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BONUS: Exposing the Lies Behind Suicide with Kay Wyma Feb 25, 2020

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We say this often, but parenting is one of the greatest blessings and one of the greatest challenges. There are really hard places in parenting that are much easier to avoid rather than address head-on.

Suicide is one of those topics.

It’s emotional, it’s scary, and it’s easy to feel inadequate when it comes to talking about it. That said, the CDC lists suicide as the second-leading cause of death in children and young adults between the ages of ten and twenty-four. We can’t afford to gloss over a topic so pervasive in our youth.

This statistic has become more than a number in recent days as we have seen family after family impacted by suicide in our community. Many of you have asked us to consider entering the conversation and to provide biblical guidance and resources.

We heard you, and today we are doing just that by providing a special edition of content focused on suicide.

Our prayer is that these resources are helpful as you consider the topic of suicide. However, we are not a substitute for professional help. If you are struggling (or anyone around you is), please get the help you need and deserve.

The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is (800)273-8255.

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BONUS: Parenting Our Kids Through Suicide with Mia Mbroh Feb 25, 2020

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Suicide is one of those topics.

We heard you, and today we are doing just that by providing a special edition of content focused on suicide.

The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is (800)273-8255.

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BONUS: Praying Courage Over Our Kids Feb 24, 2020

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This week we’re praying for our kids to have courage. The further our culture strays from God’s truth, the more courage it will take for them to live biblically.

I wrote an article last year about the importance of raising kids who can stand alone. I saw a picture on social media of a boy standing by himself while praying at his school’s “See You At The Pole” Day. I realized right then how important it was going to be to raise kids who can stand alone in their faith.

Passionately following Jesus, especially in today’s culture, is not going to happen if we follow the masses and blend in with the crowd. We’re called to be holy, set apart, sanctified, chosen, and on a great mission for Jesus. So are our kids.

Our kids will need a strong dose of courage to stand alone in the hard places.

It takes courage to:

stand up when everyone else is just standing by
include the excluded, allowing no one to be left behind on your watch
walk away from the inappropriate images everyone is sharing
say no when it’s more popular to say yes
stay home because going might lead to compromise

Let’s pray that our kids have the courage to stand alone when they need to and that God will do something big with it when they do.

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Loving Our Kids Like God Loves Us with Nell Bush Feb 20, 2020

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We’re talking all things love this February, and it’s only fitting we talk about our love for our kids!

Speaking of love, how was your Valentine’s day?

Some years, V-Day (that’s what the cool kids call it) entails fancy clothes and a night out for a steak. Other years, it’s more of the boneless wings and a Diet Coke variety.

Mine fell in the wings category this year, but I have no complaints.

As I approach close to twenty years of marriage, I’ve found that I feel most loved in the small places that receive no huge fanfare. It’s my husband’s sweet smile when he knows I’ve kept my patience after answering my toddler’s hundredth question of the hour. Or when I come home from a work event to a clean kitchen and an empty dishwasher.

After you’ve been married for a while, it’s the small things that become the big things. Don’t let them go unnoticed.

Back to loving our kids.

Nell Bush joins us today to talk about being intentional in how we show love to our kids.

We talk about practicing patience and love by accepting their inborn temperament and understanding their particular stage of development.

She also reminds us of the importance of establishing a trusting environment through routines and rituals.

And don’t miss her practical suggestions on disciplining your kids. It will give you lots to think about.

Nell is a great parenting resource, and I can’t wait for you to hear her wise words.

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BONUS: Praying Character Over Our Kids Feb 17, 2020

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It’s often said that character is how we act when nobody is looking.

As a parent of a toddler, I cling to the hope that character evolves with age.

For that matter, as a parent of teens, I’m counting on God’s promise that he will “finish what he started” and help me get them over the finish line (Philippians 1:6).

Character is a big one on the list of things we can be praying for our kids.

It’s easy to mix up character and personality, and that’s why I’m so glad to have Janet Denison join us today to talk about the difference between the two and how it impacts discipline.

As we focus on our kids’ character this week, let’s pray God’s character into their lives so they will be slow to anger (Nehemiah 9:17), rich in love (Psalm 145:8), merciful (Psalm 145:8), and compassionate (Romans 5:8).

The Lord is constantly searching for those with godly character to be used for his great purposes. Let’s pray he finds it in our children.

If you haven’t had a chance to check out our newest Pardon the Mess product, it’s time!

I’ve written thirty cards as a way to remind your kids of their identity in Christ. They are teen-inspired and a great way to put God’s truth in front of them in the kitchen, bathroom, or anywhere that will remind them that they are worthy because of who and whose they are.

Grab your copy today!

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Social Media, Marriage, and Family with Kirk Cameron Feb 13, 2020

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This month, Pardon the Mess is focused on things we love, and we’re thrilled to have Kirk Cameron on the show to talk about family, marriage, faith, and raising kids. That pretty much covers all the things we love!

Kirk is best known for his 1980s portrayal of Mike Seaver in the sitcom Growing Pains. Since that time, he’s continued to act, direct, and produce films primarily in the context of his Christian faith. He’s married to Chelsea Noble (who portrayed his girlfriend on Growing Pains) and together they have six children.

Kirk visits with us today about his social media documentary, Connect, and his takeaway that we need to be relentless in connecting with our kids. We’re the first generation to raise kids with social media, and it’s important to stay current with technology and focus on our communication with our kids.

My favorite part of the interview is hearing Kirk’s heart behind why he continues to share his faith so publicly. He wants to hear the Lord say “Well done” at the end of his life, and that motivates him to continue to use his platform to tell others about his faith. He’s currently touring the country with a message that focuses on resetting our living rooms by pursuing God in our families.

Kirk is relatable, funny, humble, and godly. This is a podcast you’re going to love!

P.S. If you want to hear more from Kirk, check out his program Living Room Reset!

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BONUS: Praying Respect Over Our Kids Feb 10, 2020

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R-E-S-P-E-C-T!

There’s not a parent out there who hasn’t echoed the words of the legendary Aretha saying, “All I’m askin’ is for a little respect when you get home.”

This week, we’re praying for our kids to have respect. This is a core value that impacts all of their relationships, and it’s critical to walking well with the Lord. It starts by teaching respect in the home, and obedience is a key component as we raise our kids.

On today’s podcast, we talk about what it looks like to respect the Lord, starting with showing respect to the people around us who are his creation. We consider Scripture that tells us to honor and respect our governing authorities, and we talk about how to teach our children to disagree well with others.

If we take it a little bit further this week while praying respect, we can also pray that our kids respect the word of God, respect their bodies, and respect those with authority over them in all aspects of their lives. That’s a lot to pray over this week!

I also want to make you among the first to hear about a new product I wrote that’s available for the first time this week!

Raising kids involves lots of discipline and correction to keep them on course, balanced with ensuring they know that their true identity in Christ has absolutely nothing to do with their performance or behavior.

He Calls You By Name: 30 Reminders of Your Identity in Christ is a set of cards designed to be a visual reminder to your kids of their real identity. They are modern, they are biblically based, and they are a tangible way to remind your kids that they are loved and significant because of the One who loves them.

The front of the card has Scripture talking about identity, and the back has a short summary of why that truth matters in their life and how it impacts who they really are. Grab a set of these cards to put in your kitchen, on your kids’ nightstand, or anywhere that will remind them of who they belong to and the significance such knowledge brings.

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"You're going to be okay" with Robert J. Morgan Feb 06, 2020

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In today's episode, I talk to Robert J. Morgan, the author of one of my favorite books EVER, The Red Sea Rules.

It’s about the Israelites’ journey across the Red Sea and ten biblical principles for when we face difficulties in our faith.

Pastor Rob got me thinking about the difficulties I’ve faced lately, as well as the way God has helped me in and through them. Which then got me thinking about my youngest son.

When my toddler falls down, he always waits for me to pick him up and dust him off.

Even when he’s not hurt, he dramatically lays on the floor until I walk over to pick him up, dust him off, and give him a hug, telling him he’s going to be okay. And then, just like that, he’s off in a million different directions like nothing ever happened.

I’m coming off a time where I’ve needed to be dusted off. I’ve had some bumps and bruises come my way and I’ve been discouraged.

There’s just something about being helped up and assured that you’re going to be okay.

P.S. Pastor Rob just released 100 Bible Verses that Made America this week, check it out!

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BONUS: Praying Interruptibility Over Our Kids Feb 03, 2020

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“The truth is, of course, that what one regards as interruptions are precisely one’s life.” —C. S. Lewis

The Lord uses people for his kingdom purposes who are willing to let go of their own agenda and go with his. To trade in their own personal security for something bigger than they can accomplish on their own. He uses those who live interruptible lives.

Many of the disciples were asked to literally lay down their fishing nets in order to walk with Jesus. Jesus knew that, only when they were willing to walk away from their own plans, he could lead them on the journey of a lifetime with the message of eternity.

At his very core, Jesus wants his people to have a deep connection with him. Through this deep connection, he’s able to lead us to places we otherwise would not go.

We will have nets to lay down if we’re going to follow Jesus—and so will our kids.

Praying for our kids to live interruptible lives is an interesting prayer when we know personally how frustrating it is to be interrupted. It’s not easy, but it’s right.

Let’s pray this week that our kids have a heart for God’s calling in their lives and that they will be willing to lay down their nets every day in order to follow their Savior.

“For my thoughts are not your thoughts,
neither are your ways my ways, declares the Lord.
For as the heavens are higher than the earth,
so are my ways higher than your ways
and my thoughts than your thoughts.”
—Isaiah 55:8–9

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Hard Places in Marriage with Lysa TerKeurst Jan 30, 2020

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As we continue our “New Year, New You” series this January, we’ve covered topics related to our physical health, emotional health, and finances.

This week, we’re talking about marriage, and I don’t know of a better person to talk to about this important but oftentimes difficult subject. Today, we’ve got Lysa TerKeurst!

Lysa is a New York Times bestselling author, speaker, and the president of Proverbs 31 Ministries. She’s married to her husband, Art, and they have five grown children. They live in Nashville, and Lysa is passionate about helping others experience Jesus by working through Scripture in the truest and most responsible way that everyone can understand.

Lysa shares vulnerably about her marriage and finding out about her husband’s infidelity and substance abuse. Living through that and seeing God restore her marriage, she encourages us in the hard places in marriage.

What we talk about:

Acknowledging that the Enemy is attacking marriages and seeks to isolate us
The importance of marriage check-ins with our spouse
It’s okay to be disappointed in our marriage but the importance of redefining disappointment
Why we all need counseling in combination with exercising discernment
How to trust the Lord in the times when you can’t see his hand

She’s practical, she’s wise, and she gives us lots to consider in our marriages! Take time to listen to Lysa TerKeurst on Pardon the Mess and share it with your friends!

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