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    Relationships

    On Attachment

    Join relationship coach Stephanie Rigg in On Attachment, where she delves deep into all things attachment theory, love, relationships & intimacy – sharing her wisdom and experience to help you start making real changes in your life & relationships. 

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    Latest Episodes:
    How to Address a Partner’s Excessive Phone Usage Oct 30, 2024

    In this episode, we dive into the growing issue of phone usage and its impact on relationship satisfaction, especially when one partner feels neglected, ignored and frustrated by the other's screen time.
    We explore why constant phone use can feel so personal, discuss strategies for approaching the topic constructively, and offer practical ways to set digital boundaries together. If you’re struggling with a partner’s phone habits, this episode will give you tools to foster more connection and understanding.
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    How to Stop Hoping Your Ex Comes Back Oct 23, 2024

    In this episode, we're exploring the common and very human experience of hoping an ex will come back after a break-up, saying they've changed their mind and want to reconcile.
    Whether you were left unexpectedly or the break-up was a long time coming, the hope that an ex will realise their mistake and come back can be powerful and all-consuming. I'll share some mindset reframes and tools to relate to your hoping differently, so you can validate yourself while still moving forward in a direction that supports your wellbeing and next chapter.
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    How Fearful Avoidant Attachment Shows Up In Relationships Oct 16, 2024

    In this episode, we’re diving into how fearful avoidant attachment (also known as disorganised attachment) plays out in relationships. If you identify with this attachment style, you might notice certain patterns in your relationships that feel confusing or contradictory.
    Key points include:

    • Feelings of instability in relationships: Many with fearful avoidant attachment feel fine when single, but painful emotions surface in relationships, often leading to blaming their partner.
    • Impact of partner's attachment style: A hallmark of fearful avoidant attachment is the shift between anxious and avoidant behaviours, which can vary from one partner to the next depending on the attachment combinations.
    • Idealising vs. villainising partners: There’s a tendency to place partners on a pedestal at times, but then quickly villainise them when triggered or threatened.
    • Fear of intimacy vs. longing for connection: Fearful avoidants deeply crave closeness, but a core fear of rejection — often rooted in shame — makes true intimacy feel unsafe. Fear of betrayal and difficulties with trust are also common.


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    How to Work Through a Trigger Oct 09, 2024

    In today’s episode, we’re talking about how to navigate emotional triggers in a healthy and constructive way. Whether it’s a comment, an argument, or even an unexpected event, triggers can send us into emotional overdrive, leaving us feeling overwhelmed and disconnected from ourselves. But with the right tools, you can slow down the spiral and regain control over your emotions.

    I’ll guide you through a simple, four-step process to help you work through triggers in real time. We’ll explore how to pause and ground yourself, tune into what’s happening in your body, examine the story you’re telling yourself about the situation, and identify what you truly need to move forward.

    If you’ve ever felt hijacked by your emotions and want practical steps to bring more calm and clarity to these moments, this episode is for you.

    What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

    • Why we get triggered and how the body responds to perceived threats
    • The importance of pausing and creating space before reacting
    • How to tune into your body to notice sensations and ground yourself
    • Questions to help you check the story you’re telling yourself about the situation
    • How to discern whether you need to have a conversation or if you can genuinely let it go
    • Identifying what you need to feel empowered and move forward

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    5 Signs You're Ready For a Relationship Oct 02, 2024

    How do you know if you're ready for a relationship? Perhaps you've asked yourself this question — and in today's episode, that's what we're exploring. While I don't believe we ever reach some objective place of being "healed enough" to enter a relationship, I do believe there are certain indicators we can look out for — signs that we're in a strong place mentally and emotionally, which will set us up for the best possible chance at finding and building a healthy partnership.


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    How to Stop Obsessing About Someone Sep 25, 2024

    In this episode, we’re tackling the challenging topic of obsessive thinking about someone and how to break free from that mental loop that causes suffering.
    We’ll explore different approaches, including Byron Katie’s The Work as a top-down method for challenging your thoughts, somatic tools to discharge anxiety from the body as a bottom-up approach, as well as the broader work of addressing the insecurities and wounds that often fuel obsessive thinking.
    By addressing your thoughts, calming your body, and working through your deeper emotional wounds, you can find peace and clarity in your relationships.


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    3 Things You'll Notice in Your First Healthy Relationship Sep 18, 2024

    In this episode, we’re exploring three key things you’ll likely notice when you experience your first truly healthy relationship. While healthy relationships are often idealised, they still come with their own challenges.
    We’ll discuss how they invite vulnerability, reveal where we may have been hiding behind dysfunction, and show us that even secure partners can be imperfect. Finally, we’ll talk about how conflict in a healthy relationship doesn’t disappear, but it feels safer and more productive.

    Key Points Covered:

    1. Vulnerability: When you're in a healthy dynamic, the absence of chaos can feel unfamiliar, and it may expose areas where you’ve avoided vulnerability by leaning on old, dysfunctional patterns.
    2. Imperfection in Secure Partners: It’s easy to idealise secure partners as perfect, but it’s important to remember that they, too, are human. The difference is in how they respond to their imperfections and how you both handle those inevitable moments of frustration.
    3. Safe Conflict: You’ll realise that disagreements can be handled with mutual respect and a sense of safety, where both partners feel heard and valued, even in moments of tension.


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    Sex & Attachment: How Anxious & Avoidant Attachment Styles Impact Sexual Dynamics Sep 11, 2024

    In this episode, we’re diving into the how anxious and avoidant attachment styles can influence sexual relationships. Understanding these differences can be crucial for navigating intimacy in your relationship, whether you identify with one of these attachment styles or are in a relationship with someone who does.
    We’ll cover five key differences in how anxious and avoidant attachment styles experience and approach sex.

    1. Emphasis on Emotional vs Physical Intimacy
      Anxiously attached individuals may place a stronger emphasis on emotional intimacy and connection as a foundation for physical intimacy. In contrast, avoidantly attached individuals might prioritize physical intimacy while keeping emotional vulnerability at arm’s length.
    2. Overthinking vs Dissociating
      When it comes to sex, those with an anxious attachment style may find themselves getting stuck in their heads, overthinking and ruminating on whether they’re pleasing their partner or what their partner might be thinking. Avoidantly attached individuals, however, might struggle to stay present during intimacy, often dissociating or emotionally checking out as a way to manage their discomfort with closeness.
    3. Focus on Other vs Focus on Self
      Anxiously attached individuals often focus heavily on their partner’s needs and feelings during sex, sometimes to the detriment of their own experience. In contrast, avoidant individuals might approach sex with a more self-focused mindset, prioritising their own comfort and boundaries, which can create distance in the sexual connection.
    4. Libido / General Openness to Being Intimate
      Anxious attachment can sometimes lead to a heightened desire for intimacy as a way to secure closeness and reassurance. Avoidantly attached individuals might experience a lower libido or be less open to intimacy, particularly if they feel overwhelmed by emotional closeness.
    5. Impact of Relational Tension on Desire for Sex
      Relational tension can have opposite effects on anxious and avoidant individuals. Those with anxious attachment may seek sex as a way to repair or soothe relational tension, while those with avoidant attachment might withdraw further, seeing sex as a source of pressure rather than connection.


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    Fearful Avoidant and Anxious Attachment: Key Similarities & Differences Sep 04, 2024

    In today's episode, we're diving into fearful avoidant (AKA disorganised) attachment and how it differs from anxious attachment.
    We’ll explore how both types are driven by a fear of abandonment and intense emotions, yet differ in their approaches to intimacy, conflict resolution, and communication.
    Whether you identify with one of these attachment styles or are in a relationship with someone who does, this episode will give you valuable insights into the dynamics at play and how to navigate them for healthier connections.


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    4 Reasons You Keep Attracting Situationships Aug 28, 2024

    In today's episode, we’re exploring the common patterns and beliefs that lead people into situationships — those ambiguous, frustrating "almost-relationships" that never quite become something more.
    If you’ve ever found yourself stuck in a situationship and wondered why it keeps happening, this episode is for you. We'll dive into four key reasons why you might be attracting these kinds of connections and how to start breaking free from the cycle. Specifically, we'll cover:

    • how a fear of rejection stops you from expressing your desires
    • the saviour complex and trying to change the emotionally unavailable person
    • the tendency to prioritise chemistry over true compatibility and authentic connection
    • tolerating situationships out of a fear that you can't do any better

    If you’re tired of finding yourself in situationships, this episode will help you identify the underlying beliefs and behaviors contributing to the pattern. You'll learn practical steps to start attracting the kind of relationship you truly want.


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    3 Tips for Avoidant Attached People to Experience Healthier Conflict Aug 21, 2024

    This week, we're talking all about how avoidant attached people can experience conflict in a healthier, more productive way. I'll be sharing three tips that will allow you to feel more connected, grounded and in control in the way you approach conflict in your relationship.


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    3 Tips for Anxiously Attached People to Experience Healthier Conflict Aug 14, 2024

    In today's episode, I'm sharing three tips for anxiously attached people to improve the way they approach and experience conflict. We cover things like slowing down and saying less, keeping things to one issue, and knowing when to leave the conversation and let things go.
    Be sure to tune in next week for Part 2 where we cover tips for avoidantly attached people in conflict!


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    My 3 Favourite Quotes on Life & Love Aug 09, 2024

    In today's episode, I'm sharing with you some wisdom from three of my favourite writers and teachers on life, love and relationships. These quotes, from authors James Clear, Elizabeth Gilbert, and Brene Brown, have been hugely formative for me in my own journey and I hope you love them as much as I do.


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    A Hard Truth About Setting Boundaries Aug 02, 2024

    In today's episode, we're talking about boundaries. Boundary setting is one of those areas that we hear about so much in the personal development world, and yet bridging the gap between theory and practice remains a challenge for most of the folks that I work with (particularly those with an anxious attachment style).
    We'll cover:

    • why boundary setting is so hard for people with insecure attachment patterns
    • how anxious and avoidant attachment styles differ in boundary setting
    • the truth about boundaries in healthy relationships
    • how to navigate a fear that setting boundaries will lead to the relationship falling apart


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    3 Life Lessons I Wish I'd Learned Sooner Jul 24, 2024

    In today's episode, I'm sharing three life lessons that I wish I'd learned sooner. These are around the theme of self-awareness, personal responsibility and consciously creating the life that we want for ourselves.
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    How Resentment Impacts Our Relationships Jul 17, 2024

    In today's episode, we're tackling the pervasive issue of resentment in relationships. We explore why resentment occurs, its impact on relationships, and how to address and resolve these feelings.
    We cover:

    • what resentment signals to us about ourselves
    • why certain people are more prone to resentment
    • the link between resentment and poor boundaries, suppression of needs and avoiding conflict
    • how we can shift out of victimhood and take responsibility for our part in a dynamic


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    5 Traits To Look For in a Partner Jul 11, 2024

    In today's episode, we're unpacking five traits that everybody should be looking for in a prospective partner. It's so easy when dating to become swept up in a connection and inadvertently overlook some of the fundamental attributes we should all be seeking in a relationship.
    The five traits we discuss in this episode are:

    • emotional self-awareness
    • integrity and trustworthiness
    • consistency, reliability and dependability
    • humour and playfulness
    • kindness


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    Making Sense of Conflicting Relationship Advice Jul 04, 2024

    Have you ever found yourself seeking out relationship advice online only to be bombarded with pages of seemingly conflicting and contradictory opinions? If so, you're not alone - and today's episode is for you. I'm going to be sharing 5 examples of contradictory relationship advice that you may have encountered and struggled to make sense of, so that you can understand the nuances and practise discernment in finding the right way forward for you.
    We cover:

    • going after a life you love AND learning to be content with what you have
    • knowing what you want in a partner AND not being overly prescriptive
    • not dating someone for their potential AND wanting someone you can grow with
    • not changing yourself to earn someone's love AND wanting to be your best self to attract a healthy partner
    • the importance of feeling your feelings AND knowing when it's okay to distract yourself


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    3 Fights Every Anxious-Avoidant Couple Has Had Jun 28, 2024

    In today's episode, I'm unpacking three common pain points that virtually all anxious-avoidant couples will encounter at some point in their relationship. We'll talk about why these particular fights are so common, and what they're really about - so you can approach them next time with more empathy and understanding, and avoid the disconnection and hurt that comes with the typical anxious-avoidant trap.
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    Why You Struggle to Let Go After a Break-Up (Even When They Were "Bad" For You) Jun 18, 2024

    In today's episode, I'm sharing some thoughts on why you might struggle to let go of someone after a break-up - especially in circumstances where you logically know that they were "bad" for you. This is such a common experience, particularly for those with anxious attachment - feeling pulled in two different directions between what you know is best vs what your body and attachment system is urging you to do.
    We cover:

    • the importance of managing expectations after a break-up
    • why it's normal to miss your ex (without it meaning anything)
    • why unhealthy or dysfunctional relationships can be even harder to let go of
    • treating moving on as a choice rather than a feeling\

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    Navigating Conflicting Needs for Togetherness & Separateness in Anxious-Avoidant Relationships Jun 06, 2024

    In today's episode, we're exploring the tension between the conflicting needs for time together and time apart that can so often become a source of friction in anxious-avoidant dynamics.
    Specifically, I'm sharing a simple but very effective tip that will both reduce separation anxiety for the anxious partner, and increase the avoidant partner's comfort with time spent together, creating a win-win for both partners and reducing the likelihood of repeated ruptures.


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    5 Signs You Struggle With Receiving May 30, 2024

    In today's episode, we're talking all about receiving. For many of us, being the giver in our relationships is our comfort zone - which can lead to imbalances, unmet needs, and resentment. But while we may bemoan the lack of reciprocity in our relationships, there is a vulnerability to receiving that many of us are uncomfortable with.
    We cover:

    • the tendency to consistently end up in imbalanced relationships
    • difficulty directing asking for what you want or need
    • feeling guilty or burdensome when people support or accommodate you
    • struggling to accept compliments or praise
    • discomfort with being the centre of attention


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    "Is it wrong to hope my partner will change?" May 23, 2024

    In today's episode, I'm sharing some thoughts on the listener question of "Is it wrong to hope my partner will change?" Wanting to change a partner is something most of us will relate to in one form or another, but it's essential that we understand where this urge is coming from and what it's trying to tell us about ourselves, our partner, and the relationship.
    Some of the things we cover:

    • wanting to change little things vs big things
    • how anxious and avoidant attached people differ in wanting to change their partner
    • changes that relate to core relationship needs
    • my advice when you're hoping they'll change without any signs that they want to


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    How to Not Lose Yourself in a New Relationship May 15, 2024

    Are you someone who tends to go from 0 to 100 at the start of a new relationship? In today's episode, we're exploring how to not lose yourself when you start dating someone new (although the advice also applies to people already in an established relationship who feel they've lost touch with themselves). This dynamic is particularly common among those with an anxious attachment style, who tend to become overly fixated on a connection at the expense of other areas of life.
    Tune in for tips on how to pace yourself in the early stages of a relationship so that you can deepen into a connection in a balanced, sustainable way that sets you up for long-term security and success.


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    Reflections on Self-Trust, Control & Surrender May 08, 2024

    In today's episode, I'm sharing some reflections from my recent experience of pregnancy and birth on self-trust, control and surrender. These are themes that most folks with insecure attachment patterns struggle with, and learning to trust in your capacity to navigate life's ups and downs with confidence and agency is a huge step on the path to building secure attachment.
    For more episodes on building trust, check out:

    • Ep 130: The Pillars of a Healthy Relationship with Self
    • Ep 124: On Trust, Risk & Vulnerability
    • Ep 111: The Pillars of Trust & Trustworthiness


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    What to Do When a Partner Pulls Away Apr 11, 2024

    In today's episode, I'm sharing some thoughts on how to navigate a partner pulling away. If you're someone with anxious attachment patterns, a partner's withdrawal or disengagement can feel extremely distressing - and yet, many of our go-to strategies for managing that distress can ironically have the effect of pushing someone further away.
    We'll cover:

    • what to do when someone pulls away in an early dating context
    • why we feel drawn to pursuing connections with people who are inconsistent
    • how to navigate a partner repeatedly leaving and coming back
    • what to do when a long-term partner is emotionally withdrawn or distant


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    Self-Soothing for Anxious Attachment Apr 02, 2024

    In today's episode, we're talking all about self-soothing and anxious attachment. For most anxiously attached folks, self-soothing and self-regulation can be a real struggle. This typically shows up as an over-reliance on others (often a partner) to be our sole source of safety and reassurance when we experience emotional distress, and an accompanying sense of helplessness and panic if and when they are not available to perform that role.
    We'll cover:

    • why anxiously attached people struggle to self-regulate
    • how an inability to self-soothe impacts our relationships
    • mindset shifts and practices to start building your self-soothing toolkit

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    20 Traits of the Anxious Attachment Style (Part 2) Mar 23, 2024

    This episode is part two of a two-part series on 20 Traits of the Anxious Attachment Style. I'm going to be running through some of the less obvious expressions of the anxious attachment style, as well as the underlying drivers of these patterns.
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    20 Traits of the Anxious Attachment Style (Part 1) Mar 21, 2024

    Today's episode is part one of a two-part series on 20 Traits of the Anxious Attachment Style. I'm going to be running through some of the less obvious expressions of the anxious attachment style, as well as the underlying drivers of these patterns.
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    From Conflict to Connection with James "Fish" Gill (@james_fish_gill) Mar 12, 2024

    In today's episode, I'm delighted to be joined by James "Fish" Gill to talk all things conflict and conscious communication. Fish is a coach, teacher and facilitator whose work offers a compassionate paradigm for relating to and transforming moments of conflict in all of our relationships.
    We cover:

    • why we so easily end up in conflict and opposition with people we love
    • how we unconsciously escalate conflict
    • using compassion and curiosity to understand someone else's perspective
    • holding both positive intention and unintended impact as true
    • reframing defensiveness, withdrawal and other assumed ill-intent...

    ...and so much more!
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    4 Common Misconceptions About Avoidant Attachment Mar 02, 2024

    In this week's episode, I'm joined by my partner Joel and we're exploring some common misconceptions about avoidant attachment. Avoidant attachment is frequently misunderstood and misrepresented in a lot of online content, and it's so important to me to dispel some of those portrayals and offer something more humanising and more honest about what's going on for avoidant folks.
    We cover misconceptions around:

    • avoidant people not wanting to be in relationships
    • avoidant people only caring about themselves
    • avoidant people never experiencing anxiety in their relationships
    • avoidant people being unable to change


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    Cultivating Secure Love with Julie Menanno (@thesecurerelationship) Feb 22, 2024

    In today's episode, I'm delighted to be joined by Julie Menanno. Julie is a couples therapist, best known for her hugely popular instagram account @thesecurerelationship where she offers nuanced and insightful takes on attachment dynamics and how couples can overcome negative cycles to build secure relationships. She has just released her first book, Secure Love, which offers couples a roadmap for building thriving relationships that last.
    Our conversation covers a lot of ground, including:

    • a deeper look at the fear of abandonment in anxious attachment
    • key challenges of avoidant attachment
    • negative cycles in anxious-avoidant relationships
    • what to do when one partner doesn't want to go to therapy
    • the importance of validating your partner's emotions (even if you disagree with their position)
    • Julie's tips (as a mum of 6!) for raising secure kids

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    On Getting Back Together with an Ex Feb 15, 2024

    In today's episode, we're talking all about getting back together with an ex. Facing the prospect of rekindling after a relationship has ended can bring up so many conflicting feelings - longing, optimism and hope, together with fear, worry, self-doubt and anxiety.
    In helping you navigate the messiness of these situations, I'll be sharing some good reasons and some not-so-good reasons why you might consider getting back together with an ex, and how you can best approach that decision to support yourself and your relationship going forward.
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    The Pillars of a Healthy Relationship with Self Feb 08, 2024

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    If you've ever come across standard "self-love" advice and it hasn't really landed for you, you're not alone. As great as it would be if we could all click our heels and achieve self-love, the simple reality is that for most of us, that's a far cry from where we're at - and if anything, the pressure to love ourselves can leave us feeling even more broken and hopeless.
    In today's episode, I'm sharing four pillars of a healthy relationship with self, that go beyond "self-love". These are more concrete, actionable focus areas that you can explore as you build a stronger and more resilient sense of self, and in so doing, reap the rewards in your relationship with others. We'll cover:

    • self-compassion
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    • self-respect
    • self-trust


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    Building Self-Worth & a Secure Dating Mindset with Dr. Morgan Anderson Feb 01, 2024

    In today's episode, I'm joined by Dr. Morgan Anderson and we're talking all about building self-worth, self-esteem and self-confidence in the context of dating. Dr. Morgan is a licensed clinical psychologist, attachment theory expert, relationship coach, and author of the relationship self-help book, Love Magnet. She is also the host of the Let's Get Vulnerable podcast.
    In our conversation, we cover:

    • how insecure attachment styles fuel unhealthy dating patterns
    • how low self-worth and a lack of self-trust impact our dating mindset
    • common shifts that occur as you rewire old patterns and move towards secure attachment
    • practical tools and tips for shifting your dating mindset and building a secure dating persona

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    Why Avoidant People Tend to Struggle with Defensiveness Jan 24, 2024

    In today's episode, we're talking all about why avoidant partners tend to struggle with defensiveness. While defensiveness is far from being the exclusive domain of avoidant attachment, many people will attest to the fact that avoidant folks are often quick to become defensive in response to relational tension or ruptures - and that this can form a key piece in the negative cycle of many anxious-avoidant relationships.
    We'll cover:

    • why defensiveness is a natural response to feeling attacked
    • how avoidant partners can perceive relational needs and concerns as personal failings
    • avoidant attachment and emotional expressiveness
    • how you can start to relate to a partner's defensiveness with greater compassion rather than judgment and blame

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    How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others Jan 17, 2024

    In today's episode, we're talking all about comparison. Comparison is one of those things that we're all susceptible to at some point or another: we compare ourselves based on appearance, personality, success, relationships. It can sometimes seem like there's a neverending list of reasons to feel dissatisfied or inadequate when we look at our lives relative to someone else's.
    And yet, while comparison is arguably a universal human experience, it's undeniable that some of us struggle with the comparison trap more than others - sometimes to the point where it feels debilitating and destructive to our sense of self.
    We'll cover:

    • why some people are more susceptible to the comparison trap than others
    • how this tendency interfaces with other struggles like unworthiness, jealousy, anxious attachment, and fear of abandonment
    • how building our self-worth can help us to shift focus away from others and build more genuine self-confidence

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    5 Hard (But Liberating) Truths About Break-Ups Jan 10, 2024

    In today's episode, we're talking all about break-ups. Break-ups are one of the most challenging and sometimes destabilising emotional experiences we can go through, and there is so much conflicting advice and information on how best to approach the ending of a relationship.
    In this episode, I'm providing you with some hard (but hopefully liberating) truths about the break-up process, so that you can make the most of the opportunity that your break-up offers to deepen in your self-awareness and your relationship with yourself.
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    How to Live Courageously in 2024 Dec 31, 2023

    For our last episode of the year, I'm sharing my own story about the power of choosing courage over comfort and making bold, scary, uncomfortable choices in the direction of the life that you desire. So many of us cling to familiarity and the known thing, even when it feels draining and deeply at odds with who we want to be and how we want our lives to look and feel.
    As we say goodbye to 2023 and enter the new year, let us reflect on where we are still hiding or avoiding in our lives, and what might be possible if we embrace a bigger, bolder, braver life that we can truly be proud of.


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    On Trust, Risk & Vulnerability Dec 22, 2023

    In today's episode, I'm sharing some thoughts about trust, risk and vulnerability. Many of us would prefer to trust only when we've completely de-risked or have some semblance of certainty that we won't get hurt, but unfortunately this is entirely at odds with the inherent vulnerability of trust.
    We'll cover:

    • why our fear will always keep us on the lookout for ways in which we might get hurt
    • how trust and vulnerability interface with fear and risk-aversion
    • why we need to let go of trying to control the future
    • how we can start to view trust as a choice rather than a feeling


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    3 Relationship Superpowers Dec 14, 2023

    In today's episode, we're unpacking three relationship superpowers (which frankly are also life superpowers!). These are the skills and mindset pieces that I wish for everyone to be cultivating as they walk the path of becoming more secure in themselves and in their partnerships.
    We talk about:

    • discernment and self-trust
    • the importance of humility and curiosity
    • keeping things in perspective


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    Why You Should Prioritise Self-Care in a Relationship Dec 06, 2023

    In today's episode, we're talking all about the importance of self-care in a relationship, and how prioritising self-care can (somewhat counterintuitively) be far more nourishing and constructive for the relationship than being overly focused on the relationship itself.
    We'll cover:

    • why anxiously attached people tend to obsess over the relationship
    • how neglecting ourselves when the relationship is under strain makes things worse
    • why we should all be prioritising our self-care if we want a thriving relationship with ourselves and our partners


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    What is Emotional Availability? Nov 30, 2023

    In today's episode, we're talking all about emotional availability. Emotional availability is one of those terms that is thrown around a lot on social media - and it seems like everybody is on the lookout for the "emotionally unavailable" people that are to be avoided at all costs. But as always, I think it's important to approach these conversations with nuance and curiosity, before slapping labels on others and declaring them to be the problem. As we discuss in this episode, our focus on others' emotional unavailability can often mask the parts of us that are hiding behind inauthenticity.
    We cover:

    • what does emotional availability (and unavailability) actually mean
    • why we might be attracted to unavailability in others
    • how emotional unavailability can manifest differently for anxious vs avoidant people
    • how our own unavailability might be impacting our dating patterns


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    10 Tips for Healing an Anxious Attachment Style Nov 22, 2023

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    In today's episode, I'm sharing 10 tips to start healing your anxious attachment style. While "healing" is not something that really lends itself to a formula or a 10-step plan, having guided thousands of students through the process of healing their anxious attachment I can certainly attest to the key growth areas for most folks with anxious attachment patterns.
    We'll cover things like getting your mindset right, learning about your nervous system, building self-worth, voicing needs and boundaries, how to have healthier conflict, and diversifying your life so you're not solely focused on your relationship.


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    Am I People-Pleasing or Just Being Nice? Nov 15, 2023

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    In today's episode, we're talking all about people-pleasing: what it is, why we do it, and how it's different to "just being a nice person". For many of us, people pleasing is second nature. We are so accustomed to accommodating others and burying our own feelings and needs that we don't even realise we're doing it.
    Unfortunately, this typically leads us to feel disconnected, lonely and exhausted - not to mention it usually backfires insofar as building healthy relationships is concerned.



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    Why Anxious & Avoidant People Are Drawn to Each Other Nov 09, 2023

    In today's episode, I'm sharing some thoughts on the common question of why those with anxious attachment patterns are typically attracted to those with avoidant attachment patterns (and vice versa). As we know, this is a very common relationship pairing - which can be confusing when you feel like the challenges of that dynamic are at odds with your preferences and desires.
    As we'll cover, oftentimes this is driven by subconscious patterns that propel us to recreate the familiar in a way that reinforces our core beliefs about ourselves and others.


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    "How do I know if my relationship is worth fighting for?" Nov 01, 2023

    In today's episode, I'm answering a listener's question of "How do I know if my relationship is worth fighting for?" This is a big question, and unfortunately it's one of those messy ones that no one can tell you the answer to. What's worth fighting for according to one person, might be simply too hard and too much for another.
    We'll cover:

    • fear of regret no matter what we choose
    • focusing on what you can control
    • how to do things differently rather than staying stuck in the same loops

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    5 Things to Normalise in Long-Term Relationships Oct 24, 2023

    In today's episode, we're talking all about things that we need to normalise in long-term relationships. So much of the time, our expectations about our relationships - that they should be harmonious 100% of the time, that we should love everything about our partner, that we should never doubt or question our choices - leave us feeling confused and anxious.
    When really, the problem is not with our relationship - it's with the pressure we've placed on our relationship to meet an unrealistic standard of perfection.


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    5 Things Secure Couples Do Well Oct 18, 2023

    In today's episode, we're talking about 5 things that secure couples do really well to build safety, intimacy and connection in their relationships. We'll cover:

    • raising important issues and knowing when to let things go
    • prioritising connection, play and intimacy
    • validating each other's experience rather than needing to be right
    • balancing togetherness and separateness
    • engaging in meaningful repair when things go awry

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    Anxious-Avoidant Relationship Q&A (feat. my partner Joel) Oct 11, 2023

    In today's episode, I'm joined by my partner Joel and we're answering your questions about how we've navigated aspects of the anxious-avoidant dynamic in our relationship.
    We talk about:

    • doing "the work" individually and as a couple
    • how we've built trust and safety over time
    • how we manage conflict and have hard conversations


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    How Stress Impacts Our Relationships Oct 04, 2023

    In today's episode, we're talking all about stress and the profound impact it can have on our relationships. We live in a world where stress is chronic and constant - and not only does that spell trouble for our health and wellbeing, but it can leave us feeling lonely, resentful and disconnected in our partnerships.
    We'll cover:

    • how stress can exacerbate existing attachment dynamics
    • why we aren't designed for chronic stress and what it does to us
    • how our nervous system's stress response affects our perception and our stories
    • tips for managing stress more adaptively as an individual and within your relationship


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    When Your Partner Doesn't Want to Do The Work Sep 27, 2023

    In today's episode, we're talking about what to do when your partner doesn't want to work on the relationship. This is an incredibly common dynamic, to have one partner who wants to actively work on things and another partner who is more resistant (which can often overlap with anxious-avoidant dynamics).
    We'll cover:

    • why your partner might be feeling resistant to doing "the work"
    • how different people make meaning out of needing to work on a relationship
    • ways to dismantle fear stories your partner might have
    • why it's entirely valid to value growth in a partnership


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    The Pillars of Trust & Trustworthiness Sep 22, 2023

    In today's episode, we're talking all about trust & trustworthiness. Trust is something that many people struggle with, oftentimes as a direct result of past experiences where trust has been breached. And as we'll discuss in today's conversation, trust is about so much more than honesty. My hope is that you'll walk away from today's episode with greater clarity about why you might struggle with trust, and the steps you can take to remediate this in your relationships.
    We'll cover:

    • the interplay between trust and trustworthiness
    • the five pillars of trust
    • how self-trust and relational trust are connected
    • building trust through small acts over time

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    What Healthy Interdependency Looks Like & How to Cultivate It Sep 20, 2023

    In today's episode, we're exploring healthy interdependency. Interdependency is often cited as a key trait of secure functioning relationships, and yet many of us lack a clear picture of what healthy interdependency actually looks and feels like - especially if you have a history of insecure attachment patterns.
    We'll cover:

    • the spectrum from codependency to hyper-independence
    • interdependency as a healthy middle ground
    • how different attachment styles relate to codependency, independence and interdependence
    • signs of healthy interdependency in a relationship

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    Anxious Attachment & Open Relationships Sep 15, 2023

    In today's episode, I'm sharing some thoughts around anxious attachment & open relationships. While not being my personal experience, this is an area I receive a lot of requests and questions around, as various non-monogamous relationship structures grow in popularity.
    We'll cover:

    • common struggles of anxious attachment and how they might show up in an open relationship structure
    • the importance of having a strong relationship to self when exploring open relationships
    • communication, boundaries and self-advocacy
    • why you should never agree to open a relationship just to hold onto someone


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    How to Navigate Different Love Languages Sep 13, 2023

    You've probably heard about the 5 Love Languages as pioneered by Gary Chapman. In this episode, I’ll share how to navigate the very common situation of having different love languages to your partner. We'll also cover how love languages interface with anxious-avoidant dynamics, and offer insights and practical tools on how you can share your love language with your partner so they can understand how to love you the way you want to be loved (and vice versa)!

    We’ll cover:

    • The 5 love languages: words of affirmation, physical touch, acts of service, gift giving, and quality time
    • The benefits of knowing your love language, and your partner's
    • How love languages play out in anxious-avoidant dynamics

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    Q&A: Mismatched Libido & Anxious-Avoidant Sexual Dynamics Sep 08, 2023

    Mismatched libido in a relationship is a challenge that a lot of couples face. In today’s episode, I’ll be answering a listener's question of how to navigate mismatched libido in a relationship, particularly in an anxious-avoidant dynamic. I’ll guide you on strategies to break the anxious-avoidant spiral, by initiating open dialogue and finding a middle ground between both partners.


    We’ll cover:

    • Why it's unrealistic to expect your libidos to be in sync all the time
    • How anxious and avoidant attachment styles relate to sex and intimacy
    • Tips for reframing a partner's lack of interest in sex


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    Retroactive Jealousy: Navigating Discomfort With Our Partner's Past Sep 06, 2023

    Retroactive jealousy is one that focuses on the past, fixating on other partners or stages in your partner's lives and being threatened by it. In today’s conversation, I’ll dive into how such jealousy stirs immense stress, but more importantly, we share insights into building healthier, more resilient relationships.


    We'll cover:

    • Impacting our self worth
    • Looking for skeletons and reasons to not trust
    • If you should share the jealousy with your partner
    • Keeping yourself in an unhealthy loop


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    "How to navigate being newly single in my mid-30s? I feel like I'm out of time." Sep 01, 2023

    With societal pressures and a ticking clock, being newly single in your mid-30s can be challenging. In today’s episode, I want to share advice on navigating being newly single and the mindset for dating, and honouring the desires you have without feeling hopeless or overwhelmed.

    We'll cover:

    • Grieving a future you thought you would have
    • The opportunity for reframe
    • Comparisons to other people’s lives
    • Creating a full and vibrant life for yourself


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    The Importance of Separateness in Relationships Aug 30, 2023

    As an anxiously attached person, space in a relationship can sometimes feel like the biggest threat. In today’s episode, I’m sharing my own experience with this and advice on how you can consciously choose space and separateness to foster greater intimacy in your relationship, especially in a time where you may feel more drawn to stay connected.

    We'll cover:

    • Wanting to close the gap and be closer
    • Advice for how to reset and nurture separateness
    • Things to do to focus on your own self-trust and security
    • Creating a healthier, more balanced relationship


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    How to Help a Partner Struggling with their Mental Health Aug 25, 2023

    Looking out for someone who you care for that is going through a hard time is a challenge most of us will have to face in our lifetimes. But feelings of threat to the relationship, especially as an anxious attached person may come up in these times, and I want to help you navigate through these while prioritising your wellbeing, and not overstepping.

    We'll cover:

    • Monitoring your “fixing” the situation
    • Ways to support someone and yourself
    • How you can be a balanced supportive person
    • Nothing changes, unless something changes.



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    Break-Up Q&A: No-Contact, Reconciling, and Guilt Aug 23, 2023

    In today's episode, I'm answering your questions on the topic of break-ups. Break-ups are a universally challenging experience, and an area that I receive a lot of questions on.
    So today I'm answering your questions on:

    • what is a no-contact period and how best to implement it?
    • when is it a good idea to reconcile with an ex?
    • how to deal with guilt around knowing that I need to break up with someone but worrying about hurting them?


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    Navigating Long-Distance Relationships: Tips & Pitfalls Aug 18, 2023

    In today’s episode, we’re exploring long-distance relationships. Despite the old adage of “absence makes the heart grow fonder”, many people tend to really struggle with long-distance relationship structures.

    We’ll cover:

    • Why it’s normal and natural to struggle with long-distance
    • How attachment dynamics can exacerbate long-distance challenges
    • Tips for maintaining connection while apart


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    How to Stop Taking Things So Personally Aug 16, 2023

    In today’s episode, I’m answering a listener’s question on how to stop taking things so personally. This is something a lot of us struggle with, and can lead us to internalise others’ behaviour in ways that damage our self-esteem and exacerbate our suffering.
    We’ll cover:

    • Why you might take things personally
    • The link between people pleasing and taking things personally
    • How to approach these situations differently


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    Attachment Styles & Break-Ups Aug 11, 2023

    In today’s episode, we’re talking all about attachment styles and break-ups. While of course, break-ups are messy, personal and far from formulaic, there are undeniably certain themes in how our break-ups feel that can be traced to our attachment patterns.
    Understanding the ways in which attachment drives can shape how we relate to and experience break-ups is essential in finding greater compassion for our own experience, and depersonalising someone else’s behaviour to the extent that they’re processing the transition differently to us.

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    Ghosting: Why It Happens & How to Process Aug 09, 2023

    Does ghosting leave you feeling anxious, confused, and questioning your self-worth? If so, you’re not alone.
    Today, we're diving deep into this all-too-common dating phenomenon. We'll explore why ghosting occurs, the common impacts it has on self-esteem, and how to give yourself the closure and peace you desire.


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    How a Fear of Abandonment Impacts Our Relationships Aug 04, 2023

    In today's episode, we're diving deep on the abandonment wound - a fear that lies at the heart of many insecure attachment patterns and relational dynamics. A fear of abandonment can show up in so many ways, and can keep us from experiencing relationships in a way that feels trusting, safe and secure.
    We'll cover:

    • how it feels to fear abandonment in your relationship
    • different forms of abandonment (physical, emotional)
    • relational behaviours that a fear of abandonment can lead to
    • the link between self-abandonment and a fear of abandonment

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    The Importance of Discomfort in Life & Relationships Aug 02, 2023

    In today’s episode, we’re talking all about discomfort — specifically, why it’s so essential in any healing journey to reframe the way we approach and relate to getting uncomfortable.
    Most of us recoil at the first sign of discomfort, preferring to stay squarely within the domain of what we know and can control. But this often means we’re confining ourselves to a very limited experience of what’s possible in our lives.
    We’ll cover:

    • Why we tend to gravitate towards what is familiar and known
    • How embracing discomfort builds resilience
    • Physical protocols for exploring discomfort
    • Building our emotional capacity for discomfort

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    3 Essential Ingredients to Make a Relationship Work Jul 28, 2023

    Have you ever wondered why your relationship struggles persist, even when you love each other and have tried and tried to make it work?
    In today's episode, I'm sharing three essential ingredients to make a relationship work. These are fundamental pillars of healthy, lasting partnership - and yet, for a lot of people, one or more of these puzzle pieces are missing.
    We'll cover:

    • the importance of structural compatibility (ie, wanting the same thing)
    • being willing to invest in the relationship and the work it takes to make it thrive
    • the issue of capacity and how to know when someone can't give you what you're asking for (despite their best intentions)

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    The Path to Healing Anxious Attachment Jul 26, 2023

    Anxious attachment can be incredibly exhausting - but it doesn't have to govern your future. And in today's episode, I'm going to be laying out the path to healing anxious attachment, walking you through the core pillars of my methodology.
    We'll discuss the importance of self-regulation and how we can start to build self-trust and safety from within rather than depending solely on a partner to make us feel secure.

    We'll also delve deep into the core beliefs that drive anxious attachment, and how addressing these stories and wounds can liberate us from the fear of abandonment and feelings of unworthiness.

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    Why Are "Toxic" Relationships So Hard to Recover From Jul 21, 2023

    Have you ever wondered why it can be so challenging to recover from toxic relationships? Why the drama and unpredictability leave you feeling more disoriented and overwhelmed than relieved? In today's episode, I'm here to guide you through this complex terrain. We'll unravel the dynamics of such relationships and expose the confusion, grief, and shame that often accompany them.
    It's a hard road, but I'm here to help you navigate through it. We'll dig into practical tools to assist you in the recovery process, and learn how to move on in a healthy way.

    We'll cover:

    • why we can feel more confused than relieved post-break up
    • how shame and isolation that can keep us cut off from our support networks
    • why closure can be particularly elusive after dysfunctional relationships

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    How to Manage Jealousy in Relationships Jul 19, 2023

    Unless you're a true outlier, there's a pretty good chance you've had some experience with jealousy. And yet, as universal as it is, jealousy is possibly one of the most maligned emotions we can have.
    In today's episode, join me on a journey to understand this complex emotion better and explore ways to transform it into a tool for strengthening relationships. We'll explore the various expressions of jealousy, ranging from the healthy to the unhealthy, and shed light on why it emerges, encouraging a perspective of curiosity and understanding over judgement.

    Today's episode will also be beneficial for those grappling with jealousy resulting from a partner's past wrongdoings. Together, we'll learn how to create a safe space for addressing these feelings and communicating them respectfully. So tune in, and let's redefine your understanding of jealousy in relationships.
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    How to Navigate Boundaries with an Ex-Partner Jul 14, 2023

    Ever been caught in that tricky situation of setting boundaries with an ex? Navigating this territory can be a daunting task at the best of times, and especially so when co-parenting or shared responsibilities are at play.
    In today's episode, I'll be sharing some strategies for establishing and upholding boundaries with ex-partners that allow you to prioritise your wellbeing. I'll also share some tips on how to handle emotions that may surface during interactions with an ex, how to manage people-pleasing parts that want to keep everyone happy, and how to extract yourself from addictive but ultimately unhealthy dynamics.


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    Breaking the Cycle of Situationships Jul 12, 2023

    Ever been stuck in a situationship, that in-between space where you're more than purely casual but not truly committed? In today's episode, we're unboxing this modern dating conundrum.
    We're peeling back the layers of why we find ourselves in these non-committal scenarios, particularly exploring the attachment drives that can both lead to and exacerbate this dynamic. More importantly, we'll explore how to opt out of this challenging cycle and pave our way towards healthier relationships.
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    How to Care Less About Others' Opinions (For the Recovering People Pleaser) Jul 07, 2023

    Are you feeling stuck in the perennial battle between seeking external validation and staying true to your authentic self? In today's Q&A episode, I'm sharing some thoughts on how to detach from unhealthy people-pleasing behaviours that ask us to trade our authenticity for belonging and approval.
    This episode challenges you to take a deeper look into your people pleasing tendencies, learn to channel them more intentionally, and cultivate self-worth and self-respect. The goal? To build an internal foundation that allows us to handle criticism and rejection without losing our sense of self.
    Listen in as we explore the importance of cultivating conscious awareness around our patterns, discuss how to become more comfortable with who you are, and share practical tips to overcome insecurity and build healthy, thriving relationships.


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    The Anxious Dater's Guide: How to Remain Grounded in the Early Dating Phase Jul 04, 2023

    Is your anxiety getting the better of you in the early stages of dating? Well, take a deep breath and let's journey together through this episode where we unravel the common anxieties in early dating, particularly for those with an anxious attachment style.
    We'll delve into the raw aspects of why this period can trigger our deepest sensitivities and how we can make this an empowering voyage of self-discovery. From learning to stay grounded, boosting confidence, to finding joy in the dating process, this episode is a treasure trove of insights and advice.
    This episode goes beyond mere dating advice. We'll explore:

    • why it's problematic to completely alter your life for someone you've just met, and how it impacts the budding relationship.
    • how to gain clarity about what you're looking for in a partner and a relationship, and how to articulate those needs effectively.
    • the importance of taking things slow
    • how to get comfortable with the uncertainty that is inherent in the early dating phase.


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    The Art of Secure Relating with Stan Tatkin Jun 30, 2023

    In today's episode, I'm delighted to be joined by the one & only Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT. Stan is a clinician, researcher, teacher, and developer of PACT (a Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy), as well as being a prolific author of several best-selling books such as Wired for Love and most recently, In Each Other's Care.
    In this episode, Stan joins me to chat with me about how we can experience conflict within relationships in a safe way and really build secure foundations in our relationships.

    We'll cover:

    • How launching into self-protecting patterns can harm our relationships
    • The concept of secure functioning in a relationship
    • How regret can be a powerful teacher
    • The concept of the couple bubble
    • Finding acceptance for our partner's imperfections

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    3 Tips for Building Self-Trust Jun 28, 2023

    In the absence of self trust, we see a lot of other dominoes fall in terms of self worth and self respect. This is something almost everyone I work with struggles with to some degree and it’s a challenging piece of the puzzle when it comes to our personal growth in relationships. In today’s episode, I’m sharing 3 tips for building self trust to help you to go out into the world and make aligned choices.


    We'll cover:

    • Knowing yourself and your values
    • Trusting your own boundaries
    • Finding others to sense check
    • Knowing it’s not an instant fix


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    “Am I Being Unreasonable?” (Part 2) Jun 23, 2023

    In today’s episode, I’m continuing my series of answering your questions around the “reasonableness” of certain expectations and requests in relationship, with the goal of helping you build the muscle of discernment and capacity for self trust in navigating these nuances for yourself

    We'll cover:

    • Is it unreasonable to talk about the future - marriage, moving in, trips away?
    • Is it unreasonable to want my partner to come back within 24 hours after a fight?
    • Is it unreasonable when I ask my partner to think more about me in the relationship?
    • Is it unreasonable after 3 years, wanting my partner to anticipate my needs without me having to request them?
    • Is it unreasonable for me to want to spend 90% of my free time with my partner?


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    5 Reminders If You're Going Through a Break-Up Jun 21, 2023

    Unless you’ve married your high school sweetheart and lived happily ever after, you have likely experienced a breakup in your life. In today’s episode, I’m sharing 5 reminders and ways to support yourself while you're going through a break-up.

    We'll cover:

    • The break-up is going to be hard
    • Finding other support people
    • Processing the break-up in anxious and avoidant ways
    • Not making meaning or assumptions


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    How to Navigate Addiction to Drama with Dr Scott Lyons Jun 16, 2023

    If you’ve ever caught yourself wondering why you keep attracting the same type of person, this episode is for you. Today I’m joined by Dr Scott Lyons, a holistic psychologist, educator and author, to talk about addiction to drama, and why we may subconsciously seek out chaos and intensity in our lives and relationships (even when we think we're trying to avoid it).

    We'll cover:

    • Understanding the addiction to drama
    • Common characteristics of someone addicted to drama
    • Big emotions don’t equal vulnerability
    • What the so-called “spark” really is
    • Finding people who know how to love


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    “Am I Being Unreasonable?” (Part 1) Jun 14, 2023

    One of the things I’m most often asked is “How do I know if I’m being unreasonable in my relationship?”. This can be a really tough enquiry to determine for yourself, particularly when you’re getting a lot of pushback and self-trust may be lacking.
    In today’s episode, I’m offering my take on your specific examples as to whether certain expectations, requests or situations are reasonable (or not), to help you to be able to build your discernment muscle and ultimately feel equipped to make that decision for yourself in your relationships.

    We'll cover:

    • Should someone text me everyday after 1 or 2 dates?
    • Asking my partner to stop speaking to his ex because I compare myself with her
    • Asking my significant other to not like scandalous or seductive pictures online
    • Asking my partner to check in with me when they get home safely after drinking
    • Wanting regular sleepovers when my partner sleeps better alone


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    The Gift of Anxious-Avoidant Relationships Jun 09, 2023

    So much of the content around attachment theory focuses on the challenges that anxious-avoidant pairings can present. And while those challenges are undoubtedly very real, there are also real gifts within an anxious-avoidant dynamic when the individuals involved are prepared to meet in the middle. Today I’m sharing what those gifts can look like, and tips on making the most of your anxious-avoidant relationship so that it can become a space for healing.

    We'll cover:

    • How different attachment styles respond to stress
    • Leading with compassion and care
    • The work that needs to be done with both attachment styles
    • Lessons and opportunities within anxious-avoidant relationships


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    How do I get my avoidant partner to open up? Jun 07, 2023

    This week, I’m answering the community question, “How do I get my avoidant partner to open up?”. I’ll dive into how to pave the way for more genuine, authentic connection and what that looks like for people with avoidant attachment styles and anxious attachment styles within relationships.
    We'll cover:

    • Preferences of wanting to receive information
    • Trust wounds in avoidant partners
    • Self-serving behaviour that could be impacting this issue
    • Insight into their experience


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    5 Reasons Why People Cheat Jun 02, 2023

    A couple of weeks ago, I shared my thoughts on if “once a cheater, always a cheater” is true, and today I’m continuing the conversation around the reasons why people cheat in a relationship and getting curious around what’s driving these behaviours. For some people this may be a challenging episode to listen to, so please make sure you’re in the right mindset to listen.


    We'll cover:

    • Wounds around worthiness
    • Disconnection and loneliness
    • Feeling like it’s the easy way out
    • Being seen through rose coloured glasses


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    Understanding Your Origin Wounds with Vienna Pharaon (@mindfulmft) May 31, 2023

    In today's episode, I'm joined by Vienna Pharaon. Vienna is a licensed marriage & family therapist, creator of the hugely successful @mindfulmft Instagram account, and recently published author of The Origins of You. Vienna has the gift of conveying complex and emotionally dense topics with such nuance. Today she joins me on the podcast to talk about origin wounds and how they impact patterns in relationships as adults and how we can honour our pain and experience.

    We'll cover:

    • What happens when you hide behind a façade of being "fine"
    • The five origin wounds (worthiness, belonging, trust, safety and prioritisation)
    • Why we might struggle to explore our family dynamics
    • What happens when we avoid being in pain properly
    • Finding peace with the pain

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    "How to enjoy being single when I really want a relationship?" May 26, 2023

    When you really want a relationship, enjoying being single can be something incredibly challenging. In today's Q&A style episode, I’m diving into how to enjoy being single when all you really want is a relationship.

    We'll cover:

    • Owning your desire for a loving, healthy relationship
    • Being grateful in the present
    • What it means to actually enjoy your life being single


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    5 Communication Mistakes You're Making (& What to do instead) May 24, 2023

    In today's episode, I’m sharing five communication and conflict mistakes that I often see people making in relationships and what you can do instead to bridge a positive connection with your partner.

    We'll cover:

    • Why we shouldn’t avoid the hard conversations
    • What happens when we suppress our emotions
    • How to express your desires with your partner
    • Why we shouldn’t expect our partners to be mind readers


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    Is "once a cheater, always a cheater" true? May 19, 2023

    Cheating within relationships can cause so much pain, grief and sensitivity around betray and infidelity. In today's Q&A style episode, I’m sharing my thoughts on if people can really change if they’ve cheated in the past and advice for people in the situation with concerns that their partner may not stay faithful.


    We'll cover:

    • Learning from mistakes
    • The messy feelings that lead to infidelity
    • Tending to needs that aren’t being met
    • Expressing self awareness and regret


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    Helping Men Thrive in Life & Relationships with Connor Beaton (@mantalks) May 17, 2023

    In today's episode, I'm talking with NY-based coach, teacher and speaker, Connor Beaton about the challenges men are facing in our modern society. Connor and I talk through how understanding the experience of men better, we can cultivate healthier relationships and happier and more fulfilled lives.

    Note: while On Attachment aims to be as inclusive as possible, this conversation is focused primarily on male-female relationships and the dynamics that can arise therein. We know that's not everyone's experience, so feel free to take from this episode what resonates with you, and leave what doesn't.

    We'll cover:

    • Numbing out pain from childhood and using unhealthy coping mechanisms
    • Stopping the cycle of running away from yourself
    • What it looks like inside a relationship when men are lacking confidence & competence
    • How vulnerability can be practised with men
    • What makes a great relationship

    Find Connor Beaton's work on Instagram (@mantalks), check out his courses and membership on his website, and be sure to purchase his best-selling book Men's Work.


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    Why we want to believe in "the one" May 12, 2023

    In today's episode, I'm unpacking the concept of "the one". When it comes to relationships, many of us have absorbed the conditioning that there is some perfect person out there for us - and our only job is to find them. This can lead us down a rabbit hole of doubt, comparison and low self-worth.
    We cover:

    • why the idea of "the one" is unrealistic
    • how it can lead us to doubt our perfectly normal, healthy relationship
    • the unexpected reason why we might seek out "the one"


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    5 Tips for Loving Someone Well May 10, 2023

    In today's episode, I'm sharing 5 tips on how to love someone well. So often, we think we are being loving towards someone - when really, we are pursuing our own agenda of loving them with strings attached. We love in order to get something in return, and then feel secretly resentful when things don't go our way. So instead, I'm sharing how to love someone in a way that feels pure and open-hearted.
    We'll cover:

    • the importance of gratitude
    • voicing appreciation and recognition of someone's contribution
    • how to accept someone rather than control or change them
    • taking responsibility for your own happiness
    • staying curious about your partner's inner world


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    "Is he avoidant or just not that into me?" May 05, 2023

    In today's episode, I'm answering the question of "How do I know if someone is avoidant or just not that interested in me?" This is a question I get A LOT - and the answer might surprise you.
    I'm going to share a common misconception about avoidant attachment in early dating, as well as some hard truths about why we seek out people whose behaviour leaves us questioning whether they're interested or not.


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    5 Tips for a Healthy, Balanced Nervous System May 03, 2023

    In today's episode, we're talking all about nervous system regulation in the context of emotional wellbeing. As many of you know, I'm a big advocate of incorporating bottom-up, somatically focused tools and awareness as part of the bigger picture of growth and healing. And a key piece of that work is understanding how to understand and support your nervous system.
    We cover:

    • why a healthy nervous system isn't about being calm all the time
    • how to expand your comfort zone and resilience in a safe, sustainable way
    • how to make a daily practice out of nervous system regulation
    • how to counteract feeling powerless and overwhelmed
    • building a toolkit for nervous system regulation and self-soothing


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    "When is taking a break in a relationship a good idea?" Apr 28, 2023

    In today's episode, I'm answering the community question of "when is it a good idea to take a break in a relationship?" This can be a really tricky situation, particularly where one person wants to take a break and the other doesn't.
    In this episode, I share:

    • things to consider & discuss before taking a break
    • do's and don'ts of taking a break
    • examples of where a break can be healthy & productive
    • navigating boundaries around taking a break (e.g. around duration, exclusivity, and intentions)


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    How to Talk About Sex with Vanessa & Xander Marin Apr 26, 2023

    In today's episode, I'm joined by Vanessa & Xander Marin. She’s a sex therapist with 20 years of experience, he’s a regular dude, and they recently co-authored their first book Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life, which became an instant NYT bestseller.
    We cover:

    • The five conversations you need to be having about sex
    • Navigating mismatched libido & (perceived) sexual rejection in relationships
    • How emotional intimacy (or lack thereof) impacts sexual intimacy
    • What to do when sex becomes a heavy, high-pressure topic in your relationship
    • How to bring back fun, play & lightness to your sex life

    Follow Vanessa & Xander on Instagram @vanessaandxander, and tune in to their podcast, Pillow Talks, for totally do-able sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors, and so much more.


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    Why Healthy Relationships Can Feel Boring Apr 21, 2023

    In today's episode, I'm answering the question of why healthy relationships can feel boring - especially if you're someone who's accustomed to drama and chaos in your love life.


    We'll cover:

    • why unhealthy relationships are so addictive
    • the principle of intermittent reinforcement
    • how to navigate discomfort around stable relationships
    • how to get your needs for novelty & excitement met in a healthy way without sabotaging your relationship


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    How to Leave a Relationship (When You Know You Need To) Apr 19, 2023

    In this episode, we're talking about how to leave a relationship from the perspective of knowing that you need to. Break-ups are hard - no matter the circumstances - and most of the advice tends to be directed toward people who've been broken up with, rather than those doing the breaking up.

    We'll cover:

    • why waiting for the "right time" is an illusion
    • how to support yourself as you prepare for a break-up
    • grappling with guilt around hurting someone
    • how to cultivate healthy boundaries throughout the break-up


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    "Can a relationship between two anxiously attached people work?" Apr 14, 2023

    In today's Q&A episode, I'm answering the question of "Can a relationship between two anxiously attached people work?". I get variations of this question a lot - basically, why wouldn't anxious and avoidant people save themselves the trouble by sticking to their own kind? Well, as always, it's not quite that simple...
    We'll cover:

    • why anxious and avoidant people tend to be attracted to each other
    • the truth behind why "opposites attract"
    • what happens when two anxious or two avoidant people date



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    The Role of Criticism in Anxious-Avoidant Dynamics Apr 12, 2023

    Today's episode is all about the role of criticism in anxious-avoidant dynamics. Both anxious and avoidant people have been known to deploy criticism as a strategy to manage fears and self-protect in relationships - but this will often look different (and be motivated by different drives) on each side. One thing's for sure: no matter how it shows up, criticism is really harmful to relationships - so if this is something you struggle with, you've come to the right place.

    We'll cover:

    • how anxiously attached people use criticism as a protest behaviour
    • criticism as a way to convey our hurt
    • how avoidant people use criticism to sow seeds of doubt and create distance
    • how to identify the needs underlying our criticism so we can communicate in a healthier way


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    "How to deal with an all-consuming fear that my partner will cheat on me?" Apr 07, 2023

    In today's Q&A episode, I'm answering the question of how to navigate an all-consuming fear & paranoia around a partner cheating - particularly in circumstances where that fear is seemingly unwarranted.
    We'll cover:

    • the importance of nervous system regulation when we experience intense fear & paranoia
    • when to talk to a partner about our fears
    • the link between fear of cheating and low self-worth
    • a liberating truth about control in relationships


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    Understanding Your Nervous System with Sarah Baldwin Apr 05, 2023

    In today's episode, I'm speaking with Sarah Baldwin - a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner and Trauma Coach who is trained in Polyvagal interventions and is on the training team at the Polyvagal Institute. Sarah specialises in somatic trauma healing, attachment work, parts and inner child work and nervous system regulation.
    We cover:

    • why nervous system regulation is the missing piece in so much healing work
    • understanding the different states of your nervous system
    • the connection between attachment and nervous system regulation
    • how to distinguish between anxiety and intuition

    and so much more!
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    "I'm feeling stuck in my relationship and don't know what to do." Mar 31, 2023

    In this Q&A episode, I'm speaking to the common conundrum of what to do when you're feeling stuck in your relationship. This often happens when we've been trying for some time to make changes (or hoping that our partner will make changes), but we're just not seeing any progress. I'll share an unexpected way that you can shift out of low self-worth and hopelessness, and into a more empowered, self-confident state that will allow you to navigate whatever is happening in your relationship with clarity & trust.


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    5 Reasons You're Not Getting Your Needs Met (& What to Do About It) Mar 29, 2023

    In this episode, we're talking all about needs - specifically, looking at some common reasons why you're not getting your needs met in a relationship. It's easy to feel defeated and hurt when our needs are going unmet, but oftentimes there's far more that's within our control than we might think.

    We'll cover:

    • the importance of identifying your needs
    • how to communicate your needs to your partner
    • mindset blocks around receiving and how these stops you from getting what you need
    • what to do if your partner can't or won't meet you in your needs


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    "How should I bring up moving in together with my avoidant partner?" Mar 24, 2023

    In today's Q&A episode, I'm answering the question of how to bring up wanting to move in together with an avoidant partner. This episode will be super helpful for anyone in this same situation, or who is otherwise wanting to have a "what are we?" type chat with their avoidant partner.
    We'll cover:

    • mindset shifts for the anxious partner in approaching these conversations
    • how to own your desires and feel comfortable voicing them
    • how best to approach these conversations with an avoidant partner
    • what to do if you're not on the same page


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    From Anxious to Secure: 6 Shifts You'll Notice As You Heal Mar 22, 2023

    In anticipation of the upcoming launch of my signature program Healing Anxious Attachment, today's episode is all about what changes you can expect as you heal your anxious attachment. I'll be sharing 6 shifts that you'll notice as you do the healing work and become more secure within yourself and in your relationships.
    We cover:

    • learning to observe your anxious thoughts rather than be ruled by them
    • not feeling the urgent need to fix and problem-solve your relationship
    • trusting that conflict isn't a matter of life or death
    • building your self-worth
    • learning to enjoy your own company

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    "What's the difference between privacy and secrecy in relationships?" Mar 17, 2023

    In today's episode, we're talking about the difference between privacy and secrecy. Depending on where you sit on the attachment spectrum, you may have a complicated relationship with privacy - both your own and others'. We'll discuss where the line is between privacy and secrecy, and what to do if you find other people's privacy uncomfortable or triggering.

    We cover:

    • what's the difference between privacy and secrecy?
    • anxious attachment and the need for information to eliminate uncertainty
    • the trust wound
    • avoidant attachment and protectiveness around privacy
    • important caveats where there has been a known breach of trust


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    5 Ways to Support a Fearful Avoidant Partner Mar 15, 2023

    In today's episode, I'm sharing 5 ways to support a partner with a fearful avoidant (AKA disorganised) attachment style. The fearful avoidant attachment style is often considered the most complex and challenging of the attachment styles, characterised by a conflicting push-pull between wanting intimacy and fearing it.
    We'll cover:

    • the betrayal wound and the importance of honesty & openness in building trust
    • striking the right balance between compassion & firm boundaries
    • how to make the fearful avoidant feel loved & appreciated


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    "I can't help but hope that my ex comes back. How do I let go so I can move on?" Mar 10, 2023

    In this Q&A episode, we're talking all about moving on after a break-up. Specifically, what to do when we want to move on, but deep down we're still very much hoping our ex will reach out and want to rekindle.

    We cover:

    • the importance of allowing ourselves to feel our feelings after a break-up
    • why we don't need to emotionally let go before moving on
    • how to take action to support yourself after a break-up

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    From Honeymoon Period to Power Struggle: Navigating the Stages of Relationship Mar 08, 2023

    In this episode, we're talking all about the stages of a relationship - specifically, what happens when we transition from the honeymoon period of a relationship (fuelled by chemistry, romance and infatuation) to the power struggle (where all our flaws and wounds come to the fore).
    We'll talk about:

    • what each stage of a relationship looks like
    • why the transition from honeymoon period to power struggle feels like a bait & switch
    • how anxious-avoidant dynamics overlay onto this dynamic
    • how you can make the most of the power struggle stage & use it to grow closer as a couple



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    "I'm anxious, he's avoidant. Is it weird that I want more sex than him?" Mar 03, 2023

    In this episode, I'm answering the question of "I'm anxious, he's avoidant. Is it weird that I want more sex than him?"
    We cover:

    • anxious-avoidant sexual dynamics
    • the sexual honeymoon period and what happens afterward
    • why avoidant partners withdraw sexually
    • how anxiously attached people use sex for validation


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    6 Tips for Avoidant People in Becoming More Secure Mar 01, 2023

    In today's episode, I'm offering 6 tips on how avoidant people can become more secure in their relationships.

    We cover:

    • the importance of getting to know your inner world
    • learning to feel safe with healthy interdependency
    • increasing your tolerance for disharmony and conflict
    • getting curious about your triggers before acting on them
    • communicating with words rather than actions
    • the benefits of co-regulation for your nervous system


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    How to Initiate Hard Conversations with an Avoidant Partner Feb 24, 2023

    In today's Q&A episode, I'm sharing tips for initiating hard conversations with an avoidant partner. This is a question I get a lot - how to express needs to an avoidant partner, how to set boundaries, how to share feedback. These conversations are already intimidating for many anxiously attached folks, and when combined with the sensitivities of the avoidant partner, can be a perfect storm.

    We cover:

    • how to set yourself up for success in initiating hard conversations
    • the importance of a regulated nervous system
    • tips for reaching a mutually beneficial outcome
    • how to cultivate greater safety during conflict & challenging conversations


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    Navigating Perfectionism in Anxious-Avoidant Relationships Feb 22, 2023

    In this episode, I'm talking all about perfectionism - but probably not in the way you've heard it spoken about before. Perfectionism is often thought of as a personality quirk - a commitment to high achieving and having things a certain way. But when it comes to relationships, perfectionism can be a powerful protective strategy that keeps us from being seen and known as our authentic selves.
    We cover:

    • how anxiously attached people hold themselves to standards of perfection as a way to gain and keep someone's interest
    • how avoidantly attached people use perfectionism & criticism as a distancing strategy to avoid intimacy & vulnerability
    • what happens when these strategies collide in an anxious-avoidant dynamic


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    "My ex moved on immediately post break-up and I can't help but take it personally." Feb 17, 2023

    In today's Q&A episode, I'm answering the question of "My ex moved on immediately post break-up and I can't help but take it personally." This is a really common pain point for people post-break-up, so don't beat yourself up if you're in this situation (or have been there in the past!)
    We'll cover:

    • why it's normal to feel hurt by a partner moving on faster than we do
    • why it's so important to monitor the stories we tell ourselves post break-up
    • reasons why people process break-ups differently
    • how anxious vs avoidant people tend to move through the break-up period


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    5 Questions to Assess the Emotional Health of Your Relationship Feb 15, 2023

    In today's episode, we're talking all about emotional health & safety in relationships. If you've ever wondered what "emotional safety" actually means, look no further - we'll be discussing some guiding principles and questions you can ask to assess how emotionally healthy your relationship is. And most importantly, what you can do to improve the emotional state of your relationship - because let's face it, this is going to be a work in progress for most of us.

    We cover:

    • voicing needs, concerns & boundaries
    • navigating life's challenges as a team
    • ability to safely & effectively repair after conflict
    • feeling loved, cared for & respected
    • how your nervous system can give you insight into your relationship's emotional health


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    "We've been together a year and I've just seen he's still using Tinder. Can trust be rebuilt?" Feb 10, 2023

    "We've been together a year and I've just seen he's still using Tinder. Can trust be rebuilt?" Today's episode is a community Q&A, and I'm answering a hard question about rebuilding after discovering a breach of trust.

    We'll talk through:

    • Things to look for when deciding whether to stay & rebuild after infidelity
    • The importance of the other person taking ownership & responsibility for the harm caused
    • What it really takes to rebuild trust

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    5 Tips for Rebuilding After a Long-Term Relationship Ends Feb 08, 2023

    In this episode, I'm sharing 5 tips for rebuilding after a long-term relationship ends. Let's face it: break-ups are painful at the best of times. But when the relationship was a long-term one, it can be even more challenging to navigate our "new" life without our ex in it. I'll be sharing tips to support you through the life cycle of your break-up - from the initial grieving process all the way through to re-entering the dating world.

    We cover:

    • How to grieve your break-up in a healthy way
    • Why it's important to have support people around you
    • Using your break-up as an opportunity to spring clean your life
    • How to step outside your comfort zone
    • Tips for starting to date again


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    "How do I tell my partner they are avoidant so we can do the work?" Feb 03, 2023

    In this episode, I'm answering a question I receive all the time which is: "How do I tell my partner they are avoidant so that we can start doing the work?"

    We cover:

    • The importance of being honest & self-aware about our intentions in introducing a partner to personal development work
    • Navigating anxious attachment tendencies around the saviour complex, over-functioning and taking responsibility for what's not ours
    • Why "the work" might look different for everyone
    • How to approach conversations about relational growth in a productive, balanced & healthy way


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    5 Reasons You Might Struggle to Apologise Feb 01, 2023

    In this episode, we're talking all about apologies - and specifically, why they might feel so hard sometimes. Being able to apologise is so fundamental to healthy repair, but for many of us, can feel inexplicably challenging. After listening to today's episode, my hope is that you'll have greater clarity around why apologies can feel so hard, and how to address the underlying resistance so you can foster greater connection and emotional maturity in your relationships.

    What we cover:

    • Why apologies can feel so hard
    • What to do when we feel unseen and misunderstood
    • The difference between intent and impact
    • How people-pleasing & perfectionism can hold us back from taking responsibility


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    "How do I navigate the tendency to lose myself in a long-term relationship as anxiously attached person?" Jan 27, 2023

    In this week's Q&A episode, I'm answering a community question about the (very common) tendency to lose oneself as an anxiously attached person in relationships. I'll talk through why this happens so often and easily, and what you can do to counter it.


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    5 Similarities Between Anxious & Avoidant People Jan 24, 2023

    We often speak about the many ways in which anxious and avoidantly attached people differ in their relationship styles. But in this episode, I'm flipping the script and highlighting some similarities between these so-called conflicting styles. We cover relationship fears, boundaries, vulnerability, conflict and more - and my hope is that you'll walk away with a greater capacity to approach yourself and the people in your life with curiosity and compassion.


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    "I used to be anxiously attached, but after being cheated on I think I've become avoidant. Help!" Jan 20, 2023

    In this episode, I'm answering the community question of "I used to be anxiously attached, but after discovering my husband's infidelity, I find myself being avoidant with potential new partners. How do I find the healthy middle ground?" We talk about changing attachment styles, fear, betrayal and how we can start to create more safety more ourselves after we've been hurt.


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    5 Pieces of Unhelpful Relationship Advice (& What to do Instead) Jan 18, 2023

    It's easy to feel overwhelmed and confused with the vast amounts of (often-conflicting) relationship advice going around - which is why in this week's episode, I'm calling out 5 pieces of unhelpful relationship advice, as well as some more constructive alternatives. I'll give my take on common advice like "never settle", "you have to love yourself first", and "when you find the one, you'll just know!".


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    5 Pieces of Life Advice for 2023 Dec 30, 2022

    In our last episode of 2022, I'm sharing 5 pieces of life advice to help you enter 2023 with intention, inspiration and clarity around who you want to be and what you want to create in your life.


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    The 3 Stages of Healing Anxious Attachment Dec 15, 2022

    In this week's episode, I'm sharing a trend I notice in people with anxious attachment as they move through their healing journey. I'm sharing my observation of three key "stages" or mindsets that people typically fall into, and which mindset will set you up for the most success in meaningfully shifting your anxious attachment style.


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    Anxious Attachment & Inconsistency Dec 07, 2022

    In this week's episode, we're talking all about anxious attachment & inconsistency. Inconsistency is a real point of sensitivity for anxiously attached folks, and we'll be talking through what that can look like, where it comes from, and some tools and reframes to support you in navigating the ebbs & flows of relationships from a more secure base.


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    Q&A: Healing Anxious Attachment, How to Manage Texting Anxiety, Identifying & Expressing Needs, & Dealing w/ Boundaries from Avoidant Partners Nov 30, 2022

    This week is a Q&A-style episode, where I'm answering your questions all about anxious attachment! We'll cover what it actually means to "heal" anxious attachment, how to manage anxiety around texting someone, how to identify and express needs as an anxiously attached person, and how to deal with being on the receiving end of an avoidant partner's boundaries.


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    5 Tips for Dealing with Regret & Self-Blame Nov 23, 2022

    In this week's episode, I'm sharing 5 tips to help you process feelings of regret, shame and self-blame about things that may have happened in your past relationships. Regret can be so crippling, but it can also present us with a powerful opportunity - to reflect, to learn, and to do better next time - and today's tips are going to help you make the most of your regret rather than letting it get the better of you.


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    "What If I Outgrow My Partner?" Nov 16, 2022

    Today's episode is exploring the topic of what to do if you want to heal & grow... but your partner doesn't. This can be a really challenging experience, and is particularly common for those in an anxious-avoidant dynamic. Fortunately, this doesn't have to mark the beginning of the end of your relationship - and in this episode, I'm sharing some mindset shifts and tips so that you can focus on your growth and trust that the rest will take care of itself.
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    What Causes an Insecure Attachment Style? Nov 09, 2022

    In this episode, we're unpacking some of the common origin stories of each insecure attachment style. We'll look at what causes anxious attachment, dismissive-avoidant attachment and disorganised/fearful avoidant attachment, with a particular focus on early childhood and family systems. Key themes discussed include inconsistency, emotional neglect, and chaotic home environments, and how each of these can shape the attachment blueprint of a child.
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    Q&A: Dishonesty & Avoidant Partners, Boundaries Around Space, Trust & Privacy, Sexual Rejection & more Nov 02, 2022

    In this week's episode I'm answering your questions - with a particular focus on anxious-avoidant relationship dynamics. We're discussing why people with an avoidant attachment style might use evasiveness or dishonesty as a distancing strategy, how to communicate boundaries around space with an avoidant partner, how to navigate trust & privacy, how to approach the topic of exclusivity in early dating, and what to do when your partner rejects your sexual advances.
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    5 Tips to Improve Your Relationship Communication Skills Oct 26, 2022

    This week, I'm sharing 5 tips to improve your relationship communication skills. Communication is one of those areas of relationships where most of us are running on a less-than-ideal autopilot. Fortunately, you can learn new communication skills quickly and easily, so that you start seeing immediate returns on investment in your relationship.
    In this episode, we cover things like validating your partner, how to ask for what you need, and how to connect with your partner in moments where you're feeling overwhelmed rather than lashing out or shutting down.


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    6 Signs You're Becoming More Secure Oct 19, 2022

    This week, we're diving into 6 signs that you're becoming more secure in your relationships. Often our attention is focused on what's wrong in our relationships - on where we need to be working to improve. So it's a refreshing change to be able to share with you some of the signs that the work is paying off, and you're becoming more grounded, confident and healthy in the way you relate to others and yourself.
    We cover things like pausing before responding, not taking things so personally, not tolerating bad behaviour, and being more direct in giving feedback and asking for what you need.


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    5 Ways to Improve Your Self-Worth Oct 12, 2022

    This week, we're talking all about self-worth. Self-worth is something I get asked about a lot - so I know how much people struggle with feelings of unworthiness and low self-esteem. To that end, I'm offering you 5 ways to start building up your self-worth so that you can feel more confident and comfortable in who you are and what you have to offer.


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    5 Signs You Need Better Boundaries Oct 05, 2022

    When it comes to building healthy relationships, all roads lead back to boundaries. In this week's episode, I'm offering 5 signs that you might need better boundaries. The truth is, most people have poor boundaries - whether that looks like saying yes when you really mean no, taking responsibility for other people's problems or emotional states, burning yourself out or failing to follow through on the boundaries you do set, this episode will point you in the direction of where your focus needs to be.


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    5 Reasons You Might Be Attracted to Unavailable People Sep 28, 2022

    In this week's episode, we're talking 5 reasons why you might be attracted to unavailable people. I'm constantly being asked the question of "Why do I attract unavailable people?" - but my response is always to ask instead "Why are you attracted to unavailable people?". We'll talk about negative core beliefs, family of origin dynamics, difficulty receiving support, saviour complexes, and more.
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    Attachment & Sex Q&A: Casual Sex & Anxious Attachment, Sex in Toxic vs Healthy Relationships, & Talking About Sex w/ Avoidant Partners Sep 21, 2022

    In this week's episode, I'm answering your questions around how attachment styles influence the way we relate to and experience sex. We talk about whether casual sex is a bad idea for anxiously attached people, why sex in toxic relationships can feel so much more exciting than in secure relationships, and how to talk to an avoidant partner about sex and sexual desires.
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    5 Dating Tips for Anxiously Attached People Sep 14, 2022

    In this episode, I'm sharing 5 dating tips for anxiously attached people. Many anxiously attached people have a tough time in the dating process - becoming attached too quickly, overthinking, second-guessing, and having an uncanny ability to look past red flags and become invested in someone's potential. This episode will offer you some tips and guidelines to counter these very common patterns, so you can approach dating from a place of self-worth, self-respect and self-confidence.
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    Special Episode: Behind the Scenes of our Relationship (w/ my partner Joel) Sep 07, 2022

    In this episode, I'm joined by my partner Joel to answer all of your questions about our relationship. We share everything from how we met to how we navigate conflict, our differing attachment styles and love languages, and what makes our relationship work.
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    5 Questions to Ask Before Getting Back with Your Ex Aug 31, 2022

    In this episode, we're talking about whether it's a good idea to get back together with your ex - and under what circumstances. I offer you 5 questions for reflection before you make a decision, which will help you find clarity on whether it's really what you want or whether you are acting from fear, scarcity or unworthiness.
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    5 Reasons Why Anxiously Attached People Struggle with Break-ups Aug 24, 2022

    If you're someone with an anxious attachment style, there's a good chance you've really struggled to cope with relationship break-ups at some point in your life. And while break-ups are hard across the board, anxiously attached people tend to have an especially hard time wading through this emotional experience.
    In this episode, I'm sharing 5 reasons why break-ups are so challenging for anxiously attached people. We cover things like the abandonment wound, the saviour complex, fear of uncertainty, and loss of identity in relationships.


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    Break-Up Q&A: The "No-Contact" Period, Jealousy & Low Self-Worth, Feeling Blindsided, & Dating Mindset Aug 17, 2022

    In this episode, I'm answering all your break-up related questions! We're covering whether and when to break a "no-contact" period, how to navigate jealousy and comparison around an ex's new partner, what to do when you feel blindsided by a break-up and have no closure, and more.
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    How to Find Closure After a Break-Up Aug 09, 2022

    In this week's episode, we're talking all things closure: what it is, why it's so elusive, and why certain people are more affected than others by an ending that lacks closure. I'll also share some tips on steps you can take if you're finding yourself wanting (but struggling to find) closure after a break-up, so you can take back control and let go with grace.
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    Should I Stay or Should I Go? Aug 03, 2022

    In this episode, we're diving into the challenging topic of how to know whether and when to walk away from a relationship that isn't working. I offer you five guiding questions that will lead you to greater clarity, insight and awareness in making the decision of whether to stay and keep trying, or whether it's time to go.

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    Relationship Red Flags & Green Flags Jul 27, 2022

    In this episode, I'm sharing with you 5 of the red flags that I see in relationships, along with their healthier, "green flag" alternatives. We'll talk through things like knowing where you stand with someone, communication of needs and concerns, trust and commitment, how integrated you are into each other's lives, and how you approach conflict (and repair).
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    5 Differences Between the Fearful and Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Styles Jul 20, 2022

    Ever wondered what differentiates the fearful avoidant and the dismissive avoidant attachment styles? In this episode, I'm breaking down 5 key differences between these two types. We cover things like level of emotional attunement, relationship to boundaries, shame and guilt, and openness to personal development work.
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    Anxious Attachment, Conflict & Communication Jul 13, 2022

    In this episode, we're talking about anxious attachment, conflict & communication. We'll dive into why anxiously attached people struggle with identifying and communicating their needs, how to navigate conflict aversion fuelled by a fear of abandonment, and tools to navigate communication and conflict in your relationship in a healthier, more adaptive manner so you can avoid the cycle of resentment and rupture.

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    5 Ways to Support an Anxiously Attached Partner Jul 04, 2022

    In this episode, we're diving into 5 ways to support an anxiously attached partner. This is a follow-up to our previous episode which discussed how to support an avoidant partner. We'll discuss things like openness and transparency as an antidote to uncertainty, how to manage your need for space in relationship with an anxious person, how to give them reassurance and help them to feel loved, and more.
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    5 Ways to Support an Avoidant Partner Jun 22, 2022

    In this episode, we're diving into 5 ways to support an avoidant partner - so that you can cultivate greater understanding and connection, and build a safe, secure relationship. We'll touch on whether it's a good idea to tell your partner that they're avoidant, how to communicate your needs in a way that your partner can receive them, how not to communicate with an avoidant partner, and how your partner's love languages might differ from yours.


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    How to Navigate the Fear of Rejection Jun 15, 2022

    In this episode, we're diving into the fear of rejection. Rejection is something so many of us struggle with, but for some people it can be really debilitating. We'll discuss how to navigate the fear of rejection and how this fear interfaces with other behaviours like approval-seeking and chronic people-pleasing.


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    How to Set Boundaries Jun 02, 2022

    In this episode, we're talking all things boundaries - what they are, what they aren't, how to figure out what your boundaries are and how to set and enforce them. We'll also discuss why boundaries are the antidote to people-pleasing, the saviour complex and burnout.
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    How to Heal Your Anxious Attachment May 25, 2022

    In this episode, I'm giving you the lowdown on my signature methodology for how to heal anxious attachment. We'll discuss exactly what's involved in learning to shift from anxious to secure attachment, including reprogramming core beliefs and learning to regulate your nervous system. We'll also cover tools and skills like boundaries, communication and managing expectations.
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    5 Tips for Navigating a Break-Up May 18, 2022

    In this episode, I'm offering 5 tips for processing and navigating a break-up. We'll be discussing topics like managing expectations around the challenges of a break-up, shifting how you relate to seeking closure, the stories we tell ourselves, and how to rediscover who we are after a relationship ends.

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    5 Steps to Working Through a Trigger May 11, 2022

    In this episode, I'm diving into 5 steps to working through a trigger. I'll be discussing the importance of nervous system regulation to your healing journey, why talk therapy alone doesn't work, and what to do to self-soothe and self-regulate when you feel activated and overwhelmed so that you don't sabotage your relationship with unhealthy, fear-driven behaviours.
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    Q&A: On All Things Love & Relationships May 06, 2022

    In this week's Q&A episode, we're exploring a mixed bag of love & relationship questions. Topics include how to navigate conflict with a partner who won't engage, how to manage your anxiety when physically apart from your partner, why you might be attracted to unhealthy people, and what to do when you're one foot in, one foot out of a relationship.
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    The Anxious-Avoidant Trap May 04, 2022

    In this episode, we're diving into the anxious-avoidant trap - aka, what happens when an anxious and an avoidant person end up in a relationship. We'll cover what the anxious-avoidant trap usually entails, how these two attachment styles clash, why they're so often attracted to each other, and most importantly, how to make it work.
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    Q&A: On Anxious-Avoidant Relationships Apr 29, 2022

    In this episode, I'm answering your questions around how to navigate relationships with avoidant partners. We're covering topics like how to effectively communicate with an avoidant partner, whether an avoidant partner will ever realise they're avoidant, whether an anxious person can be in a healthy relationship with an avoidant person, and how to reconnect with an avoidant partner after a period of distance.
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    5 Traits of the Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style Apr 29, 2022

    In this episode, we're exploring 5 traits of the lesser-known fearful avoidant (or disorganised) attachment style. We'll cover the fearful avoidant's conflict between wanting intimacy but also fearing it, their combination of anxious and avoidant behaviours, their difficulty trusting others and fear of betrayal, their high levels of emotional attunement, and their struggles with self-sabotage, guilt and shame.
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    5 Traits of the Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Style Apr 26, 2022

    In this episode, we're unpacking 5 traits of the dismissive-avoidant attachment style. We'll cover the dismissive-avoidant's fierce independence, their struggles with intimacy & commitment, their high self-esteem, their sometimes rigid boundaries and expectations, and their use of distance as a protective mechanism.
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    Q&A: On Dating & Anxious Attachment Apr 22, 2022

    In this Q&A style episode, we're diving into questions from the audience around dating - and particularly, dating as an anxiously attached person. Some of the topics covered include how to regulate anxiety around dating, how to manage expectations and let go of the idea of "the one", how to know when to stop giving someone another chance, and what to do when they say they don't want a relationship.
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    5 Things You Need to Know About Attachment Styles Apr 21, 2022

    Most of us have heard about attachment styles and attachment theory - but in this episode, I'm breaking down some common misconceptions and clarifications. Join me as we discuss things like whether attachment styles can change, whether you can fall into multiple attachment styles, and whether it's possible to shift from insecure to secure attachment.
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    5 Traits of the Anxious Attachment Style Apr 21, 2022

    In this episode, we're unpacking 5 key traits of the anxious attachment style - particularly in the context of adult romantic relationships. We'll talk about the anxious person's high need for love and affection, the fear of abandonment, struggles with uncertainty and inconsistency, overthinking, and jealousy.
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