Living with Heart: From Birth to Death

The "Living with Heart" Podcast is brought to you by Chip Dodd Resources (www.chipdodd.com) and The Voice of the Heart Center (vothcenter.com). Contact Bryan Barley for coaching at bryan@vothcenter.com.

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The Boy & The Ogre: Finding Freedom from Codependency by Chip Dodd

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The Jesse Tree: A Christmas Devotional for Individuals, Couples, & Families is a 24-day devotional that prepares us for the birth of Jesus. It is offered as a free eBook at chipdodd.com, and it can be purchased from Amazon. The Jesse Tree includes daily devotions that start with creation and end with the birth of Jesus. Each day has a list of ideas for extending the day’s “study” and opportunity with fellowship with your family, friends, and God. Your Jesse Tree will be covered in Bible-themed ornaments that will be a daily reminder of the stories you have read and the promise of the coming Messiah. Order now, the devotional begins December 1st.

The reason for this podcast is because for people to have more life, more fulfillment. The things talked about here, and the materials referred to, are about knowing the language and content of your heart, and what that can do for you. It won’t stop pain, but helps you know what to do about it. It certainly doesn’t promise perfection or even happiness. But knowing the language and content of the heart helps people develop the ability to live life on life’s terms, with all of its heartbreak and heartache that conflicts with our craving for life without tragedy.

Our goal is for people to experience time in this life as Kairos, which means to experience your life emotionally and spiritually, fully participating in living, rather than Chronos, which means just getting life over with, letting the clock run down.

If we don’t allow ourselves to live emotionally and spiritually connected, then we have to find an escape or addiction.

Without living in Kairos, we are simply on a race to the grave.

Codependency recovery moves us into Kairos.

Because there has been so much misunderstanding about the proper use of feelings, there is a rising backlash against the importance of facing, feeling, and dealing with life by being able to be “response-able” with feelings.

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43 - Recovery from Codependency: Eight Myths About Boundaries Oct 29, 2024

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BOOK BUNDLE GIVEAWAY!

We are giving away 5 FREE Chip Dodd Book Bundles!

Write a review of this podcast.
Submit the review.
Take of screenshot of the review.
Send the screenshot to bryan@vothcenter.com.

Reviews and emails must be submitted by October 31st.

5 names will be drawn and winners will be announced in November.

The book bundles include:

A Signed Copy of The Voice of the Heart
The Voice of the Heart Companion Study
The Boy and The Ogre: Finding Freedom from Codependency
The Jesse Tree: A Christmas Devotional for Individuals, Couples, and Families
*Bonus: A Set of Ornaments

Dr. Dodd will be leading 1 more seminar this fall:

How to Love a Woman’s Heart

November 8, 2024

9:00-12:00

For more information or to register for these seminars go to chipdodd.com/seminar

2 new FREE Resources at chipdodd.com:

Click here to continue reading the episode highlights.

We offer free resources not to promote, as much as to attract people to come get something that will benefit individuals, couples, families, friendships and society itself.

Now Available at Amazon

The Jesse Tree: A Christmas Devotional for Individuals, Couples, & Families is a 24-day devotional that prepare us for the birth of Jesus. It is offered as a free eBook at chipdodd.com and it also can be purchased from Amazon. The Jesse Tree includes daily devotionals that start with creation and end with the birth of Jesus. Each day has a list of ideas for extending the day’s “study” and opportunity for fellowship with your family, friends, and God. Order now, the devotional begins December 1st.

The reason I do this podcast is because we want people to have more life, more fulfillment. The things we talk about here and the materials we refer to are about what knowing your heart can do for you. It won’t stop pain, but helps you know what to do about it. It certainly doesn’t promise perfection or even happiness, but helps people develop the ability to live life on life’s terms with all of its heartbreak and heartache that conflicts with our craving for life without tragedy.

42 - Recovery from Codependency: Practice Allows Us to Live Fully, Though Imperfectly Oct 22, 2024

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BOOK BUNDLE GIVEAWAY!

We are giving away 5 FREE Chip Dodd Book Bundles!

Write a review of this podcast.
Submit the review.
Take of screenshot of the review.
Send the screenshot to bryan@vothcenter.com.

Reviews and emails must be submitted by October 31st.

5 names will be drawn and winners will be announced in November.

The book bundles include:

A Signed Copy of The Voice of the Heart
The Voice of the Heart Companion Study
The Boy and The Ogre: Finding Freedom from Codependency
The Jesse Tree: A Christmas Devotional for Individuals, Couples, and Families
*Bonus: A Set of Ornaments

Dr. Dodd will be leading 2 seminars this fall:

Leading With Heart: When Intellect, Willpower, and Goals Aren’t Enough

October 24, 2024

9:00 to 12:00

How to Love a Woman’s Heart

November 8, 2024

9:00-12:00

For more information or to register for these seminars go to chipdodd.com/seminar

2 new FREE Resources at chipdodd.com:

Click here to continue reading the episode highlights.

We offer free resources not to promote, as much as to attract people to come get something that will benefit individuals, couples, families, friendships and society itself.

Now Available at Amazon

In today’s episode we are continuing to discuss how to find recovery from codependency.

Last episode we focused on the equation:

H.O.W. + G.O.D. > E.G.O

Honesty, Openness, and Willingness + Good, Orderly Direction allow us to reduce the ego or the Easing God Out experience of our lives. It also allows us to rediscover our true self and how to live out of it. The ego is the mask we wear to cover up our vulnerability and neediness, and our boundaries.

This episode particularly focuses on the path of recovery, returning to how you are created and to the God who created you.

41 - Recovery From Codependency Oct 15, 2024

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The Boy & The Ogre: Finding Freedom from Codependency by Chip Dodd

BOOK BUNDLE GIVEAWAY!

We are giving away 5 FREE Chip Dodd Book Bundles!

Write a review of this podcast.
Submit the review.
Take of screenshot of the review.
Send the screenshot to bryan@vothcenter.com.

Reviews and emails must be submitted by October 31st.

5 names will be drawn and winners will be announced in November.

The book bundles include:

A Signed Copy of The Voice of the Heart
The Voice of the Heart Companion Study
The Boy and The Ogre: Finding Freedom from Codependency
The Jesse Tree: A Christmas Devotional for Individuals, Couples, and Families
*Bonus: A Set of Ornaments

Dr. Dodd will be leading 2 seminars this fall:

Leading With Heart: When Intellect, Willpower, and Goals Aren’t Enough

October 24, 2024

9:00 to 12:00

How to Love a Woman’s Heart

November 8, 2024

9:00-12:00

For more information or to register for these seminars go to chipdodd.com/seminar

2 new FREE Resources at chipdodd.com:

We offer free resources not to promote, as much as to attract people to come get something that will benefit individuals, couples, families, friendships and society itself.

Episode Highlights:

Real freedom awaits us in codependency recovery—if we take the risk of hoping and then trusting that a better way of living is on the other side of the risk. We have to admit that we are actually powerless over the symptoms we have talked about. We must admit that we need an emotional and spiritual “makeover.”

We must face that codependency is not a habit, one that we can just change by conscious action only, or mindfulness. It actually fits into the criteria of an illness, a disease.

Medical Definition of Disease: A morbid process (meaning destructive to health), with a characteristic chain of symptoms, of known or unknown origin, that are chronic, progressive, and can be fatal.

The disease of codependency is driven by stress. Many physicians have reported to me that the causes of most of the illnesses that are presented to them are stress-based sicknesses of not knowing how to live. In other words, the patient does not know what to do with or how to process feelings.

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40 - Symptoms of Codependency (Part 6) Oct 08, 2024

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BOOK BUNDLE GIVEAWAY!

We are giving away 5 FREE Chip Dodd Book Bundles!

Write a review of this podcast.
Submit the review.
Take of screenshot of the review.
Send the screenshot to bryan@vothcenter.com.

Reviews and emails must be submitted by October 31st.

5 names will be drawn and winners will be announced in November.

The book bundles include:

A Signed Copy of The Voice of the Heart
The Voice of the Heart Companion Study
The Boy and The Ogre: Finding Freedom from Codependency
The Jesse Tree: A Christmas Devotional for Individuals, Couples, and Families
*Bonus: A Set of Ornaments

Dr. Dodd will be leading 2 seminars this fall:

Leading With Heart: When Intellect, Willpower, and Goals Aren’t Enough

October 24, 2024

9:00 to 12:00

How to Love a Woman’s Heart

November 8, 2024

9:00-12:00

For more information or to register for these seminars go to chipdodd.com/seminar

2 new FREE Resources at chipdodd.com:

Click here to continue reading the episode highlights.

We offer free resources not to promote, as much as to attract people to come get something that will benefit individuals, couples, families, friendships and society itself.

Episode Highlights:

Today we’re talking about the last two symptoms of the 14 symptoms of Codependency.

We will close our series on codependency with several episodes about the solutions and treatments for codependency.

Once we see we have a problem with codependency, we need to:

admit the need for help.
see that there isn’t a “pill” to solve the problem, but rather a path and a process.

There isn’t a quick, easy “fix” for overcoming codependency. The reality of having to take a path, rather than have a “pill fix,” is sad. The reality is that it takes a lifetime to learn how to live.

Codependency recovery is a great path to move us from surviving to thriving. The question is, “How are we going to live?”

Symptom #13 Restricted Emotional Development

Restricted emotional development is grounded in the fear of being labeled as inferior because of what we do not know or have not learned.

39 - Symptoms of Codependency (Part 5) Oct 01, 2024

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Episode Highlights:

“Confusion about Toxic Shame and Guilt”

Codependency is not your fault, but it is your responsibility to deal with. Even though we have been “taught” to rid ourselves of how God made us, it does not give us permission or the right to stay there. It is a sickness that we have, and we have the responsibility to find the healing.

Codependency is the loss of how God made us, with self-awareness, self-trust, self-care, being sensitive to our own true feelings, loss of learning how to respond to our feelings in a healthy way; it is the loss of self-worth—given over to the needs of significant others who are uncomfortable with themselves, or self-rejecting.

Codependency recovery is not selfishness; it is “Self-fullness.” Self-fullness is having enough of who God created us to be that we have the ability to give our gifts to a world in need.

The need to belong and matter is so powerful that we are going to find a way to get those needs met—through suppression or expression.

Expression has to be grown and matured, so codependency recovery does take time and investment.

Each of the symptoms that we have discussed in this podcast is from the work of Timmen Cermak, in his book Diagnosing and Treating Codependency. The descriptions and following work are from my own experiences.

Codependency is pervasive, a pandemic, and all the relief-seeking addictions we can name have their origin and influence in codependency.

Symptom #12 Confusion About Toxic Shame and Guilt

Toxic shame is grounded in never being able to do anything “right enough,” or be right enough to be loved, or have the “right” to receive mercy.

In toxic shame the confusion between shame and guilt is birthed in the mistaken belief that I should be able to not mess up; not make mistakes; should not have to need mercy; should be able to be perfect. It is the belief that only perfect people can be loved. If I am not perfect, I am “worth-less” and cannot be loved.

38 - Symptoms of Codependency (Part 4) Sep 24, 2024

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