Make Your Damn Bed

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1146 || misery is profitable May 27, 2024

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The world operates on a profit model that often thrives on human misery. From the moment we enter this world, we're bombarded with messages insinuating that our self-worth is intricately tied to material possessions, consumer goods, pharmaceuticals, therapy, and a shitstorm of other products and services promising to alleviate our discontent.

As author and activist Audre Lorde once said, "Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare." Recognizing that true liberation begins with reclaiming ownership of our self-worth and embracing our inherent value as human beings.

RESOURCE: https://www.strikemagazines.com/blog-2-1/liking-yourself-is-a-rebellious-act

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1145 || invisible work May 24, 2024

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invisible work—a term coined by sociologist Arlene Kaplan Daniels to describe work that goes unpaid, unacknowledged, and thus, unregulated—is often overlooked and underpaid. it is taxing to be expected to perform invisible labor day in and day out. The first step in overcoming these unregulated expectations, is to make the invisible labor visible.

RESOURCE: https://time.com/charter/6317237/how-to-end-the-unfairness-of-invisible-work/

RESOURCE 2: https://synd.io/blog/invisible-labor-in-the-workplace/

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1144 || lessening the mental load May 23, 2024

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The mental load, also known as: Invisible labor, managing a life, managing a household, cognitive work, emotional labor, scheduling, shopping lists, etc. is never ending, invisible, and boundary-less. So, we need to make a conscious choice with how we take ownership of it. Otherwise, it'll take ownership of us.

RESOURCES: https://www.uclahealth.org/news/article/mental-load-what-it-and-how-manage-it#:~:text=What%20is%20mental%20load%3F,add%20to%20your%20total%20load.

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1143 || resisting tyranny May 22, 2024

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all oppression is connected. get involved and speak up.

RESOURCE: https://en.wikiversity.org/wiki/Confronting_Tyranny#Responding_to_Tyrants:

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1142 || The 4B movement || Part 2 May 21, 2024

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From Wikipedia: This digital movement functions as an online community where women engage in open discussion about navigating and envisioning a future without men. It serves as a platform for women to vent their frustrations and concerns about living in a conservative society while fostering a sense of solidarity. Additionally, the platform aims to motivate and inspire women to protest against dating, engaging in sexual relationships, getting married, and having children. Through a robust social media presence, the movement seeks to raise awareness and recruit more advocates to amplify its impact.

RESOURCES: https://twentythirdstation.wordpress.com/2016/01/25/%EB%AF%B8%ED%98%BC-mihon-vs-%EB%B9%84%ED%98%BC-bihon-word-of-the-day/

https://www.thecut.com/2023/03/4b-movement-feminism-south-korea.html

https://www.goodgoodgood.co/articles/4b-movement

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1141 || the 4B movement May 20, 2024

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The 4B movement in South Korea is a feminist initiative that emerged around 2019 and has recently gained significant attention on social media platforms like TikTok. The movement is rooted in rejecting traditional gender norms and roles that are prevalent in South Korean society, which is often criticized for its patriarchal values and systemic misogyny.

The term "4B" stands for four principles:

Bihon - No heterosexual marriage
Bichulsan - No childbirth
Biyeonae - No dating men
Bisekseu - No heterosexual sexual relationships

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1140 || boundary setting paradox May 17, 2024

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Setting boundaries is crucial for maintaining healthy relationships and preserving one's well-being. Dr. Brené Brown, a research professor and author, emphasizes the importance of boundaries, stating, "Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves even when we risk disappointing others." By establishing clear boundaries, individuals can communicate their needs and expectations effectively, reducing the likelihood of resentment and conflict.

One example of the importance of setting boundaries can be seen in the workplace. Research conducted by the American Psychological Association found that employees who have difficulty setting boundaries with their colleagues are more likely to experience higher levels of stress and job dissatisfaction. Employers play a crucial role in fostering a culture that values work-life balance and respects employees' boundaries.

In personal relationships, boundaries are essential for maintaining mutual respect and understanding. Dr. Henry Cloud, a clinical psychologist, observes, "Boundaries define us. They define what is me and what is not me." When individuals fail to assert their boundaries, they may find themselves in one-sided relationships where their needs are consistently overlooked. This imbalance can lead to feelings of resentment and frustration.

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1140 || boundary setting paradox || patreon May 17, 2024

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1139 || people pleasers || day 23 revisited May 16, 2024

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Overall, while people-pleasers may not intend to manipulate others, their behavior can inadvertently perpetuate manipulative dynamics in relationships. By recognizing the underlying motives and consequences of people-pleasing behavior, we can work towards establishing healthier boundaries, fostering genuine communication, and cultivating more authentic and fulfilling relationships.

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1139 || people pleasers || day 23 revisited || patreon May 16, 2024