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36: Hate, Help, and Housing: Psychoanalysis and Social Work feat. Brian Ngo-Smith Dec 30, 2023

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Abby and Patrick welcome psychoanalyst and clinical social worker Brian Ngo-Smith, President of the American Association for Psychoanalysis in Clinical Social Work (AAPCSW). Focusing on his paper “This Couch Has Bed Bugs: On the Homelessness of Psychoanalysis and the Psychoanalysis of Homelessness,” they talk about psychotherapy with unhoused clients and tensions between the priorities of psychoanalysis versus social work, the desire to help, and our society’s hatred of dependence. Turning to D.W. Winnicott’s ideas about hate in countertransference, they explore how unacknowledged hatred by caregivers for their patients manifests not only interpersonally but also in institutional behaviors and broader social policy. They also discuss Brian’s recent work on the eros of care, including a paper entitled “Porosity and Preoccupation: Queer Thoughts on Psychoanalytic Care,” which he will deliver as the Gertrude and Ernst Ticho Memorial Lecture at the National Meeting of the American Psychoanalytic Association in New York this February.
Articles discussed include:
D.W. Winnicott’s classic essay, “Hate in the Counter-Transference,” available here: Thttps://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3330380/pdf/348.pdf
Brian Ngo-Smith, “This Couch Has Bed Bugs: On the Homelessness of Psychoanalysis and the Psychoanalysis of Homelessness,” Clinical Social Work Journal 46:1, March 2018.
Brian Ngo-Smith, “Porosity and Preoccupation: Queer Thoughts on Psychoanalytic Care,” to be delivered at the 2024 National Meeting of the American Psychoanalytic Association in New York on February 10th from 2-4pm.
Brian’s website is here: www.ngosmiththerapy.com
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35: Standard Edition Volume 1 Part 5: Fragments, Paranoia, and Projection: The Fliess Extracts, Continued feat. Christine Smallwood Teaser Dec 23, 2023

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In the latest installment of the Standard Edition, Abby continues the conversation about the Fliess Extracts section of SE Volume 1 with novelist and literary critic Christine Smallwood. We discuss fragments, continuity and discontinuity, and narrative and lack thereof; the first instances of the use of the terms libido and projection and what they mean at this point; the relationship between anxiety and melancholia; a fascinating diagram Freud terms a “schematic picture of sexuality”; and a case study about a paranoiac young woman.
The essay from which the opening anecdote is drawn is “Freud’s Friend, Fliess,” by John Riddington Young. History of Otorhinolaryngology 2016;2: 107-121
The diagram and chart Abby and Christine discuss is available on Patreon

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34: Fatphobia and Moral Feelings feat. Kate Manne Dec 16, 2023

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Abby and Patrick welcome philosopher Kate Manne, author of Down Girl: The Logic of Misogyny (2017), Entitled: How Male Privilege Hurts Women (2020), and the forthcoming Unshrinking: How to Face Fatphobia (2024). They discuss our moral emotions – shame, contempt, disgust, abjection – and what they signal; the ideological ranking of bodies into specific hierarchies, the contingencies of when and how fatness has been valued, and the historical links between contemporary fatphobia and anti-Blackness; how discourse around fatness involves logics of scapegoating, victim-blaming, the mystifications of capitalism, anxieties about pleasure, and fantasies of self-mastery; fat activism and the insights of disability studies; and the necessity of undoing fatphobia as a crucial part of meaningful social change and solidarity.
Unshrinking: How to Face Fatphobia comes out January 9, 2024 and is available for pre-order here: https://bookshop.org/p/books/unshrinking-how-to-face-fatphobia-kate-manne/19993688
Down Girl: The Logic of Misogyny is here: https://bookshop.org/p/books/down-girl-the-logic-of-misogyny-kate-manne/18742539
Entitled: How Male Privilege Hurts Women is here: https://bookshop.org/p/books/entitled-how-male-privilege-hurts-women-kate-manne/16881547
Kate’s Substack, “More to Hate,” is here: https://katemanne.substack.com/
Other texts cited include:

Julia Kristeva, Powers of Horror

Kate Harding, “How Do You Fuck a Fat Woman?” (available in Yes Means Yes: Visions of Female Power and a World Without Rape, eds Friedman and Valenti)
Kate’s book tour dates include:

Book launch in Ithaca, NY at Buffalo Street Books on Jan 9th

Cambridge, MA at Harvard Bookstore on Jan 22th

Montclair, NJ at Montclair Public Library on Jan 24th

Brooklyn, NY at Community Books on Jan 26th

Washington, DC at Politics and Prose on Jan 27th
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33: The Problem with Empathy feat. Jade E. Davis Nov 25, 2023

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Abby and Patrick welcome Jade E. Davis, author of the new book The Other Side of Empathy. They discuss Jade’s critique of naïve notions of “empathy” and what she calls “empathy culture.” They examine the ways empathy can flatten suffering, demand particular performances of suffering, and serve fantasies that there’s one “right way” to suffer and that the Other can always be assimilated into the self. Other topics include Davis’ genealogy of the term “empathy” and how its history is more recent than many might think; the fundamentally colonial aspects of the empathetic gaze; human zoos and some of their contemporary equivalents; and the influences of Edith Stein and Frantz Fanon on her work. They also explore the implications of her thinking on how scholars ought to work with images and the possible real-world effects of such activities and why we can – and in fact must – judge history by our contemporary standards, since history’s standards are never simply past.
Jade E. Davis’ The Other Side of Empathy (2023).

Jade E. Davis' website and links to her other writing are here.

Jade E. Davis’s zine, Empathy as an Ideology can be found (and printed!) here.
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32: Thanksgiving Special, Part 2: Murder, Myth, and Memory Teaser Nov 20, 2023

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In the second – overstuffed – installment of our two-part Thanksgiving Special, we discuss the social demand to perform “thankfulness”; the parable of primal murder and subsequent myth-making at the heart of Freud’s first foray into armchair anthropology, Totem and Taboo (1913); Christianity, civic religion and the “totems” and sacrifices of ritual meals as obligatory touchstones for enforcing social cohesion; the history of the Thanksgiving holiday as a project of ideological integration and national-mythmaking; the history behind the supposed “first Thanskgiving”; the psychic tolls of repression at the level of the individual, the family, and the nation; settler colonialism as a term of political and libidinal economy; primal scenes and screen memories; indigenous activism, counter-memories, and the National Day of Mourning; compulsory identification, difficult recognitions, disidentifications, and the creation of new possibilities.
Works referenced available on Patreon.
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31: Thanksgiving Special, Part 1: The Holiday Syndrome Teaser Nov 18, 2023

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In the first installment of our two-part Thanksgiving Special, we discuss the so-called “Holiday Syndrome” in general and with an eye towards the upcoming US holiday season in particular. We explore how holidays catalyze some of our most elemental anxieties and fantasies as embodied in the institution known as the family. We walk through Sandor Ferenczi’s “Sunday Neurosis,” the social injunction to indulge in “recreation,” and how that demand psychically re-creates the scene of the family in all its traumas, disappointments, and contingencies. Big helpings of regression, bottomless oral need, and displaced Oedipal antagonism are served – plus a reading of the traditional Thanksgiving meal itself, which not coincidentally features a lot of food that resembles what we feed babies.
The second part of our Thanksgiving Special – on Freudian anthropology, the history behind (and of) Thanksgiving, and the libidinal structures of settler colonialism – drops Wednesday, Nov 22, just in time for your holiday travel.
Articles referenced include:
Cattell, J P. The Holiday Syndrome. The Psychoanalytic Review (1913-1957); New York Vol. 42, (Jan 1, 1955): 39, available here.
Ferenczi, Sandor. Sunday Neuroses (1919) in Further Contributions to the Theory and Technique of Psycho-Analysis. London, Karnac Books 1927.
Sarah Mullooly Sattin. The Psychodynamics of the “Holiday Syndrome”: The Meaning and Therapeutic Use of Holidays in Group Therapy with Schizophrenic Patients. Perspectives in Psychiatric Care. Volume 13, Issue 4 (October 1975), Pages 156-162, available here.
Rosenbaum, J. B. (1962) Holiday, Symptom and Dream. Psychoanalytic Review 49, 87-98, available here.
Melanie Wallendorf, Eric J. Arnould, “We Gather Together”: Consumption Rituals of Thanksgiving Day, Journal of Consumer Research, Volume 18, Issue 1, June 1991, Pages 13–31, available here.
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UNLOCKED: 14: Standard Edition Volume I Part 1: Freud Goes to Paris Nov 11, 2023

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Friends! This week we are on deadline and/or under a terrifying pile of ungraded papers, so we're giving folks a chance to enter the wild world of The Standard Edition with this freshly unlocked episode that tackles Freud’s earliest work, his personal and professional anxieties, and the complicated disorder(s) he and his contemporaries called hysteria. (Please join us on Patreon if you like it!) And for our Patreon supporters, a lot more Fliess is coming soon in the next installments of the SE, plus Wild Analysis on settler colonialism and Thanksgiving…
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In this second episode of The Standard Edition, we finally start doing the reading, tackling the first three texts in Volume I of the Standard Edition: “Report on My Studies in Paris and Berlin,” (1886), “Preface to the Translation of Charcot’s Lectures on the Diseases of the Nervous System” (1886) and “Observation of a Severe Case of Hemi-Anesthesia in A Hysterical Male” (1886). We do some ground-clearing about the history of medicine and the various disciplines in which the young Freud sought recognition and met with frustration; sketch out Freud’s biography and the world into which he was born and came of age; and discuss the figure of Jean-Martin Charcot and Freud’s time studying hysteria with him at the Salpêtrière in Paris. We pay close attention to an early case study of a male hysteric and how it prefigures some of Freud’s later case studies. Along the way, we also talk about Freud’s history with eels, anti-Semitism, cocaine, hypnosis, and his lifelong habit of making best friends and breaking up with them. We offer a handful of sources we’re consulting, whether for general edification or for reference for anyone who might be embarking on this project alongside us.
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30: Standard Edition Volume 1 Part 4: Wilhelm Fliess: The Anxiety of Influence (and a Theory of Noses) feat. Christine Smallwood Teaser Nov 04, 2023

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In the latest installment of the Standard Edition, we begin the Fliess Extracts section of SE Volume 1 in conversation with novelist and literary critic Christine Smallwood. We discuss the figure of Wilhelm Fliess and what he meant to Freud; the history of the Freud-Fliess correspondence, only half of which survives; Fliess’s theories of noses, periodicity, and bisexuality; Freud’s anxiety about Fliess’s professional reputation and influence on his own ideas; Freud’s issues with condoms and coitus interruptus; and how Freud was thinking about categories like anxiety, depression, melancholia, and obsessional neurosis during this period.
Articles discussed in this episode include:
Young, Annie Riddington. "Freud’s friend Fliess." The Journal of Laryngology & Otology 116.12 (2002): 992-995: https://www.cambridge.org/core/journals/journal-of-laryngology-and-otology/article/abs/freuds-friend-fliess/7F87416E73813F4EFEB9B46CB38B3D8B
Zucker, Arthur, and David Wiegand. "Freud, Fliess, and the nasogenital reflex: did a look into the nose let us see the mind?" Otolaryngology–Head and Neck Surgery 98.4 (1988): 319-322: https://aao-hnsfjournals.onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1177/019459988809800409
Blum, Harold P. "Freud, Fliess, and the parenthood of psychoanalysis." The Psychoanalytic Quarterly 59.1 (1990): 21-40:https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/21674086.1990.11927262

29: Gender, Trauma, and Psychoanalytic Politics feat. Avgi Saketopoulou and Ann Pellegrini Oct 28, 2023

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Abby and Patrick welcome psychoanalyst Avgi Saketopoulou and psychoanalyst and academic Ann Pellegrini to discuss their new co-authored book, Gender Without Identity. They talk about the genesis of the manuscript, from its beginnings in a painful case of child analysis to its distressing reception by psychoanalytic gatekeepers and “repressive forces within psychoanalysis itself.” They explore the difficulties queer and trans patients have faced in seeking psychoanalytic treatment; the resistances of institutional psychoanalysis when it comes to theorizing queer subjectivities; the struggles of queer and trans analysts themselves; and the implication of psychoanalysis in broader moral panics and political mobilizations against trans people. They discuss how theory is never just abstract, but bears upon urgent questions of care; the power and fantasies of rhetorical appeals to “protect” children; and how to conceive of gender as an experiment rather than an essential given or a predetermined teleology. Finally, Avgi and Ann offer a provocative approach to thinking about what trauma is and does, including questions of “traumatophobia” and the challenging ways trauma can be theorized and experienced in relation to gendered formations of all sorts.
Gender Without Identity is here: https://bookshop.org/p/books/gender-without-identity-ann-pellegrini/20606066
Avgi’s recent book Sexuality Beyond Consent: Risk, Race, Traumatophilia is here: https://bookshop.org/p/books/sexuality-beyond-consent-risk-race-traumatophilia-avgi-saketopoulou/18390655?ean=9781479820252
Ann’s book Performance Anxiety: Staging Psychoanalysis, Staging Race is here: https://bookshop.org/p/books/performance-anxieties-staging-psychoanalysis-staging-race-ann-pellegrini/9006711?ean=9780415916868
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28: Wild Analysis: Halloween (1978) Teaser Oct 21, 2023

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After a long chat about why people like and dislike horror – and an excursion into our childhood fears – we tackle John Carpenter’s 1978 classic film Halloween. We discuss sibling rivalry, bullying, uncanny objects, stranger danger, the boogeyman, the many meanings of Michael Myers, why everyone is always on the phone in slasher movies, and cultural fantasies and fears about infantile aggression and cruelty.

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