do you do if you're poly but no one you know is? How do you share NRE, frubble and questions? Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY or leave a comment and check out show notes at the blog at www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #135: Goofy, Sexy Holiday Music! Dec 21, 2007

Fun, goofy, sexy holiday songs--some poly, some sexy, some just silly! Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY or leave a comment at www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #134: What is your love map? Dec 17, 2007

Graydancer and Minx talk over love maps and how well you know your partner; Alan contributes a Poly in the Media segment. Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY or leave a comment at www.polyweekly.com.

Poly Weekly #133: Does jealousy equal love? Dec 07, 2007

Does jealousy equal love? Why do we feel more jealous the deeper in love we get? Why does our society equate violent jealousy with true love? Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter cunningminx or leave a comment at the blog at www.polyweekly.com.

Poly Weekly #132: Listener-Suggested Topics! Nov 25, 2007

All listener mail, listener feedback and listener-suggested topics, all the time! Feedback on past shows and new topics, including how do single parents find time to be poly; do you facilitate a lie; and what do you do when one person is an ex but the other two aren't??Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY or visit the blog at www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #131: What are they saying? Nov 18, 2007

Minx and Alan discuss several mentions of poly in the mainstream media--from advice columnists to Sandra Day O'Connor's love vee to poly geezers, we got your poly in the media! Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY or visit the blog at www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #130: Why get married? Nov 09, 2007

Why get married at all? And for how long if you do? A conversation with Nobilis. Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter cunningminx or visit www.polyweekly.com.

Poly Weekly #129: A Year and a Half In Nov 01, 2007

A year and a half in: an interview with Max and Lorelei, who joined their busy poly tribe 18 months ago. Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, and visit the blog at www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #128: Free Gift with Purchase! Oct 19, 2007

Free gift with new purchase! Minx and Steve Eley discuss how to treat your existing partner when you get a shiny new NRE one who seems to get all the gifts. Email cunningminx@gmail.com, Twitter cunningminx, call 206-202-POLYor visit the blog at www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #127: Radical Ideas on Marriage Oct 12, 2007

Radical ideas on marriage as a contract to be negotiated--an essay by Nobilis. Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY or leave a comment at the show blog at www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #126: Cool Sex & Adult Podcasts Oct 04, 2007

Interviews with cool adult and sex podcasters from the Podcast & New Media Expo! Nikol of the Midwest Teen Sex Show; Fausto from the Feast of Fools Gay Fun Show; and Chris & Ben from the HusBands. Email cunningminx@gmail.com; call 206-202-POLY; leave a comment at www.polyweekly.com or Twitter cunningminx.

Poly Weekly #125: The Seven-Year Itch Sep 27, 2007

The seven-year itch--should marriage only last seven years? Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter cunningminx or leave a comment at the show blog at www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #124: New Things You Need to Know About Sex Sep 20, 2007

Polyamory as extended family and new things you need to know about sex. Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter cunningminx or visit the show blog at www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #123: All my ex's Sep 15, 2007

My poly family goes camping; what to do when you and your ex are at the same social event! Email cunningminx@gmail.com, Twitter cunningminx, call 206-202-POLY or leave a comment at www.polyweekly.com.

Polyamory Weekly #122: Dragon*Con Sep 06, 2007

Post-Dragon*Con review of polyamory, geeks, costumes, parties and podcasting. Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter cunningminx or visit www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #121: Hot Poly Erotica! Aug 28, 2007

This week, we've got a treat: poly erotica! "Recent Reports of Progress Toward Fusion," by Bill Noble. Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter cunningminx or leave a comment at www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #120: Discerning a Toxic Relationship Aug 22, 2007

How can you tell if you're in a toxic relationship? Also, listener feedback and Poly in the Media. Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter cunningminx or leave a comment at the show blog at www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #119: Feedback--Negotiations, Fairness and Vibrators, oh my! Aug 13, 2007

Feedback on the interview with Tacit, introverts and extroverts, pay disparity for women, and the idea of fairness, plus My Poly Family and Poly in the Media! Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY or visit www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #118: Geeks in Love Aug 06, 2007

Minx and Steve Eley discuss high-tech tools that poly geeks use to maintain their local and long-distance relationships. Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, visit www.polyweekly.com or Twitter cunningminx.

Poly Weekly Podcast Awards Announcement Aug 01, 2007

Polyamory Weekly has been nominated for a Podcast Award, so I'm pimpin' for votes! Vote once ever 24 hours (in the Mature category) at www.podcastawards.com. Thanks for your support!

Poly Weekly #117: Moving in the Direction of Greatest Courage Jul 24, 2007

Tacit discusses dealing with jealousy, moving in direction of greatest courage, NRE and his upcoming book. Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, visit www.polyweekly.com or Twitter cunningminx.

Poly Weekly #116: Tell Me What You Need Jul 19, 2007

Earthwalker shares how to argue in a poly family with kids; Tacit talks about how love does NOT conquer all. Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter cunningminx or www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #115: Being Jewish and Poly Jul 13, 2007

Being poly and Jewish--what's the big deal? Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter cunningminx or leave a comment at the blog at www.polyweekly.com. Also, please nominate us in the Mature category at the Podcast Awards!

Podcast Awards Announcement Jul 09, 2007

Please submit Polyamory Weekly for a Podcast Awards! Go to www.podcastawards.com, click "Click Here to Nominate", go to the Mature category and type in Polyamory Weekly with the website www.polyweekly.com. Thank you!

Poly Weekly Special Edition: Negotiations Roundtable Jul 06, 2007

Negotiations, boundaries and limits, oh, my! From the Heartland Polyamory Conference. Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY or visit www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly #114: Introverts vs. Extroverts Jul 02, 2007

Introverts vs. extroverts--how to care for and support and introverts, and what introverts can do to get by in an extrovert's world; feedback on PepperMint's discussion on the double standard. Email cunningminx@gmail.com, 206-202-POLY, www.polyweekly.com

Poly Weekly Special Edition: Jealousy Jun 26, 2007

This special edition of Poly Weekly is the interactive, no-holds-barred talk on jealousy--what is it, how to deal with it, who is and who isn't--from the Heartland Polyamory Conference.

Poly Weekly #113: Is There a Double Standard with Poly? Jun 21, 2007

Is there a sexual double standard with regards to poly/mono, just as there is with sexual exploits? PepperMint and I get into it; listener Jenny comments. Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter cunningminx or leave a comment to the show blog at www.polyweekly.com. Don't leave a comment here; it won't be approved. Go visit the blog!

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