No Visible Bruises

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Narcissistic Abuse Caused My Rheumatoid Arthritis Apr 08, 2025

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Today marks the launch of our rebranded podcast, No Visible Bruises sharing real survivor stories of narcissistic abuse, domestic abuse and coercive control, and the long-lasting physiological impact of trauma not just the psychological.

In our very first episode, we sit down with Kirstie Haysman, who bravely shares her experience of narcissistic abuse and how it intertwines with her diagnosis of rheumatoid arthritis.

This conversation is one not to miss.

We explore: • How chronic conditions like arthritis, fibromyalgia, IBS and others can be linked to the trauma of relational abuse • What happens in the body when we are exposed to long-term stress and emotional abuse • How healing is possible when we understand the connection between the nervous system and our physical health • The importance of working with the body, not against it

If you’ve ever wondered whether your chronic symptoms could be connected to your past and present experiences of narcissistic abuse, domestic abuse & coercive control… If you’ve ever felt unseen in your pain… If you’ve ever questioned the invisible impact of emotional abuse…

This episode is for you.

Listen now, share with someone who needs it, and join us in shining a light on what’s been hidden for far too long.

Do not suffer alone and come and join my private FREE Facebook group - No Visible Bruises- Narcissistic Abuse, Domestic Abuse & Coercive Control https://www.facebook.com/groups/novisiblebruises. Disclaimer: The views and opinions shared in this podcast are those of the individuals involved and are intended for informational and educational purposes only. They do not substitute professional or medical advice. If you’ve been affected by anything discussed in today’s episode, please consider reaching out to a qualified healthcare provider or mental health professional for support. You’re not alone, and help is always available.

A Survivor's Guide to Healing from Narcissistic Abuse Apr 01, 2025

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Can you imagine the hidden wounds left by a narcissist's mind games? My journey shows how abuse hurts more than just the heart. As a survivor of narcissistic abuse you often feel stuck, thinking your pain defines you, but real strength comes from understanding how trauma lives in the body.

By learning new ways to heal, like body-based therapy and nervous system support, people can rebuild their lives. The path from hurt to healing isn't quick, but it's about taking small, kind steps forward. Each victory whether earning your own money, finding a new career, or feeling stronger inside proves how tough you can be.

As a survivor you aren't trapped by what happened to you, but powered by your courage to create a new story and turn deep pain into real hope and growth.

0:00 Final Week of Trauma and Narcissism Redefined Podcast

2:41 Introduction to the New Facebook Community

5:39 Personal Story and Struggles

12:04 Journey to Financial Independence

14:42 Final Thoughts and Future Plans

Podcast Resources:

Join my new community: No Visible Bruises - Survivor Stories of Narcissistic Abuse, Domestic Abuse & Coercive Control https://www.facebook.com/groups/novisiblebruises
Join my FREE Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/thriveafternarcissisticabuse
Access my low cost Narcissistic Trauma Recovery Programme https://go.carolinestrawson.com/heal-the-trauma-of-narcissistic-abuse
Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carolinestrawson/
Find me on TikTok!: https://www.tiktok.com/@carolinestrawson
My website: https://www.carolinestrawson.com/

Transactional Love & Narcissistic Abuse Mar 25, 2025

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Do you know the invisible weight of transactional love?

As someone who has walked through the emotional minefield, I understand how every interaction becomes a calculated performance.

The narcissist conditions you to believe your worth is transactional and you constantly have to prove your value through endless giving, pleasing, and sacrificing. Your authentic self disappears and is replaced by a version carefully crafted to avoid criticism and earn microscopic fragments of affection. Each day becomes an exhausting dance of walking on eggshells, anticipating their next emotional manipulation. The trauma leaves invisible scars, making you question your own reality, your own memories. But healing is possible.

Recognising that your worth isn't determined by their validation is the first powerful step towards reclaiming your identity. You are valuable simply by existing, not by how perfectly you serve someone else's toxic narrative. Your survival is your strength.

0:00 Intro

2:13 The Future of the Podcast

3:37 Transactional Love and Personal Experiences

9:01 Impact of Transactional Love on Children

12:30 Challenges and Solutions for Parents and Survivors

15:12 Conclusion

Podcast Resources:

Join my FREE Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/thriveafternarcissisticabuse
Access my low cost Narcissistic Trauma Recovery Programme https://go.carolinestrawson.com/heal-the-trauma-of-narcissistic-abuse
Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carolinestrawson/
Find me on TikTok!: https://www.tiktok.com/@carolinestrawson
My website: https://www.carolinestrawson.com/

Are They Really A Narcissist?? Mar 18, 2025

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Have you ever stopped to ask yourself, are they really a narcissist? The complexities of narcissistic relationships can be overwhelming, leaving you questioning your own sanity. However, it's crucial to understand that the word "narcissist" is merely a label, not a definition of your worth.

The spectrum of narcissism is vast, with varying behaviors and traits that can make it challenging to pinpoint. Remember, no true narcissist would ever question their own narcissistic tendencies. If you find yourself pondering this, it's a sign that you're not the problem.

Instead, focus on your healing journey, as the path to recovery is not an easy one. Seek support, explore your emotions, and reclaim your voice. Your well-being is paramount, and with the right guidance, you can break free from the cycle of narcissistic abuse.

0:00 Introduction and Podcast Rebrand

1:14 Upcoming Episodes and Guest Interviews

2:48 Identifying Narcissists and the Narcissism Spectrum

4:44 Impact of Narcissistic Relationships on Victims

7:41 Physiological and Emotional Effects of Narcissistic Abuse

11:36 The Abuse Cycle and Trauma Bond

13:09 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

Quiz link https://m.me/carolinestrawson?ref=podcast

Podcast Resources:

Join my FREE Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/thriveafternarcissisticabuse
Access my low cost Narcissistic Trauma Recovery Programme https://go.carolinestrawson.com/heal-the-trauma-of-narcissistic-abuse
Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carolinestrawson/
Find me on TikTok!: https://www.tiktok.com/@carolinestrawson
My website: https://www.carolinestrawson.com/

Narcissistic Abuse: The Real Truth and Why Sharing your Survival Story Matters Mar 11, 2025

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Are you tired of feeling powerless against narcissist abuse? I know the unseen scars left by narcissists can feel devastating, but you can change the narrative.

This year I will be launching a new podcast filled with real interviews and conversations with survivors like you, to give you an unmatched insight into the physical and psychological impacts of narcissistic abuse.

I will be sharing my tools to help you heal from narcissistic abuse such as somatic therapy, understanding your internal family systems, and more. This roadmap can help you reclaim your power and heal at the deepest level.

No longer will you feel alone in your struggle. You'll be inspired, empowered, and armed with the truth about narcissistic abuse that has been hidden for far too long.

Don't miss this transformative opportunity, your journey to recovery starts now. Sign up as a guest on the show here - https://form.jotform.com/caroline1973/podcast-guest-application

0:00 Rebranding Announcement and Podcast Vision

3:10 How to Become a Guest on my Show

5:11 Therapeutic Approaches and Healing Methods

6:05 Educational and Workshop Initiatives

8:37 Ownership and Responsibility in Healing

14:26 The Role of the Protector and Core Emotional Wounds

17:12 The Importance of Nervous System Healing

19:40 Final thoughts

Podcast Resources:

Join my FREE Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/thriveafternarcissisticabuse
Access my low cost Narcissistic Trauma Recovery Programme https://go.carolinestrawson.com/heal-the-trauma-of-narcissistic-abuse
Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carolinestrawson/
Find me on TikTok!: https://www.tiktok.com/@carolinestrawson
My website: https://www.carolinestrawson.com/

Breaking The Trauma Bond To A Narcissist -The Hidden Addiction Mar 04, 2025

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Have you struggled to let go of your relationship with a narcissist? The trauma bond created in narcissistic abuse can feel like an addiction, with physiological reasons behind the difficulty to break free.

Understanding the hormone secretions and brain chemistry involved is key to developing the necessary strategies, intention, and awareness to heal. Somatic tools and deep trauma work are essential for thriving after narcissistic abuse, as simply ignoring the situation or waiting for time to heal often falls short.

Recognising the unseen, psychological nature of this abuse, rather than focusing on visible bruises, is crucial. Becoming a cycle breaker and raising awareness about narcissistic traits and coercive control can empower both the individual and the broader community. With the right support and education, it is possible to overcome the trauma bond and reclaim your life after narcissistic abuse.

0:00 Trauma Bonding and Addiction

1:08 Upcoming Masterclass and Podcast Relaunch

8:04 Therapy and Coaching Techniques

8:20 Personal Journey and Healing

16:05 Support and Community

Podcast Resources:

Masterclass link https://carolinestrawson.com/trauma-bond

New podcast guest application form https://form.jotform.com/caroline1973/podcast-guest-application
Join my FREE Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/thriveafternarcissisticabuse
Access my low cost Narcissistic Trauma Recovery Programme https://go.carolinestrawson.com/heal-the-trauma-of-narcissistic-abuse
Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carolinestrawson/
Find me on TikTok!: https://www.tiktok.com/@carolinestrawson
My website: https://www.carolinestrawson.com/

Ghosting & Narcissistic Abuse Feb 25, 2025

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Has your narcissistic ex decided to ghost you? The experience can be gut-wrenching, as the sudden loss of communication triggers a physiological craving within your body.

Narcissistic abuse creates a trauma bond, where the mind and body become addicted to the abuser's presence.

Even when your rational mind knows it's unhealthy, your body may still yearn for the narcissist's attention.

This is fueled by the dopamine and cortisol surges that occur during the abuse cycle.

Resist the urge to question your worth. The narcissist's decision to ghost you is a tactic to maintain control and manipulate your emotions.

Instead, focus on your own healing journey and address the nervous system and emotional aspects of the trauma. Surround yourself with a supportive community and commit to self-care.

In time, you'll be grateful to have escaped the narcissist's toxic grasp. Your value is not defined by their fleeting actions, but by the strength you have within.

https://carolinestrawson.com/roadmap

0:00 Understanding Trauma and Narcissistic Abuse 1:09 Rebranding the Podcast and Therapy Integration 2:11 Ghosting and Trauma Bonds 4:31 The Physiological Impact of Narcissistic Abuse 8:26 Healing and Taking Control 10:43 Resources and Support for Survivors 12:11 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

Podcast Resources:

Join my FREE Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/thriveafternarcissisticabuse
Access my low cost Narcissistic Trauma Recovery Programme https://go.carolinestrawson.com/heal-the-trauma-of-narcissistic-abuse
Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carolinestrawson/
Find me on TikTok!: https://www.tiktok.com/@carolinestrawson
My website: https://www.carolinestrawson.com/

Is the Narcissist Happier with Their New Partner? Feb 18, 2025

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Watching a narcissist thrive in a new relationship can be gut-wrenching. The emotional turmoil of seeing the narcissist's apparent happiness, while you struggle to pick up the pieces is difficult.

Resist the urge to question your worth. The narcissist's facade of bliss is fleeting - their true nature will resurface. Their ability to manipulate and present a false image is a tactic to maintain their supply of adoration.

Focus on your own healing journey. Surround yourself with a supportive community and commit to self-care. In time, you'll be grateful to have escaped the narcissist's toxic grasp. Your value is not defined by their temporary happiness.

0:00 Rebrand Announcement and Introduction 1:20 Personal Experience with a Covert Narcissist 3:10 Emotional Toll and Self-Doubt 4:16 Understanding the Narcissist's New Relationship 5:14 Long-Term Impact and Healing 7:32 Healing Journey and Community Support 9:05 Final Encouragement and Resources

Podcast Resources:

Join my FREE Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/thriveafternarcissisticabuse
Access my low cost Narcissistic Trauma Recovery Programme https://go.carolinestrawson.com/heal-the-trauma-of-narcissistic-abuse
Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carolinestrawson/
Find me on TikTok!: https://www.tiktok.com/@carolinestrawson
My website: https://www.carolinestrawson.com/

Feeling Judged When Explaining Narcissistic Abuse Feb 11, 2025

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Have you ever felt the sting of a narcissist's manipulation? The way they twist reality, gaslighting their victims into questioning their own sanity. This insidious and dark form of abuse, known as narcissistic abuse, leaves no visible scars, yet the emotional and psychological wounds run deep.

In a society that is quick to judge, the narcissist's public persona often masks the dark reality behind closed doors. The fear of not being believed can silence you, trapping you further in the narcissist's web of control.

It's time to break the silence and approach these delicate situations with empathy and compassion. By having open dialogues and creating safe spaces, we can free ourselves from narcissistic abuse to reclaim our voices and lives.

Only then can you truly begin to understand the complex dynamics of this narcissistic abuse, heal yourself and support others in need.

0:00 Narcissistic Abuse and Coercive Control

1:31 Social Media Reactions and Judgment

4:06 Impact of Judgmental Comments on Abuse Victims

4:34 Challenges of Communicating Narcissistic Abuse

8:45 Importance of Sensitivity and Compassion

9:02 Encouraging Open Communication and Support

10:05 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

Podcast Resources:

Join my FREE Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/thriveafternarcissisticabuse
Access my low cost Narcissistic Trauma Recovery Programme https://go.carolinestrawson.com/heal-the-trauma-of-narcissistic-abuse
Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carolinestrawson/
Find me on TikTok!: https://www.tiktok.com/@carolinestrawson
My website: https://www.carolinestrawson.com/

REPLAY 163: Self Care Is A Priority After Narcissistic Abuse Feb 04, 2025

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Have you ever taken a moment to reflect on how you treat yourself? It might feel uneasy, as we often treat ourselves worse than we would treat others. Imagine treating someone else the way you treat yourself – it would likely disturb you. But there's a way to improve this. In this episode, I'm discussing the topic of self-care. I admit I neglected self-care after my divorce, but now I've made it a vital part of my life. Because without self-care, true healing becomes difficult.

What you will learn in this episode:

What self care looks like and what you can do to make time for yourself.
How to find time for yourself even if you’re a mother with children or have a hectic work schedule.
A holistic approach to healing to ensure we’re physically, emotionally and psychologically healthy.

I'll talk about my own self-care routine and share tips for incorporating it into your schedule. Whether it's just 5 minutes of solitude or treating yourself occasionally, these small acts can greatly aid in recovering from your past. Let's agree to make a pact – a promise to each other – that we'll prioritize self-care and extend the same kindness to ourselves as we do to our loved ones.

Podcast Resources:

Join my FREE Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/thriveafternarcissisticabuse
Access my low cost Narcissistic Trauma Recovery Programme https://go.carolinestrawson.com/heal-the-trauma-of-narcissistic-abuse
Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carolinestrawson/
Find me on TikTok!: https://www.tiktok.com/@carolinestrawson
My website: https://www.carolinestrawson.com/

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