Motherhood in Black & White

Latest Episodes:

Labors of Love - A Very Special Reshare Sep 04, 2022

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In a special Labor Day episode, Kaanji and Tara are joined by two very special guests, fellow moms Dominique and Dianthe. All four mothers share their wildly different labor and delivery stories that involve orange juice, epidurals, a presidential inauguration and Dominos pizza! The one takeaway from each story is that when it comes to labor and motherhood, no amount of planning can prepare you for real life.

Kaanji and Tara are both anti-racism advocates and members of the leadership team for Embrace Action, an anti-racism advocacy and educational nonprofit organization. You can learn more about Embrace Action by visiting www.embraceaction.org

Tara Bio: Tara is a bank executive living in North Dallas with her husband and son. A recovering overachiever that tends to stretch herself a bit thin trying to be all things to all people, she’s learning more and more about how to strive for ordinary. She loves Beyonce, dancing in the kitchen, inappropriate conversations with her girlfriends, laughing with her family, and hyping other people up. She’s currently halfway through an MBA program and aspires to serve in a capacity that empowers women in her community. She is always a work in progress.

Kaanji Bio. Kaanji is a coach, anti-racism advocate and practicing attorney. She’s passionate about engaging people in honest and authentic conversations about the Black experience in America. California-born and raised and a recovering New Yorker, proud Georgetown alum Kaanji resides in the Dallas suburb of Frisco, TX with her husband and 11-year old son. A self-professed wine connoisseur and lover of all things Prince, she holds space in the company of amazing friends and a supportive family.

Should Kids Have a Right to Privacy? Aug 28, 2022

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This week, Kaanji and Tara talk about their views on allowing their kids more privacy and how it's changed as their sons have gotten older. This topic has polarizing opinions, so they look to the internet experts for guidance. They discussed closed doors (and why that is helpful for everyone), social media, and what scares them about allowing more space for their sons to explore on their own. This conversation had differing opinions, and our hosts each picked up new tips from each other - you don't want to miss it.

Catch a brand new season of The Ms. Pat Show streaming August 11 th , only on BET+. To learn more, visit BET dot plus. BET+. Stream Black culture.

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Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @Taraallyce

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Kaanji: @Kaanji_irby

Tara: @Tatstar

Pausing our lives for student loans? Aug 21, 2022

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If you have student loan debt or are considering taking out loans to help your kids pay for college, then this is the episode for you! This week, Kaanji and Tara chat about the pitfalls of student loans, their debt repayment journey, and strategies for college savings for their kids.

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Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @Taraallyce

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Kaanji: @Kaanji_irby

Tara: @Tatstar

(Dis)Connecting on Vacation Aug 14, 2022

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As our hosts caught up on their summer activities, the conversation of vacations and how to be fully present with our families came up. Tara admits that she's never really 100% unplugged from work, and Kaanji admits to frustration feeling responsible for the whole family's itinerary. They both share ideas with each other on how they've found ways to set boundaries in order to enjoy those moments with their families more fully.

Catch a brand new season of The Ms. Pat Show streaming August 11 th , only on BET+. To learn more, visit BET dot plus. BET+. Stream Black culture.

www.bet.plus

Connect with us:

Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @Taraallyce

Become a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcast

IG:@blackandwhitemomcast

Kaanji: @Kaanji_irby

Tara: @Tatstar

We're Back (to School)! Aug 07, 2022

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After an unexpected hiatus, our hosts are back! The timing is perfect, too, because Tara is about to start navigating the challenges of her son starting middle school, and Kaanji has plenty of advice, since her son is about to start his last year. Our hosts catch up on what we've missed during their time off, and are very excited to share new sponsored content!

Catch a brand new season of The Ms. Pat Show streaming August 11th, only on BET+. To learn more, visit BET dot plus. BET+. Stream Black culture.

https://www.bet.plus

Connect with us:

Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @Taraallyce

Become a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcast

IG:@blackandwhitemomcast

Kaanji: @Kaanji_irby

Tara: @tatstar

As Seen on TV: Our Favorite TV Moms May 08, 2022

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In honor of Mother's Day, our hosts are sharing this encore episode from Season One, which is one of Kaanji and Tara's all time favorites! Can you guess who are their Top 5 TV moms of all-time? Listen to this hilarious episode and smile along with our hosts.
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Kaanji: @Kaanji_irby

Tara: @Tatstar

Our Favorite Year(s) May 01, 2022

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This week, Kaanji and Tara take time to share their favorite (and least favorite) moments during the phases of motherhood. Find out what our hosts thought of the experience of parenting infants, toddlers, young kids and now, pre-teens and teenagers.

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Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @Taraallyce

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Kaanji: @Kaanji_irby

Tara: @Tatstar

Finding Joy in Motherhood Apr 24, 2022

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This week our hosts talk about the importance of looking for joy in the motherhood journey. They both discuss where they struggle with fear and expectations as moms and how both can steal the joy from their experiences. This one is full of real talk and laughter as Tara and Kaanji catch up and connect over shared feelings. Oh...and Tara has a new fangirl story.

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Kaanji: @Kaanji_irby

Tara: @Tatstar

On Being Called the N* Word Apr 16, 2022

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How would you handle the situation if your child was called a racial or ethnic slur? In this powerful episode, Kaanji discusses a recent incident where her son is called the N* word and our hosts have a heartfelt conversation about why it is important to teach our children the hateful history behind this term and how to have conversations with kids of all ages about appropriate language.

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Kaanji: @Kaanji_irby

Really Bad Parenting Advice Apr 10, 2022

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This week, Kaanji and Tara discuss some really bad parenting advice that they have received during their motherhood journeys. Listen as they share some insights into how their childhoods have informed some of their parenting decisions, and share their insights on some parenting tips that have been passed down through generations.

Check out this Buzzfeed article, 13 Times Parenting Advice From the Past Was Hilariously Wrong: https://www.buzzfeed.com/mikespohr/hilariously-bad-parenting-advice-from-the-past-thatll-make

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Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @Taraallyce

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IG:@blackandwhitemomcast

Kaanji: @Kaanji_irby