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Releasing the Dream Child and the Dream Parent Ep 5.42 Sep 06, 2024

In today's episode, we're talking about letting go of the dream of perfection for both you and your child. This topic comes with a trigger warning as we'll be discussing perfectionism and white supremacy culture.

I find it interesting that I created this outline a year ago without fully knowing where this episode would go. But now, it feels perfectly aligned with this week's theme—white supremacy culture and perfectionism.

As you listen, I invite you to take care of yourself. Get cozy, grab a notebook, and let's dive in.

I'll start with a bold statement: Perfection is a myth. It's a fantasy that can keep us going, but it can also become a major demotivator. Perfection is an illusion sold to us, making companies millions—if not billions—of dollars. It highlights our insecurities, creates gaps, puts pressure on us, and triggers our nervous system into a threat response. It can be deeply destabilizing, making us vulnerable to exploitation.

Today, we'll explore the conversation around perfectionism, letting go of the "dream child" and "dream parent," and grieving the loss of that dream.

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Are you doing your P.A.R.T.? Ep 5.41 Aug 30, 2024

In today's episode, we'll be talking about how you can ensure you're doing your P.A.R.T. This is an acronym by Seigel that I love, and I'm excited to dive into it today. We'll explore how doing your P.A.R.T. helps build trust and safety within your family. So, I invite you to get cozy, grab your notebook, and let's dig in!

I'm thrilled to share this episode with you because it ties together everything we've been building throughout the season. It's like a pretty little bow wrapping up all the momentum we've created.

Let's start by grounding ourselves. Positive parenting is a philosophy that helps you as a parent become more insightful and critical of the methods you're using. That's what today's episode is all about—connecting all the dots we've been laying down all season. Positive parenting values the parent-child relationship, and today, we'll explore how doing your P.A.R.T. plays a crucial role in that.

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What does our “nervous system” do? Ep 5.40 Aug 23, 2024

In today’s episode, we'll be talking about what our nervous system does, and let me tell you, when it comes to behavior management and positive parenting, it plays a huge role. So, get cozy, grab your notebook, and let’s dig in!

Alright, friends, we’re going to start by revisiting the concept of temperament, which we've discussed in the past few episodes. Temperament is a crucial factor that influences our attachment and how we interact with the world. As a reminder, temperament affects how we take in information, process our environment, regulate ourselves, and ultimately, how we behave.

In the last episode, we explored the nine traits of temperament and learned that they generally fall into three categories: easy temperament, slow-to-warm temperament, and difficult temperament. It’s easy to get caught up in labeling a child as “difficult” simply because we find them challenging. However, when we talk about temperament, it’s important to focus on the child’s experience, not ours. For example, a child with an easy temperament finds it easier to regulate themselves—they’re flexible, calm quickly, and are generally happy and easygoing. On the other hand, a child who is moody, explosive, or has big outbursts is struggling to regulate themselves. Their behavior is a reflection of how difficult it is for them to feel safe and calm in their environment.

Remember, a child who is having a difficult time isn’t giving you a difficult time—they are experiencing difficulty themselves. This perspective is a major paradigm shift when we think about behavior management. It helps us see that difficult behaviors are often signs that a child is struggling to regulate their nervous system, and temperament plays a huge role in this. It’s important to recognize that temperament is an innate part of who they are—something they didn’t choose but were born with.

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9 Traits of temperament E 5.39 Jul 26, 2024

Today's Episode: The Nine Traits of Temperament

Why This Episode Matters: If there’s one episode you shouldn’t miss, this is it! We’ll explore the nine traits of temperament through an assessment from the book Raising Your Spirited Child. Get cozy, grab your notebook, and let's dig in.

Key Question: What Is a Good Kid?

We’ll start by examining this question, as posed in Raising Respectful Kids. It’s common to hear about the "fantasy" good kid—great listeners who follow instructions perfectly, enjoy the activities parents choose, do homework on time, and are always pleasant.

Common Images of a Good Kid:

-Total control of emotions -Always happy -Uses words to communicate -Makes good choices -Well-behaved in public -Shares and is nice (for younger kids)

Reality Check: If this has been your vision, you’re not alone. But remember, there’s no such thing as a bad kid or a bad parent. In positive parenting, behavior is communication, and we focus on relationships rather than compliance.

Tune in to get a more realistic and compassionate view of what it means to raise a "good kid."

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What is temperament? Ep 5.38 Jul 19, 2024

We're going to start today is by grounding back into the three factors that influence our attachment.

As a reminder, attachment means the quality of the bond between parent and child, and those early attachment styles and bonds will influence all of their future relationships.

Wow, that's a lot, but it's also such an opportunity because we can always learn, grow, and take intentional moves to do better.

The three factors that influence attachment are:

The quality of caregiving: As a parent coach, I help parents like you improve the quality of caregiving, including the tools, methods, and approaches you take while interacting with your child.

The emotional climate of the home: This means the tone and emotional temperature. Have you ever walked into a room and thought, "Wow, this is tense and cold," or into another and thought, "Oh my gosh, I love coming here because it's always so warm and inviting"? You’re tuning into the emotional climate of that space.

Temperament: This is a big piece of the puzzle that often goes overlooked. Today, I hope that by the end of this episode, you have a clear understanding of what temperament is, its impact, and how you can support your child's temperament.

They say, the powers that be, say that a child is just difficult. Perhaps you've heard this about your child or someone else's, or maybe you've even said it yourself.

What I say to that is: Are they being difficult, or are you having a difficult time with them? As a teacher, I encountered children who gave me a harder time than others.

Initially, I thought I needed to change them until I realized they were showing me opportunities for growth and expansion.

The biggest "aha" moment for me in this work is understanding that behavior is communication. When a child exhibits difficult behavior, it signals they are having a hard time.

As soon as I stopped labeling them as difficult and instead identified that their difficult behavior was a signal of their struggle, many things shifted for me.

Difficult behavior indicates difficulty in regulating emotions and energy.

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What Impacts the Attachment Bond? Ep 5.37 Jun 07, 2024

This episode dives into 3 factors impacting the attachment bond.

Grab your notebook and get comfortable, because we're getting deep!

Picking up where we left off, let's explore what affects attachment.

We discussed attachment qualities and how they build trust (or not) through repeated cycles of the child expressing needs, the caregiver interpreting them, and responding appropriately. We saw how a caregiver's actions can build or break trust, all within the framework of Attachment Theory (different from attachment parenting, as discussed in Season 5, Episode 27).

The core of Attachment Theory is the child feeling safe to explore and return.

Does the child feel safe landing with and launching from their caregiver during stressful times? Can they bring their distress to the caregiver, find comfort, and feel secure to venture out again?

Sometimes, we might think there's a "right" way to practice attachment.

It doesn't have to be perfect! Mistakes are part of the process. What matters is the quality of the "repair work" – how both caregiver and child address the mistake and rebuild the connection. This repair process strengthens the attachment and allows everyone to feel safe making mistakes.

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A good Relationship is a Secure Relationship Ep 5.36 Jun 06, 2024

Welcome to the final episode of our 8-part series on Attachment Theory, where we learn that a good relationship is a secure relationship.

This episode is a recap of everything we've learned so far. Grab your notebook and get cozy – we're about to dive in!

A big thank you to the listeners who followed along!

If you've been listening to the entire series, I want to acknowledge the great work you've been doing. You've explored important concepts, made big shifts, and accepted some challenging invitations.

Today's episode is all about why Attachment Theory matters.

We'll discuss why understanding attachment and how we contribute to its quality is so important.

As a reminder, Attachment Theory focuses on the parent-child bond.

Throughout this series, we've specifically looked at things from the child's perspective. This helps us understand the impact of our actions rather than just focusing on our intentions.

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Unseeing Parent Ep 5.35 May 16, 2024

We are on the final episode of this eight-episode stretch, examining the difference between showing up in trusting ways and showing up in non-trusting ways through the aspects of feeling safe, feeling seen, feeling secure, and feeling soothed.

We've been exploring these foundational steps to building a healthy relationship. When discussing attachment and attachment qualities, we're talking about the dance between rupture and repair in a strong relationship—making a mistake and working to repair it, messing up and fixing it, experiencing stress, and then finding soothing. It's this constant ebb and flow of life that influences the quality of attachment.

Attachment theory focuses on the quality of that attachment bond, which affects your child's development mentally, physically, intellectually, emotionally, and socially. The strength of that relationship is the main predictor of how well your child will do both in school and in life. How they learn to find security within themselves and their primary caregiver, often you, will extend to how they handle stresses in other areas of their lives—friendships, school, and future romantic relationships. This primary connection to you, their caregiver, is crucial.

The child looks to you as a safe base, and their sense of safety is determined by the quality of attachment to their primary caregiver. This means how safe they feel to leave you and come back to you, repeatedly.

The bonding perspective of the child is different from your perspective as a parent. You see things through the adult, caretaker's perspective, while your child sees things from their own viewpoint. In this eight-episode series and in my work, I invite caregivers to see things from the child's perspective. We look at what safety, being seen, feeling soothed, and having a sense of security means from the child's point of view.

I always emphasize that a good foundation of this understanding is worth the investment.

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The Seeing Parent Ep 5.34 May 10, 2024

In today's episode, we will be chatting about the qualities and characteristics of a secure parent. Whether this is your first time listening or you've been on this entire journey with me, we are nearing the end of our eight-episode stretch exploring the four qualities of secure attachment. So, I invite you to get cozy, grab your notebook, and let's dig in.

Starting at the top, it's important to remember that strong relationships, especially between parent and child, involve a dance between rupture and repair, mistakes and reconnection, mess, and clean-up. The quality of this dance influences our attachment bond. Attachment, rooted in attachment theory, affects your child's mental, physical, intellectual, emotional, and social development. The strength of your relationship with your child predicts how well both of you will do in school and in life. It's foundational work, the unglamorous process of building a secure base.

When I mention a secure base, I mean a safe place for the child to land and launch from. It's crucial to note that your perception of bonding with your child differs from how your child perceives it. In this eight-episode breakdown, we're shifting from the parent's perspective to the child's. We're focusing on how the child feels safe, seen, soothed, and ultimately secure with you. Building these foundations is a worthwhile investment.

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Un-Soothing Parent Ep 5.33 May 02, 2024

We have made it to episode six of this episode stretch, talking through attachment theories and the quality of attachments, and how parents can show up to create a sense of trust or distrust.

We've been going through, just talking about the foundations of what creates that connection in a relationship, and we are coming off of the foundation of attachment theory, where it states that strong relationships are that dance of rupture and repair.

There are benign ruptures, meaning like little blips in the relationships, and then there are big ruptures that require major repair. The quality of that dance, how well we are sensitive to the ruptures and quick to repair, and the quality of the repair made is what signals the quality of the attachment bond.

So we're talking about attachment theory.

Attachment theory is the quality of that attachment bond that affects the way that your child develops mentally, physically, intellectually, emotionally, and socially. The strength of this relationship is the main predictor of how well your child will do both in school and in life, meaning how well you are becoming aware of the ruptures and doing the repair work with them is empowering their toolbox so that they take those skills into their future relationships.

In all of this, the child is looking for a safe base, somewhere to land and somewhere to launch from that creates a sense of safety in them. It's important to know that your sense of bonding, your sense of safety with your child, is different than their sense of safety with you.

For example, I work with parents, and sometimes they come to me and say, "No, no, no, I'm not punishing them," but they act this way. And when we flip it and I say, "Well, do you think that they are feeling punished?" then they start to say, "Oh yes, they are."

It's when we shift out of our own perspective and shift into a child's perspective, we can start to see like, "Oh, the ways that I'm showing up is creating this threat response in them." And as soon as we can become aware of that, then we can start to step into our own empowerment of growth and change.

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Unsafe Parenting Ep 5.31 Apr 19, 2024

We will look at unsafe parenting. The topic of this series is delving into attachment theory and breaking down this complex theory.

Strong relationships are likened to a dance between rupture and repair. In my positive parenting class, I discuss this concept using the visual of a pothole. Living in a downtown area, I often encounter potholes that can disrupt entire streets.

Despite our efforts to avoid them, potholes persist, much like ruptures in relationships. Some ruptures are benign, such as momentarily checking a text message during a conversation.

However, if left unaddressed, these small ruptures can escalate into larger issues that linger for months or even years. It's crucial to address and repair these ruptures to build and maintain strong relationships.

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Safe Parenting Ep 5.30 Apr 10, 2024

Inside this series exploring the four qualities of a secure attachment bond, we're discussing the dance between rupture and repair. Ruptures are mistakes, moments of dysregulation, outbursts, frustration, or anger.

These moments are natural and human. In a secure relationship, we come back together and do the repair work, recovering from those ruptures.

Therefore, when navigating attachment and building secure attachment, we become curious about the quality of our comfortability with rupture and repair. To remind everyone, attachment theory focuses on the quality of the attachment bond that affects your child's development – mentally, physically, intellectually, emotionally, and socially. Importantly, a caregiver's attachment to the child actually starts long before the child forms an attachment to the caregiver.

These attachments develop differently for each person. In my work, platform, classes, and this podcast, we shift your perspective as the parent or caregiver.

We elevate the child's perspective because in a secure relationship, we're looking at whether the child has a safe haven (or "safe face to land") to return to after a rupture.

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Insecure Parenting Ep 5.29 Apr 02, 2024

What is insecure parenting? Let's explore the underlying factors contributing to insecurity in parenting and gain valuable insights into overcoming challenges and fostering a more confident and nurturing approach.

Learn from me, a certified parent coach who teaches Positive Parenting Methods and coaches you to create a home environment that you can be proud of!

Tune in to uncover practical tips, expert advice, and real-life stories aimed at empowering parents to break free from insecurity and cultivate a more secure and fulfilling relationship with their children.

Learn the difference between a punishment and a Consequence.

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Secure Parenting Ep. 5. 28 Mar 26, 2024

In this series of videos, we delve into various parenting styles, aiming to provide a comprehensive understanding of what secure parenting entails.

One fundamental aspect highlighted is the establishment of boundaries and limits within the parent-child relationship. These boundaries serve as essential tools in the toolkit of a secure parent, contributing to the development of a healthy and balanced dynamic.

By setting clear boundaries and limits, parents create a sense of structure and safety for their children, fostering an environment conducive to emotional security and growth. Through exploration and discussion, we aim to empower parents with the knowledge and skills necessary to cultivate a secure and nurturing parenting approach.

IN TRUST

Episode 5.28 The secure parent Episode 5.30 The safe parent Episode 5.32 The soothing parent Episode 5.34 The seeing parent

NOT IN TRUST

Episode 5.29 The insecure parent Episode 5.31 The unsafe parent Episode 5.33 The unsoothing parent Episode 5.35 The unseeing parent

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Attachment Theory is not Attachment Parenting Ep.5.27 Jan 19, 2024

🧠 Let's unveil the truth, uncover the nuances, and debunk common misconceptions between attachment theory and an attachment parenting style.

Whether you're a seasoned parent or just beginning your journey, this insightful content empowers you to navigate parenthood with confidence.

#AttachmentTheory #AttachmentParenting #BeKindCoaching 🌟

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The Fantasy of a Good Relationship Ep.5.26 Jan 02, 2024

Ponder the realities of the struggles that naturally come with parenting. Through insightful discussions, we shed light on the importance of acknowledging and embracing the challenges, fostering resilience, and nurturing authentic connections within our families.

With a special segment where parents engage in transformative exercises from the Clear & Kind Parent Program. It's time to redefine the narrative, let go of unrealistic expectations, and find joy in the beautiful messiness of real, imperfect relationships. Join us on this journey of self-discovery and growth.

Supporting you on your Positive Parenting Journey, empowering you to build lasting, healthy relationships with your kids with classes and group coaching.

As a former misunderstood child turned parenting coach. I created the C.L.E.A.R. Method to foster connection for any parent.

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Parent = Person & Parenting = Methods Ep.5.25 Dec 12, 2023

Today's episode will focus on separating who we are from what we do and discussing how being a parent shapes your identity and the methods you use.

I invite you to get comfortable, grab your journal, and let's begin. Welcome to "MegAnne is Not a Parent, But..." the podcast where I, your host MegAnne Ford, a former Early Childhood educator turned positive parenting coach, help parents like you navigate the challenges of dealing with your strong-willed child's difficult behavior.

Clients have described me as a blend between Brené Brown and Miss Frizzle from the Magic School Bus, known for bringing awareness and holding space for challenging conversations, making concepts like behavior, relationships, and temperaments easy to understand and implement.

If you struggle with your child's loud, dramatic, disruptive, over-the-top behavior and doubt whether a parenting coach can help, especially if you think such coaches are only for "bad parents," then this episode is especially for you.

Grab a journal, a cozy blanket, a warm beverage, and enjoy the exploration ahead. Let's start by reading a message from one of my favorite cards, a tool for self-reflection and inspiration, from my friend Jennifer's Oracle deck.

The card's message is "Change how you measure," urging us not to solely measure success by our current circumstances or how we got there but to consider who we are becoming.

Start taking action today:

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No bad parents, only bad parenting Ep.5.24 Nov 30, 2023

Addressing the challenges parents face, acknowledging that feelings of inadequacy often stem from a lack of skills rather than inherent shortcomings.

Emphasizing the learning and practice involved in parenting, offering understanding and support to parents navigating the complexities of raising children.

I am a former misunderstood child turned parenting coach. I created the C.L.E.A.R. Method to foster connection.

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Why Mom Guilt is really Mom Shame Ep.5.23 Nov 16, 2023

Maternal emotions are real and valuable.

What are the nuances of mom guilt?

Let's uncover the reality behind it—revealing, relatable, and reshaping our perspectives.

Join us for a shame-free journey to empowered motherhood!

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Emotions are giving you messages Ep.5.22 Nov 02, 2023

How can we use our emotions to our benefit?

Do you think there are bad and good emotions?

What if we could shift our thoughts about emotions to just allowing them to be messages!

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No bad emotions Ep.5.21 Oct 19, 2023

Are there 'Bad' emotions?

What would life be like without emotions, and the impacts of emotions on our experiences?

Get ready to reframe your perspective, embrace every feeling, and dive into a world without 'bad' emotions!

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Anger is Growths BFF Ep.5.20 Sep 28, 2023

Let's challenge the notion of anger as the "bad guy" and advocate for listening to anger cues, just as we heed the signals of hunger, thirst, and sleep as a path to self-discovery and transformation.

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Awareness is the First Step to Growth Ep.5.19 Sep 14, 2023

Explore the transformative role of self-awareness in personal growth.

We reflect on the satisfaction derived from our best efforts and the distinction between change and growth. With a focus on awareness, we uncover blind spots and consider the impact of our upbringing.

We'll address the fear often associated with awareness and introduce the concept of the "three interlocking rings."

Discover the signs that indicate a need for heightened awareness in your own life and embark on a journey to unlock your true potential.

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5 Books that go deeper: Trauma Ep.5.18 Sep 01, 2023

Dive into the profound world of trauma healing with our podcast as we explore essential books like

'The Deepest Well' by Dr. Nadine Burke Harris, 'Healing Developmental Trauma' by Heller and LaPierre, 'What Happened to You?' by Oprah and Dr. Bruce Perry, 'It Didn't Start With You' by Mark Wolynn, and 'When the Body Says No' by Dr. Gabor Maté "Healing Developmental Trauma" Heller and LaPierre

Join us on a journey of understanding, compassion, and transformation.

Check out my list of recourses that include the books above

Trigger warning: We are working through, from a birds-eye view, what trauma is and its effect on the body. Listen to your body. You could get triggered, which is normal. You are safe here to take a break and come back. Learning about these things can only propel you forward in life.

The information below serves as a conversation opener and public awareness, NOT a substitution for professional mental health support.

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What does the "Fawn" response look like? Ep.5.17 Aug 18, 2023

Explore what happens to our bodies when we come in contact with a threat and how this information will help us understand our own reactions to the children in our lives. Our bodies are actively trying to protect us, but what happens if there really is no threat?

Do you over apologize, have difficulty saying no, are you a people pleaser? Have you ever thought to yourself that your body is keeping you safe? You might be in a state of stress.

How can we grow our awareness of the impact that we have had on our kids?

I share a big win from one of my clients inside of C.L.E.A.R. and Kind Parents.

Trigger warning: We are working through, from a birds-eye view, what trauma is and its effect on the body. Listen to your body. You could get triggered, which is normal. You are safe here to take a break and come back. Learning about these things can only propel you forward in life.

The information below serves as a conversation opener and public awareness, NOT a substitution for professional mental health support.

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What does the "Freeze" response look like? Ep.5.16 Jul 07, 2023

Do you know when you are in freeze mode?

Explore what happens to our bodies when we come in contact with a threat and how this information will help us understand our reactions to the children in our lives.

Our bodies are actively trying to protect us, but what happens if there really is no threat?

Trigger warning: We are working through, from a birds-eye view, what trauma is and its effect on the body. Listen to your body. You could get triggered, which is normal. You are safe here to take a break and come back. Learning about these things can only propel you forward in life.

The information below serves as a conversation opener and public awareness, NOT a substitution for professional mental health support.

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What does the "flight" response look like? Ep.5.15 Jun 22, 2023

Do you know when you are in flight mode? Can you escape the lion? Or is it just a cat?

Are you aware when you pick up children in love or anger?

Explore what happens to our bodies when we come in contact with a threat and how this information will help us understand our own reactions to the children in our lives.

Our bodies are actively trying to protect us, but what happens if there really is no threat?

Trigger warning: We are working through, from a birds-eye view, what trauma is and its effect on the body. Listen to your body. You could get triggered, which is normal. You are safe here to take a break and come back. Learning about these things can only propel you forward in life.

The information below serves as a conversation opener and public awareness, NOT a substitution for professional mental health support.

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What does a “fight” response look like? Ep.5.14 Jan 04, 2023

Is your child quick to fight you? Are you quick to anger? It might interest you why that is happening.

Trigger warning: We are working through, from a birds-eye view, what trauma is and its effect on the body. Listen to your body. You could get triggered, which is normal. You are safe here to take a break and come back. Learning about these things can only propel you forward in life.

The information below serves as a conversation opener and public awareness, NOT a substitution for professional mental health support.

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The 4 trauma responses introduction Ep. 5.13 Dec 27, 2022

Our brain’s main focus is to adjunct our bodies to navigate circumstances. If the circumstance becomes dangerous, we become protective so we can survive.

That is when our brain can make assumptions about our environment. Is the animal that is in front of us a tiger or a cat?

Trigger warning: We are working through, from a birds-eye view, what trauma is and its effect on the body. Listen to your body. You could get triggered, which is normal. You are safe here to take a break and come back. Learning about these things can only propel you forward in life.

The information below serves as a conversation opener and public awareness, NOT a substitution for professional mental health support.

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What is an ACE score? Ep. 5.12 Dec 20, 2022

Do you know what your ACE score is? I will share what ACEs is and share with you my ACE score.

Trigger warning: We are working through, from a birds-eye view, what trauma is and its effect on the body. Listen to your body. You could get triggered, which is normal. You are safe here to take a break and come back. Learning about these things can only propel you forward in life.

The information below serves as a conversation opener and public awareness, NOT a substitution for professional mental health support.

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Realistic Optimism with Jennine Jacob Nov 22, 2022

Listen to MegAnne and Jennine Jacob discuss together what is empathy and how it relates to her work, and her parenting.

In her book's introduction, she writes: "I have always felt like an outsider but it wasn’t until later in life that I learned I have ADHD. Both my father and my step-father were in the Navy so we moved around a lot adding to the feeling of not fitting in and not belonging. Perpetually being the “new kid” from a young age I had trouble with social situations and always seemed to get it wrong. I never knew what to say, much less how to have conversations and keep friends." This sparked her founding Empathary and began to share the communication skills and methods she's learned that helped her stay successful.

I have read and loved Jennine's easy-to-implement book as she really breaks down topics into bite-sized steps.

"We’re going to start out with mindset tools to help you communicate authentically, even when you run into rough patches, when you get triggered, and when you’re dealing with a difficult person. Then we’ll go over the communication tools, learn how to ask questions, make people feel seen and heard, collaborate, and find common ground that you can resolve conflict with, and you’re going to learn how to express your needs. By the end of this ebook, you will have a good idea of how to communicate with emotional intelligence."

Jennine's book "Get What You Need": https://stan.store/empathary/Empathary_store/page/69096

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Value connection over grades- Interview with Dr. Kimberly Douglass Oct 18, 2022

VALUE CONNECTION OVER GRADES! The Podcast interview I had was with Dr. Kimberly Douglass whom I met on TikTok and it was a message I want to deliver right into this community- as it relates DIRECTLY to the message I have shared before. Become empowered in a system that creates a division between you and your child. Crowdfund Book Development by Dr Kimberly Douglass and receive a download of the book Decolonizing Neurodivergence (pdf) Textbook

Dr. Kimberly Douglass is the full-time owner of Kimberly Douglass, PhD, LLC. Dr. Douglass and her team are designing a world in which neurodivergent people feel they belong. The team fuses disability advocacy with design thinking. Douglass' team designs digital and paper content, such as courses, ebooks, journals, workbooks and the Neurodivergently Thinking cards. Also, the team offers premium 1-to-1 coaching services.

Dr. Douglass and her team design tools that validate the neurodivergent experience. The team's content and services challenge everyday processes that marginalize and shame neurodivergent people.

Dr. Douglass became a full-time business owner after working as staff, peer-reviewed researcher, faculty, and administrator in higher education for over 17 years. She began the advocacy work over 12 years ago, when she became the chief advocate for her Son who is neurodivergent. She has since gotten more in touch with her own neurodivergence. Dr. Douglass is married to Dean Tate and lives outside of Nashville, TN.

What is trauma? What is childhood trauma? Ep.5.11 Apr 19, 2022

Healing is not linear; understanding trauma's impact empowers parents to create a safe and supportive environment for their children.

Trigger warning: We are working through, from a birds-eye view, what trauma is and its effect on the body. Listen to your body. You could get triggered, which is normal. You are safe here to take a break and come back. Learning about these things can only propel you forward in life.

The information below serves as a conversation opener and public awareness, NOT a substitution for professional mental health support.

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The 3 Brain Zones Ep.5.10 Apr 19, 2022

How does the brain work? And why does it matter in parenting?

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What is regulation, co-regulation, dysregulation, and autoregulation? Ep.5.9 Mar 29, 2022

Co-regulation is a vital aspect of fostering emotional well-being and resilience.

The concept of co-regulation is important in maintaining healthy relationships and supporting individuals in managing their emotional states effectively.

But, what does that mean?

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Non-Verbal Communication Speaks the Loudest Ep.5.8 Mar 22, 2022

Communication is not always about talking... Your body is giving you away.

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Behavior is Communication Ep.5.7 Mar 15, 2022

What if your child's behavior was communication instead of your annoyance? What if your behavior was only communication?

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Are You Listening to Your Child? Ep.5.6 Mar 08, 2022

There are four different listening styles (informational, bias, defensive, and active). I’m sure either you've been told this, or you've heard this “you're not listening to me.” My inner raging teenager comes out when I think about this phrase.

Can you hear the difference between these two phrases? “You are not listening to me!” Vs “I am not being heard!”

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Children who listen have parents who listen: Ep.5.5 Mar 01, 2022

There are four different listening styles (informational, bias, defensive, and active). I’m sure either you've been told this, or you've heard this “you're not listening to me.” My inner raging teenager comes out when I think about this phrase.

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The Parent-Child Relationship is Asymmetrical Ep.5.4 Feb 22, 2022

When did your parent-child relationship start?

I would like you to think about the moment you discovered that you would be a parent. Be it a pregnancy test, the moment you decided to adopt a child or any other way, you began the process of bringing a child into your life.

That was the beginning of your side of the parent-child relationship.

What about the child's?

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Three Assumptions I Make of ALL Parents Ep.5.3 Feb 15, 2022

Why do we make assumptions? Three assumptions I make about every parent.

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Strive for Positive Impact, not Positive Intention Ep.5.2 Feb 08, 2022

Strive for Positive Impact, not Positive Intentions Feeling Like a Bad Mother? In those moments, your response can either deepen disconnection or foster repair and connection with your children. As you navigate these emotions, remember that your choices influence how your children navigate their own challenges and relationships. Embracing connection over blame and judgment can transform challenging moments into opportunities for growth and understanding. How can you attune your lens to make a positive impact? Not just positive intention. "Well, I am doing it because I love them." This work is deep and sometimes triggering. I am a parent coach who works with parents who want to do better with their children. My mission in life is to help parents feel supported and empowered to break harmful cycles. My programs work through the three stages of awareness, education, and practice through passive classes and active group coaching calls.

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Parenting Manual Ep.5.1 Feb 01, 2022

You are already co-creating your Parenting Manual. Are you happy with it, or would you like to revise it?

You can steer clear of power struggles and foster a thriving connection with your child.

Explore Carpenter vs. Gardener parenting styles, addressing fears and solving common issues through trust and respect.

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What does "being present" mean? Ep. 4.19 Sep 15, 2021

How do you connect with your loved ones? Listen actively? To create deeper, more meaningful bonds. Strengthen your relationships by learning how to be engaged and attentive in your interactions with others.

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We practice, so that we can use. Ep. 4.18 Jul 05, 2021

A great talk about the difference between practicing the tools and using the tools.

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Do you want to break the cycle? Ep.4.17 Jun 02, 2021

Stop fueling the power struggle with your strong-willed child and regain control, connection, and cooperation this summer.

Replace the tools that are fueling the struggle with your strong-willed child. Learn the five most effective love-based steps to bring peace and harmony into your home.

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Lose the Battle.Ep. 4.16 May 13, 2021

"Does it ever get less intense/easier?" Sometimes, picking your battles is the answer in the moment.

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Stop Investing in Yelling Ep.4.15 May 05, 2021

I was asked, "How do I stop yelling?"

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Is Your Relationship Fixable? It Depends. Ep. 4.14 Apr 28, 2021

"Have I ruined my children, 8 and 10, due to so much yelling? Is our relationship fixable?" Is giving up an option?

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What do you want reflected back to you? Ep.4.13 Apr 14, 2021

Have you noticed that your child uses the same tools on you as you use with them? Do you like what is being reflected?

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100% Guilt-Free Self Care with Tami Hackbarth Ep.4.12 Mar 19, 2021

Tami Hackbarth is the host of the 100% Guilt-Free Self-Care podcast. In her work as a life coach, she works with women who want to get their time and energy back so they can go after their big dreams and create the world they want to live in.

Find Tami at: Instagram @tamihackbarth Facebook 100%GuiltFreeSelfCarewithTamiHackbarth Pinterest - @tgbts Website- www.tamihackbarth.com

Tami believes 100% Guilt-Free Self-Care is the answer to creating your dream life. She brings a philosophy of self-compassion, kindness and humor to her work. Tami is a voracious reader and lifelong learner.She is a certified Life+Work Coach through UC Davis Extension, coaches women privately all over the United States and is the host of Deferred Maintenance a group coaching experience for women who put their own self-care last.

What advice would I give a parent new to this work? Ep.4.11 Mar 17, 2021

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Are you holding yourself back? Ep.4.10 Mar 13, 2021

Let's dig into how our brains help protect us- but without awareness, we can become stuck in this survival state.

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How to motivate a strong willed child? Ep.4.9 Mar 11, 2021

How do you motivate a strong-willed child? We can not force motivation, so what can we do?

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Someone on fire can not be helpful. Ep.4.8 Mar 03, 2021

"What to do on the days where you're not 100%" Oh friends, I have been there- and was there just yesterday! I have some thoughts about this and am so excited to share some resources!

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Our beliefs impact our behavior: Ep. 4.7 Feb 25, 2021

One of the biggest mistakes I see most parents make is that they believe that behavior change is a surface change. That's why we say "This is so hard". But I know that the secret to long-term change is to focus on shifting our beliefs.

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Change starts with you, not them. Ep. 4.6 Feb 23, 2021

Sharing 3 mistakes most people make when thinking and addressing resistance to change!

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Are you being passive or proactive in your parenting? Ep. 4.5 Feb 18, 2021

Parenting styles, learn the difference between being passive and proactive when raising kids and how it affects your family's happiness and progress.

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Parents should teach their children this... Ep. 4.4 Feb 16, 2021

I was asked, "What I believe to be the most important thing to teach children?" I loved digging into this question! Sharing my top THREE things we must teach children!

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What to do when you're experiencing BIG emotions about getting in trouble!: Ep.4.3 Feb 09, 2021

Ever experience a BIGGER explosion whenever you're punishing your child? If so, you're not alone- let's talk through what might be happening below the surface.

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What is fear-based parenting? Ep. 4.2 Feb 04, 2021

Let's dig into what fear-based parenting is and how we can begin listening and supporting our fears with support, education, and healing!

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How I transformed my approach to speaking to people, not just children. Ep. 4.1 Feb 02, 2021

Are you sarcastic, snippy, and quick to anger? I WAS! I am a work in progress and continue to work to maintain my approach to speaking to children and people in my life. Curious?

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Why do children have tantrums and meltdowns? Ep.3.13 Sep 08, 2020

Let's talk about WHY tantrums and meltdowns happen.

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What are tantrums and meltdowns? Ep. 3.12 Sep 08, 2020

Let's talk about WHAT tantrums and meltdowns are.

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Why we must practice patience to use it Ep.3.11 Sep 01, 2020

Why we must practice patience to use it.

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Do you need more patience?: Ep. 3.10 Aug 31, 2020

Let's dig into what it takes to build your patience.

I know that patience is something that many parents come to me wanting more of!

But it's not something you can pick up at the grocery store, and it's a skill that is practiced, best practiced in the challenging moments.

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Restful Nights and Naps with Shannon: Ep 2.8 Aug 20, 2020

Shannon Buhera is a wife, mama, 3rd grade public school teacher in Washington D.C., and the Founder of Nights and Naps Pediatric Sleep Consulting.

She loved aspects of being a teacher, but she always wanted to build her own business.

Shannon became captivated by the research and science behind sleep when she was trying to solve her own daughter's sleep challenges.

She then became certified through the Center for Pediatric Sleep Management so she could make the best decisions for her daughter and then help others, too.

That's when her interest in sleep, passion for working with families, and drive to be an entrepreneur all aligned, and she launched Nights and Naps Pediatric Sleep Consulting!

She is passionate about finding ways to make Pediatric Sleep education accessible for all families because everyone deserves safe, stress-free, quality sleep - babies, toddlers, and parents, too.

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What Gets in the Way of Removing Time Outs Ep. 3.9 Aug 17, 2020

What is stopping us?

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3 Alternatives to Time Outs Ep. 3.8 Aug 17, 2020

If you’ve been asking yourself

“Well, what do I do instead of time outs?”

You’re in the right place!

I’m sharing 3 alternatives to begin implementing in your home today!

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Why Parent’s Use Time Outs Ep.3.7 Aug 11, 2020

Are you a parent who uses time out?

Well, you are not alone! Since the 1980’s it is one of the most commonly used methods to discipline children.

Let's explore 3 reasons why parent’s use time out, and why it does not work.

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3 Forms of Time outs, You Didn’t Know You Were Doing Ep.3.6 Aug 10, 2020

3 Forms of Time Out You Didn’t Know You Were Doing

Time Out was popularized in the 1980s as an alternative to spanking. It is a widely used parenting strategy that, unfortunately, has unforeseen consequences.

I will share 3 forms of time out that you probably aren't aware of, and their consequences.

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Defensive Parenting, and who Does it Protect? Ep.3.5 Aug 07, 2020

Defensive Parenting, and who Does it Protect?

Parenting is a highly charged space- there are lots of opinions on what the “right” way is.

Though I don’t believe there is a RIGHT way, there are 3 common parenting strategies that get in the way of forming a connected and secure relationship with your child.

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What I Learned from Monsters Inc Ep. 3.4 Aug 06, 2020

What I learned from Monsters Inc

A Social Norm of belief parenting is that yelling will help children listen to you. But positive parents know that yelling only scares a child, it doesn’t build skills. They know the transformation in building a relationship with their child!

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Why positive parents are criticized Ep 3.3 Aug 05, 2020

Why positive parents are criticized

You will never be criticized by someone doing more work than you.

Those who are doing the work 100% get the struggle, ebb and flow, and commitment that’s required in being a positive parent.

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How to be a Better Parent: Successful Beliefs Ep.3.2 Aug 04, 2020

Discover successful beliefs on how to be a better parent. Navigate the metaphorical Behavior Iceberg, emphasizing the importance of understanding the hidden 90% beneath the surface.

Align with Be Kind Coaching principles, advocating for beliefs centered on self-control, consistency, and continuous learning, offering a roadmap for parents to create positive and resilient family dynamics.

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How to be a Better Parent: Common Mistakes Ep. 3.1 Aug 03, 2020

Discover transformative insights in 'How to be a Better Parent: Common Mistakes.'

Practical solutions for parenting, from being the fixer to the controller and overcoming isolation.

Embrace mistakes as opportunities for growth, guided by Be Kind Coaching's pillars of Awareness, Connection, and Education

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Embrace the Process with Petra MacDougall: Ep. 2.7 May 22, 2020

This episode is a vulnerable chat with Petra MacDougall.

Sharing the journey is where this conversation takes us.

Inside this episode, Petra gives up this mantra of

"This is part of my journey."

She also shares- who WANTS the struggle when you know it will be okay?

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Grow the Food You Love with Gary MacDougall: Ep. 2.6 May 21, 2020

Today's conversation is a great one! You'll meet Gary MacDougall and learn how he left his corporate job and decided to plant roots, literally, with his family and start investing in growing the food he- and his family, love!

Gary and Petra MacDougall

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Appreciate the Process: Ep. 2.5 May 18, 2020

In today's episode I share the takeaways from the interviews with Gary and Petra MacDougall.

Three things kept coming up through these interviews: 1. There is always a whisper that we need to listen to. 2. Be open to growth and change. 3. Failure is part of the process

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My Story: Ep. 2.4 May 10, 2020

*trigger warning* This episode explores my journey with my growing up the daughter of my mother. It was not an easy journey for me and today I share about why I am so passionate about the work that I do.

This episode talks about estrangement and pain. It discusses my Mom's passing and then shares the forgiveness journey I've been on. I share my emotions and I think it's okay.

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What Does it Mean to Mother Yourself?:Ep. 2.3 May 10, 2020

Why did you choose to become a mother to a child? What does it mean to be your own mother?

These are just a couple of the questions I dig into today with her special guest Susan Kinahan, from The Mothering Myself Podcast. I've been friends with Susan for almost three years, and having her on my side has always been such a blessing! I hope you enjoy this inner-layer chat between us!

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Implementation is a Beast with Mollie Eliasof: Ep. 2.2 May 07, 2020

In this episode, Mollie and MegAnne spend some time connecting and sharing their shared passion of helping parents replace the broken tools of disconnection and replacing them with the social and emotionally rich tools of connection.

(This episode is brought to you by Mollie and her awesome former podcast "Next Level Relationships")

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Intention of Connection: Ep. 2.1 May 04, 2020

This is the start of my interview series.

I've leaned into using Season 2 as a series of awesome interviews with amazing people who have beautiful gifts to share!

Today, I share about my interview with

Mollie Eliasof

The big word that came from that interview was INTENTION!

It is time to release the ideal of perfection that keeps us stuck on a surface level and time to dig deep into inviting in more intention!

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What is Personal Growth and Self-Awareness?: Ep. 1.11 Apr 30, 2020

I know I know...self-help is snake oil. I truly get it and fully believed this, too. I would scoff at the books and the articles, until I started being open to the message.

The message of "you can enjoy your life" and "your thoughts become your reality" and then I started drinking the snake oil and started valuing improving myself, my mindset, and my personal development. And today I share with you some helpful tools that I have enjoyed using!

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What is Discipline?: Ep. 1.12 Apr 30, 2020

Season one finale- and this process has truly taught me so much.

So it only feels fitting to end season 1 talking about discipline and how it shows up in our lives.

I am so thankful for having you be part of my community and can not wait to grow more and more with you!

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*BONUS* Lean Into the Process: Ep. 1.13 Apr 30, 2020

Ready for a spur-of-the-moment inspired episode? This is it. I was feeling so stuck recently, and today I share about how I shifted out of "knowing" and did the work to "the doing" through identifying the "being"!

Today, I went out for a run, and I share with you a look at my negative mindset and limiting beliefs that pop up while going out there!

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Are You Being Too Firm?: Ep. 1.10 Apr 23, 2020

Are the constant power struggles, guilt, and lack of control a result of being too firm?

Is there such a thing?

Learn inside today's episode assets and liabilities of raising your children while being too firm- and give you some steps on what to work on!

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How to Nurture a Growth Mindset: Ep. 1.9 Apr 23, 2020

Praise is something we all want to do and feel! Did you know there is a dark side to praise?

WHAT?!

Yeah...today we're going to talk about it! I am here to make it simple to understand why we want to focus on the PROCESS over the product.

Work to praise that nitty gritty messy process that goes into earning the sweet reward!

Today, we're digging into what exactly is a growth mindset and how to focus on building one for you and your family!

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What Exactly IS a Consequence?: Ep. 1.8 Feb 20, 2020

"But what do I do instead?"

It's easy to feel like children will have the run of the house when choosing to parent more positively and remove punishments, shame, blame, bribes, and threats.

We are opening the conversation about what a consequence IS and ISN'T, along with talking through how to begin to utilize them in your parenting toolbox!

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Let It Go!: Ep. 1.7 Feb 13, 2020

How to put down the hurt and pain and begin the process of forgiveness.

Getting hurt by others is a part of life.

There will be times that truly test your grit and are happening for you to thrive.

Raising a strong-willed child can truly push this to the next level

How do you recover and forgive after a major blowout? That's exactly what we're digging into on today's episode!

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The Outcome of Punishments: Ep. 1.6 Feb 06, 2020

I advocate for removing punishments from the parenting toolbox.

You might be shocked by that!

"Well, how will I discipline my child?"

The good news is that when we remove punishments, we are open to learning how to effectively discipline children using better tools.

In today's episode, we talk about the difference between discipline and punishment.

Along with talking through the 4 R's of punishment-

Rebellion, Resentment, Revenge, and Retreat.

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The Five Pillars of Emotional Intelligence: Ep. 1.5 Jan 30, 2020

The secret to success is not what we've been told.

It's not high grades. Long sheet of extra curricular activities.

the real marker?

Having a high emotional intelligence.

Knowing how to identify your emotions, regulate your emotions, connect to other people's emotions, and work together to find a common solution for problems you may encounter.

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Are You Being Too Kind?: Ep. 1.4 Jan 27, 2020

Are the constant negotiations, epic tantrums, and lack of respect a result of being too kind?

Is there such a thing?

Come learn inside today's episode. I'll share the assets and liabilities of raising your children while being too kind- and give you some steps on what to work on!

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What are Safe Failures?: Ep. 1.3 Jan 16, 2020

Today, I share my *favorite* story ever.

The story involves my niece and I at Subway.

It involves a moment in my life where I learned the meaning behind holding space through a giant epic mistake a child was making. Learning how to strengthen the muscles of resilience, decision-making, and confidence.

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Is it Time to Intervene?: Ep. 1.2 Jan 09, 2020

Ready to learn how can you motivate your child to do better?

You could punish them with threats and taking away privileges or bribe them with promises of treats- or you can position them in the driver's seat of problem-solving.

Setting them up to take accountability and grow! Listen in this week to hear the three questions you should be asking yourself before you jump in to *make* your child do anything!

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The Magic is in the Repair: Ep. 1.1 Jan 02, 2020

"Begin with the end in mind." - Stephen Covey. That is just what I'm doing by starting with how to apologize authentically.

Why start here?

Because, as we go deeper and start practicing showing up without using punishments, we are going to make lots of mistakes- so we gotta be armed with a solid process to recover from those mistakes to reconnect!

This will not only help your child with you- but this is a tool they will bring with them to school and every other relationship!

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The C.L.E.A.R. Method: Ep. 0.3 Dec 21, 2019

Tired of googling all the "Why is my child..." questions? Exhausted from the judging looks in public while your sweet child is having an all-out meltdown over a toy in the check-out isle?

Are you ready to start to feel empowered and actually ENJOY parenting again?

This is the episode for you.

Today, MegAnne does a high-level view of The C.L.E.A.R. Method- the solution to the gap she saw in the parenting space. Get ready to learn how to use this podcast and the accompanying Instagram account to your benefit!

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Our Five Agreements: Ep. 0.2 Dec 21, 2019

The marker of every healthy relationship is clarity. "Clear is kind. Unclear is unkind."- Brene Brown. In today's episode, we set the 5 agreements of this podcast. MegAnne shares how each agreement applies to her, along with sharing how it applies to you- the listener!

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Be the Beginner: Ep. 0.1 Dec 21, 2019

As a childless parent coach, I get asked all the time about why I do what I do. So why not start this podcast off by having that conversation? Come learn all about me and what I do, but more importantly, come learn why I do what I do. This podcast has been in my heart for many years, so I've finally taken my own advice and I'm being the beginner and pushing RECORD!

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