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#98 | Max Tries Meditating for a Week... No Levitation, But Close Enough Apr 01, 2025

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Max and Matt get into the wild world of kids and competition—when it's fun, when it turns toxic, and when parents accidentally make it worse. They talk about the pressure kids feel to be “the best,” whether competition builds resilience or just stress, and how to help kids navigate winning, losing, and everything in between. From the awkwardness of letting your kid win (or not) to the questionable ethics of “participation trophies,” they unpack the emotional rollercoaster of raising kids in a world that’s always keeping score. They also dive into the unexpected role of mindfulness and meditation—can teaching kids to slow down and breathe actually help with the pressure? Or is it just another thing for parents to stress about? Plus, they get real about their own childhood experiences with competition and how that shapes the way they parent today. Let’s gooo!
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#97 | You’re Perfect Just the Way You Are (But Fix Your Hair) Mar 26, 2025

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Max and Matt take on the surprisingly tricky topic of self-image and how much parents shape the way their kids feel about how they look. They unpack the fine line between building confidence and accidentally creating little narcissists, why telling your kids they're beautiful might actually be a good thing, and how much of this is just about helping them avoid a future existential crisis in front of the mirror. They also wrestle with questions like: Is making your kid do their hair just basic hygiene or enforcing pointless social norms? How much should parents step in when their kid looks like a complete mess? And is there really any harm in letting your kid wear the same shirt two days in a row? From the dad mirror effect to the chaos of parenting in a world obsessed with appearance, they break it all down—while probably overthinking it. Let’s gooo!

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#96 | Why are We Still Embarrassed About Our Feelings? Mar 19, 2025

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Max and Matt wrestle with the awkward tension of self-care, gratitude practices, and what it really means to put yourself first as a dad. They dive into the discomfort of talking about feelings, why terms like "self-care" and "gratitude practice" feel off-putting, and whether the resistance to these ideas is generational, cultural, or just straight-up nonsense. From the pressure to be a "good dad" while also keeping a piece of yourself intact to the absurdity of ranking your priorities in life, they explore why taking care of yourself isn’t just important—it’s essential. They also get into dad martyrdom, the social dynamics of making time for friends, and how a simple recurring event on the calendar might just be the key to happiness.

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#95 | Yeah, but Seriously... Which kid's your Favorite? Mar 11, 2025

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Do parents really have a favorite child? The research says… maybe. This week, Max and Matt discuss a fascinating new study exploring favoritism among siblings, why it happens, who it happens to, and how it affects kids long-term. They break down what makes one child the "favorite", why firstborns often get special treatment, and how parents can unintentionally send signals that stick with kids for life.

They also share their experiences as dads, from managing sibling rivalries to checking their own biases, and tackle the big question: If favoritism is natural, how do you make sure your kids don't feel like they're getting the short end of the stick? Plus, it's a hilarious look at birth order stereotypes, bedtime confessions, and how kids remember praise vs. rejection.

If you've ever wondered whether your kids think you play favorites (or you still swear your parents had a favorite), you won't want to miss this honest and slightly chaotic conversation!

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#94 Sick Kids are Tough, and Other Medical Facts Mar 04, 2025

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Max and Matt dive into the wild world of sick kids: the endless fluids, missed days at daycare, and the looming question of how much sickness is too much. They talk about everything from preventing illness to navigating the tricky moments when it strikes, including handling fevers, the viral load theory, and whether it's okay to send your kid back to daycare with a little Tylenol. Max shares his unconventional (and controversial) approach to keeping his family from getting sick, and the guys explore how the balance between taking care of your kids and taking care of your work responsibilities can lead to some seriously complicated decisions. Plus, they discuss the fine line between being a concerned parent and overthinking it. You won’t want to miss this honest, funny, and a little bit gross conversation about sickness, health, and parenting in the trenches.

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#93 The Work Trip Feb 18, 2025

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Max and Matt dive deep into the emotional complexities of work trips — how they feel before, during, and after leaving their families behind. The lead-up is filled with guilt and anxiety, and while the trip itself might offer a bit of relief, there’s no escaping the emotional rollercoaster of being away from the kids and the tension with partners. From the chaotic reentry period to the guilt of missing milestones, they talk through how to manage these feelings of guilt while balancing their roles as dads and professionals. They also discuss the dynamics with their partners and kids, the expectations that come with travel, and why sometimes, the family routine takes a little detour when dad's away. Max and Matt explore the mixed emotions of being away — the pangs of leaving your partner with the kids, the inevitable "tantrums" when you come back, and how these trips impact family life and the overall family dynamic. Let's gooo!

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#92 Entitlement, Gratitude, and Trying Not to Spoil 'Em Feb 11, 2025

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In this episode, Max and Matt tackle one of the trickiest challenges of parenting—striking the balance between giving your kids a great life and ensuring they develop gratitude. On the one hand, you want to give them everything you can; on the other, being deprived of something can be a powerful teacher of gratitude. But when you have the means to give your kids what they want, how do you navigate that tension without sounding like a broken record about how good they have it? Max and Matt dive into the complexities of overindulgence and entitlement, discussing the natural ways kids learn and how to avoid pushing them too far into materialism or a lack of work ethic. It’s not as simple as just saying, “Be grateful,” and they share their own struggles with finding that delicate balance. Let's go!

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#91 That Hyper-Critical D*ck That Lives Inside Our Head Feb 04, 2025

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In this episode, Max and Matt dive into the complexities of self-criticism and why we’re so hard on ourselves. From feeling like we’re not doing enough to the constant nagging voice that says we’re failing, they break down the science behind those inner thoughts and how they can both push us to succeed and drive us crazy. The dads explore the brain’s Default Mode Network, the fine line between anxiety and excitement, and the paradox of wanting high emotional highs while battling self-doubt. Plus, they share practical strategies to deal with that voice in your head—from framing stress as information to simply cutting yourself some slack. It’s a raw, honest look at how we can stop letting our inner critics sabotage our peace and embrace who we are.

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#90 MINE! Jan 29, 2025

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In this episode, Max and Matt tackle the chaos of sibling rivalry with a side of humor and some eye-opening research. As Max navigates the constant tug-of-war between his three kids, from stolen toys to full-on brawls over forgotten objects, the dads dive deep into the survival instincts driving sibling conflict. They share insights on how to deal with the constant squabbles, why fairness is an illusion, and how empathy can help bridge the emotional gap between kids (and parents). From understanding the neurological reasons behind possessiveness to practical strategies for keeping your cool, this episode is all about surviving the madness and coming out with a little more peace of mind. Plus, Max shares how he's learning to manage the chaos by embracing the reality that, sometimes, they’ll just have to "dev out" of it. Tune in for a mix of science, parenting hacks, and a ton of laughs.

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#89 The Way of Play w/ Dr. Tina Payne Bryson Jan 21, 2025

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In this episode, Max and Matt sit down with Dr. Tina Payne Bryson, renowned therapist and author of The Way of Play, to dive into the transformative power of play for kids (and parents!). With her new book launching today, Dr. Bryson shares how play can be a powerful tool for emotional growth, resilience, and connection. From teaching kids emotional skills through action figures to using play as a strategy for tackling tough moments, Tina breaks down the why and how of incorporating play into everyday life. Whether you're the “fun parent” or you struggle to get down on the floor for playtime, this episode offers relatable tips and deep insights into how play can build brains, relationships, and make parenting a little more magical. If you've ever wondered how to make your time with your kids more meaningful or how to make the most of those fleeting moments of connection, this one's for you.

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