Motherhood in Black & White

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Summer 2021 Jun 06, 2021

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What's the cure for the summertime blues that affected many of us last summer? This week, we talk about plans for summer 2021 - the camps, the vacations, and the workload! We share some of our memories of past summers and discuss how we plan and prepare for summer break. Listen to the end to find out our hosts' dream vacations and why they may do a family swap next summer!

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Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @Taraallyce
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Kaanji: @Kaanji_irby
Tara: @Tatstar

The Birthday Bash Episode May 30, 2021

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Our Gemini twin co-hosts, Kaanji and Tara, invited you to join their Birthday Extravaganza this week. Join this fun-filled episode as they talk about how they celebrate their birthdays, birthday celebrations from their past and for their kids, and the one gift that Kaanji has outlawed in her house and why. Listen to find out what Kaanji gifted Tara this year that Tara's husband may ban from their house. Stay tuned to the end to hear their birthday wishes for this year.

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Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @Taraallyce
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IG:@blackandwhitemomcast
Kaanji: @Kaanji_irby
Tara: @Tatstar

The Sandwich Generation May 23, 2021

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This week, Kaanji and Tara discuss The Sandwich Generation, a term used to describe women who are both raising young children and taking on the additional responsibilities of caring for their aging parents. They each discuss the additional responsibilities they are taking on with their mothers, and how that affects their own mental health. Kaanji reviews actionable steps we can take to prepare ourselves for the future, and they both realize how having only children makes them want to be more vigilant to lessen the burden on their sons. We also find out our hosts have wildly different opinions on actual sandwiches!

You Are Not Alone: Discussing Mental Health Awareness Month May 16, 2021

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As May in Mental Health Awareness Month, Tara and Kaanji discuss the importance of having open conversations about mental health and getting the help you need. They talk about their own mental health struggles and what has helped them, the different messages they received growing up about therapy, and they share ideas for their listeners on how to both ask for help and help others in their own mental health journey. We also find out why Kaanji might be done with Grey’s Anatomy, and, as usual, she finds a way to work in Tupac lyrics.

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Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @Taraallyce

Become a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcast

IG:@blackandwhitemomcast

Kaanji: @Kaanji_irby

Tara: @Tatstar

Cancel Mother's Day May 09, 2021

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Tara and Kaanji discuss whether Mother's Day should be an official holiday or whether it's time to cancel this century-old celebration. They talk about the contradicting origin tale and reflect on their own experiences, expectations and attitudes around Mother's Day and how - or if - they "celebrate" it in their households.

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Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @Taraallyce

Become a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcast

IG:@blackandwhitemomcast

Kaanji: @Kaanji_irby

Tara: @Tatstar

Tags: parenting, antiracism, diversity, inclusion, motherhood, relationships, boymoms, worklifebalance, Mother's Day, Tupac, cancel culture, Anna Jarvis

The Work-Life Balance Myth May 02, 2021

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Kaanji and Tara discuss why work life balance doesn't exist and how they handle being working mothers. They share the stress of being pulled in many different directions and how they keep their priorities in check. The conversation takes a vulnerable turn as they uncover a glaring discrepancy between their experiences over the last year, but they find common ground in the obvious: Tupac lyrics.

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Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @Taraallyce

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IG:@blackandwhitemomcast

Kaanji: @Kaanji_irby

Tara: @Tatstar

And Justice For All: A Conversation about Racial Justice Apr 20, 2021

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On this poignant episode, Kaanji and Tara share their initial reactions and thoughts on George Floyd's murder and the guilty verdict handed down against his killer. Their conversation centers on how their lives have been forever changed by George Floyd's murder in May 2020, and how they have talked to their adolescent sons about the murder, racial reckoning and reconciliation.

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Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @Taraallyce

Become a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcast

IG:@blackandwhitemomcast

Kaanji: @Kaanji_irby

Tara: @Tatstar

Raising Resilient Kids Apr 18, 2021

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How can we raise our kids to be as strong as possible while shielding them from the harsh realities of a (sometimes) cruel and unequal society? In this episode, Kaanji and Tara discuss how their childhood traumas and experiences impacted their parenting choices and have taught them to be resilient adults. They share how they have learned to teach their sons to handle discouragement, disappointment, and difficulties while being strong emotional support systems, and offer some straightforward tips on how to foster resilience in our kids.

To learn more about the Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE) Study and to take the ACE Quiz, visit https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2015/03/02/387007941/take-the-ace-quiz-and-learn-what-it-does-and-doesnt-mean

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Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @Taraallyce

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IG:@blackandwhitemomcast

Kaanji: @Kaanji_irby

Tara: @Tatstar

Raising Muslim Kids in America Apr 11, 2021

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What's it like to raise a Muslim child in American society? This week, we are joined by Dr. Shazia Anwar, a physician, certified life coach and community builder. Listen in as Kaanji and Tara have an enlightening and honest conversation with Shazia about the challenges, opportunities and pressures of raising Muslim children in America, misconceptions about Islam, and how we can all teach our kids about the upcoming holiday of Ramadan in a respectful manner.

To contact Shazia, please visit her Facebook page (Shazia R. Anwar Principled Approach) or email her at Anwar.Lifecoach@gmail.com.

Connect with us:

Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @Taraallyce

Become a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcast

IG:@blackandwhitemomcast

Kaanji: @Kaanji_irby

Tara: @Tatstar

Talking Athletics and Antiracism w/ Kelly Walker Apr 04, 2021

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This week, we are joined by Kelly Walker, host of the sports-focused podcast, Hustle & Pro. We chat about why involving our kids in youth sports benefits their overall development, how to navigate challenges of a demanding extracurricular schedule, and finding the right activity for your kids. Listen as Kelly bravely shares her personal antiracism journey and how she uses her platform to advance equity.

Connect with Kelly Walker on IG @ kelly_walkertexas

Connect with us:

Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @Taraallyce

Become a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcast

IG:@blackandwhitemomcast

Kaanji: @Kaanji_irby

Tara: @Tatstar