Perfect Prey: A Coercive Control Podcast

Coercive Control Is a War of Attrition with Laura Richards Feb 06, 2026

In this episode of Perfect Prey, I’m joined by Laura Richards, a criminal behavioral analyst, former New Scotland Yard specialist, and one of the leading global voices on coercive control. Laura has been instrumental in changing laws on stalking and coercive control in the UK and internationally, and her work has helped shape policy, legislation, and professional practice worldwide.

We explore why coercive control is not about isolated incidents, but a patterned strategy of domination, entrapment, and power imbalance. Laura explains why coercive control is best understood as a war of attrition, how patriarchy and misogyny shape institutional responses, and why women and children are so often disbelieved—even when the evidence is present.

This conversation examines how legal systems, family courts, and law enforcement frequently fail victims and survivors, particularly at the point of separation, when risk escalates most dramatically. We also discuss why coercive control must be criminalized, why gender matters in risk assessment, and how language itself can either obscure or reveal abuse.

What we cover

What coercive control really is and why it’s a patterned form of abuse
Why victims and survivors are often disbelieved by systems meant to protect them
Coercive control as “murders and suicides in slow motion”
The role of patriarchy, entitlement, and power imbalance in abuse
Why separation is the most dangerous time for women and children
How family courts can become a tool of post-separation abuse
Why protecting children requires protecting the non-abusive parent
The urgent need to criminalize coercive control globally

Why listen If you are a survivor, protective parent, clinician, attorney, advocate, or policymaker, this episode offers critical insight into how coercive control operates beneath the surface of relationships and systems. Laura Richards brings clarity to why abuse is so often minimized, misunderstood, or reframed—and what must change to prevent further harm.

Guest bio (short)Laura Richards is a criminal behavioral analyst, former New Scotland Yard specialist, and a leading international expert on coercive control, stalking, and violence against women. She helped create the DASH risk assessment model, founded the National Stalking Advocacy Service (Paladin), and played a central role in criminalizing coercive control in England and Wales. Laura is the author of Policing Domestic Violence and host of the Crime Analyst and Real Crime Profile podcasts.

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Books: https://www.thelaurarichards.com/resources/books

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Protective Parenting Program: https://www.coercivecontrolconsulting.com/services/for-parents/Official site: https://www.coercivecontrolconsulting.com/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DrCocchiola-coercivecontrol/videosTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.c_coercivecontrolInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr.cocchiola_coercivecontrol/TEDx Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gp2qByKOue4&t=24s

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— Dr. Christine Cocchiola & guest Laura Richards

Child Sexual Abuse, Grooming, and the Systems That Fail Children with Andrew Carpenter Jan 23, 2026

In this episode of Perfect Prey, I’m joined by Andrew Carpenter, a solicitor and partner at Webster Lawyers in Australia, widely known for his work holding child sexual abuse perpetrators accountable and advocating for systemic reform.

Andrew and I have a frank, uncomfortable, and deeply necessary conversation about child sexual abuse, grooming, coercive control, and the institutional failures that continue to endanger children. We explore how child predators use the same grooming tactics as coercive controllers, how technology and AI have dramatically increased access to abuse material, and why legal systems—including family courts—so often fail to protect children and the parents trying to keep them safe.

This episode centers the reality that child sexual abuse is not rare, not accidental, and not a crime of opportunity—it is intentional, patterned, and enabled by silence, disbelief, and systemic blind spots.

What we cover

How child sexual abuse perpetrators groom children, families, and institutions
Why all child predators use coercive control and relational grooming tactics
The disturbing accessibility of child abuse material online
How technology, AI, and social media are being weaponized against children
Why most abuse occurs within trusted relationships and family systems
The failures of criminal courts and family courts to protect child victims
Why lack of physical evidence does not mean abuse did not occur
Warning signs, behavioral red flags, and changes parents should not ignore
How shame, fear, and silence protect perpetrators—not children
What meaningful prevention, accountability, and reform must address

Why listen

If you are a survivor, protective parent, clinician, attorney, educator, or advocate, this episode provides critical insight into how child sexual abuse actually operates—and why so many children are disbelieved, retraumatized, or returned to unsafe environments. Andrew’s work exposes how deeply embedded these harms are within systems that claim to protect children, and why uncomfortable conversations are essential to change.

Guest bio (short)

Andrew Carpenter is a solicitor and partner at Webster Lawyers in Australia, specializing in child sexual abuse litigation and survivor advocacy. He is widely recognized for challenging institutional failures, advocating for legal reform, and amplifying survivor voices in cases where children have been silenced or ignored. His work focuses on accountability, deterrence, and systemic change to better protect children.

Connect with Andrew Carpenter

Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/andrewcarpentersolicitor

Websters Lawyers:https://websterslawyers.com.au/lawyers/andrew-carpenter

Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/andrewcarpentersolicitor?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw==

LinkedIn:https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrew-carpenter-041456123/

Connect with Dr. Christine

Protective Parenting Program:https://www.coercivecontrolconsulting.com/services/for-parents/

Official site:https://www.coercivecontrolconsulting.com/

YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@DrCocchiola-coercivecontrol/videos

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-Dr. Christine Cocchiola & guest Andrew Carpenter

When You See It: The Untold First Wife Story of Dirty John with Tonia Bales Jan 09, 2026

In this episode of Perfect Prey, I’m joined by Tonia Bales, author of When You See It: How I Outsmarted and Outlasted Dirty John. Tonia shares her story as the first wife of the man later known to the world as “Dirty John”—long before the podcast, Netflix series, or public recognition of who he really was.

Tonia describes how coercive control, deception, and manipulation unfolded inside her marriage, how she began uncovering her husband’s double life, and how the legal and family court systems failed to protect her and her children. This conversation offers a powerful look at how predators hide in plain sight, how survivors are often DARVO’d when they speak up, and how children become collateral damage in abusive systems.

What we cover

Life with Dirty John before the world knew his name
How predators identify and target “perfect prey”
Early warning signs, red flags, and deception hidden in plain sight
DARVO tactics and false accusations used to silence victims
Substance abuse, professional abuse of power, and systemic failure
Family court, coercive control, and the weaponization of children
Protective parenting, resilience, and healing after profound trauma

Why listen If you are a survivor, protective parent, clinician, attorney, or advocate, this episode offers critical insight into how coercive control operates long before abuse is publicly recognized. Tonia’s story underscores why survivors are not naïve or weak—and why systems must do better to protect those who speak up.

Guest bio (short) Tonia Bales is a survivor of coercive control and the author of When You See It: How I Outsmarted and Outlasted Dirty John. Her story sheds light on the early patterns of abuse used by predators and the long-term impact of coercive control on victims and children. Through her writing and advocacy, Tonia works to educate the public and professionals about how abuse hides in plain sight—and why survivors must be believed.

Book information When You See It: How I Outsmarted and Outlasted Dirty John Available for presale on Amazon and Barnes & Noble Release date: January 13

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Protective Parenting Program: https://www.coercivecontrolconsulting.com/services/for-parents/
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TEDxTalks: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gp2qByKOue4&t=24s
Books: https://url-shortener.me/c/FramedBook

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— Dr. Christine Cocchiola & guest Tonia Bales

The Unthinkable: A Child’s View of Coercive Control with David Challen Jan 02, 2026

In this episode of Perfect Prey, I’m joined by David Challen, author of The Unthinkable, who shares his experience growing up as a child inside a coercively controlling family system. David offers a rare and powerful perspective on coercive control through the eyes of a child—long before there was language to describe abuse, and long before systems were willing to see it.

This conversation explores how coercive control creates an atmosphere of fear, vigilance, humiliation, and emotional captivity within families, even when there is no visible violence. David reflects on the early intuition that something was wrong, the “rot in the house” that others could not see, and how children normalize danger in order to survive. Together, we examine the intergenerational harm caused by coercive control and why children are not passive witnesses, but co-victims.

What we cover

What coercive control looks and feels like through the eyes of a child
How children sense danger, imbalance, and domination long before abuse is named
The normalization of mockery, humiliation, fear, and emotional subservience within families
Why coercive control is not “hidden abuse,” but a trajectory of escalating harm
How long-term psychological domination strips autonomy, identity, and safety over time
The concept of “systemic degradation” and how victims are worn down across years or decades
Why victim retaliation is often misunderstood, mislabeled, and criminalized
The long-term impact on adult child survivors and protective parents

Why listen

If you are a survivor, protective parent, adult child survivor, clinician, or legal professional, this episode offers critical insight into how coercive control operates inside families and why children are deeply affected—even when abuse is not outwardly visible. This conversation brings clarity to experiences that are often minimized, misunderstood, or dismissed, and highlights why coercive control must be recognized as the foundation of all abuse.

Guest bio (short)

David Challen is an author, speaker, and campaigner on domestic abuse and coercive control. He is the author of The Unthinkable, which tells the story of growing up in a coercively controlled household and the devastating impact of long-term psychological abuse on children and families. David is a prominent advocate for greater recognition of coercive control and has spoken widely about intergenerational harm, survivor justice, and systemic failure.

Connect David Challen:

Instagram: https://l1nq.com/davidinstagram
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Learn more about David: https://www.eida.org.uk/davids-story
Website: https://l1nq.com/davidchallenwebsite
The Unthinkable: https://www.hachette.co.uk/titles/david-challen/the-unthinkable/9781914240263/

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Protective Parenting Program: https://www.coercivecontrolconsulting.com/services/for-parents/
Official site: https://www.coercivecontrolconsulting.com/
Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@DrCocchiola-coercivecontrol/videos
Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.c_coercivecontrol
IG: https://www.instagram.com/dr.cocchiola_coercivecontrol/
TEDxTalks: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gp2qByKOue4&t=24s
Books: https://url-shortener.me/c/FramedBook

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— Dr. Christine Cocchiola & guest David Challen

Coercive Control, Validation, and Power: How Aimee Says Supports Survivors with Anne Wintemute Dec 19, 2025

In this episode of Perfect Prey, I’m joined by Anne Wintemute, co-creator of Aimee Says, an innovative AI platform designed specifically to support victims and survivors of coercive control. Aimee Says helps survivors understand abusive communication patterns, validate their lived experiences, and assist with documentation—particularly in high-stakes situations such as custody and family court.

We explore why victims and survivors are not harmed because of character flaws, but because abusers intentionally target people who are kind, empathic, agreeable, and giving. Anne explains how Aimee Says was built around expertise in coercive control, narcissistic abuse, domestic violence, and power-and-control dynamics—and why that specialization matters.

What we cover

What Aimee Says is and how it supports survivors of coercive control
Why validation and being truly heard are foundational to healing and decision-making
How Aimee helps identify gaslighting, financial abuse, intimidation, and coercive patterns
Using Aimee Says to support documentation, journaling, and preparation for legal processes
Key differences between Aimee Says and general AI tools, including safety, trauma-informed guardrails, and survivor-centered design
Privacy, confidentiality, and safety considerations for survivors navigating digital tools
How tools like Aimee Says can reduce isolation and help restore agency and clarity

Why listenIf you are a survivor, protective parent, clinician, attorney, or advocate, this episode offers a grounded, accessible explanation of how coercive control operates and why survivors so often feel confused, minimized, or silenced. You’ll also learn how thoughtfully designed tools can help survivors feel validated, supported, and better equipped to navigate complex systems.

Guest bio (short)Anne Wintemute is the co-creator of Aimee Says, an AI-powered platform developed to support victims and survivors of coercive control through validation, pattern recognition, and trauma-informed guidance. Her work focuses on increasing access to expert-level support while prioritizing survivor safety, autonomy, and confidentiality.

Learn more about Anne Wintemute and Aimee Says:

Anne Wintemute on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/anne-wintemute-897077106Canvas Rebel interview: https://canvasrebel.com/meet-anne-wintemute/Aimee Says – Our Story: https://www.aimeesays.com/story

Connect with Dr. Christine:

Protective Parenting Program: https://www.coercivecontrolconsulting.com/services/for-parents/
Official site: https://www.coercivecontrolconsulting.com/
Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@DrCocchiola-coercivecontrol/videos
Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.c_coercivecontrol
IG: https://www.instagram.com/dr.cocchiola_coercivecontrol/
TEDxTalks: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gp2qByKOue4&t=24s
Books: https://url-shortener.me/c/FramedBook

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— Dr. Christine Cocchiola & guest Anne Wintemute

Coercion, Cult dynamics & Survival with Sarma Melngailis Dec 10, 2025

In this episode of Perfect Prey, I speak with Sarma Melngailis, author of The Girl with the Duck Tattoo and the central figure in the documentary Bad Vegan. Sarma shares her lived experience of sustained psychological coercion, how it felt to be worn down and re-anchored in someone else’s reality, and what the recovery process looks like after a relationship that functioned much like a one-on-one cult.

What we cover

How coercive control can operate like psychological warfare and the tactics that make it feel impossible to leave.
Why intelligent, accomplished people can become victims: the slow wearing down, mirroring, and exploitation of hopes and vulnerabilities.
The parallels between cult dynamics and one-on-one coercive relationships—why isolation and repeated micro-assaults change perception and decision-making.
The aftermath: public shame, misrepresentation in media, and the ongoing work of reclaiming agency, safety, and reputation.
Practical reflections for survivors and protective parents: how to notice red flags early, the power of sitting with your intuition, and how healing helps rebuild boundaries and clarity.

Why listen Sarma’s story illustrates that coercive control is not about intelligence or credentials — it’s about a strategic, multifaceted assault on agency and reality. Whether you are a survivor, a caregiver, a clinician, or someone trying to understand how otherwise kind and competent people get trapped, this episode names the mechanisms, normalizes survivors’ reactions, and offers concrete ideas for protection and recovery.

Guest bio (short) Sarma Melngailis is the author of The Girl with the Duck Tattoo and the subject of the documentary Bad Vegan. She writes and speaks about her experience of coercive control and its aftermath, helping others recognize the subtle, insidious tactics used by predatory partners.

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Protective Parenting Program: https://www.coercivecontrolconsulting.com/services/for-parents/
Official site: https://www.coercivecontrolconsulting.com/
Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@DrCocchiola-coercivecontrol/videos
Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.c_coercivecontrol
IG: https://www.instagram.com/dr.cocchiola_coercivecontrol/
TEDxTalks: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gp2qByKOue4&t=24s
Books: https://url-shortener.me/c/FramedBook

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— Dr. Christine Cocchiola & guest Sarma Melngailis

Coercive Control, Courts & “Perfect Prey” — with Dr. Ramani Durvasula Nov 28, 2025

In this episode of Perfect Prey I’m joined by my friend and colleague Dr. Ramani Durvasula, a clinical psychologist, author, professor, and internationally recognized expert on narcissistic abuse. We dig into why coercive control feels like imprisonment without bars, how systems (including family court) retraumatize survivors, and what survivors can do to protect themselves and their children.

What we cover

Why coercive control is often invisible — and why the myth of “free will” makes it so hard for institutions to understand emotional abuse.
How victim-blaming and the DARVO pattern (Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim & Offender) let abusers manipulate sympathy in court.
The difference between milder narcissistic traits and the kind of malignant, coercive abuse that creates real danger and CPTSD-like responses.
Practical, trauma-informed strategies for surviving family court: what to document, when to prioritize safety over “justice,” and how to protect your children while minimizing retraumatization.
The “industrial divorce complex” — how systems and money can deepen harm, and what survivors can do strategically to preserve their safety and sense of self.

Why listen If you’re a survivor, a clinician, a legal professional, or someone trying to understand a loved one’s experience, this conversation names the harms you may not see on the surface and gives clear, compassionate guidance for staying safe and getting validated. You’ll hear clinical insight paired with real-world, tactical advice about custody, court behavior, and how to build a safety-first plan.

Guest bio (short) Dr. Ramani Durvasula, Ph.D., is a licensed clinical psychologist, author, and media expert who writes and speaks widely about narcissism, personality disorders, and relationship dynamics. She maintains a clinical practice and educational network focused on helping people heal from narcissistic relationships.

Connect with Dr. Ramani:

Official site: https://doctor-ramani.com/drn/
Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@DoctorRamani
Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@doctorramani
IG: https://www.instagram.com/doctorramani/
Podcast: Navigating Narcissism with Dr. Ramani
Books: https://www.amazon.co.uk/stores/Ramani-Durvasula/author/B00C2C5U0O?ref=ap_rdr&isDramIntegrated=true&shoppingPortalEnabled=true

Connect with Dr. Christine:

Protective Parenting Program: https://www.coercivecontrolconsulting.com/services/for-parents/
Official site: https://www.coercivecontrolconsulting.com/
Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@DrCocchiola-coercivecontrol/videos
Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.c_coercivecontrol
IG: https://www.instagram.com/dr.cocchiola_coercivecontrol/
TEDxTalks: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gp2qByKOue4&t=24s
Books: https://url-shortener.me/c/FramedBook

https://url-shortener.me/c/EveryMomentOfEveryDay

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— Dr. Christine Cocchiola & guest Dr. Ramani Durvasula

Coercive Control and Narcissistic Abuse: How to Recognize Patterns and Reclaim Your Power with Dr. Jamie Zuckerman Oct 21, 2025

In this episode of Perfect Prey, I sit down with Dr. Jaime Zuckerman, a licensed clinical psychologist and national expert in narcissistic abuse, to uncover the hidden dynamics of coercive control and narcissistic relationships. Dr. Zuckerman shares her deep expertise from years of working with survivors, offering insight into the traits that make individuals vulnerable, the subtle and overt patterns of abuse, and the critical need for better clinician training to identify these behaviors.

As the founder of The Z Group, host of the Next Up: Narcissism podcast, and author of two interactive workbooks—Find Your Calm and Find Good Habits—Dr. Zuckerman brings practical tools and real-world strategies for reclaiming your power, setting boundaries, and rebuilding your life. She also shares a sneak peek at her upcoming guided workbook designed to help survivors navigate narcissistic abuse in any type of relationship.

Whether you’re a survivor, a clinician, or someone seeking to understand the insidious nature of coercive control, this episode provides clarity, guidance, and the support you need to recognize patterns and take back your power.

Connect with Dr. Zuckerman:

Workshops: https://www.drjaimezuckerman.com/workshops
IG: https://www.instagram.com/dr.z_psychologist/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DrJaimeZuckerman
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.z_psychologist
Narcissistic Abuse Coaching: https://www.drjaimezuckerman.com/
Therapy with The Z Group: https://www.zgrouptherapy.com/
Podcast: Next Up: Narcissism https://www.drjaimezuckerman.com/podcast
Books: https://www.drjaimezuckerman.com/books

Escaping the Narcissist: How to Identify, Survive, and Heal from Manipulative Abuse with Vanessa M. Reiser, LCSW, Therapist, Author, Narcissistic/Cult Abuse Expert Oct 04, 2025

In this episode of Perfect Prey, I sit down with Vanessa Reiser, LCSW, a renowned psychotherapist, speaker, and advocate who has dedicated her career to helping survivors of narcissistic abuse and coercive control reclaim their lives.

Vanessa is the founder of Tell a Therapist, a nationwide telehealth platform, and the author of Narcissistic Abuse: A Therapist’s Guide, a groundbreaking resource that not only unpacks the devastating impact of narcissistic and cult abuse but also offers clinicians the training and tools they need to support survivors in the healing process.

Together, we explore what coercive control looks like in real life. We talk about why certain people are more vulnerable to narcissistic abuse, the toll it takes on mental health, and how survivors can begin to recognize the patterns and break free.

We also shine a light on the unique challenges survivors face in family court when narcissistic abuse is involved, and why therapist training in this area is so urgently needed. Vanessa’s book is an essential guide for professionals and survivors alike, offering not just insight but hope—that recovery is possible, and that healing from narcissistic abuse is about reclaiming your voice, your power, and your life.

Connect with Vanessa:

Narcissistic Abuse: A Therapist’s Guide: https://www.amazon.com/Narcissistic-Abuse-Therapists-Identifying-Manipulative/dp/0306833174
Tell a Therapist: https://tellatherapist.net/
Follow Vanessa on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vanessareiserlcsw/

Resources Mentioned in this Podcast:

🔸Follow Dr. Christine on IG: www.instagram.com/dr.cocchiola_coercivecontrol

🔸Services for Professionals: https://www.coercivecontrolconsulting.com/services/for-professionals/

🔸Private Coaching: https://www.coercivecontrolconsulting.com/private-coaching/

🔸Free Guide: Clinical Implications for Children Who Are Coercively Controlled: https://drchristinemarie.kartra.com/page/childvictimofccgrowthguide

Exposing the Reality of Family Courts with Dr. Bandy X Lee Sep 20, 2025

In this episode of Perfect Prey: A Podcast on Coercive Control, I am joined by Dr. Bandy X. Lee, a forensic psychiatrist and internationally recognized expert on violence. Together, we examine the alarming injustices occurring within family courts, where coercive control, child abuse, and even child trafficking are too often overlooked or minimized.

Dr. Lee brings her extensive experience to highlight how judicial culture and systemic failures repeatedly fail to protect victims, leaving children and protective parents at risk. We also discuss the urgent need for reform and the strategies that could begin to shift these deeply entrenched systems.

This is an important conversation for anyone concerned about child safety, coercive control, and the changes necessary to ensure our family courts serve the best interests of children.

Tune in for insight, advocacy, and a call to action for systemic change.

Connect with Dr. Bandy:

Website: https://bandylee.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bandyxlee/?hl=enJoin Dr. Bandy on Substack: https://bandyxlee.substack.com/

Resources Mentioned in this Podcast:

🔸Follow Dr. Christine on IG: www.instagram.com/dr.cocchiola_coercivecontrol

🔸Services for Parents: https://www.coercivecontrolconsulting.com/services/for-parents/

🔸Services for Professionals: https://www.coercivecontrolconsulting.com/services/for-professionals/

🔸Services for Victims of Abuse: https://www.coercivecontrolconsulting.com/services/for-individuals/

🔸Private Coaching: https://www.coercivecontrolconsulting.com/private-coaching/

🔸Free Guide: Clinical Implications for Children

Who Are Coercively Controlled: https://drchristinemarie.kartra.com/page/childvictimofccgrowthguide

The Psychology of Coercive Control: Cognitive Dissonance and Trauma Bonds Explained Sep 05, 2025

In this episode of Perfect Prey: A Coercive Control Podcast, Dr. Christine Cocchiola sits down with Dr. Peter Salerno to take a deeper look at the hidden dynamics of coercive control and the psychological abuse that entraps partners and children in cycles of fear, confusion, and dependency.

We explore the defining traits of coercive controllers, how they manipulate both adult and child victims, and why survivors often struggle with cognitive dissonance, a mental conflict that can keep them tethered to abusive relationships long after the harm is clear. Together, we discuss the traumatic impact of cognitive dissonance, how abusers condition children to adopt distorted beliefs, and what protective strategies parents can use to safeguard their children’s well-being.

You’ll also hear about the crucial role of trauma-informed therapy, ways to respond intentionally to children’s conditioned behaviors, and how survivors can begin to break free from the psychological grip of coercive control.

This conversation sheds light on the complex psychological dynamics of abuse and offers practical steps for supporting both adults and children who have been targeted by coercive controllers.

If you’ve ever felt trapped in a relationship that left you doubting your own reality, or if you’re working to protect children from ongoing manipulation, this episode will give you clarity, tools, and hope for the path forward.

Connect with Dr. Peter Salerno:

Website: https://www.drpetersalerno.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drpetersalerno/

Book a Consultation: https://www.drpetersalerno.com/new-page-1

Book: https://www.drpetersalerno.com/new-page

Resources Mentioned in this Podcast:

🔸Follow Dr. Christine on IG: www.instagram.com/dr.cocchiola_coercivecontrol

🔸Services for Parents: https://www.coercivecontrolconsulting.com/services/for-parents/

🔸Services for Professionals: https://www.coercivecontrolconsulting.com/services/for-professionals/

🔸Services for Victims of Abuse: https://www.coercivecontrolconsulting.com/services/for-individuals/

🔸Private Coaching: https://www.coercivecontrolconsulting.com/private-coaching/

🔸Free Guide: Clinical Implications for Children

Who Are Coercively Controlled: https://drchristinemarie.kartra.com/page/childvictimofccgrowthguide

Unveiling Jennifer Dulos' Tragic Tale: Insights from Rich Cohen on Coercive Control Aug 23, 2025

In this episode of Perfect Prey Podcast, I sit down with journalist and author Rich Cohen to discuss his book, Murder in the Dollhouse, which explores the tragic case of Jennifer Dulos, a mother from New Canaan, Connecticut, murdered by her husband, Fotis Dulos. Together, we examine the role of coercive control in intimate partner violence, the systemic failures that too often leave victims unprotected, and the broader implications for Jennifers' Law in Connecticut.

Rich Cohen is a bestselling author and award-winning journalist whose work has appeared in The New York Times, Vanity Fair, The Atlantic, and Rolling Stone. His keen ability to uncover the human story behind complex events has shaped his career as both a storyteller and social commentator, bringing clarity and depth to difficult conversations.

Rich shares powerful insights into the patterns of abuse, the hidden nature of coercion, and why it is essential for all of us to recognize the warning signs.

Connect with Rich:

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Understanding Narcissism and Coercive Control with Mark Vicente Aug 08, 2025

In this episode of Perfect Prey, I sit down with filmmaker and NXIVM Whistleblower, Mark Vicente, to explore the insidious nature of narcissism and coercive control. Known for his role in exposing the NXIVM cult and for his upcoming documentary Narcissist Playbook, Mark brings a rare blend of lived experience and narrative insight to a conversation that is both deeply personal and profoundly educational.

Together, we examine how narcissistic abuse thrives on confusion, manipulation, and silence. Coercive control isn't always visible—often it hides in plain sight, eroding a survivor’s sense of self through emotional, psychological, and sometimes spiritual abuse. Mark shares how he came to recognize the patterns of power and control he endured, and why storytelling and awareness are key to dismantling these dynamics.

As a licensed clinical social worker and survivor of coercive control myself, this conversation is one I know will resonate. We talk about the trauma of emotional abuse, the grooming tactics abusers use to gain and maintain control, and the long road to healing after escaping these toxic dynamics. Mark’s courage and clarity offer validation to those still trying to make sense of what happened to them, and hope to those who are just beginning to find their voice.

This is more than a podcast episode… it’s a call to awareness, to healing, and to action.

Tune in to better understand the trauma of coercive control and narcissistic relationships, and to remember that your truth is the first step toward freedom.

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Coercive Control in Family Law with Meg Groff Jul 25, 2025

For over 40 years, Attorney Meg Groff has been a fierce advocate for victims of domestic abuse.

In her powerful memoir, Not If I Can Help It, Meg shares some of the most harrowing and eye-opening cases she’s encountered, offering a rare glimpse into the justice system through the eyes of someone who fought tirelessly within it.

Alongside Dr. C, co-author of FRAMED: Women in the Family Court Underworld, Meg is committed to raising awareness about the often-overlooked realities women and children face in the family court system.

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Children of Coercive Control - Jessi Hersey Jul 11, 2025

In this episode, Jessi Hersey bravely shares her story of surviving two forms of coercive control: childhood grooming by her drum teacher and emotional manipulation within the Twin Flames Universe online cult.

As a neurodivergent survivor, Jessi reflects on how her autism both made her more vulnerable and more attuned to subtle forms of abuse. She discusses the long-term impact of grooming, the cult’s use of “mirror exercises” to control beliefs, and her journey to reclaim safety and identity.

Jessi’s story highlights the urgent need for awareness around neurodivergence, grooming, and online spiritual coercion.

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The System Failed Om: Why Leah Moses Fought to Change Family Court Jun 27, 2025

In this powerful and emotional episode, Dr. Cocchiola speaks with Leah Moses, mother of Om Moses Gandhi, who was tragically killed by his abusive father after over a decade of family court battles.

Leah shares her lived experience of reproductive coercion, intimate partner violence, and systemic failure, and how she turned unimaginable loss into advocacy through Om’s Law.

This conversation exposes the urgent need for court reform, judicial accountability, and trauma-informed parenting protections.

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Children of Coercive Control - Maya Laing Jun 13, 2025

Maya Laing joins Dr. C on Perfect Prey to share her and her brother Sebastian's experiences growing up in a home where they felt unsafe with one parent. When they expressed their desire to live with their father, their mother turned to the family court system, resulting in mandated reunification therapy and a reunification camp a devastating consequence for children who feel unsafe with one parent.

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How Aimee Says Supports Victims of Coercive Control with Anne Wintemute May 30, 2025

Dr. C interviews Anne Wintemute, the co-creator of Aimee Says, an AI tool that understands coercive control and supports victims and survivors of abuse. Anne Wintemute is the Co-Founder and CEO of Aimee Says, the AI companion for victims and survivors of relationship abuse. She is a fierce champion for the rights of survivors and children and systems that hold perpetrators accountable.

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The Truth About Child Therapy in High-Conflict Homes with Sybil Cummin May 16, 2025

Dr. Cocchiola sits down with Sybil Cummin, licensed therapist, play therapy expert, and founder of Rising Beyond, to discuss the hidden world of child therapy and coercive control.

Sybil shares her front-line experience working with children who have been weaponized, silenced, and fractured by narcissistic or coercively controlling parents—especially in the context of family court and custody battles. She reveals how kids show their trauma in play, how therapists can (and often don’t) catch the signs, and why protective parents are often the best therapists their kids have.

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Children of Coercive Control - Gwen & Grace Girard May 02, 2025

These brave young women share their powerful story of growing up with an abusive parent and navigating the ongoing trauma of the family court system. Their courage is undeniable—and their message is clear: Speak up if you can. Someone is listening.

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Children Estranged: Why Children Turn Against Protective Parents Apr 18, 2025

Dr. Christine Cocchiola explores the heartbreaking and complex issue of family estrangement and coercive control. Why are so many adult children turning against the parent who protected them? Could it be the result of slow, covert indoctrination by an abuser?Dr. Cocchiola dives deep into the psychology behind estrangement, the power dynamics within abusive family systems, and how protective parents can begin to make sense of this painful reversal. She also speaks directly to estranged young adults, asking important, reflective questions to help them see the bigger picture.🔸Follow Dr. Christine on IG: www.instagram.com/dr.cocchiola_coercivecontrol🔸Visit her website: https://coercivecontrolconsulting.com 🔸Become a Certified Trauma-Informed Protective Parent in this intensive educational program with an option for LIVE coaching/support to guide protective parents as they navigate the stormy seas of parenting a child who has been coercively controlled. 🔸Sign up here: https://go.drcocchiola.com/accelerated2-selfstudy

Children of Coercive Control - Caitlin Apr 04, 2025

Caitlin was a protective mother, navigating the chaos of coercive control and the family court system. For years, she believed her father was her rock—until he started giving her advice on how to beat the system.

That’s when it hit her.

The very tactics she was protecting her children from… were the same ones her father used on her mother.

She hadn’t seen her mom in years. But in that moment, everything clicked. The truth rose to the surface—and with it, a deeper clarity about her past and her purpose.

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Coercive Control & The Hidden Trauma of Boys with David Weeks Mar 21, 2025

David Weeks is a survivor of coercive control and human trafficking, bravely speaking out about his experiences. His growing social media following is a testament to the impact of his message. David refuses to stay silent—because abuse thrives in silence.About David:David survived two decades of horrific abuse: familial, medical, and predatory. This included neglect, isolation, coercive control, and attempted murder. Sex trafficked at 13, with known abuse ignored, he was diagnosed with autism and suffered life-altering trauma. He now educates on trauma to support survivors and protect the vulnerable.🔸Follow Dr. Christine on IG: www.instagram.com/dr.cocchiola_coercivecontrol🔸Visit her website: https://coercivecontrolconsulting.com 🔸Become a Certified Trauma-Informed Protective Parent in this intensive educational program with an option for LIVE coaching/support to guide protective parents as they navigate the stormy seas of parenting a child who has been coercively controlled. 🔸Sign up for April: go.drcocchiola.com/acceleratedself-study🔸Sign up for September: go.drcocchiola.com/pppaccelerated-selfstudy2

Children of Coercive Control - Grace Feb 21, 2025

Grace, a survivor of coercive control, grew up with an abusive father and a mother who couldn’t protect her. Now, she shares her story to give a voice to those who can't speak out.

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Dr. Lisa Fontes on Invisible Chains & Coercive Control Feb 07, 2025

Dr. Christine Cocchiola is joined by Dr. Lisa Fontes, a leading expert on coercive control. Dr. Fontes serves as an expert witness in legal cases involving coercive control and is the author of Invisible Chains, the second book ever written on the topic. In this powerful conversation, she sheds light on the insidious tactics abusers use to manipulate and dominate their victims—often without ever resorting to physical violence. Learn More from Dr. Lisa Fontes: Lisa A. Fontes, PhD is an expert on coercive control, child abuse, and intimate partner violence. A researcher, professor, and expert witness, she has authored Invisible Chains, Interviewing Clients Across Cultures, and Child Abuse and Culture. A Senior Lecturer at UMass Amherst, she has over 30 years of experience in research, psychotherapy, and education. Her work is widely published, with millions of readers on Psychology Today and Domesticshelters.org. She has served as an expert witness in 17 states on trauma, abuse, and child development. 🔗 Get Invisible Chains: https://a.co/d/8257LNs 🌐 Visit Lisa’s website: https://lisafontes.com --- 🔸Follow Dr. Christine on IG: www.instagram.com/dr.cocchiola_coercivecontrol 🔸Visit her website: https://coercivecontrolconsulting.com 🔸Become a Certified Trauma-Informed Protective Parent in this intensive educational program with an option for LIVE coaching/support to guide protective parents as they navigate the stormy seas of parenting a child who has been coercively controlled. 🔸Sign up here: https://go.drcocchiola.com/accelerated2-selfstudy

Children of Coercive Control - Ashton Goff Jan 26, 2025

Ashton Goff joins me in this heartbreaking episode to share his experiences as a child growing up in a home with a coercive controller and narcissistic abuser. He recounts being sent to a reunification camp with his abusive father and being separated from his mother for 3.5 years. Tragically, his brother remains in the custody of their abusive father. These stories are not isolated—they reflect the devastating reality faced by children worldwide who are being trafficked by family courts. ---

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Abusers Intensify When Our Children Become Closer to Us Jan 10, 2025

Dr. Cocchiola sheds light on the intense struggles faced by protective parents when their children are manipulated by abusers. She shares a heart-wrenching story of a mother whose child, after a period of reconnected attachment, is now making false accusations under the influence of an abuser. Through this case study, Dr. Cocchiola explores the harmful tactics of abusers, such as intimidation, isolation, and brainwashing, and how they impact a child's emotional and psychological development. 🔸Follow Dr. Christine on IG: www.instagram.com/dr.cocchiola_coercivecontrol 🔸Visit her website: https://coercivecontrolconsulting.com 🔸Become a Certified Trauma-Informed Protective Parent in this intensive educational program with an option for LIVE coaching/support to guide protective parents as they navigate the stormy seas of parenting a child who has been coercively controlled. 🔸Sign up here: https://go.drcocchiola.com/ppp-accelerated

How to Navigate Family Court to Protect Your Children with Tina Swithin of One Mom's Battle Dec 27, 2024

Tina Swithin of One Mom’s Battle joins Dr. C to share insights on engaging family courts to better protect our children. Don't miss this important discussion! About Tina: Tina Swithin, author of "Divorcing a Narcissist,” creator of Family Court Awareness Month and "One Mom’s Battle," is a survivor of a tumultuous custody battle, where she acted as her own attorney and prevailed. Transforming her personal experiences into advocacy, Tina has become one of the leading activists for family court reform. Through her social media platform, Tina brings survivors together for support, legislative change, and other advocacy-related calls-to-action. Website: www.onemomsbattle.com Facebook: www.facebook.com/onemomsbattle Instagram: www.instagram.com/onemomsbattle --- 🔸Follow Dr. Christine on IG: www.instagram.com/dr.cocchiola_coercivecontrol 🔸Visit her website: https://coercivecontrolconsulting.com 🔸Become a Certified Trauma-Informed Protective Parent in this intensive educational program with an option for LIVE coaching/support to guide protective parents as they navigate the stormy seas of parenting a child who has been coercively controlled. 🔸Sign up here: https://go.drcocchiola.com/ppp-accelerated

The Abusers Magic A.K.A. "Poison" Dec 13, 2024

When an older or more independent child no longer fulfills the abuser's needs, they will often shift their focus to another child. This pattern is predictable, and it’s crucial to anticipate it. PREDICT what’s coming, PREPARE for it, and PROTECT yourself and your children effectively. 🔸Follow Dr. Christine on IG: www.instagram.com/dr.cocchiola_coercivecontrol 🔸Visit her website: https://coercivecontrolconsulting.com 🔸Become a Certified Trauma-Informed Protective Parent in this intensive educational program with an option for LIVE coaching/support to guide protective parents as they navigate the stormy seas of parenting a child who has been coercively controlled. 🔸Sign up here: https://go.drcocchiola.com/ppp-accelerated

Nature and Nurture of Narcissism with Dr. Peter Salerno Nov 29, 2024

Dr. C and Dr. Salerno delve into the nature and nurture of narcissism, exploring strategies to support children growing up in these family systems and help prevent them from adopting these traits. About Dr. Peter:

Dr. Peter Salerno, PsyD, LMFT, is a licensed psychotherapist, trauma specialist, and award-winning author. With advanced certifications in Family and Complex Trauma, Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy, and Personality Disorder Treatment, he brings a science-based approach to clinical practice. Dr. Salerno is trained in EMDR and qualified to administer the Hare Psychopathy Checklist-Revised (PCL-R).

He has treated mental health conditions across diverse settings, including domestic violence shelters, juvenile detention centers, and private practice. As a consultant to law enforcement, he has guided agencies in identifying and addressing personality disorders. His book, Fit for Off Duty, is required reading at the FBI Academy.

Currently, Dr. Salerno works in private practice and has authored six books.

Check out: The Nature and Nurture of Narcissism: Understanding Narcissistic Personality Disorder from the Perspective of Gene - Environment Interaction https://www.amazon.com/Nature-Nurture-Narcissism-Understanding-Narcissistic/dp/B0DC565T78

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The Lure of our Tweens & Teens Nov 15, 2024

In this episode of Perfect Prey, we delve into the subtle yet devastating tactics abusers use to lure tweens and teens into alignment, often at the expense of protective parents. We explore how authoritarian styles of parenting evolve into permissive manipulation and discuss strategies for safeguarding children without compromising their trust. 🔸Follow Dr. Christine on IG: www.instagram.com/dr.cocchiola_coercivecontrol 🔸Visit her website: https://coercivecontrolconsulting.com 🔸Become a Certified Trauma-Informed Protective Parent in this intensive educational program with an option for LIVE coaching/support to guide protective parents as they navigate the stormy seas of parenting a child who has been coercively controlled. 🔸Sign up here: https://go.drcocchiola.com/ppp-accelerated

A Conversation on Coercive Control with the Two Dr. C’s Nov 01, 2024

Dr. Andrew Cicchetti a psychotherapist and coercive control advocate and expert comes on the podcast to share his perspective on how predators prey upon their victims - both adults and children. You won't want to miss this episode full of nuggets!

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The Love You Have for Your Child Fuels the Coercive Controller/Narcissistic Abuser’s Shame Oct 21, 2024

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Children of Coercive Control - Alexa Oct 04, 2024

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Trauma Bonding with Dr. Nadine Macaluso Sep 20, 2024

Trauma bonding can keep us locked in an abusive relationship. It’s a neurological response to the abuse that creates significant vulnerability. It happens to our children too—they may become bonded to their abuser (your abuser). About Dr. Nadine:

Dr. Nadine Macaluso, known to her patients as Dr. Nae, is the real-life inspiration behind Naomi Belfort's character in "The Wolf of Wall Street." She survived a turbulent eight-year marriage to Jordan Belfort, marked by abuse, greed, and trauma. Following her experiences, Dr. Macaluso relocated to California. Her journey of trauma and healing inspired her to return to school at age 39, where she earned her Master's in counseling and a Ph.D. in somatic psychotherapy. She further specialized with a two-year postdoctoral training in the Neuro-affective Relational Model (NARM).

As a therapist, Dr. Macaluso combines her education and personal experiences to help others heal from trauma. Her practice focuses on assisting patients in connecting with their authentic selves, fostering confidence, resilience, and agency. Dr. Macaluso firmly believes in the potential for post-traumatic growth, instilling hope in her patients and guiding them to reach their potential in life and love.

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Children of Coercive Control - Caitlyn Sep 04, 2024

Caitlyn is my first adult child guest, and she’s here to share her powerful story of growing up in a home with a coercive controller. Her brave escape from the abuser paved the way for her mom to find freedom as well. The strength and resilience of children like Caitlyn inspire hope for us all. 🔸Follow Dr. Christine on IG: www.instagram.com/dr.cocchiola_coercivecontrol

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Dr. C Expert in Coercive Control Interviews Amy Polacko Divorce Coach & Co-Author of the Book FRAMED Jul 22, 2024

Dr. Christine and Amy Polacko expose the disturbing realities within the family court system. In this episode, they discuss their new book FRAMED: Women in the Family Court Underworld which highlights the struggles of mothers facing coercive control and narcissistic abuse. Learn how abusers manipulate the system and why family court often fails to protect victims. Tune in for an eye-opening conversation that aims to inspire change and support those impacted by these injustices. Don’t miss out—SUBSCRIBE to our list to be among the first to receive updates! 🔸 Visit: https://narcfreepress.com

The Immeasurable Loss: Grieving for Our Abused Children Jun 05, 2024

In this episode, we talk about loss and grief and unpack the magnitude of loss that occurs via a coercive controller/narcissistic abuser and the institutions complicit in the abuser's game.

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The Grief and Loss are Unacknowledged and Insurmountable Mar 13, 2024

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The Experiences of Children of Coercive Control: My Testimony for Legislators Mar 05, 2024

Dr. Cocchiola highlights how coercive control in the home can significantly impact a child's developing brain and emotional wellbeing. Drawing from her experiences in child welfare and as a survivor herself, she emphasizes the importance of providing a safe space for children by preventing them from being forced into interactions with their abusers.

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Fight, Fawn, Flight, and Freeze: Our Children Are Experiencing All of These Trauma Responses Feb 12, 2024

Do you see it?

Watch for it and then the patterns will become evident.

When the patterns are visible, then we can give them the support they need.

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Become a Certified Trauma-Informed Protective Parent in this intensive educational program with an option for LIVE coaching/support to guide protective parents as they navigate the stormy seas of parenting a child who has been coercively controlled. Learn more about The Protective Parenting Program: A Coercive Control Trauma-Informed Parenting Program: https://go.drcocchiola.com/ppp24q2wselfstudy

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Extinguishing the Fire Jan 15, 2024

The Coercive Controller exerts power over everyone - including our children. His primary focus is to ensure our children feel shame and he kindles that overtly and covertly with them. We need to do whatever we can to extinguish this - shame-reducing responses are so important, yet so challenging when our children trigger our trauma.

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Become a Certified Trauma-Informed Protective Parent in this intensive educational program with an option for LIVE coaching/support to guide protective parents as they navigate the stormy seas of parenting a child who has been coercively controlled. Learn more about The Protective Parenting Program: A Coercive Control Trauma-Informed Parenting Program: https://go.drcocchiola.com/ppp24q2wselfstudy

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The podcast must not replace medical or mental health guidance. It's recommended that individuals consult a healthcare professional for independent medical advice, counseling, or therapy regarding any medical or mental health concerns, including topics covered in the podcast.

THE 10,000-Foot View, THE LIST, & Changing The STORY Dec 22, 2023

What if you could look down on the relationship dynamics with the coercive controller [Narcissistic Abuser]?

What has the coercive controller been saying about you you since DAY ONE?

We need THE LIST so that we can counteract the abusers intentional diminishing of the protective parent and we need to begin to change THE STORY our children believe to be true.

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Book a 15-minute FREE consultation with Dr. Cocchiola: https://calendly.com/drcocchiola/15min?month=2023-12

Become a Certified Trauma-Informed Protective Parent in this intensive educational program with an option for LIVE coaching/support to guide protective parents as they navigate the stormy seas of parenting a child who has been coercively controlled. Learn more about The Protective Parenting Program: A Coercive Control Trauma-Informed Parenting Program: https://go.drcocchiola.com/ppp24q1wselfstudy

DISCLAIMER:

The podcast must not replace medical or mental health guidance. It's recommended that individuals consult a healthcare professional for independent medical advice, counseling, or therapy regarding any medical or mental health concerns, including topics covered in the podcast.

The Threats Are Not Idle Dec 22, 2023

The threats of revenge are all too real: The financial ruin that is often further inflicted through the legal process is overwhelming. It's all intentional. It's all planned.

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The podcast must not replace medical or mental health guidance. It's recommended that individuals consult a healthcare professional for independent medical advice, counseling, or therapy regarding any medical or mental health concerns, including topics covered in the podcast.

The Emancipation Dec 22, 2023

In this episode Dr. Cocchiola begins to unpack the various ways that coercive controllers inflict their harm. It's ALL intentional. It's a course of conduct. A pattern that is often insidious yet cumulative. It's intimate terrorism. It limits the freedoms of an individual - as Dr. Evan Stark states: "Coercive Control is a liberty crime and we MUST be in the business of EMANCIPATION".

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The podcast must not replace medical or mental health guidance. It's recommended that individuals consult a healthcare professional for independent medical advice, counseling, or therapy regarding any medical or mental health concerns, including topics covered in the podcast.

The Who, What, Why, & How of Coercive Controllers Dec 22, 2023

Their egos so compromised and their goal to compromise the adult victims' ego and their children’s ego - all to maintain control. Our children particularly vulnerable.

Who are these individuals?

What is it that they are doing?

How do they become individuals so readily willing to intentionally harm?

Why do they abuse?

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The podcast must not replace medical or mental health guidance. It's recommended that individuals consult a healthcare professional for independent medical advice, counseling, or therapy regarding any medical or mental health concerns, including topics covered in the podcast.

Understanding Coercive Control and Its Impact on Children Dec 22, 2023

Dr. Cocchiola defines coercive control, highlighting its impact on children beyond physical abuse. She emphasizes its role in domestic and child abuse, often concealed from authorities. Addressing children's vulnerability as "Perfect Prey," she stresses the vital support protective parents offer to those exposed to coercive control.

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The podcast must not replace medical or mental health guidance. It's recommended that individuals consult a healthcare professional for independent medical advice, counseling, or therapy regarding any medical or mental health concerns, including topics covered in the podcast.

Compliance Is An Act of Survival Dec 04, 2023

This episode begins to outline the steps of derailing the coercive controller's plan and gives us the perspective of this abusive parent.

For our children, Compliance is an Act of Survival.

DISCLAIMER:

The podcast must not replace medical or mental health guidance. It's recommended that individuals consult a healthcare professional for independent medical advice, counseling, or therapy regarding any medical or mental health concerns, including topics covered in the podcast.

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Become a Certified Trauma-Informed Protective Parent in this intensive educational program with an option for LIVE coaching/support to guide protective parents as they navigate the stormy seas of parenting a child who has been coercively controlled.

The Protective Parenting Program: A Coercive Control Trauma-Informed Parenting Program: https://go.drcocchiola.com/ppp24q1wselfstudy

The Antithesis of the Light Triad Nov 16, 2023

Kantianism comes from the philosopher Immanuel Kant: "the idea that we have a moral duty to act in a good way - whether it benefits us or not. People are ends unto themselves and not pawns in someone else’s games" - unless of course, we are dealing with a coercive controller [narcissistic abuser]. Then everyone is fair game - especially our children.

In this in-depth episode, Dr. Cocchiola explores how individuals, often narcissistic abusers or coercive controllers, prey on empathetic and loyal individuals. She then expands this concept to children who may be more susceptible to this form of manipulation due to the power dynamics with parents or guardians. She emphasizes the importance of understanding these manipulations and the dangers they pose within families. Dr. Cocchiola examines the coercive controller's tactics, from manipulating children and weaponizing them against the protective parent to using children to fill their ego tanks. She also discusses the damage this form of abuse causes, defining it as betrayal trauma and complex trauma, and echoes a strong need for recognition and intervention.

DISCLAIMER:

The podcast must not replace medical or mental health guidance. It's recommended that individuals consult a healthcare professional for independent medical advice, counseling, or therapy regarding any medical or mental health concerns, including topics covered in the podcast.

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WEBSITE: https://coercivecontrolconsulting.com

Become a Certified Trauma-Informed Protective Parent in this intensive educational program with an option for LIVE coaching/support to guide protective parents as they navigate the stormy seas of parenting a child who has been coercively controlled.

The Protective Parenting Program: A Coercive Control Trauma-Informed Parenting Program: https://go.drcocchiola.com/ppp24q1wselfstudy

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