Life on the Swingset - The Swinging & Polyamory Podcast

#402 - More Than Two, Second Edition - With Andrea Zanin and Eve Rickert Nov 01, 2024

Ginger and Dylan interview Andrea Zanin and Eve Rickert about the release of their new book: More Than Two, Second Edition!

They touch on More Than Two, Second Edition's place as both an introduction for people new to open relationships, and as a deeply needed and timely reintroduction to improving relationships for more experienced practitioners of various forms of nonmonogamy.

You can find More Than Two, Second Edition, at morethantwo.ca!

You can find Eve Rickert on Bluesky, Instagram, and at brighterthansunflowers.com!

You can find Andrea Zanin on Twitter, Bluesky, Facebook, and at sexgeek.workpress.com!

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Intro & Interstitial Music: Shingo Nakamura, Mango, Nina Carr – Solace

#401 - Kissing is Taboo Again? - Elevator Speeches & Safety Dec 24, 2023

How did kissing become so complicated... again? Swinger culture still features a choice, to kiss or not to kiss, that other non-monogamous folk don't usually make. These days, the stakes around kissing are higher, and that's complicated things as simple as kissing to say hello .

Ginger, Prof, Tonia, Dylan, Lunabelle, Tonya, and Tyler get together to talk about their Elevator Speeches, and whether kissing is taboo again!

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#400 - ReEmergence Dec 03, 2023

Dylan, Ginger, Tonia, and Prof get back together to properly toast Life on the Swingset's 400th episode! The crew invites back Lunabelle, Tyler, and Tonya, and welcomes D into the fold to discuss ReEmergence and discovering intimacy… again.

The crew discusses what returning to normal might look like during a time … very much not normal. D, and Lunabelle share what emerging and finding their people and their communities in the midst of the pandemic feels like, while Tyler and Tonya talk about finding their way just before, and during the pandemic. Gin, Prof, Tonia, and Dylan talk about change, allowing for space, and everyone looks forward to charting a future full of friends, community, and pleasure.

Also, Prof talks about VR Golf, which was the most important part of the episode.

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Intro Music: F.O.O.L – Duality
Business Music: Tokyo Machine – STEREO
Outro Music: Aftruu – Falling Asleep

SS 399: We Go Meta on Swinging and Making the Sausage... and talk Sex Toys - from Friday Night Delights from February 5th, 2021 Sep 01, 2023

Ginger, Prof, Tonia, and Dylan get together on a normal Friday in February 2021 to plan a podcast about swinging… and almost fall into the trap of talking about swinging. Swingset gets meta, discussing swinging as a verb, swinger as a noun, new england accents, and …talking about Sportsheets and sex toys and restraints. a lot.

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Intro and Outro Music: ARMNHMR feat. Heleen – Drowning

SS 398: Swingset as a Place... with Princess Vi Apr 13, 2023

Princess Vi and I talk about what it means to build pop-up inclusive, welcoming, and sex friendly communities, and we wander about discussing what goes into that secret sauce… and what it feels like when you get it right, and … when you don't have it.

*** EMBED CODE FOR PODCAST FROM LIBSYN GOES HERE YOU INSENSITIVE CLOD ***

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SHIP (Sexual Health Includes Pleasure) is running their Pleasure Equity Campaign, an annual initiative to raise funds to reduce barriers to pleasure-guided sexual health resources so that all adults can reclaim pleasure in their daily lives and by using those resources as tools for healing, self-preservation, and resistance. Every donation SHIP receives through this campaign allows them to offer workshops, therapy, and professional development opportunities to the community for free or at a significantly reduced rate.

Life on the Swingset believes in SHIP's mission and they're committed to making sexual health programming a community service, but they can't do it without community support. Please join them in this important work by donating to the Pleasure Equity Campaign today

Cold Intro Music: CloudNone, Direct & Exist Strategy – Parallels
Intro and Outro Music: CloudNone, Direct & Aether – See The Light

SS 397: ...and at least one amorous bird on this resort. - Swingset Takes Desire 2022, Part 2 Nov 27, 2022

Continuing on from Part 1 of our live podcast on our trip in Cancun, Ginger initiates a tonal shift, Keeley makes sure everyone knows that more than gang bangs happen, Cooper talks about birds, Prof shares more deep thoughts, Tonia shares joy while serving the people, Ginger makes sure everyone knows that gang bangs happen, and Dylan continues to insult the audience.

Multiple audience members share their passionate and heartfelt resort experiences with everyone.

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Intro Music: zensei ゼンセー – spadina 3am
Outro Music: zensei ゼンセー – who we are

SS 396: ...what sets us apart, brings us together. - Swingset Takes Desire 2022, Part 1 Nov 22, 2022

Swingset is a place, at least that's how we think of it today. We created the Swingset Community for the tenth time at Desire Resort in Cancun, QR, MX, and gathered our attendees to listen to Keeley, Cooper, Ginger, Tonia, Ryan AKA The Professor, and Dylan get together and talk about the trip up until Friday and many… many other things.

Set and Setting. The Tepid Tub! Indiana Cooper? Co-Creation. Indomnitable Joy. Consent Violation. Rupture Repair. Community Support Gloryholes. We talk about it all, in part one.

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Intro Music: Sullivan King & Ray Volpe – The Dead March
Outro Music: zensei ゼンセー – spadina 3am

SS 395: The Trouble with Tribbing, a Sexy Story Share Nov 01, 2022

Ginger, The Professor, Mike Joseph, Tonia, and Dylan get together for a Friday Night Delights recorded on June 25th to share some sexy stories and talk about growing relationships and sharing managing multiple identities,

Also… big gong energy and tribbing.

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SS 394: Camp Swingset Live! - At the Half-Baked Homestead Aug 01, 2022

Tonia and Dylan sat down at the Half-Baked Homestead, lovingly put together by Rapunzel, Colin, and Oengus, to talk about what Swingset gatherings mean (if anything) and what we try to do when we put temporary community together.

Talk touches on current events – the attack on trans familities rights to exist, a post roe v. wade world, and community relations at their fracture points come up prominently… but talk about accepting and appreciating joy without apologizing for it, and the pleasure of being together, takes over… with commentary from a couple of dogs fighting over a stick.

it's Camp Swingset, Live!

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Intro, Interstitial, and Outro Music: helloworld – see str8

SS 393: Swingset Takes Desire 2021 LIVE in Cancún! Mar 17, 2022

SS 392: Personal Stories on Changing Intimacy Over the Last Two Years - A Friday Night Delights Conversation with Catherine Mar 02, 2022

We continue the conversation from SS 388: The Power of Witness in Relationship Therapy, by sliding into how intimacy has changed over the last couple of years. Dylan, Ryan, and Ginger continues to welcome Catherine of Expansive Connection while Tonia joins in on the fun! Also… more love for Gestalt therapy!

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Intro and Outro Music: Stendahl – Austrumi (Extended Mix)

SS 391: The Desire Mid-Week Check-In, featuring Co-Hosts Mike Joseph and Keeley! Mar 01, 2022

We made it to Desire in 2021 and decided to take the temperature of the room… the very, very hot room that we couldn't turn the air conditioning on in because it would have ruined the recording environment.

Cooper, Dylan, and Tonia along with guest co-hosts Mike Joseph and Keeley get together and check in with each other, and the attendees, and see what being in Desire in these trying times means to them.

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Intro & Outro Music: Chime – Rainbow Rave Parade

SS 390: "Things can be messy, but things don't have to be toxic." Jul 06, 2021

With this episode, we emerge from our reduced pandemic release schedule where our focus was on virtual Swingset community events to connect and sustain us through challenging times, and refocus on the podcast.

We invited Eve, Marissa, Celeste, Rose, and Melanie with an intimate conversation about navigating toxic relationships. We're grateful for these five courageous humans for sharing their stories and wisdom so that we can learn from their experiences.

-Ginger Bentham -Dylan Thomas

Listeners can learn more at itrippedonthepolystair.com.

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Intro Music: Throttle feat. NICOLOSI – Heroes (Skies Remix)

SS 389: Nerdy Banter with Simone and Malcolm – The Pragmatist’s Guide to Sexuality Mar 01, 2021

Join Dylan, Ryan aka Prof, and Ginger in a nerdy discussion about sexuality data and human behavior. Simone and Malcolm Collins, the authors of The Pragmatist’s Guide series, take to the Swingset to talk all manner of intriguing and confounding sexiness.

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Intro Music: Duumu and Meggie York – Never Had
Interstitial Music: Nitro fun – System Failure

Our Sportsheets Advertisements featured music from Poolhouse Ltd from their album: NOW THAT'S WHAT I CALL VAPORWAVE!

HOME COMPUTING – HOTLINE
Internet Archive – O N L I N E
pacintosh mlus – c r y s t a l p e p s i

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SS 388: The Power of Witness in Relationship Therapy with Catherine Feb 01, 2021

Join Dylan, Ryan, and Ginger as they host Catherine of Expansive Connection. Catherine offers her perspective on relationship therapy and her Power of Witness experience. It can be a challenge for those in polyamorous, open, and multipartnered relationships to find qualified helping professionals who not just tolerate nontraditional relationships, but elevate and celebrate the strengths of those who opt in for creative relationships. The crew talks therapy, truth-telling, and they share personal stories of their own adventures in love and sex.

Website: https://www.expansiveconnection.com/lotss Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/expansive.connection.coaching/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/expanconnect Power of Witness Sign Up (direct link): https://www.nurturingtheconnection.com/a/30219/5mkaT3y8

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Intro, Interstitial, and Outro Music: No Rest – Vicetone
Business Music: Matroda – Shut It Down

SS 387: Euretic Consent with Shawn Coleman and Kevin Patterson Nov 23, 2020

Shawn Coleman and Kevin Patterson join Ginger Bentham, Ryan Bentham, and Dylan Thomas, to discuss consent. They talk practicing consent in every day life.

“Consent has to exist in our every day lives and not just be a concept in the legal system.”

The concept of euretic consent, a term Shawn Coleman has offered the world, is a concept “literally made for this time, this experience, this revolution that we're going through… that invites us to reevaluate our boundaries and our relationships to ourselves.”

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Shawn Coleman @OurTouchPoints Twitter | Our Touchpoints Website | Touchpoints: Cuddles and Community YouTube

Kevin Patterson @PolyRoleModels Twitter | @PolyRoleModels Instagram | Poly Role Models Website Unf*ck Your Polyamory | For Hire: Operator Paperback | For Hire: Audition Paperback

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Intro, Interstitial, and Outro Music: Sabai & Hoang feat. Claire Ridgely – Million Days

SS 386: Thank You Betty Dodson – On Bodysex and More – Friday Night Delights – 2020-08-14 (Part 2) Nov 09, 2020

Tonia, Dylan, Ryan the Prof, and Ginger unwind with the Swingsetters after a busy workweek to delight in the Delights on a Friday night for an eclectic array of conversations. Ginger gets on a roll sharing about her double mastectomy and DIEP flap reconstruction, and then doubles (heh) down to worship Betty Fucking Dodson and Bodysex.

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Intro Music: Direct & Park Avenue – I'll Go
Interstitial & Outro Music: Notaker – The Longest Night

The Shame of Desire, the Consideration of Risk – Friday Night Delights Sep 01, 2020

Ginger, Tonia, Ryan aka Prof, and Dylan get together for a night of Friday Night Drinking and Delights and accidentally have a deep conversation about desire, shame, selfishness, risk-aware relative to sex and COVID-19, exposure networks and the complication of the return of feelings of jealousy and selfishness, but not before engaging in discussion on:

rgb lighting… from the inside
jalapenos, easy-tear vinyl gloves, and nitrile gloves
period euphemisms
uv sterilization… of the vagina
bush / pubic hair
christmas lights in the bush
bush light
busch light #ad #sponsored
a sex party with a bush light dress code sponsored by busch light #ad #sponsored
letterkenny
puck bunnies
men who grow

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Intro, Interstitial, and Closing Music: SMLE & Just a Gent – Revival

Episode Introduction Music- “Studio” Steve Wallace – Mega Man 2 – Level Select

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A is for Adequate – Friday Night Delights with Cooper, Bradford, and Angela – 2020-06-26 Aug 21, 2020

Shame kinks. Pubic hair. Quarantine Partners. Australia. We're covering all our bases today with Ginger Bentham, Dylan Thomas, Cooper S. Beckett, The Professor, and Angela and Bradford from the By the Bi podcast!

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Podcast Announcements Intro Music: Xilent – Human Error
Cold Open Music: Vicetone feat. BullySongs – I Feel Human
Intro and Outro Music: Duumu – Breathe Again
Interstitial Music: Rameses B – Thinking About You

Black and Poly in These Times Jul 24, 2020

Ruby Johnson LCSW takes over Life on the Swingset and brings Dr. Justin Clardy, Thomas of wearibukun.com and Vision By Thomas, Charita Marie, and Jhen from the Monogamish Podcast to offer their experiences being black and polyamorous in the midst of covid and the uprising.

You can find Ruby Johnson LCSW on Twitter and Instagram and information about Poly Dallas Millenium on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and at polydallasmillenium.com

You can find Dr. Justin Clardy on Twitter, Instagram, and as @pagesla on Instagram.

You can find Jhen on Twitter, Instagram, and find the Monogamish Podcast at monogamishpod.com and on Twitter and Instagram.

You can find Charita Marie on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and find AcrylicArtTherapy on Instagram. You can also find Out and Equal's 2020 Workplace Summit at outandequal.org/2020-workplace-summit

You can find Thomas and Wear Ibukun at wearibukun.com and on Instagram

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Cold Open and Interstitial Music: Candyland & Ricci – Touch Me
Intro Music: Fractal – Mountain Hunter
Outro Music: Candyland & Shoffy – Faces

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My Damn Gangbang Got Cancelled By COVID - Friday Night Delights - 2020-04-17 Jun 24, 2020

It's clear from Life on the Swingset reviews that the first episode people listen to greatly shape opinions about the show. If this is your first, getting angry over gangbangs being cancelled, talking about Con Air (the movie) and hair dye is par for the course. Enjoy listening to Dylan Thomas, Ginger Bentham, Ryan Bentham, and Lunabelle on another edition of Friday Night Delights.

The entry point is key.

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There is an overall lack of research of what it means to feel loved and how people experience love. Luckily, The CSUF Queer Lab at California State University, Fullerton, understands this and has undertaken a project called the CSUF Love Project.

They're looking for individuals at least 18 years old that have been/are currently in a consensual non-monogamous relationship! That means the swingers, the polyamorous, the open, and hopefully you!

Your background, your sexuality, your identity, your experiences all matter and they'll contribute to a better understanding of love, relationships, and sex.

Visit tinyurl.com/loveproj-t to enter the study!

If you've ever listened to us and loved us and enjoyed our guests, or even shaken your fist at us... we ask you to take action in your local communities. Organize. Volunteer. Be Loud.

Visit racialequityresourceguide.org to find out where you can start. With links to grassroots organizations, national advocacy organizations, academic institutions, guides and resources, and If you're able please consider donating to:

Chicago Community Bond Fund

National Bail Out #FreeBlackMamas

Brave Space Alliance

COVID-19 and STI Stigma, with Ella Dawson - Friday Night Delights - 2020-05-22 Jun 04, 2020

Ella Dawson joins Ginger, the Professor, and Dylan to discuss reactions to people with / without COVID-19, and how it may affect public discussion surrounding STIs and stigma surrounding people living with STIs.

Ella Dawson gave a TEDx Talk about how STIs aren't a consequence, they're inevitable.

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There is an overall lack of research of what it means to feel loved and how people experience love. Luckily, The CSUF Queer Lab at California State University, Fullerton, understands this and has undertaken a project called the CSUF Love Project.

They're looking for individuals at least 18 years old that have been/are currently in a consensual non-monogamous relationship! That means the swingers, the polyamorous, the open, and hopefully you!

Your background, your sexuality, your identity, your experiences all matter and they'll contribute to a better understanding of love, relationships, and sex.

Visit tinyurl.com/loveproj-t to enter the study!

If you've ever listened to us and loved us and enjoyed our guests, or even shaken your fist at us… we ask you to take action in your local communities. Organize. Volunteer. Be Loud.

Visit racialequityresourceguide.org to find out where you can start. With links to grassroots organizations, national advocacy organizations, academic institutions, guides and resources, and

If you're able please consider donating to:

Chicago Community Bond Fund

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Intro, Interstitial, and Outro Music: Conro – The Small THings

An Edible Sized Multiorgasmic Nonejaculatory Minisode – Friday Night Delights – 2020-04-10 (Part 2) Jun 01, 2020

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There is an overall lack of research of what it means to feel loved and how people experience love. Luckily, The CSUF Queer Lab at California State University, Fullerton, understands this and has undertaken a project called the CSUF Love Project.

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Your background, your sexuality, your identity, your experiences all matter and they'll contribute to a better understanding of love, relationships, and sex.

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Intro and Outro Music: Riot – Take That (Bonus Track)

A Sensual Snowball Behind My Back – Friday Night Delights 2020-04-10 (Part One) May 28, 2020

Another night in April, another Friday Night Delights! Dylan, Ginger, and The Professor get together and talk butt stuff, pins in clits, drinks and edibles, and somehow find ways to come to profound understandings of each other in the current context of the world.

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There is an overall lack of research of what it means to feel loved and how people experience love. Luckily, The CSUF Queer Lab at California State University, Fullerton, understands this and has undertaken a project called the CSUF Love Project.

They're looking for individuals at least 18 years old that have been/are currently in a consensual non-monogamous relationship! That means the swingers, the polyamorous, the open, and hopefully you!

Your background, your sexuality, your identity, your experiences all matter and they'll contribute to a better understanding of love, relationships, and sex.

Visit tinyurl.com/loveproj-t to enter the study!

Intro and Outro Music: Ellis feat. Maribelle – Don't Say Ur Sorry
Interstitial Music: CloudNone & Direct – Mojito
Interstitial Music: Direct – Left Behind

The Hangover - The Krazy Winter Nights Steakhouse Postshow May 23, 2020

Dylan, Cooper, Ryan, and Ginger found their way out into the frozen landscape of Omaha in January in search of meat, tantalizing steaks that is. During this Swingset field trip during Krazy Winter Nights, the foursome relaxes into a feast paired with cocktails and delicious conversation. Recording on location at the steak house means just like there is always a swing available on the Swingset, there is a seat for you at the table. Cheers!

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Pre-roll Music: Cloudnone – Wish
Intro and Outro Music: Gareth Emery feat. Kovic – Somebody

Don't Invest in the Rest, Invest in... the Sex. Also Malört. - Friday Night Delights – 2020-04-03, Part 3 May 02, 2020

Our April 3rd Friday Night Delights with the Swingset has proven quite fertile. Mr. and Mrs. H (@BedHoppersUK) sign off after fucking while podcasting while Tonia (@tonia_swingset) signs on. Dylan (@DylantheThomas / @DylantheThomas@Swingset.Social), Lunabelle (@Ninjasexology) and Bradford, Angela, and Ian the Gentlemen (@BytheBiPodcast) reminisce about good times at Desire 2019 (and a desire for a 2020), the purity of Kentucky straight(?) bourbon, event organizing and people who run and produce conferences… it's a wild end to a wild night.

“We've had a lot of drinks” – Mr. H

“Shocker” – Bradford

“It's like two in the morning for us, we're doing well! We did a full interview with a couple we want to fuck and we drank a lot of drinks and we can't see anybody because of the quarantine.” – Mr. and Mrs. H

“Yeah that sucks”. – Ian the Gentlemen

“I don't have a dad bod, I have a father figure.”

– Bradford, on putting on a little while in quarantine

“How much will you pay me to not answer that?”

– Lunabelle, to her children

*** EMBED CODE FOR PODCAST FROM LIBSYN GOES HERE YOU INSENSITIVE CLOD ***

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Intro Music: Sabai and Komode – Save You
Outro Music: Conro – Thrill of It

SS 377: Shaving with Straight Razors and Podcasting HARDER, Friday Night Delights – 2020-04-03, Part 2 Apr 30, 2020

Our April 3rd Friday Night Lights with the Swingset episode continues featuring Dylan Thomas, Mr. and Mrs. H (The Bedhoppers), Angela, Bradford and Ian (By the Bi), and Lunabelle. Out of this group of seven, one and a half adults appear.

“GO ON, PODCAST HARDER” – Mr. H

“It's my goal to get married couples fighting.” – Dylan Thomas

“I shave my balls every week.” – Mr. H

“With a straight razor!” – Bradford

“Actually I like to use a bi razor.” – Ian, The Gentlemen

“I thought bi erasure was bad! 🙁 ” – Mr. H

*** EMBED CODE FOR PODCAST FROM LIBSYN GOES HERE YOU INSENSITIVE CLOD ***

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Intro Music: Conro – The Small Things
Outro Music: FLWR – Bust It Out

The British Commonwealth Bidet Invasion - Friday Night Delights - 2020-04-03 Apr 24, 2020

Today's episode was recorded live in front of a Patron supporter live audience! As part of our Friday Night Delights series, Mister and Mrs H, Angela, Bradford, and Ian The Gentlemen joined Dylan for an accidental pre-show for our regularly scheduled Friday Night Delights episode on April 3rd, 2020.

It's possible we've hit peak anus,

Enjoy!

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Intro Music: Rogue – Move Me
Outro Music: Bad Computer – Riddle

Connection and Love During Unprecedented Times - Friday Night Delights with the Swingset Apr 01, 2020

Ginger Bentham and Dylan Thomas get together with Swingset patrons to connect about connection, both with the people around us and in our communities. In uncertain times, we're making changes to keep ourselves and others safe from COVID-19 while still finding ways to be human to each other… and kind to ourselves.

They also get high and discuss the inflation in the dick and fart joke economy.

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Intro and Outro Music: Koven – Your Pain

Unf_ck Your Polyamory with Dr. Liz and Kevin Patterson Mar 29, 2020

Dylan and Ginger host Kevin Patterson and Dr. Liz Powell to discuss their new educational project: Unf_ck Your Polyamory. Whether it is relating to metamours, balancing time with partners, or communication, communication, communication, sustaining fulfilling polyamorous relationships requires a commitment to personal growth. Kevin and Dr. Liz are here to help!

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Intro, Interstitial, and Outro Music: Protostar feat. Emma McGann – Overdrive

Pushing Your Boundaries - Live at Krazy Winter Nights 2020! Mar 18, 2020

Ginger Bentham, Ryan (The Professor) Bentham, Dylan Thomas, and Cooper S. Beckett braved the great white northern territories of Maine and Chicago to travel to the great white northern territory of Omaha, NE to attend Krazy Winter Nights 2020! Their session, Pushing Your Boundaries, featured each member of the Swingset Crew relaying both their early struggles and early triumphs as they spoke about how they've grown over the years by pushing their boundaries… whether they meant to or not.

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Intro, Interstitial, and Outro Music: Koven – Followers

Finding Quality Information About Open Relationships with Emma and Fin Mar 04, 2020

Dylan, Ryan, and Ginger invite Emma and Fin from Normalizing Non-monogamy onto the Swingset to discuss finding quality information about how to open your relationship. When getting started in consensual non-monogamy, it is easy to get overwhelmed by the volume of information available. This discussion includes strategies and advice for finding quality guidance, as well as more than a few cautionary tales.

The Presenting Sponsor of today's episode is One, and if there's anyone that wants you to enjoy condoms it's One condoms! Visit lifeontheswingset.com/onecondoms, check out their Find Your Fit page and grab yourself a MyOne sample kit! Use promo code SWINGSET for 15% off!

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Intro Music: Sabai feat. Hoang and Claire Ridgely – Million Days
Outro Music: Half an Orange & Ephixa – Time Travel Kool Aid

The Whole Damn Preshow - Live before Krazy Winter Nights 2020! Feb 01, 2020

Ginger, Ryan, Dylan, and Cooper get together on Krazy Winter Nights 2020 eve, grab some Denny's, and … a convertrainwreck follows.

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Intro Music: Tony Romera – Stuck In Your Head
Outro Music: DESERT STAR – Empty Sky

Parenting While Solo Polyamorous and More Jan 31, 2020

Dylan and Ginger invite Lunabelle and Tikva, of Kimchi Cuddles, to talk parenting: what it is like to parent solo when you are polyamorous and what it's like to be solo polyamorous as a parent. Inspired by a listener question, the group dives deeper into the the practicalities and the the lived experience of parenting while open.

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Intro and Outro Music: Glacier – Still

A Sex Toy Story Jan 30, 2020

Dylan, Tonia, Ginger, Ryan the Prof, and Lunabelle share their experiences with incorporating sex toys into play. The weird, the intimidating, the playful, and the practical, all have a place in the action if everyone is agreeable. The group talks about when things have gone awry and when the toys made play transcendent. Climb up on the Swingset for a sex toy story!

A special thank you to NorCalCouple916 for sending us your orgasm!

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Intro and Outro Music: Protostar Feat. Emma McGann – Where I Belong
Voicemail Music: Summer Was Fun – Pick Up The Phone
Review Music: Haywyre – Sculpted

Gangbang the Mailbag 40: More Action with Bex and Kevin Jan 17, 2020

Bex Caputo and Kevin Patterson join Dylan and Ginger on the Swingset to give perspectives on some listener questions. From sharing you are polyamorous with your partner for the first time, to thoughts for an adventurous “unicorn,” to navigating group sex, these listeners asked and the Swingset answered.

And buy Kevin's fantastic new book, “For Hire: Audition.”

Question 1:

Lately I've come to terms with the fact that I identify as Bi-curious and polyamorous. I have also been in a monogamous relationship with my current partner and wife of 8 years. I've brought up that the fact that I'm interested in opening up our relationship, something she was at first intrigued by but now is very opposed to the idea.

She doesn't really understand how I can have feelings of love and attraction towards other people and still love and be attracted to her. Every time I bring it up she expresses that she feels hurt and is confused why, in her words, she is “not good enough”.

I've yet find a way to explain it in a way she can really understand my perspective. We honestly have a pretty decent relationship, pretty solid communication and a strong connection. At the same time I know in my heart that monogamy is not for me.

I love her and I really don't want to end it and at the same time I want the freedom to love, play with and experience other people. I also don't want to pressure her into doing something she really doesn't want to do. I apologize for the overshare but I'm just wondering if you have any suggestions or have run into this problem before?

Question 2:

I have a glorious opportunity to really explore my sensuality and expand my sexuality and. . . I don't know where to start.

At the end of 2018 My husband ended our 12 year marriage by finding another woman and fucking her behind my back. All he wanted was the typical cis straight male fantasy: FMF threesome but didn't want to go anywhere to find her.

Here's what I'm looking for- I really desire to explore my sexuality with men and maybe even women in a safe, open environment. Plus I really, really want sex again- it's been 4 freaking months already! I shy away from one night stands or just a quick wham bam. I'm definitely looking for more connection like progressive swinging but not ready for love at all yet.

I'm so confused (and scared to be honest). Do I: Try swinging for the first time as a unicorn? Try to find a best friend with benefits? Go to a swingers club? Try a swinging site? Just get on Tinder and hope for the best?

How do I keep myself safe as a single woman whether swinging or looking for sex?

Question 3:

My sexy wife and I really enjoy watching group sex/orgies at the club we go to and we are ready to take the next step. How in the world do we approach a group of undulating bodies to have sex with them. We are finally feeling confident enough, but have no idea what to do. Help us get in there!

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Intro and Outro Music: Infected Mushroom – Walking on the Moon

Swingset Takes Desire 8.0, Live at Desire Resort & Spa in Cancún! (re-issue) Dec 30, 2019

A resort full of Swingsetters walks into an oceanside gazebo…as you may imagine chaos and heartfelt moments ensue. Amidst the sea of sexies, Dylan, Ginger, and Cooper reflect on the eighth annual Desire Riviera Maya takeover with one magical night yet ahead.

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Gangbang the Mailbag 39 with Bex Caputo and Kevin Patterson Dec 30, 2019

That Swingset mailbag we all know and love was getting pretty full of listener questions. And since there is always a swing available on the Swingset, Dylan and Ginger invited Bex Caputo and Kevin Patterson to share their wisdom. The foursome takes on questions about mono-polyam relationship sustainability, supporting your partner's dating life, and finds time to catch up about some awesome life updates.

And buy Kevin's fantastic new book, “For Hire: Audition.”

We answer a listener voicemail on internalized feelings of guilt and shame, then proceed to answer the following emailed in questions:

Question 1:

I am half of a swinging/polyamorous couple. I have a fantastic dating life and want my husband to too! For some reason, he won't put himself out there because he said he feel like a creeper. He is, I think, overly respectful in that he thinks the not cool “single guy” baggage applies to him and it just isn't true. How can I get him to get out there? He will make a woman or some women in addition to me very happy.

Question 2:

We have been open for two years and have recently decided to be polyamorous. My husband will be remaining monogamous, but I feel I am my truest self if I am polyamorous.

I have been in a friends with benefits type situation with someone I now have strong feelings for. He is monogamous and I am unsure if he would be willing to date me. How do I go about talking to him about this?

I guess my question is, is a mono-poly relationship sustainable?

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Intro, Interstitial, and Outro Music: Pixel Terror – Millennia

Our Triad Sex Toys review of the Geeky Sex Toys' Dildek featured the song L O V E by ローマンRoman off the P A L M S ( D E L U X E ) album.

This track is licensed under the Creative Commons Attribution 3.0 Unported (CC BY 3.0) license.

Podcast Gangbang in Paradise! (feat. By the Bi and The Bedhoppers) Dec 09, 2019

Dylan, Tonia, Ginger, Ryan, Ophelia, and Cooper arrive early to the gorgeous ocean-side live podcast venue. They host Mr and Mrs H, the Bedhoppers, and Angela and Bradford of the By the Bi podcast for paradise-fueled, freeform, live podcast foreplay. As the gazebo starts to fill with Swingsetters, this large and motley crew discuss the mundane and outlandish with ocean waves in the background. Pull up a seat and join the chaos!

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Intro Music: Ephixa & Heartful – Sundance

Dispatches from Desire (Re-Issue) Nov 22, 2019

Dylan, Tonia, Ryan the Prof, and Ginger fall into a few stolen moments on the eighth annual Swingset Takes Desire trip. With the sounds of the ocean and the hot tub in the background, they each take turns waxing philosophical about whatever topic seems to float through their paradise-addled minds. Not quite a bad cast, but close enough to earn the coveted Swingset chaos label. Kick back for a dose of dispatches from Desire.

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Intro Music: Conro – Take Me There
Outro Music: Notaker – Wake Up, You're Dreaming

Premature Desirejaculation Oct 29, 2019

Join Dylan, Tonia, Ginger, Ryan (aka Prof), and the Swinger Doc as they storytell and anticipate the eighth Swingset Takes Desire trip. This annual bacchanal brings with it the excitement of anticipation (read: foreplay) and the exhilaration of dreams come true. As reminiscences morph into future possibilities, listen in as desires are laid bare. And really the desires laid bare are the best desires, wouldn't you say?

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Intro Music: Julian Calor – Dream Odyssey
Outro Music: CloudNone – Midnight Underground

Keeping the Sexy in Risk Aware Sex Oct 26, 2019

Dylan, Tonia, Ginger, and Ryan (aka Prof) are excited to invite the Swinger Doc back onto the Swingset. As the Swinger Doc says, “Be safe but be sexy!” Stewarding your sexual health and deciding for yourself what risk aware means for you are facets of living in the consensually non-monogamous world. The crew discusses all manner of risk aware sex practices, resisting STI stigma, and helpful communication strategies to keep the sexy in risk aware sex.

The crew references the recent Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) report as referenced by CNN.

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Intro Music: Throttle 7 – Where u Are
Interstitial and Outro Music: Tokyo Machine – TURBO

Sustaining Open Relationships Through Life's Challenges (Part Two), Live at #Naughty2019 Oct 13, 2019

Dylan, Ginger, and Ryan present live in front of an audience at Naughty in N'awlins for part two of their panel, Sustaining Open Relationships through Life's Challenges. Not your typical swinger convention topic, the trio share their heartfelt stories about loss, health and medical trauma, and facing death. It's not often on the Swingset that the crew shares about such heavy and activating topics, so choose wisely when you cue up this episode, Swingsetters. Yet the vulnerability, rawness, and emotion are all a part of this life and therefore a part of open relationships. Listen as Dylan, Ginger, and Ryan share their perspectives and strategies for coping, getting your mojo back, and even thriving while healing and integrating traumatic life experiences.

We mentioned Andrew Gurza during the panel. You can find his work, both the Disability After Dark podcast and his work as a Disability Awareness Consultant at AndrewGurza.com, and you can find him twitter @theandrewgurza. If you run events than you should contact Andrew to learn how to offer accommodations for all your event attendees.

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Tristan Taormino is coming to Desire… are you? Join us from November 2nd through the 9th this 2019 for Life on the Swingset’s eighth trip to Desire! Visit swingsetdesire.com for more information!

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Intro and Interstitial Music: CloudNone & Paul Aiden – Anonymous
Outro Music: DESERT STAR – Edge of the World

Our Triad Review segment includes music by ローマンRoman titled: L O V E, off the P A L M S ( D E L U X E ) album.

This track is licensed under the Creative Commons Attribution 3.0 Unported (CC BY 3.0) license.

Sustaining Open Relationships Through Life's Challenges (Part One), Live at #Naughty2019 Oct 01, 2019

Dylan, Ginger, and Ryan present live in front of an audience at Naughty in N'awlins. Not your typical swinger convention topic, the trio share their heartfelt stories about loss, health and medical trauma, and facing death. It's not often on the Swingset that the crew shares about such heavy and activating topics, so choose wisely when you cue up this episode, Swingsetters. Yet the vulnerability, rawness, and emotion are all a part of this life and therefore a part of open relationships. Listen as Dylan, Ginger, and Ryan share their perspectives and strategies for coping, getting your mojo back, and even thriving while healing and integrating traumatic life experiences.

We mentioned Andrew Gurza during the panel. You can find his work, both the Disability After Dark podcast and his work as a Disability Awareness Consultant at AndrewGurza.com, and you can find him twitter @theandrewgurza. If you run events than you should contact Andrew to learn how to offer accommodations for all your event attendees.

Tristan Taormino is coming to Desire… are you? Join us from November 2nd through the 9th this 2019 for Life on the Swingset’s eighth trip to Desire! Visit swingsetdesire.com for more information!

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Intro, Interstitial, and Outro Music: Direct & Matt Van – Cold Ground

Our Triad Review segment includes music by ローマンRoman titled: L O V E, off the P A L M S ( D E L U X E ) album.

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Reviews and Riffin' Sep 20, 2019

Dylan and Ginger hang out with the Swingset patrons for a live podcast of reviews, listener questions, and some ridiculousness. Ryan The Professor makes his way into this episode like a wrecking ball to share his thoughts. From solo polyamorous parenting to fluid-bonding, these three climb up on the Swingset to riff. And riff they do.

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Intro and Outro Music: Tails & Juelz – Cobra
Voicemail Music: Summer Was Fun – Pick Up The Phone
Review Music: Haywyre – Sculpted

Pushing Your Edge - Personal Growth Through Sexual Adventure, Live at #Naughty2019 Sep 11, 2019

Dylan, Ginger, and Cooper presented in front of a live audience at Naughty in N'awlins 2019 about how sexual adventure impacts one's personal growth. Sharing stories, lessons they've learned, and strategies they've employed during their sexual adventuring, the Swingset crew invites you to explore your own personal growth. Pushing your edge and being curious about yourself while sexing can be another facet of the experience along with all the pleasure and fun!

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Intro and Interstitial Music: Au5 Feat. Danyka Nadeau – Eden
Interstitial Music: Bossfight – No Sleep
Outro Music: Disero feat. Joshua Smith – Like That – 02 Like That (Acoustic)

Swingset Origin Stories, Recorded Live at #Naughty2019! Sep 01, 2019

Dylan, Ginger, and Cooper visited New Orleans for Naughty in N'awlins 2019! Among the the sexiness and debauchery, Naughty offers educational sessions and demonstrations, and spaces for panel discussions. in this episode, the Swingset crew relays their origin stories: Where they are, where they were, and how they got there.

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Intro Music: Grant – Wishes
Interstitial and Outro Music: Just A Gent & Nevve – Open Spaces

The New Swinger Experience! (Reissue) Aug 26, 2019

We all start somewhere in the lifestyle and the Swingset is an ideal place to access that welcoming hand! Dylan and Ginger are joined by two wise, experienced, and fantastically fun couples: Diana and Keiland, party hosts from Dallas Texas, and Tori and Soul of the Torrid Souls podcast. This dynamic discussion covers practical topics such as what to expect from your first party to deeper perspectives exploring race and sexual orientation in consensual non-monogamy. The whole ensemble shares their origin stories and some spicy stories! Join us on the Swingset for this strong, hot take on Swinger Parties 101!

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Intro Music: Duumu & MIA – Talk!
Interstitial Music: Justin OH – Don't Bring Me Down
Outro Music: Half an Orange – Sunscreen

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The BBW Experience, w/Carly and Ronda Aug 12, 2019

Dylan and Ginger enjoy a conversation with Carly and Ronda about the Big, Beautiful Woman (BBW) experience. In a powerful and vulnerable discussion, Carly and Ronda share their journeys and the source of their personal power. As voluptuous, fat bitches, they generously share their strategies for everyone, especially the BBWs, to navigate the world with the confidence to own the room like they do. Join us in learning from these pretty hot and tempting (PHAT) women!

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Music: Rogue - Lets Talk

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LOTS x Sex Out Loud @ Pleasure Chest Chicago! (Part 2) Jul 22, 2019

Tristan Taormino brings Sex Out Loud and Dylan, Ginger, and Cooper bring Life on the Swingset to the Pleasure Chest Chicago for a two hour chat and attendee Q&A about:

Bisexual Male Acceptance
Swinging and community
Welcoming People, including Racially Diverse, people into the community
White Supremacy, Fragility, Shame Spirals, and Erasure
Single Men and the Barriers they face in Swinging

…and more!

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Intro Music: Conro – Thrill of It
Outro Music: Infected Mushroom – Kababies

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LOTS x Sex Out Loud @ Pleasure Chest Chicago! (Part 1) Jun 30, 2019

Tristan Taormino brings Sex Out Loud and Dylan, Ginger, and Cooper bring Life on the Swingset to the Pleasure Chest Chicago for a two hour chat and attendee Q&A about:

Bisexual Acceptance
Kink, including Tristan's stories from Twisted Tryst
Single men at sexy and kink events
How to find community

…and more!

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Intro and Music: Rootkit – Voyage (Kage Remix)

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Away With Our Partners! Jun 17, 2019

Dylan Thomas and Ginger Bentham are both without their partners. Dylan and Ginger decide that it's more fun to cope with their traveling partners by dragging them kicking and streaming onto the Swingset! The Swingset welcomes back Tonia Thomas and Ryan, also known as… The Professor!

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Intro Music: Conro – All I Want
Outro Music: CloudNone & Direct feat. Matt Van – Lost and Found

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Parenting is F*cking Hard Jun 01, 2019

Parenting is fucking hard… so Ginger Bentham, Lunabelle and Dylan Thomas get together to talk about it. They discuss working around child sitting, showing affection to partners, how open to be at various ages, and more.

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Intro Music: Stonebank – Drop Bombs
Review Music: Haywyre – Sculpted
Outro Music: Disero feat. Josh Smith – Like That

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THE 350TH EPISODE SWINGALONG SPECTACULAR! Apr 17, 2019

The Life on the Swingset crew, Dylan Thomas, Ginger Bentham, Mister Pent… and maybe even, could it really be, Cooper S. Beckett, get together and enjoy each other's company for the 350th episode of Life on the Swingset!

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Intro Music: Grant feat. McCall – Wishes
Review Music: Haywyre – Sculpted
Outro Music: Notaker feat. Eric Lumiere – Each Other

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Ginger and Dylan Catch Up and Rediscover Themselves Apr 10, 2019

Ginger Bentham and Dylan Thomas sit down together and catch up! They’ve had a lot of life happen in a very short amount of time. Ginger relays her experience in the desert, Dylan talks about moving through swinger spaces at takeovers and clubs, and they read and comment on lots of listener reviews!

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The primary hotel for the US’s largest swinger festival Naughty in N’awlins is almost sold out! Come get Naughty with Cooper S. Beckett, Ginger Bentham, and Dylan Thomas this July 24-28 at Naughty in Nawlins!

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Intro and Outro Music: Conro – Remember You

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Sex Out Loud at Swingset Takes Desire 2018 Mar 26, 2019

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Squishing Off - Getting Experimental with our Genitals Mar 13, 2019

Dylan Thomas, Ginger Bentham, and Lunabelle of Ninja Sexology dive deep into the many ways genitals love stimulation and chat about being experimental with genitals.

Lunabelle talks about Squishing Off, the Tantus Anaconda, and the Tantus Hoss.

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Intro Music: Pegboard Nerds – Try This
Interstitial Music: Bishu feat. Mister Blonde – Get To Know Me
Interstitial Music 2: Murdock feat. Veela – In Touch
Outro Music: Direct & Killabyte feat. Matt Van – One Less Star

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SS 346: Gang Bang the Mailbag 38 - Ideas about Size, Smooth Divorce, and BBWs Mar 02, 2019

Tonight the Swingset opens the mailbag... but does so carefully, as it's -20F outside. Dylan Thomas, Ginger Bentham, Bex Caputo, and Lunabelle answer your listener questions!

Question 1:

My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 years. We have amazing sex, but I can't seem to get satisfied sexually. We have sex/oral sex at least twice a day, but it seems like the more I orgasm, the more I crave it. He's slightly below average size, and I don't have any problems with his size because he knows what to do with it, but he's very self-conscious about his size. I'd love to bring up the topic of polyamory to him, but I'm afraid he'll feel like I want to do it just to be with someone bigger. In fact, I'm 100% positive that is what he would think. I've always felt that I might be bisexual. I'm fascinated with being with a woman, but I don't know how he'll react. Of course, it's every guys fantasy to have a threesome, but because of his self-consciousness, I don't think he'd be interested. I won't lie, being with someone bigger is also a curiosity of mine. He has a phobia (?) of someone bigger changing the way my vagina feels to him, so even if he were interested in swinging, I don't think he'd want me to be with another man.

I love him very much, but I feel like there are a lot of things I want to experience and I'm not getting any younger (I'm 36). I don't want to break up over it, because I'm very happy with him, but I'd also like to see what his thoughts are about it. How can I bring it up in a subtle, non-threatening way that might make him more interested?

Question 2:

My spouse and I are considering divorce. We love each other so much, but 15 years of marriage has left it's scars. We both have other partners, and breaking up with them, or closing our relationship at all is not on the table. These relationships are long standing, and breaking up would hurt multiple people and breed resentment. Besides, the openness of our relationship is not the issue. Do you have any advice for maintaining secondary relationships while the primary is in trouble? How to maintain boundaries when your whole life is up in the air?

Hope that's not too long! I love your podcast, and I especially love listening to it at work, where everyone thinks I'm a sweet normal and slightly boring office manager.

Question 3:

We are always taught to think of ourselves as being sexy but we won't look at ourselves and imagine ourselves as being sexy individuals. One of the problems that I've seen recently is you look at profiles or even advertise it for things even the desire takeover is we talked a get-together of sexy people or people say we are looking for other sexy couples.

The man that couples look it up and see that she is a BBW or I am a short chunky guy we no longer fit that is sexy category and both know hurts her feelings hurt our feelings.

Why is it that BBW it's almost turned into a niche versus just a description of an individual? It's almost like you're not an individual you're a BBW so you don't fit into this category and I've seen this very very bad in the swingers world.

So my question would be for you all is have you seen this how open are you to BBWs in your opinion of BBWs and how suggestion would you make to BBWs to get themselves more confident comfortable and energetic about the lifestyle itself?

Lunabelle mentioned her post, "I Like Big Toys and I Cannot Lie".

Ginger mentioned the Unfuckwithable video.

Dylan mentioned Elle Chase's book, Curvy Girl Sex .

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SS 345: Infinite Ways to Love and Play - A Nonmonogamy Panel Feb 21, 2019

Cooper S. Beckett, Dylan Thomas, Lyndzi Miller, along with Kayla moderating, discuss nonmonogamy in a panel titled: Infinite Ways to Love and Play. This was recorded LIVE at the Tool Shed, An Erotic Boutique, in MIlwaukee, Wisconsin.

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Intro Music: Tut Tut Child – Breathe (feat. Danyka Nadeau)

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SS 344: Kira Royale and Mike - A Café Swingset Interview Jan 31, 2019

Kira Royale and Mike joined us in 2018 for our trip to paradise, and when Dylan Thomas put the call out for interviews, they physically jumped at the opportunity. They discuss swinger spaces and what makes a space truly great, connecting with other people, and their experiences in the lifestyle.

Join us in Paradise from November 2-9, 2019 for Swingset Takes Desire 2019! We are already over 45% booked so get those early bird reservations in now! If you’ve previously attended with us you’re eligible for a special offer! Visit swingsetdesire.com!

Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will get you invited to a private chat with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings, and listen to episodes commercial free, and with outtakes!

You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe.

The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher! Also, follow us on Spotify!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).

You can now order Cooper’s novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%.

Dylan Thomas is available for for podcast consultation and production work. If you’re interested, visit www.dylanthethomas.com.

Intro Music: CloudNone – Blue To Blue
Outro Music: Kill Paris – Magic

Our Naughty in Nawlins Advertisement includes music by ローマンRoman titled: COBRA 320 SPEEDBOAT, off the Paradise album.

This track is licensed under the Creative Commons Attribution 3.0 Unported (CC BY 3.0) license.

SS 343: Total Desire Recall 2, Part 2! Jan 23, 2019

JV Altharas, and Shara Bono once again join Cooper S. Beckett, Ginger Bentham, and Dylan Thomas to continue discussing the debauchery and delight that was… Life on the Swingset takes Desire 2018.

Join us in Paradise from November 2-9, 2019 for Swingset Takes Desire 2019! We are already 30% booked so get those early bird reservations in now! If you’ve previously attended with us you’re eligible for a special offer! Visit swingsetdesire.com!

Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will get you invited to a private chat with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings, and listen to episodes commercial free, and with outtakes!

You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe.

The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher! Also, follow us on Spotify!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).

You can now order Cooper’s novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%.

Dylan Thomas is available for for podcast consultation and production work. If you’re interested, visit www.dylanthethomas.com.

Our Naughty in Nawlins Advertisement includes music by ローマンRoman titled: COBRA 320 SPEEDBOAT, off the Paradise album.

Our episode music includes music by ローマンRoman and Pacintosh Mlus titled c r y s t a l p e p s i off the THAT’S WHAT I CALL VAPORWAVE album.

These tracks are licensed under the Creative Commons Attribution 3.0 Unported (CC BY 3.0) license.

SS 342: Polyamorous Authors and Representation, with Kevin Patterson and Alana Phelan Jan 16, 2019

Authors of the new Paperback, For Hire: Operator, Alana Phelan and Kevin Patterson, join Dylan Thomas, Cooper S. Beckett, and Ginger Bentham to talk about being polyamorous authors and writing with an eye on representation and being true to ourselves.

Join us in Paradise from November 2-9, 2019 for Swingset Takes Desire 2019! We are already 30% booked so get those early bird reservations in now! If you've previously attended with us you're eligible for a special offer! Visit swingsetdesire.com!

Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will get you invited to a private chat with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings, and listen to episodes commercial free, and with outtakes!

You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe.

The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher! Also, follow us on Spotify!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).

You can now order Cooper's novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%.

Dylan Thomas is available for for podcast consultation and production work. If you're interested, visit www.dylanthethomas.com.

SS 341: Total Desire Recall 2 Jan 09, 2019

Tristan Taormino, JV Altharas, and Shara Bono join Cooper S. Beckett, Ginger Bentham, and Dylan Thomas in reveling in the debauchery and delight that was… Life on the Swingset takes Desire 2018.

Join us in Paradise from November 2-9, 2019 for Swingset Takes Desire 2019! We are already 30% booked so get those early bird reservations in now! If you’ve previously attended with us you’re eligible for a special offer! Visit swingsetdesire.com!

Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will get you invited to a private chat with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings, and listen to episodes commercial free, and with outtakes!

You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe.

The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher! Also, follow us on Spotify!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).

You can now order Cooper’s novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%.

Dylan Thomas is available for for podcast consultation and production work. If you’re interested, visit www.dylanthethomas.com.

Our Naughty in Nawlins Advertisement includes music by ローマンRoman titled: COBRA 320 SPEEDBOAT, off the Paradise album.

Our episode music includes music by ローマンRoman and Pacintosh Mlus titled c r y s t a l p e p s i off the THAT’S WHAT I CALL VAPORWAVE album.

These tracks are licensed under the Creative Commons Attribution 3.0 Unported (CC BY 3.0) license.

SS 340 - Tay, Jay, Lara and Patrick - A Café Swingset Interview Dec 31, 2018

Life on the Swingset takes Desire 2018 was a rousing and rejuvenating success. During the trip, Dylan put out a call: Would you like to be interviewed? If so, bug me! Patrick, Lara, Jay, and Tay answered immediately and couldn't wait to get on, so... pull up a seat in Café Swingset and listen in as Dylan sits down with Patrick, Lara, Jay, and Tay for an interview and conversation about their experiences together at Desire.

Join us in Paradise from November 2-9, 2019 for Swingset Takes Desire 2019! We are already 30% booked so get those early bird reservations in now! If you’ve previously attended with us you’re eligible for a special offer! Visit swingsetdesire.com!

Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will get you invited to a private chat with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings, and listen to episodes commercial free, and with outtakes!

You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe.

The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher! Also, follow us on Spotify!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).

You can now order Cooper’s novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%.

Dylan Thomas is available for for podcast consultation and production work. If you’re interested, visit www.dylanthethomas.com.

Review Music: Haywyre – Sculpted
Intro and Interstitial Music: Hyper Potions & Nokae – Expedition
Interstitial Music 2: Slippy feat. Sara Skinner – Show Me
Interstitial Music 3 and Outro Music: Protostar & MakO – No Fire – 01 No Fire (feat. Rachel Hirons)

Our Naughty in Nawlins Advertisement includes music by ローマンRoman titled: COBRA 320 SPEEDBOAT, off the Paradise album.

These tracks are licensed under the Creative Commons Attribution 3.0 Unported (CC BY 3.0) license.

SS 339: Just the Three of Us - A Café Swingset Chat Dec 22, 2018

Uneven, difficult, unique, surprising, evolving, exceptional. These are all words that describe Cooper's, Dylan's, and Ginger's lives on the Swingset. Tonight they turn down the lights, sit across the table, and chat... "Just the three of us."

Join us in Paradise from November 2-9, 2019 for Swingset Takes Desire 2019! We are already 30% booked so get those early bird reservations in now! If you’ve previously attended with us you’re eligible for a special offer! Visit swingsetdesire.com!

Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will get you invited to a private chat with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings, and listen to episodes commercial free, and with outtakes!

You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe.

The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher! Also, follow us on Spotify!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).

You can now order Cooper’s novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%.

Dylan Thomas is available for for podcast consultation and production work. If you’re interested, visit www.dylanthethomas.com.

Intro Music: Laszlo – Intro (Full Circle)
Interstitial Music: Laszlo – Destination
Interstitial Music: Laszlo – Under Pressure
Review Music: Haywyre – Sculpted
Outro Music: Laszlo – Law of the Jungle

SS 338: My Dinner With Swingset in Paradise - A Dinnercast! Dec 05, 2018

Join Cooper S. Beckett, Ginger Bentham, and Dylan Thomas, and Ophilia Tesla, The Professor, and Antonia Thomas, as they chat for nearly two hours over dinner at Sahlo, a restaurant at Desire Riviera Maya.

We’re thrilled to announce that we are ALREADY BOOKING for 2019’s Desire trip! Join us from November 2nd through the 9th, 2019 for Life on the Swingset’s eighth trip to Desire! Visit SSDesire.com for more information!

Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will get you invited to a private chat with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings, and listen to extended episodes commercial free, and with outtakes!

You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe.

The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher! Also, follow us on Spotify!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).

You can now order Cooper’s novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%.

Dylan Thomas is available for for podcast consultation and production work. If you’re interested, visit www.dylanthethomas.com.

Our Naughty in Nawlins Advertisement includes music by ローマンRoman titled: COBRA 320 SPEEDBOAT, off the Paradise album.

These tracks are licensed under the Creative Commons Attribution 3.0 Unported (CC BY 3.0) license.

SS 337: Relationship Struggles: Emotional Black Holes Nov 30, 2018

Relationships are often worth the effort. People are worth the effort... until they're not. Tonight, Bex Caputo and Lunabelle join Dylan Thomas and Ginger Bentham to discuss when the people we like stop putting in the effort to be with us, and when the effort we send their way feels like it falls into a black hole.

Relationships are often worth the effort. People are worth the effort… until they’re not. Tonight, Bex Caputo and Lunabelle join Dylan Thomas and Ginger Bentham to discuss when the people we like stop putting in the effort to be with us, and when the effort we send their way feels like it falls into a black hole.

Join us in Paradise from November 2-9, 2019 for Swingset Takes Desire 2019! We are already 30% booked so get those early bird reservations in now! If you’ve previously attended with us you’re eligible for a special offer! Visit swingsetdesire.com!

Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will get you invited to a private chat with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings, and listen to episodes commercial free, and with outtakes!

You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe.

The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher! Also, follow us on Spotify!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).

You can now order Cooper’s novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%.

Dylan Thomas is available for for podcast consultation and production work. If you’re interested, visit www.dylanthethomas.com.

Intro Music: SLUMBERJACK & Machine Age – Daggers
Review Music: Haywyre – Sculpted
Lunabelle’s Music: Varien – Snowlight
Outro Music: Dion Timmer – Leave

Swingtowns Advertisement includes the track さようなら GOOD BYE, and the Effing Foundation Advertisement includes the track シドニーSYDNEY.

This track is licensed under the Creative Commons Attribution 3.0 Unported (CC BY 3.0) license.

SS 336: The Swingset Takes Desire – Year Seven Live! Nov 17, 2018

Much as the Harry Potter series did when they reached Year Seven, we go long, overstuffed, earnest, and sometimes brash. Our annual trip to Desire Resort Riviera Maya is here, and Cooper S. Beckett, Ginger Bentham, and Dylan Thomas sat down with a wonderful group of Swingsetters in the courtyard of the resort to podcast live!

We also give away special gifts from Tabu Toys, The Lucky Bloke, Kat Stark, and By the Bi!

We’re thrilled to announce that we are ALREADY BOOKING for 2019’s Desire trip! Join us from November 2nd through the 9th, 2019 for Life on the Swingset’s eighth trip to Desire! Visit SSDesire.com for more information!

Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will get you invited to a private chat with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings, and listen to extended episodes commercial free, and with outtakes!

You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe.

The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher! Also, follow us on Spotify!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).

You can now order Cooper’s novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%.

Dylan Thomas is available for for podcast consultation and production work. If you’re interested, visit www.dylanthethomas.com.

Do you have a sex positive project? Would you be interested in a grant? Visiting the Effing Foundation at effing.org/grants!

Intro Music and Life on the Swingset 2018 – 2019 Theme Music: Puppet – Vagabond
Review Music: Haywyre – Sculpted
Interstitial Music: Conro – Midnight Lights (feat. Ini Oladosu)
Outro Music: Laszlo – Better

Our Desire 2019 Intro includes music by ローマンRoman titled: Bikini, off the Paradise album. Our Swingtowns Advertisement includes the track さようなら GOOD BYE.

These tracks are licensed under the Creative Commons Attribution 3.0 Unported (CC BY 3.0) license.

SS 335: Blowjobs² Oct 30, 2018

Who doesn't love talking about blow-jobs? Bex Caputo from the Dildorks Podcast rejoins Dylan Thomas, Cooper S. Beckett, and Ginger Bentham to continue on for a whole new episode, doing a deeper dive into giving and receiving blowjobs, cock-worship, and dildos.

Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will get you invited to a private chat with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings, and listen to episodes commercial free, and with outtakes!

You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe.

The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher! Also, follow us on Spotify!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).

You can now order Cooper’s novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%.

Dylan Thomas is available for for podcast consultation and production work. If you’re interested, visit www.dylanthethomas.com.

Life on the Swingset 2018 – 2019 Theme Music: Puppet – Vagabond
Intro and Interstitial Music: Au5 & Nytrix – Only In A Dream
Review Music: Haywyre – Sculpted
Robot Ginger’s Music: Robotaki – Automaton
Outro Music: Stonebank – Let You Down (feat. Danyka Nadeau)

Cooper S. Beckett Dylan Thomas Ginger Bentham Bex Caputo

SS 334: Gettin' Some While on the Road! Oct 22, 2018

One of the difficulties of being in a community like non-monogamy is that your people are spread all over the country and the world. Often we travel to travel to see them, and sometimes when traveling for other reasons, it’s nice to send up the beacon and see who answers. Join Dylan Thomas, Ginger Bentham, Bex Caputo, and Lunabelle talk about their experiences on the road and offer advice on how to connect with people while on the road.

Tristan Taormino’s #AllIn for Desire… are you? Join us from November 3rd through the 10th this 2018 for Life on the Swingset’s seventh trip to Desire! Visit www.ssdesire.com for more information!

Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will get you invited to a private chat with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings, and listen to episodes commercial free, and with outtakes!

You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe.

The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher! Also, follow us on Spotify!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).

You can now order Cooper’s novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%.

Dylan Thomas is available for for podcast consultation and production work. If you’re interested, visit www.dylanthethomas.com.

Life on the Swingset 2018 – 2019 Theme Music: Puppet – Vagabond
Intro Music: Conro – The Roaming Road
Interstitial Music: Conro – Trippin
Review Music: Haywyre – Sculpted
Lunabelle’s Music: Knife Party & Pegboard Nerds – Harpoon
Outro Music: EMBA & SMLE – 15 Story Jump

Our Desire 2018 Advertisement includes music by ローマンRoman titled: ビキニ BIKINI, off the Paradise album. Our Swingtowns Advertisement includes the track さようなら GOOD BYE. Our Desire 2018 Bulletin includes the track: b a b e, off the THAT’S WHAT I CALL VAPORWAVE album.

These tracks are licensed under the Creative Commons Attribution 3.0 Unported (CC BY 3.0) license.

SS 333: Giving and Receiving Amazing Blowjobs Oct 02, 2018

Tonight Bex Caputo from The Dildorks podcast joins Cooper S. Beckett, Dylan Thomas, and Ginger Bentham to talk about giving and receiving amazing blowjobs. The crew offers tips, tricks, recount personal techniques, and more!

Bex mentions that his favorite dildo is the Vixskin Gambler... a truly impressive dildo.

Tristan Taormino’s #AllIn for Desire… are you? Join us from November 3rd through the 10th this 2018 for Life on the Swingset’s seventh trip to Desire! Visit www.ssdesire.com for more information!

Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will get you invited to a private chat with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings, and listen to episodes commercial free, and with outtakes!

You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe.

The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher! Also, follow us on Spotify!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).

You can now order Cooper's novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%.

Dylan Thomas is available for for podcast consultation and production work. If you're interested, visit www.dylanthethomas.com.

Life on the Swingset 2018 - 2019 Theme Music: Puppet - Vagabond
Intro Music: Crankdat & Tisoki - Wobble
Interstitial & Outro Music: Vicetone - Walk Thru Fire (feat. Meron Ryan)
Review Music: Haywyre - Sculpted

Our Desire 2018 Advertisement includes music by ローマンRoman titled: ビキニ BIKINI, off the Paradise album. Our Swingtowns Advertisement includes the track さようなら GOOD BYE.

These tracks are licensed under the Creative Commons Attribution 3.0 Unported (CC BY 3.0) license.

Cooper S Beckett Dylan Thomas Ginger Bentham

SS 332: Revisiting Soft Swap & Full Swap - Styles of Swinging Sep 10, 2018

Tristan Taormino’s #AllIn for Desire… are you? Join us from November 3rd through the 10th this 2018 for Life on the Swingset’s seventh trip to Desire! Visit www.ssdesire.com for more information!

Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will get you invited to a private chat with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings, and listen to episodes commercial free, and with outtakes!

You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe.

The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher! Also, follow us on Spotify!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).

You can now order Cooper's novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%.

Dylan Thomas is available for for podcast consultation and production work. If you're interested, visit www.dylanthethomas.com.

Do you have a sex positive project? Would you be interested in a grant? Visiting the Effing Foundation at effing.org/grants!

Intro Music: Conro - September
Review Music: Haywyre - Sculpted
Interstitial Music: Tokyo Machine - FLY
Outro Music: Keepsake - This Time Around f/ Slyleaf

Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!

Our Desire 2018 Advertisement includes music by ローマンRoman titled: Bikini, off the Paradise album. Our “where can our listeners find you” segment includes パラダイス PARADISE , our Swingtowns Advertisement includes the track さようなら GOOD BYE, and the Effing Foundation Advertisement includes the track シドニーSYDNEY.

These tracks are licensed under the Creative Commons Attribution 3.0 Unported (CC BY 3.0) license.

Cooper S Beckett Dylan Thomas Dirty Lola Mr. Pent

SS 331: Swinging and Polyamory when Broke AF Aug 20, 2018

A lot of the people are pretty broke, though most are willing to add the caveat of privilege being able to basic niceties and even engage in a little treat every once in a while. Some of the trappings that go along with swinging and polyamory, namely the frequent outings, overnight stays at hotels and swing clubs, are things that can add up very quickly. Tonight, Cooper S. Beckett, Dylan Thomas, Chris Pent, Dr. Liz Powell, and Dirty Lola get together to talk about how to swing and date polyamorously while being broke as fuck.

Ginger Bentham is #AllIn for Desire… are you? Join us from November 3rd through the 10th this 2018 for Life on the Swingset’s seventh trip to Desire! Visit www.ssdesire.com for more information!

Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will get you invited to a private chat with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings, and listen to episodes commercial free, and with outtakes!

You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe.

The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher! Also, follow us on Spotify!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).

You can now order Cooper's novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%.

Dylan Thomas is available for for podcast consultation and production work. If you're interested, visit www.dylanthethomas.com.

Do you have a sex positive project? Would you be interested in a grant? Visiting the Effing Foundation at effing.org/grants!

Check out the Sex Down South conference, hosted at the Hilton Atlanta from September 6th through the 8th, 2018! Located in Atlanta, GA, the Sex Down South Conference provides sexuality workshops taught by educated and amazing presenters from around the world. Enthusiasts join in the fun and learn from the best - all while doing it in an inclusive and loving environment. Visit sexdownsouth.com for ticket information!

Intro Music: Soulji - One Night
Interstitial Music: Dion Timmer - The Right Type (feat. Jade LeMac)
Review Music: Haywyre - Sculpted
Dr. Liz Powell's Music: Summer Was Fun - Hold On (feat. Q'AILA)
Chris Pent's Music: Tokyo Machine – BUBBLES
Outro Music: Dirtyphonics - Sayonara

Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!

Our Desire 2018 Advertisement includes music by ローマンRoman titled: Bikini, off the Paradise album. Our "where can our listeners find you" segment includes パラダイス PARADISE , our Swingtowns Advertisement includes the track さようなら GOOD BYE, and the Effing Foundation Advertisement includes the track シドニーSYDNEY.

The Sex Down South Advertisement includes music by ローマンRoman titled: Internet Archive - O N L I N E off the THAT'S WHAT I CALL VAPORWAVE album.

These tracks are licensed under the Creative Commons Attribution 3.0 Unported (CC BY 3.0) license.

Cooper S Beckett Dylan Thomas Dr. Liz Powell Dirty Lola Mr. Pent

SS 330: Gang Bang the Mailbag 37 - Pet Play, Wallflowers, Canadian Clubs Aug 12, 2018

Tonight's Gang Bang the Mailbag is the crew's 37th, and they're doing it in force! Cooper S. Beckett , Dylan Thomas , Ginger Bentham, Dirty Lola, Mister Pent, and Dr. Liz Powell get together to answer your questions! You can send them questions to answer by calling 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464) or sending them an email!

Question 1:

I have recently come to the conclusion there is not a God or at least not the way we see god in most major religions and it was freeing. My husband and I started talking about sex and fantasies and I even tried some of the BDSM stuff but the idea of becoming submissive and giving up my free will even for pretend makes me angry and that stuff makes me want to cry and is the complete opposite of a turn on. I know much of it comes from realizing I was told my WHOLE life I had to be submissive to a man and that he was the head of the household an I am sure you have heard this.

My husband really wants to try pet play. I am not judgmental and I keep trying to encourage him to keep looking for someone to act this fantasy out with. He wants me to do it but even watching the videos makes me feel extremely upset especially if they have sound and are barking orders at their pets. I don’t find it disrespectful for him to want to engage in this what I do find disrespectful is for him to expect me to somehow learn to enjoy it.

He seems to think I will come around like I did with other things like anal sex which I was very against until I took god out of my live entirely and realized it was not a sin. After that it was painful and he thought it was emotional then I heard an episode of swingset that helped me realize the initial pain would go away if i could relax but I always have a little pain. Ever since then he seems to think if I just keep doing something I will eventually learn to like it. He even tries to do things like tell me to sit while I am already sitting and feed me a “treat.” I can't stand it and I have told him so and he just keeps doing it or variations of it. I will put on kitty ears or puppy ears and play dress up but it just seems to drive more of the pushing for more behavior so then I still can't enjoy myself.

The bottom line is that I would really like him to quit trying to make me like things that I have such negative feelings about participating in.

Is there something wrong with me for not being able to enjoy his fantasies? Am I being ridiculous or selfish? I really don’t know anymore I don’t have that false moral compass to guide me anymore.

Question 2:

My husband and I are new to swinging, and I guess you could call us wallflowers. We went to our first club last weekend and just sort of hung out. We're both...reasonably attractive...but didn't get approached at all. I know you always say you should ask for what we want, and it's on us for not doing that, but any other advice for the wallflowers out there?

We're considering your desire trip, and are sorta worried we'd do the same thing at that resort.

Question 3:

My wife and I recently decided to explore the lifestyle. Living in Ottawa there is now really only one active club, we also have become members of a private club, which we truly enjoy in the summer months.

We are still new to this, we are moving slowly, we are more about connections. We enjoy the friends that we have made so far, it is nice to get together with like minded individuals, not having to worry about conversation that at times can become very sexual or hot. Your podcasts have been enlightening about nervousness, rules, boundaries, most of all about inclusiveness.

I am a hetroflexible male and my wife has learned that she is pansexual. The hardest thing we find in the area is that the clubs here are not very open to bisexual men, they also try to exclude single men most times. I understand the reasons that I have been given, they have had and continue to have single men that are too aggressive and do not respect the boundaries.

The one club allows single men on Friday nights. The club also has fetish and kink nights periodically to try and be more inclusive, these events are open to everyone. I feel that I try to be sensitive and caring to everyone. I just think it would be awesome to have an area where everyone can go and have a great, safe and open environment.

My vision would be something something like Oasis in Toronto, but open to everyone, or at least open to all couples, with no bias on gender. To me it would be a start. Thank you for sharing your podcasts, they are very informative.

Question 4:

A couple of years ago my husband asked if we could try a threesome. We were having sexual satisfaction issues due to stress he was dealing with at the time which made me feel insecure.

Recently we've started hooking up with a couple we know. I'm bi and wanted to play with a woman in addition to some swapping. But when it came down to it, I was playing with her and having a great time. Once my husband started playing with her, my insecurities came up and we had a fight because I felt like we rushed into a more intimate level of playing.

The other problem is, I was not attracted to the other husband. And my husband's stress issue reared its ugly head when we played again. The other wife and he were playing she was getting upset about my husband's performance. I wanted to watch and help, which frustrated the other husband.

I really want to be in the lifestyle and I know we really screwed up our approach for the first few times. I feel like a hypocrite about my jealous feelings that come up when I see my husband playing with another woman.

Are we just doomed in the lifestyle? How do you know when to call it quits?

More importantly, how do we approach another couple when I feel like I need so much attention to make sure I feel good?

Question 5:

We're in Detroit and have a group of swingers we play with regularly.

A little bit back, we went to a party where she played solo with a guy without checking in beforehand. I wasn't okay with that, and let her know afterwards. She has played solo in a separate space before and let me know beforehand. So I had assumed she knew to go slow. Mistakes can happen!

Last week we went to a kink party. I saw her kissing the aforementioned solo guy a couple times. But while with me, she excused herself to get a drink when he also did and they instead went to fuck without checking in. I felt abandoned, especially as they continued to play all night.

I told her that I felt betrayed and overlooked, as well as ignored when she reacted defensively without acknowledging my feelings.

We talked the next day without particularly resolving anything and I spun into self loathing and over-analying my actions.I still feel she intentionally ignored me that evening. And there was a huge communication gap between her thinking she was doing me a favor leaving me open to play with others, and the lack of check in and connection I wanted. This is a new level of jealousy I haven't felt before.

Have you ever had this type of situation and how did you handle it? Could I have dealt with it better at the party?

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Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will get you invited to a private chat with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings, and listen to episodes commercial free, and with outtakes!

You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe.

The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher! Also, follow us on Spotify!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).

You can now order Cooper's novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%.

Dylan Thomas is available for for podcast consultation and production work. If you're interested, visit www.dylanthethomas.com.

Do you have a sex positive project? Would you be interested in a grant? Visiting the Effing Foundation at effing.org/grants!

Intro Music: Rogue - Mirage
Interstitial Music: Knife Party & Pegboard Nerds - Harpoon
Business Music: Matroda – Shut It Down
eview Music: Haywyre - Sculpted
Dr. Liz Powell's Music: Summer Was Fun - Hold On (feat. Q'AILA)
Chris Pent's Music: Tokyo Machine – BUBBLES
Outro Music: Dirtyphonics - Sayonara

Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!

Our Desire 2018 Advertisement includes music by ローマンRoman titled: Bikini, off the Paradise album. Our cold open in includes the track パラダイス PARADISE , our Swingtowns Advertisement includes the track さようなら GOOD BYE, and the Effing Foundation Advertisement includes the track シドニーSYDNEY.

The Sex Down South Advertisement includes music by ローマンRoman titled: Internet Archive - O N L I N E off the THAT'S WHAT I CALL VAPORWAVE album.

These tracks are licensed under the Creative Commons Attribution 3.0 Unported (CC BY 3.0) license.

Cooper S Beckett Dylan Thomas Ginger Bentham Dr. Liz Powell Dirty Lola Mr. Pent

SS 329: The Importance of Play, with Angelique Luna, Live at Poly Dallas Millennium! Jul 28, 2018

Cooper S. Beckett and Dylan Thomas travel to Dallas for PolyDallas Millenium! There, they join with Angelique Luna (of the Living a Sex Positive Life podcast) to discuss the importance of play, especially during times of struggle.

Do you have a sex positive project? Would you be interested in a grant? Visiting the Effing Foundation at effing.org/grants!

Dylan’s #AllIn for Desire… are you? Join us from November 3rd through the 10th this 2018 for Life on the Swingset’s seventh trip to Desire! Visit www.ssdesire.com for more information!

Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will also get you invited to a private chat system with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings.

You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe.

The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher! Also, follow us on Spotify!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).

You can now order Cooper's novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%.

Dylan Thomas is available for for podcast consultation and production work. If you're interested, visit www.dylanthethomas.com.

Intro Music: LVTHER - Time Well Spent (feat. Ayelle)
Commercial and Outro Music: soupandreas & Inverness - Tumbling Down

Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!

Our Desire 2018 Advertisement includes music by ローマンRoman titled: Bikini, off the Paradise album.

Our Swingtowns Advertisement includes music by ローマンRoman titled: さようなら GOOD BYE, off the Paradise album.

Our Effing Foundation Advertisement includes music by ローマンRoman titled: シドニーSYDNEY, off the Paradise album.

These tracks are licensed under the Creative Commons Attribution 3.0 Unported (CC BY 3.0) license.

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SS 328: Getting Back on the Horse Jul 18, 2018

In an episode recorded September 22nd 2017, Dr. Liz Powell, Dylan Thomas, and Mike Joseph get together to talk about getting back on the horse after loss, or anything else that may have taken them out of dating and playing with people for an extended period of time.

Dylan almost didn't release this episode, but after an extended conversation with both Dr. Liz and Mike, they collectively decided to do it, even though talk during the episode offered few answers. They did however offer one final thought:

Hope.

...also a link to Dr. Liz's dudebros joke is here.

Create an account at Swingtowns by visiting lifeontheswingset.com/swingtowns!

Do you have a sex positive project? Would you be interested in a grant? Visiting the Effing Foundation at effing.org/grants!

Dylan's #AllIn for Desire... are you? Join us from November 3rd through the 10th this 2018 for Life on the Swingset's seventh trip to Desire! Visit www.ssdesire.com for more information!

Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will also get you invited to a private chat system with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings.

You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe.

The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher! Also, follow us on Spotify!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).

You can now order Cooper's novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%.

Dylan Thomas is available for for podcast consultation and production work. If you're interested, visit www.dylanthethomas.com.

Pre-roll Music: Half an Orange - Old Friends (feat. Blonde Maze)
Intro and Outro Music: Duumu - Forward (feat. MIA)
Review Music: Haywyre - Sculpted
Mike Joseph's Music: Falcon Funk - Catnip Trip (Perkulat0r Remix)
Dr. Liz Powell's Music: Summer Was Fun - Hold On (feat. Q'AILA)

Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!

Our Desire 2018 Advertisement includes music by ローマンRoman titled: Bikini, off the Paradise album. Our episode also featured the tracks: さようなら GOOD BYE and シドニーSYDNEY

These tracks are licensed under the Creative Commons Attribution 3.0 Unported (CC BY 3.0) license.

Dylan Thomas Dr. Liz Powell Mike Joseph

SS 327: Being Sex Positive in a Sex Negative World - A Panel Discussion at Camp Ravish Jun 16, 2018

This week on The Swingset, we return to the scorching 107 degree heat of Austin, Texas, where Ginger and Cooper attended and presented at Camp Ravish. On the last day of Camp, they sat down with several other presenters there, including The Two Knotty Boys, Melissa Jones, Bella LaVey, Rihannon Ixchel, and Miss O Kissed, to talk about the state of affairs for those of us plying a sex positive trade, while skirting around the issue of that big orange thing crashing toward us all.

(A quick note, again we were outside in the heat, so we had both fans and a fountain to contend with, but fuck it, we did it live!) Hope you enjoy!

After tonight's episode, you'll also be able to hear some audio erotica, a short story called Go For Launch - Double Penetration For Science, read by Angela Elmore of the By the Bi Podcast

SS 326: Coloring Outside the Lines in Sexuality & Kink – Cooper & Ginger Live at Camp Ravish, Austin Jun 06, 2018

This past weekend, Cooper S. Beckett and Ginger Bentham flew down to the balmy state of Texas, which greeted them with a 107 degree heat index. But the temperature wasn’t the only thing that was hot that weekend because they were in town for Camp Ravish just outside of Austin – three days and two nights of connecting with like-minded adults in a fun, frisky and judgment free camp setting. We lead the weekend talking about coloring outside the lines and exploring your boundaries in sexuality and kink, and we’re thrilled to bring the audio of this session to The Swingset.

Hope you enjoy!

(A quick note, they were outside in the heat, so they had both fans and a fountain to contend with, but fuck it, they did it live!)

SS 325: Gang Bang the Mailbag 36 - Swinging while Broken, Addiction and Swinger Culture, and More! Jun 01, 2018

The Swingset crew is back with another Gang Bang the Mailbag! Cooper S. Beckett, Dylan Thomas, Dr. Liz Powell, Dirty Lola, and Mister Pent answer listener voicemails and emails!

Voicemailbag Question #1 Summary

How can my husband better navigate swinger culture after coming clean from an alcohol addiction?

Voicemailbag Question #2 Summary

How can I be more innovate and interesting with my spanking scenes?

Mailbag Question #1:

I've recently been kicked out of my mom's house and I'm now living at my dad's.

Financially I think I'll be okay, but when I opened up to dad about my work—how my drawings can occasionally be NSFW—he got really... defensive? He basically said he doesn't want it anywhere in the house.

As an artist this is inconvenient, but as a human being it hurts. I wanted to just be honest with him, but he doesn't know that his backward never-talk-about-sex mindset is just harmful.

I just wish I knew the words to explain why, if he wants to protect his kids (16 and 9), my siblings, he needs to be open and teach them about consent—not just to be afraid of sexuality, which they'll just need therapy for later in life.

Thoughts?

Mailbag Question #2:

To be blunt, how do you swing, go to play parties, etc when your body is malfunctioning? Hemmerhoids, yeast infections, UTIs, the like. Do I just put up a "closed" sign when this, um, crap, happens? Help!

Join us for our annual trip and takeover of Desire in Cancun Mexico! On this trip, we curate theme nights, evening entertainment, music, activities, workshops, and more, and strive to bring together straight, bi, pansexual, and gay swingers, polyamorists, nudists, quads, triads, couples, exhibitionists, BDSMers, and those just curious and looking to explore.

Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will also get you invited to a private chat system with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings.

You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe.

The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher! Also, follow us on Spotify!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).

You can now order Cooper's novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%.

Dylan Thomas is available for for podcast consultation and production work. If you're interested, visit www.dylanthethomas.com.

Today's featured music features Dana and the Wolf with their single, Got Me Poly!

Intro Music: Aiobahn & Vin - About U
Voicemail Music: Summer Was Fun - Pick Up The Phone
Commercial 2 Music: Koven - Board Game
Business Music: Matroda – Shut It Down
Review Music: Haywyre - Sculpted
Mr. Liz Powell's Music: Summer Was Fun - Hold On (feat. Q'AILA)
Chris Pent's Music: Tokyo Machine - Bubbles
Outro Music: Modestep - Summer

Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!

Our Desire 2018 Advertisement includes music by ローマンRoman titled: Bikini, off the Paradise album.

This track is licensed under the Creative Commons Attribution 3.0 Unported (CC BY 3.0) license.

Cooper S Beckett Dylan Thomas Dr. Liz Powell Dirty Lola Mr. Pent

SS 324: From Poo to Lactation - A Swingset Business Episode May 25, 2018

The Swingset crew banked so many episodes that they hadn’t recorded for almost two months. For their first night back, they decided to give each other… the business. In addition to talking about tall skinny dudes with big dicks and fisting, they end up discussing poop… a lot. They also talk about lactation, breeding fantasy, some serious ds and humiliation play, waterboarding with juices, impact play with a rubber truncheon, and Macho Man Randy Savage. Prepare yourselves, because Cooper S. Beckett, Dylan Thomas, Dr. Liz Powell, Mike Joseph, and Dirty Lola are here to give you the business.

Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will also get you invited to a private chat system with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings.

You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe, including the Velvet Thruster Jackie!

The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher! Also, follow us on Spotify!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).

You can now order Cooper’s novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%.

Dylan Thomas is available for for podcast consultation and production work. If you’re interested, visit www.dylanthethomas.com.

Intro Music: Dion Timmer – Shiawase
Commercial Music: Stephen – Play Me Like A Violin
Commercial Music: Stephen – Stay (feat. Lindsey Cook)
Review Music: Haywyre – Sculpted
Mike Joseph’s Music: Falcon Funk – Catnip Trip (Perkulat0r Remix)
Dr. Liz Powell’s Music: Summer Was Fun – Hold On (feat. Q’AILA)
Chris Pent’s Music: Infected Mushroom – Spitfire
Outro Music: Taska Black – We Would Never Do (feat. Nevve)

Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!

Our Desire 2018 Advertisement includes music by ローマンRoman titled: Bikini, off the Paradise album.

Cooper and Ophilia’s Velvet Thruster Jackie review includes music by ローマンRoman titled: P A L M S, M I R A N D A, L O V E, S E C R E T S, T O N I G H T, W E S T C O A S T, Y O U, C O A S T I N G, and 1 9 8 4, off the P A L M S ( D E L U X E ) album.

These tracks are licensed under the Creative Commons Attribution 3.0 Unported (CC BY 3.0) license.

Cooper S Beckett Dylan Thomas Dr. Liz Powell Dirty Lola Mike Joseph

SS 323: Gang Bang The Mailbag 35: Dental Dams, Straight Women, Aspergers & Swinging May 18, 2018

Cooper S. Beckett, Dylan Thomas, and Ginger Bentham know that the mailbag won't gang bang itself, so they've sat down to answer listener submitted questions for the 35th time!

Question 1:

Great podcast, I enjoy listening to you guys. My boyfriend and I are in an open relationship and it is going very well. My question is about dental dams, he and I don't use condoms when together but we always do with other people. He tried giving me oral using a dental dam just as an experiment and honestly I felt absolutely nothing :( most people don't use them i assume for exactly that reason. At least with condom the man still feels sensation although it's decreased comparing it to dental dam where one feels absolutely nothing, I barely felt he was down there lol. I know giving and receiving oral without a barrier is not the safest specially if involved in this lifestyle but when dental dam sucks so much what other alternatives are there to encourage it's usage. Could it be the brand of dental dam I used? Are there better brands out there that might be a little better.

Question 2:

Just started listening to your podcast and my husband and I are interested in adventuring into this fun world. We visited a sex club not too far away and we had a fun evening together, but it seemed like we were more adventurous than most of the other couples there that night. For the cost of being there, I wondered if we would be able to connect with other couples interested in setting up our own sexual adventure night at a very nice hotel. Am I being naive or is this a possibility? What are your thoughts with your experiences on this? We are open to engaging with others in our sexual play and with other couples. Kelli

Question 3:

I am on the spectrum of Aspergers. Since I can't easily read people and don't know what they want, I take the approach of "if that was good for you, I'll do it again next time", how do I broach this with other swing partners in a positive way, and avoid repetitive sex?'

Question 4:

This is the most privileged problem one can have, but I have noticed since entering my current open relationship (and trying to enter the local poly community) that there doesn't seem to be much of a place for straight women.

I strongly identify as straight. I don't come from a repressive community (in fact many people in my family know I'm ethically non-monogamous and are very supportive) and I'm not aware of any bias I have against bi women - in fact recently I've reaaaaalllly wished I wanted anything to do with women. It seems a shame to not have the potential to experience half the population.

I haven't experimented with women. And I honestly just do not want to. I have knee jerk negative reactions about the thought of having sex with other women. I feel annoyed by it when couples invite me to play, and I actually have low level violent urges sometimes (not fun ones - like 'I'm going to deck this chick if she keeps touching my waste' urges). I feel the same way about snuggling and kissing - this isn't mere vag-phobia.

I keep hearing this message that no one is all straight and you need to exiperiment to know. But I don't think experimenting is physically or emotionally safe for me.

Should I just accept that, at least for now, I'm straight as an arrow and accept the limitations of that (I see the irony in this statement btw)? What do I say to people who meet my self identification with cynicism? I'm frustrated.

Thank you for listening,

Jaq

Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will also get you invited to a private chat system with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings.

You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe.

The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher! Also, follow us on Spotify!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).

You can now order Cooper's novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%.

Dylan Thomas is available for for podcast consultation and production work. If you're interested, visit www.dylanthethomas.com.

Attend the Chicago Non-Monogamy Conference! It takes place Saturday, May 19th, 2018, at the Chicago School of Professional Psychology, this year’s CNMC’s headlining topic is: Taking the privilege out of polyamory: Addressing race, sex, ability, and class in the nonmonogamy community.

Intro Music: Soupandreas & inverness - Hours
Review Music: Haywyre - Sculpted
Robot Ginger's Music: Robotaki - Automaton
Outro Music: Tristam - Questions

Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!

Our Desire 2018 Advertisement includes music by ローマンRoman titled: Bikini, off the Paradise album.

Our Chicago Non-Monogamy Conference Advertisement includes music by ローマンRoman titled: N U L I F E, off the P A L M S I V album.

These tracks are licensed under the Creative Commons Attribution 3.0 Unported (CC BY 3.0) license.

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SS 322: They Came For the Titties, They Stayed For the Knowledge - A Playground Bedcast May 09, 2018

The Life on the Swingset crew traveled to Playground 2018: Come Together, and decided to sit together and record one of our traditional "Swingset Bedcast" episodes. Cooper S. Beckett, Ginger Bentham, Dylan Thomas, Dirty Lola, Dr. Liz Powell, Mike Joseph, and Chris Pent sat on two beds, close enough to sweat on, spit on, and spill on each other, and hacked out the last year amongst a crowd of up between ten and twenty Swingset fans!

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Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will also get you invited to a private chat system with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings.

The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher! Also, follow us on Spotify!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).

You can now order Cooper's novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%.

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Attend the Chicago Non-Monogamy Conference! It takes place Saturday, May 19th, 2018, at the Chicago School of Professional Psychology, this year's CNMC's headlining topic is: Taking the privilege out of polyamory: Addressing race, sex, ability, and class in the nonmonogamy community.

Intro and Outro Music: Stephen Walking - Glide
Mike Joseph's Music: Falcon Funk - Catnip Trip (Perkulat0r Remix)
Dr. Liz Powell's Music: Summer Was Fun - Hold On (feat. Q'AILA)
Chris Pent's Music: Infected Mushroom - Spitfire
Ginger Bentham's Music: Robotaki - Automaton

Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!

Our Desire 2018 Advertisement includes music by ローマンRoman titled: Bikini, off the Paradise album.

Our Chicago Non-Monogamy Conference Advertisement includes music by ローマンRoman titled: N U L I F E, off the P A L M S I V album.

These tracks are licensed under the Creative Commons Attribution 3.0 Unported (CC BY 3.0) license.

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SS 321: On the Power of Touch... and on Touch Deficits Apr 26, 2018

Touch is powerful. Touch signals and communicates, touch comforts and supports, Touch can be thoughtful...touch can hurt. We feel it when we have it, we feel its absence when we don't, and sometimes we do things that result in us not getting enough of it. Tonight, Dylan Thomas, Dirty Lola, Dr. Liz Powell, and Mike Joseph get together to talk about the power of touch, and the barriers we throw up to touch, and how touch deficits affects us all.

You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe.

Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will also get you invited to a private chat system with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings.

The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher! Also, follow us on Spotify!

Android Users: Download and review our Android App!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).

You can now order Cooper's novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%.

Help Dylan edit by buying him something from his Amazon Wishlist!

Intro Music: Astronaut - Rain
Business Music: Matroda – Shut It Down
Mike Joseph's Music: Falcon Funk - Catnip Trip (Perkulat0r Remix)
Dr. Liz Powell's Music: Summer Was Fun - Hold On (feat. Q'AILA)
Outro Music: Astronaut - Feronia (feat. Danyka Nadeau)

Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!

Our episode introduction featured music by Krzysztof Słowikowski from his Mega Man 9 Guitar Playthrough titled: Opening 2.

Our Desire 2018 Advertisement includes music by ローマンRoman titled: Bikini, off the Paradise album.

These tracks are licensed under the Creative Commons Attribution 3.0 Unported (CC BY 3.0) license.

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SS 320: Diversity in Sexuality Conferences and Sex Therapy with Ruby Bouie Johnson of PolyDallas Millennium Apr 17, 2018

A fair critique of most sex positive gatherings, especially sexuality conferences, is that they are predominantly white. Over the years, significant progress has been made, and PolyDallas Millennium this July 13-15 is on the forefront of programming diversity and encouraging wider ranges of voices. Tonight Ruby Bouie Johnson joins Cooper S. Beckett, Dylan Thomas, Dirty Lola, Dr. Liz Powell, and Mike Joseph to discuss increasing diversity in sexual discussion, sex therapy, and sex positive spaces.

You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe.

Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will also get you invited to a private chat system with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings.

The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher! Also, follow us on Spotify!

Android Users: Download and review our Android App!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).

You can now order Cooper's novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%.

Help Dylan edit by buying him something from his Amazon Wishlist!

Intro and Outro Music: Muzzy - New Age (feat. Celldweller)
Review Music: Haywyre - Sculpted
Mike Joseph's Music: Falcon Funk - Catnip Trip (Perkulat0r Remix)
Dr. Liz Powell's Music: Summer Was Fun - Hold On (feat. Q'AILA)

Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!

Our Desire 2018 Advertisement includes music by ローマンRoman titled: Bikini, off the Paradise album.

These tracks are licensed under the Creative Commons Attribution 3.0 Unported (CC BY 3.0) license.

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SS 319: Total Desire Recall with Tristan Taormino, JV Altharas, and Shara Bono! Apr 05, 2018

Every November for the last six year, the Life on the Swingset has led a motley crew of wayward hedonists to Desire Resort on the Riviera Maya in Cancun. Tonight the hosts of our 2017 takeover, Cooper S. Beckett, Dylan Thomas, Ginger Bentham, JV Altharas, Shara Bono, and Tristan Taormino, talk about that trip; what they learned, what they enjoyed, their sexiest of sexy times, and what they'd like to bring forward to the November 2018 trip.

You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe.

Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will also get you invited to a private chat system with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings.

The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher! Also, follow us on Spotify!

Android Users: Download and review our Android App!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).

You can now order Cooper's novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%.

Help Dylan edit by buying him something from his Amazon Wishlist!

Intro Music: Noisestorm - Crab Rave
Review Music: Haywyre - Sculpted
Review and Commercial Music: Koven - My Love
Robot Ginger's Music: Robotaki - Automaton
Outro Music: LVTHER - This Love (feat. Savoi)

Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!

Our episode introduction featured music by Krzysztof Słowikowski from his Mega Man 4 Guitar Playthrough titled: Bright Man.

Our Multiamory Chicago Tour Stop music featured music from the Mega Man 5 Guitar Playthrough titled: Password.

These tracks are licensed under the Creative Commons Attribution 3.0 Unported (CC BY 3.0) license.

The Font Get Your Font To Mars by Goatmeal is licensed under the Creative Commons Attribution Non-commercial Share Alike Unported (CC BY-NC-SA 3.0) license.

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SS 318: The Art of the Compliment Mar 23, 2018

Dylan Thomas, Dirty Lola, and Dr. Liz Powell sit down together to talk about the art of the compliment: how to compliment someone in a way that it will be accepted in the spirit it's given, how to compliment someone without a goal, and how to treat compliments as small gifts that require no reciprocation.

Tonight’s episode is sponsored by Überlube!

You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe.

Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will also get you invited to a private chat system with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings.

The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher! Also, follow us on Spotify!

Android Users: Download and review our Android App!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).

You can now order Cooper's novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%.

Help Dylan edit by buying him something from his Amazon Wishlist!

Intro Music: LVTHER - Friends Again (feat. Claire Ridgely)
Review Music: Haywyre - Sculpted
Dr. Liz Powell's Music: Summer Was Fun - Hold On (feat. Q'AILA)
Outro Music: The Night - Different Story

Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!

Our episode introduction featured music by Krzysztof Słowikowski from his Mega Man 4 Guitar Playthrough titled: Pharaoh Man. This track is licensed under the Creative Commons Attribution 3.0 Unported (CC BY 3.0) license.

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SS 317: The Polyamorous Furry Community w/ Viro the Science Collie & Metriko Oni Mar 14, 2018

There's a community that Life on the Swingset hasn't spoken about or to much: the polyamorous furry community. Tonight, Dylan Thomas, Dr. Liz Powell, and Mike Joseph invite Metriko Oni and Viro the Science Collie, of the Feral Attraction podcast, to talk about the fandom and to how we can find more common ground and more common spaces, more often.

You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe.

Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will also get you invited to a private chat system with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings.

The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher! Also, follow us on Spotify!

Android Users: Download and review our Android App!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).

You can now order Cooper's novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%.

Help Dylan edit by buying him something from his Amazon Wishlist!

Intro Music: SLANDER - Happy Now
Mike Joseph's Music: Falcon Funk - Catnip Trip (Perkulat0r Remix)
Dr. Liz Powell's Music: Summer Was Fun - Hold On (feat. Q'AILA)
Outro Music: Didrick - Rewind (feat. MIRAMIS)

Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!

Our episode introduction featured music by Krzysztof Słowikowski from his Mega Man 4 Guitar Playthrough titled: Toad Man. This track is licensed under the Creative Commons Attribution 3.0 Unported (CC BY 3.0) license.

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SS 316: Shiny Beacons of Slutty Hope - Live at Playground Conference 2018 in Toronto! Mar 03, 2018

Life on the Swingset came together for Playground 2018: Come Together, a Sex-Positive, Inclusive, Intersectional Event. It was the largest gathering of Swingset co-hosts ever, and the first such gathering of all co-hosts since 2015! Cooper S. Beckett, Dylan Thomas, Ginger Bentham, Dirty Lola, Dr. Liz Powell, Mike Joseph, and Chris Pent sat in front of a live audience to discuss why authentically telling our stories, or as Dr. Liz put it,why being shiny beacons of slutty hope is important.

You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe.

Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will also get you invited to a private chat system with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings.

The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher! Also, follow us on Spotify!

Android Users: Download and review our Android App!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).

You can now order Cooper's novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%.

Help Dylan edit by buying him something from his Amazon Wishlist!

Intro Music: SMLE - 2 Me (feat. Kiddo Ai & Nick Smith)

Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!

Our episode introduction featured music by Krzysztof Słowikowski from his Mega Man 4 Guitar Playthrough titled: Pharaoh Man. This track is licensed under the Creative Commons Attribution 3.0 Unported (CC BY 3.0) license.

SS 315: Letting Your Kinks Run Wild with Sunny Megatron & Ken Melvoin-Berg Feb 21, 2018

Paths to kink vary pretty wildly. From occasional giggles and smacks on the bottom, to role-playing as students in a classroom begging to be good for the principal, to full suspensions in front of hundreds of people, following our minds and bodies can lead us places we never thought we could go.

Tonight, Sunny Megatron and Ken Melvoin-Berg, co-creators of the American Sex podcast and co-producers of Showtime's Sex with Sunny Megatron, join Dylan Thomas, Dirty Lola, and Dr. Liz Powell to talk about some of the places people can go if they keep an open mind allow their kinks to run wild.

You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe.

Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will also get you invited to a private chat system with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings.

The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher! Also, follow us on Spotify!

Android Users: Download and review our Android App!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).

You can now order Cooper's novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%.

Help Dylan edit by buying him something from his Amazon Wishlist!

Attend Poly Dallas Millenium: Rewriting the Rules! July 13th-15th, 2018!

Intro Music: Delta Heavy & Dirty Audio - Stay (PhaseOne Remix) [feat. HOLLY]
Review Music: Haywyre - Sculpted
Dr. Liz Powell's Music: Summer Was Fun - Hold On (feat. Q'AILA)
Outro Music: Conro - Take Me There

Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!

Dylan Thomas Dr. Liz Powell Dirty Lola

SS 314: How to Make Hot Kinky Play Actually Happen w/ Marcia Baczynski & Midori Feb 09, 2018

Tonight, guests Midori and Marcia Baczynski join Cooper Beckett, Dylan Thomas, Dr. Liz Powell, and Dirty Lola to talk about making hot kinky play actually happen. They'll also discuss the Wanted Man Intensive course to help good guys work on becoming better guys.

Marcia B's Resources:

Marcia's Site: AskingForWhatYouWant.com

Midori's Resources:

Tonight's episode is sponsored by Überlube!

Join Dylan, Cooper, Dr. Liz, Mister Pent, Dirty Lola, and Mike Joseph at Playground 2018!

You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe.

Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will also get you invited to a private chat system with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings.

The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher! Also, follow us on Spotify!

Android Users: Download and review our Android App!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).

You can now order Cooper's novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%.

Help Dylan edit by buying him something from his Amazon Wishlist!

Intro Music: Duumu - Take Me Away (feat. Skyelle)
Business Music: Matroda - Shut It Down
Review Music: Haywyre - Sculpted
Dr. Liz Powell's Music: Summer Was Fun - Hold On (feat. Q'AILA)
Outro Music: Bad Computer - Disarray

Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!

Our Playground 2018 advertisement featured music by Krzysztof Słowikowski from his Mega Man 6 Guitar Playthrough titled: Knight Man. This track is licensed under the Creative Commons Attribution 3.0 Unported (CC BY 3.0) license.

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SS 313: Mutual Masturbation - Giving Each Other a Hand Feb 01, 2018

One of Life on the Swingset's most popular episodes is Masturbation - Our Touching Origins. Cooper S. Beckett, Dylan Thomas, Dirty Lola, Dr. Liz Powell, and Mister Pent sit together to talk about handing the job off, as it were. Whether masturbating in front of another person or playing with them while they play with you, tonight the crew discusses mutual masturbation.

Tonight's episode is sponsored by Überlube!

Dirty Lola and Dr. Liz Powell discussed the Womanizer 2go... at length. You can find the Womanizer 2go at our partner, Shevibe!

Join Dylan, Cooper, Dr. Liz, Mister Pent, Dirty Lola, and Mike Joseph at Playground 2018!

You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe.

Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will also get you invited to a private chat system with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings.

The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher! Also, follow us on Spotify!

Android Users: Download and review our Android App!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).

You can now order Cooper's novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%.

Help Dylan edit by buying him something from his Amazon Wishlist!

Intro Music: Jay Cosmic - Ocean Eyes
Business Music: Matroda - Shut It Down
Review Music: Haywyre - Sculpted
r. Liz Powell's Music: Summer Was Fun - Hold On (feat. Q'AILA)
Chris Pent's Music: Infected Mushroom - Spitfire
Outro Music: Didrick - Ready to Fly (feat. Adam Young)

Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!

Our Playground 2018 advertisement featured music by Krzysztof Słowikowski from his Mega Man 6 Guitar Playthrough titled: Knight Man. This track is licensed under the Creative Commons Attribution 3.0 Unported (CC BY 3.0) license.

Our Uberlube advertisement featured music by Krzysztof Słowikowski from his Mega Man 3 Guitar Playthrough titled: Password. This track is licensed under the Creative Commons Attribution 3.0 Unported (CC BY 3.0) license.

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SS 312: Sexually Relevant Grooming Habits Jan 24, 2018

Nail Clipping! Facial, Genital, and Ass Hair Maintenance! Keeping it Clean... or Not! Tonight, Dylan Thomas , Ginger Bentham, Dr. Liz Powell, Dirty Lola, and Mister Pent discuss sexually relevant grooming habits, and why we do, or don't participate in them!

Join Dylan, Cooper, Dr. Liz, Mister Pent, Dirty Lola, and Mike Joseph at Playground 2018!

You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe.

Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will also get you invited to a private chat system with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings.

The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher! Also, follow us on Spotify!

Android Users: Download and review our Android App!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).

You can now order Cooper's novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%.

Help Dylan edit by buying him something from his Amazon Wishlist!

Intro Music: Rogue - Fortress
Business Music: Muzzy - Children of Hell
Dr. Liz Powell's Music: Summer Was Fun - Hold On (feat. Q'AILA)
Chris Pent's Music: Infected Mushroom - Spitfire
Outro Music: Jay Cosmic - Ocean Eyes

Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!

Our Playground 2018 advertisement featured music by Krzysztof Słowikowski from his Mega Man 6 Guitar Playthrough titled: Knight Man. This track is licensed under the Creative Commons Attribution 3.0 Unported (CC BY 3.0) license.

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SS 311: Foresight and Hindsight (Amber) – Goodbye 2017, Hello 2018 Jan 08, 2018

It’s been a year, hasn’t it? On this episode of Life on the Swingset, The Podcast, we’re going to reflect, not on the horrors of the year that everybody among us so well knows, but what this year specifically has shown us, in our sexuality, in our interpersonal interactions, in our lifestyles, and then we’ll look forward on how we build and improve in the new year. Join Cooper S. Beckett, Ginger Bentham, Dylan Thomas, Dr Liz Powell, & Dirty Lola for a frank discussion on the future.

SS 310: Aging and Sexuality with Ken Haslam, Belle Sheperd, Joel Kann, and Duncan - Recorded Live at Desire Resort Dec 27, 2017

Those of us young in the world and in non-monogamy don't spend a lot of time thinking about aging and in how it affects our play partners, our relationships, and our own sexuality as we progress. During Life on the Swingset's takeover of Desire Resort, Dylan Thomas sat down with Belle Shepherd, Joel Kann, Ken Haslam, and Duncan to discuss as a panel how sexuality changes with age.

Some featured discussion points:

Changes in Spontaneous Desire | Iimportance of Lubricant and Positioning During Sex | Health Issues | Community Support Networks in Polyamory | ... and many more.

Join Dylan, Cooper, Dr. Liz, Mister Pent, Dirty Lola, and Mike Joseph at Playground 2018!

You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe.

Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will also get you invited to a private chat system with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings.

The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher! Also, follow us on Spotify!

Android Users: Download and review our Android App!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).

You can now order Cooper's novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%.

Help Dylan edit by buying him something from his Amazon Wishlist!

Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!

Our Playground 2018 advertisement featured music by Krzysztof Słowikowski from his Mega Man 6 Guitar Playthrough titled: Knight Man. This track is licensed under the Creative Commons Attribution 3.0 Unported (CC BY 3.0) license.

SS 309: The Most Valuable Sexual Lessons We Ever Learned Dec 22, 2017

Nearly everything of value Cooper learned about sex was learned after opening up. He's unashamed to admit, his sex was thoroughly mediocre. Thankfully, he met many people who were much better at sex and he studied at their feet and other parts, learning vast and valuable lessons. Tonight, on Life on the Swingset The Podcast, Cooper S. Beckett, Dylan Thomas , Ginger Bentham, Dirty Lola, and Dr. Liz Powell discuss their sexual failures and their sexual sherpas and the lessons they learned from them.

Join Dylan, Cooper, Dr. Liz, Mister Pent, Dirty Lola, and Mike Joseph at Playground 2018!

You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe.

Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will also get you invited to a private chat system with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings.

The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher! Also, follow us on Spotify!

Android Users: Download and review our Android App!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).

You can now order Cooper's novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%.

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Intro Music: Televisor - We Wish You a Merry Christmas
Interstitial Music: Stephen Walking - Sleigh Ride
Interstitial Music: Stephen Walking & Tristam - Jingle Bells
Interstitial Music: Insan3Lik3 - Reindeer Everywhere
Interstitial Music: Muzzy - Snowman Swag
Business Music: Muzzy - Children of Hell
Review Music: Haywyre - Sculpted
Dr. Liz Powell's Music: Summer Was Fun - Hold On (feat. Q'AILA)
Robot Ginger's Music: Robotaki - Automaton
Outro Music: Hellberg - Jingle Bells!

Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!

Our Playground 2018 advertisement featured music by Krzysztof Słowikowski from his Mega Man 6 Guitar Playthrough titled: Knight Man. This track is licensed under the Creative Commons Attribution 3.0 Unported (CC BY 3.0) license.

Cooper S Beckett Dylan Thomas Dr. Liz Powell Dirty Lola Ginger Bentham

SS 308: Sexual Oddballs in a Vanilla World Dec 07, 2017

As Lydia Deetz once said, "I myself am strange and unusual." Swingsetters are merry misfits who don't hew to society's traditional norms. Tonight, Ginger Bentham, Dirty Lola, Cooper S. Beckett, Dylan Thomas, and Dr. Liz Powell discuss navigating the vanilla world as sexual oddballs, and the unique sets of perks and challenges that includes.

Shoutout to Kevin Patterson for his book and his upcoming tour: Love’s Not Color Blind: Race and Representation in Polyamorous and Other Alternative Communities

Join Dylan, Cooper, Dr. Liz, Mister Pent, Dirty Lola, and Mike Joseph at Playground 2018!

You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe.

Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will also get you invited to a private chat system with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings.

The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher! Also, follow us on Spotify!

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Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).

You can now order Cooper's novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%.

Help Dylan edit by buying him something from his Amazon Wishlist!

Intro Music: MYRNE - Lyra
Review Music: Haywyre - Sculpted
Dr. Liz Powell's Music: Summer Was Fun - Hold On (feat. Q'AILA)
Robot Ginger's Music: Robotaki - Automaton
Outro Music: Dirtyphonics & Sullivan King - Sight Of Your Soul

Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!

Our Playground 2018 advertisement featured music by Krzysztof Słowikowski from his Mega Man 6 Guitar Playthrough titled: Knight Man. This track is licensed under the Creative Commons Attribution 3.0 Unported (CC BY 3.0) license.

Cooper S Beckett Dylan Thomas Dr. Liz Powell Dirty Lola Ginger Bentham

SS 307: It's Called Polyamory - With Rebecca Hiles and Tamara Pincus Dec 02, 2017

The Swingset invites Tamara Pincus and Rebecca Hiles, authors of the new book "It's Called Polyamory" onto the show to discuss the many things people both new and experienced to nonmonogamy, specifically, polyamory, may encounter. They join Dylan Thomas, Dr. Liz Powell, and Chris Pent.

Find Tamara Pincus' and Rebecca Hiles' new book, It's Called "Polyamory", out on paperback and Kindle now!

Join Dylan, Cooper, Dr. Liz, Mister Pent, Dirty Lola, and Mike Joseph at Playground 2018!

You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe.

Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will also get you invited to a private chat system with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings.

The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher! Also, follow us on Spotify!

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Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).

You can now order Cooper's novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%.

Help Dylan edit by buying him something from his Amazon Wishlist! Thank you to djdead who purchaed mobile lavalier microphones!

Intro Music: Lookas & Krewella - Alarm
Thank You Music: Stephen Walking - Shark City
Business Music: Muzzy - Children of Hell
Review Music: Haywyre - Sculpted
Dr. Liz Powell's Music: Summer Was Fun - Hold On (feat. Q'AILA)
Chris Pent's Music: Infected Mushroom - Spitfire
Outro Music: Modestep - Higher

Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!

Our Playground 2018 advertisement featured music by Krzysztof Słowikowski from his Mega Man 6 Guitar Playthrough titled: Knight Man. This track is licensed under the Creative Commons Attribution 3.0 Unported (CC BY 3.0) license.

Dylan Thomas Dr. Liz Powell

SS 306: Live at Desire, A Restatement of Values – #ssdesire Nov 16, 2017

Ginger Bentham, Cooper S. Beckett, and Dylan Thomas return to Desire Resort & Spa for Swingset’s second full resort takeover and for their sixth annual pilgrimage to the sexiest place on earth. While the tequila flows, they take time to examine why pleasure, gratitude, compassion, and love are supremely important, and they take time to defiantly and emphatically restate the values of the Swingset.

Join us at the sexiest place on earth at Desire Resorts in the Riviera Maya, Cancun, Mexico, from November 3rd through November 10th, 2018! Head to ssdesire.com for more information!

You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe.

Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will also get you invited to a private chat system with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings.

The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher!

Android Users: Download and review our Android App!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).

You can now pre-order Cooper’s novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%.

Help Dylan edit by buying him something from his Amazon Wishlist!

Intro and Outro Music: Puppet – Dynamo

Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!

Cooper S Beckett Dylan Thomas Ginger Bentham

SS 305: Designing Your Perfect Relationship, with Dr. NerdLove Nov 01, 2017

We’ve all spent a big chunks of our your lives trying to transform relationships from “kind of okay” into “good”. Most of us wait to have big conversations about what our relationships will look like until, well, long after they’re already a problem, but what if we could, instead, do that work early instead of just assuming that everyone is playing by the same guidelines? Dr. NerdLove joins the Swingset panel of Dr. Liz, Dirty Lola, and Mike Joseph to discuss designing your perfect relationships, talking about how to get what we all want, in advance!

You can find Harris O’Malley (AKA Dr. NerdLove) at his website, www.doctornerdlove.com and at his Youtube channel!

You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe.

Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will also get you invited to a private chat system with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings.

The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher!

Android Users: Download and review our Android App!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).

You can now pre-order Cooper’s novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%.

Help Dylan edit by buying him something from his Amazon Wishlist!

Intro Music: Puppet & Foria – Bigger Picture
Business Music: Muzzy – Children of Hell
Outro Music: Tokyo Machine – Spooky

Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!

Dr. Liz Powell Mike Joseph Dirty Lola

SS 304: Pants Feelings - Things That Make You Go Mmmmmm Oct 28, 2017

Attraction. Chemistry, Urges. Biting our lower lip. Pants Feelings. *grunt* Join Dirty Lola, Mike Joseph, Mister Pent, and Dylan Thomas as they welcome back Bex from The Dildorks as they all talk about what turns them on!

You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe.

Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will also get you invited to a private chat system with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings.

The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher!

Android Users: Download and review our Android App!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).

You can now pre-order Cooper's novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%.

Help Dylan edit by buying him something from his Amazon Wishlist!

Intro Music: Zac Waters - Freak
Mike Joseph's Music: Falcon Funk - Catnip Trip (Perkulat0r Remix)
Mister Pent’s Music: Tokyo Machine – BUBBLES
Outro Music: Kayzo & Slander - Holy (feat: Micha Martin)

Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!

Dylan Thomas Mike Joseph Dirty Lola

SS 303: Low Value Dick and Accessible Messaging Oct 13, 2017

We've answered the same question a lot lately: How do single men navigate the lifestyle? We've rightfully mentioned the mountain most single men must climb to be successful, In discussing how to raise everyone's game we focused on the fact that many single cis straight men ruin it for everyone as they're everywhere and generally not well behaved. In describing them we used a phrase coined by Madeleine Holden to describe it: "Dick is Abundant & Low Value". Alana Massey expanded on that thought and wrote The Dickonomics of Tinder, a comprehensive treatise on the low expectations game,

Bex Caputo joins Dirty Lola, Mike Joseph, Mister Pent, and Dylan Thomas to discuss how the phrase came into use, why it's useful, and the implications of its use.

While we spoke, we mentioned Billy Procida by reputation. Dylan decided to mention him by name and reference both his blog, "You're Not An Ally, You're An Asshole" and a Storify of people who've been negatively affected by interactions.

You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe.

Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will also get you invited to a private chat system with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings.

The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher!

Android Users: Download and review our Android App!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).

You can now pre-order Cooper's novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%.

Help Dylan edit by buying him something from his Amazon Wishlist!

Intro Music: Bishu - Bomb (feat. LeyeT)
Business Music: Muzzy - Children of Hell
Mike Joseph's Music: Falcon Funk - Catnip Trip (Perkulat0r Remix)
Mister Pent's Music: Tokyo Machine - BUBBLES
Outro Music: Delta Heavy x Dirty Audio - Stay (feat. Holly)

Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!

Dylan Thomas Mike Joseph Dirty Lola

SS 302: Making Room in Life for the Things That Matter Oct 07, 2017

Sometimes we lose sight of some of the people and some of the things that matter in ourlives. Dr. Liz Powell, Mike Joseph, and Dylan Thomas get together and figure out how to recognize it, how it happens, and how to pull everything back together.

Dr. Liz also takes some time to relay some con business while Dylan mentions his newly unlocked "double flogging" achievement.

Dr. Liz mentions the Sinha Intensive/Expansive Framework, developed by Leela Sinha, M. Div. You can find Your Not Too Much: Intensive Lives in an Expansive World on Amazon.

You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe.

Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will also get you invited to a private chat system with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings.

The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher!

Android Users: Download and review our Android App!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).

You can now pre-order Cooper's novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%.

Help Dylan edit by buying him something from his Amazon Wishlist!

Intro Music: David Benjamin & Conro - Lay Low (Acoustic)
Business Music: Muzzy - Children of Hell
Mike Joseph's Music: Falcon Funk - Catnip Trip (Perkulat0r Remix)
Dr. Liz Powell's Music: Summer Was Fun - Hold On (feat. Q'AILA)

Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!

Dylan Thomas Dr. Liz Powell Mike Joseph

SS 301: Gang Bang the Mailbag 34 - Inquiring Swingers Want to Know Sep 26, 2017

Tonight, Madam Fierce joins the Mike Joseph, Dirty Lola, and Dylan to re-open the mailbag once again to give it the gang bang it deserves. The crew answers questions on the difference between swinging and polyamory, breaking up with another swing couple, swinging with too much enthusiasm, single male swingers, and first time swinging hiccups.

Question 1:

Hi guys, this is to all of you, though maybe first to Dylan, who seems to particularly enjoy contemplating these things.

I have been been listening to your podcasts since 2011, and have enjoyed the entire run.

What I have been struggling with intellectually is what differentiates swinging from polyamory. My wife and I have recently had acouples' experience which I think has cleared this up, at least for me. I am the introspective one in the relationship (she tends act quickly based on gut feelings of comfort, and chuckles at my additional ruminating), so this is really from the Mr.

We've been pretty successful with swinging / casual hookups, though Two things have happened recently that have changed things a bit.

First, my wife has maintained an online friendship with a single man since last spring, which I whole heartedly support, she's making plans to see him soon.

Secondly, we recently met a couple where I quickly developed a strong emotional connection with the wife. My wife has enjoyed the husband's company, but clearly isn't interested in anything more than casual. My wife supports my exploring this.

So, then, how to define what it is that we seem to be getting into? We areboth (probably) trying out hall passes, meeting folks one on one before the other has met them, and acknowledging at least one developing emotional connection with someone outside our relationship.

Question 2:

I was hoping you could give my wife and I some advice. My wife and I had talked about swinging for about a year before we actually met and played with our first couple. They checked so many of our boxes for a first encounter that we felt very fortunate to have met them.

The first time happened and was a reasonably good time. Not great by any means, but we didn't have any regrets as we popped our cherrys so to speak and we're both giddy for a month after. We discussed the apparent compatibility issues right away.

We decided to take another crack at the full swap with the same couple a month or so later to rule out nervousness. The second encounter allowed us another opportunity to hone in on the things that both did and didn't work for us. We had all but decided that this couple wasn't a compatible fit for us and although round 2 was better, we were still too far away from what we wanted.

Unfortunately, we went in for a third time, because we are slutty and it was easy to do.

Now the question: How do you break up with a couple?

Question 3:

I'm a 39-yr old woman & new to all of this although I've been very much wanting to explore my bisexual & naughty sides for quite some time…, got a new boyfriend, he's 32, bisexual & we've been together for 1 month, already practically living together & saying the "L" word.

He's experienced in the swinging lifestyle (although it's been awhile) & is thrilled that I'm wanting/willing to try some new things with him. We've made a couples profile on 3 different sites & had 1 threesome already.

The problem is, I'm wanting to take it slow when it comes to women & couples ~ need to find the right person that I feel comfortable with and trust (to kinda get me past that nervousness hump) & he's all gung-ho about meeting people ASAP & making things happen, to the point of fiendish obsession (from my point of view, anyway). He's constantly on swinger sites, viewing profiles, suggesting potential action to me, and I'm rather picky, especially if I finally break into girl-on-girl play.

It's made me feel insecure, especially now that he's done most of the negotiation and now has started deleting messages, so I said something about it. We talked, he agreed he was moving too fast, but now I fear that I'm being petty.

Is this venture between him & I doomed? I'm not 100% sure what my boundaries are and I know I can't be the only woman on the planet to have unwelcome territorial feelings & insecurities crop up when first starting out.

How can I overcome that? I really want to do this, and I want to do it with this man.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Question 4:

Hi Swingset, love your Swinging for Beginning series and hope to hear more in the future.

My wife and I tried NonMonogamy. It went great for her, it was disasterous for me. We made some mistakes that culminated in us ending up in an unintentional cuckold arrangement.

I'm faced with moving through the swinger community as a single male and I'm not sure how. Single female swingers are few and far between and single men are plentiful and often faced with limited or expensive access to clubs and other spaces. The swinger community is pretty anti-single male, I have no clue how to survive being one. I'm segregated from the community I want to be a part of and I don't how how to proceed. Help!

Question 5:

We had our first experience at an on premise party last weekend. Our rules going in were no penetration, whatever we do it's together - constant touching of each other and at the first sign of discomfort we bail and regroup. The biggest insecurities both had was getting into a situation and being ignored.

Unfortunately, the hubby drank way too much! We met a nice couple we were both comfortable with and stuck a pin in them for later, we then met another couple we liked and took the action upstairs. We started playing together but the my hubby seemed disconneted. The original couple came upstairs and my hubby went off with the wife. The rest of the night we moved independently, hubby with other women, me with other men and women.

The party ended, we went back to our rooms and ended up with more activity in which I felt ignored. My hubby's been apologizing ever since, he feels horrible and can't explain his actions. I feel like I should have ended things the first moment I felt ignored but I didn't. We're both confused and aren't sure how to proceed. Should we go out again but watch the drinking? Should we both be more free to speak up?

Join Cooper and Dylan as they host a class on Bacchanalia Basics at the Tool Shed in Milwaukee, WI on September 29th at 8:30PM!

You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe.

Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will also get you invited to a private chat system with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings.

The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher!

Android Users: Download and review our Android App!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).

You can now pre-order Cooper's novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%.

Help Dylan edit by buying him something from his Amazon Wishlist!

Intro Music: Stonebank - By Your Side (feat. EMEL)
Business Music: Muzzy - Children of Hell
Madam Fierce's Music: Duumu - For Her
Mike Joseph's Music: Falcon Funk - Catnip Trip (Perkulat0r Remix)
Outro Music: INTERCOM - Decoy World (feat. Park Avenue)

Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!

Dylan Thomas Mike Joseph Dirty Lola

SS 300.1: Post 300th Episode Orgasm Nap Sep 13, 2017

Hello Swingset Fans!

We're taking a short break, episode 300 took an immense amount of effort to prepare: From recording -actually live- with an almost hundred person audience to publishing it via an audio and video podcast, to normal scheduling shenanigans... we think it's well deserved.

Cooper's going to take a short break from the Swingset, he deserves it, so we've manned the Swingset Battle Bridge, separated the saucer section, and made plans for the rest of the crew to carry on in the last hostile takeover of the Swingset ever.

While we'll look forward to his return, we've also released a little piece of Swingset history: a transcript of our first episode from 2010 titled "Dipping a Toe In - How to Start Swinging". You can find it at lifeontheswingset.com, just ... be gentle, we'd like to think we've grown since then.

In the meantime, thanks for swinging by, and see you next week.

Music:

"Studio" Steve Wallace's -Air Man, off the Mega Man 2 album.

Licensed under (CC BY-ND 3.0).

SS 300: Live, atop Mt. Swingset at the Ski Chalet! Sep 07, 2017

Life on the Swingset gets back together at the ski chalet, high atop Mt. Swingset, except it's August and the air conditioning is on. The chair lifts aren't active so Ginger, Mike Joseph, Dirty Lola, Chris Pent , Cooper S. Beckett, Dylan Thomas, Dr. Liz Powell, and Katie Mack had to make their way up the old fashioned way, hand over hand. It's a special day, Life on the Swingset celebrates its 300th episode and does so with a live studio internet audience! Make sure you use #ss300 along with #sspodcast and tweet along as you listen!

You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe.

Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will also get you invited to a private chat system with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings.

The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher!

Android Users: Download and review our Android App!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).

You can now pre-order Cooper's novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%.

Help Dylan edit by buying him something from his Amazon Wishlist!

Rachel Lark joined us for our 300th episode with music from two of her albums !

Off the Vagenius album:

You Only Live Once (The Asshole Song)

Off the They've Done Studies album:

Outro Music: Puppet - Scribble (feat. The Eden Project)

Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!

Cooper S Beckett Dylan Thomas Dr. Liz Powell Mike Joseph Dirty Lola Ginger Bentham

SS 299: Foreplay and Changing Ideas of Sex Sep 03, 2017

When people think of sex, they generally assume there's penile penetration, probably into a vagina, and that everything leading up to that penetration is foreplay. It's a very narrow view, but it's a view that stubbornly persists into non-monogamy.

Tonight, on our #roadto300, we consider this episode on foreplay as foreplay. Dirty Lola, Dr. Liz Powell, Dylan Thomas, and Cooper S. Beckett get together to discuss foreplay and redefinition of what constitutes sex.

You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe.

Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will also get you invited to a private chat system with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings.

The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher!

Android Users: Download and review our Android App!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).

You can now pre-order Cooper's novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%.

Help Dylan edit by buying him something from his Amazon Wishlist!

Intro Music: Rameses B - Play To Win (feat. Holly Drummond)
Outro Music: Koven & Crystal Skies - You Me And Gravity
Business Music: Muzzy - Children of Hell
Dr. Liz Powell's Music: Hold On (feat. Q'AILA)

Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!

Cooper S Beckett Dylan Thomas Dr. Liz Powell Dirty Lola

SS 298: Putting Ourselves Out There In Sex & Relationships Aug 23, 2017

It is always risky, telling people what you're into, what you want, that you like them, but as we've found out it's often essential in getting anywhere in non-monogamy and in life. Tonight Dirty Lola, Cooper S. Beckett, Dr. Liz Powell, and Dylan Thomas discuss how to put yourself out there and how to take it when others do the same.

You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe.

Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will also get you invited to a private chat system with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings.

The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher!

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Intro and Outro Music: Grant, Anevo & Conro - Without You (feat. Victoria Zaro)
Review Music: Haywyre - Sculpted
Dr. Liz Powell's Music: Summer Was Fun - Hold On (feat. Q'AILA)

Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!

Cooper S Beckett Dylan Thomas Dr. Liz Powell Dirty Lola

SS 297: Pursuing Threesomes Aug 11, 2017

Dirty Lola, Cooper S. Beckett, and Dr. Liz Powell get together to discuss threesomes, the bests, the worsts, and the firsts

Check out Swinger Safari, the mobile app that has privacy, filter, and geolocation features unlike anything the Swingset has used before! Download the app for free and use the promo code LOTSS to get your free 60 days!

You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe.

Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will also get you invited to a private chat system with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings.

The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher!

Android Users: Download and review our Android App!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).

You can now pre-order Cooper's novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%.

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Thanks to Kevin MacLeod for his track Plucky Daisy from the Silent Film Score Compilation, licensed under Creative Commons v3.0,

Intro Music: Conro & Disero - Love Divine (feat. Alice Berg)
Outro Music: LVTHER - Some Kind Of Magic (feat. MYZICA)
Review Music: Haywyre - Sculpted
Dr. Liz Powell's Music: Summer Was Fun - Hold On (feat. Q'AILA)

Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!

Cooper S Beckett Dr. Liz Powell Dirty Lola

SS 296: Dick Pics and Dating Profiles w/Cunning Minx Jul 29, 2017

When setting up your dating profile, be it monogamous, poly, or swinger, if you're considering putting a big close up of your dick front and center, you MAY want to reconsider. Tonight the Cunning Minx, host of Polyamory Weekly and co-author of the new book: No Dick Pics: Your Guide to Creating an Irresistible Online Dating Profile joins Dylan Thomas, Cooper S. Beckett, Mike Joseph, and Dr. Liz Powell to discuss Dick Pics and Dating Profiles!

We discuss introductory messages and the advantages of using Statement, Disclosure, Invitation. We disassemble why people have issues making connections, discuss touch, cuddle parties, and we take a detour over Incels.

Life on the Swingset's 300th episode is right around the corner! Join us on August 13th for this once in 300 episodes event!

Dylan and Mister Pent will be at Schubas: Lincoln Hall on August 17th in Chicago for The Greatest Generation, a comedy podcast by two guys who are embarrassed to have a Star Trek podcast. Join them!

Check out Swinger Safari, the mobile app that has privacy, filter, and geolocation features unlike anything the Swingset has used before! Download the app for free and use the promo code LOTSS to get your free 60 days!

You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe.

Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will also get you invited to a private chat system with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings.

The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher!

Android Users: Download and review our Android App!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).

You can now pre-order Cooper's novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%.

Help Dylan edit by buying him something from his Amazon Wishlist!

Intro and Outro Music: Grant - Weapon (feat. Baum)
Review Music: Haywyre - Sculpted
Dr. Liz Powell's Music: Summer Was Fun - Hold On (feat. Q'AILA)
Mike Joseph's Music: Falcon Funk - Catnip Trip (Perkulat0r Remix)

Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!

Cooper S Beckett Dylan Thomas Dr. Liz Powell Mike Joseph

SS 295: Mortality Jul 19, 2017

Most of us, especially when young, hope that death will never come, or at least not for a really really long time, and that can mean being unprepared when it does. Difficulties with visitation, inheritance, and others are issues ignored at our own peril. Dr. Liz Powell talks personally and painfully about Elliot, a partner recently and unexpectedly deceased, and along with Dylan Thomas, Mike Joseph, Dirty Lola, and Cooper S. Beckett, discusses issues surrounding death, picking up the pieces in life, and dealing with grief.

Check out Swinger Safari, the mobile app that has privacy, filter, and geolocation features unlike anything the Swingset has used before! Download the app for free and use the promo code LOTSS to get your free 60 days!

You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe.

Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will also get you invited to a private chat system with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings.

The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher!

Android Users: Download and review our Android App!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).

You can now pre-order Cooper's novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%.

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SS 294: Game Changers: When Awesome People Upset our Carefully Planned Lives Jul 15, 2017

Non-monogamy definitely ups the ante on BUSY, which causes many of us to try to organize and plan our lives as carefully as possible. We say things like "I'm not going to date anyone new right now, or like some fool said last week, I'm not going to have long distance relationships anymore." So, Dr. Liz Powell, Dirty Lola, Cooper S. Beckett, and Dylan Thomas discuss what happens when someone pops up and changes the game.

Life on the Swingset's 300th episode is right around the corner! Join us on August 13th for this once in 300 episodes event!

Dylan and Mister Pent will be at Schubas: Lincoln Hall on August 17th in Chicago for The Greatest Generation, a comedy podcast by two guys who are embarrassed to have a Star Trek podcast. Join them!

Check out Swinger Safari, the mobile app that has privacy, filter, and geolocation features unlike anything the Swingset has used before! Download the app for free and use the promo code LOTSS to get your free 60 days!

You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe.

Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will also get you invited to a private chat system with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings.

The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher!

Android Users: Download and review our Android App!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).

You can now pre-order Cooper's novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%.

Help Dylan edit by buying him something from his Amazon Wishlist!

Intro Music: Grabbitz - Get Out
Thank You Music: Stephen Walking - Shark City
Business Music: Muzzy - Children of Hell
Review Music: Haywyre - Sculpted
Dr. Liz Powell's Music: Summer Was Fun - Hold On (feat. Q'AILA)
Outro Music: Snavs - Into The Wild (feat. Sebastian Lind)

Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!

SS 293: Long Distance Relationships & Keeping it Sexy Jul 07, 2017

We have a habit here of finding people fascinating on social media and at conferences, and so often they seem to live so very far away... like many members of the Swingset. Mike Joseph, Cooper S. Beckett, Dr. Liz Powell, and Dylan Thomas get together to discuss the distance between all us and how we work around it.

Also, Daddy Dylan takes a little time to story tell about legacy recording medium.

Dr Liz discusses how to handle touch being a primary love language when partners are far away. The panel discusses the difference between talking over the phone vs. text, how to handle both granting emotional space and still giving comfort. Dylan mentions that long distance relationships can set people up for constant NRE and how it's hard to keep perspective when that happens.

Check out Swinger Safari, the mobile app that has privacy, filter, and geolocation features unlike anything the Swingset has used before! Download the app for free and use the promo code LOTSS to get your free 60 days!

You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe.

Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will also get you invited to a private chat system with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings.

The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher!

Android Users: Download and review our Android App!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).

You can now pre-order Cooper's novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%.

Help Dylan edit by buying him something from his Amazon Wishlist!

Intro Music and Closing Outtakes Music: Karma Fields - Skewed
Outtakes Music: Muzzy - Letz Rock
Thank You Music: Stephen Walking - Shark City
Business Music: Muzzy - Children of Hell
Mike Joseph's Music: Falcon Funk - Catnip Trip (Perkulat0r Remix)
Dr. Liz Powell’s Music: Summer Was Fun – Hold On (feat. Q’AILA)
Outro Music: Eminence - Lost in Time (feat Memia)

Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!

SS 292: Building Our Sexy Community in the Most Pleasurable Place on Earth Jun 22, 2017

Over the last five years, the Swingset has seen first hand the glorious moments and difficulties of building our own community on our trips to the most pleasurable place on earth at Desire Resort in Cancun. This year represents our second takeover, and our sixth trip, and tonight we're joined by all the hosts of this year's trip (JV Altharas, Shara Bono, Tristan Taormino, Ginger Bentham, Dylan Thomas, Cooper S. Beckett) to talk about the unique challenges of creating safe spaces alongside sexy spaces, and the triumphs and difficulties of enjoying the hell out of our sexy selves.

Check out Swinger Safari, the mobile app that has privacy, filter, and geolocation features unlike anything the Swingset has used before! Download the app for free and use the promo code LOTSS to get your free 60 days!

You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe.

Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will also get you invited to a private chat system with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings.

The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher!

Android Users: Download and review our Android App!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).

You can now pre-order Cooper's novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%.

Help Dylan edit by buying him something from his Amazon Wishlist!

Intro Music: Slushii - LUV U NEED U
Thank You Music: Stephen Walking - Shark City
Outtakes Music: Stephen Walking - Porkchop Express
Interstitial & Outro Music: Tristam - Bone Dry

Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!

SS 291: Planning an Orgy - The Dynamics of Group Sex Jun 14, 2017

In traditional one on one sex, you pretty much know who you'll be engaging with, but when that complexity deepens to three, four, five or more (which is where we switch to the term orgy) there are a lot more, ahem, moving parts, to contend with. Group sex has a special set of dynamics, so Dr. Liz Powell, Mike Joseph, Dylan Thomas, and Cooper S. Beckett break them down!

The co-hosts touch on the fact that orgies don't require play parties, they can happen anywhere, sports viewing parties, show binge watching events, board gaming events, etc... They also mention how to prepare for being part of a pop-up orgy, including the possibility that someone may end up an odd person out, and how to still be cool when that happens.

Also, VOTE FOR THE SWINGSET AT LIFEONTHESWINGSET.COM/VOTE

Check out Swinger Safari, the mobile app that has privacy, filter, and geolocation features unlike anything the Swingset has used before! Download the app for free and use the promo code LOTSS to get your free 60 days!

You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe.

Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will also get you invited to a private chat system with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings.

The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher!

Android Users: Download and review our Android App!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).

You can now pre-order Cooper's novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%.

Help Dylan edit by buying him something from his Amazon Wishlist!

Intro and Outtake Music: Slushii - LUV U NEED U
Thank You Music: Stephen Walking - Shark City
Interstitial and Outro Music: Eminence & Supermans Feinde - Night Goes On (feat. Q'AILA)
Dr. Liz Powell's Music: Summer Was Fun - Hold On (feat. Q'AILA)
Mike Joseph's Music: Falcon Funk - Catnip Trip (Perkulat0r Remix)
Politics Music: Stonebank - Droppin' Low

Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!

Cooper S Beckett Dylan Thomas Dr. Liz Powell Mike Joseph

SS 290: Gang Bang the Mailbag 33 - My Wife and I, the Sequel Jun 08, 2017

We're Gang Banging the Mailbag once again, it is in fact our 33rd time! Today, Dirty Lola, Cooper S. Beckett, Dr. Liz Powell, and Dylan Thomas answer your listener questions!

Also, Dylan wants to throw a shoutout to Bex Caputo, aka: @BexTalksSex on Twitter, for their article: Changing What You Love: On Considering Hormones While You're Non-Binary

Question 1:

I was hoping you could give my wife and I some advice. My wife and I had talked about swinging for about a year before we actually met and played with our first couple. They checked so many of our boxes for a first encounter that we felt very fortunate to have met them.

The first time happened and was a reasonably good time. Not great by any means, but we didn't have any regrets as we popped our cherrys so to speak and we're both giddy for a month after. We discussed the apparent compatibility issues right away. We decided to take another crack at the full swap with the same couple a month or so later to rule out nervousness. The second encounter allowed us another opportunity to hone in on the things that both did and didn't work for us. We had all but decided that this couple wasn't a compatible fit for us and although round 2 was better, we were still too far away from what we wanted.

Unfortunately, we went in for a third time, because we are slutty and it was easy to do. Now the question: How do you break up with a couple?

Question 2:

My wife and I started our journey in the Lifestyle about 5 years ago. About 2 years ago we got close to some nearby swingers. (Wendy & Paul)

After a while, Wendy started to get jealous of my wife and her husband. They talked and decided that it was better to play in separate rooms. We did and was good for some time.

All was good until one night my wife visited him without them telling her. We were in a block party and she got a feeling, went to her house and came out really upset. He claims that he texted her. She received a text after the fact. Could it have been a delayed text? Who knows, does not matter. The point is that since that moment it was all drama with them and she pulled out from the relationship.

After that incident my wife and Paul started "dating" without Wendy knowing. After a while he told my wife that he felt uncomfortable of me being around when he was there and he'd rather be with her alone since I have her the vast majority of time, it was fair that she could spend good quality time with him from time to time, without me.

My wife really loves the guy, but she loves me too and this is tearing her up because although I let that situation to go for some time trying to explain them that I didn't like the arrangement and being left out, I finally put the breaks on it. it really kills me to see her so devastated. she wants to be with me and not lose him. he really wants her without me in the way, and I firmly believe that if we embark on a relation like this, me and my wife are the hosts and he would be a guest and should abide by our rules and I have tasted the feeling of being left behind and I didn't like it.... Am I wrong? What should I do? I'm really confused now.

Question 3:

I'm military serving in Afghanistan and I have been gone for several months with a few more to go. My wife and I have played together as a couple with other couples and an occasional single female once or twice.

Recently, we've increased our dirty chatting and sharing fantasies, becoming more and more graphic. She was attending a camping event that I knew drinks would be flowing along with some nudity. I found myself very excited at the prospect of my wife become sexual with another man.

All sort of situations played out in my mind. After, she shared that there was no more than a little light petting & teasing, but nothing more.

We then ventured into adding some fantasy to the reality in the retelling of the weekends events. Then over the course of the past week, we were discussing her getting wild and I was encouraging her to be naughty and to be sure to send me pictures. I shocked her when I described that I wanted to see some pictures with one of our friends cocks in her mouth. After the initial shock she bought into this plan with some teasing.

Then after Saturday night I was please to receive sexy pictures of her sucking our friends cock, along with some other shots that appeared to show her either on-top of him cowgirl style or being ridden doggy style from behind. She did reveal that those were staged for my enjoyment and that she didn't feel right doing anything beyond oral without me. I found the picture incredibly sexy and my wife told me she felt very sexy doing it.

She has expressed sexual frustration on her end and because of family visiting, she has not had much opportunity to use any of her toys. I've told her that I trust her if she needs to fuck our friend to relieve some frustration, as long as I get the footage of it. The thought excites me and I'd be OK with it once before I return, just not on a routine basis.

I want my wife to be happy and I've told her that I am perfectly happy with what ever she is comfortable with and she should not feel pressured to do anything she is uncomfortable with.

I just wanted to share and see if there is any discussion about dialing in long distance this way?

Question 4:

This past year we found out our 25-year-old son is actually a transgender woman and is currently in transition. Because of our open minded lifestyle, we embrace this 1000%, and have done so from the very first phone call. We have made it clear that our house is a safe space and she can talk about anything wear anything bring home anyone. We are not naïve though we know the rest of the world does not think this way. Our extended families are both very conservative, Christians.

This is a sampling of what I worry every day as the parent of a transgender child:; Will my child have the shit beat out of them today? Will my child be murdered today? But my child commit suicide today? Will my child be fired today? Should my child not have gotten on the train today? And on it goes. I have seen the fear in her eyes stopping at a public highway rest stop, I have felt the fear walking into the public rest stop with her. It is real.

Now the dilemma. There is a big family wedding coming up this spring. The wedding is in North Carolina and our child has told us she is afraid to go there. I totally understand and support that. In showing our support for her we have told family members that we Will not be able to attend the wedding and have explained why. It's not that we don't want to go to the wedding, it is that we can't go to this location. Well, you can imagine how this is going over. We have family members now that are not talking to us and won't return messages. Certainly the easiest thing would be to just go, But we don't think that is the right thing to do. We are sticking by our guns in support of our new daughter but it's coming at a big cost.

Are we doing the right thing? Again thanks for all you do it is so appreciated.

Check out Swinger Safari, the mobile app that has privacy, filter, and geolocation features unlike anything the Swingset has used before! Download the app for free and use the promo code LOTSS to get your free 60 days!

You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe.

Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will also get you invited to a private chat system with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings.

The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher!

Android Users: Download and review our Android App!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).

You can now pre-order Cooper's novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%.

Help Dylan edit by buying him something from his Amazon Wishlist!

Intro Music: Orbiter - Discovery
Review Music: Haywyre - Sculpted
Dr. Liz Powell's Music: Summer Was Fun - Hold On (feat. Q'AILA)
Outro Music: Eminence & Markus Cole - My Galaxy (feat. Q'AILA)

Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!

Cooper S Beckett Dylan Thomas Dr. Liz Powell Dirty Lola

SS 289: Gang Bang the Mailbag 32 - "My Wife and I" May 31, 2017

Eighteen episodes is the longest we've ever gone without a listener mailbag episode, so tonight we've dug in deep with a new collection of listener questions including a highly coveted voicemail (573-55-SWING folks)! Dr. Liz Powell, Mike Joseph, Dirty Lola, Cooper S. Beckett, and Dylan Thomas field your questions and dig deep. In addition to fielding a voicemail question about dating and learning about how to put out what you're up for, we responded to:

Question 2:

My wife and I each identify as Poly. We have been actively practicing non-monogamy for a number of years now. This past year however, I was diagnosed with depression and bipolar. living and coping with this condition has really brought strife into our relationship. Therefore, after much consultation with each other and my therapist we have decided to close our marriage for now. There were no active outside relationships at the time, so there was no pulling couple's privilege.

Now however, after this initial period of introspection, I found myself asking this question: Why do people (huge sweeping generalization there) who identify as Poly or otherwise non-monogamous seem to default to monogamy when things get tough with one of the relationships (usually the "primary")?

Shouldn't someone who identifies as Poly, have Poly as their default/fall back situation?

Question 3:

my wife & I have been talking about swinging for a while now and we've talked with a few couples but haven't been able to set up a meet yet. the question we have is how do we get over the nervousness of bringing a fantasy to reality and what happens if we don't like the reality of it

Question 4:

Dear Swingset.

My wife and I have been together for 5 years and my sexual experiences is quite limited. I have many fetishes and we stumbled into a FMF threesome one drunken evening. We have explored some of my fantasies together but many make her uncomfortable and we mostly stick to vanilla sex and light bondage.

We are both bisexual and I have never had a sexual experience with another man. I gently brought up the idea of us trying swinging and exploring the many M and F configurations together. This lead to fights and her refusing to even have the discussion with me. She would not let me do this on my own nor with her with the cost being our relationship. After several month I brought it up again and after a long and emotional talk we agreed that we would dip our toes but do everything together, she would set the pace and have veto powers. We started on Feeld and after a couple dates with couples found that she has no physical attractions to males with the exception of me. This is problematic as it leaves me with no males to pursue and us to go unicorn hunting.

Long story short we stopped our adventure with nothing gained except a deepened resentment towards me for 'pressuring' her into uncomfortable situations that she didn't want to be a part of anyways. By making the rules that we did everything together she felt she had no choice.

Now I'm in a situation where I will not have a chance to be with any other men or women or explore my fetishes for the cost of exploring is my marriage. I feel resentment towards her and my level of physical and emotional attraction towards has suffered greatly.

What am I to do?

Check out Swinger Safari, the mobile app that has privacy, filter, and geolocation features unlike anything the Swingset has used before! Download the app for free and use the promo code LOTSS to get your free 60 days!

You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe.

Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will also get you invited to a private chat system with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings.

The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher!

Android Users: Download and review our Android App!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).

You can now pre-order Cooper's novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%.

Help Dylan edit by buying him something from his Amazon Wishlist!

Intro Music: Orbiter - We Do
Voicemail Music: Summer Was Fun - Pick Up The Phone
Outtakes Music: Muzzy - Children of Hell
Dr. Liz Powell’s Music: Summer Was Fun – Hold On (feat. Q’AILA)
Mike Joseph's Music: Falcon Funk - Catnip Trip (Perkulat0r Remix)
Outro Music: Mr FijiWiji & Exist Strategy - Andromeda (feat. Matt Van)

Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!

SS 288: Masturbation - Our Touching Origins! May 25, 2017

For many of us, masturbation is one of the first things to go when we're depressed. Tonight we're going to explore the flipside of our full throttled self love. The hows the whys the whens, on this episode we're rubbing one or two or three or more out. Mike Joseph, Dirty Lola, Cooper S. Beckett, and Dr. Liz Powell discuss keeping the motors running, even if they're driving solo.

Check out Swinger Safari, the mobile app that has privacy, filter, and geolocation features unlike anything the Swingset has used before! Download the app for free and use the promo code LOTSS to get your free 60 days!

You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe.

Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will also get you invited to a private chat system with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings.

The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher!

Android Users: Download and review our Android App!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).

You can now pre-order Cooper's novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%.

Help Dylan edit by buying him something from his Amazon Wishlist!

Intro Music: Conro - Lay Low (feat. David Benjamin)
Outtakes Music: Tokyo Machine - Crazy
Review Music: Haywyre - Sculpted
Mike Joseph's Music: Falcon Funk - Catnip Trip (Perkulat0r Remix)
Dr. Liz Powell's Music: Summer Was Fun - Hold On (feat. Q'AILA)
Outro Music: 7 Minutes Dead - The Divide
Politics Music: Stonebank - Droppin' Low

Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!

SS 287: Why In The Butt? The Joy of Anal Sex May 17, 2017

We talk about butts bunches. Many of us enjoy putting things in our butts. Some of us wish we enjoyed it. What we don't often get into is the whys of butt play, how to make it better, how to explore it at first, and why anal sex can be awesome, so Dirty Lola, Cooper S. Beckett, Dr. Liz Powell, and Dylan Thomas get together to tell some stories and relay some expert opinion!

Help us find our Best in Show!

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Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will also get you invited to a private chat system with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings.

The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher!

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Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).

You can now pre-order Cooper's novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%.

Help Dylan edit by buying him something from his Amazon Wishlist!

Cold Open & Outtakes Music: Nitro Fun & Sound Remedy - Turbo Penguin
Commercial Lead-in Music: Rootkit - Levitate (feat. Tylor Maurer)
Review Music: Haywyre - Sculpted
Outro Music: Stonebank - The Only One (Darren Styles Remix) [feat. Ben Clark]

Our 2017 THEME and today's Intro Music comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!

SS 286: Making Porn: The Sexy, the Silly, & The Mundane, with Kate Sinclaire May 04, 2017

We've talked a lot about porn, often in high falutin ways about its importance (cuz it is important), its ability to change the world (cuz it has that), its danger of extinction (oh my the politics), and its ability to be beautiful. What we haven't discussed much is how sexy it can be, and how silly, sexy, and mundane making it can be. Kate Sinclaire, founder of CherryStems.com joins Dylan Thomas, Dr. Liz Powell, Dirty Lola, and Cooper S. Beckett to talk about living the porn life, both on and off camera.

We also end up discussing revenge porn, colonialism and indigenous porn, squirting, and sploshing.

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You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe.

Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will also get you invited to a private chat system with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings.

The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher!

Android Users: Download and review our Android App!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).

You can now pre-order Cooper's novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%.

Help Dylan edit by buying him something from his Amazon Wishlist!

Cold Open Music: Tokyo Machine - Hype
Intro Music: Stonebank - Back to Start (feat. Dylan Dunlap)
Outtakes Music: Stephen Walking - One Man Moon Band
Reviews Music: Haywyre - Sculpted
Outro Music: Pegboard Nerds - Downhearted (Ryos Remix) [feat. Jonny Rose]
Religion / Politics Music: Stonebank - Droppin' Low

Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!

SS 285: Keeping it Sexy in Unsexy Times Apr 27, 2017

We've all had the experience of life getting in the way of our sexy. Sometimes life pounds us with things that try to compel us to STAY DOWN. Tonight, Ginger Bentham returns and joins Mike Joseph, Dirty Lola, Cooper S. Beckett, and Dylan Thomas to discuss keeping it sexy through the curves life throws at us.

Help us find our Best in Show!

You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe.

Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will also get you invited to a private chat system with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings.

The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher!

Android Users: Download and review our Android App!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).

You can now pre-order Cooper's novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%.

Help Dylan edit by buying him something from his Amazon Wishlist!

Cold Open Music: Tokyo Machine - Hype
Intro and Outro Music: Duumu - Recovery
Thank You Music: Stephen Walking - Shark City
Business Music: Muzzy - Children of Hell
Voicemail Music: Summer Was Fun - Pick Up The Phone
Mike Joseph's Music: Falcon Funk - Catnip Trip (Perkulat0r Remix)

Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!

Cooper S Beckett Dylan Thomas Dirty Lola Mike Joseph

SS 284: The Non-Monogamy Renaissance w/ Andre Shakti Apr 20, 2017

Non-monogamy is riding a wave. Recently CNN had a positive article about the fact that more and more young people are choosing some flavor non-monogamy over traditional relationship forms. Awareness continues to grow exponentially, but with that comes the desperate need for a place to go to ask questions. Like us, our guest, the polyamory pundit Andre Shakti has submitted herself to the often scary world of giving advice. Her new advice column "I Am Poly & So Can You" seeks to temper that awareness with education and advice, and help guide people on their paths to relationship fluidity. She joins the panel with Dirty Lola, Dylan Thomas, and Cooper S. Beckett.

Help us find our Best in Show!

You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe.

The Center for Sexual Pleasure and Health celebrates its 7th anniversary with Curiosities, an auction to support the CSPH on April 28th at Machines with Magnets in Pawtucket, RI!

Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will also get you invited to a private chat system with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings.

The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher!

Android Users: Download and review our Android App!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).

You can now pre-order Cooper's novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%.

Help Dylan edit by buying him something from his Amazon Wishlist!

Intro and Outro Music: Muzzy - Draining Atlantic
Outtakes Music: Stephen Walking - Porkchop Express
Thank You Music: Stephen Walking - Shark City

Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!

Cooper S Beckett Dylan Thomas Dirty Lola

SS Special: Cooper and Ginger Talk Approaching the Swingularity Apr 15, 2017

Ginger continues the two-year tradition by sitting down with Cooper for a frank and intimate discussion about his new novel Approaching the Swingularity: Tales of Swinging & Polyamory, toxic masculinity, inclusion and diversity, sexuality, and sexy vacations and resorts.

You can buy the book now RIGHT HERE at ApproachingTheSwingularity.com/ - use promo code SWINGSET at checkout to save 10%!

If you still need to catch up, pick up A Life Less Monoagmous here

Approaching the Swingularity's Synopsis:

“Welcome home…”

Those words and a glass of sparkling champagne welcome you to Aphrodite’s Resort and Spa, a place of pleasure and debauchery, situated on a strip of white sand beach on the Riviera Maya.

Ryan and Jenn are still newbie swingers in many ways when they arrive with their friends, lovers, playmates, and veterans of this trip Bruce and Paige. As this foursome tries to wring out every last drop of pleasure that Aphrodite's has to offer, they’re confronted with the realities of life at home, as well as complexities of exploring a life less monogamous, the spectrum of sexuality, budding and waning attraction and love, and how one truly gets the most out of an orgy.

Alongside them are Alejandra and Crista, a lesbian couple on their first sexy vacation, recognizing the differences and difficulties in being the only lesbian swingers in the crowd. Raymond Horn is the host extraordinaire, on his tenth trip, who is losing his confidence and direction after watching his partner walk out the door the month before.

One hundred and eleven couples have descended on Aphrodite’s for a week of the finest food and drink, meeting and flirting, and getting down and debaucherous with friends and lovers alike. They will experience ecstasy and strain, for nothing is quite so intense in non-monogamous lifestyles as seven straight days at a resort filled with like-minded hedonists.

Together, they will seize the night.

Carpe Noctem!

You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe.

The Center for Sexual Pleasure and Health celebrates its 7th anniversary with Curiosities, an auction to support the CSPH on April 28th at Machines with Magnets in Pawtucket, RI!

Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will also get you invited to a private chat system with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings.

The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher!

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Ginger Bentham Cooper S Beckett

SS Off Week: April 2017 Apr 12, 2017

Hey Swingset Fans,

Dylan Thomas here.

It's an off week for the Swingset. We're going to schedule these in every so often because you know what... it's nice to have a week off.

Just... pretend I'm sticking my tongue out at you all right now.

Anyway, tomorrow night we record together again! Guest Andre Shakti rejoins the swingset and you can listen in, if you support Life on the Swingset by subscribing at SupportSwingset.com. Throw us a dollar an episode!

It's a huge help; in addition to keeping the Swingset going it contributes to some big things we're planning in 2018 and.. quite honestly, those big things only happen with your help. As thanks, if you subscribe we'll give you access to our online chat community and if you're able to offer five dollars an episode, you get a sweet pin that I'd be wearing right now ... if I wasn't nude. Hop on supportswingset.com and help us keep this thing going... for you.

Thanks, and see you all next week!

Or tomorrow, you know... if you wanna.

Music: Feint - Phosphor f/Miyoki

SS 283: Ethical Unicorn Hunting in Swinging & Polyamory - Life on the Swingset Apr 05, 2017

While many people enter into non-monogamy when already "coupled," there are some ways that folks approach this transition that can make folks like me feel more like prey than people. While there's nothing wrong with enjoying a threesome or wanting to both date the same person, unicorn hunting can quickly become predatory, coercive, and controlling. So how can you be sure that you're not falling into these patterns? Tonight, we're talking couple privilege and ethical treatment of unicorns.

SS 282: Playing with Disability w/ Andrew Gurza Mar 29, 2017

When we talk about privilege, it's usually a matter of race and class, and boils down to us not seeing or not even knowing to look for the issues that others face. Andrew Gurza, our guest tonight, is a Disability Awareness Consultant and Cripple Content Creator, and they join joins Cooper, Dylan, Dr. Liz Powell, and Mike Joseph to talk with us about how disability impacts life, the enormous breadth of the subject across the spectrum of sexuality, race, and class, and how it applies to living an alternative sexual lifestyle. We discussed the intersection between sexuality, disability, and queerness, discussed accommodations queer communities; in bar scenes and gathering places. We touched on disability as a critical dimension of diversity and on what being an ally means.

You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe.

The Center for Sexual Pleasure and Health celebrates its 7th anniversary with Curiosities, an auction to support the CSPH on April 28th at Machines with Magnets in Pawtucket, RI!

Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will also get you invited to a private chat system with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings.

The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher!

Android Users: Download and review our Android App!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).

You can now pre-order Cooper's novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%.

Intro Music: Tristam - Devotion
Outtakes Music: Stephen Walking - Porkchop Express
Outtakes Music: Stephen Walking - One Man Moon Band
Thank You Music: Stephen Walking - Shark City
Review Music: Haywyre - Sculpted
Outro Music: Tristam & Braken - Frame of Mind

Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!

Cooper S Beckett Dylan Thomas Dr. Liz Powell Mike Joseph

SS 281: Finding and Being Community Role Models w/ Kevin Patterson Mar 22, 2017

There is a sort of order from chaos that happens when like minded people discover others like themselves. Individuals become clusters, clusters become groups, and with groups come unavoidable growing pains, issues, conflict, and struggle. Still, there's a certain magic that comes from having a group of diverse and motivated people with a common role come together to build something, because when you get it right, you end up with a community. Community role models are essential and tonight, Kevin Patterson joinsCooper, Dylan, Dirty Lola, and Mike Joseph to discuss poly role models and the joys and struggles involved with building sex positive community.

You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe.

Check out Franklin Veaux's books More Than Two and Game Changer.

The Center for Sexual Pleasure and Health celebrates its 7th anniversary with Curiosities, an auction to support the CSPH on April 28th at Machines with Magnets in Pawtucket, RI!

Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will also get you invited to a private chat system with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings.

The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher!

Android Users: Download and review our Android App!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).

You can now pre-order Cooper's novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%.

Intro Music: Glacier - Neos
Outtakes Music: Stephen Walking - Porkchop Express
Outtakes Music: Stephen Walking - One Man Moon Band
Thank You Music: Stephen Walking - Shark City
Review Music: Haywyre - Sculpted
Outro Music: TwoThirds - Daydreamer

Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!

Cooper S Beckett Dylan Thomas Dirty Lola Mike Joseph

SS 280: Sharing & Oversharing: Putting Our Sex Lives on Stage with Lucas Brooks & Kinky Jean Mar 16, 2017

After seven years of podcasting, it's rather shocking to us how much we put of our lives out into the ether. A podcast can be very much like a living document in that way. What compels us to share so much of ourselves? Probably some narcissism, but also an innate belief that personal information breeds empathy and understanding. Tonight we talk about sharing and oversharing with Cooper, Dylan, Dirty Lola, Mike Joseph, Kinky Jean, and Lucas Brooks to talk about putting our lives out in the open, out on stage.

You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe.

The Center for Sexual Pleasure and Health celebrates its 7th anniversary with Curiosities, an auction to support the CSPH on April 28th at Machines with Magnets in Pawtucket, RI!

Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will also get you invited to a private chat system with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings.

The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher!

Android Users: Download and review our Android App!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).

You can now pre-order Cooper's novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%.

Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!

Cold Open / Outtakes Music: Tokyo Machine - BLAST
Intro Music: Puppet - Scribble (feat. The Eden Project)
Review Music: Haywyre - Sculpted
Outro Music: Nitro Fun - Cheat Codes

Cooper S Beckett Dylan Thomas Dr. Liz Powell Mike Joseph

SS 279: The Allure of Paradise - The Swingset at Desire Resort Mar 03, 2017

Tonight we celebrate two things, first, our 7th anniversary as a podcast, and second our first takeover of Desire Resort last November. It's no secret that there's been some...stuff...happening in the world. As that stuff started on our trip, we've been a little...loath to revisit. But now, to celebrate our anniversary, we have assembled an epic podcast panel including Cooper, Dylan, Mister Pent, Lyndzi, Dr. Liz Powell, J.V. Altharas, and Shara Bono to all talk about this thing, this special resort, this place unequaled in time and space, Desire Resort and Spa.

You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe.

The Center for Sexual Pleasure and Health celebrates its 7th anniversary with Curiosities, an auction to support the CSPH on April 28th at Machines with Magnets in Pawtucket, RI!

Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will also get you invited to a private chat system with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings.

The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher!

Android Users: Download and review our Android App!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).

You can now pre-order Cooper's novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%.

Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!

Intro Music: Anevo - Waiting on Your Call (feat. Park Avenue)
Outtakes Music: Tokyo Machine - HYPE
Review Music: Haywyre - Sculpted
Outro Music: Feint - Homebound

Cooper S Beckett Dylan Thomas Dr. Liz Powell Chris Pent Lyndzi Miller

Desire Week 2017! ESDA 080: Dungeon Desire DM Roundtable - Ending the Sexual Dark Age Mar 02, 2017

On November 9th, the disco at Desire Resort became a dungeon for the first time and it was an amazing night. Shara and I could never have pulled it off without the support and assistance of several other kinky couples who acted as both dungeon masters and service tops all evening. This episode was about bringing them on the show and capturing some of the incredible energy of that evening. Want to see what our humble dungeon looked like before the action started? Scroll down or visit our Facebook album

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Desire Week 2017! GPSC 014: Closing the Deal, at the Swingset Desire Takeover - The Gentleperverts' Social Club Mar 01, 2017

Hello Swingset Fans and welcome to Desire week on the Swingset! The following podcast was recorded at Desire in November 2016 and features Dr. Liz Powell, Chris aka. Mister Pent, and myself, and it is The Gentleperverts Social Club. If you want to join us in Desire from November 4th to the 11th in 2017, well, hurry up! We are over 50% booked and yes... 51% does count as over 50%. :) So visit SSDESIRE.com for information on pricing and booking and when you do you'll be joining us for our second full takeover of Desire.

While enjoying time at Desire Resort and Spa, we watched, waited, and realized our suffering through the 2016 Election would continue, but we decided to acknowledge the election and move on, for when we returned home we'd have work to do, and there was no work to be done while "stuck in Mexico". So, Chris Pent. Dr. Liz Powell and myself, with Tonia as our willing hostess and facilitator, decided to talk about:

Closing the Deal

Being sexually free means potential surrounds you, but it can be a real challenge to find someone you're attracted to and to ask them to join you in a way that allows for multiple chances for success, and for graceful failures.

We are the Gentleperverts Social Club, You can find more Gentleperverts’ Social Club podcasts every month at www.gentleperverts.com and discuss our latest episodes and topics on twitter with @GentlePerverts and on the Swingset.FM network hashtag #SSFM on twitter.. You can find me, Dylan Thomas, on Twitter, Facebook, Spotify and Fetlife. If you have a submission, a story, a signal boost request, or an idea for a topic, send that over to me at dylan@lifeontheswingset.com.

We featured music by:

Puppet - Play Pretend, off the new Fear is Fleeting EP
Anna Yvette & Laura Brehm – Summer Never Ends

SS 278: From Dildos to Playrooms - Accessorizing Our Sexy Lives Feb 23, 2017

You're all sexy and sophisticated human beings, You understand your sexuality and you enjoy both giving and receiving pleasure. Once you've figured all that out about yourself, where do you go? What do you do next? Tonight we talk about how to best accessorize your sexy life, from dildos and vibrators, to rolls of saran wrap and condoms, to Liberator throes and sex furniture.

We've created a list of all the items we discussed on the podcast!

Dildos, Plug, and Harnesses

Condoms & Barriers

Furniture & Surfaces

Don't forget to bring your towels!

You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe.

The Center for Sexual Pleasure and Health celebrates its 7th anniversary with Curiosities, an auction to support the CSPH on April 28th at Machines with Magnets in Pawtucket, RI! Help support Life on the Swingset products podcasts and put on live panels, podcasts, and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) an episode on Patreon at SupportSwingset.com! You can also purchase some of our sweet sweet Life on the Swingset merch from t-shirts, iPhone cases, blankets, and more!

Leave us a review and a five star rating on iTunes! Leave us a review and a five star rating on Stitcher! Subscribe to us on Youtube! Android Users: Download and review our Android App!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464). Find Cooper on Twitter @CooperSBeckett, Dylan on Twitter @DylanTheThomas, and Ginger on twitter @GingerNTheProf.

Make a statement without saying a word that you Stand with Nasty Women by purchasing our I Stand with Nasty Women t-shirt! 75% of all proceeds from the purchase go directly to the American Civil Liberties Union.

You can Cooper’s novel about swinging, A Life Less Monogamous, at alifelessmonogamous.com or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at mylifeontheswingset.com as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook and if you buy them from his sites, use promo code SWINGSET to save 10%!

Sticky Biscuits' new EP is OUT!

We played Sticky Biscuits' track: Fuck First, a cautionary tale about the consequences of eating on dates before fucking! You can find more Sticky Biscuits at their Patreon, on Twitter, on Facebook, on Instagram, and at their Bandcamp page!

Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!

Intro Music: Grant - Constellations (feat. Jessi Mason)
Outtakes Music: Tokyo Machine - HYPE
Review Music: Haywyre - Sculpted
Outro Music: Ephixa & Laura Brehm - Losing You
End of Episode Outtakes Music: nanobii - Chipland
... also End of Episode Outtakes Music: Tokyo Machine - PIXEL

Cooper S Beckett Dylan Thomas Dr. Liz Powell Mike Joseph

SS 277: On Gender, Feminism & Non-Monogamy with Dedeker Winston Feb 15, 2017

It's no secret that women may have dramatically different experiences entering into the non-monogamous world than men, whether it's exploring dating on OkCupid, charting a path through swinger parties, or being a third in a couples' relationship. Dedeker Winston, co-host of Swingset.FM's Multiamory, and author of the new book The Smart Girl's Guide to Polyamory joins Dylan Thomas, Dr. Liz Powell, Mike Joseph, and Cooper S. Beckett to discuss gender and feminism within non-monogamy.

As you listen, don't forget to tweet at #sspodcast!

You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe.

You can find Dedeker Winston's book A Smart Girl's Guide to Polyamory, here!

Dr. Liz talked about Joreth's perspective on Solo Poly.

The Center for Sexual Pleasure and Health celebrates its 7th anniversary with Curiosities, an auction to support the CSPH on April 28th at Machines with Magnets in Pawtucket, RI!

Help support Life on the Swingset products podcasts and put on live panels, podcasts, and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) an episode on Patreon at SupportSwingset.com! You can also purchase some of our sweet sweet Life on the Swingset merch from t-shirts, iPhone cases, blankets, and more!

Leave us a review and a five star rating on iTunes! Leave us a review and a five star rating on Stitcher! Subscribe to us on Youtube! Android Users: Download and review our Android App!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464). Find Cooper on Twitter @CooperSBeckett, Dylan on Twitter @DylanTheThomas, and Ginger on twitter @GingerNTheProf.

Make a statement without saying a word that you Stand with Nasty Women by purchasing our I Stand with Nasty Women t-shirt! 75% of all proceeds from the purchase go directly to the American Civil Liberties Union.

You can Cooper’s novel about swinging, A Life Less Monogamous, at alifelessmonogamous.com or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at mylifeontheswingset.com as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook and if you buy them from his sites, use promo code SWINGSET to save 10%!

Sticky Biscuits' new EP is OUT!

We played Sticky Biscuits' track: Even the Cutest Kittens, a little STI awareness disco song. You can find more Sticky Biscuits at their Patreon, on Twitter, on Facebook, on Instagram, and at their Bandcamp page!

Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!

Review Music: Haywyre - Sculpted
Politics Music: Stonebank - Droppin' Low
Intro Music: Gareth Emery & Standerwick - Saving Light (feat. HALIENE)
Outtakes Music: Tokyo Machine - HYPE
Outro Music: Notaker - Shimmer
End of Episode Outtakes Music: Rameses B - Vitality

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SS 276: Our Finest Sexy Hours, #EXPLANABRAG Feb 01, 2017

Used to be, we'd talk pretty endlessly about our sexual activity on this podcast, to the point where our MOST NEGATIVE REVIEW EVER called us out for it. But that's ages ago, and it's been quite a while, and we're feeling a little indulgent and want to have some sexy conversation. You may as well just slap the #explanabrag hashtag right on here, cuz that's what Dylan Thomas, Cooper S. Beckett, Dr. Liz Powell, Mike Joseph, and Dirty Lola are doing tonight!

We each tell some of our most recent sexy stories... stories including rimming, threesomes, pegging, anal, rimming, blowjobs, piss play, Donald Trump masks, deep throating, gagging, anal, bathhouses, play parties, orgies, strap-on sex... oh yes... yes.

As you listen, don't forget to tweet at #sspodcast!

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Make a statement without saying a word that you Stand with Nasty Women by purchasing our I Stand with Nasty Women t-shirt! 75% of all proceeds from the purchase go directly to Planned Parenthood.

You can Cooper’s novel about swinging, A Life Less Monogamous, at alifelessmonogamous.com or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at mylifeontheswingset.com as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook and if you buy them from his sites, use promo code SWINGSET to save 10%!

Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!

Intro Music: LVTHER - Some Kind Of Magic (feat. MYZICA)
Outtakes Music: Tokyo Machine - HYPE
Review Music: Haywyre - Sculpted
Outro Music: PYLOT - Caine, off the new Shadowtask EP

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SS 275: The Myths of Sex & Porn Addiction with Dr. David Ley Jan 26, 2017

It seems to happen like clockwork. Someone cheats, or gets caught in some sort of sex scandal. They have to make amends, show that they're working to fix "the problem" so they can return to their normal lives. While we on the Swingset happen to think that many of their normal lives might've been improved with open and honest conversations about monogamy, so often they fall back to the excuses of "I'm addicted to sex" and failing that, "I'm addicted to porn." It's widespread and it's been propagated by early friend to open sexual discussion Dr. Drew (who has since descended into some sort of madness). Tonight we're thrilled to be joined by clinical psychologist Dr David Ley to discuss the myths of sex and porn addiction. Join Cooper, Dylan, Dirty Lola, Mike Joseph, and Dr. Liz Powell on tonight's panel!

As you listen, don't forget to tweet at #sspodcast!

We're sponsored by Castle Megastore, a one stop shop with everything you could want, from wand vibrators, to harnesses, to lube and condoms, to a complete suite of BDSM equipment including sex furniture. If you use the promo code SWINGSET at check out you can save 20% on your order.

Resources:

The Klein Sexual Orientation Grid

Christian C. Joyal & Julie Carpentier's study: The Prevalence of Paraphilic Interests and Behaviors in the General Population: A Provincial Survey

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Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464). Find Cooper on Twitter @CooperSBeckett, Dylan on Twitter @DylanTheThomas, and Ginger on twitter @GingerNTheProf.

You can Cooper’s novel about swinging, A Life Less Monogamous, at alifelessmonogamous.com or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at mylifeontheswingset.com as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook and if you buy them from his sites, use promo code SWINGSET to save 10%!

Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!

Intro Music: PYLOT - Shadowtask, off the new Shadowtask EP
Politics Music: Muzzy & Droptek - Warhead
Outtakes Music: Tokyo Machine - PIXEL
Review Music: Haywyre - Sculpted
Outro Music: Haywyre - Endlessly

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SS 274: Never Finished - Improving Ourselves for Sex & Relationships Jan 18, 2017

It's the New Year, 2017, and for much of our country that means halfhearted resolutions. I'm going to change. I'm going to improve. These resolutions come about because of the arbitrary timeline that defines last year and this year. We are unfinished, and as such, we can strive to always improve. We discuss working on ourselves and becoming better, in sex, in relationships, and in life with Cooper, Dylan, Dr. Liz, Mike Joseph, and Dirty Lola.

As you listen, don't forget to tweet at #sspodcast!

We're sponsored by Castle Megastore, a one stop shop with everything you could want, from wand vibrators, to harnesses, to lube and condoms, to a complete suite of BDSM equipment including sex furniture. If you use the promo code SWINGSET at check out you can save 20% on your order.

Leave us a review and a five star rating on iTunes! Leave us a review and a five star rating on Stitcher! Subscribe to us on Youtube! Android Users: Download and review our Android App!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464). Find Cooper on Twitter @CooperSBeckett, Dylan on Twitter @DylanTheThomas, and Ginger on twitter @GingerNTheProf.

You can Cooper’s novel about swinging, A Life Less Monogamous, at alifelessmonogamous.com or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at mylifeontheswingset.com as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook and if you buy them from his sites, use promo code SWINGSET to save 10%!

Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!

Intro Music: Snavs - Time
Outtakes Music: Tokyo Machine - PIXEL
Outro Music: Rameses B - We Love

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SS 273: Cybersecurity for our Naughty Bits, aka: Bring on 2017 Jan 15, 2017

We've been overdue for for a rapprochement with one of our favorite past topics: Privacy and Security in Swinging & Polyamory.The team of Mister Pent and Dylan Thomas put together information about securing yourself on the internet that a panel also including Dr. Liz Powell, Mike Joseph, and Cooper S. Beckett could discuss, digest, and put into action. In the age of our ability to connect anywhere and anytime, share information easily, and be as open as we want to be, it's important we arm ourselves with the knowledge necessary to make good decisions about what we put online and the information required to raise our level of computer and internet security.

As you listen, don’t forget to tweet at #sspodcast and feel free to ask questions of @MisterPent and @DylanTheThomas!

We’re sponsored by Castle Megastore, a one stop shop with everything you could want, from wand vibrators, to harnesses, to lube and condoms, to a complete suite of BDSM equipment including sex furniture. If you use the promo code SWINGSET at check out you can save 20% on your order.

While we are definitely going to put together ebook / guide on cybersecurity for perverts, we wanted to list some of the resources we discussed during the podcast here:

On Two-Factor Authentication

When enabled, two-factor authentication (or 2FA) can surface as a "we don't recognize this device" message sent to an email address or a mobile phone number, or it can refer to an installed mobile app or a physical security token. You can find a list of websites that support 2FA here: https://twofactorauth.org/

In the meantime if you have a Google account, or have logins on sites like Dropbox, Lastpass, or Microsoft, go grab the Google Authenticator app. If you're a steam gamer, grab the Steam app and enable Steam Guard.

On Passwords

Securityinabox.org has a lot of great contnet with tools and tactics for digital security, they have a particularly good guide on creating, maintaining, remembering, and recording secure passwords, including with a password manager.

XKCD's comic on Password Security that we love:

On Password Managers and Sharing Passwords:

Mister Pent, Cooper S. Beckett, and Dylan Thomas use Lastpass. Lastpass allows you to have a single set of passwords securely accessible over multiple devices and over the web, while setting up two factor authentication to limit access. It includes web browser extensions to automatically log you into sites and an Android app that does the same, depending on desired level of ease of use. It also allows you to share sets of passwords secureiy and simply with other people.

Dylan Thomas also uses mSecure synchronized to a Dropbox account. mSecure has mobile and computer apps. It's not as nice or feature filled as Lastpass, but it's a little extra hassle for a lot of extra security for the most sensitive of passwords.

If you need to share a temporary password with someone you can use OneTimeSecret. You create an a self-destructing link that disappears once it's accessed or once a certain amount of time passes.

On using VPNs:

You can't always trust the access to the internet you have, whether it's because you're in an airport on free airport wireless or a coffee shop or because you're travelling. Sometimes you may just want to tune into BBC Radio 5 using their iPlayer and you happen to not live in the Commonwealth. VPNs can keep your traffic secure when you can't trust your connection, with the added benefit of giving you choice on what country your traffic exits so you can use region specific resources.

Dylan Thomas uses BlackVPN. Mister Pent and Cooper S. Beckett use Private Internet Access.

Both can support simultaneous connections to cover multiple devices at once, and both allow multiple country exit points It has guides for usage on Windows, OS X, Linux, Android and iOS.

On Encrypting your Devices using Passwords or Biometric Authentication:

If you don't use a password, pin code, or thumbprint on your mobile devices, set one up! Modern Android and iOS based phones will automatically encrypt your device or give you the option to once you've set a password. While a six digit pin code or better is best, anything is better than nothing. Just Do It.

On Encrypting your Computer with Full Disk Encryption!

If you have a maching running a Pro version of Windows, use Bitlocker. Windows 7 ||| Windows 10

If you are running any other version of Windows, use Veracrypt. Securityinabox.org has a great guide on using Veracrypt to encrypt an external drive or your entire computer.

If you're running MacOS, Backblaze (the Cloud Storage company) has a comprehensive FileVault usage guide, though Apple's isn't so bad.

If you're running Linux you probably don't need our assistance. *grin*

On Backing up your data & Encryption in the Cloud:

One of the biggest risks to your data is physical failure or destruction of your devices. While services like Google Drive, iCloud, Dropbox and Box give us places to put our files in a pretty secure way, information stored on those services can be accessed and recovered by the services themselves in case of an investigation or subpoena. We recommend Backblaze as they encrypt data at rest and support two factor authentication.

On Communicating Securely:

We recommend using Signal Private Messenger, which includes iOS and Android apps and a Chrome extension and supports private messaging and calling.

Whatsapp supports end-to-end encryption. With Facebook Messenger you can enable secret conversations.

We suggest never sending sensitive information over email.

On Social Media:

Check out SecurityInABox.org's guide to security and privacy on social networking sites.

On Browsing Secureiy:

Drive-by malware downloads and poisoned ad networks, or shady looking porn sites, can mean you may pick something up while browsing the internet, often through no fault of your own. Most of us use both Google Chrome and Mozilla Firefox to browse the web, each for different sets of accounts (Multiple Google Accounts!) and with different sets of extensions installed to help protect ourselves.

Mister Pent prefers Ghostery.

Dylan Thomas uses Adblock Plus with Google Chrome, and NoScript on Mozilla Firefox.

For ultimate browsing privacy, the Tor Browser is a good option.

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Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464). Find Cooper on Twitter @CooperSBeckett, Dylan on Twitter @DylanTheThomas, and Ginger on twitter @GingerNTheProf.

You can Cooper’s novel about swinging, A Life Less Monogamous, at alifelessmonogamous.com or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at mylifeontheswingset.com as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook and if you buy them from his sites, use promo code SWINGSET to save 10%!

Our 2017 LOTS THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!

Intro Music: Pegboard Nerds - Talk About It f/ Desirée Dawson, off the new Nerds By Nature EP
Outtakes Music: Tokyo Machine - PIXEL
Outro Music: nanobii - Chipland

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SS 272: Beyond Kinsey - Sliding Across the Sexuality Spectrum Dec 28, 2016

One of the main reasons that so many of us leave monogamous relationships is the realization that we or our partners may not be as hetero as we thought. Non-monogamy can provide an exceptional opportunity to go beyond Kinsey's Scale, and view the entire spectrum of sexuality that spreads out before us, learning about ourselves in the process. The fluidity of sexuality and sexual expression is often underappreciated in the vanilla world. From straight to gay, to bi, pan, and omni, that's what we're talking about tonight on Life on the Swingset, the Podcast.

As you listen, don't forget to tweet at #sspodcast!

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Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464). Find Cooper on Twitter @CooperSBeckett, Dylan on Twitter @DylanTheThomas, and Ginger on twitter @GingerNTheProf.

You can Cooper’s novel about swinging, A Life Less Monogamous, at alifelessmonogamous.com or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at mylifeontheswingset.com as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook and if you buy them from his sites, use promo code SWINGSET to save 10%!

Today's featured music came via: ▁ ▂ ▃ ▄ SXIP SHIREY in a track titled: Cinnamon Stick, featuring XAVIER. Find more information about Sxip Shirey here, or check out their January 9th, 2017 cd release show at National Sawdust in NYC at 7PM for "A Bottle of Whiskey and a Handful of Bees"!

Today's intro music came courtesy of Vlad Lucan in his track titled Reverse!

Outtakes Music: Tokyo Machine - PIXEL
Outro Music: Tristam - Before We Fade

Cooper S Beckett Dylan Thomas Dr. Liz Powell Mike Joseph Chris Pent

SS 271: Gang Bang The Mailbag 31 Dec 22, 2016

Welcome to Gang Bang The Mailbag TRIPLE X (plus 1)! We're recording tonight with a live (and muted) studio audience! As always, questions have been edited for content and clarity. As usual, answers have not been edited for content or clarity! If you have a question for a future listener mailbag, please give us a call at 573-557-9464 and leave us a message, or email us at contact@lifeontheswingset.com. Tonight, Dr. Liz Powell, Mike Joseph, Cooper and Dylan gang bang the mailbag!

As you listen, don't forget to tweet at #sspodcast!

We're sponsored by Castle Megastore, a one stop shop with everything you could want, from wand vibrators, to harnesses, to lube and condoms, to a complete suite of BDSM equipment including sex furniture. If you use the promo code SWINGSET at check out you can save 20% on your order.

Tonight we answer the following written questions:

My road into non-monogamy has been a twisted and challenging path. My 13-year marriage ended last year partly because of an incompatibility around the potential for opening our marriage.

When I started dating I tried to be very open with women about my desire for non-monogamy and live a polyamourous life that includes swinging and sometimes a little kink and BDSM. Through dating apps like Tinder I have met many wonderful women and had some great relationships develop. I have tremendously transparent conversations with these women. Most run for the hills after to non-monogamy talk, some are intrigued and go along with it for a while, but in the end these relationships mostly follow the same pattern. The woman is okay with other partners in the beginning, but as time passes she always has a difficult time with the non-monogamy and it ends or goes to the friend zone. Otherwise the woman wants a “don’t ask don’t tell” or “friends with benefits” approach, which to me is just single dating rather than ethical non monogamy. It is impossible to have intimacy without transparency.

Where does one go to find women who are already there in the poly/swinger community who are looking for other poly/swing single partners? Are there any better strategies for finding women more directly who already share these values?

Aaron from Canada

My brief backstory: 50ish male, married for twenty-something years. I have always struggled with attraction, crushes, and even feelings for, and from, others. Monogamy isn't actually what I want, and, in the spirit of a good mid-life crisis, I'm not getting any younger.

Being aware of the trauma that this might cause my wife, I have introduced the topic gently and slowly. She has reacted... well, it's hard to say. There has been no screaming and crying, which I guess is a good sign. The best description of her reaction is "ninja-level avoidant", as she deflects my every attempt to explore this in depth.

An example: after a recent talk she said "you've given me a lot to think about".

I realise what I want most is to have the relationship communication skills that are necessary to be non-monogamous in the first place. To have the openness that I hear others describe in their relationships. It's not even principally about the swinging anymore. I have communication envy!

So how do I learn to communicate like a non-monogamous person? And how do I teach someone else to do this? Is it possible?

My husband I have been in the swing lifestyle since we first started dating 6 years ago. Along the way, I have developed more romantic feelings for some of our partners, while things remain mainly about friendship and sex for my husband. I've tried to hide my feelings which has resulted in a lot of hurt. We are trying to figure out how to move forward when I feel more poly and he still feels more like a swinger and isn't interested in developing romantic relationships. I'm having trouble finding resources that talk about how to successfully move between the two.

Kara

Today I found out, in a convoluted way, that a long-term male partner of mine sexually assaulted someone. I don't know the any details. I don't know when it happened, or what happened afterwards. I do know that women don't lie about sexual assault. I also learned two others say they witnessed him pushing boundaries or putting women in uncomfortable situations , and that he's seen as a "missing stair" in some subsets of our local kink community.

This is someone I love. Someone I've only ever had positive, affirming, respectful experiences with. Someone I trusted with my life (and I'm an angry, suspicious, mostly-lesbian hardcore feminist killjoy who rarely trusts anyone).

What should I do?

Oh, and just to make things even more complicated, this partner's live-in partner is also my partner. We're a triad. Do I tell her? How?

In answering this question, Dylan lamented not reading the question before he read it as he wanted to have a more prepared answer. Dr. Liz on the other hand was able to respond quickly and effectively on ways to address members of the community to who have violated boundaries and support people who have had their boundaries violated, and how to both repair and grow the larger community after. Visit a compilation of resources Dr. Liz put together here.

We took a little time at the end of the episode for business. Dr. Liz put out a new video on Youtube titled "What's the 'Friend Zone' Anyway?"

Mike Joseph has been speaking lately on behalf of the Jed Foundation, a NYC based organization empowering teens and young adults with the skills and support to grow into healthy thriving adults. Visit them at www.jedfoundation.org.

You can also always find Mike Joseph at his podcast the Jheri Curl Chronicles Radio Show at www.popblerd.com.

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Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464). Find Cooper on Twitter @CooperSBeckett, Dylan on Twitter @DylanTheThomas, and Ginger on twitter @GingerNTheProf.

You can Cooper’s novel about swinging, A Life Less Monogamous, at alifelessmonogamous.com or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at mylifeontheswingset.com as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook and if you buy them from his sites, use promo code SWINGSET to save 10%!

Today's intro music came via: ▁ ▂ ▃ ▄ SXIP SHIREY in a track titled: Cinnamon Stick, featuring XAVIER. Find more information about Sxip Shirey here, or check out their January 9th, 2017 cd release show at National Sawdust in NYC at 7PM for "A Bottle of Whiskey and a Handful of Bees"!

Reading Reviews Music: Haywyre - Sculpted
Outro Music: DROELOE - Bon Voyage

Cooper S Beckett Dylan Thomas Dr. Liz Powell Mike Joseph

SS 270: Gang Bang The Mail Bag XXX Dec 14, 2016

Welcome to Gang Bang The Mailbag TRIPLE X! That's right, this is our thirtieth listener mailbag episode, and we're recording tonight with a live (and muted) studio audience! As always, questions have been edited for content and clarity. If you have a question for a future listener mailbag, please give us a call at 573-557-9464 and leave us a message. Tonight, Dr. Liz Powell, Mike Joseph, Cooper and Dylan gang bang the mailbag! As you listen, don't forget to tweet at #sspodcast!

We're sponsored by Castle Megastore, a one stop shop with everything you could want, from wand vibrators, to harnesses, to lube and condoms, to a complete suite of BDSM equipment including sex furniture. If you use the promo code SWINGSET at check out you can save 20% on your order.

Tonight we answer a voicemail question on how to maintain long distance play relationships, and the following written questions:

I'm a big fan of the podcast,of you as people and of all you're doing for people in the lifestyle. First of all I would like to say as a black man I appreciated the episode on Polyamorous as a Person of Colour, granted my experiences are a different as I am from a majority black country(Jamaica) so I swing with mostly black people.

Is being in fuck with someone a thing? Meaning you're not in love with them but you and them have a unique sexual chemistry. Is this a thing, can you be in love, just with having sex with someone?

I'm married to a great guy in a monogamous relationship. My fantasy has always been to have an MFM threesome. I finally found the courage to mention this to him a couple years ago, and he was cautious but excited about exploring; he could tell it really turned me on. The question has been who - we both want it to be someone we know well enough that we trust them, and I'm pretty picky. So we haven't really pursued it.

Well, we finally have someone in mind. Here's the thing: he's married. He and I originally met at burning man, and since then the four of us have all gotten to know each other. His wife is great. She jokes about his "girlfriends" and he implies they have some flexibility, but I'm not sure exactly what that means. When I asked him if they are poly, he said no, he doesn't like that term. So I don't really know if she'd be cool with it.

What is the protocol for trying to move things forward? I'd feel pretty comfortable asking the third if he'd be into it. I'd feel less comfortable asking his wife's "permission." Whatever happens, I don't want to foul up our friendship. (FWIW we don't have an interest in swinging at the moment.) What would you do?

Oh, and assuming the third is into it, any tips for keeping things sexy and comfortable for us? My husband is a little nervous how he'll feel seeing his wife with another man!

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Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464). Find Cooper on Twitter @CooperSBeckett, Dylan on Twitter @DylanTheThomas, and Ginger on twitter @GingerNTheProf.

You can Cooper’s novel about swinging, A Life Less Monogamous, at alifelessmonogamous.com or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at mylifeontheswingset.com as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook and if you buy them from his sites, use promo code SWINGSET to save 10%!

Outtakes Music: Tokyo Machine - Pixel
Intro Music: Soupandreas & inverness - Tumbling Down
Reading Reviews Music: Haywyre - Sculpted
Outro Music: Hush - Ruimtevaart

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SS 269: Dating on the Outskirts of Sexuality - LGBTQ Matchmaking with Claire Ah Dec 08, 2016

Dating in the heteronormative world is difficult. It's also bizarre enough that hundreds of comedies and dramas are made about dating every year. When you zoom down to that subsection of the culture, the minorities of the LGBTQ community who are seeking others in that same minority, it gets more complicated. Tonight we're joined by Claire to talk about dating on the outskirts of sexuality, and LGBTQ matchmaking with Dirty Lola, Dr. Liz Powell, Dylan, and Cooper.

As you listen, don't forget to tweet at #sspodcast!

We're sponsored by Castle Megastore, a one stop shop with everything you could want, from wand vibrators, to harnesses, to lube and condoms, to a complete suite of BDSM equipment including sex furniture. If you use the promo code SWINGSET at check out you can save 20% on your order.

You can find Claire Ah, matchmaker, at friendofafriendmatchmaking.com!

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Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464). Find Cooper on Twitter @CooperSBeckett, Dylan on Twitter @DylanTheThomas, and Ginger on twitter @GingerNTheProf.

You can Cooper’s novel about swinging, A Life Less Monogamous, at alifelessmonogamous.com or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at mylifeontheswingset.com as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook and if you buy them from his sites, use promo code SWINGSET to save 10%!

Intro Music: Rogue - Through the Dark, off the Earth EP
Politics Music (near the end): Pegboard Nerds - BADBOI VIP
Outtakes Music: Tokyo Machine - Pixel
Outro Music: Muzzy - Get Crazy (AgNO3 Remix)

Cooper S Beckett Dylan Thomas Dr. Liz Powell Dirty Lola

SS 268: Being Sex Positive from Inside the Non-Monogamy Closet Dec 03, 2016

A large percentage of us dwell pretty securely within the non-monogamy closet. Friends and family may know something is different about us, but they rarely know fully what is up. That said, we live in a world where being sex-positive and progressive can make a big difference, as can standing with those who are bravely out, so tonight, Dirty Lola, Dr. Liz Powell, Cooper and Dylan talk about how to navigate being sex-positive from inside the non-monogamy closet .

As you listen, don't forget to tweet at #sspodcast!

We're sponsored by Castle Megastore, a one stop shop with everything you could want, from wand vibrators, to harnesses, to lube and condoms, to a complete suite of BDSM equipment including sex furniture. If you use the promo code SWINGSET at check out you can save 20% on your order.

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Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464). Find Cooper on Twitter @CooperSBeckett, Dylan on Twitter @DylanTheThomas, and Ginger on twitter @GingerNTheProf.

You can Cooper’s novel about swinging, A Life Less Monogamous, at alifelessmonogamous.com or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at mylifeontheswingset.com as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook and if you buy them from his sites, use promo code SWINGSET to save 10%!

Today's podcast featured music by:

Intro Music: Puppet - Listen to the Storm, off the new Fear is Fleeting EP
Politics Music (in the beginning): Pegboard Nerds - BADBOI VIP
Outtakes Music: Tokyo Machine - Pixel
Outro Music: Hush - Eenhoorn, off the upcoming Ruimtevaart EP

Cooper S Beckett Dylan Thomas Dr. Liz Powell Dirty Lola

SS 267: Swingset Takes Over Desire Nov 25, 2016

Life on the Swingset hosts its fifth annual trip to Desire Resort & Spa in Cancún, right in the heart of the Riviera Maya. Cooper, Dylan, Dr. Liz, Lyndzi, and Mr. Pent sit under the thatched roof and next to the bar of the rooftop hot tub and talk Fridays, resort staff, about the cosmic joke that is being "stuck" in Mexico while Election 2016 concluded, and about the new normal that involves orgies under the stars and so much more.

Thank you to our trip sponsors!

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Prize Sponsor: Shevibe

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Today's podcast featured music by:

Intro Music: Puppet & Murtagh - Killing Giants (feat. Richard Caddock)

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SS 266: Asking For What You Want Leads to Better Sex Nov 19, 2016

Communication. It doesn't need to be said, yet as it's the answer to so many questions we get asked, it really can't be overstated. One of the most important parts of communication when it comes to sexy time, is learning to ask for what you want, so we discuss that in today's episode of Life on the Swingset, along with Dr. Liz Powell, Mike Joseph, Cooper, and Dylan.

Today's episode of Life on the Swingset is sponsored by Better Than the Hand, a website that aims to deconstruct stigma and toxicity surrounding male sexuality and masturbation through articles, blogs, toy reviews, and an online store. We're also sponsored by Castle Megastore, a one stop shop with everything you could want, from wand vibrators, to harnesses, to lube and condoms, to a complete suite of BDSM equipment including sex furniture. If you use the promo code SWINGSET at check out you can save 20% on your order.

Dr. Liz starts out stating that there's an assumption of wanting to respect what we think someone else wants, and that we make the assumption that "asking for what I want may negatively affect their experience". Cooper asks if Dylan has this problem because he's trying not to be selfish, Dylan suspects that's the case.

Mike Joseph mentions that homosexual sex (especially the top vs. bottom negotiation) by default has more communication than heterosexual sex. Dr. Liz comments that women that have sex with women also have a ton more conversations, and that people who consider themselves sex geeks or sex educators really bump up the level of conversation and negotiation that goes into sex.

“If you don’t ask for what you want, you’re not going to have that next level sex you’ve been dreaming of.” “Just like you need to be gracious in saying yes, you should try to be gracious in your no’s as well.”

- Dylan

“I think a lot of those shitty no’s are coming from people shame as well. The reason you give a really shitty no and react with disgust is this kind of, performative goodness. If what they want is bad, then the best way to separate yourself from it is to perform how offended you are by it.”

- Dr. Liz

"HOW DARE YOU." “Everything changed when I started asking for what I wanted, It as just as likely to be a result of you not asking for what you want than the party not giving you what you want.”

- Cooper

While Dylan explains how sometimes, when about to play with someone who has a large tool kit / is well skilled at communication, he likes to get an initial yes to exploration and chart the path forward in the moment, listening to non-language verbal cues, and body response. Mike Joseph mentions that it sounds like a recipe for uncertainty and anxiety, so Dylan talks his way through a play session with someone that's willing an open. Mike discovers that being inside someone often elicits all sorts of non-verbal responses. *grin*

Cooper mentions that sometimes, in the run up to a party or play session, it's easy to fire away a thought via instant messenger and walk away, it makes it easy to ask for something without necessarily needing feedback right away.

Dr. Liz mentions the mildest and wildest activity that many people use at the beginning of play parties and Dylan mentions that even though he uses it, tt never quite "feels" right.

“The way I’ve always seen that exercise (mildest and wildest) is that it tells you where the buffet starts and ends. It doesn’t guarantee that you’ll be able to get any specific dish on the buffet.”

- Dr. Liz

Dr. Liz also mentions that the mildest and wildest activity helps her check-in with herself, and that it's a way of conveying a range of options, not necessarily a set destination, describing it as the beginning and the end of a buffet.

The conversation moves to being awkward about starting conversation. Dr. Liz mentions she has a formula.

"What I tell people is one of the most effective ways to start a conversation, is by sharing something you’re feeling about having that conversation. You're leading with your softness instead of leading with your hardness."

- Dr. Liz

You can also find the John Oliver "This Week Tonight" video about Third Parties here:

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Today's podcast featured music by:

Intro Music: Grant - Wake Up (feat. Jessi Mason)
Outtakes Music: Slips & Slurs x Mikha! - WiFi Tears
Outro Music: Koven - Telling Me
End of Episode Outtakes: Koven - Breathing Me
Politics Music (At the very end): Muzzy & Droptek - Warhead

Cooper S Beckett Dylan Thomas Dr. Liz Powell Mike Joseph

SS 265.1 - #SSDESIRE Rain Delay Two, "The Quickening" Nov 09, 2016

So, we apparently decided it was a good idea to podcast the night after election day. In Mexico. We were wrong.

We've posted a three minute rain delay episode as it is actually raining outside (instead of last year). We'll be back next week.

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SS 265: Bi Invisibility & The Closet Oct 30, 2016

It's no secret that in the pantheon of the LGBT spectrum, bisexual people are looked down upon, told they don't really exist, avoided in dating life. Bisexuals also often feel less pressure to come out, as they can so easily pass as one side or the other. Paradoxically, this leads to bi invisibility and erasure, so we discuss, and make an attempt to deconstruct this in today's episode of Life on the Swingset, along with Dr. Liz Powell, Mike Joseph, Cooper, and Dylan.

Today's episode of Life on the Swingset is sponsored by Better Than the Hand, a website that aims to deconstruct stigma and toxicity surrounding male sexuality and masturbation through articles, blogs, toy reviews, and an online store. We're also sponsored by Castle Megastore, a one stop shop with everything you could want, from wand vibrators, to harnesses, to lube and condoms, to a complete suite of BDSM equipment including sex furniture. If you use the promo code SWINGSET at check out you can save 20% on your order.

National Coming Out Day was a pretty big deal for Cooper this year. He discussed his reasons as coming out, specifically to his conservative family, as someone who has struggled with his sexuality and is still working through it, and why he chose not to identify to them as queer, even though he specifically identifies with queer.

The conversation moves to reasons why not to come out, whether because livelyhood may be jeopardized (as in Dr. Liz's relaying of her experience of being in the army before Don't Ask Don't Tell was fully repealed), or child custody may be revoked, or any other reason to stay in the closet.

Mike posits that many people aren't all open to themselves (as with straight identified men who still seek men), and mentions that even being the out partner in a gay couple has stress that comes with it.

The panel talks specifically about ways that people specifically disappear bisexuality, telling men who identify as bi that they are gay and they haven't admitted it yet (bi now, gay later), or that bisexual people, because so much effort has been exerted to create the separate gay identity that having a bridge between those identities, muddy the waters.

To Dr. Liz, the conflict presents differently as women, that there's a "penis phobia" that can exist so that bi women who have sex with men are tagged as higher risk because there is less transmission risk between women who only have sex with women. Dr. Liz also takes time to lament the fact that before she got her "super stereotypical queer haircut" everyone assumed she was straight, but now that she has it, everyone assumes she's gay!

Mike brings up that at many events he attends, almost every woman identifies as bisexual even though most men identify as straight, even if they later identify as curious or fluid, and that it may be a holdover from the aids crisis in that if you identified as bi or gay you were automatically more likely to get infected. Dr. Liz adds that there's a challenge to masculinity involved, and that men who identify as straight but still fuck men create a safe space to sexually express themselves without the stigma of challenging that masculinity, and that any question as to why that man may marry a woman even if he fucks men doesn't get asked. Dylan brings up that many bi woman in monogamous relationships get the same challenge, and they get questions as to why they "even bother" identifying as bisexual if they're marrying a man, because they'll never get to do anything about their attraction to women. Dr. Liz mentions that bisexuals get misidentified sexually based on the genitals they're interacting with as opposed to their actual preferences.

Dylan asks about the pansexual label, and whether people identifying as pansexual get to skip some of the bisexual stigma or confusion... but gets that thought dismissed as most people outside of the queer community would just not understand what it is. He follows up with a questions about whether bisexual men are seen as, as dangerous as bisexual women are to "the husbands" of straight women in monogamous relationships and... yes. Mike, as a queer man, has had his male friends told by their female partners not to hang out with them or has had his male friends' sexuality questions because of their desire to be friends with him.

Cooper mentions that whenever you present an alternative to traditional heteronormative nonmonogamy to people who actively try not to look into and not think about it, that anyone with predispositions to something other than traditional heteronormative may show interest and that's dangerous.

Dylan compares it to Doctor Who weeping angels and... pretty much stuns everyone into silence, and into a little bit of weeping.

After a break, Dr. Liz discusses ideas to help with bi erasure, whether thinking about the bi celebrities you know (and with say, Anna Paquin being bi but being identified as straight because she's married to a man), and that when you meet someone you really only have one datapoint, and to stay open.

We talk about attraction, and how you don't necessarily need to identify the way your attraction takes you, because it's ok to explore fantasy, explore the juiciness of, and even still decide to act it out without identifying as your attraction.

Fantasy doesn't have to be the same as reality. And your fantasies do not define your sexuality in practice https://t.co/y1WvtgZtx1

— Liz Powell, Psy.D (@sexpospsych) October 26, 2016

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Today's podcast featured music by:

Intro Music: Tokyo Machine - FIGHT
Politics Music: Muzzy & Droptek - Warhead
Outro Music: Nervo - Anywhere You Go (feat. Timmy Trumpet)
Outtakes Music: Slips & Slurs x Mikha! - WiFi Tears

Cooper S Beckett Dylan Thomas Dr. Liz Powell

#ssclassic: SS 030: Love Thyself - Masturbation and Non-Monogamy Oct 27, 2016

Hello Listeners. Today, we present you one of the most horrifying things we can think of... a vintage episode of Life on the Swingset, remastered, for our modern age. In Episode 30 aka: Season 2 of Life on the Swingset, Ginger, Cooper, Shira, and Dylan talk about masturbation, which Woody Allen called "sex with someone I love," and talk about why, in swinging and non-monogamy, we have all the opportunity in the world for sex and we still continue to jack off and jill off (is that a thing?) We discuss discovering masturbation, techniques, toys, and why we love ourselves. Oh, and we also discussed Christine O'Donnell and poltiics. Be. Very. Afraid. Leave us a review and a five star rating on iTunes! Leave us a review and a five star rating on Stitcher! Subscribe to us on Youtube! Android Users: Download and review our Android App!

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Today's podcast featured music by:

Going Quantum & Stephen Walking - Full Grizzly
Tut Tut Child - Don't Push Me
...and WARNING: POLITICS AHEAD music by: Muzzy & Droptek - Warhead

Cooper S Beckett Ginger Bentham Dylan Thomas Shira B. Katz

SS 264: Couples' Privilege & the Notion of the Third Oct 14, 2016

As couples, so often we're looking for the third. The unicorn usually. They're rare, seemingly unobtainable, but when we find them it's just so magical. Except that we're often boxing that unicorn in, that single person who now has to put up with our pre-established couples dynamic and the fact that if we ghosted it'd be as a pair. Yep, tonight we're talking about couples privilege and what that means for the third so many of us are seeking.

SS 263: Let's Get Sexting - Dirty Talk and Naked Pics Oct 07, 2016

We all send dirty comments, dirty pictures, full on sext-travaganzas with our partners, playmates, friends straddling the edge of naughty. Tonight we're joined by the Swinging MILF herself, Sally Swings to talk about sending each other dirty pictures and messages through sexting.

Today's episode of Life on the Swingset is sponsored by Better Than the Hand, a website that aims to deconstruct stigma and toxicity surrounding male sexuality and masturbation through articles, blogs, toy reviews, and an online store.

The Swingset crew starts by discussing the difference between different types of sexting, "the tease", and the "taking it to completion" type, and how sexting is often compatible with our every day busy lives because we're always on the go. Sexting gives us a charge, a kick, it's something that we bring back to our partners.

Sally and Dylan commiserate over being in private photo groups when men complain how their photos only get a couple likes, while women's photos get tens or hundreds. Cooper poses the thought that unsolicited dick pics and the general dick pic "economy" gives pretty extreme incentives to women willing to share, and that because of a scarcity of that kind of photo, men swarm and ... create disincentives to sharing. Dylan discusses unsolicited dick pics as men seeking power, and as a full frontal assault on someone, while simultaneously causing men whose dick pics are refused to act aghast, as if their pics are a gift to the world and should be accepted unconditionally. Cooper decides it'd be funny to try and flood Dylan's inbox with topless photos so, in that spirit, listeners... email Dylan at dylan@lifeontheswingset.com and send him your topless pics! He consents on behalf of Dylan, Dylan indicates a measure of exasperated agreement with that given consent. R.I.P. his inbox.

In episode business, Cooper has finally finished writing his second swinging novel! Dylan brings up the We-Vibe lawsuit and feels strongly about companies collecting more information than people have really volunteered to give.

Ars Technica: Sex Toys and the Internet of Things Collide: What Could Go Wrong?

The Guardian: Tech Company Accused of Collecting Details of How Customers Use Sex Toys

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Today's podcast featured music by:

7 Minutes Dead - Peacock

7 Minutes Dead - Peacock (Haywyre Remix)

Cooper S Beckett Ginger Bentham Dylan Thomas

SS 262: Why We Play With Others Sep 30, 2016

When people consider exploring non-monogamy, we tell them to picture a pretty good but occasionally difficult relationship (ie, every relationship) and then picture it expanding exponentially because you've added more people. Eventually becoming a tesseract of interlocking and interconnected parts. Each of those parts, believe it or not, have a mind of their own. We've all been in moments where it seems insurmountable, where we acknowledge that this whole damned thing is just too hard and consider the days of monogamous yore. We discuss what pushes us to the edge, and what keeps us going, because playing with and loving others feels so fucking right.

Dylan starts the discussion with a personal update; Tonia feels isolated, not having people she feels she can talk to openly even when she's surrounded by friends contributes to that feeling. It's made her consider giving up this whole non-monogamy thing and it's left Dylan feeling useless since there's not a lot that Dylan can do to directly help. Dylan's feels guilt over some recent success and he hates the feeling that he's leaving her bind.

Cooper mentions that, acknowledging the negative feedback loop Tonia's in, that multiple partners bring a particular joy that we all seek, sexually and emotionally, Dylan explanabrags a bit but then admits that his #1 attraction to this lifestyle is that he no longer has to feel along, because he's part of this exclusive (but very inclusive) club. Ginger seals the point by stating that the relationship choices we make enrich our lives through the people we connect with, and that we bring that energy back to the relationships with those we've built a life with.

Ginger recommends a book, Open Marriage: A New Life Style for Couples, by Nena O'Neill.

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Today's podcast featured music by:

Anna Yvette & Laura Brehm - Summer Never Ends

Pegboard Nerds - Try This

Koven - Silence

Cooper S Beckett Ginger Bentham Dylan Thomas

SS 261: Mistakes Happen - Processing After Boundary Violations or Safer Sex Failures Sep 23, 2016

It's pretty much a given that, at some point or another in swinging or polyamory, there will be boundary violations, safer sex failures, and other moments you'd talked about and thought about and made rules about. No matter how much hypothetical thought goes into it, though, often being confronted with these things in the real world can cause some serious "knocked on your ass" moments. Tonight we talk about how to process boundary violations, safer sex failures, and the importance of compassion throughout the process.

Dylan relayed his recent protection failure story, consisting of a condom sliding off during sex resulting in condomless ejaculation. While the story and the people involved were incredibly sexy, the mistakes made (delaying telling a partner, processing the failure as offense, lack of perspective on the risk of playing with others) resulted in an otherwise pleasant encounter into something to suffer through.

Cooper makes the point that something will happen over the course of a swinging lifetime, and that you should treat others how you'd want to be treated if you were the one who'd "screwed up" somehow, that compassion in necessary because everyone is hurting when there's no intent to harm.

The group moves into discussing "odd-man out" scenarios in which (usually) the male half of a couple who ends up not playing has a choice on whether to be mopey and whiny about it, or whether to enjoy his partner's pleasure and the atmosphere, and to potentially live to play again later in the night. Dylan once again relays a story of not taking his usual care to see the "odd-man out" partner before joining his wife in a threesome, and speaks of some real regret in not doing so after seeing a well meaning person hurting.

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Today's podcast featured music by:

Rich Edwards - For You (featuring Park Avenue)

Richard Caddock, WRLD, Nitro Fun, Slips & Slurs & Subtact - Break The Silence

Cooper S Beckett Ginger Bentham Dylan Thomas

SS 260: Double Penetration and Other Varsity Sexual Moves Sep 15, 2016

There are few acts in the pantheon of sexuality that carry with them so much intrigue, coveting, and fear, as double penetration, and its more advanced siblings double vaginal and double anal. For one thing, these really can't be done in a monogamous relationship. Oh sure, we can use dildos and such things, but that's not really where the intrigue lies, does it? We discuss double penetration or "DP" in its many forms and talk other varsity level sexual moves.

Thank you to SheVibe for always being awesome, and to SexyLosers for "schlick".

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You can Cooper’s novel about swinging, A Life Less Monogamous, at alifelessmonogamous.com or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at mylifeontheswingset.com as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook and if you buy them from his sites, use promo code SWINGSET to save 10%!

Today's podcast featured music by:

Candyland & Ricci - Touch Me

Favright - Iceladen

Tristam - My Friend

Cooper S Beckett Ginger Bentham Dylan Thomas

SS 259: Polyamorous as a Person of Color, with Mike Joseph Sep 07, 2016

While we're pretty good on the Swingset at talking about our experiences in polyamory and swinging, We have limits to our shared experience, so we reached out and asked Mike Joseph to join the Swingset and speak to us about his experience navigating dating and polyamory as a person of color.

We discussed some of the challenges dating couples, Dylan called the question: "Why should we have to convince people that doing the right thing will improve their lives, when they should just do the right thing?" regarding diversity. We asked about, and Mike spoke about the advantages and challenges of being unique and out as queer person of color in multiple communities.

Also, Mark Zuckerberg should give us money, give us all money.

You can find Mike Joseph on twitter @realmikejoseph, at his website PopBlerd.com, and on the Blerd Radio podcast!

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You can Cooper’s novel about swinging, A Life Less Monogamous, at alifelessmonogamous.com or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at mylifeontheswingset.com as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook and if you buy them from his sites, use promo code SWINGSET to save 10%!

Today's podcast featured music by:

Au5 - Follow You (feat. Danyka Nadeau) (Volant Remix)

Favright - Iceladen

Hellberg & Aaron Richards - Synchronize (VIP Mix - Acoustic)

Cooper S Beckett Ginger Bentham Dylan Thomas

SS 258: Gang Bang The Mailbag 29 - Post-Pregnancy Swinging, Grower vs. Shower Aug 31, 2016

Ginger takes the cords of the mailbag and sits down with Dylan and a LIVE STUDIO AUDIENCE as they answer listener questions for the 29th Gang Bang the Mailbag! The Swinger Doc also sits down for another edition of the Medical Mailbag! In this mailbag he answers a listener question on risks associated with hot tub sex!

Questions in this Gang Bang the Mailbag include:

My husband and I opened our relationship about a year ago, and have both developed deep connections with other partners but haven't dipped our toes into the swinging side of things. I now have a few fun potential opportunities on the horizon to do just that. Here's the thing. I'm positive for HSV-1, and I'm one of the lucky ones who acquired it genitally. I'm responsible, educated, and up-front, but I'm feeling very anxious about it in the context of these more casual opportunities. I've already dealt with slut-shaming and with ignorant and poisonous reactions to my status. Would I even be allowed to participate at something like a play party, an orgy, or Desire? If so, what are the expectations and etiquette?

So, I have an average cock. I mean around the 50th percentile both erect and flaccid. That also makes me a grower, not a show-er. I should be OK with that. But I'm not. Hard for this sex-positive guy to admit I’m troubled by this. I really enjoy going nude in public - at appropriate places, of course. However, I have observed without fail, I'm the absolute smallest I see. I went to a clothing optional resort this weekend to work on my tan and wherever I looked EVERYONE was hung better than me - and most by a huge (pun intended) amount. The little guy tends to “turtle” and this does not help my confidence.

Is it that swinger and nudist men tend to be on the larger side by self-selection? Are we of more modest endowment simply ashamed and less inclined to participate in those activities? I enjoy swinging and have never been (knowingly) penis shamed by others. I still can't keep the penis envy in the box. Let’s hear about your experiences and observations along with some words of wisdom to us "nominally-endowed" and "turtling-inclined" men.

My wife and I are in contact with another couple through the 3nder (now Feeld) app and are considering setting up a date with them. We have been having some great group conversations via text and have become more and more interested in them. The other night the couple nonchalantly mentioned that they have a newborn. Only 4 weeks old! Needless to say, we didn't see this coming. Their profile suggests that they are into most any type of play. The elephant in the room is what condition is her body in for play?? They specifically joined the app to find her a girl to play with but are also interested in couples they say. We are assuming she is producing milk and probably still healing from the birth. How can we be respectful in asking these questions and keep her from being self conscious? What other questions should we ask in this situation? Any advice from you "seasoned" swingers? :)

My partner and I are new to swinging and having, for the most part, a grand time. But, there is one trend we've noticed that we're interested in some clarification over: people having loud conversations about boring stuff in the play areas of sex clubs. My girlfriend (a petite, curvy 5'3" roller derby girl who I'm pretty sure is the "shawty" in all the songs and quite possibly the inspiration for "Baby Got Back") and I are exhibitionists and will be going at it and suddenly, I kid you not, a couple will come in, sit nearby, and start talking about work, traffic, doctor's appointments, blah blah blah, REALLY LOUD, thus annihilating our boners.

The people doing this seem like they're old hats at swinging, so we've got to know: is this a thing? What's going on? Is it acceptable to tell them to shut the hell up even though we're in a more public area, or are long time swingers just jaded with sex and loud boring chats two feet from people who are athletically fucking just a part of the scene?

My husband and I have been dabbling in the lifestyle for about 2 years now but our experiences have been very limited so we are definitely still newbies. We would love to explore more and go to more events and stuff but it is difficult. We have 2 young children and live in a very rural area. Swinging parties that we've come across take place later in the evening and usually an hour plus drive for us. This then requires an overnight sitter.

Did we come into this lifestyle at a bad time? Seems others that have children usually have older children so they have flexibility in going out that we do not. It gets very frustrating but honestly not sure there is much to be done about it. Any tips or thoughts? Should we just give up on this whole swinger thing for now?

Help us out Swingset Fans! While we absolutely would love you to buy a shirt, buying condoms, or to support us by throwing us a dollar or two every time we release an episode, there are ways you can support us at no cost to you!

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While we're on Google Play Podcasts, they don't appear to support a review option yet so... hang tight on that, and we apparently aren't on Spotify yet. Dylan spoke a little too soon. We'd sack him but we'd have to hire a hundred monkey editors to replace him and that's a lot of work but you. #grrDYLAN

We have FIFTEEN rooms left for our 2016 trip to Desire! Sign up now! November 5th through 12th, 2016!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464). Find Cooper on Twitter @CooperSBeckett, Dylan on Twitter @DylanTheThomas, and Ginger on twitter @GingerNTheProf.

You can Cooper’s novel about swinging, A Life Less Monogamous, at alifelessmonogamous.com or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at mylifeontheswingset.com as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook and if you buy them from his sites, use promo code SWINGSET to save 10%!

Today's podcast featured music by:

Tokyo Machine - OKAY

Marshmello - Alone (Streex Remake)

Ginger Bentham Dylan Thomas

On The Wet Coast - Mental Illness Aug 24, 2016

On this episode we'll be discussing mental illness in non-monogamy with special guest Cooper S Beckett from Life On The Swingset podcast and www.coopersbeckett.com

Those of us in non-monogamous circles spend a unique amount of time relating with others in a very intimate manner. When we let go of the standard social narrative of one partner only and admit our desire for intimacy with multiple others, we often let go of many of the other social façades in place and talk more honestly and intimately about other issues in our lives. Issues such as mental illness.

Before we start, we'd like to say that none of us are mental health professionals or experts and are merely discussing our personal experiences and observations on the subject. If you are in crisis and need help, please seek resources in your local area.

Canada

http://www.cmha.ca/mental-health/

http://suicideprevention.ca/thinking-about-suicide/find-a-crisis-centre/

You can also call 911 for help

USA

http://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/find-help/index.shtml

http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/

1-800-273-TALK (8255)

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Music in this episode: Theme music - A Naked Gun: Bank Assault by Francesco D'Andrea

Episode music - Puzzle Pieces by Lee Rosevere

Promo music - Latin Rhythm by Sunsearcher

SS 257: On Breasts and Attraction Aug 17, 2016

Cooper gets the night off as Ginger makes herself available to Dylan to discuss his attraction to breasts, and his fear that they are the focus of too much attention and energy.

The Swinger Doc sits down for another edition of the Medical Mailbag! In this mailbag he answers a listener question on how to find high quality sex positive and nonmonogamy friendly medical care.

Help us out Swingset Fans! While we absolutely would love you to buy a shirt, buying condoms, or to support us by throwing us a dollar or two every time we release an episode, there are ways you can support us at no cost to you!

Leave us a review and a five star rating on iTunes! Leave us a review and a five star rating on Stitcher! Subscribe to us on Youtube! Android Users: Download and review our Android App!

While we're on Google Play Podcasts, they don't appear to support a review option yet so... hang tight on that, and we apparently aren't on Spotify yet. Dylan spoke a little too soon. We'd sack him but we'd have to hire a hundred monkey editors to replace him and that's a lot of work but you

We have FIFTEEN rooms left for our 2016 trip to Desire! Sign up now! November 5th through 12th, 2016!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).

Find Cooper on Twitter @CooperSBeckett, Dylan on Twitter @DylanTheThomas, and Ginger on twitter @GingerNTheProf.

You can Cooper’s novel about swinging, A Life Less Monogamous, at alifelessmonogamous.com or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at mylifeontheswingset.com as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook and if you buy them from his sites, use promo code SWINGSET to save 10%!

Today's podcast featured music from Candyland & Shoffy titled: Faces.

Ginger Bentham Dylan Thomas

SS 256: Smoothing Re-Entry, When Our Partners Date or Play Without Us Aug 04, 2016

All three of us here on the Swingset have occasionally dated and played independent of our partners, and all three of our partners have dated and played independent of us. A moment that can be tricky, especially early on in the swinging or poly lifestyles, is that moment of re-entry, where our partner (or us) returns from a date or play session. We take time to dissect how re-entry feels when you're the partner "left behind", and when you're the partner on the go.

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).

Find Cooper on Twitter @CooperSBeckett, Dylan on Twitter @DylanTheThomas, and Ginger on twitter @GingerNTheProf.

Life on the Swingset takes over Desire 2016: Make Desire Great Again. Support Life on the Swingset by buying a shirt, buying condoms, leaving us a review on iTunes or Stitcher, or by supporting us on Patreon to throw us a buck or two for every episode we release, including some special rewards for those willing to toss us just a little more!

You can Cooper’s novel about swinging, A Life Less Monogamous, at alifelessmonogamous.com or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at mylifeontheswingset.com as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook and if you buy them from his sites, use promo code SWINGSET to save 10%!

Today's podcast featured music from the Haywyre album: Two Fold Pt. 1: Doppelgänger, and Voice of Reason.

Cooper S Beckett Ginger Bentham Dylan Thomas

SS 255: People of Color in Kink Communities Jul 27, 2016

We've talked a lot of bout community lately on the Swingset, and while we've specifically made the point that it's not enough to talk about diversity but to take action to seek it out, we've done a poor job of acknowledging that diversity includes diversity of racial background and we've contributed to a deafening silence around people of color in our communities.

We invited Ms Pomegranate and Mr BLK, two Baltimore, MD kink and sex educators, to join us to specifically discuss kink communities and and to discuss the experience of people of color in kink communities. Together, we hit what it can mean to feel ignored or erased when attempting to integrate into a community. We acknowledged that people of color have an extra threshold of acceptance. We discussed what makes communities safe, and what we can do to reach out and make communities feel safer to people of color and as a result, everyone. We discuss people who exploit safe spaces, and discuss what happens when an entire group takes a negative stereotype on behalf of a single bad actor. We touch on racial fetishes, assumptions surrounding them, and how without consent, racial fetishes dehumanize their targets, and how people can switch from fetish to racism as soon as they don't get what they're looking for.

If you're attending Woodhull's Sexual Freedom Summit on August 6th, Mr BLK and Ms Pomegranate are presenting on Different Shades of Kink: Questions of Diversity in Sex Positive Lifestyles (#SFSShades) and giving rope demos throughout!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464). Find Cooper on Twitter @CooperSBeckett, Dylan on Twitter @DylanTheThomas, and Ginger on twitter @GingerNTheProf.You can find the self-described wonder twins Ms Pomegranate and Mr BLK on twitter @BlkPomegranate and on their website www.theblackpomegranate.com.

Life on the Swingset takes over Desire 2016: Make Desire Great Again.

Support Life on the Swingset by buying a shirt, buying condoms, leaving us a review on iTunes or Stitcher, or by supporting us on Patreon to throw us a buck or two for every episode we release, including some special rewards for those willing to toss us just a little more!

You can Cooper’s novel about swinging, A Life Less Monogamous, at alifelessmonogamous.com or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at mylifeontheswingset.com as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook and if you buy them from his sites, use promo code SWINGSET to save 10%!

Today's podcast featured music from Haywyre: Sculpted, from the Two Fold Pt. 1 Album, and from Stephen Walking: Claptrap, and from Noisestorm: This Feeling.

Cooper S Beckett Ginger Bentham Dylan Thomas

SS 254: The Pursuit of Playmates & Lovers in Swinging & Polyamory Jul 14, 2016

How do you find other swingers? How do you find people to date? Those top a list of frequent questions we get on the Swingset. As outsiders looking in, as people curious to get started, we all wonder if we'll be able to do this, because there's that foreign concept in the middle. Finding people to fuck. Finding people to date. Finding people not just okay with open, but enthusiastic about it. Tonight, we talk about the pursuit, finding playmates, finding lovers.

We recorded this podcast LIVE in front of our audience of patrons. We're trying something new, if you have comments on the audio quality please send that feedback to dylan@lifeontheswingset.com, whether it is "still excellent!" or "wholly inadequate"!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464). Find Cooper on Twitter @CooperSBeckett, Dylan on Twitter @DylanTheThomas, and Ginger on twitter @GingerNTheProf.

Life on the Swingset takes over Desire 2016: Make Desire Great Again.

Support Life on the Swingset by buying a shirt, buying condoms, leaving us a review on iTunes or Stitcher, or by supporting us on Patreon to throw us a buck or two for every episode we release, including some special rewards for those willing to toss us just a little more!

You can Cooper’s novel about swinging, A Life Less Monogamous, at alifelessmonogamous.com or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at mylifeontheswingset.com as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook and if you buy them from his sites, use promo code SWINGSET to save 10%!

Today's podcast featured music from Rogue, titled Imperfect Views, and from Botnek and I See MONSTAS titled Deeper Love, remixed by Xan Griffin.

Cooper S Beckett Ginger Bentham Dylan Thomas

SS 253: Between Swinging & Polyamory - The Haziness Intensifies Jul 06, 2016

We're back! We took the longest (only) hiatus in Swingset History and each of us has come back rested and ready. Today we discuss the blurring of the line between swinging and polyamory and how things tend to evolve in ways well beyond our expectations.

[HAZINESS INTENSIFIES]

We recorded this podcast LIVE in front of our audience of patrons. We're trying something new, if you have comments on the audio quality please send that feedback to dylan@lifeontheswingset.com, whether it is "still excellent!" or "wholly inadequate"!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).

Find Cooper on Twitter @CooperSBeckett, Dylan on Twitter @DylanTheThomas, Mr. Pent on Twitter @mr_pent, and Kat on Twitter @WetCoastKat.

Life on the Swingset takes over Desire 2016: Make Desire Great Again.

Support Life on the Swingset by buying a shirt, buying condoms, leaving us a review on iTunes or Stitcher, or by supporting us on Patreon to throw us a buck or two for every episode we release, including some special rewards for those willing to toss us just a little more! You can Cooper’s novel about swinging, A Life Less Monogamous, at alifelessmonogamous.com or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at mylifeontheswingset.com as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook and if you buy them from his sites, use promo code SWINGSET to save 10%!

Today's podcast featured music from Anevo, titled Electric Heart (featuring Ameria), from Slips & Slurs and Mihka titled WiFi Tears, from Pixl titled Broken Bones (featuring Cassandra Kay), and our anthem for returning to the world, Puppet and Foria's song I'm Here.

Cooper S Beckett Ginger Bentham Dylan Thomas

Desire Week - Essays from My Life on the Swingset Audiobook Jun 10, 2016

It's Desire Week at Life on the Swingset, with 150 days and less than 25 rooms remaining for our 2016 Desire Takeover (November 5-12) we're running Desire episodes of the podcast as well as blogs and articles. If you'd like to join us in Desire this November, head over to SSDesire.com! It's booking fast!

For this Desire Week special, Cooper offers five essays about Desire from the audiobook version of his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory for your enjoyment.

Buy the audiobook here and use promo code DESIRE to save 10%.

Desire Week - SS 184: Ending the Sexual Dark Age with the Swingset at Desire Resort & Spa Jun 09, 2016

It's Desire Week at Life on the Swingset, with 150 days and less than 25 rooms remaining for our 2016 Desire Takeover (November 5-12) we're running Desire episodes of the podcast as well as blogs and articles. If you'd like to join us in Desire this November, head over to SSDesire.com! It's booking fast!

We took time out of our very hard and busy work schedules in Desire to record a discussion with JV and Shara of Ending the Sexual Dark Age as well as a couple dozen other sexy naked people, We discuss what Desire means to us, what having places where we can be our authentic selves means and about creating those spaces wherever, whenever, and with whoever we can. We hear from people about getting comfortably naked for the first time in front of other people and we hear about why we will always come back to Desire.

We also talk about having a LOT of sex

OBH 011: Tingling your bits, albatross and menopause, ancient dildos, and NDT on cat sex - Our Better Half Jun 09, 2016

Show notes for Episode 11 of the Our Better Half Podcast, March 20, 2016 Laura whispers about ASMR in your ear, interviews an ASMRtist, learns about Wisdom the Albatross, the history of dildos, and catches up on the news Lauren Ostrowski Fenton, an ASMR provider Dr. Rosalind Baculum: Wisdom the Albatross Pt. 1 of Alberta Knish's toy series, this one on history of dildos In case YOU missed it: Loud sex in Sweden Skirt Clubs Queer Voices Robots searching for love in all your wrong places Paid for sex? Neil Degrasse Tyson and cat sex intro music: GarageBand “Collins Avenue”, Estelle Reiner quote from “When Harry Met Sally” (1989) Birthday music: Gerbil Bliss - Jake's Kept a Rollin Exit tap dance music: Pond5

Dylan's Intro Music:

Direct - Tranquility

Dylan found Laura Collins Lyster Mensh at this Huffington Post article.

Desire Week – SS 209: Swinging For Beginners IX – Sexy Vacations Jun 08, 2016

It's Desire Week at Life on the Swingset, with 150 days and less than 25 rooms remaining for our 2016 Desire Takeover (November 5-12) we're running Desire episodes of the podcast as well as blogs and articles. If you'd like to join us in Desire this November, head over to SSDesire.com! It's booking fast!

Vacations. Aren't they great? But you know what's better? SEXY VACATIONS. The kind where you can be naked and flirt all day and have sex all night. Or maybe you decide on an afternoon delight. Of course, on vacation, you have time for all of the above! For those who've never been on a sexy vacation, they can also be intimidating and scary. For our ninth Swinging for Beginners episode we, enthusiastic advocates of the sexy vacation, share what we have learned so that your next sexy vacation is everything you want it to be and more.

We discuss remembering the sunscreen, being ok with spending time alone, enjoying costumes and costuming, managing expectations, packing, and more!

Desire Week - SS 183: A Swinging Vacation - Live from Desire Resort & Spa - Life on the Swingset Jun 07, 2016

It's Desire Week at Life on the Swingset, with 150 days and less than 25 rooms remaining for our 2016 Desire Takeover (November 5-12) we're running Desire episodes of the podcast as well as blogs and articles. If you'd like to join us in Desire this November, head over to SSDesire.com! It's booking fast!

Ginger, Professor, Miko, Ronin, Ophilia, and Cooper are out of the office this week. They've jet off to paradise in Mexico at Desire Resort and Spa for a swinging vacation, the third annual Life on the Swingset Takes Desire. With 160 people along for the ride, they've spent a week of hedonism, debauchery, and drunkenness that would make the Rolling Stones sit back and take note. On Thursday of their week long trip, they sat down to talk with a live audience of friends and lovers, and do a live podcast.

This is the result.

Desire Week - SS 230: The Swingset Takes Desire IV - Where We're Going... We Don't Need Clothes Jun 06, 2016

It's Desire Week at Life on the Swingset, with 150 days and less than 25 rooms remaining for our 2016 Desire Takeover (November 5-12) we're running Desire episodes of the podcast as well as blogs and articles. If you'd like to join us in Desire this November, head over to SSDesire.com! It's booking fast!

Desire. It's an emotion, raw and real. It's a place, warm and inviting, November 7th through the 14th of 2015, we made it our space. We brought 79 (and a half, thanks to the amazing Kendra Holliday) couples to Cancun, to the Riviera Maya, to Mexico, to the Desire Resort & Spa, and we collectively made the resort our own.

J.V. Altharas and Shara Bono joined us once again to co-host the trip, run kink demonstration and education events, and all in all... to enjoy and consume everything available in paradise, in the sexiest place on earth.

SS 252: Gang Bang The Mailbag 28 - Moving from Swinging to Poly, Introverts & Voyeurs & Swing Clubs, & Playing Separately May 25, 2016

Ginger and Cooper continue to gang bang that mailbag!

Tonight we answer questions about being given the go ahead to be open and then having it revoked, what it's like to be an introvert at a swing club, if voyeurism is allowed at clubs, difficulties playing separately, and transitioning from a swing relationship to a poly relationship.

What do you think Dylan is off doing on his hiatus? Tweet at us with hashtag #SSHiatus to let us know, the winner will get an awesome toy from SheVibe!

MA 050: 5 Tactics to Tame Jealousy - Multiamory May 18, 2016

Jealousy pops up everywhere in our lives -- at work, at home, and in romantic relationships. It can range from slight twinges to full-blown outbursts. No one likes feeling jealous, but it can be hard to avoid when you're in an alternative relationship.

The Multiamory crew has gotten intimately acquainted with jealousy many times, and in this episode we share with you five tactics for turning your jealousy dragon into a cute little shoulder lizard. (That's a thing, right?)

More great info on breaking negative or jealous thought patterns here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/living-forward/201512/what-do-when-you-cant-stop-thinking-about-it

Check out our sponsor, AdamAndEve.com, and use code MULTI at checkout to get 10 free gifts and support our show.

Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.

Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.

Please send us your feedback and questions to info@multiamory.com, tweet to us @multiamory, check out our facebook page, or visit our website multiamory.com We love to hear from our listeners and we reply individually to every message.

SS 251: Gang Bang The Mailbag 27 - Bi Invisibility, Swinging From Infidelity, & The OPP May 11, 2016

We're scaling back a little at The Swingset to allow ourselves to take some needed rest. This has caused Dylan to go off to The Dakotas to hunt mastodon. Meanwhile, Ginger and Cooper hold down the fort, debating whether or not two people can in fact gang bang a mailbag.

Tonight we answer questions about bisexual exploration as men and women, bi invisibility, the one penis policy, what happens when you can't stand a partner's playmate, non-monogamy from infidelity, and how to find that great parallel poly couple.

What do you think Dylan is off doing on his hiatus? Tweet at us with hashtag #SSHiatus to let us know, the winner will get an awesome toy from SheVibe!

SS 250: Pegging Experience with Ruby Ryder May 04, 2016

"Pegging Enthusiast" isn't just Cooper's motto... it's his mission statement. One of the most specific sex acts, named in a contest by Dan Savage's Savage Love Readers, pegging is when a woman wearing a strap-on fucks a man in the ass. We've talked about it off and on over the years, always couched in the broader topic of anal play, but tonight we're going to give it its due. There's only one person who can be called master on this subject. The progenitor of the Pegging Paradise podcast, Ruby Ryder is here to talk about it with us.

We mentioned we preferred the following equipment while discussing pegging:

Tantus Hoss Dildo

Fuze Harmony Black Silicone Dildo

SpareParts Deuce Male Harness

SpareParts Joque Harness

SpareParts Sasha Lingerie Harness - Midnight Black

inJoyUs Strapless System

Aslan Leather Minx Asian Leather Jaguar

Ruby Ryder gave a Pegging 101 class for Not Safe with Nikki Glaser. Ruby also mentioned that Midori makes a mean scarf harness, here's a (NSFW) infographic on how to do it yourself! Ruby wrote an article for Tantus about the Truth about Strapless Strap-Ons.

The Swinger Doc discussed a listener question taking viagra as a woman for orgasm assistance! You can send him your questions on twitter @TheSwingerDoc or call 573-55-SWING, that's 573-55-9464.

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464). Find Cooper on Twitter @CooperSBeckett, Dylan on Twitter @DylanTheThomas, Mr. Pent on Twitter @mr_pent, and Kat on Twitter @WetCoastKat.

Life on the Swingset takes over Desire 2016: Make Desire Great Again.

Support Life on the Swingset by buying a shirt, buying condoms, leaving us a review on iTunes or Stitcher, or by supporting us on Patreon to throw us a buck or two for every episode we release, including some special rewards for those willing to toss us just a little more!

You can Cooper’s novel about swinging, A Life Less Monogamous, at alifelessmonogamous.com or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at mylifeontheswingset.com as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook and if you buy them from his sites, use promo code SWINGSET to save 10%!

Tonight's episode featured the following music:

Hush - Tentakel

Slips & Slurs x Mihka! - WiFi Tears

Draper - With You (feat. Alby Hobbs)

Cooper S Beckett Dylan Thomas Chris Pent Kat Stark

SS 249: Having Gang Bangs (Real Ones, Not Mailbags) Apr 29, 2016

We've talked of group sex and orgies often, the logistics of sex and play parties, of mfm threesomes, and somehow danced around the actual genesis for our mailbag titles. It so happens that we know Jennifer, a frequent gang bang center of attention, and co planning conspirator, so we discuss the many ins and outs of gang bangs tonight!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464). Find Cooper on Twitter @CooperSBeckett, Dylan on Twitter @DylanTheThomas, Mr. Pent on Twitter @mr_pent, and Kat on Twitter @WetCoastCat.

Life on the Swingset takes over Desire 2016: Make Desire Great Again.

Support Life on the Swingset by buying a shirt, buying condoms, leaving us a review on iTunes or Stitcher, or by supporting us on Patreon to throw us a buck or two for every episode we release, including some special rewards for those willing to toss us just a little more!

You can Cooper’s novel about swinging, A Life Less Monogamous, at alifelessmonogamous.com or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at mylifeontheswingset.com as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook and if you buy them from his sites, use promo code SWINGSET to save 10%!

Tonight's episode featured the following music:

PYLOT - The Place I Once Knew

Melano - Traveller

Slips & Slurs x Mihka! - WiFi Tears

Cooper S Beckett Dylan Thomas Chris Pent

SS 248: Swingset's Got the D Apr 21, 2016

Today's episode features me, Dylan, speaking with Daisy, Dawn Ardent, Damien, and Duncan as we chat about our community and how we enjoy those of us in the community...thoroughly, being closeted, and loss.

I mentioned we on the Swingset needed a break and it looks like we've gotten it. Soon you'll do away with the tyranny of Dylan Thomas and you'll once again have the comfortable and familiar tyranny of Cooper S. Beckett to look forward to. We're recording an episode on Pegging with the...always outstanding Ruby Ryder, and an episode on Gang Bangs with a friend of ours, Jennifer. Google has opened its Play Music application to Podcasts!

If you've been reticent to use a podcast catcher but have a google account and of device that welcomes google apps you can find Life on the Swingset (and our other Swingset family podcasts) by searching for us.

Our full take over of Desire Resort and Spa is 2/3 full so...while we're just under six months away from our trip on November 5th through 12th, 2016 there aren't a lot of spots left. Check out Lifeontheswingset.com/desire for information. We've also had to rebrand the trip. While the drunken motto I came up with at Desire in 2015 sounded wonderful, it also had the unfortunate consequence of being trademarked. My bad. As a result I suggest an alternate Tagline.

Life on the Swingset takes over Desire 2016: Make Desire Great Again.

The Swinger Doc is here to discuss a listener question about herpes! You can send him your questions on twitter @TheSwingerDoc or call 573-55-SWING, that's 573-55-9464.

We featured three tracks on today's podcast.

Rezonate - Rebirth (feat. Ashley Apollodor)

Project 46 - No One (feat. Matthew Steeper)

Feint - Phosphor (feat. Miyoki)

Dylan Thomas

DP 003: Judaism, Technology, and Don’t You Worry, Sey Hey with Ya el - Don't Panic Podcast! Apr 13, 2016

Hi Swingset Fans!Dylan Theodore Thomas here, (yes we've decided my middle name is Theodore)Over the last six years, Life on the Swingset has grown into more than the sum of its parts. It's a podcast, it's a community, it's a podcasting network, it's a family,One of the best parts of being here and being with you all is introducing you to new members of the family.Shaina, known as @LoveNSausages on Twitter, is a monogamous, con brat, happily vanilla, sex positive explorer, and a frequent visitor on /r/TrollXChromosomes on Reddit! Magenta Prex, known as @geekymagenta on Twitter, is kinky, poly, passionate about public health sex educator and sex positive advocate, and is occasionally prone to swear words and laughter.Tune into their podcast each week to hear stories about love and sex from guests living their dreams in a diverse sampling of all the possibilities for consensual adult relationships. Join them while they geek out about displays of relationships in different media, including shows from diverse fandoms, board games, and video games, and as they tell you..."Don't Panic"

There are so many ways to relate, don’t panic about it! Join swinger Magenta and inquisitive Shaina podcasting from bed on sex, love, and geekery.

This week we interview Ya el. We discuss her journey into converting to Judaism and how it’s affected her love life. In addition, we learn her interesting past with Magenta, what it’s like to work in the tech field as a woman, and get into some heated discussion near the end.

Bring your towel!

SS 247: Stress, Closets, and Intersections Apr 06, 2016

This isn't a regular episode. Dylan grabs the mic and takes over for a monologue on stress, thinking about being closeted, and intersectionality. In between all that Morgan tells us her origin story and tells how Swinging is her stress relief.

You can read more about Mississippi's HB1523 on NPR, here.

This really sums it up:

"the Mississippi legislation protects only three beliefs or convictions: that marriage is between a man and a woman, that sex is "properly reserved to such a marriage," and that words like "male" and "female" are "objectively determined by anatomy and genetics at birth."

You can Choose Your Own Adventure with Ginger, Dylan, and Cooper during our first ever Resort Takeover!

Support Life on the Swingset by buying a shirt, buying condoms, leaving us a review on iTunes or Stitcher, or by leaving us a tip! You can leave us a tip for every episode we release, including some special rewards for those willing to tip us just a little more!

You can Cooper’s novel about swinging, A Life Less Monogamous, at alifelessmonogamous.com or his memoir "My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory" at mylifeontheswingset.com as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook and if you buy them from his sites, use promo code SWINGSET to save 10%!

We featured three tracks on today's episode.

Direct - Scars (feat. Devin Santi)

Direct - Parallax

Puppet - Vagrant

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SS 246: The One With The Lesbian Swingers Mar 30, 2016

Often our discussion of swinging travels down the traditional "norms" of the subculture, a couple, a man and woman, having sex with other couples. But we all know that any subculture is full of iteration after iteration of variance. Tonight we're going to talk about one of the oft overlooked swinging groups, lesbians. And as we're definitely not qualified to speak on the subject, we've brought two amazing women, Tiff & Rachel, hosts of the Sapphic Swingers podcast to have this discussion with us.

You can find the Sapphic Swingers on twitter @sapphicswingers and their podcast at http://sapphicswingers.blogspot.com/

Support Life on the Swingset by buying a shirt, buying condoms, leaving us a review on iTunes or Stitcher, or by supporting us on Patreon to throw us a buck or two for every episode we release, including some special rewards for those willing to toss us just a little more!

You can Cooper’s novel about swinging, A Life Less Monogamous, at alifelessmonogamous.com or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at mylifeontheswingset.com as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook and if you buy them from his sites, use promo code SWINGSET to save 10%!

Tonight's episode featured Sadbot by PIXL, Warhead by Muzzy & Droptek, Waiting For You (feat. Joanna Jones) by Unlike Pluto

SS 245: Abuse in Non-Monogamous and Kink Communities Mar 24, 2016

Abuse isn't discussed the same way we discuss other issues in our communities. Otherwise well meaning people sometimes end up working to silence victims of abuse when they need community support the most. People in groups tend to respond poorly when someone or something threatens the group dynamic and often, victims take the brunt of that response. With forethought, preparation, and a commitment to support people who speak out, communities can work through and survive abuse.

You can find Ginny Brown on twitter @lirelyn, on Everyday Feminism, and at The Brunette's Blog.

You can find Pepper Mint on Twitter @freaksexual and at www.freaksexual.com. Y

ou can Choose Your Own Adventure with Ginger, Dylan, and Cooper during our first ever Resort Takeover!

Support Life on the Swingset by buying a shirt, buying condoms, leaving us a review on iTunes or Stitcher, or by leaving us a tip! You can leave us a tip for every episode we release, including some special rewards for those willing to tip us just a little more!

You can Cooper’s novel about swinging, A Life Less Monogamous, at alifelessmonogamous.com or his memoir "My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory" at mylifeontheswingset.com as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook and if you buy them from his sites, use promo code SWINGSET to save 10%!

We opened our episode with a track from Haywyre's Two Fold Pt. 2 Album - Transient and followed it with another track, Restraint. We also featured Puppet - Vagrant, off the Soft Spoken EP, and we closed with Direct's track - Scars (feat. Devin Santi) off the Wanna Know You EP.

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SS 244: Cuckolding & Humiliation with Princess Kali Mar 16, 2016

Sometimes it feels great to be really and truly degraded. The humiliation expansion pack for BDSM draws curiosity, ire, and extreme excitement from the world. Another stop, on that same train line is cuckolding, an act that many still try to make an insult, but may unambiguously show someone at once totally comfortable with their relationship, or working through past issues. Or, of course, just enjoying the fuck out of each other, and others. Tonight we're joined by Kali, creator of Kink Academy and Author of 'Enough To Make You Blush: Exploring Erotic Humiliation' to discuss cuckolding and humiliation play, on Life on the Swingset The Podcast

SS 243: The Bitchcast. Mar 09, 2016

Katie Mack and Ginger Bentham are ready to #femmespread like you've never seen before. Talking honestly and earnestly about their experiences as women, Katie and Ginger get unapologetically bitchy. They share their uncensored and unfettered voices on topics like privilege, female socialization, male entitlement, rape culture, consent, and the true experience of owning your power. With humor, stories, and bonding over the pay gap, Katie and Ginger wind down with their list of demands from the men of the world...no more and no less. Brace yourself. It's the Bitchcast.

I turned around, I got fucking big, I saw Wonder Woman in my brain, and I just turned around and I got loud and said, "I asked you ten minutes ago to stop fucking talking to me." I just stared right into his eyes, as big as I could be, and I said everything I could think of right in this moment, and I think it was a lot. I said, "YOU. WILL STOP. TALKING. NOW. if you're ever in a position where a woman asks you to stop talking in the future, you'll stop talking then too." I just stared until he looks away, and he looked away, and at that point everybody in the Dunkin Donuts was watching but I'll tell you what, and the woman who had manager on her nametag had a smirk on her face and somebody got her coffee for free that day.

- Ginger Bentham

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You can Cooper’s novel about swinging, A Life Less Monogamous, at alifelessmonogamous.com or his memoir "My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory" at mylifeontheswingset.com as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook and if you buy them from his sites, use promo code SWINGSET to save 10%!

The Bitchcast. featured Karma Fields - Scandal, featuring C.C. Sheffield, off the new album New Age | Dark Age.

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SS 242: The Sixth Anniversary Show, with Miko and Shira! Mar 05, 2016

Six years ago, Cooper, Dylan and two other panelists blustered through far too long of an intro and a horrible title and made a thoroughly mediocre hour of podcasting. When we started this thing called the Swingset, we thought we'd do it for a little while and that would be it. Maybe we would inform, and maybe we would get laid. Little did we know that it would introduce us to wonderful people like Ginger, and Shira, and Miko, Cooper would meet his amazing partner Ophilia, We'd take amazing sexy vacations to mexico every November. To look back over the expanse of six years is rather mind boggling.

We took time at the end of the episode to answer a question from a listener.

"Not a question really, more of a comment. "Why aren't there more sites like this where orthodoxy isn't religiously enforced and divergent opinions can be voiced?" Too many relationship sites are really quite intolerant.." - Bill

Peoples' experiences matter. We realized early on that we were swinging a little different than swingers were supposed to swing. It's about giving people a place that they can go to and feel like, hey there are other people that have the same experiences that I can go to and communicate with, that's what community is, and if you're not finding what you need or what from a community than go build your own, and we god-damn-diddly did that. That doesn't mean that we're exclusive, it doesn't mean we're splitting a community, it just means that we're giving people that are doing the same things or find what we're doing attractive a place where they can talk about it and listen to other people doing it, and do it. That goes across the board across any kind of sexuality, any kind of sexual identity, any way of practicing this or any other lifestyle. It all has value. The fact that we know it all exists is valuable to us. Even knowing that other ways of practicing swinging or polyamory or kink are out there, that's valuable. You don't have to practice it, you don't have to agree with it, you don't even have to acknowledge it's valid, but just being exposed to it is good enough. Most people who are afraid of what they don't understand are afraid of it because they don't understand it, because they don't see people practicing it normally. We as swingers can go out and interface with all sorts of people and not be scary dude until they realize were swingers, then when they realize we're swingers and realize they aren't scared it's because we're normal people. We're not trying to blow up their marrages, it's ok. The best way we can be an ambassadors for swinging is by being that normal fucking people and by saying hey, this isn't scary, it's ok. If we're fighting amongst each other for the mantle for the most pure swinger or best fucking swinger or old fucking swinger or progressive swinger than it all doesn't matter because then we're just fighting with each other and everybody says they're all just fucking swingers. We live in a very polarized world and it doesn't matter who got us there, it matters that we don't have to contribute to that polarization. Diddly.

Support Life on the Swingset by buying a shirt, buying condoms, leaving us a review on iTunes or Stitcher, or by leaving us a tip! You can leave us a tip for every episode we release, including some special rewards for those willing to tip us just a little more! You can Cooper’s novel about swinging, A Life Less Monogamous, at alifelessmonogamous.com or his memoir "My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory" at mylifeontheswingset.com as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook and if you buy them from his sites, use promo code SWINGSET to save 10%! We featured seven songs off of Nigel Good's Space Cadet LP:

It Starts
This Is Forever
An Adventure
No Way Back Up (Feat. Illuminor)
Space Plus One
Cloudstepper
Don't Want To Go

We also made Muzzy & Droptek's track Warhead our official POLITICS AHEAD music!

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SS 241: Men, We Need To Talk. Feb 24, 2016

Hey fellow men... Dylan here. I want to take a moment to express a little sympathy. It can be incredibly hard out there to be a man. We're living in an age inspired by the speed of the internet. Our goalposts of acceptability and common respectability on social issues and on how we relate to others in the world change what seems like weekly at times. Our perception of our gender as a responsibility hasn't kept up with the evolution of gender as identity and of sexuality as more fluid than we were ever told was possible.

We are being forced to resolve the changes in the world with what we think of as our masculine role, equality means a shift in power, equity means a shift in resources, and the things we've always been taught to be afraid of are popping up all around us.

It doesn't mean we have to be dicks about all of it.

So.

Coop and I spent the last hour talking a lot about how women experience harassment and navigate rape culture and I'm 100% conscious about how a couple of dudes talking about women can come off... but out of 241 episodes... I thought we could take a little time to sit down with our fellow men and level.

Women largely get ignored by men and it sucks. Nothing Cooper and I said should be eye-popping or a surprise but... I guarantee we might have turned a few of your heads or noses while we chatted, gender notwithstanding and I'm hoping that some of that coming from us might make it more likely for some of you to help others listen to women. The women of the Swingset are putting together an episode (or two) to discuss topics from this episode... and probably point out how a couple dudes talking about women's experiences got it wrong. That's ok, we'll own that. Until that comes out I wanted to put a spotlight on a few people. Writer and Filmmaker De La Fro posted an article titled "No, You Are Not a Nice Guy" that really disassembles the male entitlement / transactional nature of what some guys call "being a nice guy" There are some damn wonderful people on everydayfeminism.com and I found a three minute spoken word piece by contributor Desiree Dallagiacomo and Mwende Katwiwa aka: FreeQuency titled "American Rape Culture" that illustrates just how insidious the language of rape culture has been in popular music. Our own Crista Anne, our rainbow-colored pleasure revolutionary, through her mission to reclaim her orgasms ended up enduring an intense and sustained amount of harassment for daring to speak loudly and unapologetically. She writes about that harassment at cristaanne.com/harassment. Ella Dawson has dared to write and speak about her experiences navigating sexuality with herpes and how as a result of that she's also endured sustained harassment. She posted an article, "Everything 2015 Taught Me About Harassment" that really puts a fine point on it. We spend a lot of time on the Swingset breaking out our experiences so you can learn from the journey. We aren't filtering what we're going through and neither are these women and there's value in it. They're unapologetic, they're strong, they deserve to be listened to. That they're speaking uncomfortable truths and they're laying the raw filth of mysogyny out for all of us to see. It doesn't make it complaining... it makes it necessary You know you can always write us at contact@lifeontheswingset.com and leave us a voicemail at 573-55-swing, that's 573-557-9464.

We introduced today's fireside man-chat with Varien - Seduction.

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SS 240: Eroticizing Safer Sex with The Doctor Feb 17, 2016

As a well known hypochondriac and germophobe who'd just as soon wrap his entire body in the Titan Full Body Condoms from The Naked Gun if only they sold them at The Lucky Bloke, It's no surprise that Cooper thinks a lot about eroticizing safer sex. Thinking about it, talking about it, trying really hard to do it, it’s all there. On Swingset’s 2015 desire trip, Cooper sat next to The Doctor, no, not THAT Doctor, though he did feel an urge to let this sexy man take him on adventures. They knew too much about STIs and often scared themselves silly.

You can find The Doctor on twitter @Sexxypixie. Rawr.

Cooper mentioned the Sex MythBusters’ video, Sex Myth #2: The Oral Sex Aficionado.

Today’s episode featured Haywyre’s tracks, Moment, Dichotomy (Soft Mix), and The Schism, off of his Two Fold Pt. 1 and Two Fold Pt. 2 albums. We also continued to use Stephen Walking - Claptrap because… well it’s everywhere we want it to be. Like Uberlube.

Support Life on the Swingset by buying a shirt, buying condoms, leaving us a review on iTunes or Stitcher, or by leaving us a tip! You can leave us a tip for every episode we release, including some special rewards for those willing to tip us just a little more!

You can Cooper’s novel about swinging, A Life Less Monogamous, at alifelessmonogamous.com or his memoir "My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory" at mylifeontheswingset.com as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook and if you buy them from his sites, use promo code SWINGSET to save 10%!

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SS 239: A Life Less Monogamous - A Novel About Swinging by Cooper S. Beckett Feb 09, 2016

Ginger sits down with Cooper for a one-on-one discussion of his new novel about swinging A Life Less Monogamous, recorded just days before the book launch. After they chat for a while, Cooper shares the first two chapters of the novel's upcoming audiobook version narrated by himself and Kat Stark.

You can buy the book now RIGHT HERE at ALifeLessMonogamous.com - use promo code SWINGSET at checkout to save 10%!

The Novel's Synopsis:

We all come to a point in our lives where we finally ask the ever-looming question, “Is this all there is?” And most of us coast along afterwards, just accepting that the answer to that question is probably, “Yes, this is it.” Sometimes, though, we’re lucky. Sometimes we run into the right people at the right time.

Ryan and Jennifer are at that point in their marriage, asking that question. Luckily, tonight at a friend’s holiday party, they’re about to run into those very right people at exactly the right time. Bruce and Paige have successfully crossed the Rubicon into the realm of “what else there is.” They’ve discovered delights and a way of living that Ryan and Jennifer have only ever dreamed about.

Their secret? Bruce and Paige are swingers. And very soon now, thanks to a chance meeting and a new friendship, Ryan and Jennifer will close their eyes, clasp hands, and jump into the deep end of life, exploring the untold wonders of sexuality. Hedonistic pleasures that they can’t even fathom yet, threesomes and sex parties and a deep connection with friends and with each other. The swinging lifestyle.

Today is the day they proclaim: “There is more.” Today is the day they change their lives.

Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything!

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SS 238: Fisting, with Andre Shakti Feb 05, 2016

One finger, two finger, three finger, four...sometimes even that's not enough and you need to go the full five. To fisting! Huzzah! Tonight we're joined by the amazing Andre Shakti to talk about fisting, best practices, intensity, and what it's like to have a full hand inside you.

You can find Andre Shakti at andreshaktixxx.com and on twitter @AndreShakti.

Andre mentioned Sassy by Sliquid water based anal gel lubricant and Swiss Navy Silicon lubricant.

This episode we featured Sock Puppet by Sticky Biscuits! They have a new song out, Ungooglable You!

We also featured Volant - Full Circle in our intro, Stephen Walking - Claptrap during our between commercial outtakes, and Haywyre - Do You Don’t You in our outro and after episode outtakes.

Support Life on the Swingset by buying a shirt, buying condoms, leaving us a review on iTunes or Stitcher, or by leaving us a tip! You can leave us a tip for every episode we release, including some special rewards for those willing to tip us just a little more!

Buy "My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory" as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook at mylifeontheswingset.com and pre-order my novel A Life Less Monogamous and save 25% on the ebook or paperback at alifelessmonogamous.com!

Want to attend InfinityCon in Atlanta, GA from February 4th-7th 2016 to learn skills for navigating non-monogamy challenges, and to better connect with loves and liked minded people? Visit InfinityCon.net and tweet at #InfinityCon!

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SS 237: Live Porn & Web Camming with Andre Shakti Jan 27, 2016

We discovered tonight's guest Andre Shakti after seeing her in the wonderful adult film Marriage 2.0, naturally smitten, we followed that internet rabbit hole down and discovered her site and the other work she's done. We immediately wanted to have her on the Swingset to talk about a subject we've talked around but never directly about, live porn and web camming, and as it's arguably the thing that has changed porn most over the last decade.

This Episode brought to you by traumatic near tragedy in Toy Story 3 and Windows 10. Windows 10, the operating system that won't allow you to choose what version of skype to use. every. thanks Windows 10.

You can find Andre Shakti on Twitter @andreshakti and at andreshaktixxx.com! Andre is performing with Daisy Ducati at Little Darlings in San Francisco on Saturday, February 6th, 2016. Support Life on the Swingset by buying a shirt, buying condoms, leaving us a review on iTunes or Stitcher, or by leaving us a tip! You can leave us a tip for every episode we release, including some special rewards for those willing to tip us just a little more! We featured four tracks in this episode; our Welcome to 2016 exposition features Puppet & Cormak - Enough Is Enough (feat. Richard Caddock). Our episode introduction features TwoThirds - Breathe. Our "while we were on commerical bloopers" chat featured Stephen Walking - Claptrap. Our outro features Tristan & Braken - Far Away. Our after episode outtakes feature TwoThirds - Waking Dreams (feat. Laura Brehm). Buy "My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory" as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook at mylifeontheswingset.com and pre-order my novel A Life Less Monogamous and save 25% on the ebook or paperback at alifelessmonogamous.com! Want to attend InfinityCon in Atlanta, GA from February 4th-7th 2016 to learn skills for navigating non-monogamy challenges, and to better connect with loves and liked minded people? Visit InfinityCon.net and tweet at #InfinityCon! Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out!

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SS 236: Casual Sex and You and Us Jan 22, 2016

We here on the swingset have a lot of sex. #explanabrag. We've spoken at length about how casual that sex may actually be, and that definition has changed over the years for many of us. Tonight on Life on the Swingset the podcast we're talking about what casual sex means to us, and debate whether it can cross over into something resembling TOO casual.

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We featured four tracks in this episode; our Welcome to 2016 exposition featured Puppet & Cormak - Enough Is Enough (feat. Richard Caddock). Our episode introduction featured Muzzy - Letz Rock. Our "while we were on commerical bloopers" chat featured Muzzy & Roniit - Pegasus, both from the Letz Rock EP. Our episode outro and redacted content featured Pegboard Nerds - Emoji ($unday $ervice Remix), available on the Pink Cloud (The Remixes) album.

Buy "My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory" as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook at mylifeontheswingset.com and pre-order my novel A Life Less Monogamous and save 25% on the ebook or paperback at alifelessmonogamous.com!

Want to attend InfinityCon in Atlanta, GA from February 4th-7th 2016 to learn skills for navigating non-monogamy challenges, and to better connect with loves and liked minded people? Visit InfinityCon.net and tweet at #InfinityCon!

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SS 235: Gang Bang The Mailbag 26 - Warning Before Ejaculating, Who Should Pay, & Feeling Left Out Jan 14, 2016

For our first episode of 2016 we return to the mailbag for another listener question gang bang. We talk about seeking a well endowed man for an MFM threesome, who should pay for the hotel, swinging vs poly, should you warn before ejaulating from a blowjob, newbies and being left out, and toys that'll work for a gspot and prostate in pegging. Questions have been edited for time and clarity. If you have a question for The Swingset, please call 573-55 SWING that's 573-557-9464 to leave your voicemail for an upcoming mailbag episode!

Toys mentioned during tonight's episode: The Fuze Tango dual dildo, and the RodeOH Harness.

SS 234: Gang Bang The Mailbag 25 - Dating Apps, Changes in Desire, Erectile Dysfunction and Panic Attacks Dec 31, 2015

Today, on this last day of 2015, we commit to one more gang bang… the mailbag episode. We discuss dating apps, changes in desire, situational erectile dysfunction and jealousy and panic attacks. Questions have been edited for time and clarity. If you have a question for The Swingset, please call 573-55 SWING that's 573-557-9464 to leave your voicemail for an upcoming mailbag episode!

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We featured the following music in today’s episode: Sushi Killer & Kevin Villecc’s - Anime Bae, Stephen Walking – Claptrap, OpenWater & Matt Vice – No Regrets, and DotEXE – Gibberish.

Buy "My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory" as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook at mylifeontheswingset.com and pre-order my novel A Life Less Monogamous and save 25% on the ebook or paperback at alifelessmonogamous.com!

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SS 233: In the Ski Chalet High Atop Mount Swingset Dec 24, 2015

Hey, it’s Cooper, and boy, it's the holidays again, and here I sit in the Ski Chalet high atop Mount Swingset, crackling fire, hot chocolate spiked with RumChata, wearing my 10th Doctor onesie and reminiscing. I think about all that's happened this year, the things that changed, my god. The only thing that could make this evening better is...oh, look out the window! Why it's Ginger Bentham

%smalltalk%

While you're helping yourself to a drink, Gin, I see another good friend, former swinger president himself, Dylan Thomas!

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Why it’s Katie Mack! Welcome to the Chalet

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We featured an absurd amount of music today.

In addition to the wonderful Rachel Lark’s There’s Nothing Sexy about Christmas and O’ Poly Night we played:

DotEXE - Come Back To Me

Hellberg - Jingle Bells

Mr. FijiWiji - Imaginary Friend, featuring Brenton Mattheus

Muzzy - Snowman Swag

Rogue - Goodbye (Winter Chords)

Stephen Walking - Sleigh Ride

and Televisor's - We Wish You a Merry Christmas.

Buy "My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory" as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook at mylifeontheswingset.com and pre-order my novel A Life Less Monogamous and save 25% on the ebook or paperback at alifelessmonogamous.com!

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SS 232: My Partner's Break-Up - Dealing With Relationship Fluxuations outside your Primary Swinging & Poly Relationships Dec 16, 2015

The degree of complexity in relationship dynamics is exponential in non-monogamy. What that bullshit was trying to say, was that people are complicated, and every time you add one to your life, things get more complicated. One of the most difficult situations in non-monogamy is helping your partner or paramour deal with major life and relationship flux that doesn't directly involve you.

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Today our intro and outro featured Astronaut – Champions, the WRLD Remix featuring Harry Brooks Junior. Our commercial interludes and end of the episode outtakes featured PIXL – Here For You, featuring Q’AILA.

Buy "My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory" as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook at mylifeontheswingset.com and pre-order my novel A Life Less Monogamous and save 25% on the ebook or paperback at alifelessmonogamous.com!

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SS 231: The Physics of Sex - Bodies, Positions, and Objects in Motion Dec 10, 2015

Soooo, hi guys, it’s Dylan, and I have this problem. Sometimes I want to be up close and personal with someone. I want that full body contact. I want to slide right up next to someone while I'm sliding in and out of someone, I want to kiss them gently, I want my hair in their face and their hair in my face, I want to feel their breath on my neck and I want to feel the weight of my chest pushing against their tits.

But. sometimes I want to sit back, stand back, kneel back, and just fucking fuck the people I'm fucking. I want to watch them move, I want to see their faces scrunch, I want to watch their tits bounce, I want to give them a slap, a smack, and I want to watch my cock as it pistons in and out of someone

But you know someone I want to flip someone over and pound them against a headboard. Sometimes I want to execute the rare triple lutz upper decker reverse cowgirl in the pyramid configuration.

But sometimes things get in the way. Genital position, body type, genital shape, friction points, stamina, and ability can conspire to work against crafting the scene I want or the grouping I want, and I just won't be able to fuck the person or people I want to fuck the way I want to fuck them.

Do I give up? Do -YOU- give up?

Fuck no!

We have the knowledge, we have the technology, we have the simple machines, we have the will, and we'll craft the way,

You can find Crista Anne at her website and on twitter @pinkness!

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Today our intro and outro featured Feint - We Won't Be Alone (feat. Laura Brehm) and our end of the episode outtakes featured Deon Custom – Together.

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GPSC 009: Spaces, Places, and Behind Enemy Lines, Live at Desire Resort & Spa – The Gentleperverts’ Social Club Dec 02, 2015

Hello and many Greetings to all you perverts, I’m recording live from Desire Resort & Spa in Cancun, Mexico! Earlier today I sat down with upwards of thirty, and likely many less than two hundred perverts for a discussion about spaces. What makes a space special? What helps make people feel safe? What makes a space a focal point for a community?

As we moved through a “how do we find other perverts” discussion, we stumbled on the question of what it means to stay closeted and to come out these days, drawing parallels and differences between the nonmonogamous and queer communities, and examining how it’s possible to win the hearts and minds of others when engaging them “behind enemy lines”.

Usually I’d have a little more to say, but I’m all talked out… and kissed out, and blissed out… I mean, really, if you’ve never made out with a tequila flavored shotglass…. You should give it a try.

But before you search for a shotglass with a flared base, this has been… quite literally, been a recording taken at the Gentleperverts’ Social Club, on location, in Mexico. You can find more Gentleperverts’ Social Club podcasts every month at www.gentleperverts.com and discuss our latest episodes and topics on twitter with @GentlePerverts and me @DylanTheThomas. You can find me, Dylan Thomas, on Facebook, Spotify and Fetlife as DylanTheThomas. If you have a submission, a story, a signal boost request, or an idea for a topic send that over to me at dylan@lifeontheswingset.com. If you like having me record live, on location, throw me a buck or two at tip.gentleperverts.com.

Thanks for listening, and I hope to hear from you all soon.

ESA 075: Thirty Naked People and a Microphone - Desire 2015 Discussion Group Nov 25, 2015

This year for Swingset Takes Desire we hosted a bunch of kinky events, and a great time was had by all. This discussion-group style episode was recorded live on our last full day at the resort, full of reminiscence of good times had and great ideas for next year’s full-resort takeover.

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SS 230: The Swingset Takes Desire IV - Where We're Going... We Don't Need Clothes Nov 19, 2015

Desire. It's an emotion, raw and real. It's a place, warm and inviting, November 7th through the 14th of 2015, we made it our space. We brought 79 (and a half, thanks to the amazing Kendra Holliday) couples to Cancun, to the Riviera Maya, to Mexico, to the Desire Resort & Spa, and we collectively made the resort our own.

J.V. Altharas and Shara Bono joined us once again to co-host the trip, run kink demonstration and education events, and all in all... to enjoy and consume everything available in paradise, in the sexiest place on earth.

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The Swingset Takes Over Desire 2016: Choose Your Own Adventure! Join us November 5th through the 12th of 2016 as we execute a complete take over of Desire Resort & Spa in the Riviera Maya, in Cancun, in Mexico... in Paradise.

Today, our "between the commercials" music featured Varien - Transmissions from Lemuria, our commercial bumpers used samples from Deon Custom - Together, our outro featured Nigel Good - No Way Back Up (feat. Illuminor) and our "super special conversations" were backed by Karma Fields - Skyline.

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SS 229.1: #SSDESIRE Rain Delay Nov 11, 2015

Hi Swingset Fans! We're in Desire and we don't have a new episode for you this week but we're recharging, recording, and we'll be back next week with another wonderful episode with Crista Anne on The Physics of Sex - Bodies, Positions, Objects in Motion, and Mad Mods.

If you want more I suggest heading over to Swingset.FM and checking out the latest The Gentleperverts' Social Club, Intellectual Foreplay, Eat The Rudecast, Sex Ed A-Go-Go, or... check out our Swingset Classic: Swingerpiece Theater Presents - Weinergate 2: The Embiggening.

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Thanks!

SS 229: Wanting It All - The Curse of Abundance in Swinging & Polyamory Nov 04, 2015

Many of us are easily attracted to other people, That can lead us to wanting to be with ALL of the people. Swinging lends itself to that pretty well but poly, not so much. Of course, as with anything, abundant swinging can go bad and abundant poly can be amazing. When you do non-monogamy right, abundance comes often and it can feel like a burden, like a curse, even when your problem is an overflow of wonderful people and hot hot sex.

You can find Crista Anne at her website and on twitter @pinkness!

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Today, our intro featured Nigel Good - No Way Back Up (feat. Illuminor), our "between the commercials" music featured Varien - Transmissions from Lemuria, and we ended the show with Karma Fields - Skyline.

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SS 228: Aural Sex - Audio Erotica, Phone Sex & Dirty Talk with Rose Caraway Oct 23, 2015

One of the most enjoyable experiences you can have is putting on your headphones, closing your eyes, and listening to Rose Caraway, the Sexy Librarian, breathe some erotica right into your ears. Tonight we're talking with Rose about her audiobook erotica, phone sex, and dirty talk

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Life on the Swingset's outro featured Varien - Transmissions from Lemuria. We also featured Nigel Good - No Way Back Up (feat. Illuminor), Deon Custom - Together and Protostar & Draper - Chrysalis.

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SS 227: What Is Sexy? Thoughts on Sexual Attraction Oct 12, 2015

Tonight we're exploring our thoughts on sexual attraction, what it means and why we're attracted to others, why others may be attracted to us and how that feels, and perhaps most important of all, what makes us feel sexy.

We discuss attraction to others; what you're attracted to, how that changes over time, what draws you in, what to do with that attraction. We ponder what being attracted to types means, we think about generosity and attraction, and we talk about weight loss and self-perception.

SS 226: Sintrovert or Sextrovert - How the Swinging Lifestyle Brings Out the Social Animal In Us All Oct 05, 2015

A while back, though who knows how long, because memory is fluid, like sexuality, Ginger, the coiner of terms, suggested Sintrovert and Sextrovert as two leading categories of sexually explorative folk. These modified versions of introvert and extrovert help to remove the stigma attached, and suggest that however you embrace your sexuality, you're on the right page for engaging.

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Today, Life on the Swingset's outro featured Protostar & Draper - Chrysalis.

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SS 225: Why We Push Our Sexual Boundaries with Guest Tina Horn Sep 28, 2015

"Why Are People Into That" is a question that people around the world ask of many things, often about various sexual kinks, fetishes, and practices. Podcast host Tina Horn asks on a regular basis, as her show deconstructs with a guest why people might be into a certain thing. We decided to turn that question around for our discussion with her and ask Why we push our sexual boundaries, and why doing so is important. That's tonight on Life on the Swingset the podcast.

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Today, Life on the Swingset's outro featured Protostar & Draper - Chrysalis.

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SS 224: The Genital Spectacle II - Our Bodies, Our Selves, Our Bits Sep 23, 2015

Our discussion of genitals, both our own and those belonging to other people, simply could not be contained by a single episode, so we return to the subject again, this time discussing labiaplasty, penis enlargement, being happy with your genitals as they are, body hair, shaving, and performance issues (ie, am I hard enough, am I wet enough?)

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Today, Life on the Swingset's outro featured Protostar & Draper - Chrysalis.

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SS 223: The Genital Spectacle - Learning to Like Our Bits Sep 14, 2015

Whether you had to find a mirror to see yours or you could just look down and not miss it, we've all had first encounters with our bits, you know, our genitals. In a culture that espouses a specific body ideal, we can't escape wondering if even our most private parts hold up by comparison. Bodies are amazing because of diversity not despite it. In this episode, Cooper, Ginger, Dylan and Katie Mack discuss how body positivity wins the day.

To SheVibe: Thank you! Your magazine cover is … without too much hyperbole… possibly the greatest thing that has ever happened. It’s amazing and we will show our appreciation at every opportunity. We dedicate this episode to you.

We discuss a couple email responses to the following letters (warning: politics ahead):

Cooper... Cooper... Cooper... I'm disappointed. I listen to your podcast regularly and am a fan. But as a Kinkster/swinger/conservative I have to say I was saddened by your recent spewing of vitriol towards anyone who doesn't believe as you believe.

For background.... I am a straight, polyamorous, loving dominant male. I was raised with 4 sisters by parents that instilled common courtesy and respect. From the day I started studying about alternative lifestyles, I was repeatedly reminded that "My kink is not your kink". I understood that as a clear directive to not be derisive towards another's proclivities. As long as it was safe sane and consensual, more power to them. I may not know all the intricacies of their dynamic and it wasn't my job to pass judgement. I had hoped for the same kind of inclusion and acceptance from your podcast. Your dismissive attitude towards Christians and republicans was quite disconcerting. Your right to be an Atheist does not preclude another from believing in the "fairy tales" they hold dear. Your right to vote based on a woman's choice of what to do with their body does not preclude another from believing that bigger government will NOT ensure the rights of the individual are protected and/or provided for. With the history of Conrail, the Postal Service and Veterans Hospitals as examples, I'm more convinced than ever that the answer lies in the community rather than a larger ineffective centralized governments control.

I'm sure you don't want to hear my political leanings any more than I want to hear about your epic prostate orgasm. That being said, I would never denigrate you for your kink or political affiliations.

And to Dylan:

Just finished LotSS 220, and I wanted to write in with a comment on Dylan's suggestion for a family-friendly sexy vacation destination.

While he's anxiously waiting for Disney Cruise Lines to launch their Multi-Tier Mascot Mediterranean Fuckboat, his suggestion of a build-your-own vacation is workable, with one caveat; expecting a gathering of children to make it through the night without finding -something- they think they need an adult for, especially when it's super important that they stay away, is utter folly, no matter how much you pay the kids who are ostensibly in charge. But this is a problem that can be solved by logistics. If you know you have N couples with children who would be up for a sexy vacation (I am assuming you are on the board of the Homeowners Association to have access to that sort of info) you book your hotel rooms for at least N nights. Each couple then volunteers to watch the kids during one evening while the rest of the party congregates at a room at an entirely different hotel for sexy times. That way, every adult gets at least N-1 opportunities to participate, the kids get N awesome sleepover-like parties, and nobody has to leave their kids under the care of someone they don't trust enough to show their junk to.

Remember, it takes a village to raise an orgy.

SS 222: Gang Bang the MailBag 24 – Shy Male Swingers, Just Starting, Couples’ Jealousy, Online Frustration, Christian Swingers Sep 08, 2015

Swingset does as Chicago does with a 3-peat dip into the mailbag! We discuss discuss shy male swingers, just starting out in the lifestyle, couples’ jealousy, frustration with people who don’t read online profiles in their entirety, and Christian swingers! As always questions are edited for time and cohesion. If you have a question for an upcoming mailbag show, please leave us a voicemail at 573-557-9464.

Warning: Dylan tells TWO stories, and neither are particularly sexy but both are fairly gripping!

Question 1:

I'm hoping for some words of wisdom for a guy in the lifestyle who struggles to be appropriately assertive. While single I was one of those guys who needed flares, sirens, and flashing lights to know a woman was interested in me, and even then I was often hesitant. I'm now happily coupled and in the lifestyle, but no better at hitting on women or initiating any touching.

Part of my hang-up is the nausea induced by certain sleazy guys who "accidentally" rub against people in crowds or greet everyone with a grope. But a balance between assault and friendly passivity can't be that hard to find, right? This has created some tension with my better half, because she feels as if she has to do more of the work when we're in sexy circumstances, and it makes it harder for me to enjoy lifestyle events.

Question 2:

My wife and I have a wonderful marriage, awesome communication and an even better sex life. We're entertaining a soft swap, FMF interaction. We want to make an informed decision together before fully trying swinging. What can you suggest tips, advice, information wise? And what's the next step if we wanted to go through with it?

Dylan Thomas’ note:

By the way, our wonderful “Swinging for Beginners” series has quite a bit of content that can help! Visit lifeontheswingset.com/category/swinging-for-beginners for nine episodes where we focus entirely on the “new to the lifestyle” experience!

Question 3:

We were doing a lot of lifestyle events and really never met anyone that tripped both of our triggers until we met this one couple. We became very close, sharing each other and attending sexy events but staying faithful to each other as couples until recently. They attended an event and hooked up with a group of people, didn't invite us and now we are struggling with the relationship. Sort of had our hearts broken. We never had any kind of agreement to stay with each other so we can't fault them. Wondering if you have any advice?

Question 4:

We're busy and don't play with other couples (we prefer threesomes and orgies). That doesn't mean we don't want to meet sexy new friends, just that we'd rather do it in larger settings. We also get a fair amount of attention on the swinger dating sites -- almost always from couples who want to meet up. (Our profile is clear that we don't play with couples, but it's obvious that some people only look at pictures.) Responding with something like, "we're not available to meet, but we'll be at a meet and greet so please come and say hello!" has always been met with silence. Are we doing something wrong? Is there a better way to say what we're looking for?

Question 5:

We are Christians and go to church on Sunday. Are there a lot of Christian swingers? I'm afraid it will feel a little weird going to a club and having some fun then going to church a few days later.

SS 221: Gang Bang the Mailbag 23 - Ejaculation, Trust in Swinging, Former Swingers & Sex Club Consent Aug 31, 2015

Welcome back to the Life on the Swingset mailbag where we're reading listener questions! As always questions are edited for time and cohesion unlike this podcast. If you have a question for an upcoming mailbag show, please leave us a voicemail at 573-557-9464 or send us an email at contact@lifeontheswingset.com. Tonight we discuss partnering with a former swinger as a monogamous couple, holding out on ejaculation, coming out as an atheist, and trusting each other in the lifestyle.

We also review the Fleshjack Go, we run a giveaway for Cinekink Chicago, and run a giveaway for free audible copy of My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging and Polyamory, but you have to listen to find out how to win!

Today, Life on the Swingset's outro and voicemail featured Protostar & Draper - Chrysalis.

Buy Cooper's book My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at MyLotSS.com

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SS 220: Gang Bang the Mailbag 22 Aug 12, 2015

We're dipping back into the mailbag for another Life on the Swingset gang bang of your listener voicemails and emails. As always questions are edited for time and cohesion. If you have a question for an upcoming mailbag show, please leave us a voicemail at 573-557-9464 or email us at contact@lifeontheswingset.com.

We discuss swinging as a recovering alcoholic, discussing sex with vanilla friends, why men are / aren’t bad at sex in the lifestyle, sexy vacations … with kids?!, waning desire, and whether girl on girl play counts as full swap or soft swap! Plus… PLUS… We enjoy cameos by Morgan Freeman, Sean Connery, Mason Verger, Christopher Walken, and Reid Mihalko!

SS 219: Sex Drive - Baby You Can Drive My Swinging & Poly Lifestyle Aug 03, 2015

Everybody's sex drive is different, and it's likely that everybody who has ever had a sex drive has had assumptions made about it. Swingers, polyamorists, and other non-mono practicioners have had loads of assumptions made about their sex drive. So tonight on Life on the Swingset, the Podcast we're going to discuss those assumptions, and how the concept of sex drive is often seen through gendered and socio economic lenses.

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SS 218: White Rocks & Black Rings - Swinger History & Folklore with Dr. Jeana Jorgensen Jul 27, 2015

Do white rocks in front of a house in the suburbs mean there might be swingers inside? Believe it or not, this is still a question we get, without fail, every month or so. This way of picking out swingers is a part of our history. Then history became legend. Legend became myth. And along with so many ideas about swinging, open relationships, and sexuality, they became part of the rich folklore that has accompanied our favorite past-time. We discuss swinger history and sexual folklore with guest Dr. Jeana Jorgensen.

SS 217: What About Poly Marriage? - Does Marriage Equality Extend to Polyamory Jul 20, 2015

Recently, our own United States of America had a watershed moment. An injustice so deeply ingrained into what we've called society, what we've called family, what we've called "real and respectable” with one fell swoop, became righted as a matter of not just public policy, but as law.

The Supreme Court's decision on Obergefell v. Hodges granted marriage equality for all persons, and while the rest of the country's legal structure catches up to the new reality, we're seeing a vocal minority of polyamorous people... and a surprising amount of popular media address the possibility of multiple partner marriage… Poly marriage.

We welcome Cunning Minx back to the Swingset, where she and Dylan step on their soap boxes and bring up Justice Roberts’ dissent’s thoughts on a plural marriage slippery slope, Justice Kennedy’s majority opinion based on fundamental rights instead of the expected equal protection. We discuss what marriage is anyway and what it represents between us as people, us as the government, and us and our beliefs. We look at where polyamorous groupings and families are vulnerable and what marriage, or a set of contracts granting protection, or possibly an incorporation would do to protect them.

Also… we discuss why we’re in the “Reefer Madness” stage of the general public recognizing what polyamory is.

Some articles that might interest you since they informed our discussion (for better or worse… THANKS MEDIA):

http://thefederalist.com/2015/07/06/polyamory-is-bad-for-kids-polyamorists-and-society/#disqus_thread

http://www.theatlantic.com/politics/archive/2015/07/case-against-polygamy/397823/?utm_source=SFFB

http://www.washingtonpost.com/news/acts-of-faith/wp/2015/07/10/heres-why-people-are-arguing-over-whether-polygamy-is-the-next-gay-marriage-debate/

http://www.slate.com/articles/news_and_politics/politics/2015/06/is_polygamy_next_after_gay_marriage_chief_justice_roberts_obergefell_dissent.html

SS 216: Dating - Being Right With and Doing Right By Your People Jul 13, 2015

We all go on dates. Maybe it's a play date with another sexy couple. Maybe it's a romantic getaway with a partner we only see every couple months. Maybe it's a night of taking off your clothes and cleaning someone's apartment for them while they watch you barely contain your excitement. We all date, and we all eventually have other relationships, people we're making a life with, other people we're fucking, maybe a daddy, and while what we're doing is ultimately our business, we still want to do right by and be right with the people we choose to call our people.

We discuss how hard it is to manage multiple relationships and that respecting multiple people simultaneously while developing new relationships takes skill, mindfulness, presence, and lots of communication of expectations, needs and considarations.

SS 215: Successful Disengagement - Stepping Back Gracefully Jul 08, 2015

We've all been in situations that we were really... REALLY eager to be in.... then realize in the moment maybe we don't want to be in this particular situation but you like everyone involved and you don't want to spoil the mood, and you want to step back gracefully and disengage. We discuss learning how to get a handle on your own emotions both in the moment and after, we relay some of our strategies in communicating lack of enthusiasm for the act without accidentally conveying lack of enthusiasm for the person, and take care of some "business".

SS 214: Secrecy, Privacy in Swinging & Polyamory Jun 29, 2015

In the wake of both Fetlife and Adult Friend Finder getting their content and naughty secrets scraped and posted online, there has been a renewed discussion about secrecy and privacy in swinging & polyamory. Katie Mack joins us to discuss these topics and think about what it means to be secretive, how it relates to our own private closets and give you suggestions on maintaining your cone of privacy in the modern Internet age. Social networks, dating & swinging sites, privacy v. secrecy, photos, (more) secure payment methods, burner phones and email accounts are all on the table.

Here’s a Krebs on Security article on recent breaches. Here’s an article addressing the AdultFriendFinder breach.

SS 213: Gang Bang the Mailbag 21 – Now 100% Legal! Jun 19, 2015

Welcome to our 21st Gang Bang the Mailbag! As always, if you want to ask a question via voicemail or text: 573-55-SWING, that's 573-557-9464, or send us an email at contact@lifeontheswingset.comAs always we want to remind those of you at home to tweet along with us at #sspodcast

We address a “The Professor” callout from a listener on the definition of monogamy, a listener looking for advice on an MFM in Tokyo, large age differences between partners in swinging, a listener whose wife kind of wants out of non-monogamy, and the trials and tribulations of being with a partner who has two left sexual feet.

Cooper also throws out there that a great name for a new band would be Suburbanesque World of Heteronormative Privilege.

Also from Dylan:

OH GOD IT WAS Q-TIP!

CANADA, YOU DID THIS TO ME

SS 212: Gang Bang the Mailbag 20 Jun 12, 2015

Believe it or not, our voicemail gang bang overflowed and we were left with extra voicemails. With that in mind, we've collected some listener emails to do our twentieth mailbag gangbang! As always, if you want to ask a question via voicemail or text: 573-55-SWING, that's 573-557-9464, or send us an email at contact@lifeontheswingset.com. All questions have been edited to fit in the space allowed.

We discuss meeting opposite partners before private dates, expectations and consent, making the first move at clubs, soft swapping with single males and solidifying rules as newbies as well as getting over boundary violations.

SS 211: Ghosts of Swingset Past - Life on the Swingset Jun 03, 2015

Holy Shit Shira B. Katz is here! … and she’s causing trouble! … and she starts a wonderful conversation with Ginger about mindfulness! ….and she asks what we’ve been doing with our lives and we update her with an episode almost entirely about “our business” which included the introduction of the term relationship anarchy.

It was a pleasure and we hope it happens again. J

…also “dumping with Dylan” may become a thing now. And I guess “Just the Tip with Dylan Thomas”.

Maybe.

Whatever.

We reference Headspace (the website that apparently treats your head right) and Dr. Dan Siegel’s book Mindsight.

SS 210: Nina Hartley Talks About All of the Things May 27, 2015

Adult film star, author, sex educator, outspoken feminist and advocate for sexual acceptance Nina Hartley joins and honors us with a conversation on the Swingset.

Nina was a pioneer of sex positivity before sex positivity was a thing. A prolific performer, an outspoken feminist and an advocate for sexual acceptance (as a board member of the Woodhull Sexual Freedom Alliance), Nina is the sexual freedom fighter we all admire. We are deeply honored to welcome her onto the Swingset.

After Nina leaves, Dylan responds to an email we received regarding our latest Bedcast by both acknowledging our own failings and by shining light on the absurdity of claiming lack of responsibility through silence and complacency.

SS 209: Swinging For Dummies IX - Sexy Vacations May 21, 2015

Vacations. Aren't they great? But you know what's better? SEXY VACATIONS. The kind where you can be naked and flirt all day and have sex all night. Or maybe you decide on an afternoon delight. Of course, on vacation, you have time for all of the above! For those who've never been on a sexy vacation, they can also be intimidating and scary. For our ninth Swinging for Dummies episode we, enthusiastic advocates of the sexy vacation, share what we have learned so that your next sexy vacation is everything you want it to be and more. That's tonight on Life on the Swingset the podcast.

Tonight's episode is sponsored by our good friends at Gamelink.com, which is where you should be going for your porn!

SS 208: Evolution - The Porn Industry and from Performer to Educator with jessica drake May 13, 2015

Adult film star and filmmaker jessica drake has seen the porn industry through some of its most radical and affecting changes, and has moved herself from star to writer to educator with her jessica drake's Guide to Wicked Sex Series. Tonight she's joining us to discuss this evolution of an industry. We chat about how the industry deals with the double edged sword of the Internet, the difference between porn as entertainment and porn as education, cyber bullying, and we giggled about sitting on the floor crosslegged.

SS 207: Ejaculating Dildos & Simulacrum Genitals with Stephanie Berman May 06, 2015

Way back in 2011 Life on the Swingset issued a pleasure quest. Find a quality ejaculating dildo. Over the years, we did NOT find quality dildos, we DID find Miko, though, so it was a win over all. Tonight we have Steph Berman with us, creator of The Semenette, the best ejaculating dildo I've ever seen, to talk with us about simulacrum genitals.

We spoke at length about the original mission of The Semenette, to provide a way for partners to conceive and still connect in a sexy and fun way, and opened up to possibilities of users and partners playing in safe and non procreative ways; pegging, cum play, new ways for those with erectile dysfunction to still experience the pleasure of ejaculating on and in someone... it's a very versatile dildo.

SS 206: Swinging For Dummies VIII: Full Swap & Soft Swap Apr 29, 2015

We're back with more Swinging basics in our Swinging for Dummies series! Full Swap and Soft Swap are the two main classifications of swinging, with full swap including traditional PIV/PIA ( penis in vagina/penis in anus ) sex and soft swap not. Tonight on Life on the Swingset the podcast, we're going to be talking about the decision making that can lead you from one classification to another, as well as the benefits and drawbacks of both. But, you know, sexy like.

Also… Take a listen to The Drifters – Save the Last Dance For Me!

SS 205: Gang Bang the VoiceMailbag Apr 22, 2015

We hit the jackpot when it comes to voicemail questions in this episode. In fact, our voicemailbag runneth over. The Swingset crew gathers around to listen to your questions this time around. The crew tackle questions about humans being suited for monogamy, use of alcohol in the lifestyle, defense of the no kissing rule in the lifestyle, even the use of the term "the lifestyle." There's also a special treat for you, Swingsetters. Enjoy the song "Sock Puppet" by the band Sticky Biscuits. An awesome song about fisting.

Keeping calling in with those voicemail questions. We'd love to do more Gang Bang The VoicemailBag episodes.

SS 204: Figuring Out What You Want and How to Ask For It - Live at CatalystCon East 2015 Apr 08, 2015

So many people don’t know what they want or need sexually. Discovering those wants and needs can be a difficult process without some sexual sherpa to guide them. Then they need to be able to turn those wants into requests, so they can get all the hedonistic delight they deserve as members of the human race. Cooper Beckett, Ginger Bentham, Dylan Thomas, & Miko Technogeisha, hosts of Life on the Swingset, The Podcast, bring you a live interactive discussion about figuring out what you want, and how to ask for it.

We cover self-exploration, defining and exploring boundaries, communicating desire and being attentive, as well as open the floor up to audience questions and stories.

SS 203: A New Beginning - Loin on the Swineset, The Bedcast Apr 01, 2015

Hazy insanity, that is all.

"It's like Goldschlager, you want to see the chunks."

"When I'm rubbing lube on your cock, I just want to, feel the chunks."

let me google that for you: pig penis

"Is Ginger now the other white meat?" - J.V.

Tom Ridge's Color Coding System for Swingset Podcasts "I've got a code brown."

Cooper's Leetspeak needs some help, thought "FTW" meant "fuck the world" #oldmancooper

"Obviously we are all down with OPP." "Other people's pork?" (Ginger wtf)

"I asked Gillian Anderson out... on twitter." - Ginger

"We did white privilege roleplay." - Miko

You can find this and other bedcasts at lifeontheswingset.com/whatthefuck

Dylan as Tom Cruise on Oprah's Couch lifeontheswingset.com/14993/ss-111-in-bed-with-the-swingset-ii-recorded-live-at-catalystcon-east/

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Join us on our trip to Desire in 2015, where we're going, we don't need clothes!

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SS 202: Finding and Creating Sex-Positive Community with Dr. Dick Mar 18, 2015

Humans have been having sex since the beginning of time. And from cave drawings to the Kama Sutra to The Joy of Sex, we have been inventing ways to communicate about the sex we are having. Then Al Gore invented the Internet and everything changed. Tonight we are excited to finally welcome esteemed sexologist, Dr Richard Wagner, also known as Dr. Dick, onto the Swingset to reflect on how technology and access to sexual information has shaped our ability to embody our most authentic sexual selves.

SS 201: Girl on Girl - Girl Sex 101 with Allison Moon Mar 12, 2015

Girl on girl...the mythology and visual ecstasy live large from Spring Break to Bourbon Street. Girl on girl sex is worthy of being epic. And certainly deserves more respect than main stream culture affords. Girl sex can perhaps be a little less obvious, though no less delicious. We are excited to welcome Allison Moon, author of Girl Sex 101 to episode 201 of Life on the Swingset.

Scott Adams had something to say about monogamy this week.

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SS 200: Monogamish Life - Exploring New Frontiers With Dan Savage Mar 04, 2015

In two hundred episodes of Life on the Swingset, the podcast, we've seen ethical non-monogamy go from something whispered about into something that's getting cover articles in major publications. The entire idea of alternate relationships, sexual arrangements, and partnering is having a moment. Tonight, we're thrilled to have, as our guest, Dan Savage who, whether he likes it or not, is a sort of a Podfather to our little podcast, as the vicarious thrills we got from listening to people with very sexy lives helped shape at least my interest in exploring lifestyles.

Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything!

Join us on our trip to Desire in 2015, where we're going, we don't need clothes!

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SS 199: Reinventing Relationships with Magnus Sullivan, Writer/Producer of Marriage 2.0 Feb 25, 2015

All of us living life on the Swingset are well-versed in the passion, communication, and negotiation being consensually non-monogamous requires. Yet it's rare to see our kinds of relationships portrayed in mainstream films. One such film about to be released is Marriage 2.0 written and produced by Magnus Sullivan. In Magnus's movie, we are (quote) "invited to celebrate a modern redefinition of the committed relationship...where unfettered physical and emotional intimacy can fuel our passion while strengthening the bond with those we love." Tonight we have Magnus Sullivan join us on the Swingset to talk relationships and the role movies can play in reinventing relationships.

You can find Marriage 2.0’s Twitter account here!

Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything!

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SS 198: Blowjobs, Cunnilingus, and Educational Porn with Sophie Delancey Feb 18, 2015

We've talked at length about the sad fact that many young people in america get the entirety of their sex ed from watching porn. When porn comes that's actually designed to educate, however, it can be revelatory. We're rejoined by old friend (and new Swingset.FM contributor) Sophie Delancey from The Art of Blowjob and the brand new Art of Cunnilingus to talk about art, educational porn, and oral sex!

Rachel Kramer Bussel wrote an article Salon.com published recently on cunnilingus.

Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything!

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SS 197: Sexual Expression and Art with Guest Rachel Lark Feb 11, 2015

Those of us who write about sex and speak about sex and sing about sex have stepped into a unique realm in our society. Where sex was always a hush hush don't talk about it subject, we've decided to podcast, and write, and write songs, and express our sexuality into the world for many different reasons. Rachel Lark, who wrote those awesome naughty Christmas songs a few episodes ago, has joined us to talk about sexual expression, play a few songs, and have a good time.

Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything!

Buy Cooper's book My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at MyLotSS.com

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SS 196: Bacchanalia Basics at The Tool Shed in Milwaukee, WI Feb 10, 2015

Cooper, Dylan, and Miko return to Milwaukee, Wisconsin's wonderful Tool Shed to reprise Swingset's discussion on play parties.

They’re whispered about, opinions are drawn, expectations are high for both attendees and non. The sex party, the play party, the swinger party, call it what you will, to anyone who’s never been to one they conjure up visions of hedonistic abandon, or deeply creepy masked affairs. With so many people looking to explore their sexuality and needing a safe place to do so, play parties have value far beyond a whole bunch of naked people in a room. They can educate as well as titillate. So that's what we're here to talk about today.

SS 195: Swinging For Dummies VII: Threesomes Feb 04, 2015

In our Swinging for Dummies Series thus far, we've taken you through deciding you're open, talking to your partner, setting up your profile, and going on a first date. We think you're ready for the meat of the course now: Threesomes! We discuss the ever-present acronyms fmf, mfm, mmf, different configurations and play styles, thinking about the new person as a sex toy, an other, or as an honored guest, playing as the single and of course... negotiating threesomes, communication, when threesomes go bad and when threesomes go great!

Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything!

Buy Cooper's book My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at MyLotSS.com

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SS 194: Orgasms, Sexuality & Depression - #OrgasmQuest with guest Crista Anne Jan 28, 2015

The Swingset welcomes back Crista Anne to discuss her recent commitment to herself; to find a path back to self-orgasm through once a day masturbation. Through her very personal and public #OrgasmQuest Crista is documenting her navigation through life-long depression, antidepressants, self-care, living and loving life and parenting and today she shares it all with us, and we share our stories with her.

Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything!

Buy Cooper's book My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at MyLotSS.com

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SS 193: Gang Bang the Mailbag 19 - Broken Rules, Multiple Male Orgasms, "My Teenager Knows" and Dan Savage Jan 21, 2015

Our mailbag, full of pluck and fancy, keeps coming back with more questions for us to ponder and maybe even eventualy answer! Today we discuss swinging as parents of very young children, broken rules and people set off-limits, multiple male orgasms and never fail erections, "Poly Doesn't Work", what to do when finding out the local neighborhood teenager knows, and finding lust in Minnesota.

We also take a mid-episode break and cut to the Savage Lovecast hosted by Dan Savage where Cooper chimes in for a question about swinging. You can find the full episode (Cooper is on the Full Magnum episode) at: http://www.savagelovecast.com/episodes/430#.VL-peyvF98E

Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything!

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SS 192: Gang Bang The Mailbag 18 - Dirty Talk, A Cyber Sex Orgy, Male Multiple Orgasms, and Does Poly Work? Jan 14, 2015

It's a new year and there are new questions in the mailbag, even a few voicemails! Tonight on Life on the Swingset, the podcast, we gang bang the mailbag as this series turns 18. We discuss some newbie swinger questions in a lightning round style segment, post sti-transmission risk-aware sex and stigma, imbalances in attraction in coupling, and dirty talk!

Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything!

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SS 191: My Life on the Swingset - Ginger Sits Down With Cooper to Talk About The Book Launch Jan 07, 2015

Ginger sits down with Cooper for a one-on-one discussion of his book My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory, recorded on the day of launch.

Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything!

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SS 190: Consent is Emotional Lube Jan 07, 2015

Consent shouldn't be something we have to teach, It's the simplest thing in the world, ask before you touch. But beyond that, consent is involved in so many aspects of our non-monogamous lives, that learning how to give and receive enthusiastic consent is one of the most important things we learn early on as we open up. So that's what we're talking about tonight on Life on the Swingset, The Podcast.

Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything!

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SS 189: Another Year on the Swingset - 2014, the Year That Was Dec 30, 2014

We look back at 2014, what was a year of aggressive expansion for The Swingset, to talk about Desire, going to conferences, teaching classes, getting married, using new dildos like the awesome Tantus Echo Handle, writing books, and more in our annual year-end wrap-up.

SS 188: Ghosts of Non-Monogamy Past - A Swingset Holiday Special Dec 24, 2014

In an episode that has been attempted every year since the beginning, we reflect on days of non-monogamy gone by, talking about our bloopers and issues and funny times and sad times, and recognize all the oddities that come from early days in swinging and polyamory. We're also thrilled to present two holiday songs by the incomparable Rachel Lark off her new album Hung For The Holidays, as well as an audio excerpt from Cooper's book My Life on the Swingset coming to Kindle on January 6th.

SS 187: Good Men Everywhere Dec 17, 2014

As a lifestyle that is outside the mainstream, ethical non-monogamy tends to attract humans who are outside the mainstream. This certainly goes for the men...men who treat women as equals...men who are self-aware, respectful, and are cognizant of the power they hold in the world. Tonight on Life on The Swingset: The Podcast, we will hear from four of those men about how they navigate their relationships, address the ethical questions they face, and have as much fun as possible in the process. They'll discuss consent navigation, their progression from past to present, slut shaming, relating to women on a day to day basis, communicating the lifestyle to people who don't understand, encountering possessiveness among other men and their partners and discussing the mythology that men always want sex. everywhere. all the time.

Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything!

Join us November 7th through the 15th for The Swingset Takes Desire 2015 because where we're going... we don't need clothes.

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Pre-Order Cooper's first book My Life on the Swingset, it's great! Don't take our word for it, take Good Vibrations executive VP Jackie Strano's - "Cooper Beckett goes old school gonzo in My Life On the Swingset as your tour guide of non-monogamy in this delightful and playful romp of a read. Fear & Loathing meets On The Road as Cooper gives you first hand debaucherous details about his trials and tribulations and ecstatic moments of exploration in the swinger lifestyle. Defining NRE, prostate orgasm, sexy safe sex, and basic etiquette while telling a charming story is not easy but this recovering Catholic boy gives it his gusto and the book is helpful as well as entertaining."

SS 186: Women, Sex, and Shame, with Elle Chase Dec 12, 2014

When the topic of sexual shame comes up, nowhere is it greater than the institutionalized shame heaped upon the women of the world, asked to be both hypersexual and aesexual simultaneously. Tonight we're re-joined by our friend Lady Cheeky, Elle Chase, who is featured in upcoming documentary "Inside Her Sex" exploring female sexuality and shame.

* Editor's note: We had minor technical difficulties near the end of the episode. We lost Elle near the end so while we said goodbye to her... we promise she said goodbye back.

...and flirted back with Dylan.

he swears. by the moon. and the stars. and the sun.

Check out Elle Chase's websites. For porn head to Lady Cheeky, for education Smut for Smarties, to hire Elle, check out her professional site, and her new LA Academy of Sex Education!

Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything!

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SS 185: Swingin' Around the Swingset - Recorded Live at Desire Resort & Spa Dec 03, 2014

Heidi and Danny from the Swingin' Around podcast take Cooper aside for a little chat in the heart of paradise and discuss their experiences during their second visit to the resort. They talk massages, non-consensual choking, hot tubs, Cooper getting married, getting naked and all in all have a great time!

Join us in Mexico next year for Swingset Takes Desire 2015!

Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything!

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SS 184: Ending the Sexual Dark Age with the Swingset at Desire Resort & Spa Nov 27, 2014

We took time out of our very hard and busy work schedules in Desire to record a discussion with JV and Shara of Ending the Sexual Dark Age as well as a couple dozen other sexy naked people, We discuss what Desire means to us, what having places where we can be our authentic selves means and about creating those spaces wherever, whenever, and with whoever we can. We hear from people about getting comfortably naked for the first time in front of other people and we hear about why we will always come back.

We also talk about having a LOT of sex

Join us in Mexico next year for Swingset Takes Desire 2015!

Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything!

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SS 183: A Swinging Vacation - Live from Desire Resort & Spa - Life on the Swingset Nov 19, 2014

Ginger, Professor, Miko, Ronin, Ophilia, and Cooper are out of the office this week. They've jet off to paradise in Mexico at Desire Resort and Spa for the third annual Life on the Swingset Takes Desire. With 160 people along for the ride, they've spent a week of hedonism, debauchery, and drunkenness that would make the Rolling Stones sit back and take note. On Thursday of their week long trip, they sat down to talk with a live audience of friends and lovers, and do a live podcast.

This is the result.

SS 182: The Worst Sex Toys in the World!!! with Crista Anne and the Redhead Beadhead Nov 14, 2014

We've talked and talked about awesome sex toys are, the tremendous advancements in the field, the glory of stainless steel and silicone, body safe and body conscious products. You know all of that. So, today we're gonna talk about the flip side. The worst sex toys in the woooooorld!

#SuchKeithOlbermannMuchClass

Crista Anne of Dildology joins us as well as the Redhead Beadhead, JoEllen Notte!

Also... the Minnesota Roller Girls have the best sports mascot. Period.

Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything!

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SS 181: Swinging & Polyamory on a Budget - How to Enjoy Your Fabulous Lifestyle For Very Little Nov 05, 2014

We at the Swingset are not wealthy. Despite what some may think, we don't make a fabulous living delivering a free podcast to you folks week after week. Despite that, though, we can afford to go to the occasional party, take the occasional (yearly) trip to Desire, sign up for paying sites. Or at least these ideas aren't incredibly foreign to us. On this episode we talk about how to "do" non monogamy on a budget, and how to make that time count.

SS 180: Gang Bang The Mailbag 17 - Surprise Swinging, Silicone v. Silicone, Jealousy x 2 Oct 29, 2014

Asked and Answered Swingsetters!

We discuss downgrading swing relationships, unexpected kissing jealousy, bi-threesome issues, partners backing out, theoretical jealousy, silicone lube on silicone toys and the most basic of questions... "How do I bring up swinging to my partner?" to which one of our answers is "Never with surprise swinging."

Want to help our friends at Burlesque Toy Shop get their first brick and mortar boutique off the ground in Philadelphia? Head over to their indiegogo campaign and pledge. Some great pledge prizes to be had, including a LELO Mona 2 for far less than you'd buy it anywhere else. If buying a product from their online store, save 20% when you use the promo code swingburlesque at checkout!

Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything!

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SS 179: Gang Bang the Mailbag 16 - Unprotected Sex, Lies, Coming Out As Poly and more! Oct 23, 2014

Sweet Gang Bang Sixteen!

We've taken your questions and answered them on air! We discuss a single poly woman dating a monogamous guy, being new and a virgin in non-monogamy, coming out as polyamorous to your family, talking to our children, jealousy, and navigating poly relationships when unprotected sex happens.

Want to help our friends at Burlesque Toy Shop get their first brick and mortar boutique off the ground in Philadelphia? Head over to their indiegogo campaign and pledge. Some great pledge prizes to be had, including a LELO Mona 2 for far less than you'd buy it anywhere else. If buying a product from their online store, save 20% when you use the promo code swingburlesque at checkout!

Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything!

Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out!

Come with us for The Swingset Takes Desire '14!

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SS 178: A Swinging Primer with Cooper Beckett - Live at The Pleasure Chest Los Angeles Oct 15, 2014

Cooper super-sizes his Swinging Primer, as you do when you're teaching in LA.

Class description:

"Cooper Beckett, from the podcast Life on the Swingset, takes you through the common peaks and valleys of beginning swinging, covering jealousy, safer sex practices, communication and more. Whether you're brand new to swinging, been doing it for years, or just fascinated by the idea, there's something here for everyone."

SS 177: Erotica - Writing, Reading, Tweeting, Living It with Guest Rachel Kramer Bussel Oct 09, 2014

Tonight we discuss erotica, writing it, reading it, tweeting it, living it with our guest Rachel Kramer Bussel. We discuss Rachel's extensive history in both writing and editing erotica, where erotica fits in every day life, expression, fiction, and reality in erotica, written vs. spoken vs. digital, how erotica lives with other forms of erotic material, and how erotica uniquely forces us to open our minds and our senses to truly get the most out of it.

Tweet along with tonight's episode using #ssliveish !

Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything!

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SS 176: In Bed With The Semi-Nude Swingset Oct 01, 2014

There is much to say about this recording. And also very little. You see it sits in a portion of our minds, like it sits behind a drop of water, but who are we kidding, it sits behind drink. The foul stuff that has put us in a very boisterous mood to say the least. To say the very least. It isn't long before everything breaks down. The center simply CANNOT hold. And you get this. You are presented with this. It's a good thing, I think, that our past two episode have been of highest quality. Because this? This is a bedcast.

SS 175: Hump & Circumstance - Talking Group Sex - Live At CatalystCon West Sep 24, 2014

Life on the Swingset returns to CatalystCon West for a live podcast about group sex

You know that one thing you can do outside monogamy that you can’t do within? You can have group sex. That’s right, many people getting naked and sexy together. That’s how the non-monogamous do. So today, for our very first live podcast (which is only a mild distinction from panel) we are talking about that whole thing that makes us different than the monos, group sex.

SS 174: Bacchanalia Basics: It’s Play Party Time! – Live At CatalystCon West Sep 17, 2014

Life on the Swingset returns to CatalystCon West for a panel discussion about throwing and attending a play party.

They’re whispered about, opinions are drawn, expectations are high for both attendees and non. The sex party, the play party, the swinger party, call it what you will, to anyone who’s never been to one they conjure up visions of hedonistic abandon, or deeply creepy masked affairs. With so many people looking to explore their sexuality and needing a safe place to do so, play parties have value far beyond a whole bunch of naked people in a room. They can educate as well as titillate. So that's what we're here to talk about today.

SS 173: Swinging With Scars - Body Image & Identity After Major Life Changes Sep 10, 2014

Emotional scars, physical scars, both can wreak havoc on your emotional state and body image, especially when you feel different than before. Earlier this year Ginger took a hiatus from the Swingset for a body change, and tonight we're talking about why.

Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything!

Join us at CatalystCon West September 11-14 - use the promo code SWINGSET to save $10 off your pass!

Want to help our friends at Burlesque Toy Shop get their first brick and mortar boutique off the ground in Philadelphia? Head over to their indiegogo campaign and pledge. Some great pledge prizes to be had, including a LELO Mona 2 for far less than you'd buy it anywhere else. If buying a product from their online store, save 20% when you use the promo code swingburlesque at checkout!

Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out!

Come with us for The Swingset Takes Desire '14!

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SS 172: Organizing & Travelling with Sex Toys - What To Do With Our Dildos, Vibrators, Lube, Rope, Floggers, & Other Fun Things Sep 04, 2014

The two most non-"how do I start swinging" questions we get on the Swingset is how do you organize your sex toys and how do you travel with sex toy, so we go in depth with advice and suggestions on what to do with your growing piles of sexy at your own house and on the road.

SS 171: Coming Out Kinky with Guest Jean Franzblau Aug 28, 2014

Jean Franzblau, speaker, writer and performer of the one woman show "Coming Out Kinky: A Grown Up Comedy" joins us for a discussion of her show as well as a performed excerpt, and a discussion on being kinky in general and what it means to show that to the world.

SS 170: The Messiness of Speaking Out About Sex and CatalystCon with Guest Dee Dennis Aug 20, 2014

After the explosive finale of last March's CatalystCon East, we bring Dee Dennis back on the show to discuss how hard it often is to get a dialog going about sex without having dissent everywhere. We try to parse the value of community vs being snarky, and Cooper drops the shocking revelation that sometimes he is controversial.

SS 169: Full Swap - Swingset's Partners Take Over The Show Aug 13, 2014

It's bizarro world and Life on the Swingset is going FULL SWAP. The Professor hosts this round table discussion featuring the partners of the Swingset, Ophilia Tesla, Tonia Thomas, and Ronin Technogeisha. They discuss being behind the scenes, putting up with the Swingset, their experience in the lifestyle, their desires and hopes, and quickly run out of time.

SS 168: We Are All In Charge in the Swinging Lifestyle Aug 07, 2014

We're all evangelists for our lifestyles. We're not trying to convince people to try it out, we're there to offer our own experiences, to story tell, to educate when people ask for more information, and when people are ready to hop in, at least for us swingers, we all seem to make the same mistake. "Also, women run the lifestyle!"

We unpack the sentiment, the history, and the reality behind the statement and the contention that the lifestyle is female run in swinging in tonight's podcast.

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SS 167: Talking Dirty - Turning Your Filthy Thoughts Into Naughty Words Jul 30, 2014

A couple months ago we tackled the topic of flirting, and how it's rather essential to sexy interaction, rather exponentially expanded for non-monogamy. Tonight on Life on the Swingset: The Podcast we're going to turn that flirty talk into sexy talk and discuss talking dirty: how, when, why, and what's too much.

We also take the time to answer an extended listener voicemail about equal rights, gay marriage, and the civil rights movement.

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SS 166: Gang Bang The Mailbag 15 - Cheating Males & Unicorns, Girl Girl Play, One Penis Policy, & Bad Swinging Experiences Jul 23, 2014

Another day, another gang bang of the old (and now thoroughly satisfied) mailbag.

We get a response from a listener about our DP episode, as well as an eye opening picture (which we refuse to share!) We discuss speaking up in the moment, solo cheating males, unicorns, girl girl only play, the one penis policy, stretch marks, and bad swinging experiences.

SS 165: Gang Bang The Mailbag 14 - Swinging & Fairness, Fluid Bonding, & Oral Herpes Disclosure Jul 16, 2014

We're back, and we gang bang the ever willing mailbag fillled with your questions!

We talk about chasing the white whale, a potential fluid bonding statute of limitations, cold sores (hsv1) and kissing protocol, and swinging & fairness. Dylan also talks about the "unfuckables".

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SS 164: Getting Naked on Camera: Taking Nude Pictures with Guest Elle Chase (Lady Cheeky) Jul 02, 2014

In many ways, swinging is a lot like regular online dating, searching through profiles, reaching out via email. In one way, it's not so much. Naked pictures. Oh, sure, regular online dating involves a lot of naked pictures these days too, but it's rare that you see someone naked BEFORE you decide to contact them. The value of good naked pics on a swinger profile is very high, and so tonight on Life on the Swingset the podcast, we're talking about taking them, and posing for them, and we're joined by the amazing Elle Chase, the Lady Cheeky who has been distracting us with her wonderfully curated porn tumblr for years.

We talk about why many swing profiles don't have photos of men on them and when they do, they're just cock pics! We talk about body image issues, privacy / online photo issues, being prudish on camera, and what if any responsibility we have after a breakup relating to nude photos.

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SS 163: Swinging For Dummies VI: The First Date Jun 26, 2014

Tonight on Life on the Swingset, The Podcast, we’re going back to basics for another episode of Swinging For Dummies.

In the series thus far we’ve talked about realizing you’re interested in non-monogamy, talking to your partner, group sex, sexy vacations, and swinging websites. But how about that ever important first date. How to prepare, how to engage, how to transition to playtime, and how to make sure there’s a second date.

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SS 162: Don't Forget To Buckle Your Condom - Eroticizing Barriers Jun 18, 2014

We're all well aware of the risks inherent with sex, and we don't always like to use those barriers that keep us safe. From gloves and dental dams to the almighty condom, eroticizing barriers is what helps make them part of our sexuality and safety instead of "this thing we have to do." Tonight we're joined by Melissa White, CEO of our favorite online condom company Lucky Bloke to talk about how to make safer sex sexier.

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SS 161: Ending The Sexual Dark Age On The Swingset Jun 11, 2014

Here at Life on the Swingset we've had our own little sexual evolutions and those evolutions haven't gone unnoticed. Today, JV and Shara from the Ending the Sexual Dark Age podcast to pose to us a few questions both their audience, and they have been wondering about.

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SS 160: Fumbling Toward Non-Monogamy With Guest Marcia Baczynski Jun 04, 2014

I has been a while since anyone here on the Swingset could consider themselves "new to this" but it behooves us to every once in a while put ourselves back into that new and nervous state, where everything was the first time, and we were discovering as we go. We don't have a lot of great models of healthy non-monogamy these days. Learning to advocate for our partners and ourselves, figuring out what we want and how to ask for it, learning the difference between a request, an offer, and an invitation, and all in all... having fun, is what we talk about today.

Marcia Maczynski joins us today, you can check her out at all her delicious urls, successfulnonmonogamy.com, askingforwhatyouwant.com, and goodgirlrecovery.com!

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SS 159: Flirting! with Reid Mihalko May 29, 2014

Flirting is perhaps the most important aspect of beginning any romantic and sexual relationship. As Swingers you really need to be on top of your flirting. Since we meet so many people in non-monogamy, how do we know when to start flirting, and how do we make it work for us? We're including this as an unofficial companion to our "Swinging for Dummies" series since it just feels right, so take a listen and hear about how to get new interactions going, with the flirt, and with our friend Reid Mihalko!

Also... for what the defintion of "is" is...

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SS 158: A Primer On Swinging by Cooper Beckett at The Pleasure Chest Chicago May 22, 2014

Cooper does a one man show Primer on Swinging recorded live at The Pleasure Chest in Chicago. All audience questions have been replaced by the dulcet tones of our own Dylan Thomas for their protection, and also for the amusement of our listeners.

Class description:

"Cooper Beckett, from the podcast Life on the Swingset, takes you through the common peaks and valleys of beginning swinging, covering jealousy, safer sex practices, communication and more. Whether you're brand new to swinging, been doing it for years, or just fascinated by the idea, there's something here for everyone."

SS 157: Sex Education for College Students with Megan Andelloux May 14, 2014

When as adults we don't know what's going on with our sexuality, it can most often be chalked up to a lack of education. Education about risk, sure, but also education about the awesome things sex can bring. One woman looking to combat in a big way this lack of education is Megan Andelloux who speaks on an amazing variety of sexuality related topics at colleges across the nation.

We discuss abstinence only education, glbtq awareness, sexual fluidity and identity, safer and risk aware sex, and the perils of teaching newly minted adults about the basics of biology and orgasm.

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SS 156: The Single Male Swinger - Messing With The Bull May 07, 2014

We still tend to treat the single male swinger as a problem, a pariah, when we host parties we wonder how to limit unpartnered male responses, we tense up at larger events where the male to female ratio may be wildly unbalanced, we are constantly on the lookout for the creep, the man who doesn't take no well, the recluse.

But really. What the fuck?

We're all just people, and we all just like to fuck, and when it comes down to it, we all know single men that have brought great joy, and great orgasms to many of ours or our partners' lives and really... that's what matters.

We take some time to deconstruct the single male swinger.

SS 155: Handjobs & Fingering - This Week We're Strokin' Penises & Vulvas Apr 21, 2014

Handjobs and Fingering!

Now that we have your attention, we want everyone to remember that there's lots of pleasure to be hand through the wonders of the partnered manual stimulation of someone's genitals with fingers! Now that you're obviously terribly turned on, take a listen and you'll hear us setting a solid definition of what counts as a handjob and a discussion on different terms and euphemisms for it, talking about how to give and receive risk aware handjobs, and talk about why we'd even bother giving handjobs when we can put penises in peoples' vaginas!

Pay extra attention, Ginger and Dylan give particularly... "riveting" instructions on how to approach playing with women and their vulvas. It's good stuff.

Dylan also realizes he's been confusing edging with edge play... He also confuses "hominem" with "onomatopoeia" so please excuse him.

SS 154: Gang Bang The Mailbag 13 - Erection Issues, Swinging Cliques & Gossip, & Body Types at Swing Clubs Apr 15, 2014

We took and answered a question about erections, specifically that even after obtaining a prescription for viagra that a gentlemen still experiences trouble while swinging and that it's resulted in less return couples than he and his wife are happy with; Ginger is a big fan of people getting what they need, Cooper and Dylan relay their experiences and strategies about expectations and Miko really just lays down the law and says "it doesn't matter". We continue on with a conversation about gossip and cliques forming in a previously sexy and fun private online swinging group, dealing with high school level drama where Ginger suggests strongly stepping up as a leader and rebuilding the group with an ethos of inclusion. We close with a conversation about attraction and body types at a swing club, with Dylan chiming in about bodies being conduits to pleasure.

We also call out Lady Cheeky for execution of the longest and most successful sustained campaign against the Swingset's concentration and ability to podcast ever, including highlights such as #madtitties and flirting with Dylan. You can also find her at SmutForSmarties.com.

SS 153: Gang Bang The Mailbag 12 - Black Rings, Herpes, Pre-Judgement, and Swinging as a Single Male Apr 08, 2014

Today we stick all our collective hands into our mailbag and pull your questions out! We're back for our twelve attempt at Gang Banging the Mailbag!

We tackle questions about the black ring right handmovement, about discovering people you work with on swinger sites, on playing spontaneously with STIs, on attempting to open up after cheating, on judging people based on looks, and on swinging as a single male. Enjoy!

SS 152: DP, DVP, and DAP - The Double Penetration Spectacular Apr 02, 2014

Today, we discuss double penetration, double vaginal penetration, and double anal penetration, and not just the acts themselves. The act of any sort of double penetration requires thoughtfulness, planning, collaboration, communication, really just enhanced versions of all the skills we learned via trial by fire while finding our own ways into non-monogamy. As DP really is "professional grade" fucking we break it down into the basics, positions, risk-aware practices and being mindful of condom on condom friction, maintaining sufficient erections, being comfortable touching cocks, and we move onto how great it feels and how in the moment it can be easy to lose focus.

SS 151: Sex Work, Education, & Non-Monogamy with Guest Sabrina Morgan Mar 24, 2014

Sabrina Morgan is a tireless advocate for sex workers’ rights and education on sex work. Having experience as a sex worker herself, as well as practicing ethical non-monogamy presents its own unique set of challenges when navigating relationships, and she’s here to talk to us about that. We also answer the age old question "Has Cooper been anally fisted?"

SS 150: Dealing With Shame Around Sexuality, Swinging, & Polyamory With Guest Charlie Glickman Mar 12, 2014

Shame, it creeps up on us, sometimes out of nowhere and sometimes as a slow buildup but it can affect our sexuality in ways we don't expect and don't want. Sometimes tackling shame head on helps, sometimes not addressing it at all helps, but shame when tied in to the wonderful world of non-monogamy can be complex and disconcerting to your multiple partners. Charlie Glickman joins us to help sort out the why, the how, the what, and ways we can process and deal with shame in thoughtful and effective ways so we can get back to doing what most of us really want to do... fucking multiple partners.

We hit some major points along the discussion. Using the word should implies shame, it implies judgment, that I know better than you. When we react to shame it reinforces that shame. Keep heavy conversations and fights out of the bedroom. Also keep televisions and smartphones out of the bedroom. Go for a walk together instead, being side by side can disarm adversarial feelings that can creep up from being face to face, aka: Ginger's "side to side not nose to nose" philosophy.

Resources on exploring shame:

Sharon Ellison: Taking the War Out of our Words

Pema Chödrön: Getting Unstuck

Brené Brown

We always recommend Charlie Glickman and Aislinn Emirzian's "The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure" , a great way to carry condoms with you for safer sexy time. Get a 20% discount when you use the promo code swingburlesque at checkout.

We also name check Tristan Taormino's Rough Sex through Ginger's adoration of a scene with Sasha Grey.

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SS 149: Designing and Defining your Non-Monogamous Relationship Mar 04, 2014

How do you handle new relationships now that you’re non-monogamous? It’s like turning a cruise ship around, climbing a mountain, and a myriad of other metaphors. We have long talked about taking your relationship from a place of monogamy to a place of non-monogamy. How to take something that is already defined and do a full on paradigm shift with it, transforming it into something altogether new, exciting, and scary. We have not, really, discussed what it’s like for those of us who are beginning a new relationship with the non-monogamy in place, and what it’s like to design and define the parameters and concepts of a new relationship. This is Life on the Swingset’s 4th anniversary! Happy Birthday Swingset podcast! You’re all grownsed up!

SS 148: Take It Like A Man: An Introduction to Pegging, Recorded Live at the Tool Shed! Feb 26, 2014

Pegging:

The act of a female giving anal sex to a male using a strap-on.

Some couples enjoy the power reversal of this and some guys simply just like it up the arse. How do we do it? What are the right tools for the job? Does it actually feel good? I'm a straight guy, will pegging make me gay? Lyndzi Miller (@Lyndzi), Tool Shed staff member and sexuality educator, and Cooper answer these questions and cover the basics of pegging, a sexual activity that is quickly gaining popularity. They'll also talk about safety, male anatomy and the health benefits of being pegged. Yes guys, that's right. Taking it in the boot is actually good for you!

Audience questions are overdubbed to protect privacy. Audience members asked about exercises women can do to better build up those pegging muscles, techniques when using harness-less toys, prostate orgasm position and technique, and harness maintenance.

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SS 147: Build Your Own Orgy - How To Have Sex With Many People at Once Feb 10, 2014

Masturbation is awesome, isn’t it?

Sex for two, few would argue, is even better. Threesomes are roundly considered to be one of the epitome’s of the sexual experience. Let’s add a few more to that, shake it right up, and create something spectacular. A writhing mass of sexy, everywhere you look people giving or receiving pleasure. Tonight we talk about that wonder of wonders, that glory of glories, the orgy.

Cooper will be joining Lyndzi Miller (@Lyndzi) up in Milwaukee at The Tool Shed: An Erotic Boutique for a workshop, Take it Like a Man: An introduction to pegging! Join them on February 21st, 2014 and buy tickets fast!

Send us (or The Professor) a note at profcomevisitme@lifeontheswingset.com! We're also looking for social media and seo assistance so let us know if you've got the skills and the time to help! We also want to hear about your first, last, best, or worst orgy stories to call us at at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464) or send us an e-mail.

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SS 146: Sexcations - Travelling to Swing With Friends Feb 03, 2014

Swing With Friends!

... except sometimes the distance between those friends is enough to qualify the trip as more of a sexcation instead of a normal date. Whether because we live in less populated areas or because we've struck up online flirtations, sometimes you have people you just want to reach out and touch, but have to drive or fly for a few hours to do so. Doing this sets up a whole list of different but parallel challenges, and rewards, to the normal swing encounter, and that's what w discuss tonight.

The hosts of the Erotic Awakening podcast put together a midwestern polyamory summit called Beyond the Love that we name checked during the episode. Host a sexy conference in the midwest and you'll have our love and adoration forever! Also...w e apologize for calling it "share the love", in the moment Dylan forgot how to brain. He may have been thinking about the Tonia being interested in a gangbang.

Contact us about anything at contact@lifeontheswingset.com! You can find us on twitter at @swingsetlife, @technogeisha, @dylan_swingset, and @gingerntheprof!

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... by the way, while Climax, MI -is- along I-69, the exit Dylan discussed was actually along I-94 and you can view the Google Streetview image of it here. :)

SS 145: Geeking Out About Sex With Kate McCombs, Founder of Sex Geekdom Jan 29, 2014

Sex is awesome.

We’re all on board with that, right?

Beyond the act, er, acts, for many of us (in fact I’d wager a large percentage of our listeners) getting information about sex carries with it its own form of titillation and enjoyment. That’s the purview of the sex geek. Tonight we’re lucky enough to be joined by Kate McCombs who has turned geeking out about sex into an art form, and into her life.

In business, we touched on Kiss a Ginger day and on Technogeisha and Dylan heading to Catalyst East from March 14-16 to be fan boys and fan girls.

Also, if you must know... here is information on echidna penis.

[technical note] from Dylan: We have both a very simple process for recording our podcasts (Skype), and a slightly more complicated process (individual audio streams recorded locally) to give us better audio and to eliminate single points of failure resulting in the total loss of an episode. During the record of this episode we experience two failures significant enough that the release audio quality is not up to par, we ended up with two local audio feeds that had significant amounts of noise and feedback and had an audio feed send audio right back into the skype stream resulting in a rougher than usual sounding episode. I apologize for the audio in some parts and I'm doing my best to make sure it doesn't happen again.[/technical note]

You can find Kate McCombs at SexGeekdom.com and on twitter at @KateCom!

Contact us about anything at contact@lifeontheswingset.com! You can find us on twitter at @swingsetlife, @technogeisha, @dylan_swingset, and @gingerntheprof!

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SS 144: The Ebb and Flow of Libido and its Effect on Swinging and Polyamory Jan 20, 2014

We all want to be "on".

We carve out the time, spend some money, clean up the house, groom our fun areas, and make the arrangements with the people we want to see. Sometimes as "the time" gets closer we realize... we're not really up to the task, and while there's still a good time be had we may not be interested in sealing the deal.

We discuss dry spells, lulls in desire, varying levels of intensity in interest, today... it's all about libido, how to deal with it when it wanes, and how to try to bring it back.

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SS 143: Swinging and Polyamory Resolutions for 2014 Jan 10, 2014

Happy New Year everyone!

2013 was a year filled with pain, regret, and some amazing time spend with wonderful people, fans, and at fantastic venues and conventions. 2014 is on course to be a much better year for those of us on the Swingset. We all got together (Cooper, Dylan, Shira, and Miko) to discuss our hopes and our projects for this new year. Dylan seems to spout out a new resolution every five minutes, between hitting the clubs more, getting larger Chicago based groups of people together for club takeovers and discussion groups and *gasp* potlucks, he also asks that everyone contribute clips of the show to us so we can put together a Simpsons style episode 138 spectacular! Shira discusses wanting to better date women and offers that us swingers will be demanding gluten free meals soon. Miko wants to get her swing on more and all in all create more space and time to enjoy people. Cooper's cracking the whip and preparing everyone to write books and more importantly to him, step back from his efforts to develop polyamorous relationships and to better enjoy the wonderful world of swinging.

He's coming back home people. :)

We also have wonderful guests lined up for this year, between Charlie Glickman, Dr Antionette Izzo, Kate McCombs, Epiphora, Redhead Bedhead, and more... things really are looking up for the swingset!

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SS 142: Looking Back at 2013, Welcoming 2014 - New Years Closer Dec 30, 2013

We had a pretty rough year on the Swingset. We had some wonderful ups, speaking at two major sex-positive conferences about Progressive Swinging, giving a "Swinging 101" seminar at the Tool Shed in Milwaukee, WI, hosting a second trip to Desire: Riviera Maya, and had some terrible lows; divorce and relationship drama, family issues, and extreme time constraints.

We decided to have a nice little end of the year chat. We've traveled and spoken so much this year, experienced so many beautiful people, endured intolerable amounts of grief, and come out of it looking forward to 2014. We give a little summary of some of the sexy events we've attended, laugh at The Professor for breaking the cardinal rule of hot tubs, and commiserate about the year a bit.

We're also saying goodbye to Ginger for the next few months, we'll miss her and we look forward to her rejoining our little group.

See you all in 2014!

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SS 141: Dylan Hosts a Roundtable Discussion in Paradise - Part 2 - Live from Desire Resort & Spa Cancun Dec 20, 2013

This is Part 2 of my accidental roundtable discussion put together in the seaside room of one of our guests at Desire - Riviera Maya.

We continue the discussion about bi-women, mansplaining, and puppeteering, and move into non-monogamy identifiers and why they were useful, but taking some time to talk with other people in a room is much more useful. We end our discussion with giving the reasons we came and why we'll keep coming back.

Then the frisco community brings up possibilities of a swingset commune.

Oh boy.

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SS 140: Dylan Hosts a Roundtable Discussion in Paradise - Part 1 - Live from Desire Resort & Spa Cancun Dec 13, 2013

Dylan had an idea. He thought it'd be a great idea to sit down, two on one with couples while at Desire and interview them, ask questions about how their vacation was going, get some decent soundbites, and enjoy the calm warmth of good discussion and good company.

This was anything but calm.

What began as a simple interview turned into a roundtable (dildohead) discussion where no topic found itself out of bounds, we discussed single male swingers, the trials and tribulations of dating as a bi-woman seeking another bi or gay woman, connecting with others and how Desire compares with a swinger club or a house party, many more items came up. The discussion lasts longer than we had for this episode so make sure to catch next week's episode for Part 2.

... I should totally do this more often.

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SS 139: Swinging In Paradise - Live from Desire Resort & Spa Cancun Dec 04, 2013

Midway through Life on the Swingset's second annual trip to Desire Resort & Spa in Cancun, Dylan, Ginger, & Cooper sat down with many of the tour guests to record a silly podcast reflecting on the trip so far, and what lifestyle vacations can be. There's a drinking game, there's guests talking about what Desire means to them, there's Dylan and Cooper squaring off the way they always seem to do in person, and there's Ginger continuing to be the heart and soul of the Swingset. With tequila.

SS 138: Risk Aware Sex - Condoms, Dental Dams, & Rebranding Safe Sex with Dr. Antoinette Izzo Nov 21, 2013

We've evolved quite a bit over the last three years, our choices in play preferences, what we're open to, and the people we're open to play with have expanded as well. We've chosen to use safer sex barrier barriers and integrated it with our play. Thinking about it all in the lens of Risk Aware Sex, a term coined by Dr. Antoinette Izzo is what we discuss today. Getting away from fallacies and dangers of using "clean" as people who don't have STIs and moving towards making safety sexy occupies the bulk of our discussion. Personal responsibility is king, it's up to us to take care of ourselves.

We also take a couple detours to discuss sensual vs. sexual energy, and Ginger's Panties (or lack thereof).

You can find Dr. Antoinette Izzo at Sense Appeal!

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SS 137: Our Open Agreement - Setting Rules and Boundaries in Swinging & Polyamory with Cat Maness Nov 07, 2013

When preparing to embark on open relationship, or deep within the throes of one, hammering out an open agreement, determining your rules and boundaries, and having those ever important discussions are essential. Today we’re joined by Cat Maness, creator of Our Open Agreement Tool, an online resource for creating your agreements, to discuss why these are worth having and discuss how to put them together. We also discuss a listener e-mail from Episode 130, Swinger Profiles.

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SS 136: Swingset on the Road - Talking Swinging, Polyamory, and Ethical Non-Monogamy IRL Oct 31, 2013

The past two episodes have been live recordings in front of an audience of folks anxious to listen to us talk about non-monogamy and swinging. Our “toury-ness” has brought us to San Francisco, Washington DC, Los Angeles, and Milwaukee. On the road we’ve learned about our audience, we’ve learned about ourselves. Tonight on Life on the Swingset, the podcast, we talk about what it has taught us, why we continue to meet, and the importance and risks associated with gathering with fellow sex geeks and educators. We also spend some time reconnecting since, in the world of cons and presentations, time flies right by.

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SS 135: A Primer On Swinging, Recorded Live at the Tool Shed: An Erotic Boutique! Oct 14, 2013

A Primer on Swinging:How to Meet, Have Sexy Times, & Otherwise Enjoy Your Friends and Neighbors

Cooper and Dylan, co-hosts of Life on the Swingset the podcast, take you through the common peaks and valleys of beginning swinging, from the moment that voice in your head tells you that you're different, to when you're setting up that gang-bang for your fiancee's birthday. They cover jealousy, safer sex practices, communication with your partner and playmates, and delve deeper into the whys of this thing called swing. Whether you're brand new to swinging, been doing it for years, or just fascinated by the idea, there's something here for everyone.

You can find more information on the Tool Shed and its events series at www.toolshedtoys.com/events

Our Swinging for Dummies series includes episodes 59, 60, 62, 63, and 130.

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SS 134: Sex With Benefits: Progressive Swinging, Recorded Live at CatalystCon West! Oct 07, 2013

Our second trip to CatalystCon in 2013 yeilded our best audience yet, and our most cohesive discussion on what Progressive Swinging truly means. We discuss the importance of community, coming out if you can, safety, and fun, as well as learning about yourself and your partner(s).

From the Catalyst Con program

Sex with Benefits: Progressive SwingingCooper Beckett, Ginger Bentham, Dylan Thomas, Shira B. Katz#cconswing

No longer content to be the pervy cousin of “more enlightened” forms of non-monogamy, swingers all around the world are redefining what ethical non-monogamy means to them. As the cultural footprint of non-monogamy grows, swingers are opening themselves up beyond the former key parties and “wife swapping” and finding themselves with wonderful benefits: relationships. Swingers everywhere are asking for “friends first” and “no one night stands,” developing relationships that offer comfort, community, safety, and validation. This practice of allowing and embracing deeper emotional connections among playmates has become a phenomenon that has landed progressive swinging somewhere between the swinger sex club score and long-term polyamorous relationships. Cooper, Ginger, Dylan, & Shira from Life on the Swingset discuss taking back the term swinging, and growth toward the sexiest of futures.

SS 133: Live Nude Cast - Naked In Bed With The Swingset at CatalystCon West Oct 02, 2013

Chaos.

Just chaos.

SS 132: Gang Bang the Mailbag 11 - Swing Clubs, BBWs, Unicorns, and Cockrings Sep 27, 2013

We've flipped it in and out, over and under, even hung it up and left it for a while, that mailbag gets a lot of gang bang action... as it should!

We take more of your questions (send us more at contact@lifeontheswingset.com) and discuss questions about swing clubs; how to approach couples, whether virgins are verboten, and whether voyeurism and exhibition and girl/girl are encouraged, we discuss being both a single male and a single female in the lifestyle (with a little bit of a discussion about race, tokens, and fetishes), swinging as a big beautiful woman (BBW), and cock rings!

Take a listen, and keep the questions coming!

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SS 131: Gang Bang the Mailbag 10 - Cream Pies, Allergies, Declining Sex Life, and Blogging Sep 19, 2013

Today we hit the mailbag hard... harder than usual. We like our mailbag and we received a metric ton of your questions!

We talked about cream pies and how to play safer, with a detour about ethical swinging, food allergies and play parties, declining sex lives due to illness, and blogging your experiences on the Internet. We also took time to catch up with our favorite Technogeisha, Miko, and get an update on her life!

Ginger is taking a brief break, she's crossing the Yukon sipping on tequila on a dog sled and being a general bad-ass. She'll be back when she's done!

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SS 130: Back To School: Swinging For Dummies V - Online Swinger Profiles Sep 11, 2013

You don't know any swingers in person. You don't know where any clubs are. You're eager, wide eyed, and ready to explore sexiness with others.

Luckily the Swingset has been there and we found our way out! We discuss posting profiles online, we go through the basics of what to include in a profile, how pictures affect how other swingers perceive you and how you perceive them, protecting privacy, preferences, and rules, and what most turns us on AND off when we visit a new swinger profile.

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SS 129: Accidentally Off-Topic! Swingset Updates! Sep 04, 2013

We had every intention about talking about swinger bloopers this episode. It stayed in our heads while we went through business... then went through some more business... then we lost it and ended up talking about "the long game", some relationship updates, and just general non-monogamy and how living this lifestyle is out in the real world.

So, please enjoy our accidentally off-topic update show!

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SS 128: K.I.S.S.I.N.G Aug 28, 2013

Cooper, Shira, Ginger, and The Professor (tm) all get together for a discussion on kissing; why it's a big deal, why some swingers make rules against it, how it feels great... how badly you can screw it up!

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SS 127: Impermanence in Non-Monogamy; Learning to Embrace Brevity and Let Go Aug 13, 2013

Shira B. Katz makes her triumphant return with a considerable discussion about impermanence and how the changes in her and both Cooper's relationships statuses have affected their views on non-monogamy and their own sexuality, and how... that is ok.

We also worked some Law and Order, Doctor Who, and "cream" as a verb into the discussion. Check it out!

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SS 126: In Which Domina Takes over 2: Ride Harder Aug 06, 2013

Riding herd on the Swingset isn't something you forget. Ginger isn't ready to put it behind her, so she holds on to the reigns and rides harder; we discuss our best erotic moments as swingers, explanabrags via managing multiple but separate partner issues, and we watch Cooper devolve into domina's pet!

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SS 125: In Which a Domina Takes over and Rides Us Hard Jul 30, 2013

Ginger Bentham takes over the Swingset today to ask questions we may never have directly addressed. Our Domina inquires about condom disasters, our biggest turn-offs, and how to approach a big group of people. We also get to see a peek into Ginger and the Prof's relationship dynamic, it's pretty wonderful!

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SS Special - Swingerpiece Theater Presents: Weinergate 2 - The Embiggening Jul 30, 2013

In this very special (non)episode of Life on the Swingset, Ginger Bentham and Cooper Beckett do a dramatic reading of the recent Anthony Weiner twitter scandel "reported on" by The Dirty

We would again like to insist that this is all alleged, and if Anthony Weiner was on the up and up with all involved, we at Swingset have no problem with this at all. In fact, it'd be nice to see a mayor who acknowledges certain proclivities.

SS 124: Gang Bang the Mailbag 9 - Swinger Burnout, Keeping Secrets, Bad Dylan, and Callouts Jul 23, 2013

~ low pitched rumble ~

~grabs handle, pulls, rumble stops ~

*sniff* Ahhhhhhhhhhh..... Nice and clean.

We listened to your voicemail (left at 573-55-SWING) and read your e-mail (sent to contact@lifeontheswingset.com) and decided to throw it all in the bag and gang bang it! We attack all your questions starting with questions about whether Dylan and Cooper really practice safe oral sex, chat about Orson Scott Card, listen to someone keep their sexual play preferences from a partner, and wonder why... WHY Dylan would remind everyone about Jurassic Bark.

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SS 123: So It's Come To This Jul 17, 2013

Everyone on the Swingset has been through an extended period of life where... there's just nothing left to give. Shira B. Katz has a new job but can't make the time to join us every week (but she will be back!), Ginger, Cooper, AND Dylan have all moved recently.

But in between everything, life happens. Ginger chats about a surprise visit from The RopeMaster (tm), Cooper talks a little about his divorce and the process of going through one through the lens of non-monogamy, and Dylan... well he just talks, but he's a credit to team.

The bottom line is we're back, and we're chatting about where we've been the last few weeks. Enjoy!

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SS 122: Feminist Porn with Dylan Ryan Jun 24, 2013

Feminist porn means a lot of things to a lot of people, but what it doesn't do is exclude people based on gender, body type, partner preference or play style. It's, paraphrasing Tristan Taormino, organic, fair trade porn. It's organic because it emerges from performers doing precisely what they choose to do, and fair trade because they participate in ethical business practices.

We discuss feminist porn with Dylan Ryan and talk about the movement at large.

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Crashpadseries.com and QueerPorn.TV have large amounts of hot gender fluid porn, including titles starring Dylan Ryan!

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SS 121: Gender Play & Sex with Dylan Ryan Jun 18, 2013

We invite Dylan Ryan to join us for a conversation about Gender Play, fluidity, partner preferences, and gender dynamics. We look at strap-on play, sissification, power exchanges, efforts at education, and all in all... how much fun you can have fucking your partners while wearing a set of frilly panties.

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You can find Ashley Manta at AshleyManta.com, on Twitter @ashleymanta and on Facebook at Sex Ed with Ashley!

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Crashpadseries.com and QueerPorn.TV have large amounts of hot gender fluid porn, including titles starring Dylan Ryan!

Tonight’s show is also brought to you by Adam & Eve! Swingset listeners get 50% off one item when you type “SWINGSET” for the offer code upon checkoutas well as 3 FREE DVD’s, a FREE extra gift and FREE shipping.

SS 120: Soft Swap: Oral Sex II - Fellatio (Blowjobs & Deep Throating) Jun 11, 2013

Oral sex, it occupies a very prominent place in most people's sex lives, and for those of us who practice soft swapping, oral sex is often the main course. We focus specifically on fellatio today, and ... well Cooper's metaphors are terrible but it's ok... we'll keep him busy with a big fat dildo. We discuss technique, accessories (lubrication, condoms, toys, etc...), communication and negotiation, and ... get distracted. A lot.

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Tonight’s show is also brought to you by Liberator Bedroom Adventure Gear. Swingset listeners receive 15% off their order at Liberator.com with gift code SWINGSET.

SS 119: Soft Swap: Oral Sex I - Cunnilingus (Labia Licking) Jun 04, 2013

Oral sex, it occupies a very prominent place in most people's sex lives, and for those of us who practice soft swapping, oral sex is often the main course. We're focusing specifically on cunnilingus today, and while there are many cute metaphors for it, sometimes you just need to come out and say, "I want to eat your pussy".

So... dinner is served.

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SS 118: Playtime Troubleshooting: How To Be Successful Fucking When Details Get In The Way May 28, 2013

Lets Fuck.

Yeah... that doesn't usually work as a pickup line. But assuming it does, there's a whole host of other things that can happen that require a little more communication than that! We deal with pre-playtime communication, getting all the details out in the open (and out of the way) with elevator speeches and negotiating consent and figuring out that playing and STDs are -not- mutually exclusive. We move into actually having sex where things don't always go as planned. Where did the condom go? Where did the erection go? OHGOD A CRAMP! I'm not ok with this situation anymore.

Things happen, and we discuss having those conversations without panicking and with a willingness to work through whatever comes up and get back... to the fucking.

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SS 117: Hypothetical Anal Fisting, Swinging Lust, Bisexual Girl Dating, and More! May 13, 2013

Shira B. Katz has rejoined the swingset crew! We celebrate by playing catch up!

We talk about whether Cooper has been fisted, talk about where the head space is between swinging and polyamory, about girls dating girls, and really... we just slide organically from one topic to another until we've burrowed so far down into the rabbit hole it feels like ages since we looked down and said "hey... that's a big hole".

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SS 116: Gang-bang The Mailbag 8 - Swinging With Herpes & Wanting Different Things from Non-Monogamy May 07, 2013

We're back! All four of us! That's right! We figured out how to fit Shira B. Katz into a canvas sack so we could all gang bang that mailbag together!

We answer questions about couples who have an imbalance in how they play or practice non-monogamy or experience jealousy, swinging with herpes, and take praise from someone who never fails to make sure there's a towel around... just in case.

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SS 115: How Not to be a Creep - Teaching Consent and Communication with Sex Nerd Sandra Apr 29, 2013

Sometimes it's hard to be awkward and unsure. It can come out as endearing, it can come out as silly, and depending on what's going on, it can come out creepy. Today on Life on the Swingset we explore creepy interactions and how they often originate with subtle but defined non-consensual behavior and that sometimes... it's just a lack of information or a lack of experience instead of someone actively playing "the creep".

We... well thanks to Dylan, we start the conversation with single men being a little too eager to please and progress into communication in sexy interactions and in other parts of life.

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SS 114: Nerding Out! How to be an Educator and Still Maintain Relationships with Sex Nerd Sandra Apr 16, 2013

Sex Nerd Sandra joins us for a discussion on what it means to be an educator, a resource, or some jackass that wants to relay their own experiences as gospel. After Technogeisha and Ginger join us (a bit late) we move into how relationships can get a little complicated for us z-list internet celebrities when people we meet know, and potentially assume more about us than we expect.

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SS 113: CatalystCon East Decompression - Sexy Parties, Porn Stars, and Prostate Orgasms! Apr 11, 2013

We all had unique experiences at CatalystCon East, we met different people, attended different sessions, sucked different cocks, cuddled with different people, met with various porn stars, and created our own breakthrough moments. We also passed up an opportunity to use the latest Njoy prototype. We truly are horrible people.

Also, the hotel couldn't wait to rid themselves of our presence. We made so many friends over the weekend, why couldn't the hotel staff be some of them?

Oh Cooper, my mistake, you DID make a friend over a discussion about anal play. Well done.

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When bad science kills, or how to spread AIDS (References to the flawed Male Circumcision studies)

SS 112: CatalystCon East Decompression - From Boy Kissing to Blanket Forts Apr 05, 2013

We all had unique experiences at CatalystCon East, we met different people, attended different sessions, kissed different boys, assembled different blanket forts, and... occasionally we all got in the hot tub together, sat in the lounge together, and you know... gave our presentation. We spend the time chatting about all that stuff with a little touch of lament at the end for what could have been if for not being limited to sixty minutes.

Boy, it sure is a good thing we don't have to worry about that here, right?

...

right?

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SS 111: In Bed With the Swingset II - Recorded Live at CatalystCon East Apr 01, 2013

Cooper, Ginger, Shira, Dylan, Miko, Ophilia, and The Professor (tm) all get in one hotel room before their CatalystCon East session, hop on a couple beds, drink some wine, and have a casual conversation of how much they love each other in this episode of Life on the Swingset, The Podcast!

We discuss how consistently impressive Ginger's panty selection is, and we touch... just barely touch on some of the mail that we've received and responded to, while Dylan falls completely off his rocker and rants about religion and politics the likes of which you've never heard on this podcast. If it helps, it's surrounded by heaping amounts of sexiness, flogging, under the shirt play, plenty of flirting, and a very, -very- unhappy Cooper Beckett.

Are you not entertained!?

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A New Inquisition: The Vatican targets US nuns

SS 110: Sex With Benefits: Progressive Swinging, Recorded Live at CatalystCon East! Mar 25, 2013

We attended CatalystCon East last week.

CatalystCon, as described by Dee Dennis the founder and creator, is a conference created to inspire exceptional conversations about sexuality. It is about reaching out and stimulating those who attend to create those important conversations in their own communities, changing how we as a society talk and treat sexuality. It is about stimulating the activist that is within all of us and sparking transformation in the way our friends, neighbors, children and even politicians discuss one of the most important aspects of humanity.

In our session titled; Sex With Benefits: Progressive Swinging, we define progressive swinging, explain why we describe ourselves and our style of swinging as progressive swinging, and state its overarching goal: To unite the various non-monogamous communities under one larger community. We may not all speak as one, but we can be there for each other and work towards the kind of acceptance the LGBT community fought so long and hard for.

Also Ginger gets flustered and loses her thoughts easily.

Dylan "explainabrags" more.

Cooper talks about being an accidental activist.

Shira plays the role of "token poly snarky girl".

Enjoy the live recording of our session!

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SS 109: Reflections on Swingset Kinkery Mar 20, 2013

We brought Miko Technogeisha on for a discussion on our own personal kinks, and... ended up derailed when Dylan inevitably decided to use Ginger's bedroom habits for his own personal scene. Upon attempting to get back on track Cooper sets up a second scene involving some fictional magical characters at a fictional wizardry school and... Ginger steps out for a few!

After the break we go into what it can feel like for a "less kinky" person to encounter a "very kinky" person and all around just chat about how much fun it can be,

to be kinky.

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SS Special - Cooper's Mea Culpa Mar 13, 2013

My name is Cooper Beckett, and I am a loudmouth. I'm extremely opinionated, and I use my little podcast as a soap box for my opinions. I'm also a snarky bastard, who enjoys giving shit to all. Just ask Dylan. This weekend, I got two emails, both taking me to task for my grumpery. I have snarked about "breeders" because I have no interest in having children. I have never seen this term as an insult, and have no issue whatsoever with children, or those who bear them. I like kids, I like people with kids. As a definite minority amongst those in a family way, I will jab, but never with malice. And I will apologize for the term breeders.

On two other topics, I have been called intolerant. That of the religious, and Republicans. I will admit to painting broad swaths of the religious with the same brush, the same can be said for my opinions and feelings about Republicans. I am an atheist and a Democrat, I have never hidden this fact. To our listeners who are religious, especially Christian, and to those who are Republican, I apologize for my often harsh words toward your affiliations. I recognize how strongly these beliefs can be held.

I have often said that all beliefs should be tolerated, so long as they don't infringe on other people. Right now, my state of Illinois is moving forward to allow gay marriage. The only people to speak against it were the religious. Are there religious folk who are sex positive? Who promote freedom, equality, tolerance? Absolutely. Are there republicans who also espouse the same beliefs and strengths that I stand for? Definitely! I know many people that fit into one or both of these categories. They are my friends, they are my lovers, they are my family.

I will never apologize, however, for my intolerance of intolerance. Rest assured, when I complain about the religious, I'm complaining about those who use their beliefs in God as a bludgeon for shaping policy that makes cohabitation without marriage illegal in Virginia, prohibits or impedes access to birth control, and by and large, keeps marriage equality from being a right for ALL Americans. I’m complaining about the institutionalized cover-up of thousands upon thousands of child sexual abuse cases in the Catholic church. When I complain about the Republicans, I complain about those who opposed the Violence against Women Act, who stand in the way of repealing the Defense of Marriage Act. And those responsible for all of the above God bludgeoning. These are not beliefs, this is intolerance. Beliefs are for you. Intolerance is for the world.

I stand against those spreading blatant lies about contraception, and conception, about women’s bodies being able to shut down rape, about the validity of science, and a misconception of what the term “theory” actually means.

Tolerance is a noble attribute, and one I strive for in myself with every person I encounter. I’m reasonably sure that the listeners of our podcast don’t fit into those categories that I am complaining about, and if they do, I would be very curious to hear them talk about how they reconcile these beliefs with their interest in our aberrant sexuality.

But all that said, I adore my listeners, and the thought that I’ve upset or hurt anyone with my glib comments causes me pain, and again I apologize to them. Every word I speak that doesn’t have a citation should always be treated as my opinion, which is no more valid than any other opinion, even if mine is sometimes louder. To crib from our intro, I am most certainly biased, but I will always speak honestly and earnestly, and as a staunch defender of all safe, sane, and consensual sexual and relationship practices that occur between adults, I will never pull my punches.

Thank you

SS 108: Gang-Bang the Mailbag 7 - Politics, Time, Consent, & Swinging Mar 05, 2013

We're taking another dip into the calm waters of the lake of reader submitted questions for our seventh Gang-Bang the MailBag episode!

After what seems like thirty minutes of business and random thought salad, we discuss being a discerning connoisseur of swing partners, trying to find time to really meet minds with a group of progressive swingers while having limited amounts of time, discussing the old #1 rule that women make the rules, and politics and self-selection in finding playmates.

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SS 107: Parenting & Non-Monogamy: Sex Positive Parenting Continued with Guest Airial Clark Feb 25, 2013

Many of us in the lifestyle are parents and can sometimes feel alone when addressing issues regarding child development and age-appropriate ways of discussing sexuality. Airial Clark wowed us so much the last time she was on, we asked her to come back!

Today, Dylan stumbles over trying to figure out how not to repeat the "find your father's pornos" way of discovering sexuality, Shira appreciates the depth of knowledge Airial has on non-monogamous households and the benefits and extra issues that come with it, while Cooper just cracks a few jokes and laughs about breeders.

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Check out Airial Clark's site, The Sex-Positive Parent and follow her on Twitter @airialclark.

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SS 106: It’s Naked Party Time - Throwing a Sexy Party with Guest Reid Mihalko Feb 18, 2013

Cooper and Dylan throw some great swinger parties, but not always by design. Much like their journey into non-monogamy, a combination of moxie, trial and error, and luck has combined to create some wonderful stories.

Reid Mihalko on the other hand has spent time and effort learning how carefully crafting group dynamics create the best chance of worthwhile parties for everyone, and not necessarily just with swingers. He joins us tonight for a discussion on sexy parties!

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Follow Reid Mihalko on Twitter at @ReidAboutSex and check out his website at ReidAboutSex.com!

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SS 105: In The Butt - Prostate Play & Anal Sex - Guests: Charlie Glickman & Aislinn Emirzian Feb 11, 2013

butts. prostates, both male and female.

We're talking all about the rear, from preparation to insertion to orgasm and beyond! Charlie Glickman and Aislinn Emirzian, authors of The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure join us to chat about anal sex, and what it means for men to be on the receiving end of penetrative sex.

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Check out The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure, by Charlie Glickman & Aislinn Emirzian

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SS 104: Confidence Is Like A Magic Wand - Building Confidence and Using It Feb 04, 2013

After Shira tells us a bizarre story of having her upper lip devoured by a creeper at a club, Cooper talks about falling in love. This leads to a discussion on his developing confidence, and then to the broader topic of how to be confident, how to build it, and how to wield it.

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SS 103: Sex & God - Religion, Swinging, Polyamory, & Sin with Darrel Ray Jan 28, 2013

"Hey Cooper... tell us how you really feel!" "Well alright then."

We've discussed organized religion and how it's affected our own relationship with sexuality, how it influences our community as a whole and... at times, indelicately pointed out where we take issue with its monopoly on morality and its right to judge what's acceptable and what's not.

We finally said fuck it, threw up our arms, and invited Darrel Ray, author of the books The God Virus: How Religion Affects Our Lives and Culture, and Sex and God: How Religion Distorts Sexuality to join us for a discussion on how we really feel, what we see on a day to day basis, and how we can move forward and still live and love those who believe, even if we disagree.

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Sex and Secularism, The Report at IPCPress.com

Study: Non-monogamous couples are as happy as other couples - Salon.com

Want! Will... Won't. Chart

SS 102: Sex Positive Community Building & Conferences - Guest Dee Dennis from CatalystCon East Jan 21, 2013

Dee Dennis decided to join us for a discussion on building sex positive communities (and the perils within doing so), and how to translate that into a great conference experience! It's apropos as she's also the founder of CatalystCon so... we chat about that just a little bit. :)Check out the Smitten Kitten Online and use our discount code, "swingset" for a 10% discount! Check out the Aneros Helix Prostate Massager!Come see us at Catalyst East! RSVP via Facebook and let us know you're coming! Use Discount Code: swingset for 10& off your ticket!

SS 101: Introduction to Progressive Swinging Jan 14, 2013

For Episode 101 we thought giving a brief "101" lecture on Progressive Swinging felt right.

So, we reintroduce and define what we mean by Progressive Swinging, and give you the very basics; what you need, what to expect, and how to proceed. We've approached the basics before, communication, introductions, prep work, but this time with give it to you with a different goal in mind, how to enter into Progressive Swinging.

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SS 100: Looking Back, and Forward to Another 100 Episodes Jan 01, 2013

This... is episode 100.

We thank our guests, our previous co-hosts, we yell at each other, unbridled chaos abounds everywhere. It's a full 90 minutes of the four of us enjoying each other. Pure joy, true love...

To another 100 episodes we go!

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SS Special: Origin Stories: My Journey into Non-Monogamy, a Dylan Story Dec 31, 2012

Not all of you have been listening weekly for three years (probably... maybe) so by extension, not all of you know how we got here and what we lived through before we discovered these lifestyles we lead.

So I'm Dylan, and I'm telling you my story, now. It's long, I spend the first ten minutes talking about pubescent erections but it all leads somewhere, and if you're interested... I'll take you on my little journey through the dark ages of my own sexuality and into my non-monogamy.

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SS 099: The Swingset Takes Desire Debrief - Sexy Times In Mexico Dec 17, 2012

After a slight delay, the Swingset crew talk Life on the Swingset's first trip to Desire Resort & Spa in Cancun and squick Shira B. Katz right the hell out. We lament the shortness of our jaunt to paradise, and talk about what we hope to do next time.

SS 098: Smitten Kitten Presents The Holiday Sex Toytacular 2! Dec 10, 2012

Clare from Smitten Kitten returns to discuss bad toys with us, and our toy wishes for the holiday as we discuss sex toys even more!

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SS 097: Smitten Kitten Presents The Holiday Sex Toytacular! Dec 03, 2012

Hi everybody, it's the Life on the Swingset annual Toytacular event! We're in year three of recommending the best and most interesting toys we've played with, and laughing about the worst and worst designed toys we've suffered with.

We bring Claire from the Smitten Kitten Online into the conversation and riff on... oh, something like 40 or more toys.

Hop on and bring a pad of paper!

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SS 096: Sex Positive Parenting with Airial Clark! Nov 26, 2012

Parenting when you're a swinger or a polyamorist isn't easy is most definitely not a topic that's well documented. Luckily Airial Clark has been picking up the slack! She joins us for a conversation on how to be a parent and straddle the line between too soon and not soon enough. We discuss the advantages and hurdles children may encounter when coming up against an aggressively monogamist society, and all in all, how to stay sex positive.

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Shira wants to point out the DTFH discussion with Dr. Christopher Ryan!

We also had Christopher Ryan on back on episode 27. Wow...

SS 095: The Swingset Takes Desire - Live With Tequila Body Shots Nov 19, 2012

Cooper, Ginger, and Dylan brought Marilyn, The Professor, Tonia, and 30+ couples with them to Desire in Cancun, Mexico! 18 months of foreplay result in good feelings, a little crying, lots of sexy time, and a terribly unstructured but incredibly fun to record podcasting session where we discuss introductions, making moves, saying no, and just being part of the flow.

This... is Life on the Swingset, recorded on-location, in paradise.

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SS 094: Shira Takes Over the Swingset Nov 06, 2012

When the Swingers are away the Katz will play!

Shira B. Katz has taken over the Swingset, and has enlisted her husband of mythical proportions Gavin Katz. The hosts of Pedestrian Polyamory (cheap plug) aren't necessarily talking about Polyamory this week, but their ventures into a Swinger party. Comparisons are made between the two cultures, Shira wants to ride the Swing Train, and Gavin wants to hit her with one.

SS 093: Gang-Bang the Mailbag - Double Penetration II! Oct 29, 2012

We're up for a second round of double penetration! That'd be double, double penetration.... Hmm...

Anyway, We're back with questions about what to do about party invitations when you have a couple that breaks up, bringing up the cultivation of poly relationships with swinger friends, long distance relationships, partners leaving the lifestyle and potentially their relationships, being and dealing with self-consciousness about cock performance and size, the "genderless", the difference between healthy and unhealthy swinger relationships, and...

Equality in freedom to explore.

We covered quite a bit of ground on this episode. Take a listen, strap on those thigh dildos, and gang-bang along with us!

SS 092: Gang-Bang the Mailbag - Double Penetration! Oct 23, 2012

Today on Life on the Swingset, the Podcast, we take your questions and give you sweet, delicious, custard filled answers. We talk about metamores not getting along, reading your partners' e-mails, the struggle to decide whether to let a swing partner cum inside your partner, swinging with a cancer conquering sexy body, our horrible, horrible fetlife profiles, our opi... well ok we covered a lot today and we'll cover a lot next week as we run hot right up to the edge of our trip to Desire.

SS 091: Open Sex Positivity - Spreading the Good Word Oct 15, 2012

Kendra Holliday joins us in a discussion on how to be open and sex positive while still staying friendly and approachable. Our discussion heats up when Dylan suggests that he misses Rick Santorum competing for the Republican presidential nomination because it was such a great opportunity to discuss sex positivity in comparison to the extreme positions Santorum took on... well everything from sex's role to women's health, and cools back down once we all figured out that we're all best served by having calm reasoned discussions with people we disagree with... Who knew?!

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SS 090: Two Years Out Of The Closet - Kendra Holliday is Open Oct 08, 2012

Two years ago a woman by the name of TBK visited us here on the Swingset to talk about her life, and her website, The Beautiful Kind. We heard back from her after she came out as Kendra Holliday and listened as she described the liberation of being out and the frustration of being under attack from all sides for her decision. Today she rejoins us and lets us know how she's progressed on her journey from a simple webmistress to a founder of Sex Positive St. Louis, as an activist, as a mother, and as a woman.

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SS 089: Drama and Unreasonable Requests in Swinging & Polyamory Sep 24, 2012

A listener's story about the unreasonable request from a swing friend for the husband in a couple to impregnate her, leads us into a discussion about what is acceptable and not to ask of your partners in swinging & polyamory, and also what to do when the dreaded drama rears its ugly head.

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SS 088: Polysaturation and Swing Overload - Too Much of a Good Thing Sep 17, 2012

Our good friends SFCuties asked us, "Is there a swinger version of PolySaturated, and what would it be called?"

We take on this challenge tonight, going through what it feels like to be polysaturated and smitten with what we call, "swing overload". Shira B. Katz regales us with tales of her time at Burning Man including good times at the indoor airconditioned sex dome, which then disintegrated into discussion about body odors in the context of orgies.

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SS 087: Gangbang the Mailbag IV: Divorce or Cheating, Nuclear Situations, New to Parties, and Escalating Friends with Benefits Sep 10, 2012

SS 086: Beautiful Pornography and the Art of the Blowjob Sep 03, 2012

Amidst the endless bang bus, humiliation porn, and ass to mouth videos, one site stands out as something completely different: TheArtOfBlowjob.com, featuring a gorgeous redhead named Camille Crimson giving slow, artistic, fun, and sexy blowjobs to her man. The Art of Blowjob is leading a charge toward a different landscape of porn with more beauty in it. PR and Marketing Director for The Art Of Blowjob, Sophie Delancey joins us to talk about the beautiful porn she manages, what she thinks about the future of porn, and to get some advice on climbing onto the swingset from us.

Shownotes:

For those of you scrambling to write down the amazing collection of links Sophie gave us at the end of tonight's episode, here they are:

Sites:SophieDelancey.com • TheArtofBlowjob.com • SlowMotionBlowjob.com • PornographicLove.com • CamilleCrimson.com

Twitter Handles@SophieDelancey • @CamilleCrimson • @MikeFlirt • @LilyanneBloom • @MaxSauvage

Facebook PagesCamille Crimson • LilyanneBloom

TumblrsSophieDelancey • Camille Crimson • Pornographic Love

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SS 085: Foreplay, Fiveplay, Sixplay, Orgy! Aug 25, 2012

Foreplay... it's what we sometimes don't have time for, but apparently what we all desperately want more of! Whether it's giving, receiving, taking hours, or taking a few minutes, we take the time to discuss what we like, why we like it, what we do for other people and why we do for other people and figure out that sometimes all a situation can be -is- foreplay.

Ginger reveals her secret mutant ability, the stealthy surprise orgasm and Shira reveals she's only recently gotten into receiving foreplay.

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SS 084: Cultivating Swinging & Polyamorous Relationships Aug 13, 2012

We explore cultivating relationships from both the swinging perspective and polyamorous perspective. Ginger feels ready to get out there and meet some women to date. Cooper has an important (and easy) relationship discussion with his girlfriend about their involvement level and expanding his dating. Time is a very important factor, as is relationship structuring, but it can be hard going in with very low expectations. Google Calendar again emerges as the cornerstone of non-monogamy. Shira talks about how poly relationships interact with her family. We round it out with a discussion of time management, and how different swinging and poly are in the disclosure realm.

SS 083: The Pick-Up In Non Monogamy with Cunning Minx Aug 06, 2012

The Pick-up, we discuss vanilla pick-up culture briefly while moving into how to be picked up, how to message people online, and meeting people in real life. The concept of a codex, or a user manual (RTFM!) for potential hookups and dating partners to use comes up and we spend a lot of time figuring out what goes into it and what it actually means.

While we lose a Ginger this episode, we pick up a Cunning Minx and have a great time!

Minx's User Manual

Cunning Minx on Twitter

Polyamory Weekly

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SS 082: Geeksexuality - Making Porn, Bisexual Males, Bush, & Quantum Physics Jul 23, 2012

We are joined by Ned & Maggie Mayhem, geeksexual porn stars who's mantra is to just be themselves in porn. We gush over them a while, Cooper admits their site is the first porn site he's ever paid for. The discussion leads to making porn, bringing toys into the bedroom, male use of the Hitachi Magic Wand, male bisexuality in porn, and identifying as queer.

SS 081: Open SF Debrief III - Learning to Speak Up, Browsing SF, and a Farewell Lunch Jul 16, 2012

We finish our debrief from our experience at Open SF Non-Monogamy Conference. We discuss seminars we attended, Dylan laments falling asleep, Cooper explains how The Brown Eyed Girl took them all out for a spin around town and how he learned to ask for what he wants, we break in the middle for a little discussion on companies who take public stances on issues, and we end with a farewell lunch on Monday with Pepper Mint.

SS 080: Open SF Debrief II - Magic Brownies, Presentations, Hot Tubs, Flirting, & Sex Jul 09, 2012

We continue our debrief from our experience at Open SF Non-Monogamy Conference. We discuss seminars we attended, including Charlie Glickman, Tristan Taormino, and the presentation we gave. Cooper gets a magic brownie and tries to pick up a Brown-Eyed Girl, and talks about how incredibly charming The Professor is. The gang goes on a San Francisco odyssey to find a hot-tub in the hills, and Dylan gets a girl.

SS 079: Open SF Debrief I - Dom/sub, Sex Parties, & San Francisco Jul 02, 2012

The gang begins their full debrief from the Open SF Non-Monogamy conference. Cooper experiences both Dom and sub play in a single night, and processes his feelings on Domination, humiliation, choking, as well as being flogged, spanked, and fondled. Dylan holds court and plays Cards Against Humanity with friends. Ginger and the Prof discover the fuck monster at the Pink Play Party. Shira brings a two boys to their first play party.

SS 078: In Bed With The Swingset - Flirting, Drinking, Safe Words, A Sex Toy Box, & Chaos Jun 23, 2012

The Swingset crew is drinking in bed together at the Open SF conference. For a good long while we giggle and talk of almost nothing. Dylan shamelessly flirts with the ladies. We move on to talking about Dom/sub play, and Cooper's fears getting into it. The discussion leads to relationship safe words and the Get Out of Jail Free Card in dealing with relationship conflict. We talk aftercare and then dig into Cooper's sex toy box while Dylan just wants to make out with Ginger's thigh.

SS 077: Sex With Benefits – Progressive Swinging – Live From The Open SF Conference Jun 15, 2012

The Swingsetters are live in San Francisco at the Open SF Conference on non-monogamy to discuss Progressive Swinging, where swingers are gradually sliding down the spectrum toward long term relationships, and even !!GHASP!! love. We take questions from the audience and Cooper gets all riled up.

SS 076: Gang-Bang The Mailbag III – Jealousy in Open Relationships Jun 04, 2012

We return to the mailbag, still full after last week to discuss a number of jealousy related issues. A newly poly girl is uncomfortable with her husband dating his monogamous ex girlfriend, what is the difference between different flavors of non-monogamy, is jealousy healthy, does it show your partner that you care?

SS 075: Gang-Bang The Mailbag II - Oral Sex & Cum, Bad Swinging Experiences, Drinking, Chemistry, & Primary Partners May 29, 2012

To celebrate our 75th episode we go back to gangbanging the mailbag for another listener question episode. We get excited that Shira's transient boy is staying in America and Cooper is narrating Tristan Taormino's radio show. Our ire is raised that the Catholic church is suing about birth control. Then our listeners ask us to talk about spanking, kinks to watch, revisiting oral sex to talk about cum, the girls talk about how much they enjoy watching men ejaculate, how to bounce back from a bad swinging experience, to drink or not to drink at clubs, one sided chemistry and interest, and primary partners growing apart.

SS 074: Tristan Taormino Talks Kink, Anal Sex, Fisting, Pegging & Her New Project May 19, 2012

Tristan Taormino returns to the Swingset to give Cooper some advice on NRE, discuss her new book The Ultimate Guide to Kink, and talk about her new project, a weekly live call-in radio show called Sex Out Loud on VoiceAmerica.com starting June 1st.

SS 073: Sex Positive Education Surrounding Swinging, Polyamory, & Other Non-Monogamy May 07, 2012

Pepper Mint discusses Sex Positive Classes, Conferences, and hosting OpenSF on this episode of Life on the Swingset, The Podcast!

SS 072: Hard Kink - Needles, Breath Play, Spanking, & More Apr 30, 2012

Pepper Mint (@freaksexual, http://freaksexual.com/) rejois the Swingset for discussion on hard kink.

We open with a discussion about mommy porn and Fifty Shades of Grey and move into discussion about the BDSM and kink communities, plow through into contracts, talk about our actual kinks. Dylan asks about punching, Shira emotes about being punched in the butt, and Cooper cringes when needle play is mentioned, and we end by talking about how wonderful the human body is and how people process histories of abuse and sometimes use kinks to help.

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SS 071: Words Matter - Vanilla VS Swinging, Polyamory, and Open Apr 23, 2012

We are joined by The Professor and Boris & Doris of the Boris & Doris Podcast to follow up on a discussion prompted by Gay Rick from Sex Is Fun on his Facebook page. We discuss the uniqueness of the term "Vanilla" as it relates to open relationships, sex positivity, BDSM crowds, and whether it is, in general a positive or negative.

SS 070: Ginger & The Professor In Paradise at Desire Resort & Spa Apr 16, 2012

Shira talks about sapiosexual foreplay. Cooper discusses building an untraditional family and continues his baby phobia. Ginger and the Professor have just returned from the Swingercast Desire Resort & Spa trip and tell us about their time in paradise. (Ginger spends the VAST majority of this episode giggling.) The Professor paints a beautiful word portrait of a nude Shira B. Katz striding along the beach with glistening wet labia. And Cooper insists that geese are bastards.

SS 069: Oral Sex, Cunnilingus, Rim Jobs, Oh Yes Apr 02, 2012

Oral Sex. Cunnilingus. Rim Jobs. Today we discuss anything and everything oral on this episode of Life on the Swingset, The Podcast! We start with the basics, what we prefer, what we enjoy, and delve into different types of oral play. After a rousing instructional segment on how to suck Dylan's cock, Shira B. Katz gives us both information and directions on better oral play with barriers.

SS 068: Ch-Ch-Changes - Swinging, Polyamory, & Non-Monogamy Explorations Mar 26, 2012

In this show, we talk about one of our favorite subjects... ourselves!

We've been steadily evolving and felt like keeping all of you up-to-date on where are we going, why we're moving in that direction, all while throwing in a bit of misdirection with Metroid and Mega Man to keep you guessing. We address two listener questions / comments and all in all have a good time sharing our lives with each other.

SS 067: Newly Non-Monogamous - Do We Like New Swingers & Polyamorists? Mar 19, 2012

After a detour involving Prof Stephen Hawking's time spent at a sex club, we discuss new swingers, polyamorists, and non-monogamists. Cooper and Dylan both profess their affection with newbies, while Shira and Ginger confess they make them nervous. After the break we talk about our own experiences being newbies, and get sidetracked again by a discussion of Classic Chicago Commercials. Cooper closes the show by reviewing Tristan Taormino's Expert Guide To Pegging.

SS 066: Chemistry - Connections, Pheromones, & Animal Attraction in Non-Monogamy Mar 05, 2012

Dylan launches a custom sexy talk service. We discuss the ethics and reasoning behind wanting or not wanting to date someone you're mentoring. Cooper and Dylan both want to fuck all their friends. We discuss what chemistry means to us all, the surprise of a chemistry blindside, and the difficulty of getting four way chemistry in swinging dating. Cooper reviews the Nexus Revo.

SS 065: Friends & Lovers - Do We Want To Be Friends With These People We Fuck? Feb 27, 2012

JV Altharas and Shara from Ending The Sexual Dark Age join us to discuss the dichotomy of being friends with your swinging playmates, and how we feel that enhances the value of the sex, but also how that can drift into other ares. We get sidetracked by the idea of writing directions on thighs, Cooper updates his Poly experiment, and Dylan rants about politics.

SS 064: Kink-O-Rama - Pegging, Voyeurism, Sapiosexuals, & Comfort Feb 18, 2012

We cold open with Cooper having a butt plug (hand crafted by Boris at BnDpodcast.com) inserted by Marilyn, then lead into a discussion of our kinks kicked off by a listener voicemail request. We round robin it for a while, discovering some of our surface kinks, resistance play, certain clothes, BDSM and pegging tops the list. Dylan spends much of the show insisting he doesn't have any kinks before realizing time and again that he does. We also talk about being squicked out by some people's kinks, and the difference between kink and fetish.

SS 063: Swinging For Dummies IV - Relationships, Websites, & Sexy Vacations Feb 07, 2012

We wrap up our "Swinging For Dummies" primer for the swinging lifestyle with the future. We discuss the types of relationships you might want to have with your swinging playmates, how to discuss that with them, how to determine what you're trying to get out of swinging, what websites you might use, and then shamelessly we implore you to join us in Desire this November.

SS 062: Swinging For Dummies III – Rules & Group Sex Jan 30, 2012

We squick Dylan out with talk of dragon sex. Dylan vindicates himself with a listener voicemail about post vasectomy emptiness, then discusses his gigantic balls. Once we establish that Shira is the Dummy of the title, we begin by discussing the difference between soft swap and full swap, same and separate rooms, and group sex. We discuss developing community, not rushing, and rules, how being drunk is a turn-off. You're dating as a team.

SS 061: Swinky - A Very BDSM Show Length Business Jan 23, 2012

The Swingset crew gets quickly sidetracked by business that rapidly consumes the show. Dylan wants to be a Dom, Shira is enjoying being submissive. Cooper assigns the listeners the quest for a high quality strap on dildo that can squirt. We talk about being a switch, Cooper reveals his submissive tendencies, and we realize that we've talked far too long to continue the Swinging For Dummies show before next week.

SS 060: Swinging For Dummies II - Talking To Your Partner About Non-Monogamy Jan 16, 2012

We continue our "Swinging For Dummies" discussion by moving into how to talk to your partner about your interest in non-monogamy. We weigh the idea of non-monogamy being a "deal-breaker" for your relationship and the future. Also on topic is potential for jealousy, the importance of LOTS of communication, and the excellent resources Sex at Dawn and Opening Up. When all is said and done, it's important to remember that you're going to be okay TOGETHER.

SS 059: Swinging For Dummies I - Realizing You're Non-Monogamous Jan 09, 2012

We go back to basics in the first of our Swinging For Dummies episodes. But first, returning friend The Professor tells us about Ginger's panty-less New Years Eve celebration. We talk about the moment when we realized we were non-monogamous and how we dealt with that paradigm shift, how it impacted our perception of ourselves, and where we take that. We talk about cheating and deception while trying to be monogamous. We discuss the impact of monogamy on bisexuality, the complexity of polyamory, and how to begin.

SS 058: Bareback or Condoms: A Bad Swinger Sex Party Dec 31, 2011

After a spirited reading of the suggested uses for the Hitachi Magic Wand, Cooper claims to be the Steward of Gondor, and Dylan and Cooper describe their swing party that went bad.

SS 057: 12 Vibrating Yule Logs - Sex Toys, & The Smitten Kitten Dec 18, 2011

SS 056: A Voicemail Gang-Bang - Anal Sex Play, Penis Size, & Pregnant Swingers Dec 12, 2011

After Cooper talks about kissing a boy for the first time, the crew answers voicemails about dealing with penis size concerns while swinging, anal sex play for bi males, reactions to pregnant swingers in a party situation, and our biggest surprises in our time as non-monogamous folk.

SS 055: The Non-Monogamy Umbrella II - Swingers, Open Relationships, & Polyamory, 2gether 4 Eva Dec 05, 2011

We continue our discussion with poly activist and organizer Pepper Mint, but first Cooper and Dylan blow a "fight" over the word queer out of proportion. We discuss eroticizing jealousy, Ginger gets hot over the idea of "straddling the line," Pepper discusses polyamory and gay men. Cooper becomes militant about coming out and rails against the forces of "old and evil." And of course, we all get silly many times.

SS 054: The Non-Monogamy Umbrella I - Can't Swingers And Polyamorists Get Along? Nov 26, 2011

Pepper Mint, polyamory blogger, activist, & organizer joins us for a dialog on why the swinging and polyamory camps still have trouble getting along. We rant about a swing club that has been shut down by the authorities. Cooper doesn't want to "put baby in the corner" but finds it easy to shuffle Shira off to the poly side, but even she is shocked by the discussion of poly sex parties. Dylan is horrified to find that sometimes people want to move in after a month; and Ginger confesses her origin story involving Pepper.

SS 053: Naked In Paradise II - The Swingset Takes Desire Resort & Spa Nov 10, 2011

We continue our chat with Jim & Char of CharTravel about lifestyle vacations, focusing more on Desire as a whole as Shira asks a number of nitty gritty questions about passports, cost, and the nudity policy. Cooper rants about the foolishness of booking flights with Travelocity. Ginger gets lost in her own little world of Desire fantasies. We discuss food, alcohol, excursions and other things to do at Desire Resort & Spa

SS 052: Naked In Paradise I - Sexy Vacations and Desire Resort & Spa Nov 05, 2011

Have your vacations lately seemed a bit too dull or full of minors? Well tonight we're talking about vacationing the sexy way and taking a lifestyle trip. We discuss the ins and outs of going on a lifestyle or nude vacation at any level of the sexually open lifestyle, about etiquitte, and how to protect yourself and your relationship. We also thoroughly discuss Desire Resort & Spa and our upcoming trip to this fabulous spot in Cancun, Mexico in November 2012.

SS 051: Our Evolution II - Anal Sex & Male Bisexuality, Getting Flogged & Opening Up Oct 28, 2011

We continue our 50th episode reflection of what we're still learning in the lifestyle when Cooper talks about his first one on one mandate and how he feels it pushed him back to a solid 2 on the Kinsey Scale, and Shira discusses an experience of being flogged, beaten, and spanked and how she's in an exploratory mood lately.

SS 050: Our Evolution - Polyamorous Leanings, Coming Out Sexy Oct 23, 2011

The Swingset crew celebrates their 50th episode with reflections of how we can still learn new things in the lifestyle. We wish Shira a happy Swingset Anniversary. Ginger sends Prof to a sexy party SOLO! Dylan and Tonia explore polyamory and talk to their son about non-monogamy. Ginger yearns to come out as non-monogamous, so we discuss the levels of being out and the normalization of non-monogamy.

SS 049: Unite The Clans! Coming Together on Swinging Sites & Sex Clubs Oct 16, 2011

After Shira horrifies us all by talking about a potential boy-toy's penile subincision, we manage to pull it together and discuss the changing landscape that is online swinger sites and sex clubs along with our special guest Emily from Kasidie.com. We talk a bit about the history of the website, and Emily's role there, but use it as a springboard to discuss the larger themes of how the word is spreading about non-monogamy, and how welcoming and accepting out communities can be

SS 048: We’re Porn Again – Our Fetishes & Home-Made Porn Oct 02, 2011

Dylan asks Shira how polyamorists feel about one night stands. We all talk about the kind of porn that gets us going, then each of us admits to what our guilty pleasure porn is; Cooper feels very bad about his and insists everybody is judging him. After the break we discuss homemade porn, what we've all made, and why swingers take pictures and video

SS 047: Naked People Doing Dirty Things – Porn All Around Us Sep 25, 2011

We wonder if pubic hair is making a resurgence, find out that Shira has no tolerance for young people, discuss how we first encountered and discovered porn. We learn that Ginger didn't believe people actually had sex in porn. Shira talks about her past with jealousy over porn. The boys refuse to let Shira go into body negativity mode. Then we all talk about what we've learned from porn

SS 046: Burning Man ’11 Pt 2 – Fear & Loathing on the Playa Sep 18, 2011

Uh oh! You heard the last podcast and were left wanting for juicy details? The second part of our Burning Man shows reveals exactly what happened between Dylan and the Majestic Woman he met at Burning Man 2011. You will also find out if there was love in the air for Shira B. Katz. Emotions run high in this heartfelt episode recorded just one week after Shira and Dylan return home from the Playa

SS 045: Burning Man ’11 Pt 1 – Shira & Dylan’s Excellent Adventure Sep 14, 2011

Cooper & Marilyn take a vacation to visit sexy friends from the Great White North. Dylan & Shira B. Katz haven’t been about to shut up about Burning Man and now you finally get to hear why. Listen as the crew discusses what Burning Man has to do with non-monogamy, who they camped with, and what a non-monogamous person can expect on the Playa. Ahoy! Burning Man; land of The Human Car(cass) Wash, The Snack Food Glory Hole, and a place where even the monogamous have an opportunity to open up a little

SS Special – Dylan Crosses The Rubicon from Swinging to Polyamory at Burning Man 2011 Sep 08, 2011

Dylan here - I visited Burning Man this year, and while I fully expected to have a mind-blowing experience, I found myself wrapped up in the loving arms of another woman, and unable to completely handle some of the consequences of that. I had my first little polyamorous experience, a "playawife" for a few days, but I needed to get some of what was on my mind out. So, this recording is me, on-site, at 8am the day after I decided that what I was doing wasn't going to last. Take a listen, and tell me what you think

SS 044: Fucking Technology – Sexting, Cybersex & Phone Sex Aug 22, 2011

We are living in the golden age of sexual communication. There are so many ways to have sexy conversations and interactions online, it's really rather amazing. We talk about our likes and dislikes, our enthusiasms and wants, and how we all get off online

SS 043: Flirting as Swingers, Polyamorists, & Non-Monogamists Aug 09, 2011

Flirting! It's like a gateway drug, and that gateway sometimes leads to all manner of sexual exploits. Tonight we discuss the importance and value of flirting and how it has helped shape the panel's sexual lives, as well as how Ginger & Shira flirted their way onto the show. And speaking of that, this is Ginger's anniversary episode, as she's been swinging on the Swingset with us for a full year now. All this, Cooper has sexy house guests, Dylan almost picks up a woman at a buffet line at a bowling alley, dead flies, bottles of wine, and more on Life on the Swingset: The Podcast

SS 042: Kody Brown & the Polygamy Lawsuit – Legislating the Bedroom Jul 26, 2011

Dylan hosts this episode where we discuss Kody Brown's lawsuit, the fight for polygamy, and "Sister Wives." Shira has learned the power of selfish sex. Cooper rants against religion and oppression, but what else is new

SS 041: Breaking Up Is Really Hard To Do For Swingers Too Jul 11, 2011

Cooper tells the crew about the breakup he and Marilyn went through with a unicorn friend of theirs, their struggle with it, and how they've applied their feelings about polyamory and non-monogamy to the situation. The crew uses this as a jumping off point to discuss breakups in general in non-monogamy and how they differ from monogamous breakups. Then Dylan finally discusses his bisexual leanings

SS 040: Slut Shaming and Anthony Weiner’s Penis on Twitter Jun 27, 2011

The crew discusses the fact that girls need to ask permission to touch too, Shira is rejected for the very first time, Dylan talks about massages at strip clubs, and we get deep into the Anthony Weiner sex scandal, discussing whether this is an example of our society's extreme slut shaming, if it's possible he has an open marriage, and how we feel about this type of scandal in general

SS Special – Ending The Sexual Dark Age Question About Bisexuality Jun 21, 2011

In this short podcast special, the Swingset crew answer a question sent by a listener of the Ending The Sexual Dark Age podcast about how to transition yourself to being a bisexual male in the lifestyle when you'd previously identified as straight.

SS 039: Debauchery at a Swing Club – Couple’s Playhouse Swingers Club Near Chicago Jun 19, 2011

Dylan and Cooper return to Couple's Playhouse, a swing club in the suburbs of Chicago for part two of their discussion and description of their first trip to a swingers club. Shira and Ginger add their own thoughts about swing clubs and other kink friendly clubs. Cooper talks about how odd it is to wander around nude with an erection, and Dylan continues his epic flirt

SS 038: Our Swingers Club Adventure – Living it up at Chicago Swing Club Couple’s Playhouse Jun 04, 2011

After Shira discusses the wonderful world of sex and feeling better that came from having her IUD removed, Ginger talks about the benefits of hers, and Dylan discusses exploring his wife's...for science. Ginger regales us with Prof's solo date with a friend, Cooper and Marilyn take separate dates, and we discuss a wonderful trip to Couple's Playhouse, a swing club in the suburbs of Chicago, and our experiences within in part one of our two part discussion

SS 037: Gang Bang The Mailbag – Listener Questions on Swinging, Poly & Open May 23, 2011

In our first "Listener Mailbag" episode we answer several questions from voicemail and email, tackling such diverse topics as the hotness of swingers, sexual experience and prowess, how to swing when you have kids, going to swing clubs, male bisexuality, the HIV positive military man swinger, and more

SS 036: Everybody Loves Orgasms – Swingers, Poly, and Open Cumming Together May 09, 2011

While Dylan fills his ass with first a vibrator, then a butt plug, we giggle our way through a discussion of our favorite thing in the whole world, orgasms. We discuss the differences in the many "spot" orgasms (G-Spot, P-Spot C-Spot U-Spot) and what orgasms feel like for us.

SS 035: Safer Sex, The Infections Formerly Known as STDs & Swinging – How Swingers & Polyamorists Handle Safer Sex Apr 25, 2011

One of the most concerning topics for anyone looking to get into the swinging or other non-monogamous lifestyles is the risk of contracting a sexually transmitted infection, so we invite Gay Rick from Sex Is Fun, a HIV educator, on to discuss the concept of acceptable risk, how we all need to make the decision for ourselves if our lifestyle is worth the risks inherent in it, and ways to minimize our exposure risks

SS 034: Breaking it Down – BDSM In The Swinging Lifestyle Apr 10, 2011

Miss Ami, a full time Domme, returns to The Swingset to discuss how BDSM fits into the swinging and non-monogamous lifestyles, how these worlds collide, and being out as a kinky person. And Dylan's curiosity seems to be moving to full blown obsession

SS 033: Spank My Ass! BDSM, Swinging and You Mar 28, 2011

The Swingset crew invites Miss Ami, a full time Domme to join the discussion about what BDSM stands for, what it means to be Domme/sub, how her lifestyle impacts her life, and why swingers seem to have such difficulty feeling comfortable with those four letters. (Dylan also discovers he might be more interested in exploring this than he thought...)

SS 032: Cooper & Marilyn’s Excellent Adventure – Swinging at Desire Resort & Spa Mar 14, 2011

Cooper and Marilyn just got back from Desire, but in between the nonstop playtime and suntanning and hottubbing and drinking and dining, they found time to record a full trip diary detailing their time spent at Desire Resort & Spa in Cancun. (Well, they found time to record two out of the three trip reports, the third was recorded, sadly, in cold Chicago.) So here it is, in its entirety, Cooper and Marilyn's Excellent Adventure!

SS 031: Sex on the Swingset is Fun – Live From Desire, The Sexiest Place on Earth with Kidder Kaper & Lorax Feb 27, 2011

In Ep 31, the greatest crossover since The Flintstones met The Jetsons happens as Cooper and Marilyn podcast with Kidder Kaper and Lorax from Sex Is Fun live from an outside bed at Desire in sunny Cancun. They discuss what it's like to be in a world populated by sex positive people, what may be the first publicly accepted bi male blowjob at the resort, the sometimes high tension and heightened drama that can result from such, the sexy times that have been had, first full swaps, newbies, and more!

SS 030: Love Thyself – Masturbation and Non-Monogamy Feb 17, 2011

In Ep 30, we discuss masturbation, which Woody Allen called "sex with someone I love," and talk about why, in swinging and non-monogamy, we have all the opportunity in the world for sex and we still continue to jack off and jill off (is that a thing?) We discuss discovering masturbation, techniques, toys, and why we love ourselves

SS 029: Porn, Bisexuals, Anal Sex, Opening Up, and Tristan Taormino Feb 04, 2011

In Ep 29, the Swingset tries very hard not to simply gush over their biggest crush, Tristan Taormino, as she joins us for a discussion of the time writing porn, her thoughts on bisexuality in the lifestyle and in film, her book Opening Up, and putting things in hers and other people's asses.

SS 028: Sexual Erotic Nutrition and Sex At Dawn – An Interview With Christopher Ryan (Part 2) Jan 21, 2011

In Ep 28, the Swingset's interview with Christopher Ryan, author of the bestselling book Sex At Dawn which challenges the idea that monogamy is natural and ingrained in human beings, continues. We discuss whether or not there's hope for America's dawning sexuality, tours, future books, swinger parties and more.

SS 027: Bonobo Porn and Sex at Dawn – An Interview With Christopher Ryan (Part 1) Jan 13, 2011

On Ep 27, the Swingset interviews Christopher Ryan, author of the bestselling book Sex At Dawn which challenges the idea that monogamy is natural and ingrained in human beings. We discuss bonobos, a species that sexually is far more similar to us than chimpanzees, and the very porn-like videos of this species enjoying themselves. We postulate that the matriarchal societies described in Sex At Dawn are very reflective of the swinging and polyamorous lifestyles

SS 026: Auld Lang Syne – An Orgy, A Game, An Epiphany, & A Ritual Dec 30, 2010

Episode 26 is a time of reflection for us as The Swingset celebrates the end of its first year of existence. We discuss what we've learned along the way, talk about the orgy Cooper and Marilyn threw for Ginger and the Professor where the crew beta tested a new game from Great Sex Games, Dylan discusses his swinger epiphanies, Shira shares a New Years Eve ritual, and we enjoy each other's company thoroughly. Join us for the last show of 2010!

SS 025: Where Do They Get Those Wonderful Sex Toys? – Part 2 Dec 16, 2010

The Swingset crew discuss their favorite sex toys of the year and the most unusual sex toys they've ever used in our Holiday Buying Guide podcast

SS 024: Where Do They Get Those Wonderful Sex Toys – Part 1 Dec 10, 2010

The Swingset crew discuss their first sex toys and experiences and talk about their favorite sex toys of the year in our Holiday Buying Guide podcast

SS 023: Coming Out With Kendra Holliday Nov 24, 2010

In Life on the Swingset, The Podcast: Ep 23, we spend a long evening with our friend Kendra Holliday, who on National Coming Out day, revealed her identity to the world on her website The Beautiful Kind. Over the course of an hour and a half, we talk with Kendra about the time since she came out to the world, the difficulties she's had with her community and her ex husband, and how it feels to be a source of sex positive information in a difficult world. We then move beyond to our own feelings about coming out as swingers, polyamorous, non-monogamous, or even simply sex positive

SS 022: Bisexuality and You – Part 2 Nov 19, 2010

In Ep 22, we wrap up our big discussion about male and female bisexuality, crossing our way into pansexuality and omnisexuality and everything in between. We discuss the journey of the bisexual male, the evolution of acceptance (and hotness) of the bisexual female, the stereotypes and biases against both and the growing need for non-monogamy

SS 021: Bisexuality and You – Part 1 Nov 12, 2010

In Life on the Swingset, The Podcast, Ep 21, we begin the big discussion about male and female bisexuality, crossing our way into pansexuality and omnisexuality and everything in between. We discuss the journey of the bisexual male, the evolution of acceptance (and hotness) of the bisexual female, the stereotypes and biases against both and the growing need for non-monogamy to be its own subclass

SS 020: The Sexual Costumes and Masks We Wear Oct 30, 2010

In Ep 20, we talk about how, even in open relationships, even as sex positive people, we often hide our true interests, feelings, ideas from playmates and our partner. We discuss why this might be as well as talk about moving beyond it. We also talk about fetishes and role playing. On this show: Cooper,

SS 019: Anal Sex & Double Penetration for the Non-Monogamous Oct 16, 2010

In Ep 19, we talk about anal sex and its place in non-monogamy, how it's often tokenized for significant other play only, the wonders and joys of double penetration, pegging, and male bisexuality. On this show: Cooper, Ginger, Dylan, Shira B.Katz, & Kendra Holliday (Formerly TBK) Show notes: Buy the Nexus Maximus, our favorite dual

SS 018: Blurring the Lines Between Polyamory and Swinging – Non Monogamy Cums Together Oct 04, 2010

In Ep 18, we invite two new friends onto the swingset for our discussion of the blurred line between polyamory and swinging. In this discussion we attempt to define the two terms and then break down our own definitions, we expand further with how we relate to friends and lovers. On this show: Cooper, Ginger,

SS 017: Guys Have Penises, Girls Have Vaginas IV: The Final Chapter Sep 23, 2010

In Ep 17, we bring it around with an all guys show for the final installment of our four part Lost Weekendesque bender, separating the girls and the guys and running them through a gauntlet of questions about swinging. For this episode, the guys, led by Cooper, answer questions put to them by the girls. Up for

SS 016: Guys Have Penises, Girls Have Vaginas III Sep 18, 2010

In Ep 16, we switch things up with an all girls show for the back half of our four part Lost Weekendesque bender, separating the girls and the guys and running them through a gauntlet of questions about swinging. For this episode, the girls, led by Ginger, answer questions put to them by the guys. Up for

SS 015: Guys Have Penises, Girls Have Vaginas II Sep 11, 2010

In Ep 15, we continue our four part Lost Weekendesque bender, separating the girls and the guys and running them through a gauntlet of questions about swinging. In the first two parts, the girls and guys answer the same questions and we jump back and forth between them. Up for discussion in this episode: "What are

SS 014: Guys Have Penises, Girls Have Vaginas I Sep 04, 2010

In Ep 14, we begin our four part Lost Weekendesque bender, separating the girls and the guys and running them through a gauntlet of questions about swinging. In the first two parts, the girls and guys answer the same questions and we jump back and forth between them. Up for discussion in this episode: "When

SS 013: Threesomes, Foursomes, & Moresomes – Number Dynamics Aug 22, 2010

In Ep 13, we discuss number dynamics in swing environments, from threesomes, to foursomes, to orgies. Sasha extols the virtues of odd numbers and the big pile, and Dylan discusses the house he wants to buy in a swinger friendly neighborhood, his greed knows no bounds, wanting a 10 seater hot tub. On this show: Cooper, Sasha,

SS 012: Under Pressure – Erectile Dysfunction and Performance Pressure For Swingers Aug 15, 2010

In Ep 12 we talk about pressure, and how pressuring encounters can be as swingers. The first half of our show focuses primarily on male pressure to perform and erectile dysfunction, in the back half we talk about pressure to move beyond your comfort zone, pressure to not use protection and many other things, and

SS 011: Bediquette – In Bed With Swingers Aug 01, 2010

In Ep 11, we discuss the ins and outs of bediquette when it comes to bringing other sexy folk into your bedroom for playtime. We also introduce the newest member of the Swingset family, Ginger!

SS Special – Sex Is Fun Interviews The Swingset Jul 24, 2010

Sex Is Fun, the best sex podcast out there, interviews Dylan and Cooper to discuss swinging in a very enjoyable interview. Check it out!

SS 010: It’s Naked Time with a Live Nude Cast Jul 18, 2010

In Episode 10 of Life on the Swingset the cast is naked! Not that it matters, because you can't see them. But just think of their sexy naked bodies....This episode is about being naked and all that goes with it, the nervousness and fun, the excitement and panic, the boys say that any size boobs are great, and Sasha bucks the trend and says size does matter with penises

SS 009: Ins and Outs of Swinger Parties Jul 04, 2010

In Episode 9 of Life on the Swingset, we discuss attending a swinger party, Kylie admits her nervousness about them and asks questions, and Sasha proves herself to be a swing party guru and gives her hostessing tips. There's strapon play, stadium seating and more in this episode. On this show: Cooper, Sasha, Dylan, &

SS 008: Looking For Fun & Friends on Swinger Websites Jun 21, 2010

In Episode 8 of Life on the Swingset, we discuss three major swinger dating websites, Adult Friend Finder, Swing Lifestyle, and our personal favorite, and Lifestyle Lounge. We discuss how to decide which site is right for you (despite being biased), how to build a profile, start your search, add pictures and have a great time with online swinger dating. Cooper also talks about using amazon.com to buy condoms

SS 007: Swinging Couples, Taking One For The Team, & Erectile Dysfunction Jun 07, 2010

In Episode 7, we discuss the difficulties inherent in finding a four way connection between two couples, how taking one for the team and playing with someone you're not interested in can do more harm than good, and going on solo dates. Cooper also discusses a magical pill he took at his birthday party. On

SS 006: Those Are The Rules – Defining Your Rules as Swingers May 24, 2010

In Episode 6, the team discusses the importance of having rules in the swinging lifestyle, what's allowed and what isn't, what needs to be discussed beforehand and what doesn't. We also talk about what to do when rules are broken, and how to decide you need new rules or have outgrown the old. On this

SS 005: Soft Swap VS Full Swap May 10, 2010

In Episode 5, we talk about the two major terms in the swinging community, soft swap (play but no intercourse with the opposite partner) or full (everybody gets laid) and discuss the complexities in defining each, and the pros and cons. Sasha also talks about her new website: pleasure-parties.com On this show: Cooper, Sasha, Dylan, &

SS 004: Compersion VS Jealousy – Swingers Deal With Jealousy Apr 29, 2010

In Episode 4, we discuss compersion, the term that finds you experiencing pleasure because your partner is experiencing pleasure, versus jealousy, a term we all know. The Swingset gang discusses how to overcome jealousy in many situations, all striving for that nirvana called compersion

SS 003: Sad State of Affairs – Swinging in America Apr 14, 2010

In episode 3 we discuss the sad state of affairs American conciousness is at regarding sexuality, from the RNC's new lesbian-bondage-strippergate, to sex ed, to the pros and cons of staying in the closet as swingers, to sex toys, and the fact that everybody's really just jealous.

SS 002: Birds of a Feather – Finding Other Swingers Mar 18, 2010

In our second episode, we continue our logistics of getting into the lifestyle with a look at finding friends and admitting to them and yourself that you want to...well...have sex with them. We discuss first dates, where to go and most importantly how to be safe when opening yourself up

SS 001: Dipping a Toe In – How To Start Swinging Mar 04, 2010

In our first podcast we discuss the very beginnings of what to do when you think you may want to have an open relationship. We talk in detail about dealing with that idea yourself and deciding if opening up is right for you. We also deal with the first stages of discussing this with your

SS 000: Swinging For Dummies I – Realizing You’re Non-Monogamous Mar 01, 2010

Realizing that our first episode doesn't deal with the first thoughts about non-monogamy nearly as well as episode 59, released two years later, we thought we'd rejigger the episodes up and add a Swingset Zero episode. On this episode we talk about the moment when we realized we were non-monogamous and how we dealt with that paradigm shift, how it impacted our perception of ourselves, and where we take that. We talk about cheating and deception while trying to be monogamous. We discuss the impact of monogamy on bisexuality, the complexity of polyamory, and how to begin.

For further adventures in the four-part Swinging For Dummies series, check out episodes 60, 62, and 63