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Amir Odom - Leaving BLM, And Concerns About The LGBTQ Community May 01, 2023

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Talking points: growing up gay, LGBTQ+ issues, trans issues, culture

Fair warning, this is a different kind of episode than the ones I usually put out. I encourage you to listen to it fully. Thanks to Amir for his candor and willingness to come on the show.

Amir Odom takes time every week to reflect on…well, anything that’s been on his mind that week. Sometimes it’s current events, sometimes it’s a story from 10 years ago, sometimes it’s a conspiracy theory and sometimes it’s his alter ego “Jamal” going on a rant. You never know what you are going to get, but that’s what keeps it interesting.

[05:17] - Amir’s defining moment
[10:24] - What was life like for Amir growing up?
[21:34] - Do Black Americans still face systemic issues?
[27:27] - Is the culture most Black men grow up under not conducive? Why?
[29:14] - Broadly, what’s going on in the LGBTQ+ community?
[48:54] - Amir’s mission

Connect with Amir

-Website: https://www.amirodom.com/

-YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@amirxodom

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Why Bother Getting Married? Apr 27, 2023

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Talking points: marriage, relationships

With marriage rates seemingly at an all-time low, and most of the old reasons for marriage largely defunct, it's a question many men are asking. It was something I wrestled with too. So...why bother with marriage? And why did I get married?

[00:00] - Statistics on marriage and some of the reasons we used to get married

[06:56] - Why I chose marriage

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Danica Patrick - Where Achievement And Spirituality Meet Apr 24, 2023

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Talking points: masculinity, femininity, achievement, dating, psychedelics, competition, culture, truth, what men and women want (and what they get wrong)

Wow. Danica and I covered a LOT of territory in this conversation. Like, top 3 widest-ranging conversations I’ve had on the podcast. Listen in for everything from masculine/feminine dynamics, to the nature of truth, to sharing psychedelic stories, to what men get wrong about women (and vice versa).

This is a brilliant episode to dig into if you’re looking less for answers and more for wonder. Much of what we discussed is better served by not forcing solutions, but simply wondering about viewpoints. Plus, you get a little of everything in this one!

[00:03:54] - Danica’s defining moment

[00:11:41] - Women and the masculine

[00:17:49] - How did masculine energy show up in Danica’s career?

[00:23:47] - How does it feel to be told, as a woman, “You’re more masculine than I am”?

[00:37:17] - The intersection of achievement and spirituality

[00:44:52] - Psychedelic experiences

[00:54:24] - How has your imagination and curiosity shaped your life?

[01:08:28] - How do you view the masculine and feminine culturally?

[01:30:18] - What do women get wrong about men, and vice versa?

About Danica Patrick

At just 10 years old, Danica’s racing career began after her parents bought her a go-kart. After winning numerous regional and national go-kart titles, Danica left the Midwest at 16 years old to compete in the cutthroat world of European road racing.

As a racecar driver, Danica Patrick broke barriers and set records with her on-track performance. With her racing career behind her, Danica looks to her next chapter as she focuses on her passions: good food, great wine, fitness and helping others achieve their goals.

Moving into her next chapter, retired from racing, Danica’s focus has shifted to her role as an entrepreneur and business owner. Danica has launched the clothing line – Warrior by Danica Patrick, authored a book Pretty Intense, and is the sole proprietor of Somnium, a vineyard in Napa Valley, California. In addition to these passion projects, Danica also continues to do inspirational speaking engagements and she plans to build upon these initiatives in the coming years.

Connect with Danica

-Website: https://www.danicapatrick.com/

-Podcast: https://www.danicapatrick.com/podcasts

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/danicapatrick/

-Twitter: https://twitter.com/danicapatrick

Pick up my brand-new book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

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The Big Misunderstanding About What Women Are Attracted To Apr 20, 2023

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Shorter episode today, but something I'd love to get your thoughts on. This came from a recent conversation between Lex Friedman and Aella, a sex researcher, writer, and sex worker.

She surveyed her followers on what men and women actually want in the bedroom, and noticed an interesting discrepancy. I polled my own followers and found something similar. Listen in!

Check out Aella's work here: https://knowingless.com/

Pick up my brand-new book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

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Richard Reeves - Why Modern Men Are Struggling Apr 17, 2023

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Talking points: masculinity, men, death, porn, education

There's few things I like more than wide-ranging yet deep conversations. This is one of them. Grateful to Richard for his time, eloquence, and commitment to men. This is a great episode if you're curious about some of the challenges young men face. Reeves is data-driven, open-minded, personable, and thorough, so check the time stamps to see more of what we explore.

00:03:41.500 - Richard’s defining moment, and how he and his family handled the grief

00:10:11.100 - Living well means facing death

00:14:07.500 - “Death in one hand and gratitude in the other”

00:17:49.500 - Do men have a different perception of time?

00:22:18.500 - With how polarized everything is, how does Richard navigate modern culture?

00:28:01.000 - Fewer men are graduating college than ever before. Why? What are some of the implications?

00:36:44.500 - What are some biological differences between men and women, and what sort of caveats need to enter the discussion?

00:41:41.000 - Historically, feminine traits tend to get weaponized against women

00:44:45.000 - On porn and its effects

00:51:50.500 - How do I talk to my kids about porn?

Richard V. Reeves is a senior fellow at the Brookings Institution, where he directs the Future of the Middle Class Initiative and co-directs the Center on Children and Families. His Brookings research focuses on the middle class, inequality, and social mobility.

Richard’s publications for Brookings include his latest book Of Boys and Men: Why the Modern Male Is Struggling, Why It Matters, and What to Do about It (2022) and 2017's Dream Hoarders: How the American Upper Middle Class Is Leaving Everyone Else in the Dust, Why That Is a Problem, and What to Do about It. He contributes to The Atlantic, National Affairs, Democracy Journal, the Wall Street Journal, and the New York Times. Richard is also the author of John Stuart Mill – Victorian Firebrand, an intellectual biography of the British liberal philosopher and politician.

Dream Hoarders was named a Book of the Year by The Economist, a Political Book of the Year by The Observer, and was shortlisted for the Goddard Riverside Stephan Russo Book Prize for Social Justice. In September 2017, Politico magazine named Richard one of the top 50 thinkers in the U.S. for his work on class and inequality.

Connect with Richard

-Website: https://richardvreeves.com/

-Book: Of Boys And Men: https://amzn.to/3GKcRkY

-Substack: https://ofboysandmen.substack.com/

-Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/richardv.reeves

-Podcast: https://richardvreeves.com/podcast/

-The Art of Dying (book mention): https://amzn.to/3UEu1X6

Pick up my brand-new book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Looking to build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world? Check out The Alliance and join me today.

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How To Stay Calm When She's Upset Apr 13, 2023

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Talking points: breathwork, calm, emotional volatility

I've talked pretty often about leading in a relationship, but a session with a recent client inspired me to dig into one of the more key components: regulating yourself and staying level-headed while your partner is upset. What does this mean, how do you do it, and why? Listen in.

02:02 - What it means to regulate

05:24 - Why the "take a deep breath" cliche actually works

08:33 - Women don't want to have to validate your emotions

Pick up my brand-new book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

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AJ & John - Are Young Men Actually Lost, And What Society Isn't Talking About Apr 10, 2023

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Talking points: male isolation and "lostness", dating, dating apps, relationships, redpill, AI

AJ, John and I covered a lot of ground, my friends. I've been following along with their work for a while and was recently on their podcast, The Art of Charm. Check the timestamps to see just how wide the net is!

This is a great episode to listen to if you're wondering about some of the challenges younger men seem to be facing, what's shifted for them compared to the GenX and millennial experience, and whether or not there's hope.

00:03:12.000 - AJ’s defining moment

00:06:14.700 - John’s defining moment

00:12:57.500 - What’s changed for men since AJ and John started?

00:22:10.500 - Male isolation is increasing. Why?

00:40:43.00 - The shifting male archetype

00:47:23.500 - Good relationships with other men is a status signal

00:58:03.000 - Is AI going to impact mating and dating?

01:02:16.500 - What are some key foundations to an intimate relationship?

01:09:24.750 - Is there hope for young men?

AJ and John, through The Art of Charm, provide training and personal coaching for activating your ability to attract the right people, create meaningful relationships, and reach greater levels of success in your life. These programs include the strategies they've used over the last 15+ years to put more than 9,100 people into the fast lane.

Connect with AJ and John

-Website: https://theartofcharm.com/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theartofcharm/

-Twitter: https://twitter.com/TheArtOfCharm

-Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1894473717446171/

-Podcast: https://theartofcharm.com/podcast/

Pick up my brand-new book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Looking to build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world? Check out The Alliance and join me today.

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Ten Ways Men Destroy Their Lives Apr 06, 2023

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Talking points: masculinity, discipline, purpose

How's that for a spicy title?

This is a look at some common behaviors and patterns I've seen in men overall, clients I've worked with, and my own life. Patterns that erode our capacity to truly live, lead, and love.

01:31 - We lack impulse control

04:06 - We chase p***y over purpose

08:42 - We don’t clarify our values, and we don’t say no to ourselves

09:35 - We pick the wrong partner

12:26 - We settle for an “okay” career or business

17:10 - We lack like-minded men that our willing to challenge us

21:21 - We haven’t prioritized seeing what our body is capable of

24:23 - We choose domestication over discipline

26:15 - We don’t take money seriously

30:11 - We disconnect from a sense of wonder

Pick up my brand-new book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

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Frans de Waal - Defining Gender Through The Eyes Of A Primatologist Apr 03, 2023

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Talking points: gender, gender equality, alpha males, alpha females, violence, culture, psychology

I’ve been following Frans’ work for a while, and have admired how dedicated he is to his work and to uncovering the complexity of primates. This was such an enjoyable and fascinating conversation!

This episode is a compelling look at just how complex and nuanced something like gender can be, from one of THE world’s top primatologists. With more and more pressure to outsource your opinions, your arguments, and your beliefs to the fastest talking pundit, it’s more important than ever to take a step back, breathe, and check the science.

Dr. Frans B. M. de Waal is a Dutch/American biologist and primatologist known for his work on the behavior and social intelligence of primates. His first book, Chimpanzee Politics (1982) compared the schmoozing and scheming of chimpanzees involved in power struggles with that of human politicians. Ever since, de Waal has drawn parallels between primate and human behavior, from peacemaking and morality to culture. His scientific work has been published in hundreds of technical articles in journals such as Science, Nature, Scientific American, and outlets specialized in animal behavior. His popular books — translated into twenty languages — have made him one of the world's most visible primatologists. His latest books are The Age of Empathy (2009), and The Bonobo and the Atheist (2013). Two recent edited volumes are The Primate Mind (2012) and Evolved Morality (2014).

De Waal is C. H. Candler Professor in the Psychology Department of Emory University and Director of the Living Links Center at the Yerkes National Primate Research Center, in Atlanta, Georgia. Since 2013, he is a Distinguished Professor (Universiteitshoogleraar) at Utrecht University. He has been elected to the (US) National Academy of Sciences, the American Academy of Arts and Sciences, and the Royal Dutch Academy of Sciences. In 2007, he was selected by Time as one of The Worlds' 100 Most Influential People Today, and in 2011 by Discover as among 47 (all time) Great Minds of Science. Being editor-in-chief of the journal Behaviour, de Waal has stepped in the footsteps of Niko Tinbergen, one of the founders of ethology.

His latest research concerns empathy and cooperation, inequity aversion and social cognition in chimpanzees, bonobos, and other species. He and his students have pioneered studies on how behavior is culturally transmitted in the primates, whether elephants recognize themselves in mirrors, how primates react to unequal reward divisions, how well primates spontaneously cooperate, and whether bonobo orphans are as emotionally affected by their trauma as human orphans.

Connect with Frans:

-Book: Different: Gender Through The Eyes Of A Primatologist: https://amzn.to/3K4MvLA
-TED Talk: Moral Behavior In Animals: https://www.ted.com/talks/frans_de_waal_moral_behavior_in_animals

Pick up my brand-new book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

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Why Are 66% Of Young Men Single? Mar 30, 2023

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Talking points: dating apps, selection preferences, statistics, what to do

I don't know the specific number of people actually satisfied with the modern dating scene, but given what I've read and researched, it's a VERY small number. What happened, and what can men do?

In this mini-ep, I dig into some statistics around modern dating, how it's been a growing shift for a while now, and what young men can do about it instead of giving in to cynicism, misogyny, or victimhood.

[00:00] The stats and what women seem to want.

[03:58] Women’s selection preferences mean their pool of eligible men is shrinking.

[06:27] Even I noticed this back in the day.

[08:02] The data can be overwhelming; what are the consequences of that?

[11:21] Prioritize male friendships. Go out and do things. Here’s why.

[15:33] Don’t allow yourself to read data like this and become the victim.

[16:24] How Quinn Mossmacher in White Lotus seems like the epitomization of what many young men are experiencing.

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