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Ep. 80 Attachment to Beliefs Jun 29, 2021

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After years of therapy and spiritual practice, I was sure I had the skills to be the parent I longed to be. I pictured myself as a BIG open expansive heart energy surrounding my child supporting her to express her heart. My visions filled me with delight and supported traveling halfway around the world to adopt my daughter from China. One of my friends looked at me and said, "what a noble act of humanity" and yet the truth is the noble act was on my daughter's part. She came back for me. Little did I know I would be faced with all my attachments lingering deep in the corners of my conditioning. Tune into this week's episode of Parenting Paused to hear more about how I worked with the beliefs I was attached to. www.purejoyparenting.com

Ep. 79 Riding The Waves of Intense Feelings Jun 22, 2021

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Over and over again, one of the main things I practice in my life, and especially in my parenting, is the counter instinctual move toward my uncomfortable feelings instead of away from them. Of course, as a child, none of us were able to tolerate the intensity in our little bodies when big feelings with big sensations arose. Tune into today's episode to explore with me how to begin working with these intensities with your adult body. www.purejoyparenting.com

Ep. 78 I Cant Let My Child Do That! Jun 15, 2021

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When your child comes to you and asks you if they can do something, or when they look to you when they're about to do something, do you ever feel like you're giving them permission?

This week inside this episode I want to share with you a different approach to what might actually be happening when you perceive that your child is asking you for permission!

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Ep. 77 The Profound Experience of Mothering Jun 08, 2021

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I've had many experiences in my life, some joyful, others painful, and a whole wide range in between. Mothering, in all its ups and downs, has been the most profound experience and continues to be so. Little did I know what lay ahead when I traveled to China 21 years ago to adopt my daughter. I honestly thought- 'I am so ready for this experience. I've done my work and now I can show up as the BEST mom in the world.' Looking back I see how naive I was about the road ahead of me, and yet my heart led the way. That BIG Heart was calling me into a deeper, more profound experience in life. I can imagine you know what I'm talking about. When the Heart calls, you listen. More about parenting from my Heart inside this episode. www.purejoyparenting.com

Ep. 76 Setting Healthy Personal Boundaries Jun 01, 2021

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Lots of parents ask me, how do I set boundaries with my child? It is a HUGE topic and one I've chosen to explore from my internal experience. Early on I saw how much easier it was to bind my daughter and her behavior than to take responsibility for setting my healthy boundaries. The question entered my mind: What if I don't need to bind and limit her? Join me in this episode to hear more about what that looked like. www.purejoyparenting.com

Ep. 75 Are You Manipulating Your Children May 25, 2021

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Frequently, we hear how important it is to parent from the present moment. This is extremely challenging as our conditioning has trained us to manipulate experience to achieve a particular future outcome. Our children learn this also. We often call them manipulators because when they have a fantasy of some future goodie they desire, they will, for sure, manipulate the environment, the world, your mind, everything, to get what they want! How is that for you? Tune into this episode as we look a little closer at being in the present moment. www.purejoypareinting.com

Ep. 74 Parenting On Stress May 18, 2021

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I once read about a study measuring and comparing the energies of fear and excitement in the body. The researchers found out fear and excitement measured as exactly the same energetic charge. The difference was the story people were telling themselves about the charge. When my daughter was younger I constantly felt overly responsible and exhausted. Being the curious being that I am I checked out if this story was true in my SafeSeat. Releasing the story and simply feeling the energy in my body brought great insight. More on this inside Episode 74! www.purejoyparenting.com

Ep. 73 Justifying Your Parenting Style May 11, 2021

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When the "world" is telling you they are right and you are wrong, the urge to defend and justify yourself is strong. To reverse what is coming at you, desperately you cast others in the wrong and yourself in the right. If you are feeling this way, try this: going deeply inside ask yourself what is my BIG "Why"? - why do I feel compelled to parent this way? Release the outside voices, tapping into your wisdom to deeply find your "Why". More on this topic inside the episode. www.purjeoyparenting.com

Ep. 72 Are Your Children Demanding? May 04, 2021

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In your family, were you taught that "wants" were demanding? Was it safer to appear self-reliant and independent? If so, you grew up trying to quell your wants and learned to take care of others while repressing your own. Self-reliance and independence are highly valued in our culture. I received a lot of strokes in my family for taking care of myself. It wasn't as if my wants disappeared. They went underground, as the strategy I was trained to value, of always taking care of others, came to the foreground. Tune in to hear about a different way to be with wants! www.purejoyparenting.com

Ep. 71 Developing Emotional Maturity Apr 27, 2021

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It's an emotional skill to be present with your child as they experience their emotional waves without trying to rescue them.

The waves are the content of what is happening within the context of discovering who they are in their life, the ocean. The way emotional waves work is they first arise as sensation and feeling, then as story, and then finally behavior.

Likely, you weren't taught the art of riding your emotional waves so it is challenging to ride your child's. Most of us were taught to control them, especially when they manifested in "acting out" behavior. In parenting, we generally concentrate our energy on the "acting out" part.

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