Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships

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548 - Conversations to Have Before Moving in Together Sep 23, 2025

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Today we're dusting off an old episode about cohabiting with a partner. In it, we talk about why people move in together, questions to ask yourself about possibly moving in with a partner, and of course, conversations to have with your potential living partner. We also discuss some specific points about non-monogamy and cohabitation, and how to be or choose a good platonic roommate was well.

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Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.

Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by ⁠Josh and Anand⁠

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Help us make history: The biggest non-monogamy study ever conducted! Sep 19, 2025

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Participate in this anonymous 20-30-minute survey here: Chapman University Study
This year, we've partnered with OPEN and Dr. Amy Moors at Chapman University, a leading non-monogamy researcher, to bring a new level of academic rigor to this research!
Why participate: This data directly supports advocacy work – previous surveys helped win legal protections in major cities.
Eligibility: 18+ and practice any form of consensual non-monogamy (polyamory, open relationships, swinging, relationship anarchy, etc.)
Study details: Chapman University IRB approved (IRB No. #26-13). Research questions: Dr. Amy Moors, moors@chapman.edu. IRB concerns: (714) 628-2833 or irb@chapman.edu.
Survey Link
Participation is completely voluntary and anonymous. Please share with your non-monogamous networks – more voices = better data = stronger advocacy! 💪

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Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.

Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by ⁠Josh and Anand⁠

We are a proud member of the ⁠Pleasure Podcasts⁠ network.

547 - Help! My Partner is Dating My Best Friend: Listener Q&A Sep 16, 2025

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Today we're back with another Q&A episode from one of our Supercast subscribers. We'll be talking about relationship dynamics and what to do when a partner is dating a close friend, how to navigate the situation, and tips on better communication for everyone involved.

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Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.

Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by ⁠Josh and Anand⁠

We are a proud member of the ⁠Pleasure Podcasts⁠ network.

546 - Therapy Myths That Hurt Your Relationships (with therapist Joe Nucci) Sep 09, 2025

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Today we're welcoming therapist Joe Nucci to the show to talk about myths about therapy and the effect they can have on your relationships.
Joe is a licensed psychotherapist and content creator. His debut book, published by Harper, is called Psychobabble: Viral Mental Health Myths and the Truths to Set You Free. It's available wherever you get books starting September 23rd, 2025.
Find more about Joe Nucci on his website https://joenuccitherapy.com/, or check him out on Instagram @joenuccitherapy.

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Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.

Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by ⁠Josh and Anand⁠

We are a proud member of the ⁠Pleasure Podcasts⁠ network.

545 - AI Relationships: Ethics, Intimacy, & Algorithms with Dr. Julie Carpenter Sep 02, 2025

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Today we're chatting with Dr. Julie Carpenter about AI and its role in our relationships.
Dr. Julie Carpenter is a social scientist who studies how people relate to AI in its many forms, and how these interactions inform evolving ideas about self, identity, agency, and connection. Her research investigates the stories people construct around artificial beings and how those narratives influence the design and deployment of real-world AI. She is an external research fellow with the Ethics + Emerging Sciences Group at California Polytechnic State University and the author of The Naked Android: Synthetic Socialness and the Human Gaze, which unpacks how culture influences our expectations of robots, and why that matters.
Find more about Dr. Julie Carpenter on her website https://jgcarpenter.com/

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Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.

Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by ⁠Josh and Anand⁠

We are a proud member of the ⁠Pleasure Podcasts⁠ network.

544 - Are You Sabotaging Your Relationships by Seeking Security? Aug 26, 2025

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Today we're discussing our drive to seek security in relationships, especially as economic uncertainty increases, and how sometimes, that can turn around and bite us. We'll be talking about why we seek security in relationships, some paradoxes of security, and as always, some tools to help better understand your own behavior around seeking security in your relationships.

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Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.

Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by ⁠Josh and Anand⁠

We are a proud member of the ⁠Pleasure Podcasts⁠ network.

543 - My Metamour Refuses to Meet Me: Listener Q&A Aug 19, 2025

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Today we're fielding another question from one of our Supercast subscribers. We'll be discussing how to handle your metamour not wanting to meet you or be a part of your life.
If you want one of your questions answered on a future Q&A episode, become one of our Supercast subscribers!

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Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.

Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by ⁠Josh and Anand⁠

We are a proud member of the ⁠Pleasure Podcasts⁠ network.

542 - Is Emotional Intelligence the Key to Getting Out of Our Own Way? Aug 12, 2025

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Today we're talking about emotional intelligence, self-sabotage, and being objective about our thoughts and emotions. Have you ever had a thought that won't go away for a long time, especially a negative one about yourself? Sometimes our insecurities take advantage of us and encourage us to engage in self-sabotaging behavior. We're going to talk today about how to practice emotional regulation, self-sabotaging behavior, and more!

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Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.

Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by ⁠Josh and Anand⁠

We are a proud member of the ⁠Pleasure Podcasts⁠ network.

541 - Make Agreements with Yourself, Not With Your Partner Aug 05, 2025

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We're revisiting agreements, but this time with ourselves, not others. We're going to be talking about agreements, self agreements, how they differ from boundaries, and ways to generate self agreements so that you can start exploring what you expect from yourself in relationships versus what you expect from others.
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Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.

Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by ⁠Josh and Anand⁠

We are a proud member of the ⁠Pleasure Podcasts⁠ network.

540 - Banish the Ghost of Relationships Past Jul 29, 2025

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This week we're bringing back a remastered episode about the ghosts of relationships past...and getting into a good relationship after being in a bad one. Do you have trouble trusting a good relationship? Are you always waiting for the other shoe to drop and things to turn bad? You might be suffering from relationship PTSD, which can inhibit your ability to enjoy a good, healthy relationship. Particularly if you have a history of past abusive, manipulative, controlling, or coercive, you can have trouble being present and open with a current partner.
We're going to be diving into how relationship trauma can influence our present relationships, healthy behaviors that can seem destabilizing after a poor relationship, and some actionable ways you can help yourself heal and receive the love that's currently in front of you.

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Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.

Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by ⁠Josh and Anand⁠

We are a proud member of the ⁠Pleasure Podcasts⁠ network.

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