LOVERS by Shan

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How Jemele Hill is Fighting Back Against America’s #1 Sex Life Killers Sep 24, 2025

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What happens when you realize the best sex of your marriage only shows up on vacation?
Award-winning journalist, author, and podcaster Jemele Hill joins Shan for a conversation about how she uncovered the connection between stress, rest, and desire in her own marriage. She shares why her husband seems to get luckier when they’re away, how that awareness has deepened their relationship, and what it taught her about the balance between ambition, partnership, and intimacy.
This episode is for my overachievers who struggle to “do it all,” for the happily partnered (or hoping-to-be), and for anyone who’s ever wondered how to bring that vacation spark back home.
Together, Jemele and Shan break down:
- Why “having it all” is a myth (and the price women pay for chasing it)
- How silence around stress robs intimacy, and what to do instead
- What “fair trade” in the home has to do with mutually desirable sex
- Practical ways to bring vacation sex energy into everyday life
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The Truth About Getting The Man I THOUGHT I Always Wanted ft. Rosa Acosta Sep 17, 2025

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What does it mean to choose love on your own terms? How do our values, self-worth, and cultural expectations shape the way we show up in relationships?
In this conversation, entrepreneur, fitness model, and actress Rosa Acosta shares her perspective on redefining what relationships can look like when you step away from society’s scripts. She reflects on leaving behind relationships that don’t serve both partners, questioning inherited scripts about men and women, and what it takes to create intimacy outside of convention.
This is a dialogue about love as partnership, the courage to release what no longer fits, and the art of rewriting our own story.
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Am I Still Who You Want? Are You Becoming Who I Need? A Relationship Check-In + Free Guide ft Jared Brady Sep 10, 2025

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Watch what happens when you ask for a performance review in your relationship. Do the hard and awkward questions lead to more intimacy or new resentments?
In this week’s episode of Lovers, Shan sits down with her husband, Jared Brady, for their quarterly relationship check-in — on camera. Together, they ask the tough but necessary questions: Am I still who you want? Are you becoming who I need?
This raw and real conversation reveals how couples can stay aligned, navigate change, and keep intimacy thriving over time. Plus, Shan and Jared share a free Relationship Check-In Guide so you and your partner can try this practice at home.
Whether you’re dating, married, or somewhere in between, this episode is a roadmap for honest communication, vulnerability, and keeping love strong.
The full conversation of Jared and I lives in my community in the premium tier.
Resource - Interactive Guide
https://www.loversbyshan.com/resource/relationship-checkin
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My Mom Talked to Me About Sex, And It Made Me Rebel ft. Blair Imani Sep 03, 2025

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What does it mean to be ready for motherhood? How do love, faith, and our relationship with our maternal figures shape our parenting?
In this honest and grounded conversation, educator, author, and activist Blair Imani shares her perspective on family planning, pregnancy loss, and the role of sexual education in real life. She opens up about having conversations with her partner around abortion as part of sexual health, and how her conversion to Islam continues to guide her through questions of timing, family, and faith.
We also dive into Blair’s relationship with her mom, and how that connection influences her hopes for becoming a parent herself. It’s a conversation about the choices we face when planning for a baby, the loss and love that come with it, and the bigger role faith, values, and family play in planning our future.
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What holds a relationship together when life falls apart ft Dr. Laura Berman Aug 27, 2025

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What holds a relationship together when life falls apart? Most of us picture the happiest moments when we think about our partner, but what happens when tragedy hits? In this intimate conversation, Dr. Laura Berman shares how she and her husband weathered some of life’s hardest storms together.
From dating him while she was caring for her young son with cancer, to the unimaginable loss of their son Sammy during the pandemic, Laura takes us inside the moments that tested their love, and the choices that kept them connected.
Days after the death of their first child together, Sam pulled Laura close and said, “Most couples don’t get through tragedies like this, but we will.”
It’s a reminder that the strength of a relationship isn’t just built in joy, it’s forged in the fire of what you survive together.
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Inside the Male Fantasy: The Surprising Request Men Keep Paying For ft. The Pink Parley Aug 20, 2025

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This week on Lovers, Shan sits down with The Pink Parley, a sex worker pulling back the curtain on what men secretly crave but rarely admit—even to their wives. With 98% of her clients being married men who have no desire to leave their marriages, Parley reveals the surprising request that keeps them coming back: ass worship.
Yes, you read that right. These men don’t just want to “eat the groceries”—they want to be consumed by, suffocated by, and utterly surrounded by the booty. For them, it’s not just an act of pleasure; it’s a full-body, sensory experience.
Together, Shan and Parley unpack what this hidden desire tells us about:
- The gap between fantasy and communication in long-term relationships
- The role of body positivity in sexual confidence and desire
- How unspoken cravings can complicate fidelity inside marriage
This episode is provocative, eye-opening, and an important reminder that what we don’t say in the bedroom can be just as impactful as what we do.
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He Had Multiple Lovers and I Was Good with Just Him. Alyson Stoner On Their Intro To Polyamory Aug 13, 2025

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What does it really mean to build a relationship outside the rules you were taught? Is it still polyamory if only one person has other lovers? And most importantly, what happens when that dynamic actually works for you?
In this honest and eye-opening conversation, multi-disciplinary entertainer, author, and founder of Movement Genius, Alyson Stoner, shares their experience in their polyamorous journey. We dive into the importance of knowing your own capacity for connection, and Alyson’s go-to communication tool: Frequency, Duration, and Intensity. It’s a simple yet powerful way to check in about how often you connect, for how long, and with what level of emotional depth.
Even if you’re monogamous, this framework can change the way you relate, helping you set boundaries, stay aligned, and make sure your relationships feel balanced and intentional. Whether you’re curious about polyamory or simply want tools for building healthier, more intentional partnerships, this episode will leave you thinking about love in a whole new way.
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📚 Preorder Alyson’s new book Semi-Well-Adjusted Despite Literally Everything (Out August 12, 2025) → https://static.macmillan.com/static/smp/semi-well-adjusted-9781250353498/
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The Eartha Kitt Effect Why Women Are Happily Choosing the Single Life for Life Aug 06, 2025

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What if “happily ever after” starts and ends with just you?
In this bold and expansive episode, Shan dives into The Eartha Kitt Effect—a cultural and emotional awakening inspired by the legendary performer Eartha Kitt, whose unapologetic views on love, compromise, and individuality continue to resonate decades later. This “effect” refers to the growing movement of people, especially women, who are choosing the single life on purpose, not by default.
Joining Shan is Dr. Bella DePaulo, renowned social psychologist and author of Single at Heart, to unpack why some of the most fulfilled people are not in romantic relationships—and never want to be.
Together, they explore:

🔥 Why Eartha Kitt’s viral interview moment ("Compromise? For what?") sparked a generation of self-partnership
🌱 How choosing not to center romance can lead to deeper personal growth, freedom, and connection
🧠 The science behind happiness in singlehood and the myth of the “incomplete” single person
💔 How media and social norms still stigmatize solo living—and what it looks like to rewrite your own happy ending

Eartha’s now-iconic 1982 interview, where she laughs at the idea of compromising for a man, has become a symbol for self-honoring love. Her words echo across social media as more people step into identities that aren’t centered on romantic validation but on personal wholeness.
Whether you're single by choice, rethinking long-term relationships, or simply seeking permission to define love your way—this episode is your affirmation.
✨ The Eartha Kitt Effect is here so listen now and ask yourself: What if “happily ever after” starts and ends with you?

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Books: Single at Heart, How We Live Now, and more – Amazon

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No One Talks About How Hard Making Friends As An Adult Is ft. Krista Williams Jul 30, 2025

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Does making friends get harder as you get older? How the hell do I make friends? This episode is a rerun, and it's STILL very accurate.
According to the American Perspective Survey, May 2021, many people are not satisfied with the size of their friendship group. About half of Americans (51 percent) report they are very satisfied or completely satisfied with the number of friends they have. 30 percent say they are only somewhat satisfied, and 17 percent say they are not too or not at all satisfied with the number of friends they have.
If you fall in that range of little to no satisfaction in friendships, here’s what you need to know about creating a bond.
So, how long does it take to make a new friend?
- 50 hours before you consider them a casual friend
- 90 hours before becoming real friends
- 200hours- before becoming close friends
source: 'Journal of Social and Personal Relationships'
As the New York Times reported in 2012, there are “three conditions that sociologists since the 1950s have considered crucial to making close friends: proximity; repeated, unplanned interactions; and a setting that encourages people to let their guard down and confide in each other.” Cultivating emotionally intimate relationships, in other words, takes more work than just compliments.
In this episode, I sit down with my friends Krista and Tabia, and we talk about our friendships, the ups, downs, and the work it takes to make them work.
A special thank you to Kamil Lewis, LMF,T, and Danielle Bayard-Jacskon, Bumble Friendship Expert, for lending their expertise on forming friendships.
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Is a Good Man Good Enough? ft. Miranda Rae Mayo Jul 23, 2025

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What if the love story you were chasing… was never really yours?
In this episode, actress Miranda Rae Mayo joins Shan to explore the journey of finding love by letting go of the fantasy. Known for her role on Chicago Fire, Miranda opens up about her current relationship and how she had to release the pressure to be “perfect” to experience a real connection.
Together, they explore how love doesn’t always look the way we expected, and why exploring non-monogamy challenged (and expanded) her thoughts around love, security, and partnership.
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