Make Your Damn Bed

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1541 || guilt is good, actually? Aug 17, 2025

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We've discussed in the past how "guilt" can be a sign of empathy and growth, but today we dig into the science + the practical ways to deal with debilitating guilt, when it goes too far.

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1540 || some relationship advice Aug 16, 2025

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Today I'm offering some relationship advice from people who have been in relationships for nearly 4 decades!!!

The source:

https://www.upworthy.com/marriage-advice

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1539 || how to escape an awkward conversations Aug 15, 2025

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Some people are bad at reading social cues, and they'll hold you hostage in a conversation. Today we talk about how to deal with those people.

The Source: https://www.upworthy.com/people-who-talk-too-much

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1538 || the final points of connection we all need Aug 14, 2025

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Research indicates that a variety of different social behaviors help prevent loneliness and foster a sense of community and belonging.

1. Have a neighborhood emergency contact

2. Belong to a community of identity

3. Join an activity-based community

4. Connect with a friend or family member at least twice a week

5. Finding your third place in the community

6. Volunteering in the community

The Source: https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/the_six_points_of_connection_we_all_need

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1537 || the points of connection we all need Aug 13, 2025

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Research indicates that a variety of different social behaviors help prevent loneliness and foster a sense of community and belonging.

1. Have a neighborhood emergency contact

2. Belong to a community of identity

Tomorrow we cover the next four pieces to the puzzle:

3. Join an activity-based community

4. Connect with a friend or family member at least twice a week

5. Finding your third place in the community

6. Volunteering in the community

The Source: https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/the_six_points_of_connection_we_all_need

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

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1536 || finding support in difficult times Aug 12, 2025

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Research from the HeartMath Institute has shown that our bodies pick up on the electromagnetic field of information that radiates from another’s heart. READ THE ARTICLE: https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/how_to_find_support_in_difficult_times

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

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1535 || how to actually respond (the conclusion) Aug 11, 2025

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Today is the final day of the how to deal with "bad faith actors" series. I share an article from "Honor the Earth" about how to respond to fascism in real life.

https://www.honorearth.org/news/what-is-fascism-and-how-can-we-fight-it

The Alt Right Playbook on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLJA_jUddXvY7v0VkYRbANnTnzkA_HMFtQ

Other Sources:

"Troll Wars": https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/culture-shrink/201411/troll-wars-and-narcissistic-rage
"The Case for NOT Debating Fascists": https://criticalresist.medium.com/the-case-for-not-debating-fascists-3608623f00e
"Why are political discussions with fascists impossible?": https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/political-science/articles/10.3389/fpos.2022.951236/full
"Lose the Debate": https://armoxon.substack.com/p/lose-the-debate
"Why you shouldn't debate fascists": https://www.vaia.com/en-us/magazine/troll-on-the-internet/https://aurelmondon.medium.com/why-you-should-never-debate-fascists-racists-and-other-reactionaries-6478572c16a

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1534 || antagonists gonna antagonize Aug 10, 2025

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Bad Faith Actors (or BFA's) don't give a fuck about the argument itself, they're playing a very different game altogether, and they're very skilled at baiting people into engaging with them in bad faith.

The Alt Right Playbook on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLJA_jUddXvY7v0VkYRbANnTnzkA_HMFtQ

Other Sources:

"Troll Wars": https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/culture-shrink/201411/troll-wars-and-narcissistic-rage
"The Case for NOT Debating Fascists": https://criticalresist.medium.com/the-case-for-not-debating-fascists-3608623f00e
"Why are political discussions with fascists impossible?": https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/political-science/articles/10.3389/fpos.2022.951236/full
"Lose the Debate": https://armoxon.substack.com/p/lose-the-debate
"Why you shouldn't debate fascists": https://www.vaia.com/en-us/magazine/troll-on-the-internet/https://aurelmondon.medium.com/why-you-should-never-debate-fascists-racists-and-other-reactionaries-6478572c16a

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

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1533 || how to create an open + tolerant society Aug 09, 2025

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OKAY WE SHOULDN’T ARGUE WITH BFAS, WHAT SHOULD WE DO? We should not bury our head in the sand about these beliefs, but amplifying problematic, anti-social ideas is does not help. We can’t win in debates but we can't do nothing. And for me, that starts by understanding the tolerance paradox.

Read Popper's Original Work (for free): https://archive.org/details/in.ernet.dli.2015.59272/page/n211/mode/2up?view=theater

The summary: https://unearnedwisdom.com/a-summary-of-the-open-society-and-its-enemies-by-karl-popper-8-10/

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